1 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your go Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:29,319 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,159 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business, 7 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 1: whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:40,599 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, now go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the beeB. 12 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:53,239 Speaker 2: Hey, Tricky, my name is Adriana. I just wanted to 13 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:57,920 Speaker 2: say congratulations on the engagement. Also, you're such an inspiration 14 00:00:58,200 --> 00:01:02,600 Speaker 2: to a lot of women, and I really love the 15 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 2: relationship that you have with your siblings. Reminds me of 16 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:09,840 Speaker 2: myself and my younger brother. Anyways, my question for you 17 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:14,000 Speaker 2: is what do you think about getting back in a 18 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 2: relationship with someone who has cheated? Have you ever and 19 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:21,120 Speaker 2: if so, how did it work? How did you trust him? 20 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 2: Were you ever. 21 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:23,039 Speaker 3: Able to trust them again? 22 00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 2: What steps did you take if you did. I'm currently 23 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 2: in that situation, and he works out of town a lot, 24 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 2: and that's when he started cheating, I guess is when 25 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 2: he started working more out of town. Literally to the 26 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:41,279 Speaker 2: point I just found out that he was even lying 27 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:44,080 Speaker 2: to me about working out of town and just you know, 28 00:01:44,280 --> 00:01:48,320 Speaker 2: getting hotels and just hanging out with other women. If 29 00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:51,200 Speaker 2: he's willing to like fix his problem off of it. 30 00:01:51,440 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 2: But I'm not sure how I feel one about getting 31 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:59,280 Speaker 2: that trust back. It's very scary. So that's my question too. 32 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 2: Thank you so much. 33 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:04,200 Speaker 1: Okay, the Dan, I'm gonna start with saying thank you 34 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:07,960 Speaker 1: for my engagement and for loving my family and all 35 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 1: that good stuff. Thank you, thank you. It seems like 36 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 1: you have been following us since I love Jenny, So 37 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 1: thank you for supporting us. Now let's get to your question, 38 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: because I'm a little worried. I'm concerned because you seem 39 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:21,520 Speaker 1: and I hear and I feel through your voiceor you're 40 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: a very nice person, and I don't want to think 41 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:27,560 Speaker 1: he's taking advantage of that, but I feel like he 42 00:02:27,680 --> 00:02:31,040 Speaker 1: might be. And I have been in a relationship where 43 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 1: they cheated on me and I went back with him. 44 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 1: I made himself for three months. I made him cry. 45 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 1: It made me feel good at the moment. I'm not 46 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:39,680 Speaker 1: gonna lie like I was like, okay, I need you 47 00:02:39,720 --> 00:02:42,880 Speaker 1: to show me and basically beg me. But let me 48 00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:45,239 Speaker 1: tell you, it was never the same. He then became 49 00:02:45,280 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 1: more jealous and felt more insecure because he's like, Okay, 50 00:02:47,880 --> 00:02:50,360 Speaker 1: she forgave me, and what if she goes out and 51 00:02:50,400 --> 00:02:55,440 Speaker 1: does it herself. And I was always worried, like is 52 00:02:55,480 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 1: he going to do it again? And should I check 53 00:02:57,280 --> 00:02:59,239 Speaker 1: his phone? And that's like no way to live. It's 54 00:02:59,320 --> 00:03:01,680 Speaker 1: just so it torments your mind so much, and it's 55 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:05,920 Speaker 1: such an unnecessary feeling. I just feel like, as your friend, Okay, 56 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:07,880 Speaker 1: if if it was my sister that I'm talking to 57 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:11,600 Speaker 1: right now, I would say, run, get the hell out 58 00:03:11,639 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 1: of that relationship because him getting hotel rooms and hanging out. No, 59 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:20,040 Speaker 1: he's boning girl. He's boning these girls in these rooms, 60 00:03:20,440 --> 00:03:22,240 Speaker 1: and then he can come back and give you a disease, 61 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:24,920 Speaker 1: you know, sexually transmitted disease. I just I don't know. 62 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 1: My heart is telling me to tell you to love 63 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:29,600 Speaker 1: yourself and to get out of that relationship. It's gonna hurt. 64 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:33,000 Speaker 1: And I'm not saying that men can't change, but men 65 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:35,320 Speaker 1: tend to change after they have lost a good woman, 66 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:37,360 Speaker 1: then they change for the next woman. That's just how 67 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:39,360 Speaker 1: it works. But if you go back with him, I 68 00:03:39,360 --> 00:03:41,840 Speaker 1: feel like he already he knows you. He's gonna take 69 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:44,800 Speaker 1: your kindness for weakness, and I think you just need 70 00:03:44,840 --> 00:03:47,680 Speaker 1: to gather up your strength and say peace out, dude, 71 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:50,640 Speaker 1: like I deserve better. I deserve better, and I love you, 72 00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:53,520 Speaker 1: but I don't need you. And you're gonna regret it 73 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:55,360 Speaker 1: because he's gonna regret it. That's what I would tell 74 00:03:55,400 --> 00:03:56,920 Speaker 1: my sister, and that's what I'm telling you now. So 75 00:03:57,200 --> 00:03:59,560 Speaker 1: I hope that helps Adriana, and hopefully you can give 76 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:02,000 Speaker 1: us a fall up here onto your cheeky's because I 77 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,760 Speaker 1: want to hear from you. Thank you, Adriana, and you 78 00:04:04,840 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 1: got this girl, you got this? Okay, So our next 79 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 1: question comes from. 80 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 4: Eric hate cheeky. 81 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:15,120 Speaker 5: I don't know if you remember, but I got to 82 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 5: meet you backstage in Bukana. Think it'll move tro I'm 83 00:04:18,040 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 5: still so grateful for that. I miss you, Nashville misses you. 84 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:24,000 Speaker 5: But my question is, you know, we talked about me 85 00:04:24,080 --> 00:04:26,440 Speaker 5: going into social work, and I realized that I'm really 86 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:30,120 Speaker 5: interested in getting my masters, not interested. I am going 87 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 5: to get my masters and I will be getting licensed 88 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 5: because I want to be able to do counseling and therapy, 89 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 5: especially regarding grief and trauma. And I would love to 90 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 5: serve the Latin new community because our community doesn't really 91 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:46,600 Speaker 5: acknowledge counseling and therapy a lot. So I see it 92 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 5: as kind of a challenge to try and make therapy 93 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:52,680 Speaker 5: in counseling much more accessible, more talked about. And it's 94 00:04:52,720 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 5: really hard because the older generation is so set and 95 00:04:55,800 --> 00:04:58,040 Speaker 5: it's sometimes and carried down to the younger generation. So 96 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:00,640 Speaker 5: how do you talk to other Latin those who might 97 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:04,720 Speaker 5: be more traditional into getting in the counseling or therapy girls, 98 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:06,560 Speaker 5: see you soon, Eric. 99 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:09,000 Speaker 1: I am so freaking proud of you. You are such 100 00:05:09,040 --> 00:05:12,520 Speaker 1: a smart, intelligent young man, and I love how you're 101 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:16,920 Speaker 1: manifesting you are affirming that, and I can already see 102 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 1: you're gonna make it very far. I can already feel 103 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:20,719 Speaker 1: it You're gonna make it very far in this world 104 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 1: because you're already saying yes, I will absolutely, that's the key, 105 00:05:23,839 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 1: you will do it. And yes, the fact that you 106 00:05:26,920 --> 00:05:30,200 Speaker 1: want to go into psychology and counseling, and I think 107 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:33,919 Speaker 1: that that is amazing because I completely agree with you. Now, 108 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:37,400 Speaker 1: therapy is talked about a bit more in our community, 109 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:40,600 Speaker 1: but not as much as i'd like. So I love 110 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:43,159 Speaker 1: that you are, you know, getting into this field. And 111 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:46,839 Speaker 1: basically what I do is just talk about it freely 112 00:05:47,120 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 1: and unapologetically. I just say therapy is great. Therapy has 113 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:53,240 Speaker 1: helped me, whether some people are like uh, because some 114 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:55,320 Speaker 1: people will look at me like, well, that's weird because 115 00:05:55,320 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 1: they see it as a weakness, like oh, you know 116 00:05:57,520 --> 00:06:01,040 Speaker 1: you're depressed. But no, it's actually a very smart thing 117 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:03,239 Speaker 1: because we all need therapy, all of us. It doesn't 118 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:07,000 Speaker 1: matter if you're rich or poor or you know, whatever culture, 119 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 1: we all need therapy, all of us. So I think 120 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 1: it's just talking about it freely the way you're doing it, 121 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 1: and little by little people will understand it, even if 122 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,480 Speaker 1: they do it secretly. But the more you talk about 123 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:20,680 Speaker 1: it and the more your advocate for it, the better 124 00:06:20,720 --> 00:06:22,400 Speaker 1: that it's going to be and that it's going to 125 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 1: become more common and people are going to be more 126 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:26,680 Speaker 1: comfortable with it. So I think you're doing everything right. 127 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 1: You sound like you know exactly what you want, so honestly, 128 00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:31,599 Speaker 1: you're you're way ahead of me for sure. I wish 129 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:33,600 Speaker 1: I could go back to school and become a psychologist. 130 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:34,919 Speaker 1: That was like the first thing I wanted to do. 131 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 3: Actually. 132 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: Okay, So our next question comes from Jess. 133 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 3: Left my ex three years ago for mentally abuse, currently 134 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:55,279 Speaker 3: dating an F buddy, currently pregnant of f buddy, but 135 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:59,280 Speaker 3: still in love with my ex? How can I let 136 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 3: go of my ex? 137 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:07,000 Speaker 1: Okay, Jess, congratulations on the pregnancy. So I wish I 138 00:07:07,080 --> 00:07:09,640 Speaker 1: knew if this F buddy was in the picture while 139 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:12,640 Speaker 1: you were with your ex, but I guess we won't 140 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 1: know now. But if you left that previous relationship because 141 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 1: they were mentally abusing you, then you did the right thing. 142 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 1: I don't know how long ago you left this person, 143 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 1: but it's gonna take some time. I think you just 144 00:07:25,280 --> 00:07:29,080 Speaker 1: need to be patient with yourself and allow your heart 145 00:07:29,120 --> 00:07:32,480 Speaker 1: to go through the process, and eventually, I promise you, 146 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:34,600 Speaker 1: you'll wake up one day and it's like that person 147 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 1: just is no longer in your heart. In that way, 148 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 1: I hope that you're not looking at their stuff on 149 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:43,920 Speaker 1: Instagram and social media, like I think you need to 150 00:07:44,600 --> 00:07:47,360 Speaker 1: cut it off completely at a site out of mind. 151 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:50,160 Speaker 1: Don't go looking and searching because that stuff just keeps 152 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:54,120 Speaker 1: you stuck. You're trying to unstick yourself, you know. So 153 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 1: the best thing to do is just focus on I 154 00:07:57,000 --> 00:07:59,080 Speaker 1: guess relationship at this point, right, it's not just an 155 00:07:59,160 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 1: f budy because you're but just focus on this and 156 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:03,920 Speaker 1: focus on your pregnancy, and just know that you made 157 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:06,320 Speaker 1: the right decision by leaving this person because they were 158 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:10,040 Speaker 1: mentally i'm assuming, emotionally and verbally abusing you. So you 159 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:13,760 Speaker 1: did the best thing for yourself. So be patient with yourself, 160 00:08:13,880 --> 00:08:17,160 Speaker 1: allow your heart to go through the process. And that's 161 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:18,840 Speaker 1: all I can really tell you. But don't go back 162 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: to that, babe. Don't go back to that, because sometimes 163 00:08:21,920 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 1: we know what the best thing for us is, but 164 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:26,800 Speaker 1: it's very uncomfortable and we'd rather just go back to 165 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:29,320 Speaker 1: our comfort zone. But that's not how we grow and 166 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:31,120 Speaker 1: that's not how we progress in life. So it's just 167 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:34,120 Speaker 1: keep going, keep moving forward, step by step, day by day. 168 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 1: I hope that helps. 169 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:35,280 Speaker 4: Jess. 170 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:38,320 Speaker 1: Okay, thank you for your question, and again, congratulations on 171 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:44,559 Speaker 1: your baby. Okay, So our last question comes from Josse. 172 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:48,240 Speaker 4: Hello, Cheeky's how are you? I may you and open 173 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 4: California in a meet and green and WSS. I even 174 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 4: took a sofie with you and I put it into 175 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 4: a frame. I pregnant the pictures out and I still 176 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:58,920 Speaker 4: remember you liking my story. Anyways, my question for you 177 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:01,880 Speaker 4: is whatever, what do you give someone that's going to 178 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:05,319 Speaker 4: transition to college? Whatever we can need to stay positive 179 00:09:05,880 --> 00:09:09,560 Speaker 4: even though haters and other people may talk about me, 180 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:12,839 Speaker 4: and just how to stay positive as you transision to 181 00:09:12,920 --> 00:09:15,280 Speaker 4: doing something new. Thank you so much. I love you. 182 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:19,160 Speaker 1: Oh Joseh, you're so freaking cute. You printed our picture. 183 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:22,000 Speaker 1: Oh you should post it on Instagram and then tag me. 184 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 1: I want to see it. I'm sure if I see 185 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 1: your face, I will remember exactly the moment. But okay, well, 186 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:29,920 Speaker 1: you're going to college. That's amazing. That's a huge step. 187 00:09:30,000 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 1: I think that just that in itself is like something 188 00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:34,520 Speaker 1: to be very happy about and proud of. I think 189 00:09:34,559 --> 00:09:36,320 Speaker 1: you just need to focus on the good thing that 190 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:39,800 Speaker 1: you're doing and not focus so much on the negativity, 191 00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:42,720 Speaker 1: because there's going to be negativity no matter where you are, 192 00:09:43,120 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 1: and more than anything, staying focused and trying not to 193 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:50,720 Speaker 1: party too much and get into the college scene. I mean, yes, 194 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:53,480 Speaker 1: once in a while is fine, but really focus so 195 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:59,040 Speaker 1: that you are not distracted with things that are just temporary. 196 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:01,679 Speaker 1: You know we're looking long term, you know what I mean. 197 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:04,360 Speaker 1: So stay focused on that focal point and where you're going, 198 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:06,319 Speaker 1: where you're headed, and just know that there are always 199 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:07,800 Speaker 1: going to be people that are going to criticize and 200 00:10:07,880 --> 00:10:11,480 Speaker 1: judge you get there. You have to just know, Okay, 201 00:10:11,480 --> 00:10:13,040 Speaker 1: that's part of life. I'm not the first, I'm not 202 00:10:13,080 --> 00:10:15,760 Speaker 1: the last. I'm doing this for me, for my future, 203 00:10:16,240 --> 00:10:19,360 Speaker 1: and f what everyone else thinks. Honestly, two middle springles 204 00:10:19,440 --> 00:10:21,679 Speaker 1: up in the air. You know you're doing a good thing. 205 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 1: You're representing for all Latinos out there, so you should 206 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:26,560 Speaker 1: be very proud. I am my king be going to college. 207 00:10:27,040 --> 00:10:29,720 Speaker 1: Watch out. I'm so excited for you. Hopefully I can 208 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:32,480 Speaker 1: go to your graduation. Okay, send me that picture. Okay, 209 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 1: So thank you to Adriana, Eric, Jess and Jose. I'm 210 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:38,680 Speaker 1: really hoping my advice helps you make the right decision 211 00:10:38,760 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 1: and I can't wait to hear from even more of you. 212 00:10:41,160 --> 00:10:44,680 Speaker 1: Leave me your questions at speakpipe dot com. Slash cheekysin Chill, 213 00:10:45,160 --> 00:10:54,560 Speaker 1: Los Amo. 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