WEBVTT - Whine About It: A Manifestation Situation 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:05.320 Wine Down with Jane Kramer and I Heart Radio Podcast. 0:00:06.800 --> 0:00:10.360 Very excited about today's podcast because we're gonna have Jamie 0:00:10.360 --> 0:00:13.399 Bronstein on. She's a relationship coach, author, and speaker. Was 0:00:13.480 --> 0:00:17.720 named the number one relationship coach Transforming lives by Yahoo Finance. 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:20.560 She's the host of Love Talk Live on LA Talk 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:23.320 Radio and works with singles, couples, and people getting through 0:00:23.360 --> 0:00:26.920 breakups and divorces. In her private practice. She has a 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:29.600 book right now out called Manifesting, A Step by step 0:00:29.680 --> 0:00:31.800 Guide Attracting the Love that has meant for You. So 0:00:32.320 --> 0:00:34.080 very excited to get her on and talk about all 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:39.600 things to manifest that great Lovelli, Hi, how are you good? 0:00:39.600 --> 0:00:43.360 How are you good? Welcome to wind Down. Thank you 0:00:43.479 --> 0:00:46.720 so happy to be here your book. First of all, 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:50.839 I just like the man Yeah, I just love it 0:00:50.880 --> 0:00:53.159 was like a manifesting. I was like that is I'm like, 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:56.360 that's amazing love. That a step by step guide to 0:00:56.440 --> 0:01:00.360 attracting the love that is meant for you. I'm so 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:04.960 excited to have you on because obviously finding love can 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:07.720 be a struggle, right, but finding the right love is 0:01:09.240 --> 0:01:14.120 almost like like for me, it's like I I force 0:01:14.280 --> 0:01:17.200 so much love be like I forced relationships because I 0:01:17.240 --> 0:01:18.959 just wanted to feel love, but it was always the 0:01:19.000 --> 0:01:23.520 wrong kind of of love. And it's like to manifest 0:01:23.680 --> 0:01:27.320 like that good human can be hard because you also 0:01:27.520 --> 0:01:29.040 you're like I don't want to wait, Like how long 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:32.280 do you have to wait for this? Like this fairytale 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:35.759 man you know from from the movies, and so I'm 0:01:35.760 --> 0:01:39.480 curious like, yeah, actually if you don't know if he 0:01:39.760 --> 0:01:41.880 if he actually exists, and so that's why I wrote 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:46.480 this to show that he actually does exist. Do you 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:49.920 have the do you have? Did you manifest your man? Oh? 0:01:49.960 --> 0:01:54.040 I did? Yes, he's downstairs. We've been he works her home. 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:58.800 We've been worked. We've been working. We've been it's also working. 0:01:58.880 --> 0:02:02.680 It's worked too. Yeah, we have a child. We've been 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:07.600 married for almost nine years. Wow. Oh so yeah. So 0:02:07.760 --> 0:02:10.799 question like the manifesting, like where did this come from 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:13.040 for you? Like what was the kind of like moment 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:16.200 where were like I need to write this book. Yeah. 0:02:16.240 --> 0:02:21.120 So my book Manifesting is the book that I wish 0:02:21.160 --> 0:02:25.400 I had when I was manifesting my husband. I managed 0:02:25.480 --> 0:02:31.119 to manifest him, just somehow. I didn't meet him till 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:34.800 I was thirty four years old, which is definitely not old. However, 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:36.840 I feel like I was in a very long journey. 0:02:36.880 --> 0:02:39.760 I'm a romantic. I was born for love, so for me, 0:02:39.880 --> 0:02:44.639 I was born to meet my husband. So I really 0:02:44.680 --> 0:02:49.000 feel like my studies in psychology, my twenty years of 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:51.800 experience as a therapist, and also my three years of 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:55.360 studying spiritual psychology, it was and then my all of 0:02:55.400 --> 0:02:57.880 my experience dating I mean, my husband. It was just 0:02:58.120 --> 0:03:00.720 I have all this inside that I wanted to share 0:03:01.160 --> 0:03:04.520 with the world. I wanted to inspire people to know 0:03:04.639 --> 0:03:09.119 that your man does exist. Because everybody has a soulmate. 0:03:09.560 --> 0:03:12.639 It's everybody's birthright to have a soulmate. So I had 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:14.760 a message. I have a message to share, and I 0:03:14.760 --> 0:03:16.919 wanted to share it with more than just my clients. 0:03:17.400 --> 0:03:20.000 I love that you said the soulmate word because I 0:03:20.000 --> 0:03:22.600 remember when I was married to my ex, I would say, 0:03:23.240 --> 0:03:24.720 am I your soulmate? And he's like, I don't believe 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:28.520 in soulmates? And I remember that literally crushed me because 0:03:28.560 --> 0:03:32.320 I'm like, I like, I believe in soulmates. I believe 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:36.680 that we have you know that we have a soulmate, 0:03:36.800 --> 0:03:38.880 and you know he was like, yeah, I mean I 0:03:38.880 --> 0:03:43.720 think you can be one's soulmate for a season or 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:47.160 you know, for a few years. And maybe that's true. 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:49.160 I don't know. But for me, I'm like, no, like 0:03:49.280 --> 0:03:52.880 I have always been like there is one soulmate and 0:03:52.960 --> 0:03:55.920 like and I've always like and this is bad, but 0:03:56.000 --> 0:03:58.600 like that's where I just was, like I was just 0:03:58.840 --> 0:04:01.600 trying to find it and like it wasn't until I 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:06.640 really sat alone and wrote down exactly what I wanted 0:04:06.640 --> 0:04:08.800 and wasn't going to settle for anything less than that 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:14.080 was when I was able to, I guess manifest that love, right, 0:04:14.120 --> 0:04:18.320 and so but I it is. It's interesting and I'm curious, 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:21.160 like what you would say to those people who are 0:04:21.200 --> 0:04:23.360 just like I'm never going to find love, because I 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:25.120 get it. I remember when I got divorced, I was like, 0:04:25.160 --> 0:04:28.680 no one will ever love me. I'm unlovable and I'm 0:04:28.880 --> 0:04:34.039 I'm done, Like I it's it's done for me. There's 0:04:34.080 --> 0:04:37.120 so much in here, and I do want to get 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:42.520 to the soulmate conversation. But I love what you're saying 0:04:42.560 --> 0:04:44.080 because this is what this is what I work with 0:04:44.120 --> 0:04:46.960 my clients on every day. My clients have these negative 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:50.120 narratives that they are unworthy of law and they're not 0:04:50.160 --> 0:04:52.320 capable of law, they're not good enough. And so the 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:54.640 work that I do and in this in my book, 0:04:54.800 --> 0:04:59.000 I helped them shift from that which is just false 0:04:59.120 --> 0:05:05.320 our ego. That's where it comes from, false and lies 0:05:05.600 --> 0:05:10.719 and just things that are not true, moving that into 0:05:10.839 --> 0:05:14.360 what is the truth. And it's also fear based thinking, 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:16.960 So it's fears and lies moving into dropping from your 0:05:16.960 --> 0:05:19.719 head into your heart into what is the truth. It's 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:23.280 also scarcity, it's lack. If it's not this guy worth, 0:05:23.320 --> 0:05:26.800 there's not gonna be another guys, all of those false 0:05:27.360 --> 0:05:31.560 fear based thinking. And I do something called compassionate self forgiveness, 0:05:31.560 --> 0:05:34.480 which is you identify what is that misbelief that you're 0:05:34.480 --> 0:05:37.080 buying into which you just said you're uncapable of love 0:05:37.120 --> 0:05:39.480 or you're not worthy of love, and then we shift 0:05:39.520 --> 0:05:42.719 into the truth. And it takes practice. It might not 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:46.360 happen overnight, but these affirmations that you keep saying over 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:48.520 and over again and you catch yourself. That's the thing. 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:52.840 Like we have so many negative narratives running through our 0:05:52.839 --> 0:05:54.840 minds all day long. So it's kind of like I 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:57.279 would say, it's like going to AA. You have to 0:05:57.320 --> 0:06:01.240 acknowledge there's a problem. First, Once you start being aware 0:06:01.279 --> 0:06:04.719 of these negative thoughts, that's how you change them into 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:07.480 the truth. It's not even like changing from negative depositive. 0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:10.719 It's changing the negative, the fear, into the truth that 0:06:10.920 --> 0:06:14.919 everybody is worthy of love, don't you? Or for me, 0:06:15.279 --> 0:06:18.840 I would say mine come from childhood stuff like all 0:06:18.920 --> 0:06:22.120 at all for me goes back to like, Okay, well, 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:25.680 why do I feel that I don't deserve this? And 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:27.920 that was something that I had like a you know, 0:06:27.960 --> 0:06:31.039 in therapy we talked about like I didn't I feel 0:06:31.080 --> 0:06:33.400 like I deserved it, but like why So then it's 0:06:33.440 --> 0:06:35.400 like then you go back to, like, oh, because when 0:06:35.400 --> 0:06:38.400 I was this age, I felt like I wasn't deserving 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:40.359 or that I wasn't good enough to get it or 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:43.880 it wasn't good enough. And so I think, you know 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:49.880 that plays a part into relational stuff. Do you feel 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:54.760 that as well? Or yeah? Absolutely? And so I've identified 0:06:54.800 --> 0:06:59.080 seven different dating personas in my book, and they all 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:02.040 are fear and they all stem from whether it's an 0:07:02.200 --> 0:07:04.320 X something a parent said to you, something a friend 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:07.520 said to you in your childhood. For instance, there's the chameleon, 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:10.280 there's the repeater, there's the fault finder, and they all 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:14.840 go back to these unresolved issues that came from somewhere. 0:07:15.000 --> 0:07:16.960 And my whole goal with the work that I do 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:20.440 is I help people get back to their essential nature, 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:26.360 their soul, who they were before life and difficult relationships 0:07:26.360 --> 0:07:29.480 and experiences got in the way, because all of that 0:07:29.600 --> 0:07:34.640 is a facade. But who we truly are is our truth, 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:37.400 and this isn't I feel like a lot of people 0:07:37.440 --> 0:07:40.800 talk about this stuff. It's very buzzy buzzworthy, it's very 0:07:42.240 --> 0:07:47.120 currents and people are doing tiktoks and everything. But I've studied, 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:51.840 I've studied this stuff, and this stuff is real. And 0:07:53.520 --> 0:07:56.640 the gift that people can give themselves when they resolve 0:07:56.680 --> 0:07:59.600 their unresolved issues from their childhood, when they can be 0:08:00.400 --> 0:08:02.800 from their past, when they don't identify as a victim 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:05.840 anymore of their past, when they see that life happens 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:10.320 for us, not to us, for us, everything happens for 0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:12.680 our growth and upliftment and for ust to get closer 0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:18.120 to ourselves, then it's that gift because then you're free 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:21.160 from your past and you actually can manifest that which 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:39.560 is meant for you. What about the soulmate stuff though, Yeah, 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:41.480 so I love that you're bringing this up. So I 0:08:41.520 --> 0:08:44.880 did an event at Unplugged a few weeks ago in 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:49.520 LA and we did a meditation, I talked about my book, 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:52.719 and then before we did the book signing, there was 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:55.480 a Q and a human is my favorite part always ever, 0:08:55.600 --> 0:08:57.480 so love the U and I and I love it, 0:08:57.559 --> 0:08:59.360 especially because I'm in the hot seat. I don't know 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:02.480 what questions are going to be asked, and I didn't 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:04.720 know what questions we're going to ask. So one of 0:09:04.760 --> 0:09:08.000 the women asked, do I believe that we have more 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:11.600 than one soul mate? Which is what? Yeah, I had 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:16.280 no preparation. I didn't need preparation. However, you know, I'm 0:09:16.320 --> 0:09:18.520 so used to talking about the things that I'm that 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:22.559 I'm always talking about, and that is a question that, really, 0:09:22.880 --> 0:09:26.280 surprisingly enough, doesn't come up a lot. And so the 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:29.160 first thing that just came to me, from wherever it 0:09:29.200 --> 0:09:34.679 came from, was I said, you know what, there are 0:09:34.720 --> 0:09:39.880 widows in this world. There are people that we're so 0:09:40.040 --> 0:09:44.880 in love and somebody died, So how do you explain 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:49.800 that in terms of were they soul mates? And so 0:09:52.040 --> 0:09:56.480 that's where I started from, because even though I personally 0:09:56.520 --> 0:10:00.920 like I think we're on the same page. I believe that, yeah, 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:04.360 there might be a few people that we could mesh 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:08.040 with and work well together with and have fun. I 0:10:08.120 --> 0:10:14.600 personally believe that there is one person. So I don't know. 0:10:15.120 --> 0:10:16.960 I'm not God, you know, I don't know all the 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:19.760 answers in terms of what happens when your soulmate dies, 0:10:20.000 --> 0:10:23.480 I don't know. But what I do believe, so I'm 0:10:23.679 --> 0:10:27.000 I'm Jewish, and in the Jewish religion, we believe in 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:30.520 something called but share it be shared, And the story 0:10:30.600 --> 0:10:33.640 is that when you are up there and the cougels 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:35.800 in the universe, when you're a soul before you come here, 0:10:36.280 --> 0:10:42.080 you're attached by your back to your soulmates. You come 0:10:42.080 --> 0:10:45.640 to this earth and you find each other. And I 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:49.319 love that. I believe that. So I don't I'm not 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:53.280 a Rabbi and I'm not God, so I don't know 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:56.240 the answer, But in my heart I do feel that 0:10:56.400 --> 0:10:58.320 is that I agree with you, there is that one 0:10:58.360 --> 0:11:02.920 person that is the best match for us. Well, what 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:05.160 do you say, though, are the girl that's like either 0:11:05.240 --> 0:11:07.839 just gotten divorced or the girl that you know is 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:12.600 has been trying to find her person and her partner 0:11:12.679 --> 0:11:15.960 and or they just went through a breakup or like 0:11:16.679 --> 0:11:20.079 that they just kind of lost hope, Like what, because 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:22.040 I mean, like, I know what I would say, but 0:11:22.400 --> 0:11:24.760 I also am am on the other side of it 0:11:24.800 --> 0:11:28.280 now and so it's real hard to speak truth into 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:34.080 like when it, you know, during the destruction of it. First, 0:11:34.120 --> 0:11:38.520 I would say, read my book, not because not because 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:42.160 I'm a sales person. I authentically wrote this book to 0:11:42.280 --> 0:11:46.319 change to people's lives, for women to wake up, for 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:49.720 them to have Aha moments, for them to know things 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:53.920 that they don't know yet. So I would say that 0:11:54.080 --> 0:11:59.800 the truth is that their man is out there. And 0:12:00.400 --> 0:12:04.280 here's a cool statistic. So eighty percent of people that 0:12:04.400 --> 0:12:07.160 want to get married, we'll get married. And this is 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:10.040 with your soulmate. This isn't just married to get married. 0:12:10.080 --> 0:12:13.720 Eighty percent of people will get married. Okay, twenty percents. 0:12:14.320 --> 0:12:15.840 And I say this to all my gunds. The twenty 0:12:15.920 --> 0:12:18.760 percent that don't are people that are the repeater one 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:20.920 of my dating personas they do the same thing over 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:23.760 and over and they never own up. They never look inside. 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:26.400 It's always the guy's fault, always a person's fault, and 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:29.680 they never do that work to change anything up in 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:32.240 what they're doing, keep choosing the same guy over and over, 0:12:33.000 --> 0:12:35.320 and then the other let's say ten percent, would be 0:12:35.720 --> 0:12:38.880 people that have some sort of crazy, like not crazy, 0:12:38.880 --> 0:12:43.680 but like major mental disorder, their associopathy. They can't relate 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:47.400 to other humans. So the great news is that if 0:12:47.480 --> 0:12:53.320 you're if you're well functioning, highly functioning, just do some 0:12:53.360 --> 0:12:58.079 work and you will meet your person. But there are 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:00.640 so many people that just like I said that, they're 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:05.760 blaming and victim and the universe gives us what we 0:13:05.800 --> 0:13:08.800 focus on. So if you are constantly feeling bad for 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:11.680 yourself and you're in those low vibrations and you're in 0:13:11.679 --> 0:13:15.000 the past, the universe is going to keep on giving 0:13:15.040 --> 0:13:18.600 you experiences and people that will just validate that. Yeah, 0:13:18.640 --> 0:13:20.160 that's such a good point. I feel like there's so 0:13:20.160 --> 0:13:22.960 many people too that have said to me, like, I 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:25.040 can't believe after how many times you've been hurt, like 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:27.680 you still you still believe in love and you still 0:13:27.679 --> 0:13:29.440 put yourself out there. And I'm like, well, I'm not 0:13:29.440 --> 0:13:31.000 going to sit around and just be like, oh, I'm 0:13:31.000 --> 0:13:34.440 just this. I've gotten hurt so many times and I'm done. 0:13:34.480 --> 0:13:36.240 It's like that that that's not the kind of life 0:13:36.440 --> 0:13:38.680 I want to live either, and it's like I don't. 0:13:39.040 --> 0:13:41.240 I don't want that to be my story, right, So 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:44.480 it's like, yes, I've been hurt badly, but I also 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.080 still believe in it, right because if not, then what 0:13:47.200 --> 0:13:49.880 do I'm just gonna stay miserable and just be like, well, 0:13:49.880 --> 0:13:51.319 I'm not gonna open my heart back up because I 0:13:51.360 --> 0:13:54.000 got hurt. It's like, yeah, I did, and I might 0:13:54.040 --> 0:13:56.719 get hurt again, but like you know, I'm going to 0:13:56.840 --> 0:13:59.000 learn some things along the way. But I just the 0:13:59.040 --> 0:14:01.679 people that and it breaks my heart with people that say, well, 0:14:01.679 --> 0:14:04.040 I just don't think I'll ever trust again, Well, you 0:14:04.040 --> 0:14:06.640 you won't if you don't do it again. If you 0:14:06.640 --> 0:14:09.280 don't try, and you might. You might get burned again, 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:12.600 like you might. You totally might, and it might happen 0:14:12.600 --> 0:14:15.000 to me again. But I'm going to learn something with 0:14:15.040 --> 0:14:17.800 this one. And it's gonna it's gonna soul. You're gonna 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:20.480 you're gonna pick better once you start to heal inside too. 0:14:20.480 --> 0:14:24.200 It's kind of what I've always said, Yes, and it's 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:27.400 so important for you in the whole world, all of us, 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:32.440 that we are very aware of this fear. If you 0:14:32.600 --> 0:14:34.240 so the universe like I said, the universe is this 0:14:34.320 --> 0:14:38.000 what we focus on. So if you are fearful that 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:41.320 it the guy's going to cheat, whatever it is it's 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:43.920 going to happen again, or you're not gonna be treated 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:47.080 well or whatever that is, if you are fearful of that, 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:51.720 it will become a self fulfilling prophecy. Unfortunately. Yeah, but 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:54.800 wonderful news is that we have We don't have a 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:56.720 lot of control in life, but we do have control 0:14:56.800 --> 0:15:02.560 over these shifts. So once again, it's get aware. Once 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:06.520 you start feeling that or thinking or feeling that fear, 0:15:07.080 --> 0:15:12.240 you need to go into trusting mode. I trust, I trust, 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:15.760 I trust And also visualizing that's another chapter in my book. 0:15:16.240 --> 0:15:20.040 Visualizing mode starts seeing this happy ending, starts seeing what 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:22.880 would it feel like for this man to be in 0:15:22.880 --> 0:15:26.160 your life who loves you unconditionally? Would that feel like? 0:15:26.240 --> 0:15:30.120 And living as if because if you are walking around 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:33.240 with the fear that whatever it is is going to happen, 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:38.400 it will. And another thing is that you're when you 0:15:38.440 --> 0:15:41.160 were talking, I was just thinking love is a risk. 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:45.520 Love is a risk. However, love is why we live, 0:15:48.600 --> 0:15:50.640 that is why we are on this earth. There's either 0:15:50.760 --> 0:15:54.080 fear or love in this life and we are here 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:57.480 to love and it's the most wonderful feeling in the world. 0:15:57.840 --> 0:16:01.320 So I love that you got back on the You 0:16:01.440 --> 0:16:04.320 didn't give up. Yeah, because you knew, you know that 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:06.760 there's some there's that right man dustin for you, and 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:10.120 it sounds like you're in a relationship. Yeah, I'm very happy. 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:12.800 Having said that, it's interesting because I have done what 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:15.400 you just said, like drop the if. But I think 0:16:15.440 --> 0:16:17.520 it's my protection mode where I go, well, if it 0:16:17.520 --> 0:16:19.840 doesn't work out, I'll be okay. That's just the truth. 0:16:19.920 --> 0:16:22.280 Like if it doesn't, I know now, like I will 0:16:22.320 --> 0:16:25.640 be okay regardless if I if I'm married this man, 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:27.760 or I don't repect or if this happens, like I 0:16:28.240 --> 0:16:32.280 have come to terms and I've come to love you know, 0:16:32.800 --> 0:16:35.360 myself enough to not stay in something that's unhealthy and 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:38.320 to I'm I know that I will be okay and 0:16:38.360 --> 0:16:42.680 that I will be loved. Having said that, I almost 0:16:42.720 --> 0:16:45.760 think that if is like I have my thoughts and 0:16:45.800 --> 0:16:48.440 feelings of what I think this relationships ship is, but 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:50.960 I think there's a piece of me that still protects, 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:53.920 like the guarded piece, like, well, if it doesn't work out, 0:16:54.000 --> 0:16:56.320 like I'll be okay. So it is it bad to 0:16:56.360 --> 0:17:01.560 have that and then also believe too, it's actually see 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:05.439 what you're saying is actually really helpful, okay, because it 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:09.520 is helpful to say that I will be okay if 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:14.840 it doesn't work out, because in spirituality, that's actually neutrality, 0:17:14.920 --> 0:17:17.760 that's having no attachment to the outcome, and that is 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:21.560 a wonderful place to be. It's not something you want 0:17:21.600 --> 0:17:24.080 to be thinking every day. Sure, no no, no, no, 0:17:24.080 --> 0:17:28.119 no no, because you would actually manifest that, right, meaning 0:17:28.160 --> 0:17:31.320 like it might not work out and you will be 0:17:31.720 --> 0:17:33.479 I don't Yeah, I definitely don't say like, oh might 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:35.480 I work out? Like in my mind, I know what 0:17:35.520 --> 0:17:39.320 I'm manifesting and what like we're manifesting. But I also 0:17:39.400 --> 0:17:41.800 know that it's like, Okay, I've been down this road 0:17:41.840 --> 0:17:43.840 a time or two, and like I have been hurt, 0:17:43.920 --> 0:17:46.760 so like, regardless, I will be okay. By the way, 0:17:46.840 --> 0:17:48.800 that line is from Blossed The Broken Road, and I 0:17:48.840 --> 0:17:51.160 sang that at mine and my House's wedding, which one 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:53.720 I've been down the road at time or two? Yeah, 0:17:53.800 --> 0:17:58.080 I'm brown pushing. Yeah. Yeah, that's literally the longest saying 0:17:58.119 --> 0:18:03.000 in her wedding. Oh okay. So yes, it's not something 0:18:03.000 --> 0:18:04.679 I want to think about every day, but it's something 0:18:04.720 --> 0:18:08.119 that you know that you will be okay. But also 0:18:08.160 --> 0:18:12.920 I would just add to that, in addition being present, 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:15.959 I'm just I'm being present in this moment and I'm 0:18:16.040 --> 0:18:20.600 enjoying the relationship sure, because that's so important. Also instead 0:18:20.640 --> 0:18:25.480 of because fear and anxiety is fear, it's future, depression 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:30.719 is the past. So it's like such a fine Sometimes 0:18:30.720 --> 0:18:34.560 spirituality can be such a fine line of yes, of 0:18:34.560 --> 0:18:36.960 course I'll be okay, I'll be more than okay. If 0:18:36.960 --> 0:18:39.480 it doesn't work out, just won't be meant to be right. 0:18:40.280 --> 0:18:42.560 But it's really not something that it's just something to 0:18:42.600 --> 0:18:46.320 be like in your consciousness, but really not thinking all 0:18:46.320 --> 0:18:49.320 the time. What you really should be focusing on always 0:18:49.320 --> 0:18:51.600 and everybody should be focusing on this is being in 0:18:51.640 --> 0:18:55.480 that present moment, enjoying because we don't know what I mean, 0:18:55.640 --> 0:18:58.840 we don't know what tomorrow means with people's health and 0:18:58.920 --> 0:19:05.280 with with anything. So that's and once again, very busy, 0:19:05.480 --> 0:19:08.840 very crochet, almost now be present, be present, be present. 0:19:09.280 --> 0:19:13.679 But the reason from a biological and scientific reason and 0:19:13.840 --> 0:19:17.080 spiritual why we're supposed to be present, because our brain 0:19:17.160 --> 0:19:20.320 doesn't know the difference between the past and the future 0:19:20.320 --> 0:19:24.679 and the present. So if we are living in the 0:19:24.720 --> 0:19:27.639 past or living in the future in our brain, that's 0:19:27.680 --> 0:19:29.879 why the brain is going to think that we're actually 0:19:29.880 --> 0:19:32.600 there and will manifest more of that. So being present, 0:19:32.680 --> 0:19:36.520 being in your joy is the best place to be. 0:19:49.480 --> 0:19:51.440 What do you think is the biggest mistake that people 0:19:51.520 --> 0:19:55.960 make in manifesting and then also in just general with dating. 0:19:58.040 --> 0:20:00.200 I think the biggest mistake is what we're talking about. 0:20:00.240 --> 0:20:03.280 People think that they are focused on this is what 0:20:03.320 --> 0:20:05.480 I want, this is what I want. I need to 0:20:05.520 --> 0:20:09.040 find my man. I'm intentional about it, But what they're 0:20:09.080 --> 0:20:11.440 actually focused on the fear is that the fear that 0:20:11.480 --> 0:20:14.600 it's not going to happen, So it's getting aware of that. 0:20:14.640 --> 0:20:17.200 I would say that's the biggest mistake. And I talk 0:20:17.240 --> 0:20:20.800 about missing pieces in my book and the missing piece 0:20:20.800 --> 0:20:23.680 between you and your guy, and one of the missing 0:20:23.720 --> 0:20:28.160 pieces is is that another one is doing the same 0:20:28.200 --> 0:20:30.840 thing over and over without looking at what's going on, 0:20:30.880 --> 0:20:34.240 which we talked about unresolved issues and not being enough 0:20:34.280 --> 0:20:38.800 in touch with your intuition. So you're basing choices off 0:20:38.880 --> 0:20:41.280 of fear or you're basing choices off of your past, 0:20:41.280 --> 0:20:44.520 your basing choices off of what your best friend would do, 0:20:44.600 --> 0:20:46.760 and you're just not in touch with this is a 0:20:46.880 --> 0:20:48.679 sacred yes, is a sacred no. This is a yes 0:20:48.800 --> 0:20:51.600 or no, right. So I think those are the problems 0:20:51.600 --> 0:20:54.720 with man fasting that I fix in my book. And 0:20:54.760 --> 0:20:57.239 you also you said talk about you have dating personas too, 0:20:57.320 --> 0:20:59.399 So those are the pieces that the twenty percent of 0:20:59.440 --> 0:21:02.080 things that people. So there's how many dating personas do 0:21:02.080 --> 0:21:05.440 you have in your book? There's seven dating personas. Oh, 0:21:05.520 --> 0:21:08.879 I'm so excited to read this book. Okay, yes, And 0:21:08.960 --> 0:21:10.760 you know what, I'm glad that you said that, because 0:21:10.760 --> 0:21:13.439 even though one is in a relationship, so you're in 0:21:13.440 --> 0:21:17.480 a relationship this book. First of all, you can apply 0:21:17.640 --> 0:21:20.720 these manifesting concepts to anything in life, manting a job, 0:21:20.720 --> 0:21:25.920 manifesting house, anything, But even when you're in a relationship, 0:21:26.880 --> 0:21:30.119 they're like talking about intuition, you know, always trusting yourself 0:21:30.160 --> 0:21:34.040 within the relationship. There are so many concepts that will 0:21:34.080 --> 0:21:37.360 help you even when you're in the relationship. For sure, 0:21:37.600 --> 0:21:41.720 honoring yourself. So you're, oh, you're the dating brissonas, so 0:21:42.600 --> 0:21:44.639 you want to know just a few others. Yeah, so 0:21:44.640 --> 0:21:47.520 I would love to know a few others. Okay, So 0:21:47.560 --> 0:21:50.240 we went over to the chameleon, the repeater, the fault finder. 0:21:50.760 --> 0:21:55.600 There's the settler, like we talked about right at the beginning. 0:21:54.920 --> 0:22:02.920 Yet there's the unavailable man magnets. There's the I call 0:22:03.000 --> 0:22:07.840 her the misbeliever, like misbelieving something, the one that does 0:22:07.960 --> 0:22:12.400 not believe it's going to happen. And that's about five. 0:22:12.480 --> 0:22:15.639 We'll we'll leave the rest for I mean, I've already 0:22:15.720 --> 0:22:19.240 hit five of those in the past. So I'm glad 0:22:19.280 --> 0:22:21.199 that you're bringing up. I'm glad you're bringing that up, 0:22:21.200 --> 0:22:24.119 because these are different than love languages or I just 0:22:24.200 --> 0:22:27.280 learned about lost languages recently. It's different than the nineogram. 0:22:27.359 --> 0:22:31.000 It's different than a personality task or one of those 0:22:31.000 --> 0:22:33.560 things where you where you're just one or one or two. 0:22:34.320 --> 0:22:36.360 These the reason why it's important to read the whole 0:22:36.359 --> 0:22:37.800 book and I just go to the chapter that you 0:22:37.840 --> 0:22:41.920 think you are is because most of us have experienced 0:22:42.200 --> 0:22:46.560 most of these dating persons. So it's looking at all 0:22:46.600 --> 0:22:50.080 of these different fear based things from different angles and 0:22:50.280 --> 0:22:54.240 really getting a grasp on Wow, I had no idea 0:22:54.280 --> 0:22:57.120 that this was going on, yeah, or like not wanting 0:22:57.160 --> 0:22:59.560 to fall back in the trap of it too. Yeah, 0:22:59.680 --> 0:23:03.440 exactly if you're or if you've already manifested, exactly how 0:23:03.480 --> 0:23:06.240 do you stay how do you stay in that present mode, 0:23:06.480 --> 0:23:10.119 in that in that trusting mode. Oh I love it. Well, 0:23:10.119 --> 0:23:13.200 I'm very excited. Um, manifesting is a step by step 0:23:13.240 --> 0:23:16.159 guy to attracting the love that is meant for you. Um. 0:23:16.280 --> 0:23:19.720