1 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:15,640 Speaker 1: I went to dinner yesterday at a really nice in 2 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: like a country in right after getting uh, my first reaccination, 3 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:24,400 Speaker 1: and this girl comes over, Hi, how are you sparkling 4 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:27,280 Speaker 1: or still? Which is always the question, obviously sparkling or still? 5 00:00:27,280 --> 00:00:30,320 Speaker 1: And then if she says sparkling or still, my committing 6 00:00:30,400 --> 00:00:33,040 Speaker 1: to non tap water, and then I always have to 7 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:36,159 Speaker 1: feel degraded by being like, um, I'll just get the 8 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:38,760 Speaker 1: tap water. And then you say, and I'll have a 9 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 1: glass of rose. You're walking into a place it's a pandemic, 10 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:42,920 Speaker 1: and you just want to get your drink order in. 11 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:44,760 Speaker 1: You want to be out in thirty six minutes, and 12 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:47,160 Speaker 1: so you say the wine to Okay, I'm just gonna 13 00:00:47,159 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 1: get your water first, and then I'll come back for 14 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:51,680 Speaker 1: the drink order. I'm like, okay, I didn't mean to 15 00:00:51,880 --> 00:00:54,320 Speaker 1: inundate you, overwhelm you. I didn't mean if you have 16 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:58,000 Speaker 1: a multitask with the rose order, we'll see in a minute. 17 00:00:58,240 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 1: Then they come back okay, Um, so have you dined 18 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 1: with us before? Yes, even though I really don't lie, 19 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 1: but like I have to say yes, because then we're 20 00:01:11,640 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 1: going through the whole diatribe of no, we do things 21 00:01:14,959 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 1: differently here I'm like, oh, really, do I go in 22 00:01:17,800 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 1: the kitchen and the white jacket and cook the food 23 00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:21,000 Speaker 1: and you're gonna eat it? How different could it be? 24 00:01:21,080 --> 00:01:24,080 Speaker 1: Let me know, how do you do it differently? Okay? Um, 25 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 1: the small items those are in the top portion, and 26 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 1: those are like you know, smaller portions more and maybe 27 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:35,360 Speaker 1: like the top is the larger items those are really 28 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:40,399 Speaker 1: we encourage sharing, like what okay, So we'll decide if 29 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:42,320 Speaker 1: we're gonna share, and we have to share. I wasn't 30 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 1: ready to share, but we could share if we wanted to. 31 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:46,959 Speaker 1: So I was with up Paul the other day and 32 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:49,480 Speaker 1: he doesn't like any sort of green vegetable. He likes 33 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:54,800 Speaker 1: roasted potatoes. He doesn't like far oh keen, water braised fennel, 34 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: braised kale, oakrah, Brussels sprouts. At a mom a liam 35 00:01:59,520 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 1: a bean and poor Paul ordered chicken scarporella, which is 36 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:04,880 Speaker 1: like a basic thing. And it was like, it's got 37 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:06,840 Speaker 1: to always be like a boat on the sea and 38 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:10,079 Speaker 1: like the sea was purade, but it's never mashed potatoes anymore. 39 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 1: It's like mashed potato puree. So I feel like that's healthy, 40 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:15,720 Speaker 1: but it's not. It's just like puraing some other starch 41 00:02:15,840 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 1: vegetable with butter and milk and like making it a bed. 42 00:02:18,320 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 1: And then on top of that was like the soupy, 43 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:23,800 Speaker 1: oily sautet spinach, and I did say that he doesn't 44 00:02:23,800 --> 00:02:25,639 Speaker 1: like vegetables, and they allowed me to order a side 45 00:02:25,639 --> 00:02:27,359 Speaker 1: of spinach. And then my cheap side comes in because 46 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 1: now I'm like, now I've got a side of spinach. 47 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:32,919 Speaker 1: I'm gonna eat your spinach. We are long spinach. And 48 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:34,639 Speaker 1: he's now gonna cut into the chicken and it gets 49 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:36,239 Speaker 1: soggy from what's underneath. And we can't just have the 50 00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 1: chicken separate. Can everybody just be separate? We could decide 51 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 1: who we want to put together. We're not into blended 52 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:45,080 Speaker 1: families on our plates. So he said, ahead of time, 53 00:02:45,760 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 1: is it possible for the chicken that I could just 54 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:53,079 Speaker 1: get roasted potatoes? And she's like, the roasted potatoes come 55 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:55,920 Speaker 1: with the sear duck breast. He's like, right, can I 56 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 1: just get some from that? And I don't need any 57 00:02:57,440 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 1: of my stuff. I'm giving up broccoli, rob okra and 58 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:03,639 Speaker 1: parsnip pure, which my fiancee Bethany tells me is way 59 00:03:03,639 --> 00:03:07,600 Speaker 1: more expensive than just roasted potatoes. No, we can't. Sorry, 60 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:11,760 Speaker 1: so she said, they come in components, like they come 61 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 1: with their friends. So if like the duck breast came 62 00:03:14,040 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 1: with saute string beans and roasted potatoes and let's say 63 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 1: okra or sucotash, that's a unit their family there, like 64 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:25,160 Speaker 1: an adopted family of children. We don't separate them, like 65 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:26,800 Speaker 1: we don't want to separate them and move them to 66 00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:28,880 Speaker 1: different states. So we're like, okay, So I'm like, well, 67 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 1: Paul doesn't love vegetables, but we'll take that family. Can 68 00:03:31,200 --> 00:03:33,280 Speaker 1: we trade that family for the family that came with 69 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 1: the chicken, and we'll take the whole family and we'll 70 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:38,200 Speaker 1: separate them within our household. I'll eat the bullshit on 71 00:03:38,240 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: the side, really eat the brand new potatoes, and then 72 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 1: can we do that? And she's like, of course, well 73 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:45,000 Speaker 1: I'm gonna try that for you. Of course, no, no, 74 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:47,080 Speaker 1: no problem at all. And then the voice gets higher 75 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 1: and she's super nice. But I feel like she hates me. 76 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:51,800 Speaker 1: And we weren't being like Harry met Sally at all. 77 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 1: We're just like asking basic questions. I promise. I'm like, 78 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:56,280 Speaker 1: thank you so much, and now I'm passive aggressive, but 79 00:03:56,320 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 1: I thank you so much. Oh my god, you look 80 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:00,480 Speaker 1: so pretty. Oh my god, the things are so great. 81 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:03,760 Speaker 1: It's wonderful. The decor and here is amazing. So then 82 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:06,160 Speaker 1: at the end of the meal, and we're good tippers. 83 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:08,080 Speaker 1: I'm not saying we're like ninety percent tippers, but I'm 84 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 1: like a thirty five percent tipper for a good tip. 85 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:13,480 Speaker 1: It's a pandemic and it's just never seems right, and 86 00:04:13,520 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 1: it always means more to them and it means to me. 87 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 1: So sometimes you can ask the waitress if they could 88 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:18,919 Speaker 1: give us to the coach check person because they're like 89 00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:21,320 Speaker 1: walking past there, anyone walking you know a way. Maybe 90 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: that's wrong and I don't actually know the answer to that, 91 00:04:23,839 --> 00:04:26,279 Speaker 1: but you know, would you mind giving it to them? 92 00:04:26,520 --> 00:04:29,120 Speaker 1: Oh it's right down there, you know, as you leave 93 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:33,200 Speaker 1: to the door. I was a cocktail waitress, and um, 94 00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:35,160 Speaker 1: do you know what I mean about this? Pastive? Aggressive, 95 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 1: like overly nice, high pitched voice, And you can't say 96 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:40,520 Speaker 1: anything bad about it because it's nice, but it's not nice. 97 00:04:41,240 --> 00:04:47,640 Speaker 1: Thank you? Yes, I will. God, you know, I mean, 98 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 1: we don't really do that here. Yeah, I can ask 99 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 1: the chef, but I just we're not being on substitutions 100 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:57,880 Speaker 1: or chef has a very strict policy. But thank you 101 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:01,600 Speaker 1: so much. Have a great day. Yeah, okay, amazing. By 102 00:05:01,600 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 1: the way, we could do ten minutes on passive aggressive, 103 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:05,800 Speaker 1: just like if you want to be passive aggressive but 104 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:07,800 Speaker 1: not get tagged for it and still be in trouble, 105 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:16,280 Speaker 1: like get your expressions out without road rage. Like, yeah, 106 00:05:16,520 --> 00:05:23,320 Speaker 1: I don't know, I we Yeah, well, I'm just thinking 107 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 1: maybe we do this a different way, but like we're 108 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: not really set up for that. I don't really specialize 109 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:35,039 Speaker 1: in that. Yeah, and it may not happen today, it 110 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:38,279 Speaker 1: may not happen any day, but we really want to 111 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 1: help you. Well, let me know what you all think. 112 00:05:41,279 --> 00:05:44,160 Speaker 1: I've been getting a lot of comments about the rants 113 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:46,800 Speaker 1: and that you love the interviews but that you almost 114 00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 1: wish the whole thing with the rants. But the funny 115 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 1: thing is the rants are like never prepared. I literally 116 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:56,159 Speaker 1: send one, sent it to my assistant. I'm like, past 117 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:58,680 Speaker 1: bag people, and then this is what happens. And I 118 00:05:58,720 --> 00:06:00,880 Speaker 1: was speaking to Jeff Ross the Face a Miss Rosemaster 119 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:02,960 Speaker 1: General on the phone last night. He's like, well, how 120 00:06:02,960 --> 00:06:04,839 Speaker 1: do you prepare? Who writes the rants for You'm like, what, 121 00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:07,600 Speaker 1: who writes anything for me? Nothing? Just to get on 122 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:17,159 Speaker 1: it started ranting, So there you go. Jesse Etsler is 123 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 1: here today. He is an entrepreneur and author, a keynote speaker. 124 00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: He's a motivational speaker. I've seen him. He really gets 125 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:29,800 Speaker 1: crowds going. He's a former rapper on MTV. I incidentally, 126 00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:32,720 Speaker 1: which he didn't even realize, was an extra in one 127 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:36,160 Speaker 1: of his videos called Shake like a White Girl. Um, 128 00:06:36,200 --> 00:06:39,799 Speaker 1: and I remember somewhere someone said to me, you dance 129 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:42,599 Speaker 1: like you're white, and I said, I am white, So 130 00:06:42,720 --> 00:06:45,360 Speaker 1: that m that would make sense. He's the co founder 131 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:48,640 Speaker 1: of Marquee Jet, a partner in Zico Coconut Water, the 132 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 1: founder of the one hundred Mile Group, and owner of 133 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:55,359 Speaker 1: the NBA's Atlanta Hawks. But he started from humble beginnings 134 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 1: in New York. Today we talked about the importance of 135 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 1: having the mindset of success, how people buy into stories 136 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:04,479 Speaker 1: more than products, and why you should rip up the 137 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:08,679 Speaker 1: playbook to succeed, and also how you are only one 138 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: idea away from changing your life. He's very inspiring and 139 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 1: I think you're going to really enjoy this. Jessie. It's 140 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 1: are coming right up. What's up? I recently saw you 141 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:28,080 Speaker 1: in a speaking engagement and told you that I was 142 00:07:28,200 --> 00:07:31,600 Speaker 1: in one of your videos, your hip hop videos so 143 00:07:31,720 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 1: shake like a white girl. I didn't know that, and 144 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:37,200 Speaker 1: that's blowing my mind. I love that. Who do we 145 00:07:37,240 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 1: call to find out if I actually like a man? 146 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:40,559 Speaker 1: It as an extra? If you can see I remember 147 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:42,520 Speaker 1: dancing on a box or a cage or something, which 148 00:07:42,560 --> 00:07:44,600 Speaker 1: is what I always do. Obviously, I'm going to go 149 00:07:44,680 --> 00:07:47,080 Speaker 1: through all the records. I'm gonna go through all the 150 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:50,440 Speaker 1: footage that would be vintage. Well, I was de footage. 151 00:07:50,480 --> 00:07:53,760 Speaker 1: Now I might be a footage. You're always a footage. Bethany. 152 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 1: What's up? How did you end up in that video? 153 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:57,840 Speaker 1: I was trying to be an actress and I think 154 00:07:57,840 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 1: it was like in Culver City and a warehouse or something, 155 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:02,600 Speaker 1: and I just probably came in as an extra. Unbelievable. 156 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 1: I know it's so funny, but um, I was aware 157 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 1: of you because I'm from New York and I was 158 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:09,960 Speaker 1: aware of go New York or New York go for 159 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 1: the nick song, which is such an interesting innovative way 160 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 1: to find your way in. And you're like me and 161 00:08:15,560 --> 00:08:18,240 Speaker 1: that you don't plan your whole journey. You just sort 162 00:08:18,240 --> 00:08:20,600 Speaker 1: of execute things that you like to do. But that's 163 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:23,160 Speaker 1: an interesting entry point into the music industry. So how 164 00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:25,800 Speaker 1: did that come about? Well, I was signed to a 165 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 1: record company right out of college. Like I had a 166 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:31,040 Speaker 1: really unconventional journey. I went to American University, I got 167 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 1: signed to a record label. Like everybody was doing resumes 168 00:08:33,920 --> 00:08:35,920 Speaker 1: and I'm like, I don't need a resume. I'm getting 169 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 1: a record deal you're talking about. So while they were 170 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:41,560 Speaker 1: busy writing resumes and everything, I was like going to 171 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:43,920 Speaker 1: clubs and trying to figure out how to navigate this 172 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:46,199 Speaker 1: music thing. I got signed to a record label in 173 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:49,679 Speaker 1: l A called Delicious Vinyl that had Tone loc Wild Thing, 174 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:53,280 Speaker 1: Funky Colbadina, and Young MC bust to Move, and it 175 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:55,480 Speaker 1: didn't work for me. I got dropped from the label. 176 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 1: I mean, my album came out, but it wasn't Tone 177 00:08:57,880 --> 00:09:00,720 Speaker 1: Loc level. So I moved back in New York where 178 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:03,120 Speaker 1: I was from, and I was bouncing around couch to 179 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:05,800 Speaker 1: couch on my friend's couches trying to figure out what 180 00:09:05,840 --> 00:09:08,040 Speaker 1: I would do next. And someone asked me if I 181 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:11,320 Speaker 1: would write a jingle for a clothing company called in 182 00:09:11,360 --> 00:09:13,640 Speaker 1: the Paint that was owned by the GM of the 183 00:09:13,679 --> 00:09:16,319 Speaker 1: Knick's wife. I did it. And then I got a 184 00:09:16,360 --> 00:09:18,000 Speaker 1: great relationship with and I'm like, well, why don't we 185 00:09:18,040 --> 00:09:20,560 Speaker 1: do something for the Knicks, Like you guys have dancers 186 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:23,520 Speaker 1: Nick City dancers and everything is shifting to entertainment in 187 00:09:23,559 --> 00:09:25,840 Speaker 1: the game. Let's do a song. And I wrote the 188 00:09:25,880 --> 00:09:29,160 Speaker 1: song for the nixt back. Yeah, Now, could you make 189 00:09:29,200 --> 00:09:31,080 Speaker 1: real money doing that or that just like a street 190 00:09:31,120 --> 00:09:34,040 Speaker 1: cred type of thing. Well, back then they paid me 191 00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:37,360 Speaker 1: four thousand dollars, but it cost me forty dollars to 192 00:09:37,360 --> 00:09:39,840 Speaker 1: do the song, so it wasn't a great business model. 193 00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:42,839 Speaker 1: But I would have paid him ten grand because now 194 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:45,640 Speaker 1: all of a sudden, I could get meetings. I had 195 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: a story people wanted to you know, I was interesting. 196 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:50,280 Speaker 1: You know, you gotta be, you know, better than anyone. 197 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:52,960 Speaker 1: You gotta build your story first. So so that's what 198 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:55,319 Speaker 1: I did. You have to build your story first, and 199 00:09:55,320 --> 00:09:57,079 Speaker 1: you gotta be building the plane while flying in And 200 00:09:57,120 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 1: I see a lot of parallels. The show is about 201 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:04,040 Speaker 1: game changers, mavericks, non traditional business people, people who create 202 00:10:04,040 --> 00:10:06,040 Speaker 1: a brand and just sort of take their own route. 203 00:10:06,080 --> 00:10:08,120 Speaker 1: Because I feel like for people at home, it's good 204 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:10,360 Speaker 1: for them to know that there's, by no means one 205 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:12,720 Speaker 1: road to this there's so many roads, which you're the 206 00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:15,199 Speaker 1: perfect example. The thing is, you were so young, and 207 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:16,840 Speaker 1: I remember being did you where did you grow up 208 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:19,200 Speaker 1: in Long Island? Was it Long Island? Russell? And I 209 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:21,680 Speaker 1: went to Wheatley, So I lived in Old Westbury for 210 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:23,520 Speaker 1: a certain period of time, in the next town, and 211 00:10:23,559 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 1: in Long Island, you know, you heard about the other 212 00:10:25,840 --> 00:10:28,240 Speaker 1: kids shaken and moving, and there weren't that many. But 213 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:31,280 Speaker 1: I remember this was a thing where I had peripherally 214 00:10:31,320 --> 00:10:34,320 Speaker 1: heard about your record deal. I was aware, you know, 215 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:38,360 Speaker 1: peripherally about this uh Knicks thing. But that's pretty young 216 00:10:38,960 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 1: to have any idea what you would want to do. 217 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:42,680 Speaker 1: At that age, I had no idea what I wanted 218 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:44,720 Speaker 1: to do. I mean not until I was way later, 219 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 1: and I still in my late thirties. I didn't have 220 00:10:47,160 --> 00:10:49,720 Speaker 1: this clear plan. And even though your plan is always changed, 221 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:51,760 Speaker 1: which people need to know, because you could want to 222 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 1: do one thing in one moment and then that takes 223 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 1: you to the next space. Like all roads lead to Rome, 224 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 1: you just gotta be watching the signs, looking for the 225 00:10:59,040 --> 00:11:01,000 Speaker 1: left and right turns with you get shut down where 226 00:11:01,040 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 1: you hit a roadblock, creating that until yes, so you're 227 00:11:04,760 --> 00:11:06,679 Speaker 1: so like me, in that way, you just are like 228 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:10,719 Speaker 1: a scrappy hustler that you're just looking for which road 229 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:12,520 Speaker 1: it's gonna take you too. So how did you get 230 00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:14,960 Speaker 1: that so early? Is that a family thing? Is that 231 00:11:15,080 --> 00:11:18,720 Speaker 1: just inside of you as a combo? What's that about? Well, 232 00:11:18,760 --> 00:11:20,960 Speaker 1: we both you and I both like adventure and we 233 00:11:21,040 --> 00:11:24,440 Speaker 1: love we crave newness, and we get bored easily action. 234 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:27,559 Speaker 1: We get we're action freaks. I'm not like, we're not adrenaline. 235 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:30,160 Speaker 1: We're action freaks. Action. And you know, it's so funny 236 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:32,720 Speaker 1: that you said that, because I don't know what I wanted. 237 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:35,439 Speaker 1: I'm fifty almost fifty three. I have still don't know 238 00:11:35,640 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 1: really what my legacy should be and what I want 239 00:11:38,440 --> 00:11:40,960 Speaker 1: to do. But after the record deal and being a 240 00:11:41,040 --> 00:11:44,640 Speaker 1: rapper four years later out a private jet company that 241 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:47,600 Speaker 1: did five billion dollars in sales, I went from kiddie 242 00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:50,120 Speaker 1: pool attendant to rapper to all of a sudden being 243 00:11:50,120 --> 00:11:52,640 Speaker 1: a guest under private the plane. My dad owned the 244 00:11:52,640 --> 00:11:56,440 Speaker 1: plumbing supply house in Minneola. Oh really, and my parents 245 00:11:56,440 --> 00:11:58,960 Speaker 1: were the first parents. They bought the fourth house in 246 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:02,880 Speaker 1: rosalind Like when we're building up the community Roth Grand four. 247 00:12:03,520 --> 00:12:05,719 Speaker 1: That's a rich person's town now everybody, and it has 248 00:12:05,760 --> 00:12:07,280 Speaker 1: been for a while. But when he's talking about is 249 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:09,959 Speaker 1: crazy because houses in Rosin can be five ten million 250 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:13,400 Speaker 1: dollars easily, right, You want to hear the craziest thing, Bethany, 251 00:12:13,480 --> 00:12:15,080 Speaker 1: And I'm just I'm gonna talk to you as a friend. 252 00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:17,520 Speaker 1: I was at my parents house in Florida two weeks 253 00:12:17,559 --> 00:12:21,040 Speaker 1: ago and I found an autobiography that my grandfather wrote. 254 00:12:21,080 --> 00:12:23,520 Speaker 1: I didn't know it existed. He wrote in ninety eight. 255 00:12:23,960 --> 00:12:27,640 Speaker 1: My grandfather was born into like insane poverty. He had 256 00:12:27,679 --> 00:12:31,160 Speaker 1: twelve brothers and sisters. Six died before the age of two, 257 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:34,120 Speaker 1: and he was in World War One. He was gassed 258 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:36,480 Speaker 1: in World War One, survived, grew up in Brooklyn in 259 00:12:36,480 --> 00:12:39,560 Speaker 1: the same house as my father and my great grandfather, 260 00:12:39,760 --> 00:12:43,760 Speaker 1: three generations in one room in in a paint shop 261 00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:46,120 Speaker 1: in Brooklyn. The only reason why I'm bringing it up 262 00:12:46,200 --> 00:12:51,000 Speaker 1: is I'm one generation removed from that. That one generation 263 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:53,240 Speaker 1: from that, And like what it makes me think is 264 00:12:53,679 --> 00:12:57,080 Speaker 1: everybody listening like we're all one idea away from changing 265 00:12:57,080 --> 00:13:00,440 Speaker 1: our life. Where one sale were one referral are saying, 266 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:04,440 Speaker 1: and you and I we're very similar that we're always 267 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:07,760 Speaker 1: looking for that we're asking the universe we're aware of, 268 00:13:07,840 --> 00:13:10,720 Speaker 1: like what can I do? What's new, what's different? You 269 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:13,920 Speaker 1: know what problem can I solve? And don't let the 270 00:13:14,000 --> 00:13:17,280 Speaker 1: market tell you what to do. You decide. Like the 271 00:13:17,320 --> 00:13:19,560 Speaker 1: Skinny Girl Margarita, everyone said was not going to work 272 00:13:19,640 --> 00:13:21,320 Speaker 1: because it had never happened before. But you have to 273 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:23,360 Speaker 1: make it happen. It's you. You've got to drive what 274 00:13:23,400 --> 00:13:25,199 Speaker 1: the market's gonna do. You tell them what they want. 275 00:13:25,240 --> 00:13:26,960 Speaker 1: They don't tell you what they want because it's already 276 00:13:26,960 --> 00:13:28,880 Speaker 1: been done. If they're telling you what people want, right. 277 00:13:38,920 --> 00:13:42,439 Speaker 1: What's interesting is you said that you cost you to 278 00:13:42,480 --> 00:13:44,880 Speaker 1: do that song, which really was a big break for you, 279 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:48,679 Speaker 1: because for many people here, street credit is way more 280 00:13:48,679 --> 00:13:50,800 Speaker 1: important than money. If you can get yourself into a 281 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:53,720 Speaker 1: room and people will know your name or have heard 282 00:13:53,720 --> 00:13:56,120 Speaker 1: your story, as you said before, that's worth so much 283 00:13:56,160 --> 00:13:59,120 Speaker 1: more than money. So I sold Skinny Girl cocktails only 284 00:13:59,120 --> 00:14:01,120 Speaker 1: I maintain the entire our brand. I own Skinny Girl 285 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:03,040 Speaker 1: the rest of the brand. But I sold that not 286 00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:05,000 Speaker 1: for the money for the street cred. Like to not 287 00:14:05,120 --> 00:14:07,280 Speaker 1: just be a housewift, to be somebody who's on the 288 00:14:07,320 --> 00:14:09,880 Speaker 1: cover of Forbes magazine and could get into rooms and 289 00:14:09,880 --> 00:14:11,560 Speaker 1: do other things. So it sounds like you had some 290 00:14:11,679 --> 00:14:14,480 Speaker 1: instinct inside of you that knew that you needed to 291 00:14:14,480 --> 00:14:17,240 Speaker 1: get the sizzle and to be somebody. Yeah. I mean, 292 00:14:17,280 --> 00:14:21,040 Speaker 1: I always believe that people buy into people stories and 293 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:24,840 Speaker 1: momentum more than products. And once you got that storyline 294 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:27,000 Speaker 1: of Skinny Girl, to change the complexion of what you 295 00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:30,960 Speaker 1: can do, you went to philanthropists, investor consultants, speaker author 296 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:33,960 Speaker 1: because you you know, you flipped the script on them, 297 00:14:34,000 --> 00:14:36,160 Speaker 1: and that's really important to me. So yeah, so I'm 298 00:14:36,160 --> 00:14:38,160 Speaker 1: always looking for that. And the thing that you said 299 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:41,320 Speaker 1: it's interesting is when you're disruptive, like when you have 300 00:14:41,320 --> 00:14:43,960 Speaker 1: an idea and you find white space. Usually the people 301 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:46,840 Speaker 1: that find the white space like you did with Skinny Girl, 302 00:14:47,320 --> 00:14:50,200 Speaker 1: they don't have experience and they're not experts. You are 303 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:53,640 Speaker 1: an expert in our beverages like that. You don't know anything. 304 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:56,080 Speaker 1: You know, you went to clubs, by the way, that's 305 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:59,320 Speaker 1: better when you don't know anything. You have a blank 306 00:14:59,360 --> 00:15:01,920 Speaker 1: campus you could painted and no one's told you everything. 307 00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:03,720 Speaker 1: I never would have gone into that business if I 308 00:15:03,720 --> 00:15:06,080 Speaker 1: had ever been into a big, big box liquor store 309 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:08,080 Speaker 1: before I did the first one of a signing, and 310 00:15:08,080 --> 00:15:09,480 Speaker 1: I walked on and said, what the fund did I 311 00:15:09,520 --> 00:15:11,840 Speaker 1: do this for? So competitive? Why would I do this? 312 00:15:12,120 --> 00:15:14,200 Speaker 1: But I didn't know anything, So you didn't know anything 313 00:15:14,240 --> 00:15:17,920 Speaker 1: going into music nixt song jets. I mean, that's a 314 00:15:18,000 --> 00:15:20,840 Speaker 1: crazy thing, but it guarantees that you're going to do 315 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:23,720 Speaker 1: it differently from everybody else, because like you were forced 316 00:15:23,720 --> 00:15:25,680 Speaker 1: to rip up the playbook, you know, and that's where 317 00:15:25,680 --> 00:15:28,080 Speaker 1: innovation comes from. When you rip up the playbook. We're like, well, 318 00:15:28,080 --> 00:15:29,440 Speaker 1: no one taught me how to do it, How am 319 00:15:29,480 --> 00:15:30,440 Speaker 1: I going to do it? How am I going to 320 00:15:30,520 --> 00:15:32,600 Speaker 1: market it? How am I going to be loud? You know? 321 00:15:32,760 --> 00:15:36,720 Speaker 1: So for anyone that that's starting something new, you're gonna 322 00:15:36,800 --> 00:15:39,560 Speaker 1: get met with resistance. If it's such a good idea, bethany, 323 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:41,920 Speaker 1: how come the other girls have the big companies haven't 324 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:44,200 Speaker 1: done it. How Come this one hasn't done it. So 325 00:15:44,320 --> 00:15:47,840 Speaker 1: you have to expect that resistance and be resilient. So 326 00:15:48,080 --> 00:15:51,440 Speaker 1: I've been able to pivot from music to aviation and 327 00:15:51,480 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 1: then Zico Coconut Water was my next venture. We sold 328 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:57,600 Speaker 1: it to Coke and you know, I get bored easily, 329 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 1: and it's not about like success to me, isn't like 330 00:16:01,320 --> 00:16:04,880 Speaker 1: oh all this money. Success is being good in multiple buckets, 331 00:16:05,200 --> 00:16:07,600 Speaker 1: check in the box and crushing it. But you also 332 00:16:08,160 --> 00:16:10,560 Speaker 1: you finish it. You want to take that one thing, 333 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:14,120 Speaker 1: like your hundred mile run, you're living with a Navy seal, 334 00:16:14,400 --> 00:16:16,320 Speaker 1: whatever you're doing. You want to take that one thing, 335 00:16:16,720 --> 00:16:20,120 Speaker 1: crush that spiked the ball, and then decide whether you 336 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:22,080 Speaker 1: want to go back to the tables or get out 337 00:16:22,120 --> 00:16:24,760 Speaker 1: of the casino. But you decide. It sounds like, you know, 338 00:16:24,800 --> 00:16:27,360 Speaker 1: it sounds like what you're talking about is execution. And 339 00:16:27,560 --> 00:16:31,400 Speaker 1: if anything you do do well, you want your pa 340 00:16:31,520 --> 00:16:33,360 Speaker 1: on say by the bell, which I was getting coffee, 341 00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:36,080 Speaker 1: making copies, You be the best. You make a meal 342 00:16:36,160 --> 00:16:38,400 Speaker 1: for your family, you planned a party of people over 343 00:16:38,680 --> 00:16:41,400 Speaker 1: do a writer, just don't do it. I would rather 344 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:43,400 Speaker 1: I was no great, I do do it or I don't. 345 00:16:44,000 --> 00:16:47,240 Speaker 1: If you don't have Olympic standards for yourself and everything 346 00:16:47,280 --> 00:16:50,640 Speaker 1: you do, it's like why even bother? You know, like, 347 00:16:50,680 --> 00:16:53,240 Speaker 1: if you're not gonna pour your soul into it, don't 348 00:16:53,240 --> 00:16:56,320 Speaker 1: even show up. And I'm not even talking about like business. 349 00:16:56,880 --> 00:16:58,800 Speaker 1: I'm not going to your kids soccer game. I'm talking 350 00:16:58,840 --> 00:17:01,720 Speaker 1: about like right a book, writing a proposal in a sale, 351 00:17:01,920 --> 00:17:04,720 Speaker 1: if you're not gonna pour everything into it, it's a 352 00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:07,840 Speaker 1: waste of time. The competition is too good. Can't get 353 00:17:07,840 --> 00:17:10,960 Speaker 1: away with it. Like I'm old school with the hard 354 00:17:10,960 --> 00:17:13,720 Speaker 1: work thing. It's just the same as your grandfather or 355 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:16,240 Speaker 1: your father working in a plumbing supply store. You got 356 00:17:16,240 --> 00:17:18,960 Speaker 1: to work your fucking ass off passion, drive and determination, 357 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:22,199 Speaker 1: and you somehow just well you don't somehow because of 358 00:17:22,200 --> 00:17:24,280 Speaker 1: your heritage and the way you were raised. You know 359 00:17:24,440 --> 00:17:27,359 Speaker 1: that inside. Yeah, And I think the other thing I 360 00:17:27,359 --> 00:17:30,920 Speaker 1: would add to that is, you know, I've never negotiated 361 00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:33,399 Speaker 1: my goals, Like I don't dummy down my goals, like, 362 00:17:33,440 --> 00:17:35,800 Speaker 1: well I'm almost there, that's good enough. And we don't 363 00:17:35,840 --> 00:17:40,119 Speaker 1: negotiate our goals. And honestly, man, I've always believed in 364 00:17:40,160 --> 00:17:42,800 Speaker 1: the end of my story. I've always believed when I 365 00:17:42,840 --> 00:17:45,119 Speaker 1: was single, that she would show up, you know. I 366 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:47,159 Speaker 1: believe that, like when I when I was sleeping on 367 00:17:47,280 --> 00:17:50,520 Speaker 1: my friend's couches that, like I used to say to myself, Bethany, 368 00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:55,000 Speaker 1: like I met you at a super Bowl party? Which 369 00:17:55,040 --> 00:17:58,479 Speaker 1: super Bowl the Miami one. We were in Miami. We 370 00:17:58,480 --> 00:18:02,240 Speaker 1: were at a club, and you you were like doing 371 00:18:02,240 --> 00:18:04,080 Speaker 1: your own thing, you know, like every it was like 372 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:05,919 Speaker 1: I don't want to say it was clicky or anything 373 00:18:05,960 --> 00:18:09,159 Speaker 1: like that, but you kind of you had this you 374 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:13,320 Speaker 1: had a strong confidence and you were just like people 375 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:15,600 Speaker 1: knew you. I was like, who's that girl? And they're 376 00:18:15,640 --> 00:18:17,520 Speaker 1: like this and then they someone knew you and knew 377 00:18:17,560 --> 00:18:19,520 Speaker 1: your dad and the horse, like they knew the history 378 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:21,320 Speaker 1: and they told me, and I was like, that's that's 379 00:18:21,359 --> 00:18:23,760 Speaker 1: like different, you know, that's like very different than the 380 00:18:23,760 --> 00:18:27,160 Speaker 1: girls in Long Island that like I know you know so, 381 00:18:27,400 --> 00:18:30,240 Speaker 1: but that's where I first, Um, where I first, I 382 00:18:30,280 --> 00:18:32,840 Speaker 1: think I first got to know you. That's so funny. Yeah, 383 00:18:32,960 --> 00:18:36,320 Speaker 1: well you basically are talking about good enough isn't good enough? 384 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:39,760 Speaker 1: And so I want to talk about Marky Jets just 385 00:18:39,800 --> 00:18:42,840 Speaker 1: because how the hell do you get into the jet business? 386 00:18:42,960 --> 00:18:45,720 Speaker 1: Would you get the money for that? Like what that 387 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:48,080 Speaker 1: you were early in that right? Like were you before? 388 00:18:48,720 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 1: You were before nuts Jets and like Blue Star and 389 00:18:50,560 --> 00:18:52,480 Speaker 1: all this other stuff. You were like one of the 390 00:18:52,480 --> 00:18:54,960 Speaker 1: first ones. We were early, not before nut Jets because 391 00:18:55,160 --> 00:18:57,840 Speaker 1: they kind of paved the way for everybody, but before 392 00:18:57,880 --> 00:19:00,639 Speaker 1: the other companies you mentioned, Um, yeah, we I was 393 00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:03,000 Speaker 1: a guest on a private plane. I was twenty eight 394 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:05,399 Speaker 1: with my partner. We were a guest on an airplane 395 00:19:05,840 --> 00:19:08,399 Speaker 1: and we were like, when I walked onto the plane, 396 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:09,840 Speaker 1: it was like the scene in The Wizard of Oz 397 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:12,679 Speaker 1: when everything goes from black and white to color. I 398 00:19:12,760 --> 00:19:15,320 Speaker 1: was like, what, you know, like people fly like this 399 00:19:15,600 --> 00:19:18,120 Speaker 1: and I want to fly like this. So literally, by 400 00:19:18,119 --> 00:19:20,359 Speaker 1: the time we landed, were like, let's start a private 401 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:23,679 Speaker 1: jet company so we can fly privately when we travel. 402 00:19:24,119 --> 00:19:26,520 Speaker 1: So we started investigating it and then you know, like 403 00:19:26,560 --> 00:19:29,399 Speaker 1: we weren't gonna buy our own plane. Charter wasn't an option, 404 00:19:29,840 --> 00:19:31,800 Speaker 1: and we came up with this idea to sell like 405 00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:34,520 Speaker 1: basically give people the benefits of owning their own airplane 406 00:19:34,560 --> 00:19:37,040 Speaker 1: without owning it and selling a jet card that was 407 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:41,000 Speaker 1: made an airplane available on short notice. And we pitched 408 00:19:41,000 --> 00:19:43,680 Speaker 1: this idea because we needed airplanes. We had no money, 409 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:46,919 Speaker 1: we had no experience, but we took a meeting with 410 00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:49,760 Speaker 1: net Jets that had six and fifty airplanes, the biggest 411 00:19:49,800 --> 00:19:52,720 Speaker 1: private jet fleet in the world, owned by Warren Buffett, 412 00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:55,679 Speaker 1: and the first meeting they kicked us out. The owner 413 00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:58,960 Speaker 1: literally said, I'm not giving two kids who probably didn't 414 00:19:58,960 --> 00:20:01,720 Speaker 1: break a thousand on their sayt s access to my plane, 415 00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:04,680 Speaker 1: which pissed me. I got a okay, so he was right, 416 00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:08,240 Speaker 1: he was close. I'm like, I don't blame your money. 417 00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:10,400 Speaker 1: But on the way out, the President was like, there's 418 00:20:10,440 --> 00:20:13,399 Speaker 1: something here, Like I see something here. Why don't you 419 00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:15,280 Speaker 1: come back and bring this to life. I'll give you 420 00:20:15,320 --> 00:20:17,600 Speaker 1: another shot. So we brought in our own focus group. 421 00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:20,359 Speaker 1: A week later, we brought in eight people. We brought 422 00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:22,800 Speaker 1: in one of the New York giants run from run DMC, 423 00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:26,000 Speaker 1: a powerful female real estate mogul, and one by one 424 00:20:26,040 --> 00:20:27,879 Speaker 1: they stood up and said they wouldn't buy a fraction, 425 00:20:27,920 --> 00:20:30,080 Speaker 1: but they would buy a jet card and he gave 426 00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:33,400 Speaker 1: us a deal. Wow, but that's so creative. You're very creative, 427 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:37,040 Speaker 1: you're very innovative, creative, you're you're you're you're scrappy. Well 428 00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:39,639 Speaker 1: here's the thing, man, it's probably like you know, a 429 00:20:39,720 --> 00:20:43,440 Speaker 1: gazillion meetings every day. If you don't make your important 430 00:20:43,480 --> 00:20:46,680 Speaker 1: meetings stand out, they're gonna get lost. Like I said, 431 00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:48,800 Speaker 1: we're not going to negotiate down the goal like we had. 432 00:20:48,840 --> 00:20:50,840 Speaker 1: We don't have a choice. Man. We got to convince 433 00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:52,760 Speaker 1: them no, you're a fucking figure it out type of 434 00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:54,359 Speaker 1: person and get in the end zone. You're just like, 435 00:20:54,359 --> 00:20:56,160 Speaker 1: I'm getting that ball into Danzel. I'm not sure how 436 00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:58,840 Speaker 1: doing it. I'm the same way. I'm like I I 437 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:01,920 Speaker 1: and what happens to me is I get stressed out 438 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:03,960 Speaker 1: in the minu sha and in the weeds. I only 439 00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:07,200 Speaker 1: swept the small stuff, but the minute it gets really intense. 440 00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:09,720 Speaker 1: Like that's why I could sort of feel myself calm 441 00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:12,320 Speaker 1: down because I'm just gonna figure this fucking shit out. 442 00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:14,639 Speaker 1: I'm like that, but I think I take it one 443 00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:17,520 Speaker 1: step further, not better, but one step further in the 444 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:21,200 Speaker 1: sense that um, I always like to me, it's done. 445 00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:24,439 Speaker 1: I'm just filling in the blanks. Like I had a 446 00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:26,639 Speaker 1: record deal. In my head. Before I had the record deal, 447 00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:28,320 Speaker 1: I used to walk into my office when I was 448 00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:31,320 Speaker 1: twenty four. I was making thirty three thousand dollars a year, 449 00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:33,960 Speaker 1: and I used to tell my partner, we're millionaires. Man, 450 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:38,200 Speaker 1: just nobody paid us yet. Like we're millionaires. They haven't 451 00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:41,240 Speaker 1: paid us yet. We were we have a private jet company. 452 00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:43,240 Speaker 1: We just got to find the airplanes. I ran the 453 00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:46,320 Speaker 1: hundred mile race fifty thousand times in my head. Before 454 00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:48,320 Speaker 1: the race, it was done, I had to just fill 455 00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:50,720 Speaker 1: in the script. I get that. I like that. There's 456 00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:53,040 Speaker 1: no wrong decision or right decision. It's like cooking. You 457 00:21:53,119 --> 00:21:56,119 Speaker 1: pick you're using basil, oregano or parsley. Pick one. Go 458 00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:58,240 Speaker 1: down that lane, make that fucking lane work. There's so 459 00:21:58,280 --> 00:22:00,480 Speaker 1: many ways to get there, and you're even if you 460 00:22:00,520 --> 00:22:03,119 Speaker 1: make a mistake and you are jammed up. Sometimes you 461 00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:05,640 Speaker 1: have to fold in something, but for the most part 462 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:07,680 Speaker 1: you could kind of figure it out. Or that means 463 00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:10,480 Speaker 1: that something better is coming, like that road still is okay. 464 00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:13,480 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, And I've had plenty of failures. I've had 465 00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:15,400 Speaker 1: so much egg on my face along the way, man, 466 00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:18,640 Speaker 1: I mean, um, and those those hurt and sting. It's 467 00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:20,439 Speaker 1: not as simple as I'm gonna work hard and I'm 468 00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:22,440 Speaker 1: gonna believe in it, and I'm not going to negotiate 469 00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:24,760 Speaker 1: my goals, you know. But what I have been able 470 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:27,800 Speaker 1: to do is put myself in a position where I 471 00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:31,280 Speaker 1: tracked luck Like it doesn't happen Sunday night watching TV 472 00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:33,399 Speaker 1: at home. You have to go where the action is. 473 00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:36,080 Speaker 1: I agree with the away say you gotta go where 474 00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:38,280 Speaker 1: the fish are, and I still do that. And I 475 00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:41,120 Speaker 1: lived on eighteen couches when I met you. The first time, 476 00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:43,800 Speaker 1: I was staying on my friend's couch even during like 477 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:47,120 Speaker 1: Super Bowl times, I was like still kind of bouncing around. 478 00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:50,040 Speaker 1: But I was living in my friend's couch in Burbank, California. 479 00:22:50,080 --> 00:22:52,040 Speaker 1: And we went to the Beverly Hills Hotel for lunch 480 00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:55,919 Speaker 1: and all the moguls were there, the music moguls, the 481 00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:59,639 Speaker 1: movie moguls, the lawyers, all the dealmakers were there. And 482 00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:02,080 Speaker 1: I'm king around and I'm like, wait a second, are 483 00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:05,800 Speaker 1: you telling me that I can stay at this restaurant 484 00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:08,480 Speaker 1: and order a salad and sitting I don't have to 485 00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:10,400 Speaker 1: stay at the hotel. You're telling me I can buy 486 00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:13,040 Speaker 1: an eight dollar salad and sit here for two hours. 487 00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:16,360 Speaker 1: He's like, yeah, we're talking about And that became my office. 488 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:18,760 Speaker 1: That was my office for a year and a half. 489 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:22,200 Speaker 1: I went every day and people started reckoning. I would 490 00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:26,520 Speaker 1: not I was super friendly janitor ceo. Everybody gets the handshake. 491 00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:28,679 Speaker 1: And I became like, now I'm at the clubs, like 492 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:30,160 Speaker 1: where do I know you from? I think I saw 493 00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:33,040 Speaker 1: you at the Beverlie's Hotel. You know, it's putting yourself 494 00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:35,000 Speaker 1: in a position where you attract that luck, and I 495 00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:36,879 Speaker 1: think you have to do all the blocking and tackling 496 00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:39,320 Speaker 1: that everybody does, you know, but you have to do 497 00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:42,159 Speaker 1: the extra You gotta play a ten inning game. I 498 00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:44,639 Speaker 1: don't live in the past, you know, Like, look, my 499 00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:48,560 Speaker 1: window is short, man, I'm fifty three. The average American 500 00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:50,720 Speaker 1: lives to be seventy eight. So if I'm average, I 501 00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:54,760 Speaker 1: got twenty four summers left. I fucking love summers. You know. 502 00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:58,600 Speaker 1: I'm very I'm very aware of my relationship with time, 503 00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:01,480 Speaker 1: and I'm also aware that any day can our friends 504 00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:05,040 Speaker 1: are getting diagnosed. Now, nobody is invincible. When you do 505 00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:08,760 Speaker 1: understand that, that fear of approaching somebody goes away because 506 00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:13,199 Speaker 1: you don't get those chances. Again. I'm very aware of 507 00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,960 Speaker 1: my own mortality and it creates a tremendous amount of 508 00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:19,400 Speaker 1: urgency in my life. And I'm a much bigger believer. 509 00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:22,120 Speaker 1: You know, we're talking about business, but I'm a much 510 00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:25,280 Speaker 1: bigger believer in building my life resume more than my 511 00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:29,200 Speaker 1: traditional resume. And that's part of the reason why all 512 00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:32,880 Speaker 1: these different ventures, Like I don't want to just sell airplanes. Okay, yeah, 513 00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:34,960 Speaker 1: that makes me a lot of money, but that doesn't 514 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:37,320 Speaker 1: that The one thing everybody listening to this has is 515 00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:39,880 Speaker 1: we want to feel fulfilled we want to feel accomplished. 516 00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:42,600 Speaker 1: We're all listening to you for different reasons. We're listening 517 00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:45,120 Speaker 1: to you because you're on apologetic. We're listening to because 518 00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:49,000 Speaker 1: you're savvy, you're witty, you're connected, you've done it. But 519 00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:52,399 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, everybody here they just 520 00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:55,320 Speaker 1: want to feel accomplished. And you don't have to be 521 00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:57,359 Speaker 1: rich to feel accomplished. You don't have to climb out 522 00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:00,320 Speaker 1: Everest to feel accomplished. But you've gotta make yourself proud 523 00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:03,320 Speaker 1: of you. And I'm really aware of my time and 524 00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:06,080 Speaker 1: how much time I have on this earth. Same I 525 00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:08,880 Speaker 1: value time way more than anything else. You cannot wasted. 526 00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:12,920 Speaker 1: Time is super important, using it and being present as 527 00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:16,120 Speaker 1: a parent, as a business person, as a friend, as 528 00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:17,880 Speaker 1: a person wants to have a cocktail and just laugh 529 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,240 Speaker 1: and be funny. Whatever you're doing, you have to be 530 00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:23,480 Speaker 1: present in it. I would trade five million followers for 531 00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:26,320 Speaker 1: fifty people at my funeral that are bawling because of 532 00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:30,240 Speaker 1: that connection, you know, I mean, so for me, it's 533 00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:33,399 Speaker 1: being good in multiple buckets. Yes, the business element is 534 00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:37,640 Speaker 1: super important, but so is friendship, and so is philanthropy, 535 00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:39,800 Speaker 1: and so is spending time with your kids and so 536 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:42,080 Speaker 1: is like being a good human and showing up for 537 00:25:42,119 --> 00:25:44,960 Speaker 1: you know, so all of those things. As you get older, 538 00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:46,879 Speaker 1: when you start to look eighty in the you know, 539 00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:50,000 Speaker 1: eight is not that far from us, man, you start 540 00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:53,080 Speaker 1: to change, like your perspective. So your twenties and thirties 541 00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:55,240 Speaker 1: are a great time to say yes. You say yes 542 00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:57,320 Speaker 1: to everything. We were out, and we were at the club, 543 00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:00,800 Speaker 1: we were at the super Bowl. But your forty in fifties, 544 00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:03,120 Speaker 1: and as you get older, it's a more important time 545 00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:05,600 Speaker 1: to say no and to put more on your plate 546 00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:07,760 Speaker 1: of what you love to do with the people you 547 00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:09,520 Speaker 1: love to do and with. And that's where I'm at 548 00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:24,040 Speaker 1: in my journey. It's funny that you mentioned buckets because 549 00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:27,400 Speaker 1: I always say I would rap. Now what changes from then, 550 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:30,480 Speaker 1: when time is not that meaningful to you, is that 551 00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:34,800 Speaker 1: I would now rather have six buckets full than twelve 552 00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:38,119 Speaker 1: half fall Like you know you have a But if 553 00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:40,119 Speaker 1: I'm gonna do this business thing, I gotta do it 554 00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:41,720 Speaker 1: all the way. It's got to have a big r 555 00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,160 Speaker 1: o I. If I'm doing this philanthropy thing, it's gotta 556 00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:47,359 Speaker 1: be transparent, such a great r o I for people 557 00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:49,240 Speaker 1: who are donating and like it makes you feel like 558 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:51,320 Speaker 1: you know where you're supposed to be parenting with your kids, 559 00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:54,400 Speaker 1: Like it's such a full, overflowing bucket and it's better 560 00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:57,639 Speaker 1: because people try to fit a pounds of ship in 561 00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:59,280 Speaker 1: a five pound bag and have their ass and forty 562 00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:01,600 Speaker 1: two places for just being like, this is quality over 563 00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:04,720 Speaker 1: quantity and people know it. You've got to be diligent 564 00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:07,880 Speaker 1: and disciplined about it. Saying no it means yes, you're right. 565 00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:12,320 Speaker 1: I'm on friend reduction right now. Oh my god, beyond yes. 566 00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:15,560 Speaker 1: Brian Compleman told me that Matt Damon this is the 567 00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:18,160 Speaker 1: biggest naming dropping whatever. But Brian Coppman said that Matt 568 00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:21,080 Speaker 1: Damon once said to him during shooting Rounders that his 569 00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:24,160 Speaker 1: circle was closed. My circle is so close. And it's 570 00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:26,959 Speaker 1: also like I'm pulling people out of the circle. I 571 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:30,000 Speaker 1: fully agree it's not worth it. I don't want more. 572 00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:31,640 Speaker 1: I want you know. I try to tell my daughter, 573 00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:33,639 Speaker 1: don't worry about these girls are being mean girls. You're 574 00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:35,920 Speaker 1: only gonna want two to three friends that are great 575 00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:38,480 Speaker 1: in your life, and you're gonna know that. You come dispassionate, 576 00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:40,680 Speaker 1: like you just don't care. I don't want to go there. 577 00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:42,120 Speaker 1: Why because I don't want to go. I don't want 578 00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:45,200 Speaker 1: to do it. You want the lowest, especially as you 579 00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:48,960 Speaker 1: get older, but you want low aggravation for high If 580 00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:52,240 Speaker 1: it's high aggravation high reward, it's not worth it, even 581 00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,520 Speaker 1: in business. At this point in your life, Bethany, you 582 00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:57,480 Speaker 1: don't want high aggravation, even if it's high reward in business. 583 00:27:57,560 --> 00:28:01,200 Speaker 1: You've already checked the box. And then you also mentioned 584 00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:02,960 Speaker 1: r o I. You're hitting all the things that I 585 00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:05,200 Speaker 1: love to talk about. But you know, r o I 586 00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:08,040 Speaker 1: comes in so many different forms. It's not just like 587 00:28:08,080 --> 00:28:11,119 Speaker 1: and you mentioned in philanthropy, making people feel good about 588 00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:14,520 Speaker 1: what they give. R o I is just people think, oh, 589 00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:17,639 Speaker 1: what's my return on investment in money? But r o 590 00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:19,199 Speaker 1: I could be like, man, you know, I ran this 591 00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:20,960 Speaker 1: hundred mile race and my mom's like, why are you 592 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:23,200 Speaker 1: doing this? It's gonna I'm because it's good for my soul. 593 00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:26,760 Speaker 1: That's an r o I. I'm doing a documentary right 594 00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:30,760 Speaker 1: now called Serial Killers about serial the serial business, and um, 595 00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:33,720 Speaker 1: I don't even want to make a penny. I'm doing 596 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:36,760 Speaker 1: it because it's the r o I. For me, is 597 00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:38,880 Speaker 1: the message that I want to get out there. So 598 00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:40,920 Speaker 1: r o I comes on a lot of different ways. 599 00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:43,520 Speaker 1: There's a lot of reasons to weigh whether or not 600 00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:46,360 Speaker 1: you should do something, and it's not all financial. Yep. 601 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:49,520 Speaker 1: You love to connect, you love to speak publicly. I've 602 00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:53,600 Speaker 1: seen it, I do it. I get it. It's invigorating. 603 00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:57,360 Speaker 1: It's also since you your circle is closing too. You're 604 00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:59,840 Speaker 1: not around that many people. I feel like it gives 605 00:28:59,880 --> 00:29:02,240 Speaker 1: you of s electricities engage when it moves things around 606 00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:04,160 Speaker 1: the room, You're not just in your own head. It's 607 00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:06,400 Speaker 1: like working out a wrap with other people listening. You're 608 00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:09,160 Speaker 1: kind of figuring out what works don't. Don't you agree, 609 00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:11,680 Speaker 1: Like that's what's going on. You're connecting in such a 610 00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:14,400 Speaker 1: personal way. Well, there's a famous study they did with 611 00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:18,080 Speaker 1: all these billionaires where they interviewed um dozens of billionaires 612 00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:21,200 Speaker 1: and asked what their biggest regret was, and in the 613 00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:24,520 Speaker 1: top three of their regrets was not being in the 614 00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:27,200 Speaker 1: present moment, you know, like either thinking I wish I 615 00:29:27,240 --> 00:29:29,000 Speaker 1: made more money on that deal, I wish I could 616 00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:32,920 Speaker 1: go back and do that, or thinking ahead and I 617 00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:35,400 Speaker 1: think you know, for me, I lived on a monastery 618 00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:38,280 Speaker 1: with eight monks that have been there for fifty years, 619 00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:41,440 Speaker 1: and one of the things. One of the main takeaways 620 00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:44,560 Speaker 1: from me, and there were a lot, was that the 621 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:47,480 Speaker 1: monks were always where their feet are, like they were 622 00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:49,880 Speaker 1: never ahead of like if they were cleaning the floor, 623 00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:53,600 Speaker 1: they cleaned the floor man like it was the only thing, 624 00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:56,480 Speaker 1: and then they would go to the next task. And 625 00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:59,320 Speaker 1: I've been taught to multitask, Oh do this, and you 626 00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:01,440 Speaker 1: gotta do this. My to do list is fucking through 627 00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:04,360 Speaker 1: the roof. They didn't do that. They had to do list, 628 00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:06,360 Speaker 1: and they were when when the thing on there doue 629 00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:08,440 Speaker 1: list was done, they crusted it off. They never ever 630 00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:10,440 Speaker 1: looked back on it, and they went to the next thing. 631 00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:13,160 Speaker 1: So the way I set up my day, everyone's a 632 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:16,560 Speaker 1: morning routines. Morning routines. Morning routines are reporting. My day 633 00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,800 Speaker 1: starts the night before. I map out my entire day. 634 00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:22,600 Speaker 1: I'm on the call with Dethany until we're done, and 635 00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:24,880 Speaker 1: then right after that, I have a thing with my 636 00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:26,959 Speaker 1: kids for one hour, and then it's what one o'clock, 637 00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:29,680 Speaker 1: I'm going here, three o'clock. Here, I'm following the script. 638 00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:33,280 Speaker 1: But the day before you're mapping out the future. It's interesting, 639 00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:35,520 Speaker 1: who's good enough? Do you think anyone's good enough to 640 00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:37,400 Speaker 1: wake up and wing it. It's interesting. First of all, 641 00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:40,440 Speaker 1: the book Power of Now is about that emotionally, meaning, 642 00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:42,920 Speaker 1: nothing's that bad in this moment, Like in this moment 643 00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:45,400 Speaker 1: is okay we always were. That's gonna happen. What's gonna happen. 644 00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:46,720 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna make money. I'm not gonna make it. 645 00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:49,000 Speaker 1: I'm gonna lose that. That's gonna happen. Everybody does that, 646 00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,120 Speaker 1: and it's a great note. And it's a hard discipline 647 00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:53,560 Speaker 1: to practice. But to get in the car with a 648 00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:55,120 Speaker 1: plan of where the hell you're going, even though you 649 00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:57,080 Speaker 1: might get derailed, is a better idea to get in 650 00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:58,360 Speaker 1: the car and out of an idea. It was what 651 00:30:58,400 --> 00:31:02,400 Speaker 1: you're saying, Um, so you're are you obsessed with fitness 652 00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:06,120 Speaker 1: and health? I mean, a hundred miles is excessive. It's 653 00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:10,040 Speaker 1: lifestyle for me. It's not discipline. It's not a chore. 654 00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:13,400 Speaker 1: It's what I do. I eat a certain way. You know, 655 00:31:13,560 --> 00:31:16,920 Speaker 1: I'm basically a fruitarian. I run every day terry and 656 00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:19,360 Speaker 1: I don't even know that, And so, wow, that's that's crazy. 657 00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:22,440 Speaker 1: So what is that basically I eat? I eat a 658 00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:24,560 Speaker 1: lot of fruit. I only eat fruit until noon. For 659 00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:27,560 Speaker 1: thirty years, I've only had fruit until noon, and then 660 00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:30,120 Speaker 1: I start to eat regular foods after that. But I 661 00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:33,360 Speaker 1: really now have extended fruit only to almost like five o'clock, 662 00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:35,640 Speaker 1: So most of my diet is fruit. And what does 663 00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:38,040 Speaker 1: that feel like? Or you don't even know anymore. I 664 00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:39,720 Speaker 1: don't even know what it feels like. I was telling 665 00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:42,640 Speaker 1: someone the other day to not have boundless energy. I 666 00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:44,600 Speaker 1: don't know what it feels like, like, oh, I'm so tired, 667 00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:46,920 Speaker 1: I can't do that. I don't know. I've missed a 668 00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:50,120 Speaker 1: day of work knock on wood in thirty years. Like, 669 00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:52,239 Speaker 1: I don't even know what the other side feels like 670 00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:54,360 Speaker 1: when people tell me they have pain to this. So, 671 00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:57,560 Speaker 1: I have four kids. I'm never too tired for my kids. 672 00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:00,000 Speaker 1: That's a rule that I have. So it's a lifestyle 673 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:02,040 Speaker 1: out for me. You know, you said, well, running a 674 00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:04,520 Speaker 1: hundred miles I started off. My goal was to run 675 00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:08,000 Speaker 1: two miles. That was it. I wanted to run two miles. 676 00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:10,680 Speaker 1: Nothing in my body changed. These are the same legs 677 00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:13,959 Speaker 1: guy gave me. I'm not very strong, um, but I 678 00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:16,640 Speaker 1: was able to go from two miles to a hundred 679 00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:19,200 Speaker 1: miles and the only thing that changed was my mind. 680 00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:22,360 Speaker 1: And that sounds so simple and whatever, but it's true. 681 00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:26,520 Speaker 1: So that means that I fifty x my goal. So 682 00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:28,840 Speaker 1: I want to fifty x my business. I want to 683 00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:32,480 Speaker 1: fifty x my relationships. I want to fifty x everything 684 00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:34,720 Speaker 1: in my life. And when I saw people running a 685 00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:37,240 Speaker 1: hundred miles, I'm like, which I saw it first? I 686 00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:38,640 Speaker 1: went to a race, and I'm like, they don't look 687 00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:41,960 Speaker 1: any different than me. They're just not stopping. My whole 688 00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:46,080 Speaker 1: world changed. I'm like, I'm thinking, small man. So now 689 00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:48,840 Speaker 1: once I ran a hundred miles, when I take people 690 00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:52,640 Speaker 1: from from couch to a marathon, no problem. And when 691 00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:54,840 Speaker 1: they're done, the first thing I tell them is double 692 00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:58,160 Speaker 1: your business plan. You just realized, you just realized you 693 00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:01,000 Speaker 1: could do something you never thought you could do. And 694 00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:04,160 Speaker 1: that's what this is for me. That self doubt is 695 00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:06,920 Speaker 1: the number one enemy to success. So your wife is 696 00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:10,800 Speaker 1: very successful, you're very successful. What two questions? One is 697 00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:13,560 Speaker 1: your what was your most successful venture? Was it Zekeo? 698 00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:16,120 Speaker 1: Was it mar Keys? What was your your in the 699 00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:18,760 Speaker 1: hole Marquis jet? Okay? So MARKI Jett. I mean we 700 00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:21,160 Speaker 1: did five billion dollars in sales and we sold it 701 00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:23,600 Speaker 1: to Warren Buffett's. You know Berkshire House. So you were 702 00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:25,440 Speaker 1: freaking out then you were just like, Wow, I'm real. 703 00:33:25,640 --> 00:33:28,760 Speaker 1: I was freaking out from day one. This whole journey 704 00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:31,040 Speaker 1: has been like I can't I said to myself the 705 00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:36,120 Speaker 1: other day. Yesterday I literally said to my family, I 706 00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:38,920 Speaker 1: can't believe how fucking lucky I am. I didn't say 707 00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:41,360 Speaker 1: the F word, even even the friends, the people that 708 00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:43,320 Speaker 1: I've met, the runs I've been able to do, the 709 00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:46,120 Speaker 1: adventures I've gone on, the monks that I've lived with, 710 00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:48,560 Speaker 1: all of it. I'm just like, how did my life 711 00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:51,280 Speaker 1: resume to get to be so fulfilled? You know, Well, 712 00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:53,920 Speaker 1: you're in a magical house. You're in a magical partnership. 713 00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:55,400 Speaker 1: I don't mean I know what the ins and outs 714 00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:57,200 Speaker 1: your relationship are like, but there's a lot going on 715 00:33:57,280 --> 00:34:02,160 Speaker 1: in that house creatively, mentally, energet what's the dynamic in 716 00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:07,320 Speaker 1: your relationship with regards to two powerful personalities money gender? 717 00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:10,239 Speaker 1: That is kind of my last question about that and 718 00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:12,799 Speaker 1: your family and whatever else you want to mention, but 719 00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:14,560 Speaker 1: that kind of thing, what goes on in your house 720 00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:17,160 Speaker 1: and your relationship as it pertains to money and power 721 00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:20,680 Speaker 1: and gender. Well, Sarah's journey its banks is similar to mine. 722 00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:22,880 Speaker 1: In the sense that we started kind of young, and 723 00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:26,680 Speaker 1: we've we both were self um sustaining, you know, as 724 00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:28,520 Speaker 1: we got married, so it takes a lot of pressure 725 00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:31,280 Speaker 1: off of it. So in some ways it made everything easier. 726 00:34:31,840 --> 00:34:34,960 Speaker 1: But um, we're very different, like insanely different, and I 727 00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:37,279 Speaker 1: think that's important. Actually, there's a lot of research around 728 00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:40,040 Speaker 1: that you don't want to marry around marriages that are successful, 729 00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:42,279 Speaker 1: that people that aren't exactly the same. Everyone's like, oh, 730 00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:44,600 Speaker 1: you gotta marry your soul meet. Agreed, And I'm my 731 00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:48,320 Speaker 1: fiance and I are very different too, totally different temperaments. Congratulations, 732 00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:51,239 Speaker 1: by the way, thank you. We're very different, but we 733 00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:53,400 Speaker 1: have the same values. And I think the most important 734 00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:56,759 Speaker 1: thing is she gives me a long leash. If she's 735 00:34:56,840 --> 00:34:59,000 Speaker 1: told me I can't run, I have to go to 736 00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:02,640 Speaker 1: the opera, I'd resent her. If I told her you 737 00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:04,719 Speaker 1: can't work on a new product because we got it, 738 00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:08,080 Speaker 1: she resent me. So we we both give each other 739 00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:10,560 Speaker 1: long leashes to do the things we love. For me 740 00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:13,040 Speaker 1: that speaking and we're running and all this other stuff. 741 00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:16,400 Speaker 1: And we spend time together, but we also spend time alone, 742 00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:22,440 Speaker 1: and like that's really important. Age. Yeah, so you know, 743 00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:24,880 Speaker 1: and I don't know. Everyone's different, every relationship is different, 744 00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:27,480 Speaker 1: and we have our challenges just like everybody else. But 745 00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:29,319 Speaker 1: those things that I think are important. And then the 746 00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:31,400 Speaker 1: last thing I would say is we check in with 747 00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:34,040 Speaker 1: each other all the time, and they're not transactional check 748 00:35:34,080 --> 00:35:36,480 Speaker 1: ins to take the garbage out? Did you do the laundry? 749 00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:38,640 Speaker 1: We check in about like how's your day going? Yeah, 750 00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:40,439 Speaker 1: like how you are right? Like And there's a ton 751 00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:43,200 Speaker 1: of research around that too, about the importance of just 752 00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:46,960 Speaker 1: daily check ins. Wow, okay, I like that. Who's the peacock? 753 00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:49,040 Speaker 1: It sounds like it might be us only one peacock 754 00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:50,920 Speaker 1: in a relationship, So it sounds like you're the peacock. 755 00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:52,920 Speaker 1: What do you mean by peacock? There's one person that's 756 00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:55,279 Speaker 1: blewming their feathers more. That's like the free spirit that 757 00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:58,600 Speaker 1: it sounds like you're the peacock. She's more granular and like, no, no, 758 00:35:58,680 --> 00:36:02,520 Speaker 1: with that, I'm a double peacock. Yeah, same, same, I'm 759 00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:06,080 Speaker 1: a flock of peacocks, flock of cox Right, it's good 760 00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:09,160 Speaker 1: energy between us, and it was great. You're amazing and 761 00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:12,160 Speaker 1: interesting and you're honest, and I just like your conviction, 762 00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:14,759 Speaker 1: and um, say, how do your kids and have a 763 00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:17,600 Speaker 1: great quality day with them. I'm gonna go roller skating 764 00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:19,919 Speaker 1: with my daughter or go on the zip line, and 765 00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:22,080 Speaker 1: that's the point. I'm done now, and that's the second 766 00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:23,920 Speaker 1: I lave. I'm going to do is zip line and 767 00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:26,080 Speaker 1: trampoline right too. I love it. Well, thanks for having 768 00:36:26,080 --> 00:36:34,319 Speaker 1: me on, Bethany appreciate it. What unexpected journeys we take 769 00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:38,680 Speaker 1: on this podcast, talking to people about their life, their parenting, 770 00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:42,600 Speaker 1: their money, their childhood, their success, their stories, their failures. 771 00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:45,759 Speaker 1: Jesse was open. We could have talked for hours, which 772 00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:49,200 Speaker 1: is great, and I just love that you just never 773 00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:51,719 Speaker 1: know what or who you're going to get. And I'm 774 00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:55,640 Speaker 1: getting so many amazing comments from you about people that 775 00:36:55,719 --> 00:36:58,760 Speaker 1: you've never even heard of, that you just can't believe 776 00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:01,279 Speaker 1: how fascinating and interesting are and what great stories they have. 777 00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:03,799 Speaker 1: I mean, Paul, my fiance this morning, said, you know, 778 00:37:03,840 --> 00:37:06,040 Speaker 1: I love the nor mcmali episode, and I didn't even 779 00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:08,080 Speaker 1: know who she was, but it was so compelling and 780 00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:11,120 Speaker 1: such a great story. So you're gonna learn a lot. 781 00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:12,880 Speaker 1: I love if there's a lot of takeaway here. I've 782 00:37:12,880 --> 00:37:15,360 Speaker 1: got interesting people that have definitely done something that you 783 00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:18,880 Speaker 1: may not even know, so remember to rate, review and subscribe. 784 00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:28,360 Speaker 1: I appreciate you, Thank you. Just B is hosted an 785 00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:31,799 Speaker 1: executive produced by me, Bethany Frankel. Just Be as a 786 00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:36,319 Speaker 1: production of be Real Productions and I Heart Radio. Our 787 00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:39,760 Speaker 1: Managing Producer is Fiona Smith and our producer is Stephanie Stender. 788 00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:43,319 Speaker 1: Our EP is Morgan Levoy. To catch more moments from 789 00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:45,600 Speaker 1: the show, follow us on Instagram at just Be with 790 00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:51,799 Speaker 1: Bethany