1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,279 Speaker 1: Hi, Rufio, what did you have to explain to Ashland yesterday? 2 00:00:02,279 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: Because this is what this is what I want to 3 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:05,880 Speaker 1: know for the parents out there, for the grown ups 4 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:08,720 Speaker 1: out there. Eight five five five nine three five. What 5 00:00:08,840 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 1: did you have to explain to your child that you 6 00:00:11,760 --> 00:00:15,600 Speaker 1: yourself either didn't know how to explain or like it 7 00:00:15,640 --> 00:00:19,760 Speaker 1: was just it was just too much, like the details 8 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:22,800 Speaker 1: weren't important, Like maybe you just made it up because 9 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:24,919 Speaker 1: at the time it was easier just to make it up. 10 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:25,680 Speaker 2: Right. 11 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 3: So yesterday our dog Benny got some surgery. Yesterday he 12 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:32,880 Speaker 3: got neutered and he also got some teeth taken out. 13 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:35,800 Speaker 3: And we were walking in the other day before his 14 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 3: surgery and we're like, oh, he's got to go into 15 00:00:38,120 --> 00:00:40,640 Speaker 3: the to the doctor to get surgery. And Ashley's like why, 16 00:00:41,120 --> 00:00:43,560 Speaker 3: It's like, well, he's got to get fixed. 17 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:45,960 Speaker 2: And he's like what does that mean. I'm like, oh, 18 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:46,879 Speaker 2: here we go, Like. 19 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:51,600 Speaker 3: He's you know, it's it's better for him so he 20 00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:54,000 Speaker 3: won't have babies, and acting like but I want him 21 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:56,360 Speaker 3: to have babies. I want them to have like three babies. 22 00:00:56,400 --> 00:00:59,320 Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, here we go. Like I've never had 23 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:01,400 Speaker 3: a dog before, so I don't even know how to 24 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 3: explain what what getting a dog neutered means, you know, like, 25 00:01:04,680 --> 00:01:06,080 Speaker 3: I know there's benefits to it, but I don't know 26 00:01:06,080 --> 00:01:06,360 Speaker 3: what they are. 27 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:07,400 Speaker 2: I just know Also. 28 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:11,039 Speaker 3: That his his has Kiki calls it Cahony's are gone 29 00:01:11,040 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 3: whatever she calls. 30 00:01:12,240 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 1: There's just some removal of items that were yeah, you know, 31 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:16,120 Speaker 1: helpful like that. 32 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:18,040 Speaker 3: And then he came back yesterday and asked him just 33 00:01:18,080 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 3: wants to play with it. I was like, you gotta, 34 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:21,680 Speaker 3: you gotta settle down with the dog, like you can't 35 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 3: hug him. 36 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:22,399 Speaker 1: You can't. 37 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:25,800 Speaker 3: He's he's very fragile right now. So he didn't understand. 38 00:01:25,840 --> 00:01:28,280 Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't know. I still don't understand the 39 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 3: benefits of neutering a dog, So. 40 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 2: I'll calm him down. Yeah, and I had to. I 41 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:35,200 Speaker 2: had to look it up. 42 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 3: So it's it's like they live longer. Yeah, they'll they're calmer. 43 00:01:39,160 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 3: Obviously they won't be humping things, right, you know, for 44 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 3: the streets like that. So yeah, so it was it 45 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 3: was very interesting to explain to a four year old 46 00:01:49,440 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 3: what happens. 47 00:01:49,920 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 1: To a dog, because I gotta think at some point 48 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:55,720 Speaker 1: it's just easier just to I know, either it's too 49 00:01:55,720 --> 00:01:58,720 Speaker 1: complex of a concept, you're not ready to talk about it, 50 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 1: or it's it's easier to lie because you don't know 51 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: the answer. 52 00:02:02,080 --> 00:02:05,280 Speaker 4: I vividly remember being little and asking myself, dad, hey, where. 53 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:06,800 Speaker 2: Did those two things go on the back of real 54 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:09,760 Speaker 2: his cat? And they didn't. I remember them looking at 55 00:02:09,800 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 2: each other being like, oh my god, like, what do 56 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:12,040 Speaker 2: we tell her? 57 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:12,359 Speaker 1: Yeah? 58 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 3: My other problem is is that action and like to 59 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:16,839 Speaker 3: repeat things, so he'll like, next time you see someone 60 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:18,920 Speaker 3: we're with the dog, he'd be like, hey, my dog. 61 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:21,359 Speaker 2: You know he can't have babies no more. 62 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 3: You know, he'll say, he'll say something I tell him, 63 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:24,520 Speaker 3: that's the nicest thing. 64 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:30,440 Speaker 1: He'll People are sending their texting logos already of the 65 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 1: Kiki show. 66 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:31,640 Speaker 4: What. 67 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 2: Crazy show, Crazy friend? I love a k that might 68 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 2: be too many caves. I was gonna say, a crazy friend. Yeah, 69 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 2: remember the number of case concerns me? Oh my god, 70 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:53,000 Speaker 2: I would never. 71 00:02:55,000 --> 00:03:00,560 Speaker 1: By the way, why did you text that it's from 72 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 1: your phone number? I do like parents that will say 73 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 1: I don't know. They'll lie to their kids about it's 74 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:09,200 Speaker 1: less less important. I mean, like, I don't know. I 75 00:03:09,240 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 1: want to go to the ice cream store, like ice 76 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:13,320 Speaker 1: cream sort store's closed and it's you know, three o'clock 77 00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:13,640 Speaker 1: out of two. 78 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, like like your sister does with Polly. She says, yeah, 79 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:18,120 Speaker 3: the toy store is closed. Yeah, once you go to 80 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:21,079 Speaker 3: the toy store, it's like noon on a Wednesday. I'm 81 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:23,919 Speaker 3: very much open, but it's it's definitely closed. But I 82 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 3: don't know, I mean, what other Like I can imagine 83 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:28,359 Speaker 3: if my kid were asking at a young age about 84 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 3: how babies are made, It's like, at what point? I mean, 85 00:03:31,480 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 3: I know you don't want to lie to your kid, 86 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 3: but at what point is it just kind of too 87 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:37,440 Speaker 3: complex or like you're gonna you're gonna have to go 88 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:39,600 Speaker 3: down a rabbit hole that you're just not Maybe you're 89 00:03:39,600 --> 00:03:42,080 Speaker 3: just not ready, you know, you just don't feel like it. 90 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:44,160 Speaker 1: So what do you tell them? You know, you tell 91 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 1: them like a stork comes and ask somebody else. I mean, 92 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 1: like how long do you tell the fancy, the fanciful story, 93 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:56,320 Speaker 1: like the you know, the fairy tale until you actually 94 00:03:56,400 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 1: have to go, Okay, this is what's gonna happen. 95 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 2: I don't know. 96 00:04:00,880 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 5: My brother takes a very much a real approach with 97 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:06,160 Speaker 5: his kids, Like he just tells them like straight up, 98 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 5: like they're adults like they are adults, and I'm like, wow, 99 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 5: I could never do that. And I've also learned when 100 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:13,800 Speaker 5: talking to children that I really don't know what I'm 101 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:16,880 Speaker 5: talking about, Like you know, like that you question, I'm. 102 00:04:16,720 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 2: Like, I don't know, bro, It's just it's just the 103 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:20,200 Speaker 2: way it is. Yeah, just take that. 104 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, I say that a lot. It's like because Ash 105 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:25,480 Speaker 3: asks a lot of questions like what is it, I'm like. 106 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:28,560 Speaker 2: It's it is what it is. Like you just get 107 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:31,640 Speaker 2: so frustrated you don't know how to respond anymore. So 108 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:34,040 Speaker 2: it's like what they just go but why? Yeah, but why? 109 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:36,640 Speaker 3: It's just a constant Well I love. I love the 110 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 3: constant questions, but then I don't have the answers more. 111 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:43,480 Speaker 1: Somebody text it hard to explain to my three and 112 00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 1: six year olds why I was sitting on the couch 113 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 1: with an ice pack on my balls after a sectimate. 114 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:51,040 Speaker 1: I keep asking why I needed surgery. Our dog just 115 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 1: got nuted, and our five year old walked around telling 116 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:55,000 Speaker 1: everyone his dog had his balls chopped off. That's what 117 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:57,880 Speaker 1: I'm saying, so that no dogs didn't get pregnant anymore 118 00:04:57,880 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 1: from him. 119 00:04:58,880 --> 00:05:02,360 Speaker 2: Damn. Wait, I have the funniest neuter story. You see that. 120 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: You can't tease us like that. Someone texts, I have 121 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:07,400 Speaker 1: the funniest neuter story. Well, then call up here and 122 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 1: tells the damn stories. 123 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, call Key's crazy friends over here. 124 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:14,480 Speaker 1: It's hard to explain why you're not with the other parent. Oh, 125 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:17,320 Speaker 1: I can imagine that, like as a as a kid, 126 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 1: you know, you're like, well, because your dad got with 127 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:22,599 Speaker 1: a stripper, you know, Like, I mean, how do you like? 128 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:24,920 Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know, Like, what are you saying? 129 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 2: What do you mean he's with the secretary? Why were 130 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:31,279 Speaker 2: me and my sister born in the same year? 131 00:05:33,600 --> 00:05:33,720 Speaker 3: Right? 132 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 1: Damn, I'm I'm in the pool guy cleaned up a 133 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 1: lot of things. 134 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:46,359 Speaker 2: I don't know, you know, It's like, what do you 135 00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:49,040 Speaker 2: what do you say? Oh? 136 00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 1: Man, hold on, I want to hear this. I want 137 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:53,480 Speaker 1: to hear this funny Newter story. Well, one morning, my 138 00:05:53,880 --> 00:05:55,480 Speaker 1: see that. And the other thing is I read these 139 00:05:55,480 --> 00:05:57,920 Speaker 1: texts like blindly as they come in, and then I 140 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 1: regret halfway through period. One morning, my seven year old 141 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:05,560 Speaker 1: woke up and had to go to the bathroom and said, Mom, 142 00:06:05,600 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 1: why is it so hard to go pee when I 143 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:10,440 Speaker 1: first wake up? Excellent question, Mom, why is that I 144 00:06:10,480 --> 00:06:13,520 Speaker 1: still want to know the answer. It depends on the 145 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:16,320 Speaker 1: child's age. Someone said, my daughter's eleven. There's a lot 146 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:18,040 Speaker 1: of things. I just tell her straight up. Kids just 147 00:06:18,080 --> 00:06:19,360 Speaker 1: smarter than we make them out to be. 148 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:24,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, my friend's son goes, mom, why are my pajamas 149 00:06:24,279 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 4: getting really tight? 150 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 2: She's like, oh crap. 151 00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:35,920 Speaker 1: Ask your dad, Emily, good morning, good morning. Why what's 152 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 1: your funny neuter story? Not about you, of course, about 153 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:40,520 Speaker 1: the dog, but you know. 154 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:45,359 Speaker 6: Oh my gosh, no, no, not me. So basically, what 155 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 6: happened when I was younger, My dogs went to go 156 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 6: get neutered, and my mom did explain to me, you 157 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:53,680 Speaker 6: know what actually happened that, you know, kiki, they cut 158 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 6: off their kojones. So yeah, years later, my dad was 159 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 6: going for of easectomy, and so what I like, my 160 00:07:03,680 --> 00:07:06,640 Speaker 6: mom was explaining to me what that meant. I looked 161 00:07:06,640 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 6: at her with like tears in my eyes, and I 162 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 6: was like, are they gonna cut. 163 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 5: Off his kalhone? 164 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:16,679 Speaker 6: I thought that they were going to do the same 165 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 6: thing to him. I was so upset, But it turns 166 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:21,800 Speaker 6: out he was fine. My mom just said he was 167 00:07:21,840 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 6: going to be sore for a couple of days. 168 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:26,520 Speaker 2: So still that's excellent news, Emily. 169 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:29,440 Speaker 6: You wouldn't have thought by the way that he was 170 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 6: acting after the procedure. 171 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:35,160 Speaker 2: But I thank you. That was a good story. Had 172 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 2: a good day all I love you guys. 173 00:07:37,480 --> 00:07:42,200 Speaker 1: I love you too. Glad you called him. Meredith, Hi, y, 174 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 1: good morning. So you have a five and a seven 175 00:07:44,040 --> 00:07:46,040 Speaker 1: year old. And then when I ask you questions, what 176 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 1: do you do? 177 00:07:48,440 --> 00:07:51,480 Speaker 4: So there's like no smoke in yours in our house, 178 00:07:52,280 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 4: it's just like I explain everything like they would read. 179 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 2: It in a science book. So I was getting. 180 00:07:57,840 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 4: Dressed one day and my daughter grabs at my stomach 181 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:03,920 Speaker 4: like a big hunk of fat, and she goes, Mama, 182 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 4: why are you so squishy? And I said, well, that's 183 00:08:07,640 --> 00:08:11,280 Speaker 4: that's fat, okay, And it's really important because it keeps 184 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:14,760 Speaker 4: your body warm, it gives you energy, and it protects 185 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 4: your organs. And guess what, no further question, Oh. 186 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:22,680 Speaker 2: Wow, okay, all right, so you just you just keep 187 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:26,080 Speaker 2: it real. Yeah. Yeah. And then when we. 188 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 4: See people walking around, they don't look at me and 189 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:32,200 Speaker 4: go why is that person so fat? Right, they just know, 190 00:08:32,559 --> 00:08:35,840 Speaker 4: like that's how the body works, Like everyone looks different. 191 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 4: Everyone's got to protect their organs, stay warm. And have 192 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 4: lots of energy. 193 00:08:39,840 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 1: I like that explanation. That's that's why I have fat 194 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:45,000 Speaker 1: on my body. That's the reason why, because I need 195 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:51,719 Speaker 1: to stay warm exactly, and energy, Meredith, energy, you need 196 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:53,480 Speaker 1: all that, I need all those things. 197 00:08:53,559 --> 00:08:57,319 Speaker 2: Yes, thank you. I have a good day, right Glas 198 00:08:57,360 --> 00:08:57,720 Speaker 2: you called? 199 00:08:58,240 --> 00:09:00,319 Speaker 1: See I guess, I guess you just guy telling the 200 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:03,560 Speaker 1: truth maybe you know, but lies are much easier sometimes, 201 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:06,080 Speaker 1: especially if it's like a really complex topic or if 202 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 1: it's maybe if it's about sex or something. It's like, 203 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:09,160 Speaker 1: I don't, I don't know. 204 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:12,600 Speaker 2: Yep, I don't. I don't. 205 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:14,480 Speaker 1: I don't want to tell you what really is happening here, 206 00:09:14,760 --> 00:09:15,680 Speaker 1: So I'm just gonna lie. 207 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:17,400 Speaker 2: Did you ever have did you have that talk with 208 00:09:17,480 --> 00:09:19,040 Speaker 2: your parents? Did you have a talk with your parents 209 00:09:19,080 --> 00:09:22,800 Speaker 2: about I knowes? I don't. I don't. 210 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:25,080 Speaker 1: I don't think they did, like didn't have it with me. 211 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:27,600 Speaker 1: I just don't. I think they would have. I just 212 00:09:27,600 --> 00:09:31,040 Speaker 1: don't remember, like sitting down and like, Okay, this is 213 00:09:31,040 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 1: what's going on. I don't remember that. Really did you 214 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:35,760 Speaker 1: have that, like formally? Did any of you guys? O? 215 00:09:35,880 --> 00:09:38,640 Speaker 5: I know, No, I just had an aunt she kept 216 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:41,079 Speaker 5: it real. Yeah, yeah, my aunt she kept it real 217 00:09:41,160 --> 00:09:43,199 Speaker 5: with all the kids, like you knew when you were 218 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,840 Speaker 5: with her, she was like, yo, don't protect yourself like 219 00:09:46,200 --> 00:09:48,760 Speaker 5: she taught us all. But yeah, parents, and now Helena 220 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:50,360 Speaker 5: just took me one day to get birth control and 221 00:09:50,400 --> 00:09:53,120 Speaker 5: I was like, oh, okay, oh you think I'm getting 222 00:09:53,160 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 5: it popping all right? 223 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 2: Well, yeah, you know the story about my mom. 224 00:09:55,800 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 1: I think it was fifteen when she went out and 225 00:09:57,160 --> 00:10:01,760 Speaker 1: bought me the extra family size box of Magnum prophylactic 226 00:10:02,360 --> 00:10:05,080 Speaker 1: and and just put it on top of my laundry 227 00:10:05,120 --> 00:10:08,520 Speaker 1: like nothing had happened, and a word was never spoken 228 00:10:08,559 --> 00:10:11,160 Speaker 1: about it. And I was like, okay, well I understand that. 229 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:13,959 Speaker 1: First of all, you were six years early on that 230 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:17,760 Speaker 1: I had to dust those things off. Second of all, Magnum, 231 00:10:17,760 --> 00:10:19,200 Speaker 1: thank you. 232 00:10:18,640 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 2: I mean that's you know, it's and 233 00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:24,080 Speaker 1: I guess my dad was privately furious of her for 234 00:10:24,160 --> 00:10:27,079 Speaker 1: this thought that she was enabling me, but not a 235 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:28,840 Speaker 1: word was ever spoken about it.