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Speaker 1: Happy Mother's Day. I know it's like pose Mother's Day,

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Speaker 1: but it doesn't feel like it. I had such a

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Speaker 1: good Mother's Day weekend. I know, Brown Ambition, we're back.

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Speaker 1: I just want to wish a happy Mother's Day to

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Speaker 1: the mom. The Brown Ambition Mom's out there.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I was a My mom doesn't live anywhere near me,

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Speaker 2: so I had to always send her gifts, and I

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Speaker 2: totally screwed up this Mother's Day. I like sent the

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Speaker 2: gift to She's moved twice in the last year, and

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Speaker 2: I found out that I sent it to the old address. Oh.

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Speaker 2: Some really sweet lady emailed the company that my mom's

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Speaker 2: gift came from and told them. She was like, I

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Speaker 2: have this person's gift. How do I get it to her?

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Speaker 2: Oh that's Wisconsin for you. That's nice though, Yeah, super sweet.

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Speaker 2: That wouldn't top a to New York.

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Speaker 1: I know they'd be like, oh, these these chocolates are yummy.

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Speaker 2: Exactly exactly.

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Speaker 1: I had a good Mother's Day. My sister, she has

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Speaker 1: a seven month old and she had like a baby

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Speaker 1: dedication at church. So I was like, who picked this day?

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Speaker 1: She's like he did. Her husband. I guess he didn't

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Speaker 1: realize it was Mother's Day. Yeah, when they decided on

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Speaker 1: the date, so like my family when his family was there,

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Speaker 1: so it actually was really nice. And then we went

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Speaker 1: back to her house and like you know, ate, his

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Speaker 1: family's Jamaican and his mom is like, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: the best cook in the world. Like my mom's an

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Speaker 1: amazing cook, like for African food, but his mother is

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Speaker 1: like the best cook for Jamaican food, and like together,

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Speaker 1: what they're like a force to be reckoned with. And

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Speaker 1: I have to say, I don't know, like how much

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Speaker 1: you've hung out with like your your booze, your fiancee's family,

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Speaker 1: but this is the first time that we hung out

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Speaker 1: as like blended family that didn't didn't feel like a

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Speaker 1: blended family.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's fun. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I was like wow, cause you know, usually, I mean

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Speaker 1: we've always gotten along, but you know, it's like, well, hey,

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Speaker 1: how are you. I'm fine, every it's all formally. The

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Speaker 1: first time that I was like, wow, this is just

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Speaker 1: our family. We were laughing, joking, his mom and my

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Speaker 1: mom were like it just it was so nice. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: I was like, wow, look at us, one big, happy family.

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Speaker 2: That sounds so nice. I hope we have that one

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Speaker 2: day you will. My mom actually just met my future

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Speaker 2: mother in law for the very first time in April

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Speaker 2: when we came when they came to like do my

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Speaker 2: come for my first dress fitting or you know, shopping experience.

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Speaker 2: So I had like, you know, fiance's mom and my

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Speaker 2: mom and my sister, and I had my one I picked,

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Speaker 2: like my one friend who can you know, talk to

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Speaker 2: a tree and have a whole conversation like just somebody

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Speaker 2: it went okay. But yeah, you know, it's obviously it's

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Speaker 2: well not only is it just the awkwardness of meeting

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Speaker 2: someone new, but it's like they also there's also a

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Speaker 2: big language barrier because his mom doesn't speak any English

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Speaker 2: and my mom speaks no Spanish. So I don't know

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Speaker 2: if that was like to our it like helped us

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Speaker 2: or everyone was a negative thing.

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Speaker 1: Do you speak anything?

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Speaker 2: I speak a lot of Spanish. Yeah, it's pretty I'm

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Speaker 2: pretty good. Oh really, but my mom, she was towards

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Speaker 2: the end of the experience, you know, and my fiance's

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Speaker 2: mom is really sweet, but she's like a you know,

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Speaker 2: a Latina mom. She just like speaks her mind and

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Speaker 2: there's some things that you say in Spanish that sound

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Speaker 2: horrible when you translated. But one of the dresses I

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Speaker 2: put on, she was like, oh, Mandy, you look fat

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Speaker 2: in that. She's just and well in Spanish like you,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, you say gorda, gorda, you like that

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Speaker 2: kind of stuff. You know, it just you know, it

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Speaker 2: sounds much worst in English and my mom My mom

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Speaker 2: didn't know the word, but she kind of got contextually

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Speaker 2: what she was saying, and she was like, what did

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Speaker 2: she say to you? I was like, no, it's fine,

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Speaker 2: it's fine, it's just funny, haha, fine, Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: That is always the worst. It's like, oh, it's because

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie with my sister's wedding. They were

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Speaker 1: played some contentious like because there's certain things that we

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Speaker 1: and so there's definitely some awkwardness there. But I have

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Speaker 1: to say now the parents have have now that they've

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Speaker 1: you're starving him, which was now. I said, oh, I'll

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Speaker 1: look at you guys bonding over fighting over with your

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Speaker 1: fighting over your kids and your grandchild. Exactly. They're like,

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Speaker 1: my grandbaby's hungry, you're starting him. I told her I

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Speaker 1: had five kids. She's like, I've had two. They had none.

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Speaker 1: This is their first. They know nothing about children. Carol

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Speaker 1: was just My sister was just like but I told her,

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Speaker 1: try to tell you stuff and you just feel like, no,

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Speaker 1: that's not how I want to raise my baby. Even

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Speaker 2: Before, I'm already dreading it. I mean I'm not dreading

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Speaker 2: it in the sense that I'm really I feel really

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Speaker 2: local and she will gladly take the baby forever if

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Speaker 2: we wanted to, And that's all good. But yeah, I'm

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Speaker 2: dreading like the over the over zealous grandparenting.

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Speaker 1: What especially grandparents not from the country, because like what

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Speaker 1: they're like, give him cornmeal, porridge, give him Like my

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Speaker 2: Talking about two months, just meush it up a little bit,

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Speaker 2: like Nigeria Bostona is. Just put it in a bottle exactly.

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Speaker 1: Exactly because we eat so many similar feods, Like what's

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Speaker 1: like that's the part that she's just like they don't

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Speaker 2: It's just so much. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I know me either well, and I mean, why baby

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Speaker 1: to an end. Her her husband's done with this part

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I know, but it's not the same with

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Speaker 1: I'm not leave me alone. But it made me one

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Speaker 1: I couldn't believe it.

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Speaker 2: I was like, your hips spread out just a little,

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Speaker 1: I was like, I was telling my own my boyfriend,

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Speaker 2: One of the earliest shows we did on Brown Ambition,

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Speaker 2: you talked about like how you were finally starting to

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Speaker 2: weave like having a kid into your future business plan

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Speaker 2: and kind of setting up your business for that. So

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Speaker 2: maybe then you were like, ten, it isn't. Yeah, So

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Speaker 2: thirty five episodes later.

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Speaker 1: I know because you know what it is, And then

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Speaker 1: I wasn't. I wasn't sure, but I knew that, you

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: So, but as far as now, it's like the emotional

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Speaker 1: Like my mentally, I was like Okay, let me prepare

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Speaker 2: Well for you, It's like, on the one hand, great,

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Speaker 1: Oh for sure, I just I don't. Honestly, I don't

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Speaker 1: four hours today? And then on top of that moms

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Speaker 1: to all moms period. I don't care if you stay home,

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Speaker 1: Like even me, three hours with him by myself. I'm like, uh,

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Speaker 1: whether you stay home, whether you work, whether you own

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Speaker 1: And I'm just an auntie, so I can't even imagine

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Speaker 2: That I've been I was thinking, like from the beginning,

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Speaker 2: you are so terrified to keep this baby alive. You

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Speaker 2: have to keep this person alive. But then I'm thirty

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Speaker 2: years old, so for thirty years my mom has been

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Speaker 2: worried about keeping me alive. Yes, and like stuff that

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Speaker 2: I do to endanger my life on purpose, like skydiving

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Speaker 2: and traveling by myself. Like I almost want to say, sorry.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, go wait until you have a kid.

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Speaker 2: I know it'll be so much.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, what Like my like my best friend Drina

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just going to be a wife.

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Speaker 1: I know, your career to everything dies. You just have

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Speaker 2: Like we talked about that last week. Yeah, I'm like,

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Speaker 1: Don't think people see what it is. Like. I remember

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Speaker 2: My favorite instagram, if you guys want to go follow it.

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Speaker 1: like I used to be a personal chef for Prince.

430
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Speaker 1: And the article is short, but it is literally everything.

431
00:19:15,560 --> 00:19:18,439
Speaker 1: It is hilarious. My two favorite lines are, so she

432
00:19:18,560 --> 00:19:20,400
Speaker 1: was just out of chef school. Her friend was kind

433
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Speaker 1: of like, Prince is looking for a personal chef. I

434
00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:24,440
Speaker 1: worked for him sometimes you'd be great. So she takes

435
00:19:24,440 --> 00:19:27,119
Speaker 1: the job. Is it's like twenty four hours today. She

436
00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:30,359
Speaker 1: says that one time Prince, at like midnight, was like, ooh,

437
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Speaker 1: you know what I want a chocolate fountain, like you know,

438
00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:35,479
Speaker 1: like just chocolate coming out of a fountain. And she

439
00:19:35,560 --> 00:19:38,480
Speaker 1: asked Prince, like, so where should I put it? And

440
00:19:38,600 --> 00:19:40,840
Speaker 1: she said He looks at her, doesn't even skip a

441
00:19:40,880 --> 00:19:45,160
Speaker 1: beat and says, so I do the music and I

442
00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:47,239
Speaker 1: can you imagine? Like what are you asking me these

443
00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:50,919
Speaker 1: questions for and then my second favorite line was she

444
00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:52,879
Speaker 1: said that everything that she ever made for Prince it

445
00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:55,200
Speaker 1: was like one soup that just did not turn out right.

446
00:19:55,640 --> 00:19:58,199
Speaker 1: And he brought it back into the kitchen and just

447
00:19:58,240 --> 00:20:02,600
Speaker 1: put it on the counter and said, no, I mean,

448
00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:04,880
Speaker 1: you have to be the article it is. So it's

449
00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:07,480
Speaker 1: just hilarious and funny and just lets you see Prince

450
00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:09,240
Speaker 1: in a different light. And she just said he was

451
00:20:09,240 --> 00:20:12,720
Speaker 1: always really kind, really nice, and just like she just said,

452
00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:15,119
Speaker 1: but it was like the job was too demanding, but

453
00:20:15,240 --> 00:20:17,520
Speaker 1: it was just an awesome experience. And I'm like, if

454
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Speaker 1: you get a chance to just google I was Princess

455
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Speaker 1: Personal check, that's a great, great, great article.

456
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Speaker 2: I like those Prince anecdotes. He as a character. I

457
00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:29,000
Speaker 2: think that's what you miss. Well, we'll all miss about him.

458
00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:32,320
Speaker 2: It's sad though, I mean, and yeah, when the painkiller

459
00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:34,879
Speaker 2: addiction in the United States has been a problem, like

460
00:20:34,920 --> 00:20:38,280
Speaker 2: the painkiller substance abuse has been a problem for years

461
00:20:38,280 --> 00:20:40,560
Speaker 2: and years, even before this whole you know, heroin became

462
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Speaker 2: sort of mainstream, And it's sad. You can be pretty

463
00:20:43,880 --> 00:20:46,480
Speaker 2: functioning and you can hide it because I mean, he

464
00:20:46,560 --> 00:20:48,359
Speaker 2: doesn't have prescription meds around the house.

465
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Speaker 1: Exactly.

466
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Speaker 2: You can really hide. It's it's sad. What was sadder

467
00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:54,520
Speaker 2: is you know the now his siblings were kind of

468
00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:57,639
Speaker 2: like bickering about his estate speaking of the States, did

469
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Speaker 2: you see that Snoop Dogg came out said that he

470
00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:05,840
Speaker 2: doesn't give he could give zero, you know, you know

471
00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:08,520
Speaker 2: what's about his kids and his estate plan. He's like,

472
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Speaker 2: I don't care, they'll figure it out when I'm dead.

473
00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:12,800
Speaker 2: We're like, care because I'll be dead.

474
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Speaker 1: That's so ignorant. And I'm not gonna lie. I just

475
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Speaker 1: I can't tell you how many people that I've spoken

476
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Speaker 1: to about, you know, like kind of planning afterwards or

477
00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:22,919
Speaker 1: like life insurance or like I'm not trying to make

478
00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:26,679
Speaker 1: my kids rich after I die. And I can't tell

479
00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:27,840
Speaker 1: you how many people I've heard.

480
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Speaker 2: Say that even just a funeral cost.

481
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Speaker 1: So yeah, it's just so disheartening because it's like, well

482
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Speaker 1: print like Prince Snoop, like, at the very least, if

483
00:21:35,920 --> 00:21:38,080
Speaker 1: you're not trying to give your kids money or whatever,

484
00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:40,679
Speaker 1: which is fine, that's your choice, but the government is

485
00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:42,520
Speaker 1: going to take like that death tax. Isn't it like

486
00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:46,000
Speaker 1: forty percent? Oh, I don't know, it's something ridiculous. Some

487
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:48,280
Speaker 1: high amount that if you don't have a will, they

488
00:21:48,320 --> 00:21:51,080
Speaker 1: will take off the top. It's just so wasteful to

489
00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:53,280
Speaker 1: just basically give it away if you don't want your

490
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Speaker 1: kids to have it or whatever the entail it to

491
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Speaker 1: like a public school or like a great arts program,

492
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Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like, I don't know, it

493
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:04,200
Speaker 1: just seems just it's just so ignorant. I'm just like Snoop.

494
00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:06,120
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's just best to say nothing.

495
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Speaker 2: Nothing at all. Don't ask Snoop for a state planning advice.

496
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Speaker 2: He does not know. He just obviously doesn't have the

497
00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 2: right people around him. I just hate hearing about these celebrities,

498
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 2: these athletes who you know, die suddenly and then have

499
00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:22,240
Speaker 2: no no, no safety, not for their family.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

501
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Speaker 2: I have a power of attorney. I'm ready. I don't

502
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Speaker 2: have any kids that I have.

503
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Speaker 1: That I think I have. I mean, like all of

504
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Speaker 1: my like insurance policies or whatever I have like one

505
00:22:33,119 --> 00:22:36,399
Speaker 1: of my sisters like a beneficiary or whatever, so that

506
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Speaker 1: I do have. I'm trying to think do I have.

507
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't have a will, will, but

508
00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:43,320
Speaker 1: I don't really have any assets right now. But I

509
00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:45,639
Speaker 1: do have like all of my you know, whatever. Like

510
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Speaker 1: I said, all my papers, I'm like, this is my beneficiary,

511
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Speaker 1: this is my beneficiar. My sister text me the other

512
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Speaker 1: day She's like, what's your social I'm putting you down

513
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Speaker 1: as a beneficiary. I was like, woo did you know? Oh?

514
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Speaker 1: Go ahead, go ahead, go ahead?

515
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Speaker 2: Question wait, go ahead? Or were you going to say?

516
00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:04,600
Speaker 1: This is like double dutch you go, you go, you gone?

517
00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:07,840
Speaker 2: On Facebook, you can select like not a benefit. I

518
00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:10,199
Speaker 2: guess it's a beneficiary. A person who can control your

519
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:13,679
Speaker 2: Facebook account after you pass away. What how you doing? Yeah,

520
00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 2: it's in your settings. They recently rolled it out. Yeah,

521
00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:17,679
Speaker 2: I made my little brother dah.

522
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Speaker 1: Oh my god. That's really good though.

523
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:20,960
Speaker 2: The executor of my social media.

524
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that is soid.

525
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Speaker 2: Hell it's true. I mean, you have a lot of

526
00:23:25,800 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 2: stuff there, and you know you might want to like

527
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Speaker 2: post an update. I don't know, but.

528
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Speaker 1: You know what, it's so oh yeah, that should be

529
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Speaker 1: the name of today's executor of my social media and

530
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Speaker 1: I DM you, little brother, the executor of my social media.

531
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Speaker 2: What does he think logs into my account but then

532
00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:44,359
Speaker 2: forgets it and then he starts liking people's posts as

533
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:45,280
Speaker 2: me after I'm dead?

534
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Speaker 1: Yo, that would be so free. No, first of all,

535
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Speaker 1: I mean this is true because I mean, this is

536
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:53,040
Speaker 1: not funny, but it's kind of funny. So a girl

537
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Speaker 1: that I knew from High schol Passway a few years

538
00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:58,080
Speaker 1: ago and like her last post or her last profile

539
00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:01,000
Speaker 1: picture was like some being kind of vulgar just to

540
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:02,840
Speaker 1: be funny. People posted it for a day and it's

541
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:07,679
Speaker 1: like there forever and every time I read it, I'm like,

542
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:09,800
Speaker 1: that is so her. But I'm like, wall, you know what,

543
00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:12,119
Speaker 1: this is just how you roll out this vulgar vulgar

544
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:14,440
Speaker 1: post is the post that you leave people with like yeah, girl,

545
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:18,359
Speaker 1: but yeah, I think I didn't know that. I'm totally

546
00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:21,160
Speaker 1: gonna make. I'm trying to think who would I make. Probably,

547
00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:23,160
Speaker 1: like I'm trying to think who would actually like care enough?

548
00:24:23,200 --> 00:24:25,240
Speaker 1: My sisters are like are not on social media. I

549
00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:27,080
Speaker 1: probably would make like one of my best friends.

550
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Speaker 2: Mmmm. Think about it. It's a big life decision.

551
00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:31,879
Speaker 1: It is. I mean, what am I gonna do? Who

552
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:32,720
Speaker 1: will post for me?

553
00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:42,719
Speaker 2: Did you see this Airbnb while black? So I totally

554
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:45,399
Speaker 2: missed this, but I wanted to chat about it real quick. Okay,

555
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 2: and wait did you see it?

556
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Speaker 1: I saw the article and you know how you just like,

557
00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 1: what is that thing we talked about before, like post

558
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:54,680
Speaker 1: traumatic black syndrome or whatever. Remember we talked about it like.

559
00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:58,240
Speaker 2: A racial just fatigue syndrome. Fatigue.

560
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I saw it and I just like, not

561
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:02,399
Speaker 1: right now. I just not right now.

562
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Speaker 2: Well, I wanted to chat about I feel like I

563
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 2: I've never had a problem getting an Airbnb. But then again,

564
00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:12,480
Speaker 2: my name is Mandy and I look racially ambiguous, so

565
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 2: I don't have this issue. But yeah, a lot of

566
00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:17,440
Speaker 2: people had been like ranting about this on Twitter about

567
00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:19,920
Speaker 2: how when you look when you're black, you look black

568
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 2: and you have a black sounding name. It's proven to

569
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Speaker 2: be harder to get approved for an Airbnb reservation because

570
00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:30,120
Speaker 2: you know, how you have your profile picture and it's

571
00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:32,399
Speaker 2: you know, a human being on the other end, and

572
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 2: they're more likely to deny people who are black. And

573
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Speaker 2: that was highly depressing to me. And it turns out

574
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:41,199
Speaker 2: a lot of black people have experiences and they've started

575
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Speaker 2: doing things like changing their picture to like a landscape

576
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 2: or something random or you know. Oh, there was one

577
00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:49,720
Speaker 2: woman I forget her, I forget her full name, but

578
00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:51,800
Speaker 2: she changed it to Tina, which is like a shortened

579
00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:54,720
Speaker 2: version of her name okay to sound a little less black,

580
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Speaker 2: and she said that helped, And that is crazy, right right,

581
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:02,840
Speaker 2: It's just you know what, it's not so crazy when

582
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:04,879
Speaker 2: you think about it, because the studies show that, you know,

583
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:06,840
Speaker 2: if you have a black sounding name and you your

584
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 2: resumes and the pile with the white persons and you'll

585
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:12,199
Speaker 2: be less likely to get a call back. But what

586
00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:14,440
Speaker 2: I thought was good, Oh, I know where I heard

587
00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:18,400
Speaker 2: about this. It was on the podcast Hidden Brain, which

588
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:20,560
Speaker 2: is by NBR and PR. It's kind of about how

589
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:23,080
Speaker 2: you know, the different things in psychology that effect our lives.

590
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Speaker 2: So they were talking about the bias, the bias that's

591
00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:31,200
Speaker 2: involved when you are Airbnb host and deciding who to

592
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Speaker 2: to host or not. And but what I thought was

593
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Speaker 2: good was that Airbnb has actually made taken steps to

594
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Speaker 2: like try and fix this, and they've had like so

595
00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:43,360
Speaker 2: apparently if you host a lot, you're like an Airbnb

596
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Speaker 2: I don't know, like p or something like that. You

597
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 2: get some sort of like credit, some sort of status,

598
00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:52,960
Speaker 2: and they will send you like bias training and they've

599
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,240
Speaker 2: been invited people to come to their office and learn

600
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Speaker 2: how to be a more a less biased they make

601
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Speaker 2: their decisions.

602
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:05,439
Speaker 1: Wow, I mean, like I said, I'm not shocked, but

603
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 1: I'm just disappointed, you know. Yeah, yeah, it's just but

604
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:12,200
Speaker 1: it's like getting a cab. It's like, you know, that's

605
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:14,679
Speaker 1: why Uber was so important, because people were actually able

606
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 1: and even then, I'm sure because you know, with Uber,

607
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:17,680
Speaker 1: you see people's faces if they put.

608
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:19,640
Speaker 2: Him up up same yeah, same deal.

609
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:22,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, but at least it's easier than like a cab.

610
00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:24,159
Speaker 1: Like I mean, honestly, I remember I was in a

611
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 1: cab once and like I was asking the guy to

612
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Speaker 1: like I was, I wanted to go to like New

613
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Speaker 1: York Hospitals some of place. I was very obvious, like, and

614
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 1: I was, you know, giving him the address, and he

615
00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 1: was so I didn't know the address. I was just like,

616
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:39,920
Speaker 1: well new York Hospital, Like isn't that a car? I

617
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:41,439
Speaker 1: don't know. So I was like, well, let me call

618
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 1: my boyfriend and ask. And he said something like just

619
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 1: just some racial slur and I was like what and

620
00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 1: he said something like, you know, you black people never

621
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Speaker 1: know where you want to go. And I was like, oh, yeah,

622
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:53,960
Speaker 1: this is right in front of like Penn station and

623
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Speaker 1: I didn't even know. I was so furious, so I

624
00:27:57,280 --> 00:27:59,359
Speaker 1: like took a picture of his like you know, like

625
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 1: cab license whatever. And I got out and I'm not

626
00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 1: gonna lie. I slammed the door so hard. I'm so

627
00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 1: shocked at the that the the glass did and brake.

628
00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 1: And then I jumped in front of his cab, which

629
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:10,639
Speaker 1: is just crazy because I was just so livid. And

630
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:12,639
Speaker 1: I took a picture of his license plate and then

631
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 1: of him and he looked at me like, oh snap.

632
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:16,280
Speaker 1: I mean I didn't even do anything with it, but

633
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:17,919
Speaker 1: I just wanted him to be up the sweat it

634
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 1: out all day. Good for you, I know. And then

635
00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 1: the you know how like in front of him station

636
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:25,480
Speaker 1: they have like the cab but like the guy the

637
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 1: cab kind of sore. I don't know. I don't know,

638
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 1: the guy that kind of like will put you in

639
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 1: a cab like next up. So he's like what happened?

640
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:33,960
Speaker 1: And I told him and he was just like what

641
00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:36,600
Speaker 1: He's like, make sure you report him. I just I didn't,

642
00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:38,720
Speaker 1: just because I was like, girl, I gotta go. But

643
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 1: I just remember thinking like what in twenty sixteen. But

644
00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, yeah, twenty sixteen, it'll.

645
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 2: Never It'll never end. I mean, yeah, people will always

646
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 2: be a little racist. Yeah, some people will always be

647
00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:52,880
Speaker 2: a little bit of racist, a lot.

648
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:55,400
Speaker 1: Of bit racist, exactly. I think what always shocks me

649
00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 1: is when someone straight out just is like he doesn't

650
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:02,240
Speaker 1: what you're like cause you're not used to it. I

651
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:04,240
Speaker 1: think I was like nineteen, I was working at Daly's

652
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 1: and like, this guy was such a jerk, and I

653
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:09,480
Speaker 1: was you know how Mandy gets such bad energy. I

654
00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 1: was afraid of him. I didn't know him, but he'd

655
00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:14,680
Speaker 1: come in with his wife who looked like afraid of him,

656
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 1: like she was afraid of him. They had like two kids,

657
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:18,800
Speaker 1: and I was like at Dalley's of the sports club,

658
00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 1: and they were coming to take a tour, and so

659
00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 1: their kids were playing on the machine and their kids

660
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 1: had to be like five and six, and I'm like,

661
00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 1: they're not allowed to obviously, for like you know, legal reasons.

662
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:29,719
Speaker 1: And so I was telling the wife like, you know,

663
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 1: we have a daycare center in the back if you

664
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 1: want to leave the kids while you take a tour,

665
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:34,960
Speaker 1: and she was looking at me like, oh God, don't

666
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:37,320
Speaker 1: speak to me. Like I was like, oh God. So

667
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 1: I had to look at the dude, and my managers

668
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 1: looking at me like Tiffany, you know the rules you

669
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 1: gotta let him know. But something in me was afraid

670
00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:45,840
Speaker 1: because just his energy was so I don't know, nasty.

671
00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:47,600
Speaker 1: So I said, excuse me, sir, excuse me. I had

672
00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:50,040
Speaker 1: to be likenen. And he looked at me, like what.

673
00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:51,840
Speaker 1: And I was like, you know, your kids can't play

674
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:53,560
Speaker 1: on the machine, but we do have a daycare center

675
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:56,000
Speaker 1: and it's totally free while you take your tour. And

676
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 1: he said, I can't remember everything. And he said, but

677
00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 1: basically like, don't talk to me. And he he said,

678
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:02,160
Speaker 1: and I'm want to say the N word because it

679
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:05,440
Speaker 1: was so visceral. He was like, what are you talking about? Nigger?

680
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 1: I couldn't believe it. It was so and he said,

681
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 1: it's so I had never even heard it, said like

682
00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 1: I felt like I was in like a movie from

683
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:17,960
Speaker 1: nineteen sixty five. And I was like, what I was nineteen.

684
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:19,880
Speaker 1: I'm thirty six now, so this is like what I

685
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:22,720
Speaker 1: don't know, two thousand and nine or something like that.

686
00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:25,320
Speaker 1: I don't know, no, no, not for all. That's like yeah,

687
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 1: two guys like look at me, my masks. But it

688
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 1: was so, he said, I could I had never and

689
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:34,640
Speaker 1: no one ever in my life had ever called me

690
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 1: that to my face, like you know, maybe behind your

691
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:39,959
Speaker 1: back or maybe they whispered or whatever, but never like

692
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 1: to my face. And I remember just being frozen, like

693
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:46,840
Speaker 1: what what's happening? And I remember like my manager everybody

694
00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:48,600
Speaker 1: kind of came out and you're like, shure, sure, you

695
00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 1: have to get out, get out, leave, and he was continuing,

696
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:52,120
Speaker 1: like you know, to cursh me out and like throw

697
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:54,320
Speaker 1: racial slurs or whatever. I was so shy. I didn't

698
00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 1: even know what to do. And you could tell everyone

699
00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:59,040
Speaker 1: was so nervous because I work with like mostly white staff,

700
00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:01,560
Speaker 1: and they were like looking at me to figure out,

701
00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 1: like what was I gonna do. I didn't even know

702
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 1: what to do because that never happened, and they're like,

703
00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:09,040
Speaker 1: are you Okaytivity? I was like, yeah, I guess. I

704
00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 1: didn't know if I should cry. I just was literally

705
00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:13,560
Speaker 1: in a state of shock. I just just remember thinking

706
00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:15,680
Speaker 1: like this guy just called me like the N word

707
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:18,360
Speaker 1: in front of the whole gem super like. I just

708
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:20,600
Speaker 1: and to this day, I never forgot it. And I

709
00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 1: just remember him dragging her to the car and I

710
00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 1: just remember thinking to myself that bigger than him calling

711
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,920
Speaker 1: me the N word, he looked very violent, and I

712
00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:31,400
Speaker 1: just got the feeling that like he beat her, just

713
00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:33,080
Speaker 1: the way he was like man handling her and the

714
00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 1: way he was speaking to her, the way he spoke

715
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 1: to me, and that she was gonna get it later.

716
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 1: And I just remember feeling sorry for her more so

717
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:39,600
Speaker 1: than myself, cause I'm like, I don't have to go

718
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:42,000
Speaker 1: home with him. But I just remember thinking like, damn,

719
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:45,000
Speaker 1: this is who she's with and this is what she

720
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:47,480
Speaker 1: has to go home to, and so I'm like to

721
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:49,800
Speaker 1: deal with that. Yeah, but I'm like, girl, bye, he's

722
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 1: a fool. And besides, I was like there was one

723
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:56,000
Speaker 1: like we always have, like you had the jenders, like

724
00:31:56,120 --> 00:32:00,240
Speaker 1: personal trainers. What the personal trainer he was huge, came

725
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 1: out was like what was said? The dude looked was

726
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 1: like I gotta go. And so I was like Johnny,

727
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:08,479
Speaker 1: from now on, when dangerous looking guys come up here

728
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:19,720
Speaker 1: and you have to stay next to me. So I

729
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 1: just want to thank everybody. Brown break, the brown break

730
00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 1: I took last week. I think it was like my hair,

731
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 1: oh man, Yes. And so people recommended this woman named

732
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 1: ches Cilee cheskile I, ches Cilly Locks or something like that. Anyway,

733
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 1: she's got a great YouTube channel and it did help

734
00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:41,480
Speaker 1: me get like some hairstyles. But so I'm going to

735
00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 1: reach out to our BA podcast listeners again. I have

736
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 1: been breaking out like crazy, Mandy. I don't know why

737
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:49,480
Speaker 1: I never break out. Even as a teenager, I didn't

738
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 1: have bad skin, and now I'm like breaking out. I

739
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:55,520
Speaker 1: don't know if it's because I'm working out so much

740
00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:57,640
Speaker 1: and it's like the sweat, but I've been breaking out

741
00:32:57,680 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 1: and I'm like, ah, I need something. What do people

742
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:00,720
Speaker 1: use for all acne?

743
00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:02,760
Speaker 2: Birth control?

744
00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:05,960
Speaker 1: I don't want to think I hate those steaking pills.

745
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 2: Oh really, Oh that's a that's the best thing I

746
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 2: did for my skin. Really, No dairy and birth control.

747
00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:15,120
Speaker 2: It's free. It's freer than face wash. Thank you Obamacare.

748
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:18,280
Speaker 1: Oh that's true, right. I don't but I don't want

749
00:33:18,280 --> 00:33:19,480
Speaker 1: to be on birth control because you know, we talking

750
00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 1: about this baby stuff. I'm like, no, I actually want

751
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:21,720
Speaker 1: to have one.

752
00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 2: Oh okay, Oh, but well then there you go. You're

753
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:28,120
Speaker 2: gonna have acne. You know, one of my girlfriends said

754
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 2: getting pregnant was the best thing that happened to her skin.

755
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:32,640
Speaker 2: I don't know if that happens across the board. Your homones,

756
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 2: your hormones were like all over the place.

757
00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:36,560
Speaker 1: Sure, go either way, but I'm just like, so I

758
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:39,959
Speaker 1: actually ordered the du Proactive.

759
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:42,120
Speaker 2: No way, that is so two thousands.

760
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:44,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, I couldn't believe. I didn't know what

761
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 1: else to do, and I'm like, I was like, you

762
00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 1: know what, I'm gonnacause I tried it once. I think

763
00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:50,680
Speaker 1: when I was like nineteen, once I was like breaking out.

764
00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 1: I tried it for a few months and it worked

765
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 1: and I went back to my normal skin. And so

766
00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:58,280
Speaker 1: my bron break is this damn acne, And so I

767
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:00,240
Speaker 1: ordered Proactive. It should be here today. I'm going to

768
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:02,240
Speaker 1: try it for a week or two. I'm hoping that

769
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 1: I'll get my luscious skinn back, because I'm used to

770
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:07,840
Speaker 1: like just having you know, decent skin. My skin's not amazing,

771
00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:09,560
Speaker 1: but I don't break out unless it's that time of

772
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:12,560
Speaker 1: the month. And honestly, like not just my face, but

773
00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:14,360
Speaker 1: like my chest, my back. And I'm like, Okay, I

774
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:16,800
Speaker 1: think it is because I've been working out like crazy

775
00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:20,440
Speaker 1: and maybe I'm just like sweating up a storm. And

776
00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:22,319
Speaker 1: but when I come home, I take a shower right away,

777
00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:24,080
Speaker 1: So I don't know, do I need to like wash

778
00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 1: my face at the gym. I don't know, Well, you.

779
00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:29,960
Speaker 2: Can always use I use little wipes that reach may

780
00:34:30,040 --> 00:34:33,960
Speaker 2: workout like right away, Oh, sensitive skin wipes like birds

781
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 2: Bees or Loreel has a sensitive skin wipes because my

782
00:34:37,200 --> 00:34:40,200
Speaker 2: skin gets really easily irritated. So I get the sensitive ones.

783
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:42,800
Speaker 2: I'm simple has wipes. Just use those real quick.

784
00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:46,359
Speaker 1: That's true, Okay, Sae, look at that. Meanwhile, I order proactive. Okay,

785
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:47,799
Speaker 1: what do I see you? For? Like?

786
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:48,640
Speaker 2: Zero? Do one hundred?

787
00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 1: Now on that time, I'm like, oh my god, everything's wrong.

788
00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:54,560
Speaker 1: I'm ordering a whole new like I'm always ordering something.

789
00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 1: But I'm still gonna try because I'm hoping that like

790
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,640
Speaker 1: because I you know, when you're I have really brown,

791
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 1: you know, highly pigmented skin, and so I scar easily.

792
00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:06,040
Speaker 1: So I'm hoping that proactive will help to bring me

793
00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:09,040
Speaker 1: back to like bring me back to normal. So, yes,

794
00:35:09,239 --> 00:35:11,919
Speaker 1: my brown break is acne. I hate you go back

795
00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 1: to sixteen where you belong.

796
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:17,720
Speaker 2: Well, my brown break is gonna be quick. But since

797
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:19,960
Speaker 2: I have been fighting a cold the past few days,

798
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:22,960
Speaker 2: I was like at a commission all weekend, bad daughter,

799
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:25,200
Speaker 2: bad Mother's Day. I just didn't go to and I

800
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:27,080
Speaker 2: didn't even leave the house until this morning to come

801
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 2: to work. But like I told you, I feel like

802
00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:32,799
Speaker 2: people who there's all this pressure when you're sick to

803
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 2: like come to work and show a good face and

804
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:38,000
Speaker 2: you know, be there and like, oh it's so great,

805
00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:40,520
Speaker 2: and I'm sick. But I showed up at work today,

806
00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:42,359
Speaker 2: and you know those people who like make a big

807
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:44,840
Speaker 2: show of how sick they are and yet they still

808
00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:47,880
Speaker 2: came into work like a hero. I just want all

809
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 2: those people to stay home. They hate your ass home.

810
00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:53,919
Speaker 2: You're not a hero. No one likes you better because

811
00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:55,200
Speaker 2: you came to work. You're not going to get a

812
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:58,480
Speaker 2: raise because you showed up with pneumonia. It's not happening.

813
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:00,799
Speaker 2: All you do is make people but like me sick,

814
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 2: And I know exactly who got me sick. It was

815
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:05,880
Speaker 2: a chick on the train last Monday. I don't know

816
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:09,160
Speaker 2: how long it takes the cold to like present itself

817
00:36:09,160 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 2: in symptoms, but last Monday on the train, I sat

818
00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:13,279
Speaker 2: next to a girl and she was sniffling her face off,

819
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:16,360
Speaker 2: and she hacked on me and it landed on my sleeve.

820
00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:18,319
Speaker 2: And I tried to wait till I got to work

821
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 2: to like hand sanitize everything, but it was too late. Yeah,

822
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:27,239
Speaker 2: and I and especially with like public transportation in New

823
00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:30,319
Speaker 2: York City is disgusting. We're all upon each other. I

824
00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 2: saw a man, you know who you are, man wearing

825
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 2: a Hawaiian short sleeve shirt with greasy curly hair sneeze

826
00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:40,400
Speaker 2: on his hand when he was holding the pole like it.

827
00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 2: It's just I can't there's not enough hand sanitizer in

828
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:45,879
Speaker 2: the world. So I just want to take a brown

829
00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 2: break from people who try and be a hero and

830
00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:51,719
Speaker 2: come sick to the office. Just stay home, you know,

831
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:53,239
Speaker 2: work remotely. It's not a big deal.

832
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:57,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's They always tell you that. They're like, yeah,

833
00:36:57,440 --> 00:36:59,360
Speaker 1: nobody wants to get sick. Just e.

834
00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 2: It's un accordant. It's not that, it's not I stayed

835
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 2: home the whole week and I didn't even go yesterday

836
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:07,600
Speaker 2: Mother's Day. We were supposed to go visit fiance's mother.

837
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 2: I just you know, gave him money and I was like,

838
00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:11,960
Speaker 2: go get some nice flowers for her, and I gave

839
00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:13,880
Speaker 2: her a nice phone call and she was totally fine.

840
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:17,040
Speaker 1: It was okay, Yeah, nobody wants to get sick, nobody.

841
00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:19,320
Speaker 2: I'm not going to give her the cold a cold

842
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 2: for Mother's Day.

843
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:22,680
Speaker 1: Happy mother's say at you.

844
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:28,960
Speaker 2: That's under for today. This brown break is brought to

845
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 2: you by the makers of Kleenex.

846
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:39,799
Speaker 1: Yes and an Acti products and Alka Seltzer. I just

847
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:41,920
Speaker 1: want to be back there. I'm like why, I just

848
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 1: want to be snatched right. I can't work out. I

849
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 1: got my face breaking out.

850
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 2: If you don't want breake control, I don't know what

851
00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 2: to do for you.

852
00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:54,839
Speaker 1: And I'm like, no, I'm trying to have this baby.

853
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:58,359
Speaker 1: I'm just wait, just you wait a couple months. I'm

854
00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 1: gonna be like, maydie, do you bet to be an azzi?

855
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:03,280
Speaker 2: Oh? Well, maybe be so excited?

856
00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 1: So did you have any wins for this week?

857
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 2: I actually do have a win for this week. Let

858
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:12,480
Speaker 2: me go back into my wind box. Oh so I haven't.

859
00:38:12,480 --> 00:38:14,120
Speaker 2: I don't think I've announced this to you or to

860
00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:17,360
Speaker 2: anybody else, but I made we made me and my

861
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 2: fiance kind of a huge personal decision this week too,

862
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:24,080
Speaker 2: not this week, this month, and that at the end

863
00:38:24,160 --> 00:38:26,400
Speaker 2: of the month. We've been talking about this for a while,

864
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:28,640
Speaker 2: like but like just funny ha ha and not really

865
00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:31,400
Speaker 2: serious and lately just about wanting to buy a house.

866
00:38:31,520 --> 00:38:33,880
Speaker 2: Like we you know, we've always wanted to buy a house.

867
00:38:35,120 --> 00:38:36,720
Speaker 2: It's sort of just been like one of those crazy

868
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:39,840
Speaker 2: ambitions kind of like winning the lottery or you know,

869
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:42,160
Speaker 2: striking gold in the backyard. Like you want to buy

870
00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:44,080
Speaker 2: a house, but you also live in New York and

871
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 2: you just know that's not possible if you continue to

872
00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 2: pay you know, a quarridor of your rent every month,

873
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 2: a quarter of your income and rent every month, it's

874
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:54,480
Speaker 2: just not possible. So we were talking kind of about it,

875
00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 2: and we're both like, you know what, we should just

876
00:38:57,000 --> 00:38:59,360
Speaker 2: like move him with your parents and just say what

877
00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:01,839
Speaker 2: we're spending on rent. Wouldn't that be smart? And we're like, ah,

878
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:07,680
Speaker 2: that's hilarious. We never do that. Wait a minute, So

879
00:39:07,880 --> 00:39:09,799
Speaker 2: we really started to be really thought about it, and

880
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:11,799
Speaker 2: we decided at the beginning of this month that we

881
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 2: are going to move in with his parents.

882
00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 1: Yay.

883
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:19,400
Speaker 2: I know everyone's been like really excited.

884
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:22,440
Speaker 1: I know why because it's like part of me is like, oh,

885
00:39:22,480 --> 00:39:24,279
Speaker 1: that's awesome because you're gonna be able to save a time,

886
00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 1: and then you're like, ooh, how's that gonna go? Right?

887
00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:30,120
Speaker 2: Yeah exactly, And like I said, we've talked, we've always

888
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:32,480
Speaker 2: like brought this idea up in the past, kind of

889
00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 2: like as a joke, but you know, the real the

890
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 2: realer it gets the closer we get to getting married.

891
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 2: You know, I was thinking, we only have our so

892
00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:42,120
Speaker 2: we're getting married next to April. And I'm like, if

893
00:39:42,160 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 2: we're gonna take a year or a little less than

894
00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:46,680
Speaker 2: a year to live with your parents, this is the

895
00:39:46,719 --> 00:39:48,000
Speaker 2: time to do it, because I don't want to do

896
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:50,799
Speaker 2: it when we're married. Yeah, and you know, if we

897
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 2: really want to buy a place next year, this is

898
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 2: the only way we're gonna be able to afford it

899
00:39:54,280 --> 00:39:56,600
Speaker 2: if we have this. You know, we're spending over two

900
00:39:56,640 --> 00:40:00,160
Speaker 2: thousand dollars a month on rent, so if we take

901
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:02,880
Speaker 2: ten months off, that's not even including what we're already saving,

902
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:06,000
Speaker 2: which is I think pretty aggressive. So we just take

903
00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:08,880
Speaker 2: this ten months, and you know, luckily we have the

904
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:11,719
Speaker 2: I feel like we also are lucky in that we

905
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:15,080
Speaker 2: actually have the opportunity. Not many people have parents who

906
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 2: have two spare bedrooms and love us to pieces and

907
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:21,520
Speaker 2: want us to live with them. His mom is like,

908
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:23,319
Speaker 2: you can stay forever.

909
00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:28,000
Speaker 1: But honestly, you are really fortunate. And I you know,

910
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:29,920
Speaker 1: the budget, he said me, is like do it. You know,

911
00:40:29,960 --> 00:40:31,719
Speaker 1: I moved back home when I was thirty to like

912
00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:35,239
Speaker 1: get myself together, and I'm not. Everyone, like you said,

913
00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:37,319
Speaker 1: has family that they can move in with and not

914
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:40,440
Speaker 1: have to pay. So if you have that opportunity, totally

915
00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:42,359
Speaker 1: take advantage of it. I mean, you know, we don't

916
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 1: have parents that can give us a million dollars small

917
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 1: business loan, mister Trump, But we do have parents who

918
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:49,839
Speaker 1: are like, hey, I have a spirit bedroom, which is awesome, and.

919
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:51,399
Speaker 2: We'll be helping with you. We haven't like worked out

920
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:53,759
Speaker 2: the math, but we'll definitely be helping with utilities. They

921
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:57,319
Speaker 2: live in a rent control department, so they already are

922
00:40:57,440 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 2: paying so much less than when anyone else is paying.

923
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:01,840
Speaker 2: And you know, we worked out some we're gonna have

924
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:05,760
Speaker 2: to set some ground rules on like you know, Mandy

925
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 2: will be able to cook for herself sometimes.

926
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 1: You know, his mom's like the queen of the kitchen,

927
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 1: of course, and I'm sure she knocks it down.

928
00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:16,760
Speaker 2: You know she does. But when Mandy doesn't want autos

929
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 2: compoyo every night, maybe Mandy wants like a salad. And

930
00:41:20,560 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 2: you know, we'll have these roles in our bylaws house.

931
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 1: But I think honestly that it's an excellent idea because,

932
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:29,040
Speaker 1: like you said, this is a perfect time to do it.

933
00:41:29,040 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 1: It's gonna be you know, relatively short time and you're

934
00:41:32,960 --> 00:41:36,200
Speaker 1: coupleedom to spend with them, and she'll always remember that

935
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 1: and it'll be something that you keep as like a memory,

936
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:38,759
Speaker 1: you know.

937
00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:40,680
Speaker 2: Hopefully a good one it will be.

938
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 1: I mean, of course there's gonna be some time and

939
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:44,719
Speaker 1: you're just like, because that's just with anyone. But I

940
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:46,959
Speaker 1: look at my sister now. She was hesitant about moving

941
00:41:46,960 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 1: into the three family house, you know, with her mother

942
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:52,360
Speaker 1: in law. But she's just like, it's been such a

943
00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 1: blessing to be able to just like open the door

944
00:41:54,520 --> 00:41:56,280
Speaker 1: and walk upstairs and give her the baby.

945
00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:59,160
Speaker 2: You know, yeah, I bet that's what she hopes is

946
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:02,080
Speaker 2: gonna happen. She's like, I'm going to start doing praying

947
00:42:02,120 --> 00:42:05,800
Speaker 2: to Jesus, like to one of the many portraits of

948
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:09,200
Speaker 2: Jesus in their house. I'm just just praying to those these.

949
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 1: Little baby Jesus, tea Jesus, and grown man Jesus. I

950
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:14,120
Speaker 1: want you to make sure Mandy says here forever, so

951
00:42:14,120 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 1: that way my grandchild can always be within my sights.

952
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:21,440
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, precisely. That's going to be a big adjustment.

953
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:23,759
Speaker 2: We love The hardest part is leaving our apartment and

954
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:26,000
Speaker 2: leaving our neighborhood. We love it so much and we

955
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:28,759
Speaker 2: have so many good memories. It's where we got engaged,

956
00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 2: it's where we it was our first home together, it's

957
00:42:31,280 --> 00:42:33,080
Speaker 2: or you know, we've had a lot of our entire

958
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:35,040
Speaker 2: social life is in you know, where we live in

959
00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:37,319
Speaker 2: Queens and it's going to be sad to leave it,

960
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:40,040
Speaker 2: but I'm trying to focus on, like the future, just

961
00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 2: a little bit of pain for hopefully a lifetime of

962
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:46,080
Speaker 2: happiness and something we actually own that we can call

963
00:42:46,120 --> 00:42:50,360
Speaker 2: our own. So just pray for us. I'll update you

964
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 2: how it's all going well.

965
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 1: My win is. I just love how the President of

966
00:42:57,040 --> 00:43:00,879
Speaker 1: the United States is leaning into his blackness a little

967
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 1: bit more since he's like, I'm not to be out.

968
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:05,719
Speaker 1: So you know, first the fact that he closed like

969
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:07,480
Speaker 1: his uh what is the press dinner?

970
00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:10,120
Speaker 2: What was that called White House Correspondence dinner?

971
00:43:10,200 --> 00:43:13,239
Speaker 1: Yes, the White House Correspondence Dinner with Obama out Mike drop.

972
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:15,920
Speaker 1: That was amazing. But then this weekend he spoke at

973
00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 1: Howard University their commencements. He was a keynote speaker.

974
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:22,040
Speaker 2: And Howard watched the whole thing you did.

975
00:43:22,080 --> 00:43:24,440
Speaker 1: I didn't get a chance to. But you know, Howard,

976
00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:27,360
Speaker 1: for those of you who don't know, is an HSBCU.

977
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:29,800
Speaker 1: I always say that I can now basically a historically

978
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 1: black university, and it's like one of the best ones.

979
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 1: And just it was just great to see them hood him,

980
00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 1: to see the look of pride in his face when

981
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:42,520
Speaker 1: they were putting the hood on him, to see him

982
00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:46,799
Speaker 1: encourage the students in the audience to embrace their blackness.

983
00:43:47,400 --> 00:43:49,319
Speaker 1: And there's one funny part of the speech that I

984
00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 1: did see where he said, like, you know, you know,

985
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:55,080
Speaker 1: being black and successful does not equate to just being

986
00:43:55,080 --> 00:43:59,799
Speaker 1: an entertainer or like basically or an athlete. That you

987
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 1: can be like Shonda Rhyme, she owns Thursday Nights. You

988
00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:05,879
Speaker 1: could be like who else did he mention? He said

989
00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 1: you could be like, oh, it was somebody else. It

990
00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:10,799
Speaker 1: was Shonda Rhymes, somebody else. And he said you could

991
00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 1: be like the president, he's black, or something to that effect.

992
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:15,440
Speaker 1: That it was hilarious and I just thought it was

993
00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 1: just great to see that because I feel like the

994
00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 1: first term and then much of the second term, the

995
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:25,280
Speaker 1: president seems to shy away from just like talking directly

996
00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:30,239
Speaker 1: to people of color, you know, and I mean at times, yes,

997
00:44:30,320 --> 00:44:32,239
Speaker 1: but not to the to the extent that he is now.

998
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 1: And so it's just nice to see him, you know,

999
00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:38,280
Speaker 1: speaking at this historically black university and then encouraging people

1000
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:41,680
Speaker 1: to embrace your blackness and it's not a hindrance. It's

1001
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 1: something that you can use to make the world better.

1002
00:44:44,719 --> 00:44:46,239
Speaker 1: And so it was just nice. So that's really my

1003
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:47,000
Speaker 1: win for the week.

1004
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:48,920
Speaker 2: I thought the best part of his speech, and it

1005
00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 2: kind of is around the section that you're talking about,

1006
00:44:51,280 --> 00:44:54,120
Speaker 2: is when he was saying, you know what, going to

1007
00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:57,320
Speaker 2: college can be a black thing. Wanting to study engineering

1008
00:44:57,360 --> 00:44:58,920
Speaker 2: can be a black thing, you know, wanting to be

1009
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:00,920
Speaker 2: the next Shonda Rymes can be black thing. Reading a

1010
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:02,880
Speaker 2: lot can be a black thing, and there's not no

1011
00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:05,719
Speaker 2: shame in that. And I think like a lot of

1012
00:45:05,840 --> 00:45:07,840
Speaker 2: especially in my family, and I think I don't I

1013
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:09,360
Speaker 2: don't think I'm alone in this at all. When you

1014
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 2: are worried about getting educated and studying and doing well

1015
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 2: in school, you can you're like, oh, you're a punk.

1016
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 2: Oh you're trying to be white.

1017
00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:17,480
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.

1018
00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 2: Oh you're not real, You're not down. And that's the

1019
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:21,680
Speaker 2: kind of pressure you get and I thought it was

1020
00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:24,960
Speaker 2: a great message to tell this whole you know, thousands

1021
00:45:25,000 --> 00:45:28,240
Speaker 2: of these nerds to just graduated college that it's okay,

1022
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:30,480
Speaker 2: it's a black thing to be educated. I thought that

1023
00:45:30,520 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 2: was beautiful.

1024
00:45:32,000 --> 00:45:35,719
Speaker 1: Yeah. So I just realized we didn't do any We

1025
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:36,800
Speaker 1: didn't take any questions.

1026
00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:37,680
Speaker 2: We have none.

1027
00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:40,560
Speaker 1: Oh see, so y'all don't have no question. Yes you

1028
00:45:40,600 --> 00:45:45,719
Speaker 1: do because your message them to me. So instead of

1029
00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:48,160
Speaker 1: setting them to the budget, Lisa, send them to the

1030
00:45:48,200 --> 00:45:52,719
Speaker 1: BA podcast on Twitter, Ambition on Facebook, and what's the

1031
00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:53,399
Speaker 1: gmail again?

1032
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:56,840
Speaker 2: Is that the Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com.

1033
00:45:57,760 --> 00:46:00,319
Speaker 1: Okay, Yes, we'd love to get your questions. We can

1034
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:04,759
Speaker 1: answer them and get you straight and write and financially fit,

1035
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 1: fabulous and fly. Oh that's a nice little tagline.

1036
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:11,880
Speaker 2: On that note excellently to in the show.

1037
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:15,080
Speaker 1: Yes, so I will chat next week.

1038
00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:16,719
Speaker 2: Sniffle signing off.

1039
00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:20,359
Speaker 1: This is Pizza Face signing off.

1040
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:24,960
Speaker 2: If you're if you're six, stay home, Yes, stay home.

1041
00:46:24,880 --> 00:46:27,920
Speaker 1: And if you have any some home remedies for my face,

1042
00:46:28,520 --> 00:46:31,720
Speaker 1: Please feel free to tweet us at the BA podcast.

1043
00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 1: I would love, love, love to learn some more