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Speaker 1: this one. Yeah, that's for you, Jake, this one right here,

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Speaker 1: right now. You never know it could be yours yet

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Speaker 1: can be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight. We

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Speaker 1: got it for you. Here it Strawberry Letter thanking. If

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Speaker 1: your subject your place or mine. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm

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Speaker 1: fifty seven and my boyfriend is sixty two. His grown

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Speaker 1: We can't catch a break when it's time to be intimate.

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Speaker 1: I've tried to sneak out to the garage late at

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Speaker 1: night and have my boyfriend meet me there, but if

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Speaker 1: my dad hears the alarm chime, he's up and adam

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Speaker 1: trying to see what's going on. I snuck my man

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Speaker 1: I've always been a daddy's girl, but at my age,

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Speaker 1: it's time for him to cut me loose so I

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Speaker 1: can have some fun. I was married forever, and after

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Speaker 1: my divorce, he became overprotective of me. This drives my

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Speaker 1: my life. He and my dad have talked about my

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Speaker 1: dad stepping back, and my dad told him if he

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Speaker 1: stepped up and asked me to marry him, then that

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Speaker 1: would solve everything. My dad knows that neither of us

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Speaker 1: wants to be married again, and we're content in our relationship.

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend's children are thirty and twenty eight years old,

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Speaker 1: and they've both moved back home because they're still trying

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Speaker 1: to find employment and they blame COVID for not working.

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Speaker 1: I can't spend time over at his house because his

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Speaker 1: order doesn't keep a clean house, and quite frankly, the

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Speaker 1: kids don't want me over there. So here we are,

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Speaker 1: and there's always the question your place or mind when

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Speaker 1: we want to be together. He tells me to talk

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Speaker 1: to my dad, and I tell him to talk to

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Speaker 1: his grown children. Please help us settle this because I

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Speaker 1: love my dad and he loves his Sorry, grown children,

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Speaker 1: Why is he letting his children come between us like this?

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Speaker 1: All right? Two grown people ages fifty seven and sixty

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Speaker 1: two can't have company in their own homes. I mean

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Speaker 1: they're grown. Okay, this is a major problem. Your house

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Speaker 1: guests are running your houses. I just think they're not

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Speaker 1: supposed to be setting the rules for your house. Unless

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Speaker 1: you guys can't afford or to go to a motel

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Speaker 1: or a hotel on a regular basis. Something's got to

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Speaker 1: give at this point. I mean, I just you know,

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Speaker 1: I guess you're so called boyfriend hasn't figured this out.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he's not as into you as you think, because

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Speaker 1: I would think a man would find some kind of

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Speaker 1: way to see you, some kind of way, and it

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Speaker 1: wouldn't be sneaking around in the garage late at night.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know why he doesn't just tell

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Speaker 1: he's having a guest over. Unless he isn't trying to

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Speaker 1: do all of that. That's just what it seems to me.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't want to do all of that with you.

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Speaker 1: Your father already told him to marry you, step it

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Speaker 1: up and marry you, and he hasn't. That just doesn't

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Speaker 1: sound like a mister wonderful to me. I think you

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Speaker 1: need to figure that out and maybe break up with

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Speaker 1: this guy, because if he wanted you, I think he

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Speaker 1: find a way to have you. Steve, Oh, this letter

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Speaker 1: to me reeks with ignorance. Let me start with the

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Speaker 1: ages of the people in the letter. You got a

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Speaker 1: seven year old woman. If you told that up, that's

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Speaker 1: one hundred and nineteen years of living. Damn, damn. Now,

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Speaker 1: my wife and I if you told our age. As

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Speaker 1: a matter of fact, let me look at that you're

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Speaker 1: looking at y'all got one hundred and nineteen years of

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Speaker 1: living experience. Me and my wife got a total of

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Speaker 1: one hundred and twenty two years of living experience. You are,

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Speaker 1: as surely said, are too old to be having to

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Speaker 1: people asking permission can they have company? So you two

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Speaker 1: old fools have reverted into your life. I know as

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Speaker 1: we get older, some things go back to the way

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Speaker 1: they used to be. You used to pee on yourself

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Speaker 1: as a little boy, you pee on yourself as an

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Speaker 1: old man, I see it happening. You ain't got that

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Speaker 1: much hair when you're a baby. Your hair go away

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Speaker 1: when your ass get out. Somebody got to help you

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Speaker 1: up and down the steps when you're a baby. Somebody

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Speaker 1: ass is old. So I got that part. But you

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Speaker 1: should own more in your older age than you do

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Speaker 1: in your younger age. See, you can't be living at

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Speaker 1: your mama house as a baby and then be living

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Speaker 1: at your mama house as a grown ass man. You

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Speaker 1: can't be. I guess you can be a daddy skirl

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Speaker 1: your whole life. Because this woman claims that she's a

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Speaker 1: daddy's girl, you're actually or daddy's old woman. That's actually

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Speaker 1: what you are. You're not daddy's girl no more. Your

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Speaker 1: daddy's an old woman girl. So when I come back,

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Speaker 1: we'll get into the particulars of this conversation about these

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Speaker 1: two old ass people. This sixty two year old man

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Speaker 1: that has his grown kids living with him, and I

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Speaker 1: fifty seven year old woman has got her old ass

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Speaker 1: daddy living with her and found out the old ass

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Speaker 1: daddy's got to live with her because the mama put

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Speaker 1: him out. Why because she put him out and your

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Speaker 1: ass take him in. We'll be back with all of them,

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Speaker 1: Yes we will. Steve. Coming up at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour, we'll have part two of your response

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Speaker 1: today's strawberry letters, Your place are Mine. We'll get back

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Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Let's recap today's strawberry letter, the subject You're place or mine?

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Speaker 1: All right, here we go. Now, we got a fifty

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Speaker 1: seven year old woman that's got a boyfriend to sixty two.

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Speaker 1: Both of them are divorced. His grown children live with him,

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Speaker 1: and the lady's father lives with her. She fifty seven

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Speaker 1: got her daddy living with her. He's sixty two, got

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Speaker 1: his two grown kids, and they can't catch a break

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Speaker 1: when it's time to be intimate. That's what this whole

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Speaker 1: damn thing is about. She said. I tried to sneak

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Speaker 1: out to the garage late at night, and I had

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Speaker 1: my boyfriend and had my boyfriend meet me there. I

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Speaker 1: don't know who in the sixties like to be in

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Speaker 1: the garage. It don't sound that attractive to me, you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be able to hold you up on

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Speaker 1: a car like I used to. If you slide off,

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Speaker 1: you're probably gonna hit the ground. And I just had

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Speaker 1: this car wax Now we got some problems. We are

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Speaker 1: just got this car waxing. You can't keep ye ass

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Speaker 1: upon it no more like I used to. If I

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Speaker 1: he was gonna be out here, and we need to

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Speaker 1: get up on this carp anyway, h and I tried

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Speaker 1: to sneak out into the garage. But if my dad

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Speaker 1: hears the alarm chime, he's up and at him, trying

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Speaker 1: to go see what's going on. So this woman, this

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Speaker 1: one night and the next morning, your daddy busts through

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Speaker 1: the door to tell me that he had cooked bracket. Y.

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Speaker 1: I'm so daddy walk in and see daddy, Girl indn't

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Speaker 1: help in that, being a grown ass woman. So now

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Speaker 1: I can't put him out because my mom did. Let's

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Speaker 1: stop right here. So now we found out where her

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Speaker 1: daddy lived with her because her mama put him out.

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Speaker 1: So your daddy did something sixty too to get put out.

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Speaker 1: Most people don't put sixty old people out. Most people

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Speaker 1: trying to find somewhere for sixty year old people to stay.

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Speaker 1: So what did your old ass daddy do the restaurant

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Speaker 1: and get his ass and put out a sixty two

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Speaker 1: done something dumb like he was twenty two. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: can't put him out because my mom did. I don't

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Speaker 1: want to hurt his feelings because I've always been a

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Speaker 1: daddy's girl. Once again, if you damn it's sixty, you

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Speaker 1: can call yourself a daddy's girl if you want to,

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Speaker 1: but you really daddy's an old woman. But at my age,

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Speaker 1: it's time for him to cut me loose so I

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Speaker 1: can have some fun. See, it's not him that's hanging

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Speaker 1: on to you. It seems to me like it's you

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Speaker 1: that's hanging on to him. You didn't have to put

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Speaker 1: him in your house. He can go back over that

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Speaker 1: was married forever and after my divorce he became overprotective

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Speaker 1: of me. This drives my boyfriend crazy because he wants

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Speaker 1: to be mister wonderful in my life. Now Here my

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Speaker 1: can't be mister Wonderful, but you don't want to act wonderful.

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Speaker 1: That's what the old school player is saying. My dad

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Speaker 1: knows that neither of us wants to be married again.

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Speaker 1: Why that is, I don't know, and we're content in

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Speaker 1: our relationship. My boyfriend's children are thirty and twenty eight,

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Speaker 1: and they both moved back home because they're still trying

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Speaker 1: I can't spend time over his house because his daughter

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Speaker 1: doesn't keep a clean house. And quite frankly, the kids

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Speaker 1: But they two damn old to be using that as

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Speaker 1: This is all stupid. Let me just tell you what

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Speaker 1: I love my dad and he loves his sorry grown

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Speaker 1: like that? Well, the reason he's letting his kids come

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Speaker 1: between y'all like that, it's because you're letting your daddy

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Speaker 1: So you doing it, I'm doing it. You don't want

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Speaker 1: to get mad. I ain't getting mad. You got some

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Speaker 1: You want to sneak out to the garage. I want

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Speaker 1: to lay in your bed. You see what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: It's just on it on and on and on. The

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Speaker 1: get mad again because you don't know how to be married.

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Speaker 1: So now you to rote us and you want to

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Speaker 1: Your daddy staying with you because your stupid ass daddy

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Speaker 1: He over, there's your old, stupid, old ass man. And

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Speaker 1: when it had done so dumb got his ass put out.

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Speaker 1: Who get put out his sixty two? You get put

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Speaker 1: Once you're in your fifties, it's too late that you

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Speaker 1: COVID gonna be with us. You lost your job two

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Speaker 1: years ago when COVID first started. Your ass oudt of here,

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Speaker 1: put your mask on and get your ass out. That's

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