WEBVTT - Awkward Tuesday: Fantasy Fail 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.600 Had me Saint Patrick's day, it's Brook and Jeffrey. Yeah, 0:00:03.000 --> 0:00:04.480 got a brand new episode for you. 0:00:04.720 --> 0:00:06.200 Yeah, who's drunk? 0:00:06.360 --> 0:00:06.560 Yeah? 0:00:08.480 --> 0:00:10.680 I mean I wish that I could say that it 0:00:10.720 --> 0:00:13.400 was two Irish lassies on the phone. 0:00:13.119 --> 0:00:16.439 For your awkward Tuesday phone call today. But yeah, we 0:00:16.480 --> 0:00:21.479 really missed the market. Why did we think of that? Yeah, 0:00:21.560 --> 0:00:22.880 that's true, that's true. 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:24.800 We do have an awkward, brand new awkward call coming 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:26.759 up in a second. But first your comments. 0:00:26.880 --> 0:00:29.720 Yeah, this one said. My fifth grade daughter came home 0:00:29.760 --> 0:00:31.360 today and said, did you hear the second. 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:32.000 Date update today? 0:00:32.560 --> 0:00:34.800 She doesn't have a phone, but we do share a 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:37.680 Spotify duo, so I asked her how in the world 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:40.160 she heard it, and she told me she logged into 0:00:40.159 --> 0:00:42.879 her Spotify at school and listened to it. I can 0:00:42.960 --> 0:00:45.440 only assume it's because we listened to the red comments 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:47.800 every day and she heard the one about someone listening 0:00:47.800 --> 0:00:48.760 in class. 0:00:50.440 --> 0:00:50.800 And then. 0:00:52.400 --> 0:00:55.480 Not very happy emoji you know in school? 0:00:55.560 --> 0:00:58.840 Yeah, to listen in school. 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:01.000 I can't believe there's a school to that hasn't blocked 0:01:01.320 --> 0:01:02.520 us on Spotify yet. 0:01:03.920 --> 0:01:04.640 Good on you. 0:01:04.720 --> 0:01:06.400 Yeah, all right, thank you for being here. A brand 0:01:06.400 --> 0:01:07.640 new episode starts right now. 0:01:09.080 --> 0:01:11.160 There are a lot of sentences that have the power 0:01:11.200 --> 0:01:15.479 to instantly ruin a friendship. Wow, yeah, I guess like 0:01:16.160 --> 0:01:20.160 I mean, your wedding was okay, it was my favorite nikes. 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:23.640 Or your parents just told me I'm like the child 0:01:23.760 --> 0:01:29.039 they never had l Oh yeah, Or I think Aj 0:01:29.280 --> 0:01:31.720 is a way better Backstreet boy than Nick. 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:35.440 Every Oh my god, how dare you well? 0:01:35.520 --> 0:01:38.480 One of our listeners admits he managed to ruin a 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:43.560 long time friendship with one single sentence. He can't believe 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:46.440 he said it, but he's willing to do anything to 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:49.320 take it back. Oh goodness, even come on our show 0:01:49.320 --> 0:01:55.440 and risk nationwide humiliation. Can we save his failing friendship? 0:01:55.560 --> 0:01:58.400 We're gonna find out in a brand new awkward Tuesday 0:01:58.440 --> 0:02:04.800 phone call. Next, It's awkward. It's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday 0:02:04.880 --> 0:02:07.720 phone call. Have you ever said something while you were 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:11.400 under the influence that came back to haunt you later? 0:02:11.680 --> 0:02:14.679 He it was, Hey, how you do it? 0:02:15.639 --> 0:02:20.520 As Brooke would say, what is duh? Yeah? The thing is, 0:02:20.600 --> 0:02:23.720 most of the time people will forgive you for your stupid, 0:02:23.800 --> 0:02:27.280 drunken words. But what if they were so bad they 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:31.880 actually affected your friendships with people? Oh yeah, that could 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:35.079 pose a problem. And it's why one of our listeners, Joey, 0:02:35.160 --> 0:02:39.040 has reached out for help today, very interested to hear 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:40.880 about this. Joey, welcome to the show. 0:02:41.360 --> 0:02:42.600 Hey, thanks for having me. 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:45.440 Oh Joey, were you? Were you the drunk one with 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:46.200 dumb words? 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:47.200 You know? 0:02:47.280 --> 0:02:49.320 I didn't think I was too drunk. I thought, at 0:02:49.720 --> 0:02:53.680 most just a little tipsy. But yeah, definitely an awkward night. 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:55.680 Okay, Well, good to know that. It actually gets worse 0:02:55.720 --> 0:02:57.360 than what we're about to hear. And I don't know 0:02:57.400 --> 0:02:59.959 what was said or where you said it or who 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:01.840 you said it too. So set the scene for us. 0:03:01.960 --> 0:03:02.840 We like what happened. 0:03:03.360 --> 0:03:05.840 Well, I was at a friend's birthday party last weekend, 0:03:06.040 --> 0:03:08.800 you know, at a bar, and there's probably like thirty 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:11.200 people there. I knew most of them. It started going 0:03:11.320 --> 0:03:12.679 way past midnight. 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:15.239 Okayy's having a good time. 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:17.840 Yeah, we shut the place down. 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:18.760 Nice. 0:03:19.639 --> 0:03:24.000 I saw my good friend Vanessa there. We've never been 0:03:24.040 --> 0:03:26.239 involved with each other, I should say that up front, okay, 0:03:26.720 --> 0:03:29.000 And from from what I can remember, it was just 0:03:29.040 --> 0:03:31.400 a really good kind of heart to heart talk. 0:03:31.680 --> 0:03:34.080 Oh okay, Yeah, when does the makeout start? 0:03:34.560 --> 0:03:38.040 No, No, nothing like that, just more of like a 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:40.680 shoulder to lean on getting out of a bad breakup 0:03:40.720 --> 0:03:42.400 and just talking to her about it. 0:03:42.360 --> 0:03:44.680 Or a shoulder to balance on when you're losing it 0:03:44.720 --> 0:03:46.680 because you're so intoxicated. 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:49.040 Yeah, whose breakup was messy? Yours or hers? 0:03:49.560 --> 0:03:49.920 Hers? 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:54.520 Hers? Okay, okay, so you I mean that's a good friend. 0:03:54.840 --> 0:03:57.520 Good. Yeah, she's been a good friend to me over 0:03:57.520 --> 0:03:59.920 the years too, And I remember thanking her for just 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:04.040 being so consistent over the past few years. I remember 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:05.240 being a nice conversation. 0:04:05.680 --> 0:04:09.240 Okay, okay, but clearly you're reaching out to us because 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:10.040 it wasn't. 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:12.880 That nice or it sounds like somebody else remembers it differently. 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:16.440 Maybe yea, yeah, apparently because I didn't think anything of it. 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:18.520 And the next day I get a call from one 0:04:18.520 --> 0:04:21.839 of my buddies who tells me someone heard me talking 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:24.240 to Vanessa and they heard me say that I had 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:25.600 fantasized about her. 0:04:25.920 --> 0:04:30.920 WHOA, No, you not like I have a crush on you, 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:32.560 Like I fantasize about you. 0:04:33.200 --> 0:04:36.400 Yeah. I started freaking out. 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:40.400 Is there a way they could have misheard you? 0:04:40.480 --> 0:04:41.800 Yeah, like they were the drunk one. 0:04:42.080 --> 0:04:46.800 Yeah, that's what I had hoped, because between us, it 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:49.200 is true. But I can't believe that I would have 0:04:49.240 --> 0:04:50.360 said that, Oh. 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:55.560 It's it's true. Yeah, okay, just going just go into 0:04:55.640 --> 0:04:58.200 like six or seven details about the fantasy so that 0:04:58.279 --> 0:04:58.520 we know. 0:04:58.960 --> 0:05:01.680 Uh no, oh, I think I'll pass on that one. 0:05:01.720 --> 0:05:02.839 Oh okay, you're no song. 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:05.599 You gotta say, like, I don't know if this is 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:07.920 true for Alexis, but for me, like if a guy 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:11.440 said he fantasizes about me, it's like icky, it feels 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:13.360 like it's crossed a boundary. 0:05:13.160 --> 0:05:15.200 Especially into him. 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:17.479 It just makes it a little like borderline creepy. 0:05:17.640 --> 0:05:20.960 Yes, yes, that's why I couldn't believe that I actually 0:05:21.000 --> 0:05:23.800 said that. So I texted her and I asked her 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:24.920 if I actually said that. 0:05:25.880 --> 0:05:27.480 Oh, you just straight out asked her. 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:31.839 I just asked her, you, wow, we didn't know if 0:05:31.880 --> 0:05:32.560 it was true. 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:38.520 Well yeah, I figured if I couldn't remember, she would yeah. 0:05:38.560 --> 0:05:41.600 And what was her response, Well, she did remember, and 0:05:41.640 --> 0:05:43.320 she said yes that I did. 0:05:43.839 --> 0:05:49.120 Oh, yeah, hopefully you didn't go into detail, right. 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:53.200 I didn't get that far. I just immediately started apologizing 0:05:53.360 --> 0:05:55.040 and she told me to just stop. 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:58.480 Okay, so this it's not something that you actually wanted 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:01.960 her to know. It just accidentally slipped out, and that 0:06:02.080 --> 0:06:02.800 was embarrassing. 0:06:03.160 --> 0:06:07.320 I feel terrible. Okay, one stupid comment. The friendship's ruined, 0:06:07.480 --> 0:06:07.760 and the. 0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:09.599 Time he couldn't be worse. Like, she just went through 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:12.200 this terrible, messy breakup. The last thing she wants to 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:15.359 do is deal with another guy. You know, like you 0:06:15.400 --> 0:06:17.320 were supposed to be her friend in that moment, and 0:06:17.320 --> 0:06:18.920 that was the opposite of what you were. 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:22.760 Yeah, I s I feel like I'm piling on and 0:06:22.800 --> 0:06:23.400 I didn't mean to. 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:25.840 Yeah, you're a bad guy and you're keeping all your 0:06:25.839 --> 0:06:26.960 friends out. What's wrong with you? 0:06:27.080 --> 0:06:29.640 I get it. I get where he feels bad about it. 0:06:29.760 --> 0:06:32.839 Yeah, what is your goal here? Just to salvage your friendship? 0:06:33.080 --> 0:06:36.120 Yeah, it's one hundred percent. I'm not trying to have 0:06:36.200 --> 0:06:38.640 anything romantic. I just need help getting us back to 0:06:38.680 --> 0:06:39.719 the place we were before. 0:06:39.839 --> 0:06:42.400 That's actually good news, because you're never gonna get back 0:06:42.440 --> 0:06:45.000 to her romantic spot with her, But we could totally 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:45.960 get a friendship back. 0:06:46.040 --> 0:06:48.279 Totally. It sounds super easy. Be like, I'm not attracted 0:06:48.320 --> 0:06:48.839 to you at all. 0:06:49.279 --> 0:06:52.160 Okay, why do we even need to give advice when 0:06:52.240 --> 0:06:52.960 Jeff's here with that? 0:06:53.200 --> 0:06:55.440 Yeah, yeah, that would be great. 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:57.640 Just say psych and we'll hang up and it'll be 0:06:57.680 --> 0:06:59.279 all over with easy. 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:01.880 I hope that's not your actual advice, because I really 0:07:01.920 --> 0:07:03.960 do I'm trying to joke. 0:07:04.080 --> 0:07:06.320 Geez, you're so picky about the advice that you want 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:09.560 to get on this come begging but okay, okay, I'll think, 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:11.480 So what are you trying to tell her? 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:14.560 I just want to tell her I'm sorry and it 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:17.120 was a stupid thing to say, and I was not 0:07:17.240 --> 0:07:19.280 in my right state of mind, and I want us 0:07:19.280 --> 0:07:20.320 to stay friends. 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:22.880 Okay, So I guess that's why you need some backup support. 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:26.120 We'll all be like, it's totally true. He has zero 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:28.920 interest in you romantically. He just wants to be friends. 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:31.640 What if Jeff and I outcreep her so much it 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:32.480 makes you look good. 0:07:33.200 --> 0:07:33.840 That's an idea. 0:07:34.120 --> 0:07:36.960 Yeah, but that's not much of a challenge for me. 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:42.360 And I did it in one sentence, like a couple 0:07:42.400 --> 0:07:46.160 of sentences ago. So it's really up to you, though. 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:48.720 We'll come back. We'll give you a little bit of advice. 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:53.040 Get a female perspective that would help brook, Yeah, the 0:07:53.240 --> 0:07:55.320 female in the room, if she could contribute, and then 0:07:55.560 --> 0:07:57.720 we will come back and let you make your awkward 0:07:57.840 --> 0:08:01.360 Tuesday phone call. Oh boy to your friend to be like, 0:08:01.600 --> 0:08:04.280 I am sorry for saying that I fantasized about you. 0:08:04.520 --> 0:08:06.440 Oh, it's so weird. 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:10.640 Just one time, though, it was only once, and never again. 0:08:10.680 --> 0:08:12.800 We're gonna do it with your awkward Tuesday phone call 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:13.600 right after this. 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:15.200 It's awkward. 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:17.120 It's Tuesday. 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:20.440 It's awkward Tuesday phone call. 0:08:20.440 --> 0:08:24.560 This is a great example of why word choice matters. 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:28.920 Oh yeah, there's a difference between telling your friend years 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:32.480 ago I had a crush on you versus years ago 0:08:32.840 --> 0:08:37.800 I had a fantasy about you. Those feel very different. 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:39.319 It's funny because you could have a crush for a 0:08:39.440 --> 0:08:41.840 year and that's okay, But yeah, one fantasy for thirty 0:08:41.880 --> 0:08:42.720 seconds is like you. 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:43.480 Wow. 0:08:43.559 --> 0:08:48.080 Yeah, it just hits way bicky and unfortunately for our listener, Joey, 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:52.200 he said that second one drunkenly to his friend Vanessa, 0:08:52.360 --> 0:08:52.640 and I. 0:08:52.559 --> 0:08:54.800 Don't think he added the years ago that would make 0:08:54.840 --> 0:08:56.640 it better. Actually, yeah, better. 0:08:56.800 --> 0:08:58.040 Well, I'm assuming it wasn't that. 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:01.160 Night, Joey, Right, No, not that night. 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:06.000 No, oh, okay, maybe a week before. Thing is he 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:08.360 doesn't even remember saying it to her, but it has 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:12.640 been confirmed by multiple sources, including her. Yep, since someone 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:15.559 else at that party overheard it and then word got around, 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:19.520 so no surprise. Ever since, things between Joey and Vanessa 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:23.040 have been very uncomfortable to say the least, and Joe 0:09:23.080 --> 0:09:26.600 needs our advice here on how to apologize and walk 0:09:26.720 --> 0:09:29.200 back what he said to reassure her It was just 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:31.800 a dumb, drunken slip up and all he wants is 0:09:31.840 --> 0:09:33.840 to be your friend. So, ye Brook, what do you 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:35.240 think Joe should do here? 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:35.880 Well? 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:38.360 I think right now, Joe, we need to concentrate on 0:09:38.440 --> 0:09:39.439 what you didn't do. 0:09:40.160 --> 0:09:40.880 What didn't I do? 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:41.720 Okay, what you. 0:09:41.640 --> 0:09:45.560 Didn't do is you didn't inappropriately make a move. You 0:09:45.640 --> 0:09:48.360 didn't pressure her to go out with you. 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:49.199 You didn't try to. 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:52.640 Kiss her like you respect her as a friend, you 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:56.280 respect your boundaries, and you just made a really dumb, 0:09:56.600 --> 0:09:58.000 embarrassing statement. 0:09:58.080 --> 0:10:00.280 You're well said, You're right, I don't think I did 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:01.160 any of those things. 0:10:01.280 --> 0:10:04.440 I would love it if you would have said I didn't. 0:10:03.200 --> 0:10:04.840 Yeh did? 0:10:05.480 --> 0:10:06.480 Yeah? 0:10:06.640 --> 0:10:09.480 You said you were tipsy. Yeah, but it's a good 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:11.520 I doubt. Yeah, it is a good idea to be like, well, 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:13.320 I could have kissed you, but I didn't do that. 0:10:15.040 --> 0:10:17.800 Who does good advice? 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:18.000 Bro? 0:10:18.679 --> 0:10:19.960 Jose, what do you think. 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:21.880 Well, we all had a group cringe when you just 0:10:21.920 --> 0:10:25.760 said the word fantasize, and I think you should try 0:10:25.760 --> 0:10:28.760 to use the word fantasize in other areas of your life. 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:30.160 Will you try to normalize it? 0:10:30.480 --> 0:10:31.480 You like, for. 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:33.400 Example, you say, hey, do you have any lunch plans? 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:35.480 Because I've been fantasizing about this salad. 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:39.200 It's just a verb you use all the time. 0:10:40.920 --> 0:10:41.520 I hate that. 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:43.880 I love this advice, Joey, What do you think? 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:46.960 If I'm being honest, I kind of feel like the 0:10:46.960 --> 0:10:49.240 more I use that word, the more it's just going 0:10:49.320 --> 0:10:53.120 to make her think about me saying it fantasizing. 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:57.120 About that advice for like two songs, I might never 0:10:57.520 --> 0:11:01.240 use the word fantasize again. Okay, maybe that's a promise 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:03.120 you can give to Vanessa if we're able to get 0:11:03.120 --> 0:11:05.000 her on the phone here. So I'm going to dial 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:07.679 her number. You have that advice in your back pocket, 0:11:07.880 --> 0:11:09.600 But hopefully she picks up and we'll let you make 0:11:09.640 --> 0:11:11.720 your awkward Tuesday phone call. You feel ready? 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:12.800 I think so? 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:15.440 All right, Oh boy, We're here to back you up 0:11:15.480 --> 0:11:17.439 if you need us. But I'm dialing the number right now. 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:30.400 Here we go, Hello, Hey, Vanessa, it's Joey. Oh, okay, 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:35.600 what are you doing. I'm calling you because I don't 0:11:35.600 --> 0:11:44.360 want things to be awkward between us. I mean it is, though, 0:11:46.080 --> 0:11:47.920 and I don't even know if we should be talking 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:55.120 right now. Listen, We've been friends a long time and 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:58.680 it was a dumb thing to say. But it was 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:02.960 just one dumb saying. It was just words. I didn't 0:12:03.320 --> 0:12:06.840 try to kiss you, I didn't do anything inappropriately. I 0:12:06.880 --> 0:12:09.760 didn't make a move or anything like that. It was 0:12:09.920 --> 0:12:14.840 just a dumb thing to say. And just by the way, 0:12:15.000 --> 0:12:20.000 I didn't do any of those things, right, Okay, No, no, 0:12:20.800 --> 0:12:24.839 thank god you didn't. Okay, Well, you don't have to 0:12:24.880 --> 0:12:30.440 go overboard about it. I mean that would have definitely 0:12:30.760 --> 0:12:35.080 crossed an even bigger line. Well are you hearing what 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:38.080 I'm saying? I really feel bad about it. I mean 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:43.040 I'm losing sleep over here. It's not good. Okay. Look, 0:12:43.200 --> 0:12:46.520 just really did not know what to say in that moment, 0:12:46.559 --> 0:12:50.480 and it really caught me off guard, especially because I 0:12:50.800 --> 0:12:55.320 just got out of a relationship. It just wasn't really 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:58.640 something I was prepared to hear. I don't want to 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:03.000 picture you picturing me that way, and you don't put 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:07.040 yourself in my shoes here. I mean, I'm I'm trying 0:13:07.080 --> 0:13:09.800 to That's why I'm I'm trying to get things back 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:12.439 to how they were and saying I'm sorry about saying 0:13:12.440 --> 0:13:15.640 such a dumb thing. I know, but not only did 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:18.800 I just get out of relationship, but I mean, come on, 0:13:18.920 --> 0:13:20.520 we're also related. 0:13:21.440 --> 0:13:24.240 Why related? 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:26.640 Yeah? 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:28.280 Yeah, she's my stepsister. 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:33.679 Oh wow, Im, that doesn't make it. 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:36.760 It makes it okay. 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:39.599 It's okay to fantasize about. 0:13:39.360 --> 0:13:42.760 Your steps and it really depends on when the parents 0:13:42.840 --> 0:13:43.439 got married. 0:13:43.640 --> 0:13:47.280 Oh, justify that, Vanessa. 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:48.000 I'm sorry. 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:48.720 Are you there? 0:13:49.520 --> 0:13:53.160 What is happening right now? I am so confused. 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:56.880 Yeah, my co hosts are justifying why it's okay to 0:13:57.120 --> 0:14:00.400 fantasize about your step siblings. But what we're doing is 0:14:00.440 --> 0:14:03.679 called an awkward Tuesday phone call. Oh my god, it's 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:04.400 really awkward. 0:14:04.520 --> 0:14:06.160 You know, you did not tell us that you were 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:07.000 his stepsister. 0:14:07.200 --> 0:14:07.560 No. 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:10.120 I didn't think that it was important to mention to 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:12.200 you guys. You know, it's not like we lived together. 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:14.079 She didn't become part of the family, so I was 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:17.000 already out of the house. 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:20.280 It would have been a good piece of information for 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:23.040 us to have going into this call, No wonder she's 0:14:23.080 --> 0:14:23.720 weirded out. 0:14:23.880 --> 0:14:26.320 Yeah, honestly, that's a very important piece. 0:14:26.680 --> 0:14:29.080 But it also makes sense. Well, your parents are attracted 0:14:29.120 --> 0:14:29.880 to each other. 0:14:29.920 --> 0:14:30.240 Bro. 0:14:32.160 --> 0:14:34.720 You was the one standing up. You're from Idaho, so 0:14:34.760 --> 0:14:36.680 I really justified it a little. 0:14:36.840 --> 0:14:39.240 He was an adult when his dad or mom married 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:40.120 the other person. 0:14:40.240 --> 0:14:43.000 I don't know, but. 0:14:43.680 --> 0:14:46.560 It's probably the most uncomfortable phone call I have ever had. 0:14:47.000 --> 0:14:49.560 My advice to him was almost like, why don't you 0:14:49.640 --> 0:14:50.280 pursue it? 0:14:50.360 --> 0:14:52.640 So now I'm wow. 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:55.640 I mean I was really going back and forth on 0:14:55.760 --> 0:14:57.200 apology or. 0:14:57.080 --> 0:14:59.360 Oh wow, she still has that stance. 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:00.680 I don't. 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:03.880 Oh my god, Joey, Hey, I'm with Brooke. It's not 0:15:03.920 --> 0:15:06.080 that weird to just think it. It's weird to act 0:15:06.120 --> 0:15:08.400 on him maybe, but not to just think it. 0:15:08.400 --> 0:15:09.920 It's weird to talk about it too. 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:13.240 No. No, I never had step siblings. But if I 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:16.160 got a stepbrother as an adult, I mean, yeah. 0:15:16.040 --> 0:15:19.920 Look out. Okay, we need to get back to the 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:22.920 problem at hand. The whole reason that we made this call, 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:27.240 Vanessa is because Joey feels terrible about what he said. 0:15:27.640 --> 0:15:31.040 He does not believe that, right, joe Yes. 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:33.000 I believed it once, but not anymore. 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:37.960 Okay, he's not interested in you romantically in any way 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:40.400 at this point in time, and he really shouldn't be. 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:42.040 When he said that, I was kind of impressed a 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:43.000 man said that on the phone. 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:45.400 But now he said, it's a very. 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:49.480 Low bar that we're trying to clear. Joey, talk to her, please, And. 0:15:49.560 --> 0:15:52.200 This is a huge thing to leave out. I just 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:54.680 I didn't think it was an important detail. I thought 0:15:54.680 --> 0:15:56.640 the main thing was just trying to tell you that 0:15:56.680 --> 0:15:59.360 I'm sorry and I never should have said it and 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:02.320 I will never say it again. Can you forgive me? 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:08.600 I mean, yeah, Joey, like I, I forgive you, but 0:16:08.720 --> 0:16:11.480 you know, I'm not going to completely cut you out 0:16:11.480 --> 0:16:14.520 of my life or anything. I just I think I 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:18.760 just need like a minute, a long minute to really 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:21.479 process this whole situation. 0:16:21.880 --> 0:16:24.440 Brother is a different level of it. Yeah, So I 0:16:24.480 --> 0:16:25.720 totally get it's a process. 0:16:25.840 --> 0:16:27.600 I mean, if it was in my family, people would 0:16:27.640 --> 0:16:29.880 be making fun of you, Joey for like the next 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:30.600 ten years. 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:33.040 Of your life, maybe your whole life for those that 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:35.480 gave me an on running joke in our family. 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:38.720 For sure, that's true, you know, maybe something we'll laugh 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:43.320 about in the future. Just treat this as a dumb 0:16:43.800 --> 0:16:45.479 saying that we said once. 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:51.680 And well me, yes, find me that I said once, 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:54.200 and then we could go get lunch together because I 0:16:54.480 --> 0:16:56.000 have been fantasizing about a salad. 0:16:56.200 --> 0:17:00.920 Oh it's funny, how you think it's kind of like 0:17:01.080 --> 0:17:05.159 still a joke. I don't know. Eventually, I'll probably be 0:17:05.240 --> 0:17:08.280 able to laugh about it in the long future. Maybe 0:17:08.480 --> 0:17:12.440 all right, yes, all right, well at least see you Christmas. 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:18.399 I mean, yeah, I'm not going to miss Christmas. You 0:17:18.520 --> 0:17:24.240 can't wait to see you now, Okay. 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:25.200 It sounds like you're gonna need to give her some space, Joey, 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:28.040 and just let her process it and get over it 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:28.720 on her own time. 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:32.520 And I'd recommend no alcoholic beverages for you at any 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:34.119 family functions in the future. 0:17:35.280 --> 0:17:37.359 Christmas. Yeah, that's probably a good idea. 0:17:37.440 --> 0:17:40.000 Great, okay, all right. I feel like this is a 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:44.400 successful awkward Tuesday phone call that we've done, bringing. 0:17:44.160 --> 0:17:45.119 Family real together. 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:45.680 Yeah. 0:17:45.720 --> 0:17:48.679 Yeah, Oh my god, my sister's calling me right now. 0:17:48.720 --> 0:17:50.560 Should I answer? What do you think she wants to 0:17:50.600 --> 0:17:51.080 talk about? 0:17:51.600 --> 0:17:58.480 Why don't you fantasize about it? 0:17:56.080 --> 0:18:00.560 Reok and Jeffrey in the morning. 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:05.000 This is gonna be kind of crazy to say, but 0:18:05.080 --> 0:18:08.560 I think we may have actually helped. 0:18:08.680 --> 0:18:11.840 I think we did. Oh my god, they need they 0:18:11.920 --> 0:18:12.680 needed to talk. 0:18:12.960 --> 0:18:15.840 I know Enjoey was just going to keep digging himself 0:18:15.880 --> 0:18:18.120 a deeper and deeper hole if we didn't intervene. 0:18:18.240 --> 0:18:20.199 And honestly, if he would have told us it was 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:23.399 his stepsister, would our producer have even picked his email 0:18:23.680 --> 0:18:24.600 as someone. 0:18:24.280 --> 0:18:25.000 To help you? 0:18:25.280 --> 0:18:29.919 I mean, our producer does love chaos. 0:18:29.960 --> 0:18:31.480