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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for

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Speaker 1: joining us. We're excited to have another episode together.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely and if you haven't listened to our podcast from Wednesday,

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Speaker 2: please check it out. Guess who we had, our good

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Speaker 2: friend and fellow Golden Bachelor et I don't think she's

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Speaker 2: a bachelor anyhow, it was Ellen on our podcast, and

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Speaker 2: what fun we had talking to her.

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Speaker 1: We had, we talked. I found Ellen to be as

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Speaker 1: fun on the podcast as she was in the house.

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Speaker 3: She was great in the house. How about her princess date?

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Speaker 1: Okay, can we talk about that?

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Speaker 2: Can I just say nobody, anybody and that anybody would

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Speaker 2: have been excited, but she has never had. She's such

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Speaker 2: Oh that was so so special that so for those.

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Speaker 1: I can't imagine there's one of you out there. But

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Speaker 1: for those of you who missed that episode, Ellen went

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Speaker 1: on this fabulous date, got fabulous diamond ear rings like

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Speaker 1: Michael Costello, clothes and we didn't talk about this on

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Speaker 1: the podcast, but here's a little dirt. So Ellen was

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Speaker 1: handing out all the dresses that she didn't want.

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Speaker 3: You remember, Susan, Yes, yes I do.

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Speaker 1: It didn't fit her or were too big or whatever.

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Speaker 1: Too smart one. I got one, and the way I

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Speaker 1: got it, nobody wanted it because they said it was

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Speaker 1: too big. And I finally looked at it. It's I

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Speaker 1: wore for the women's tellow it's this beautiful white jumpsuit.

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Speaker 1: And I looked at these people in the guard It's

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Speaker 1: too big. It's too big. I said to them, where

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Speaker 1: with you people? Have you never heard of a tailor?

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Speaker 1: And I took it home and had about two feet

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Speaker 1: taken in and it was fabulous.

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Speaker 2: So I know Ellen's going to hear all of our podcasts,

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Speaker 2: and Ellen, forgive me now, but this I have to

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Speaker 2: I just have to share it. I'll never forget. First

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Speaker 2: of all, her face was priceless. When Michael Costello walked

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Speaker 2: in and called her and she wanted to go by

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Speaker 2: new underwear, she said, I don't have pretty She was embarrassed.

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Speaker 1: Wait, it's worse than that. We get to the wedding,

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Speaker 1: Susan lectures her about her underwear. And then we get

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Speaker 1: to the wedding, Aya says again, she goes, I have

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Speaker 1: terrible underwear. We looking to go. Have you not learned

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Speaker 1: your lesson? What's wrong with you? So you think for Christmas?

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Speaker 3: We're gonna send her Victoria's secret underwear.

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Speaker 1: I mean that she's going to kill you. Did you

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Speaker 1: love her talking about her dating the guy, that it

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Speaker 1: was selfish that she dumped right and she she saw

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Speaker 1: right away that he was narcissistic.

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Speaker 3: Good, definite no no for me.

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Speaker 1: But she did share.

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Speaker 2: She went to an opening of a restaurant, I believe,

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Speaker 2: she said, and met somebody else. I mean, it's news

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Speaker 2: she couldn't really share with us yet, but that is

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Speaker 2: the way it is.

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Speaker 1: Kill yourself out there, yep. And we talked about so

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Speaker 1: again for those of you who missed it, I don't

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Speaker 1: know where you were, but we won. Ellen and I

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Speaker 1: won the pickleball tournament on the Golden Bachelor. And she

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Speaker 1: plays a ton of pickleball and she's so active, and

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Speaker 1: that's how she was talking about. That's how she meets people.

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Speaker 1: Meets people. She gets out and does.

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Speaker 2: She's very active. She golfs, she plays pickle and that's

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Speaker 2: how she meets guys. She's in a great little community Susan, Florida.

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Speaker 2: So maybe we should move to Florida.

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Speaker 3: Is that the problem?

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Speaker 1: But we're moving to Florida in a community and we're

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Speaker 1: taking up pickleball full time. That'll be it. All right,

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Speaker 1: So today we have got even more fan questions. I

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Speaker 1: love it. I love the all are listening and writing in.

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Speaker 1: Please keep it up, and like always, we have some

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Speaker 1: really good ones today. All right, if you want to

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Speaker 1: send a question reach out, go to bachelornation dot com

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Speaker 1: slash Golden.

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Speaker 2: Hour and please do it. But first let's get started

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Speaker 2: with today's question of the day. This is always fun,

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Speaker 2: always okay, so you ready, yep, go for it. What's

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Speaker 2: one lesson you wish you had learned earlier in your

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Speaker 2: dating journey.

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Speaker 3: A lesson that we've learned early and so we first

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Speaker 1: A lesson I mean, I think I think many of

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Speaker 1: our guests have touched on it. For me, it's being

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Speaker 1: comfortable with being myself and not trying to please someone else,

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Speaker 1: being my authentic self, which I usually am, but I

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Speaker 1: think when we're first dating, when we were younger, that's harder.

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Speaker 3: I've always been who I am, which is maybe why

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Speaker 2: But the lesson I still struggle with this that people

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Speaker 2: good as you are, don't you know? You have to

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Speaker 2: that's that's a problem I have. I guess that would

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Speaker 2: be my lesson is not to trust everything that comes

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Speaker 2: out of anybody. Well, I find that difficult though. Well,

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Speaker 2: I look at the good in people.

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Speaker 1: Well, everyone has good and everyone has some bad. We're

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Speaker 1: not perfect. I mean, you may be Saint Susan, I

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Speaker 1: am saying Susan, yeah, but most of us are not perfect.

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Speaker 1: And I think that's just it's it's just be aware, right,

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Speaker 1: So when I date now, I'm I'm just aware of

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Speaker 3: I don't can I say something.

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Speaker 2: We are ready to date now, and we'll practice all

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Speaker 2: these things we learned, but we're not dating.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So let's get this right. When you have a date,

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Speaker 1: I'll call you soon.

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Speaker 3: Do they get a date, keviy.

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Speaker 1: You know what's going to happen. All these people that

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Speaker 1: are listening to our podcasts are going to sell.

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Speaker 2: Us once we do a group date, group date, group date,

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Speaker 2: We're going to do paintballing.

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Speaker 1: No, that would hurt. I would not do that, all right, Well,

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Speaker 1: that would be fun.

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Speaker 2: We could get a group date together for both of us.

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Speaker 2: We maybe we'll go play nine.

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Speaker 1: You know, Susan, the only thing harder than having a

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Speaker 2: Can withstand that we're bound to pick somebody.

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Speaker 1: All right, well, let's move on, Come on, let's start

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Speaker 1: our questions here. We've got some great boks.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 2: Question number one, Marissa from Phoenix sent us this, Susan

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Speaker 2: and Kathy. I did something that I'm not proud of.

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Speaker 2: After a night out in a club with my best friends,

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Speaker 2: I got a little too drunk and made out with

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Speaker 2: come clean. After I told him, he was completely heartbroken

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Speaker 2: think there's any way that I could win his trust back?

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Speaker 2: I don't want to end things like this. He really

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Speaker 1: You know what, This happens more times. I mean rule

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Speaker 1: alcohols and excuse for a lot of bad behavior. I

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Speaker 2: I admire the fact that you came clean immediately, but

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Speaker 2: you got to give him some time.

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Speaker 2: He really loves you and realizes you did tell the

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Speaker 2: truth and that's all you did. But the problem is

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Speaker 2: he's going to feel like my friend saw you or

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Speaker 2: who saw you?

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Speaker 3: That's going to come back and tell me. That's when

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Speaker 1: You know, it does. Here's a couple of questions I have,

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Speaker 1: clubbing with her friends. No, no problem, no problem with that.

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Speaker 3: Why are kissing somebody else?

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Speaker 1: Well? People, you know when they get drunk. They say

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't know because I've never been drunk, But they

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Speaker 1: say that you're real, you know, you drop your inhibitions.

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Speaker 1: So maybe you're not as happy with your relationship as

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Speaker 3: Why did you kiss him? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Make sure that's true. That's it. Good luck with that one, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: good luck, And next time, stay sober and things may

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Speaker 2: I hope it doesn't end for you, and I hope

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Speaker 2: he respects the fact that you did come clean and

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Speaker 2: tell the truth and you do regret it. But I

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Speaker 2: feel as if, even if he forgives you, it's always

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Speaker 1: Oh No, I don't think that at all.

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Speaker 3: I do. I think he'll never forget what she did.

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Speaker 1: Oh I disagree. I disagree. If anybody can make a mistake,

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Speaker 1: I mean, she can go to bed with the guys,

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Speaker 1: she made out with him, she came clean. I think

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Speaker 1: know what, if you don't forget, oh I do if

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Speaker 1: you forgive someone, Oh yeah, Susan, if you forgive, you

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Speaker 1: got to be able to move on and forget.

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Speaker 2: You can move on and it's all good. But it's

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Speaker 2: always there. It's always there, a second guess of trusting.

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Speaker 2: That's so you're saying, you're saying he'll never trust her again.

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Speaker 2: I'm not, but he would question things. Yeah, one ever given.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, that's it's Susan.

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Speaker 2: An uncomfortable situation. He's going to remember what she did. Well,

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Speaker 2: hopefully she's learned her lesson isn't going to call that again.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, I wish you lucky.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we wish you all the luck in the world,

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Speaker 1: and stay away from the alcohol. Okay. Listener question number two,

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Speaker 1: Jess from New York says, I've been with my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: for a couple of years now. He's always watched porn,

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Speaker 1: but I think lately he's just been more open about it.

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Speaker 1: It really bothers me. It doesn't bother me that he masturbates,

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Speaker 1: but the fact that he does it while watching videos

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Speaker 1: of that, I asked him what kind of porn stars

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Speaker 1: he's into, and he described women that are the total

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Speaker 1: opposite of my body type and race. Does this mean

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Speaker 1: that he's not actually that attracted to me? Is it

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Speaker 1: Or should I keep letting him do his own thing? Wait?

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Speaker 1: The last line says it all. What should I keep

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Speaker 1: letting him do his money? You don't have a choice,

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Speaker 1: You're not in control of him.

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Speaker 2: No, And you know what, I've tried in a relationship.

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Speaker 2: A man likes to watch I don't get anything out

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Speaker 2: of it. I'm sorry, but there's an issue here.

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Speaker 1: Why because he does porn?

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Speaker 2: No, she doesn't like that he's choosing somebody that's not her,

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Speaker 2: So that's making her feel like she's not as attractive

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Speaker 2: to him as he should be. He likes other race,

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Speaker 2: other but men are different than women.

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Speaker 3: Well, here's I'm not going to excuse it. I don't

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Speaker 3: dig it.

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Speaker 1: Well, it's not the porn of them. No, you know

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Speaker 1: what gets me? She asks him what kind of porn

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Speaker 1: stars he's into? Like, why would you ask? It's like

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Speaker 1: asking you what color? You know? Flavor ice cream? Who cares?

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Speaker 1: And we wish you, we hope for you the best

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Speaker 1: We want more. Feels free to call in. Okay, So today, Susan,

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Speaker 1: you know it's always game day. Oh yes, game face

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Speaker 1: for game day already. All right, we're going to play

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Speaker 1: this game that we've called moral quandary. We're going to

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Speaker 1: read a quandary if you will, and we each have

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Speaker 1: to try. Let's this time, let's try to guess what

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Speaker 1: the other one would do. Okay, all right, as soon

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Speaker 1: as we start, you're going to get it. Okay, you're

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Speaker 1: going to guess that. I'm going to guess.

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Speaker 3: All right.

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Speaker 1: All right. You're at the park with your grandkids when

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Speaker 1: one of them finds one hundred dollars bill on the ground.

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Speaker 1: You are the only people at the park and you

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Speaker 1: don't see anyone else nearby? Do you keep the one

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Speaker 1: hundred dollars?

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Speaker 3: I let my grandchild keep it.

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Speaker 1: You're supposed to go?

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Speaker 2: Sorry, I blew that one. I would let my grandchild.

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Speaker 2: What would you do, Kathy?

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Speaker 1: What do you think? There's nobody else there? I'm going

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Speaker 1: to start this. O. We're gonna start this.

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Speaker 3: Kathy would let the children keep it?

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Speaker 2: Now, Kathy might pocket it herself.

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Speaker 1: You think I would pocket it?

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Speaker 2: No, you're wrong, you would if there's no what am

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Speaker 2: I gonna You're not letting the kid have it?

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Speaker 1: You know? Oh? With my grandkid?

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Speaker 2: Yes, the grandkid finds it, let them keep it? Good

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Speaker 2: for you?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I would.

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Speaker 3: But here's what you look around, make sure nobody's Here's.

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Speaker 1: What I thought you were going to say, But take

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Speaker 1: a picture. Put it up lost and found it's on

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Speaker 1: her bucks? Were at a bark. Wait, what if your

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Speaker 1: grandchild is like six.

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Speaker 2: And you go home and tell mommy and daddy that's yours.

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Speaker 2: You could spend it on whatever you want, put it

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Speaker 2: in the bank.

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Speaker 1: Would say college account. I'm keeping it and I'm putting

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Speaker 1: in their college ground.

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Speaker 2: I'll tell you what, you get fifty to buy something

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Speaker 2: and the other fifty goes in the savings. Okay, my turn, Kathy.

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Speaker 2: You're searching for a nanny for your three children. I

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Speaker 2: wish you interview someone who seems perfect. You're ready to

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Speaker 2: make her an offer, but first search her online. You

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Speaker 2: discover her instagram, which features almost all provocative of half

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Speaker 2: dressed photos.

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Speaker 3: Do you still hire her?

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Speaker 1: What do I say?

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Speaker 2: Katsy's gonna say hell no, hell no, nobody would like

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Speaker 2: that's a crazy one.

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Speaker 3: Wait a minute, what do you think I would have

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Speaker 3: hired her?

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Speaker 1: No? I don't think you would hire her. But I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna play Devil's advocated in a minute.

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Speaker 3: Okay, fair enough.

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Speaker 1: She was sixteen, she was drunk, she didn't know what

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Speaker 1: she was doing. She has looked at those pictures in

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Speaker 1: you know, ten years.

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Speaker 3: In first of all, she's sixteen and they've been there

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Speaker 3: for ten years.

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Speaker 1: That's a big red flag. That's okay, you know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. No, she hasn't. No, no, And by the way,

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Speaker 1: you're being judgy against Susan, I'm seeing a whole new

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Speaker 1: side of you.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Why I don't have half dressed, provocative people raising

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Speaker 2: my babysitting my kids?

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Speaker 1: Excuse me? Would you let Katy Perry babysit your kids? Oh?

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Speaker 1: She's tooxy for her Yeah? No, Okay, try another one.

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Speaker 1: You meet someone at a Starbucks and start texting. He

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Speaker 1: asks you out on a date, but tells you via

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Speaker 1: text that he feels he needs to let you know

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Speaker 1: he's only ever dated men. You would be the first

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Speaker 1: woman he's ever gone out with. Do you still go

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Speaker 1: out with him? Now? Guess what you think I would say? Okay,

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Speaker 1: thought too long?

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Speaker 3: Are you sure you I don't know?

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Speaker 1: Are they in Texas? No? Hell no, not even a chance.

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Speaker 1: I'm just going what do you think i'd say?

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Speaker 4: Oh, of course I would. I give anyone a chance,

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Speaker 4: give me my new best friend. I just like to

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Speaker 4: chat with him and let him buy me dinner, and oh,

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Speaker 4: he'd probably fall in love with me.

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Speaker 3: They'll let him buy me dinner? Is so wrong? Because

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Speaker 3: you know, I.

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Speaker 1: Always pay my own way. But yeah, no, would you

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Speaker 1: go out with him? Yeah? I might talk to him? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Am I speaking English here? Would you go out.

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Speaker 2: The first woman he's ever going out with? Probably if

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Speaker 2: I liked him?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, let me paint a clearer picture for you. You seem

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Speaker 1: to be struggling. He's sixty nine, he is what. No,

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Speaker 1: I don't picture that. I'm saying, why your world, you're

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Speaker 1: sixty seven. Let's make him sixty five. You want a

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Speaker 1: younger guy, God, you got it. You're sixty seven, he's

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Speaker 1: sixty five.

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Speaker 3: That's a whole different story.

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Speaker 1: What do you hell A?

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Speaker 2: I'm thinking to myself as being younger and this happened, Susan.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't say you were somebody at Starbucks at this

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Speaker 2: age of the game and he's only ever dated. Meant

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Speaker 2: that now, Okay, of course it took a long time

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Speaker 2: to get them. I mean, I don't judge people like

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Speaker 2: Remember the question we had I guess either. It hasn't

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Speaker 2: come up out yet, but we did discuss one of

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Speaker 2: the people's questions about the two women, and she was

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Speaker 2: about to propose remember.

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Speaker 1: That one yes, and he wanted to be with them she.

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Speaker 2: Wants to try him. Still, that's where what that came

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Speaker 2: to mind. That's different, and that's a and that's a

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Speaker 2: much younger situation. There is no way because he's been

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Speaker 2: with yeah man for sixty years if he's sixty.

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Speaker 3: But anyhow, I love this answer that we have.

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Speaker 2: I love getting to know more about you, Kathy and

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Speaker 2: your opinions on things. Not that we always agree, but

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Speaker 2: we agree to disagree. That's what friendship.

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Speaker 1: But don't you think we agree? Susan and I come

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Speaker 1: from very different backgrounds. We're both Northeasterners. Even though I

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Speaker 1: live in Texas, I grew up in Massachusetts outside of Boston.

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Speaker 1: But we agree on a lot a lot of things,

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Speaker 1: and it's funny because our life has been so different.

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Speaker 1: And that does it for this episode.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for joining us today on Bachelor

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Speaker 2: Happy Hours Golden Hour.

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Speaker 1: Thanks everyone for listening and tuning in. Please be sure

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Speaker 1: to follow us as we have new episodes coming out

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Speaker 1: every week.

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Speaker 2: And don't forget to submit your questions. As you can see,

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Speaker 2: we love it. We absolutely love hearing from you. Go

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Speaker 2: to Bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour to send them in. Plus,

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Speaker 2: don't forget If you know any friends that want.

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Speaker 1: To date Kathy and Susan, send.

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Speaker 2: Them in and we'll check them out. We're really seriously

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Speaker 2: considering a group date. I think I like that idea.

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Speaker 2: We should talk more about that. Okay, we will, we will. First,

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Speaker 2: we need the guy, Susan well, first comment. Baby, they're

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Speaker 2: coming all right.

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Speaker 1: Well. In the meantime, listen to Bachelor halfy hours Golden

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Speaker 1: Hour on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to podcasts.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much, grain weeks, See you soon, See

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Speaker 2: you next week.