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Speaker 1: Hey, it's Kelly and you are listening to the Edge

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Speaker 1: on the Velvet Edge podcast. Well, folks, as a Mercury

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Speaker 1: retro grade would have it, I had a major travel

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Speaker 1: snap food today and we had technical difficulties. So we

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Speaker 1: will be back with a new episode of the Edge

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Speaker 1: with Chip Doors next Friday. Sorry, Susan. Chip Doors is

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Speaker 1: out celebrating Pride Month also, so I mean, who knows,

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Speaker 1: we may even have some sled of Palooza updates. I

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Speaker 1: hope you guys have a fabulous weekend still, and when

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Speaker 1: you're out there living on the edge, always remember to

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Speaker 1: act casual. I mean, god, I nailed that by myself,

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Speaker 1: Chip Doors, maybe you're fired. I don't know to hold

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Speaker 1: you guys over till next weekend. Here is one of

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Speaker 1: my favorite episodes where Chip coaxed me into telling one

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Speaker 1: of my most embarrassing stories. I don't know why I

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Speaker 1: do this to myself, but here you go. You don't

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Speaker 1: know what song I'm trying, so I was like trying

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Speaker 1: to follow you know that SNL skot where they like

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Speaker 1: one of them say a fake song, it's Captain Garth.

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Speaker 1: They act like they're like a duo. That's rehearsed, but

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Speaker 1: they don't know the songs. And it's it's Kristen wigg And. Um,

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Speaker 1: who's the guy from Portlandia? Oh Armison, Yeah, Fred Armison,

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Speaker 1: It's Captain Garth And like they're trying to follow each

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Speaker 1: other to sound like and they're just making up words.

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Speaker 1: It's so good. That sounds so funny. Um, can we

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Speaker 1: tell the people what we just did? Yes, we just

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Speaker 1: took a call with cameo. We did happens first things

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Speaker 1: first Cameo, second thing second March. Yes, so we're gonna

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Speaker 1: have some fun with cameo. We're gonna keep Yeah, like

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Speaker 1: you guys, I mean, I will say, I want your opinion,

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Speaker 1: like what we should target, you know, like send us

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Speaker 1: the messages, slide into my d M s or email

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Speaker 1: us that at casual at valvit dot com and tell

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Speaker 1: us the angles you would like us to take, or

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Speaker 1: just hire us on candy. Yeah. I mean, we'll do

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Speaker 1: the regular ones, but we want to like we want

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Speaker 1: them to be fun for us. Tell them some of

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Speaker 1: your ideas well. You know there was a really famous

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Speaker 1: one where Mark McGrath had to break up with somebody

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Speaker 1: over a cameo. I'm afraid I might get to Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So I mean unless that person was like a dick

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Speaker 1: up with somebody, we need the backstory. Yeah, you gotta

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Speaker 1: tell us why they're terrible. We're happy to like give

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Speaker 1: your secrets to somebody. We'll even do it anonymously if

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Speaker 1: you want. But we don't want to ruin anybody's life.

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Speaker 1: We don't want to do we don't want to do

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Speaker 1: anything that's mean spirited. But if you want to play

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Speaker 1: a joke on somebody and tell them that like you

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Speaker 1: might have given him an STD, we'll do a joke.

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Speaker 1: Um yeah, I mean, but like, is that a joke

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Speaker 1: if it's not true? It is? Oh, I see what

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Speaker 1: you're saying, Like, but I don't really want to deliver

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Speaker 1: that news, Like why don't you go be an adult?

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Speaker 1: Don't hire us on cameo. Um. We also can have

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Speaker 1: some holiday festivities. Yeah, we might be dressing up. We

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Speaker 1: might need some dress up ones, um, or just answer

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Speaker 1: sex and dating questions like we do want to hear

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Speaker 1: because we're such we're such experts. Took when do you

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Speaker 1: think the last time you had sex was Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I'm like a big, huge capital expert. Wow, well I

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Speaker 1: had sex last night. Well, then Kelly's going to answer

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Speaker 1: all the questions today. I'm gonna go drink. Yes, we

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Speaker 1: are drinking again. I should mention that. And um, someone

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Speaker 1: messaged me where was it when we find that? Another

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Speaker 1: and only wish they were longer? Keep the laughs coming.

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Speaker 1: I felt like last week it was like an hour

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Speaker 1: messages I got regarding last week's episode. First of all,

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Speaker 1: I need to report back that Smiley fries are in

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Speaker 1: It's by this company called McCain and they are in

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Speaker 1: big word did she use this week? Shaun Wayans visits

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Speaker 1: his father who is younger than him. His father is okay,

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Speaker 1: telling us about his wife's um vibrator and it was

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Speaker 1: that after almost a ten ten years of marriage together

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Speaker 1: appreciate the feedback you and Chip gave me on that episode.

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Speaker 1: I listened to every episode and I love your vibe

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Speaker 1: with Chip. I know you recently recently mentioned that many

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Speaker 1: of your commentators are female. I represent the happily married

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Speaker 1: forty five year old demographic. Thanks for doing what you do.

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Speaker 1: Eric in North Carolina love Eric and I love. I

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Speaker 1: mean we talked about this before, but like that he's

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Speaker 1: think it's also important in that lesson too is like

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Speaker 1: think it either start elsewhere? Okay, um, okay, So we

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Speaker 1: got another story from our girl Brittany. Can she just

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Speaker 1: moved to Nashville, Like, I mean, I have two extra

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Speaker 1: your invitation by way, Like Brittany, like you have you

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Speaker 1: She said her guy friend was on a date, really

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Speaker 1: So i'd tell him I had no clue. This was

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Speaker 1: like that's a violation. He posted it, but anyway, he

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Speaker 1: basically I guess he got a dick. The only Brittany though,

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Speaker 1: that day. I think that's what I did last week.

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Speaker 1: good ones. Rapid fire questions. Okay, I'll do a little

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Speaker 1: rapid fire. Here's how we start. So I think my

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Speaker 1: Like I just don't you don't. I think it depends

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Speaker 1: tomorrow on TMZ. It's like my fucking porn videos out

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00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:04,639
Speaker 1: or something that would be my love. Yeah, exactly that

424
00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:10,720
Speaker 1: one foot tattoo I'm trying to get rid of. Okay,

425
00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:13,960
Speaker 1: this one comes from Brittany. She says a funny story,

426
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 1: A booty call came over to my place after hitting

427
00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:19,359
Speaker 1: me hitting up the bars on a Friday night. He

428
00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:21,520
Speaker 1: was a slob, kebab hot mess. Did I read this

429
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:26,639
Speaker 1: one last week? I don't think so super unprofessional, but

430
00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:28,399
Speaker 1: I've read it a couple of times, so I just

431
00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:30,159
Speaker 1: can't remember for actress at it. I'm just gonna say

432
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:31,880
Speaker 1: it anyway, and you tell me if it sounds familiar.

433
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:34,680
Speaker 1: It was such a turn off. There was no way

434
00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:37,360
Speaker 1: sex was happening because he was too drunk. I had

435
00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 1: to get this guy out, but he wasn't picking up

436
00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:42,080
Speaker 1: on my hints to get the funk out. I didn't

437
00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:43,800
Speaker 1: know what to do, so I told him I was

438
00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 1: I was sober, wait show where shabab sabos oh, and

439
00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:55,280
Speaker 1: that I had to observe the Sabbath. She misspelled all

440
00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 1: of it. Okay, maybe she was saying sober Shabbat yeah,

441
00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:03,439
Speaker 1: and then that I had to observe the Sabbath. I

442
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:05,440
Speaker 1: told him I wasn't even supposed to have any lights

443
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:08,640
Speaker 1: or electropics and he had to go, so I didn't

444
00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:14,920
Speaker 1: make texting him just like sitting in the dark. Um.

445
00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:17,960
Speaker 1: He looked very confused and said, I was I was

446
00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 1: weird and screwed it on out L O L. I

447
00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:22,880
Speaker 1: will never forget so so ridiculous, but glad I worked.

448
00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:26,280
Speaker 1: That's amazing. She could also just be like, oh god,

449
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:30,920
Speaker 1: I've got the ships. Oh inn off. You're like, hey,

450
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:33,000
Speaker 1: when to do you M to A? Why do I

451
00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:35,639
Speaker 1: keep saying eight to M like my boyfriend. I always

452
00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 1: make that joke and I'm like, oh eight M tonight, babe,

453
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:43,440
Speaker 1: wink wink, But it's actually not asked him mouth like

454
00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:47,000
Speaker 1: he would be okay, you would do mouth to ask. Yeah,

455
00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:50,760
Speaker 1: works the same thing. Okay, this one's a long one.

456
00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:55,000
Speaker 1: Are you ready for it? It's from Karen and he

457
00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:58,120
Speaker 1: wants our advice on how to handle a situation. He said,

458
00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:01,000
Speaker 1: do you think a twenty four year old recent college

459
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:04,800
Speaker 1: grad woman can truly be into a thirty seven year old, established,

460
00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: successful man. First of all, Okay, I'm just gonna keep

461
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:12,040
Speaker 1: on off slight. Okay, sorry, I feel like I'm getting deuced.

462
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 1: After she was so into me for the first four

463
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:17,840
Speaker 1: weeks of dating. Then we had sex and she spent

464
00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:19,800
Speaker 1: the night, and then all of a sudden she became

465
00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 1: distant and supposed supposedly because I asked her to commit

466
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:27,240
Speaker 1: to me only so she got a little rattled. I

467
00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:29,359
Speaker 1: don't know. I feel like there's more that she won't

468
00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:32,480
Speaker 1: tell me, and now I largely get short talk and

469
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:35,520
Speaker 1: silent treatment. She told me on the second date how

470
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:38,160
Speaker 1: she would want to marry me and meet my mom

471
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:40,680
Speaker 1: and sister and all this ship. I thought she was

472
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 1: real and genuine, and she might have been and might

473
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:45,679
Speaker 1: have been caught up in the dream of the future

474
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:47,399
Speaker 1: with me, but I don't think she really knows what

475
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:51,120
Speaker 1: she wants, and we talked all day every day on FaceTime,

476
00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:53,840
Speaker 1: snap audio text, and all of a sudden, after four

477
00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 1: weeks of love e Devey, dating and talking, she suddenly

478
00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:00,199
Speaker 1: went short, talking to me and being distant for the

479
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,560
Speaker 1: most part of this past week. She told me I

480
00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 1: didn't do or say anything wrong, but she doesn't want

481
00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:08,560
Speaker 1: to commit to someone and possibly move out of state

482
00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:11,320
Speaker 1: for a job, which she has been doing some of lately.

483
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:14,439
Speaker 1: I think her heart is genuine, she likes me, but

484
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,600
Speaker 1: she's fearing something that she doesn't think I can fix.

485
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:19,880
Speaker 1: I told her all of my feelings and I put

486
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 1: my whole poker hand on the table in a long

487
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:26,320
Speaker 1: text which she has not replied to. Should I just

488
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:29,680
Speaker 1: let it go and be patient and expect some feedback

489
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:34,119
Speaker 1: from her, or just move on and maybe me falling

490
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 1: for this girl was a mistake. Everything was mutual, and

491
00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:41,639
Speaker 1: she said and seemed to like me a lot. Well,

492
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 1: I mean, I hate to break it to you, Kuran,

493
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 1: I don't think she's that into you. And look it's

494
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:50,520
Speaker 1: you sound like a good dude. You sound like you

495
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,400
Speaker 1: got your ship together. You actually sound like you could

496
00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:57,159
Speaker 1: be a catch. Like you what's interesting about this is

497
00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 1: it is kind of a role reversal. It's usually like

498
00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:04,160
Speaker 1: the guy who like acts like he's in love until

499
00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:06,399
Speaker 1: he gets that piece of ass and then he's out.

500
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 1: And I think this is a classic role reversal where

501
00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:12,120
Speaker 1: she kind of played in for some dick and then

502
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:16,919
Speaker 1: she's not looking for a relationship. I mean she's she is.

503
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 1: Look I do I think to answer his initial question,

504
00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:24,440
Speaker 1: can someone that age be serious about someone his age? Absolutely,

505
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,359
Speaker 1: But I don't think that's a blanket statement. You know,

506
00:27:27,400 --> 00:27:29,200
Speaker 1: it sounds like she's questioning whether or not she wants

507
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:32,159
Speaker 1: to even live in that city. So if there's a

508
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:35,320
Speaker 1: possible job opportunity that would cause her to move, like,

509
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:38,120
Speaker 1: I can understand why she might not want to settle down,

510
00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:42,000
Speaker 1: especially at that age. Well, it sounds like she misled

511
00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:45,159
Speaker 1: a bit talking about marriage on the second date. But

512
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:47,119
Speaker 1: to me, that's like red flag rap, Like it's like

513
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 1: the when you move too fast you know that something

514
00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:55,080
Speaker 1: isn't right, Like that's not a real connection. That's just

515
00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:57,840
Speaker 1: some sort of weird chemistry thing or some sort of

516
00:27:57,880 --> 00:27:59,879
Speaker 1: weird like I don't even know what you call that,

517
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:03,840
Speaker 1: but um, to me, it sounds like she's very immature,

518
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:06,719
Speaker 1: So I mean, it sounds like you might be dodging

519
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 1: a bullet and to cut your losses. My astrologer says

520
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:15,719
Speaker 1: rejection is your best protection. I mean, that's a good one.

521
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 1: It's hard to accept rejection sometimes, but it's like if

522
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 1: you're being rejected, there is a reason usually that, like

523
00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:26,120
Speaker 1: the universe is trying to protect you from that situation,

524
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:29,119
Speaker 1: and like I get it, and I know it's painful,

525
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 1: especially like I mean, as a girl, I think we've

526
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 1: been in these situations a lot, like you say, but

527
00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:35,720
Speaker 1: to me, it's an immaturity thing. So it doesn't matter

528
00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 1: guy or a girl. It's like she's talking all this

529
00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 1: stuff and then all of a sudden, maybe he came

530
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: on a little too strong, Like four weeks is not

531
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:47,160
Speaker 1: that long to be fully pouring your heart out. But

532
00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:50,080
Speaker 1: if you're in line with someone, it doesn't matter and

533
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 1: it doesn't scare them away. So I would just say,

534
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:57,440
Speaker 1: maybe it's time to move on. She doesn't deserve you, man, like,

535
00:28:57,440 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 1: like you're like you got a good head on your shoulders,

536
00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:03,720
Speaker 1: you're ready to commit, like fuck her, yeah, and at

537
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:10,239
Speaker 1: least you got some tail. Most most guys put in

538
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 1: four weeks and don't get in the ass. True, I

539
00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 1: hope she was hot. She shouldn't have a busy booty.

540
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 1: I hope she does, and I never wants it again.

541
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:23,200
Speaker 1: I don't know. The only thing that kind of threw

542
00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:26,400
Speaker 1: me too is like, and this is like super judgment. Okay,

543
00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 1: so my boyfriend is nine years older than me, So

544
00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:32,320
Speaker 1: I do think there's maturity, Like I just think guys

545
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:34,640
Speaker 1: and girls are so different. But I'm just curious, like

546
00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 1: what in some scenarios, what is too much of an

547
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:41,440
Speaker 1: age gap? Do you know what I mean? Like thirty

548
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:45,240
Speaker 1: seven and twenty four sounds like a significant different place

549
00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:49,080
Speaker 1: in life, especially in those particular years. Like that's what

550
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:52,880
Speaker 1: I mean, because that's what seven, fourteen years, thirteen years.

551
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 1: If you make that like fifty and sixty three, it's

552
00:29:57,640 --> 00:29:59,600
Speaker 1: a little different. You're sort of in the sunset of

553
00:29:59,600 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 1: your life. Yeah, God, that makes it sound old. The

554
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:08,280
Speaker 1: sunset rapidly approaching my sun set, you guys, let's this

555
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,800
Speaker 1: is the road talking to get blade before my son.

556
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 1: You're rapidly approaching the sunset. But I think at that

557
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:20,520
Speaker 1: age it does like right out of college, like it's

558
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 1: a it's a brand new chapter of life. I was

559
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 1: a disaster at a college. Like, I mean, it's just

560
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:28,320
Speaker 1: like you don't know what you want. You don't even

561
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:30,320
Speaker 1: you're barely even like know what you want to do

562
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 1: with your career unless you're just super aheaded or advanced,

563
00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 1: you know, and so like, how the funk are you

564
00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 1: going to be able to know what you want from

565
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:41,040
Speaker 1: a relationship and when you're thirty seven, especially as a

566
00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:44,840
Speaker 1: guy that I mean, he said he's successful. He told

567
00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 1: us that I look good, own it. Good for you.

568
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 1: Find some woman that wants a successful man. Yeah, or

569
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:53,840
Speaker 1: maybe go for a cougar who already has her ship

570
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 1: together too. You know, I don't know, I'm I'm not

571
00:30:57,200 --> 00:31:00,200
Speaker 1: into this twenty four year old situation. Yeah, I think

572
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:03,080
Speaker 1: you can do better. Yeah, okay, let's move on. This

573
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 1: is from Erica. I've actually had a similar situation, so

574
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:09,800
Speaker 1: this is pretty funny. She said, Um, kind of funny.

575
00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:12,480
Speaker 1: My fiance was going down on me years ago and

576
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 1: all of a sudden started tasting blood and thought I

577
00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 1: got my periods. He then realizes he got a bad

578
00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:22,800
Speaker 1: bloody nose. We ended up sitting on the floor with

579
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 1: peroxide cleaning the sheets at like eleven PM on a Wednesday,

580
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 1: it was so awkwardly funny. I've had that happen before. Bloody,

581
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 1: it's not from eating you out, knocked his nose. Anyone's

582
00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 1: say eating out anymore? I mean, what do you say,

583
00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:43,320
Speaker 1: muncheon box? Well, why don't you do the noise that

584
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 1: you do hitting all the walls? Um? No, you just

585
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:52,240
Speaker 1: say like going down on a girl kind of lingus.

586
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:55,440
Speaker 1: I don't know, eating out. It sounds disgusting, but it

587
00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:58,800
Speaker 1: also reminds me of like a cardivisa. Yeah, I don't

588
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 1: know anyway, Yeah, Like I had what it was a

589
00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:06,680
Speaker 1: couple of boyfriends and he got a bloody nose, kind

590
00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:09,560
Speaker 1: of bloody nose during and so he came up and

591
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:12,880
Speaker 1: there was blood like all over my stomach. It was like, weird,

592
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 1: You're just like I didn't know what was happening. I

593
00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, am I dying? But yeah,

594
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 1: I guess it could happen. Well, I'm telling you what happened.

595
00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:28,520
Speaker 1: What do you mean? I guess it could Like is

596
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:31,840
Speaker 1: that just someone being prone to bloody noses or where

597
00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 1: it opens? I don't know, maybe he was doing blow

598
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:36,560
Speaker 1: who knows, for all I know what that boyfriend could

599
00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:41,480
Speaker 1: have been. Um, this girl says, I think, yeah, this

600
00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:43,520
Speaker 1: is the girl she said. Do you ever feel like

601
00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:45,680
Speaker 1: you hold out on sex if you really really like

602
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:47,840
Speaker 1: the person, but then accidentally hook up with the ones

603
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 1: you don't like as much, like the one I don't

604
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 1: like as much won't hurt me or something. I mean, look,

605
00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 1: I think we've been conditioned to think that like sleeping

606
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:01,800
Speaker 1: with someone too soon is a recipe for it to end.

607
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 1: So it would make sense that, like somewhere and you're subconscious,

608
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 1: you would be like, well, this one actually seems like

609
00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:10,120
Speaker 1: it might work, and I really like him, so I'm

610
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 1: not going to suck it up by just sleeping with him.

611
00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 1: I also think to it, like it really can sort

612
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:21,800
Speaker 1: of protect your connection to like really nurture that connection

613
00:33:21,920 --> 00:33:26,600
Speaker 1: before just fucking, because you know, back to Kuran, like,

614
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 1: I mean, maybe maybe that's it destroyed the connection by

615
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:33,960
Speaker 1: just like having sex too soon. I mean, I hate

616
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:39,080
Speaker 1: to sound like a you know, four weeks, I don't know, like, man,

617
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 1: trust me on the first date. I don't care. That's

618
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 1: like I'm single, you know what I mean. Like, so

619
00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 1: I um, I kind of get what was written by

620
00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 1: a woman or who said this is a woman. Yeah,

621
00:33:56,800 --> 00:33:59,280
Speaker 1: I mean I kind of get that, like not wanting

622
00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 1: to look I can't remember when I was younger, like

623
00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 1: not wanting to have sex because I thought that like,

624
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:08,719
Speaker 1: even if I brought it up, it would feel like

625
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:12,400
Speaker 1: that's all I cared about. So I wanted things to

626
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 1: feel like there was like this really natural transition to it,

627
00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:18,120
Speaker 1: or like the moment where it's just like, okay, now

628
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 1: it's just happening, rather than even being like, yo, do

629
00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:23,799
Speaker 1: you want to have sex? Like it just seemed like

630
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:26,800
Speaker 1: it was forcing it. I never wanted that to feel

631
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:29,440
Speaker 1: like that's all I cared about, and I felt like

632
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:32,040
Speaker 1: if I brought it up ever as part of conversation,

633
00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:34,359
Speaker 1: that's what it would look like no matter how long

634
00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 1: I've been dating somebody, So it would often take me

635
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:40,880
Speaker 1: a while to have sex with somebody. Now, like on

636
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 1: the first date on care I just think it's all

637
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 1: about like stop over analyzing, like feel it out in

638
00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:47,239
Speaker 1: the moment, you know. I think it's really fair to

639
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 1: ask for what you want. And I think too, there's

640
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:53,080
Speaker 1: lots of instances where it's like all both people want

641
00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:56,240
Speaker 1: is just to get laid that night, and that's fair.

642
00:34:55,920 --> 00:35:00,720
Speaker 1: Fea okay, um, this girl asked me all has sex

643
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 1: and Dating band since you've been kicked off the show?

644
00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:06,360
Speaker 1: L L No, I mean I would love to dive

645
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:11,360
Speaker 1: deeper than this. That doesn't exist. Well, I signed an

646
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:13,600
Speaker 1: any of that. Its exists. I signed a contract, but

647
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 1: it's up bitches. I'm just first of all, want to

648
00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 1: say kicked off the show. I wasn't kicked off the show.

649
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:22,279
Speaker 1: I stopped filming because the first time I went in

650
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 1: to go film, I knew the second I walked in.

651
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:26,720
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm being set up. But a certain

652
00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 1: person that was sitting on the couch with me, so like,

653
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:32,600
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna Yeah, Like, I'm not gonna film anymore

654
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 1: when I'm not an executive producer and I have a

655
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:40,520
Speaker 1: zero control over what they showed, said, did lied about

656
00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 1: all of those things. UM, sex and dating. Since the show,

657
00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:49,000
Speaker 1: thank you for asking, has been just fine. It's been

658
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 1: better because there's a lot less stress in your life. Well, honestly, so,

659
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:54,800
Speaker 1: when we were going into season three, I was pretty

660
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 1: stressed out because my boyfriend who um is actually going

661
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:01,480
Speaker 1: to do the piecast next week and so you guys

662
00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 1: will hear from him finally, but he's he's not in

663
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:07,359
Speaker 1: the public eye at all and he is like so

664
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:09,719
Speaker 1: not into that part of my life, like not like

665
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:12,480
Speaker 1: he's not in a supportive way, but he doesn't care

666
00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:14,919
Speaker 1: and he doesn't really want to be in the public eye.

667
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:17,759
Speaker 1: And so I was so stressed out about going into

668
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:19,799
Speaker 1: season three, like what am I gonna do? Am I

669
00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:22,600
Speaker 1: going to fake like I'm not dating someone? Am I

670
00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:26,840
Speaker 1: going to say I'm dating someone? But then like that, yeah,

671
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:29,919
Speaker 1: like it was like this really big question in my mind.

672
00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 1: And so maybe that was the universe saving me because

673
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:35,880
Speaker 1: I didn't have to go through that, But um, yeah,

674
00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:38,279
Speaker 1: I don't know, Like it's been a blessing to me

675
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:40,800
Speaker 1: that I haven't had to make those kind of decisions

676
00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:44,920
Speaker 1: for my relationship because other ship was going on. That

677
00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:47,239
Speaker 1: was not a blessing to me. But you've been able

678
00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:49,879
Speaker 1: to actually focus on what matters now. Yeah, it's having

679
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:53,239
Speaker 1: great sex and being present with your boyfriend exactly. And

680
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 1: this girl is not worrying about some fake ass drama. Okay,

681
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 1: as he pops his other rose say, didn't drink Andra's

682
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 1: a But you know what, it's actually the cutest can ever.

683
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 1: What's the company called. It's called BEV and they're not

684
00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:13,200
Speaker 1: a sponsor but made by Chicks. I love this drink.

685
00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:16,760
Speaker 1: That's good too. They're not a sponsor, but they should be.

686
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:19,719
Speaker 1: I was listening to Docks today and he referenced some

687
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 1: brand like there's like just very conversational and he's like

688
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:25,239
Speaker 1: blah blah blah and like reference to Brandon Goes and

689
00:37:25,280 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 1: they're not a sponsor. Yeah, that's cute. I know. I mean,

690
00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:29,960
Speaker 1: it is kind of funny because someone you talk about

691
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 1: stuff you like and you forget that people always think

692
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:35,319
Speaker 1: that they're you're sponsored by them. Um, this girl says,

693
00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just nosy and I want to know

694
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:38,879
Speaker 1: if you're still dating that guy. Yes, and he will

695
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:41,840
Speaker 1: be on the podcast next week, so stay tuned. And

696
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:44,359
Speaker 1: that's not nosy, that's caring. I know. I actually don't

697
00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:46,439
Speaker 1: think it's not nosy because I put my life out there,

698
00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:50,840
Speaker 1: so you're entitled to ask. Basically whatever you want doesn't

699
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 1: mean all answer. But um, okay, how are you supposed

700
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 1: to be okay with a guy you met four weeks

701
00:37:56,160 --> 00:37:59,880
Speaker 1: ago sleeping with other women because we're talking and getting

702
00:37:59,880 --> 00:38:02,279
Speaker 1: to know each other. It feels wrong somehow for my

703
00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 1: self esteem and ego. We can't do silence. No. I

704
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:11,920
Speaker 1: was taking a deep breath, and I did it the

705
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 1: better I look. I think if he's being honest with

706
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:18,480
Speaker 1: you about it, like you kind of have to appreciate that, right.

707
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:21,360
Speaker 1: I would say, if you don't want to sleep with

708
00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:23,520
Speaker 1: someone who's sleeping with other people, do not sleep with

709
00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:26,560
Speaker 1: them yet. Yeah, like that's when you in a way

710
00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 1: like I wouldn't be comfortable with it either, that's a

711
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:31,680
Speaker 1: mean thing, like I can't do sex with someone who's

712
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 1: having sex with other people. Um. But but I also

713
00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 1: think it's a good sign that he's being honest about that,

714
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 1: because there are plenty of guys out there that are

715
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:44,400
Speaker 1: fucking other people and not telling you that's fair. I

716
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:46,880
Speaker 1: wonder what the conversation is. I want more information, like

717
00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 1: did he actually tell her? Does she just know that?

718
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 1: You know? Because she said in quotes we're talking four

719
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 1: weeks though, like this is such a girl move that

720
00:38:57,640 --> 00:39:00,120
Speaker 1: I'm about to do. But like four weeks and I'm

721
00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:02,760
Speaker 1: sleeping with you, Like I'm kind of like just stop

722
00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 1: sucking screwing other girls, like exactly, like either where is

723
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:10,360
Speaker 1: this going? You know, you start you do start to

724
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:12,839
Speaker 1: do that thing. I mean the two months mark for

725
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:15,480
Speaker 1: me is like a very much safe place to be,

726
00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:18,240
Speaker 1: Like where the fund is this going? So is that

727
00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 1: is your desire to not sleep with someone who's also

728
00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:25,719
Speaker 1: sleeping with someone else of safety thing or is it

729
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:29,799
Speaker 1: an emotional thing? Both? I mean I think for me,

730
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 1: you know, and I say this often, like I definitely

731
00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:35,759
Speaker 1: think I'm different than a lot of girls, or maybe

732
00:39:35,800 --> 00:39:37,960
Speaker 1: I'm I'm not so different. I think there's maybe more

733
00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 1: girls like me. They just don't know how to talk

734
00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:43,760
Speaker 1: about it. But like I, uh, yeah, I got cheated

735
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:46,719
Speaker 1: on so bad, like it is such a trauma place

736
00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:48,880
Speaker 1: for me, and so I just can't like I just

737
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:54,239
Speaker 1: can't physically, my body will shut down, Like I can't

738
00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:57,600
Speaker 1: enjoy sex if I knew my partner was with someone else,

739
00:39:58,320 --> 00:40:00,600
Speaker 1: like I don't even know as if it was a

740
00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:02,880
Speaker 1: hook it's called a hook up at that point, but like,

741
00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:05,680
Speaker 1: yeah I would, I would just not be able to

742
00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:08,520
Speaker 1: do it, like it definitely wouldn't be able to orgasm

743
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:10,640
Speaker 1: or like be free, you know, like my body was

744
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 1: No dick is sorry, my vibrator is better for me.

745
00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:23,879
Speaker 1: It depends on the dick really well. I mean I've

746
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:26,040
Speaker 1: never bet a dick so good that I'm like he

747
00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:28,759
Speaker 1: could have bad it depends on where you are in

748
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:32,279
Speaker 1: the relationship, like for me, For me it's less, it

749
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 1: would be less the emotional thing and more about the

750
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 1: safety thing. Like yeah, there's there's definitely ways to have sex,

751
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 1: but like nothing is perfect. Also, sex with the condom

752
00:40:44,040 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 1: is not very fun. Like it's just there's a lot

753
00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:48,799
Speaker 1: of stuff that comes with that that I'm just like, yeah,

754
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:51,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to be restricted that way, right, So

755
00:40:51,840 --> 00:40:54,920
Speaker 1: I guess it is a safety but mostly emotional safety

756
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 1: situation for me. Well, I mean, look, if you're not

757
00:40:57,160 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 1: feeling safe, it certainly affects the emotions too. For sure.

758
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:04,719
Speaker 1: Were and like I was about to go, nothing drives

759
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:08,239
Speaker 1: me up faster and then I called myself but then

760
00:41:08,239 --> 00:41:13,000
Speaker 1: I said it anyway, So cheers to that. Okay, So

761
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:15,800
Speaker 1: we got a lot of questions the week before about

762
00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 1: ball play, and I didn't have totally mentioned it all

763
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:23,400
Speaker 1: my Instagram and I completely forgot to mention it in

764
00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:27,760
Speaker 1: the podcast. Um, but I want your opinion because obviously

765
00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:30,440
Speaker 1: you have balls and you play with balls, so I

766
00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:33,759
Speaker 1: feel like you're like our ball expert. Um, maybe you

767
00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:35,759
Speaker 1: know your balls have a couple of cobwebs right now,

768
00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:39,359
Speaker 1: But let's just pretend like they don't. Okay, okay, um,

769
00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 1: So this says yes, ball play. I want to know

770
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:45,120
Speaker 1: all about it, like with your hands, with your tongue,

771
00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 1: with your mouth, one at a time, two at a time.

772
00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 1: What about the taint? I don't know. Help, I mean

773
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:56,600
Speaker 1: kind of yes to all. Here's here's balls can be look,

774
00:41:56,760 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 1: some people like rough play with balls. Balls can also

775
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:05,440
Speaker 1: be very sensitive. The thing about your balls is, um,

776
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:09,520
Speaker 1: the ball, sack and the ball are not like one thing.

777
00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:15,680
Speaker 1: So a testicle can get twisted, which is an incredibly painful.

778
00:42:15,760 --> 00:42:18,920
Speaker 1: Friend that happened to you. No, it has not, um,

779
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:22,279
Speaker 1: but it is an incredibly like painful like I don't

780
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 1: know what's happening. I'm going to the emergency room situation.

781
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:29,040
Speaker 1: She's raising her hand, question it tested can get twisted

782
00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:31,759
Speaker 1: from someone sucking on your ball, but playing with it,

783
00:42:31,800 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 1: They're like pulling on it whatever, like yeah, I mean

784
00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 1: I guess if you yeah, someone was sucking on your

785
00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:42,120
Speaker 1: balls like violently. Um, And I don't mean. We're just

786
00:42:42,160 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 1: trying to figure out how to do it at all.

787
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:46,759
Speaker 1: And you're like taking it to a violence place, like

788
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 1: why did it get so dark? I don't know, I'm

789
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:53,719
Speaker 1: trying to protect us balls. Do you like to have

790
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:56,160
Speaker 1: your balls sacks? Okay? Do you like to have them

791
00:42:56,200 --> 00:43:00,960
Speaker 1: sucked or like juggled? I mean I like to have

792
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:03,840
Speaker 1: them played with. I mean they're sensitive, so like what

793
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:08,760
Speaker 1: does it feel like? I mean it feels good, Um,

794
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:11,600
Speaker 1: but they can be sensitive. I imagine, like I don't

795
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 1: have breasts at least, like I'm not supposed to. I

796
00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:22,759
Speaker 1: don't have a good one, so I'm not supposed to

797
00:43:22,880 --> 00:43:25,760
Speaker 1: what I do kind of have man titty. Um, but

798
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:28,960
Speaker 1: you know I am like to me, it's kind of

799
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:31,400
Speaker 1: they're kind of like the male version of tits. So

800
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:36,759
Speaker 1: it's like nipples are so sensitive, pretty sensitive, but like

801
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:39,600
Speaker 1: in a good way. Yeah, but they can also be

802
00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:41,520
Speaker 1: like if they can hurt, well, I don't want someone

803
00:43:41,520 --> 00:43:44,520
Speaker 1: to the ship out of the nipple, like maybe a

804
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:49,160
Speaker 1: little nipple like okay, so it's like licking and sucking

805
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:53,239
Speaker 1: on balls, like start with that licking and sucking the taint.

806
00:43:53,280 --> 00:43:55,920
Speaker 1: I don't think there's a whole lot that like goes

807
00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:59,440
Speaker 1: on with the taint unless you're applying pressure, because the

808
00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:02,840
Speaker 1: taint is kind of where the the male g spot

809
00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:06,279
Speaker 1: is like under the taine inside and under. So if

810
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:08,719
Speaker 1: there's some if you're applying pressure on that, just push

811
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:13,360
Speaker 1: a little bit, a little finger, not so much, not

812
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:16,239
Speaker 1: so much. I mean that's a little pressure though, right

813
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:20,440
Speaker 1: with you. That's true. Okay, So I have a couple

814
00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 1: of notes that I've been told and I want your opinion. Um,

815
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:31,840
Speaker 1: with the sucking the balls, we get here, this is

816
00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:36,839
Speaker 1: our life. Um, So with the sucking the balls, well,

817
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:38,400
Speaker 1: I mean, we can't even look at each other, you

818
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:47,040
Speaker 1: guys back to I've been told that while you're sucking,

819
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:49,640
Speaker 1: can't look at you in the eye. Right now, while

820
00:44:49,680 --> 00:44:53,479
Speaker 1: you're sucking, you should also be jacking him off because

821
00:44:53,480 --> 00:45:00,359
Speaker 1: you can't just like leave the dit Yeah, I mean there,

822
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:06,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, right now, I'm literally having a hot flash.

823
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:11,319
Speaker 1: I'm not going to I mean, look, the truth is

824
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:14,239
Speaker 1: most guys like the dick is where it's really at.

825
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 1: So I don't even really care about the balls. But

826
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:21,600
Speaker 1: like sometimes I'm like, but don't you want me to

827
00:45:21,640 --> 00:45:24,640
Speaker 1: move around? Yeah, don't abandon the dick, like keep your

828
00:45:24,680 --> 00:45:27,840
Speaker 1: hand on it to keep moving while you like you

829
00:45:27,840 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 1: don't really just go down to the balls or the team. Okay,

830
00:45:31,080 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 1: So then another thing, unless it's like lead up to

831
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:37,799
Speaker 1: getting to the deck, like the teasing. Yeah, it's like

832
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:43,440
Speaker 1: four play you're working your way toward it. Yeah, yeah, okay, okay,

833
00:45:43,640 --> 00:45:46,680
Speaker 1: that makes sense. Okay, I mean that's interesting. The boss

834
00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 1: of the balls are sensitive, but the dick is where

835
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 1: it's I imagine if like your guy was like paying

836
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 1: attention to your badge okay, whatever I want it, and

837
00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:00,200
Speaker 1: then it was like, okay, I'm just going to play

838
00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:03,760
Speaker 1: with your chets now, you'd be like, um, you forgot

839
00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:06,440
Speaker 1: about the fucking main act. Okay, well I have something

840
00:46:06,480 --> 00:46:14,320
Speaker 1: to say about that. Okay. It's like she's like literally

841
00:46:14,320 --> 00:46:17,960
Speaker 1: one time did like, my nipples are so sensitive, and

842
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:19,799
Speaker 1: I don't think that's true for every girl. I don't

843
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 1: know what my with guys. There's some guys that like, yeah,

844
00:46:22,560 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 1: like literally get off by having their nipples played with guys. Really,

845
00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:31,440
Speaker 1: I don't know. It was shocked me. It like literally

846
00:46:31,480 --> 00:46:35,560
Speaker 1: shocked me, but it happened. There was like a little

847
00:46:35,600 --> 00:46:39,440
Speaker 1: play downstairs, but like not very much and definitely not penetration,

848
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 1: and I yeah, I'll be sure not to rub against

849
00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:45,719
Speaker 1: you sometimes, Like when I don't weary wrong, I'm like,

850
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:54,879
Speaker 1: oh god, that sure that material silk baby, Um I'm

851
00:46:54,920 --> 00:46:57,520
Speaker 1: looking Okay, this is it's the long one too, and

852
00:46:57,560 --> 00:47:00,960
Speaker 1: I think this is probably our last one. Um, this

853
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:03,719
Speaker 1: is from Brent. You know what I love. We're getting

854
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:08,480
Speaker 1: where messages from guys that I absolutely love it. Um.

855
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 1: This guy says, I used to work with a girl.

856
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:14,080
Speaker 1: Started as a friendship, working out, and we just got

857
00:47:14,320 --> 00:47:21,360
Speaker 1: decided to exclusively quarantined together with built people. You guys, listen,

858
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:25,319
Speaker 1: I'm drinking when I do this. You have got You've

859
00:47:25,360 --> 00:47:29,320
Speaker 1: got to type correctly. Okay, he says, together with built

860
00:47:29,360 --> 00:47:33,360
Speaker 1: a relationship. I'm gonna go with together we built a relationship. Okay,

861
00:47:33,960 --> 00:47:39,400
Speaker 1: what's our best guests brand? We're gonna move on that.

862
00:47:39,719 --> 00:47:43,720
Speaker 1: I don't think it's that important. Yeah, okay. Anyway, with COVID,

863
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:47,680
Speaker 1: a dating life became a living together situation very quickly.

864
00:47:48,239 --> 00:47:52,560
Speaker 1: I understand that. However, things were great weekly date nights, etcetera,

865
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:55,640
Speaker 1: until two weeks ago. I woke up and she asked

866
00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:58,920
Speaker 1: that we take time apart. She felt that I was

867
00:47:59,000 --> 00:48:02,840
Speaker 1: too reliable on her and that if I were around,

868
00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:06,600
Speaker 1: she couldn't do her naps, her book reading, or her

869
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:10,319
Speaker 1: time to herself, even though she enjoyed my company. Who

870
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:13,720
Speaker 1: is this girl who I kind of get it and

871
00:48:14,280 --> 00:48:17,640
Speaker 1: we'll let you finish, Okay, Sorry, I'm I'm just like

872
00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 1: I look perspective. Here's the thing they were. They were

873
00:48:22,560 --> 00:48:26,239
Speaker 1: work friends and then together they moved in together, so

874
00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:30,799
Speaker 1: their new normal became we're together two So it's a lot.

875
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:33,080
Speaker 1: So I think it's fair for her to set some

876
00:48:33,120 --> 00:48:37,200
Speaker 1: boundaries and say, wait a minute, like my alone time,

877
00:48:37,320 --> 00:48:40,000
Speaker 1: and it has nothing to do with you. It has

878
00:48:40,040 --> 00:48:43,719
Speaker 1: everything to do with me and what I need. And

879
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:46,520
Speaker 1: and I look, I am such a creature of habit

880
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:49,439
Speaker 1: that like I would be just like him, like, oh,

881
00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:51,279
Speaker 1: this is what we do. We do everything together, that's

882
00:48:51,280 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 1: what we do. And if something started to change, I'd

883
00:48:55,600 --> 00:48:57,880
Speaker 1: be like, why are you acting weird? Right? But I

884
00:48:57,920 --> 00:49:00,160
Speaker 1: get I get what she's saying. I mean, I hear

885
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:01,680
Speaker 1: it too. I just think it made me laugh that

886
00:49:01,760 --> 00:49:04,680
Speaker 1: he was like, I can't do He's totally the girl

887
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:10,560
Speaker 1: in this situation, totally. Her reasoning is she can't do

888
00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:13,080
Speaker 1: her naps, her book reading, her time to herself like

889
00:49:13,480 --> 00:49:15,560
Speaker 1: those I don't know why the I mean, I wonder

890
00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:18,200
Speaker 1: if he's like, what are you reading? Well, I guess

891
00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:19,719
Speaker 1: like what are you doing? Like there's let her go

892
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:23,279
Speaker 1: to the back room then and take a man. Yeah, okay, yeah,

893
00:49:23,280 --> 00:49:26,399
Speaker 1: maybe she needs to just speak up. Yeah, agreed. Long

894
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 1: story short, it's been two weeks. I've seen her a

895
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:31,080
Speaker 1: few times at our workout sessions, but she's told me

896
00:49:31,120 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 1: as of recent as recent as today, that it may

897
00:49:34,480 --> 00:49:36,640
Speaker 1: be easier to talk as friends in a couple of weeks.

898
00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:38,440
Speaker 1: I know we can be great. We just need to

899
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:40,960
Speaker 1: slow it down. She's agreed to meet up in a

900
00:49:40,960 --> 00:49:42,600
Speaker 1: couple of weeks to talk. What do I do? Do

901
00:49:42,640 --> 00:49:45,160
Speaker 1: I cut off communication? Do I stop working out? Is

902
00:49:45,200 --> 00:49:50,280
Speaker 1: it even worth it? I think you say, I really

903
00:49:50,320 --> 00:49:53,279
Speaker 1: like you, I dig you. I'm going to give you

904
00:49:53,320 --> 00:49:56,200
Speaker 1: the space that you need. Make her miss you, man like.

905
00:49:56,840 --> 00:49:59,359
Speaker 1: She has literally had a year's worth of time with

906
00:49:59,400 --> 00:50:03,480
Speaker 1: you in six months. It's true quarantine break up. And

907
00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:06,560
Speaker 1: you know what if she doesn't miss you, fuck her? Well? Right,

908
00:50:06,600 --> 00:50:08,480
Speaker 1: he said? He ended. The last thing he said was

909
00:50:08,560 --> 00:50:11,600
Speaker 1: both families have met, no fights ever. She's just super

910
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:15,239
Speaker 1: to herself and independent. I'm struggling because I'm thirty eight

911
00:50:15,239 --> 00:50:17,600
Speaker 1: and I could see myself with her long term. Well,

912
00:50:17,680 --> 00:50:19,400
Speaker 1: I got to give her the space. I think you

913
00:50:19,760 --> 00:50:21,839
Speaker 1: lay it out, let her know how you feel and

914
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:25,480
Speaker 1: say but I respect you. I know this has been

915
00:50:25,560 --> 00:50:28,239
Speaker 1: hard on both of us. Let me know when you

916
00:50:28,640 --> 00:50:32,520
Speaker 1: like want to pick this up. It's just fucking weird times.

917
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:35,440
Speaker 1: The other weird thing is is, you know what's unfortunate

918
00:50:35,680 --> 00:50:39,880
Speaker 1: is sometimes especially in this situation, like they're not actually

919
00:50:40,040 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 1: boyfriend and girlfriend doesn't sound like they ever really went there,

920
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:45,279
Speaker 1: you might need to play a little hard to get

921
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:47,520
Speaker 1: to make her be like, oh damn, I do want

922
00:50:47,560 --> 00:50:49,719
Speaker 1: this guy. Yeah, you know what I mean. I hate

923
00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:51,960
Speaker 1: that you have to do that, but like there is

924
00:50:52,000 --> 00:50:56,759
Speaker 1: something about our human psyche sometimes that if someone's too available,

925
00:50:57,880 --> 00:51:01,839
Speaker 1: you kind of saying and maybe make or lay it out, like,

926
00:51:02,440 --> 00:51:06,319
Speaker 1: you know, maybe say like are you are you fine

927
00:51:06,360 --> 00:51:08,480
Speaker 1: if I date other people at this point? You know,

928
00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:11,960
Speaker 1: like I know what the boundaries are. Maker give real

929
00:51:12,000 --> 00:51:16,120
Speaker 1: boundaries and then go about your life. And if it's

930
00:51:16,120 --> 00:51:18,840
Speaker 1: meant to be, it's meant to be. And it's so cliche,

931
00:51:19,120 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 1: but it's kind of true. If it's meant to be,

932
00:51:22,920 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 1: it'll be, it'll be. How do we get We're gonna

933
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:28,440
Speaker 1: have to pay the licensing? Now? How did we get here?

934
00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:31,960
Speaker 1: We get here? Okay, we gotta go on that note,

935
00:51:32,040 --> 00:51:36,799
Speaker 1: We better go. We got we're about to go I

936
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:40,920
Speaker 1: hope I get a shrimp throwne in my throat. That's

937
00:51:40,960 --> 00:51:42,520
Speaker 1: like the most fun thing, isn't it throw it up

938
00:51:42,520 --> 00:51:43,839
Speaker 1: in the air and you have to catch it like

939
00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:50,759
Speaker 1: a great throat that. Hey, you guys, be on the

940
00:51:50,800 --> 00:51:54,000
Speaker 1: lookout for our cameo page. Hopefully we'll be launching. I'm

941
00:51:54,080 --> 00:51:57,040
Speaker 1: gonna say maybe about next week. Um. We'll keep you

942
00:51:57,040 --> 00:51:59,759
Speaker 1: guys posted on my Instagram at Velvet's Edge. Chip is

943
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:03,720
Speaker 1: at chip Doors. Always keep these messages coming to at casual.

944
00:52:03,760 --> 00:52:06,400
Speaker 1: At Velvet's Edge dot com. You can always d m

945
00:52:06,480 --> 00:52:08,680
Speaker 1: u s as well. We love the like dirty Ship.

946
00:52:09,120 --> 00:52:12,720
Speaker 1: I'm so glad my mom only has a flip phone.

947
00:52:13,080 --> 00:52:16,120
Speaker 1: Unfortunately my mom listens, so my dad only does Facebook.

948
00:52:16,160 --> 00:52:18,120
Speaker 1: So you don't know ship. Now. These people don't know.

949
00:52:18,320 --> 00:52:20,319
Speaker 1: My parents, on the other hand, are like, oh God,

950
00:52:20,360 --> 00:52:25,879
Speaker 1: our daughter. People like on their knees, they're just praying. Um, well,

951
00:52:25,960 --> 00:52:28,360
Speaker 1: you guys have a great week. Thanks again for listening,

952
00:52:28,400 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 1: and always remember a casual