WEBVTT - Ep43: Riding D-ck, Orgasms, and Free Love Feat Glamazon Tyomi

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<v Speaker 1>Hi Mandie, Hi Eazy, Oh my god, I am such

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<v Speaker 1>a huge fan of you, ladies. I know I missed

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<v Speaker 1>the deadline, but I just wanted to call and tell

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<v Speaker 1>you guys so awesome you are. Mandy, you are out

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<v Speaker 1>here repetent for the thick girls like myself, and you

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<v Speaker 1>have given me so much confidence. And I just love

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<v Speaker 1>you so much, um, both of you readies for teaching

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<v Speaker 1>me a lot about myself and how to embrace my

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<v Speaker 1>sexuality and not be ashamed of a lot of what

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<v Speaker 1>society UM puts out there for women. And you guys

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<v Speaker 1>make my days so much better and I appreciate and

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<v Speaker 1>Mandy again, I love you so much, girl. I gotta

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<v Speaker 1>get my blue check game up like you. I got

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<v Speaker 1>one so far. I'm trying to wrack them up in

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<v Speaker 1>twenty eighteen. But I love you Dye so much. To

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<v Speaker 1>keep doing what you do. I learned so much from

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, and keep it going. I love you. I

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<v Speaker 1>would say my name, but I don't want anybody who

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<v Speaker 1>like him but kissings think it luckily, just love you

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<v Speaker 1>a game by Oh wait, I do I've heard something? Mother?

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<v Speaker 1>How do you not know? Can you let it keep playing?

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<v Speaker 1>For you? Don't need to keep playing. Anybody knows this.

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<v Speaker 1>The fucking video guy knows this. Who is this? You

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<v Speaker 1>know what? I don't know what whole you've been? Who

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<v Speaker 1>is that? I've heard it, I've heard the little do

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<v Speaker 1>you are you gonna act like you've never done a

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<v Speaker 1>podcast before? Who's the bike? Up? God? Damn, you still

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<v Speaker 1>don't know this? You know what? Mandy? This is? Who's

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<v Speaker 1>the one that white? Guys? Is it you? Because what

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<v Speaker 1>the fun is going on? I'm really confused? Who is that?

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<v Speaker 1>It's any r D. It's parrelling me on It's called lemon.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that's where I saw her performing and I got

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<v Speaker 1>shaded so hard ten minutes ago for noting and loving

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<v Speaker 1>hip hop ship Please, this is brand new, probably just

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<v Speaker 1>came out. I don't listen to the radio. I listened

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<v Speaker 1>to what I download. It's just something I haven't downloaded.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, what do you want me to do? Anyways? Guys, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome to fucking fuck the bullshit. This is my first

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<v Speaker 1>time seeing Wheezy in No, it's not. I'm right, I

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<v Speaker 1>definitely just saw you last week. Kind of up. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome guys to yet another episode of horrible Decisions. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>your girl Mandy B and I'm Weezy, And today we

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<v Speaker 1>are starting off the new year with yet another guest

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<v Speaker 1>who's late. But listen, y'all, if y'all can give me

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<v Speaker 1>the time to give guests to not be in CP time.

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<v Speaker 1>Since I know a lot of y'all is black, let's

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<v Speaker 1>have the discussion real quick. How early do I need

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<v Speaker 1>to tell black people to show up to show up

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<v Speaker 1>on time? I feel like I always like for me,

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<v Speaker 1>it's always fifteen minutes, which is why always have a

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen minute like, so we recorded right now at six pm.

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<v Speaker 1>I say, girls, can you shot show up by five

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<v Speaker 1>forty five? She's about saying she's gonna arrive at six fifteen,

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<v Speaker 1>which that makes me your thirty minute. And then I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sure I'm gonna like her. I'm not. I'm positively gonna

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<v Speaker 1>like her. You're just a bit. But I hate how

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<v Speaker 1>people are just not considerative. Other people are the latest

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<v Speaker 1>guests we've ever had. It was funny, people like I

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<v Speaker 1>wish you did longer episodes. No, he just know then

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<v Speaker 1>they just showed up thirty minutes late. No, mart Marcus

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<v Speaker 1>also showed up late from hip hop We you don't

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<v Speaker 1>remember because we just started recording and we ended up

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<v Speaker 1>paying for extra STUDIOSI um, this is really frustrating. Foreen, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>I need all of my black people to come together

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<v Speaker 1>and show up on time. I have something to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about this random Yeah. I couldn't sleep last night, so

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<v Speaker 1>I went on Lipstick Ali to see what ship people

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<v Speaker 1>talk about. They think, let me just keep going to

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<v Speaker 1>that trash it's trash sight. But I'm gonna tell you

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<v Speaker 1>one thing. The people they keep listening to us, so

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<v Speaker 1>it's clearly people that some of them comes, they're miserable,

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<v Speaker 1>they probably really hate my guts and are just trying

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<v Speaker 1>to think. But some of them are patrons, so they

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<v Speaker 1>do listen to the show. This is where they spilled tea,

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<v Speaker 1>like whatever, they really think we're not going to have that.

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<v Speaker 1>They they're like they hate each other. They were like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, you're starting to notice how much they

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<v Speaker 1>don't like each other blah blah, And I'm like, nothing

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<v Speaker 1>has changed. We hated each other the same from the

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<v Speaker 1>very first show. So I don't really know why they

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<v Speaker 1>think it's getting work. Why you keep reading it? Because

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<v Speaker 1>that's okay. People that love us follow us on Instagram

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<v Speaker 1>and write us a lot unless they're anonymous emails. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't feel like I really get that much honest feedback

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<v Speaker 1>unless it's from my friends. My friends keep they're like,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all were wrong, y'all did this wrong. You should have

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<v Speaker 1>researched this more about HIV and blah blah blah, which

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<v Speaker 1>I understand. But other than that, besides the ship talking stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>these are people that are honest. Because they're anonymous. It

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<v Speaker 1>might be trolling, but they're trolling is fun, but listen,

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<v Speaker 1>it's sucking honest. So I don't know why they say

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<v Speaker 1>we argue too much now and I'm just like, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like we've always hated each other as much. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>um they oh, oh my god, they know where I

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<v Speaker 1>work now, Like it's crazy, dude. No, They've all like

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<v Speaker 1>they're all, Mandy do this, how's manny doing finance and

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<v Speaker 1>and and being a who at the same time, she's

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<v Speaker 1>got to pick one. I don't. I don't understand why

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<v Speaker 1>I can't suck dick and have a job. Like it's

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<v Speaker 1>really confusing me. But but yeah, they're all guessing who

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<v Speaker 1>the funk we're fucking she's They're trying to guess who

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<v Speaker 1>loverboy is they're trying to get pretty close. Um, it's

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<v Speaker 1>just fucking annoying at this point, so I don't go

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<v Speaker 1>on there. Not only that they think that we're confused

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<v Speaker 1>as too because we're traditional. They were talking about us

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<v Speaker 1>wanting to cook for our man and do stuff for

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<v Speaker 1>our man. In the b K Chat episode they dragged

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<v Speaker 1>for filth, how we talked to mean Okay, now, when

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<v Speaker 1>I look back at it, I blamed it on you.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember when we left to everything, But when I listened

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<v Speaker 1>to it, we were both pretty You need to really

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<v Speaker 1>re listen to stuff because then you'll start hearing a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of bullshit. The show asked us. I, Um, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they were like saying, which is easy to think of

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<v Speaker 1>Nandy after the married thing, and blah blah blah, and um,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess like someone had also brought up how when

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<v Speaker 1>we discussed you calling me promiscuous and which I'll stand

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<v Speaker 1>by every motherfucking things. So now and like, okay, that

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<v Speaker 1>was a episode that was a while ago. But one thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and mind you, this is just us filling time and

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<v Speaker 1>for our latest latest guess I do want to say

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't necessarily that I think in the moment it

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<v Speaker 1>bothered me because it felt like such a label and

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<v Speaker 1>like I've been telling you recently, like I hate this whole,

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<v Speaker 1>like you're this and this and that, like I've been

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<v Speaker 1>called a hoe fully clothed or before someone knew me,

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<v Speaker 1>or just because I won't talk to guys, like fuck

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<v Speaker 1>you ho. It's like it's just you so much. And

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<v Speaker 1>then I think, like the word promiscuous is also labeled

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<v Speaker 1>as a bad thing. Well, promiscus to me, like I

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<v Speaker 1>was up as an adjective and not necessary a label,

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<v Speaker 1>and as an adjective as defined by Wikipedia, it's stuck

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<v Speaker 1>and like, but if you're skinny, you're skinny. There's a

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<v Speaker 1>definition for skinny. Still if you light skinned, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't really care if people think I'm promiscuious or not.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people, in their minds, promiscuous is going to be

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<v Speaker 1>the word they use. Um. But see what you just said,

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<v Speaker 1>that's growth and you don't know it. But just said

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care if people see me as promiscuous. That

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<v Speaker 1>is motherfucking growth, Because how would I care? I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>care because where we started, when we started, we started

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<v Speaker 1>this show, when who said let's call it horrible? But

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<v Speaker 1>when we started this show. We talked about this off air.

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<v Speaker 1>You were caring about how people were I'm not anything.

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<v Speaker 1>This is I'm trying to be your therapist here. I'm black.

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<v Speaker 1>I have black therapist. Well I'm happy and we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do this right now. And I feel like you literally

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<v Speaker 1>just showed a little bit of growth, which I'm proud

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<v Speaker 1>of you. I mean, that's my good thing to say.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I can't like it was a different like

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<v Speaker 1>I always said I didn't care, but now I'm like

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<v Speaker 1>really starting not to give a book, Like I can

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<v Speaker 1>read terrible things about myself Now I'm like, oh, and

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<v Speaker 1>maybe that's because I smoke more marijuana or whatever it is.

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<v Speaker 1>But speaking of that, my therapist is like really trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get me some weed. And I just really appreciate

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<v Speaker 1>him for that. Um And it's funny because like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, I guess you can't find this. He know

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<v Speaker 1>his name of my podcast. But I was telling you

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<v Speaker 1>how I'm like trying to trick him into giving me

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<v Speaker 1>the next How do you Why are you tricking? It's

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<v Speaker 1>so simple, like I'm already stressed out and ship and

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<v Speaker 1>so terrible. By the way, I just look up the

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<v Speaker 1>symptoms exactly, and I'm just like, I don't know why.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just feeling really anxious, particularly in the workplace, and

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like it's affecting my well being. You're terrible.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think I could do for that? And

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<v Speaker 1>then look at me and be like, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Maybe we should try something like an

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<v Speaker 1>edge of the past. Maybe I'm like, really think, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if I should do like drawing. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>what the funk all of these things do? I got

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<v Speaker 1>prescribed coding and you were like, just lose it on

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<v Speaker 1>the train. They'll give you another prescription. I'm like, no, bit,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not taking my coding. Well, I'm saying, if you

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<v Speaker 1>say you lost it like right after you got it,

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<v Speaker 1>they'll probably give you another one. Yeah, you're pretty trashed

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<v Speaker 1>for that. So I guess I wanted UM because we

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<v Speaker 1>talked about this, I want to say, on the Lisa

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<v Speaker 1>sliftson episode and UM or maybe before that. So we

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<v Speaker 1>talked about, of course UM writing Dick, and that was

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<v Speaker 1>so weird that you were like, I never well, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not that I've never wrote Dick, but I'm you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a bitch. I'm on the big side. So writing Dick

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<v Speaker 1>for me is a lot of motherfucking work. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's a lot of work for anybody. I worked out

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<v Speaker 1>five days a week and I still feel like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to pass out, That's what I'm saying. And so

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<v Speaker 1>I am just not a fan of writing Dick. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's a calvs thing. I'm trying to think what

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<v Speaker 1>part of me hurts while writing Dick. But anyway, we'll listen,

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<v Speaker 1>and you got a lot and these guys for real.

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<v Speaker 1>So anyways, last night I was late. You know that

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<v Speaker 1>Naga and um I had probably one of the best

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<v Speaker 1>orgasmic experiences. I don't know if it was because I

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<v Speaker 1>was on coding or if that was definitely, but the

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<v Speaker 1>dick was so so I was writing him. He was

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<v Speaker 1>sitting down in the sitting down position and I was

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<v Speaker 1>sitting on him facing the opposite way and going up

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<v Speaker 1>and down, and I like almost couldn't stand up. He

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<v Speaker 1>was almost laughing at me because I came multiple times

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<v Speaker 1>like that, and I was like, Nigga, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't be writing your dick. This is good. And I

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<v Speaker 1>had to tell him. I was like, don't get comfortable.

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<v Speaker 1>This ain't gonna happen. But he was like, man, you

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<v Speaker 1>could barely stand up, like it just kept I just

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<v Speaker 1>kept shaking and it was fucking well. For one, amazing

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<v Speaker 1>if you had your medicine that was prescribed. I just

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<v Speaker 1>want to say that. It was sounding like I know

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<v Speaker 1>they know I'm the crazy one, but yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>you were on that, so you're already like super relaxed

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<v Speaker 1>and everything feels you fork. So that's probably why you

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<v Speaker 1>came super hard. But second, this is exactly why BIT

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<v Speaker 1>just like to ride because you feel it on your

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<v Speaker 1>It was so good, and mind you. I told him

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<v Speaker 1>before um, because you know, I just had surgery. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna talk about that. But I was like, you gotta be,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, gentle, because he'd be sucking me like we

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<v Speaker 1>like poor star set Like you gotta be gentle. So

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<v Speaker 1>we started with the writing thing and I was just

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<v Speaker 1>like feeling I actually felt the orgasms in my stomach.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, Okay, well, maybe I need to turn

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<v Speaker 1>around because this might not be a good thing that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm feeling this. It was just a look I'm left

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<v Speaker 1>her right now, bitch, I'm really going back thinking like

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<v Speaker 1>if I show you hold on, I want to show you.

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<v Speaker 1>Hold on, I'm gonna show me this. If I show

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<v Speaker 1>you this text, No, this text message after this is

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<v Speaker 1>how you know what's good? I said, I said it

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't stop. Oh my god. Let me just first start

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<v Speaker 1>by saying, there is a gift I don't know. It

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<v Speaker 1>looks like a busted pipe and there's just like water

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<v Speaker 1>like spewing out of it. And she put liked with

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<v Speaker 1>four ease like that, daddy, don't I don't have a

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<v Speaker 1>good studio session. Then she sends the game and put

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<v Speaker 1>it wouldn't stop upside don't smiley face, definitely need one

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<v Speaker 1>more where you jet set? Then when he said, laughing

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<v Speaker 1>my ass off twelve hours later, because well, she sends

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<v Speaker 1>Jack Conan O'Brien jumping up and down, happy Hi, And

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<v Speaker 1>look we was talking about riding dick and you're the

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<v Speaker 1>perfect person to be walking in But that all right?

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<v Speaker 1>Guess is here? Guys, she's wearing we recorded this ship

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<v Speaker 1>and thigh high boots. So we're gonna set you deep

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<v Speaker 1>yourself or your husband as well. Okay, so we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>sit you over No, let's set you right here. Yeah, no,

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<v Speaker 1>sit her over there. I want to look you can

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<v Speaker 1>look right next to you. Okay, no, now we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>put it right here, all right, So we might want

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<v Speaker 1>to bring him on as well, um, because you know

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<v Speaker 1>we got some questions. Um, so guys, I guess we

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<v Speaker 1>can introduce our guests. Who is here? Um? We have

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<v Speaker 1>Tyomi who every one? Well? Yeah everyone? Um. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>so crazy because I think between Instagram and Twitter, everyone

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<v Speaker 1>was just like, why you ain't had it on the show. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>this is who you need? Bring her on the shot.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, okay, So then we were talking,

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<v Speaker 1>but it was while you were out of town. It

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<v Speaker 1>was over the holiday. There were studio dealing with all

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<v Speaker 1>of this. I'm like, okay, we're gonna We're gonna get

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<v Speaker 1>you in here. Girl, just hold out. Um, do you

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<v Speaker 1>live in the right Yeah, I'm like part time between

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<v Speaker 1>New York and Chicago. So I got married on saturdayation.

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<v Speaker 1>I saw a picture of you guys. So you guys

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<v Speaker 1>are so like so it's like a book cover. I know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's very like time. So like cocoa butter love Shay

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<v Speaker 1>butter coconut oil. Instance, Yeah, you look like type you

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<v Speaker 1>have instant when Yeah, what's this like incense? Male name?

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<v Speaker 1>Actually it's his name night in. Oh, maybe we gotta

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<v Speaker 1>start sucking two instance with names and maybe they'll come

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<v Speaker 1>into our life. I do like say, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't had African dick be small though. Um I'm the

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<v Speaker 1>ones I've had. African American dick is great, but African

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<v Speaker 1>African them maybe because if they were paying for it,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe that's why. Oh you might be right, Well, they're married,

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<v Speaker 1>that's why they pay it, not because they dick small. Um. Anyways, anyways, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>we want to go ahead and I guess introduce you.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're a sexpert, you're a blogger, you're a pleasure

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<v Speaker 1>like trainer, you do you do so many things, so

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<v Speaker 1>let our listeners know exactly what you're known for. UM.

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<v Speaker 1>I am known for sex education. I've been teaching for

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<v Speaker 1>the last seven years, primarily online. I've toured the world

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<v Speaker 1>with my classes. UM. I have a YouTube channel where

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<v Speaker 1>I show people how to get into like different So,

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<v Speaker 1>like sixteen million views on how to ride? Did we

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<v Speaker 1>to show like with somebody from the audience. We picked

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<v Speaker 1>a girl for Mandy to demonstrate on it was not good. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I didn't know you need to agree for that.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't but you know, it's like just one of

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<v Speaker 1>those things that's not something that you just know how

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<v Speaker 1>to do. It's it's takes take practice. You have to

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<v Speaker 1>be in shape. When I say in the shape, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't mean like you know, fitness guru in the gym.

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<v Speaker 1>Like there's a specific set of muscles that are being

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<v Speaker 1>used when you're on top, so we have to develop them.

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<v Speaker 1>We just talked about writing real quick, because I don't

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<v Speaker 1>need to have it in for you to talk about writing,

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<v Speaker 1>but one of my favorite things I need to know

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<v Speaker 1>that because I just rode again from you. We were

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<v Speaker 1>just saying that hurts, like because I always feel like

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't matter if you're in shape or not like that,

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<v Speaker 1>it's your hip flexus. Your hip flexus, I feel like,

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<v Speaker 1>get to my legs. I feel like like calves or something.

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<v Speaker 1>Do I not? Maybe I mean think about that's that

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<v Speaker 1>machine you go in the gym, but think about it too,

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<v Speaker 1>Like you don't sit in that position often at all.

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<v Speaker 1>And we sit down most of the time, so like

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I do on my squatty party. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like we we sit down so much like our our

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<v Speaker 1>hip muscles and our leg muscles get tight and they

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<v Speaker 1>get weakened like we are. We pretty much lip sedentary lifestyles.

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<v Speaker 1>So so how do I make like how do you

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<v Speaker 1>every day? That's it stretching, not like not squats or something,

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<v Speaker 1>stretch me squats, any type of like leg lifts or kickbacks,

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<v Speaker 1>any type of lower body exercise will work for it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I teach a class specifically that targets the muscles

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<v Speaker 1>that you use during riding, and it kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>simulates it. It's like a mixture of twerking and like

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<v Speaker 1>hip rolling, but literally it's you doing it full out

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<v Speaker 1>for like at least three minutes at a time per song.

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<v Speaker 1>How many people pass out? Not many. It's it's challenged,

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<v Speaker 1>especially when I'm kind of lazy, like I could suck

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<v Speaker 1>a dick and don't get tired as much as Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>well I didn't work, so I'll just play on my

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<v Speaker 1>stomach now, just workout, especially when like you know, if

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<v Speaker 1>you have really wet pussy in and like his size,

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<v Speaker 1>like he keeps sleeping now a little bit, like you

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<v Speaker 1>gotta really adjust it. It's I don't think men realize

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<v Speaker 1>how much be going on through our minds when we're

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<v Speaker 1>trying to not only please ourselves, but please them, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>aside from not dying with a dick down my throat,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like when I'm fine and the city it's not

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<v Speaker 1>a job for nothing. When I'm finally taking it, it's like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>does this feel good for him? And then apparently there's

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<v Speaker 1>a grinding thing that a lot of females do when

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<v Speaker 1>they're on dicks that don't feel good for me about that, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>we don't love because the it's supposed to be a stroke,

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<v Speaker 1>just like how he strokes you, So the vagina is

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to slide on and off the dick. And if

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<v Speaker 1>you're just sitting there grinding, if he's deep and you're

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<v Speaker 1>grinding and there's still some like movement in there, like

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<v Speaker 1>a little swirl, it could feel good. But for the

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<v Speaker 1>most part though, because most women are just sitting there

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<v Speaker 1>scooting school in their clips on his tail best and

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<v Speaker 1>he's like person. But I feel like, I mean, we

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<v Speaker 1>do enough, look and I could, like you could take some.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like there's so much pressure put on people

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<v Speaker 1>in general for what is supposed to be done. But really,

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<v Speaker 1>if you never want to ride dick ever in your life,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have to listen for the three years, right,

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<v Speaker 1>exactly three and you can't believe all you do well

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<v Speaker 1>God damn, but I mean I haven't asked. That's why

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<v Speaker 1>they like to behind me. I was gonna say, when

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<v Speaker 1>you have asked, don't matter however, being on the skin,

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<v Speaker 1>your side, my hands, and yeah, you're doing when you

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<v Speaker 1>had when you are a thick girl. Like there are

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<v Speaker 1>things that can substitute for riding on top, because for

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<v Speaker 1>most guys, if you're thinking you get on top, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a wrap there. Like I want to have controls and

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<v Speaker 1>then get behind you. But even then, like you can't

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<v Speaker 1>even really throw it back that much because if you

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<v Speaker 1>start throwing it back, depending on the guy, he'd be

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<v Speaker 1>like whoa, whoa too much? Okay, then I'll just can't back. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I this was I appreciate that we were riding dick. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess intro that we just had. We normally start

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<v Speaker 1>with icebreakers, and I did want to get into these

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<v Speaker 1>icebreakers because they kind of I picked them because they

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<v Speaker 1>kind of relate to what you do as well. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so the first one is gonna get into kind of

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<v Speaker 1>what you do. Um, so it's would you rather be

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<v Speaker 1>able to speak every language and lose the ability to

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<v Speaker 1>write or write in every language and lose the ability

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<v Speaker 1>to speak. And I know you do you speak second, right,

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<v Speaker 1>So you would rather lose the ability to write. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you would rather write in every language and lose the

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<v Speaker 1>ability to speak. So you're better with your writing than speaking,

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<v Speaker 1>great with both. But like writing is so therapeuty for me,

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<v Speaker 1>I would just say about to be a mute and

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<v Speaker 1>just be able to Yeah, I love our love writing.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean most of my career is writing. Like I

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<v Speaker 1>run a blog, I write for cashious life. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it's gonna be a lot harder to have

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<v Speaker 1>a job if you can't write. Then if you could

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<v Speaker 1>just yeah, because like literally for the government, most of

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<v Speaker 1>my jobs exactly unless you dictate it. I mean you

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<v Speaker 1>can just put on the microphone and then okay, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So here's the second one. Would you rather increase your

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<v Speaker 1>level of sexual romance or your sexual experimentation? Um, sexual sperimentation?

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<v Speaker 1>So you would rather increase that because I think we're

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<v Speaker 1>all the things personal though maybe she's already got such

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<v Speaker 1>a good romance level, like going on, Yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>romance is really what you make it, and everybody gives

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<v Speaker 1>romance all the meaning it has, Like giving flowers could

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<v Speaker 1>be romantic to some people but not to others, Like

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<v Speaker 1>some women women might not think that, you know, receiving

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<v Speaker 1>flowers is romantic. So I would rather experiment with sex

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<v Speaker 1>over you know, the whole romantic with you being a

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<v Speaker 1>sex educator and helping people through the bedroom, is there

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<v Speaker 1>anything left for you to experience a people? There's a

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<v Speaker 1>whole They ask us that a lot, a lot, especially

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<v Speaker 1>if you go on to B D S, M and kink.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what are your top two things that just came

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<v Speaker 1>in your head with kink of things you haven't tried

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<v Speaker 1>that you want to, Um, maybe like sex on a

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<v Speaker 1>roller coaster, just that possible though it is possible to

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<v Speaker 1>think about it sexy. Oh you know the whole like

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<v Speaker 1>th real seeking thing and my exhibition is too so

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<v Speaker 1>okay um, and then like I just want to have

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<v Speaker 1>a big orgy. I mean I've had one before, but

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<v Speaker 1>like how many people were in the one that you've had? Um,

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<v Speaker 1>it was like four guys and it was three girls.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was kind of just like doing my thing

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<v Speaker 1>with one, so I wasn't involved with everybody, So it

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<v Speaker 1>was just like everybody having sex at the same time

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<v Speaker 1>in the same place kind of a thing. Was this

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<v Speaker 1>a front thing or was this a swinger sex club?

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<v Speaker 1>It was like we were in Vegas and no more

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<v Speaker 1>we get it. Yeah your vagina Vegas. Yeah. So would

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<v Speaker 1>you rather have amazing sex the last forty seven seconds

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<v Speaker 1>or average sex for ten minutes? Both of those are

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<v Speaker 1>whacked Well, yeah, amazing for one minute, almost amazing sex

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<v Speaker 1>with me just hitting my A spot repeatedly, So I'll

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<v Speaker 1>take that, and you know that's the kink. We're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get into what the A A spot is and then a

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<v Speaker 1>little big guys, would you rather be a set slave

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<v Speaker 1>for a month or we're a chastity device and not

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<v Speaker 1>be able to have sex or math device? Because sex

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<v Speaker 1>slave that ship could get crazy, Like you know what's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of fantasize fetisize that or I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what to say, but that's kind of that's kind of

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<v Speaker 1>one thing I would I would know, I would like

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<v Speaker 1>to kind of be a sex slave or like a

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<v Speaker 1>weekend because somebody has you literally have no right saying

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<v Speaker 1>when I say something, no, no, you have I would

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<v Speaker 1>like to be a sex slave, so you have no right,

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<v Speaker 1>so like right so just think about it for a second,

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<v Speaker 1>a black guy, because if you are a black guy,

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<v Speaker 1>black straight, Okay, are you thinking submission or do you

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<v Speaker 1>know what a sex slave entails. A sex slave entails

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<v Speaker 1>you doing whatever the guy wants sexually, right, So you

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<v Speaker 1>got to think about this. You have to ask if

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<v Speaker 1>you want to stand up listen, Oh, that's that, But

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<v Speaker 1>it's beyond that, Like there are some guys who are

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<v Speaker 1>into like pissing on you, shooting on you, beating you

0:22:56.720 --> 0:22:59.840
<v Speaker 1>in the face. You can have hard limits, you know, right,

0:23:00.040 --> 0:23:03.800
<v Speaker 1>So if you're a sex slave and you're like, okay, um,

0:23:03.880 --> 0:23:06.120
<v Speaker 1>you're agreeing to it, and you're like, whatever I want

0:23:06.160 --> 0:23:08.800
<v Speaker 1>to do, let's limit that to a sex slave with

0:23:08.840 --> 0:23:11.840
<v Speaker 1>the niggas, I know they don't even wanted to do,

0:23:11.880 --> 0:23:13.919
<v Speaker 1>no ship more than what I want to do being submissive.

0:23:13.960 --> 0:23:19.720
<v Speaker 1>Though that's not really like a sex slave, like people say,

0:23:19.960 --> 0:23:21.560
<v Speaker 1>think of fifty Shades of Grade when she had to

0:23:21.600 --> 0:23:23.560
<v Speaker 1>sign all that stuff, even though it's a very vanilla

0:23:23.600 --> 0:23:27.040
<v Speaker 1>movie to something, that's the best example of what it means.

0:23:27.040 --> 0:23:30.120
<v Speaker 1>You say, sex slave is all bets are off. It's

0:23:30.119 --> 0:23:33.679
<v Speaker 1>whatever that person wants you to do unless you do

0:23:33.760 --> 0:23:36.960
<v Speaker 1>sign some kind of contract before. But if there's no contract,

0:23:37.000 --> 0:23:40.639
<v Speaker 1>it's like you're just submitting to whatever. And when you

0:23:40.800 --> 0:23:44.960
<v Speaker 1>when you give them that permission, something switches, like because

0:23:45.040 --> 0:23:47.399
<v Speaker 1>once they know you don't have any limits, anything can

0:23:47.440 --> 0:23:50.200
<v Speaker 1>be done. You don't know what the topped the last

0:23:50.240 --> 0:23:51.560
<v Speaker 1>thing you did? I did it for like an hour

0:23:51.600 --> 0:23:55.400
<v Speaker 1>and it was too much. Okay, well it's so crazy y'all.

0:23:55.440 --> 0:23:57.679
<v Speaker 1>Still haven't um wean me off of not wanting to

0:23:57.680 --> 0:23:59.840
<v Speaker 1>be a sex slave. Oh, you can do whatever you want.

0:23:59.880 --> 0:24:02.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying, just be ready for whatever, you know,

0:24:02.359 --> 0:24:05.919
<v Speaker 1>and i'd be telling this whatever, So it makes sense.

0:24:08.800 --> 0:24:11.439
<v Speaker 1>So the last question is would you rather not be

0:24:11.560 --> 0:24:13.920
<v Speaker 1>able to see during sex or not be able to

0:24:13.760 --> 0:24:18.320
<v Speaker 1>touch during sex? See? Because I get blindfolded anyway? Oh yes,

0:24:18.520 --> 0:24:23.600
<v Speaker 1>blind really good? Really, I won't get blindfolded again. I

0:24:23.640 --> 0:24:27.240
<v Speaker 1>got blindfolded, took his condom off, surprising me. When he

0:24:27.280 --> 0:24:30.359
<v Speaker 1>took before he took the blindfold off, he was like

0:24:30.520 --> 0:24:33.960
<v Speaker 1>up here, felt mad at me. That's bad. Yeah, so

0:24:34.000 --> 0:24:35.800
<v Speaker 1>we actually talked about that too, But that's why I

0:24:35.800 --> 0:24:40.800
<v Speaker 1>was like, I have kind of PTSD now from being held,

0:24:41.280 --> 0:24:42.719
<v Speaker 1>so I don't want the blindfold. I had a very

0:24:42.720 --> 0:24:44.600
<v Speaker 1>bad and a very good experience. My worst one was

0:24:44.640 --> 0:24:47.639
<v Speaker 1>our first episode the Missing Condom. This guy like really

0:24:47.680 --> 0:24:50.200
<v Speaker 1>tried because he felt like I was just too sexually advanced,

0:24:50.560 --> 0:24:52.800
<v Speaker 1>and he just he blindfolded me right out into the

0:24:52.800 --> 0:24:56.360
<v Speaker 1>shower and he's like, meet me in the bedroom. I'm

0:24:56.400 --> 0:24:59.560
<v Speaker 1>like where that sounds bad already now. The best one

0:24:59.600 --> 0:25:01.600
<v Speaker 1>I've ever had was my first time having sex with

0:25:01.600 --> 0:25:03.280
<v Speaker 1>someone I had known for months, so I felt comfortable

0:25:03.359 --> 0:25:07.280
<v Speaker 1>enough to do this and he, uh, he told me

0:25:07.359 --> 0:25:10.840
<v Speaker 1>to stand, I mean, be on my knees, turned away

0:25:10.840 --> 0:25:13.119
<v Speaker 1>from my front door, and when he came in, he

0:25:13.320 --> 0:25:15.760
<v Speaker 1>blindfolded me, didn't take it off until he was inside

0:25:15.760 --> 0:25:18.359
<v Speaker 1>of me. It was like forty five minutes of four plane.

0:25:18.359 --> 0:25:19.320
<v Speaker 1>I was like, when do I get to see you?

0:25:19.359 --> 0:25:24.520
<v Speaker 1>And I was touching his face. It's everything got more intense. Like, yeah,

0:25:25.200 --> 0:25:27.520
<v Speaker 1>I've actually wanted to ask well her boyfriend a few times,

0:25:27.560 --> 0:25:28.960
<v Speaker 1>but I feel like he's gonna be like asking to

0:25:29.000 --> 0:25:32.760
<v Speaker 1>do what another niggaid, can't you He listened to the

0:25:32.760 --> 0:25:38.840
<v Speaker 1>shows blin him exactly what she wants to do, the

0:25:38.880 --> 0:25:41.480
<v Speaker 1>exact same thing that she did. Yeah, he could do

0:25:41.520 --> 0:25:43.760
<v Speaker 1>it better. I mean, look, no matter what the sex

0:25:43.800 --> 0:25:47.080
<v Speaker 1>act is, it's not like just reserve for one person

0:25:47.240 --> 0:25:48.520
<v Speaker 1>because it's like, hey, it was great, but I want

0:25:48.520 --> 0:25:50.280
<v Speaker 1>to do with you. It's not like you never know

0:25:50.600 --> 0:25:59.000
<v Speaker 1>if at that point, come on, all right, well, I'm

0:25:59.040 --> 0:26:01.120
<v Speaker 1>so glad you brought it up because I don't even

0:26:01.119 --> 0:26:02.480
<v Speaker 1>think I told you he was gonna mention this. I

0:26:02.480 --> 0:26:04.560
<v Speaker 1>can't remember if I sent you this or not. But

0:26:05.000 --> 0:26:07.280
<v Speaker 1>the A spot, So you did a blog on it.

0:26:07.400 --> 0:26:10.000
<v Speaker 1>You talked a lot about this A spot, and all

0:26:10.040 --> 0:26:12.480
<v Speaker 1>I know is about the G spot so and the

0:26:12.480 --> 0:26:15.400
<v Speaker 1>P spot that's the prostate one for men um. So

0:26:15.600 --> 0:26:18.680
<v Speaker 1>I want to know what this A spot is. Um,

0:26:18.760 --> 0:26:20.720
<v Speaker 1>Can you give us maybe a definition and let our

0:26:20.720 --> 0:26:22.800
<v Speaker 1>listeners know how they can reach this if maybe they

0:26:22.800 --> 0:26:24.280
<v Speaker 1>haven't been able to find the G spot and this

0:26:24.320 --> 0:26:26.840
<v Speaker 1>is another way for them to reach orgasm. Yeah, the

0:26:26.920 --> 0:26:31.159
<v Speaker 1>A spot is actually deeper within the vagina, so yeah,

0:26:31.280 --> 0:26:34.840
<v Speaker 1>the G spot is only two inches within the vagina,

0:26:35.240 --> 0:26:40.359
<v Speaker 1>right on the front of the wall. Like all right, okay,

0:26:40.840 --> 0:26:42.879
<v Speaker 1>we get that, but not everyone is like comfortable with

0:26:42.920 --> 0:26:46.200
<v Speaker 1>G spot simulation. I know I'm not, Okay, shout out

0:26:46.240 --> 0:26:48.320
<v Speaker 1>to you. I don't like it. So I feel like

0:26:48.359 --> 0:26:50.080
<v Speaker 1>it's like I feel like the pulling and then I

0:26:50.119 --> 0:26:53.879
<v Speaker 1>think about nails and I'm on the outside here because

0:26:54.920 --> 0:26:57.720
<v Speaker 1>I like, I can't heard about it everyone who's different,

0:26:57.800 --> 0:26:59.960
<v Speaker 1>like I just I really just don't like to feel.

0:27:00.240 --> 0:27:03.320
<v Speaker 1>But the hay spot though it's deeper, it's on the

0:27:03.320 --> 0:27:05.760
<v Speaker 1>front wall of the vagina as well. It's up near

0:27:05.800 --> 0:27:09.080
<v Speaker 1>the cervix and when it's stroke, of course, it's in

0:27:09.119 --> 0:27:11.440
<v Speaker 1>a rogeni zone. So when it's stroke it creates like

0:27:11.560 --> 0:27:16.919
<v Speaker 1>these really guscy like waves of orgasms and the vagina

0:27:17.000 --> 0:27:21.160
<v Speaker 1>just gets extremely moist, and you probably did, but it's

0:27:21.240 --> 0:27:24.959
<v Speaker 1>it's with deep penetration and it gets pretty up there.

0:27:24.960 --> 0:27:27.280
<v Speaker 1>It's kind of big, yep, as long as you are

0:27:27.400 --> 0:27:30.840
<v Speaker 1>aiming towards the front of the vagina, so like towards

0:27:30.880 --> 0:27:33.520
<v Speaker 1>the belly button, you'll find it there. And can it

0:27:33.600 --> 0:27:36.520
<v Speaker 1>be like now do Morris men that are listening, can

0:27:36.560 --> 0:27:39.359
<v Speaker 1>they do this with their hands or with they can

0:27:39.359 --> 0:27:41.040
<v Speaker 1>do it with their hands and their penises, you know,

0:27:41.160 --> 0:27:43.920
<v Speaker 1>so a hand can reach far enough because the vagina

0:27:43.960 --> 0:27:46.000
<v Speaker 1>is only about five and I don't get to your

0:27:46.040 --> 0:27:50.439
<v Speaker 1>service of course, right, So you had one he got

0:27:50.520 --> 0:27:53.920
<v Speaker 1>right up in the it's probably where it's stock. So yeah,

0:27:54.080 --> 0:27:56.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean it's a spot that people don't really know about,

0:27:56.600 --> 0:27:58.639
<v Speaker 1>but they've probably felt it because men can feel it

0:27:58.640 --> 0:28:01.760
<v Speaker 1>to like when they hit it, it feels like kind

0:28:01.800 --> 0:28:05.760
<v Speaker 1>of slippery. Okay, okay, so once they hit that spot,

0:28:06.200 --> 0:28:08.919
<v Speaker 1>you both like simultaneously will go, oh my god, what

0:28:09.080 --> 0:28:11.520
<v Speaker 1>is that? You know, because it's just it feels really good,

0:28:11.800 --> 0:28:15.880
<v Speaker 1>and as it's repeatedly stroked, it's like the orgasms. They're

0:28:15.880 --> 0:28:18.919
<v Speaker 1>not like super hard legs shaking orgasms, but they feel

0:28:19.000 --> 0:28:21.359
<v Speaker 1>like they radiate from your pelvis and just kind of

0:28:21.359 --> 0:28:24.879
<v Speaker 1>go throughout your body and you just become waste and

0:28:24.920 --> 0:28:27.399
<v Speaker 1>they just come back to back to back. It's I

0:28:27.440 --> 0:28:29.440
<v Speaker 1>have a question that has been brought up a lot.

0:28:29.760 --> 0:28:34.439
<v Speaker 1>We had a doctor on the debunked um the squirting. Okay,

0:28:37.400 --> 0:28:40.160
<v Speaker 1>so like can we talk about like the fluid because

0:28:40.160 --> 0:28:43.320
<v Speaker 1>you're mentioning like cushiness and stuff like that, Like how

0:28:43.400 --> 0:28:46.520
<v Speaker 1>is this secretion happening during squirting? What spot is it from?

0:28:46.560 --> 0:28:48.600
<v Speaker 1>And is it mixed with some p in it? Because

0:28:49.040 --> 0:28:52.360
<v Speaker 1>a lot of people are nervous about her face. Well

0:28:52.360 --> 0:28:57.240
<v Speaker 1>know a lot of people are nervous that they're yeah, yeah,

0:28:57.280 --> 0:28:59.280
<v Speaker 1>of course you're nervous that you're gonna pe on somebody

0:28:59.320 --> 0:29:01.520
<v Speaker 1>because it's coming from the same hole that you pee from,

0:29:02.600 --> 0:29:05.800
<v Speaker 1>it from your eurethra. But the source of squirting is

0:29:05.840 --> 0:29:08.920
<v Speaker 1>not from the bladder. It's from the skins gland, which

0:29:08.960 --> 0:29:11.960
<v Speaker 1>is literally the same as the male prostate. It's just

0:29:12.000 --> 0:29:14.880
<v Speaker 1>shrunken down and it sits right near the opening of

0:29:14.920 --> 0:29:17.440
<v Speaker 1>the urethra. But now when we watch in porn, how

0:29:17.480 --> 0:29:19.480
<v Speaker 1>these girls are like shooting out? And I've heard from

0:29:19.480 --> 0:29:22.040
<v Speaker 1>a porn star to be nameless, but she said that

0:29:22.080 --> 0:29:24.520
<v Speaker 1>people that were doing squirting sings for drinking mad water before.

0:29:25.280 --> 0:29:27.520
<v Speaker 1>And yeah, you have to like my when when I

0:29:27.600 --> 0:29:29.960
<v Speaker 1>when the guy who likes to be piste on, when

0:29:30.000 --> 0:29:33.080
<v Speaker 1>he has me squirt, he wants me either drunk or

0:29:33.360 --> 0:29:37.360
<v Speaker 1>he'll drink, but you on. So that's what I'm saying, Like,

0:29:37.680 --> 0:29:40.080
<v Speaker 1>what we're watching on film is that real? Are these

0:29:40.080 --> 0:29:43.479
<v Speaker 1>girls pein? No, the average woman in porn is peeing,

0:29:43.920 --> 0:29:48.640
<v Speaker 1>she's just drinking. So when it really irritates me when

0:29:48.640 --> 0:29:51.120
<v Speaker 1>guys are like mad pressed to try to make their

0:29:51.120 --> 0:29:53.640
<v Speaker 1>women squirt, and I'm like, hey, you don't even understand

0:29:53.680 --> 0:29:56.640
<v Speaker 1>that what you're seeing in porn is unrealistic because it

0:29:56.920 --> 0:30:01.080
<v Speaker 1>is forced and it is um exaggerate. It The average

0:30:01.080 --> 0:30:03.680
<v Speaker 1>woman can squirt anywhere from a few drops to like

0:30:03.960 --> 0:30:07.240
<v Speaker 1>maybe a half a pint or more, depending on like

0:30:07.760 --> 0:30:10.680
<v Speaker 1>her body and stuff and also her hydration levels. But

0:30:10.760 --> 0:30:13.800
<v Speaker 1>the fluid is not P. Now, can a woman make

0:30:13.880 --> 0:30:16.560
<v Speaker 1>a mistake and it's not not even really mistake, is

0:30:16.680 --> 0:30:18.320
<v Speaker 1>just what happens to your body. Can a woman like

0:30:18.400 --> 0:30:21.720
<v Speaker 1>P during sex? Yeah, she can. It's called incontinence, you know,

0:30:21.800 --> 0:30:23.440
<v Speaker 1>especially if you're a woman that has had a child

0:30:23.520 --> 0:30:25.880
<v Speaker 1>or two and you know your bladder is kind of weak.

0:30:26.280 --> 0:30:30.880
<v Speaker 1>But um, squirting legit is just as a clear fluid.

0:30:31.200 --> 0:30:38.000
<v Speaker 1>It's like similar to the fluid that mixes with sperm. Yep,

0:30:38.120 --> 0:30:41.240
<v Speaker 1>It's just it's watery and like if you taste it,

0:30:41.240 --> 0:30:44.040
<v Speaker 1>it's kind of sweet. It doesn't have a smell. It's warm,

0:30:44.160 --> 0:30:47.320
<v Speaker 1>of course, Um can droplets of P being that? Yeah, sure,

0:30:47.360 --> 0:30:50.160
<v Speaker 1>it's coming from the urethra, you know what I mean. Um,

0:30:50.200 --> 0:30:52.240
<v Speaker 1>But if a woman doesn't squirt it out, then it

0:30:52.280 --> 0:30:54.680
<v Speaker 1>just goes back into the bladder and then you pee

0:30:54.720 --> 0:30:56.880
<v Speaker 1>it out when you go and use the bathroom after

0:30:56.920 --> 0:30:59.160
<v Speaker 1>you have sex. So I guess basically what you did

0:30:59.280 --> 0:31:02.520
<v Speaker 1>just say for for our listeners, there is a difference

0:31:02.880 --> 0:31:05.280
<v Speaker 1>between making a girl squirt and making a girl piss

0:31:05.800 --> 0:31:09.840
<v Speaker 1>And because guess what, the bladder is right there next

0:31:09.880 --> 0:31:12.560
<v Speaker 1>to all the other organs that are being stimulated when

0:31:12.600 --> 0:31:16.720
<v Speaker 1>you're having sex. So if she has not um used

0:31:16.720 --> 0:31:20.280
<v Speaker 1>the bathroom before sex, if you're going harder, you're in

0:31:20.360 --> 0:31:22.760
<v Speaker 1>a certain position, you can be hitting the bladder to

0:31:22.880 --> 0:31:25.400
<v Speaker 1>where she feels like, oh my god, I gotta pete,

0:31:25.480 --> 0:31:28.400
<v Speaker 1>and she may just pete and that can happen. But listen,

0:31:28.520 --> 0:31:31.040
<v Speaker 1>so like the squirting on demand that people are seeing, right,

0:31:31.080 --> 0:31:35.640
<v Speaker 1>because squirting on demand from porn that that's bullshit, that's bullshit.

0:31:35.800 --> 0:31:38.400
<v Speaker 1>And can you squirt when the A spot is stimulated?

0:31:38.440 --> 0:31:40.840
<v Speaker 1>Only the Yeah, you can square when the A spot

0:31:40.920 --> 0:31:44.040
<v Speaker 1>is stimulated, And like more women are going up, more

0:31:44.120 --> 0:31:48.720
<v Speaker 1>women I think squirt from like clatoral simulations then penetration.

0:31:49.040 --> 0:31:51.960
<v Speaker 1>But the time I've definitely squired it from penetration and

0:31:52.000 --> 0:31:54.840
<v Speaker 1>it was involuntary. I wasn't trying to do it. It

0:31:55.000 --> 0:31:57.840
<v Speaker 1>just happened, you know what I mean. So, but there

0:31:57.880 --> 0:32:00.280
<v Speaker 1>are women out there they can squirt on command. When

0:32:00.320 --> 0:32:03.720
<v Speaker 1>you have control over your pelvic muscles, you can do that.

0:32:03.960 --> 0:32:07.000
<v Speaker 1>You know a lot of control. It is it is

0:32:08.680 --> 0:32:11.959
<v Speaker 1>muscles that I can grip helvic muscles. Well it, that's

0:32:12.000 --> 0:32:15.520
<v Speaker 1>the same thing. I mean. Now, can I think another

0:32:15.600 --> 0:32:19.120
<v Speaker 1>question um their listeners may have is can every woman squirt?

0:32:19.720 --> 0:32:22.000
<v Speaker 1>Does every woman have the ability to do it? Sure?

0:32:22.400 --> 0:32:25.160
<v Speaker 1>Like every woman unless you have some type of magmatical condition,

0:32:25.200 --> 0:32:27.520
<v Speaker 1>has the same anatomy. But it's every woman going to

0:32:27.600 --> 0:32:30.080
<v Speaker 1>do it in her lifetime. No, because it takes a

0:32:30.160 --> 0:32:33.880
<v Speaker 1>certain level of knowledge and comfort and stimulation in order

0:32:33.880 --> 0:32:36.080
<v Speaker 1>for it to happen. And when men are like going

0:32:36.160 --> 0:32:38.480
<v Speaker 1>all hard and trying to force it to happen, like,

0:32:39.040 --> 0:32:41.600
<v Speaker 1>that's when it doesn't happen the most because you're chasing

0:32:41.600 --> 0:32:44.520
<v Speaker 1>it away when you create anxiety. Anxiety and stress are

0:32:44.600 --> 0:32:48.880
<v Speaker 1>like two of the top libido killers, so you're like

0:32:48.920 --> 0:32:50.680
<v Speaker 1>pressure on her, Come on, baby squat. For me, it's like,

0:32:50.720 --> 0:32:52.560
<v Speaker 1>I understand you want to be encouraging, but right now

0:32:52.600 --> 0:32:58.160
<v Speaker 1>it's not a happen I was reading something that said,

0:32:58.360 --> 0:33:02.120
<v Speaker 1>um of women have tried to square it for the

0:33:02.160 --> 0:33:05.720
<v Speaker 1>first time. Uh, we're like pressured into it and didn't

0:33:05.720 --> 0:33:09.120
<v Speaker 1>feel like it was natural. And that's almost half of

0:33:09.160 --> 0:33:11.959
<v Speaker 1>every time. It's funny that so many men want to

0:33:12.840 --> 0:33:15.040
<v Speaker 1>feel and make a woman squirt more than I even

0:33:15.080 --> 0:33:18.920
<v Speaker 1>hear women want to see why I'm listening. Yeah, it's

0:33:18.960 --> 0:33:20.719
<v Speaker 1>a part of it. It's part of the ego because

0:33:20.800 --> 0:33:24.720
<v Speaker 1>men um think about sex very externally. They think about

0:33:24.760 --> 0:33:28.720
<v Speaker 1>sexual response very externally because of house, they respond to

0:33:28.760 --> 0:33:31.840
<v Speaker 1>sexual stimuli, so you know, when they have an orgasm,

0:33:31.880 --> 0:33:34.760
<v Speaker 1>they're used to seeing semen coming out of their penises.

0:33:35.200 --> 0:33:39.320
<v Speaker 1>For us, we are internalized, so when we have orgasms,

0:33:39.320 --> 0:33:42.200
<v Speaker 1>everything's happening within us, but you don't see anything. So

0:33:42.320 --> 0:33:44.880
<v Speaker 1>for them, it's like the ultimate achievement. If I made

0:33:44.880 --> 0:33:47.600
<v Speaker 1>her squirt, I know that I did a good job man,

0:33:48.560 --> 0:33:53.240
<v Speaker 1>And it's like not necessarily, bro, I can still have

0:33:53.320 --> 0:33:56.640
<v Speaker 1>a great time and feel amazing without squirt and apparently

0:33:57.800 --> 0:33:59.680
<v Speaker 1>not her excuse me when I was reading that squirting

0:33:59.720 --> 0:34:03.000
<v Speaker 1>each time, it's not always an orgasm. It's not because sometimes,

0:34:03.080 --> 0:34:05.760
<v Speaker 1>like literally, a squirt will happen without you even having

0:34:05.760 --> 0:34:09.360
<v Speaker 1>an orgasm. It's just it's being stimulated, it wants to

0:34:09.360 --> 0:34:12.520
<v Speaker 1>come out. You let it flow, you know. Sometimes in

0:34:12.600 --> 0:34:16.560
<v Speaker 1>the company's an orgasm. Sometimes it doesn't. So just because

0:34:16.920 --> 0:34:19.319
<v Speaker 1>you make her squirt does not mean you're doing a

0:34:19.480 --> 0:34:22.120
<v Speaker 1>good job at being a lover. You know, just her

0:34:22.160 --> 0:34:24.480
<v Speaker 1>body responding and I know this wasn't part of it.

0:34:24.680 --> 0:34:26.719
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I feel like people really had a

0:34:26.719 --> 0:34:30.240
<v Speaker 1>lot of questions. It's like one of the most asked questions,

0:34:30.239 --> 0:34:32.040
<v Speaker 1>and it's so annoying to me because I'm like, man,

0:34:32.360 --> 0:34:34.279
<v Speaker 1>can you learn how to do fourplay first before you

0:34:34.280 --> 0:34:40.520
<v Speaker 1>try to Frustrated, she was like, look like it's real,

0:34:40.600 --> 0:34:43.240
<v Speaker 1>but it's not what you're seeing on TV. Like stop

0:34:43.320 --> 0:34:46.880
<v Speaker 1>this like facade of Like there's definitely, yeah, there's definitely.

0:34:47.400 --> 0:34:51.040
<v Speaker 1>So with looking into UM what you do and even

0:34:51.080 --> 0:34:53.520
<v Speaker 1>reading how you met your husband and reading that story,

0:34:53.560 --> 0:34:57.200
<v Speaker 1>I was just like, she's perfect. So we do a

0:34:57.239 --> 0:35:00.920
<v Speaker 1>lot of talk about couples in relationships. You're kind of

0:35:00.920 --> 0:35:03.160
<v Speaker 1>an expert at that UM and so when I looked

0:35:03.160 --> 0:35:06.040
<v Speaker 1>at UM, something that you practice right now with your

0:35:06.080 --> 0:35:09.640
<v Speaker 1>husband is free love. Before we get into that UM,

0:35:09.680 --> 0:35:11.640
<v Speaker 1>I kind of wanted to go down because I saw

0:35:11.680 --> 0:35:15.719
<v Speaker 1>you list all of these UM types of dating UM titles.

0:35:15.760 --> 0:35:18.120
<v Speaker 1>I guess that you could have the labels, and I know,

0:35:18.160 --> 0:35:21.200
<v Speaker 1>I kind of there's so many, but I actually didn't

0:35:21.239 --> 0:35:22.600
<v Speaker 1>know like three of them. So I want to go

0:35:22.680 --> 0:35:25.680
<v Speaker 1>through with our listeners because UM, we have a lot

0:35:25.719 --> 0:35:27.920
<v Speaker 1>of listeners right now who are trying to find. I

0:35:27.960 --> 0:35:31.360
<v Speaker 1>don't know non binary, triads, quads, solo, poly like. So

0:35:32.600 --> 0:35:34.920
<v Speaker 1>I just saw these quick lists on your right up

0:35:34.920 --> 0:35:36.399
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, Okay, well, maybe I can get

0:35:36.400 --> 0:35:39.520
<v Speaker 1>a definition because maybe there's people out here who want

0:35:39.520 --> 0:35:42.319
<v Speaker 1>to certain relationship and don't know how to address it

0:35:42.400 --> 0:35:44.439
<v Speaker 1>or don't know what other partner to look for who

0:35:45.080 --> 0:35:48.120
<v Speaker 1>aligned with this, So let's I guess start with the

0:35:48.160 --> 0:35:50.960
<v Speaker 1>one that is sort of um easy. It's funny because

0:35:50.960 --> 0:35:54.160
<v Speaker 1>me and Weezy just spoke about this. Non monogamous entering

0:35:54.160 --> 0:35:57.439
<v Speaker 1>a non monogamous relationship with someone means what. So non

0:35:57.480 --> 0:36:03.000
<v Speaker 1>monogamous is like basically an umbrella. Non monogamy will basically

0:36:03.080 --> 0:36:07.040
<v Speaker 1>categorize everything else we're seeing here. So it's like the umbrella.

0:36:07.080 --> 0:36:11.720
<v Speaker 1>It means that you are not with just one person,

0:36:11.840 --> 0:36:14.879
<v Speaker 1>whether that be socially meaning living together and all that,

0:36:15.239 --> 0:36:19.240
<v Speaker 1>or sexually meaning solo just with sex with one person. Okay,

0:36:19.239 --> 0:36:21.560
<v Speaker 1>So polyamorous, we've talked about this, Do you want to

0:36:21.600 --> 0:36:23.400
<v Speaker 1>give that one real quick? We don't stay on that one.

0:36:23.640 --> 0:36:28.240
<v Speaker 1>Polyamory is basically having a relationship with other people where

0:36:28.280 --> 0:36:31.759
<v Speaker 1>everyone involved knows what's going on and everyone has to

0:36:31.760 --> 0:36:34.480
<v Speaker 1>consent of everyone involved too for all this stuff to

0:36:34.480 --> 0:36:37.799
<v Speaker 1>go down. And it's not just about sex. It's also

0:36:38.120 --> 0:36:40.760
<v Speaker 1>romantic partners as well. And most of the time people

0:36:40.800 --> 0:36:44.080
<v Speaker 1>have like a primary partner and then everyone else outside

0:36:44.080 --> 0:36:48.200
<v Speaker 1>the primary partner is considered a paramore. A paramore, Okay,

0:36:48.239 --> 0:36:52.920
<v Speaker 1>I've never heard of that one. It's it's a lot,

0:36:53.040 --> 0:36:55.240
<v Speaker 1>it's a lot. It's a lot, And so that's poly

0:36:55.520 --> 0:36:58.000
<v Speaker 1>What does a solo poly? So, solo Polly is a

0:36:58.000 --> 0:37:00.600
<v Speaker 1>person who doesn't have a primary partner and they choose

0:37:00.680 --> 0:37:03.239
<v Speaker 1>not to take on a relationship that takes on the

0:37:03.280 --> 0:37:08.640
<v Speaker 1>form of a traditional relationship. Unicorn, I mean, I guess

0:37:08.640 --> 0:37:11.319
<v Speaker 1>if you want to call it that, the unicorn is polyamorous,

0:37:11.360 --> 0:37:14.480
<v Speaker 1>because unicorn could just be somebody that's guest starring. Really right, Yeah,

0:37:14.520 --> 0:37:17.680
<v Speaker 1>So this person, you know, they hold down multiple romantic

0:37:17.719 --> 0:37:21.520
<v Speaker 1>and sexual relationships without having a primary partner and without

0:37:21.920 --> 0:37:25.280
<v Speaker 1>choosing to be in a relationship that looks like the typical.

0:37:25.520 --> 0:37:28.319
<v Speaker 1>Like you know, I'm dating this one person, you know,

0:37:28.360 --> 0:37:31.520
<v Speaker 1>like a typical So would that be like Milo Darling,

0:37:32.160 --> 0:37:37.279
<v Speaker 1>have you watched but she doesn't when correct me if

0:37:37.280 --> 0:37:40.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm wrong. Most everyone everyone about each other. Yeah, and

0:37:40.560 --> 0:37:46.880
<v Speaker 1>everyone doesn't know about each other, So she skipped a

0:37:46.880 --> 0:37:49.960
<v Speaker 1>little bit. But triads, I guess that's definitely what I had. Then,

0:37:50.160 --> 0:37:53.280
<v Speaker 1>a triad in the quad is basically a polyamorous relationship

0:37:53.320 --> 0:37:56.520
<v Speaker 1>with everybody lives together in the same household. So if

0:37:56.520 --> 0:37:59.120
<v Speaker 1>it's three is try's four as quad and that's under

0:37:59.160 --> 0:38:02.000
<v Speaker 1>the poly. But but in that sense, they're all dating

0:38:02.000 --> 0:38:06.200
<v Speaker 1>each other and can't have outside relationships. They're all one relationship,

0:38:06.280 --> 0:38:09.359
<v Speaker 1>like one big unit, living together, all contributing to each

0:38:09.400 --> 0:38:16.359
<v Speaker 1>other's financial wellness and all that stuff. So but it's like, um,

0:38:16.400 --> 0:38:19.680
<v Speaker 1>there could be a primary partner within that, but they're

0:38:19.719 --> 0:38:23.000
<v Speaker 1>all just together, Okay. And then swingers, Um, we've talked

0:38:23.000 --> 0:38:26.680
<v Speaker 1>to you guys. We we pretty much know what swinging is. Um,

0:38:26.760 --> 0:38:32.720
<v Speaker 1>So you don't practice any of these non binaries. Basically,

0:38:32.760 --> 0:38:35.040
<v Speaker 1>people who are in relationship that do not subscribe to

0:38:35.080 --> 0:38:39.200
<v Speaker 1>gender roles because talking about like a gender being, non

0:38:39.320 --> 0:38:45.400
<v Speaker 1>virus sexuality, yeah okay, not okay, not identifying with gender roles.

0:38:45.440 --> 0:38:48.560
<v Speaker 1>So of all of these labels, you say, throw all

0:38:48.560 --> 0:38:53.000
<v Speaker 1>them ships away. Um, they're okay, there's nothing wrong we're

0:38:53.000 --> 0:38:56.759
<v Speaker 1>practicing any of that. The main focus is are you

0:38:57.000 --> 0:38:59.920
<v Speaker 1>practicing love? Because a lot of people what they do

0:39:00.000 --> 0:39:05.080
<v Speaker 1>who is they get into these relationships, But they're still boundaries,

0:39:05.120 --> 0:39:08.120
<v Speaker 1>are still rules, they're still controlled, they're still jealousy, they're

0:39:08.120 --> 0:39:11.480
<v Speaker 1>still all these things that pop up because they're not

0:39:11.560 --> 0:39:14.480
<v Speaker 1>remembering the love in an end. Also, they don't have

0:39:14.480 --> 0:39:16.600
<v Speaker 1>a real purpose. But why they're even in this type

0:39:16.600 --> 0:39:21.120
<v Speaker 1>of relationship. It's like, okay, so you want to be polyamorous,

0:39:21.120 --> 0:39:23.040
<v Speaker 1>but what is your purpose? Is it just so that

0:39:23.080 --> 0:39:26.000
<v Speaker 1>you can fund other people? And that's it? Because if

0:39:26.040 --> 0:39:29.600
<v Speaker 1>that's if that's it, that's not going to go anywhere.

0:39:29.960 --> 0:39:32.319
<v Speaker 1>You know, having a purpose in your relationship is a

0:39:32.400 --> 0:39:35.760
<v Speaker 1>destination because it's a relationship a ship being a vehicle,

0:39:36.200 --> 0:39:38.399
<v Speaker 1>so it has to carry you somewhere. If you don't

0:39:38.440 --> 0:39:40.960
<v Speaker 1>have a purpose, then why are you even doing it? Right?

0:39:41.080 --> 0:39:43.400
<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean? Because for the polyamorous person

0:39:43.400 --> 0:39:46.440
<v Speaker 1>who has a binary part of a primary partner and

0:39:46.440 --> 0:39:48.640
<v Speaker 1>then you have all these other people, what is your

0:39:48.680 --> 0:39:51.960
<v Speaker 1>purpose for having all these other people? Is it just

0:39:52.080 --> 0:39:53.879
<v Speaker 1>so you can funk all the people? Because if that's

0:39:53.880 --> 0:39:57.399
<v Speaker 1>the case, why are you even having this title? Like

0:39:58.040 --> 0:40:01.239
<v Speaker 1>and so free love is different these and what it's

0:40:01.280 --> 0:40:05.600
<v Speaker 1>just I call it. I called it free love because

0:40:05.600 --> 0:40:09.960
<v Speaker 1>the Irish person won't understand that love in itself is free.

0:40:10.280 --> 0:40:12.680
<v Speaker 1>Love is freedom, So that for me to be able

0:40:12.719 --> 0:40:15.880
<v Speaker 1>to explain it to people where they understand is to

0:40:15.960 --> 0:40:18.759
<v Speaker 1>call it something, to give it a label, but really

0:40:18.760 --> 0:40:20.879
<v Speaker 1>it has no label. My husband and I love each other,

0:40:20.960 --> 0:40:23.799
<v Speaker 1>and we love everyone in our lives the same. Love

0:40:23.880 --> 0:40:27.120
<v Speaker 1>is freedom, and within that you know he's not. He

0:40:27.160 --> 0:40:29.520
<v Speaker 1>doesn't require for me to change and thing about myself.

0:40:29.600 --> 0:40:32.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't require for him to change anything. And we

0:40:32.120 --> 0:40:34.680
<v Speaker 1>have multiple partners in our lives, and that does not

0:40:34.719 --> 0:40:37.719
<v Speaker 1>mean that all of our partners are sexual partners. His

0:40:37.880 --> 0:40:41.320
<v Speaker 1>mother is a partner, My mother is my partner. His sisters,

0:40:41.360 --> 0:40:46.520
<v Speaker 1>his brothers, his business partners, his friends, these are all partners.

0:40:46.800 --> 0:40:49.200
<v Speaker 1>I got a question coming. So the love that we

0:40:49.560 --> 0:40:52.560
<v Speaker 1>that we practice is just love, and we don't. We

0:40:52.719 --> 0:40:57.360
<v Speaker 1>don't hold any restrictions on each other. I haven't, so cheating,

0:40:57.440 --> 0:41:00.000
<v Speaker 1>So cheating doesn't exist in your relationship. There's no way

0:41:00.080 --> 0:41:03.520
<v Speaker 1>that because he could cheat or you could cheat. The

0:41:03.560 --> 0:41:06.000
<v Speaker 1>only way that we can cheat is if in our

0:41:06.040 --> 0:41:08.640
<v Speaker 1>minds we forget who we are to each other, and

0:41:08.640 --> 0:41:10.680
<v Speaker 1>we forget that we're on the same team. It's not

0:41:10.760 --> 0:41:13.000
<v Speaker 1>about what we do or don't do with our bodies

0:41:13.040 --> 0:41:17.400
<v Speaker 1>because our bodies don't mean anything. We're spiritual beings having

0:41:17.560 --> 0:41:20.920
<v Speaker 1>a human experience. But when people get into relationships, they

0:41:20.920 --> 0:41:24.080
<v Speaker 1>believe they have dominion over the other person's body. Oh

0:41:24.239 --> 0:41:27.600
<v Speaker 1>you're mine now, so you're not allowed to go and

0:41:27.760 --> 0:41:30.839
<v Speaker 1>have sex with someone else. But love says you're free

0:41:30.880 --> 0:41:32.640
<v Speaker 1>to do what you wanna do and don't do what

0:41:32.680 --> 0:41:35.720
<v Speaker 1>you don't want to do. So for me to say, hey, Naim,

0:41:35.760 --> 0:41:38.120
<v Speaker 1>you can't go share your dick with anyone else because

0:41:38.160 --> 0:41:41.279
<v Speaker 1>I own you, that's not love. That's not love, that's

0:41:41.360 --> 0:41:43.960
<v Speaker 1>that's me being in my ego. He's free to do

0:41:44.000 --> 0:41:47.080
<v Speaker 1>whatever he wants to do, and he chooses to be

0:41:47.160 --> 0:41:50.840
<v Speaker 1>with me. Likewise, do I choose to be with him?

0:41:50.880 --> 0:41:56.080
<v Speaker 1>So our definition of cheating is if in my mind,

0:41:56.080 --> 0:41:59.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, Naim is a fucked up person like my

0:41:59.680 --> 0:42:01.960
<v Speaker 1>egos telling me bullshit that I know it's not true,

0:42:02.000 --> 0:42:04.040
<v Speaker 1>and then I start believing it and then I start

0:42:04.080 --> 0:42:08.360
<v Speaker 1>attacking him. That's true infidelity when you start forgetting that

0:42:08.400 --> 0:42:11.480
<v Speaker 1>your partner is an innocent party, who who you trust

0:42:11.520 --> 0:42:14.200
<v Speaker 1>and who you love, and then you start attacking them

0:42:14.239 --> 0:42:17.319
<v Speaker 1>because you're believing lies that your ego is telling, right,

0:42:17.360 --> 0:42:19.719
<v Speaker 1>So you're saying cheating has nothing to do have nothing

0:42:19.719 --> 0:42:22.480
<v Speaker 1>to do with what we don't do with our bodies,

0:42:22.480 --> 0:42:25.920
<v Speaker 1>That has everything to do with how we think about it, right,

0:42:25.960 --> 0:42:27.759
<v Speaker 1>Because a lot of people say that you can cheat

0:42:27.800 --> 0:42:30.720
<v Speaker 1>just by texting someone else or being like emotionally involved

0:42:30.719 --> 0:42:33.919
<v Speaker 1>with someone else. So it's funny because but so many

0:42:33.920 --> 0:42:36.560
<v Speaker 1>women to look for their partner to be doing something wrong,

0:42:36.600 --> 0:42:38.440
<v Speaker 1>and so you got to really look at it. What

0:42:38.480 --> 0:42:41.160
<v Speaker 1>are you basing your relationship on? Are you basically get

0:42:41.280 --> 0:42:43.880
<v Speaker 1>on love, which is the content, or are you basically

0:42:43.880 --> 0:42:49.200
<v Speaker 1>get on the form meaning um sex, romance, text messages,

0:42:49.320 --> 0:42:53.239
<v Speaker 1>phone calls, dates, who you talk to, who you interact with. So,

0:42:53.520 --> 0:42:57.360
<v Speaker 1>because if you then if that's not cheating, then what

0:42:57.440 --> 0:43:01.560
<v Speaker 1>is it called? When our average definition of cheating where

0:43:01.640 --> 0:43:03.879
<v Speaker 1>someone's partner ends up sleeping with someone else and they're

0:43:03.880 --> 0:43:07.560
<v Speaker 1>being lied to, then what's that? That's that's people labeling,

0:43:07.920 --> 0:43:10.200
<v Speaker 1>labeling it whatever they want to label it. Because the

0:43:10.239 --> 0:43:13.239
<v Speaker 1>average person in a relationship believes that they're in a

0:43:13.320 --> 0:43:17.240
<v Speaker 1>situation where they have control over someone. So of course,

0:43:17.360 --> 0:43:19.480
<v Speaker 1>if you're in a relationship where you feel like you

0:43:19.560 --> 0:43:24.120
<v Speaker 1>own someone and you have dominion, over whatever they do

0:43:24.120 --> 0:43:26.360
<v Speaker 1>with their bodies. Of course you're going to call that cheating,

0:43:26.920 --> 0:43:32.080
<v Speaker 1>but but we're not. We're not playing games here, Devil's advocate,

0:43:32.080 --> 0:43:35.520
<v Speaker 1>because I feel like everyone that's listening is like this nuts. Well, yeah,

0:43:35.520 --> 0:43:37.200
<v Speaker 1>it's gonna sound crazy. You want to know why are

0:43:37.320 --> 0:43:41.279
<v Speaker 1>because the average person out here doesn't think as well.

0:43:41.360 --> 0:43:44.200
<v Speaker 1>But I do. Relationship. I'm really trying to like stay

0:43:44.200 --> 0:43:46.040
<v Speaker 1>on the same track here. I don't even ship the

0:43:46.080 --> 0:43:47.520
<v Speaker 1>person I'm going to someone else. I think that has

0:43:47.520 --> 0:43:49.200
<v Speaker 1>nothing to do with what we have and you and

0:43:49.280 --> 0:43:53.200
<v Speaker 1>you are thinking the correct way, but I can't tell

0:43:53.280 --> 0:43:55.960
<v Speaker 1>you that. I don't call someone being lied to and

0:43:56.000 --> 0:43:59.279
<v Speaker 1>like sleeping behind someone's back cheating. So like that's where

0:43:59.320 --> 0:44:02.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm confused, because this is something that works for me

0:44:02.239 --> 0:44:05.080
<v Speaker 1>and you, but to someone else that it doesn't work

0:44:05.120 --> 0:44:06.920
<v Speaker 1>for it for two people that are consenting that they

0:44:06.960 --> 0:44:09.719
<v Speaker 1>just want to be the only ones. Then what what

0:44:09.760 --> 0:44:12.880
<v Speaker 1>about monogamous people? Well, for monogamous people, So we are

0:44:12.880 --> 0:44:14.560
<v Speaker 1>we only talking about in terms of people that are

0:44:14.560 --> 0:44:17.480
<v Speaker 1>non monogamous. See, this is the thing. If you are

0:44:17.480 --> 0:44:19.560
<v Speaker 1>a person that wants to be monogamous, and you and

0:44:19.560 --> 0:44:21.880
<v Speaker 1>your partner have an agreement that Oh, we're only going

0:44:21.920 --> 0:44:26.160
<v Speaker 1>to be with each other. That's completely fine. But the

0:44:26.239 --> 0:44:29.719
<v Speaker 1>question is are you subscribing to love or do you

0:44:29.800 --> 0:44:34.000
<v Speaker 1>care more about the form, who you do, what with,

0:44:34.120 --> 0:44:37.719
<v Speaker 1>where you go all that stuff. Because if love is

0:44:37.760 --> 0:44:40.040
<v Speaker 1>the main thing that's holding you together, whether you are

0:44:40.080 --> 0:44:43.880
<v Speaker 1>in a monogamous relationship or not, it should not matter

0:44:44.000 --> 0:44:47.880
<v Speaker 1>what someone else does with someone else because love cannot

0:44:47.880 --> 0:44:50.160
<v Speaker 1>be threatened. There is nothing that can ever be done,

0:44:50.560 --> 0:44:53.359
<v Speaker 1>nothing you can ever do with anyone else that will

0:44:53.360 --> 0:44:55.400
<v Speaker 1>threaten the love that you and your partner have for

0:44:55.480 --> 0:45:00.640
<v Speaker 1>each other. I believe, however, But is it argues ascribing

0:45:00.680 --> 0:45:05.319
<v Speaker 1>to ego if you are going behind your partner's back

0:45:05.360 --> 0:45:08.120
<v Speaker 1>and being sneaky and and doing things. No, of course

0:45:08.160 --> 0:45:11.000
<v Speaker 1>you are, because you're forgetting love in that moment. If

0:45:11.000 --> 0:45:16.040
<v Speaker 1>you love your partner, open communication that that should, that should.

0:45:16.080 --> 0:45:18.800
<v Speaker 1>It's probably more so the communication that if you're lying

0:45:19.160 --> 0:45:26.759
<v Speaker 1>and you're being deceitful, cheating like greed, jealousy, those things

0:45:26.840 --> 0:45:29.560
<v Speaker 1>come from fear right fears of the ego. If you

0:45:29.640 --> 0:45:31.759
<v Speaker 1>love your partner, you know that even if they went

0:45:31.760 --> 0:45:34.480
<v Speaker 1>out there and fucked a thousand digs or sucked a

0:45:34.560 --> 0:45:36.560
<v Speaker 1>thousand pussies, like it's not going to change the love

0:45:36.600 --> 0:45:39.479
<v Speaker 1>that they have for you. But at the same time,

0:45:39.520 --> 0:45:41.720
<v Speaker 1>it's like, in the midst of that, can you still

0:45:41.760 --> 0:45:45.080
<v Speaker 1>see your partner as the loving person that you trust

0:45:45.160 --> 0:45:47.960
<v Speaker 1>even if they decide to go and flex their autonomy

0:45:48.040 --> 0:45:51.719
<v Speaker 1>because whether you guys have this contract or not, they're

0:45:51.719 --> 0:45:54.400
<v Speaker 1>still free. Now that's the whole thing, Like can you

0:45:54.480 --> 0:45:57.160
<v Speaker 1>stay for you? So how does it work in your

0:45:57.160 --> 0:46:00.080
<v Speaker 1>relationship where you just said like I don't own and

0:46:00.080 --> 0:46:03.399
<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah and these things that are true. How

0:46:03.440 --> 0:46:07.080
<v Speaker 1>did you feel when he's with someone else? Do you

0:46:07.160 --> 0:46:09.440
<v Speaker 1>need to know? Are there are any rules that you have? No?

0:46:09.719 --> 0:46:11.600
<v Speaker 1>Why do I need to know about where he's going

0:46:11.640 --> 0:46:15.279
<v Speaker 1>and what he's doing? What with Like I don't, I don't,

0:46:15.360 --> 0:46:18.480
<v Speaker 1>So what do you track his movements? When he's like, oh,

0:46:18.560 --> 0:46:21.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm going out the house, so I'm going out the

0:46:21.160 --> 0:46:23.200
<v Speaker 1>house to help my mother. I'll be back. I don't

0:46:23.280 --> 0:46:26.920
<v Speaker 1>question that. But then as soon as he's going out

0:46:26.960 --> 0:46:29.480
<v Speaker 1>the house to be with somebody else that's not a

0:46:29.520 --> 0:46:31.600
<v Speaker 1>mother or a friend, now I'm supposed to jump down

0:46:31.640 --> 0:46:33.319
<v Speaker 1>his throat and ask him where he's going and what

0:46:33.360 --> 0:46:37.279
<v Speaker 1>he's doing for what? So what commitment is what is

0:46:37.320 --> 0:46:39.000
<v Speaker 1>your commitment to each other? Then, because a lot of

0:46:39.000 --> 0:46:42.399
<v Speaker 1>people feel feel like so you do, so you don't

0:46:42.400 --> 0:46:45.920
<v Speaker 1>need anything else? Is there anything? There's not? So for example,

0:46:46.320 --> 0:46:48.520
<v Speaker 1>like a lot of things that I need personally, And

0:46:48.560 --> 0:46:51.000
<v Speaker 1>maybe it is my ego or in an insecurity, but

0:46:51.520 --> 0:46:53.239
<v Speaker 1>I like, you know you're married. I'd feel like I

0:46:53.280 --> 0:46:55.840
<v Speaker 1>would need someone to know when someone's home with me,

0:46:55.920 --> 0:46:57.279
<v Speaker 1>Like I would want to know if I was going

0:46:57.360 --> 0:46:59.480
<v Speaker 1>to come home and someone wasn't there, that's very important

0:46:59.520 --> 0:47:01.839
<v Speaker 1>to me, or if they make a plan. I feel

0:47:01.840 --> 0:47:04.520
<v Speaker 1>like to me, it's at least consider it. So how

0:47:04.520 --> 0:47:06.920
<v Speaker 1>do you Because you're saying you don't feel like you

0:47:07.000 --> 0:47:09.560
<v Speaker 1>owe any of that, No, I'm not. He does. He

0:47:09.600 --> 0:47:12.840
<v Speaker 1>does not owe me an explanation, But you're the primary partner. No,

0:47:13.320 --> 0:47:15.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm one of his partners and we just happen

0:47:15.800 --> 0:47:18.360
<v Speaker 1>to be married. So you don't use the word primary

0:47:18.360 --> 0:47:21.040
<v Speaker 1>at all. No, because he has many partners in his life,

0:47:21.160 --> 0:47:23.560
<v Speaker 1>even though as a wife, he still don't think primary

0:47:23.600 --> 0:47:27.839
<v Speaker 1>is a good word. Why. I mean, look, yeah, I'm

0:47:27.840 --> 0:47:30.480
<v Speaker 1>married to this man because we've chosen to be. But

0:47:30.600 --> 0:47:32.920
<v Speaker 1>just because I have this title of wife now doesn't

0:47:33.000 --> 0:47:36.520
<v Speaker 1>change anything about the love that has anything to change

0:47:36.520 --> 0:47:39.640
<v Speaker 1>about the stuff like we talked about. When we don't

0:47:39.680 --> 0:47:42.560
<v Speaker 1>we don't write. I know you don't have Now does

0:47:42.800 --> 0:47:46.319
<v Speaker 1>that title change or um? Are you open about your

0:47:46.360 --> 0:47:48.960
<v Speaker 1>title with him when you have other partners? Do you

0:47:49.000 --> 0:47:50.920
<v Speaker 1>have other partners as well? Yeah, I just told you

0:47:50.960 --> 0:47:53.960
<v Speaker 1>we like all of our partners are not just sexual

0:47:56.440 --> 0:47:59.040
<v Speaker 1>and he's limited to the sexual partners then, because that's

0:47:59.320 --> 0:48:02.360
<v Speaker 1>where I think a lot of our listeners don't understand.

0:48:02.840 --> 0:48:06.120
<v Speaker 1>People get completely confused because people put more importance on

0:48:06.239 --> 0:48:09.080
<v Speaker 1>sex over love. So and this is where people get

0:48:09.120 --> 0:48:11.840
<v Speaker 1>themselves fucked up in love most of the time, because

0:48:11.840 --> 0:48:15.040
<v Speaker 1>you're placing more emphasis on form, which is sex, which

0:48:15.320 --> 0:48:17.920
<v Speaker 1>in itself doesn't mean anything because sex can be used,

0:48:18.600 --> 0:48:21.279
<v Speaker 1>uh for violence, and sex can also be used to

0:48:21.360 --> 0:48:24.480
<v Speaker 1>heal and to join together. But people use something that

0:48:24.640 --> 0:48:31.080
<v Speaker 1>is completely meaningless in itself to harm themselves in separation,

0:48:31.680 --> 0:48:35.439
<v Speaker 1>separating themselves from the next person simply because oh, you've

0:48:35.440 --> 0:48:38.839
<v Speaker 1>had sex with someone else. Are sexual partners. I don't

0:48:38.840 --> 0:48:40.720
<v Speaker 1>know how many he has. He could have a thousand.

0:48:40.760 --> 0:48:42.879
<v Speaker 1>I don't ask him that because it doesn't matter to me.

0:48:43.320 --> 0:48:46.560
<v Speaker 1>And the same with me, like I have other sexual partners.

0:48:46.680 --> 0:48:49.440
<v Speaker 1>But does he ask me about them? No, so you

0:48:49.480 --> 0:48:53.000
<v Speaker 1>don't even share anything, So like, well, how does it happen?

0:48:53.040 --> 0:48:55.120
<v Speaker 1>I mean, because you you look together, he's your husband.

0:48:55.120 --> 0:48:57.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you talk and that's probably your best friend, right,

0:48:57.320 --> 0:49:00.759
<v Speaker 1>So when does the conversation start to happen? How do

0:49:00.800 --> 0:49:03.720
<v Speaker 1>you learn about each other's other partners? We don't because

0:49:03.760 --> 0:49:06.880
<v Speaker 1>it doesn't matter unless we bring it up. But you

0:49:06.920 --> 0:49:10.840
<v Speaker 1>don't when it only matters if those people are joining

0:49:10.840 --> 0:49:15.000
<v Speaker 1>with us for a purpose. If it's just sex, that's purposeless.

0:49:15.040 --> 0:49:18.000
<v Speaker 1>You're just bumping. But you're saying not even just sexual partners?

0:49:18.040 --> 0:49:20.160
<v Speaker 1>Like when I mean, meet someone knew that's great and

0:49:20.160 --> 0:49:22.640
<v Speaker 1>you start seeing them, Like, at what point do you share?

0:49:22.719 --> 0:49:24.680
<v Speaker 1>Is that too much to share? Like whenever we feel

0:49:24.680 --> 0:49:27.799
<v Speaker 1>like when do we feel like it? Like I don't

0:49:27.800 --> 0:49:30.799
<v Speaker 1>ever press him because he meets so many people on

0:49:30.840 --> 0:49:32.840
<v Speaker 1>the street, and he's an author and he always pushes

0:49:32.880 --> 0:49:35.359
<v Speaker 1>his books, so whenever he meets somebody, the first thing

0:49:35.400 --> 0:49:38.480
<v Speaker 1>he's doing is, hey, I wrote this book about love.

0:49:38.640 --> 0:49:40.759
<v Speaker 1>You know, I'll give you a free copy. Whatever. Well,

0:49:40.800 --> 0:49:44.200
<v Speaker 1>I asked from the standpoint of like, um, so I

0:49:44.280 --> 0:49:46.600
<v Speaker 1>know if you polyamorous couples and I'm not polyamorous. We're

0:49:46.600 --> 0:49:49.920
<v Speaker 1>just not monogamous. But there's times where he'll say to me, like,

0:49:49.960 --> 0:49:51.520
<v Speaker 1>I met this girl and he's excited to tell me

0:49:51.520 --> 0:49:54.200
<v Speaker 1>about it, or like the experience with it. How does

0:49:54.200 --> 0:49:56.320
<v Speaker 1>that work for you? Do you, I mean, do you

0:49:56.360 --> 0:49:58.080
<v Speaker 1>guys do that or do you feel like it's sometimes

0:49:58.080 --> 0:50:01.239
<v Speaker 1>too much or it's not something that's we acquired. So

0:50:02.120 --> 0:50:04.480
<v Speaker 1>if he meets somebody and he's had an experience and

0:50:04.520 --> 0:50:06.400
<v Speaker 1>he wants to share it with me, he does, but

0:50:06.440 --> 0:50:09.080
<v Speaker 1>it's not a requirement for him or for me. Sometimes

0:50:09.080 --> 0:50:11.880
<v Speaker 1>we're out and we both meet people at the same time,

0:50:12.320 --> 0:50:15.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, and then we'll engage with them and stuff

0:50:15.239 --> 0:50:17.680
<v Speaker 1>like that. But it legit is not a requirement for

0:50:17.880 --> 0:50:20.640
<v Speaker 1>advice for people that have been considering this but they're

0:50:20.640 --> 0:50:26.319
<v Speaker 1>worried about peus purpose that that's the whole thing. If

0:50:26.360 --> 0:50:29.279
<v Speaker 1>you do not set a purpose with the person that

0:50:29.320 --> 0:50:31.719
<v Speaker 1>you're in a relationship, why are we together? Where is

0:50:31.719 --> 0:50:35.319
<v Speaker 1>this going? Then all the other stuff that pops up

0:50:35.320 --> 0:50:38.160
<v Speaker 1>from the ego because you believe that you own somebody,

0:50:38.360 --> 0:50:41.879
<v Speaker 1>that stuff is going to destroy it by default. Because

0:50:41.880 --> 0:50:45.400
<v Speaker 1>if you do not set a purpose intentionally for a partnership,

0:50:45.800 --> 0:50:48.040
<v Speaker 1>then your relationship is just going to be running on

0:50:48.120 --> 0:50:50.480
<v Speaker 1>default and eventually all the stuff that we see that

0:50:50.520 --> 0:50:52.880
<v Speaker 1>plague the average person in their relationship is going to

0:50:52.960 --> 0:50:55.839
<v Speaker 1>come in. It's inevitable and it's going to sink your ship.

0:50:55.960 --> 0:50:58.239
<v Speaker 1>Have another question, A lot of people do this when

0:50:58.280 --> 0:51:00.759
<v Speaker 1>they are feeling like they're on the edge and they

0:51:00.760 --> 0:51:02.960
<v Speaker 1>need something else. Do you think that this is something

0:51:03.000 --> 0:51:07.359
<v Speaker 1>that can save a relationship? Um only with purpose? Right

0:51:07.640 --> 0:51:09.920
<v Speaker 1>because listen, because a lot of people do it when

0:51:09.920 --> 0:51:12.200
<v Speaker 1>they're super in love and they feel like they want

0:51:12.200 --> 0:51:14.200
<v Speaker 1>to open their hearts more to other people and whatever

0:51:14.360 --> 0:51:17.279
<v Speaker 1>and have experiences and whatever. But some people feel like

0:51:17.560 --> 0:51:19.399
<v Speaker 1>this is the end, We're going to have to do this.

0:51:19.680 --> 0:51:24.920
<v Speaker 1>That's the wrong people. Yeah, if people go into being open,

0:51:25.080 --> 0:51:27.800
<v Speaker 1>which is really think about it. Naturally, as animals, we

0:51:27.840 --> 0:51:30.759
<v Speaker 1>are not monogamous, and there's two different types of monogamy.

0:51:30.960 --> 0:51:34.920
<v Speaker 1>Is social monogamy and then also a sexual monogamy. But

0:51:35.000 --> 0:51:37.480
<v Speaker 1>just because you choose to be with one person, because

0:51:37.480 --> 0:51:40.319
<v Speaker 1>that's it's really a choice, doesn't mean you're attraction cuts

0:51:40.320 --> 0:51:43.839
<v Speaker 1>off you know, and yours and we all naturally develop relationships,

0:51:43.920 --> 0:51:46.080
<v Speaker 1>right like right now, we have a relationship because we're

0:51:46.120 --> 0:51:48.839
<v Speaker 1>in here talking relating to each other. So you can't

0:51:48.880 --> 0:51:51.479
<v Speaker 1>stop that, which means you can't even stop you can't

0:51:51.480 --> 0:51:53.879
<v Speaker 1>stop thoughts going through your head. Because think about this.

0:51:54.120 --> 0:51:56.440
<v Speaker 1>When you meet somebody, first thing you think, well, I

0:51:56.480 --> 0:52:00.560
<v Speaker 1>funk this person, right thin normal. Even if you subscribe

0:52:00.600 --> 0:52:02.920
<v Speaker 1>to monogamy and you choose that, it's not going to

0:52:03.040 --> 0:52:06.000
<v Speaker 1>turn off that innate quality to want to join with

0:52:06.040 --> 0:52:10.080
<v Speaker 1>other people. That's natural. But again it's all about the purpose.

0:52:10.400 --> 0:52:13.200
<v Speaker 1>Whether you want to be non monogamous, polyamorous, all of

0:52:13.239 --> 0:52:16.480
<v Speaker 1>that set the purpose with every single last person you're

0:52:16.520 --> 0:52:20.719
<v Speaker 1>in a relationship with, so then you know that okay, Like,

0:52:20.840 --> 0:52:23.880
<v Speaker 1>for instance, my partner and I our purpose, we have

0:52:23.920 --> 0:52:26.160
<v Speaker 1>a few different things underneath our purpose. One of them

0:52:26.239 --> 0:52:29.040
<v Speaker 1>is to remember our innocence and to never attack each other.

0:52:29.360 --> 0:52:32.279
<v Speaker 1>Another one is to laugh and play together. Another one

0:52:32.360 --> 0:52:37.560
<v Speaker 1>is to heal with each other so um oh, and

0:52:37.680 --> 0:52:41.439
<v Speaker 1>to always remember who each other is in love. So

0:52:41.520 --> 0:52:45.840
<v Speaker 1>because we have these staples now of our for our purpose,

0:52:45.920 --> 0:52:48.640
<v Speaker 1>whenever we do start feeling that stuff coming up from

0:52:48.640 --> 0:52:50.600
<v Speaker 1>our ego, we go right back to why we were

0:52:50.640 --> 0:52:53.120
<v Speaker 1>together in the first place, and it serves as an

0:52:53.120 --> 0:52:56.200
<v Speaker 1>anchor in our ship to keep us focused no matter

0:52:56.239 --> 0:52:59.839
<v Speaker 1>where some things like that maybe not as um as

0:53:00.000 --> 0:53:01.839
<v Speaker 1>each other or maybe in different ways. But people saying

0:53:01.800 --> 0:53:03.520
<v Speaker 1>that need to have an anchor. That's really good. And

0:53:03.520 --> 0:53:06.920
<v Speaker 1>I think, um, so it's funny speaking of um, I

0:53:06.920 --> 0:53:10.520
<v Speaker 1>guess regular people. We have home mail from one of

0:53:10.520 --> 0:53:14.560
<v Speaker 1>our let's question. Yeah, I feel like it should change

0:53:14.560 --> 0:53:19.040
<v Speaker 1>it always. I feel like it's something people would want

0:53:19.040 --> 0:53:21.640
<v Speaker 1>to know. Because you mentioned his big thing right now,

0:53:22.280 --> 0:53:23.839
<v Speaker 1>fun the home mail. Think we can get to him.

0:53:24.160 --> 0:53:27.160
<v Speaker 1>We got you today. So you said you're his wife,

0:53:27.280 --> 0:53:29.279
<v Speaker 1>and you're and you also said that you're not as

0:53:29.280 --> 0:53:31.960
<v Speaker 1>primary so like and and then discussed how you don't

0:53:31.960 --> 0:53:35.279
<v Speaker 1>really need the labels. Then why get married? Well, I

0:53:35.320 --> 0:53:39.120
<v Speaker 1>mean we just wanted to take the taxes. Well not

0:53:39.200 --> 0:53:42.200
<v Speaker 1>even that what in your mind wanted to display? People

0:53:42.239 --> 0:53:44.960
<v Speaker 1>feel like they don't need it. It serves no purpose. Yeah,

0:53:45.000 --> 0:53:47.439
<v Speaker 1>I mean in itself it doesn't. But also you gotta

0:53:47.480 --> 0:53:49.920
<v Speaker 1>remember that marriage starts whatever purpose you give it. So

0:53:50.040 --> 0:53:52.920
<v Speaker 1>for us, our purpose and being together is to be

0:53:53.160 --> 0:53:56.080
<v Speaker 1>reflections of each other and reminders to each other of

0:53:56.120 --> 0:53:59.200
<v Speaker 1>who we are in love and in God. So our

0:53:59.280 --> 0:54:02.680
<v Speaker 1>marriage isn't about like joining our money. I mean we

0:54:02.719 --> 0:54:04.960
<v Speaker 1>already did that the moment we met. You know, everything

0:54:04.960 --> 0:54:09.839
<v Speaker 1>became one from the moment we started being together. For us,

0:54:09.880 --> 0:54:13.200
<v Speaker 1>it's like, we know that the world has this perception

0:54:13.239 --> 0:54:17.120
<v Speaker 1>of marriage, right and with us being love advocates and

0:54:17.160 --> 0:54:20.040
<v Speaker 1>love educators were like, we're gonna get married and we're

0:54:20.080 --> 0:54:22.960
<v Speaker 1>gonna use our marriage as an example of what can

0:54:23.000 --> 0:54:25.680
<v Speaker 1>be because people don't believe marriage can be perfect. People

0:54:25.680 --> 0:54:29.840
<v Speaker 1>don't believe that marriage can just be free and open

0:54:30.280 --> 0:54:33.120
<v Speaker 1>without you needing all this other stuff to try to

0:54:33.160 --> 0:54:35.400
<v Speaker 1>define it. Like you do what you wanna do, you

0:54:35.440 --> 0:54:37.640
<v Speaker 1>don't do what you wanna, don't want to do. You

0:54:37.719 --> 0:54:41.000
<v Speaker 1>have a purpose that binds you together and you leave

0:54:41.040 --> 0:54:45.320
<v Speaker 1>it at that, and communication, trust, all that stuff is

0:54:45.360 --> 0:54:49.080
<v Speaker 1>like built into that. But um, we're using our marriage

0:54:49.440 --> 0:54:53.080
<v Speaker 1>as a display of what can be. So it's not

0:54:53.160 --> 0:54:58.920
<v Speaker 1>about whatever whyever anyone else gets married or their purpose.

0:54:59.400 --> 0:55:02.480
<v Speaker 1>We have a very specific intention and purpose for why

0:55:02.560 --> 0:55:04.800
<v Speaker 1>we're doing what we're doing because in the past I

0:55:04.840 --> 0:55:06.759
<v Speaker 1>was likely to be married, like you know, I never

0:55:07.040 --> 0:55:14.280
<v Speaker 1>and he too. Oh tomorrow it will be nine months, yeah,

0:55:14.400 --> 0:55:18.279
<v Speaker 1>and two days married. We have been married going on

0:55:18.320 --> 0:55:23.280
<v Speaker 1>a week on Saturday. Is how quids together? Um? We

0:55:24.480 --> 0:55:28.319
<v Speaker 1>he gave me keys the first time I came to

0:55:28.360 --> 0:55:31.200
<v Speaker 1>New York to stay with him. He's like, you're laying

0:55:31.239 --> 0:55:33.160
<v Speaker 1>down next to somebody, You're sticking. You're dicking somebody. You

0:55:33.200 --> 0:55:36.200
<v Speaker 1>can't give them keys in your place. Don't don't think

0:55:36.239 --> 0:55:38.600
<v Speaker 1>like that, because girl, what do you made me feel bad?

0:55:40.920 --> 0:55:45.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't one of them talking? You know, all right,

0:55:45.719 --> 0:55:52.560
<v Speaker 1>just don't talk, just sticking in. I've been there, so

0:55:52.640 --> 0:55:55.040
<v Speaker 1>I guess, um, we'll get into our home mail. Um,

0:55:55.080 --> 0:55:57.239
<v Speaker 1>and this is one that I picked specifically for you

0:55:57.280 --> 0:55:59.920
<v Speaker 1>because as we're talking about labels, this is kind of

0:56:00.000 --> 0:56:01.960
<v Speaker 1>of things she's in search for and ask for our opinion.

0:56:02.320 --> 0:56:04.880
<v Speaker 1>So it says, Hi, Mandy and wheezy, I'm in the

0:56:05.000 --> 0:56:08.600
<v Speaker 1>situation ship to end all situation ships. The guy that

0:56:08.640 --> 0:56:11.360
<v Speaker 1>I have been seeing. Um, oh, I'm sorry, I just

0:56:11.360 --> 0:56:14.239
<v Speaker 1>slawt it the guy have been seeing. And I gotta

0:56:14.239 --> 0:56:17.520
<v Speaker 1>start proof reading these, y'all gotta start write and write. Um.

0:56:17.560 --> 0:56:20.400
<v Speaker 1>We have been together quote unquote for almost two years.

0:56:20.760 --> 0:56:23.439
<v Speaker 1>He came into my life during an extremely hard time

0:56:23.440 --> 0:56:25.640
<v Speaker 1>in my life and has stuck around with me through

0:56:25.680 --> 0:56:28.920
<v Speaker 1>some very hard family situations. He acts like my boyfriend,

0:56:29.160 --> 0:56:31.400
<v Speaker 1>takes me on dates, sleeps over my house where I

0:56:31.440 --> 0:56:33.799
<v Speaker 1>live with my mother four to five times a week.

0:56:34.120 --> 0:56:37.200
<v Speaker 1>We don't talk to slash other people, and he asked

0:56:37.239 --> 0:56:39.960
<v Speaker 1>me to cut off my ex completely, not I'm followed,

0:56:40.160 --> 0:56:42.279
<v Speaker 1>not I'm follow on social media, but stop sending him

0:56:42.280 --> 0:56:45.439
<v Speaker 1>occasional text because it makes him uncomfortable. He is even

0:56:45.480 --> 0:56:48.359
<v Speaker 1>planning on buying my mom and brother Christmas presents. For

0:56:48.400 --> 0:56:51.320
<v Speaker 1>some reason, he still will not make me his girlfriend.

0:56:51.640 --> 0:56:53.799
<v Speaker 1>Most people try to tell me it's just because he's

0:56:54.160 --> 0:56:56.719
<v Speaker 1>not that into me, but I'm not going alive. I'm

0:56:56.760 --> 0:56:58.719
<v Speaker 1>a bit crazy and I don't really get why he

0:56:58.719 --> 0:57:02.640
<v Speaker 1>would stick around through my psychotic episodes, not to mention

0:57:02.680 --> 0:57:04.480
<v Speaker 1>the crazy ship that has happened with my family and

0:57:04.480 --> 0:57:06.319
<v Speaker 1>the fact that he has cut off all the other

0:57:06.360 --> 0:57:08.600
<v Speaker 1>girls for me and barely goes out and lives his

0:57:08.640 --> 0:57:10.880
<v Speaker 1>single life. Like I said, we stay in four to

0:57:10.960 --> 0:57:13.520
<v Speaker 1>five nights a week at my house, watching Netflix, but

0:57:13.680 --> 0:57:16.280
<v Speaker 1>still not wife me. He told me a few weeks

0:57:16.280 --> 0:57:18.160
<v Speaker 1>ago that he was afraid to tell me his real

0:57:18.200 --> 0:57:21.800
<v Speaker 1>insecurities and hesitations to being in a relationship because he

0:57:21.840 --> 0:57:24.280
<v Speaker 1>was afraid I would look at him differently and not

0:57:24.320 --> 0:57:26.600
<v Speaker 1>want to be with him anymore. I'm afraid of what

0:57:26.640 --> 0:57:28.960
<v Speaker 1>that might mean. I want to hear his real reasons,

0:57:28.960 --> 0:57:31.080
<v Speaker 1>but I'm scared of what he's going to say. I

0:57:31.120 --> 0:57:33.640
<v Speaker 1>also don't want to rock the boat because I'll be honest,

0:57:33.680 --> 0:57:35.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm in love with him and don't want to ruin

0:57:35.400 --> 0:57:38.840
<v Speaker 1>our relationship. I know he has some some hang ups

0:57:38.880 --> 0:57:41.240
<v Speaker 1>from his last relationship, but I just don't get what

0:57:41.320 --> 0:57:44.000
<v Speaker 1>he could be so serious that, after two years and

0:57:44.040 --> 0:57:47.120
<v Speaker 1>countless hurdles we've crossed, he won't consider me his real girlfriend.

0:57:47.360 --> 0:57:49.120
<v Speaker 1>Is it time to try to move on? Or do

0:57:49.160 --> 0:57:53.320
<v Speaker 1>I continue trying to make this happen because I already

0:57:53.360 --> 0:57:56.920
<v Speaker 1>have so much invested sincerely never gonna get wife. I

0:57:56.960 --> 0:58:00.200
<v Speaker 1>wonder if she's happy. So yeah, thank you for even

0:58:00.280 --> 0:58:04.160
<v Speaker 1>saying that, because the real question is here, what are

0:58:04.160 --> 0:58:07.080
<v Speaker 1>you more concerned about? It sounds like the title the

0:58:07.200 --> 0:58:10.800
<v Speaker 1>title or the content meaning the love, because clearly this

0:58:10.880 --> 0:58:14.720
<v Speaker 1>man loves her. If you're doing all these things you're

0:58:14.760 --> 0:58:17.600
<v Speaker 1>doing for her, She's in a situation ship, which is

0:58:17.600 --> 0:58:21.720
<v Speaker 1>a relationship. You know, it's just um, it would be

0:58:21.720 --> 0:58:27.760
<v Speaker 1>considered an open relationship. But what's funny is it seems

0:58:27.840 --> 0:58:32.280
<v Speaker 1>it appears that they've both cut you know, extra people

0:58:32.400 --> 0:58:39.400
<v Speaker 1>out of there. Now it's sounding like they are sexually monogamous. Okay, fine,

0:58:40.160 --> 0:58:43.120
<v Speaker 1>but the real question is again, what matters more the

0:58:43.120 --> 0:58:46.560
<v Speaker 1>title or the content? Doesn't matter more that he has

0:58:46.600 --> 0:58:48.560
<v Speaker 1>a label for you? Or does it matter more that

0:58:48.600 --> 0:58:51.040
<v Speaker 1>he's there for you and supports you and spending time

0:58:51.040 --> 0:58:55.840
<v Speaker 1>with you. And also too had this conversation also too, Yeah,

0:58:55.880 --> 0:58:58.320
<v Speaker 1>and then once I end up like, oh, you want

0:58:58.360 --> 0:58:59.480
<v Speaker 1>me to be your boyfriend? I was like, you know what,

0:58:59.520 --> 0:59:02.760
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. But then too, that's the whole point.

0:59:03.160 --> 0:59:06.160
<v Speaker 1>So she's so caught up and being the girlfriend, but

0:59:06.200 --> 0:59:08.400
<v Speaker 1>what is your purpose? Right? Because she's even to the

0:59:08.400 --> 0:59:10.400
<v Speaker 1>point where she's like should I leave him? And it's like,

0:59:10.680 --> 0:59:12.560
<v Speaker 1>you're really going to leave him over just a title.

0:59:13.280 --> 0:59:15.080
<v Speaker 1>It was a video that came out on Twitter or

0:59:15.120 --> 0:59:17.200
<v Speaker 1>Instagram where a girl was talking about why we need

0:59:17.240 --> 0:59:19.600
<v Speaker 1>the title so bad if things don't change, and saying

0:59:19.640 --> 0:59:21.440
<v Speaker 1>that it's this thing of commitment in our minds. And

0:59:22.040 --> 0:59:24.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, the person I'm dating I had wanted that

0:59:24.960 --> 0:59:28.000
<v Speaker 1>so bad and at one point he was like, I

0:59:28.040 --> 0:59:30.680
<v Speaker 1>don't know why, and then he said, fine, do you

0:59:30.680 --> 0:59:33.040
<v Speaker 1>want me to be your boyfriend? And like, is that it?

0:59:33.320 --> 0:59:34.680
<v Speaker 1>And then when I heard it, it was just like

0:59:34.720 --> 0:59:36.880
<v Speaker 1>it sounded crazy because you don't have a real purpose,

0:59:36.920 --> 0:59:40.080
<v Speaker 1>but why you even want to be and and I

0:59:40.120 --> 0:59:42.720
<v Speaker 1>think that um something that in my mind made me

0:59:42.760 --> 0:59:46.360
<v Speaker 1>feel more important, which was ridiculous. Yeah, because there there

0:59:46.440 --> 0:59:49.800
<v Speaker 1>really is no level of importance and love, like love

0:59:49.880 --> 0:59:52.600
<v Speaker 1>just is and everybody is the same, and love treats

0:59:52.600 --> 0:59:54.880
<v Speaker 1>everybody the same. I mean, if you wanted that back,

0:59:54.920 --> 0:59:57.320
<v Speaker 1>why don't you ask him to be your boyfriend? Right?

0:59:57.680 --> 1:00:00.400
<v Speaker 1>Like That's kind of where I think, Yeah, it's funny

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<v Speaker 1>because after we just delve into how deep relationships are

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<v Speaker 1>in free love and what love is, reading this back

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<v Speaker 1>is just like, you just sound crazy right now. You

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<v Speaker 1>sound like I can't because I've been there. She was

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<v Speaker 1>definitely there, like and you know, and my friends would say, well,

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<v Speaker 1>he's never gonna do it, and Mandy would say he's

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<v Speaker 1>never gonna meet and Mandy got to fight about it,

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<v Speaker 1>and I it took me time to realize and stopped

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<v Speaker 1>listening to other people for what they know men to do,

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<v Speaker 1>to just think like, but it was even me telling

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<v Speaker 1>you that serious that he's not giving you that title.

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<v Speaker 1>And I would yell at her because it would be like,

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<v Speaker 1>you just want him to tell you you're you're with him,

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<v Speaker 1>you're sleeping with him, y'all are open your communications wanting

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<v Speaker 1>to go be with him? Why are you so strong

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<v Speaker 1>on this title of boyfriend? And we literally talk to

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<v Speaker 1>think it's just a societal norm. It is just one

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<v Speaker 1>of the days. There were times that I didn't know

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<v Speaker 1>what to call him, and then once the mom meeting happened,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, wait, what do you know? My boy

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<v Speaker 1>were not don't know when it was just like my

1:00:53.520 --> 1:00:56.240
<v Speaker 1>mama had to tell me to get out my head. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>when when it's funny. I always mentioned this to my therapist.

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<v Speaker 1>He says, one of the things that you feel like

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<v Speaker 1>you're in and go with And that was one of

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<v Speaker 1>the things I mentioned to him, and he's like, why

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<v Speaker 1>why do you care? And it's a purpose And I

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<v Speaker 1>think that a lot of women will say that if

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<v Speaker 1>a man won't call you this, and a lot of people,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of men will say this to their girl

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<v Speaker 1>friends or whatever and say, if he won't make you

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<v Speaker 1>a girl, he doesn't give a funk, or he just

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<v Speaker 1>wants to be single and be open, and this man

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<v Speaker 1>is free to do what he wants to do. And

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<v Speaker 1>guess what even if it was you want to know

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<v Speaker 1>the beauty and that and having the power of decision.

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<v Speaker 1>When he does decide and choose to be with you,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a gift because guess what, he can be with

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<v Speaker 1>anybody he wants to be with at any given time.

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<v Speaker 1>But if he's choosing to spend time with you, that

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<v Speaker 1>means that he actually wants to be there. Right you know,

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<v Speaker 1>your presence is a gift in anybody's life. Your presence

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<v Speaker 1>is a gift in anyone's life, and that's how you

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<v Speaker 1>have to look at it. This is why people start

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<v Speaker 1>taking each other for granted, because you assume that they

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<v Speaker 1>are entitled to be there. Simply because you have these

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<v Speaker 1>romantic feelings towards each other, or because you're fucking each other,

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<v Speaker 1>or because you get text messages every day and spend

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<v Speaker 1>time with each other and eat together every day, you

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<v Speaker 1>assume that this is an obligation now, all because you

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<v Speaker 1>have this contract through sex or monogamy, whatever. But in reality,

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<v Speaker 1>we all have power of decision at any time. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to be with who you're with or with

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<v Speaker 1>who you're with, you can just leave block at any

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<v Speaker 1>time right now. But because you because you consciously choose

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<v Speaker 1>to show up and be present with that person. It

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<v Speaker 1>is a gift. And when you can think of it

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<v Speaker 1>like that, you will stop taking the people in your

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<v Speaker 1>life for granted. And also like raise up your own

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<v Speaker 1>self esteem and realizing like, oh wait, sh it, I

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<v Speaker 1>ain't gonna be here, especially when it is happening that

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't make you feel comfortable in this situation with this guy.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't sound like he's done anything or say anything

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<v Speaker 1>too hard to make her feel like, um, not loved.

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<v Speaker 1>It seems like he's a very loving guys there with you.

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<v Speaker 1>It is probably friends. Even it might be her friends

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<v Speaker 1>nagging her like so you just gonna have this nigga

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<v Speaker 1>all up in your house for five times a week

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<v Speaker 1>and Joe, man, it's probably it could be that. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of our listeners need to realize

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<v Speaker 1>that they don't even This image doesn't need to be

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<v Speaker 1>created for everyone outside your relationship and who you deal with,

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<v Speaker 1>because girl, everyone keep asking me about seven. I like

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<v Speaker 1>our relationship and what it is. I don't need him

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<v Speaker 1>with my boyfriend. And we talked even for like an

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<v Speaker 1>hour last night, like before I wrote a dick, and

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<v Speaker 1>it was just like the first time of three. It

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't gonna happen often. Um, but we even we openly

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<v Speaker 1>talked about it, and he was like, he called me

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<v Speaker 1>a rare breed, and I was like, I know because

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<v Speaker 1>he's like just certain other relationships that he's had. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's exactly when you're when you're open like that and

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<v Speaker 1>you're honest, right and you give him that freedom, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you will find that he's around more. Why I cut

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<v Speaker 1>around for four years exactly? You want to know why,

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<v Speaker 1>because you're not doing the clink clink ship that every person.

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<v Speaker 1>And we openly talked about that, and he was like,

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<v Speaker 1>we just had a brief conversation about it. But I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, and he started saying everything I was telling

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<v Speaker 1>my friends, and I was like, Nick, you've seen everything

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<v Speaker 1>I've been trying to tell my friends because they're all

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<v Speaker 1>asking me why I'm not trying to make you my boyfriend,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, I like what we have like and

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<v Speaker 1>you've been around. You're there when I need you for

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<v Speaker 1>what I need you for, and we have fun. We

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<v Speaker 1>enjoy each other's company, and that's it. That's what I

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<v Speaker 1>want you guys should like today and tomorrow or whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>just at of purpose, the purpose could be to have

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<v Speaker 1>fun and play together, eyes out of each other, boom,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you know, there you go. You got you

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<v Speaker 1>got something that's rooting you in the relationship with him.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, I mean, people put way too much emphasis

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<v Speaker 1>on the titles. One of the things people are doing

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<v Speaker 1>the time spending all that time that someone's got a

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<v Speaker 1>husband out there with a beautiful house and kids in

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<v Speaker 1>their miserable Yeah. Absolutely, married, Mary's just not marriage. Just not.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you feel different in the last two days? Are we?

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<v Speaker 1>The only thing that I feel different about is just

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<v Speaker 1>my commitment. You always remember who he is. You know

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<v Speaker 1>what she's gonna feel that a difference. Tax time is

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<v Speaker 1>coming up. You got to see the difference. Well, see,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I kind of know what happens with taxes,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's gonna be we both owned, you know, businesses

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<v Speaker 1>and stuff like that. So he said, we'll cross that bridge.

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<v Speaker 1>Because he even told me, he said, you can put

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<v Speaker 1>whatever you want on your taxes, married or single, it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't matter. I'm like, okay, well, well that kind of

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<v Speaker 1>has coming to grants because you can't put he puts married.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you know all that stuff. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I got a c p a for that ship and

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<v Speaker 1>then I let him lead. It's like, that's that's what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm about to be girl. All right. Yeah, so our

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<v Speaker 1>other guys is here, but I'm gonna go ahead and

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<v Speaker 1>ask you this last question because I wanted to ask you,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's a little bit off um relationships, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>something that I know you're good at. This is what

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<v Speaker 1>the your bitch sex work. Um. My question is about

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<v Speaker 1>the spark in a relationship, so not the actual relationship. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>When I first got with my wife, we talked about

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<v Speaker 1>doing all kinds of freaky things, and over the course

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<v Speaker 1>of the years, she's become a prude, no moral no

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<v Speaker 1>watching porn, no masturbation. We have sex once a month,

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<v Speaker 1>and I feel like it's me who is to blame.

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<v Speaker 1>We've had issues with infidelity on both ends, hers and mine,

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<v Speaker 1>and we even attempted having an open relationship, but it

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<v Speaker 1>was only to her benefit. So my question is how

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<v Speaker 1>do I get my freak back that I once had?

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, I love y'all and wish I could

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<v Speaker 1>have a show as amazing as y'all's. Well, thank you, um,

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<v Speaker 1>and I actually said we're gonna say this was Taomi,

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<v Speaker 1>So well they got to start over. And starting over,

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<v Speaker 1>you gotta remember first of all that each both of

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<v Speaker 1>you are innocent. You know, she went out did what

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<v Speaker 1>she wanted to do because she wanted to do that,

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<v Speaker 1>and it had nothing to do with her not loving him,

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<v Speaker 1>but everything to do with whatever was going on in

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<v Speaker 1>her head and she chose to do same thing with him. Okay, fine,

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<v Speaker 1>but now they literally have to go back to square

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<v Speaker 1>one because guess what, this woman is not the same

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<v Speaker 1>woman that you met first. And okay, you're saying that

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<v Speaker 1>it be infidelity, whatever, have a conversation. How about have

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<v Speaker 1>an honest hearts or heard conversation about what's going on,

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<v Speaker 1>because there is nothing that anyone can do to you

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<v Speaker 1>or say that it's going to make you react or

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<v Speaker 1>respond a certain way. It's how you perceive what that

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<v Speaker 1>person has said or done, unless start physically attacking you.

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<v Speaker 1>There is nothing that anyone can do to harm you,

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<v Speaker 1>not what they do with someone else's body or not whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>So really it's in her. She's in her own head

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<v Speaker 1>and whatever she's going through right now, she has to

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<v Speaker 1>overcome that. Yeah, this is a guy wanting his wife

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<v Speaker 1>to to open back up. So is there anything I

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<v Speaker 1>know you deal with couples. Um, what would you tell

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<v Speaker 1>a mail that is something maybe he could do maybe

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<v Speaker 1>aside from communication or I mean talk that they need

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<v Speaker 1>to that they need to buy my husband's book Love

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<v Speaker 1>Is Not a Game and they need to read that

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<v Speaker 1>together and they need to go back Yeah, they need

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<v Speaker 1>to go back in and really re established the purpose

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<v Speaker 1>for why they're together. What can someone This sounds so

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<v Speaker 1>terrible the way I'm wordering it, but like what can

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<v Speaker 1>someone pay you for like life coaching type of things?

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<v Speaker 1>Like It's so when I work with couples, it really

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<v Speaker 1>is like it's basically talk based coaching and then sometimes it's, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>it can involve touch and stuff. It just depends on

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<v Speaker 1>what we're working on. Like if a couple wants to

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<v Speaker 1>learn different sex positions and stuff, then of course touching

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<v Speaker 1>will be involved. But I don't have sex with clients

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<v Speaker 1>like that, That's not what I do. Um, but everything

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<v Speaker 1>is the things that you've said, a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>want to reach out to you. So that's why they

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<v Speaker 1>can totally reach out to me. You just just got

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<v Speaker 1>to know that I don't have sex with clients, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>yeah we're not We're not Yoming is not coming over

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<v Speaker 1>and giving you a ride session. I'll give you a

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<v Speaker 1>ride session by teaching you the moves and then you

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<v Speaker 1>can do it. If you want to have sex in

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<v Speaker 1>front of me, you can do that as well. But

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not think that's what King Nora does. He helps

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<v Speaker 1>and gets couples right before they're about to have sex.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what he said he does as well. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>but he's also a point star. I mean, you can't

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<v Speaker 1>not be a port. So can you do something like

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<v Speaker 1>almost like therapy, like talking, like counseling type of things

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<v Speaker 1>like that? Do we not? Him and I together We

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<v Speaker 1>coach couples and I coach couple solo as well, And

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<v Speaker 1>it's mainly talk based, just like any other form of therapy,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's really focused on sexuality. But what it was

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<v Speaker 1>interesting is that it always turns out to be more

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<v Speaker 1>than that. It's not even this about the sex. It's

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<v Speaker 1>like your health. You know, people's health has a lot

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<v Speaker 1>to do with where they are sexually and how they

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<v Speaker 1>feel their libido. It's uh, environmental factors, sociological factors, it's

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<v Speaker 1>all this stuff that incompass. When she said that the

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<v Speaker 1>girl that wrote in about us bothering her. We'll give

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<v Speaker 1>that read later. Okay, we don't have to read it whole. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate you so much for coming out. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like we'll be like bright and again we need you

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<v Speaker 1>were late. I was like, oh my god, we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna hating her and now you're like, oh, we

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<v Speaker 1>got to bring her back on and f I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I was just like, it's okay, CP. Time it happens.

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<v Speaker 1>It really asking you questions together. If we can do that,

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<v Speaker 1>He goes in, Yeah, if we can get both here,

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<v Speaker 1>it'll show strength within a relationship like I've been in

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<v Speaker 1>a nominalis relationship with well I used the word tryad

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<v Speaker 1>but we didn't live together anything. But I think that

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<v Speaker 1>people always think this thing is one sided, like one person.

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<v Speaker 1>So I would love to. Yeah, we'll have to set

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<v Speaker 1>it up again, maybe to get him in here, and

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<v Speaker 1>especially just hearing from a man how he would allow

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<v Speaker 1>you to have other partners. We do have a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of male listeners, and so to hear that, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>let's go. Um. So, anyways, where can our listeners find you?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean half of them already know who you is,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's how we found. I love your family, But

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<v Speaker 1>where can they find you? On Twitter? Instagram? Um, your website? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so my website is expert Tyomi dot com. The teas

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<v Speaker 1>are separate, they don't share a tea. Um, you can

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<v Speaker 1>find me on Twitter, Glamazon, Tyomi, Instagram, the Glamazon Tyomi.

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<v Speaker 1>I have catfish pages, so make sure you put the front.

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<v Speaker 1>You know you're big when you got catfish pages. It's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>Snapchack Glamazon Tyomi. If you want to see more like

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<v Speaker 1>risk stuff can go in Yes, yes, Gamaz, glamor Rai, Glemazon,

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<v Speaker 1>Tyomi dot tumbler dot com and you can easually just

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<v Speaker 1>put Glemazon, tyomie and Google. We can found all this,

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<v Speaker 1>all of this ship pop up. I'm telling you, I

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<v Speaker 1>did my research. I was like, damn, she got YouTube

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<v Speaker 1>videos like it's all on there. Um go check out

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<v Speaker 1>the writing video on YouTube. It's pretty dot com slag

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<v Speaker 1>glamor Rotica one o one. There you go. Um and again,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much for you've been You You got

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<v Speaker 1>me feeling like where had my ineen? I wanted a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I gotta think of how I wanted. We're not

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<v Speaker 1>not buying, like what is my purpose. You know, that's

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<v Speaker 1>something that to find have on one to where I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>did we just quit our own show? No? Good, like

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't the toys like, oh yeah, girl, if you

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<v Speaker 1>know stuff about if you know stuff about toys, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>we could do one with you as well. Yeah I didn't. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I got you. I got you. Girls that we haven't

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<v Speaker 1>tested this yet. It just came mind you and people

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about. Not yeah if they sent them for

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<v Speaker 1>us to yeah, um shoving our proceeds, So I guess again.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for coming on. Guys, reach out to her.

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<v Speaker 1>We're gonna put all of her information in the description

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<v Speaker 1>of this bio, and you could also find all of

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<v Speaker 1>her information when we post her on the Horrible Decisions

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<v Speaker 1>page that is at Horrible Underscore Decisions. You can follow

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<v Speaker 1>me at full Court Pumps. You can follow this hole

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<v Speaker 1>at we can see what the funk she's just not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna say because she hates me. Thank you, guys. This

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<v Speaker 1>has been yet another episode of Horrible Decisions. Bye bye,