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Speaker 1: Hey, John, you're under arrest. Oh no, don't do it.

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Speaker 1: I'm an og okay story time podcast host.

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Speaker 2: I don't care.

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Speaker 1: I'm making sure that you stay here for the next

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Speaker 1: two minutes. All right, I'll be detained for the two

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Speaker 1: more minutes before we get into this episode.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we got some ads coming up.

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Speaker 4: Just stick around.

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Speaker 5: Stick around. My roommate moved her homeless boyfriend in so

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Speaker 5: I reported to that.

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Speaker 3: You're gonna have to stay home most unless you can pay.

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Speaker 5: I thirties female have been renting a house with my

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Speaker 5: longtime friend for two months now. We're both on the lease,

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Speaker 5: but I paid the deposit, the moving costs, and roughly

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Speaker 5: seventy five percent of all living expenses. By the way,

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Speaker 5: this comes from user Eric Sanderson. And if you want

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Speaker 5: Oway Storytime subpred it.

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Speaker 4: I'm Dakota, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Riley, I'm Carly, and we're here.

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Speaker 4: To give you good advice. Goofly, but we don't have

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Speaker 4: all the answers.

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Speaker 5: We really know what we would do, so if you

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Speaker 5: would do something different, let us know in the comments.

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Speaker 4: And Opeace says, yes, I know this is dumb.

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Speaker 5: My friend doesn't make much money and was in a

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Speaker 5: bad situation and she couldn't live here without being on

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Speaker 5: the lease. We've lived together for almost three years and

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Speaker 5: it's been fantastic. I had moved to a new city

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Speaker 5: and she knew lots of people and helped me establish

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Speaker 5: a social life. I had no problem with the arrangement

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Speaker 5: until now. She recently and tragically.

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Speaker 4: Lost her dog.

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Speaker 5: It was like a child to her, and she has

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Speaker 5: been spiraling ever since. She's wasted all the time, starting

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Speaker 5: fights and hurling insults. We had basically stopped talking when

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Speaker 5: about a month ago she met.

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Speaker 4: Some random guy.

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Speaker 5: I don't know much about him, but what I've seen

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Speaker 5: isn't great. Two weeks ago, she got a DUI and

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Speaker 5: this guy bailed her out. The next day, he came

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Speaker 5: back to our house with her and spent much of

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Speaker 5: the day there. Then he started coming here every day,

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Speaker 5: taking up the living room and walking around with.

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Speaker 4: No shirt on.

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Speaker 5: I avoided them as much as I could, and we

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Speaker 5: never exchanged words. The guy gives me the creeps. Large,

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Speaker 5: maybe six' four on the heavier. Side his vibe Is

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Speaker 5: just six days, ago he spent the night, here then

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Speaker 5: he stayed over the next night and the next night.

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Speaker 4: And the following, MORNING i told my roommate that it's

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Speaker 5: To be taking up the house and having her boyfriend

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Speaker 5: stay over for long. STRETCHES i told her he made me,

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Speaker 5: uncomfortable and she basically said it's her.

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Speaker 4: Boyfriend and her house and she can do what she.

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Speaker 5: WANTS i told my roommate it seemed like her boyfriend

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Speaker 5: was attempting to stay here long, term AND i pointed

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Speaker 5: out that our least limits guests to fourteen nights in

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Speaker 5: a six month. Period this is where things changed and

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Speaker 5: WHERE i need. Advice my roommate has now started saying

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Speaker 5: things LIKE i feel, THREATENED i feel, unsafe AND i

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Speaker 5: need my boyfriend here for.

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Speaker 4: Protection there is no truth to any of.

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Speaker 5: It i've been leaving the house every evening after work

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Speaker 5: and only coming home around eleven or, twelve completely avoiding

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Speaker 5: all contact with both of. Them the only contact you've

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Speaker 5: ever had was one evening WHEN i came home around

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Speaker 5: eleven and they were smoking The devil's leaf on our front.

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Speaker 5: Porch he was once again basically in his, underwear AND

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Speaker 5: i asked him to please wear clothes when he's in

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Speaker 5: the common areas of the.

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Speaker 4: House that's the only Thing i've ever said to.

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Speaker 5: Him it seems like she's using this as some kind

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Speaker 5: of legal defense strategy and is planning to tell our

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Speaker 5: agent and the owners That i'm some kind of danger

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Speaker 5: to her and she needs her boyfriend here for protection

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Speaker 5: when they tell her he needs to. Go, yesterday her

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Speaker 5: boyfriend showed up at four pm WHILE i was still

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Speaker 5: working from home and spent the rest of the day

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Speaker 5: and night. Here he's literally waking, up going to, work

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Speaker 4: Home he's living. Here SO i got. Curious last. Night

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Speaker 4: WHEN i got, HOME i looked through the window into his.

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Speaker 5: Suv it's, filled AND i mean filled with clothes and.

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Speaker 5: Hangars it looked exactly like a car someone is living out.

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Speaker 5: Of Maybe i'm being, crazy but it seems like this

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Speaker 4: My roommate into moving into our.

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Speaker 5: House her sudden shift in, language all the talk about

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Speaker 5: threats and protection is not like, her and it feels

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Speaker 5: completely divorced from. Reality it seems like she's being. Coached

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Speaker 5: i've spoken with our, agent Who i'm friendly, with and

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Speaker 5: she's aware of the. Situation she's seen the guy's car

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Speaker 5: here every day and said she'll be messaging my roommate

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Speaker 5: about the guest rules.

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Speaker 4: Today my concern is that my roommate is going to

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Speaker 4: start lying and.

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Speaker 5: Accusing me of making her feeling, unsafe telling the agent

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Speaker 5: she needs her boyfriend of her. Protection i'm not super

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Speaker 5: concerned that it'll, work BUT i am worried that the

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Speaker 5: agent and owners might look at the situation and decide

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Speaker 5: it's not worth the hassle and just cancel the.

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Speaker 4: LEASE i really like this house and don't want to.

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Speaker 5: Move i've already changed The Wi fi, PASSWORD i pay

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Speaker 5: all the, utilities locked up all my, possessions which include, plates,

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Speaker 5: cookware and. SILVERWARE i am just out of options at

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Speaker 5: this point and wondering if anyone has been in a similar.

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Speaker 5: Situation we have an, update, honestly AND i think let's

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Speaker 5: just get right into.

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Speaker 3: It if you want to get out of.

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Speaker 6: It here's the, pipeline all, right and lord tall friend

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Speaker 6: ta a tall friend of your.

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Speaker 3: Own, yes you gotta have your own giant to fight

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Speaker 3: the other. Giant and then.

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Speaker 4: Conversation exit to your, left to your left.

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Speaker 5: Out maybe, yeah maybe maybe you do to your Left

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Speaker 5: beyonce Out.

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Speaker 4: Beyonce he Is.

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Speaker 3: BEYONCE i did not say, that and she got that from.

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Speaker 4: Me one more theory before we get into that.

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Speaker 3: Update, dude you know HOW i feel about.

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Speaker 5: Theories so this, guy you, know he's looking for he's

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Speaker 5: looking he's looking for a place to, stay he's looking

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Speaker 5: place to. Live why don't you make a little treasure?

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Speaker 5: Map all, right you find.

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Speaker 4: You can plant. It you can plant a treasure.

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Speaker 5: Map find it in the, backyard, right get the ancients

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Speaker 5: in and get the owners in on it. Too the

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Speaker 5: owners be, like you found a. Map who's is there a?

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Speaker 5: Name is there are there any names on the. Map

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Speaker 5: and then there's, like, yeah it's the, uh the uh believable,

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Speaker 5: name a believable, name THE mc, right THE mc rights, rights,

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Speaker 5: yeah the mc. Yes and they're, like oh my, god the.

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Speaker 5: McCarthy the McCarthy. Map they buried a house somewhere and

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Speaker 5: we never knew. Where and you give that map to that,

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Speaker 5: shirtless pantsless man and he'll run out of the front

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Speaker 5: door like a big, baby following those, lines getting to those,

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Speaker 5: axes and the ax is just.

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Speaker 4: Uh police, station boom.

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Speaker 5: Easy and he gets arrested for being public nudity because

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Speaker 5: he's not wearing any clothes because that's what he doesn't

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Speaker 4: Clothes not in this version of the, story in this

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Speaker 4: let me.

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Speaker 5: Walk it's a municipal, code local code from where they. Live,

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Speaker 5: yeah and that might.

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Speaker 3: Work all, Right WELL i might work into the.

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Speaker 4: Update, yeah let's get into that. Update let's see what really. Works, Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Okay they trashed the kitchen and bathroom, daily forcing me

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Speaker 5: cook and. SHOWER i begged her to, stop but she,

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Speaker 5: refused and our friendship completely. Collapsed things became extremely. Antagonistic our,

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Speaker 5: landlord who lives next, door repeatedly reminded her that our

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Speaker 5: least prohibits guests from staying over more than fourteen.

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Speaker 4: Times in six.

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Speaker 5: Months, unfortunately we never had a signed rental agreement between,

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Speaker 5: us SO i was stuck paying seventy five percent of

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Speaker 5: House she made it clear she wasn't going to leave

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Speaker 5: or break the. Lease she knew neither of them could

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Speaker 5: DO i locked up all the, pots, pans and, dishes

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Speaker 5: in dryer. Sheets they had NO, tv no, internet and

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Speaker 5: were using a cheap three dollars saw tappan and paper

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Speaker 5: plates to cook, with but they kept on living. There,

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Speaker 5: Luckily i've been friends with our landlord since we moved,

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Speaker 5: beyond fourteen, days they would evict. Us my roommate said

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Speaker 5: she understood and that she would and that he would

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Speaker 5: be gone after the fourteenth. Day but sure, enough on day,

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Speaker 5: fifteen he was right back at the. House we had

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Speaker 5: me and tried to attack, me but my roommate held him.

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Speaker 5: just stormed out and slammed the. DOOR i spoke with

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Speaker 5: enough to seek a. Protection after, that he stopped staying,

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Speaker 5: over but continued to basically live at our, house arriving

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Speaker 5: AGO i finally caught up. Break she messed up and

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Speaker 2: Whoo you're.

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Speaker 5: Free an hour, later my landlord sent both of us

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Speaker 5: a notice of, eviction instructing us that we both had

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Speaker 5: AND i happened to be at the same sports, bar a,

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Speaker 5: cursing me out and telling everyone THAT i had gotten

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Speaker 5: us evicted BECAUSE i went whining to the. Landlord she

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Speaker 5: freaking out and saying that she'd be homeless and wouldn't

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Speaker 5: be able to rent a place with an eviction on her.

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Speaker 5: Record she even tried to convince the landlord to just

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Speaker 5: evictim me and let her boyfriend move in, instead saying

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Speaker 5: THAT i was the one causing all the.

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Speaker 4: Problems who is this.

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Speaker 3: PERSON i love your perception of the world because it's

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Speaker 3: just crack a doodle.

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Speaker 4: Do like you have.

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Speaker 6: Friends the reason you don't have plates is because your

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Speaker 6: roommate locked them. Up sher men making a. Mess you get,

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Speaker 6: That i've never. Heard i've heard a few stories of

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Speaker 6: people locking up like. Silverware but it got to that, point,

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Speaker 6: dude oh, man you. Can't you can't reason with the

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Speaker 6: fool that's. True can't do, it can't do.

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Speaker 5: It, so of course the landlord said, no but told

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Speaker 5: her she could avoid the eviction if she agreed to

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Speaker 5: break the, lease move out at the end of the,

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Speaker 5: month and not have her boyfriend over at. All in the,

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Speaker 5: hey the trash took itself. Out change the locks, goodness

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Speaker 5: change all the. Locks tell your landlord to change the.

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Speaker 6: LOCKS i can't believe people have to live like, this you,

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Speaker 3: Carly have you had a bad? Roommate how did you

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Speaker 6: Lot because it seems like this person it took a

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Speaker 2: Situation actually pretty.

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Speaker 7: CONVENIENTLY i think anytime that that's, happened someone's just.

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Speaker 4: Moved, YEAH i. Don't, yeah have you had.

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Speaker 5: Whatnot i've had like, situations but nothing like this where

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Speaker 4: Horrific, god it got. IT i THINK i told your story.

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Speaker 5: ONCE i had a roommate where we were playing video

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Speaker 5: BECAUSE i was playing by his rules and his rules were,

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Speaker 5: he threatened to take HIS tv. Away he threatened to

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Speaker 5: Nice he did that as a twenty year, old, which you.

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Speaker 3: Know, whatever he's still a.

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Speaker 4: Boy but, uh, yeah nothing like, this nothing even.

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Speaker 6: Close put some una put some taglines of like two

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Speaker 7: Situation i'm trying to think of like any ADVICE i

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Speaker 4: Away not give it.

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Speaker 3: Away the roommate was give it. Away i'll send it

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Speaker 3: to the. Roommate we don't even. Care we'll back you. Up.

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Speaker 2: Carly.

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Speaker 4: Uh, WELL i.

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Speaker 7: Had one roommate where we had like a week of

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Speaker 3: Itself all, right he have, fiance let's go.

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Speaker 4: Fiance, okay fiance. Time all, right let's finish the.

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Speaker 5: Story about a week, ago they came to the house

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Speaker 5: the lease at the end of the. MONTH i just

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Speaker 4: Home back On. November fis not sure what the lesson is.

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Speaker 5: Here definitely be cool with your landlord and always always

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Speaker 5: One this was a longtime friend or just three. Years

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Speaker 5: it's really sad that the friendship just went to. Crap

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Speaker 4: YOU i know it sucks losing a, pet but throwing

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Speaker 4: Replies we've been friends for many.

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Speaker 5: Years we had one period after moving in where we

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Speaker 4: Respectful that lasted for all of two.

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Speaker 5: Days it may have started with her, dog but it

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Speaker 5: became all about the. Boyfriend it's one of those high

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Speaker 5: school codependent us against the world kind of. Relationships she

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Speaker 5: disrespectful and completely lost to the. World it's really, sad

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Speaker 5: but she's not the GIRL i knew. Anymore and that's

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Speaker 5: the end of that.

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Speaker 6: Story my roommate kept turning off my lights And i've had, Enough,

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Speaker 6: well then turn them. Off i'm not entirely sure who's

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Speaker 6: more so in the, wrong so let me know If

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Speaker 6: i'm being. UNREASONABLE i live in a house with five,

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Speaker 6: by the, way this comes From Dear independent thirty. Eight

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Speaker 6: and if you want us maryln, stories go to the

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Speaker 6: Rsage okay storytime. Subreddit I'm, riley the one who can't.

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Speaker 7: Cube I'm, carly the one with the light switch train, now.

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Speaker 6: And we're here to give good, advice, schoofully but we

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Speaker 6: don't have all the, answers so let us know what

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Speaker 6: you would do in the commons down, below, ope he. Says,

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Speaker 6: lately one of my, roommates let's call Her, jenna has,

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Speaker 6: been in my, opinion very controlling about lights and. Electricity

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Speaker 6: there have been multiple times where we would be hanging

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Speaker 6: Us the Second genna wants to go up to her,

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Speaker 6: are still hanging out in that. Space he has also

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Speaker 6: OUT i was continuously going in and out of my.

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Speaker 3: Room to do my makeup and get.

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Speaker 6: Ready in, general SOMETIMES i would go downstairs and leave

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Speaker 6: the light on in my room just to say hi

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Speaker 6: to someone who got, here BUT i would not be

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Speaker 6: out of my room for more than ten minutes at a. Time,

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Speaker 6: well she brought her brother into the, house and while

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Speaker 6: giving him a tour of the, upstairs she went into

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Speaker 4: With her brother there.

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Speaker 6: TOO i was really frustrated with this BECAUSE i was

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Speaker 4: For to enter my personal, space let alone.

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Speaker 6: Her, brother who was a complete stranger to. Me it

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Speaker 6: was extra uncomfortable for me because my room was cluttered

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Speaker 6: AS i was going through a bit of a depressive.

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Speaker 6: Space no food, message just cluttering. Clothes this may BE,

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Speaker 6: caused very irregular and heavy, bleeding SO i had bloody

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Speaker 3: Sure her brother.

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Speaker 6: Saw after this, Happened jenna met with us while we

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Speaker 6: of us to be more mindful about the lights because

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Speaker 6: it would save us all. MONEY i said that her

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Speaker 6: concerns are, valid but if someone is continuously going in

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Speaker 6: turn it on and off rapidly than it was just

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Speaker 6: to leave it. On after, THIS i did some research

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Speaker 6: and found WHAT i said wasn't actually, true BUT i

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Speaker 6: NIGHT i was carrying down an empty drink cup to fill,

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Speaker 6: up as well as some garbage from my. Room it

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Speaker 6: was later in the, day SO i left my light

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Speaker 6: on SO i could see WHERE i was going while

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Speaker 6: my hands were full to use my phone. Flashlight WHEN

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Speaker 6: i got, downstairs a different roommate was, downstairs so we

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Speaker 6: chatted for about five minutes BEFORE i went. Up in

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Speaker 6: the middle of us, talking we heard someone leave their

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Speaker 6: into their room and shut the. Door WHEN i got

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Speaker 4: ROOM i, fell my light and my fan turned.

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Speaker 6: OFF i am very frustrated with. This AGAIN i did

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Speaker 6: not give her permission.

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Speaker 3: To go into my.

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Speaker 6: i saw no issue with leaving a light on if

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Speaker 6: you are quickly going back to your, room and she

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Speaker 6: didn't say anything to disagree with. ME i also think

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Speaker 6: or mind IF i go into your room and turn

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Speaker 6: your light off is basic. Courtesy she has also gone

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Speaker 6: into my Roommate sallie's. Room sallly's room is the only

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Speaker 6: go Into sallie's room and unplug the cord for various,

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Speaker 6: items her, lamp her, fan and her rechargeable electric truth

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Speaker 6: brush in her. Bathroom sally told me that sometimes when

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Speaker 6: there's so much more she has, done but the lion

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Speaker 6: situation is the most recent problem we've had with. Her

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Speaker 6: we want to sit her down and have a conversation about,

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Speaker 6: boundaries but she's had a bad habit of SAYING i

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Speaker 6: didn't mean to make you guys hate, me instead of

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Speaker 6: just apologizing like a normal person also learned.

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Speaker 3: Behavior she will also.

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Speaker 6: do the things we allegedly hate her. For how do

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Speaker 6: we communicate with someone who does not take accountability and

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Speaker 6: plays a victim when she makes people upset with?

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Speaker 3: Her, update we got it.

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Speaker 4: HERE i would aggressively agree with. Her she's, like you

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Speaker 5: Me i'll be, like, YEAH i hate you when you

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Speaker 5: you over and over again not. To so the fun

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Speaker 5: thing about that is all you have to do to

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Speaker 5: get me to stop hating you is to stop doing now,

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Speaker 5: again it all goes.

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Speaker 6: Away this is the first Layer i'm gonna dive into the.

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Speaker 6: Second going to college and rooming with someone is such

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Speaker 6: a weird. Thing it's like entering teenage years again in my,

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Speaker 6: opinion because you have two people who have been with

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Speaker 6: their parents for assumably for the rest or whoever there's

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Speaker 6: been guarding them for all their, lives and now they're

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Speaker 3: Own, yeah and now guess who is the decision? Maker

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Speaker 3: now the?

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Speaker 4: Child the, Child so the decisions this.

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Speaker 6: Person and you learn this through college and then by

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Speaker 6: the time you get out of, college you're Like, okay

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Speaker 6: NOW i can actually do. THINGS i really think this

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Speaker 6: poor girl has been hammered in her head that having

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Speaker 6: the lights on is the absolutely worst thing you could ever.

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Speaker 5: Do, yeah it's the cardinal the cardinal.

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Speaker 6: Sin, yeah and a little bit of love for this,

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Speaker 6: girl be, like, GIRL i love, YOU i don't hate.

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Speaker 6: You but we gotta figure out this light. Situation can

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Speaker 6: we have gas?

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Speaker 8: Lamps what's my candle light for the rest of the.

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Speaker 3: Year can we have candle? LIGHTS i just need some

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Speaker 3: light to walk. Around i'm. Clumsy let's figure this.

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Speaker 4: OUT i feel like they've tried. THAT i feel like

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Speaker 4: they haven't sat down with her. Yet they, Haven't they're about.

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Speaker 4: TO i feel like they. Did, well maybe they, did

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Speaker 5: Meat they did have a sit down where she was

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Speaker 5: like remember she was, like, oh, well when you turn

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Speaker 5: the lights on and, off they actually cost.

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Speaker 4: More and then she found out she was wrong about.

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Speaker 6: That so, update my roommate left without giving us the

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Speaker 6: heads up and took The Wi.

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Speaker 6: Season along with entering people's rooms without, Permission jenna has

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00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:33,600
Speaker 6: been sending a lot of passive aggressive texts in the

440
00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:38,080
Speaker 6: house Screw chat one, Morning, harold she INSISTS i used

441
00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:41,960
Speaker 6: this name. Lol was getting ready for clinicals at four

442
00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:44,919
Speaker 6: point thirty, am she turned the hallway light on so

443
00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:47,119
Speaker 6: she could see where she was going around the. House

444
00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:51,640
Speaker 6: the seconds she, Did jenna came out of her room

445
00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:55,960
Speaker 6: and complained about the wholeway light being too bright.

446
00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:57,080
Speaker 3: And turned it off On.

447
00:21:57,240 --> 00:21:59,080
Speaker 2: Harold the funny.

448
00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:04,480
Speaker 6: Thing Is jenna had a, bright pink led light up

449
00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:08,639
Speaker 6: set up in her room and that was on all.

450
00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:12,320
Speaker 6: Night even with all that light in her, ROOM i

451
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:15,600
Speaker 6: guess she was so bothered By harold's hallway light she

452
00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:17,240
Speaker 6: had to wake up at four point thirty in the

453
00:22:17,240 --> 00:22:20,640
Speaker 6: morning to turn. Off harold ended up leaving about five.

454
00:22:20,640 --> 00:22:23,440
Speaker 6: Am jenna texted the group chat at six point twenty

455
00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:25,320
Speaker 6: saying that everyone needs to be.

456
00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:27,560
Speaker 3: More cautious about locking the.

457
00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:30,919
Speaker 6: Door the thing, is we've been having trouble with the

458
00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:33,400
Speaker 6: door ever since we moved. In even if you press

459
00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:36,240
Speaker 6: the buttons and do the motion to lock, it it

460
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:39,960
Speaker 6: sometimes does not. LOCK i texted the group chat saying

461
00:22:40,040 --> 00:22:43,159
Speaker 6: the door is finicky and not to place blame on

462
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:47,160
Speaker 6: people because we all have accidentally left it unlock after locking,

463
00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:48,440
Speaker 6: it Including.

464
00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:51,200
Speaker 2: Jenna the problem.

465
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:54,119
Speaker 6: Is no one else texts passive aggressively in the group

466
00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 6: chat when someone makes a mistake like. This jenna always

467
00:22:58,040 --> 00:23:01,480
Speaker 6: notices other people's, mistakes but doesn't realize that she.

468
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:03,000
Speaker 4: Makes the same ones.

469
00:23:03,320 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 6: Constantly there's also footage on the ring camera Of harold

470
00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:11,240
Speaker 6: locking it and the ring picks up a click that

471
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 6: sounds like it was successfully. Locked after, This jenna went

472
00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 6: up To harold and, said are you mad at me

473
00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:24,679
Speaker 6: about the? Text harold, said, yes of course she was,

474
00:23:24,800 --> 00:23:29,040
Speaker 6: mad as it was directly targeted at. Her jenna said

475
00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:31,760
Speaker 6: that she had no idea it Was harold who left,

476
00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 6: it But jenna was just Giving harold a hard time

477
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:37,320
Speaker 6: about the lights in the, morning so who else would have.

478
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:40,000
Speaker 6: Been we all decided to have a house meeting to

479
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:44,520
Speaker 6: discuss certain. Things the main priority was Upcoming halloween. Party

480
00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:48,359
Speaker 6: jenna really wanted to leave the main door completely locked

481
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:51,000
Speaker 6: and have our side door with the porch be our

482
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 6: only entrance and. Exit she was very worried about strangers

483
00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:58,040
Speaker 6: coming into the. House she insists that we live in

484
00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:00,520
Speaker 6: a bad part of, town but we. Don't we live

485
00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:03,400
Speaker 6: right next to a. College all the houses around are

486
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:06,959
Speaker 6: either occupied by students or. Families we all decided that

487
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:10,080
Speaker 6: having the front door be locked the whole time wouldn't

488
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:14,199
Speaker 6: make much, sense as we regularly exchange gases by the

489
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:17,520
Speaker 6: side door with the, porch so it would be an

490
00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:20,359
Speaker 6: awkward mess having so many people coming in and out

491
00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:24,040
Speaker 6: of just that. Door, additionally the ring camera is only

492
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:26,280
Speaker 6: hooked up to the main, door so if something bad

493
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:29,159
Speaker 6: were to, happen it wouldn't be caught on. Video we

494
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:32,280
Speaker 6: compromised with her and said that we could lock the

495
00:24:32,320 --> 00:24:36,119
Speaker 6: front door in between each person coming, in and once

496
00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:39,000
Speaker 6: the majority of the people were, there we would use

497
00:24:39,200 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 6: our second safety. Lock she also wanted to only be

498
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:45,600
Speaker 6: downstairs because she didn't want people in her. Room we

499
00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 6: all explained that all of the rest of us would

500
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 6: like the ability to have private conversations with our friend

501
00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:51,080
Speaker 6: groups in our.

502
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:51,960
Speaker 3: ROOMS i can't do this.

503
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 4: Anymore you just have to explain the concept and privacy to.

504
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:56,000
Speaker 3: HER i can't do.

505
00:24:56,040 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 6: This this is, like this is literally Like i'm losing

506
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:00,879
Speaker 6: brain cells reading this.

507
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:04,760
Speaker 5: Story at some, point you gotta lay down the. Law

508
00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 5: you gotta lay you gotta hit her with a little.

509
00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:09,640
Speaker 5: Logic oh my, Gosh and you, say are you gonna

510
00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:13,399
Speaker 5: do a logic? Bar, no but for, real it's like

511
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:15,160
Speaker 5: it needs to be, like all, right this is. Ridiculous

512
00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:16,720
Speaker 5: first of, all you need to put her on. Blast

513
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:18,919
Speaker 5: you say your light's on all. Night that's crazy that

514
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:20,600
Speaker 5: you're controlling our, lights your lights on all.

515
00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:23,160
Speaker 4: Night, second the, LIGHT i don't see. HOW i don't

516
00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 4: care that.

517
00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:24,199
Speaker 3: Your light's on all.

518
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:25,800
Speaker 4: Night i'm not gonna go in there and turn it.

519
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 3: Off, yeah cause it's just a.

520
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:30,960
Speaker 4: Light they don't cost that much. Money and it's and it's,

521
00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 4: until oh my, god we're still split the cost of

522
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:35,639
Speaker 4: a light bulb between three people living in.

523
00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:40,680
Speaker 9: A place six six, yep AND i assume they're split into,

524
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 9: utilities so it's actually like a like a third of,

525
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:48,440
Speaker 9: ascent maybe a one sixth of ascent that you're.

526
00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:51,760
Speaker 6: Paying we said that she's more than welcome to lock

527
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:55,159
Speaker 6: her door so no one goes into her, room but

528
00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:57,600
Speaker 6: it's not fair if none of us could bring our

529
00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:00,680
Speaker 6: own friends into our. Room, second we agreed on, this

530
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:04,720
Speaker 6: she got extremely quiet and just went on her. Phone

531
00:26:05,119 --> 00:26:07,280
Speaker 6: for the rest of the. Meeting we all talked about

532
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:10,520
Speaker 6: a few other, things one of them being the. Lock

533
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:13,119
Speaker 6: we all came to the conclusion that we need the

534
00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:16,239
Speaker 6: door to be looked at by, maintenance and that no

535
00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 6: one was maliciously leaving it. Unlocked everyone wants it to be.

536
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 6: Locked our door just kind of. Sucks we also just

537
00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:27,920
Speaker 6: spoke about the heat. Room sally suffers from. Epilepsy she's

538
00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 6: been seizing more often because of how cold the house.

539
00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:34,160
Speaker 6: Is jenna insisted that we didn't turn the heat on Until,

540
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 6: november and our house will be under fifty five degrees most.

541
00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 6: MORNINGS i said That sally's health is in definitely more

542
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 6: important than any amount of money we.

543
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 4: Save, yeah indefinitely and.

544
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:50,680
Speaker 6: Infinitely jenna just, said my family doesn't turn the heat

545
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:51,920
Speaker 6: on Until.

546
00:26:52,040 --> 00:26:54,680
Speaker 3: November but, whatever it.

547
00:26:54,720 --> 00:27:01,960
Speaker 5: Looks like we're not your family there With, JENNA.

548
00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:02,720
Speaker 4: I hate this. Person we remind, Me, SORRY i. DON'T

549
00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 4: i hate her. Behavior, NO i just this story's.

550
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:08,159
Speaker 3: Wild i'm not. Confused i'm just, like why are we.

551
00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 4: Here she's giving your roommates.

552
00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:13,600
Speaker 2: Seizures she, sucks she.

553
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:18,679
Speaker 6: Sucks we reminded her that It's sally's health we're talking,

554
00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:21,920
Speaker 6: about And jenna just, said but it gets so hot

555
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:22,240
Speaker 6: in my.

556
00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 3: Room, okay we open a.

557
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:27,240
Speaker 6: Window we compromise on only having the heat at seventy

558
00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:31,359
Speaker 6: degrees and only. DOWNSTAIRS i, said that since the heat

559
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:34,600
Speaker 6: would only be on, Downstairs jenna's room wouldn't get us,

560
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 6: hot and if it, did she should always open a.

561
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:40,879
Speaker 6: Window at this, point she was completely checked out of the.

562
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:41,959
Speaker 6: Conversation she was on her.

563
00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:42,680
Speaker 3: Phone oh my. God.

564
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 6: It we also had to bring up the passive aggressive

565
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:51,080
Speaker 6: texts and notes that she's been leaving. Around we agreed

566
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:54,960
Speaker 6: that discussing things in person is much more helpful than

567
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:59,639
Speaker 6: making one person fell othered with group. TEXTS i of

568
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:02,440
Speaker 6: course had to chime in at the end and say

569
00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 6: that my room is off limits without my. Permission And

570
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:11,399
Speaker 6: jenna she rolled her eyes and just like, that the

571
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 6: meeting was over and she was basically seething with. Rage

572
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:19,120
Speaker 6: she got up and Said i'm going home and went

573
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:22,400
Speaker 6: upstairs to get a couple of. Things in the, process

574
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:24,359
Speaker 6: she actually locked herself out.

575
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 3: Of her own.

576
00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 6: Bedroom sally And harold are better people than me because

577
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:30,480
Speaker 6: they got to work and pick the.

578
00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:32,880
Speaker 4: Lock, nah she would have had to call a locksmith

579
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:35,480
Speaker 4: if it was. Me, DUDE i just, Said, Hey i'm

580
00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 4: not an. EXPERT i don't want to hurt the.

581
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:38,719
Speaker 3: Lot oh you want to know how they did? It,

582
00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:40,040
Speaker 3: okay So i'm gonna tell you.

583
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 6: It took a paper, clip a, file a nail, file

584
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:44,640
Speaker 6: a butter, knife and about thirty minutes to get it.

585
00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,800
Speaker 6: Unlocked in the, Process jenna said multiple, times does it

586
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 6: normally take this long to pick? It and are you

587
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 6: guys actually sure you know what you're? Doing what a lovely.

588
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 6: Girl two days, later she's gone like the. Wind she

589
00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:00,600
Speaker 6: didn't tell any of us her plans to.

590
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 3: Leave she just did it in the.

591
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 6: Morning she brought her dad over and took everything she

592
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:11,360
Speaker 6: brought to the, apartment including the. Router none of us

593
00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:14,400
Speaker 6: wanted The Wi fi responsibilities to be On, jenna.

594
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 4: Because we all thought she was a flight.

595
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 6: Risk she insisted that the house meant everything to her

596
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 6: and that she wouldn't leave no matter. What four months,

597
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 6: later she proved us. Right it is midterm season now

598
00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:26,960
Speaker 6: and we have No Wi. Fi you know, What i'm

599
00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 6: gonna keep going into. It sally's dad brought a rouder. Over,

600
00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 6: oh of, course that only gave us three hours Of

601
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:36,720
Speaker 6: Wi fi Because jenna canceled the entire.

602
00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:37,960
Speaker 3: Service three of.

603
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:42,160
Speaker 6: Us major in either nursing or medical, imaging And jenna

604
00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:42,960
Speaker 6: is a business.

605
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:45,800
Speaker 3: Major she knew dang well how much.

606
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:48,480
Speaker 6: She would be screwing us by taking The Wi fi

607
00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:51,800
Speaker 6: and she did it, anyway all because she didn't get

608
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:55,280
Speaker 6: her way in every situation currently riding on my. Hotspot

609
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:57,480
Speaker 6: but at least she agreed to cover her part of

610
00:29:57,600 --> 00:30:00,200
Speaker 6: the rent until we find someone new to replace. Her

611
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 6: we changed the code to the. Lock thank, goodness so

612
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:07,640
Speaker 6: we want to have any more, surprises and thank The.

613
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,600
Speaker 4: Lord above that the story's. Over, hey It's. Sam we're

614
00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:12,400
Speaker 4: going to get back to these. Stories but here's three

615
00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:15,880
Speaker 4: bites of ads from our. Sponsors my roommate reported me

616
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:17,400
Speaker 4: because of a simple harmless.

617
00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 3: Request well you shouldn't have.

618
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 4: REQUESTED i was rooming with a, girl let's call Her.

619
00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 5: Lisa we were friends in high, school SO i assumed

620
00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:26,960
Speaker 5: things would go smoothly since we already knew each.

621
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Speaker 4: Other big.

622
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 5: Mistake the first half of our first semester went.

623
00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 4: Well we were getting along and having.

624
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 5: Fun by the, way this comes from Use Organic rabbit

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627
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Speaker 4: and we are here to give you good. Advice, goofily

629
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Speaker 4: but we don't have all the.

630
00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:50,959
Speaker 5: Answers we only know what we would, do so if

631
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:53,160
Speaker 5: you would do something, different let us know in the.

632
00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:58,080
Speaker 5: Comments As op, says one, DAY i woke up at

633
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 5: around seven am hearing the voice.

634
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 4: Of a man in the. ROOM i opened my eyes

635
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:03,480
Speaker 4: and saw That.

636
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 5: Lisa was taking an online exam On zoom with her

637
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 5: camera pointed in my. DIRECTION i didn't know what to,

638
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:12,760
Speaker 5: do SO i immediately got, up got, ready and left the.

639
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:15,440
Speaker 5: ROOM i assumed it wouldn't happen, again SO i never

640
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,560
Speaker 5: said anything about. It three weeks, later the same thing happened,

641
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 5: again so this TIME i sent her a message asking

642
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 5: if she could take her zoom exam somewhere, else or

643
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 5: maybe on her bed where the camera wouldn't be pointing at.

644
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 4: Me all she replied with was.

645
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:30,760
Speaker 5: Okay AFTER i got back to the room after my,

646
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:33,239
Speaker 5: classes she had completely stopped talking to.

647
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:36,240
Speaker 4: ME i assumed she would be fine in a few,

648
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 4: days but she never talked to me.

649
00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:42,200
Speaker 5: Again after we stopped, talking she continued to take her

650
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:44,160
Speaker 5: exams in our room with her camera pointed in my

651
00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 5: direction multiple, times SO i decided.

652
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 4: To ask my ra for. Help THE ra told me

653
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 4: to talk to her about.

654
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:51,920
Speaker 5: IT i didn't really want to and didn't know how,

655
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 5: to SO i just changed the position of my bed

656
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 5: so it wouldn't be in front of her. Desk we

657
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:58,680
Speaker 5: continued not speaking to each other for the rest of

658
00:31:58,720 --> 00:32:01,560
Speaker 5: the first semester and the beginning of the second. Semester that,

659
00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:04,120
Speaker 5: is until one DAY i saw her putting a lot

660
00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:07,000
Speaker 5: of her stuff in. BOXES i assumed she was just,

661
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 5: organizing but then she started packing all her, things and

662
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 5: the next THING i, knew she was moving. Out, HONESTLY

663
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 5: i was, happy because being there with her without talking

664
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 5: was so uncomfortable THAT i even considered moving out and.

665
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:21,960
Speaker 4: Commuting my life got so much more.

666
00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:24,480
Speaker 5: Comfortable after she, left BUT i still always wondered WHAT

667
00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:28,080
Speaker 5: i did to make her leave. Anyway last, MONTH i

668
00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:31,240
Speaker 5: was sent an email from my university regarding a report

669
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:34,840
Speaker 5: that was made against me by my ex. Roommate in

670
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 5: the LETTER i, RECEIVED i was accused of having prohibited items,

671
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 5: candles and damaging my ex roommate's property by cutting her

672
00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:48,160
Speaker 5: comforter and leaving a sticky residue on.

673
00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:50,160
Speaker 4: It, YES i.

674
00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 5: Did have, candles but only because they helped me deal

675
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:55,040
Speaker 5: with the anxiety of having to live with SOMEONE i

676
00:32:55,120 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 5: wasn't comfortable with the other accusation of damaging her property was.

677
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 5: FALSE i would never do something like that BECAUSE i

678
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 5: wanted to coexist peacefully even if we weren't. Speaking my

679
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:11,920
Speaker 5: hearing date was supposed to be last, month BUT i

680
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 5: never went because the email that was sent to me

681
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:17,800
Speaker 5: originally was marked as unsafe since the sender wasn't on

682
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 5: my safe senders. List some of the content in the

683
00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 5: email was, blocked and it asked me to provide my

684
00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:27,160
Speaker 5: username and. Password, NATURALLY i assumed it was a scam

685
00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:29,920
Speaker 5: Since i'd been scammed, before SO i never finished reading.

686
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:32,560
Speaker 5: It it wasn't until, Yesterday march, tenth THAT i received

687
00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 5: an email from the residency director at my school THAT

688
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 5: i realized the original email was. LEGIT i immediately replied

689
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 5: and EXPLAINED i thought it was a, scam which is

690
00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:44,040
Speaker 5: WHY i never opened. IT i also told THEM i

691
00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:46,520
Speaker 5: would like to reschedule the, hearing BUT i wasn't willing

692
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:48,760
Speaker 5: to be present while my ex roommate was there because

693
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 5: she gives me severe. ANXIETY i also have a strong

694
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 5: history of mental health, issues AND i wasn't willing to

695
00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 5: risk my mental health and emotional health.

696
00:33:56,120 --> 00:33:57,040
Speaker 4: By being near her.

697
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:00,840
Speaker 5: Clarification my ex ROOMMATE i moved out of the room

698
00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 5: back In, january way BEFORE i received the email containing

699
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:07,640
Speaker 5: the allegations. LETTER i researched and found THAT i should

700
00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 5: provide evidence contradicting the allegations made against. Me BUT i

701
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 5: had nothing THAT i could use to prove my innocence

702
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:15,879
Speaker 5: BECAUSE i didn't even know her comforter was cut UNTIL

703
00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:18,040
Speaker 5: i saw THAT i was being accused of. IT i

704
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 5: asked my friends as well as SOMEONE i know who

705
00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:22,240
Speaker 5: works for campus, safety and they all SAID i should

706
00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 5: explain myself the BEST i, could even without. Evidence if

707
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:27,799
Speaker 5: you have any, advice please let me, know BECAUSE i

708
00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:30,040
Speaker 5: had no idea how to prepare for something like this without.

709
00:34:30,200 --> 00:34:31,759
Speaker 4: Proof, riley what's your?

710
00:34:31,800 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 6: Advice, look my college, ROOMMATE i think had one college

711
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:38,600
Speaker 6: roommate for like half a semester because of the semester after,

712
00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:41,720
Speaker 6: that THE vid hit and he literally left every weekend

713
00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:43,520
Speaker 6: because he's girlfriend In.

714
00:34:43,560 --> 00:34:45,560
Speaker 3: Georgia that was my life that.

715
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 4: You had a chill.

716
00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 6: Situation but also he had a lot of stuff in my,

717
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:51,920
Speaker 6: Apartment Like i'm pretty sure he had so much stuff

718
00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:53,799
Speaker 6: it was like over the halfway. Limit but he had

719
00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:57,399
Speaker 6: a water purifier and that actually changed my.

720
00:34:57,360 --> 00:34:59,200
Speaker 4: Life and you were glugging on that AND i was,

721
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:00,319
Speaker 4: LIKE i didn't realize how.

722
00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:03,840
Speaker 6: Important good water was for. Me and ever since THEN

723
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:07,200
Speaker 6: i had access to really good. Water drink water. Everyone

724
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 6: if you haven't hear, everyone take a toast you Two carly's.

725
00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:15,319
Speaker 6: Water let me know if you're drinking your casip. Yet but, yeah,

726
00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:19,000
Speaker 6: DUDE i have nothing for. THIS i think if this was,

727
00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:23,160
Speaker 6: ME i would have been, like what's. Up i'd try

728
00:35:23,200 --> 00:35:25,320
Speaker 6: to find a solution rather than not talk to someone

729
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 6: for a whole entire.

730
00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:29,400
Speaker 3: SEMESTER i understand, that, like you, know it's hard to do,

731
00:35:29,440 --> 00:35:32,160
Speaker 3: it but you can also THE ra in this.

732
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:34,520
Speaker 5: Scenario and again that sounds like really like if you

733
00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 5: really couldn't get a single conversation going for multiple months

734
00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 5: and it was bothering you the whole, time THE r

735
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:43,319
Speaker 5: that is extreme.

736
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:46,400
Speaker 6: Anxiety, yes and THE ra should have stepped in as AN.

737
00:35:46,600 --> 00:35:49,440
Speaker 6: RA i would have stepped in and like dealt with. That,

738
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 6: thankfully nothing like this ever happened on my home because

739
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:54,279
Speaker 6: it's just a bunch of dudes and they were just

740
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 6: like football.

741
00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:58,560
Speaker 3: Girls and THEN i was, like all, right, whatever is

742
00:35:58,560 --> 00:35:58,839
Speaker 3: there an?

743
00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 5: Update there Is first, off the director told me that

744
00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 5: it was reported THAT i allegedly cut up my ex

745
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:08,759
Speaker 5: Roommate lisa's, comforter and that there was soot left on

746
00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 5: it as, well which was confusing to me because the

747
00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 5: allegations LETTER i received stated there was a sticky residue left.

748
00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:15,920
Speaker 4: On the, comforter not.

749
00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:19,239
Speaker 5: SOOT i told the residency director THAT i wanted to

750
00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:22,000
Speaker 5: strongly deny the allegations made against, me and then she

751
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 5: proceeded to ask me IF i had any previous issues With.

752
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 4: LISA i told.

753
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:28,720
Speaker 5: Her exactly WHAT i mentioned in my last post about

754
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:30,879
Speaker 5: how everything was going smoothly at the beginning of the first,

755
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:33,319
Speaker 5: semester but then we stopped speaking to each other AFTER

756
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:35,359
Speaker 5: i sent her a message asking her to take her

757
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:38,960
Speaker 5: exams elsewhere WHERE i wouldn't be on. CAMERA i also

758
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 5: stated that apart from, THAT i didn't have any other

759
00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:44,200
Speaker 5: issues with. Her she went on and asked about something

760
00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:47,360
Speaker 5: Else lisa had reported me, for which was me locking

761
00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:49,799
Speaker 5: the door when she would leave for short periods of.

762
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:52,640
Speaker 5: TIME i told her THAT i was not sure about,

763
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:56,960
Speaker 5: that and that the door's lock automatically from the, outside

764
00:36:57,440 --> 00:36:59,680
Speaker 5: so it was possible that she didn't switch the lock

765
00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:02,680
Speaker 5: to where the door is unlocked. Completely the third thing

766
00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:05,480
Speaker 5: was brought up that was also reported was THAT i

767
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:09,600
Speaker 5: would passively aggressively hide the remote to THE tv and

768
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 5: THAT i would disconnect THE tv so she wouldn't be

769
00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 5: able to use. It in all, HONESTY i don't understand

770
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:16,839
Speaker 5: WHY i would be reported for doing, this considering it

771
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:19,719
Speaker 5: was MY tv and not. HERS i told HER i

772
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:21,439
Speaker 5: never hid the remote and that the REASON i would

773
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 5: disconnect THE tv was because it was never used by

774
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:26,920
Speaker 5: anyone besides. Me lisa never used it because she was always.

775
00:37:26,680 --> 00:37:27,520
Speaker 4: On her phone playing.

776
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:30,920
Speaker 5: Games plus me disconnecting THE tv was just a force of.

777
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:32,400
Speaker 4: Habit ever SINCE i was.

778
00:37:32,440 --> 00:37:34,719
Speaker 5: Little my dad would always make, me my, sister and

779
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 5: my mom disconnect things that aren't being used because he

780
00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:40,359
Speaker 5: believes that energy is still being pulled even though it's,

781
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:42,399
Speaker 5: off and that they were going to charge him more

782
00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:45,040
Speaker 5: for the light. Bill the residency director said that this

783
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:49,279
Speaker 5: was completely understandable since the WAY i was, raised and

784
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:52,440
Speaker 5: that it became a. Habit fourth and final thing THAT

785
00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:54,080
Speaker 5: i was reported for was.

786
00:37:54,040 --> 00:37:55,160
Speaker 4: Moving around my.

787
00:37:55,360 --> 00:38:00,040
Speaker 5: Furniture ACTOR i apparently told her not to move around furniture.

788
00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:01,360
Speaker 9: And the.

789
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:07,080
Speaker 5: Department whoever's in charge of this read all this and, went,

790
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 5: yeah this needs an official.

791
00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:12,240
Speaker 4: Inquiry she was turning off THE tv and moving.

792
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 6: Furniture, AH i was almost a resident, DIRECTOR i.

793
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:17,000
Speaker 4: Was i'm glad you.

794
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:20,560
Speaker 6: Weren't, YEAH i would have been drunk with. Power imagine

795
00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:26,440
Speaker 6: THEN i would have had twelve boys underneath me just doing.

796
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:29,920
Speaker 6: Whatever AND i say boys because they haven't graduated college.

797
00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:33,000
Speaker 4: Yet we all heard that we're gonna move.

798
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 5: Forward i'm gonna Let i'm gonna let that one, go

799
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:36,400
Speaker 5: And i'm not gonna repeat.

800
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 4: It if you want that, repeated you'll.

801
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 3: Have to go back just the Tuscular. University you'll have.

802
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 4: To you'll have to go back in the.

803
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:45,759
Speaker 5: Stream this was a complete and utter lie BECAUSE i

804
00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:47,880
Speaker 5: never said no to the idea of her wanting to

805
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:49,280
Speaker 5: move around, furniture because.

806
00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 4: Y'all didn't freaking talk to each.

807
00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:53,960
Speaker 5: Other in the beginning of the first, Semester lisa told

808
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:55,360
Speaker 5: me how she wanted to move her bad if you

809
00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:57,000
Speaker 5: got it with two closs to the, door AND i

810
00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:58,719
Speaker 5: told her she could if she wanted, to AND, i as,

811
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 5: her asked where she would put, it because our dorm

812
00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:02,040
Speaker 5: is pretty small compared to the other.

813
00:39:02,120 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 4: Ones so she just dropped the idea of doing.

814
00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:06,799
Speaker 2: It did you hear? That?

815
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:08,360
Speaker 4: Yeo, yeah what was?

816
00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 5: That is?

817
00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:11,879
Speaker 4: It you know what's going?

818
00:39:11,920 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 6: On it's it's probably the Fun, okay bad, choice BUT

819
00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:18,000
Speaker 6: i KNOW i said twelve boys and it just came.

820
00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:21,239
Speaker 3: OUT i should have said Twelve.

821
00:39:21,640 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 4: Gayla said clip it, Ming ming's getting. Clippit, okay it's

822
00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:31,840
Speaker 4: probably the renaissance. MAN i then went.

823
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 5: To tell the residency director THAT i did move my bed,

824
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:36,799
Speaker 5: around but only as a solution to the issue of

825
00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:39,600
Speaker 5: me being on camera while sleeping during her zoom, calls

826
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:41,920
Speaker 5: and that way she could still take her exams in the,

827
00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 5: room and again the residency director said it was a

828
00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:48,920
Speaker 5: fair inappropriate solution instead of making a bigger deal out of.

829
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:51,720
Speaker 5: IT i then finished off by telling the residency director

830
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:54,160
Speaker 5: that besides, THIS i no longer had any issues With,

831
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 5: lisa and THAT i just wanted us to peacefully coexist

832
00:39:57,160 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 5: in the remainder of our time as. Roommates the residents

833
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 5: director also asked me IF i believed If lisa had

834
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:06,200
Speaker 5: any issues with me or if she was behaving a

835
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 5: certain way either before or after she moved.

836
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 4: OUT i told her THAT i believed she.

837
00:40:11,440 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 5: Was saying some negative things about me before and after

838
00:40:14,719 --> 00:40:17,040
Speaker 5: she moved out of the, room which was damaging my

839
00:40:17,120 --> 00:40:19,919
Speaker 5: reputation in the dorm and at school BECAUSE i would

840
00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:24,640
Speaker 5: get strange looks from People lisa was friends With lisa as, Friends.

841
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:25,520
Speaker 3: I'm surprised she talks to.

842
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:29,839
Speaker 5: Anyone but THEN i also told the residency director THAT

843
00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 5: i don't want this to escalate into a bigger, issue

844
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 5: considering there's less than two months left in the semester.

845
00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:37,680
Speaker 4: And that we probably wouldn't see each other after we move.

846
00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:41,160
Speaker 5: Out AND i will, say you, know severe anxiety is severe,

847
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:44,840
Speaker 5: Anxiety but my, goodness, girl it sounds like it sounds

848
00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 5: like part of why you have anxiety is because nobody

849
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:50,399
Speaker 5: ever told you that being out of your comfort zone

850
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:54,640
Speaker 5: is actually okay, yep and you were maybe you were

851
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:57,640
Speaker 5: in an environment where you were never put out of

852
00:40:57,680 --> 00:41:00,400
Speaker 5: your comfort zone and you were never told you should

853
00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:00,880
Speaker 5: be out.

854
00:41:00,719 --> 00:41:01,280
Speaker 4: Of your comfort.

855
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:06,920
Speaker 5: Zone because, yeah this all this is all really, annoying

856
00:41:07,560 --> 00:41:12,000
Speaker 5: and it could have all been really conquered by, conversation.

857
00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:18,520
Speaker 6: Absolutely instead of the resident director nitpicking every single.

858
00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 5: Thing which is so, annoying and then go and then

859
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:22,640
Speaker 5: look you're talking to them and they're, like, oh, yeah

860
00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:27,320
Speaker 5: that sounds. Reasonable, now that's. Fine your reputation's being. Damaged

861
00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:31,359
Speaker 5: you're you're YOU'RE i, mean, LIKE i don't, KNOW i don't.

862
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 5: KNOW i don't think either of y'all's reputation should be.

863
00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:37,600
Speaker 5: Anything how could you have reputation y'all didn't talk to each.

864
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:37,799
Speaker 2: Other.

865
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 6: Yeah, ALSO i hope you're making good grades in school

866
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 6: instead of this only being the. Thing soma is just

867
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 6: making excuses so that she can argue and try to

868
00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 6: make somebody look.

869
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:47,880
Speaker 3: Bad May bear, says.

870
00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:48,799
Speaker 4: Agreed, yeah it's.

871
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 5: Weird it's like you just moved, Out like just just move. Out,

872
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:53,800
Speaker 5: yeah like you're, Out you're, gone out of the. Situation

873
00:41:53,880 --> 00:41:55,239
Speaker 5: now you want to be like petty and.

874
00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 4: Vindictive. Weird it's like and the whole time you didn't,

875
00:41:59,040 --> 00:42:01,120
Speaker 4: Speak so that's.

876
00:42:01,160 --> 00:42:03,239
Speaker 3: WEIRD i don't get. It dudna get.

877
00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:04,840
Speaker 4: It you would think that would come out.

878
00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 6: Before let's let's get it cat with these, roommates let's.

879
00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:12,080
Speaker 5: Finish after the residency director finished hearing my side of

880
00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:16,440
Speaker 5: everything she asked, about she finally applied a. Bit but

881
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:19,200
Speaker 5: after the residency director finished hearing my side of everything

882
00:42:19,239 --> 00:42:22,279
Speaker 5: she asked, about she finally came to a, verdict which

883
00:42:22,320 --> 00:42:24,800
Speaker 5: was that the entire case was going to be dismissed

884
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:27,880
Speaker 5: since it wasn't a situation where anything serious took, place

885
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 5: so there was not need for either side to receive

886
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 5: any consequences for what. Happened, FINALLY i wanted to thank

887
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:36,040
Speaker 5: everyone who provided me with advice as well as assurance

888
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:38,160
Speaker 5: that everything was going to turn out. Fine many of

889
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:40,319
Speaker 5: your comments helped me a lot in dealing with the

890
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:41,560
Speaker 5: situation and knowing what to.

891
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:42,719
Speaker 4: Say thank you all so.

892
00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:48,240
Speaker 5: Much that is the most nothing burger story we have ever.

893
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 6: READ a, second, well you, Know i'll give this one,

894
00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:54,040
Speaker 6: first and the one we read before this sec very big,

895
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:56,880
Speaker 6: second absolute nothing.

896
00:42:57,000 --> 00:43:00,239
Speaker 4: Burger and that's the end of this. Story let's head

897
00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:00,640
Speaker 4: to the next.

898
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:03,840
Speaker 1: One Hey John ogihilst, here we're gonna get back to this,

899
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:06,120
Speaker 1: episode but a quick three minute break of ads from

900
00:43:06,120 --> 00:43:07,160
Speaker 1: a sponsor's keeping the show.

901
00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:11,759
Speaker 2: Alive my best friend treated me like a backup boyfriend

902
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:13,960
Speaker 2: while she was still with. HIM i want to be

903
00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:17,319
Speaker 2: your first. Boyfriend we've known each other for a few,

904
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:19,879
Speaker 2: years but in the past six months we've gotten a lot.

905
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:22,440
Speaker 2: Closer at the beginning of, summer she hung out at

906
00:43:22,480 --> 00:43:25,120
Speaker 2: my house for about a. Week she'd often stay after

907
00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 2: others left so we could work on stuff for a

908
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:29,400
Speaker 2: group we're, in sometimes until three.

909
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:30,080
Speaker 10: Am.

910
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 2: Wow she went abroad for the summer and we didn't

911
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 2: talk much other than a few emails and A facebook.

912
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:38,440
Speaker 2: Post by the, way this comes from Not Your boyfriend twenty,

913
00:43:38,480 --> 00:43:40,640
Speaker 2: thirteen and if you want to submit your own, stories

914
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:43,520
Speaker 2: go to the hor Slash okay storytime Sepreddit.

915
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:45,920
Speaker 10: And I'm, Angie I'm, Sophia i'm Ke, on and.

916
00:43:45,920 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 2: We're here to give good advice, goofuy but we don't

917
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 2: have all the. Answers we're just gonna guess what we

918
00:43:50,520 --> 00:43:52,440
Speaker 2: would do in this. Situation let us know what you

919
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:55,759
Speaker 2: do down. Below so we went from seeing each other

920
00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 2: once or twice a, week usually with other, people to

921
00:43:58,920 --> 00:44:01,880
Speaker 2: seeing each other almost every, day many times just the

922
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:04,560
Speaker 2: two of. Us she started working out with me three

923
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 2: to four days a, week and we often got dinner

924
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:08,760
Speaker 2: after just the two of, us and then played video

925
00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 2: games or WATCHED tv at my. Place sometimes my roommate,

926
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:15,800
Speaker 2: joined but more often it was just. Us we've started

927
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 2: texting pretty much, daily and it's become an expectation that

928
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:21,600
Speaker 2: we hang out on breaks from. College she's left video

929
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 2: games stuff in my place and is borrowing MY. Dvd

930
00:44:24,239 --> 00:44:27,000
Speaker 2: i've noticed some changes in our relationship in the last few.

931
00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:30,520
Speaker 2: Months there's been a lot more, innuendo more a little

932
00:44:30,560 --> 00:44:34,640
Speaker 2: bit more physical, contact even once we spent an entire

933
00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:37,960
Speaker 2: workout tickling each. Other she's started telling me much more

934
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:41,720
Speaker 2: personal stuff and acts much more open and uninhibited around

935
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:42,520
Speaker 2: me than with other.

936
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:44,200
Speaker 10: People a bit more flirty.

937
00:44:44,239 --> 00:44:47,839
Speaker 2: Too she's already making all sorts of plans around us

938
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 2: in the. Future she wants me to teach her programming next.

939
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:53,440
Speaker 2: Semester was thinking of getting a summer internship in a

940
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:55,720
Speaker 2: far away state so we could hang out WHEN i travel,

941
00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 2: there and was disappointed THAT i was going abroad for

942
00:44:58,160 --> 00:44:59,480
Speaker 2: a month since she wanted to hang.

943
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:04,400
Speaker 10: Out the thing is she has a boyfriend of five.

944
00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 2: Years, Say i've been on the rocks for a, while

945
00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:09,600
Speaker 2: and she's been complaining about him a lot and telling

946
00:45:09,640 --> 00:45:12,080
Speaker 2: me how she wants to break up with. Him but

947
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:15,000
Speaker 2: then sometimes when we're hanging, out she'll mention how we

948
00:45:15,080 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 2: spent the night last night and how she's unsure if

949
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 2: she'll break up with, him and once in a while

950
00:45:20,760 --> 00:45:23,399
Speaker 2: she'll even invite him to hang out with. Us ALL

951
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:25,360
Speaker 2: i can say is that IF i were her, BOYFRIEND

952
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:27,880
Speaker 2: i would be very uncomfortable with how close we become

953
00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 2: and the stuff we're doing.

954
00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:31,960
Speaker 10: TOGETHER a ton of people have asked me if we're.

955
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:35,319
Speaker 2: Dating even her, sister who has never met me and

956
00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:37,640
Speaker 2: lives on the other side of the, country now knows

957
00:45:37,640 --> 00:45:40,440
Speaker 2: WHO i. AM i recently found out from a mutual

958
00:45:40,440 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 2: friend that she had feelings for.

959
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 10: Me about a year, ago BUT i don't think she does.

960
00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 2: Anymore, RECENTLY i realized That i'm pretty much in love with.

961
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:51,760
Speaker 2: Her we get along, great have similar senses of, humor

962
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 2: shared intellectual, interests a lot in, common and similar. Values

963
00:45:56,040 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 2: but WHEN i think about how our relationship has, evolved

964
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:00,799
Speaker 2: it makes me think That i'm just h for her

965
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:03,839
Speaker 2: and hoping she'll come around while she's using me as

966
00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 2: a pseudo replacement for her failing. RELATIONSHIP i care about

967
00:46:07,160 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 2: her deeply and enjoy her, friendship but it just seems

968
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:12,239
Speaker 2: like what we have isn't very healthy for either of,

969
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:14,759
Speaker 2: us AND i should start distancing myself from her as

970
00:46:14,760 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 2: soon as.

971
00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:16,919
Speaker 10: Possible what do you all?

972
00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 2: Think there is an update and we're like barely even

973
00:46:19,640 --> 00:46:20,480
Speaker 2: a quarter through this.

974
00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:23,120
Speaker 11: Story you are in love with her and therefore need

975
00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:25,080
Speaker 11: to create boundaries because she's in a.

976
00:46:25,120 --> 00:46:30,160
Speaker 2: Relationship, Dude, yeah, totally. TOTALLY i, Think, yeah maybe hang

977
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:32,799
Speaker 2: out less because you're contributing to that.

978
00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:35,719
Speaker 11: Too or be, like, hey Like i've noticed that we're

979
00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:38,840
Speaker 11: kind of crossing the line. Here, yeah this is HOW i. Feel,

980
00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 11: YEAH i have no desire to break up your relationship

981
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:44,879
Speaker 11: right or butt into it as we've kind of.

982
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:47,319
Speaker 8: Been doing right. Now, Yeah so if you're gonna stay

983
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:48,399
Speaker 8: in that, relationship that's.

984
00:46:48,400 --> 00:46:52,040
Speaker 11: Fine, YEAH i can't continue the friendship that we have

985
00:46:52,200 --> 00:46:52,919
Speaker 11: right the way that it's.

986
00:46:52,920 --> 00:46:55,160
Speaker 2: Goning we do have an. UPDATE i just told her

987
00:46:55,200 --> 00:46:57,480
Speaker 2: that in three weeks i'd be picking up and leaving

988
00:46:57,520 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 2: for the other side of the country to pursue some other.

989
00:46:59,600 --> 00:47:03,400
Speaker 2: OPPORTUNITIES i had been thinking about this. Anyway it was

990
00:47:03,520 --> 00:47:05,720
Speaker 2: the right choice for, me and it had the added

991
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:08,279
Speaker 2: benefit of separating us when we clearly needed to be.

992
00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:10,600
Speaker 2: Separated we talked about it for a few, minutes and

993
00:47:10,640 --> 00:47:12,680
Speaker 2: then she, Said i'm still wrapping my head around.

994
00:47:12,680 --> 00:47:14,839
Speaker 10: THIS i don't know What i'm going to do when you're.

995
00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:17,920
Speaker 2: GONE i Guess i'll just be indoors playing video games all,

996
00:47:18,000 --> 00:47:20,000
Speaker 2: day Or i'll have to spend more time with.

997
00:47:20,239 --> 00:47:23,319
Speaker 10: Boyfriend that pretty much confirmed.

998
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:26,040
Speaker 2: WHAT i SUSPECTED i had become her pseudo, boyfriend since

999
00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:28,360
Speaker 2: she basically just admitted that the time she spent with

1000
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:30,440
Speaker 2: me and was replacing the time that she spent with her.

1001
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:32,920
Speaker 10: Boyfriend we were hanging out in my apartment.

1002
00:47:32,960 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 2: Today when her boyfriend, called he asked her what she was,

1003
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:37,239
Speaker 2: doing and she just said that she was hanging out

1004
00:47:37,280 --> 00:47:39,040
Speaker 2: in the geographic.

1005
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 10: Area of my. Apartment she didn't mention my name or

1006
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:41,560
Speaker 10: what we were.

1007
00:47:41,560 --> 00:47:44,719
Speaker 2: Doing, yeah her boyfriend knows WHO i, am and we're

1008
00:47:45,000 --> 00:47:47,600
Speaker 2: kind of sort of. Friends we've hung out a few.

1009
00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:50,680
Speaker 2: Times she's told him about. Me We're facebook. Friends the

1010
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:54,400
Speaker 2: fact that she didn't tell him more explicitly just confirms my.

1011
00:47:54,680 --> 00:47:57,680
Speaker 2: Suspicions AS i said in my original, post she would

1012
00:47:57,719 --> 00:48:00,320
Speaker 2: never physically cheat on her, boyfriend but we seem to

1013
00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:04,000
Speaker 2: be straying into the territory of emotional. Cheating as for

1014
00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:05,920
Speaker 2: HOW i, FEEL i think it's for the best that

1015
00:48:05,960 --> 00:48:08,719
Speaker 2: we'll be separated. SOON i also thought more deeply about

1016
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:10,399
Speaker 2: HOW i feel about, her AND i realize that WHILE

1017
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:13,160
Speaker 2: i do love, her it's becoming more platonic love you

1018
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:16,400
Speaker 2: feel towards someone you deeply care about rather than romantic.

1019
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:19,120
Speaker 2: Love i'm at peace with how things, are and even

1020
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:21,480
Speaker 2: IF i had the opportunity to change, THEM i don't

1021
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:23,920
Speaker 2: THINK i. Would as for, now we hang out pretty

1022
00:48:23,960 --> 00:48:27,320
Speaker 2: much every day and still get meals. Together i'm pretty

1023
00:48:27,320 --> 00:48:29,600
Speaker 2: sure she spends significantly more time with me than she

1024
00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:33,360
Speaker 2: does with her. Boyfriend even THOUGH i had planned to distance,

1025
00:48:33,440 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 2: Myself i've mentally justified spending time with her now since

1026
00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:39,480
Speaker 2: in three weeks she'll essentially be out of my life

1027
00:48:39,520 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 2: forever and we do have an update of two months.

1028
00:48:41,719 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 2: LATER i think that's a little silly. GOOSE i think

1029
00:48:44,760 --> 00:48:46,840
Speaker 2: that's kind of funny what that opie.

1030
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 5: Is.

1031
00:48:47,080 --> 00:48:49,799
Speaker 2: Like, yeah LIKE i REALIZED i love her and that

1032
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:52,880
Speaker 2: she definitely likes, me and like we should be distancing,

1033
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:57,479
Speaker 2: herself but like we still spend every day. Together, yeah,

1034
00:48:57,680 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 2: yeh food all the.

1035
00:48:58,600 --> 00:49:02,520
Speaker 11: Time the problem is THAT i Think oh recognizes that

1036
00:49:02,560 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 11: this is no longer appropriate because she's in a. Relationship

1037
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:09,720
Speaker 11: but he's getting what he. Wants, Yeah and it's really

1038
00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 11: hard to be getting what you want and be, like,

1039
00:49:12,480 --> 00:49:15,319
Speaker 11: Oh i've got to put up, boundaries. Right it's like

1040
00:49:15,360 --> 00:49:17,759
Speaker 11: you're eating ice cream and you love ice. Cream, yeah

1041
00:49:17,760 --> 00:49:21,440
Speaker 11: and then someone's like but you, know you shouldn't eat, anymore.

1042
00:49:21,200 --> 00:49:26,160
Speaker 2: Right like, likelerant but like it's so yeah, literally, yeah

1043
00:49:27,440 --> 00:49:30,840
Speaker 2: soon the couple be empty any moore ice cream Eat.

1044
00:49:30,760 --> 00:49:33,680
Speaker 8: And it's like in the short, term sure you get.

1045
00:49:33,640 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 11: Enjoyed ice, cream some ice, cream but in the long

1046
00:49:36,040 --> 00:49:37,960
Speaker 11: term you're gonna be on the toilet for a, while, right.

1047
00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:39,960
Speaker 2: Because it's like you're separating in three, weeks but you

1048
00:49:40,000 --> 00:49:42,279
Speaker 2: could just separate. Now you don't have to be in

1049
00:49:42,320 --> 00:49:46,040
Speaker 2: another state or across the. Country you don't have to

1050
00:49:46,480 --> 00:49:49,839
Speaker 2: that of ice cream Those once you're aware of, it

1051
00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:53,719
Speaker 2: you gotta set the. Boundaries, yeah, honestly it's like you

1052
00:49:53,760 --> 00:49:57,440
Speaker 2: can be not aware of. It, yeah but once once you're.

1053
00:49:57,280 --> 00:49:59,360
Speaker 8: Aware of, it it's, like, okay.

1054
00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:02,719
Speaker 2: We do have second Update two months, later AS i

1055
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:05,400
Speaker 2: wrote in previous, posts a new opportunity came up AND

1056
00:50:05,400 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 2: i decided to take a big, risk leave everything behind

1057
00:50:08,200 --> 00:50:11,000
Speaker 2: and move across the country to pursue. It there were some,

1058
00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:13,720
Speaker 2: delays SO i ended up moving about ninety miles, away

1059
00:50:14,000 --> 00:50:16,399
Speaker 2: WHERE i would stay for three months before moving cross.

1060
00:50:16,440 --> 00:50:18,760
Speaker 10: Country she had some family, there.

1061
00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:20,720
Speaker 2: So we hung out a few times when she, visited

1062
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:23,440
Speaker 2: but nothing of note. HAPPENED i decided to drive the

1063
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:26,600
Speaker 2: ninety miles and visit our hometown the weekend After Valentine's

1064
00:50:26,680 --> 00:50:28,319
Speaker 2: day because it would be the last chance to see

1065
00:50:28,360 --> 00:50:30,440
Speaker 2: all my friends BEFORE i moved away for. Good she

1066
00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:32,880
Speaker 2: offered to let me crash on her couch AND i.

1067
00:50:33,000 --> 00:50:35,719
Speaker 2: Agreed we hung out during the day and in the

1068
00:50:35,760 --> 00:50:39,000
Speaker 2: EVENING i went to see some of other. Friends she

1069
00:50:39,120 --> 00:50:41,239
Speaker 2: AND i got dinner, together and then we went back

1070
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:44,280
Speaker 2: to her. Apartment we did end up getting very. Handsy

1071
00:50:44,440 --> 00:50:47,359
Speaker 2: What no clothes came, off and we didn't make out

1072
00:50:47,440 --> 00:50:49,319
Speaker 2: or anything like, that but at one point she was

1073
00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:50,279
Speaker 2: lying on top of.

1074
00:50:50,320 --> 00:50:53,040
Speaker 8: It, YEAH i was playfully squeezing.

1075
00:50:52,560 --> 00:50:55,680
Speaker 2: And tickling her all over her, Bodies, yes including all

1076
00:50:55,719 --> 00:50:58,480
Speaker 2: of the off limit, areas AND i mean all of. Them,

1077
00:50:58,560 --> 00:51:00,719
Speaker 2: bro you're, Cheating, yeah, Cheating this is.

1078
00:51:00,760 --> 00:51:01,719
Speaker 10: Cheating, well she's fully.

1079
00:51:01,760 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 11: CHEATED i, mean, yeah he's doesn't have, religship but he

1080
00:51:05,280 --> 00:51:07,040
Speaker 11: is implicit in her cheating on.

1081
00:51:07,080 --> 00:51:07,920
Speaker 10: Her, Boy, yeah you.

1082
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:12,280
Speaker 2: Are you are fully Aware Valentine's day right After Valentine's, day.

1083
00:51:12,280 --> 00:51:14,040
Speaker 4: Told you still in the, Air, no.

1084
00:51:13,880 --> 00:51:14,319
Speaker 10: No, no.

1085
00:51:14,320 --> 00:51:17,040
Speaker 2: No the fact that you're hanging out with friends and

1086
00:51:17,080 --> 00:51:20,040
Speaker 2: then getting food just with, Her i'm. Assuming and then

1087
00:51:20,160 --> 00:51:22,480
Speaker 2: going back to her apartment anyway is just so.

1088
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:26,760
Speaker 8: Bad come, on that's justically.

1089
00:51:27,440 --> 00:51:30,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, no but he, continues this wasn't the first time

1090
00:51:31,000 --> 00:51:33,400
Speaker 2: this kind of thing has. Happened we both justified it

1091
00:51:33,440 --> 00:51:35,840
Speaker 2: by saying we were just having fun and playing. Around

1092
00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:38,239
Speaker 2: BUT i think that was because neither of us wanted

1093
00:51:38,239 --> 00:51:40,200
Speaker 2: to admit that we had crossed the line and we're

1094
00:51:40,200 --> 00:51:42,880
Speaker 2: in a moral gray area at. Best those kinds of

1095
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:46,600
Speaker 2: mental gymnastics led to some strange, situations like cuddling and

1096
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:50,400
Speaker 2: holding hands being off, bounds but squeezing her front airbags

1097
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:53,640
Speaker 2: and but was totally, fine but only if it was

1098
00:51:53,719 --> 00:51:54,880
Speaker 2: during one of these play.

1099
00:51:54,960 --> 00:51:59,239
Speaker 10: Sessions otherwise that was off bounced. Too you guys are

1100
00:51:59,400 --> 00:52:01,640
Speaker 10: so and you're so.

1101
00:52:01,880 --> 00:52:03,799
Speaker 2: Crazy we all are wrestling.

1102
00:52:03,920 --> 00:52:06,960
Speaker 10: Now we stopped playing around after some time and got.

1103
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:10,040
Speaker 2: Wasted neither of us expected that to, happen because we

1104
00:52:10,080 --> 00:52:12,480
Speaker 2: both don't like drinking. Much were the type of people

1105
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 2: who wouldn't even drink On New. Year we were having

1106
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:17,839
Speaker 2: a good time, drinking listening to, music playing video, games and.

1107
00:52:17,880 --> 00:52:20,359
Speaker 2: TALKING i don't know if it was the booze or

1108
00:52:20,360 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 2: the realization that this really was our last time together

1109
00:52:23,040 --> 00:52:25,799
Speaker 2: BEFORE i. Moved probably, both but she opened up to

1110
00:52:25,800 --> 00:52:27,560
Speaker 2: me in a way that she never had. Before we

1111
00:52:27,600 --> 00:52:31,080
Speaker 2: talked about life in, politics and then eventually her boyfriend came.

1112
00:52:31,160 --> 00:52:34,440
Speaker 2: Up she said Their Valentine's day wasn't very romantic and

1113
00:52:34,440 --> 00:52:37,120
Speaker 2: that they had spicy sleep that. Day then said that

1114
00:52:37,160 --> 00:52:41,080
Speaker 2: she was no longer spicily attracted to her, boyfriend even

1115
00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:44,000
Speaker 2: though he had gotten more attractive over the, years and

1116
00:52:44,040 --> 00:52:46,440
Speaker 2: that she would often make excuses whenever he tried to

1117
00:52:46,480 --> 00:52:49,759
Speaker 2: initiate spicy. Sleep whenever they did have spicy, sleep she

1118
00:52:49,880 --> 00:52:51,840
Speaker 2: said that she would just lie there and wait for

1119
00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:54,279
Speaker 2: it to be. Over she also said her boyfriend thought

1120
00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:56,640
Speaker 2: he was good at spicy, sleep but he really, wasn't

1121
00:52:56,760 --> 00:52:59,160
Speaker 2: as you can. EXPECT i was very surprised she was

1122
00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:01,319
Speaker 2: being this open with. ME i asked her why she

1123
00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 2: was still with, him especially since both she and all

1124
00:53:03,680 --> 00:53:06,239
Speaker 2: her friends could see that she wasn't. Happy she said

1125
00:53:06,239 --> 00:53:08,480
Speaker 2: that she did love, him but probably just as a,

1126
00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:11,040
Speaker 2: friend and she didn't want to hurt, him and that

1127
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:14,080
Speaker 2: he was a nice. Guy she also felt that she

1128
00:53:14,239 --> 00:53:17,160
Speaker 2: was really needy and, insecure which surprised me because she's

1129
00:53:17,200 --> 00:53:19,759
Speaker 2: one of the least needy Girls i've, met and she

1130
00:53:19,920 --> 00:53:22,319
Speaker 2: was afraid that her only choices would be to end

1131
00:53:22,400 --> 00:53:25,839
Speaker 2: up with a d bag or alone as a crazy cat.

1132
00:53:25,920 --> 00:53:28,640
Speaker 2: LADY i told her THAT i felt she had been

1133
00:53:28,680 --> 00:53:31,160
Speaker 2: spending more time with me to replace her boyfriend because

1134
00:53:31,160 --> 00:53:34,200
Speaker 2: she was unsatisfied with her, relationship and she admitted that

1135
00:53:34,200 --> 00:53:34,759
Speaker 2: that was the.

1136
00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:36,359
Speaker 10: CASE i admitted THAT.

1137
00:53:36,360 --> 00:53:38,640
Speaker 2: I would have asked her out earlier if she were,

1138
00:53:38,680 --> 00:53:42,440
Speaker 2: single and she said she wished we had met before.

1139
00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:44,920
Speaker 8: She met her boyfriend on and you are pissing me.

1140
00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 11: Off, yeah there's a such an easy, solution break up

1141
00:53:49,520 --> 00:53:51,160
Speaker 11: with your, Boyfriend.

1142
00:53:50,800 --> 00:53:54,040
Speaker 2: Like if you're if you're afraid of ending up alone

1143
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:56,480
Speaker 2: with breaking up with your, BOYFRIEND i, mean first of,

1144
00:53:56,480 --> 00:53:58,440
Speaker 2: all even if you didn't have an idea of who

1145
00:53:58,520 --> 00:54:01,440
Speaker 2: else you, liked that's not gonna. Happen you're that. Does

1146
00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:04,560
Speaker 2: breaking up with, someone whether they're good or, not does

1147
00:54:04,640 --> 00:54:06,840
Speaker 2: not mean you're gonna end up alone and not find anyone.

1148
00:54:06,880 --> 00:54:11,040
Speaker 2: Else but like in this, case you already have someone

1149
00:54:11,040 --> 00:54:14,719
Speaker 2: else on your, mind and people may disagree no like you,

1150
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:17,759
Speaker 2: yeah and like you might disagree with or you, know

1151
00:54:18,400 --> 00:54:21,319
Speaker 2: people probably will argue that like even having someone else

1152
00:54:21,360 --> 00:54:23,640
Speaker 2: that you're interested in is like, bad but, oh.

1153
00:54:23,480 --> 00:54:26,520
Speaker 8: It absolutely is but, like what are you worried?

1154
00:54:26,520 --> 00:54:30,440
Speaker 2: About you, know it's, like at the very, least like you,

1155
00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:34,279
Speaker 2: know first of, all don't like it's the kind of

1156
00:54:34,320 --> 00:54:36,600
Speaker 2: thing where it's just like why cheat when you can

1157
00:54:36,680 --> 00:54:38,120
Speaker 2: just break up and then just be with that other.

1158
00:54:38,160 --> 00:54:41,719
Speaker 2: Person it's not necessarily the best thing morally because it's like.

1159
00:54:42,160 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 8: You're already morally been.

1160
00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:46,880
Speaker 2: Bad, yeah, Exactly it's like this could have been.

1161
00:54:46,960 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 10: Less, bad so much less, bad but.

1162
00:54:51,000 --> 00:54:53,719
Speaker 2: Alas she then said that she knew me leaving was

1163
00:54:53,760 --> 00:54:55,759
Speaker 2: the right decision for, me but that she was going

1164
00:54:55,840 --> 00:54:57,200
Speaker 2: to be really sad WHEN i.

1165
00:54:57,280 --> 00:54:59,640
Speaker 10: Left this isn't something she would normally.

1166
00:54:59,680 --> 00:55:02,200
Speaker 2: Admit even though she had plenty of, friends she liked

1167
00:55:02,200 --> 00:55:04,560
Speaker 2: hanging out with me and my friends the. Most she

1168
00:55:04,600 --> 00:55:06,600
Speaker 2: SAID i had inspired her and that some of the

1169
00:55:06,719 --> 00:55:10,359
Speaker 2: academic and career choices she had made had been influenced by.

1170
00:55:10,400 --> 00:55:14,320
Speaker 2: Me another. Surprise we talked about our views on, religion,

1171
00:55:14,440 --> 00:55:16,600
Speaker 2: politics and it turned out that our values were pretty

1172
00:55:16,600 --> 00:55:19,680
Speaker 2: similar on even the most fundamental. Level we both agreed

1173
00:55:19,719 --> 00:55:22,239
Speaker 2: that the window of opportunity for the two of us

1174
00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:25,960
Speaker 2: had passed SINCE i was moving. Away she said she

1175
00:55:26,040 --> 00:55:28,359
Speaker 2: can never see herself marrying her boyfriend and she didn't

1176
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:30,960
Speaker 2: want to have his, babies and that the expiration day

1177
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:32,880
Speaker 2: for the relationship was the day she finished.

1178
00:55:32,920 --> 00:55:35,560
Speaker 10: SCHOOL i, asked does your boyfriend?

1179
00:55:35,600 --> 00:55:38,800
Speaker 2: Know she cut me off and said about articling and playing.

1180
00:55:38,840 --> 00:55:41,919
Speaker 10: Around, no but he wouldn't really. CARE i was actually.

1181
00:55:41,560 --> 00:55:43,880
Speaker 2: Going to ask if he KNEW i was, moving but

1182
00:55:44,040 --> 00:55:47,080
Speaker 2: her answer was revealing in its own. Way we were

1183
00:55:47,120 --> 00:55:49,360
Speaker 2: both pretty tired and wasted by this, point so she

1184
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 2: went to her room to sleep WHILE i slept on the.

1185
00:55:51,160 --> 00:55:52,480
Speaker 10: SOFA i left in the.

1186
00:55:52,480 --> 00:55:55,000
Speaker 2: Morning, HONESTLY i couldn't have expected this to work out

1187
00:55:55,080 --> 00:55:58,120
Speaker 2: any better than it. Did it was liberating to finally

1188
00:55:58,200 --> 00:56:00,239
Speaker 2: know how she, felt and to tell her HOW i.

1189
00:56:00,320 --> 00:56:02,840
Speaker 2: FELT i mentioned in the last update how my feelings

1190
00:56:02,840 --> 00:56:05,640
Speaker 2: were slowly shifting from romantic to, platonic AND i think

1191
00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:09,520
Speaker 2: after this experience we became closer. Friends i've had feelings

1192
00:56:09,520 --> 00:56:11,239
Speaker 2: for her for a long, time but NOW i have

1193
00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:14,160
Speaker 2: the CLOSURE i, need And i'm finally ready to move,

1194
00:56:14,200 --> 00:56:18,040
Speaker 2: on or SO i. Thought two days AFTER i left

1195
00:56:18,040 --> 00:56:20,120
Speaker 2: her place and got back to, mind she sent a

1196
00:56:20,200 --> 00:56:22,880
Speaker 2: late night text boyfriend AND i broke.

1197
00:56:23,200 --> 00:56:25,640
Speaker 10: UP i was completely taken by.

1198
00:56:25,680 --> 00:56:29,040
Speaker 2: Surprise sure she had spent the whole, weekend and indeed last,

1199
00:56:29,080 --> 00:56:31,600
Speaker 2: year complaining about him how she wanted to break up with,

1200
00:56:31,680 --> 00:56:34,319
Speaker 2: him but she had also just told me how she.

1201
00:56:34,360 --> 00:56:36,400
Speaker 10: Had just slipped with him not four days.

1202
00:56:36,400 --> 00:56:39,320
Speaker 2: Earlier she decided to come visit me the next weekend

1203
00:56:39,320 --> 00:56:41,520
Speaker 2: since she had a rough week AND i would be

1204
00:56:41,760 --> 00:56:44,880
Speaker 2: leaving a few days. After for some, REASON i became

1205
00:56:44,920 --> 00:56:46,759
Speaker 2: really uncomfortable with the facts that they broke.

1206
00:56:46,840 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 3: UP i don't know.

1207
00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:50,839
Speaker 2: WHY i guess he had always been a. Constant they

1208
00:56:50,840 --> 00:56:53,399
Speaker 2: began dating BEFORE i even met. Her MAYBE i felt

1209
00:56:53,440 --> 00:56:55,160
Speaker 2: bad because she was hurt AND i didn't want to

1210
00:56:55,280 --> 00:56:57,279
Speaker 2: AND i didn't want her to Be MAYBE i felt

1211
00:56:57,320 --> 00:56:59,160
Speaker 2: bad because the thought of more guys hitting on her

1212
00:56:59,200 --> 00:57:01,160
Speaker 2: made me feel. SICK i really don't. Know ALL i

1213
00:57:01,239 --> 00:57:03,600
Speaker 2: did know was THAT i started to dread her, visit

1214
00:57:03,680 --> 00:57:05,600
Speaker 2: AND i kind of wished she would text me saying

1215
00:57:05,640 --> 00:57:07,440
Speaker 2: something came up and that she wouldn't be able to

1216
00:57:07,440 --> 00:57:07,759
Speaker 2: make it.

1217
00:57:07,840 --> 00:57:09,359
Speaker 10: Again it seemed weird THAT i would think.

1218
00:57:09,400 --> 00:57:12,600
Speaker 2: This here's a girl WHO i had or have feelings,

1219
00:57:12,640 --> 00:57:15,399
Speaker 2: for who admitted she had feelings for, me was now

1220
00:57:15,440 --> 00:57:17,720
Speaker 2: single and was coming over to my. Place, well my

1221
00:57:17,800 --> 00:57:22,080
Speaker 2: roommates were out of. Town it's so obvious LIKE i could, tickle, Like,

1222
00:57:22,320 --> 00:57:23,680
Speaker 2: no he doesn't want it.

1223
00:57:23,680 --> 00:57:27,840
Speaker 11: Anymore, yeah because she's, single and all of that before

1224
00:57:28,680 --> 00:57:29,600
Speaker 11: lived as a.

1225
00:57:29,520 --> 00:57:32,160
Speaker 8: Fantasy inside your head and now it's reality and.

1226
00:57:32,160 --> 00:57:32,640
Speaker 2: You don't want.

1227
00:57:32,640 --> 00:57:34,800
Speaker 11: It you don't want to commit now because you wanted

1228
00:57:34,840 --> 00:57:38,080
Speaker 11: something that was taboo and that was off, limits and

1229
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:41,320
Speaker 11: now that she's not off, limits you're, Like i'm not interested.

1230
00:57:41,000 --> 00:57:43,720
Speaker 2: In, Exactly and maybe, now like since you're moving, too

1231
00:57:43,800 --> 00:57:45,480
Speaker 2: now you're scared of like. THAT i feel like that

1232
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:48,120
Speaker 2: would probably be much more commitment to like start a

1233
00:57:48,200 --> 00:57:53,160
Speaker 2: lung distance relationship or possibly her even moving. Commitment he

1234
00:57:53,200 --> 00:57:56,720
Speaker 2: always wanted the thrill. EXACTLY i had stupid thoughts go

1235
00:57:56,840 --> 00:57:59,240
Speaker 2: through my, head like WHETHER i should kiss her when she,

1236
00:57:59,320 --> 00:58:02,040
Speaker 2: came BUT i REALIZED i didn't really want to kiss her.

1237
00:58:02,440 --> 00:58:04,960
Speaker 2: ANYWAY i, decided since this was really our last time

1238
00:58:04,960 --> 00:58:07,600
Speaker 2: together and she had had a really rough week broke

1239
00:58:07,680 --> 00:58:09,560
Speaker 2: up with her boyfriend and got rejected for a grant

1240
00:58:09,600 --> 00:58:12,360
Speaker 2: she had been gunning after for years school not going,

1241
00:58:12,400 --> 00:58:14,840
Speaker 2: well That i'd do WHATEVER i could to make sure

1242
00:58:14,920 --> 00:58:18,520
Speaker 2: that she had a good. Time except the plan fell

1243
00:58:18,520 --> 00:58:21,880
Speaker 2: apart almost. Immediately we were supposed to get, dinner but she,

1244
00:58:21,960 --> 00:58:25,240
Speaker 2: bailed so Instead we got ice cream after she ate,

1245
00:58:25,280 --> 00:58:28,640
Speaker 2: dinner but she was supposed to bring the wine but

1246
00:58:28,760 --> 00:58:31,120
Speaker 2: bailed on that. Too when we got back to my,

1247
00:58:31,240 --> 00:58:33,840
Speaker 2: place we were supposed to make salsa and. GUACAMOLE i

1248
00:58:33,920 --> 00:58:36,400
Speaker 2: even went out and bottled the, ingredients cleaned the cunning,

1249
00:58:36,440 --> 00:58:37,720
Speaker 2: board bought, chips.

1250
00:58:37,680 --> 00:58:39,600
Speaker 10: But it was clear she didn't want to do that.

1251
00:58:39,760 --> 00:58:42,800
Speaker 2: EITHER i even spent a few hours setting up an

1252
00:58:42,840 --> 00:58:45,440
Speaker 2: extra bed for her and cleaning the place up in

1253
00:58:45,520 --> 00:58:48,200
Speaker 2: case she wanted to spend the. Night we were supposed

1254
00:58:48,200 --> 00:58:51,880
Speaker 2: to be drinking after, all but that effort went. Unnoticed

1255
00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:56,120
Speaker 2: there was more distance between, us both physically sitting farther

1256
00:58:56,160 --> 00:58:58,040
Speaker 2: away from each other on the couch than we normally

1257
00:58:58,080 --> 00:59:01,800
Speaker 2: do and. Conversationally though things improved throughout the course of the.

1258
00:59:01,920 --> 00:59:05,960
Speaker 2: Night eventually she started talking about what. Happened her boyfriend

1259
00:59:06,120 --> 00:59:08,400
Speaker 2: and she had a fight and he broke up with.

1260
00:59:08,440 --> 00:59:10,480
Speaker 2: Her she begged him not to break up with, her

1261
00:59:10,840 --> 00:59:13,040
Speaker 2: and the next day she was glued to her phone

1262
00:59:13,040 --> 00:59:15,360
Speaker 2: hoping he would call or text her and take her. Back,

1263
00:59:16,240 --> 00:59:18,760
Speaker 2: then she said she went to a martial arts class

1264
00:59:18,800 --> 00:59:21,240
Speaker 2: with a buff guy that she found really, attractive and

1265
00:59:21,280 --> 00:59:23,640
Speaker 2: she enjoyed wrestling with him and wasn't SURE i had

1266
00:59:23,640 --> 00:59:25,959
Speaker 2: a flirt since she had been with her boyfriend for four.

1267
00:59:26,040 --> 00:59:28,240
Speaker 8: Years, ah she found a new wrestle.

1268
00:59:28,280 --> 00:59:31,800
Speaker 2: Buddy you've been, Replaced. Opie that's why she didn't want

1269
00:59:31,840 --> 00:59:33,080
Speaker 2: to have dinner and.

1270
00:59:33,160 --> 00:59:35,720
Speaker 8: Drinks, Yeah, No tickle fights for you, anymore tough.

1271
00:59:35,800 --> 00:59:41,280
Speaker 10: Nuts this girl is just Like, ah doesn't care about your. Feelings,

1272
00:59:41,560 --> 00:59:45,560
Speaker 10: no she's playing with. You has been talking about breaking

1273
00:59:45,640 --> 00:59:46,560
Speaker 10: up with her boyfriend for a.

1274
00:59:46,640 --> 00:59:50,280
Speaker 8: Year, yeah he breaks up with, her she wasn't gonna do.

1275
00:59:50,240 --> 00:59:52,960
Speaker 2: It and then she's like begging him to stay and

1276
00:59:53,160 --> 00:59:54,240
Speaker 2: so obsessed with her coming.

1277
00:59:54,280 --> 00:59:56,320
Speaker 10: Back she just doesn't know how to be, alone it.

1278
00:59:56,400 --> 01:00:00,200
Speaker 2: Seems, no not at. All she is so, messy.

1279
01:00:00,240 --> 01:00:02,480
Speaker 10: Dreamer you're so, Right oh my.

1280
01:00:02,680 --> 01:00:06,000
Speaker 2: Goodness, HONESTLY i found the whole situation to be kind

1281
01:00:06,040 --> 01:00:09,320
Speaker 2: of messed. Up she had basically set up a timetable

1282
01:00:09,360 --> 01:00:11,680
Speaker 2: to break up with her boyfriend when she finished, school

1283
01:00:11,800 --> 01:00:14,160
Speaker 2: and when he messed that up by abruptly breaking up with,

1284
01:00:14,200 --> 01:00:16,720
Speaker 2: her she was begging him to take her. Back there

1285
01:00:16,720 --> 01:00:18,600
Speaker 2: were times when we would hang out and she would

1286
01:00:18,600 --> 01:00:21,400
Speaker 2: be complaining about. Him he would, Call she would roll

1287
01:00:21,400 --> 01:00:23,760
Speaker 2: her eyes and then answer in A levey devy. Tone,

1288
01:00:24,360 --> 01:00:26,760
Speaker 2: anyway we ended up lying on my, bed no no

1289
01:00:26,880 --> 01:00:29,760
Speaker 2: cuddling or anything like, that and Watching, netflix and we

1290
01:00:29,760 --> 01:00:32,760
Speaker 2: did have a pretty good. Time there was also an

1291
01:00:32,800 --> 01:00:36,720
Speaker 2: opportunity for playtime like in our previous, visits but at

1292
01:00:36,720 --> 01:00:38,880
Speaker 2: this POINT i really didn't want. To it got pretty,

1293
01:00:38,960 --> 01:00:40,640
Speaker 2: late so we got into my car AND i dropped

1294
01:00:40,640 --> 01:00:43,440
Speaker 2: her off when we reached her. House she has family

1295
01:00:43,480 --> 01:00:45,760
Speaker 2: that lives, here so it was a short. Drive our

1296
01:00:45,800 --> 01:00:48,240
Speaker 2: goodbye was pretty much good luck with, everything have a good,

1297
01:00:48,240 --> 01:00:52,400
Speaker 2: life and shaking. Hands she handed me a note and

1298
01:00:52,440 --> 01:00:54,840
Speaker 2: then got out of my. Car WHEN i got, BACK

1299
01:00:54,960 --> 01:00:58,120
Speaker 2: i read the. Note it was three sentences referencing inside

1300
01:00:58,160 --> 01:01:00,959
Speaker 2: jokes that we make that we, made and her SAYING

1301
01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:02,720
Speaker 2: i was welcome to sleep on her couch IF i

1302
01:01:02,720 --> 01:01:05,520
Speaker 2: was ever in. Town and that was. It WHEN i

1303
01:01:05,560 --> 01:01:08,160
Speaker 2: reflected on our, FRIENDSHIP i realized that she got way

1304
01:01:08,200 --> 01:01:10,360
Speaker 2: more out of it THAN i. DID i was always

1305
01:01:10,360 --> 01:01:13,040
Speaker 2: inviting her to events at my, place offering her, rides

1306
01:01:13,120 --> 01:01:17,760
Speaker 2: teaching her stuff like weightlifting AND, html helping her with computer,

1307
01:01:17,840 --> 01:01:20,320
Speaker 2: issues supporting her when she ran for a president in

1308
01:01:20,360 --> 01:01:23,120
Speaker 2: an organization that we were In on her. BIRTHDAY i

1309
01:01:23,120 --> 01:01:25,240
Speaker 2: went through a lot of effort to get her an awesome,

1310
01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:27,520
Speaker 2: gift made a really cool, card and WHEN i was,

1311
01:01:27,600 --> 01:01:30,080
Speaker 2: LEAVING i gave her an awesome parting gift and made

1312
01:01:30,120 --> 01:01:32,200
Speaker 2: her a playlist that referenced all of our inside.

1313
01:01:32,280 --> 01:01:34,800
Speaker 10: Jokes you guse are so in. Love you're so. SILLY

1314
01:01:34,920 --> 01:01:36,680
Speaker 10: i don't even think they are in, love. Though but

1315
01:01:36,720 --> 01:01:41,040
Speaker 10: it's just LIKE i think that they put each.

1316
01:01:41,040 --> 01:01:42,560
Speaker 8: Other both have put each other on.

1317
01:01:42,680 --> 01:01:50,360
Speaker 11: Pedestals, yeah and, see you, know the perfect relationship that

1318
01:01:50,400 --> 01:01:52,520
Speaker 11: they could have with the other, person but it's not.

1319
01:01:52,600 --> 01:01:54,320
Speaker 8: Reality, yeah, YEAH i think.

1320
01:01:54,440 --> 01:01:56,640
Speaker 2: SO i always had her, back not BECAUSE i wanted

1321
01:01:56,640 --> 01:01:58,800
Speaker 2: to be with her or expected anything in, return but

1322
01:01:58,880 --> 01:02:01,720
Speaker 2: because that's what goods they're supposed to. Do the only

1323
01:02:01,760 --> 01:02:03,520
Speaker 2: THING i could ever think of her doing was letting

1324
01:02:03,560 --> 01:02:05,800
Speaker 2: me sleep on her couch one or two times and

1325
01:02:05,840 --> 01:02:08,520
Speaker 2: playing and paying for my ice cream that. Night this

1326
01:02:08,720 --> 01:02:10,760
Speaker 2: was a friendship WHERE i kept giving and, giving and

1327
01:02:10,800 --> 01:02:13,960
Speaker 2: she was sort of sucking me. Dry after she, LEFT

1328
01:02:14,080 --> 01:02:16,360
Speaker 2: i realized That i'm no longer in love with. Her

1329
01:02:16,760 --> 01:02:19,280
Speaker 2: if she wasn't giving to one of her closest, friends

1330
01:02:19,320 --> 01:02:22,360
Speaker 2: she certainly wouldn't be giving in a relationship or even

1331
01:02:22,360 --> 01:02:25,280
Speaker 2: in bed for that. MATTER i was in love with

1332
01:02:25,320 --> 01:02:27,400
Speaker 2: the idea of being with a girl WHO i connected

1333
01:02:27,400 --> 01:02:29,520
Speaker 2: with since most Girls i've met are in my, type

1334
01:02:29,560 --> 01:02:32,080
Speaker 2: and we connected really. Well but she's got a bunch

1335
01:02:32,120 --> 01:02:34,680
Speaker 2: of issues that she needs to work. OUT i feel

1336
01:02:34,720 --> 01:02:38,720
Speaker 2: like you have issues you need to Make, yeah say

1337
01:02:38,720 --> 01:02:40,360
Speaker 2: that it's just. Her, YEAH i.

1338
01:02:41,960 --> 01:02:42,560
Speaker 10: Don't like, You.

1339
01:02:42,680 --> 01:02:43,800
Speaker 2: OBI i don't like you.

1340
01:02:43,880 --> 01:02:44,840
Speaker 8: EITHER i don't like.

1341
01:02:45,200 --> 01:02:46,200
Speaker 10: Any of the people in.

1342
01:02:46,240 --> 01:02:47,360
Speaker 2: HERE i.

1343
01:02:47,400 --> 01:02:51,400
Speaker 10: DON'T i just. Don't you're. Gross but there's.

1344
01:02:51,400 --> 01:02:53,320
Speaker 2: MORE i still care about her a, lot But i'm

1345
01:02:53,400 --> 01:02:54,840
Speaker 2: kind of GLAD i won't be seeing much for her.

1346
01:02:54,880 --> 01:02:58,200
Speaker 2: Anymore it turns out she got a summer temp job

1347
01:02:58,240 --> 01:03:00,400
Speaker 2: in a city eight hours from Where i'll, be so

1348
01:03:00,400 --> 01:03:02,720
Speaker 2: she said she'll come up for a weekend during my.

1349
01:03:02,720 --> 01:03:04,520
Speaker 2: Birthday there is a little bit more to the. Story But,

1350
01:03:05,000 --> 01:03:07,520
Speaker 2: YEAH i don't like. YOU i don't like you at.

1351
01:03:07,520 --> 01:03:08,959
Speaker 10: ALL i don't like you one.

1352
01:03:09,000 --> 01:03:12,760
Speaker 11: Bit and, uh, YEAH i think you're just now realizing

1353
01:03:12,800 --> 01:03:15,280
Speaker 11: that this was never going to be a proper. Relationship

1354
01:03:16,160 --> 01:03:19,680
Speaker 11: you were never actually into, her you were obsessed the

1355
01:03:19,720 --> 01:03:22,600
Speaker 11: idea of. Her, yeah and that's that you're moving on

1356
01:03:22,680 --> 01:03:25,160
Speaker 11: and you're gonna hopefully figure some things.

1357
01:03:25,160 --> 01:03:27,520
Speaker 10: Out, Yeah, LIKE i feel like this just was in.

1358
01:03:27,600 --> 01:03:34,080
Speaker 2: Love this was like an see some sort of exaggerated

1359
01:03:34,400 --> 01:03:37,560
Speaker 2: like friends with benefits type type, thing you, know and

1360
01:03:37,600 --> 01:03:42,960
Speaker 2: it's to, Friends, yeah that's what you, wanted and the

1361
01:03:42,960 --> 01:03:46,760
Speaker 2: thought of it actually becoming something you realized that's not

1362
01:03:46,800 --> 01:03:49,520
Speaker 2: what you. Want and, YEAH i feel like that's a

1363
01:03:49,600 --> 01:03:52,120
Speaker 2: very important thing to reflect on and to keep in

1364
01:03:52,160 --> 01:03:55,400
Speaker 2: mind when you're feeling other similar things in the future

1365
01:03:55,520 --> 01:03:59,040
Speaker 2: for other people, agreed recognize it's not real.

1366
01:03:59,240 --> 01:04:01,360
Speaker 10: Feelings, yeah but there is a little bit.

1367
01:04:01,400 --> 01:04:03,760
Speaker 2: More we have a lot of fun, together And i'm

1368
01:04:03,760 --> 01:04:04,920
Speaker 2: Sure i'll be happy to see her.

1369
01:04:04,920 --> 01:04:07,440
Speaker 10: Then but even IF i weren't, MOVING i wouldn't let this.

1370
01:04:07,400 --> 01:04:10,920
Speaker 2: Weird relationship, continue one where we are closer than regular

1371
01:04:10,920 --> 01:04:14,480
Speaker 2: friends see, playtimes but not close enough to be boyfriend

1372
01:04:14,520 --> 01:04:16,040
Speaker 2: and girlfriend or even friends with.

1373
01:04:16,080 --> 01:04:17,360
Speaker 10: BENEFITS i THINK i.

1374
01:04:17,280 --> 01:04:19,200
Speaker 2: Still love, her but only as a friend and well

1375
01:04:19,320 --> 01:04:22,000
Speaker 2: risher who hopes she figures things out and ends up,

1376
01:04:22,040 --> 01:04:25,400
Speaker 2: happy because it's clear she isn't happy right. NOW i

1377
01:04:25,520 --> 01:04:28,800
Speaker 2: like to view successes as good times and failures as learning,

1378
01:04:28,840 --> 01:04:31,680
Speaker 2: experience AND i certainly learned a lot from. This she

1379
01:04:31,840 --> 01:04:33,880
Speaker 2: was the first GIRL i ever had deep feelings, for

1380
01:04:34,000 --> 01:04:36,800
Speaker 2: and because of, This i'll be able to handle similar

1381
01:04:36,800 --> 01:04:40,040
Speaker 2: situations much better in the. FUTURE i wouldn't change much

1382
01:04:40,120 --> 01:04:42,160
Speaker 2: even IF i, could because mistakes are the way we

1383
01:04:42,240 --> 01:04:45,600
Speaker 2: grow as. People, TOMORROW i bored a plane to go

1384
01:04:45,680 --> 01:04:47,800
Speaker 2: to a new city and start building my new. Life

1385
01:04:47,920 --> 01:04:50,680
Speaker 2: here's to success and, love work and. Life and we

1386
01:04:50,760 --> 01:04:55,160
Speaker 2: do have some. Comments the first comment is just two exhausting. People, yeah,

1387
01:04:56,160 --> 01:04:59,919
Speaker 2: yeah oh my goodness. Indeed but op he doesn't respond

1388
01:05:00,080 --> 01:05:03,440
Speaker 2: the other. COMMENTS i think they agree with us and

1389
01:05:03,520 --> 01:05:06,680
Speaker 2: how wild this story. Was you guys are a bunch of. Farders,

1390
01:05:06,920 --> 01:05:10,720
Speaker 2: yeah a bunch of. Farders stinky stinky, people stinky stinky