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Speaker 1: I am still like shocked at today's brand new second

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Speaker 1: a worse person than when this.

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Speaker 2: Guy revealed why he did what he did.

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Speaker 3: No, like, dude, what is your deal? Pick up some cues? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: oh wait.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh wait, yeah, oh wait, oh wait. I would

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Speaker 2: have instantly given him another date. Oh yeah, yeah, I

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Speaker 2: feel for him. This is me every two weeks. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you.

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Speaker 1: Gotta understand it just a second when we start this

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Speaker 1: brand new second date update.

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Speaker 2: But we always start with your comments because you're really

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Speaker 2: the star of the show.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and the start today is Mari Koberman, who said,

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Speaker 4: I love your Guys podcast.

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Speaker 1: I'm fifteen and I'm definitely learning a little too much

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Speaker 1: about this weird dating world.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but you guys are hilarious to make me smile

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Speaker 2: while I fall asleep. There you go. Well, good for you.

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Speaker 1: He's not gonna date until he's twenty five. Now, yeah,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna make maybe we're not helping the reason that

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Speaker 1: people aren't dating it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, right, exactly. That is not a starting too young

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Speaker 2: listening that's right. Yeah, all right, let's get your brand

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Speaker 2: new second they started right now.

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Speaker 3: The second date up date.

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Speaker 4: Isn't it annoying when you're on the dating apps and

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Speaker 2: What isn't that what you want to know? It never happened,

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 4: I want to work for it. That's why I'm glad.

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Speaker 4: On Bumble they added multiple steps in hoops you have

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Speaker 4: a prompt question that the guy has to answer, and

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Speaker 4: if she doesn't like your response to that, she could

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Speaker 3: Right away without ever speaking a word.

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Speaker 1: Do you I feel like you have to fill out

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Speaker 1: full essay questions like you're back in high school English

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Speaker 4: We're not there yet, but I hope it gets to

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Speaker 4: that person because I love writing essays.

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Speaker 5: Theis ye.

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Speaker 4: If she does like your answer, then she can approve

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Speaker 4: So if you get that prompt, then you're halfway there.

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Speaker 4: And one of our listeners apparently got it recently. His

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Speaker 4: name is Card with a K, So Card, congratulations, you

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Speaker 4: got to answer a pre selected question.

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Speaker 3: That must feel pretty good. Yeah, you did it.

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Speaker 1: Buddy, is it too much details to know what her

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Speaker 3: What was the question?

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Speaker 5: So it was, what's the best piece of advice you've

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Speaker 2: Oh gosh, oh serious? For sure? She was going to

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Speaker 2: ask for your favorite pizza toppings. That's what I would

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Speaker 4: It is tricky how you answer that, cause if you're

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Speaker 4: But at the same time, if you're too fun and

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Speaker 4: not going to call back.

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Speaker 1: I would take my grandmother's vice, live and learn, die

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Speaker 4: Boring Okay, boring and a little bit morbid if run

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Speaker 4: So card, what did you answer to the prompt what's

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Speaker 4: the best advice you ever got?

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Speaker 5: So? I really thought about it, and I came up

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Speaker 5: I didn't want to blow it.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, that's good.

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Speaker 2: What did you do?

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Speaker 3: Give us the other two before you tell us the winner?

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Speaker 2: We're going deep.

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Speaker 5: I want to know what the.

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Speaker 3: Three options are so we can make sure you chose.

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Speaker 2: You just writing down life advice for yourself? Is that

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Speaker 2: what you're doing.

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Speaker 3: We might here.

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Speaker 5: My runner ups were put the cart back, people are watching.

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Speaker 2: That's pretty good.

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Speaker 5: My next one I was always be yourself unless you

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Speaker 2: They yeah, that's definitely what it was like saying people

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Speaker 5: You didn't like that one, No, like maybe that's too

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Speaker 5: silly and not answering it. So I wasn't sure.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So what was the winner?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: So the one I went with was never date someone

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Speaker 2: I think she must have liked it, right.

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Speaker 5: She said she was going to update her profile and

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Speaker 3: Oh bro, that's extra. That's like personalizing her own.

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Speaker 5: Thing for you. I was flattered. But the best part was,

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Speaker 3: So there you go.

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Speaker 4: Okay, you made it over all the hurdles, through the

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Speaker 3: What did you do for your date?

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Speaker 2: I was going to clap right there.

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Speaker 4: Oh well, he's not going to talk to you if

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Speaker 4: you did that, bro, what did you do for your date?

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Speaker 5: Well, because of things beyond my control, I couldn't until

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Speaker 5: I really wanted to buy her dinner and spend time

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Speaker 3: Okay, oh okay?

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Speaker 5: Was it?

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Speaker 5: It went well. We were there for a long time

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, whoa good days.

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Speaker 4: You must have really clicked for two and a half

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Speaker 3: That's a long dinner. It's really long.

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Speaker 5: It was supposed to close at eleven, but we asked

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Speaker 4: I thought I would take that as a compliment if

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Speaker 3: To be like, well, they love us so much they

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Speaker 2: I stay here for you. Oh goodness.

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Speaker 5: I don't think they were too bothered by it, because

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Speaker 3: They're sweeping.

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Speaker 2: You haven't worked any You better have tipped?

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Speaker 5: Well, yeah, of course I did.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, restaurant aside like it sounds like it was

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, so how did the night end?

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Speaker 5: It was a good night. I walked her to her

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Speaker 5: not a long one.

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Speaker 3: Okay, all right.

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Speaker 5: So I'm seeing if I can take her out again.

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Speaker 5: I even joked over said we could do a normal time.

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Speaker 3: I'll put it up to eight thirty.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but us not responding, She's just not responding.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's interesting. I mean, it seems like she was

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I would think, but no dice.

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Speaker 2: No dice.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Well, don't sound so dejected on the phone right now.

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Speaker 5: Carb.

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Speaker 3: We haven't even called her and got the answer. There

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Speaker 3: might be a total misunderstanding here.

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Speaker 5: That's what I'm worried about. When you guys call people

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Speaker 5: normally doesn't go well.

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Speaker 1: Because we're always the last resort, you know, Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: we only air.

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Speaker 4: The craziest, worst one.

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Speaker 3: So don't worry. Is this is the air's actually a

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Speaker 4: Yeah, hopefully this is so boring we never even put

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Speaker 3: That's the goal.

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Speaker 4: We'll see what happens when we call Amy, We're gonna

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Speaker 4: come back and try and get you a second.

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Speaker 3: Date update super boring edition right after this.

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Speaker 5: Thank you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, hold on man, second date update.

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Speaker 4: In the story of Cinderella, you know her date with

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I'm not not a girl, but in.

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Speaker 4: This situation, our listener, Card with a K took his

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Speaker 4: date Amy to a late dinner and they stayed past midnight.

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Speaker 2: Despite the restaurant being closed.

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Speaker 3: True, yes, a date you're like dancing?

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Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, but it is a good sign that they

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Speaker 4: possible her date accidentally left her glass stiletto behind and

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Speaker 3: Alec azooa mechica, dude, I get it.

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Speaker 2: We don't change things happened.

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Speaker 4: But no matter what, I am interested to hear how

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Speaker 3: We're gonna find out.

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Speaker 4: I mean, maybe we could just ask Card Card, did

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Speaker 4: you have a hot waiter?

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Speaker 1: Uh?

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Speaker 5: Not exceptionally?

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Speaker 1: All right, Okay, that's good. You start intimidated by whoever

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Speaker 1: your staff was was uber a pumpkin.

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Speaker 2: That's a good question, ballet Jose.

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Speaker 3: He said that they drove separately. I didn't need an answer, Jeff, No,

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Speaker 3: it's not a we're checking off.

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Speaker 4: Okay, let's just call this lovely lady Amy, okay.

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Speaker 3: And hopefully she picks up and we get some answers

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Speaker 3: out of her. You ready to do this? I was

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Speaker 3: saying that to myself. I'm ready. Let's do it. Jeff,

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Speaker 3: here we go.

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Speaker 1: Hello.

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Speaker 3: Hey is this Amy?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Hey? This is a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey

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Speaker 3: in the Morning.

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Speaker 4: Hi.

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Speaker 5: Amy, Hi, what do you mean?

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Speaker 4: Ok yeah, radio still exists. I know it's shocking, but

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Speaker 4: we do a show. It's called Brook and Jeffrey. I

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Speaker 4: think I already said that. And uh, this is a

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Speaker 4: segment called Second Date Update.

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Speaker 6: I'm sorry, I'm not telling rude, but why are you calling?

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Speaker 2: Great question?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's part of that segment, the second Date thing,

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Speaker 4: because we're trying to help out one of our listeners

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Speaker 4: that you went out with recently, a guy named Card.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god?

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Speaker 4: What?

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Speaker 3: Sorry? Card?

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Speaker 2: Did I just hear you go in?

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Speaker 5: All right? That's my honest reaction.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, oh well it's okay. Interesting if you feel

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Speaker 3: that way. That's fine.

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Speaker 4: It's just Card has reached out to our show because

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Speaker 6: Okay, oh you're laughing.

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Speaker 2: Does that mean you think he should know?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll just tell you a few things that we

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Speaker 1: There was even a cute little kiss he said at

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Speaker 3: Yeah, a little quick one.

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Speaker 6: Yeah okay, okay, is that all accurate?

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Speaker 5: Yes? Those are tracks?

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Speaker 2: Well okay, so where did it go wrong?

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Speaker 3: Well, maybe just tell us how did you feel about

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Speaker 6: Okay, Well, first of all, we get there at nine thirty.

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Speaker 6: I'm hungry. I've been waiting to eat, you know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, oh, you didn't have free dinner, but.

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Speaker 6: I was fully expecting to eat when we got there.

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Speaker 3: Totally, Okay, totally.

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Speaker 6: The waiter kept coming over to take our order, and

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Speaker 5: We weren't ready yet.

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Speaker 6: And I'm like visibly hungry. You're you're hungry, yes, yes,

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Speaker 6: So we didn't actually get our food till like ten thirty.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I wouldn't even be able to see straight.

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Speaker 2: If I was just sitting at that table.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, around eleven, where are the last ones in the restaurant?

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Speaker 6: And I'm like, it is time that Okay, So I

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Speaker 6: If I'm with somebody who does not respect the fact

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Amy, We totally sympathized with that. That was not

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Speaker 3: The date just kept going and going.

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Speaker 6: He said, it was good.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: When people are asking you to leave the restaurant, oh.

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Speaker 3: Because it's such a romantic scene.

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Speaker 4: They're like, oh, I can't look at this beautiful couple

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Speaker 1: It sounds like Card is maybe not very good at

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Speaker 6: He kept going on looked beyond Beyonce. It looked beyond beyond.

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Speaker 6: Oh if you say, am beyond one more time? I

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Speaker 3: His defense, though maybe he just liked you spend more

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Speaker 6: Now, there's something weird about it because around like eleven

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Speaker 4: Oh no, that's financially responsible man.

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Speaker 6: No way when I tell you I wanted to die.

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Speaker 6: So around midnight we finally left, and it just seems

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Speaker 4: Okay, it sounds like it sounds like you have a

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Speaker 3: Very patient if you can't still have.

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Speaker 6: Are you?

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Speaker 5: But is it a bad thing that I liked the.

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Speaker 2: Turn music off and the lights off?

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Speaker 6: Okay, you know what, I'm sorry if i'd known that

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Speaker 5: To stay there and enjoy it with you.

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Speaker 3: From the room. Okay.

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Speaker 6: They brought up the bill before eleven, and you kept

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Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, Amy, I think you've said your your piece,

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Speaker 5: I was a little low on funds. The cell phone

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Speaker 5: company I work for doesn't pay me till midnight on Friday.

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Speaker 5: I used my debit card for the meal, and I

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Speaker 3: Look, you feel bad for that. He didn't have money

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Speaker 5: To take her out. I don't feel bad.

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Speaker 6: That's the dumbest I've ever heard you talking about it.

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Speaker 3: Why did you just schedule it for a later date?

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Speaker 3: What is wrong?

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Speaker 6: What?

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry?

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Speaker 4: Okay, you didn't have the money in your account to

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Speaker 2: I know, right when our paycheck comes through too.

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Speaker 4: I feel okay, but like, well, okay, we understand that

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Speaker 5: I don't have a credit card.

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Speaker 3: You don't have a credit card.

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Speaker 5: No, I don't trust myself carry one.

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Speaker 1: I think that's good financially, honestly, but they pre approve

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Speaker 1: you for credit cards, even.

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Speaker 2: A rich guy. That is such a privileged thing. You

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Speaker 1: That's a good financial choice, right, Amy, I mean that's responsible.

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Speaker 3: Girl, serious card.

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Speaker 4: You're not really saying a lot here. Is there any

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Speaker 5: I mean, what else can I say? I told you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, don't come at her.

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Speaker 3: You know the step sisters are freaky though. Oh yeah, okay.

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Speaker 2: I feel like Amy, you should give him another chance.

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Speaker 2: I've always dated low fund guys at least.

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Speaker 4: And if Brooke is willing to give a break to

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Speaker 3: To do it. That's very character for her.

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Speaker 4: So what do you think, Amy, One more chance and look,

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Speaker 4: we'll take all the credit cards off the table, will

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Speaker 4: pay for the date.

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Speaker 2: Girl card needs to eat. You need to say yes to.

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Speaker 6: This, Amy, all right, listen between the lack of consideration

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Speaker 5: Josh, that not just.

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Speaker 6: And the bad and the no credit these red flags

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Speaker 6: just waving man No, I thank you very much, guys,

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Speaker 6: but no thank you.

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Speaker 1: Oh I thought she was leading to it, Yes, I thought, okay,

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Speaker 3: Flas all right, Well.

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Speaker 1: That gives you something to work towards, you know, like

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Speaker 3: The bullet. I'm Jeffrey in the morning. Brook, What I mean?

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Speaker 3: Come on? I know you felt sorry for the guy.

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Speaker 2: I felt terrible for him.

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Speaker 3: But be honest with yourself.

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Speaker 4: There is no way you would go on a date

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Speaker 1: Oh yes, absolutely I would. I had a first date

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Speaker 4: Okay, I'm not talking about your free and easy early

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Speaker 4: twenties where you would tip the grocery baggers with a

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Speaker 3: I mean, these are adults looking at that.

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Speaker 2: You look so cute in polaroids.

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Speaker 3: It's just that I know that the perfect lighting in those.

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Speaker 4: But remember, these are adults looking to lock down a

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Speaker 1: A guy who is willing to not get a credit

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Speaker 1: And I really absolutely I stand by that.

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Speaker 4: I thought Alexis had a good point where this guy

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Speaker 3: Out of it. Sorry, I forgot what romance looks like.

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Speaker 1: I mean, they said, the guy has never dealt with

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Speaker 3: I don't know. We can agree to disagree on this one.

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Speaker 3: You've gotten under draft fees. Yeah, I have too much

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Speaker 3: money in that account. It is a burden, but you

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Speaker 4: We weren't able to make it work for a card,

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Speaker 4: but doesn't mean we can't help you out. You can

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Speaker 4: always email the show. We'll call that person who's not

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