Speaker 1: Hell, I Suck at Dating with the Youngler and Jared
Speaker 1: Haven and I heard radio podcast What's going on? Everyone?
Speaker 1: Welcome to an all new episode of Help I Suck
Speaker 1: at Dating. That's me cracking Seltzer because it's Friday and
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna enjoy this. Killing got these nice spin drifts.
Speaker 1: This is not an ad for the podcast. By the way,
Speaker 1: she got these delicious spin drift spiked sparkling waters very good.
Speaker 1: Do you guys go to trade Joe so those? Because
Speaker 1: Ashley's obsessed with spin drifts. I'm more of a if
Speaker 1: I go sparkling Perry a guy. Yeah, I'm a big
Speaker 1: lak rogu. I'm actually had a big fan of spin drifts,
Speaker 1: but the spiked ones are some of them are pretty good. Um,
Speaker 1: Killing Scott sent like a hundred of them. So are
Speaker 1: Fridges stocked and so jack Pot gotta put some work
Speaker 1: into him. Anyways, Jared, what's going on? Man? Last time,
Speaker 1: last time I talked to you, you were a net
Speaker 1: was I was in NAPA and I was just filled.
Speaker 1: I was a passive listener in the a lobby of
Speaker 1: uh whatever. I don't know what you guys were talking about,
Speaker 1: and you had just informed Ben and Ashley. Well, Ben
Speaker 1: Out actually was already obviously in the know, but Ben
Speaker 1: was informed that you are opening a restaurant in Rhode Island,
Speaker 1: coffee shop. Yes, it is true. We're opening up a
Speaker 1: coffee shop slash lounge, which we're extremely excited about. I've
Speaker 1: been working hard about it. It's been my dream to
Speaker 1: own and operate my own business. I've worked in the restaurant,
Speaker 1: you know, the restaurant industry for like ten years, and
Speaker 1: so an opportunity came along where we found a spot
Speaker 1: that we loved. It actually used to be a coffee
Speaker 1: shop that I visited quite a bit. And it's down
Speaker 1: in South Kingston, Rhode Island, so near the beach, is
Speaker 1: about twenty minutes from Newport, and it's gonna be called
Speaker 1: Audrey's Coffeehouse and Lounge. Audrey is my mother in law's name,
Speaker 1: So one, I'm sucking up to the in laws, which
Speaker 1: is always a good thing. And two, I just love
Speaker 1: the name. Audrey's feels very homey and family and that's
Speaker 1: what the vibe I want to go for with this
Speaker 1: coffee shop. Very you know, we have stone fireplace in
Speaker 1: their couches chairs. I really people to imagine themselves in
Speaker 1: front of a fireplace on a crisp fall day, having
Speaker 1: either a coffee or a martini. That's kind of the
Speaker 1: viber going for while sitting on like a red couch. Um,
Speaker 1: and we're using Ben already knew about coffee shop as well,
Speaker 1: because I talked to Ben about it a few months ago.
Speaker 1: Because we're gonna be using Generous Coffee as our main vendor,
Speaker 1: because I love Generous obviously, I love all coffee, I
Speaker 1: love Dunk, and I love Green Mountain. I also love Generous,
Speaker 1: and Generous is just such a great company. It's a nonprofit.
Speaker 1: Ben is the owner and operator of it, and and
Speaker 1: it's just one great tasting coffee, which is obviously probably
Speaker 1: the most important part because people are coming in for
Speaker 1: the coffee, but to all the profits go back to
Speaker 1: you know, hope and humanity, which helps build UM Housing,
Speaker 1: which you have been a part of greatly. You've been
Speaker 1: down to Hunters with Ben Um, so that's great. And
Speaker 1: then just getting things everything organized right now, going through
Speaker 1: getting the business license, creating a new LC, applying for
Speaker 1: a liquor license, getting furniture and their equipment, hiring people, um,
Speaker 1: you know, computer system health department approval um. There's just
Speaker 1: a lot of red tape they have to go through.
Speaker 1: I enjoy every step of it, but it's nerve racking
Speaker 1: because I'm doing it all by myself and there's just
Speaker 1: a lot to be done. And you know, when we
Speaker 1: first did this, Ashley wanted to be a part of
Speaker 1: it as well, you know. She you know, I was
Speaker 1: gonna handle parbatly like the business part, but she would
Speaker 1: help with the menu and the interior decorating. And that
Speaker 1: just hasn't been the case unfortunately right now, just because
Speaker 1: Ashley has been so debilitated, and dude, it sucks. Like listen,
Speaker 1: I'm so happy that we're pregnant. We were trying for
Speaker 1: seven months to get pregnant. Some people try for five years.
Speaker 1: You know. We are so happy and lucky. I've always
Speaker 1: wanted to be a father. I'm so excited to be
Speaker 1: a father. But dude, Ashley is just getting crushed and
Speaker 1: I feel terrible. She's I'm not joking. She's thrown up
Speaker 1: four times already today. It is three o'clock on Friday.
Speaker 1: And to the point she threw up, she's like so
Speaker 1: uncontrollably sick. She pissed on the floor. That might be
Speaker 1: a little too much information, but like as she was
Speaker 1: throwing up, she couldn't like control herself. And it's like,
Speaker 1: I know, everybody is different in some pregnancies aren't that
Speaker 1: bad and some people get really sick. But whatever Ash
Speaker 1: is going through just is tough. And so it's been, uh,
Speaker 1: it's been a hectic day to say the least. So
Speaker 1: that's why maybe I'm a little bit on edge on that.
Speaker 1: And I feel bad because she's just laying on the
Speaker 1: couch right now and she's just you know, she was
Speaker 1: throwing up on the couch, and um, it just sucks.
Speaker 1: I feel bad anyway. All right, Well, a lot of
Speaker 1: a lot of notes because I feel like you just
Speaker 1: covered a lot of grounds and I didn't make sure
Speaker 1: I get to each thing. I had that all built up,
Speaker 1: you know, and just let it explode out. Thanks for
Speaker 1: the events session. I'm glad to help my second and
Speaker 1: can be your events session, all right, just to start
Speaker 1: from the beginning. So there's a couple of notes that
Speaker 1: I want to at least touch real quick. So about
Speaker 1: it's a cafe you called it right, Yeah, it's gonna
Speaker 1: be a ca, Yeah, cafe, coffee house. The technical name.
Speaker 1: We're going with this coffee house because I really like
Speaker 1: the sound of that. Got you. That will lead into
Speaker 1: one of the questions I have later on Audrey's. I
Speaker 1: just want to comment on name. Audrey's love the name
Speaker 1: it's TI unless it's it seems like one of those
Speaker 1: names that when you're walking through a cute little town,
Speaker 1: you'd be like, let's go to Addres and grab a
Speaker 1: quick cup of coffee. So kudos to you for that
Speaker 1: name very well. Um, are you going to be manning
Speaker 1: the shop most of the time, Yeah, so I will be,
Speaker 1: especially early on because I wanted to be run the
Speaker 1: way I wanted to be runned ran um. And I
Speaker 1: also want to be the owner and operator and I
Speaker 1: want to, you know, Ashley and I are most certainly
Speaker 1: going to be the face of this place, and I
Speaker 1: want to, you know, be behind the counter and making drinks.
Speaker 1: That's where I thrive as well. I just love uh,
Speaker 1: I love running around. Uh. You know, anybody who's worked
Speaker 1: in the restaurant industry knows that. You know, as much
Speaker 1: as we complain about it, there is an addiction to it.
Speaker 1: And when you're running around behind the bar or the
Speaker 1: counter doing whatever you need to do to get people
Speaker 1: in and out. There is this high that you get
Speaker 1: and I certainly get that, and I'm excited for that.
Speaker 1: And I'm also excited just to you know, introduce myself
Speaker 1: as the owner. You know. That's It's it's nice going
Speaker 1: around and people even when I put a banner up
Speaker 1: the other day and on in front of the shop
Speaker 1: just to say, you know, Audrey's coffeehouse and lounge coming soon,
Speaker 1: and um, you know, people are like, oh, you're You're
Speaker 1: opening the coffee shop here. We're so excited when we
Speaker 1: missed it because the plaza that we're in, there's condominiums,
Speaker 1: there's a hotel, there's a private neighborhood, so there's a
Speaker 1: lot of people already living in the area, which is great,
Speaker 1: and it seems like there's a lot of people excited
Speaker 1: to have a coffee shop back in that plaza. So
Speaker 1: it's cool just being like, yep, on the one opening
Speaker 1: it and this is what we're doing. And it's certainly
Speaker 1: nerve racking, um, just because you know, it's it's not cheap,
Speaker 1: but you know, anything worth doing is worth investing in.
Speaker 1: So that's the kind of way I'm thinking about it
Speaker 1: right now. Um. Follow up question to that, can I
Speaker 1: be hired as a part time employee? I would like
Speaker 1: to work. I would like to work at Audrey's for
Speaker 1: one week a year, okay, and I want to do
Speaker 1: it solely as you know what you wy. It's funny
Speaker 1: is like you have obviously like you and your friends,
Speaker 1: Like let's say like me, Ben Nick, you Tanner, like
Speaker 1: we've done. Then this is gonna sound super vague and narcissistic,
Speaker 1: but like it's gonna be there's a point to it,
Speaker 1: Like we'll get paid by bars or like by events
Speaker 1: to like show up and just like say hi to people,
Speaker 1: and so you could like leverage your friendships and be like, listen,
Speaker 1: just come to the coffee shop for a like a day,
Speaker 1: a couple of hours maybe, and that enough to like
Speaker 1: be like draw some people in. So hopefully like that.
Speaker 1: Oh dude, I've already thought, like I'm gonna have Bachelor
Speaker 1: watch parties. I'm gonna fly you guys out. So it's
Speaker 1: gonna be like, come meet Dean from the Bachelor, you know,
Speaker 1: come meet Dean and Kalin while watching you listen, You're
Speaker 1: gonna do it and you're gonna like it, and you
Speaker 1: have no say in the matter, I'm offering my services
Speaker 1: as a barista, not as a passive participant in a
Speaker 1: watch party. Okay, I want to I want to work
Speaker 1: this the five am to one pm shift Monday through Friday,
Speaker 1: one week a year, and that's all I'm offering. And
Speaker 1: I want to make whatever minimum wage in Rhode Island
Speaker 1: is or whatever barrices make, whatever the running wages for
Speaker 1: it is that Okay, I mean that sounds fantastic to me.
Speaker 1: I would love nothing more. Great. Um, And then let's
Speaker 1: move on to the next thing. Okay, So what was
Speaker 1: the next thing? You were talking about? The burden that
Speaker 1: you feel starting stuff? How come I know that you're
Speaker 1: about to finish up your bachelor's Yep, you should have
Speaker 1: taken more entrepreneurship classes or have you have you considered
Speaker 1: even like doing like a minor entrepreneurship or anything. I
Speaker 1: have not. I really just went back to school to
Speaker 1: get my degree as fast as humanly possible, and the
Speaker 1: way to do that was to graduate with my degree
Speaker 1: in history liberal Arts. So I actually just finished my
Speaker 1: last class. I took my final exam yesterday. I got
Speaker 1: a ninety four on it. So it looks like I'm
Speaker 1: gonna get an a minus in the class and then
Speaker 1: I'm done. It's so weird, man, Like, it's just like, okay, great, yeah,
Speaker 1: now I have my bachelor's. Like cool on a Thursday,
Speaker 1: you're gonna walk aut graduation. No, I don't think so,
Speaker 1: because I have to apply for graduation in August. They
Speaker 1: were just waiting for my last grade to come back
Speaker 1: to make sure I passed, and so I don't think
Speaker 1: about it. I definitely should would graduation. I'll fly out
Speaker 1: and watch you walk with all. Right, well, if if
Speaker 1: I'm allowed to, like for code restrictions and all that
Speaker 1: kind of stuff, well hopefully hopefully things don't get worse.
Speaker 1: But you know, everyone of your family would love it,
Speaker 1: actually would love to see it. Your parents, her parents,
Speaker 1: like everyone. They would be like a big, big spectacle.
Speaker 1: I think that's definitely something you should at least consider,
Speaker 1: don't just immediately discount the idea. Um. And then my
Speaker 1: very last question. Ashley is now three months along, right,
Speaker 1: yeah she is. She'll be fourteen weeks next week, so
Speaker 1: she's a little over. There is this ordinary for because
Speaker 1: like I wouldn't I mean, again, knowing nothing when it
Speaker 1: comes to pregnant or anything like that. I would just
Speaker 1: assume that the real sickness, like the real like side
Speaker 1: effects would come later in the pregnancy. Is this pretty
Speaker 1: standard for like earlier first second trimester? So apparently the
Speaker 1: first trimester usually is the most sick you'll be. Um, yeah,
Speaker 1: I but it depends, like you know, it's so it's
Speaker 1: so weird. I was talking to a friend of mine,
Speaker 1: she has to two kids, and she was like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: my first trimester, I was. I was pretty in bad
Speaker 1: shape too, but I only threw up once. And I
Speaker 1: was like, Ashley has thrown up I'm not joking, probably
Speaker 1: fifty times. And so she's just I think um are
Speaker 1: more extreme than others. And we all knew that if
Speaker 1: Ashley was gonna get sick, she was gonna be throwing
Speaker 1: up constantly, because you know, she can't do anything subtlety.
Speaker 1: Uh So I just at some point, it's starting to like,
Speaker 1: there are there are moments when she feels like she's
Speaker 1: trending in the right direction. We'll she'll go a couple
Speaker 1: of days and feel you know, okay, but then she'll
Speaker 1: immediately revert and go back to a daylight today where
Speaker 1: she can't get off the couch and she's just throwing
Speaker 1: up constantly, so I think she's definitely got one of
Speaker 1: the worst of it. You know. It was funny because Raven,
Speaker 1: Raven and Adam just announced their pregnancy, which is so exciting.
Speaker 1: Congratulations to both them. They're gonna be incredible parents. That
Speaker 1: I've only met Adam and Raven once, but I really
Speaker 1: really liked them a lot and I wish them nothing
Speaker 1: but the best. But it was so funny. Raven and
Speaker 1: Ashley were talking before Raven and Adam announced, and um,
Speaker 1: Raven was like, oh, have you thrown up yet? And
Speaker 1: as she was like have I thrown up yet? She's
Speaker 1: puking into a garbage bag. Um. So it all depends.
Speaker 1: Like I don't mean to scare anybody, it's just I
Speaker 1: think it's frustrating as a guy because I was so
Speaker 1: ignorant to how bad, you know, how sick somebody could
Speaker 1: possibly be while being pregnant, you know, I mean everybody
Speaker 1: says morning sickness, and I'm like, oh, it's okay, you
Speaker 1: get sick in the morning and then you can feel
Speaker 1: better in the afternoon and the evening. Like, no, that's
Speaker 1: not what happens. And then I knew, like I think
Speaker 1: I've just seen from TVs and movies, Like I remember
Speaker 1: from Knocked Up when Katherine Heigel realizes she's pregnant when
Speaker 1: she's interviewing James Franco, and she just like goes to
Speaker 1: the side and throws up, and then she's watching it
Speaker 1: back and then she's laughing, and then she just throws up.
Speaker 1: And that's when Bill Hayters like, wait a minute, you pregnant.
Speaker 1: So I in my head, I was like, Okay, that
Speaker 1: just kind of happens, like you just throw up to
Speaker 1: the side, and then you go on with your day
Speaker 1: and you're not nauseous all that much, which is not
Speaker 1: what's happening to Ash. It's pretty bad, asked. If you
Speaker 1: think about it, a one pound baby fetus is calling
Speaker 1: the shots, you know. Oh yeah, dude, our our kid
Speaker 1: is h If there's any indication our kid is gonna
Speaker 1: be uh high maintenance to say the last, good for them.
Speaker 1: All Right, Well, ja, we gotta get to a quick
Speaker 1: break because we have some great guests coming up. We've
Speaker 1: got Giovanni and Sinco from Love Island, and the host R. L.
Speaker 1: Vandenberg is going to join us later on as well.
Speaker 1: So we're gonna take one quick break and then have
Speaker 1: them join us. Hi, it's Ashley Liken, Ttie, and it's
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Speaker 1: Suck at Dating. Dean here, Jared here. We have some
Speaker 1: very special guests from, of course, the CBS show Love Island,
Speaker 1: which is on Paramount Plus. And guess what the finale
Speaker 1: is August fifteenth, that's coming up quick. We have uh
Speaker 1: Giovanni and we have Melvin a k A Sinco. Gentlemen,
Speaker 1: how are you doing today? Man? I'm doing a great.
Speaker 1: Welcome to help I Suck a Dating. You're in the
Speaker 1: perfect spot. So, guys, I'll start with you, Giovanni. You
Speaker 1: talk about you suck at dating, So what made you
Speaker 1: want to sign up for Love Island? Man? I signed
Speaker 1: up for Love Island so I can get a chance
Speaker 1: to actually, uh find a real connection. You know. I'm
Speaker 1: a busy dude. You know, my my uh my careers
Speaker 1: were listening in the the best sor I travel a lot,
Speaker 1: so it's hard for me to actually you know, find people,
Speaker 1: actually make general connections, you know. So Love is was
Speaker 1: was a great place for me to be isolated and
Speaker 1: just get to know somebody one on one and hopefully
Speaker 1: to build something. But you gotta see how that happened. Well,
Speaker 1: house things go for you right now? Like how is uh?
Speaker 1: I know you're what's going on with your with Olivia? Right? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I was. I was coming up with Olivia, and uh
Speaker 1: it was you know, it was great. I tried, I
Speaker 1: tried my best, you know to make things work with us. Um,
Speaker 1: you know, because she obviously she was coming into the villa,
Speaker 1: she was there, she was a businesswoman. I'm I'm attracted
Speaker 1: to business minded women, and um I was seeing something
Speaker 1: co work there and um, you know, there was sparks.
Speaker 1: But then eventually it just faded. I wasn't her type.
Speaker 1: I guess you know she's she's lasting the girl. I'm
Speaker 1: a South Florida dou so you know I'm outgoing wild
Speaker 1: and wild individually. I speak my mind. I tell you
Speaker 1: how this, and you know, I guess I wasn't her speed.
Speaker 1: You know I wasn't. I wasn't a speed and what
Speaker 1: she was looking for, so you know, And again dumped
Speaker 1: from the island and I shaved my chest. Save shaved
Speaker 1: your chest. I've never seen somebody grabbing clippers so fast
Speaker 1: and everything. I'm like, baby, you gotta listen to me.
Speaker 1: Let's let's at least making a castle more like the
Speaker 1: fin did so when I was when I was on Bachelorette,
Speaker 1: I was one of we had a boxing day and
Speaker 1: I was one of the only guys that had hair
Speaker 1: on my chest. And so when I went on Bachelor
Speaker 1: in Paradise, the producers were like, hey, listen, we have
Speaker 1: this really funny idea for your intro. What if we
Speaker 1: shaved your chest? And it was like forty year old
Speaker 1: virgin And I was like, there's no way to do that, Like, no,
Speaker 1: I can't do it, guys. I like the chest hair.
Speaker 1: I gotta support the chest hair on one of the few,
Speaker 1: so I'm not gonna latch Javonna. I'm a little disappointed
Speaker 1: to shade, but that's okay. I get it. I get
Speaker 1: it real man, man, Yeah, I don't shave my face.
Speaker 1: Say boy, I said it now, bad face, now going ahead,
Speaker 1: and now like I was trying to make it work,
Speaker 1: and you know I was. I was just doing too
Speaker 1: much to make us work too. You know. Just see
Speaker 1: what she liked and that just just me. Jesus didn't
Speaker 1: like me. Yeah, she's got to accept you for you
Speaker 1: chest hair, facial hair, everything. I feel like, I feel
Speaker 1: like the chess hair would be good to not have
Speaker 1: on the beach, either Love Island or Bachelor in Paradise
Speaker 1: because then it's like, okay, you lost the underlayer. You know,
Speaker 1: that's like a little sweater. But that's okay. It's more
Speaker 1: of like, you know, just like chest. You know, hey,
Speaker 1: when you get caught, got the chest they keep warm
Speaker 1: at night. You know, that's nice to give you guys
Speaker 1: a c um. We didn't get that. We didn't get
Speaker 1: that that luxury. But sickle, I want to hear from you, man,
Speaker 1: tell us about your experience, because you were dating uh cash, right, yes,
Speaker 1: dating cash and a couple of cash still going to
Speaker 1: know each other. Then, Um, I don't know. She kind
Speaker 1: of like I didn't feel a vibe at least she
Speaker 1: as she wanted to open up to me, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, And that's all I was looking forward
Speaker 1: for her, and so I moved the trainer to see
Speaker 1: how that connection would go. And after that, I felt
Speaker 1: like between the two connections I made, my connection with
Speaker 1: Cash was a lot stronger, so I want to pursue that,
Speaker 1: but by that time it was kind of too late.
Speaker 1: Cost some more happened, and then she came back to Charlie.
Speaker 1: So I was kind of stuck in window like day,
Speaker 1: like a yeah, bro it really it was a good check.
Speaker 1: I's how everybody. I was like Dann like, I'm mentally
Speaker 1: I was trump andre paring for it, but obviously it
Speaker 1: wasn't prepared to as I wanted to be, so uh yeah,
Speaker 1: I was just like Dagn. I was a little bit
Speaker 1: spain whatever. The girl I wanted close in to see
Speaker 1: if other people can come in here and sway me
Speaker 1: and stuff like that obviously didn't work out. I got
Speaker 1: the boot for it too, and the money we're here, man,
Speaker 1: we all know out was still sucking. Sorry you guys,
Speaker 1: I feel I'm a feeling you guys are gonna be
Speaker 1: just fine. I think. So when you finally got the
Speaker 1: call to be like, hey, we want you to be
Speaker 1: on Love Island, what was your initial thoughts? Were you
Speaker 1: hesitant at all? Or you were like in, I'm in,
Speaker 1: obviously this will be a great experience, new experience, and
Speaker 1: so I never did before, and so I'm all about that.
Speaker 1: I'm all about new experiences and trying things new and
Speaker 1: me new people solid you know this is gonna be dupe.
Speaker 1: I was ready. I was suwer ready. So I'm a
Speaker 1: little unfamiliar with Love Island, like the way that it's
Speaker 1: isn't it Like, so you cast means that are still there,
Speaker 1: They're still there like now right, like it basically films
Speaker 1: and then gets there the next day, right literally, yeah,
Speaker 1: both of you. So both of you guys haven't even
Speaker 1: really had a chance then to like see if there's
Speaker 1: gonna be any type of connection outside a Love Island
Speaker 1: with the people that you're with. I mean, we we
Speaker 1: got an idea, we got an idea of who who's
Speaker 1: who's a true connection? You know being in the villa,
Speaker 1: you know, like like you know, you know, you know
Speaker 1: what's real and Russ fake. You know, we're not kids
Speaker 1: hit so you know, Josh and Shannon, that's definitely a
Speaker 1: real connection. Um, I feel like that was the strongest
Speaker 1: connection there, Josh and Shannon, like they hit offs in
Speaker 1: this day one Oh no, bro will and heroes like
Speaker 1: that too, though, well we're right, we will. Carol was
Speaker 1: like that. But like for me, like I really see
Speaker 1: that Josh and Shannon will take it, you know, above
Speaker 1: and beyond, like the last longer outside the villa. Well then, Giovanni,
Speaker 1: for you, do you think once Olivia is out of there,
Speaker 1: do you think that there's any chance for you guys
Speaker 1: to rekindle anything? Man, that was the last trip. That
Speaker 1: was Olivia's last trip, Like like if like if you
Speaker 1: as being in the villa, you know should like tell
Speaker 1: you know, we have all the time in the world.
Speaker 1: It gets to know each other and just just been
Speaker 1: being in there and meet going above and beyond showing
Speaker 1: you that you know everything that you've been looking for
Speaker 1: and a man and and what you've been what you
Speaker 1: want you like, like you know you want a man
Speaker 1: to be on the top. You show you attention. You
Speaker 1: know you want a business man. You know, you want
Speaker 1: somebody that's gonna like it who you are. That's That's
Speaker 1: everything I was showing her. And to the fact that
Speaker 1: she didn't realize that or failed to realize that. You know,
Speaker 1: you want to know what's missing until it's gone. And
Speaker 1: you know that ship, that ship done sailed. And you know,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure when she get out the villa, she's
Speaker 1: gonna have a lot of options for her. But you know,
Speaker 1: I'm moving on, and but you know, we could be friends,
Speaker 1: but it's it's over. What about you thinking, because I
Speaker 1: know a lot of people have been, you know, kind
Speaker 1: of vocalizing that they want Cachet to to find you,
Speaker 1: you know, like, go get off the island and come
Speaker 1: find your man. So do you think that there's any
Speaker 1: chance of you guys rekindling something? Oh, I see want it?
Speaker 1: He seemed cares are you want everything? That's the case.
Speaker 1: I don't believe um as a personality. Bro. I love cash, Bro,
Speaker 1: She's a great person to love hanging out with her.
Speaker 1: I think from the standpoint that we both on now
Speaker 1: and how we left things off, I'm sure how this
Speaker 1: cut the balls in her career, You don't mean what
Speaker 1: she kind of like wrote me off to do with
Speaker 1: Charlie and that was her choice, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So I don't know how that was doing right now.
Speaker 1: But at the same time, like, if she wants to
Speaker 1: talk out Thors, that's gonna be on her and we'll
Speaker 1: figure it out from there. But I'm open minded to everything.
Speaker 1: I'm single, I'm still single. I'm still open minded everything.
Speaker 1: So um, we'll see, we'll see whatever. And what was
Speaker 1: both yours overall views of like your impressions of being
Speaker 1: on a reality dating show. Would you want to do more?
Speaker 1: Would you want to do different shows? Like if they
Speaker 1: have another season of Love Island, Like I don't even
Speaker 1: know if you if they can bring you back or
Speaker 1: I don't know exactly the rules, or if you guys
Speaker 1: want to, like, you know, go wherever acts on the
Speaker 1: beach Bachelor in Paradise. Would you guys be hoping for it?
Speaker 1: I want to Hey, hey, if I could be on
Speaker 1: the reality show seeking long with it? We uh, we're good.
Speaker 1: You know, you know I'm with you know, Um, after
Speaker 1: I've experienceding Love Island, you know, it's definitely a great experience.
Speaker 1: If something that's coming along, you know, I'm on for it.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm out for it. I'm I'm down to
Speaker 1: still explore the horizons, you know. And you know, just
Speaker 1: she was out there, she she was for us. You
Speaker 1: know obviously we suck at dating. Uh you know, I
Speaker 1: try to make a girl like me, but it was dead,
Speaker 1: you know, And I'm I'm on for it. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna see what comes next. And you know, I'm
Speaker 1: I'm at individual. I stayed late, I keep it real.
Speaker 1: So that's that's me. What about you thinking at my
Speaker 1: point of view, like, yeah, I was trying to come
Speaker 1: in and be honest over and everything and still we
Speaker 1: called the players. Was like, dahn, I can't win. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. I suck too. So you feel
Speaker 1: me like I'm done over to anything you know coming up?
Speaker 1: I don't know. XL BEJ I want to be crazy.
Speaker 1: I can see you want to not acting a fool.
Speaker 1: Xm ebch Olivia, Papa, what say you had options? I
Speaker 1: just had one. I wish I wish you would have
Speaker 1: stayed took cost more. Bro. It's definitely got to be
Speaker 1: a gut check, especially like in real life I mean
Speaker 1: it just it always goes to differently, especially with all
Speaker 1: the world watching. But we wish you guys nothing but
Speaker 1: the best. We hope to see on the TV again soon. Um,
Speaker 1: thank you guys for joining us. We look forward to
Speaker 1: uh yeah, like I said, seeing more you guys, so
Speaker 1: take care. Yeah, we're gonna see you guys dating on
Speaker 1: our TV screens yet again. I have, I have, I
Speaker 1: got a gut feeling about that one. So congratulations on everything, guys.
Speaker 1: I know it didn't work out, but I we really
Speaker 1: appreciate you taking the time to come on. Help. I
Speaker 1: stuck a dating seeing how you guys suck at dating.
Speaker 1: So it's fantastic and everybody listening right now. You can
Speaker 1: catch up on all the season of Love Island that's
Speaker 1: already aired. You can go on Paramount Plus catch up
Speaker 1: on everything before the finale on August fifteenth, which airs
Speaker 1: on CBS. Boy Jerry question, Well yeah, I think he's
Speaker 1: taking it. I Love Island, just take who's taking the prize?
Speaker 1: Get the lottery? Oh my god, that's a Jared. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what do you thinking? What do you think? You're hoping
Speaker 1: it up the whole time? So I think you know
Speaker 1: a lot better than I would. So I'll say will
Speaker 1: and care as well. Yeah, I'm well, well care what
Speaker 1: is the what is the prize? What do they walk
Speaker 1: away with a huntred thousand? But I want to I
Speaker 1: want to gonna split it. I want to be gonna
Speaker 1: split that hunted thousand. They don't split it, that's gonna
Speaker 1: be crazy, dude. That was It's the same thing though,
Speaker 1: Like there's there was a show in Bachelor called Bachelor
Speaker 1: Pad where it's like a cash prize and you can
Speaker 1: either share it or split it. And the last season
Speaker 1: the air, the dude took it all. They had to
Speaker 1: like both asides similar in Levan, where like they both
Speaker 1: had to either agree to share it or if one
Speaker 1: person said they take it and the other person said share,
Speaker 1: then they got to keep it. And so one dude
Speaker 1: was like, took all the money and she said share
Speaker 1: and he got it all. And you bake the internet
Speaker 1: if you take it a moment. I didn't know about
Speaker 1: a time, but then I met him on Bachelor in
Speaker 1: Paradise and I went back in YouTube Dell. I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, that's crazy. He gotta go off boy Island.
Speaker 1: All right, boys, I appreciate you joining us. Thank you
Speaker 1: so much, Thank you having Thank you guys, Thanks good boys.
Speaker 1: All right, welcome back to help I suck at dating.
Speaker 1: We have a very special guest who's joining us. Now.
Speaker 1: We just talked to two contestants from Love Island, and
Speaker 1: now we're going to talk to the host, which, of course,
Speaker 1: again you can watch Love Island on Paramount Plus catch
Speaker 1: up on everything before the finale in August fifteenth, which
Speaker 1: airs on CBS. It is Ari L Vandenburg Ari L.
Speaker 1: How are you? What's going on? I am super good.
Speaker 1: I'm here in Hawaii as you know. Um wait, you
Speaker 1: just talked to two people from Love Island. No, we
Speaker 1: can't share that from nation with what what can I know?
Speaker 1: Oh good, you didn't hear me. Never mind, we had
Speaker 1: a Javanian sinko on here. There were sharing about their
Speaker 1: exit from the island. Oh my god. I love them
Speaker 1: both so much. I won't tell what. I promise I
Speaker 1: won't say it. Thank you. Yeah, that's that's where the
Speaker 1: NDA you agreed to when you joined the Zoom call.
Speaker 1: But uh so we were just talking actually before we
Speaker 1: brought you in a little bit about the live time
Speaker 1: of Love Island. And I'm curious to know more about
Speaker 1: that as well, because obviously you're in Hawaii. The show
Speaker 1: films in Hawaii. So for someone like you, what it like?
Speaker 1: What is that experience like? Is it like more high stress?
Speaker 1: What is it exactly like for you? It's honestly one
Speaker 1: of my favorite aspects of the show for myself as
Speaker 1: an entertainer, because I feel like, you know, I was well,
Speaker 1: I used to act more often, Like back before I
Speaker 1: was hosting, I was acting. I mean I still would act,
Speaker 1: but right now I'm hosting obviously, but um yeah, when
Speaker 1: I when I'm acting, you know, you don't see something
Speaker 1: for a year and a half and it's like you
Speaker 1: don't know if it's good. You forget about it, and
Speaker 1: you just like, you know totally, it's just out of
Speaker 1: your life kind of. But this it's like instant gratification.
Speaker 1: It's like Instagram on steroids. Like we turn around these
Speaker 1: episodes like it's it's so insane what this production can do. Um,
Speaker 1: you know, because what we're filming on a Monday, you're
Speaker 1: seeing on a Tuesday, and that to me is just
Speaker 1: like gets me riled up. How's that even possible? I
Speaker 1: have no idea that editors and I mean they got
Speaker 1: some good ask people working on this show, No kidding.
Speaker 1: Hunt Bachelor takes months and but like obviously I guess
Speaker 1: it must be different. But like, I'm so we were
Speaker 1: talking about this before you came on, Like I'm so
Speaker 1: used to a show that films months prior and then
Speaker 1: you know, get it gets aired. You know, it films
Speaker 1: in March, airs in August, and then you're it's like, oh,
Speaker 1: we're filming on Tuesday and it's airing on Wednesday. That's
Speaker 1: gonna be nerve wracking. I love it. I love it
Speaker 1: because it's like if you anticipation, there's nothing to be
Speaker 1: like really scared of. You're just like, oh, it happened already, Okay,
Speaker 1: cool onto the next you know what I mean, Like
Speaker 1: it's great beauty abad it too is if you do
Speaker 1: something wrong or bad, that'll quickly get swept into their
Speaker 1: under the rug because it's the next thing is already happening.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't really do anything wrong or bad,
Speaker 1: but it's right. But knowing that you if you do
Speaker 1: make a mistake, which again you're not gonna make that
Speaker 1: was a show I think kind of like hey, listen,
Speaker 1: I get it. I love the Confidence. So how do
Speaker 1: you think this season a Love Island is different than
Speaker 1: like maybe the previous season. Well, we're actually on an island,
Speaker 1: which I think is really important for the show. Obviously
Speaker 1: last year we're shooting in Vegas last year, which to
Speaker 1: be honest, was awesome. It just you know, this show
Speaker 1: belongs on an island or Love Island, um. And I
Speaker 1: think that bringing it back to an island because the
Speaker 1: first season we were in Fiji than Vegas, and now
Speaker 1: we're in Hawaii, it just like brings romance and sunsets
Speaker 1: and like more, I don't know, it just feels very small,
Speaker 1: romantic setting. Yeah, it's so romantic. So I think that
Speaker 1: having it here is just really special. And definitely were
Speaker 1: you a fan of the show before becoming because you
Speaker 1: haven't hosted all three seasons, have you I have? Yeah,
Speaker 1: oh you have, but it's but it's a reboot from
Speaker 1: an older no, so it's um, it's a huge success
Speaker 1: in the UK, the UK. Okay, that's what I was
Speaker 1: mistaking it with. Were you a fan of Love Island
Speaker 1: UK before taking the hosting gig for the Love Island
Speaker 1: reboot in America? Yeah? So so I had. I had
Speaker 1: known about the show, and I had never watched it,
Speaker 1: and then when I had my first meeting with CBS,
Speaker 1: they told me all about it and I was like, wait,
Speaker 1: that sounds amazing and I hadn't even gotten the job yet,
Speaker 1: and I immediately went home, turned it on and watched
Speaker 1: like forty five episodes in a row, and my fiancee
Speaker 1: was like, what the are you watching like because I
Speaker 1: was like, this is amazing, and then I ended up
Speaker 1: falling in love with it. And then they're like do
Speaker 1: you want to do you want to test for it?
Speaker 1: And I was like, yes, uh, screen test please, and
Speaker 1: then I did that and then I booked it and
Speaker 1: I was so excited because I was already addicted at
Speaker 1: that point. And surprise it took so long to get
Speaker 1: to the States. I mean that show has been huge
Speaker 1: in the UK for quite some time. I didn't even realize,
Speaker 1: like it just it's only been three season in the
Speaker 1: United States. Huh, that's insane. I feel like it's longer anyway.
Speaker 1: I think something that you know was definitely different for
Speaker 1: the States were was the fact that, like the UK one,
Speaker 1: you know, when you're watching you're like, whoa, we could
Speaker 1: never show half of this stuff scandalous. Yeah. But the
Speaker 1: cool thing is is like we have Paramount Plus now,
Speaker 1: because what's not making it to broadcast? Um, because maybe
Speaker 1: it's too steamy. They can put it on Paramount Plus.
Speaker 1: Which is like, oh, I see, I didn't know that.
Speaker 1: I just thought that they were taking the episodes that
Speaker 1: they aired on CBS and then you can binge watch
Speaker 1: it to catch up. But you're saying that there's like
Speaker 1: a little X rated on the paramoun facts ready, but
Speaker 1: you know a little bit like if this if the
Speaker 1: shows PG, we're going to PG thirteen on Paramount Plus totally.
Speaker 1: I mean it's blowing a little r Sometimes I'm like, whoa,
Speaker 1: I'm not even joking you. I was like, oh, they're
Speaker 1: like yeah, they're not. I don't know. They've got some
Speaker 1: under boob side boob. We got all the things on
Speaker 1: Paramount all the boob. I love it. I mean, so
Speaker 1: I've only been watching on TV, but I guess I
Speaker 1: need to switch over to Paramount Plus. Then if that's
Speaker 1: the case. Um, So, all everyone that you've seen so
Speaker 1: far this season, if you had to pick one couple
Speaker 1: once the shows over, who would you think you would
Speaker 1: be betting on? Right now? Because this is the finale
Speaker 1: is almost less. It's almost a week away. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: gosh that that's so hard because honestly starting, you know,
Speaker 1: at the very beginning, like I had, I had placed
Speaker 1: my bets, and now I'm just like, I don't freaking know.
Speaker 1: So I just I think like things are constantly changing,
Speaker 1: which is why it's so addicting. It's like, I mean,
Speaker 1: things could change today, and you know you would have
Speaker 1: no idea. I mean, yeah, I don't. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I love everybody. I think everybody has like such a chance.
Speaker 1: It's pretty insane. So I mean, i'll just tell you
Speaker 1: right now, I'm like obsessed. I'm obsessed with Corey. I
Speaker 1: just love Corey and I think he I feel like
Speaker 1: he really needs his shot at love and um so yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know if he's gonna win, but
Speaker 1: who knows. I'm looking for him. I'm rooting for everybody.
Speaker 1: But yeah, it is really funny talking to you about
Speaker 1: it because you truly have no idea who's going to win,
Speaker 1: because it hasn't happened yet, you know, like I'm so
Speaker 1: used to seeing, like you know, when Chris Harrison did
Speaker 1: interviews when he was hosting, and you know he had
Speaker 1: to like play at coy because obviously he knows how
Speaker 1: the show ends, but you truly just have no idea
Speaker 1: because it hasn't happened yet, which is mind boggling to me.
Speaker 1: I don't even know who wins the day of like
Speaker 1: because the voting America votes and it takes you know,
Speaker 1: time to figure out the vote it's and give you
Speaker 1: give them. They give America time to actually submit their
Speaker 1: votes and winds until they tell me in my ear
Speaker 1: and I announced it right then and there, like it's
Speaker 1: my favorite thing because I'm even tucked and especially like
Speaker 1: my favorite thing is when um, I have to send
Speaker 1: somebody home. It's not my favorite thing, but when I
Speaker 1: do have to send someone home and I don't know
Speaker 1: who's going home, and I'm like my face cannot not
Speaker 1: react to what's happening. So they're like, this person is
Speaker 1: going home in my ear and I'm just like wait
Speaker 1: what And I'm like, oh, okay, I have to announce that. Okay,
Speaker 1: got it? Like it's so it's like such a different
Speaker 1: I've never hosted a show like this before, so it's
Speaker 1: really interesting and really fun and it's different. Before you
Speaker 1: go are you. I just wanted to ask you pretty
Speaker 1: much about your career as a whole, because you know,
Speaker 1: I think social media is such a fascinating component of
Speaker 1: life today and you and so many other like content creators,
Speaker 1: if you will, have taken this and ran with it.
Speaker 1: And I just want you to kind of expand upon
Speaker 1: that for a minute. Because your fiance's Matt cut cutshell right,
Speaker 1: And so I see Matt and I see you, and
Speaker 1: I see like you're in videos with like man in
Speaker 1: right man and Matthews. Yeah, I love her. She's the best.
Speaker 1: And like, you guys just do such a good job
Speaker 1: of creating content on Instagram, funny skits, but like you've
Speaker 1: really cultivated this audience and I think you guys have
Speaker 1: done such a good job at it, and I just
Speaker 1: want you to talk about, like how did you even
Speaker 1: start doing it? How did you get into this? Okay,
Speaker 1: let's see. Well, I, like I said before, I was
Speaker 1: acting and all I wanted to do was be a comedian,
Speaker 1: like do comedic roles. And I was auditioning for everything
Speaker 1: you could imagine, and I was I just like was
Speaker 1: up against um always, I'm up against you know, huge names,
Speaker 1: which is like such a cool position to be in,
Speaker 1: but it's also such a hard position to be in
Speaker 1: because us the names are booking the shows, right, So
Speaker 1: I was always like pissed. And then I was like,
Speaker 1: I need to create my own Like I need to
Speaker 1: I need to make you know, my own TV show
Speaker 1: where I'm the star of it and I can like
Speaker 1: do whatever I want. But that also is really hard
Speaker 1: to you know, like getting a show off the ground
Speaker 1: and actually having someone by a show. So then I
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, I'm just gonna do YouTube and start
Speaker 1: doing my own skits and maybe make you know a
Speaker 1: little show on YouTube. And in the process of that,
Speaker 1: I was like, dang, this is like you need you
Speaker 1: need money to start a show on YouTube, Like you
Speaker 1: need someone to edit, someone to film, someone to do
Speaker 1: your hair and makeup, like all these things. It's so
Speaker 1: much work and um and uh so so then Vine
Speaker 1: came out and I was like, oh, Vine, you don't
Speaker 1: need hair and makeup. Vine, you don't need an editor.
Speaker 1: You don't need it's like this silly app that's six seconds.
Speaker 1: So I just started posting dumb, stupid sketch is on
Speaker 1: there which were literally six seconds, and I was like
Speaker 1: building a following on there and just loving it because
Speaker 1: I felt like I was really putting things out there
Speaker 1: that I could actually be like, oh this is me. Um,
Speaker 1: and you know, I get to be creative on there
Speaker 1: and it doesn't it doesn't. It didn't feel like something
Speaker 1: that could hurt my career, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Whereas like YouTube, it's there, I mean, so is Vine,
Speaker 1: but like it, it just felt like a little bit
Speaker 1: easier and not so like set in Stone right as YouTube.
Speaker 1: So I just made a bunch of vines and created
Speaker 1: this following and then continued to do it once Vine
Speaker 1: was done, more so on Instagram and making longer videos. Um.
Speaker 1: And yeah, it's because I mean I just get to
Speaker 1: like do my style of acting and I get to
Speaker 1: act my scripts and I get to and I still
Speaker 1: want to act and I still love acting. Um, So
Speaker 1: if you know you should, you should keep doing it
Speaker 1: because I'm sure you're great at it. My point being
Speaker 1: is like I respect and it really inspires me when
Speaker 1: people have the not only creative capacity, but like the drive.
Speaker 1: Like for you, for example, it was like when you
Speaker 1: got told no no, no, no no over again because
Speaker 1: these names were getting picked over you. You could have
Speaker 1: been like you know what, it's not for me, like
Speaker 1: I'm gonna, I'm gonna do something else, but you kind
Speaker 1: of like looked at certain things through different lens, like
Speaker 1: I'm gonna, I'm gonna put you in a category right now,
Speaker 1: but like The Rock is someone who has always inspired me.
Speaker 1: I'll never forget when Scorpion King came out. I know
Speaker 1: this is like Dean's laughing his ass off right now,
Speaker 1: but like everybody was like, oh, the Rock wants to
Speaker 1: be an actor, Like, oh my, what a joke, Like
Speaker 1: Dwayne to Johnson trying to be in movies. Here he
Speaker 1: is the biggest movie star in the world. And it
Speaker 1: just goes to show you, like you keep keep doing it,
Speaker 1: like don't let people tell you know or tell you
Speaker 1: that you can't do something, because like I feel like
Speaker 1: social media has a stigma about it and I and
Speaker 1: I think it's stupid because people are like, oh, you're
Speaker 1: so a media personality. It's like, yeah, I am, and
Speaker 1: I work hard at it and I do a good job,
Speaker 1: and I'm going to keep doing it. I I totally agree.
Speaker 1: I mean, I am basically the Rock. Um obviously, Like
Speaker 1: I totally get where you're coming from. And it it is.
Speaker 1: It is such like a thing that I when I
Speaker 1: see him, I think to myself what I think for myself,
Speaker 1: which is, um, do things that bring you joy. And
Speaker 1: I really truly think that the Rock just like does
Speaker 1: anything that brings him joy. Like the movies that he does,
Speaker 1: you can tell that he's living his best life. You
Speaker 1: can tell that he's like having fun. I truly apply
Speaker 1: that to my everyday life where I'm just like I, I
Speaker 1: I want to do things that bring me joy. Love
Speaker 1: Island brings me joy. Um, social media brings me joy.
Speaker 1: I Also, the word influencer is so influencer right, I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm genuinely like a content creator and and
Speaker 1: it makes it easier for me to be like, oh,
Speaker 1: social media is like a job instead out of being
Speaker 1: like I'm an influencer, even though I guess that's what
Speaker 1: they call it. But content creating is so different. Like
Speaker 1: I like, I write scripts. I cast people in my scripts,
Speaker 1: I act in them, I direct them, I edit them,
Speaker 1: I do everything for them I have. I never hire
Speaker 1: people to do anything because I never end up liking it,
Speaker 1: So I'm always like I just have to do it. Um.
Speaker 1: And it's just like so much more work than you
Speaker 1: would even imagine for one minute, right, Like it's crazy,
Speaker 1: so so yeah, and that brings me joy, like I
Speaker 1: have fun doing that. So I think it's just the
Speaker 1: most important thing, especially with just social media, is like
Speaker 1: doing what you love always or just in general in
Speaker 1: life is just doing what you love. And you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. I think a lot of people do
Speaker 1: what you love and work hard at it and then
Speaker 1: you know, let ever all the chips faller them in.
Speaker 1: But I just wanted to mention that because I I
Speaker 1: really I love it, because I follow man and she
Speaker 1: posts a lot, and I just I love it. Well,
Speaker 1: we're on topic of it is the fanboy real quick.
Speaker 1: I do remember back in the days of sitting in
Speaker 1: my freshman seminar class on my Vine app and seeing
Speaker 1: you and Matt pop up on it all the time,
Speaker 1: and I was like, man, these guys are hilarious. And
Speaker 1: then obviously transition well, and what's funny too, is like
Speaker 1: the growth. And I'm sure you get this all the
Speaker 1: time and you probably talk about all the time, but
Speaker 1: you're in mats relationship. The maturation of that is really
Speaker 1: interesting too, because you're like best friends for so long
Speaker 1: and I'm sure everyone like you've I was thinking, I
Speaker 1: don't think I ever commented it or anything like that,
Speaker 1: but I'm sure everyone is always like, you guys need
Speaker 1: to be together, you're so cute together, blah blah blah,
Speaker 1: and now here you are engaged to get married and
Speaker 1: you've you've catapulted a vine career into a successful hosting career,
Speaker 1: and you guys are both crushing it. So it's just
Speaker 1: like a wonderful, wonderful kids mit thing. Guys, thank you.
Speaker 1: I know it's you know it actually, whenever like someone
Speaker 1: brings it up, because you know, you forget where Him
Speaker 1: and I have been friends for years before Vine even started,
Speaker 1: and so we but everyone thinks we met on Vine,
Speaker 1: which is so funny to me. We're like a Vine
Speaker 1: relationship even though we've been first all along before that. Um,
Speaker 1: but we definitely became such a unit on Vine um together.
Speaker 1: Everyone was always like, you guys should be dating. Are
Speaker 1: you guys secretly dating? And we we were not until
Speaker 1: you know, until four and a half years ago. Now
Speaker 1: we started dating, but m yeah, and then we're engaged.
Speaker 1: That's awesome. Well, everybody who's listening, go follow Ari l
Speaker 1: on Instagram even though you definitely already do. Plus, check
Speaker 1: out her and her fiance's Matt's podcast, Riled Up with
Speaker 1: ri L and Matt, which of course you can get
Speaker 1: anywhere you get your podcast, and most importantly, make sure
Speaker 1: you watch Love Island's finale on CBS, which airs August fifteen,
Speaker 1: And if you need to catch up on any of
Speaker 1: the episodes, you can get the PG thirteen maybe an
Speaker 1: R rated version of Love Island on Paramount Plus right
Speaker 1: now binge watch it before the finale in August fifteenth,
Speaker 1: which airs on CBS. R E L, thank you so much.
Speaker 1: You're a pleasure. Thank you so much. You guys are awesome.
Speaker 1: I want to have you guys on my podcast. We
Speaker 1: don't ever have guests on it, but like I always
Speaker 1: want to, so like anytime you're available, let's do it,
Speaker 1: all right, cool, speaking speaking from experience, this podcast is
Speaker 1: solely carried by the guests that we have on, so
Speaker 1: he's not lying. So just just to close the loop
Speaker 1: on that. Thank you again for joining us. Sorry, I'll
Speaker 1: appreciate it. And yeah, whenever you want is will definitely
Speaker 1: join you. So let us go. Good luck with finishing
Speaker 1: up the season. Hopefully some crazy stuff happens, but it
Speaker 1: will definitely be tuning in. So thank you, thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you, of course, big thank you to Ari l
Speaker 1: Sinco and Giovanni for joining us UM. But it's time
Speaker 1: for mine and Jared's favorite segment, the emails, and we
Speaker 1: hope they're actually real this time, because they're pretty juicy.
Speaker 1: I don't think they are, judging by Marina's, they're pretty juicy.
Speaker 1: It's funny because like, all, yeah, I don't know, I
Speaker 1: don't know, it doesn't matter, but I'll like, I'll see
Speaker 1: things on like like what like TikTok read it Instagram
Speaker 1: and then they like dating foibles and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: I should remember this, or like, oh, I should make
Speaker 1: a fake email account to send them to our um
Speaker 1: podcast emails so that way we can discuss them. I
Speaker 1: haven't done it yet, but it's it's possible that maybe
Speaker 1: these are them, maybe people have done in the past.
Speaker 1: Maybe I will do it. Maybe I did do it
Speaker 1: and I'm just playing coy anyways, first email is from
Speaker 1: Marina and she has a burning question, what's the deal
Speaker 1: with Jared mentioning that he plays softball in the last
Speaker 1: few episodes. I don't understand why that's a defining characteristic. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's a little harsh, but sure. Speaking of softball. Speaking
Speaker 1: of softball, Marine is on a co ed team with
Speaker 1: her coworkers, and she has a crush on the team captain.
Speaker 1: They've known each other for about four years now, but
Speaker 1: they've recently left the place where they work together, so
Speaker 1: there isn't any more hr red tape, which would assume
Speaker 1: is a good thing. They're the only single ones on
Speaker 1: the team and they've never gotten any vibes from each other,
Speaker 1: so she wants to know I should I go for
Speaker 1: it and ask him out? Or should I not? Because
Speaker 1: she's a little bit nervous, and she always goes as
Speaker 1: a group after the softball game and the two of
Speaker 1: them are usually last two to hang out at the
Speaker 1: end of the night. What would you do if you
Speaker 1: were in her shoes, Jared? And how would you want
Speaker 1: someone to ask you out on a date if you
Speaker 1: were him? Listen? I feel like this is either a
Speaker 1: fake email or this is a buddy of mine who
Speaker 1: actually has a crush on somebody that we play softball with.
Speaker 1: Uh going in under Marina, because who else would like
Speaker 1: just bust my balls like this? What's Jared. What's Jared's deal?
Speaker 1: And in Marina's defense, you have very bustable balls. Fair point.
Speaker 1: Uh listen, just I don't know you have a crush
Speaker 1: on your team captain. You guys known each other for
Speaker 1: about four years, all right, I don't understand what the
Speaker 1: issue is. Why can't you guys are the only single
Speaker 1: ones on the team. Here's the thing, though, Like let's
Speaker 1: say this. Let's say this guy ticks softball seriously, and
Speaker 1: I don't know if Marina is a quality enough softball
Speaker 1: player to really, you know, pique his interest. If you
Speaker 1: will listen, just the fact that she's out there is
Speaker 1: gonna him attracted to her. Like anybody who any girl
Speaker 1: who tries to play softball, it's immediately an attractive quality
Speaker 1: to me. Uh so I think, listen, Yeah, it's nervous.
Speaker 1: You guys totally Marina go out as a group after
Speaker 1: the softball game. Let you guys kind of like hang out,
Speaker 1: see if there's any vibes thrown back and forth. That's
Speaker 1: what I would do. I would try to get a
Speaker 1: group of people after a softball game. Hey, let's go
Speaker 1: grab beers. Boom, this guy shows up. Now you're grabbing
Speaker 1: beers with them. You guys, what she's saying that she's
Speaker 1: done this before and she's never got any vibes from
Speaker 1: the guy. So how do you how do you, like,
Speaker 1: how do you put the vibe out there that you
Speaker 1: want to get the vibe back? I mean you you
Speaker 1: make it a point to just talk to him like
Speaker 1: one on one while you're out with a group, or
Speaker 1: you make a point to like sit next to him,
Speaker 1: you know, every time that you guys go out, you know,
Speaker 1: and that you like, you know, always bring up conversation.
Speaker 1: And then at some point, honestly, Marina, you're just gonna
Speaker 1: have to ask him out. I think a good way
Speaker 1: to go about because like, let's just give her some
Speaker 1: tips on how to bring up the conversation. Initially, I
Speaker 1: think the good way to go about it is if
Speaker 1: they're at a bar post game and they're the last
Speaker 1: two left and then he has to the last two
Speaker 1: left there, but she could casually bring up like, how
Speaker 1: is dating going, and then the guy goes, oh, you know,
Speaker 1: like it's hit and miss. Got on a couple of days,
Speaker 1: nothing great, and like once you start talking about the topic,
Speaker 1: then you could be like, oh, like maybe we should
Speaker 1: go on a date. Oh you want to go on
Speaker 1: a date? Okay, where should we go? Oh? You want
Speaker 1: to do this? Okay? Like you know, like you kind
Speaker 1: of like let one thing lead and do another thing.
Speaker 1: Or Marina, you go up to the person that you're
Speaker 1: closest with on the softball team. You asked them, You're like, hey, listen,
Speaker 1: I have a crush on Blank, Yeah, can you do
Speaker 1: can you kind of like get some intel for me?
Speaker 1: See if he's single, see if he'd be interested in
Speaker 1: going down with me? No? No, no, nope, no, what's
Speaker 1: wrong with that intel? No? I don't agree. I don't
Speaker 1: disagree with your friend going up to the guy that's
Speaker 1: called the guy Randy. The guy's name is Randy. Now
Speaker 1: I don't disagree with I don't disagree with me Marina's
Speaker 1: friend going up to Randy and be like, hey, Randy,
Speaker 1: Marina has got a bit of a crush on you.
Speaker 1: Are you at all interested? Like, if you're gonna have
Speaker 1: recruit a friend to help you, make sure that the
Speaker 1: friend is beating around the bush and getting directly to
Speaker 1: the point, because we beat around that Like Marina should
Speaker 1: beat around the bush, but her friends should be the
Speaker 1: direct one. Got it? Okay, So you think that Marina
Speaker 1: should have the friend go up to Randy and be like, hey, listen, Marina,
Speaker 1: so you know kind of has a crush on you.
Speaker 1: What do you think would you ever go out with her?
Speaker 1: If Marina decides to recruit a friend for help, that's
Speaker 1: how her friends should help her, all right, I think
Speaker 1: you should recruit a friend. I think that's the best
Speaker 1: way to get this going. All right, So Jared thinks
Speaker 1: Marina should recruit a friend to ask Randy al I
Speaker 1: think that she should ask leading questions by simply asking
Speaker 1: how dating is going for Randy, and then that can
Speaker 1: snowball into hey, let's go on a date some time
Speaker 1: and touch lips? Jack Pott. This message next email is
Speaker 1: from Taylor with an h Hey, guys, I'm currently in
Speaker 1: a committed relationship with the same person that I have
Speaker 1: dated since high school. I don't know how old Taylor is,
Speaker 1: so I don't know how long that's been. We've since
Speaker 1: bought a home together and share a pet. I've been
Speaker 1: noticing a lot more lately how different we are, though,
Speaker 1: from what we like and what we enjoy to who
Speaker 1: we are as people. I've been feeling a lot less
Speaker 1: attracted to him romantically because of the lack of effort
Speaker 1: being put towards our relationship. I feel like it could
Speaker 1: ruin my day It could I feel like it could
Speaker 1: ruin my day to day life if I completely if
Speaker 1: I'm completely honest about how I'm feeling towards him, but
Speaker 1: I feel stuck and don't know what the best thing
Speaker 1: I can do is any advice on something I consider
Speaker 1: to do to try to make it feel to make
Speaker 1: him feel better, to make me feel better. Help. Well,
Speaker 1: let's think about this very second, because you and I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: you and ashually are similar but still pretty different. Similar,
Speaker 1: So it's like, how do we silar I'm saying, I
Speaker 1: don't know, like there's similarities, but I guess my, my,
Speaker 1: you guys are very different. So how do you guys
Speaker 1: make your differences let you lead into a romantic relationship?
Speaker 1: I mean, I think you just have to accept the
Speaker 1: person for their differences. See, you know, I mean I
Speaker 1: think a lot of people get in a relationship and
Speaker 1: once things start going wrong, they always envisioned the grass
Speaker 1: being greener on the other side, and it's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I you know, if if this is I've said a
Speaker 1: simillion times of the podcast. But if like, oh, this
Speaker 1: thing is wrong and then this is obviously not my person,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, well, that's not always the case. Sometimes
Speaker 1: in a relationship, actually in every relationship, you're gonna find
Speaker 1: things wrong with the other person. That's just what being
Speaker 1: human beings is all about. So you kind of have
Speaker 1: to accept their differences and hope that the best of
Speaker 1: them is what you really enjoy and what you love
Speaker 1: most and and the most important thing. So I think, uh,
Speaker 1: you should definitely address this with your boyfriend. I think
Speaker 1: they're still just boyfriend and girlfriend even though they lived
Speaker 1: together bought a home together, and now that's crazy because
Speaker 1: that's not crazy, but that's you know, that makes a
Speaker 1: big difference. I had a cousin who bought a house
Speaker 1: with her now ex boyfriend, and holy crap, when they
Speaker 1: broke up, that was such a headache. So hopefully, Taylor,
Speaker 1: you guys don't break up especially share pet as well.
Speaker 1: I have another friend that shared a pet with her
Speaker 1: ex husband and like, it was so awkward because they
Speaker 1: would have to like pick them up on Tuesday and
Speaker 1: her new boyfriend would calm and the new boyfriend would
Speaker 1: have to pick up the pet from the from the
Speaker 1: ex husband, and it's just like caused a whole issue sometimes,
Speaker 1: like they couldn't even be in the same room, so
Speaker 1: it's like mom had to bring the dog out terrible. So, Taylor,
Speaker 1: the most important thing in a relationship is communication. Said
Speaker 1: it once, said it a million times. Talk to your
Speaker 1: partner about the things that you're feeling. Okay, it's okay
Speaker 1: to talk to them and say, hey, we're having issues,
Speaker 1: like I'm I'm feeling weird about certain things. Let's talk
Speaker 1: because if you don't talk about it, it's gonna snowball
Speaker 1: in the situation is going to get way worse before
Speaker 1: it gets better. Yeah, I agree with what you said
Speaker 1: at the beginning of the of your of your sil
Speaker 1: delivery there soliloqually. Sure, I do agree that it's a choice,
Speaker 1: and I think that like I'm gonna pull from a
Speaker 1: personal experience, like so early late teens, early twenties, mid twenties,
Speaker 1: I was in the firm. I was firmly believed that
Speaker 1: it's like in the world, there's like your soul mate, right,
Speaker 1: and once you meet your soul mate, everything is going
Speaker 1: to be perfectly entwined and everything's gonna go super well,
Speaker 1: there's not gonna be any issues. And as I've gotten older,
Speaker 1: not especially with my relationship with Kalin, but as I've
Speaker 1: gotten older, I agree that what it really comes down
Speaker 1: to is just a choice that you make to be
Speaker 1: in a relationship with a person despite the differences that
Speaker 1: you have with them, Like Kaylin and I are night
Speaker 1: and day different as well, like like I would say,
Speaker 1: even more so than you, and actually I would say
Speaker 1: more so than any of my friends that are in
Speaker 1: relationships like she's you know, the great beauty queen, uh whatever.
Speaker 1: All we all know how Calin is, and we all
Speaker 1: know how I am, so we know how different we are.
Speaker 1: And there are times where I struggle. Well, there have
Speaker 1: been times I would say it's gotten less and less
Speaker 1: as we've gone on, But there have been times where
Speaker 1: I struggle with like, is this the girl for me?
Speaker 1: Like she you know, she she's curious about things, but
Speaker 1: she there are certain like reservations that I have because
Speaker 1: there are a lot of disconnects in our personalities and
Speaker 1: our interests and all that kind of stuf up. But
Speaker 1: then as I've gotten older, and as our relationship has
Speaker 1: drug along and war on, I'm like, no, as long
Speaker 1: as I like consistently make the choice to have her
Speaker 1: in my life and to focus on our relationship. It
Speaker 1: doesn't matter whether we have differences or not, because I
Speaker 1: know she's a good person and I know our relationship
Speaker 1: makes both of us better for different reasons. And I
Speaker 1: think that maybe that gets lost. I think, especially on
Speaker 1: young people, that idea gets lost because at least in
Speaker 1: my case, like I was saying, like, you just have
Speaker 1: this idea where you're gonna find someone everything's be perfect,
Speaker 1: but nothing's ever gonna be perfect. It's really a conscious
Speaker 1: decision that you have to make to commit to a person.
Speaker 1: And just like understand the grass, like you said, the
Speaker 1: grass is always been it, but the grass isn't going
Speaker 1: to be greener in my life. Sometimes the grass is
Speaker 1: ship grass could be. And you're like, it's like there's
Speaker 1: like a hill in front of you, and so on
Speaker 1: the top of the hill there's green grass, and you're like, man,
Speaker 1: that looks good. I just want to get to the
Speaker 1: other side of the hill because I know that grass
Speaker 1: is going to be so green. And then you get
Speaker 1: to the other side of the hill and it's all
Speaker 1: burned from wildfires, and you're like, get me the hell
Speaker 1: out of here. I want the grass that I just
Speaker 1: came from, because that grass is way more comforting and nice.
Speaker 1: So just remember that. Okay, I like the wildfire reference
Speaker 1: in the state of catastrophe that the world is in.
Speaker 1: But hey, you proved your point and I respect that,
Speaker 1: all right, fair point. That's my opinion. It's a choice.
Speaker 1: It's and Jared, I think it said the same thing,
Speaker 1: and we both said in a lot of words. So
Speaker 1: maybe we could just go ahead and wrap summarize that
Speaker 1: real quick. It's a conscious effort, make the effort. You
Speaker 1: love the person not for their similarities to you, but
Speaker 1: for the things that they are about themselves. Um, that's
Speaker 1: all I think you need to know. Anyone will not
Speaker 1: need to know, but I think that's all that matters
Speaker 1: when it comes to being in a relationship with someone.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna stop talking because I feel like I'm just
Speaker 1: rambling and rambling. Well, I hope that helped. Taylor with
Speaker 1: an H Taylor with an H. And I'm going to
Speaker 1: leave it up to the listeners to guess where that
Speaker 1: age falls in the name, because I think there are
Speaker 1: multiple places. Like I'm looking at the name, it doesn't
Speaker 1: look like the tailor, but the age could fall almost
Speaker 1: anywhere in the name and so it's up to them.
Speaker 1: It's a mystery solved. The solve the mystery, you get
Speaker 1: a cookie. UM. Big thank you to our guests Sinco
Speaker 1: Giovanni and r L for joining us from Love Island.
Speaker 1: Be sure to tune in to Love Is It airing
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Speaker 1: finale is August fifteen, so be sure to tune in
Speaker 1: for all that as well. UM. Look you to Shared
Speaker 1: for sharing your UM business venture on Audrey Life on
Speaker 1: the podcast job sharing your freaking new business venture for
Speaker 1: the first time Benz heard about it. Ask she's heard
Speaker 1: about it. Who else has heard about it? Freaking everyone
Speaker 1: else but this podcast. So thank you for finally at
Speaker 1: least sharing that with us. Appreciate. I just I want
Speaker 1: you to like break some I want you to make
Speaker 1: some groundbreaking news announcement on this podcast for once. Not
Speaker 1: the pregnancy, not the proposal, not the restaurant, not the
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know what's next, not the
Speaker 1: calls of the baby. Yeah, sex of the baby. That's
Speaker 1: what I am now demanding. We announced live on help
Speaker 1: I Suck a Dating. Do you agree to my terms?
Speaker 1: I don't. Unfortunately, I'm not the boss in this relationship,
Speaker 1: so you're gonna have to talk to him. Mr ms Ashley,
Speaker 1: I can, Eddie. I'll give you a thousand dollars if
Speaker 1: you announce it on help by Second Dating. Okay, all right,
Speaker 1: let me let me talk to the boss. Let me
Speaker 1: talk to the financial advisor in this household. I do
Speaker 1: not regret saying that whatsoever. I will legitimately give you
Speaker 1: a thousand dollars if you announced it on this podcast,
Speaker 1: and I'm sure the listeners would appreciate it as well.
Speaker 1: But that's gonna do it for this week's episode. Thank
Speaker 1: you everyone for joining us. We look forward to talking
Speaker 1: with you next week, where maybe we'll suck just a
Speaker 1: little bit less. Follow help by Suck at Dating on
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