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Speaker 1: What do you do when life doesn't go according to

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Speaker 1: plan that moment you lose a job, or a loved one,

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Speaker 1: or even a piece of yourself. I'm Brookshields and this

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Speaker 1: is now What, a podcast about pivotal moments as told

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Speaker 1: by people who lived them. Each week, I sit down

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Speaker 1: with a guest to talk about the times they were

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Speaker 1: knocked off course and what they did to move forward.

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Speaker 1: Some stories are funny, others are gut wrenching, but all

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Speaker 1: are unapologetically human and remind us that every success and

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Speaker 1: every setback is accompanied by a choice, and that choice

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Speaker 1: answers one question, Now, what when you started in comedy?

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Speaker 1: It really and it less so now I think, I mean,

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Speaker 1: you tell me, but was really a boys club?

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Speaker 2: Yea?

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Speaker 1: What personage did you put on to be level with

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Speaker 1: the boys?

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Speaker 2: When I first started stand up, the guys all told

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Speaker 2: me you have to talk about stuff that guys are interested,

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Speaker 2: and you can't talk about like the female experience, which

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Speaker 2: I don't think they put that in those words even,

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Speaker 2: and they explained they had a very good reason. They said,

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Speaker 2: because women are there on dates and they will only

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Speaker 2: laugh if their date lasts, so you have to make

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Speaker 2: the men laugh. That it has to be your priority,

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Speaker 2: and I bought into it. I mean, because they were

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Speaker 1: In my mind, my guest today is a comedy icon.

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Speaker 1: She's also an actor, a best selling author, a podcaster,

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Speaker 1: and so much more. Sarah Silverman has been on the

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Speaker 1: scene for thirty years, and I suspect many of you

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Speaker 1: have an opinion about her work and her sense of humor.

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Speaker 1: Mine is this. I think she is brilliant and I

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Speaker 1: have watched in admiration as she's done it all. Award

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Speaker 1: winning stand up specials, her own shows on Comedy Central

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Speaker 1: and Hulu, dramatic turns in films like I Smile Back,

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Speaker 1: and Yes, even in musical about Wedding the Bed. Sarah

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Speaker 1: is insanely talented. She's kind, engaging and generous with her time.

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Speaker 1: I feel so fortunate that we got to spend some

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Speaker 1: time together chatting, just one on one, and I'm so

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Speaker 1: excited for you to hear that conversation. So without further ado,

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Speaker 1: here is the one and only Sarah Silverman. Thank you

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Speaker 1: for giving me of your time. Of course, I always

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Speaker 1: get excited when I know I'm going to get a

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Speaker 1: chance to see you. Oh my god, even hang out

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Speaker 1: a little bit I just wanted to ask how you're doing.

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Speaker 1: I know you have family in Israel.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they're all alive, and but it's so scary, you know.

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Speaker 2: I mean, my youngest niece is in the army. I

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Speaker 2: mean you have to do the army, you know, so

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Speaker 2: she's still in it and right girding a bass.

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 2: It's just like, oh my gosh, terrifying. They all have

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Speaker 2: friends that were murdered. You know. I'm usually pretty good

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Speaker 1: Well, you have, I mean you have to, you have

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Speaker 1: to anyway. I just I'm my heart and soul is

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Speaker 1: I just feel I'm putting my version of prayer.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, whatever however that looks to everybody, Thank you.

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Speaker 1: My heart's with you. That's all. The other thing I

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Speaker 1: also want to start off with, Yeah, you are spectacular

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, you really.

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Speaker 1: I mean I'm not surprised. It's like I always get, oh,

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Speaker 1: I thought you were going to stuck. But you're good.

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Speaker 1: That's not what I that's not what. I'm not so

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Speaker 1: prized at your talent. I'm just I was so glad

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Speaker 1: that you were cast in that part, and it's such

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Speaker 1: a standout part. I'm so personally attached to that character,

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Speaker 1: just because I did Wonderful Town on Broadway and I

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Speaker 1: got to meet I got to meet her actually wow,

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Speaker 2: But that's amazing.

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Speaker 1: I think she would have just loved just from the

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Speaker 2: It's a very rare time where Adolph would be so happy.

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Speaker 2: Is actually a lovely thing to say.

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Speaker 1: It's a good thing. Yeah, no, true, But anyway, I

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Speaker 1: just congratulations on that. And you have a new stand

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Speaker 1: up special which is on HBO. It's called Sarah Silverman

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Speaker 1: someone you Love. Yah. But what's weird is I don't

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Speaker 2: A lot of comics do that. I've never done that.

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Speaker 2: I just never think about it. Like I have friends

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Speaker 2: special was my fourth special. I've been doing stand ups

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Speaker 2: I'm like starting over, like just figuring out what I have,

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Speaker 2: and they were like, we won our special, you know,

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Speaker 2: course not all of it is like stuff I want

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Speaker 1: Especially when you get a laugh. The tendency used to

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Speaker 2: You go, I know I have material that can kill,

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Speaker 2: but I've already done it. I can't go back on

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Speaker 2: don't have that's new with old stuff. You know works,

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Speaker 1: But there is something that happens when I mean, I've

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Speaker 1: it's a live, tangible thing. Yeah, just to start a

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Speaker 1: little bit back in the early days, I think all

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Speaker 1: parents are extremely formative, but your dad just seems to

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Speaker 2: Like on his deathbed, he Jeff Ross came to visit

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Speaker 2: was pretty amazing. And Jeff Ross, well, first he came

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Speaker 2: and he said, Schleppie. Everyone calls me Dad, Schleppe Schleppie.

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Speaker 2: Jeff introduced my parents to this guy, Bernie Shine, and

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Speaker 2: a week before, and he said, and her name was Janie,

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Speaker 2: and he holds the camera and my dad goes, Bernie,

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Speaker 1: My mother used to do this thing where she'd, you know,

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Speaker 1: never coming back. She's so sick. My mother. My mother's

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Speaker 2: my number one was Steve Martin, you know, I just

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Speaker 2: up in with my mom, I lived, I had a

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Speaker 2: room in the attic and on the ceiling and pencil

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Speaker 2: I wrote, I Love Steve Martin and it's still there

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Speaker 2: all these years later, and they, you know, after my

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Speaker 2: mom died, my sister sold the house and then I

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Speaker 2: did a show in Boston like a year later, and

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Speaker 2: the realtor who sold the house came and he brought

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Speaker 1: You talk about this in your books, and especially in

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Speaker 1: bed Weather, the brilliant book, you talk about the struggle

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Speaker 1: that you had with wedding the bed. Now I wet

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Speaker 1: the bed, but for very different reasons. Now I went

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Speaker 1: the bed because I'm a fifty eight year old woman

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Speaker 1: five sneeze in my sleepers. But what do you think

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Speaker 1: that was? I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I mean, I went the bed like

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Speaker 2: deep into my teens, and you know, I think it

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Speaker 2: was probably emotional. I think also it was physical. Like

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Speaker 2: I was very small for my age. I looked like

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Speaker 2: then I turned like seventeen, and all of a sudden,

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Speaker 2: the comedy was very dark and like hard, you know,

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Speaker 2: And so when people were shocked by me, there was

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Speaker 2: a little bit of like what who mey? But there

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Speaker 2: was some genuine what whomy about it? Like because I

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Speaker 2: just that really was my experience in my home.

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Speaker 1: Is there one thing that when you look back at

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Speaker 1: your comedy and also now that you're especially proud of.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think I'm proud of like, you know, I'm

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Speaker 2: proud of all of it. I'm cringey at a lot

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Speaker 2: of it, you know, I mean, you know, it's comedy

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Speaker 2: is not evergreens. I haven't seen my first special Jesus

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Speaker 2: is Magic, but I know that it's problematic on several

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Speaker 2: levels levels now. But I think I'm proud of the

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Speaker 2: changing and being brave enough to lose fans, you know,

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Speaker 2: to get new fans, to just be true to like

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Speaker 2: whatever I'm into in this moment, you know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think that that's the most important thing

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Speaker 1: is to be able to pivot. And I also think

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Speaker 1: that it's so interesting because most, I believe great comics

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Speaker 1: have to sort of be polarizing. I don't know if

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Speaker 1: I mean, if you're too vanilla down the center, it's

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Speaker 1: sort of I don't know. It doesn't comics.

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Speaker 2: Who are very you could say, like very clean or

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Speaker 2: very vanilla, that are brilliant because it's authentically them, you know,

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Speaker 2: I mean Seinfelder, Jim Gaffigan, or people who are like

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Speaker 2: very clean but brilliantly funny. I mean, there are a

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Speaker 2: lot of dirty comics that suck, you know, I mean

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Speaker 2: it's all you know. But but yeah, I mean there's

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Speaker 2: there's clear.

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Speaker 1: About what they're point. Yes, But I mean I think

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Speaker 1: that that's so those two things I think are always

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Speaker 1: very close. But I want to ask you the now

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Speaker 1: walk question again because I am so interested in those like,

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Speaker 1: oh fuck, now what do I do? And in our

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Speaker 1: personal lives and why some people go in one direction

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Speaker 1: and why other people you know, get stagnant or can't.

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Speaker 1: But it's and I understand the professional ones. Are there

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Speaker 1: any personal now what moments that stick out for you?

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Speaker 2: You know? I will say getting older as a woman,

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Speaker 2: and also as someone who like in my younger years,

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Speaker 2: I was like the kid and I was like, you know,

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Speaker 2: I used my sexual prowess as a you know, it

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Speaker 2: was a power. It was the power I had, and

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Speaker 2: you know that goes away when you're not like young

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Speaker 2: and dumb, and I had to learn all the other

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Speaker 2: parts of myself, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Well also it's I mean I used to see

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Speaker 1: you predominantly just at Gary's basketball games, and I remember

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Speaker 1: saying to Gary channeling our loved mutual friend who I

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Speaker 1: met through my husband, who has passed away. But I

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Speaker 1: remember saying to Gary. When Gary invited me, I said, like,

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Speaker 1: women don't go, and it was it was funny because

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Speaker 1: you were the only girl playing with them. And when

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Speaker 1: you when you started in comedy, it really and it

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Speaker 1: less so now I think, I mean, you tell me,

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Speaker 1: but was really a boys club?

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Speaker 2: It was?

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Speaker 1: It was boy How did you what personae did you

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Speaker 1: put on to be level with the boys? You know,

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Speaker 1: you were like alone.

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Speaker 2: When I first started stand up, the guys all told

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Speaker 2: me you have to talk about stuff that guys are

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Speaker 2: interested and you can't talk about like the female experience,

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Speaker 2: which I don't think they put that in that word,

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Speaker 2: those words even, and they explained they had a very

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Speaker 2: good reason. They said, because women are there on dates

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Speaker 2: and they will only laugh if their date laughs, So

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Speaker 2: you have to make the men laugh that it has

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Speaker 2: to be your priority. And I bought into it, I mean,

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Speaker 2: because they were grown ups in my mind, you know.

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Speaker 2: But at the time it was it was really all men.

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Speaker 2: It was very rare to see other women. Of course,

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Speaker 2: there were women who came before me, so many, but

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Speaker 2: on the ground it was very male. And but you know,

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Speaker 2: the thing I love about stand up, especially now, is

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Speaker 2: that it's it's so diverse. I mean it's it's so

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Speaker 2: diverse every kind of person. There's comics, and we're just

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Speaker 2: like this island of misfit toys. I always think of

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Speaker 2: it because it's like when you meet a comic, even

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Speaker 2: if you've never met them before, you're already like mishbooka.

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Speaker 1: You know, well, you always seem like you're someone who's

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Speaker 1: really open to growing and changing and being changed and

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Speaker 1: open to people and material and life. And if you

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Speaker 1: were to look back at your life, what would you

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Speaker 1: say Your through line.

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Speaker 2: Is give me an example, what do you mean? Okay,

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Speaker 2: the content totem.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean mine is perseverance. So mine is like

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Speaker 1: every time I get knocked down, I get up again,

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Speaker 1: like that song, but it's like I'm I'm like that.

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Speaker 1: Ye just come of.

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Speaker 2: People tobble, but they don't fall down exactly.

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Speaker 1: So that for me would be my through line professionally beautiful.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I think just evolving and being okay,

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Speaker 2: not knowing stuff, being okay with the stuff that is

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Speaker 2: just too big to comprehend.

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Speaker 1: That was Sarah Silverman. If you want to hear more

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Speaker 1: from her, go check out her latest special, Sarah Silverman

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Speaker 1: Someone You Love, streaming now on Max, or go listen

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Speaker 1: to the Sarah Silverman podcast on the iHeartRadio app or wherever.

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