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Speaker 1: All right, nephew, thank you. Subject, he moved on quickly
Speaker 1: and easily. Dear Steven Shirley, I dated a man for
Speaker 1: going on three years, and near the end of our relationship,
Speaker 1: he was very mean to me. I couldn't get him
Speaker 1: on the phone when he was out, and he would
Speaker 1: call me back when it was convenient for him. I
Speaker 1: could not ask him any questions without him getting mad.
Speaker 1: He had been staying with me day and night, but
Speaker 1: then he started staying at his own apartment a few
Speaker 1: nights here and there. He did not invite me over
Speaker 1: to stay with him. He had changed so much that
Speaker 1: I thought he was cheating. My brother would snoop on
Speaker 1: him and we found out that he was really at
Speaker 1: his house alone when he was not with me. After
Speaker 1: four months of his standoffish behavior, I suggested we break up.
Speaker 2: He didn't fight for our relationship.
Speaker 1: Instead, he said he needed a real break from me
Speaker 1: because I was nagging him and accusing him of stuff
Speaker 1: that he wasn't doing. We parted ways almost a year
Speaker 1: ago and we haven't talked to each other until yesterday.
Speaker 1: He called and said he had to tell me something
Speaker 1: and he wanted me to hear it from him. He
Speaker 1: said that he's having a baby with his new girlfriend
Speaker 1: and he's proposing to her soon. It's only been 11
Speaker 1: months since we broke up. I asked if he was
Speaker 1: dating her while he was dating me and he said no.
Speaker 1: He said he met her after I dumped him and
Speaker 1: they fell in love. He said instead of me giving
Speaker 1: him space when he needed it most, I chose to
Speaker 1: dump him. If he ever really loved me, why didn't
Speaker 1: he just tell me he needed space?
Speaker 4: He could have.
Speaker 1: How could he have moved on so quickly and easily? Well, because,
Speaker 1: you know, that's what.
Speaker 2: People do in life.
Speaker 1: They keep him moving. He said, I mean, it looked
Speaker 1: like he was ready anyway, if you ask me. You
Speaker 1: said he started being mean to you. He wouldn't take
Speaker 1: your calls and he didn't invite you over when he
Speaker 1: stayed at his own place away from you. So because
Speaker 1: of all that, you broke up with him.
Speaker 2: And guess what? You should have.
Speaker 1: He didn't fight for the relationship because, again, he was
Speaker 1: pretty much done. I don't care what he says about
Speaker 1: needing space. It was over for him, and he was
Speaker 1: ready to move on. It doesn't seem like you guys
Speaker 1: were happy anyway. You say you had trust issues, so
Speaker 1: that made you nag him and accuse him of cheating,
Speaker 1: which he said you did. But you nor your brother
Speaker 1: had any evidence of that. So after the breakup, he
Speaker 1: found someone else and he's starting a family with her.
Speaker 1: So guess what? It is time for you to let
Speaker 1: it go and move on. It's been a whole year.
Speaker 4: Tommy?
Speaker 5: You have actually gotten on my nerve just through this letter.
Speaker 5: So I know you were getting on his nerve. You
Speaker 5: have gotten on mine in a matter of two minutes.
Speaker 5: I'm tired of you myself. And so here's the problem.
Speaker 5: I think that you have not taken time to look
Speaker 5: at yourself.
Speaker 3: What are you doing?
Speaker 5: What are you doing and what are you doing wrong
Speaker 5: and why are you running? What made you run him
Speaker 5: off to the point where he did not want to
Speaker 5: be with you? You start seeing it. You start seeing
Speaker 5: the signs. He's sleeping here maybe two or three days
Speaker 5: a week. Most of the time, he's headed over to
Speaker 5: his house. He's not really with you anymore.
Speaker 3: It's you.
Speaker 5: What are you doing? And can you start pinpointing? Let's
Speaker 5: start backtracking and start seeing what... did you do that
Speaker 5: ran this man off to the point where you got
Speaker 5: your brother, not your brother, CSI, he over there trying
Speaker 5: to figure out what's going on with the man. Guess
Speaker 5: what he found out? He at home by himself. And
Speaker 5: what is he? He is at peace because you are
Speaker 5: not there. And you need to start trying to figure
Speaker 5: out about yourself. What am I doing that I am
Speaker 5: running this man off? It was the nagging. It was
Speaker 5: all the questions. It was all of this, all of that.
Speaker 5: You started seeing all the signs that he's snappy.
Speaker 3: What else is he? Stop.
Speaker 5: You got all these questions for him.
Speaker 3: You hit him up on the phone.
Speaker 2: He mean.
Speaker 5: Once a man starts being mean, he's tired.
Speaker 3: He's done.
Speaker 5: He is done with you. Now, me personally, he should
Speaker 5: have been done early and walked away from the relationship.
Speaker 5: He actually let it drag out a little longer, maybe
Speaker 5: to the point where you thought it still had possibility.
Speaker 5: And it's been gone. He was done a long time ago.
Speaker 5: He just held on to it for me.
Speaker 3: So now.
Speaker 5: Now he's at a point he's met somebody else 11
Speaker 5: months later. He's calling you back. I guess this is
Speaker 5: out of respect call. He wants you to hear from him.
Speaker 5: I found somebody. We got a baby on the way
Speaker 5: and I'm going to answer the mayor. So I'm letting
Speaker 5: you know that this is getting ready to happen. It
Speaker 5: is what it is, but I just wanted to be
Speaker 5: man enough to let you know from me.
Speaker 3: To you, this is what it is.
Speaker 5: What you're supposed to take away from this is what
Speaker 5: did I do that I drove a man away to
Speaker 5: the point where here it is less than a year later,
Speaker 5: he's about to get married and have a baby. What
Speaker 5: did I do that I lost a good man? And
Speaker 5: that's the part you got to start. You got to
Speaker 5: start working on yourself. Because there's something wrong with you.
Speaker 5: You're doing something. You nagged this man to death. And
Speaker 5: he was ready to get up away from you and
Speaker 5: find him somebody else that's not going to nag him.
Speaker 5: And that's all men want. We just want some peace.
Speaker 5: That's all a man wants.
Speaker 3: That's all. Just some peace. We want some peace, and
Speaker 3: we want a peace. You see what I'm saying? That's all.
Speaker 3: Give me a peace, and let me have some peace.
Speaker 3: That's all. And we fine.
Speaker 5: But the nagging, the questions, it just becomes a lot.
Speaker 5: Once your man just like, you're getting on his nerve.
Speaker 3: When you hear, what? You, uh, you, you, we at
Speaker 3: wit's end. Okay?
Speaker 5: Look, I have to tell you this right now. At
Speaker 5: this point of what I'm hearing in the letter, you
Speaker 5: are not ready to love.
Speaker 3: You're not.
Speaker 6: Okay?
Speaker 2: All right.
Speaker 3: We'll come back and let Junior get his point.
Speaker 2: Hang on, yeah.
Speaker 3: But from Tommy, you ain't ready to love.
Speaker 1: We'll have part two of the Strawberry Letter coming up.
Speaker 2: Today's title is... He moved on quickly and easily.
Speaker 1: We'll get back into it with Junior's response coming up
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Speaker 1: Time to recap today's Strawberry Letter. The subject is, he
Speaker 1: moved on quickly and easily. This is from a woman
Speaker 1: who had been dating a man for three years, and
Speaker 1: near the end of their relationship, she says, the man
Speaker 1: started being mean to her.
Speaker 2: He wouldn't answer her phone calls.
Speaker 1: He would go stay at his own place and wouldn't
Speaker 1: invite her over. He changed a lot, and she thought
Speaker 1: he was cheating. She had her brother to snoop on him,
Speaker 1: but her brother said that the man wasn't doing anything.
Speaker 1: He was at home by himself. So after that, she
Speaker 1: thought that... It would be a good idea for her
Speaker 1: and the man to break up after four months of
Speaker 1: him just being standoffish with her. She said he didn't
Speaker 1: fight for the relationship. He didn't fight for her. He
Speaker 1: said he needed a real break from her because she
Speaker 1: was nagging him and accusing him of stuff he wasn't doing.
Speaker 1: And she was questioning him a lot. So about this
Speaker 1: has been about a year. They parted ways about a
Speaker 1: year ago. And they haven't talked to each other in
Speaker 1: that whole year except for yesterday.
Speaker 2: All right.
Speaker 1: He called her and told her that he was having
Speaker 1: a baby with another woman and he was going to
Speaker 1: propose to her. And he didn't want her to hear
Speaker 1: it from anyone else but him. So now she's all
Speaker 1: upset because, you know. Why is he with this man?
Speaker 1: How could he move on so quickly? Why is he
Speaker 1: with this woman? How could he move on so quickly
Speaker 1: and easily? And why didn't he just tell her that.
Speaker 2: He needed space? And he didn't. And he's moved on
Speaker 2: and she can't get over it after almost a year. Junior,
Speaker 2: what you got?
Speaker 4: Everything you just said, sure. All the reasons why he's
Speaker 4: doing all these things. I'm going to tell you one thing.
Speaker 4: You said all this stuff, but this is what happens.
Speaker 3: The baby. The baby. What about the baby?
Speaker 7: A baby will make you standoffish because the baby keep crying.
Speaker 4: Don't matter, Shirley. He got a baby.
Speaker 3: The baby.
Speaker 2: That's it.
Speaker 4: All I hear is the baby.
Speaker 2: That's all you hear is the baby?
Speaker 4: Standoffish. Ain't been here four months. He won't talk. Babies.
Speaker 5: Babies.
Speaker 4: Make me try to tell you, I'm having a baby.
Speaker 4: I can't got time for you.
Speaker 3: I'm having a baby.
Speaker 5: A baby.
Speaker 2: So he's preparing for the baby?
Speaker 4: No, the man ain't slept. You know, Shirley, he didn't
Speaker 4: fall in love with the other woman. He fell asleep.
Speaker 4: That's what he felt.
Speaker 3: Asleep.
Speaker 4: He tired.
Speaker 2: And she got pregnant?
Speaker 4: She pregnant. He got to deal with all this. He
Speaker 4: ain't got time for you.
Speaker 2: And then walk around here.
Speaker 4: Carrying his baby.
Speaker 7: He can't talk to you. You sent your brother to
Speaker 7: the spa. Your brother said he ain't doing nothing. Because
Speaker 7: it's a baby.
Speaker 2: So you're blaming it on this little innocent baby?
Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, no, no. He had to make
Speaker 4: a baby. He made a baby with somebody else. It
Speaker 4: ain't you.
Speaker 3: The baby.
Speaker 4: Your brother went and saw he wasn't doing anything. He
Speaker 4: wasn't even out.
Speaker 5: Nothing.
Speaker 3: You know why?
Speaker 4: Because you can't be out and having a baby.
Speaker 2: You can't.
Speaker 3: You can't.
Speaker 4: He ain't got time. You think it's bad?
Speaker 7: Ask his friends. His best friends. They ain't seen him.
Speaker 7: You know why he ain't seen him? He having a baby.
Speaker 2: So what is he doing? What does that make him do?
Speaker 4: Well, you have kids, Shirley.
Speaker 7: What was he doing when you had a baby?
Speaker 4: Standing right there looking crazy.
Speaker 3: Can't say nothing. Carla, you had a baby before.
Speaker 4: Tasha's right there the whole time. Couldn't go nowhere.
Speaker 3: Where?
Speaker 5: I'm hungry.
Speaker 2: Having a baby.
Speaker 4: I'm hungry. Let me find you something to eat.
Speaker 2: But it's supposed to be a happy occasion, Junior. It's not.
Speaker 4: He having the baby. It's happy until the baby get here.
Speaker 4: This man didn't fall in love with you. This man
Speaker 4: fell asleep.
Speaker 7: I don't see nothing else in this.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, she's just upset because it seems like
Speaker 1: even though it's been a year to her, it was
Speaker 1: quick and it was.
Speaker 2: Easy for him to just move on.
Speaker 4: Do you know the day they broke up, Sherry?
Speaker 6: What?
Speaker 7: They broke up the day when he found out he
Speaker 7: was having a baby. He had to tell her, I
Speaker 7: got to go. I can't be in a relationship with you.
Speaker 4: I'm going to have a baby. That's the day they
Speaker 4: broke up. It was 60 days. How long ago?
Speaker 7: Like 11 months when he found out because he carried
Speaker 7: a baby for nine. So when he found out, the
Speaker 7: baby hit her. She said she broke up yesterday. Baby
Speaker 7: be here Tuesday.
Speaker 2: Next Tuesday.
Speaker 4: Baby be here next Tuesday.
Speaker 3: Baby's birthday.
Speaker 4: Baby birthday next Tuesday. Seven days, all he got left.
Speaker 2: Do the math.
Speaker 4: You can't help her. Just do the math. That's it.
Speaker 4: He's not that he don't want to be with you,
Speaker 4: but he fell in love with somebody. He didn't fall
Speaker 4: in love. He fell asleep, and she was hungry. That's
Speaker 4: all I got.
Speaker 3: I see what you're saying.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the baby just consumes you.
Speaker 4: You sent your brother to spy on somebody who having
Speaker 4: a baby. He can't do nothing. Of course that car
Speaker 4: in the driveway every night.
Speaker 6: He's going to try to make it work.
Speaker 2: He's trying. Well, he's going to propose to her. He's
Speaker 2: going to propose to the woman. He has to.
Speaker 5: The baby.
Speaker 7: The baby.
Speaker 4: The baby.
Speaker 3: That's it.
Speaker 2: Of course he's going to propose. Yeah, he's going to
Speaker 2: do the right thing.
Speaker 7: He ain't got no choice.
Speaker 4: He's tired. He ain't slept in months.
Speaker 2: Well, he's not carrying the baby.
Speaker 5: She is.
Speaker 4: He's so tired. He done been on food runs.
Speaker 7: He done bought all the colors for the room. He
Speaker 7: done put a crib together. He got a car seat now.
Speaker 4: He ain't never had none of this. You ask about
Speaker 4: what's wrong with him.
Speaker 5: Nothing.
Speaker 3: The baby.
Speaker 5: The baby.
Speaker 3: All right.
Speaker 2: Well, listen, thank you, guys.
Speaker 4: You can't get him back, the baby.
Speaker 2: Uh-uh. No, he's not coming back.
Speaker 4: That was appointments in the way.
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