Speaker 1: Had me Saint Patrick's day, it's Brook and Jeffrey. Yeah,
Speaker 1: got a brand new episode for you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, who's drunk?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean I wish that I could say that it
Speaker 1: was two Irish lassies on the phone.
Speaker 3: For your awkward Tuesday phone call today. But yeah, we
Speaker 3: really missed the market. Why did we think of that? Yeah,
Speaker 3: that's true, that's true.
Speaker 1: We do have an awkward, brand new awkward call coming
Speaker 1: up in a second. But first your comments.
Speaker 4: Yeah, this one said. My fifth grade daughter came home
Speaker 4: today and said, did you hear the second.
Speaker 5: Date update today?
Speaker 4: She doesn't have a phone, but we do share a
Speaker 4: Spotify duo, so I asked her how in the world
Speaker 4: she heard it, and she told me she logged into
Speaker 4: her Spotify at school and listened to it. I can
Speaker 4: only assume it's because we listened to the red comments
Speaker 4: every day and she heard the one about someone listening
Speaker 4: in class.
Speaker 6: And then.
Speaker 4: Not very happy emoji you know in school?
Speaker 2: Yeah, to listen in school.
Speaker 1: I can't believe there's a school to that hasn't blocked
Speaker 1: us on Spotify yet.
Speaker 3: Good on you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, thank you for being here. A brand
Speaker 1: new episode starts right now.
Speaker 5: There are a lot of sentences that have the power
Speaker 5: to instantly ruin a friendship. Wow, yeah, I guess like
Speaker 5: I mean, your wedding was okay, it was my favorite nikes.
Speaker 5: Or your parents just told me I'm like the child
Speaker 5: they never had l Oh yeah, Or I think Aj
Speaker 5: is a way better Backstreet boy than Nick.
Speaker 2: Every Oh my god, how dare you well?
Speaker 5: One of our listeners admits he managed to ruin a
Speaker 5: long time friendship with one single sentence. He can't believe
Speaker 5: he said it, but he's willing to do anything to
Speaker 5: take it back. Oh goodness, even come on our show
Speaker 5: and risk nationwide humiliation. Can we save his failing friendship?
Speaker 5: We're gonna find out in a brand new awkward Tuesday
Speaker 5: phone call. Next, It's awkward. It's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday
Speaker 5: phone call. Have you ever said something while you were
Speaker 5: under the influence that came back to haunt you later?
Speaker 3: He it was, Hey, how you do it?
Speaker 5: As Brooke would say, what is duh? Yeah? The thing is,
Speaker 5: most of the time people will forgive you for your stupid,
Speaker 5: drunken words. But what if they were so bad they
Speaker 5: actually affected your friendships with people? Oh yeah, that could
Speaker 5: pose a problem. And it's why one of our listeners, Joey,
Speaker 5: has reached out for help today, very interested to hear
Speaker 5: about this. Joey, welcome to the show.
Speaker 6: Hey, thanks for having me.
Speaker 3: Oh Joey, were you? Were you the drunk one with
Speaker 3: dumb words?
Speaker 7: You know?
Speaker 6: I didn't think I was too drunk. I thought, at
Speaker 6: most just a little tipsy. But yeah, definitely an awkward night.
Speaker 5: Okay, Well, good to know that. It actually gets worse
Speaker 5: than what we're about to hear. And I don't know
Speaker 5: what was said or where you said it or who
Speaker 5: you said it too. So set the scene for us.
Speaker 5: We like what happened.
Speaker 6: Well, I was at a friend's birthday party last weekend,
Speaker 6: you know, at a bar, and there's probably like thirty
Speaker 6: people there. I knew most of them. It started going
Speaker 6: way past midnight.
Speaker 3: Okayy's having a good time.
Speaker 6: Yeah, we shut the place down.
Speaker 3: Nice.
Speaker 6: I saw my good friend Vanessa there. We've never been
Speaker 6: involved with each other, I should say that up front, okay,
Speaker 6: And from from what I can remember, it was just
Speaker 6: a really good kind of heart to heart talk.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, Yeah, when does the makeout start?
Speaker 6: No, No, nothing like that, just more of like a
Speaker 6: shoulder to lean on getting out of a bad breakup
Speaker 6: and just talking to her about it.
Speaker 5: Or a shoulder to balance on when you're losing it
Speaker 5: because you're so intoxicated.
Speaker 3: Yeah, whose breakup was messy? Yours or hers?
Speaker 6: Hers?
Speaker 3: Hers? Okay, okay, so you I mean that's a good friend.
Speaker 6: Good. Yeah, she's been a good friend to me over
Speaker 6: the years too, And I remember thanking her for just
Speaker 6: being so consistent over the past few years. I remember
Speaker 6: being a nice conversation.
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, but clearly you're reaching out to us because
Speaker 5: it wasn't.
Speaker 3: That nice or it sounds like somebody else remembers it differently.
Speaker 6: Maybe yea, yeah, apparently because I didn't think anything of it.
Speaker 6: And the next day I get a call from one
Speaker 6: of my buddies who tells me someone heard me talking
Speaker 6: to Vanessa and they heard me say that I had
Speaker 6: fantasized about her.
Speaker 1: WHOA, No, you not like I have a crush on you,
Speaker 1: Like I fantasize about you.
Speaker 6: Yeah. I started freaking out.
Speaker 3: Is there a way they could have misheard you?
Speaker 4: Yeah, like they were the drunk one.
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's what I had hoped, because between us, it
Speaker 6: is true. But I can't believe that I would have
Speaker 6: said that, Oh.
Speaker 5: It's it's true. Yeah, okay, just going just go into
Speaker 5: like six or seven details about the fantasy so that
Speaker 5: we know.
Speaker 6: Uh no, oh, I think I'll pass on that one.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, you're no song.
Speaker 1: You gotta say, like, I don't know if this is
Speaker 1: true for Alexis, but for me, like if a guy
Speaker 1: said he fantasizes about me, it's like icky, it feels
Speaker 1: like it's crossed a boundary.
Speaker 3: Especially into him.
Speaker 4: It just makes it a little like borderline creepy.
Speaker 6: Yes, yes, that's why I couldn't believe that I actually
Speaker 6: said that. So I texted her and I asked her
Speaker 6: if I actually said that.
Speaker 3: Oh, you just straight out asked her.
Speaker 5: I just asked her, you, wow, we didn't know if
Speaker 5: it was true.
Speaker 6: Well yeah, I figured if I couldn't remember, she would yeah.
Speaker 6: And what was her response, Well, she did remember, and
Speaker 6: she said yes that I did.
Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, hopefully you didn't go into detail, right.
Speaker 6: I didn't get that far. I just immediately started apologizing
Speaker 6: and she told me to just stop.
Speaker 5: Okay, so this it's not something that you actually wanted
Speaker 5: her to know. It just accidentally slipped out, and that
Speaker 5: was embarrassing.
Speaker 6: I feel terrible. Okay, one stupid comment. The friendship's ruined,
Speaker 6: and the.
Speaker 1: Time he couldn't be worse. Like, she just went through
Speaker 1: this terrible, messy breakup. The last thing she wants to
Speaker 1: do is deal with another guy. You know, like you
Speaker 1: were supposed to be her friend in that moment, and
Speaker 1: that was the opposite of what you were.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I s I feel like I'm piling on and
Speaker 3: I didn't mean to.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you're a bad guy and you're keeping all your
Speaker 5: friends out. What's wrong with you?
Speaker 3: I get it. I get where he feels bad about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what is your goal here? Just to salvage your friendship?
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's one hundred percent. I'm not trying to have
Speaker 6: anything romantic. I just need help getting us back to
Speaker 6: the place we were before.
Speaker 2: That's actually good news, because you're never gonna get back
Speaker 2: to her romantic spot with her, But we could totally
Speaker 2: get a friendship back.
Speaker 5: Totally. It sounds super easy. Be like, I'm not attracted
Speaker 5: to you at all.
Speaker 1: Okay, why do we even need to give advice when
Speaker 1: Jeff's here with that?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that would be great.
Speaker 2: Just say psych and we'll hang up and it'll be
Speaker 2: all over with easy.
Speaker 6: I hope that's not your actual advice, because I really
Speaker 6: do I'm trying to joke.
Speaker 5: Geez, you're so picky about the advice that you want
Speaker 5: to get on this come begging but okay, okay, I'll think,
Speaker 5: So what are you trying to tell her?
Speaker 6: I just want to tell her I'm sorry and it
Speaker 6: was a stupid thing to say, and I was not
Speaker 6: in my right state of mind, and I want us
Speaker 6: to stay friends.
Speaker 5: Okay, So I guess that's why you need some backup support.
Speaker 5: We'll all be like, it's totally true. He has zero
Speaker 5: interest in you romantically. He just wants to be friends.
Speaker 2: What if Jeff and I outcreep her so much it
Speaker 2: makes you look good.
Speaker 6: That's an idea.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but that's not much of a challenge for me.
Speaker 5: And I did it in one sentence, like a couple
Speaker 5: of sentences ago. So it's really up to you, though.
Speaker 5: We'll come back. We'll give you a little bit of advice.
Speaker 5: Get a female perspective that would help brook, Yeah, the
Speaker 5: female in the room, if she could contribute, and then
Speaker 5: we will come back and let you make your awkward
Speaker 5: Tuesday phone call. Oh boy to your friend to be like,
Speaker 5: I am sorry for saying that I fantasized about you.
Speaker 2: Oh, it's so weird.
Speaker 5: Just one time, though, it was only once, and never again.
Speaker 5: We're gonna do it with your awkward Tuesday phone call
Speaker 5: right after this.
Speaker 6: It's awkward.
Speaker 5: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 2: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 5: This is a great example of why word choice matters.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, there's a difference between telling your friend years
Speaker 5: ago I had a crush on you versus years ago
Speaker 5: I had a fantasy about you. Those feel very different.
Speaker 2: It's funny because you could have a crush for a
Speaker 2: year and that's okay, But yeah, one fantasy for thirty
Speaker 2: seconds is like you.
Speaker 6: Wow.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it just hits way bicky and unfortunately for our listener, Joey,
Speaker 5: he said that second one drunkenly to his friend Vanessa,
Speaker 5: and I.
Speaker 3: Don't think he added the years ago that would make
Speaker 3: it better. Actually, yeah, better.
Speaker 5: Well, I'm assuming it wasn't that.
Speaker 6: Night, Joey, Right, No, not that night.
Speaker 5: No, oh, okay, maybe a week before. Thing is he
Speaker 5: doesn't even remember saying it to her, but it has
Speaker 5: been confirmed by multiple sources, including her. Yep, since someone
Speaker 5: else at that party overheard it and then word got around,
Speaker 5: so no surprise. Ever since, things between Joey and Vanessa
Speaker 5: have been very uncomfortable to say the least, and Joe
Speaker 5: needs our advice here on how to apologize and walk
Speaker 5: back what he said to reassure her It was just
Speaker 5: a dumb, drunken slip up and all he wants is
Speaker 5: to be your friend. So, ye Brook, what do you
Speaker 5: think Joe should do here?
Speaker 6: Well?
Speaker 1: I think right now, Joe, we need to concentrate on
Speaker 1: what you didn't do.
Speaker 6: What didn't I do?
Speaker 3: Okay, what you.
Speaker 1: Didn't do is you didn't inappropriately make a move. You
Speaker 1: didn't pressure her to go out with you.
Speaker 3: You didn't try to.
Speaker 1: Kiss her like you respect her as a friend, you
Speaker 1: respect your boundaries, and you just made a really dumb,
Speaker 1: embarrassing statement.
Speaker 6: You're well said, You're right, I don't think I did
Speaker 6: any of those things.
Speaker 1: I would love it if you would have said I didn't.
Speaker 7: Yeh did?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 5: You said you were tipsy. Yeah, but it's a good
Speaker 5: I doubt. Yeah, it is a good idea to be like, well,
Speaker 5: I could have kissed you, but I didn't do that.
Speaker 5: Who does good advice?
Speaker 6: Bro?
Speaker 5: Jose, what do you think.
Speaker 2: Well, we all had a group cringe when you just
Speaker 2: said the word fantasize, and I think you should try
Speaker 2: to use the word fantasize in other areas of your life.
Speaker 3: Will you try to normalize it?
Speaker 6: You like, for.
Speaker 2: Example, you say, hey, do you have any lunch plans?
Speaker 2: Because I've been fantasizing about this salad.
Speaker 3: It's just a verb you use all the time.
Speaker 2: I hate that.
Speaker 5: I love this advice, Joey, What do you think?
Speaker 6: If I'm being honest, I kind of feel like the
Speaker 6: more I use that word, the more it's just going
Speaker 6: to make her think about me saying it fantasizing.
Speaker 5: About that advice for like two songs, I might never
Speaker 5: use the word fantasize again. Okay, maybe that's a promise
Speaker 5: you can give to Vanessa if we're able to get
Speaker 5: her on the phone here. So I'm going to dial
Speaker 5: her number. You have that advice in your back pocket,
Speaker 5: But hopefully she picks up and we'll let you make
Speaker 5: your awkward Tuesday phone call. You feel ready?
Speaker 6: I think so?
Speaker 5: All right, Oh boy, We're here to back you up
Speaker 5: if you need us. But I'm dialing the number right now.
Speaker 6: Here we go, Hello, Hey, Vanessa, it's Joey. Oh, okay,
Speaker 6: what are you doing. I'm calling you because I don't
Speaker 6: want things to be awkward between us. I mean it is, though,
Speaker 6: and I don't even know if we should be talking
Speaker 6: right now. Listen, We've been friends a long time and
Speaker 6: it was a dumb thing to say. But it was
Speaker 6: just one dumb saying. It was just words. I didn't
Speaker 6: try to kiss you, I didn't do anything inappropriately. I
Speaker 6: didn't make a move or anything like that. It was
Speaker 6: just a dumb thing to say. And just by the way,
Speaker 6: I didn't do any of those things, right, Okay, No, no,
Speaker 6: thank god you didn't. Okay, Well, you don't have to
Speaker 6: go overboard about it. I mean that would have definitely
Speaker 6: crossed an even bigger line. Well are you hearing what
Speaker 6: I'm saying? I really feel bad about it. I mean
Speaker 6: I'm losing sleep over here. It's not good. Okay. Look,
Speaker 6: just really did not know what to say in that moment,
Speaker 6: and it really caught me off guard, especially because I
Speaker 6: just got out of a relationship. It just wasn't really
Speaker 6: something I was prepared to hear. I don't want to
Speaker 6: picture you picturing me that way, and you don't put
Speaker 6: yourself in my shoes here. I mean, I'm I'm trying
Speaker 6: to That's why I'm I'm trying to get things back
Speaker 6: to how they were and saying I'm sorry about saying
Speaker 6: such a dumb thing. I know, but not only did
Speaker 6: I just get out of relationship, but I mean, come on,
Speaker 6: we're also related.
Speaker 5: Why related?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Yeah, she's my stepsister.
Speaker 5: Oh wow, Im, that doesn't make it.
Speaker 3: It makes it okay.
Speaker 5: It's okay to fantasize about.
Speaker 1: Your steps and it really depends on when the parents
Speaker 1: got married.
Speaker 5: Oh, justify that, Vanessa.
Speaker 6: I'm sorry.
Speaker 2: Are you there?
Speaker 6: What is happening right now? I am so confused.
Speaker 5: Yeah, my co hosts are justifying why it's okay to
Speaker 5: fantasize about your step siblings. But what we're doing is
Speaker 5: called an awkward Tuesday phone call. Oh my god, it's
Speaker 5: really awkward.
Speaker 3: You know, you did not tell us that you were
Speaker 3: his stepsister.
Speaker 5: No.
Speaker 6: I didn't think that it was important to mention to
Speaker 6: you guys. You know, it's not like we lived together.
Speaker 6: She didn't become part of the family, so I was
Speaker 6: already out of the house.
Speaker 5: It would have been a good piece of information for
Speaker 5: us to have going into this call, No wonder she's
Speaker 5: weirded out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, that's a very important piece.
Speaker 1: But it also makes sense. Well, your parents are attracted
Speaker 1: to each other.
Speaker 6: Bro.
Speaker 5: You was the one standing up. You're from Idaho, so
Speaker 5: I really justified it a little.
Speaker 1: He was an adult when his dad or mom married
Speaker 1: the other person.
Speaker 5: I don't know, but.
Speaker 6: It's probably the most uncomfortable phone call I have ever had.
Speaker 1: My advice to him was almost like, why don't you
Speaker 1: pursue it?
Speaker 3: So now I'm wow.
Speaker 2: I mean I was really going back and forth on
Speaker 2: apology or.
Speaker 5: Oh wow, she still has that stance.
Speaker 4: I don't.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, Joey, Hey, I'm with Brooke. It's not
Speaker 6: that weird to just think it. It's weird to act
Speaker 6: on him maybe, but not to just think it.
Speaker 5: It's weird to talk about it too.
Speaker 1: No. No, I never had step siblings. But if I
Speaker 1: got a stepbrother as an adult, I mean, yeah.
Speaker 5: Look out. Okay, we need to get back to the
Speaker 5: problem at hand. The whole reason that we made this call,
Speaker 5: Vanessa is because Joey feels terrible about what he said.
Speaker 5: He does not believe that, right, joe Yes.
Speaker 6: I believed it once, but not anymore.
Speaker 5: Okay, he's not interested in you romantically in any way
Speaker 5: at this point in time, and he really shouldn't be.
Speaker 4: When he said that, I was kind of impressed a
Speaker 4: man said that on the phone.
Speaker 3: But now he said, it's a very.
Speaker 5: Low bar that we're trying to clear. Joey, talk to her, please, And.
Speaker 6: This is a huge thing to leave out. I just
Speaker 6: I didn't think it was an important detail. I thought
Speaker 6: the main thing was just trying to tell you that
Speaker 6: I'm sorry and I never should have said it and
Speaker 6: I will never say it again. Can you forgive me?
Speaker 6: I mean, yeah, Joey, like I, I forgive you, but
Speaker 6: you know, I'm not going to completely cut you out
Speaker 6: of my life or anything. I just I think I
Speaker 6: just need like a minute, a long minute to really
Speaker 6: process this whole situation.
Speaker 2: Brother is a different level of it. Yeah, So I
Speaker 2: totally get it's a process.
Speaker 1: I mean, if it was in my family, people would
Speaker 1: be making fun of you, Joey for like the next
Speaker 1: ten years.
Speaker 3: Of your life, maybe your whole life for those that
Speaker 3: gave me an on running joke in our family.
Speaker 6: For sure, that's true, you know, maybe something we'll laugh
Speaker 6: about in the future. Just treat this as a dumb
Speaker 6: saying that we said once.
Speaker 7: And well me, yes, find me that I said once,
Speaker 7: and then we could go get lunch together because I
Speaker 7: have been fantasizing about a salad.
Speaker 6: Oh it's funny, how you think it's kind of like
Speaker 6: still a joke. I don't know. Eventually, I'll probably be
Speaker 6: able to laugh about it in the long future. Maybe
Speaker 6: all right, yes, all right, well at least see you Christmas.
Speaker 6: I mean, yeah, I'm not going to miss Christmas. You
Speaker 6: can't wait to see you now, Okay.
Speaker 5: It sounds like you're gonna need to give her some space, Joey,
Speaker 5: and just let her process it and get over it
Speaker 5: on her own time.
Speaker 1: And I'd recommend no alcoholic beverages for you at any
Speaker 1: family functions in the future.
Speaker 6: Christmas. Yeah, that's probably a good idea.
Speaker 5: Great, okay, all right. I feel like this is a
Speaker 5: successful awkward Tuesday phone call that we've done, bringing.
Speaker 3: Family real together.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Oh my god, my sister's calling me right now.
Speaker 5: Should I answer? What do you think she wants to
Speaker 5: talk about?
Speaker 6: Why don't you fantasize about it?
Speaker 1: Reok and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 5: This is gonna be kind of crazy to say, but
Speaker 5: I think we may have actually helped.
Speaker 3: I think we did. Oh my god, they need they
Speaker 3: needed to talk.
Speaker 5: I know Enjoey was just going to keep digging himself
Speaker 5: a deeper and deeper hole if we didn't intervene.
Speaker 1: And honestly, if he would have told us it was
Speaker 1: his stepsister, would our producer have even picked his email
Speaker 1: as someone.
Speaker 3: To help you?
Speaker 5: I mean, our producer does love chaos.
Speaker 2: I do love no better help at the end of
Speaker 2: the day, was still like, I just need time and
Speaker 2: I'll hit you up late.
Speaker 5: Yes. That and also Brooke normalizing fantasies about family members.
Speaker 5: So thank you for that. Brook.
Speaker 3: They were adult when they got introduced to each other.
Speaker 5: I mean, come on, I have a few websites that
Speaker 5: you're gonna love. By the way, Brooke, that's how you think.
Speaker 1: Like I said, I never had step siblings, so but
Speaker 1: you wish you did. But you've watched clueless those Yeah,
Speaker 1: at the end, and it's the cutest ending.
Speaker 3: That's a perfect point.
Speaker 5: Weird at all?
Speaker 2: You need to hop on the step board.
Speaker 5: That's wrong with me. I'm just glad that we're all
Speaker 5: good now and they're just gonna take their time and
Speaker 5: let the relationship men naturally. But it doesn't happen all
Speaker 5: the time. Sometimes you need us to jump in and intervene.
Speaker 5: And if that's where your life's at, email the show.
Speaker 5: We can help you with whatever awkward situation you're dealing with.
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Speaker 3: Weird ass.
Speaker 5: Yeah,