Speaker 1: Happy Mother's Day. I know it's like pose Mother's Day,
Speaker 1: but it doesn't feel like it. I had such a
Speaker 1: good Mother's Day weekend. I know, Brown Ambition, we're back.
Speaker 1: I just want to wish a happy Mother's Day to
Speaker 1: the mom. The Brown Ambition Mom's out there.
Speaker 2: Yes, I was a My mom doesn't live anywhere near me,
Speaker 2: so I had to always send her gifts, and I
Speaker 2: totally screwed up this Mother's Day. I like sent the
Speaker 2: gift to She's moved twice in the last year, and
Speaker 2: I found out that I sent it to the old address. Oh.
Speaker 2: Some really sweet lady emailed the company that my mom's
Speaker 2: gift came from and told them. She was like, I
Speaker 2: have this person's gift. How do I get it to her?
Speaker 2: Oh that's Wisconsin for you. That's nice though, Yeah, super sweet.
Speaker 2: That wouldn't top a to New York.
Speaker 1: I know they'd be like, oh, these these chocolates are yummy.
Speaker 2: Exactly exactly.
Speaker 1: I had a good Mother's Day. My sister, she has
Speaker 1: a seven month old and she had like a baby
Speaker 1: dedication at church. So I was like, who picked this day?
Speaker 1: She's like he did. Her husband. I guess he didn't
Speaker 1: realize it was Mother's Day. Yeah, when they decided on
Speaker 1: the date, so like my family when his family was there,
Speaker 1: so it actually was really nice. And then we went
Speaker 1: back to her house and like you know, ate, his
Speaker 1: family's Jamaican and his mom is like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: the best cook in the world. Like my mom's an
Speaker 1: amazing cook, like for African food, but his mother is
Speaker 1: like the best cook for Jamaican food, and like together,
Speaker 1: what they're like a force to be reckoned with. And
Speaker 1: I have to say, I don't know, like how much
Speaker 1: you've hung out with like your your booze, your fiancee's family,
Speaker 1: but this is the first time that we hung out
Speaker 1: as like blended family that didn't didn't feel like a
Speaker 1: blended family.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's fun. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was like wow, cause you know, usually, I mean
Speaker 1: we've always gotten along, but you know, it's like, well, hey,
Speaker 1: how are you. I'm fine, every it's all formally. The
Speaker 1: first time that I was like, wow, this is just
Speaker 1: our family. We were laughing, joking, his mom and my
Speaker 1: mom were like it just it was so nice. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I was like, wow, look at us, one big, happy family.
Speaker 2: That sounds so nice. I hope we have that one
Speaker 2: day you will. My mom actually just met my future
Speaker 2: mother in law for the very first time in April
Speaker 2: when we came when they came to like do my
Speaker 2: come for my first dress fitting or you know, shopping experience.
Speaker 2: So I had like, you know, fiance's mom and my
Speaker 2: mom and my sister, and I had my one I picked,
Speaker 2: like my one friend who can you know, talk to
Speaker 2: a tree and have a whole conversation like just somebody
Speaker 2: I knew could keep things from being too awkward, and
Speaker 2: it went okay. But yeah, you know, it's obviously it's
Speaker 2: well not only is it just the awkwardness of meeting
Speaker 2: someone new, but it's like they also there's also a
Speaker 2: big language barrier because his mom doesn't speak any English
Speaker 2: and my mom speaks no Spanish. So I don't know
Speaker 2: if that was like to our it like helped us
Speaker 2: or everyone was a negative thing.
Speaker 1: Do you speak anything?
Speaker 2: I speak a lot of Spanish. Yeah, it's pretty I'm
Speaker 2: pretty good. Oh really, but my mom, she was towards
Speaker 2: the end of the experience, you know, and my fiance's
Speaker 2: mom is really sweet, but she's like a you know,
Speaker 2: a Latina mom. She just like speaks her mind and
Speaker 2: there's some things that you say in Spanish that sound
Speaker 2: horrible when you translated. But one of the dresses I
Speaker 2: put on, she was like, oh, Mandy, you look fat
Speaker 2: in that. She's just and well in Spanish like you,
Speaker 2: I don't know, you say gorda, gorda, you like that
Speaker 2: kind of stuff. You know, it just you know, it
Speaker 2: sounds much worst in English and my mom My mom
Speaker 2: didn't know the word, but she kind of got contextually
Speaker 2: what she was saying, and she was like, what did
Speaker 2: she say to you? I was like, no, it's fine,
Speaker 2: it's fine, it's just funny, haha, fine, Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: That is always the worst. It's like, oh, it's because
Speaker 1: you know, it's really award especially wedding time. It was like,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie with my sister's wedding. They were
Speaker 1: played some contentious like because there's certain things that we
Speaker 1: wanted to do culturally or she wanted to do, and
Speaker 1: you know, he didn't necessarily feel comfortable with, which I
Speaker 1: can understand because it's like, well, I'm not Nigerian, you know,
Speaker 1: and so there's definitely some awkwardness there. But I have
Speaker 1: to say now the parents have have now that they've
Speaker 1: had a baby. The parents are on one side, like
Speaker 1: the like the older parents are on one side, and
Speaker 1: then them her and her husband on the other because
Speaker 1: you know, the parents are like, why are you not
Speaker 1: feeding the baby? This? Do this for the baby, because
Speaker 1: you know they've all had kids. And now like my
Speaker 1: sister and her husband are like, leave us alone. They're like,
Speaker 1: you're starving him, which was now. I said, oh, I'll
Speaker 1: look at you guys bonding over fighting over with your
Speaker 1: fighting over your kids and your grandchild. Exactly. They're like,
Speaker 1: my grandbaby's hungry, you're starting him. I told her I
Speaker 1: had five kids. She's like, I've had two. They had none.
Speaker 1: This is their first. They know nothing about children. Carol
Speaker 1: was just My sister was just like but I told her,
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I'm sure everyone has
Speaker 1: that when you have your first kid and like your
Speaker 1: mom or your dad or like other people with kids
Speaker 1: try to tell you stuff and you just feel like, no,
Speaker 1: that's not how I want to raise my baby. Even
Speaker 1: though you've never had a baby.
Speaker 2: Before, I'm already dreading it. I mean I'm not dreading
Speaker 2: it in the sense that I'm really I feel really
Speaker 2: grateful to know what's that ever happens if we have
Speaker 2: a kid, then we can just like his mom is
Speaker 2: local and she will gladly take the baby forever if
Speaker 2: we wanted to, And that's all good. But yeah, I'm
Speaker 2: dreading like the over the over zealous grandparenting.
Speaker 1: What especially grandparents not from the country, because like what
Speaker 1: they're like, give him cornmeal, porridge, give him Like my
Speaker 1: sister's like, no.
Speaker 2: Talking about two months, just meush it up a little bit,
Speaker 2: like Nigeria Bostona is. Just put it in a bottle exactly.
Speaker 1: Exactly because we eat so many similar feods, Like what's
Speaker 1: a little goat meat between friends? You're like really, so
Speaker 1: like that's the part that she's just like they don't
Speaker 1: understand that, like you have to be careful with babies
Speaker 1: and allergies that I didn't understand why. I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: why can't he have that? She was like, because if
Speaker 1: you mix in the beginning, you give babies, I guess
Speaker 1: like peas or carrots or rice, because if you mix
Speaker 1: things together, you never know what they're allergic to. So
Speaker 1: if they have an allergic reaction to porridge, you don't
Speaker 1: know is it the brown sugar? Is it the oatmeal
Speaker 1: is it the So it's just best to like introduce
Speaker 1: one one fruit or vegetable or whatever. At the time,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh that makes sense.
Speaker 2: It's just so much. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I know me either well, and I mean, why baby
Speaker 1: to him, which I'm kind of sad because it's come
Speaker 1: to an end. Her her husband's done with this part
Speaker 1: of medical school, so he's off now. He's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I've got the baby now Tuesdays and Thursday mornings. I
Speaker 1: was like, no, because you could still come by and visit.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I know, but it's not the same with
Speaker 1: just me and him. So today they were like, well,
Speaker 1: you know, have your own card. No, but they were
Speaker 1: teasing me like tip because I was like resting. They're like,
Speaker 1: are your feet swolen? Are you feeling tired? I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm not leave me alone. But it made me one
Speaker 1: this mother's They actually made me. Usually I'm not one
Speaker 1: of those I want to have a kid girls, but
Speaker 1: I don't know, I'm not going.
Speaker 2: To lie overrestarted tingling a little bit. Uh lit.
Speaker 1: I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 2: I was like, your hips spread out just a little,
Speaker 2: just a little.
Speaker 1: I was like, I was telling my own my boyfriend,
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what I think. Like, I
Speaker 1: was always like fifty to fifty, like if I have
Speaker 1: a kid, I don't have a kid. I'm like, you know,
Speaker 1: on the fan, But today I would have to say,
Speaker 1: I'm like sixty five seventy ish almost seventy is thirty
Speaker 1: about having a kid.
Speaker 2: One of the earliest shows we did on Brown Ambition,
Speaker 2: you talked about like how you were finally starting to
Speaker 2: weave like having a kid into your future business plan
Speaker 2: and kind of setting up your business for that. So
Speaker 2: maybe then you were like, ten, it isn't. Yeah, So
Speaker 2: thirty five episodes later.
Speaker 1: I know because you know what it is, And then
Speaker 1: I wasn't. I wasn't sure, but I knew that, you
Speaker 1: know what, let me at least start preparing myself business
Speaker 1: just in case I feel sure. I don't want to,
Speaker 1: like cause you know, it's not a big deal to
Speaker 1: like switch things up in your business slowly but surely
Speaker 1: and then make a decision like okay to physically have
Speaker 1: a baby.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: So, but as far as now, it's like the emotional
Speaker 1: side is starting to catch up. That was just me,
Speaker 1: Like my mentally, I was like Okay, let me prepare
Speaker 1: for like what that might look like. But now I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: I kind of whatever. A baby.
Speaker 2: Well for you, It's like, on the one hand, great,
Speaker 2: you're your own boss. You can give yourself as much
Speaker 2: time off as you need. But on the other hand,
Speaker 2: it's like, you're, you know, one of the only employees.
Speaker 2: It's not like you have a ton of people to
Speaker 2: back you up. So that must take a lot of
Speaker 2: consideration and planning.
Speaker 1: Oh for sure, I just I don't. Honestly, I don't
Speaker 1: know how. For sure, I don't know how moms do it.
Speaker 1: Just as a mom, like see my nephew, I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, Like how do you do this twenty
Speaker 1: four hours today? And then on top of that moms
Speaker 1: who work, and then on top of that moms who
Speaker 1: work and then work for themselves. I'm like, hats off
Speaker 1: to all moms period. I don't care if you stay home,
Speaker 1: Like even me, three hours with him by myself. I'm like, uh,
Speaker 1: I think I'm ready for a nap. He's like not yet, No, no,
Speaker 1: we're up. So I have to really salute all moms,
Speaker 1: whether you stay home, whether you work, whether you own
Speaker 1: your own business. It is like the hardest thing ever.
Speaker 1: And I'm just an auntie, so I can't even imagine
Speaker 1: the fact.
Speaker 2: That I've been I was thinking, like from the beginning,
Speaker 2: you are so terrified to keep this baby alive. You
Speaker 2: have to keep this person alive. But then I'm thirty
Speaker 2: years old, so for thirty years my mom has been
Speaker 2: worried about keeping me alive. Yes, and like stuff that
Speaker 2: I do to endanger my life on purpose, like skydiving
Speaker 2: and traveling by myself. Like I almost want to say, sorry.
Speaker 1: Yeah, go wait until you have a kid.
Speaker 2: I know it'll be so much.
Speaker 1: Oh god, what Like my like my best friend Drina
Speaker 1: has a baby and then my sister. So Drina was like, honestly,
Speaker 1: I just look at my mom and I'm just like,
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. I was just like, you did all
Speaker 1: of this, and I talk back to you.
Speaker 2: I'm so sure, bruh.
Speaker 1: I know you don't realize because you're just like whatever,
Speaker 1: they have to keep you alive. They're like, they really don't.
Speaker 1: They tried, but they really don't.
Speaker 2: There are some really nice I read a really nice
Speaker 2: article on elle dot com. I think like Elle is
Speaker 2: one of my favorite women's magazines. They still do like
Speaker 2: good content. I feel like and they you know Melissa
Speaker 2: Harris Perry who was at MSNBC now she's an editor.
Speaker 2: I think she's an editor at large there. I forget
Speaker 2: what her exact role is, but that was her next move.
Speaker 2: She did a really well, it's not a mom related post.
Speaker 2: She wrote a good story for Malia. Everyone after Malia
Speaker 2: now she was going to Harvard either wrote about the
Speaker 2: gap year thing or about the racist who were saying
Speaker 2: that like Malia didn't deserve it because she was black
Speaker 2: or whatever. She went and found like some really high
Speaker 2: some women black women who had gone to Harvard and
Speaker 2: asked about, like what is it like to go to
Speaker 2: Harvard with your advice for Malia? So I encourage everyone
Speaker 2: to go read that. But this other story about moms,
Speaker 2: it's by a writer named Maddie con and it's what
Speaker 2: it's like to be a working mom at the White House.
Speaker 2: And she actually interviews five women in the President's inner
Speaker 2: circle on what it's like to work there, what it
Speaker 2: was like to plan having a baby while you're like
Speaker 2: on the National Security Council, and and like the myth
Speaker 2: of the balance. And I thought it was a really
Speaker 2: good I really feel like everyone should go read it
Speaker 2: what It's Like to be working mom at the White
Speaker 2: House on l dot com. And it's cool because I
Speaker 2: didn't realize that after Obama was elected, he changed the
Speaker 2: maternity policy at the White House. I'm not sure what
Speaker 2: it was before. But for the first time, women have
Speaker 2: twelve weeks of paid leave.
Speaker 1: Wow. That's great.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And like Valerie Jarrett, who's like his number one,
Speaker 2: you know, one of his closest advisors, was a part
Speaker 2: of that, and she's the boss of some of the women,
Speaker 2: including this article, and it's it's interesting. A lot some
Speaker 2: women didn't want to take the job. Like when you
Speaker 2: get the call by the President, you know, come beyond
Speaker 2: my National Security Council. Some women said they didn't want
Speaker 2: to because, you know, they had just had a kid,
Speaker 2: or they were just about to you know, they were
Speaker 2: four months pregnant, and they were worried about work life balance.
Speaker 2: One of them even turned down the job, and then
Speaker 2: President called her back and he was like, we're going
Speaker 2: to make it work out. Don't worry.
Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah, just gave me chill. That's amazing.
Speaker 2: That's the kind of that's the kind of leading by
Speaker 2: example that we need because you know, I don't know,
Speaker 2: I probably say this a lot, but in America, it
Speaker 2: is not the law for you to have twelve paid
Speaker 2: twelve weeks paid leave. Yeah, you get twelve weeks unpaid leave,
Speaker 2: which a lot of moms can't afford.
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. I mean, like my sister's back to work.
Speaker 1: I mean she didn't want to. Remember, she was really
Speaker 1: upset about having to go back to work. And if
Speaker 1: it wasn't for the fact that they made a strategic move.
Speaker 1: Her husband's mother actually has like a three family house,
Speaker 1: so they made a move to live in one of
Speaker 1: the three family like the brother lives in one of
Speaker 1: the houses, her husband live and her she lived in
Speaker 1: the other. And the mother listened so literally like living
Speaker 1: with family and knowing that like Okay, I could drop
Speaker 1: the baby off at grandma's house and I have to
Speaker 1: go back to work and my sister can watch them
Speaker 1: when Grandma can't, And like that wasn't easy because she
Speaker 1: had to go back to work, you know, And I
Speaker 1: know she was really just like she would have loved
Speaker 1: to stay home. You know. I remember the first day
Speaker 1: she called me like hell is I was like, he's fine,
Speaker 1: He's fine, because she's like, I want to be home,
Speaker 1: and you're right, everybody just does it. And what do
Speaker 1: you do if you don't have a sister who works
Speaker 1: for herself and a grandmother who's retired, you know, like
Speaker 1: you have to be like Drina, who actually had to
Speaker 1: put her baby in daycare, and she did not want to.
Speaker 1: She wanted to wait at least until he was like
Speaker 1: one and a half two. But she's a working mom
Speaker 1: and her boyfriend works and she's just like, well, I
Speaker 1: have to, like, someone has to watch the baby. I
Speaker 1: can't be home.
Speaker 2: You know, my coworkers baby was in daycare because she
Speaker 2: only what do we get Yahoo's policy? You know, Yeahoo's
Speaker 2: you know, say what you want about Yahoo, but we
Speaker 2: have an amazing parental leave policy. I think it's sixteen
Speaker 2: weeks for moms and eight weeks for dads, and the
Speaker 2: dads can take that eight weeks anytime during the year.
Speaker 2: So if the mom takes off, you know, well, I
Speaker 2: don't know, never mind. If you're like, if you happen
Speaker 2: to be a married spouse at Yahoo, you could take
Speaker 2: up to twenty four weeks, But my coworker took her,
Speaker 2: you know, four months off her whole maternity leave and
Speaker 2: her so her baby's been in daycare since he was
Speaker 2: four months, which.
Speaker 1: Is just like hard.
Speaker 2: In last week, she got a text from the daycare
Speaker 2: saying that it just for some reason, there's like a
Speaker 2: there's a something wrong with the plumbing and they have
Speaker 2: to shut down for a week. Good luck, you're on
Speaker 2: your own basically.
Speaker 1: And that happens, and you're like, what do I do?
Speaker 2: Yeah? So, and you know, luckily we have our managers
Speaker 2: are fairly understanding. There's one anecdote in this story though
Speaker 2: that I wanted to mention because I just think it's
Speaker 2: just it's representative of you know, we feel like we're
Speaker 2: making progress when it comes to working moms and we're
Speaker 2: in the workplace, but there's still this perception of moms
Speaker 2: being like, oh, as soon as you get knocked up,
Speaker 2: you're going to quit your job, and you know, go
Speaker 2: on attorney believe and then knock them back. And one
Speaker 2: of the women, her name is Jensaki, she's on the
Speaker 2: National Security Council, talks about being eight and a half
Speaker 2: months pregnant and she was, you know, with a in
Speaker 2: a meeting with the White House Press Secretary and this
Speaker 2: correspondent from this media on this broadcast station. She doesn't mention,
Speaker 2: and the whole meeting, the guy the press secretary kept
Speaker 2: trying to deflect questions to Jen. He was like, Jen
Speaker 2: knows the answer, as gen, Jen might be the right
Speaker 2: person to ask Jen. And at the end of the meeting,
Speaker 2: she was like, Yo, I'm happy to talk to you.
Speaker 2: Is this is not her words, I'm happy to talk
Speaker 2: with you. You know, let me know what questions you have.
Speaker 2: And he told her, well, I just don't know if
Speaker 2: I'll ever see you again.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Like what because when you have a baby,
Speaker 1: did you know you die afterwards? That's happening.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just going to be a wife.
Speaker 1: I know, your career to everything dies. You just have
Speaker 1: a baby, and then you are erased from the from
Speaker 1: the history of the planet. Like that's just the dumbest thing.
Speaker 1: I think. It's so crazy. It's like, yo, dude, you
Speaker 1: know you came from from a vagina, like your mom
Speaker 1: gave birth to you and somehow she's here still. But
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, it's just so crazy to me when
Speaker 1: people act as if like they were never want children,
Speaker 1: they weren't born of a woman, Like what you don't
Speaker 1: have sisters, aunts, like other women in your life. I
Speaker 1: just I don't understand where you think all of these
Speaker 1: things come from.
Speaker 2: Just you know, the man we pick up the pieces
Speaker 2: while you women go have babies. That's what it is.
Speaker 2: It's not just dudes either. I know we were talked
Speaker 2: up at this for a while, sure should, but it's
Speaker 2: not just guys. I feel like women. I was talking
Speaker 2: to a friend who was at a bachelorette and she
Speaker 2: was talking about how disappointing it was. A lot of
Speaker 2: the girls there were complaining about women at their office
Speaker 2: taking maternity leave and how you know it's not fair,
Speaker 2: Like we talked about that last week. Yeah, I'm like,
Speaker 2: can you support yourself? I know we don't have to
Speaker 2: support each other because just because we're women, but like,
Speaker 2: come on, I.
Speaker 1: Don't think people see what it is. Like. I remember
Speaker 1: I went with my sister to a Lama's class, and
Speaker 1: I remember the doctor at the Lamas classes like, just
Speaker 1: so you know, the first three or four months of
Speaker 1: your baby's life outside of you is literal hell, don't
Speaker 1: He was like, don't look forward to be easy, don't
Speaker 1: think like oh you know, She's like, no, no, it
Speaker 1: is literal hell. This human being need to be fed
Speaker 1: every two hours and you will never sleep. You will
Speaker 1: just like And I remember being like what and then
Speaker 1: seeing my sister.
Speaker 2: I love you that. She said that in Lama's class.
Speaker 1: And I'm looking at her, like months two visiting, and
Speaker 1: I was like, yo, she looked crazy. I've never seen
Speaker 1: my sister. She looked like like the Walking Dead. She
Speaker 1: looked like a zombie. She just was literally sitting there.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I, you know, because she was so exhausted.
Speaker 1: She was just a boo a boo pumping machine. I'm
Speaker 1: here to just bring my boombaut when this thing says
Speaker 1: he wants something. I don't even know who you are
Speaker 1: at this moment. I was just she just sat in
Speaker 1: a chair staring off at the space, and I was like, ah, okay,
Speaker 1: and so that's what maternity leave looks like. Okay, So
Speaker 1: if you'd like to be that, if you like to
Speaker 1: be the milk machine sitting in the corner looking at
Speaker 1: the wall, you could do that.
Speaker 2: My favorite instagram, if you guys want to go follow it.
Speaker 2: It's by a real sympol the magazine, but it's called
Speaker 2: Women in Real Life Women IRL, and it is just
Speaker 2: photos of like moms and just real women on their
Speaker 2: day to day, like a mom with poop on her shirt,
Speaker 2: a mom with like a baby screaming at her, like,
Speaker 2: you know, while she's trying to go to work. Highly
Speaker 2: encourage it, Holley, Oh go ahead, No.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I'd love to be there. So
Speaker 1: this is like, I don't know if you want to
Speaker 1: talk about Prince a little bit, but I was like, oh, no, Prince.
Speaker 1: The update that it was a drug overdose, it.
Speaker 2: No, no, And we haven't really talked about it that much.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 2: I was just like what everyone had, you know, what
Speaker 2: everyone had been talking about Prince, and you know, like
Speaker 2: there was a lot of remers in the very beginning
Speaker 2: about him, you know, having a drug problem. But then
Speaker 2: everyone was like that's never, that's never, you know, that
Speaker 2: could never be the truth about the Prince I knew,
Speaker 2: but h yeah, he was hiding a pretty bad what
Speaker 2: was itoids pain con addiction.
Speaker 1: Yeah. It just was so disheartening. You're just like, oh gosh, yeah,
Speaker 1: So when I heard that, cause I just because I
Speaker 1: hadn't heard, you know, you always hear about Prince was vegan,
Speaker 1: Prince was healthy, Prince was he didn't curse. Prince was
Speaker 1: Jehovah's witness, all these things that seemed contrary to someone
Speaker 1: being addicted to prescription pain kidno killers, and you know
Speaker 1: that doesn't mean anything, honestly, Just like, ah, man, there's
Speaker 1: this great article all who wrote it? It was everything
Speaker 1: it was written if you could just google. I can't
Speaker 1: for remember what outlet, but it was Prince's. It says
Speaker 1: like I used to be a personal chef for Prince.
Speaker 1: And the article is short, but it is literally everything.
Speaker 1: It is hilarious. My two favorite lines are, so she
Speaker 1: was just out of chef school. Her friend was kind
Speaker 1: of like, Prince is looking for a personal chef. I
Speaker 1: worked for him sometimes you'd be great. So she takes
Speaker 1: the job. Is it's like twenty four hours today. She
Speaker 1: says that one time Prince, at like midnight, was like, ooh,
Speaker 1: you know what I want a chocolate fountain, like you know,
Speaker 1: like just chocolate coming out of a fountain. And she
Speaker 1: asked Prince, like, so where should I put it? And
Speaker 1: she said He looks at her, doesn't even skip a
Speaker 1: beat and says, so I do the music and I
Speaker 1: can you imagine? Like what are you asking me these
Speaker 1: questions for and then my second favorite line was she
Speaker 1: said that everything that she ever made for Prince it
Speaker 1: was like one soup that just did not turn out right.
Speaker 1: And he brought it back into the kitchen and just
Speaker 1: put it on the counter and said, no, I mean,
Speaker 1: you have to be the article it is. So it's
Speaker 1: just hilarious and funny and just lets you see Prince
Speaker 1: in a different light. And she just said he was
Speaker 1: always really kind, really nice, and just like she just said,
Speaker 1: but it was like the job was too demanding, but
Speaker 1: it was just an awesome experience. And I'm like, if
Speaker 1: you get a chance to just google I was Princess
Speaker 1: Personal check, that's a great, great, great article.
Speaker 2: I like those Prince anecdotes. He as a character. I
Speaker 2: think that's what you miss. Well, we'll all miss about him.
Speaker 2: It's sad though, I mean, and yeah, when the painkiller
Speaker 2: addiction in the United States has been a problem, like
Speaker 2: the painkiller substance abuse has been a problem for years
Speaker 2: and years, even before this whole you know, heroin became
Speaker 2: sort of mainstream, And it's sad. You can be pretty
Speaker 2: functioning and you can hide it because I mean, he
Speaker 2: doesn't have prescription meds around the house.
Speaker 1: Exactly.
Speaker 2: You can really hide. It's it's sad. What was sadder
Speaker 2: is you know the now his siblings were kind of
Speaker 2: like bickering about his estate speaking of the States, did
Speaker 2: you see that Snoop Dogg came out said that he
Speaker 2: doesn't give he could give zero, you know, you know
Speaker 2: what's about his kids and his estate plan. He's like,
Speaker 2: I don't care, they'll figure it out when I'm dead.
Speaker 2: We're like, care because I'll be dead.
Speaker 1: That's so ignorant. And I'm not gonna lie. I just
Speaker 1: I can't tell you how many people that I've spoken
Speaker 1: to about, you know, like kind of planning afterwards or
Speaker 1: like life insurance or like I'm not trying to make
Speaker 1: my kids rich after I die. And I can't tell
Speaker 1: you how many people I've heard.
Speaker 2: Say that even just a funeral cost.
Speaker 1: So yeah, it's just so disheartening because it's like, well
Speaker 1: print like Prince Snoop, like, at the very least, if
Speaker 1: you're not trying to give your kids money or whatever,
Speaker 1: which is fine, that's your choice, but the government is
Speaker 1: going to take like that death tax. Isn't it like
Speaker 1: forty percent? Oh, I don't know, it's something ridiculous. Some
Speaker 1: high amount that if you don't have a will, they
Speaker 1: will take off the top. It's just so wasteful to
Speaker 1: just basically give it away if you don't want your
Speaker 1: kids to have it or whatever the entail it to
Speaker 1: like a public school or like a great arts program,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like, I don't know, it
Speaker 1: just seems just it's just so ignorant. I'm just like Snoop.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's just best to say nothing.
Speaker 2: Nothing at all. Don't ask Snoop for a state planning advice.
Speaker 2: He does not know. He just obviously doesn't have the
Speaker 2: right people around him. I just hate hearing about these celebrities,
Speaker 2: these athletes who you know, die suddenly and then have
Speaker 2: no no, no safety, not for their family.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I have a power of attorney. I'm ready. I don't
Speaker 2: have any kids that I have.
Speaker 1: That I think I have. I mean, like all of
Speaker 1: my like insurance policies or whatever I have like one
Speaker 1: of my sisters like a beneficiary or whatever, so that
Speaker 1: I do have. I'm trying to think do I have.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't have a will, will, but
Speaker 1: I don't really have any assets right now. But I
Speaker 1: do have like all of my you know, whatever. Like
Speaker 1: I said, all my papers, I'm like, this is my beneficiary,
Speaker 1: this is my beneficiar. My sister text me the other
Speaker 1: day She's like, what's your social I'm putting you down
Speaker 1: as a beneficiary. I was like, woo did you know? Oh?
Speaker 1: Go ahead, go ahead, go ahead?
Speaker 2: Question wait, go ahead? Or were you going to say?
Speaker 1: This is like double dutch you go, you go, you gone?
Speaker 2: On Facebook, you can select like not a benefit. I
Speaker 2: guess it's a beneficiary. A person who can control your
Speaker 2: Facebook account after you pass away. What how you doing? Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's in your settings. They recently rolled it out. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I made my little brother dah.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. That's really good though.
Speaker 2: The executor of my social media.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that is soid.
Speaker 2: Hell it's true. I mean, you have a lot of
Speaker 2: stuff there, and you know you might want to like
Speaker 2: post an update. I don't know, but.
Speaker 1: You know what, it's so oh yeah, that should be
Speaker 1: the name of today's executor of my social media and
Speaker 1: I DM you, little brother, the executor of my social media.
Speaker 2: What does he think logs into my account but then
Speaker 2: forgets it and then he starts liking people's posts as
Speaker 2: me after I'm dead?
Speaker 1: Yo, that would be so free. No, first of all,
Speaker 1: I mean this is true because I mean, this is
Speaker 1: not funny, but it's kind of funny. So a girl
Speaker 1: that I knew from High schol Passway a few years
Speaker 1: ago and like her last post or her last profile
Speaker 1: picture was like some being kind of vulgar just to
Speaker 1: be funny. People posted it for a day and it's
Speaker 1: like there forever and every time I read it, I'm like,
Speaker 1: that is so her. But I'm like, wall, you know what,
Speaker 1: this is just how you roll out this vulgar vulgar
Speaker 1: post is the post that you leave people with like yeah, girl,
Speaker 1: but yeah, I think I didn't know that. I'm totally
Speaker 1: gonna make. I'm trying to think who would I make. Probably,
Speaker 1: like I'm trying to think who would actually like care enough?
Speaker 1: My sisters are like are not on social media. I
Speaker 1: probably would make like one of my best friends.
Speaker 2: Mmmm. Think about it. It's a big life decision.
Speaker 1: It is. I mean, what am I gonna do? Who
Speaker 1: will post for me?
Speaker 2: Did you see this Airbnb while black? So I totally
Speaker 2: missed this, but I wanted to chat about it real quick. Okay,
Speaker 2: and wait did you see it?
Speaker 1: I saw the article and you know how you just like,
Speaker 1: what is that thing we talked about before, like post
Speaker 1: traumatic black syndrome or whatever. Remember we talked about it like.
Speaker 2: A racial just fatigue syndrome. Fatigue.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I saw it and I just like, not
Speaker 1: right now. I just not right now.
Speaker 2: Well, I wanted to chat about I feel like I
Speaker 2: I've never had a problem getting an Airbnb. But then again,
Speaker 2: my name is Mandy and I look racially ambiguous, so
Speaker 2: I don't have this issue. But yeah, a lot of
Speaker 2: people had been like ranting about this on Twitter about
Speaker 2: how when you look when you're black, you look black
Speaker 2: and you have a black sounding name. It's proven to
Speaker 2: be harder to get approved for an Airbnb reservation because
Speaker 2: you know, how you have your profile picture and it's
Speaker 2: you know, a human being on the other end, and
Speaker 2: they're more likely to deny people who are black. And
Speaker 2: that was highly depressing to me. And it turns out
Speaker 2: a lot of black people have experiences and they've started
Speaker 2: doing things like changing their picture to like a landscape
Speaker 2: or something random or you know. Oh, there was one
Speaker 2: woman I forget her, I forget her full name, but
Speaker 2: she changed it to Tina, which is like a shortened
Speaker 2: version of her name okay to sound a little less black,
Speaker 2: and she said that helped, And that is crazy, right right,
Speaker 2: It's just you know what, it's not so crazy when
Speaker 2: you think about it, because the studies show that, you know,
Speaker 2: if you have a black sounding name and you your
Speaker 2: resumes and the pile with the white persons and you'll
Speaker 2: be less likely to get a call back. But what
Speaker 2: I thought was good, Oh, I know where I heard
Speaker 2: about this. It was on the podcast Hidden Brain, which
Speaker 2: is by NBR and PR. It's kind of about how
Speaker 2: you know, the different things in psychology that effect our lives.
Speaker 2: So they were talking about the bias, the bias that's
Speaker 2: involved when you are Airbnb host and deciding who to
Speaker 2: to host or not. And but what I thought was
Speaker 2: good was that Airbnb has actually made taken steps to
Speaker 2: like try and fix this, and they've had like so
Speaker 2: apparently if you host a lot, you're like an Airbnb
Speaker 2: I don't know, like p or something like that. You
Speaker 2: get some sort of like credit, some sort of status,
Speaker 2: and they will send you like bias training and they've
Speaker 2: been invited people to come to their office and learn
Speaker 2: how to be a more a less biased they make
Speaker 2: their decisions.
Speaker 1: Wow, I mean, like I said, I'm not shocked, but
Speaker 1: I'm just disappointed, you know. Yeah, yeah, it's just but
Speaker 1: it's like getting a cab. It's like, you know, that's
Speaker 1: why Uber was so important, because people were actually able
Speaker 1: and even then, I'm sure because you know, with Uber,
Speaker 1: you see people's faces if they put.
Speaker 2: Him up up same yeah, same deal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but at least it's easier than like a cab.
Speaker 1: Like I mean, honestly, I remember I was in a
Speaker 1: cab once and like I was asking the guy to
Speaker 1: like I was, I wanted to go to like New
Speaker 1: York Hospitals some of place. I was very obvious, like, and
Speaker 1: I was, you know, giving him the address, and he
Speaker 1: was so I didn't know the address. I was just like,
Speaker 1: well new York Hospital, Like isn't that a car? I
Speaker 1: don't know. So I was like, well, let me call
Speaker 1: my boyfriend and ask. And he said something like just
Speaker 1: just some racial slur and I was like what and
Speaker 1: he said something like, you know, you black people never
Speaker 1: know where you want to go. And I was like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: this is right in front of like Penn station and
Speaker 1: I didn't even know. I was so furious, so I
Speaker 1: like took a picture of his like you know, like
Speaker 1: cab license whatever. And I got out and I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. I slammed the door so hard. I'm so
Speaker 1: shocked at the that the the glass did and brake.
Speaker 1: And then I jumped in front of his cab, which
Speaker 1: is just crazy because I was just so livid. And
Speaker 1: I took a picture of his license plate and then
Speaker 1: of him and he looked at me like, oh snap.
Speaker 1: I mean I didn't even do anything with it, but
Speaker 1: I just wanted him to be up the sweat it
Speaker 1: out all day. Good for you, I know. And then
Speaker 1: the you know how like in front of him station
Speaker 1: they have like the cab but like the guy the
Speaker 1: cab kind of sore. I don't know. I don't know,
Speaker 1: the guy that kind of like will put you in
Speaker 1: a cab like next up. So he's like what happened?
Speaker 1: And I told him and he was just like what
Speaker 1: He's like, make sure you report him. I just I didn't,
Speaker 1: just because I was like, girl, I gotta go. But
Speaker 1: I just remember thinking like what in twenty sixteen. But
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, yeah, twenty sixteen, it'll.
Speaker 2: Never It'll never end. I mean, yeah, people will always
Speaker 2: be a little racist. Yeah, some people will always be
Speaker 2: a little bit of racist, a lot.
Speaker 1: Of bit racist, exactly. I think what always shocks me
Speaker 1: is when someone straight out just is like he doesn't
Speaker 1: what you're like cause you're not used to it. I
Speaker 1: think I was like nineteen, I was working at Daly's
Speaker 1: and like, this guy was such a jerk, and I
Speaker 1: was you know how Mandy gets such bad energy. I
Speaker 1: was afraid of him. I didn't know him, but he'd
Speaker 1: come in with his wife who looked like afraid of him,
Speaker 1: like she was afraid of him. They had like two kids,
Speaker 1: and I was like at Dalley's of the sports club,
Speaker 1: and they were coming to take a tour, and so
Speaker 1: their kids were playing on the machine and their kids
Speaker 1: had to be like five and six, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: they're not allowed to obviously, for like you know, legal reasons.
Speaker 1: And so I was telling the wife like, you know,
Speaker 1: we have a daycare center in the back if you
Speaker 1: want to leave the kids while you take a tour,
Speaker 1: and she was looking at me like, oh God, don't
Speaker 1: speak to me. Like I was like, oh God. So
Speaker 1: I had to look at the dude, and my managers
Speaker 1: looking at me like Tiffany, you know the rules you
Speaker 1: gotta let him know. But something in me was afraid
Speaker 1: because just his energy was so I don't know, nasty.
Speaker 1: So I said, excuse me, sir, excuse me. I had
Speaker 1: to be likenen. And he looked at me, like what.
Speaker 1: And I was like, you know, your kids can't play
Speaker 1: on the machine, but we do have a daycare center
Speaker 1: and it's totally free while you take your tour. And
Speaker 1: he said, I can't remember everything. And he said, but
Speaker 1: basically like, don't talk to me. And he he said,
Speaker 1: and I'm want to say the N word because it
Speaker 1: was so visceral. He was like, what are you talking about? Nigger?
Speaker 1: I couldn't believe it. It was so and he said,
Speaker 1: it's so I had never even heard it, said like
Speaker 1: I felt like I was in like a movie from
Speaker 1: nineteen sixty five. And I was like, what I was nineteen.
Speaker 1: I'm thirty six now, so this is like what I
Speaker 1: don't know, two thousand and nine or something like that.
Speaker 1: I don't know, no, no, not for all. That's like yeah,
Speaker 1: two guys like look at me, my masks. But it
Speaker 1: was so, he said, I could I had never and
Speaker 1: no one ever in my life had ever called me
Speaker 1: that to my face, like you know, maybe behind your
Speaker 1: back or maybe they whispered or whatever, but never like
Speaker 1: to my face. And I remember just being frozen, like
Speaker 1: what what's happening? And I remember like my manager everybody
Speaker 1: kind of came out and you're like, shure, sure, you
Speaker 1: have to get out, get out, leave, and he was continuing,
Speaker 1: like you know, to cursh me out and like throw
Speaker 1: racial slurs or whatever. I was so shy. I didn't
Speaker 1: even know what to do. And you could tell everyone
Speaker 1: was so nervous because I work with like mostly white staff,
Speaker 1: and they were like looking at me to figure out,
Speaker 1: like what was I gonna do. I didn't even know
Speaker 1: what to do because that never happened, and they're like,
Speaker 1: are you Okaytivity? I was like, yeah, I guess. I
Speaker 1: didn't know if I should cry. I just was literally
Speaker 1: in a state of shock. I just just remember thinking
Speaker 1: like this guy just called me like the N word
Speaker 1: in front of the whole gem super like. I just
Speaker 1: and to this day, I never forgot it. And I
Speaker 1: just remember him dragging her to the car and I
Speaker 1: just remember thinking to myself that bigger than him calling
Speaker 1: me the N word, he looked very violent, and I
Speaker 1: just got the feeling that like he beat her, just
Speaker 1: the way he was like man handling her and the
Speaker 1: way he was speaking to her, the way he spoke
Speaker 1: to me, and that she was gonna get it later.
Speaker 1: And I just remember feeling sorry for her more so
Speaker 1: than myself, cause I'm like, I don't have to go
Speaker 1: home with him. But I just remember thinking like, damn,
Speaker 1: this is who she's with and this is what she
Speaker 1: has to go home to, and so I'm like to
Speaker 1: deal with that. Yeah, but I'm like, girl, bye, he's
Speaker 1: a fool. And besides, I was like there was one
Speaker 1: like we always have, like you had the jenders, like
Speaker 1: personal trainers. What the personal trainer he was huge, came
Speaker 1: out was like what was said? The dude looked was
Speaker 1: like I gotta go. And so I was like Johnny,
Speaker 1: from now on, when dangerous looking guys come up here
Speaker 1: and you have to stay next to me. So I
Speaker 1: just want to thank everybody. Brown break, the brown break
Speaker 1: I took last week. I think it was like my hair,
Speaker 1: oh man, Yes. And so people recommended this woman named
Speaker 1: ches Cilee cheskile I, ches Cilly Locks or something like that. Anyway,
Speaker 1: she's got a great YouTube channel and it did help
Speaker 1: me get like some hairstyles. But so I'm going to
Speaker 1: reach out to our BA podcast listeners again. I have
Speaker 1: been breaking out like crazy, Mandy. I don't know why
Speaker 1: I never break out. Even as a teenager, I didn't
Speaker 1: have bad skin, and now I'm like breaking out. I
Speaker 1: don't know if it's because I'm working out so much
Speaker 1: and it's like the sweat, but I've been breaking out
Speaker 1: and I'm like, ah, I need something. What do people
Speaker 1: use for all acne?
Speaker 2: Birth control?
Speaker 1: I don't want to think I hate those steaking pills.
Speaker 2: Oh really, Oh that's a that's the best thing I
Speaker 2: did for my skin. Really, No dairy and birth control.
Speaker 2: It's free. It's freer than face wash. Thank you Obamacare.
Speaker 1: Oh that's true, right. I don't but I don't want
Speaker 1: to be on birth control because you know, we talking
Speaker 1: about this baby stuff. I'm like, no, I actually want
Speaker 1: to have one.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, Oh, but well then there you go. You're
Speaker 2: gonna have acne. You know, one of my girlfriends said
Speaker 2: getting pregnant was the best thing that happened to her skin.
Speaker 2: I don't know if that happens across the board. Your homones,
Speaker 2: your hormones were like all over the place.
Speaker 1: Sure, go either way, but I'm just like, so I
Speaker 1: actually ordered the du Proactive.
Speaker 2: No way, that is so two thousands.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, I couldn't believe. I didn't know what
Speaker 1: else to do, and I'm like, I was like, you
Speaker 1: know what, I'm gonnacause I tried it once. I think
Speaker 1: when I was like nineteen, once I was like breaking out.
Speaker 1: I tried it for a few months and it worked
Speaker 1: and I went back to my normal skin. And so
Speaker 1: my bron break is this damn acne, And so I
Speaker 1: ordered Proactive. It should be here today. I'm going to
Speaker 1: try it for a week or two. I'm hoping that
Speaker 1: I'll get my luscious skinn back, because I'm used to
Speaker 1: like just having you know, decent skin. My skin's not amazing,
Speaker 1: but I don't break out unless it's that time of
Speaker 1: the month. And honestly, like not just my face, but
Speaker 1: like my chest, my back. And I'm like, Okay, I
Speaker 1: think it is because I've been working out like crazy
Speaker 1: and maybe I'm just like sweating up a storm. And
Speaker 1: but when I come home, I take a shower right away,
Speaker 1: So I don't know, do I need to like wash
Speaker 1: my face at the gym. I don't know, Well, you.
Speaker 2: Can always use I use little wipes that reach may
Speaker 2: workout like right away, Oh, sensitive skin wipes like birds
Speaker 2: Bees or Loreel has a sensitive skin wipes because my
Speaker 2: skin gets really easily irritated. So I get the sensitive ones.
Speaker 2: I'm simple has wipes. Just use those real quick.
Speaker 1: That's true, Okay, Sae, look at that. Meanwhile, I order proactive. Okay,
Speaker 1: what do I see you? For? Like?
Speaker 2: Zero? Do one hundred?
Speaker 1: Now on that time, I'm like, oh my god, everything's wrong.
Speaker 1: I'm ordering a whole new like I'm always ordering something.
Speaker 1: But I'm still gonna try because I'm hoping that like
Speaker 1: because I you know, when you're I have really brown,
Speaker 1: you know, highly pigmented skin, and so I scar easily.
Speaker 1: So I'm hoping that proactive will help to bring me
Speaker 1: back to like bring me back to normal. So, yes,
Speaker 1: my brown break is acne. I hate you go back
Speaker 1: to sixteen where you belong.
Speaker 2: Well, my brown break is gonna be quick. But since
Speaker 2: I have been fighting a cold the past few days,
Speaker 2: I was like at a commission all weekend, bad daughter,
Speaker 2: bad Mother's Day. I just didn't go to and I
Speaker 2: didn't even leave the house until this morning to come
Speaker 2: to work. But like I told you, I feel like
Speaker 2: people who there's all this pressure when you're sick to
Speaker 2: like come to work and show a good face and
Speaker 2: you know, be there and like, oh it's so great,
Speaker 2: and I'm sick. But I showed up at work today,
Speaker 2: and you know those people who like make a big
Speaker 2: show of how sick they are and yet they still
Speaker 2: came into work like a hero. I just want all
Speaker 2: those people to stay home. They hate your ass home.
Speaker 2: You're not a hero. No one likes you better because
Speaker 2: you came to work. You're not going to get a
Speaker 2: raise because you showed up with pneumonia. It's not happening.
Speaker 2: All you do is make people but like me sick,
Speaker 2: And I know exactly who got me sick. It was
Speaker 2: a chick on the train last Monday. I don't know
Speaker 2: how long it takes the cold to like present itself
Speaker 2: in symptoms, but last Monday on the train, I sat
Speaker 2: next to a girl and she was sniffling her face off,
Speaker 2: and she hacked on me and it landed on my sleeve.
Speaker 2: And I tried to wait till I got to work
Speaker 2: to like hand sanitize everything, but it was too late. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and I and especially with like public transportation in New
Speaker 2: York City is disgusting. We're all upon each other. I
Speaker 2: saw a man, you know who you are, man wearing
Speaker 2: a Hawaiian short sleeve shirt with greasy curly hair sneeze
Speaker 2: on his hand when he was holding the pole like it.
Speaker 2: It's just I can't there's not enough hand sanitizer in
Speaker 2: the world. So I just want to take a brown
Speaker 2: break from people who try and be a hero and
Speaker 2: come sick to the office. Just stay home, you know,
Speaker 2: work remotely. It's not a big deal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's They always tell you that. They're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: nobody wants to get sick. Just e.
Speaker 2: It's un accordant. It's not that, it's not I stayed
Speaker 2: home the whole week and I didn't even go yesterday
Speaker 2: Mother's Day. We were supposed to go visit fiance's mother.
Speaker 2: I just you know, gave him money and I was like,
Speaker 2: go get some nice flowers for her, and I gave
Speaker 2: her a nice phone call and she was totally fine.
Speaker 1: It was okay, Yeah, nobody wants to get sick, nobody.
Speaker 2: I'm not going to give her the cold a cold
Speaker 2: for Mother's Day.
Speaker 1: Happy mother's say at you.
Speaker 2: That's under for today. This brown break is brought to
Speaker 2: you by the makers of Kleenex.
Speaker 1: Yes and an Acti products and Alka Seltzer. I just
Speaker 1: want to be back there. I'm like why, I just
Speaker 1: want to be snatched right. I can't work out. I
Speaker 1: got my face breaking out.
Speaker 2: If you don't want breake control, I don't know what
Speaker 2: to do for you.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, no, I'm trying to have this baby.
Speaker 1: I'm just wait, just you wait a couple months. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be like, maydie, do you bet to be an azzi?
Speaker 2: Oh? Well, maybe be so excited?
Speaker 1: So did you have any wins for this week?
Speaker 2: I actually do have a win for this week. Let
Speaker 2: me go back into my wind box. Oh so I haven't.
Speaker 2: I don't think I've announced this to you or to
Speaker 2: anybody else, but I made we made me and my
Speaker 2: fiance kind of a huge personal decision this week too,
Speaker 2: not this week, this month, and that at the end
Speaker 2: of the month. We've been talking about this for a while,
Speaker 2: like but like just funny ha ha and not really
Speaker 2: serious and lately just about wanting to buy a house.
Speaker 2: Like we you know, we've always wanted to buy a house.
Speaker 2: It's sort of just been like one of those crazy
Speaker 2: ambitions kind of like winning the lottery or you know,
Speaker 2: striking gold in the backyard. Like you want to buy
Speaker 2: a house, but you also live in New York and
Speaker 2: you just know that's not possible if you continue to
Speaker 2: pay you know, a quarridor of your rent every month,
Speaker 2: a quarter of your income and rent every month, it's
Speaker 2: just not possible. So we were talking kind of about it,
Speaker 2: and we're both like, you know what, we should just
Speaker 2: like move him with your parents and just say what
Speaker 2: we're spending on rent. Wouldn't that be smart? And we're like, ah,
Speaker 2: that's hilarious. We never do that. Wait a minute, So
Speaker 2: we really started to be really thought about it, and
Speaker 2: we decided at the beginning of this month that we
Speaker 2: are going to move in with his parents.
Speaker 1: Yay.
Speaker 2: I know everyone's been like really excited.
Speaker 1: I know why because it's like part of me is like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's awesome because you're gonna be able to save a time,
Speaker 1: and then you're like, ooh, how's that gonna go? Right?
Speaker 2: Yeah exactly, And like I said, we've talked, we've always
Speaker 2: like brought this idea up in the past, kind of
Speaker 2: like as a joke, but you know, the real the
Speaker 2: realer it gets the closer we get to getting married.
Speaker 2: You know, I was thinking, we only have our so
Speaker 2: we're getting married next to April. And I'm like, if
Speaker 2: we're gonna take a year or a little less than
Speaker 2: a year to live with your parents, this is the
Speaker 2: time to do it, because I don't want to do
Speaker 2: it when we're married. Yeah, and you know, if we
Speaker 2: really want to buy a place next year, this is
Speaker 2: the only way we're gonna be able to afford it
Speaker 2: if we have this. You know, we're spending over two
Speaker 2: thousand dollars a month on rent, so if we take
Speaker 2: ten months off, that's not even including what we're already saving,
Speaker 2: which is I think pretty aggressive. So we just take
Speaker 2: this ten months, and you know, luckily we have the
Speaker 2: I feel like we also are lucky in that we
Speaker 2: actually have the opportunity. Not many people have parents who
Speaker 2: have two spare bedrooms and love us to pieces and
Speaker 2: want us to live with them. His mom is like,
Speaker 2: you can stay forever.
Speaker 1: But honestly, you are really fortunate. And I you know,
Speaker 1: the budget, he said me, is like do it. You know,
Speaker 1: I moved back home when I was thirty to like
Speaker 1: get myself together, and I'm not. Everyone, like you said,
Speaker 1: has family that they can move in with and not
Speaker 1: have to pay. So if you have that opportunity, totally
Speaker 1: take advantage of it. I mean, you know, we don't
Speaker 1: have parents that can give us a million dollars small
Speaker 1: business loan, mister Trump, But we do have parents who
Speaker 1: are like, hey, I have a spirit bedroom, which is awesome, and.
Speaker 2: We'll be helping with you. We haven't like worked out
Speaker 2: the math, but we'll definitely be helping with utilities. They
Speaker 2: live in a rent control department, so they already are
Speaker 2: paying so much less than when anyone else is paying.
Speaker 2: And you know, we worked out some we're gonna have
Speaker 2: to set some ground rules on like you know, Mandy
Speaker 2: will be able to cook for herself sometimes.
Speaker 1: You know, his mom's like the queen of the kitchen,
Speaker 1: of course, and I'm sure she knocks it down.
Speaker 2: You know she does. But when Mandy doesn't want autos
Speaker 2: compoyo every night, maybe Mandy wants like a salad. And
Speaker 2: you know, we'll have these roles in our bylaws house.
Speaker 1: But I think honestly that it's an excellent idea because,
Speaker 1: like you said, this is a perfect time to do it.
Speaker 1: It's gonna be you know, relatively short time and you're
Speaker 1: coupleedom to spend with them, and she'll always remember that
Speaker 1: and it'll be something that you keep as like a memory,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 2: Hopefully a good one it will be.
Speaker 1: I mean, of course there's gonna be some time and
Speaker 1: you're just like, because that's just with anyone. But I
Speaker 1: look at my sister now. She was hesitant about moving
Speaker 1: into the three family house, you know, with her mother
Speaker 1: in law. But she's just like, it's been such a
Speaker 1: blessing to be able to just like open the door
Speaker 1: and walk upstairs and give her the baby.
Speaker 2: You know, yeah, I bet that's what she hopes is
Speaker 2: gonna happen. She's like, I'm going to start doing praying
Speaker 2: to Jesus, like to one of the many portraits of
Speaker 2: Jesus in their house. I'm just just praying to those these.
Speaker 1: Little baby Jesus, tea Jesus, and grown man Jesus. I
Speaker 1: want you to make sure Mandy says here forever, so
Speaker 1: that way my grandchild can always be within my sights.
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, precisely. That's going to be a big adjustment.
Speaker 2: We love The hardest part is leaving our apartment and
Speaker 2: leaving our neighborhood. We love it so much and we
Speaker 2: have so many good memories. It's where we got engaged,
Speaker 2: it's where we it was our first home together, it's
Speaker 2: or you know, we've had a lot of our entire
Speaker 2: social life is in you know, where we live in
Speaker 2: Queens and it's going to be sad to leave it,
Speaker 2: but I'm trying to focus on, like the future, just
Speaker 2: a little bit of pain for hopefully a lifetime of
Speaker 2: happiness and something we actually own that we can call
Speaker 2: our own. So just pray for us. I'll update you
Speaker 2: how it's all going well.
Speaker 1: My win is. I just love how the President of
Speaker 1: the United States is leaning into his blackness a little
Speaker 1: bit more since he's like, I'm not to be out.
Speaker 1: So you know, first the fact that he closed like
Speaker 1: his uh what is the press dinner?
Speaker 2: What was that called White House Correspondence dinner?
Speaker 1: Yes, the White House Correspondence Dinner with Obama out Mike drop.
Speaker 1: That was amazing. But then this weekend he spoke at
Speaker 1: Howard University their commencements. He was a keynote speaker.
Speaker 2: And Howard watched the whole thing you did.
Speaker 1: I didn't get a chance to. But you know, Howard,
Speaker 1: for those of you who don't know, is an HSBCU.
Speaker 1: I always say that I can now basically a historically
Speaker 1: black university, and it's like one of the best ones.
Speaker 1: And just it was just great to see them hood him,
Speaker 1: to see the look of pride in his face when
Speaker 1: they were putting the hood on him, to see him
Speaker 1: encourage the students in the audience to embrace their blackness.
Speaker 1: And there's one funny part of the speech that I
Speaker 1: did see where he said, like, you know, you know,
Speaker 1: being black and successful does not equate to just being
Speaker 1: an entertainer or like basically or an athlete. That you
Speaker 1: can be like Shonda Rhyme, she owns Thursday Nights. You
Speaker 1: could be like who else did he mention? He said
Speaker 1: you could be like, oh, it was somebody else. It
Speaker 1: was Shonda Rhymes, somebody else. And he said you could
Speaker 1: be like the president, he's black, or something to that effect.
Speaker 1: That it was hilarious and I just thought it was
Speaker 1: just great to see that because I feel like the
Speaker 1: first term and then much of the second term, the
Speaker 1: president seems to shy away from just like talking directly
Speaker 1: to people of color, you know, and I mean at times, yes,
Speaker 1: but not to the to the extent that he is now.
Speaker 1: And so it's just nice to see him, you know,
Speaker 1: speaking at this historically black university and then encouraging people
Speaker 1: to embrace your blackness and it's not a hindrance. It's
Speaker 1: something that you can use to make the world better.
Speaker 1: And so it was just nice. So that's really my
Speaker 1: win for the week.
Speaker 2: I thought the best part of his speech, and it
Speaker 2: kind of is around the section that you're talking about,
Speaker 2: is when he was saying, you know what, going to
Speaker 2: college can be a black thing. Wanting to study engineering
Speaker 2: can be a black thing, you know, wanting to be
Speaker 2: the next Shonda Rymes can be black thing. Reading a
Speaker 2: lot can be a black thing, and there's not no
Speaker 2: shame in that. And I think like a lot of
Speaker 2: especially in my family, and I think I don't I
Speaker 2: don't think I'm alone in this at all. When you
Speaker 2: are worried about getting educated and studying and doing well
Speaker 2: in school, you can you're like, oh, you're a punk.
Speaker 2: Oh you're trying to be white.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.
Speaker 2: Oh you're not real, You're not down. And that's the
Speaker 2: kind of pressure you get and I thought it was
Speaker 2: a great message to tell this whole you know, thousands
Speaker 2: of these nerds to just graduated college that it's okay,
Speaker 2: it's a black thing to be educated. I thought that
Speaker 2: was beautiful.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So I just realized we didn't do any We
Speaker 1: didn't take any questions.
Speaker 2: We have none.
Speaker 1: Oh see, so y'all don't have no question. Yes you
Speaker 1: do because your message them to me. So instead of
Speaker 1: setting them to the budget, Lisa, send them to the
Speaker 1: BA podcast on Twitter, Ambition on Facebook, and what's the
Speaker 1: gmail again?
Speaker 2: Is that the Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: Okay, Yes, we'd love to get your questions. We can
Speaker 1: answer them and get you straight and write and financially fit,
Speaker 1: fabulous and fly. Oh that's a nice little tagline.
Speaker 2: On that note excellently to in the show.
Speaker 1: Yes, so I will chat next week.
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