WEBVTT - Clitical Thinking

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<v Speaker 1>Hoping, and we talk back where we encourage you to

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<v Speaker 1>hustle hard, laugh louder, and always.

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<v Speaker 2>Keep it cute. So grab your coffee, cocktail and crown.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it's about to go down.

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<v Speaker 2>We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who

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<v Speaker 2>talks back.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up, y'all? It's your girl a j holiday. What's hey, y'all?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so happy?

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<v Speaker 1>What the fuck was that right?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry, hey, y'all. I love y'all so very much.

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<v Speaker 1>Geeking out right quick?

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<v Speaker 2>I thought it was happening. I'm so happy. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if it's all right, y'all. I got all my

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<v Speaker 2>weave out and I got two balls and it just

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<v Speaker 2>makes me feel so youthful and just full of life

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<v Speaker 2>or something. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Interesting my edges. Look, are you gonna get you some

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<v Speaker 1>rolls oil?

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<v Speaker 2>They're growing back now.

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<v Speaker 1>We got out here, I was like, bitch, you got

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<v Speaker 1>your real hair out? I hear that.

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<v Speaker 2>What was smooth right there? It's some hair you.

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<v Speaker 1>Got the ad just flourishing for the summer.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't play with me. Don't play with me.

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<v Speaker 1>I should have gotten me some braids. I just don't

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<v Speaker 1>feel like putting them in and taking them out though

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<v Speaker 1>it's just a whole process.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, but the in between time is so glorious.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I be in yoga with a fucking wig scarf on.

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<v Speaker 1>It wouldn't be wigging for the gym now there's a

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<v Speaker 1>wig scarf. When I tell y'all, y'all, fuck that gym. Shit. Man,

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm about to just only do hot yoga

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<v Speaker 1>because when I tell y'all, I burn way more calories

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<v Speaker 1>than forty five minutes, and hot yoga like six hundred

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<v Speaker 1>calories and forty five minutes.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't do nothing hard.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you damn. They can't breathe in that bitch. But

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<v Speaker 1>and I be right in there like tussling and do

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<v Speaker 1>all them positions. Hiah looking stupid. I already know.

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<v Speaker 2>That's how everybody looks stupid when they start.

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<v Speaker 1>But my hip hurt a little bit today. But see that.

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<v Speaker 1>The thing is, I need this fucking stretch more.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I'm on day fifty eight of my seventy five

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<v Speaker 2>hart and I look at the beginning pictures and the

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<v Speaker 2>pictures now and I can tell, like my face, like

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<v Speaker 2>I can see my body is changing. But I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know why I thought that I would be looking like

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<v Speaker 2>Billy Blanks by now, and I don't you know, So

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<v Speaker 2>I just knew by the time I got to sixty,

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<v Speaker 2>I was gonna be ripped up. But that's not how

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<v Speaker 2>it worked. Like the training was like, I mean, this

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<v Speaker 2>is seventy five days.

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<v Speaker 1>It's good, but these not good results.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, I got I got good results. But I

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<v Speaker 2>just thought I was gonna look like I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>what I thought. I just thought, yeah, by the time

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<v Speaker 2>I get to sixty, are.

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<v Speaker 1>You doing like creatine and stuff like that, because I

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<v Speaker 1>put creatine into my little regimen. You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>I know I don't eat enough protein though.

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<v Speaker 2>Bro. That's that has been like the hardest part for me,

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<v Speaker 2>outside of drinking all that water every day. The protein

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<v Speaker 2>I've been doing. Like I found these muffins called Bootylicious muffins,

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<v Speaker 2>and they're low calorie, low carb. They taste yeah, and

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<v Speaker 2>they taste nice, and they got twenty five grams of protein.

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<v Speaker 2>It comes like in a powder form and you gotta

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<v Speaker 2>add water or milk or whatever, and I just add

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<v Speaker 2>protein shake as my milk to it. And they're actually good.

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<v Speaker 2>So I have those in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta bake them, that's what you're saying.

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<v Speaker 2>The microwave cause like a little cup, like a noodle cup,

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<v Speaker 2>and you just mix it with your water or whatever

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<v Speaker 2>you want to put in it. And they put in

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<v Speaker 2>the microwave for a minute fifteen seconds and it's a

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<v Speaker 2>little muffin in a pot and it's so good. And

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<v Speaker 2>I have that with my black coffee in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Nice. And that's I just had two eggs this morning.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't eat enough, man.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's what I realized. You're supposed to have a

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<v Speaker 2>grammar protein for every pound in your body. Who are

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<v Speaker 2>you eating that much protein in a day?

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<v Speaker 1>And then because I don't eat meat, like it's hard,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm tied of salmon. I don't eat when salmon

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<v Speaker 1>tay's weird nowadays. So I bought like a big ass

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<v Speaker 1>from Costco. I bought like a big ass box of

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<v Speaker 1>lobster tails for like two hundred dollars. It was like

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<v Speaker 1>twenty lobster tails, like the big ones too. Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 1>it was gonna sell Mother's Day weekend, So I bought.

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<v Speaker 1>So I beat lobster tails scallos. I made a little

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<v Speaker 1>fry loft sale. That's girl's imagine like if you go

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<v Speaker 1>to a restaurant and got a lobster dinner. How much

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<v Speaker 1>that's gonna cost you. It's gonna be two hundred dollars

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<v Speaker 1>for that want meal you and somebody else. So I

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<v Speaker 1>got a whole box of them. That is actually not rich,

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<v Speaker 1>that's rich broke.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, that's that's actually really good. And I noticed that

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<v Speaker 2>you've been back to Costco, but you haven't mentioned my candle.

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<v Speaker 1>But they don't have them no more. They're gone. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't see them when I went back in there.

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted that really badly.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, you know, I would have had to win

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<v Speaker 1>the very next day that we talked about it, and

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't, you know, But you should be able to

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<v Speaker 1>order it online. I'll give you my Costco account and

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<v Speaker 1>you could order it to your house online. Anything that

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<v Speaker 1>you see that you might want, usually it's on the

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<v Speaker 1>Costco website. Then that way you could just ship that

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<v Speaker 1>ship to your house without stepping foot in the Costco.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's cool. I also wanted you to buy it,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's okay. I'll just.

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<v Speaker 1>Girl, where the fuck was I putting that that thing was?

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<v Speaker 1>That thing is the size of a waste basket for

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<v Speaker 1>a bathroom.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's so big. I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta be careful with candles because a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>them shit toxic. Man, you want a big, big, stupid

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<v Speaker 1>ass toxic can do in your house.

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<v Speaker 2>I want that. I want that toxic shit in the house.

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<v Speaker 2>I want that candle.

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<v Speaker 1>I was your weekend. I ain't do much this past weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>My weekend I hit. I hit a wall this weekend, Auntie,

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<v Speaker 2>you is tired. I could do no more. I could

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<v Speaker 2>do no more. I just had to rest. I had to.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I did my works but like I literally

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<v Speaker 2>did my workouts and got in the bed. That was it.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I went to m hmm, that'd be fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I did enjoy laying in the bed all day.

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<v Speaker 2>Like on Sunday, I did my workout and then I

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<v Speaker 2>got back in the bed. I tried to go. I

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<v Speaker 2>was trying. I was supposed to go to New York.

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<v Speaker 2>It didn't work out, but God said, lay down, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's what I did. Shout out to Taylor. Taylor had

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<v Speaker 2>her baby shower Sunday. I missed it. I sent her

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<v Speaker 2>some nice things. I literally I'm broke right down, because stop.

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<v Speaker 1>Saying you broke girl. In between blessings and bitch ain't

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<v Speaker 1>never broke.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I'm in between blessings cuz five bitches, I never

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<v Speaker 2>had baby showers this week. That's five hundred dollars gone,

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<v Speaker 2>just buying everybody some shit, trying to you know, trying

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<v Speaker 2>to bless everybody baby. And I just pray over that money.

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<v Speaker 2>When I spend it on y'all day, it comes back

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<v Speaker 2>to me.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not spending it, You're circulating it. You see. Gotta

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<v Speaker 1>chose those words wisely so the money can come back.

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<v Speaker 1>So you circulated the money and bought the gifts, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's coming right back around.

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<v Speaker 2>Why I've been fucking.

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<v Speaker 1>We ain't even fucking enough, because where's my goddamn baby, y'all?

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<v Speaker 1>My birthday Sunday? Where is my baby?

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<v Speaker 2>And then you don't never have no birthday party. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>sick of you.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't because it's like, listen, I like to celebrate.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm kind of sick of America. Maybe if I maybe

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<v Speaker 1>I could plan a trip for real, like I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to do a solo trip. And I didn't even execute

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<v Speaker 1>on that shit.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, you bullshit it on that.

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<v Speaker 1>I know I did. And now I'm like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to spend that type of I wanted to go

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<v Speaker 1>to Barbados, and I don't want to spend that type

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<v Speaker 1>of money on the fucking flight now. And I only

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<v Speaker 1>can go for like a couple of days, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to go for the whole fucking week, pack

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<v Speaker 1>the fucking cat up and be out.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, why you can't, Why you can't.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna do something. I'm gonna do something. I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do something because I do want to definitely be on

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<v Speaker 1>the beach this weekend. So I'm gonna figure it out

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<v Speaker 1>last minute, hop in the car or the plane and

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<v Speaker 1>get out of here for a couple of days.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, do it.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to figure it out. I am making me

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<v Speaker 1>some fairy wings. Now what I heard recently, okay, because

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<v Speaker 1>what I did do this weekend is bought some fucking furnitures,

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<v Speaker 1>some new furniture. And one of my homegirls, who uh

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<v Speaker 1>picked the chairs up I needed, she helped me with

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<v Speaker 1>her truck. As she was leaving, I told her I

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<v Speaker 1>was making fairy wings. So I did arts and craft

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<v Speaker 1>this weekend and she told me, did you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>the fairy shit is like another word for prostitution. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>disgusted with you niggas. What How the fuck would y'all

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<v Speaker 1>pervert fairies? Yes, they're saying fair I googled it. It's

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<v Speaker 1>saying like fairy if if a woman says she's a fairy,

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<v Speaker 1>that's like a cold word for selling pussy.

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<v Speaker 2>Damn not tinker Bell being out here selling ass the

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<v Speaker 2>whole time and we ain't even know.

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<v Speaker 1>I am so sick of niggas, man Like, why do

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<v Speaker 1>we pervert everything? Why we make everything positive and magical?

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<v Speaker 1>Like as negative as possible? You know, why does that happen?

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<v Speaker 2>I was so disgusted I ain't gonna lie. I need

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<v Speaker 2>to eat lunch because when you said fair wings, I

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<v Speaker 2>thought she was making.

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<v Speaker 1>Some fair wing. How you like low gold dust like

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<v Speaker 1>low goal uh oh, sweet sour sauce, like some little

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<v Speaker 1>gold flakes or something like that lemon pepper shame. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but I didn't do much this weekend. I did hot

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<v Speaker 1>yogat and made some fucking fairy wings. That's it.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's get this.

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<v Speaker 1>So, y'all, this is this is so for me. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how y'all feel, but it says a

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<v Speaker 1>new study. I don't know how I knew it is

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<v Speaker 1>but it says new study shows women find men sixty

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<v Speaker 1>percent more attractive if he can do manly task like

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<v Speaker 1>mow the yard, fix the car, and pick her up

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<v Speaker 1>and then use the imagery from a baby boy you

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<v Speaker 1>remember his mama with ben Rhyme's getting picked up in

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<v Speaker 1>that kitchen. Yes, live okay, it's so funny to find

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<v Speaker 1>you know. Did you ever see the video? I think

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<v Speaker 1>she was on a breakfast club. I can't remember. I

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<v Speaker 1>think she was a breakfast club. AJ. She said that

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<v Speaker 1>she did like a threesome for her fiftieth birthday, but

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<v Speaker 1>it was actually with two men. I mean that's a threesome.

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<v Speaker 2>Some people may consider it a train but she said, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>is it a It's only a threesome if they distouched right?

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<v Speaker 1>Why because they like by at that point?

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<v Speaker 2>No, because I thought everybody's having sexual with everybody.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I thought. So too, that's what I thought.

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<v Speaker 1>But anyway over here, unlet's just pp So it's a

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<v Speaker 1>steady show. Women find men up to sixty percent more

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<v Speaker 1>attractive when they can do manly tasks like change the oil,

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<v Speaker 1>chop wood more lawn, carry her with ease or drop

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<v Speaker 1>and do push ups. It's not just man chocolate, some wood,

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<v Speaker 1>me too. It's not just the muscles, it's the competence

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<v Speaker 1>fixing things, lifting, heavy handling business without calling for help.

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<v Speaker 1>And in a world of soft talkers and filters, being

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<v Speaker 1>hands on is the new sexy. I've always been like,

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<v Speaker 1>I like dirty niggas, like I like mechanics. I like

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<v Speaker 1>fucking truck drivers. I like niggas who could build me

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<v Speaker 1>a house. Definitely niggas who chop wood. Those are my

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<v Speaker 1>kind of guys.

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<v Speaker 2>It's this nigga on Instagram. He got that curly hair,

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<v Speaker 2>brown skin, and he'd be out there chopping wood.

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<v Speaker 1>Fine nigga be eating that fucking watermelon face. Yes, yes, yes, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we like that, like you know, a.

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<v Speaker 2>New study that shit always been training.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think we women don't end up with these

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<v Speaker 1>type of guys, though, you know what I'm saying. You

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<v Speaker 1>either end up with somebody you gotta do all the things,

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<v Speaker 1>or maybe he has the finances to pay for somebody

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<v Speaker 1>to do the things. But I really I like to

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<v Speaker 1>do things even if I have the money, Like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to spend it on certain things that I

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<v Speaker 1>can read a book and figure out, or watch YouTube

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<v Speaker 1>and figure it out, so bitch be undereath the hood

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<v Speaker 1>of the car and all the things. And I like

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<v Speaker 1>men who do that, who do those same type of

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<v Speaker 1>things like I like, I like problem solvers. I like uh, troubleshooters.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like I'm not getting under no car. I'll

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<v Speaker 2>change a tire if I have to, and there's no

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<v Speaker 2>cars passing by, and I can't just put a leg

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<v Speaker 2>out into the street.

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<v Speaker 1>But I just feel accomplished when I do things, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. I like taking it apart and

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<v Speaker 1>putting it back together. That's just what I like.

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<v Speaker 2>So I like somebody who can compliment that type activity.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I get that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>My ex girldmama was like, don't dumping yet. I need

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<v Speaker 1>him to finish the towel in my kitchen. We did

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<v Speaker 1>that Chile bitch in the kitchen, and not immediately, so

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<v Speaker 1>if you're listening, you know that. Really we were just laughing,

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<v Speaker 1>me and my mama, You're bestie, was just laughing and

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<v Speaker 1>joking and playing right. But shortly thereafter, yes, bitch, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't after I got her Chile.

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<v Speaker 2>So cam Brian had the exotic dancer that was a

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<v Speaker 2>part of the Cassie and Diddy case. That black man

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<v Speaker 2>came out with the book Freezer Meat, and he proceeds

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<v Speaker 2>to ask him was the pussy good? Like let us

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<v Speaker 2>know how to put what the pussy was hitting for?

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<v Speaker 2>And I thought that was so crash and just ugh.

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<v Speaker 2>But then at the same time, I was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>might have wanted to know, nasty. No, I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to know if Cassie pussy is good about Cassie's vagina.

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<v Speaker 2>But I mean, I'm just thinking about how like I

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<v Speaker 2>talked with my friends. They tell me they had, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>fun over the weekend. I might want it to be

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<v Speaker 2>like what that they care for?

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<v Speaker 1>You send me a video?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so I get why he might have asked that,

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<v Speaker 2>but she is also a victim, and it's very public,

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<v Speaker 2>and it just seemed very inappropriate to ask that man

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<v Speaker 2>at And he didn't even answer the question. Basically, he

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<v Speaker 2>was like, I don't I couldn't even tell you because

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<v Speaker 2>I just wasn't in it, Like I was very concerned

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<v Speaker 2>with my sexuality being tested by Diddy the whole time.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it's just about him saying it on like

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<v Speaker 1>a public platform, because I mean, of course we have

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<v Speaker 1>these d these conversations, and you know, there's really no

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<v Speaker 1>man that believes that Cassie is a victim. Unfortunately a

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<v Speaker 1>very small percentage, and they're probably from our gay community.

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<v Speaker 1>Regular heterosexual men feel like Cassie got what she deserved.

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<v Speaker 1>Cassie was doing all the things because she wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>do it. Cassie was a willing participant. A lot of

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<v Speaker 1>them don't see the abuse part, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't see the coaching, the grooming, they don't see it.

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<v Speaker 1>They just you know, she signed up for that shit.

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<v Speaker 1>That's really how they feel. So that's why.

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<v Speaker 2>Cameron can get on the fucking podcast and asks, what's

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<v Speaker 2>the plessy good?

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<v Speaker 1>That is so disgusting? He get, oh my goddamn nerve,

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<v Speaker 1>Like what the fuck happened to his airline? He was like,

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<v Speaker 1>it just got so like he didn't get a new barber,

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<v Speaker 1>that nigga. That shit that got pushbacks. It like a

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<v Speaker 1>half moon. It like the moon right now, dog Crescent.

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<v Speaker 2>It was just inappropriate. It was a valid question that

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like men ask each other all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>But it just was you got to read the room,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you gotta read the room, and that just

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<v Speaker 2>was not nice or nobody wanted to hear that. Regarding

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<v Speaker 2>this situation, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Think, yeah, I could have lived without it, because you

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<v Speaker 1>sent me that post and all I said was ill.

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<v Speaker 2>I said yuck when I got it, when I it

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<v Speaker 2>was sent to me, it just.

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<v Speaker 1>Was like, you said that out loud, growing ass, fucking

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<v Speaker 1>fifty old nigga. Shut up anyway, You're too.

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<v Speaker 2>Old to be just behaving that way.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. So so. Glorilla recently changed her profile picture to

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<v Speaker 1>Michael Jackson after the nose job allegations.

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<v Speaker 2>It ain't allegation, she said she did.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah she did, and it clearly looks like she got

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<v Speaker 1>a nose job. I don't know how you feel about that.

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<v Speaker 1>What do they call it? Rhinoplasty.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm an advocate of do whatever makes you happy. I didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>I liked her own nose, but it's about her liking

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<v Speaker 2>her nose. So if she liked a new nose, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm here for it. I don't have no but they

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<v Speaker 2>eating her up because people are not happy with her nose.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, people are not liking the nose. And then

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<v Speaker 2>another girl I can't remember who got there is done.

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<v Speaker 2>They was like, you gotta let that nose sit a

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<v Speaker 2>little while for to heal and take it the actual

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<v Speaker 2>point it says it takes like a year usually. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>do you think made.

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<v Speaker 1>Sallion and got her nose done? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Her does does look different?

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<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of people, I mean, Beyonce clearly

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<v Speaker 1>has a nose job. A lot of people there. Most

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<v Speaker 1>people I believe probably got this type of work done.

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<v Speaker 1>We know Cardi B got a nose job. Mary J.

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<v Speaker 1>Blige got to know his job. Look, Kim got a

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<v Speaker 1>million those jobs. Like most people in the industry, they

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<v Speaker 1>end up.

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<v Speaker 2>Removing their daddy's noses, Like this is my daddy knows

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<v Speaker 2>I want and it's wide and.

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<v Speaker 1>Girl, my nose big as a motherfucker. This is my daddy.

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<v Speaker 1>Daddy knows all day long, and I'm gonna keep it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, this is my nigga knows and I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you can put enough makeup on it. You could

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<v Speaker 1>put like some contouring on it.

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<v Speaker 2>You wanted to have a point, you can contour it.

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<v Speaker 2>But I don't even care about that. It's these titties.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to do something. That's why I got no

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<v Speaker 2>judging for nobody that if I go on a vacation,

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<v Speaker 2>doing that suction thing to my titties. You know what I'm

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<v Speaker 2>talking about?

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<v Speaker 1>Yo, may do the booty. Yeah, that's gonna look crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna do it. It's probably be bruised up the

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<v Speaker 2>whole vacate these bruised.

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<v Speaker 1>And the last night of vacation, your titty is gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be gone. Wait a minute, motherfuckers.

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<v Speaker 2>Again, put your right here real hard so they can swell.

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<v Speaker 1>Look lead them teddies alone the ship that we be

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<v Speaker 1>worrying about, Like, men do not give a fuck. They

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<v Speaker 1>don't so I know it right under. I know we

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<v Speaker 1>say it's for us, right half the things we do?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it really though? Yes?

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<v Speaker 2>For us?

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmmm, because niggas don't care.

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<v Speaker 2>I told you he's second laid back and he's.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Good luck with her in her nose,

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<v Speaker 1>like I mean, she's a pretty girl regardless, Like Glorilla

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<v Speaker 1>is really a pretty girl in person. She got like

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<v Speaker 1>a little distinct unique look, but she's a pretty girl.

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<v Speaker 2>She looked like principal Hogh Tower to me. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know her really with her she was beautiful, like that's

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<v Speaker 2>her kid or something, right, Yeah, she could have very

0:20:05.280 --> 0:20:06.720
<v Speaker 2>well been her daughter mm hm.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, shout out to the new noses hid y'all have

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<v Speaker 1>fun with that, y'all. So today we want to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about clinical thinking, not to be confused with critical thinking. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so what's that you ask. It's more of a way

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<v Speaker 1>of thinking. It's more of a way of thinking that

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<v Speaker 1>blends intuition, emotional intelligence, wisdom, and basically like lived experience.

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<v Speaker 1>It's that fucking gut feeling you know that women have. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>it's clinical thinking that we're using. So it's like logic

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<v Speaker 1>with a libido. Basically, I can't wait to get We'll

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<v Speaker 1>be back, all right, y'all. So we're back and we're

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<v Speaker 1>talking clinical thinking today, right, So that survives gut feelings,

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<v Speaker 1>like the feminine intuition that not everybody has, and a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of times we don't even be following our shit,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's a real thing. You know, how you do

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<v Speaker 1>some shit and be like you know what I knew?

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<v Speaker 1>I knew better, or like you think something about somebody

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<v Speaker 1>and you're like, man, I knew this niggame and shit,

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<v Speaker 1>and you still you you ignored your clitical thinking skills.

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<v Speaker 2>Basically, So sometimes that clitical thinking can have you think

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<v Speaker 2>it wrong too.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think so my clitical thinking be on point.

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<v Speaker 1>It may not. It may not.

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<v Speaker 2>Like at the very moment when you some shit happen,

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<v Speaker 2>you think back and be like, hmm, I was right.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be fucking knowing.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes my clitterist has led me a strength. He didn't

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<v Speaker 2>do it. He's innocent because I love the nigga so much.

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<v Speaker 2>He did that shit. He did that shit.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's your heart. You might have been thinking.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't the gut feeling.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't the gut, it was my glitteriest.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, maybe you need to tune yours out. Yours might

0:22:09.240 --> 0:22:11.960
<v Speaker 1>not be all I mean, yours might not be on completely.

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<v Speaker 2>Love struck and love struck by somebody that you kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like, don't pay attention to logic and reason.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmm. Yeah, but you thought it though, right, So

0:22:26.240 --> 0:22:30.360
<v Speaker 1>your clitical thinking kicked in. But then I think my.

0:22:30.359 --> 0:22:33.240
<v Speaker 2>Critical thinking kicked in. But my clitical thinking.

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<v Speaker 1>No, the clinical thinking ain't gonna never like lead you wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. It's your heart and your mind

0:22:41.600 --> 0:22:47.359
<v Speaker 1>that be fucking you up. The clinical thinking is that.

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<v Speaker 2>I need out of the equation. I probably would have

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<v Speaker 2>kept my good sense.

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<v Speaker 1>So what is a clinical thinker? One might ask, Right,

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<v Speaker 1>So it's something in my spirit that says the same, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's enough. That's all I really need. Right, boundaries

0:23:08.400 --> 0:23:11.480
<v Speaker 1>are just not up for debate. I don't need no

0:23:11.520 --> 0:23:15.679
<v Speaker 1>more information I need. I know exactly what's happening. And

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<v Speaker 1>I picked up on it before you even put it down.

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<v Speaker 1>Like that's essentially what clitical thinking is. So it kind

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<v Speaker 1>of can be compared to like girl math a little bit. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>So the things that make sense to women that don't

0:23:28.520 --> 0:23:31.359
<v Speaker 1>make sense to men, because I don't think that men

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<v Speaker 1>think as deep as women do, almost subjects relationships life

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<v Speaker 1>like they claim to be super simple.

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<v Speaker 2>You just think these niggas is really fucking dumbn't it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, this past weekend I kind of said that

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<v Speaker 1>shit to somebody a little bit, a little t.

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<v Speaker 2>T because that is.

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<v Speaker 1>I am not hard on men, not at all. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't and and really I think collective we may not

0:24:00.560 --> 0:24:03.800
<v Speaker 1>be hard enough. They think we'd be being hard, but

0:24:03.840 --> 0:24:06.760
<v Speaker 1>we really aren't. I'm not hard on men. I love men,

0:24:07.240 --> 0:24:08.520
<v Speaker 1>I love black men in.

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<v Speaker 2>Particular, hard on these niggas and.

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<v Speaker 1>You soft on niggas. I might sound like I'm hard

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<v Speaker 1>on them on this fucking podcast, but in real fucking life, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>too hard on a nigga? Me, okay, real.

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<v Speaker 2>Life, Yeah, I'll be I'll be hard on the Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just talking about it, bitch. I still you give

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<v Speaker 2>a nigga more chances than for sure, That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>So like, I'm talking about it right because the more

0:24:41.800 --> 0:24:44.800
<v Speaker 1>women talk about things, that means we are still trying.

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<v Speaker 1>It's when you fucking stop talking about ship is when

0:24:47.800 --> 0:24:50.760
<v Speaker 1>niggas need to be worried. I don't care about y'all niggas,

0:24:50.800 --> 0:24:54.520
<v Speaker 1>no more so, and I am I open. I open

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<v Speaker 1>the door for anybody to talk say about whatever they want,

0:24:57.520 --> 0:24:59.880
<v Speaker 1>say whatever they want about black women. You know, if

0:25:00.560 --> 0:25:04.440
<v Speaker 1>we have there's plenty platforms for that shit. Okay, I do.

0:25:04.720 --> 0:25:07.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm not hard on men anyway. I do think a

0:25:07.320 --> 0:25:10.200
<v Speaker 1>lot of a lot of them are stupid and they

0:25:10.320 --> 0:25:11.840
<v Speaker 1>think that. Huh.

0:25:11.880 --> 0:25:14.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't think these niggas are stupid. I just think,

0:25:14.840 --> 0:25:18.200
<v Speaker 2>and I think they do think as deep as us.

0:25:19.200 --> 0:25:24.280
<v Speaker 2>I don't think. I just when I say I'm harder

0:25:24.320 --> 0:25:28.600
<v Speaker 2>than you, I don't know. I just don't be going forward.

0:25:30.320 --> 0:25:31.960
<v Speaker 2>I don't. I don't. That's I guess why I ain't

0:25:31.960 --> 0:25:34.920
<v Speaker 2>had no nigga since twenty sixteen. I ain't going for it.

0:25:39.440 --> 0:25:43.520
<v Speaker 1>When I say men are stupid. Okay, when a man

0:25:43.640 --> 0:25:49.440
<v Speaker 1>says he's simple, what is he actually saying? Because I

0:25:49.520 --> 0:25:57.080
<v Speaker 1>know that men are very, very very like complex, nothing

0:25:57.160 --> 0:25:57.960
<v Speaker 1>simple about him.

0:25:58.080 --> 0:26:01.120
<v Speaker 2>When I hear them say the simple, I don't think

0:26:01.200 --> 0:26:04.840
<v Speaker 2>simple minded. I think like they just want hot food

0:26:05.840 --> 0:26:08.280
<v Speaker 2>and warm cuchie and peace.

0:26:11.240 --> 0:26:13.880
<v Speaker 1>So one thing I listened is I'm simple. I don't

0:26:13.920 --> 0:26:21.600
<v Speaker 1>like drama, right that. That's basically like the keywords they're

0:26:21.640 --> 0:26:23.520
<v Speaker 1>actually missing there is that I want to do what

0:26:23.560 --> 0:26:24.639
<v Speaker 1>the fuck I want to do, and I want you

0:26:24.720 --> 0:26:27.760
<v Speaker 1>to shut the fuck up. Okay, When they don't like drama,

0:26:27.800 --> 0:26:30.159
<v Speaker 1>that's them not taking accountability. They don't want you.

0:26:30.280 --> 0:26:32.679
<v Speaker 2>They don't want to have to get into the in

0:26:32.800 --> 0:26:36.360
<v Speaker 2>depth conversation about something they could have possibly done, or maybe.

0:26:36.160 --> 0:26:40.080
<v Speaker 1>You want something you want change in the relationship. They

0:26:40.080 --> 0:26:41.480
<v Speaker 1>don't want to talk about it. They want to be

0:26:41.600 --> 0:26:45.320
<v Speaker 1>dismissive of your feelings, and they like to brush us off, like, oh,

0:26:45.320 --> 0:26:49.639
<v Speaker 1>you're so emotional. It's not like men. Men are emotional too,

0:26:49.640 --> 0:26:53.160
<v Speaker 1>Because we always say motherfucks die whenmen get emotional. So

0:26:53.200 --> 0:26:55.679
<v Speaker 1>they just to me, it's just lacking accountability, and they

0:26:55.680 --> 0:26:59.199
<v Speaker 1>can just just scapegoat. I don't want to talk about it.

0:26:59.280 --> 0:27:02.080
<v Speaker 1>You just full of why you're always complaining, why you

0:27:02.160 --> 0:27:06.800
<v Speaker 1>being petty? Because they don't want to take accountability for

0:27:06.840 --> 0:27:08.119
<v Speaker 1>what it is that you have a problem with.

0:27:10.680 --> 0:27:13.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's one reason why someone would say that.

0:27:15.160 --> 0:27:17.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because a half the time we're just asking for clarity.

0:27:18.680 --> 0:27:22.639
<v Speaker 1>So maybe you're not thinking deep enough. Right. This is

0:27:22.680 --> 0:27:24.840
<v Speaker 1>actually stemming from a conversation I had with a grown

0:27:24.920 --> 0:27:27.359
<v Speaker 1>man over the weekend. I'm like, man, I ain't calling

0:27:27.400 --> 0:27:31.119
<v Speaker 1>you no more. Cool, it's one of my friends. I'm like,

0:27:31.160 --> 0:27:34.320
<v Speaker 1>I ain't talking to you no more because he basically

0:27:34.359 --> 0:27:36.960
<v Speaker 1>told me that I'm never going to get a nigga

0:27:37.080 --> 0:27:39.040
<v Speaker 1>to do all the things I want to do because

0:27:39.080 --> 0:27:41.639
<v Speaker 1>I got masculine energy. He threw that shit on me.

0:27:42.280 --> 0:27:45.320
<v Speaker 1>You know, the talking points from all the red pill

0:27:45.680 --> 0:27:49.680
<v Speaker 1>niggas on these podcasts. I'm a very That's why when

0:27:49.680 --> 0:27:52.240
<v Speaker 1>you say I'm hard on man, that is just not true.

0:27:52.320 --> 0:27:57.199
<v Speaker 2>Like, I guess I expect what I bring, right, so

0:27:57.280 --> 0:28:00.200
<v Speaker 2>like and bring masculine energy.

0:28:00.680 --> 0:28:02.960
<v Speaker 1>How because I feel like to be a well.

0:28:02.880 --> 0:28:06.320
<v Speaker 2>Rounded to what you bring. You should expect from a man,

0:28:06.440 --> 0:28:08.600
<v Speaker 2>something different than what you're bringing. You should be bringing

0:28:08.600 --> 0:28:09.840
<v Speaker 2>in your feminine softness.

0:28:11.640 --> 0:28:13.280
<v Speaker 1>I feel like you got to bring both. I feel

0:28:13.320 --> 0:28:16.800
<v Speaker 1>like men should be soft sometimes too. Masculinity is not

0:28:16.880 --> 0:28:20.879
<v Speaker 1>just because this friend of mine, to him, masculinity is

0:28:20.920 --> 0:28:24.520
<v Speaker 1>like cussing his family out. That is not like that's

0:28:24.720 --> 0:28:28.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, men are respectful. That's not masculinity. Like men

0:28:28.240 --> 0:28:33.439
<v Speaker 1>have control, right, That to me is masculinity being in

0:28:33.520 --> 0:28:36.000
<v Speaker 1>control of your emotions, maybe being a little bit more

0:28:36.080 --> 0:28:41.000
<v Speaker 1>stoic and not like cussing everybody out, like wanting to

0:28:41.000 --> 0:28:43.240
<v Speaker 1>fight and shit like that like that, that's to me,

0:28:43.360 --> 0:28:49.160
<v Speaker 1>that's not masculinity. Masculinity is more assertive, is more calculated.

0:28:49.800 --> 0:28:52.200
<v Speaker 1>But really, those, when you think about it, are those

0:28:52.240 --> 0:28:57.320
<v Speaker 1>not feminine traits? I think women we think more critically,

0:28:57.720 --> 0:29:01.200
<v Speaker 1>right clinically, I believe.

0:29:04.000 --> 0:29:07.120
<v Speaker 2>I feel like we haven't been allowed to be our

0:29:07.160 --> 0:29:12.080
<v Speaker 2>greatest feminine selves as black women. We don't just get

0:29:12.080 --> 0:29:18.680
<v Speaker 2>to like exist, be solved and be just cared for

0:29:19.440 --> 0:29:25.120
<v Speaker 2>and docile. I don't ever, I don't ever remember the

0:29:25.160 --> 0:29:27.720
<v Speaker 2>women in my life being able to just live in

0:29:27.760 --> 0:29:32.520
<v Speaker 2>that type of energy and be just cared for. They're

0:29:32.520 --> 0:29:36.440
<v Speaker 2>always taking care of business, always handling everything, always responsible

0:29:36.440 --> 0:29:37.640
<v Speaker 2>for everybody, even the men.

0:29:38.600 --> 0:29:40.440
<v Speaker 1>And I think so now I'm more so in a

0:29:40.520 --> 0:29:46.080
<v Speaker 1>mindset is that I am now forcing you. I'm forcing

0:29:46.160 --> 0:29:52.160
<v Speaker 1>whoever I deal with to be the man I'm no longer.

0:29:52.280 --> 0:29:54.280
<v Speaker 2>But you can't force nobody, That's.

0:29:54.040 --> 0:29:56.760
<v Speaker 1>What That's what I'm saying. So right now I'm just

0:29:57.760 --> 0:30:02.040
<v Speaker 1>the fuck is just me existing? Right? So I don't

0:30:02.040 --> 0:30:05.520
<v Speaker 1>want to have to force somebody to be what it

0:30:05.600 --> 0:30:08.000
<v Speaker 1>is that whatever it is a man is, and whatever

0:30:08.200 --> 0:30:11.080
<v Speaker 1>masculinity actually looks like, because it's really not for women

0:30:11.120 --> 0:30:14.640
<v Speaker 1>to define, you know what I'm saying, So men have

0:30:14.720 --> 0:30:16.320
<v Speaker 1>to define it. But I know it doesn't look like

0:30:16.360 --> 0:30:18.800
<v Speaker 1>cussing your kids and wife out. That's not what the

0:30:18.800 --> 0:30:21.400
<v Speaker 1>fuck masculinity looks like. And you definitely can't talk to

0:30:21.440 --> 0:30:26.640
<v Speaker 1>me fucking crazy. So I don't know, But.

0:30:28.440 --> 0:30:30.400
<v Speaker 2>What are the kids and wife doing?

0:30:33.640 --> 0:30:35.840
<v Speaker 1>I think his shit came out of frustration because he

0:30:35.880 --> 0:30:37.400
<v Speaker 1>does everything for his family.

0:30:38.000 --> 0:30:39.360
<v Speaker 2>Okay, well then that's fair.

0:30:39.920 --> 0:30:42.360
<v Speaker 1>That's not fair, you know, you just because you are

0:30:42.400 --> 0:30:44.320
<v Speaker 1>the provider. So you mean to tell me if you

0:30:44.360 --> 0:30:46.280
<v Speaker 1>were to actually lock in a nigga who's like full

0:30:46.320 --> 0:30:49.200
<v Speaker 1>provider all your needs. He then gets to cuss you

0:30:49.240 --> 0:30:53.080
<v Speaker 1>out when he gets frustrated. If I deserve it, what

0:30:53.200 --> 0:30:54.800
<v Speaker 1>could you do to possibly deserve that.

0:30:55.640 --> 0:30:58.800
<v Speaker 2>Maybe I'm he doing everything and I'm just being so

0:30:58.920 --> 0:31:03.080
<v Speaker 2>ungrateful and the kids don't listen and I'm just being

0:31:03.120 --> 0:31:10.600
<v Speaker 2>a bitch. Maybe I deserve to shut the fuck up, Timmy. Yes, yes, yes, daddy,

0:31:11.600 --> 0:31:16.680
<v Speaker 2>see you toxic. You don't believe that. Sometimes people deserve

0:31:16.760 --> 0:31:17.880
<v Speaker 2>they need to get cussed out.

0:31:18.200 --> 0:31:20.600
<v Speaker 1>I don't never need anybody to tell me to shut

0:31:20.640 --> 0:31:23.440
<v Speaker 1>the fuck up. Sometimes you do who the fuck you

0:31:23.520 --> 0:31:23.920
<v Speaker 1>talking to?

0:31:24.360 --> 0:31:27.240
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes you need to shut the fuck up, though, no.

0:31:27.120 --> 0:31:30.920
<v Speaker 1>Never, you don't never need to shut When I need

0:31:30.960 --> 0:31:33.040
<v Speaker 1>to shut the fuck up, I don't be talking, and

0:31:33.080 --> 0:31:35.959
<v Speaker 1>see that's just whused when I'm talking.

0:31:36.720 --> 0:31:40.360
<v Speaker 2>That's when you think. But sometimes other people, especially a partner,

0:31:41.040 --> 0:31:44.560
<v Speaker 2>might feel like, hey, you need to shut the fuck up.

0:31:44.600 --> 0:31:46.959
<v Speaker 1>That's not what I've heard though in my relationships. What

0:31:47.000 --> 0:31:49.360
<v Speaker 1>I've heard in my relationships is that I be building

0:31:49.400 --> 0:31:52.960
<v Speaker 1>recal charges against niggas, Like I just let all these

0:31:53.000 --> 0:31:55.720
<v Speaker 1>things add up and then I finally say something about it.

0:31:55.800 --> 0:31:59.320
<v Speaker 1>Right now, it's the fucking problem that why didn't you

0:31:59.400 --> 0:32:03.000
<v Speaker 1>say this before? Like if I had said something every

0:32:03.080 --> 0:32:06.880
<v Speaker 1>single infraction, then I'd be nagging. So what is it

0:32:06.960 --> 0:32:08.000
<v Speaker 1>that you really want?

0:32:10.160 --> 0:32:12.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but don't nobody want no Rico.

0:32:19.520 --> 0:32:21.840
<v Speaker 1>Nigga said, I'd be building a Rico charge. Like it's

0:32:21.880 --> 0:32:25.160
<v Speaker 1>not a Rico cases that I don't nag about every infraction,

0:32:25.840 --> 0:32:28.000
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. And then, especially like when

0:32:28.040 --> 0:32:31.640
<v Speaker 1>you cohabitating with somebody, you have to be cognizant and

0:32:31.680 --> 0:32:34.640
<v Speaker 1>conscious that it's not just you, right, so you gotta

0:32:34.840 --> 0:32:37.080
<v Speaker 1>you gotta make that other person comfortable and you expect

0:32:37.120 --> 0:32:40.040
<v Speaker 1>the same thing because y'all have to be in one

0:32:40.120 --> 0:32:42.640
<v Speaker 1>place forever together. So no, I'm not nagging by every

0:32:42.720 --> 0:32:46.000
<v Speaker 1>little fucking thing, right, But if one need to lead

0:32:46.040 --> 0:32:47.520
<v Speaker 1>to the next and then to the next, to the

0:32:47.520 --> 0:32:50.080
<v Speaker 1>next and next. Now by the yeah, it Rico is

0:32:50.120 --> 0:32:51.200
<v Speaker 1>fucking pending.

0:32:52.280 --> 0:32:53.920
<v Speaker 2>I'll go that's a good practice.

0:32:54.320 --> 0:32:55.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what to do.

0:32:55.160 --> 0:32:57.160
<v Speaker 2>Then. The only time I think that's a good practice

0:32:57.240 --> 0:33:01.920
<v Speaker 2>is when you stacking them up to leave. Otherwise, you

0:33:01.920 --> 0:33:07.320
<v Speaker 2>should address everything as it happens if it bothers you. Yeah,

0:33:07.320 --> 0:33:09.239
<v Speaker 2>but let's just stacking them up to say, Hey, this

0:33:09.280 --> 0:33:12.560
<v Speaker 2>is why I'm leaving. Then don't don't pull that.

0:33:12.920 --> 0:33:14.040
<v Speaker 1>I've definitely done that too.

0:33:14.080 --> 0:33:16.920
<v Speaker 2>Bit y'all write a journal or a nigga.

0:33:17.160 --> 0:33:20.440
<v Speaker 1>I have a whole journal letter written say hey, this

0:33:20.640 --> 0:33:25.400
<v Speaker 1>is exactly why we're no longer. I have definitely done.

0:33:25.160 --> 0:33:29.320
<v Speaker 2>That because one thing I don't like is let's say

0:33:29.360 --> 0:33:32.440
<v Speaker 2>I have an issue with my man and I bring

0:33:32.520 --> 0:33:36.400
<v Speaker 2>him the issue, and then instead of him addressing that issue,

0:33:36.640 --> 0:33:40.360
<v Speaker 2>he goes to tell me something from last May that

0:33:40.840 --> 0:33:44.160
<v Speaker 2>made him mad. It's like, why didn't you tell me

0:33:44.200 --> 0:33:47.000
<v Speaker 2>when it made you mad? Why are you trying to deflect.

0:33:46.600 --> 0:33:48.960
<v Speaker 1>From one your thing today?

0:33:49.440 --> 0:33:52.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, don't do that now, because you're just trying to

0:33:52.160 --> 0:33:54.800
<v Speaker 2>like minimize what I'm saying by something that you were

0:33:54.960 --> 0:33:57.040
<v Speaker 2>set about it in May and I could have corrected

0:33:57.080 --> 0:33:59.360
<v Speaker 2>that and May had you said something. But now I'm

0:33:59.400 --> 0:34:04.760
<v Speaker 2>just pissed off. Yeah, and nobody hearing nobody at this point.

0:34:09.080 --> 0:34:12.880
<v Speaker 1>So back to men saying that they're simple. Another example

0:34:12.920 --> 0:34:16.560
<v Speaker 1>of that is I'm simple. I don't need much. My

0:34:16.680 --> 0:34:20.560
<v Speaker 1>needs are basic, and that translates to feed me, fuck me, y,

0:34:20.920 --> 0:34:24.520
<v Speaker 1>let me chill, and don't ask me any questions, right,

0:34:24.880 --> 0:34:29.200
<v Speaker 1>But what's really underneath? Okay, so you know It may

0:34:29.239 --> 0:34:33.440
<v Speaker 1>seem low maintenance on the surface, but it may also

0:34:33.680 --> 0:34:36.960
<v Speaker 1>mean that they're just really suppressing like their emotions. And

0:34:37.000 --> 0:34:40.919
<v Speaker 1>men often say how they have nobody to talk to, right,

0:34:40.960 --> 0:34:42.719
<v Speaker 1>they don't talk to their friends, they don't talk to

0:34:42.760 --> 0:34:45.720
<v Speaker 1>they women like, they don't tell people what they're actually

0:34:45.719 --> 0:34:50.480
<v Speaker 1>experiencing on the inside. And some may think that's masculinity, right,

0:34:51.160 --> 0:34:54.120
<v Speaker 1>just just dealing and not actually speaking up and saying

0:34:54.280 --> 0:34:57.720
<v Speaker 1>when something's bothering you, when you're having a problem.

0:34:58.160 --> 0:35:01.560
<v Speaker 2>But I think that's not even black a man thing.

0:35:02.040 --> 0:35:06.160
<v Speaker 2>I think that's a black thing. We are definitely like

0:35:06.280 --> 0:35:10.080
<v Speaker 2>we just deal shit happening. We just keep going, just

0:35:10.160 --> 0:35:13.560
<v Speaker 2>keep pushing. That's it. Hm, talk to nobody just.

0:35:15.560 --> 0:35:19.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't okay. So like the clitical counter, the clitical

0:35:19.560 --> 0:35:23.360
<v Speaker 1>thinking counter to that is, it doesn't mean you have

0:35:23.440 --> 0:35:28.239
<v Speaker 1>to be like emotionally unavailable. Do you actually know what

0:35:28.280 --> 0:35:32.920
<v Speaker 1>you need? Are you used to not even being asked

0:35:32.920 --> 0:35:34.600
<v Speaker 1>what the fuck you need? Because men ask what you

0:35:34.600 --> 0:35:35.960
<v Speaker 1>bring it to the table, But what do you need

0:35:36.000 --> 0:35:38.279
<v Speaker 1>on the table? Do you know what you need as

0:35:38.320 --> 0:35:40.520
<v Speaker 1>a man? Do you know what you need out your partner?

0:35:41.840 --> 0:35:43.960
<v Speaker 1>If you ask a man that, half the time they

0:35:44.000 --> 0:35:47.560
<v Speaker 1>don't fucking know, don't know, They don't know what they

0:35:47.640 --> 0:35:49.480
<v Speaker 1>want to eat, and they keep putting it on us

0:35:49.480 --> 0:35:51.200
<v Speaker 1>as if we don't know what we want to eat.

0:35:51.560 --> 0:35:55.239
<v Speaker 1>Imagine if your niggas say, uh, what you want to

0:35:55.280 --> 0:35:58.160
<v Speaker 1>eat and you be like, I don't care, just whatever

0:35:58.800 --> 0:36:00.920
<v Speaker 1>in the first place, he says you like, yeah, that

0:36:00.960 --> 0:36:05.239
<v Speaker 1>would kill that whole argument, right. It's really because they

0:36:05.400 --> 0:36:08.360
<v Speaker 1>don't know what they want to eat, so they yeah,

0:36:08.400 --> 0:36:11.080
<v Speaker 1>so they put it on us. That's a small example

0:36:11.800 --> 0:36:15.040
<v Speaker 1>of how the responsibility we so responsible for everybody.

0:36:15.200 --> 0:36:17.960
<v Speaker 2>But here's the thing, because I've had that happen. He'd

0:36:18.000 --> 0:36:19.880
<v Speaker 2>be like, what you want to eat? And I'm like,

0:36:19.920 --> 0:36:21.759
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, I don't care, and he picked something,

0:36:21.760 --> 0:36:22.640
<v Speaker 2>I'd be like I don't want that.

0:36:24.840 --> 0:36:26.680
<v Speaker 1>Or you pick something. He'd get there with the menu

0:36:26.719 --> 0:36:28.479
<v Speaker 1>and like, I don't see nothing out here I want.

0:36:28.640 --> 0:36:31.759
<v Speaker 1>You had an opportunity to choose, so that shit could

0:36:31.800 --> 0:36:34.560
<v Speaker 1>go both ways. Why is the onus always on a woman?

0:36:35.239 --> 0:36:37.640
<v Speaker 1>Why I got to be concerned about your stomach and mine?

0:36:38.280 --> 0:36:40.560
<v Speaker 2>What do you mean, like, that's the woman's job to

0:36:40.600 --> 0:36:46.759
<v Speaker 2>be like the the nourishment, yeah, the nutrition for the family, not.

0:36:46.680 --> 0:36:49.280
<v Speaker 1>In the dating. I guess right when you.

0:36:48.960 --> 0:36:53.279
<v Speaker 2>If I see a whole fat family is the mama fault.

0:36:53.560 --> 0:36:55.920
<v Speaker 2>Don't kill me, y'all, don't sorry.

0:36:56.120 --> 0:36:59.560
<v Speaker 1>I agree. I agree because I remember when one of

0:36:59.560 --> 0:37:01.960
<v Speaker 1>my sisters is she extra fine right now, chiad, but

0:37:02.680 --> 0:37:05.200
<v Speaker 1>you know she'd be letting her family stow eat bullshit

0:37:05.239 --> 0:37:09.239
<v Speaker 1>while she's dyeting. That is not okay. I need you

0:37:10.800 --> 0:37:13.160
<v Speaker 1>to make sure that they're eating whole foods as well,

0:37:13.719 --> 0:37:15.200
<v Speaker 1>Like you know what I'm saying. You want to be

0:37:15.280 --> 0:37:17.720
<v Speaker 1>the only one alive because that's what I'm seeing.

0:37:19.239 --> 0:37:19.960
<v Speaker 2>You know what I'm saying.

0:37:20.160 --> 0:37:24.640
<v Speaker 1>My nephew beating fucking h noodles. Them sit got eight

0:37:24.760 --> 0:37:26.200
<v Speaker 1>hundred milligrams.

0:37:25.640 --> 0:37:29.160
<v Speaker 2>Of sodium in it them, chit is so high they're

0:37:29.160 --> 0:37:31.879
<v Speaker 2>not even It's not even real food. I listen, if

0:37:31.880 --> 0:37:34.319
<v Speaker 2>it was apocalypse and that was all that was left

0:37:34.320 --> 0:37:36.000
<v Speaker 2>to eat, I would just go ahead and die. I

0:37:36.040 --> 0:37:38.920
<v Speaker 2>cannot stay in a fucking pack of noodles because I

0:37:39.080 --> 0:37:41.239
<v Speaker 2>ate so much of that shit between middle school and

0:37:41.280 --> 0:37:44.040
<v Speaker 2>high school, I ate it everywhere you could think of it.

0:37:44.239 --> 0:37:46.520
<v Speaker 2>Put an egg in it, put some sausage. I even

0:37:46.680 --> 0:37:51.040
<v Speaker 2>ate noodles dry before, Like.

0:37:53.360 --> 0:37:56.359
<v Speaker 1>That's a real struggle meal. That's really disgusting.

0:37:56.760 --> 0:38:01.120
<v Speaker 2>It's gross. I'll never eat another noodle heck of noodles,

0:38:01.360 --> 0:38:04.680
<v Speaker 2>forget about it. I did used to like those little

0:38:04.719 --> 0:38:07.479
<v Speaker 2>cup noodles with the peas and stuff in there, even

0:38:07.560 --> 0:38:10.520
<v Speaker 2>like those not even peas, that is three D printed piece.

0:38:13.960 --> 0:38:16.520
<v Speaker 2>We got the fucking people's theay old dried ass three

0:38:16.560 --> 0:38:18.000
<v Speaker 2>D shit.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, y'all. So we're going to go through like

0:38:21.160 --> 0:38:24.200
<v Speaker 1>clinical thinking versus critical thinking so you can get better

0:38:24.280 --> 0:38:26.640
<v Speaker 1>understand where it is I'm coming from, right, So let's

0:38:26.640 --> 0:38:29.520
<v Speaker 1>break this zern real quick, because like traditional critical thinking

0:38:29.800 --> 0:38:34.320
<v Speaker 1>is like spreadsheets and fucking data analytics and shit like that,

0:38:34.800 --> 0:38:39.000
<v Speaker 1>and again, like clinical thinking is based off of lived experience,

0:38:39.080 --> 0:38:46.680
<v Speaker 1>like your intuition. So critical thinking is like logical, objective, rational,

0:38:46.880 --> 0:38:51.040
<v Speaker 1>right analytical, like step by step detached from emotion. Uh

0:38:51.360 --> 0:39:00.680
<v Speaker 1>typically masculin coded clinical thinking is intuitive emotionally intelligent. Okay,

0:39:00.760 --> 0:39:04.520
<v Speaker 1>So I think that most of the most of the

0:39:04.560 --> 0:39:09.040
<v Speaker 1>people who claim to be emotional intelligent or have emotional

0:39:09.080 --> 0:39:14.280
<v Speaker 1>intelligence are probably women, right, because we do tap into

0:39:14.280 --> 0:39:17.719
<v Speaker 1>our emotions a little bit more. We do anticipate others,

0:39:17.840 --> 0:39:21.160
<v Speaker 1>the needs of others over ours a lot of times,

0:39:21.200 --> 0:39:22.719
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. We know what you need

0:39:22.760 --> 0:39:25.600
<v Speaker 1>before you even know what you need. That's what emotional

0:39:25.600 --> 0:39:28.399
<v Speaker 1>intelligence is. And you know, I don't think men are

0:39:28.440 --> 0:39:31.360
<v Speaker 1>even programmed to think in that way, but we want

0:39:31.400 --> 0:39:34.239
<v Speaker 1>them to have all of this emotional intelligence. We think

0:39:34.280 --> 0:39:38.200
<v Speaker 1>that's what we want from them. I don't know. Critical

0:39:38.239 --> 0:39:42.800
<v Speaker 1>thinking is also like informed by patterns, just people's vibes,

0:39:43.040 --> 0:39:47.920
<v Speaker 1>past experiences, rooted in self trust and boundary setting. So

0:39:48.000 --> 0:39:52.279
<v Speaker 1>for example, say, for instance, your ex like calls you

0:39:52.360 --> 0:39:54.319
<v Speaker 1>like one o'clock in the morning. In the morning, right,

0:39:54.600 --> 0:40:00.400
<v Speaker 1>you chilling, drinking wine, listening to music. Critical thinking to

0:40:00.520 --> 0:40:04.319
<v Speaker 1>have you thinking like, I wonder what he wants, right,

0:40:05.400 --> 0:40:09.000
<v Speaker 1>I wonder if it's if it's an emergency. Clitical thinking

0:40:09.040 --> 0:40:12.480
<v Speaker 1>would be like, man, fuck him. I'm not answering the phone.

0:40:12.560 --> 0:40:17.360
<v Speaker 1>You just block him midphone call and keep drinking a

0:40:17.360 --> 0:40:21.040
<v Speaker 1>wine and listening to music. That's political thinking. I don't

0:40:21.120 --> 0:40:24.760
<v Speaker 1>need to know what this nick needs. I don't care. Okay,

0:40:25.200 --> 0:40:27.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna just block his ass because I already know

0:40:28.280 --> 0:40:33.279
<v Speaker 1>what that involves, already know what he coming for, So

0:40:33.320 --> 0:40:34.320
<v Speaker 1>why even engage?

0:40:34.719 --> 0:40:37.759
<v Speaker 2>Girl? I listen, that's so crazy because I one of

0:40:37.760 --> 0:40:40.920
<v Speaker 2>my old thing things.

0:40:41.320 --> 0:40:49.400
<v Speaker 1>Hot shits, what do they call him find shits just

0:40:49.480 --> 0:40:55.040
<v Speaker 1>ships one of my old one of my old shits.

0:40:55.880 --> 0:40:59.280
<v Speaker 2>Go message me do him? Oh no on Facebook message?

0:40:59.400 --> 0:41:03.080
<v Speaker 2>Please why? I just need to talk to you, please

0:41:03.120 --> 0:41:08.399
<v Speaker 2>and block me. So I unblocked this a motherfucker and

0:41:08.440 --> 0:41:13.560
<v Speaker 2>he called me and he gonna say some bullshit about

0:41:14.280 --> 0:41:17.560
<v Speaker 2>do my other ex nigga that he know about still

0:41:17.600 --> 0:41:18.160
<v Speaker 2>sell weed?

0:41:18.400 --> 0:41:23.880
<v Speaker 1>I was like, so he calling you for pluck talk? Yeah,

0:41:24.320 --> 0:41:27.200
<v Speaker 1>not you to connect. I hung up so fast, not

0:41:27.320 --> 0:41:29.120
<v Speaker 1>your relationship manager.

0:41:29.080 --> 0:41:31.640
<v Speaker 2>And reblock that nigga just as quick, like.

0:41:33.880 --> 0:41:37.480
<v Speaker 1>Fads, Like, nigga, what you trying to sat my other

0:41:37.560 --> 0:41:38.000
<v Speaker 1>nigga up?

0:41:38.120 --> 0:41:41.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't know what you talk about? One ship up

0:41:41.120 --> 0:41:43.960
<v Speaker 2>from another ship. I ain't got nothing to do with that.

0:41:46.800 --> 0:41:47.960
<v Speaker 2>Put two ships together?

0:41:48.600 --> 0:41:52.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like and after Oftentimes they don't want nothing, right, you.

0:41:52.280 --> 0:41:54.239
<v Speaker 2>Don't want nothing, Leave me alone. I don't know. I

0:41:54.239 --> 0:41:55.800
<v Speaker 2>don't do drugs. Leave me alone.

0:41:57.880 --> 0:42:02.360
<v Speaker 1>Here's another example. So you've gone on like three amazing dates,

0:42:02.400 --> 0:42:06.880
<v Speaker 1>but your gut is uneasy. Right, So they're attractive or

0:42:07.120 --> 0:42:12.800
<v Speaker 1>like successful, consistent, and maybe I should keep seeing them.

0:42:13.040 --> 0:42:20.000
<v Speaker 1>But your critical thinking is he gives like love bombing, right, disappear?

0:42:20.120 --> 0:42:24.319
<v Speaker 1>He might disappear later, like your nervous system is on

0:42:24.800 --> 0:42:29.520
<v Speaker 1>edge fucking with this person. You just know something's.

0:42:29.120 --> 0:42:30.600
<v Speaker 2>Off with him.

0:42:30.600 --> 0:42:32.880
<v Speaker 1>He might have even did he probably didn't even do

0:42:32.960 --> 0:42:36.040
<v Speaker 1>anything just yet, but you just know that is your

0:42:36.160 --> 0:42:40.680
<v Speaker 1>clitical thinking skills kicking in, which could probably save your

0:42:40.680 --> 0:42:45.359
<v Speaker 1>fucking life. Because many relationships, I most relationships I've been in,

0:42:45.760 --> 0:42:49.080
<v Speaker 1>I probably should have left day one. It was some

0:42:49.120 --> 0:42:55.239
<v Speaker 1>shit that happened. I just was like, let me get

0:42:55.280 --> 0:42:57.360
<v Speaker 1>the fuck up out of here aboard mission. And I

0:42:57.520 --> 0:42:58.880
<v Speaker 1>stayed for a couple of years.

0:42:59.360 --> 0:43:03.480
<v Speaker 2>But here's nobody's gonna be perfect, though, So it's okay

0:43:03.560 --> 0:43:07.239
<v Speaker 2>to like ignore something, mind is.

0:43:07.200 --> 0:43:09.560
<v Speaker 1>It, though? Because if we look at the data of

0:43:09.600 --> 0:43:13.239
<v Speaker 1>these relationships, is it good to ignore? I mean, if I.

0:43:13.239 --> 0:43:16.960
<v Speaker 2>Don't want to say directions like you don't like I

0:43:16.960 --> 0:43:21.520
<v Speaker 2>hate too, you know, sit like that. You can get

0:43:21.560 --> 0:43:25.000
<v Speaker 2>past that, all right, or you can groom that into

0:43:25.080 --> 0:43:25.680
<v Speaker 2>something else.

0:43:26.719 --> 0:43:29.680
<v Speaker 1>But if you see that is the problem, y'all. Bitch,

0:43:29.680 --> 0:43:32.400
<v Speaker 1>Just thinking y'all could change people At this big age,

0:43:32.719 --> 0:43:37.359
<v Speaker 1>people do change. I don't agree people mass you feel like.

0:43:37.320 --> 0:43:41.200
<v Speaker 2>You're the same person you was when we started this show.

0:43:42.880 --> 0:43:49.440
<v Speaker 1>Uh No, you've grown listen, but so growing and changing.

0:43:49.680 --> 0:43:52.120
<v Speaker 1>Are those the same thing? Is that the same thing?

0:43:52.320 --> 0:43:52.680
<v Speaker 2>Yes?

0:43:52.719 --> 0:43:56.080
<v Speaker 1>Because I really I've been literally the same person, and

0:43:56.120 --> 0:43:59.239
<v Speaker 1>even like no, let me, let me not lie because

0:43:59.239 --> 0:44:01.280
<v Speaker 1>I'd be reading some like some of my old Facebook

0:44:01.320 --> 0:44:03.840
<v Speaker 1>shit and Twitter shit. I had to delete that stuff,

0:44:03.920 --> 0:44:05.640
<v Speaker 1>like what the fuck was I talking about?

0:44:08.320 --> 0:44:09.000
<v Speaker 2>You're dumb?

0:44:09.040 --> 0:44:10.640
<v Speaker 1>What you talking about?

0:44:11.800 --> 0:44:14.520
<v Speaker 2>You got to say? We're changing and growing every day.

0:44:15.080 --> 0:44:18.000
<v Speaker 2>So just even the I just went and listened to

0:44:18.040 --> 0:44:25.719
<v Speaker 2>like our first episode, I'm like super Hero like night

0:44:25.840 --> 0:44:30.439
<v Speaker 2>or some bullshit. I was saying, what did you talk about? Ass?

0:44:32.360 --> 0:44:35.680
<v Speaker 2>So yeah, so people do change, People do grow people

0:44:36.680 --> 0:44:40.040
<v Speaker 2>and men too, especially when they start they did stop

0:44:40.160 --> 0:44:42.600
<v Speaker 2>working as good, they really start changing.

0:44:42.640 --> 0:44:46.080
<v Speaker 1>Then it's interesting they have daughters.

0:44:46.840 --> 0:44:50.719
<v Speaker 2>They start changing when they had little girls. Stuff like

0:44:50.760 --> 0:44:54.960
<v Speaker 2>that will change a man. But don't nothing them change

0:44:55.000 --> 0:44:58.360
<v Speaker 2>them worse than they did stopping.

0:45:00.600 --> 0:45:02.160
<v Speaker 1>Looky humble them a little bit.

0:45:02.320 --> 0:45:04.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that Dick's change up or the desires.

0:45:05.080 --> 0:45:06.839
<v Speaker 1>I don't even know if that's true, because I feel

0:45:06.840 --> 0:45:08.600
<v Speaker 1>like they still be wanting to put that gummy worm

0:45:08.640 --> 0:45:11.200
<v Speaker 1>on a bitch, like just still just getting a new

0:45:11.200 --> 0:45:13.520
<v Speaker 1>bitch to show her the gummy worm. It's still exciting

0:45:13.520 --> 0:45:18.520
<v Speaker 1>to them. They don't care about being embarrassed. They retired

0:45:19.719 --> 0:45:22.279
<v Speaker 1>that wet rag. They just want to stuff it in

0:45:22.320 --> 0:45:27.000
<v Speaker 1>as many bitches as possible. All right, So like a

0:45:27.080 --> 0:45:33.080
<v Speaker 1>friend keeps subtly throwing shade critical thinking, maybe I'm just

0:45:33.120 --> 0:45:37.799
<v Speaker 1>being too sensitive. Let me watch a few more interactions

0:45:37.840 --> 0:45:43.000
<v Speaker 1>to confirm clinical thinking. That comment hit sideways. She's not

0:45:43.080 --> 0:45:48.319
<v Speaker 1>for me. Distance activated. You know what time it is like,

0:45:48.400 --> 0:45:51.600
<v Speaker 1>don't trick yourself into thinking somebody ain't doing what they're doing.

0:45:51.640 --> 0:45:54.520
<v Speaker 1>I have been around people where somebody says some sideways shit.

0:45:55.440 --> 0:45:57.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna address it right then and there, because I

0:45:58.120 --> 0:46:01.040
<v Speaker 1>have lit things like sliding get home, like saying I

0:46:01.040 --> 0:46:03.520
<v Speaker 1>should have, would have, could have, and I'd be disappointed

0:46:03.560 --> 0:46:05.440
<v Speaker 1>with myself, like damn, I should have. I should have

0:46:05.520 --> 0:46:07.880
<v Speaker 1>fucking cussed that bitch out. I should have Da da

0:46:08.000 --> 0:46:08.640
<v Speaker 1>da da da.

0:46:09.719 --> 0:46:16.400
<v Speaker 2>It's a hitch from two thousand. It was twenty twelve

0:46:16.480 --> 0:46:19.160
<v Speaker 2>that I still think about because her mother fucking NaNs

0:46:19.200 --> 0:46:23.359
<v Speaker 2>out and I let some shit she said slide, and

0:46:23.480 --> 0:46:25.880
<v Speaker 2>I used to regret it right to day, I still

0:46:25.960 --> 0:46:28.040
<v Speaker 2>like I be laying in bed like I should have

0:46:29.040 --> 0:46:33.960
<v Speaker 2>if I fire a bitch to this day.

0:46:32.440 --> 0:46:35.200
<v Speaker 1>Look, I have a first cousin that I don't fuck

0:46:35.280 --> 0:46:38.880
<v Speaker 1>with on any level in my mind right because of

0:46:39.080 --> 0:46:41.160
<v Speaker 1>it might have been around like it might have been

0:46:41.200 --> 0:46:44.080
<v Speaker 1>earlier in twenty twelve. Did I even tell you all

0:46:44.120 --> 0:46:46.719
<v Speaker 1>this story? So my cousin asked me to be in

0:46:46.760 --> 0:46:47.280
<v Speaker 1>her wedding.

0:46:47.560 --> 0:46:49.480
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, you just share no hold on.

0:46:49.520 --> 0:46:51.000
<v Speaker 1>She didn't ask me to be in her wedding. She

0:46:51.040 --> 0:46:54.600
<v Speaker 1>asked me to be the usher. Yeah, okay, this is

0:46:54.640 --> 0:46:59.440
<v Speaker 1>my first cousin. So imagine you living in Atlanta and

0:46:59.480 --> 0:47:02.160
<v Speaker 1>a bitch you asking you to come to South Carolina

0:47:03.000 --> 0:47:06.239
<v Speaker 1>to come to her wedding, but be an usher. Right.

0:47:06.560 --> 0:47:08.120
<v Speaker 1>So when I thought about it, I'm like, I don't

0:47:08.120 --> 0:47:09.200
<v Speaker 1>think I want to do that. I talked to my

0:47:09.200 --> 0:47:10.600
<v Speaker 1>mom about it. She was like, girl, you don't want

0:47:10.640 --> 0:47:13.080
<v Speaker 1>be no usher? So I called her back. I said, hey,

0:47:13.080 --> 0:47:15.120
<v Speaker 1>you know what I think I prefer just like attending

0:47:15.160 --> 0:47:19.759
<v Speaker 1>the wedding, right girl? Why I got to the U.

0:47:20.760 --> 0:47:24.200
<v Speaker 1>She had a bridal shower, and I guess her maid

0:47:24.239 --> 0:47:26.680
<v Speaker 1>of honor. Her bestie was like the spokesperson for the

0:47:26.680 --> 0:47:30.080
<v Speaker 1>shit they had spoke about me, and she was introducing

0:47:30.160 --> 0:47:33.040
<v Speaker 1>each of us. She introduced my sister Sam first. She's like, yes,

0:47:33.200 --> 0:47:35.920
<v Speaker 1>my cousin Sam. This is my cousin introducing us to

0:47:35.960 --> 0:47:38.960
<v Speaker 1>her maid of honor. And this is my cousin Sam,

0:47:38.960 --> 0:47:43.600
<v Speaker 1>and this is Ashley and the homegirl these aka bitches too.

0:47:43.920 --> 0:47:46.200
<v Speaker 1>The homegirl was like, oh, she's not in the wedding,

0:47:46.239 --> 0:47:50.880
<v Speaker 1>she's not a bridesmaid, usher or anything. And my voice

0:47:51.040 --> 0:47:55.719
<v Speaker 1>literally was gone, y'all, I have fucking like laryngitis or

0:47:55.719 --> 0:47:57.560
<v Speaker 1>something like I had no voice, so imagine me. I

0:47:57.600 --> 0:48:00.839
<v Speaker 1>would sound like this trying to curse the bitch out.

0:48:01.200 --> 0:48:03.480
<v Speaker 1>But this is how my cousin let some random bitch

0:48:03.600 --> 0:48:06.200
<v Speaker 1>play with me. My cousin barely know my fucking life,

0:48:06.200 --> 0:48:09.239
<v Speaker 1>and I'm still holding a grudge to this day. I

0:48:09.280 --> 0:48:11.400
<v Speaker 1>still want to have that conversation with her because I'm

0:48:11.400 --> 0:48:13.520
<v Speaker 1>trying to figure out why the fuck y'all thought y'all

0:48:13.560 --> 0:48:14.960
<v Speaker 1>could play on me just because I didn't want to

0:48:15.040 --> 0:48:20.279
<v Speaker 1>serve food to my family at this big, immaculate wedding, Like,

0:48:20.320 --> 0:48:23.520
<v Speaker 1>why would you try to like downgrade me to a

0:48:23.560 --> 0:48:27.600
<v Speaker 1>fucking server? Am I tripping? Y'all?

0:48:27.840 --> 0:48:29.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

0:48:29.520 --> 0:48:31.759
<v Speaker 1>Girl, So my best friend at the time, she was

0:48:31.840 --> 0:48:35.400
<v Speaker 1>dating my first cousin's brother, so she's dating my cousin.

0:48:36.120 --> 0:48:38.480
<v Speaker 1>She ended up doing it with she ended up doing

0:48:38.520 --> 0:48:42.200
<v Speaker 1>it instead. They were black and white like a fucking waitress,

0:48:42.640 --> 0:48:45.680
<v Speaker 1>and she had people from the church doing it. Why

0:48:45.719 --> 0:48:47.200
<v Speaker 1>did you need me to do that?

0:48:47.920 --> 0:48:50.120
<v Speaker 2>So you were the only family member that was gonna

0:48:50.120 --> 0:48:50.680
<v Speaker 2>be an usher?

0:48:51.719 --> 0:48:59.360
<v Speaker 1>Yes, yes, my other cousins was bridemaids. Why do I

0:48:59.400 --> 0:49:01.279
<v Speaker 1>don't want to and I live I live at a

0:49:01.320 --> 0:49:04.200
<v Speaker 1>town we barely speak, Like your mind told you to

0:49:04.200 --> 0:49:06.879
<v Speaker 1>call me to do that, And it's not like I like.

0:49:07.000 --> 0:49:10.000
<v Speaker 2>Maybe cooking and wanted you to help with the food.

0:49:11.239 --> 0:49:16.640
<v Speaker 1>Imagine like one of these Instagram weddings. That's how her

0:49:17.400 --> 0:49:21.160
<v Speaker 1>reception looked. I mean, big long rolls of full like

0:49:21.200 --> 0:49:24.840
<v Speaker 1>all this food, like these ushers. That the thing that

0:49:24.880 --> 0:49:26.840
<v Speaker 1>she wanted me to do, what my best friend was

0:49:26.840 --> 0:49:31.200
<v Speaker 1>doing was serving food to our family with a black

0:49:31.200 --> 0:49:35.840
<v Speaker 1>and white outfit on Why would you have your first

0:49:35.880 --> 0:49:37.160
<v Speaker 1>cousin doing that?

0:49:39.560 --> 0:49:43.520
<v Speaker 2>So I get that in the event that no family

0:49:43.680 --> 0:49:47.359
<v Speaker 2>was working, then I get while I was like, why

0:49:47.360 --> 0:49:49.720
<v Speaker 2>are you only ask me and you got people outside

0:49:49.719 --> 0:49:53.040
<v Speaker 2>of the family doing everything, but I'm the only family member.

0:49:53.360 --> 0:49:56.200
<v Speaker 1>But then you came with people, it came with staff.

0:49:56.440 --> 0:49:59.279
<v Speaker 2>It was just like I need my family to help

0:49:59.320 --> 0:50:01.799
<v Speaker 2>assist to make this they beautiful. Then I would not

0:50:01.920 --> 0:50:04.160
<v Speaker 2>mind a mind doing that. I wouldn't mind being an

0:50:04.200 --> 0:50:06.400
<v Speaker 2>usher because it's not about me. It's about her, her

0:50:06.440 --> 0:50:08.160
<v Speaker 2>beautiful day, and this is my cousin. I want her

0:50:08.160 --> 0:50:10.919
<v Speaker 2>to have a beautiful day, so I will I'll help

0:50:10.960 --> 0:50:13.480
<v Speaker 2>because when it's my turn, I'm gonna need everybody in

0:50:13.480 --> 0:50:13.759
<v Speaker 2>this stand.

0:50:13.880 --> 0:50:15.960
<v Speaker 1>I would never call my first cousin and ask her

0:50:16.000 --> 0:50:19.000
<v Speaker 1>to serve food at my wedding. I would never do

0:50:19.120 --> 0:50:22.200
<v Speaker 1>that to her if it was that's a grading. That's

0:50:22.239 --> 0:50:25.160
<v Speaker 1>how I felt. That was highly degrading, Like I'm your

0:50:25.200 --> 0:50:28.359
<v Speaker 1>first cousin, Like, why would you want me serving food

0:50:28.360 --> 0:50:29.360
<v Speaker 1>to our family?

0:50:29.600 --> 0:50:32.360
<v Speaker 2>Families? Families do that though family.

0:50:32.440 --> 0:50:35.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, this ain't even no bullshit wedding though, See you're

0:50:35.080 --> 0:50:36.919
<v Speaker 1>not thinking on the scale, I said, one of these

0:50:37.000 --> 0:50:41.160
<v Speaker 1>Instagram fucking wedding is the ship was immaculate. Why and

0:50:41.200 --> 0:50:44.120
<v Speaker 1>I bought the fucking beautiful dress to wear to her wedding?

0:50:44.600 --> 0:50:47.279
<v Speaker 2>That's it because it wasn't like that. It wasn't like

0:50:47.360 --> 0:50:50.600
<v Speaker 2>a situation where the whole family was, you know, yah.

0:50:50.560 --> 0:50:53.120
<v Speaker 1>Pitching it and helping. No, it wasn't. No, it wasn't

0:50:53.200 --> 0:50:56.080
<v Speaker 1>nothing like that. My homegirl was fucking pissed the whole

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<v Speaker 1>time because she didn't know what all It wouldn't tell

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<v Speaker 1>either when she is stept the position as an usher. Yeah,

0:51:02.800 --> 0:51:06.600
<v Speaker 1>and she was serving us food. That's that's fucked up

0:51:06.600 --> 0:51:09.719
<v Speaker 1>to have your brother's girlfriend, who should be his date

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<v Speaker 1>at your wedding doing that. But because they used to

0:51:13.600 --> 0:51:15.920
<v Speaker 1>have a problem with her, because they my uncle, their

0:51:16.040 --> 0:51:18.680
<v Speaker 1>dad never really fucked me. I mean from a little girl.

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<v Speaker 2>He would say shit like me, oh hair cousin is

0:51:21.160 --> 0:51:25.000
<v Speaker 2>glamor queen like still to this date, that's how you

0:51:25.040 --> 0:51:25.440
<v Speaker 2>treat me.

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<v Speaker 1>So I feel like that kind of rubbed off on

0:51:27.640 --> 0:51:31.280
<v Speaker 1>like his kids and how they see me. Well, maybe

0:51:31.320 --> 0:51:34.879
<v Speaker 1>not my boy cousins, but it's something there. So yeah,

0:51:35.040 --> 0:51:38.160
<v Speaker 1>I still have like, yeah, some anna, I have some

0:51:38.280 --> 0:51:39.600
<v Speaker 1>anna about that.

0:51:40.000 --> 0:51:41.120
<v Speaker 2>Have you seen this cousin?

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, But I just feel like now I can't address

0:51:44.320 --> 0:51:47.400
<v Speaker 1>it because then it would be petty. But it bothers

0:51:47.640 --> 0:51:54.000
<v Speaker 1>you very seventeen years and divorce's so married, So I like,

0:51:54.040 --> 0:51:55.960
<v Speaker 1>I just gotta let it go. But I'm telling y'all

0:51:56.000 --> 0:51:57.880
<v Speaker 1>because like, who the fuck else I'm gonna.

0:51:57.680 --> 0:52:04.560
<v Speaker 2>Tell that she happened to the show about it.

0:52:04.400 --> 0:52:06.000
<v Speaker 1>And then we'll talk about it at that time. And

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<v Speaker 1>you know what the worst thing about it is people

0:52:08.239 --> 0:52:10.520
<v Speaker 1>do things and then when you address it, they I

0:52:10.520 --> 0:52:13.799
<v Speaker 1>don't even remember that, yeah, because you weren't on the

0:52:13.840 --> 0:52:15.360
<v Speaker 1>receiving end of the bullshit.

0:52:15.560 --> 0:52:17.759
<v Speaker 2>But sometimes people don't even know that they're offending you.

0:52:18.880 --> 0:52:21.360
<v Speaker 2>So that's why it's important to address it, like I didn't.

0:52:21.400 --> 0:52:23.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't remember it because I didn't know it was

0:52:23.120 --> 0:52:23.439
<v Speaker 2>a thing.

0:52:24.200 --> 0:52:28.000
<v Speaker 1>Oh she's not a bridesmaid usher or anything. Why do

0:52:28.040 --> 0:52:29.120
<v Speaker 1>you ask my sister that?

0:52:31.400 --> 0:52:35.799
<v Speaker 2>Right? It was introduced right before me. They had That's

0:52:35.840 --> 0:52:36.880
<v Speaker 2>what I fucking know.

0:52:37.080 --> 0:52:40.680
<v Speaker 1>And this is what clinical thinking is, right, It's just

0:52:40.840 --> 0:52:45.600
<v Speaker 1>you knowing the bullshit. It can't nobody tell you any different, bitch,

0:52:45.600 --> 0:52:50.520
<v Speaker 1>because it's a gut feeling. It is an inner knowing

0:52:50.840 --> 0:52:54.880
<v Speaker 1>that cannot be fucking debated. I'm not tripping, y'all. Bitches

0:52:54.960 --> 0:53:00.359
<v Speaker 1>tried me. Y'all really tried it. So I was never

0:53:00.440 --> 0:53:02.799
<v Speaker 1>able to address it. So I still that shit might

0:53:02.800 --> 0:53:04.560
<v Speaker 1>have been two thousand and nine, bitch, I'm go, lie,

0:53:05.280 --> 0:53:07.520
<v Speaker 1>I much g lie. It might have been like two

0:53:07.560 --> 0:53:09.279
<v Speaker 1>thousand and nine. I still feel some type of way

0:53:09.280 --> 0:53:11.960
<v Speaker 1>about that shit, because why did I deserve that? That's

0:53:12.000 --> 0:53:13.080
<v Speaker 1>what bothers.

0:53:12.680 --> 0:53:14.480
<v Speaker 2>Me when people the fuck you think you are, you

0:53:14.520 --> 0:53:16.320
<v Speaker 2>fly ass dish coming up in here, think you go

0:53:16.480 --> 0:53:19.200
<v Speaker 2>upstage the bride. You ain't gonna do that this time, bitch,

0:53:19.960 --> 0:53:22.319
<v Speaker 2>serve out that chicken ho that's what you're gonna do.

0:53:22.920 --> 0:53:25.239
<v Speaker 1>And here's the thing, here's my personality. When I tell y'all,

0:53:25.280 --> 0:53:27.680
<v Speaker 1>when I get married, y'all motherfuckers better show up like this,

0:53:27.760 --> 0:53:31.120
<v Speaker 1>y'all wedding. That's how I feel. That's how confident I

0:53:31.160 --> 0:53:34.919
<v Speaker 1>am about myself. I know that's where that bullshit came from, right,

0:53:35.239 --> 0:53:37.040
<v Speaker 1>them not wanting me to show up in all my

0:53:37.080 --> 0:53:41.160
<v Speaker 1>mother fucking glory but for my wedding. Bitch, if you

0:53:41.239 --> 0:53:43.920
<v Speaker 1>were the wedding party, if you just a wedding, guess

0:53:44.000 --> 0:53:45.919
<v Speaker 1>when I tell y'all, y'all better act like this, y'all

0:53:45.920 --> 0:53:49.800
<v Speaker 1>shit for birthdays. I want everybody to be extra fucking fine.

0:53:49.880 --> 0:53:52.239
<v Speaker 1>I never like one of those people do don't want

0:53:52.239 --> 0:53:54.480
<v Speaker 1>their friends to outdress them on their fucking birthday. That

0:53:54.600 --> 0:53:54.960
<v Speaker 1>is weird.

0:53:55.040 --> 0:53:57.960
<v Speaker 2>O't behave to care about my birthday, but aren't my wedding.

0:53:58.200 --> 0:53:59.920
<v Speaker 2>Please don't come in a white dress.

0:54:00.960 --> 0:54:01.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't care.

0:54:01.760 --> 0:54:05.120
<v Speaker 2>Don't come in here wed bit your whole ass and

0:54:05.239 --> 0:54:09.840
<v Speaker 2>should have having a white dress anyway, you don't wear one, bitch,

0:54:12.280 --> 0:54:15.160
<v Speaker 2>wear a black dress my wedding. I don't be like,

0:54:16.200 --> 0:54:16.880
<v Speaker 2>do you hate me?

0:54:17.520 --> 0:54:19.400
<v Speaker 1>Because yeah, but it's never going to like a wedding

0:54:19.440 --> 0:54:21.239
<v Speaker 1>gown though, you know what I'm saying. So even if

0:54:21.239 --> 0:54:23.200
<v Speaker 1>somebody were to have on a white dress, it's never

0:54:23.200 --> 0:54:24.360
<v Speaker 1>going to like a wedding gown.

0:54:24.760 --> 0:54:28.200
<v Speaker 2>Tacky ass bitch coming in a white dress to a wedding,

0:54:28.880 --> 0:54:31.320
<v Speaker 2>I'll be I'll be like, this is an all white wedding.

0:54:31.960 --> 0:54:34.080
<v Speaker 2>Why are you here? Are you trying to give your

0:54:34.160 --> 0:54:35.880
<v Speaker 2>man a message? Propos bitch?

0:54:36.200 --> 0:54:39.520
<v Speaker 1>Maybe and listen it's all open over here. Yes, do that.

0:54:39.640 --> 0:54:42.040
<v Speaker 1>And if you feel beautiful today, I want everybody to

0:54:42.040 --> 0:54:43.120
<v Speaker 1>feel good.

0:54:43.400 --> 0:54:45.880
<v Speaker 2>But I don't want you to be tacky. Don't be

0:54:45.960 --> 0:54:50.680
<v Speaker 2>taking I don't think that's tacking. Don't be attagging. Bitch.

0:54:52.400 --> 0:54:54.520
<v Speaker 2>I invited you because I didn't think you were one,

0:54:54.600 --> 0:54:56.000
<v Speaker 2>and here you come being one.

0:54:58.160 --> 0:54:59.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't know.

0:55:00.280 --> 0:55:03.920
<v Speaker 2>You can listen where anything where motherfucking tied out to this, motherfucker.

0:55:04.000 --> 0:55:06.560
<v Speaker 2>Don't come in white.

0:55:09.000 --> 0:55:12.399
<v Speaker 1>Leave like a black tie event. No white even black tie,

0:55:12.520 --> 0:55:13.200
<v Speaker 1>no white.

0:55:13.880 --> 0:55:16.360
<v Speaker 2>No, no white dress. You can have a dress with

0:55:16.440 --> 0:55:24.279
<v Speaker 2>white in it with you.

0:55:24.360 --> 0:55:26.960
<v Speaker 1>I want everybody look back to you and escorting me

0:55:27.040 --> 0:55:34.120
<v Speaker 1>out of the winds. I got uninvited. And after she

0:55:34.200 --> 0:55:34.880
<v Speaker 1>showed up.

0:55:34.880 --> 0:55:37.160
<v Speaker 2>Right, the bride will call you later. That's what they're

0:55:37.160 --> 0:55:44.239
<v Speaker 2>gonna tell you as you leave out. The mother bitch.

0:55:44.280 --> 0:55:46.160
<v Speaker 1>I don't want it all these years to get married.

0:55:46.200 --> 0:55:48.000
<v Speaker 2>You come into my ship in a white dress. You

0:55:48.040 --> 0:55:48.920
<v Speaker 2>gotta be fucked up.

0:55:49.160 --> 0:55:50.880
<v Speaker 1>But there's no way for her to look like you

0:55:50.960 --> 0:55:54.000
<v Speaker 1>though on that day. That's how I'm confused. No, you're

0:55:54.040 --> 0:55:58.279
<v Speaker 1>damn right you won't because you won't, y'all, head at

0:55:58.440 --> 0:55:59.320
<v Speaker 1>you've been mourned.

0:55:59.640 --> 0:56:02.680
<v Speaker 2>Yes, it advans, but I think all my friends know

0:56:02.760 --> 0:56:05.719
<v Speaker 2>that they got sense enough to know not to come

0:56:05.760 --> 0:56:12.920
<v Speaker 2>to a wedding in a white dress unless it's all

0:56:12.960 --> 0:56:15.480
<v Speaker 2>white wedding where some people have that where everybody comes

0:56:15.520 --> 0:56:19.960
<v Speaker 2>in white, which I don't like that either. Yeah, but yeah,

0:56:20.000 --> 0:56:20.440
<v Speaker 2>don't do that.

0:56:21.080 --> 0:56:23.640
<v Speaker 1>Look at your little ponytails up in the riverside picture.

0:56:23.680 --> 0:56:31.000
<v Speaker 1>You see it, all right, So y'all, Clitical thinking doesn't

0:56:31.320 --> 0:56:33.840
<v Speaker 1>mean ignore logic at all, right, So it just adds

0:56:33.880 --> 0:56:39.600
<v Speaker 1>like an extra layer of protection, Okay. Emotional wisdom pattern

0:56:39.840 --> 0:56:46.520
<v Speaker 1>recognition based on just the fucking truth, right, It's just

0:56:46.719 --> 0:56:51.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, that's intelligence too. So don't let anybody tell

0:56:51.080 --> 0:56:54.320
<v Speaker 1>you that you making shit up, that it's just feelings,

0:56:54.400 --> 0:56:57.200
<v Speaker 1>or that you overreacting, bitch. You know what you know,

0:56:57.520 --> 0:57:01.480
<v Speaker 1>and that's clinical thinking. So it's not over analyzing everything.

0:57:01.719 --> 0:57:05.720
<v Speaker 1>Is not ignoring facts of feelings or facts four feelings,

0:57:05.760 --> 0:57:08.960
<v Speaker 1>I should say. Or it's just not like just being pest,

0:57:09.080 --> 0:57:13.640
<v Speaker 1>petty or sassy. It's just recognizing the patterns again, knowing

0:57:13.680 --> 0:57:18.920
<v Speaker 1>your fucking gut and trusting that inner feeling. That's it.

0:57:19.120 --> 0:57:25.240
<v Speaker 1>That is what clitical thinking is. Hat's coming soon, all right.

0:57:26.560 --> 0:57:29.280
<v Speaker 1>So you know what I do want people to do.

0:57:29.280 --> 0:57:31.360
<v Speaker 1>I want y'all to send me, send me some send

0:57:31.440 --> 0:57:35.360
<v Speaker 1>us some messages, uh with like your best Uh? He

0:57:35.480 --> 0:57:39.840
<v Speaker 1>said he was simple, but stories. That's what I want

0:57:39.840 --> 0:57:43.240
<v Speaker 1>to see, Like mint, When what did a man tell you?

0:57:43.280 --> 0:57:45.440
<v Speaker 1>Like he said, I'm simple, but such and such and

0:57:45.520 --> 0:57:50.360
<v Speaker 1>how did he actually act? Right? All men say that

0:57:50.360 --> 0:57:56.960
<v Speaker 1>they're simple and they have these minimal needs. I want

0:57:56.960 --> 0:57:57.640
<v Speaker 1>to hear the stories.

0:57:58.000 --> 0:58:01.720
<v Speaker 2>Let's hear it. Let's hear that, because.

0:58:01.480 --> 0:58:06.120
<v Speaker 1>Them niggas ain't simple anyway, You good, Tammy?

0:58:06.400 --> 0:58:13.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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0:58:38.640 --> 0:58:40.400
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<v Speaker 2>Okay, all right, y'all sofiicial team BAM. I love y'all

0:58:44.200 --> 0:58:45.920
<v Speaker 2>so much. Remember speak now.

0:58:46.600 --> 0:58:51.479
<v Speaker 1>And never hold your motherfucker piece. Okay, never never hold

0:58:51.520 --> 0:58:57.520
<v Speaker 1>your gut feelings. Click some clip notes.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes,