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Speaker 1: I'm furious with my sister in law. She's been demanding

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Speaker 1: my wife take a DNA test.

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Speaker 3: No thank you.

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Speaker 4: Or we're diving into jaw dropping paternity twist with family

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Speaker 4: But let's dive into this one. I'm using a dummy

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Speaker 4: account for obvious reasons. My wife gave birth to our

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Speaker 4: baby boy just two weeks ago. Since she's been suffering

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Speaker 4: from mood swings and gets angry easily, I thought it

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Speaker 4: was postpardrum, so I tried to convince my wife to

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Speaker 4: seek help from a professional to what she refused, and

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Speaker 4: she kept refusing, so I just gave up instead of

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Speaker 4: forcing her. And by the way, this comes from Admirable

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Speaker 4: I brought it. So I started providing as much emotional

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Speaker 4: and physical support as I could. I don't know what

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Speaker 4: my wife was struggling with because my sister in law

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Speaker 4: was asking my wife for a DNA test.

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Speaker 1: So are you the bad guy or she the bad guy?

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Speaker 1: Who's the bad guy here?

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Speaker 3: The sister in law for asking for a DNA test?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 4: So the reason, this is the reason why the wife

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Speaker 4: has been like in a mood. My wife told me

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Speaker 4: the truth when I found her crying in her bedroom.

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Speaker 4: When I told her that she can trust me, she

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Speaker 4: absolutely needs to tell me what she's been thinking, otherwise

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Speaker 4: I won't be able to help her. She told me

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Speaker 4: that my sister in law has been asking her to

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Speaker 4: do a DNA test. Is proved that the baby is

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Speaker 4: really mine and owes us, And when she refused to

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Speaker 4: do that, she kept questioning whether the baby is truly

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Speaker 4: mine or not.

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Speaker 1: My wife is religious. She wouldn't even show her face

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Speaker 1: to another man. Having spicy sleep with another man is

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Speaker 1: out of the question.

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Speaker 4: I asked her why she did not tell me the truth.

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Speaker 4: She said she didn't want me to doubt her. I

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Speaker 4: told her that I would never doubt her and a

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Speaker 4: DNA test is unnecessary. I went to my sister in

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Speaker 4: law and asked her why she did harass my wife

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Speaker 4: and said that she insulted my wife by asking for

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Speaker 4: a DNA test. She said she was just looking out

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Speaker 4: for me, and she thought my wife is trapping me

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Speaker 4: because she's from a different religion. Oh, lovely, I said

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Speaker 4: she had no right to pester my wife and speak

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Speaker 4: on my behalf. I don't want a DNA test and

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Speaker 4: she should not be worried about it. I told her

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Speaker 4: that she should stay away from both of us for

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Speaker 4: now because my wife just gave birth to my son

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Speaker 4: and we need to focus on my wife's health and

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Speaker 4: her son. But now my sister in law and my

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Speaker 4: brother keeps calling me in, texting me that I'm kind

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Speaker 4: of being unfair to her and she was trying to

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Speaker 4: help me in a way, and I'm inexperienced. And many

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Speaker 4: men never found out that their children's aren't really theirs,

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Speaker 4: but somehow someone else's step one back off. I know

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Speaker 4: my son is mine and my wife and I trust her,

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Speaker 4: and I can bet my balls that my wife would

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Speaker 4: never betray me, but I don't know how to explain

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Speaker 4: they don't even want to listen to me. So am

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Speaker 4: I the a hole?

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Speaker 1: Guys? OPI was not the a hole?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, obviously not. I mean your brother and your his

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Speaker 3: wife are trying to like, I don't know, trap your

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Speaker 3: wife or like accuser of all this stuff, and you're

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Speaker 3: defending her rightfully.

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Speaker 4: So a religious like Okay, I thought it was because

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Speaker 4: of money. I was like, how could they get money

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Speaker 4: get money out of things. We have a comment asking

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Speaker 4: why doesn't Opie's wife want to show her face to

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Speaker 1: OPI, What am I supposed to do?

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Speaker 4: Should I force my wife and tell her she needs

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Speaker 4: My wife can do whatever she wants, and I can't

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Speaker 4: really force her to do something she doesn't want to.

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Speaker 4: OPI on his wife's religion. She wears it's Muslim. I thought,

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Speaker 4: so she keeps her whole body covered from hands to

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Speaker 1: Is Muslim? I'm not.

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Speaker 4: We both are culturally apart. The only reason we're married

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Speaker 4: religion and culture.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean your sister in law is making these

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Speaker 3: accusations and it seems like I mean she even said, oh, well,

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Speaker 3: she's not from our religion. Yeah, so it does seem

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Speaker 4: If I knew that my sister in law would start

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Speaker 4: I would have kept her far away from my wife.

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Speaker 1: I don't understand why commenters.

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Speaker 4: Here are more worried about my wife covering herself and

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Speaker 4: just ignore everything about my sister in law and her

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Speaker 4: doubt about my son isn't actually mine?

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Speaker 3: Typical Reddit, typical red it being like why are you

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Speaker 3: giving your wife like religious autonomy?

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Speaker 4: I love it when they get fixated on a recipe,

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Speaker 4: like so what was the recipe that they ruined?

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Speaker 1: Could you share that here?

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Speaker 3: They're like you, like, how dare you like a press

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Speaker 3: your wife by letting her wear a burka?

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Speaker 1: Don't let her do that? Like that's what she wants

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Speaker 1: to do. Can we focus on the issue here or not?

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Speaker 1: This other stuff.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't even have anything to do with this.

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Speaker 4: But other times they're like, maybe there is an age gap.

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Speaker 4: Maybe you guys should think about the age gap where opie?

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Anyways, we got an update May eighth, twenty twenty five,

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Speaker 4: more than three weeks later. Long story short of my

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Speaker 4: previous post. My sister in law asked my wife for

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Speaker 4: a DNA test to prove that a new born is

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Speaker 4: actually mine behind my back, when I myself am the father,

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Speaker 4: never asked for it or doubted my wife. I asked

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Speaker 4: my sister in law, why should my wife need to

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Speaker 4: prove herself and do a paternity test? Why did she

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Speaker 4: not ask another woman from our family to prove themselves?

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Speaker 4: And she shouldn't have question and insulted my wife after

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Speaker 4: My sister in law said she was looking out for me,

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Speaker 4: and same crap about many men never finding out their

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Speaker 4: I told her that she's creating unnecessary drama in my

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Speaker 4: life and I have no doubts and I trust my wife.

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Speaker 4: I told her that I am for now going to

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Speaker 4: I want to focus on my wife's self and our

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Speaker 4: and she said she doesn't want to break the family apart.

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Speaker 4: She wants to talk to my wife and apologize to her.

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Speaker 4: I said, I'll think about it, but system less said,

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Speaker 4: if I'm not ready yet to forgive her, I should

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Speaker 4: at least not cut my brother and let him visit

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Speaker 4: his nephew. Oh so maybe it's about seeing the kid.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's got all taller root motives.

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Speaker 4: I told my wife everything, and she said she's willing

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Speaker 4: our lives permanently. Now I'm thinking if I should let

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Speaker 1: My wife is a lot better than.

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Speaker 4: Before, and I took a lot of effort, and if

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Speaker 4: get depressed and angry again. My wife is very religious

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Speaker 4: a woman. Got relevant comments Opie's wife should seek for

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Speaker 4: medical treatment. My wife is not against medical care. My wife,

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Speaker 4: is definitely not against medical treatment like a vaccination, et cetera.

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Speaker 4: My wife just didn't want to seek help or get

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Speaker 3: Ooh, I wondered if she has PPD.

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Speaker 4: I'm one hundred percent sure she'd been successful, but my

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Speaker 4: was her breaking point.

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Speaker 1: I cannot force my wife. She's not like my.

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Speaker 4: Newborn like I can just pick them up and get

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Speaker 4: don't want my sister in law to split our progress

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Speaker 4: just because she has a different agenda. Another commenter says

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Speaker 4: postpartum depression is not mood swings. The normal baby blues

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Speaker 4: mood swings only as a week or so after birth.

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Speaker 4: It's also not something to be handled on your own.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. Like if it's just you know, she's sad, like,

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Speaker 3: maybe that could be hand alone. But if it's pretty

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Speaker 3: intense mood swings right after giving birth, it could be PPD,

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Speaker 3: in which case you might need some extra help, and

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Speaker 3: that's okay.

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Speaker 4: It is serious and has devastating long term effects. It

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Speaker 4: can impact the ability to bond with the baby, It

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Speaker 4: will impact your marriage. It will impact all aspects of life,

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Speaker 4: and not for the better. It's also not a matter

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Speaker 4: of strength. It's an imbalance in brain chemistry and hormones.

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Speaker 4: She didn't cause it. It isn't a weakness, and it

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Speaker 4: won't really get better on its own. Untreated. It can

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Speaker 4: linger for years. I did not know this was that serious.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I knew it was serious, but I didn't

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Speaker 3: know yours. The effects on the brain it had.

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Speaker 4: Untreated, it can develop into postpartum psychiosis. Whoa Jesus, and

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Speaker 4: it can be dangerous. Rather than just damaging, it can

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Speaker 4: be life threatening for mother and a baby. If she

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Speaker 4: won't mention it herself, you can call her doctor or

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Speaker 4: the baby's pediatrician and tell them. They can't tell you

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Speaker 4: things about her due to privacy, but you can tell

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Speaker 4: them about your concerns. When I had my baby, it

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Speaker 4: was actually the pediatrician that did the most of the

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Speaker 4: screening for PbD.

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Speaker 1: And that's party.

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Speaker 4: Because we saw him more, but also because it is

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Speaker 4: a danger to the baby as well.

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Speaker 3: I think if she's having problems, obviously you cannot force

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Speaker 3: your wife to do do anything, But I do think

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Speaker 3: that encouraging her to get help be a good idea.

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Speaker 1: Drag her to the doctors. You got this PPD and

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Speaker 4: just like this one, Sophia, which one's your favorite?

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Speaker 3: I liked the prank one.

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Speaker 1: I think she's lying to you because she sees prestige

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Speaker 1: Why you always lie in uh the prestige? Yeah, edit

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Speaker 3: Hospital Miranda. I didn't know how to tell you.

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Speaker 1: It's the family business. Yeah, it's the family business.

443
00:19:37,640 --> 00:19:40,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, hospital, that's my last I'm a proud hospital.

444
00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:42,800
Speaker 1: I'm a seventh generation hospital.

445
00:19:43,680 --> 00:19:45,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm Miranda nurse.

446
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Speaker 1: I didn't know how to tell you, okay, Opie says

447
00:19:48,920 --> 00:19:52,840
Speaker 1: in response to that, she's probably a tech or something else. Oh,

448
00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:56,399
Speaker 1: she talks so much crap about text I think she

449
00:19:56,440 --> 00:20:00,240
Speaker 1: would rather be than cop to being a tech. Now that,

450
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Speaker 1: Platypus says, what kind of medical books does she have

451
00:20:02,760 --> 00:20:06,080
Speaker 1: in her house? Like Gray's Anatomy or hone and focus

452
00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:08,800
Speaker 1: on adult health, medical Surgical Nursing second edition? Are they

453
00:20:08,800 --> 00:20:10,760
Speaker 1: books to make her look fancy or books that she

454
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Speaker 1: may have used in school? Medical books is pretty generic. Well,

455
00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:15,720
Speaker 1: she has a bunch of them. I know she has

456
00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:20,000
Speaker 1: a DSM and physicians Desk Reference. I reckon she reads

457
00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:22,720
Speaker 1: them a lot because those are always on the coffee table.

458
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Speaker 1: She has a whole bookshelf full of books about diseases

459
00:20:26,359 --> 00:20:30,440
Speaker 1: and medications, skittles and whiskey two eight nine. Call when

460
00:20:30,480 --> 00:20:33,240
Speaker 1: she's supposed to be working and ask for her. If

461
00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:35,719
Speaker 1: she works there, she'll answer and you can bring her

462
00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:38,359
Speaker 1: food or coffee or something. She doesn't there's a communication

463
00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:40,840
Speaker 1: error in your relationship that needs to be addressed. I

464
00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:43,679
Speaker 1: wouldn't one hundred percent be positive on your friend's knowledge

465
00:20:43,720 --> 00:20:47,680
Speaker 1: due to the difference in their jobs. Slash rolls Op says,

466
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Speaker 1: she's supposed to be working right now until seven. I'm

467
00:20:49,880 --> 00:20:52,960
Speaker 1: gonna call Thanks Gray, I'm sorry but that it's so

468
00:20:53,080 --> 00:20:55,440
Speaker 1: wild to me that they need that. Maybe they didn't

469
00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:57,280
Speaker 1: need a Reddit post to get there. Yeah, but I'm like,

470
00:20:57,400 --> 00:20:58,919
Speaker 1: but it does feel like it's like they're like, what

471
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Speaker 1: do I do? M call her?

472
00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:04,040
Speaker 3: My first thought was like, call the hospital, go to

473
00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:06,640
Speaker 3: the go, drop off lunch for her at the hospital.

474
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Speaker 3: I don't know, like these are I don't even think

475
00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:09,680
Speaker 3: you need to outright be like.

476
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Speaker 1: You're lying to be yeah, Op, just like someone's lying

477
00:21:13,359 --> 00:21:15,040
Speaker 1: to me, like what do I how do? What do

478
00:21:15,080 --> 00:21:19,080
Speaker 1: I do about this? Skills and whiskey? Be prepared to

479
00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:21,520
Speaker 1: buy her that coffee if she's working, ha ha, wish

480
00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:26,000
Speaker 1: she all the best? PS. We want an update, Op says, well, Well,

481
00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:29,400
Speaker 1: I called and at first they thought I was asking

482
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Speaker 1: about a patient and said they couldn't talk about them

483
00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:33,639
Speaker 1: without their code, And I said, no, no, no, she

484
00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:36,040
Speaker 1: works there. And the woman I spoke with said, no

485
00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:39,919
Speaker 1: one with that name works there. I asked about the

486
00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:42,600
Speaker 1: other unit, and she told me she knows everyone who

487
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Speaker 1: works in sight. I thought maybe she goes by a

488
00:21:44,800 --> 00:21:46,840
Speaker 1: different name, so I started to describe her, and the

489
00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:49,760
Speaker 1: lady got upset and told me I have to go geez.

490
00:21:49,840 --> 00:21:51,480
Speaker 1: I guess she thought I was effing with her. I

491
00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 1: don't know what to think wandering around. Says Dang, that's

492
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:58,320
Speaker 1: gonna be a hard conversation. Be prepared to get backlash

493
00:21:58,359 --> 00:22:01,119
Speaker 1: and redirection. Stick to the point is lying and for

494
00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:03,840
Speaker 1: what reason? It sounds like the end of the relationship.

495
00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:05,879
Speaker 1: Can you imagine what would have happened if there was

496
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Speaker 1: a genuine medical emergency? A very scary thought.

497
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Speaker 3: Odd, Yeah, you're on a plane and someone's like, I

498
00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:12,640
Speaker 3: need a doctor. You're like, well, my my girlfriend's a nurse.

499
00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:15,960
Speaker 1: She's no, I'm not. I'm not working right now.

500
00:22:16,080 --> 00:22:19,160
Speaker 3: She's like, I actually, i'm I'm I'm sick.

501
00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:20,920
Speaker 1: I'm on the clock.

502
00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:22,879
Speaker 3: She's like, I actually don't do those type of things.

503
00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:24,080
Speaker 3: I need my books.

504
00:22:24,520 --> 00:22:26,920
Speaker 1: I need my books, I need my reference materials. I'm

505
00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:31,000
Speaker 1: not ready. Yeah, okay, so Op says, I don't understand

506
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Speaker 1: why someone would go through so much effort to lie

507
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Speaker 1: about being a nurse. If she is lying about it,

508
00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:38,399
Speaker 1: I'm going to hold off on any judgment until I

509
00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:40,639
Speaker 1: talk to her in person and we have an update.

510
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Speaker 3: I mean, god forbid a girl have a hobby, you know,

511
00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:46,040
Speaker 3: God forbid a girl manifest God forbid.

512
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Speaker 1: It's like it's called manifestation. Actually is at the hospital,

513
00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:52,320
Speaker 1: but she's every dating. Yeah, she she shows up in

514
00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:54,880
Speaker 1: scrubs and she just like is in like a janitorial

515
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:57,240
Speaker 1: closet or supplying closet, and she's like, a right, come on,

516
00:22:57,359 --> 00:22:59,639
Speaker 1: today's the day. Today. Today, you just walk up to

517
00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:02,040
Speaker 1: a page and you're gonna take their blood.

518
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:04,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, She's like, this is how being a nurse works.

519
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:06,359
Speaker 3: You just walk in, you dressed for the job that

520
00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:08,400
Speaker 3: you want, not the job that you have, and I'm

521
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:10,720
Speaker 3: gonna go out there and I'm just gonna start doing

522
00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:12,840
Speaker 3: it and no one's gonna question it because I'm dressed

523
00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:13,560
Speaker 3: like a nurse.

524
00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:20,919
Speaker 1: Well, this chick is completely insane. Mystery solved. She doesn't

525
00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:23,240
Speaker 1: work at the nice hospital. She works at a not

526
00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 1: so nice hospital, and not as a nurse, but as

527
00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:29,440
Speaker 1: a phlebbottomy technician. Whatever the f that is?

528
00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:32,560
Speaker 3: Wait wait, wait, wait, what is a flabbotomy? Because I'm

529
00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:35,040
Speaker 3: thinking lobottomi, but obviously.

530
00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:36,879
Speaker 1: I think it's about your phlem phlebotomy.

531
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Speaker 3: Someone look up flebotomy.

532
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:41,400
Speaker 1: I'm assuming a bottom new words.

533
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:45,040
Speaker 3: Bottomy must be like taking like something, taking out something.

534
00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:47,760
Speaker 5: Blebotomy is the process of drawing blood from a vein,

535
00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:51,560
Speaker 5: typically using a needle and a collection tube, for laboratory

536
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:54,560
Speaker 5: testing or, in some cases, for therapeutic purposes, like removing

537
00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:55,760
Speaker 5: excess red blood cell.

538
00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:56,480
Speaker 1: I was right.

539
00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 3: I was also right.

540
00:23:57,440 --> 00:24:00,199
Speaker 1: I was like she was hiding the class. Has it

541
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:01,760
Speaker 1: been like, all right, you're just gonna go up to

542
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,560
Speaker 1: your patient and you're just gonna take their breath.

543
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:07,640
Speaker 3: That's what she does. And she just does blood work.

544
00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:08,280
Speaker 1: Oh my god.

545
00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 5: Ale botaby technician also noticed ale bottomist is a healthcare

546
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:15,160
Speaker 5: professional trained to draw blood samples for various medical procedures.

547
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:18,080
Speaker 3: Wow, okay, so she just draws blood. She just wanted

548
00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 3: to seem like she was cooler than she was.

549
00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:21,760
Speaker 1: So this is still yeah, Well, she's just not at

550
00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:24,280
Speaker 1: the best hospital. She's at the worst hospital.

551
00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:26,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, and she was lying about it to seem cooler.

552
00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:31,520
Speaker 1: Okay, she failed out of nursing school and is seriously obsessed.

553
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:34,840
Speaker 1: She said she got a TBI her third year into

554
00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:37,959
Speaker 1: her bachelor's program and was unable to finish. A TBI

555
00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:45,560
Speaker 1: to something something infection, tuberculosis, booty infection, traumatic brain injuries, Oh,

556
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:47,720
Speaker 1: not super relevant.

557
00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:51,280
Speaker 3: She got a traumatic brain injury that might have affected

558
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Speaker 3: her personality.

559
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:53,320
Speaker 1: She forms a lot.

560
00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:55,960
Speaker 3: I think that totally informs what she might be lying

561
00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 3: about things day.

562
00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:01,200
Speaker 1: Okay, she had a traumatic brain injury her third year

563
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,919
Speaker 1: into her bachelor's program and was unable to finish. I

564
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:06,240
Speaker 1: may have forgiven all of that, but it's clear she

565
00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:09,440
Speaker 1: has a tenuous at best grasp on reality and went

566
00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 1: on a bizarre rant about how she could be a doctor,

567
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:14,200
Speaker 1: how she saves lives and she's a genius, she knows

568
00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:15,879
Speaker 1: more than anyone in the world when it comes to

569
00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:18,840
Speaker 1: the medical field. She claims she could perform surgery on people,

570
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:21,399
Speaker 1: that she had healing powers, that she's the greatest person

571
00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 1: in the world, on and on. Seriously unhinged type crap.

572
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:29,159
Speaker 1: I had to tap out because she was really scaring me.

573
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:32,400
Speaker 1: I've never been in such close proximity to someone having

574
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 1: a mental breakdown. I wasn't supposed to see her until yesterday,

575
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:38,399
Speaker 1: and I ambushed her at her apartment finally I just

576
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:41,119
Speaker 1: had to leave. I feel bad about confronting her. I

577
00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 1: probably shouldn't have left her alone at all after that.

578
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 1: Update number two, This is a really long story that

579
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,560
Speaker 1: I must condense for character limit. I hope this sense

580
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:53,359
Speaker 1: of it all remains intact. My ex girlfriend deceived me

581
00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:56,479
Speaker 1: for our entire relationship. She told me she was a

582
00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:59,600
Speaker 1: very important charge nurse with a BSN and worked at

583
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:02,680
Speaker 1: a prison stigious hospital in our area. Here in reality,

584
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 1: she is not a nurse at all, but a phlebottomy technician,

585
00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:08,840
Speaker 1: and not at a prestigious hospital either. She had a

586
00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 1: total breakdown when I confronted her about all of this

587
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:14,680
Speaker 1: and ended up getting put on an involuntary psych hole.

588
00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 1: I do not know how she did it, but she

589
00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:20,000
Speaker 1: got herself released after only two days and is completely

590
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:24,240
Speaker 1: off the rails. She broke into my house. I came

591
00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 1: home from work the other day and she was in

592
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:31,880
Speaker 1: my shower, not taking a shower, just chilling in there

593
00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 1: with my cat.

594
00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:33,680
Speaker 5: That's freaky.

595
00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:36,199
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was about to say that actually sounds like

596
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 1: the freakiest way you could be in someone's announced. Oh brother, Okay,

597
00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 1: that really effing freaked me out. She ran off before

598
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:46,359
Speaker 1: the cops came, and then they couldn't find her. She

599
00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:48,399
Speaker 1: moved here a few months before we started dating, and

600
00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:50,840
Speaker 1: I didn't know any of her family. After she broke

601
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 1: into my house, I did some Internet salouthing and tracked

602
00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:56,159
Speaker 1: down her parents an older brother. I was able to

603
00:26:56,160 --> 00:26:58,560
Speaker 1: make contact with her mom because they have a landline

604
00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:00,879
Speaker 1: with a listed number, and I told her the situation.

605
00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 1: I gave her all the information I knew about my ex.

606
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 1: Her mom thanked me very much because apparently my ex

607
00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:10,080
Speaker 1: went ghost on her family about a year ago. Her

608
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:11,720
Speaker 1: mom told me they would take care of it and

609
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 1: just wanted her to come back home. Her brother called

610
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:19,280
Speaker 1: me very frantically shortly after I got off the phone

611
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:21,119
Speaker 1: with their mom, and I talked to him for a while.

612
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 1: He said he was flying out first thing to hunt

613
00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:27,399
Speaker 1: my ex down. Wrong wrong verb.

614
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:31,080
Speaker 3: My god, I've got a hunt down a damn.

615
00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:33,679
Speaker 1: I gotta hold on the ghost that was yesterday. I

616
00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 1: was satisfied and relieved with the response, And by the way,

617
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 1: you can get all kinds of satisfaction and probably a

618
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:44,439
Speaker 1: healthy dose of relief fine listening to full episodes with

619
00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:49,280
Speaker 1: stories like this on Spotify and iHeartRadio and Apple podcasts. Literally,

620
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,000
Speaker 1: wherever you listen to podcasts sarch okay, story time and

621
00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:55,400
Speaker 1: there you will have twenty four hours times fifty three,

622
00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:59,000
Speaker 1: that's how much time you can spend listening to stories.

623
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 1: Go do it, do do it?

624
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:01,359
Speaker 2: Man?

625
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:03,879
Speaker 1: What are we thinking? Like do we do we like?

626
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 1: Do we like approach this? And like do we are

627
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 1: we are we just leaving it up to the family now,

628
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 1: like are we getting involved to be like hey, good luck?

629
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:15,159
Speaker 3: Like just yeah, I think right now this is a

630
00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:18,359
Speaker 3: medical issue. Now it's no longer like, uh, let's have

631
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 3: a conversation, let's talk this out. This is like she

632
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:24,720
Speaker 3: is undergoing kind of a medical problem and she needs

633
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 3: professional help that you cannot provide given the fact that

634
00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 3: you know, you didn't know that she wasn't a nerd.

635
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 3: You know, like like we've already had our our moment

636
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:37,000
Speaker 3: where Opie's already struggled in the past with trying to

637
00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:39,160
Speaker 3: get this woman, you know, or trying to get information

638
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 3: out of this woman. So I feel like we just

639
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:44,040
Speaker 3: need to give the hand her off to her parents.

640
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:45,920
Speaker 1: A nice little handoff, like a little shovel past.

641
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 3: You've done your work, you call them up, You've let

642
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 3: them know what the deal is at that point, I

643
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 3: feel like it's just making sure that you're safe and

644
00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:55,040
Speaker 3: that she's not going to break into your apartment anymore.

645
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 1: Yes, but yeah, I spoke to some friends today about

646
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:02,480
Speaker 1: this situation, and they think I did too much and

647
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 1: shouldn't have involved her family because I don't know the dynamic.

648
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 1: They could be abusive and got ghosted for good reason.

649
00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:11,959
Speaker 1: My good friend said, Honestly, I didn't think about that

650
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 1: at the time, and now I feel crappy.

651
00:29:14,080 --> 00:29:14,960
Speaker 3: Don't feel crappy.

652
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's like that's being.

653
00:29:16,720 --> 00:29:19,240
Speaker 3: Like, is your friend making you feel bad about trying

654
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 3: to get this woman help?

655
00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:23,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just a what if what if ism?

656
00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:25,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like it's like, oh, what if she was

657
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 3: an undercover spot and you just got like blueer cover.

658
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 1: It's like, Okay, she broke in my house, dude, is

659
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Speaker 1: she literally broken my house? Relevant comments from quidamitra is

660
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Speaker 1: your cat? Okay. I don't want to freak you out

661
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Speaker 1: anymore than you already are, but you might consider a

662
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Speaker 1: visit to the vet to make sure she didn't poison

663
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Speaker 1: your cat or harm it in any way. Ohp he says,

664
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Speaker 1: thank you for your concern. He seems fine. My ex

665
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 1: always loved him and I never thought she was capable

666
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Speaker 1: of hurting an animal. But then again, I never thought

667
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 1: she'd lie to me for eight months or break into

668
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Speaker 1: my house, So yeah, I'll take him to the vet.

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Speaker 1: Good looking out, Sam for eight nine to one. The

670
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Speaker 1: odds are her family knows best how to help her,

671
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:00,920
Speaker 1: and it's in her best inch. They know you have

672
00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 1: no knowledge of any abuse, So while it's possible it's

673
00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:05,760
Speaker 1: not on you, you made the best call you could

674
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 1: with the information you had for both her and your safety.

675
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Speaker 1: Oh p he says. Her mom and brother seemed like

676
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Speaker 1: decent people on the phone. But on the other hand,

677
00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:13,640
Speaker 1: no one goes their entire family for a year for

678
00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:16,320
Speaker 1: no reason. They said she ran off her right at

679
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Speaker 1: the beginning of twenty eighteen, and no one had heard

680
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:22,560
Speaker 1: from her since. Perpetual Window Pane says, not the ahole.

681
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Speaker 1: It sounds like this girl needs far more help than

682
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:27,280
Speaker 1: you can give her. Based on your verbiage. You found

683
00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:30,080
Speaker 1: out from their mother that she's been estranged from her

684
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:32,520
Speaker 1: family for over a year. That's not your responsibility to

685
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:36,440
Speaker 1: take strange hypotheticals and things into account before considering your

686
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 1: own safety. If someone broke into my house and was

687
00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 1: handling my animals, I'd do whatever I could to ensure

688
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 1: it wouldn't happen again. Exactly, OHP says. My friends told

689
00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:47,240
Speaker 1: me I should have let the police handle it, as

690
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:49,440
Speaker 1: that's their job. They think by doing what I did,

691
00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 1: I made the situation worse. She turns out to not

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00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 1: be on good terms with her own family.

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Speaker 3: No, why that's so silly, Like you have no, I

694
00:30:57,160 --> 00:30:59,320
Speaker 3: don't understand why this friend is making it. You feel

695
00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:02,680
Speaker 3: so bad about the situation, Like you don't know why

696
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:04,959
Speaker 3: are you coming up with these hypotheticals to make up

697
00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 3: you feel bad?

698
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Speaker 1: Just like I just also don't understand the logical already

699
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: even done well, you shouldn't have gotten her family involved.

700
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:13,760
Speaker 1: You just made everything worse. You should have had her

701
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Speaker 1: arrested by an energy you know.

702
00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:19,600
Speaker 3: You should have had given her like a criminal record

703
00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:20,800
Speaker 3: instead of calling her family.

704
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 1: You're just gonna make her situation worse by not throwing

705
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:25,840
Speaker 1: her in jail. Yeah, that's that's what, which will also

706
00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 1: be temporary.

707
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 3: That is also a wild thing to say.

708
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:30,920
Speaker 1: Oh, you may have made the situation worse, not just

709
00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 1: for her, but they are worried that she could retaliate

710
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 1: against me for doing that. Op on how she broke in.

711
00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 1: I live in a pretty good area. I don't use

712
00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 1: the dead bolt. She either had a key to my

713
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 1: place that I didn't know about, or she picked the

714
00:31:43,640 --> 00:31:45,960
Speaker 1: locks somehow. So you don't even know how she broke in.

715
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Speaker 3: It's concerning.

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Speaker 1: That's the end of that story.

717
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 3: What what that's concerning? You should you should get some

718
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:52,600
Speaker 3: more locks on that door.

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Speaker 3: My friend keeps miss he's treating my two year old.

723
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 3: I'm ready to cut her off.

724
00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:04,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I'd cut the two year old off

725
00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:06,640
Speaker 1: as well, like I'm sick of it.

726
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Speaker 3: She's a pain in the butt. Throwaway because my friend

727
00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 3: as my main account. I met my friend Monica online

728
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 3: when both of our children were about a year old,

729
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 3: and we quickly became close friends. Our kids are exactly

730
00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:20,800
Speaker 3: the same age and we live not far from each other,

731
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Speaker 3: so it was perfect. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 3: Throwaway Baby Panic And if you want to submit your

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Speaker 3: own stories, go to our slash Okay storytime Separate. So

734
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:30,680
Speaker 3: she helped me out by watching my daughter some days

735
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Speaker 3: of the week while I worked, as she was a

736
00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 3: stay at home mom and wanted her son to have

737
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:37,320
Speaker 3: friends and make a little extra money, so I got

738
00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:39,440
Speaker 3: discount childcare and it was a win win. We had

739
00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 3: a joint birthday party this year from the kids and

740
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:44,680
Speaker 3: it was great. She also watches our other friends' kids

741
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:47,840
Speaker 3: sometimes and they're starting to have the cutest little friend group.

742
00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:50,440
Speaker 3: I know that she loves all of the kids and

743
00:32:50,520 --> 00:32:53,120
Speaker 3: would never do anything to harm them at all. Ever

744
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:56,239
Speaker 3: since I met Monica, she struggled in her relationship and

745
00:32:56,320 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 3: with her mental health. I know this is not her fault,

746
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 3: but I think it is art to impact her ability

747
00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 3: to watch my child, and some things have happened and

748
00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 3: been said that I have no idea what to do about.

749
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 3: I don't want to take my daughter somewhere else and

750
00:33:09,640 --> 00:33:11,400
Speaker 3: have her resent me, but I also don't want to

751
00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 3: ruin my daughters or my friendships based on something I

752
00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 3: may be overreacting about. Sorry, I know I'm jumping ahead,

753
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:20,800
Speaker 3: but here's the story. Monica's son, Austin, was born with

754
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:24,080
Speaker 3: some deficiencies. He's not up to par and his speaking specifically,

755
00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 3: and they think he might be on the spectrum. However,

756
00:33:26,440 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 3: Austin is so advanced in his motor development he was

757
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:32,400
Speaker 3: walking and climbing before he was one, whereas my daughter

758
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 3: is the exact opposite. She talks on the level of

759
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:36,880
Speaker 3: a three and a half year old. She just turned

760
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:39,760
Speaker 3: to but she just started really being able to run

761
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 3: and jump. Both of these are fine. I am a

762
00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 3: firm believer that babies develop at their own rates. If

763
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 3: they need outside help, that's fine, and there's no shame

764
00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 3: in that. But I really try not to compare one

765
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:52,560
Speaker 3: baby to another, which is good. I think she's the

766
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:54,200
Speaker 3: same way as well, but I know it can be

767
00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:56,880
Speaker 3: hard when you are with them both so often. I

768
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Speaker 3: mention this because I'm not sure if her comments are

769
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 3: from jealousy or one. But recently I've noticed little passive,

770
00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:05,200
Speaker 3: aggressive comments made about my daughter to me that rubbed

771
00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:07,840
Speaker 3: me the wrong way. Monica is on the spectrum and

772
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Speaker 3: I am not. So I'm not sure if maybe she

773
00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 3: was trying to joke and it just came out wrong,

774
00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 3: or if she actually just secretly not like my daughter.

775
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:17,560
Speaker 3: The other day, my daughter Sarah was at Monica's house

776
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 3: playing with Austin's toys, and was playing with the mouse toy.

777
00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:23,640
Speaker 3: Austin walked up and snatched it from her. We have

778
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:25,880
Speaker 3: really been working on my daughter using her words when

779
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,440
Speaker 3: she's upset and not just reacting and being mean. So

780
00:34:28,600 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 3: I was super happy and proud when my daughter, very

781
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:33,720
Speaker 3: calmly said, have that back, asking dad the toy.

782
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Speaker 1: Back, have that back, Maybe have that back, have that

783
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Speaker 1: back back. Yes, exactly, it's like that. It was Sophia.

784
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Speaker 3: Monica said, no, that's Austin's. I thought that was a

785
00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 3: little weird because at this age it is really important

786
00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 3: to teach about sharing and taking turns. But I thought

787
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 3: maybe it was a special toy or something, and did

788
00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:55,319
Speaker 3: not say anything. Monica then turned to me and said,

789
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Speaker 3: I love Sarah and everything, but she's really entitled to

790
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:01,240
Speaker 3: Austin's toys, and then just kind of chuckled. This rubbed

791
00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 3: me the wrong way, but did not make me really

792
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:05,799
Speaker 3: mad until after I had thought about it for a

793
00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:07,960
Speaker 3: while when I was home later that day. It is

794
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:10,279
Speaker 3: my opinion that if you run a little daycare like this,

795
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:13,080
Speaker 3: then the toys are for all the kids. Whenever we

796
00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 3: watch Austin for her, we hide all of Sarah's special

797
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:19,240
Speaker 3: toys she's really possessive of and let Austin play with anything.

798
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:21,600
Speaker 3: As long as one child is not taking toys from

799
00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:24,319
Speaker 3: the other and they're sharing, well it's fine. So this

800
00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 3: comment was very out of left field for me. I

801
00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:28,799
Speaker 3: did not say anything because at the end of the day,

802
00:35:28,920 --> 00:35:31,759
Speaker 3: she's right, it is Austin's toy. It just got me

803
00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 3: thinking that if she's like this and talking bad about

804
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 3: my daughter while I'm there, what is she saying when

805
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:37,440
Speaker 3: I'm not around.

806
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 1: She's a two year old? Like, what do we do?

807
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:42,880
Speaker 1: Her sense of entitlement is kind of concerning to me.

808
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:45,400
Speaker 3: It's like, she's two, I'm gonna cancel her And she

809
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:48,319
Speaker 3: literally asked she out for it back. That's the thing, Like,

810
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:50,399
Speaker 3: that wasn't eve entitlement. I was just saying, hey, I've

811
00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:50,960
Speaker 3: got back, I.

812
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 1: Have that back, Hi, I want to go back. I'm two.

813
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:57,160
Speaker 3: Another thing is that she and Austin never leave the

814
00:35:57,200 --> 00:36:00,200
Speaker 3: house except to go to Starbucks or Target, so they

815
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:02,280
Speaker 3: are in a little bubble and do not have super

816
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 3: strong immune systems. Sarah goes to pre k most days

817
00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:07,880
Speaker 3: and went to daycare before I met Monica, so she

818
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:10,680
Speaker 3: has added all the baby sicknesses and was able to

819
00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 3: build up more of an immunity them. The preschool does

820
00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:16,000
Speaker 3: all it can to prevent illness, checking temp every day,

821
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:19,000
Speaker 3: sanitizing toys every day, but there's only so much you

822
00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:20,919
Speaker 3: can do with a bunch of little kids. And also

823
00:36:21,120 --> 00:36:23,360
Speaker 3: just like sometimes I mean, I don't know about their daycare,

824
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:25,839
Speaker 3: but with a lot of daycares, I mean, and also

825
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:28,840
Speaker 3: summer camps, which is where I'm pulling this information from. Okay,

826
00:36:29,560 --> 00:36:31,880
Speaker 3: parents just send their kids in sick because they're like,

827
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:33,720
Speaker 3: I'm working so that my kid's going to school.

828
00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:35,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, They're like, well it's the kids going.

829
00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:37,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, and they have like they have like a fever,

830
00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 3: and you're like, you can't have them here, and they

831
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:42,560
Speaker 3: just keep sending them anyway. Because of this, Sarah has

832
00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:44,880
Speaker 3: caught a cold. Monica then went on to say it

833
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:47,360
Speaker 3: was all fair and thought they've been sixth since August

834
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:50,160
Speaker 3: and missed a lot of work. Maybe this is the case.

835
00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:52,799
Speaker 3: I don't know, but whenever Sarah's sick, I tell her

836
00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:54,239
Speaker 3: to let me know if I need to come and

837
00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:56,480
Speaker 3: get her in order to prevent them from being sick.

838
00:36:56,560 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 3: So I feel like, if this was the case, why

839
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:01,680
Speaker 3: did she never text me until after they got sick

840
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:03,880
Speaker 3: each time. The most recent thing that has made me

841
00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:06,959
Speaker 3: look back on everything and really rethink stuff happened about

842
00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 3: two to three weeks ago, and I still have no

843
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:12,240
Speaker 3: clue what to do. Monica and her husband have always

844
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 3: had on and off relationship issues, but this time it

845
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 3: got really bad. They were driving back from somewhere with

846
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:19,919
Speaker 3: the kids in the back seat and had a huge fight.

847
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 3: Her husband was driving, and he apparently had really bad

848
00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:27,200
Speaker 3: anger problems. According to her, he started yelling at Monica

849
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:30,759
Speaker 3: and driving really scary, speeding up, slamming on brakes with

850
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:33,600
Speaker 3: the kids in the cot Sarah and jail.

851
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:35,840
Speaker 1: Jail now to jail.

852
00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:39,000
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. If I had my child in someone else's

853
00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:42,120
Speaker 3: car and found out that they were driving recklessly and

854
00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:45,360
Speaker 3: also screaming in front of my I'd be like, you're

855
00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:47,000
Speaker 3: never being around my child again.

856
00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 1: Yeah.

857
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:51,160
Speaker 3: Then when they got home, he yelled at Monica more

858
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:53,520
Speaker 3: and then just stormed out of the house and drove away.

859
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:55,520
Speaker 3: This was right before I came to pick up Sarah,

860
00:37:55,600 --> 00:37:57,919
Speaker 3: maybe three to five minutes before. When I got there,

861
00:37:58,200 --> 00:38:00,839
Speaker 3: Sarah was perfectly happy, but when I went to put

862
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:05,200
Speaker 3: her in the car, she started screaming like crazy. Yeah,

863
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 3: I mean, she's probably freaking traumatized from all that reckless

864
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:10,360
Speaker 3: driving that she was just experiencing.

865
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:14,359
Speaker 1: You traumatize my kid, I traumatize you. Yeah, your watch out,

866
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:16,799
Speaker 1: so the warning is out there.

867
00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 3: Yeah. We went back inside, but she could not stop

868
00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:24,359
Speaker 3: freaking out. She was hyperventilating, crying hysterically. She normally does

869
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 3: not cry much, and if she's upset, she asks for

870
00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 3: a hug and then says she's all better. But this

871
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:31,360
Speaker 3: does not happen this time. Oh my god, this seems

872
00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 3: like the sweetest little child. And I'm so angry at Monica.

873
00:38:35,239 --> 00:38:37,440
Speaker 3: I would literally never let my child around Monica.

874
00:38:37,440 --> 00:38:39,799
Speaker 1: Again. No, I had neither of them, neither of them.

875
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:42,239
Speaker 3: Sarah kept saying she wanted to go, but whenever I

876
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:43,920
Speaker 3: tried to put her in the car to leave, she

877
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 3: freaked out again. She's fine now and has been asking

878
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:48,520
Speaker 3: about them and going to their house, so I'm very

879
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:50,920
Speaker 3: confused about it. I mean, also, she's two, so she

880
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:53,719
Speaker 3: doesn't probably quite understand why she's having these emotions.

881
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:57,239
Speaker 1: Yeah right, Yeah, she's just like that's weird. She's like,

882
00:38:57,280 --> 00:38:59,240
Speaker 1: I want to leave, but when I get in the car,

883
00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:01,320
Speaker 1: I'm really upset.

884
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:05,200
Speaker 3: I don't understand why this happens. I do not know

885
00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:07,359
Speaker 3: what is best for her. All I know is this

886
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:10,279
Speaker 3: cannot happen again, and I have told them this. Since then,

887
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:12,839
Speaker 3: I've been messaging our other friends who sometimes have her

888
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:15,799
Speaker 3: kids there, and have gotten even more information. This is

889
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:17,680
Speaker 3: where I have to change some details and leave a

890
00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:20,360
Speaker 3: lot out on the off chance Monica sees his post

891
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:23,720
Speaker 3: because I promised not to tell her anything until this friend,

892
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:26,000
Speaker 3: let's call her Rachel friends, is on the TV at

893
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:29,480
Speaker 3: work well can find alternate care for her kids. The

894
00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:31,719
Speaker 3: gist of what Rachel told me is that Monica has

895
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:34,120
Speaker 3: reached out to another friend about her mental health and

896
00:39:34,200 --> 00:39:38,080
Speaker 3: said some really concerning things, and it's clear she needs

897
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:40,920
Speaker 3: some help. According to what Rachel heard from this other friend,

898
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 3: a lot of the issues are stemming from the stress

899
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:45,759
Speaker 3: of watching the kids, which is not something you want

900
00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:49,520
Speaker 3: to hear about. The girl who's freaking running a daycare.

901
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:51,680
Speaker 1: Cant imagine she's gonna pull a shining on the kids

902
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 1: get him mad at it.

903
00:39:53,320 --> 00:39:55,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, both Rachel and I have agreed it would be

904
00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:58,479
Speaker 3: wise to find alternate childcare and are planning on talking

905
00:39:58,560 --> 00:40:00,319
Speaker 3: to Monica about it. Good I know so that she

906
00:40:00,320 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 3: cannot watch Sarah long term anymore. The thing is, I

907
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:05,760
Speaker 3: do not know if I can do this friendship anymore.

908
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 3: She has insulted my daughter to my face, she has

909
00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 3: lied to me, she has put my child at risk,

910
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:14,040
Speaker 3: and she is taking advantage of both my and Rachel's kindness.

911
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:16,279
Speaker 3: I know all of this is her mental health and

912
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:18,719
Speaker 3: not her fault. I am trying to be there for her,

913
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:21,440
Speaker 3: but I have given her resources for mental health clinics

914
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:24,360
Speaker 3: in her geographic area and price range. I have offered

915
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:25,880
Speaker 3: for her to go to meetings with me for the

916
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:29,720
Speaker 3: partners of those dealing with regular using. I have tried

917
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:33,680
Speaker 3: to offer her so many resources, but she always declines.

918
00:40:34,120 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 3: There's only so much I can do if she does

919
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:38,319
Speaker 3: not want to help herself, and it is getting to

920
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:40,799
Speaker 3: the point where it's impacting my mental health and I

921
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,279
Speaker 3: need to take care of myself. I don't want to

922
00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:45,520
Speaker 3: cut her off completely, and I don't know what to do.

923
00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:48,279
Speaker 3: If anyone has been through anything similar, please let me

924
00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:50,839
Speaker 3: know and offer advice. I know this post probably does

925
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:53,400
Speaker 3: not make sense, but I do feel better after getting

926
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:55,759
Speaker 3: it off my chest, and there is an update, But

927
00:40:56,120 --> 00:40:58,239
Speaker 3: do you any thoughts before we get into it?

928
00:40:58,239 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 1: Because I have. Sometimes you are not unable to provide

929
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:05,400
Speaker 1: the kind of care that somebody needs, absolutely, and this

930
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:09,279
Speaker 1: feels like one of those situations, and you can take

931
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:13,160
Speaker 1: a step back, especially for the safety of your actual child,

932
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 1: and be like, hey, we can't continue this, and I want,

933
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:18,239
Speaker 1: I just want, and that you can be like I

934
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:20,799
Speaker 1: just want you to get be more well, be better,

935
00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 1: like get better, not you know, make it impersonal, not

936
00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 1: like a you need to fix, but it's like, I

937
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:27,319
Speaker 1: just care about you and I can't be around you

938
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:30,120
Speaker 1: if you're just gonna continually like go downhill and you

939
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 1: won't listen to any advice.

940
00:41:31,719 --> 00:41:33,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think what you could do is first make

941
00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 3: sure that your daughter is not in Monica's care, make

942
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:38,880
Speaker 3: sure that you find alternate care and get her to safety,

943
00:41:38,960 --> 00:41:41,319
Speaker 3: and then I think you, yeah, you can have that

944
00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 3: conversation with Monica and say, hey, I've noticed that you

945
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:47,600
Speaker 3: seem to be really stressed and kind of unable to

946
00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:51,640
Speaker 3: handle the daycare. Can we get you some sort of help?

947
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:53,680
Speaker 3: Is there anything that can lighten this load? I don't

948
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:56,439
Speaker 3: think right now I feel comfortable sending my daughter over,

949
00:41:57,320 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 3: but that doesn't mean that I want to cut you

950
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:00,000
Speaker 3: out of my life completely.

951
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:05,000
Speaker 1: Honestly, I'm thinking of like finding out about the because

952
00:42:05,080 --> 00:42:07,400
Speaker 1: it's one of my pet peeves, like the aggressive driving

953
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 1: or like reckless driving. You can't because you're emotional. It's

954
00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 1: like I will never think of you the same way.

955
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:17,160
Speaker 3: Again, especially with I mean children, Like it's.

956
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:17,759
Speaker 1: Kids in the car.

957
00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 3: It's very terrible to reckless drive yourself because you were

958
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:23,960
Speaker 3: in charge of a very very dangerous vehicle or very

959
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:26,800
Speaker 3: dangerous machine that if you are driving reckless so you

960
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:29,319
Speaker 3: could hurt anyone else around you. But to also have

961
00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:33,000
Speaker 3: kids in the car, one of which is not even yours.

962
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:36,600
Speaker 1: Like no, I'm teeing up on that guy, so like

963
00:42:36,680 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 1: how so extremely how dare I'm I'm laying into that

964
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:45,319
Speaker 1: guy for sure, which is not advice I typically ever give.

965
00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:47,880
Speaker 1: But I mean, like my child, was you endangered the

966
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:51,600
Speaker 1: life of my child over your emotions? Yeah, it's like,

967
00:42:51,800 --> 00:42:55,200
Speaker 1: let's go to a therapist instead of endangering the children.

968
00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:57,839
Speaker 3: But there is an update, so let's see what does

969
00:42:57,960 --> 00:43:01,319
Speaker 3: Hello everyone, this is just a small date. If you

970
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:04,200
Speaker 3: guys remember me, I'm the one whose friend drove recklessly

971
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 3: while my daughter was in their care. Yesterday, I went

972
00:43:06,719 --> 00:43:08,719
Speaker 3: to a trunk retreat and found a preschool for the

973
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:10,719
Speaker 3: days when I would need Monica to watch my daughter.

974
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:12,719
Speaker 3: I am planning on calling them and filling out an

975
00:43:12,760 --> 00:43:15,279
Speaker 3: application later today. I spoke to the director and she

976
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 3: was super nice, so I'm really excited about this. The

977
00:43:18,719 --> 00:43:21,320
Speaker 3: only thing is the age. My daughter would have to

978
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:23,720
Speaker 3: be two by a certain day, and she is three

979
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:26,439
Speaker 3: days behind that. But we think that since they still

980
00:43:26,480 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 3: do not have a full class, we'll probably allow her

981
00:43:28,600 --> 00:43:30,920
Speaker 3: to join. Last night, I texted Monica and let her

982
00:43:30,960 --> 00:43:33,240
Speaker 3: know that I was looking for alternate care for Sarah

983
00:43:33,280 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 3: because watching the kids seem to be stressing her out.

984
00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:37,480
Speaker 3: That's exactly what I I did not tell her what

985
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:39,560
Speaker 3: her other friend told us because I did not want

986
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:42,520
Speaker 3: to violate trust. But Monica was understanding. I think she

987
00:43:42,600 --> 00:43:44,879
Speaker 3: started off really understanding, but then went on to say

988
00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:47,520
Speaker 3: she was trying really hard to not take it personally.

989
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:50,359
Speaker 3: I mean, take it a little personally and make changes. Yeah,

990
00:43:50,400 --> 00:43:52,279
Speaker 3: you should take you should be taking it personally. It's

991
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:54,840
Speaker 3: about yeah, exactly, like make changes in your life.

992
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 1: See, it's like people mix that up where they're like

993
00:43:57,360 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, I know, it's not about me. It is,

994
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:01,320
Speaker 1: but it's like sometimes it's about it.

995
00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:02,040
Speaker 3: It's about you.

996
00:44:02,160 --> 00:44:05,799
Speaker 1: When it's about your behavior or your decisions, like it

997
00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:08,520
Speaker 1: is about you, and you should take it personally.

998
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:10,560
Speaker 3: I found out via Twitter that she was having a

999
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 3: rough week after I told her about the alternate care,

1000
00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 3: So I think it was bad timing on my part,

1001
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:16,799
Speaker 3: or maybe she's manipulating me.

1002
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:17,480
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1003
00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:20,839
Speaker 3: Oh, I mean, it doesn't Honestly, I don't really care

1004
00:44:20,960 --> 00:44:24,480
Speaker 3: if she's having a rough week. Your daughter was in danger.

1005
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:26,880
Speaker 1: This is true. Also, I think this is in the

1006
00:44:26,880 --> 00:44:30,520
Speaker 1: middle of the pandemic, which might lend to an even

1007
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:34,400
Speaker 1: less stable platform for her, you know, mental health to

1008
00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:37,879
Speaker 1: stand on. Yeah, like cause it was a lot for

1009
00:44:37,920 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 1: a lot of people to deal with.

1010
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:41,880
Speaker 3: And also how the relationship would be between Monica and

1011
00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 3: her husband.

1012
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:45,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, degenerating because they're just now they're just constantly around

1013
00:44:45,080 --> 00:44:47,960
Speaker 1: each other. Yeah. And I see some people that are

1014
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 1: like take the kids away from her, and like, I

1015
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 1: don't know if you get CPS involved yet, because it's

1016
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:56,239
Speaker 1: like again, it's like I've there's there's it's almost like

1017
00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:57,880
Speaker 1: a coin flip to me. It's like, okay, so you

1018
00:44:57,880 --> 00:45:01,480
Speaker 1: call CPS. She's unstable, she's having a mental breakdown, Like now,

1019
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:04,520
Speaker 1: the dad gets the kids, but the dad's got anger issues.

1020
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 1: The dad was like, you know, driving the car like

1021
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:09,080
Speaker 1: a maniac. So it's like, do you want the kids

1022
00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:09,560
Speaker 1: with the dad?

1023
00:45:09,760 --> 00:45:11,560
Speaker 3: I think I don't think an eye on it. And

1024
00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 3: if you see something yeah then yeah then cps. But

1025
00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:17,960
Speaker 3: there is a little tiny update. Two hours later, she

1026
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 3: got into the preschool.

1027
00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:19,760
Speaker 1: Nice.

1028
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:22,800
Speaker 3: I was worried because when doing the registration application it

1029
00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:24,840
Speaker 3: said there was a wait list. But they called and

1030
00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 3: said she's in and can start asap. I chose to

1031
00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:29,960
Speaker 3: start next week. They are closed the fifth for the election.

1032
00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:33,400
Speaker 3: Everyone please remember to vote, so she officially starts the seventh.

1033
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:35,839
Speaker 3: I pay the tuition just now and everything. They also

1034
00:45:35,880 --> 00:45:38,440
Speaker 3: said they do something they're called specials, where every day

1035
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:42,400
Speaker 3: they do focused learning in different rotating subjects like music, art, Spanish,

1036
00:45:42,480 --> 00:45:45,360
Speaker 3: et cetera. I am so excited for she is going

1037
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:48,800
Speaker 3: to love it. And there is a second update.

1038
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 1: With a weird title, the weird honest.

1039
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:56,000
Speaker 3: Title, let's jump into it. My problem may be solved,

1040
00:45:56,040 --> 00:45:58,080
Speaker 3: and I'm not sure how I feel about it.

1041
00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 1: Uh, Okay. My bet is that some external organization did

1042
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:06,160
Speaker 1: become involved. Yeah, but now she's like, I don't even

1043
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:08,200
Speaker 1: know if that was the right. I don't know if

1044
00:46:08,239 --> 00:46:09,400
Speaker 1: this is a net positive.

1045
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 3: Well, I think maybe another parent like op He was

1046
00:46:12,640 --> 00:46:15,839
Speaker 3: saying that like her other friend. Oh shoot, I think

1047
00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:16,839
Speaker 3: maybe another parent gun.

1048
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:18,040
Speaker 1: Oh the words getting out.

1049
00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:20,360
Speaker 3: This is kind of an update to my previous post,

1050
00:46:20,480 --> 00:46:22,800
Speaker 3: so if you want some context, they are on my page.

1051
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:26,319
Speaker 3: Sarah start her new preschool this month and absolutely loves it.

1052
00:46:26,400 --> 00:46:28,920
Speaker 3: She already has lots of friends and is excited to go,

1053
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 3: so that's good. We have seen Monica, her husband, and

1054
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:34,240
Speaker 3: Austin a little since not having them watched Sarah anymore,

1055
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:36,759
Speaker 3: but not like before. Monica admitted that she has really

1056
00:46:36,760 --> 00:46:39,279
Speaker 3: been neglecting her mental health and I'm trying to give

1057
00:46:39,280 --> 00:46:41,920
Speaker 3: her space to do that, but I'm not sure she is.

1058
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:44,680
Speaker 3: Every time I talk to her, she says something bad

1059
00:46:44,760 --> 00:46:47,640
Speaker 3: is happening or that she's suppressed. I feel awful, but

1060
00:46:47,640 --> 00:46:49,840
Speaker 3: there's not really anything I can do, and I have

1061
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:52,360
Speaker 3: my own problems to deal with. I'm working with my

1062
00:46:52,400 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 3: therapist to be less of a people pleaser, and one

1063
00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 3: thing she pointed out is I go out of my

1064
00:46:56,640 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 3: way to solve other problems and not my own. So

1065
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:01,560
Speaker 3: I'm trying really hard not to do that. A little

1066
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:04,560
Speaker 3: bit of background is needed for this store. Monica and

1067
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:06,839
Speaker 3: her husband are not amazing with money. They have enough

1068
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:09,680
Speaker 3: to survive barely, but as soon as they get money,

1069
00:47:09,719 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 3: it's spent. They have more toys for Austin than I

1070
00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:14,720
Speaker 3: can count, and they always have more coming in because

1071
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:17,560
Speaker 3: of money issues. Monica and her husband live with her dad.

1072
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:20,319
Speaker 3: There are a lot of issues in that relationship, and

1073
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:23,439
Speaker 3: her dad is constantly threatening to punter her out over

1074
00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:27,160
Speaker 3: issues but never falls through. I honestly feel so terrible.

1075
00:47:27,360 --> 00:47:29,640
Speaker 3: I could not imagine having a parent like that who

1076
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:33,040
Speaker 3: only has conditional love to give. Monica and her husband

1077
00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:35,799
Speaker 3: do not pay rent. They do pay utilities though for

1078
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:36,240
Speaker 3: the house.

1079
00:47:36,400 --> 00:47:36,760
Speaker 1: Well.

1080
00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:40,560
Speaker 3: This time, Monica's dad actually followed through and signed a

1081
00:47:40,600 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 3: new lease for a house. This means Monica has to

1082
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:45,919
Speaker 3: move out by a certain time because her dad will

1083
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:48,279
Speaker 3: no longer be renting the house they're currently in. I

1084
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:50,640
Speaker 3: saw our post on blue Sky, the new Twitter for

1085
00:47:50,680 --> 00:47:54,320
Speaker 3: those boycotaqelon asking about part time jobs and places for rent,

1086
00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:57,280
Speaker 3: so I messaged her asking what is up. She explained

1087
00:47:57,280 --> 00:47:59,400
Speaker 3: how her dad signed a new lease and they have

1088
00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:02,759
Speaker 3: to be out, have no savings and cannot afford to

1089
00:48:02,800 --> 00:48:05,799
Speaker 3: live anywhere. I truly feel bad, but there's nothing I

1090
00:48:05,840 --> 00:48:07,719
Speaker 3: can do to help, so all I could offer was

1091
00:48:07,760 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 3: a listening year. She explained how she has friends on

1092
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:12,800
Speaker 3: the other side of the country two thousand and thirty

1093
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:16,160
Speaker 3: miles or three thousand, two hundred and sixty eight kilometers

1094
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:18,720
Speaker 3: away and may move there. I'm not sure how to feel.

1095
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:20,720
Speaker 3: I don't know if it is even going to happen,

1096
00:48:21,040 --> 00:48:23,320
Speaker 3: even though all the stuff in my other posts happened,

1097
00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:25,920
Speaker 3: I cannot help but feel sad. I don't know if

1098
00:48:25,960 --> 00:48:27,920
Speaker 3: I need advice or what. I just wanted to get

1099
00:48:27,960 --> 00:48:30,000
Speaker 3: all of my feelings out so here I am. There's

1100
00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:31,839
Speaker 3: a lot more going on as well that I may

1101
00:48:31,880 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 3: get into if anyone wants. With Austin not adjusting to

1102
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:37,680
Speaker 3: not having Sarah there and some manipulation impossible ghosting. I

1103
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:40,360
Speaker 3: am just very confused about how to feel right now.

1104
00:48:40,480 --> 00:48:43,799
Speaker 3: Should I be happy or relieved or said or all

1105
00:48:43,840 --> 00:48:46,719
Speaker 3: of the above. And there is a third update? But

1106
00:48:47,120 --> 00:48:47,839
Speaker 3: what do you think of?

1107
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:50,200
Speaker 1: What are you thinking I would be? I don't know,

1108
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:52,160
Speaker 1: probably all of that. Yeah, I think it's all gat

1109
00:48:52,280 --> 00:48:54,080
Speaker 1: to not just be one thing about this.

1110
00:48:54,320 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 3: Absolutely she was your friend.

1111
00:48:55,719 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 1: There's a lot going on.

1112
00:48:57,080 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 3: I think I think she was your friend. I think

1113
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:01,400
Speaker 3: that she put your ought her in an unsafe position.

1114
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:03,640
Speaker 3: I think that she was helping you out in a time,

1115
00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:06,200
Speaker 3: you know where you needed it. So you know, she

1116
00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:09,000
Speaker 3: wasn't just one thing. It wasn't black and white.

1117
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:10,120
Speaker 1: And she is.

1118
00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:15,040
Speaker 3: She's a She's in a tricky, precarious situation with not

1119
00:49:15,160 --> 00:49:17,720
Speaker 3: a lot of money or funding or support and stuff.

1120
00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:20,200
Speaker 3: That is, and it's fair for you to, yeah, if

1121
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:22,359
Speaker 3: it's a fair for you to feel bad while also

1122
00:49:22,400 --> 00:49:24,760
Speaker 3: not being able to help. But there is a third update.

1123
00:49:25,000 --> 00:49:29,239
Speaker 3: Buckle up, I've I got some tea for you. We

1124
00:49:29,280 --> 00:49:34,120
Speaker 3: have some selective mudism, cars being repossessed, attempted identity theft.

1125
00:49:34,080 --> 00:49:38,759
Speaker 1: You name it, than selective mudism. Wow, my favorite.

1126
00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:39,680
Speaker 3: That's funny.

1127
00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:41,239
Speaker 1: I see, I was going to do the joke that

1128
00:49:41,239 --> 00:49:42,919
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have gotten it didn't have a punch line.

1129
00:49:43,080 --> 00:49:47,200
Speaker 3: My My previous post can be seen on my account

1130
00:49:47,280 --> 00:49:50,399
Speaker 3: for context. This is a throway. I was not going

1131
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:53,200
Speaker 3: to update, but got two messages and a comment. First,

1132
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:57,840
Speaker 3: the relevant info. My daughter loves her new preschool. She

1133
00:49:57,880 --> 00:50:00,400
Speaker 3: comes home every Tuesday and Thursday talking ab how much

1134
00:50:00,440 --> 00:50:02,760
Speaker 3: he likes it and her new friends. They post daily

1135
00:50:02,760 --> 00:50:05,399
Speaker 3: photos and send home art projects all the time. It's

1136
00:50:05,480 --> 00:50:07,640
Speaker 3: just what I wanted. The only problem is that since

1137
00:50:07,680 --> 00:50:11,319
Speaker 3: starting she does not talk at school anymore. She used

1138
00:50:11,360 --> 00:50:13,200
Speaker 3: to talk all the time at her other school and

1139
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:16,040
Speaker 3: just stopped. She never talks at the new school. I

1140
00:50:16,080 --> 00:50:18,319
Speaker 3: know she's learning stuff because she comes home and talks

1141
00:50:18,360 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 3: about it. For example, they had a Christmas program and

1142
00:50:20,719 --> 00:50:23,440
Speaker 3: she still will not stop singing jingle bells because they

1143
00:50:23,520 --> 00:50:25,920
Speaker 3: learned it in school. She always says she loves her friends.

1144
00:50:26,080 --> 00:50:29,520
Speaker 3: I have no clue why she just stopped talking. Interesting,

1145
00:50:29,680 --> 00:50:32,080
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know either.

1146
00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:33,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I couldn't tell you.

1147
00:50:33,520 --> 00:50:35,160
Speaker 3: I couldn't tell you. I think maybe that's something that

1148
00:50:35,239 --> 00:50:37,400
Speaker 3: you work with a school, or maybe like a doctor

1149
00:50:37,600 --> 00:50:40,799
Speaker 3: or a therapist on But also sometimes, yeah, I think

1150
00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:42,480
Speaker 3: that the fact that she's coming home and is very

1151
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:45,319
Speaker 3: still very excited about school is a good sign. But yeah,

1152
00:50:45,400 --> 00:50:48,520
Speaker 3: definitely definitely look into it. Might be nothing, but always

1153
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:51,440
Speaker 3: I think best to check in. Indeed, second, the friend drama,

1154
00:50:51,640 --> 00:50:53,920
Speaker 3: so it looks like the move will not be happening

1155
00:50:54,000 --> 00:50:56,799
Speaker 3: at least for now. My friend currently lives with her mom,

1156
00:50:56,840 --> 00:50:58,600
Speaker 3: and her mom has told her to move out by

1157
00:50:58,640 --> 00:51:00,719
Speaker 3: the end of twenty twenty four. I heard it got

1158
00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:02,960
Speaker 3: pushed back to the end of January, and now she

1159
00:51:03,040 --> 00:51:06,040
Speaker 3: tells me that it is indefinitely put off due to

1160
00:51:06,080 --> 00:51:10,640
Speaker 3: finances and credit checks. I totally understand having financial issues,

1161
00:51:10,719 --> 00:51:13,279
Speaker 3: but I honestly feel really bad for my friend having

1162
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:15,600
Speaker 3: to live with her mom even longer. Her mom is

1163
00:51:15,640 --> 00:51:17,759
Speaker 3: a really big liar about a lot of things and

1164
00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:21,840
Speaker 3: has some manipulative and self absorbed person tendencies. For example,

1165
00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:24,239
Speaker 3: she does not pay her rent or car payments, and

1166
00:51:24,280 --> 00:51:27,080
Speaker 3: her car has been repossessed multiple times, and then yells

1167
00:51:27,080 --> 00:51:29,399
Speaker 3: at my friend for not being responsible with money enough

1168
00:51:29,400 --> 00:51:31,040
Speaker 3: to find a place to live away from her. She

1169
00:51:31,120 --> 00:51:33,800
Speaker 3: lied to everyone saying her car was in the shop.

1170
00:51:33,880 --> 00:51:35,800
Speaker 3: I even gave her rides to work every day for

1171
00:51:35,840 --> 00:51:39,359
Speaker 3: a week, thinking her car just kept breaking. Nope, it

1172
00:51:39,440 --> 00:51:41,800
Speaker 3: was repossessed. My friend also got a letter in the

1173
00:51:41,800 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 3: mail saying she was denied a credit card she never

1174
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:47,960
Speaker 3: applied for. With some investigative digging, she found out her

1175
00:51:48,000 --> 00:51:50,200
Speaker 3: mom was the one who applied for it. I, thinking

1176
00:51:50,200 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 3: the move was still happening at the end of the

1177
00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:54,000
Speaker 3: month at this point, urged her to report it as

1178
00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:57,640
Speaker 3: identity theft before it could happen again and be successful,

1179
00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:00,640
Speaker 3: she declined, saying that they cannot get approved anywhere and

1180
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:03,360
Speaker 3: are stuck living with her. Honestly, hearing all that my

1181
00:52:03,400 --> 00:52:05,719
Speaker 3: friend is having to go through, it makes me understand

1182
00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:08,080
Speaker 3: her and all the issues I was having with some

1183
00:52:08,239 --> 00:52:10,920
Speaker 3: things better. I am glad my daughter is somewhere different

1184
00:52:10,920 --> 00:52:13,000
Speaker 3: in terms of her care. But I've decided not to

1185
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:15,640
Speaker 3: cut this friend off because I really think she needs

1186
00:52:15,640 --> 00:52:17,880
Speaker 3: some supportive people in her life. It is hard to

1187
00:52:17,960 --> 00:52:20,680
Speaker 3: thrive if you are in an environment that is constantly

1188
00:52:20,760 --> 00:52:24,239
Speaker 3: beating you down. But you'd thrive by listening to more

1189
00:52:24,239 --> 00:52:26,600
Speaker 3: episodes of stories just like this. Just go to Spotify,

1190
00:52:26,600 --> 00:52:29,400
Speaker 3: Apple Podcast, or iHeartRadio and search a pokestory time and

1191
00:52:29,440 --> 00:52:31,520
Speaker 3: you'll thrive. But too have many final thoughts.

1192
00:52:32,640 --> 00:52:35,319
Speaker 1: You navigated a very difficult situation. I feel like as

1193
00:52:35,320 --> 00:52:36,400
Speaker 1: best as you probably could.

1194
00:52:36,560 --> 00:52:38,200
Speaker 3: I agree, And also you still have a lot of

1195
00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:40,400
Speaker 3: sympathy and you know stuff for your friend, which is

1196
00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 3: really which is not. You didn't have to, you know,

1197
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:45,440
Speaker 3: not everyone would, especially after the way that she treated.

1198
00:52:45,160 --> 00:52:47,960
Speaker 1: You and treated your kid. Yeah, but I can only imagine.

1199
00:52:48,040 --> 00:52:52,279
Speaker 1: I get pretty emotional about things sometimes not often, when

1200
00:52:52,280 --> 00:52:53,959
Speaker 1: I get set off. I get set off pretty big,

1201
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:56,359
Speaker 1: and if this is my kid, I'd probably be set

1202
00:52:56,400 --> 00:53:00,160
Speaker 1: off enormously in a big way. So good job, like

1203
00:53:00,200 --> 00:53:00,640
Speaker 1: you're teaching.

1204
00:53:00,640 --> 00:53:04,960
Speaker 3: You and your daughter are great emotional regulation. But there's

1205
00:53:05,000 --> 00:53:07,279
Speaker 3: a little bit more. I really shorten the drama with

1206
00:53:07,320 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 3: her and her mom. But if you want any more,

1207
00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:12,040
Speaker 3: please let me know, and I may post. I work

1208
00:53:12,080 --> 00:53:13,759
Speaker 3: with her mom and have known her for over two

1209
00:53:13,800 --> 00:53:16,879
Speaker 3: years now, and it is very complex. I only try

1210
00:53:16,920 --> 00:53:19,439
Speaker 3: to post stuff I have verified is the truth after

1211
00:53:19,560 --> 00:53:22,000
Speaker 3: hearing both of their stories. But I have heard so

1212
00:53:22,160 --> 00:53:24,560
Speaker 3: much stuff it is crazy and I need to sell

1213
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:27,759
Speaker 3: someone or I might go insane. And that is the

1214
00:53:27,920 --> 00:53:28,880
Speaker 3: end of that story.

1215
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:30,680
Speaker 1: Geech, Well, I'm glad you told us.

1216
00:53:30,960 --> 00:53:32,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, me too, man O.

1217
00:53:32,400 --> 00:53:34,440
Speaker 1: Man can be told, and sometimes you.

1218
00:53:34,480 --> 00:53:36,480
Speaker 3: Just got to get your daughter out of a situation

1219
00:53:36,600 --> 00:53:39,000
Speaker 3: and then you can look after the person who's kind

1220
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:40,239
Speaker 3: of going off the rails a little bit.

1221
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:44,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, family, your family comes before your friend in that

1222
00:53:44,480 --> 00:53:45,440
Speaker 1: context for sure.

1223
00:53:45,719 --> 00:53:46,439
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1224
00:53:46,560 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 1: Hey it's John here. We're gonna get back to those stories.

1225
00:53:48,200 --> 00:53:50,200
Speaker 1: Put a quick three minute ad break from our sponsors

1226
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Speaker 1: that keep the show going.

1227
00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:55,160
Speaker 3: My friend demanded I ignore my grief on her wedding

1228
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:59,080
Speaker 3: day because I might steal attention from her. Just get up, dude,

1229
00:53:59,160 --> 00:53:59,520
Speaker 3: Get up?

1230
00:53:59,640 --> 00:54:00,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, why are you sad?

1231
00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:04,080
Speaker 3: Walk it off? There's no crying in baseball trigger warning

1232
00:54:05,239 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 3: of loved ones, So if you do not want to

1233
00:54:08,160 --> 00:54:10,680
Speaker 3: hear about that, skip to the next story. Seven years ago,

1234
00:54:10,840 --> 00:54:14,359
Speaker 3: I thirty five female, lost my husband, daughter, and mother

1235
00:54:14,640 --> 00:54:17,479
Speaker 3: in a car accident. Oh my goodness, I am so sorry.

1236
00:54:17,560 --> 00:54:19,759
Speaker 3: They were hit by a wasted driver who ran a

1237
00:54:19,800 --> 00:54:23,640
Speaker 3: red light, unliving all of them on impact. Their passing

1238
00:54:23,920 --> 00:54:26,400
Speaker 3: greatly affected me, and if it weren't for my friends

1239
00:54:26,400 --> 00:54:28,560
Speaker 3: and years of therapy, I would be in a much

1240
00:54:28,600 --> 00:54:31,840
Speaker 3: worse place. I am very thankful for their support and

1241
00:54:31,880 --> 00:54:34,680
Speaker 3: have been able to process my grief properly. By the way,

1242
00:54:34,719 --> 00:54:36,799
Speaker 3: this comes from Warm Blanket twelve, And if you want

1243
00:54:36,840 --> 00:54:38,920
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1244
00:54:38,920 --> 00:54:42,359
Speaker 3: separated it So two years ago I took a job

1245
00:54:42,400 --> 00:54:45,400
Speaker 3: offer that provided more benefits than my previous one and

1246
00:54:45,640 --> 00:54:48,680
Speaker 3: move far away from my city. I travel back occasionally

1247
00:54:48,719 --> 00:54:50,799
Speaker 3: to meet up with friends and of course, to visit

1248
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:53,800
Speaker 3: my family's graves on their anniversary. It is a seven

1249
00:54:53,840 --> 00:54:56,839
Speaker 3: hour car drive or around an hour by plane. Due

1250
00:54:56,840 --> 00:54:59,520
Speaker 3: to the VID. Last year, I drove to avoid contact

1251
00:54:59,520 --> 00:55:02,439
Speaker 3: with people and stayed at my old house. This year,

1252
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:04,399
Speaker 3: I planned to do the same, but I ran into

1253
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:06,640
Speaker 3: an issue with my friend having her wedding in my

1254
00:55:06,719 --> 00:55:11,120
Speaker 3: old city. My friend Amy, thirty three female, announced she

1255
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:14,280
Speaker 3: was engaged last year to her boyfriend of three months.

1256
00:55:14,800 --> 00:55:17,480
Speaker 3: My friend Group and I were quite shocked, as we

1257
00:55:17,480 --> 00:55:20,600
Speaker 3: had never even met him nor knew she was dating anyone. Yeah,

1258
00:55:20,600 --> 00:55:22,719
Speaker 3: I mean she was only dating for three months. Hm,

1259
00:55:22,920 --> 00:55:27,080
Speaker 3: that's insane. Yeah, we usually tell each other these things. Nonetheless,

1260
00:55:27,080 --> 00:55:29,880
Speaker 3: we congratulated her and were happy for her. They were

1261
00:55:29,880 --> 00:55:32,160
Speaker 3: supposed to have their wedding last year, but couldn't do

1262
00:55:32,320 --> 00:55:34,399
Speaker 3: to the VID, so they postponed it to this year.

1263
00:55:34,840 --> 00:55:36,960
Speaker 3: We are not in the US and the VID cases

1264
00:55:36,960 --> 00:55:39,800
Speaker 3: are now fewer than ten. In my country, gatherings of

1265
00:55:39,840 --> 00:55:42,440
Speaker 3: fewer than fifteen people are allowed, and that is what

1266
00:55:42,480 --> 00:55:45,680
Speaker 3: Amy decided to do for her wedding. About a week ago,

1267
00:55:45,800 --> 00:55:48,160
Speaker 3: Amy called me privately to tell me her plans for

1268
00:55:48,200 --> 00:55:50,080
Speaker 3: the wedding. She told me that she is having it

1269
00:55:50,120 --> 00:55:53,400
Speaker 3: on the same day as my family's anniversary and would

1270
00:55:53,400 --> 00:55:57,120
Speaker 3: like me to not visit their graves, instead attending the wedding.

1271
00:55:57,920 --> 00:56:03,120
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. So she picked it knowing that you couldn't

1272
00:56:03,640 --> 00:56:08,000
Speaker 3: do that. Yeah, that's so strange. I thought it was

1273
00:56:08,040 --> 00:56:10,520
Speaker 3: gonna be like, oh, she didn't know the day or

1274
00:56:10,560 --> 00:56:13,359
Speaker 3: forgot about the day and then put planned the wedd

1275
00:56:13,400 --> 00:56:15,160
Speaker 3: But like for her to be like, no, I planned

1276
00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:20,120
Speaker 3: the wedding and you specifically can't go to your family's passing,

1277
00:56:20,120 --> 00:56:23,160
Speaker 3: and she's like, move it. Maybe you just reschedule that's

1278
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:24,160
Speaker 3: to pass it?

1279
00:56:24,280 --> 00:56:25,160
Speaker 1: Like what.

1280
00:56:25,600 --> 00:56:27,799
Speaker 3: I was quite shocked that she planned her wedding on

1281
00:56:27,960 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 3: that specific day and question why she picked it. Amy

1282
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:33,960
Speaker 3: told me she just liked the dates that I can't

1283
00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:36,719
Speaker 3: just gate keep it a certain day. When I asked

1284
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:39,040
Speaker 3: why I couldn't visit my family's grave, she told me

1285
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:41,280
Speaker 3: she didn't want my sadness and grief to take attention

1286
00:56:41,320 --> 00:56:42,160
Speaker 3: away from her wedding.

1287
00:56:42,680 --> 00:56:45,960
Speaker 6: These are big red flag, Oh callous, big red flag,

1288
00:56:46,120 --> 00:56:48,080
Speaker 6: Oh callous. If it was the kind of thing where

1289
00:56:48,080 --> 00:56:50,520
Speaker 6: it was like this is just like how the schedules

1290
00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:52,960
Speaker 6: worked out, and like when these are available and stuff

1291
00:56:52,960 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 6: like that, I'm so sorry, Like that's just happens to me.

1292
00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 6: When it is there any way that that could work

1293
00:56:57,680 --> 00:56:59,560
Speaker 6: out for you, you know, what I mean, maybe no, but

1294
00:56:59,640 --> 00:57:01,879
Speaker 6: this is like, no, I picked it because I don't

1295
00:57:01,880 --> 00:57:03,759
Speaker 6: want you to go visit your family's grives and you

1296
00:57:03,760 --> 00:57:06,200
Speaker 6: can't visit them actually at all. Yeah, it's just like,

1297
00:57:06,239 --> 00:57:08,200
Speaker 6: can you just like not be sad for a second,

1298
00:57:08,239 --> 00:57:09,879
Speaker 6: Like you're gonna ruin my day of your son, can

1299
00:57:09,920 --> 00:57:11,000
Speaker 6: you like not be I.

1300
00:57:10,960 --> 00:57:13,600
Speaker 3: Was incredibly stunned by what she said. I know I

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00:57:13,640 --> 00:57:15,480
Speaker 3: can be quite emotional, but I also know how to

1302
00:57:15,520 --> 00:57:18,800
Speaker 3: compose myself and behave at certain events. Here's where I

1303
00:57:18,840 --> 00:57:22,040
Speaker 3: think I might be the ale. I told Amy that unfortunately,

1304
00:57:22,080 --> 00:57:24,960
Speaker 3: I will not miss out on visiting my family's graves.

1305
00:57:25,560 --> 00:57:27,680
Speaker 3: I tried to offer a compromise and told her that

1306
00:57:27,720 --> 00:57:30,120
Speaker 3: if my emotions were such a problem, I would visit

1307
00:57:30,120 --> 00:57:32,880
Speaker 3: their graves after the wedding. She said she wanted my

1308
00:57:32,920 --> 00:57:34,800
Speaker 3: support for the entire day and want to be a

1309
00:57:34,880 --> 00:57:36,800
Speaker 3: to dedicate it to her, but she would think about

1310
00:57:36,840 --> 00:57:39,160
Speaker 3: my offer. Honestly, I would be like, no, it's not

1311
00:57:39,200 --> 00:57:41,120
Speaker 3: an offer. This is what I'm doing. You can either

1312
00:57:41,160 --> 00:57:43,000
Speaker 3: not have me come to your wedding or like that

1313
00:57:43,040 --> 00:57:44,000
Speaker 3: this is how it's going.

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00:57:44,360 --> 00:57:47,560
Speaker 7: Yeah, like just accept that I'm gonna feel my emotions

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00:57:47,720 --> 00:57:49,600
Speaker 7: and don't let it affect your dave.

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Speaker 1: You don't want to.

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00:57:50,360 --> 00:57:52,320
Speaker 3: It's been a week and I have not heard from her.

1318
00:57:52,520 --> 00:57:54,040
Speaker 3: I feel like I should just go to the wedding

1319
00:57:54,080 --> 00:57:55,760
Speaker 3: to keep the peace, as I owe it to her,

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00:57:56,000 --> 00:57:58,160
Speaker 3: especially after all the support and love she gave me

1321
00:57:58,200 --> 00:58:01,800
Speaker 3: after my family's But isn't given to you now, Like,

1322
00:58:01,920 --> 00:58:04,120
Speaker 3: isn't capable of being kind to you right now?

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00:58:04,480 --> 00:58:04,640
Speaker 1: Right?

1324
00:58:05,400 --> 00:58:07,680
Speaker 3: But it still doesn't feel right to attend the wedding

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00:58:07,760 --> 00:58:10,720
Speaker 3: and forget about my family. Would I be an ale

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00:58:10,760 --> 00:58:12,520
Speaker 3: if I told her I won't be attending the wedding

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00:58:12,560 --> 00:58:16,320
Speaker 3: at all if she hasn't reached a decision. No, your

1328
00:58:16,320 --> 00:58:18,840
Speaker 3: friend is the a hole. She's treating you like your

1329
00:58:18,880 --> 00:58:21,680
Speaker 3: feelings don't matter. Yeah, and that she is the most

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00:58:21,720 --> 00:58:25,080
Speaker 3: important person in the world. The world does not revolve

1331
00:58:25,080 --> 00:58:29,360
Speaker 3: around her. Agreed. Yeah, but there are some comments not

1332
00:58:29,520 --> 00:58:32,120
Speaker 3: the Ale. I'm so sorry for your loss, But I

1333
00:58:32,160 --> 00:58:34,800
Speaker 3: have a question. Why is Amy allowed to gate keep

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00:58:34,840 --> 00:58:37,360
Speaker 3: that day for her own but not you? After all,

1335
00:58:37,400 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 3: her wedding anniversary will be on that date from now on.

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00:58:39,920 --> 00:58:41,920
Speaker 3: Will she try to force you to forget about your

1337
00:58:41,920 --> 00:58:45,560
Speaker 3: loss every year? I think it's really insensitive and selfish

1338
00:58:45,600 --> 00:58:49,520
Speaker 3: of her and reply trying to control your emotions in

1339
00:58:49,520 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 3: addition to your actions. She doesn't only want you at

1340
00:58:51,800 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 3: her wedding, she wants to control what you do with

1341
00:58:53,560 --> 00:58:55,560
Speaker 3: the time you're not at her wedding, as if that

1342
00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:58,560
Speaker 3: would stop you from being sad. Exactly. It's like, honestly,

1343
00:58:58,600 --> 00:59:00,360
Speaker 3: probably you not going to the Great Wood make you

1344
00:59:00,400 --> 00:59:03,520
Speaker 3: more sad because you would feel guilty. Yeah, reply this,

1345
00:59:03,800 --> 00:59:06,080
Speaker 3: Amy gets zero say, and what you do with your

1346
00:59:06,160 --> 00:59:09,200
Speaker 3: day Go to your family's graves and do your usual ritual,

1347
00:59:09,560 --> 00:59:12,040
Speaker 3: then go to the wedding. If she asks, tell her

1348
00:59:12,120 --> 00:59:14,040
Speaker 3: what you do when not at her wedding is none

1349
00:59:14,080 --> 00:59:16,600
Speaker 3: of our business. In fact, text her that right now

1350
00:59:16,640 --> 00:59:19,840
Speaker 3: and withdraw your compromise. You don't need to compromise with her.

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00:59:20,800 --> 00:59:23,120
Speaker 3: Reply Frankly, I think OPI could also tell the other

1352
00:59:23,120 --> 00:59:25,320
Speaker 3: friends about what is happening, because Opie should not have

1353
00:59:25,360 --> 00:59:29,080
Speaker 3: Amy weaponize this with others. Opie, do not compromise with

1354
00:59:29,160 --> 00:59:32,880
Speaker 3: anyone on this. And there is an update. Wow, do

1355
00:59:32,880 --> 00:59:34,320
Speaker 3: you have any thoughts before we get into it?

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00:59:34,480 --> 00:59:34,680
Speaker 1: Yeah?

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00:59:34,720 --> 00:59:38,320
Speaker 7: I just think like if this was a conversation that

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00:59:38,360 --> 00:59:41,520
Speaker 7: they had of being like, you know, hey, by the

1359
00:59:41,560 --> 00:59:43,960
Speaker 7: way this is gonna be like is that gonna be

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00:59:43,960 --> 00:59:44,320
Speaker 7: a problem.

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00:59:44,360 --> 00:59:46,520
Speaker 3: How are you gonna feel? You can totally feel whatever

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00:59:46,600 --> 00:59:47,400
Speaker 3: emotions you are.

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Speaker 7: This is just like a day that I liked and

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00:59:49,800 --> 00:59:52,960
Speaker 7: that worked out, you know, like that would probably be okay.

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00:59:53,120 --> 00:59:53,440
Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 7: The fact that she said, like your sadness is gonna

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00:59:56,200 --> 01:00:00,000
Speaker 7: ruin my day, that's like totally crossing the line.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, But there is enough date. I want to start

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Speaker 3: off by saying thank you to everyone who replied. I

1370
01:00:06,080 --> 01:00:08,400
Speaker 3: was not expecting my post to get this level of attention.

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01:00:09,080 --> 01:00:11,160
Speaker 3: I have read all of your comments and thank you

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01:00:11,200 --> 01:00:13,960
Speaker 3: once again. I am in tears and became an emotional

1373
01:00:13,960 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 3: mess after reading your thoughtful responses. Thank you for the

1374
01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:19,440
Speaker 3: love and support. They've always felt like some sort of

1375
01:00:19,480 --> 01:00:22,440
Speaker 3: emotional burden to my friends, So thank you for your

1376
01:00:22,560 --> 01:00:25,080
Speaker 3: encouraging messages and for telling me to keep my head

1377
01:00:25,160 --> 01:00:28,280
Speaker 3: up high. Even though we were all strangers on the internet.

1378
01:00:28,320 --> 01:00:30,480
Speaker 3: It feels like I've gained a new family. Now for

1379
01:00:30,520 --> 01:00:32,760
Speaker 3: the update, I did what some of you suggested and

1380
01:00:32,840 --> 01:00:34,840
Speaker 3: called my other friends to let them know what Amy

1381
01:00:34,840 --> 01:00:37,480
Speaker 3: had asked to me. They were quite livid and angry

1382
01:00:37,480 --> 01:00:39,920
Speaker 3: on my behalf, as they had no idea what Amy

1383
01:00:39,960 --> 01:00:40,920
Speaker 3: was planning for the wedding.

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01:00:41,080 --> 01:00:41,720
Speaker 1: We arranged a.

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01:00:41,760 --> 01:00:43,880
Speaker 3: Zoom call with her the next day to discuss why

1386
01:00:43,920 --> 01:00:46,880
Speaker 3: she was being so insensitive to me. I'm sure Amy

1387
01:00:46,920 --> 01:00:47,960
Speaker 3: took that race.

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01:00:48,680 --> 01:00:49,040
Speaker 1: Yeah.

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01:00:49,080 --> 01:00:52,840
Speaker 3: Well, the call was quite a battle. It started off calm,

1390
01:00:53,480 --> 01:00:56,919
Speaker 3: then Amy just blew up. Boy, you guys were right

1391
01:00:56,920 --> 01:00:58,920
Speaker 3: when you said that Amy was jealous of the attention

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01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:02,680
Speaker 3: I received during my family's passing anniversary. Her wedding was

1393
01:01:02,680 --> 01:01:05,120
Speaker 3: a way to shift the attention towards her. She tried

1394
01:01:05,160 --> 01:01:07,040
Speaker 3: to explain that by having the wedding on that day,

1395
01:01:07,120 --> 01:01:09,480
Speaker 3: it would turn a negative situation into a positive one.

1396
01:01:09,920 --> 01:01:12,720
Speaker 3: When she realized she wasn't convincing enough, it felt as

1397
01:01:12,720 --> 01:01:15,680
Speaker 3: though a mask had fallen from her face. She started

1398
01:01:15,760 --> 01:01:18,400
Speaker 3: yelling and insulting me, saying that she was tired of

1399
01:01:18,440 --> 01:01:21,040
Speaker 3: playing the supportive friend role in that it's been seventy years.

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01:01:21,080 --> 01:01:22,560
Speaker 3: I should just get over it. By no hour, just

1401
01:01:22,640 --> 01:01:26,840
Speaker 3: go join my family in the ground. Oh my god,

1402
01:01:28,160 --> 01:01:31,720
Speaker 3: that's crazy. I would literally if I were her, I

1403
01:01:31,720 --> 01:01:33,800
Speaker 3: would never talk to this woman again. Absolutely. If I

1404
01:01:33,800 --> 01:01:35,320
Speaker 3: were any of the friends on this call, I would

1405
01:01:35,320 --> 01:01:37,360
Speaker 3: never talk to this one. Absolutely, I'd be like, you

1406
01:01:37,400 --> 01:01:38,280
Speaker 3: are not the person I.

1407
01:01:38,200 --> 01:01:40,240
Speaker 1: Thought you were. Yeah, goodbye, whoa.

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01:01:42,240 --> 01:01:45,160
Speaker 3: My friends lost their anger and called her every name

1409
01:01:45,200 --> 01:01:48,160
Speaker 3: in the book. I am honestly just shocked and disappointed

1410
01:01:48,160 --> 01:01:50,760
Speaker 3: in the person who used to be my friend. It

1411
01:01:50,840 --> 01:01:53,720
Speaker 3: breaks my heart knowing I lost another person in my life.

1412
01:01:54,120 --> 01:01:56,280
Speaker 3: But I guess you guys are right. She never really

1413
01:01:56,400 --> 01:01:59,120
Speaker 3: was a friend. Looking back at her friendship, I now

1414
01:01:59,160 --> 01:02:02,000
Speaker 3: realize it was often one sided on my part. I

1415
01:02:02,040 --> 01:02:04,320
Speaker 3: wish it hadn't taken me so long to see it.

1416
01:02:05,080 --> 01:02:06,840
Speaker 3: No one in our friend group of six people is

1417
01:02:06,880 --> 01:02:08,920
Speaker 3: going to her wedding now. We have decided to go

1418
01:02:08,960 --> 01:02:11,680
Speaker 3: no contact with Amy and block her on all social media.

1419
01:02:12,320 --> 01:02:14,760
Speaker 3: My friends have offered to visit my family's graves with me,

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01:02:14,880 --> 01:02:15,720
Speaker 3: and I accept it.

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01:02:15,760 --> 01:02:17,520
Speaker 1: All. That's so sweet.

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01:02:17,600 --> 01:02:19,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're just finding out who your real friends are,

1423
01:02:19,200 --> 01:02:21,400
Speaker 3: and it's like, really that I have had to happen

1424
01:02:21,440 --> 01:02:24,440
Speaker 3: this way. But we are now planning to make a

1425
01:02:24,440 --> 01:02:27,400
Speaker 3: scrap book with my family's pictures for once. I'm actually

1426
01:02:27,480 --> 01:02:29,560
Speaker 3: looking forward to this day and we'll start planning more

1427
01:02:29,560 --> 01:02:33,240
Speaker 3: meaningful activities like this. Thank you once again to everyone

1428
01:02:33,280 --> 01:02:35,640
Speaker 3: for helping me through this. And please remember do not

1429
01:02:36,240 --> 01:02:40,040
Speaker 3: drink and drive. I'm begging you, please don't please drink

1430
01:02:40,040 --> 01:02:46,000
Speaker 3: responsibly and drive safely everyone all. And I'm just not

1431
01:02:46,080 --> 01:02:49,080
Speaker 3: gonna segue into this one. By the way, you can

1432
01:02:49,160 --> 01:02:51,440
Speaker 3: listen to full episodes of stories just like this. Just

1433
01:02:51,480 --> 01:02:54,920
Speaker 3: go to Spotify, Apple Podcast, or iHeartRadio and search Booky Storytime.

1434
01:02:55,720 --> 01:02:58,120
Speaker 3: But there is a little bit left to the story.

1435
01:02:58,400 --> 01:03:03,320
Speaker 3: But really really awful that Amy treated you like this,

1436
01:03:04,280 --> 01:03:07,120
Speaker 3: But I'm glad that you have real friends who are

1437
01:03:07,160 --> 01:03:10,520
Speaker 3: willing to be there for you. Yeah, that's super sweet because,

1438
01:03:10,560 --> 01:03:12,800
Speaker 3: like obviously, Amy meant so much to Opie.

1439
01:03:12,800 --> 01:03:16,360
Speaker 7: It's like if she just loses her and doesn't have

1440
01:03:16,440 --> 01:03:18,920
Speaker 7: anyone else there to support her that's like her only person,

1441
01:03:19,040 --> 01:03:21,160
Speaker 7: that would be like she's alone. But I'm so glad

1442
01:03:21,200 --> 01:03:24,040
Speaker 7: that all of these other friends are offering all this

1443
01:03:24,200 --> 01:03:25,800
Speaker 7: and all this support.

1444
01:03:26,600 --> 01:03:26,840
Speaker 1: Nice.

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01:03:27,720 --> 01:03:30,760
Speaker 3: Some are asking about Amy's fiance and his thoughts. We

1446
01:03:30,840 --> 01:03:33,640
Speaker 3: haven't heard anything, as we still haven't even met him.

1447
01:03:34,360 --> 01:03:36,720
Speaker 3: We tried several times to meet him last year, but

1448
01:03:36,800 --> 01:03:39,040
Speaker 3: something always came up. I guess we'll never know his

1449
01:03:39,120 --> 01:03:39,760
Speaker 3: true feelings.