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Speaker 1: Wine Down with Jane Kramer and I Heart Radio Podcast.

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Speaker 1: Very excited about today's podcast because we're gonna have Jamie

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Speaker 1: Bronstein on. She's a relationship coach, author, and speaker. Was

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Speaker 1: named the number one relationship coach Transforming lives by Yahoo Finance.

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Speaker 1: She's the host of Love Talk Live on LA Talk

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Speaker 1: Radio and works with singles, couples, and people getting through

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Speaker 1: breakups and divorces. In her private practice. She has a

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Speaker 1: book right now out called Manifesting, A Step by step

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Speaker 1: Guide Attracting the Love that has meant for You. So

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Speaker 1: very excited to get her on and talk about all

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Speaker 1: things to manifest that great Lovelli, Hi, how are you good?

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Speaker 1: How are you good? Welcome to wind Down. Thank you

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Speaker 1: so happy to be here your book. First of all,

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Speaker 1: I just like the man Yeah, I just love it

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Speaker 1: was like a manifesting. I was like that is I'm like,

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Speaker 1: that's amazing love. That a step by step guide to

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Speaker 1: attracting the love that is meant for you. I'm so

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Speaker 1: excited to have you on because obviously finding love can

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Speaker 1: be a struggle, right, but finding the right love is

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Speaker 1: almost like like for me, it's like I I force

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Speaker 1: so much love be like I forced relationships because I

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Speaker 1: just wanted to feel love, but it was always the

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Speaker 1: wrong kind of of love. And it's like to manifest

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Speaker 1: like that good human can be hard because you also

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Speaker 1: you're like I don't want to wait, Like how long

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Speaker 1: do you have to wait for this? Like this fairytale

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Speaker 1: man you know from from the movies, and so I'm

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Speaker 1: curious like, yeah, actually if you don't know if he

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Speaker 1: if he actually exists, and so that's why I wrote

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Speaker 1: this to show that he actually does exist. Do you

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Speaker 1: have the do you have? Did you manifest your man? Oh?

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Speaker 1: I did? Yes, he's downstairs. We've been he works her home.

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Speaker 1: We've been worked. We've been working. We've been it's also working.

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Speaker 1: It's worked too. Yeah, we have a child. We've been

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Speaker 1: married for almost nine years. Wow. Oh so yeah. So

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Speaker 1: question like the manifesting, like where did this come from

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Speaker 1: for you? Like what was the kind of like moment

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Speaker 1: where were like I need to write this book. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So my book Manifesting is the book that I wish

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Speaker 1: I had when I was manifesting my husband. I managed

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Speaker 1: to manifest him, just somehow. I didn't meet him till

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Speaker 1: I was thirty four years old, which is definitely not old. However,

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Speaker 1: I feel like I was in a very long journey.

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Speaker 1: I'm a romantic. I was born for love, so for me,

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Speaker 1: I was born to meet my husband. So I really

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Speaker 1: feel like my studies in psychology, my twenty years of

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Speaker 1: experience as a therapist, and also my three years of

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Speaker 1: studying spiritual psychology, it was and then my all of

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Speaker 1: my experience dating I mean, my husband. It was just

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Speaker 1: I have all this inside that I wanted to share

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Speaker 1: that your man does exist. Because everybody has a soulmate.

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Speaker 1: It's everybody's birthright to have a soulmate. So I had

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Speaker 1: a message. I have a message to share, and I

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Speaker 1: wanted to share it with more than just my clients.

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Speaker 1: I love that you said the soulmate word because I

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Speaker 1: remember when I was married to my ex, I would say,

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Speaker 1: and you know he was like, yeah, I mean I

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Speaker 1: think you can be one's soulmate for a season or

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Speaker 1: you know, for a few years. And maybe that's true.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. But for me, I'm like, no, like

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Speaker 1: I have always been like there is one soulmate and

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Speaker 1: and so but I it is. It's interesting and I'm curious,

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Speaker 1: fear based thinking. And I do something called compassionate self forgiveness,

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Speaker 1: seven different dating personas in my book, and they all

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Speaker 1: and this isn't I feel like a lot of people

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Speaker 1: the gift that people can give themselves when they resolve

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Speaker 1: I'm a sales person. I authentically wrote this book to

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Speaker 1: change to people's lives, for women to wake up, for

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Speaker 1: them to have Aha moments, for them to know things

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