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Speaker 1: It is to Strawberry letter all right. Subject. Me and

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Speaker 1: my man have a little situation. Dear Stephen Shirley. I

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Speaker 1: met a gentleman seven months ago. I'm forty five and

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Speaker 1: he's thirty seven. When we met, he lived three hours away,

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Speaker 1: so he decided to move to my area. It's been

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Speaker 1: four months now since we've been in the same city,

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Speaker 1: and I'm starting to see issues with him. He didn't

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Speaker 1: have a plan in place when he moved to my city,

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Speaker 1: and now he's living in a shelter because I told

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Speaker 1: him he cannot live with me. He doesn't have a car,

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Speaker 1: and I refuse to drive him around. He does have

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Speaker 1: a job. In fact, he's had three different jobs since

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Speaker 1: he's been here. He has been fired from each job

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Speaker 1: because he has an issue with the way people talk

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Speaker 1: to him. See, he has issues with being short. He

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Speaker 1: is only five three. Wait, Wilson, I'm out. I'm out break,

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Speaker 1: so I'm not going to do this. Let me just

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Speaker 1: say thank you, Jeeves. I told you you were gonna

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Speaker 1: love it, and I asked you enough you to stick around.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to the break room. We're a team, all right. See,

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Speaker 1: he has issues with being short. He's only five three.

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Speaker 1: I am five two, so his height doesn't bother me,

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Speaker 1: but it bothers him. He has short patience with people.

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Speaker 1: I believe he's been abused by a woman before because

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Speaker 1: he always thinks I'm talking down to him and belittling him.

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Speaker 1: I jokingly push these issues to the side, but it's

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Speaker 1: getting old. I'm getting to the point where I want

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Speaker 1: to end this relationship. Can I help him overcome this

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Speaker 1: or should I just let him work through his own

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Speaker 1: problems alone? Please help? Is it my turn me back?

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Speaker 1: That's right. I tell you were gonna love it, and

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Speaker 1: you're welcome, by the way, You're welcome. Listen. You may

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Speaker 1: not have a problem with his height, but he certainly does,

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Speaker 1: and you got to let him work it out on

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Speaker 1: his own. There are things that you can help help

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Speaker 1: him do I don't know, maybe take him to therapy

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Speaker 1: so he can deal with it that way. But there's

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Speaker 1: nothing you can do about his problem with his height.

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Speaker 1: You cannot change people. You cannot change him. You've only

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Speaker 1: known him for seven months. It made me think, did

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Speaker 1: you see him before? You guys you know, got together?

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Speaker 1: But I guess you did because you would have said

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Speaker 1: that if you didn't. But now he's moved. You guys

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Speaker 1: didn't talk about what was going to happen, where he

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Speaker 1: was going to live, whether or not he had a car.

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Speaker 1: You guys didn't discuss any of that before he moved

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Speaker 1: to the same city. How can he's had three jobs

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Speaker 1: since he's been there. He's only been there what four months?

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Speaker 1: He has an issue with the way people talk to him.

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Speaker 1: This is crazy. These are things that he has to

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Speaker 1: deal with on his own, and he's probably been dealing

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Speaker 1: with for the majority of his adult life. Uh, you

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Speaker 1: don't care because he's still taller than you at five two.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know, Um, if you're gonna be able

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Speaker 1: to help him overcome this, because he's got to do

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Speaker 1: it first. The only thing you can do is to

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Speaker 1: be there to support him. Yeah, he's gonna have to

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Speaker 1: work through these problems alone. UM, I don't know if

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Speaker 1: this relationship is going to last because he can't keep

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Speaker 1: a job. He lives in a shelter. I mean, you know,

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Speaker 1: and you want him to do better, I'm sure, but

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Speaker 1: he can't because of he has a problem with being little.

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Speaker 1: You know, he needs counseling. I think, Steve, where now,

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Speaker 1: uncle Steve boy, I think this is the time good advice.

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Speaker 1: This is not the time to be funny and be

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Speaker 1: rude and stuff. Okay, just please don't start it out,

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Speaker 1: Steve as dear Tommy, don't. I'm the one to get

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Speaker 1: stupid about you. Okay, waitfully, now this lady met this man. Seth,

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Speaker 1: y'all need to stop down. Let me go. I promise you,

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Speaker 1: I'm farted five years old. He thirty seven right now,

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Speaker 1: he shot he down? Eight years he already he now

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Speaker 1: he's eight years shout he already and equated this the inches.

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Speaker 1: You can believe that you farted five thirty seven. When

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Speaker 1: we met, he lived three hours away, so he decided

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Speaker 1: to move to my area. It's been four moost now

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Speaker 1: in this letter that really amazes me. I'm starting to

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Speaker 1: see issues with him, really, So here we go. He

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Speaker 1: that you dating, the one that moved to your city,

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Speaker 1: Where you sick at the shelter? Little man ain't got

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Speaker 1: no home. Oh you can get in my house. Listen

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Speaker 1: to me. Tiny houses they got This boy could have

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Speaker 1: had a place by now. Tiny House Nation is on TV. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: me and my man have a little situation. Yeah. Now

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Speaker 1: she fied. He fired three, she fired two, So that

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Speaker 1: don't bother her. It's an eight year difference in him

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Speaker 1: because she forty five, he thirty seven. Now he didn't

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Speaker 1: moved into town, but he ain't got no plan. She

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Speaker 1: won't let him live with him, so he lived in

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Speaker 1: a shelter. I was just wondering how it is for

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Speaker 1: her when she stopped by. How you gonna see your

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Speaker 1: man at a shelter? Where you sit? What you end

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Speaker 1: of the bed? He is yours? Because one thing I

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Speaker 1: know from being a homeless you can't sit on another

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Speaker 1: homeless person. Stuff. You're bet not. That's ruining number one.

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Speaker 1: That's all they got. You don't touch my grocery car.

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Speaker 1: You don't put your hand on my duck tape. You

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Speaker 1: don't get away from this blanket. He doesn't have a job,

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Speaker 1: he doesn't have a car, and I refuse to drive

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Speaker 1: him around. So now he just trying to walk around

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Speaker 1: him a little. Lads legs, well he does have a

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Speaker 1: job still, he well, excuse me, he got a job,

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Speaker 1: but he ain't got no car. You refuse now, he

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Speaker 1: got to trot everywhere. In fact, he had three different

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Speaker 1: job since he's been here. He'd been fried from me's

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Speaker 1: talk to him. And oh lord, how many times have

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Speaker 1: we run into this the right show because we are

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Speaker 1: dealing with this ourselves, and I want to thank you

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Speaker 1: for the opportunity to give us to vent some of

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Speaker 1: the things that we've been going through, because we got

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Speaker 1: way people talk to him. He stayed touchy, he urgy

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Speaker 1: all the damn time. Some always wrong, He always offended. See,

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Speaker 1: he has an issue with being short, Dan Junior. Wouldn't

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Speaker 1: you have an issue with being short of you? And

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Speaker 1: five foot three? Now? She says, so his height doesn't

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Speaker 1: bother me, but it bothers him. He has short patience

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Speaker 1: have long patience? He don't. He don't like nobody because

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Speaker 1: he edgy. He always assumed it's about his height. He

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Speaker 1: If you throw a rock in a pack of dogs,

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Speaker 1: one to Holly is the one you hit. Every time

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Speaker 1: we mentioned height on this show, we got one person

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Speaker 1: jump to conclusion that we're talking about him even when

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Speaker 1: we not, like right now, I can bet you he

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Speaker 1: think we talked about his ass right now now, She says,

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Speaker 1: I believe that he's been abused by a woman before

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Speaker 1: because he always think I'm talking down to him. That's

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Speaker 1: because the women he dated was taller. They was talking

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Speaker 1: down to him. Literally, it happens to Tommy, excuse me,

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Speaker 1: it happens to our this person we refer to all

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Speaker 1: been abused by a woman because they always think I'm

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Speaker 1: talking down to him. I jokingly pushed these issues to

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Speaker 1: the side, but it's getting old. I'm getting to the

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Speaker 1: point where I want to end this relationship. Can I

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Speaker 1: help him overcome this? I want to answer that for

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Speaker 1: him work through his own problems alone? Can I help

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Speaker 1: him overcome this? No? You cannot, No, you cannot. This

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Speaker 1: person can be fifty You ain't gonna be able to

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Speaker 1: help them. Why you pick fifty because that's a big number.

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Speaker 1: He's thirty seven. I'd have seen this go all the

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Speaker 1: damn sure, we ain't been able to help him yet?

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Speaker 1: Or should you let him work through his own problems alone?

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Speaker 1: He can't. He has no answers for this because he

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Speaker 1: touches all the damn time. It's all ways about him. Love,

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Speaker 1: people got big issues live man. Sharp patients, they got

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Speaker 1: shot legs, they got short arms, they're sending up everything.

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Speaker 1: A bottom is shot. But one thing about sharp people,

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Speaker 1: they get a job, though I don't care what nobody say.

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Speaker 1: They always working. I'm surprised why he had a shotter

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Speaker 1: shelter at five three. He could easily sign up for

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Speaker 1: foster kill. He could be in somebody's house. Yeah, he

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Speaker 1: can get in the house because he shot. And once again,

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Speaker 1: why is he out of work and ain't got nowhere

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Speaker 1: to stay? Why is he in the shelter? Listen? I

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Speaker 1: was watching tiny houses the other day, Tiny house Nation.

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Speaker 1: This be like a mansion for him. Matter of fact,

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Speaker 1: you take this little lass house and you can rename it.

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Speaker 1: You can call it like a chateau or something. Give

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Speaker 1: it a big name and it'd be jeff a little people. Wow.

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Speaker 1: Let's see, that's how you do it. That's genius. You

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Speaker 1: take a little house and give it a big name. Wow. See,

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Speaker 1: you ain't gotta call it tiny house. Call it the shit.

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Speaker 1: Don't ye all in the room with this pomp out.

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Speaker 1: Lift up a lead. That was a cupboard for clothes

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Speaker 1: and stuff. It's a bathtub, you understand. You climb up

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Speaker 1: stairs for storage and a little loft. You move that

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Speaker 1: stuff out the way. It's a bunk, bad man. The

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Speaker 1: stove and the toilet is the same thing. I can't

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Speaker 1: go with you on that one. No, this is for

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Speaker 1: tiny house and Shureley, you ain't got too because you

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Speaker 1: have a home. All right, Steve, we gotta get out

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Speaker 1: of here. You can email us or Instagram. That's your

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