Speaker 1: I am still like shocked at today's brand new second
Speaker 1: date update. I have never in my life felt like
Speaker 1: a worse person than when this.
Speaker 2: Guy revealed why he did what he did.
Speaker 3: No, like, dude, what is your deal? Pick up some cues? Yeah,
Speaker 3: oh wait.
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh wait, yeah, oh wait, oh wait. I would
Speaker 2: have instantly given him another date. Oh yeah, yeah, I
Speaker 2: feel for him. This is me every two weeks. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you.
Speaker 1: Gotta understand it just a second when we start this
Speaker 1: brand new second date update.
Speaker 2: But we always start with your comments because you're really
Speaker 2: the star of the show.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and the start today is Mari Koberman, who said,
Speaker 4: I love your Guys podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm fifteen and I'm definitely learning a little too much
Speaker 1: about this weird dating world.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you guys are hilarious to make me smile
Speaker 2: while I fall asleep. There you go. Well, good for you.
Speaker 1: He's not gonna date until he's twenty five. Now, yeah,
Speaker 1: we're gonna make maybe we're not helping the reason that
Speaker 1: people aren't dating it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, right, exactly. That is not a starting too young
Speaker 2: listening that's right. Yeah, all right, let's get your brand
Speaker 2: new second they started right now.
Speaker 3: The second date up date.
Speaker 4: Isn't it annoying when you're on the dating apps and
Speaker 4: you match with somebody and you can just talk to
Speaker 4: them right away.
Speaker 2: What isn't that what you want to know? It never happened,
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 4: I want to work for it. That's why I'm glad.
Speaker 4: On Bumble they added multiple steps in hoops you have
Speaker 4: to jump through first, where if you're a guy and
Speaker 4: you match with the girl first, the woman sends you
Speaker 4: a prompt question that the guy has to answer, and
Speaker 4: if she doesn't like your response to that, she could
Speaker 4: just ditch you.
Speaker 3: Right away without ever speaking a word.
Speaker 1: Do you I feel like you have to fill out
Speaker 1: full essay questions like you're back in high school English
Speaker 1: class all over again to get a date.
Speaker 4: We're not there yet, but I hope it gets to
Speaker 4: that person because I love writing essays.
Speaker 5: Theis ye.
Speaker 4: If she does like your answer, then she can approve
Speaker 4: and give the green light to.
Speaker 3: Actually message her.
Speaker 4: So if you get that prompt, then you're halfway there.
Speaker 4: And one of our listeners apparently got it recently. His
Speaker 4: name is Card with a K, So Card, congratulations, you
Speaker 4: got to answer a pre selected question.
Speaker 3: That must feel pretty good. Yeah, you did it.
Speaker 1: Buddy, is it too much details to know what her
Speaker 1: pre selected question was about?
Speaker 3: What was the question?
Speaker 5: So it was, what's the best piece of advice you've
Speaker 5: ever received?
Speaker 2: Oh gosh, oh serious? For sure? She was going to
Speaker 2: ask for your favorite pizza toppings. That's what I would
Speaker 2: have got.
Speaker 4: It is tricky how you answer that, cause if you're
Speaker 4: just sincere without being fun, then.
Speaker 3: You're gonna look very boring instead.
Speaker 4: But at the same time, if you're too fun and
Speaker 4: too silly, then it seems like you're not taking this serious,
Speaker 4: not going to call back.
Speaker 1: I would take my grandmother's vice, live and learn, die
Speaker 1: and forget it all.
Speaker 4: Boring Okay, boring and a little bit morbid if run
Speaker 4: So card, what did you answer to the prompt what's
Speaker 4: the best advice you ever got?
Speaker 5: So? I really thought about it, and I came up
Speaker 5: with three options because this girl is really cute and
Speaker 5: I didn't want to blow it.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, that's good.
Speaker 2: What did you do?
Speaker 3: Give us the other two before you tell us the winner?
Speaker 2: We're going deep.
Speaker 5: I want to know what the.
Speaker 3: Three options are so we can make sure you chose.
Speaker 2: You just writing down life advice for yourself? Is that
Speaker 2: what you're doing.
Speaker 3: We might here.
Speaker 5: My runner ups were put the cart back, people are watching.
Speaker 2: That's pretty good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay.
Speaker 5: My next one I was always be yourself unless you
Speaker 5: can be Beyonce.
Speaker 2: They yeah, that's definitely what it was like saying people
Speaker 2: put on.
Speaker 5: You didn't like that one, No, like maybe that's too
Speaker 5: silly and not answering it. So I wasn't sure.
Speaker 2: Okay, So what was the winner?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 5: So the one I went with was never date someone
Speaker 5: who claps when the plane lands.
Speaker 2: I think she must have liked it, right.
Speaker 5: She said she was going to update her profile and
Speaker 5: put it on hers and she did.
Speaker 3: Oh bro, that's extra. That's like personalizing her own.
Speaker 5: Thing for you. I was flattered. But the best part was,
Speaker 5: you know, it led to a date.
Speaker 3: So there you go.
Speaker 4: Okay, you made it over all the hurdles, through the
Speaker 4: obstacles and you got actual meet up with her.
Speaker 3: What did you do for your date?
Speaker 2: I was going to clap right there.
Speaker 4: Oh well, he's not going to talk to you if
Speaker 4: you did that, bro, what did you do for your date?
Speaker 5: Well, because of things beyond my control, I couldn't until
Speaker 5: super late, so I booked as a dinner reservation at
Speaker 5: nine point thirty nine thirty. She initially asked if I
Speaker 5: could go earlier, but I told her I couldn't, but
Speaker 5: I really wanted to buy her dinner and spend time
Speaker 5: with her and that one or over.
Speaker 3: Okay, oh okay?
Speaker 5: Was it?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 5: It went well. We were there for a long time
Speaker 5: past midnight.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, whoa good days.
Speaker 4: You must have really clicked for two and a half
Speaker 4: hours at dinner. What time does the restaurant even close?
Speaker 3: That's a long dinner. It's really long.
Speaker 5: It was supposed to close at eleven, but we asked
Speaker 5: if we could hang there while they like shut stuff down,
Speaker 5: and they let us.
Speaker 2: That's actually like, that's actually a rude thing. It's so bad.
Speaker 4: I thought I would take that as a compliment if
Speaker 4: I worked in the restaurant.
Speaker 3: To be like, well, they love us so much they
Speaker 3: want to stick around beyond.
Speaker 2: I stay here for you. Oh goodness.
Speaker 5: I don't think they were too bothered by it, because
Speaker 5: they still had the clean up and stuff and rolling silverware.
Speaker 3: They're sweeping.
Speaker 2: You haven't worked any You better have tipped?
Speaker 5: Well, yeah, of course I did.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, restaurant aside like it sounds like it was
Speaker 1: going great with her.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, so how did the night end?
Speaker 5: It was a good night. I walked her to her
Speaker 5: car because we drove separately, and it was a quick kiss,
Speaker 5: not a long one.
Speaker 3: Okay, all right.
Speaker 5: So I'm seeing if I can take her out again.
Speaker 5: I even joked over said we could do a normal time.
Speaker 3: I'll put it up to eight thirty.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but us not responding, She's just not responding.
Speaker 1: Oh that's interesting. I mean, it seems like she was
Speaker 1: so invested. Just all of the hoops you had to
Speaker 1: jump through to even get the date, feels like she
Speaker 1: would have been all in.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I would think, but no dice.
Speaker 2: No dice.
Speaker 4: Okay, Well, don't sound so dejected on the phone right now.
Speaker 5: Carb.
Speaker 3: We haven't even called her and got the answer. There
Speaker 3: might be a total misunderstanding here.
Speaker 5: That's what I'm worried about. When you guys call people
Speaker 5: normally doesn't go well.
Speaker 1: Because we're always the last resort, you know, Yeah, and
Speaker 1: we only air.
Speaker 4: The craziest, worst one.
Speaker 3: So don't worry. Is this is the air's actually a
Speaker 3: bad thing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, hopefully this is so boring we never even put
Speaker 4: it on our actual show.
Speaker 3: That's the goal.
Speaker 4: We'll see what happens when we call Amy, We're gonna
Speaker 4: come back and try and get you a second.
Speaker 3: Date update super boring edition right after this.
Speaker 5: Thank you?
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, hold on man, second date update.
Speaker 4: In the story of Cinderella, you know her date with
Speaker 4: the prince is going well because she stays out with
Speaker 4: him till midnight.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I'm not not a girl, but in.
Speaker 4: This situation, our listener, Card with a K took his
Speaker 4: date Amy to a late dinner and they stayed past midnight.
Speaker 2: Despite the restaurant being closed.
Speaker 3: True, yes, a date you're like dancing?
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, but it is a good sign that they
Speaker 4: were out together for so long. And now is it
Speaker 4: possible her date accidentally left her glass stiletto behind and
Speaker 4: ended up bibbity bopping the waiter.
Speaker 3: Alec azooa mechica, dude, I get it.
Speaker 2: We don't change things happened.
Speaker 4: But no matter what, I am interested to hear how
Speaker 4: this modern day fairy tale ends as involved.
Speaker 3: We're gonna find out.
Speaker 4: I mean, maybe we could just ask Card Card, did
Speaker 4: you have a hot waiter?
Speaker 1: Uh?
Speaker 5: Not exceptionally?
Speaker 1: All right, Okay, that's good. You start intimidated by whoever
Speaker 1: your staff was was uber a pumpkin.
Speaker 2: That's a good question, ballet Jose.
Speaker 3: He said that they drove separately. I didn't need an answer, Jeff, No,
Speaker 3: it's not a we're checking off.
Speaker 4: Okay, let's just call this lovely lady Amy, okay.
Speaker 3: And hopefully she picks up and we get some answers
Speaker 3: out of her. You ready to do this? I was
Speaker 3: saying that to myself. I'm ready. Let's do it. Jeff,
Speaker 3: here we go.
Speaker 1: Hello.
Speaker 3: Hey is this Amy?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Hey? This is a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey
Speaker 3: in the Morning.
Speaker 4: Hi.
Speaker 5: Amy, Hi, what do you mean?
Speaker 4: Ok yeah, radio still exists. I know it's shocking, but
Speaker 4: we do a show. It's called Brook and Jeffrey. I
Speaker 4: think I already said that. And uh, this is a
Speaker 4: segment called Second Date Update.
Speaker 6: I'm sorry, I'm not telling rude, but why are you calling?
Speaker 2: Great question?
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's part of that segment, the second Date thing,
Speaker 4: because we're trying to help out one of our listeners
Speaker 4: that you went out with recently, a guy named Card.
Speaker 5: Oh my god?
Speaker 4: What?
Speaker 3: Sorry? Card?
Speaker 2: Did I just hear you go in?
Speaker 5: All right? That's my honest reaction.
Speaker 3: Oh no, oh well it's okay. Interesting if you feel
Speaker 3: that way. That's fine.
Speaker 4: It's just Card has reached out to our show because
Speaker 4: he's a little bit confused. Why after your date you're
Speaker 4: not responding to any of his texts or messages?
Speaker 6: Okay, oh you're laughing.
Speaker 2: Does that mean you think he should know?
Speaker 6: I mean, yeah, sure, okay, let's go.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll just tell you a few things that we
Speaker 4: know about your date is that it started pretty late.
Speaker 4: You were at a restaurant for like two and a
Speaker 4: half hours till like way past it even closed. True,
Speaker 4: he felt like the vibes were pretty good, so we're wait.
Speaker 1: There was even a cute little kiss he said at
Speaker 1: the end.
Speaker 3: Yeah, a little quick one.
Speaker 6: Yeah okay, okay, is that all accurate?
Speaker 5: Yes? Those are tracks?
Speaker 2: Well okay, so where did it go wrong?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Well, maybe just tell us how did you feel about
Speaker 3: the date?
Speaker 6: Okay, Well, first of all, we get there at nine thirty.
Speaker 6: I'm hungry. I've been waiting to eat, you know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh, you didn't have free dinner, but.
Speaker 6: I was fully expecting to eat when we got there.
Speaker 3: Totally, Okay, totally.
Speaker 6: The waiter kept coming over to take our order, and
Speaker 6: he kept telling him.
Speaker 5: We weren't ready yet.
Speaker 6: And I'm like visibly hungry. You're you're hungry, yes, yes,
Speaker 6: So we didn't actually get our food till like ten thirty.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I wouldn't even be able to see straight.
Speaker 2: If I was just sitting at that table.
Speaker 6: Yeah, around eleven, where are the last ones in the restaurant?
Speaker 6: And I'm like, it is time that Okay, So I
Speaker 6: I used to work in a restaurant. Okay, I have
Speaker 6: been a server, and it is absolutely mortifyingly embarrassing to me.
Speaker 6: If I'm with somebody who does not respect the fact
Speaker 6: that these people have their own lives. You need to
Speaker 6: go home.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4: Okay, Amy, We totally sympathized with that. That was not
Speaker 4: made clear to us from what we heard from Card.
Speaker 4: He felt like you were okay with staying later, and
Speaker 4: it was almost like the vibe was so good.
Speaker 3: The date just kept going and going.
Speaker 6: He said, it was good.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 6: When people are asking you to leave the restaurant, oh.
Speaker 3: Because it's such a romantic scene.
Speaker 4: They're like, oh, I can't look at this beautiful couple
Speaker 4: divorce and he's a yeah, seeing no way.
Speaker 1: It sounds like Card is maybe not very good at
Speaker 1: reading the room.
Speaker 6: He kept going on looked beyond Beyonce. It looked beyond beyond.
Speaker 6: Oh if you say, am beyond one more time? I
Speaker 6: swear that in.
Speaker 3: His defense, though maybe he just liked you spend more
Speaker 3: time with you.
Speaker 6: Now, there's something weird about it because around like eleven
Speaker 6: fifty five, they finally were like, you have to leave,
Speaker 6: and no uncertain terms. They weren't trying to be nice
Speaker 6: about it anymore. And this man looks at the server
Speaker 6: and looks at the bill, and he goes, I'm still
Speaker 6: looking over the bill.
Speaker 4: Oh no, that's financially responsible man.
Speaker 6: No way when I tell you I wanted to die.
Speaker 6: So around midnight we finally left, and it just seems
Speaker 6: really weird because we could have gone to another place.
Speaker 4: Okay, it sounds like it sounds like you have a
Speaker 4: lot of questions about why he was doing this and
Speaker 4: what was going on. The good news is we could
Speaker 4: just ask him directly, because Card is on the other
Speaker 4: right now wanting to talk to you.
Speaker 3: Very patient if you can't still have.
Speaker 6: Are you?
Speaker 5: But is it a bad thing that I liked the.
Speaker 2: Turn music off and the lights off?
Speaker 6: Okay, you know what, I'm sorry if i'd known that
Speaker 6: you were listening this whole time. I probably would have
Speaker 6: been a little nicer, but you know what, they were
Speaker 6: closing and you wouldn't leave, and it was weird, and
Speaker 6: I was one.
Speaker 5: To stay there and enjoy it with you.
Speaker 3: From the room. Okay.
Speaker 6: They brought up the bill before eleven, and you kept
Speaker 6: insisting on waiting more and more, and they were very
Speaker 6: clear they needed and you just you just kept finding
Speaker 6: reasons to I mean, what was going on, because it
Speaker 6: was really I don't know, it was really strange.
Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, Amy, I think you've said your your piece,
Speaker 4: so card do you have anything that you want to
Speaker 4: say to me in response to that?
Speaker 5: I was a little low on funds. The cell phone
Speaker 5: company I work for doesn't pay me till midnight on Friday.
Speaker 5: I used my debit card for the meal, and I
Speaker 5: wouldn't have gone through if I had paid earlier.
Speaker 3: Look, you feel bad for that. He didn't have money
Speaker 3: and he needed a way.
Speaker 5: To take her out. I don't feel bad.
Speaker 6: That's the dumbest I've ever heard you talking about it.
Speaker 3: Why did you just schedule it for a later date?
Speaker 3: What is wrong?
Speaker 6: What?
Speaker 5: I'm sorry?
Speaker 4: Okay, you didn't have the money in your account to
Speaker 4: pay the bill, So you're trying to stall until the
Speaker 4: pay until.
Speaker 2: I know, right when our paycheck comes through too.
Speaker 4: I feel okay, but like, well, okay, we understand that
Speaker 4: if you're paying like directly out of your account with
Speaker 4: a debit card, but like, why don't you do it
Speaker 4: on a credit card and then pay it later?
Speaker 5: I don't have a credit card.
Speaker 3: You don't have a credit card.
Speaker 5: No, I don't trust myself carry one.
Speaker 1: I think that's good financially, honestly, but they pre approve
Speaker 1: you for credit cards, even.
Speaker 2: A rich guy. That is such a privileged thing. You
Speaker 2: know you're doing right.
Speaker 1: That's a good financial choice, right, Amy, I mean that's responsible.
Speaker 3: Girl, serious card.
Speaker 4: You're not really saying a lot here. Is there any
Speaker 4: defense you want to make or anything you want to
Speaker 4: say to Amy?
Speaker 5: I mean, what else can I say? I told you
Speaker 5: guys what the deal was. I just tried to fall
Speaker 5: a little bit. I mean, at this point, I feel
Speaker 5: like it set us Cinderella. I got one of the
Speaker 5: wicked step sisters.
Speaker 2: Yeah, don't come at her.
Speaker 3: You know the step sisters are freaky though. Oh yeah, okay.
Speaker 2: I feel like Amy, you should give him another chance.
Speaker 2: I've always dated low fund guys at least.
Speaker 4: And if Brooke is willing to give a break to
Speaker 4: a poor man, then you should be willing.
Speaker 3: To do it. That's very character for her.
Speaker 4: So what do you think, Amy, One more chance and look,
Speaker 4: we'll take all the credit cards off the table, will
Speaker 4: pay for the date.
Speaker 2: Girl card needs to eat. You need to say yes to.
Speaker 6: This, Amy, all right, listen between the lack of consideration
Speaker 6: for the wait.
Speaker 5: Josh, that not just.
Speaker 6: And the bad and the no credit these red flags
Speaker 6: just waving man No, I thank you very much, guys,
Speaker 6: but no thank you.
Speaker 1: Oh I thought she was leading to it, Yes, I thought, okay,
Speaker 1: I thought she was going to run past the red.
Speaker 3: Flas all right, Well.
Speaker 1: That gives you something to work towards, you know, like
Speaker 1: a little more financial stability.
Speaker 3: The bullet. I'm Jeffrey in the morning. Brook, What I mean?
Speaker 3: Come on? I know you felt sorry for the guy.
Speaker 2: I felt terrible for him.
Speaker 3: But be honest with yourself.
Speaker 4: There is no way you would go on a date
Speaker 4: with a guy who is so bad with money he
Speaker 4: doesn't even trust himself with a credit card.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, absolutely I would. I had a first date
Speaker 1: with a boyfriend who we would do a burger joint
Speaker 1: because he had a free burger coupon.
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm not talking about your free and easy early
Speaker 4: twenties where you would tip the grocery baggers with a
Speaker 4: nude polaroid.
Speaker 3: I mean, these are adults looking at that.
Speaker 2: You look so cute in polaroids.
Speaker 3: It's just that I know that the perfect lighting in those.
Speaker 4: But remember, these are adults looking to lock down a
Speaker 4: healthy relationship with a stable guy. Dude.
Speaker 1: A guy who is willing to not get a credit
Speaker 1: card to avoid going into debt is a stable guy.
Speaker 1: And I really absolutely I stand by that.
Speaker 4: I thought Alexis had a good point where this guy
Speaker 4: with all this trouble because he still wanted to pay, said, hey,
Speaker 4: have you just loaned this I can venmo you in
Speaker 4: two hours. He's like, no, yes, I want to bring
Speaker 4: us down both into debt and then you can help
Speaker 4: pay us.
Speaker 3: Out of it. Sorry, I forgot what romance looks like.
Speaker 1: I mean, they said, the guy has never dealt with
Speaker 1: overdraft fees.
Speaker 3: I don't know. We can agree to disagree on this one.
Speaker 3: You've gotten under draft fees. Yeah, I have too much
Speaker 3: money in that account. It is a burden, but you
Speaker 3: know what.
Speaker 4: We weren't able to make it work for a card,
Speaker 4: but doesn't mean we can't help you out. You can
Speaker 4: always email the show. We'll call that person who's not
Speaker 4: calling you back. And go check out all of our
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