WEBVTT - INTERVIEW: Monaleo and Stunna 4 Vegas On Breaking Generational Curses, Getting Married, Trauma, DaBaby + More 0:00:01.520 --> 0:00:06.360 Every day Up the Breakfast Club, y'all done. 0:00:07.520 --> 0:00:09.360 It's the World More Dangerous Morning Show, The Breakfast Club, 0:00:09.440 --> 0:00:11.959 Charlamade and the God just Hilarious. DJ Envy Envy had 0:00:12.000 --> 0:00:14.200 to step out, but ll Cool Bay Lauren Lorosa is 0:00:14.240 --> 0:00:17.479 here and we got some special guests. Man, Big Stunning 0:00:17.520 --> 0:00:19.919 for Vegas, Big Monola. What's happening? 0:00:19.960 --> 0:00:27.840 How y'all feeling? But I love your music. 0:00:28.600 --> 0:00:30.160 By the way, I can't pronounce the title of it either. 0:00:30.200 --> 0:00:36.360 I call it you Ain't Black, but I did study 0:00:36.440 --> 0:00:38.720 what it was though. Solarian is a I say, I'm 0:00:38.720 --> 0:00:40.159 saying solon. 0:00:40.320 --> 0:00:44.800 So it's a new way to describe Black America, Black 0:00:44.840 --> 0:00:49.720 America exactly. So it's like an interpretation of like black culture, 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:54.920 black history, and it relates to like descending slaves specifically. 0:00:56.040 --> 0:00:56.319 I love. 0:00:56.400 --> 0:00:57.000 So that's what the. 0:00:57.000 --> 0:01:02.920 Term I want to take. Congratulations on the wedding, the 0:01:03.000 --> 0:01:06.840 tie in, the not the baby, the family, everything. Congratulations King, 0:01:06.959 --> 0:01:10.720 I appreciate that. Yeah, and congratulations you too, beautiful all 0:01:10.760 --> 0:01:14.840 pink wedding. Ye, you agreed to it? Huh yeah, you 0:01:14.880 --> 0:01:17.959 said man, happy white, happy life. 0:01:19.959 --> 0:01:22.360 You didn't suggest agreed to it? 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:25.600 Okay, So that's obviously a favorite color. It's always extent 0:01:25.600 --> 0:01:27.360 sent and all your videos, I've seen everything. 0:01:27.840 --> 0:01:28.920 The only color that I wear. 0:01:29.120 --> 0:01:31.440 Okay, how did you get him. 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:34.360 To tell him? I was like, we can compromise if 0:01:34.400 --> 0:01:34.800 you want. 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:37.640 To do what you have to do all that you 0:01:37.680 --> 0:01:40.120 feel me. I was with it right right, you have 0:01:40.200 --> 0:01:41.080 to do all that you. 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:43.200 Just love but you you love us so much like 0:01:43.440 --> 0:01:44.240 I just give her. 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:46.000 But I love that. 0:01:46.920 --> 0:01:49.200 What made you finally want to want to settle down? Sir? 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:52.760 We're being settled down there just like we put it 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:56.280 on the internet just last month, being together like four 0:01:56.360 --> 0:01:59.160 years for sure. My first year of meeting her though, 0:01:59.160 --> 0:02:02.800 it was like kind of just taking a break, falling 0:02:02.840 --> 0:02:07.840 back from like the or whatever anything I was going through. 0:02:07.920 --> 0:02:11.760 She probably not, Probably she like helped me get through 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:18.640 whatever everything like a homeboy would, yeah experience that from 0:02:18.680 --> 0:02:19.200 no female. 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:22.200 You knew she was the one immediately, Like yeah, like 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:25.200 you like God told you, like, man, lock this one down. 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:27.959 And that black woman behind you, I know that's. 0:02:28.760 --> 0:02:29.919 How did you know he was the one? 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:32.000 Yeah? He was just already. 0:02:42.200 --> 0:02:43.960 That didn't That didn't mean that I knew he was 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:46.480 the one when I'm I just felt like he was 0:02:46.639 --> 0:02:49.480 very he was just as intentional as I was, and 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:52.040 I really appreciated that, and he took good care of 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:53.720 me the same way I wanted to take care of him. 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:56.079 So I feel like we were on the same page 0:02:56.120 --> 0:02:56.919 at the same time. 0:02:57.639 --> 0:02:58.160 I love that. 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:00.000 What was the beauty of keeping everything off the end? 0:03:00.480 --> 0:03:02.520 Like what did it was. 0:03:02.440 --> 0:03:05.280 On the internet. It's just like they chose to bite 0:03:05.320 --> 0:03:08.160 down when they did. We've been popping out though, Yeah, 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:09.760 we've been. 0:03:09.280 --> 0:03:12.840 But it's because just protecting our something that's personal to us. 0:03:12.880 --> 0:03:15.240 It's something that we care about and we love. So 0:03:15.320 --> 0:03:18.680 it was like protecting our relationship was super important. But 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:22.400 we both have supporters that have been with us on 0:03:22.440 --> 0:03:25.000 our journeys, so it was important to include them in 0:03:25.400 --> 0:03:28.080 these pivotal moments in our life, like the wedding. I 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:29.760 feel like that was a no brainer. Like so many 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:32.079 people support us and love us and have been rooting 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:33.840 for our union, so it was important for us to 0:03:33.960 --> 0:03:36.520 invite them virtually to the wedding. 0:03:36.800 --> 0:03:38.800 You had us crying, girl when you posted the moment 0:03:38.840 --> 0:03:41.880 with your dad. I was like, I literally was like, 0:03:41.960 --> 0:03:44.080 oh my God. And you talked about him going through 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:46.680 his cancer battle and getting to see you married, and 0:03:46.720 --> 0:03:49.640 like wow, like that was really emotional for me. So 0:03:50.200 --> 0:03:52.960 just speak to like kind of you know you because 0:03:52.960 --> 0:03:55.440 my mom is a stage four cancer survivor and one 0:03:55.480 --> 0:04:00.600 of the things that she's always asked me, it's. 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:03.200 All, why did you ask me that question? 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:04.560 Okay? 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:08.120 Hard thing is now is like she's like, I've been 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:09.600 sick before. I want to see you be able to 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:11.760 do things. I don't know if I'll be able to 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:14.960 be here tomorrow. So when you posted that, I was like, dang, 0:04:15.160 --> 0:04:18.159 like time is of the essence, Like it made me 0:04:18.200 --> 0:04:19.760 start thinking like, wow, I want my mom to be 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:21.840 able to see me get married and have kids. And 0:04:21.960 --> 0:04:23.640 you know, like it's I don't think people understand the 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:25.200 cancer battle, how scared it gets. 0:04:25.279 --> 0:04:25.920 Yeah, that's true. 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:28.000 Your mom will see you be successful before she sees 0:04:28.040 --> 0:04:34.800 you get. 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:35.599 When I when I when I saw your posts and 0:04:35.600 --> 0:04:37.440 I read the caption, it just really made me think 0:04:37.440 --> 0:04:40.000 because you know, when you know, parents are always trying. 0:04:39.880 --> 0:04:41.400 To be like superheroes always. 0:04:41.520 --> 0:04:43.680 Yeah, so even through my mom's cancer battle, she was like, 0:04:43.720 --> 0:04:45.560 it's going to be fine. Just make sure you get 0:04:45.560 --> 0:04:47.520 some grand babies here because I want to see my grandbabies. 0:04:47.640 --> 0:04:50.479 When I read that, I'm like, oh, like this is serious, 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:53.200 like I gotta figure this out, so serious. It was 0:04:53.440 --> 0:04:58.080 such an important moment for me to share with my dad, 0:04:59.000 --> 0:05:01.360 and so I'm so glad you brought that up at 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:03.000 the top of the interview because I can't wait for 0:05:03.080 --> 0:05:06.080 him to hear this. But even during his cancer battle, 0:05:06.080 --> 0:05:07.080 he was very secretive. 0:05:07.160 --> 0:05:10.479 He was private. He didn't tell anybody for six months. Obviously, 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:13.240 I feel like me being kind of tapped in spiritually, 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:15.400 I felt like something was going on with him, but 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:18.400 he never had explicitly told me that he was battling cancer. 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:21.919 I just saw him deteriorating in a sense, like he 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:25.400 was getting smaller and it's his hair was going and 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:27.560 I was just like, Dad, what's going on with you? Like, 0:05:28.560 --> 0:05:32.560 and he was distancing himself from me, wouldn't even him 0:05:32.560 --> 0:05:36.799 no more. My son when't and my son loves my dad, 0:05:36.960 --> 0:05:38.680 but he was he didn't. Every time my dad picked 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:40.240 him up, he would be crying, and I was just like, Dad, 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:43.720 something's going on. And I just kind of pressured him 0:05:43.760 --> 0:05:45.840 a little bit and I was like, tell me what's 0:05:45.839 --> 0:05:50.960 wrong or else. And he showed me his scans and 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:53.159 I could see he had it real zoomed in so 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:55.640 that I couldn't see that it said hoskins and foma. 0:05:55.920 --> 0:05:58.120 But when I took his phone and I literally took 0:05:58.120 --> 0:06:00.919 off running down the street, and I assumed and I 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:03.400 started to say hoskins and foam, and I'll just bust 0:06:03.440 --> 0:06:05.440 out crying because it was such Anymore, I've never seen 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:09.000 my dad cough, sneeze me, either, have a cold, none 0:06:09.040 --> 0:06:11.320 of the things. So to know that he was that 0:06:11.360 --> 0:06:16.480 he was battling cancer without my full support really touched me. 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:20.599 And it really really really hurt me. But thankfully he's 0:06:20.680 --> 0:06:21.280 beat cancer. 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:22.760 God. 0:06:23.920 --> 0:06:26.920 Afterwards, he I guess the chemotherapy had done a number 0:06:26.960 --> 0:06:30.039 on his heart, so he was he had heart failure 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:32.359 and he had to have a triple bypass surgery. That 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:35.080 he also wasn't clear about either. One thing about my dad, 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:38.599 he is truly superman like. He doesn't want to He 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:41.080 doesn't want people worried about him, even if it's something 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:42.840 that I should be concerned about. He doesn't want us 0:06:42.839 --> 0:06:45.560 to be worried about him. So when I found out 0:06:45.560 --> 0:06:48.159 what he was battling, I was so emotional and I 0:06:48.240 --> 0:06:51.000 was so all over the place. So and I kind 0:06:51.000 --> 0:06:54.960 of put, if I'm being candidate, put it made me 0:06:55.000 --> 0:06:59.160 want to expedite this the process for everything, because I realized, like, 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:01.840 I don't know what I was waiting on. I think 0:07:01.880 --> 0:07:04.000 it was I was feeling the pressures from society, and 0:07:04.040 --> 0:07:05.680 I'm like, maybe I'm too young to be doing this, 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:07.880 and you know, you think about all these things in 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:09.920 your mind, and then that kind of really snapped me 0:07:09.960 --> 0:07:12.120 back to reality and it made me live for myself 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:14.720 and for my family, for my village, for my community. 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:16.520 So it kind of made me want to expedite the 0:07:16.520 --> 0:07:19.640 wedding process. And we did it. 0:07:19.680 --> 0:07:26.080 And to my dad, walking on the as be there, Yeah. 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:30.320 Yeah, walk me down the aisle was a dream. 0:07:31.160 --> 0:07:35.000 Yeah, why do you Why do y'all think the adults, Oh, 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:38.080 the adults feel like keeping that from the kids is 0:07:38.360 --> 0:07:39.280 the right thing to do. 0:07:39.360 --> 0:07:41.120 Like why fight a battle like that alone? 0:07:41.200 --> 0:07:41.920 What's scary? 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:44.800 It's like a nightmare. Yeah. I don't think he knew. 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:47.920 I think he wanted to keep hope. But he was 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:51.560 diagnosed as stay straight, stay straight for it, so he 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:55.880 I think he he was optimistic, but I truly think 0:07:55.880 --> 0:07:58.680 he didn't know. And I think he wanted me to, 0:08:01.760 --> 0:08:07.400 you know, focus on my tour and my career. He 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:10.000 didn't want me to leave and abandon what I was 0:08:10.000 --> 0:08:12.200 doing because he knew I would have done that. Nothing 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:13.679 more important than me than my family. 0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:16.200 You have a song on your mixtape, Diary of an 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:19.200 og and when even that song too, I was thinking 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:21.720 about this. You're the oldest, the oldest girl, yes, and 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:24.960 you talk about the responsibility of being the oldest girl 0:08:24.960 --> 0:08:26.920 in your family and not being able to think about yourself, 0:08:26.920 --> 0:08:28.560 and that made me think about your relationship with your 0:08:28.600 --> 0:08:30.320 dad and everything you went through as well while having 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:34.040 a career. Because another thing too, I think why like 0:08:34.080 --> 0:08:36.960 the older people hide it is because they know drop 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:38.800 of a dime, you're not on tour no more, You're 0:08:38.840 --> 0:08:40.600 not dropping songs, not doing nothing. 0:08:40.880 --> 0:08:44.760 Yeah, I'm not complying with anything career related. I would 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:48.200 have dropped everything to be at his side every single day, 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:51.600 every chemotherapy appointment. I would have been cooking his meals 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:56.079 every day. So to a degree, I'm grateful that he 0:08:56.160 --> 0:08:59.680 was selfless in those moments and allowed me to continue 0:09:00.440 --> 0:09:02.480 following what it is that I'm passionate about because he 0:09:02.559 --> 0:09:04.880 knows I wouldn't have I wouldn't have pursued it. I 0:09:04.880 --> 0:09:07.160 wouldn't even be here. I would have taken a complete 0:09:07.240 --> 0:09:10.600 I wouldn't have recorded any music videos, photo shoot, nothing 0:09:10.600 --> 0:09:12.680 would have mattered to me other than making sure that 0:09:12.720 --> 0:09:17.480 he was okay. So I think now that time has passed, 0:09:17.480 --> 0:09:19.280 I feel like maybe he did make the right decision 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:20.880 and this shit. I was upset because I was like, Dad, 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:23.240 I want to be there for you. This is a 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:26.000 really scary time in your life. And he didn't tell anybody, 0:09:26.040 --> 0:09:29.439 not my siblings, not his mom. He didn't tell anybody 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:32.200 other than his wife, so it was just them too, 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:34.720 and she had just lost her mom, so it was 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:39.040 really difficult for them to manage at the time. So 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:41.160 I'm so and I'm glad Charlamagne that you talk about 0:09:41.200 --> 0:09:43.600 therapy as much as you do, because he's in therapy 0:09:43.640 --> 0:09:47.480 now and we're getting back to a place of trusting 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:49.600 each other and loving each other and supporting each other. 0:09:49.640 --> 0:09:51.319 And I feel like the wedding was just a way 0:09:51.320 --> 0:09:54.240 to extend olive branches to everybody in our village, in 0:09:54.280 --> 0:09:57.200 our community. So I'm glad that he was there. 0:09:57.320 --> 0:10:00.360 It's incredible how God works, because you know that once situation, 0:10:00.400 --> 0:10:02.839 which could be deemed as negative, let to all of 0:10:02.920 --> 0:10:04.600 this positive. You know, it said it means you put 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:06.679 your gas press the gas on your career and made 0:10:06.760 --> 0:10:07.520 y'all get married. 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:08.480 And I'm gonna tell you something. 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:10.559 When I look at y'all, man, forget to look when 0:10:10.559 --> 0:10:13.200 I'm sitting next to y'all, I can feel it. 0:10:13.320 --> 0:10:14.440 Yeah, family like y'all. 0:10:14.480 --> 0:10:16.800 Yeah, y'all are a unit. Like it's something like y'all 0:10:16.840 --> 0:10:19.079 are supposed to be together. Like even looking at Stunt, 0:10:19.120 --> 0:10:21.080 I'm like, I think a Proverbs eighteen twenty two man, 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:22.800 when a man find a good wife, man, you know 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:24.680 he gained a different favor from the lord. Like I 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:26.240 even see something different in your spirit. 0:10:26.800 --> 0:10:29.920 Oh yeah, I do too. Already know though, because I'm like, 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:33.040 I'm like deeply involved to like how she is spiritually, 0:10:33.080 --> 0:10:33.760 So I already know. 0:10:34.880 --> 0:10:37.520 And when we saw you get emotional, right, what were 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:38.320 your thoughts? 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:42.839 I was like, yeah, I was like looking at gangsters 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:44.960 in the crowd crying you feel me. I was looking 0:10:45.000 --> 0:10:49.360 at my mama, my dad that I just met, feel me, 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:55.120 her grandma because even her family and me alone, like 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:57.600 after the wedding, it's like both of our family's family now, 0:10:57.600 --> 0:11:00.160 but like before it was, I was already like this 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:05.360 with her dad, Grandma, Grandpa, great grandpa all of so 0:11:05.440 --> 0:11:09.439 I was just like getting ready for her to walk out. 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:11.760 You feel me, And that's what it was like, because 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:13.959 I was crying before she walked out, but when she did, 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:17.600 I was just like, damn, it's like I've been through 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:19.560 a lot of stuff. You feel me, And I don't 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:25.000 like get on the internet to public make it public. 0:11:25.080 --> 0:11:29.040 I don't. I don't. I don't really do nothing but 0:11:29.080 --> 0:11:30.720 deal with it. You feel me on my own too, 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:32.920 So it was just like all that was just like, man, 0:11:32.960 --> 0:11:34.720 all that ship out the window, now, like this is 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:37.400 what I'm walking into. When she was walking down, it 0:11:37.480 --> 0:11:39.920 was just like I'll let everything go that she wants 0:11:39.920 --> 0:11:42.800 me to let go, stuff that I'll be mad about 0:11:43.080 --> 0:11:45.520 one month and be fine with it the next. Like 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:47.880 I just let it go because it's all that mattered. 0:11:48.120 --> 0:11:51.160 You said your father had just met Yeah, my. 0:11:51.160 --> 0:11:55.120 Dad on Father's Day was no cap, no cap. I 0:11:55.160 --> 0:11:58.480 met him on Father's Day. My wife got me to 0:11:58.480 --> 0:12:04.280 do a DNA ancestory kid. We was doing that. As 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:07.520 we're getting ready for the wedding, I'm like, boom, I 0:12:07.559 --> 0:12:10.080 probably ain't talked to my grandma, my mom mom in 0:12:10.160 --> 0:12:15.000 like ten years. Ain't hugged or nothing. Uh, family too, 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:17.200 like uncles and aunts, but it always being me and 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:19.400 my mom. Like my siblings had their dad, so they'll 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:21.960 go live with them. If we anything, gotta go to 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:24.520 a shelter whatever, if it me is me and my mama. 0:12:24.800 --> 0:12:28.800 So I'm like telling my wife, like, damn, I want 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:31.000 my family to be at the wedding. I want my 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:33.640 mama to be there with her mama, my aunt, my uncle. 0:12:33.720 --> 0:12:39.120 Like that's how I grew up around family. Whatever I'm 0:12:39.160 --> 0:12:43.760 doing it, we're doing the ancestry Kid. Probably a month 0:12:43.800 --> 0:12:45.719 before we go sit down with my family, I'm like, 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:48.120 I'm about to sit my mom and my grandparents down, 0:12:48.600 --> 0:12:51.520 my uncles and aunts. All that long story short, that 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:56.079 was like not meant to happen. And that same day 0:12:56.120 --> 0:12:57.800 I was just like, damn, it ain't gonna never be 0:12:57.840 --> 0:12:59.800 like what it's supposed to be with my family again. 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:01.880 It was like five o'clock in the morning. We was 0:13:01.920 --> 0:13:04.080 in North Carolina because that's what we was meeting up 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:07.720 with everybody. My wife woke me up like, man, babe, 0:13:07.720 --> 0:13:10.600 I'm finding your cousins right now. Like on my dad's side. 0:13:10.720 --> 0:13:15.880 The ancestry Kid had hit like that that day the 0:13:15.960 --> 0:13:18.640 results came back to day that I tried to sit 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:20.960 my mama down with her mom, brother and sister and 0:13:20.960 --> 0:13:25.520 it went left. Then we found a few cousins. They 0:13:25.640 --> 0:13:27.319 was telling me, you look like this guy. You look 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:30.160 like this guy. We went on a month trying to 0:13:30.200 --> 0:13:33.000 find my dad, and then on follow the day we 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:33.439 got a. 0:13:34.280 --> 0:13:40.640 Hired the genealogist to interpret the to interpret the ancestry 0:13:40.679 --> 0:13:44.360 in the results, and it took her about six weeks 0:13:44.400 --> 0:13:47.040 to give us the full report. And then when she 0:13:47.080 --> 0:13:49.080 sent the full report back, she said that, you know, 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:51.079 his dad could be one of these three people and 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:54.240 there were three brothers, and so we kind of went 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:56.880 down the line and I called she had numbers listed 0:13:56.920 --> 0:14:00.640 in emails. I reached out to everybody. Person that I 0:14:00.800 --> 0:14:03.640 was able to contact was his grandmother. And initially they 0:14:03.679 --> 0:14:05.600 thought it was like a scam. They were like, you know, 0:14:05.600 --> 0:14:07.760 why are you calling us? And I was like, listen, 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:10.000 we don't want any we don't want child support, we 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:13.360 want anything. We are well off people. We just want 0:14:13.440 --> 0:14:17.840 to mend the relationship between him and who we believe 0:14:17.920 --> 0:14:20.760 is his dad. And so we kind of went through 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:23.760 the three different options. His two uncles and his dad, 0:14:24.160 --> 0:14:28.080 and we called it. We called it, we called the 0:14:28.080 --> 0:14:31.400 first option, and she the genealogist, had him listed as 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:33.280 the first option because he was the closest in age 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:35.600 to his mom. So we initially thought that it was 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:38.800 his uncle, so we FaceTime them. They didn't all the 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:41.000 way look alike, but they had some sort of similarity. 0:14:41.080 --> 0:14:42.880 So we were like, hey, you know, we're just trying 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:44.640 to figure this out. And he was like, Hey, I 0:14:44.680 --> 0:14:46.240 don't think it's me, but it might be my brother 0:14:46.240 --> 0:14:48.400 because I think he looks more like my brother. And 0:14:48.400 --> 0:14:51.880 then we FaceTime, we know, FaceTime with him later on 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:57.040 Father's Day, and when at his grandmother's house and him 0:14:57.040 --> 0:14:59.160 and his dad, they looked just alike and the synergy 0:14:59.280 --> 0:15:01.880 was their immediate and we flew out the next day. 0:15:01.920 --> 0:15:03.720 He's from these dads from Detroit. We flew out the 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:07.040 next day. We met his dad, We met the rest 0:15:07.080 --> 0:15:09.520 of his family, and his dad was his siblings. He 0:15:09.520 --> 0:15:11.200 found out he had two a brother and a sister 0:15:11.240 --> 0:15:15.960 that he didn't know about. So this has been almost 0:15:16.000 --> 0:15:19.080 thirty years that he didn't know his dad. So to 0:15:19.120 --> 0:15:21.400 be able for them to be able to reconnect right 0:15:21.440 --> 0:15:23.680 before the wedding was so it was a lot of 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:26.440 emotions going on. When people see the clip, they think 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:28.080 it's like, oh, he just up there tore up about 0:15:28.080 --> 0:15:29.680 his wife, And I think that to a degree, he 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:33.720 was emotional, but there were so many different things going on. 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:35.320 There were so many different reasons for us to be 0:15:35.840 --> 0:15:37.080 happy crying that day. 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:40.400 So how whole that made you feel? 0:15:40.840 --> 0:15:46.600 Son, I don't know yet. I don't know yet. I 0:15:46.640 --> 0:15:47.560 don't know yet. 0:15:49.040 --> 0:15:50.480 That's honest. That's honest. 0:15:50.960 --> 0:15:54.000 The conversations with you and your dad, are they like 0:15:54.520 --> 0:15:56.480 what you dreamed of or did you want like you know, 0:15:56.480 --> 0:15:58.720 were you nervousy with this whole process? 0:15:59.120 --> 0:16:00.760 Nah? I don't think so. 0:16:01.480 --> 0:16:04.080 I feel like I think there were a little bit 0:16:04.120 --> 0:16:04.880 of nerves. 0:16:05.160 --> 0:16:08.040 Yeah, But I'm just like a difficult person to deal with. 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:10.880 So I don't know. I mean, like, you know, like 0:16:12.600 --> 0:16:15.160 I mean, like as far as nothing like against my 0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:18.360 dad though, But I just don't I don't know. I 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:20.560 don't know how it made me feel. Sometimes he called 0:16:20.840 --> 0:16:23.120 he gonna see this and be like sometimes the call 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:26.640 and I might not even know like what we should 0:16:26.680 --> 0:16:30.600 talk about, so I might not ask and I call 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:34.480 her dad though immediately yeah, like whatever, as soon as 0:16:34.520 --> 0:16:36.080 we leave out of here, I'm gonna call him probably 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:38.680 like or he gonna call me. We talked. It's like 0:16:38.720 --> 0:16:42.760 we got the relationship that I was like looking for 0:16:42.760 --> 0:16:44.800 for a long time because I was in there with 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:46.440 him when she when she was at work. I was 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:49.560 going to chemotherapy or I'll be whatever I need. He 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:52.520 gonna pick up, he gonna drop whatever I asked him 0:16:52.520 --> 0:16:54.200 to drop for me right then and there. So he 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:58.720 kind of like build the void before my dad could 0:16:58.800 --> 0:17:01.120 come in and like feel it. But it was just 0:17:01.160 --> 0:17:03.120 good also to meet my dad and I see like 0:17:03.920 --> 0:17:05.959 we look alike. He looked, my son look like him. 0:17:06.080 --> 0:17:09.040 You feel me, We walk alike. I met my grandma, 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:10.840 I got a sister, my age, You feel me. 0:17:11.000 --> 0:17:12.960 But you learn a lot about yourself though, because you 0:17:12.960 --> 0:17:16.240 could be dealing with physical health issues, mental health issues, 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:19.119 and not even nowhere but your dad might have been 0:17:19.119 --> 0:17:20.600 dealing with it. You learned a lot about yourself when 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:21.400 you connect those dots. 0:17:21.560 --> 0:17:23.919 You think it was a nerve wreaking experience too, like 0:17:24.640 --> 0:17:28.080 just for me trying to facilitate, I was really nervous 0:17:28.200 --> 0:17:32.320 because I didn't know how his dad would receive him 0:17:32.400 --> 0:17:35.639 and receive the situation as a whole. I was just 0:17:35.680 --> 0:17:41.200 hoping that he wanted to connect as badly as Sonna 0:17:41.240 --> 0:17:46.040 wanted to connect. That was my main goal, I guess 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:47.680 in my mind, because you never really know how people 0:17:47.680 --> 0:17:49.320 will receive things. Some people will be like, oh no, 0:17:49.359 --> 0:17:52.520 I'm not dealing with this, it's too much. But I 0:17:52.520 --> 0:17:55.600 think it's been difficult for both of them to process it, 0:17:55.640 --> 0:17:58.160 and his dad as well, like how do you really 0:17:58.200 --> 0:18:00.879 process having a son and not knowing that you had 0:18:00.880 --> 0:18:04.400 a son for almost thirty years and then he's an artist. 0:18:04.480 --> 0:18:06.960 But he was telling us too. He was like, I've 0:18:07.000 --> 0:18:09.040 seen him before, I know his music. He was able 0:18:09.040 --> 0:18:10.440 to tell us some of the songs that he did 0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:14.080 that he really liked. So it was just like I 0:18:14.080 --> 0:18:17.760 could tell he was stunned. Yeah, he had no idea though, 0:18:18.080 --> 0:18:21.080 because if you look him up he's from you will 0:18:21.080 --> 0:18:23.200 see that he's from North Carolina. His dad had never 0:18:23.200 --> 0:18:25.800 been to North Carolina. He had met his mom in 0:18:25.880 --> 0:18:31.199 Atlanta and they were young. Things happened, they moved apart, 0:18:31.720 --> 0:18:34.000 she was pregnant, she moved back home to North Carolina 0:18:34.040 --> 0:18:36.800 to kind of go throughout her pregnancy. So it was 0:18:36.840 --> 0:18:42.280 like there was never really he never really knew anything 0:18:42.280 --> 0:18:44.760 about him so I imagine that that's a lot for 0:18:44.840 --> 0:18:46.960 him to process as well, and his mom as well too, 0:18:47.080 --> 0:18:49.440 because I know that she lives with some of those 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:52.320 feelings and like, you know, just being young and being 0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:54.760 a human being and making mistakes, but not really a 0:18:54.760 --> 0:18:57.440 mistake because I needed him, so it's not I don't 0:18:57.520 --> 0:19:00.200 perceive it as a mistake. So it was like, it's 0:19:00.200 --> 0:19:03.639 a lot for everybody to process in this experience. So 0:19:03.680 --> 0:19:07.160 I'm just trying to be the glue in this situation 0:19:07.240 --> 0:19:10.320 and keep us all close, keep us connected, and keep 0:19:10.400 --> 0:19:12.360