1 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:24,319 Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily A body here coming to you live 2 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: from the Age Studio. You are listening to another installment 3 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:33,920 Speaker 1: of five Minute Friday from Hurdle. Oh Man, what a week. 4 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,519 Speaker 1: I feel like we are in the sprint of the 5 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 1: finish in which I need to try to catch everyone. 6 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:42,840 Speaker 1: I literally have seven days to do it and book 7 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:45,360 Speaker 1: all of these things and find these guests and make 8 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:48,879 Speaker 1: this content. And it can be a lot, but we 9 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:52,559 Speaker 1: can do hard things. So that's the mentality I have 10 00:00:52,640 --> 00:00:55,120 Speaker 1: every single day when I sit down to my desk. 11 00:00:55,680 --> 00:01:00,400 Speaker 1: I am recording this just before I'm gonna go to 12 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 1: the sauna near my apartment, which I'm really excited about, 13 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:05,760 Speaker 1: and then pack my bags because I am going to 14 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:08,840 Speaker 1: be spending the weekend in Cabo San Lucas, which I'm 15 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:12,200 Speaker 1: really really excited about. I'm going for a wellness retreat. 16 00:01:12,480 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 1: It is going to be much warmer than where I 17 00:01:16,240 --> 00:01:18,880 Speaker 1: am right now, and I can't wait to move and 18 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:24,679 Speaker 1: hike and just be in a nice little place of paradise. Anyway, 19 00:01:24,720 --> 00:01:28,320 Speaker 1: what I wanted to talk to you about today is 20 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:33,560 Speaker 1: that it is never too late to choose a different path, 21 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 1: think something different, go down to different routes. You get 22 00:01:38,480 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 1: where I'm going with this. This was kind of top 23 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:44,920 Speaker 1: of mind for me for a few different reasons this week. 24 00:01:45,280 --> 00:01:49,680 Speaker 1: First of all, not to spoil anything, but Monday's episode 25 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: of the show is with Courtney Dwalter. She's arguably the 26 00:01:52,200 --> 00:01:57,120 Speaker 1: best female ultra runner of all time, and she didn't 27 00:01:57,160 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 1: turn professional until she was thirty two after starting a 28 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:05,640 Speaker 1: successful career as a teacher. Now, as we talk about 29 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 1: in the episode on Monday, she feels so grateful that 30 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:11,320 Speaker 1: she made this decision and that she's living her life 31 00:02:11,320 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 1: following her passions. And it was just really beautiful because 32 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 1: I think so often we continue on with a thing 33 00:02:18,600 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 1: because we feel as though it's what we're supposed to do, right. 34 00:02:21,360 --> 00:02:25,800 Speaker 1: But what happens if you have this other urge, or 35 00:02:26,400 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: you hear that voice inside your head saying maybe it 36 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:32,760 Speaker 1: shouldn't be this way, or you start to feel unhappy. 37 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:37,239 Speaker 1: You got to listen to that. You gotta do something 38 00:02:37,280 --> 00:02:41,760 Speaker 1: about that, because life is just way too short to 39 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 1: linger in the malaise of just living away because you 40 00:02:46,160 --> 00:02:50,240 Speaker 1: feel as though you're supposed to. I'll give an entirely 41 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:53,679 Speaker 1: different example. I had to go to a work thing 42 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 1: earlier this week, and it was like a large event. 43 00:02:57,440 --> 00:03:00,799 Speaker 1: There were many people there, there were like past drinks 44 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:04,839 Speaker 1: and appetizers and different booths, and to be honest with you, 45 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 1: I walked in there and my heart just like wasn't 46 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 1: in emily networking mode, and I like lingered for a 47 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 1: while and I tried to get into the mix, but 48 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 1: ultimately it just wasn't where I wanted to be. I had, however, 49 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:23,160 Speaker 1: like gotten dressed and like put all of this effort 50 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 1: into traveling to where the event was, and so I 51 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 1: just made the decision that I was going to go 52 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 1: do something that I wanted to do. And so what 53 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 1: I wanted to do in that moment was go to 54 00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:39,000 Speaker 1: a cute little wine spot that I had been wanting 55 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 1: to try for a long time. And I actually had 56 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 1: a whiskey cocktail and a dessert, and the nice gentleman 57 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 1: behind the bar gave me complimentary ice cream with my dessert, 58 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 1: which was banana, oh sticky banana bread pudding. Now I 59 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 1: totally understand that this is a completely different example than 60 00:03:58,360 --> 00:04:00,680 Speaker 1: the Courtney de Walter example, But what I'm saying is that, 61 00:04:00,760 --> 00:04:03,760 Speaker 1: like my takeaway this week is life's too short just 62 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:06,440 Speaker 1: to like linger in the stuff that you don't want. Right, 63 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:09,600 Speaker 1: we all have the opportunity every single day to choose 64 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:13,040 Speaker 1: what happens next, and although sometimes making that choice it 65 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:15,600 Speaker 1: might happen faster than others. Right. I'm sure there was 66 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:20,760 Speaker 1: a period of time that Courtney decided to stay a 67 00:04:20,800 --> 00:04:23,080 Speaker 1: teacher while she dabbled an ultra running and then finally 68 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: made the decision, after acquiring numerous sponsors, to take this 69 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 1: on as her profession. Just like me a little bit different, 70 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 1: I made the decision in that moment, in that event, 71 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 1: that I had the opportunity to turn my night around. 72 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 1: So maybe it's a night, Maybe it's your career, Maybe 73 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:41,559 Speaker 1: it's in a relationship that's not going as you'd hoped, 74 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:44,600 Speaker 1: and you feel stuck. Like the moral of the story 75 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:47,600 Speaker 1: here in this Rambley, what is happening in this five 76 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:50,719 Speaker 1: minute Friday, five minute Friday is that you choose what 77 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:55,800 Speaker 1: happens next, and the only person who truly needs to 78 00:04:55,880 --> 00:05:01,599 Speaker 1: feel comfortable and good with your decisions you. Of course, 79 00:05:01,600 --> 00:05:04,360 Speaker 1: you can factor other people into the mix, but it 80 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 1: starts with you. 81 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:06,279 Speaker 2: Know that. 82 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 1: My question for you this week, my thought prompt, if 83 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:13,039 Speaker 1: you will, where do you feel a little bit stuck 84 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 1: right now? And what can you do to change things 85 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:19,560 Speaker 1: up and move forward. Where do you feel a little 86 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:21,359 Speaker 1: bit stuck right now? And what can you do to 87 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:25,839 Speaker 1: change things up and move forward? And now a listener question. 88 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 2: Hi Emily, my name is v and I met you 89 00:05:29,960 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 2: multiple times at the Chicago Evans. I'm really happy and 90 00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 2: grateful to be a part of the Hurdle community and 91 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:40,600 Speaker 2: I absolutely love the content that you're providing and it 92 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 2: definitely adds value to my life. So thank you so 93 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:47,360 Speaker 2: much for that. My today's question is kind of untypical 94 00:05:47,640 --> 00:05:51,960 Speaker 2: for the Hurdle podcast, and it's about relationships. How to 95 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:56,400 Speaker 2: get over someone you've only met or went on a 96 00:05:56,400 --> 00:06:00,599 Speaker 2: few dates, or only met once, but you, like you 97 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 2: had a very genuine and honest conversation and started to 98 00:06:06,720 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 2: fall in hard. So what is your advice on that? 99 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 2: Thank you so much and love you, Hey, Vy. 100 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:17,039 Speaker 1: So good to hear from you, and you, guys know 101 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:21,440 Speaker 1: I love unconventional Emily questions. Regardless of your question, please 102 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 1: call only be a voice message. It would mean the 103 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:25,640 Speaker 1: world to me. The link to do that is in 104 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:29,479 Speaker 1: the show notes here. Man, let me tell you I've 105 00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:32,480 Speaker 1: been in this position and sometimes it feels easier than 106 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:36,480 Speaker 1: others to move on. What I will say is, now 107 00:06:36,480 --> 00:06:38,920 Speaker 1: that this has certainly happened to me a few times, 108 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 1: I feel like it's gotten a little bit easier to 109 00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:44,479 Speaker 1: deal with because I'm better at putting it in perspective. 110 00:06:45,640 --> 00:06:49,720 Speaker 1: That's not to say that you can't develop like legitimate 111 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:52,920 Speaker 1: feelings for someone that you haven't known for a long time, 112 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:57,240 Speaker 1: but oftentimes, like there's only so much you can get 113 00:06:57,279 --> 00:07:00,440 Speaker 1: to know about someone within a short amount of time. 114 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:03,719 Speaker 1: And I find that more often than not, in these 115 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:08,039 Speaker 1: situations where I feel like I am like heartbroken and sad, 116 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 1: often I'm putting these people like I'm thinking about what 117 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 1: life could be with someone period, not specifically them. So 118 00:07:17,000 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: I meet someone and it feels like we're compatible and 119 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:23,480 Speaker 1: it's exciting, but ultimately if like they just say they 120 00:07:23,480 --> 00:07:26,120 Speaker 1: don't want to keep getting together, or are they ghost 121 00:07:26,280 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 1: or they like, there's so many scenarios as to why 122 00:07:28,480 --> 00:07:33,200 Speaker 1: it could not work out. I find that that sadness 123 00:07:33,240 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 1: that comes from that is really rooted in thinking about 124 00:07:35,520 --> 00:07:38,679 Speaker 1: what could be and not actually what was. And usually 125 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:40,239 Speaker 1: when I take a step back and I think about 126 00:07:40,240 --> 00:07:42,200 Speaker 1: who it is that they really are at their core, 127 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 1: the things that they're about, it's pretty rare that you 128 00:07:45,600 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 1: will be so aligned one hundred percent with the kind 129 00:07:48,680 --> 00:07:51,120 Speaker 1: of person that would be like, yeah, you know, this 130 00:07:51,200 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 1: isn't my vibe right off the bat. So ask yourself 131 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:58,200 Speaker 1: those questions, right like, is it the person that I'm 132 00:07:58,240 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 1: truly truly bummed about? Or is it just like, Oh, 133 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:03,840 Speaker 1: there was this thing and it gave me butterflies and 134 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 1: it was exciting and it was nice to have a thing. 135 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:09,520 Speaker 1: Is that what you're bummed about? Also, it helps to 136 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:12,280 Speaker 1: remember that you had a whole life before they came 137 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:15,200 Speaker 1: into your life, and you will have a whole life 138 00:08:15,400 --> 00:08:17,280 Speaker 1: now that they've left your life. And you were fine 139 00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:20,400 Speaker 1: before and you're going to be just fine now. And 140 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:22,960 Speaker 1: I'll just reiterate this one more time. It's cool to 141 00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:27,120 Speaker 1: feel bombed, it's cool to feel sad. You feel however 142 00:08:27,160 --> 00:08:30,040 Speaker 1: you want to feel, process however you want to process. 143 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:32,640 Speaker 1: But then I encourage you, you know, I talk about 144 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 1: this all the time. Look at that joy list and 145 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:37,719 Speaker 1: find something that makes you smile that you can go 146 00:08:37,760 --> 00:08:41,000 Speaker 1: do and get back out there because you're great with 147 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:44,120 Speaker 1: or without them, all right, you know the drill at 148 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:47,800 Speaker 1: Emily a Body at Hurdle Podcast. Thanks so much, everyone, 149 00:08:48,160 --> 00:08:50,079 Speaker 1: have an excellent weekend. 150 00:08:50,320 --> 00:09:00,320 Speaker 2: I'll catch you on Monday.