1 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:25,119 Speaker 1: Hey, it's me Emily. It's five minute Friday. I'm so 2 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 1: thankful it's Friday. 3 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:31,240 Speaker 2: To be real, though, this week was myself imposed let's 4 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:35,240 Speaker 2: call it a vacation week. Yes, I am at home 5 00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:38,400 Speaker 2: in Brooklyn, but for a while I was hoping to 6 00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 2: take a vacation, an actual one away from Brooklyn. 7 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:42,920 Speaker 1: This week. 8 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 2: I dreamed of booking something to Italy, doing coast, literally 9 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:52,440 Speaker 2: posting up at some hotel for six days and drinking 10 00:00:52,520 --> 00:00:53,720 Speaker 2: spritses and who knows what. 11 00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:57,680 Speaker 1: And I got to this point, not all that long ago, 12 00:00:57,720 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 1: where when it. 13 00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 2: Came time to pull the trigger on booking it, I 14 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 2: just decided that I wanted to save the money and spend. 15 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: Some time being in one place. 16 00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:14,160 Speaker 2: And so this week I allowed myself to summit extent 17 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:19,360 Speaker 2: to take vacation aaa like, just do the things that 18 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:22,680 Speaker 2: I wanted to do during the day, while also yes, 19 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:26,040 Speaker 2: tending to my inbox a little bit, and of course 20 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 2: launching the pod and the newsletter and all the things 21 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:32,959 Speaker 2: that I usually do. And to be real, it was really, 22 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 2: it was really delightful. That's not what I'm here to 23 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:38,400 Speaker 2: talk to you about today. What I'm here to talk 24 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:42,640 Speaker 2: to you about today is getting out of your head 25 00:01:42,680 --> 00:01:46,760 Speaker 2: and kind of realizing the magnitude of the things that 26 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 2: we allow to weigh us down. So let me let 27 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 2: me exemplify this. So I was sitting here at my 28 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:57,040 Speaker 2: desk earlier, trying to figure out the right way to 29 00:01:57,080 --> 00:02:01,760 Speaker 2: respond to an email. I noticed that I was getting 30 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 2: really frustrated in that I was feeling just like this 31 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 2: pit in my stomach. I didn't know the right thing 32 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 2: to say. I was writing and rewriting it, and I 33 00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:14,000 Speaker 2: was just feeling that. 34 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:16,120 Speaker 1: Feeling. 35 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 2: And a few minutes into sitting here and looking at 36 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:25,839 Speaker 2: my MacBook, I got a text from a friend who 37 00:02:25,840 --> 00:02:31,360 Speaker 2: told me about some missed flight drama and connecting in 38 00:02:31,360 --> 00:02:35,800 Speaker 2: an an inconvenient place, but that didn't matter because he 39 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:39,680 Speaker 2: was able to get home and be with his mother 40 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:44,880 Speaker 2: for chemo. And I just sat here and I was like, 41 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 2: why are you letting something like this get you all 42 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 2: sorts of riled up? 43 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:53,079 Speaker 1: Right? 44 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 2: Like, why are you getting worked up by something that's insignificant? 45 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:00,960 Speaker 1: And I say this to. 46 00:03:03,480 --> 00:03:06,840 Speaker 2: A reel it in, right, maybe this story helps you 47 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:12,800 Speaker 2: reel it in. But b also to caveat that it 48 00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:18,000 Speaker 2: is okay if you have a struggle and it's not 49 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 2: the worst thing on the planet. Like, am I entitled 50 00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:23,639 Speaker 2: to feel frustrated or worked up by some sort of 51 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 2: an email in my inbox? 52 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 1: Yes? I am. But I can also take perspective on whatever. 53 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:34,080 Speaker 2: It is in my life that is making me feel 54 00:03:34,080 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 2: some kind of way and realize that more often than not, 55 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:43,080 Speaker 2: it can be worse, and I've dealt with worse. It 56 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 2: goes back to that takeaway that I remember Alex silver 57 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:48,760 Speaker 2: Fagan shared in her episode at the front half of 58 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:51,280 Speaker 2: this year. It was her third episode on the show, 59 00:03:51,320 --> 00:03:54,240 Speaker 2: and I'll put in the show notes, but she reiterated 60 00:03:54,320 --> 00:03:57,760 Speaker 2: that we are not our feelings, and we have the 61 00:03:57,760 --> 00:04:01,680 Speaker 2: opportunity to respond to our feelings. And so the next 62 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:04,520 Speaker 2: time that maybe you feel how I felt earlier today, 63 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 2: take a second and breathe and realize that it is 64 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 2: within our capacity to move forward in the best way 65 00:04:14,440 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 2: that we know how, and that eventually we'll get through it. 66 00:04:20,320 --> 00:04:20,839 Speaker 1: Yeah. 67 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:25,080 Speaker 2: My prompt for you this week are you letting something 68 00:04:25,120 --> 00:04:27,279 Speaker 2: in your life take up more space than it deserves? 69 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:30,960 Speaker 2: Are you letting something in your life take up more 70 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:36,600 Speaker 2: space than it deserves? And can you move forward if 71 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:41,120 Speaker 2: you let that go? And now a listener question. 72 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:44,560 Speaker 3: Hey, Emily, thanks for taking the time to answer our questions. 73 00:04:45,760 --> 00:04:48,280 Speaker 3: So mine relates to the New York City Marathon. This 74 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:50,919 Speaker 3: is my first time running it this year, and I 75 00:04:50,960 --> 00:04:53,800 Speaker 3: wanted to know how many friends do you typically have 76 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:56,719 Speaker 3: stations in each borrow? Like you have two groups or 77 00:04:56,760 --> 00:04:59,640 Speaker 3: three groups? And then the second part is what do 78 00:04:59,680 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 3: you do have them hold? Do you each have them 79 00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:06,040 Speaker 3: hold a gelpack or water or gatorade? Maybe your favorite 80 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 3: snack for the run? Like what do you typically have 81 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:11,159 Speaker 3: them hold? And then the fun my fun question for 82 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:15,480 Speaker 3: you is your favorite brunch spot for after the race? Thanks? 83 00:05:16,279 --> 00:05:18,560 Speaker 1: Hey Aaron. Okay, three part question. 84 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 2: I feel like I get questions like this often, so 85 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 2: I'm not going to make it specific to the New 86 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:30,679 Speaker 2: York City Marathon because and there's a reason, it's hard 87 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:36,120 Speaker 2: to place people in every borough for the marathon. Typically speaking, 88 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 2: if someone knows New York, then they can get to 89 00:05:40,839 --> 00:05:43,440 Speaker 2: at least two to three different spots on the route 90 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:46,800 Speaker 2: by taking the subway or riding a city bike. But 91 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:49,680 Speaker 2: that really is for the person that feels really comfortable 92 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:53,039 Speaker 2: navigating the city. What I will say, regardless of what 93 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 2: marathon you are running, is that it's smart to try 94 00:05:56,600 --> 00:06:00,799 Speaker 2: to have someone to look forward to, I would say 95 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:04,840 Speaker 2: just as often as you take a gel. So typically speaking, 96 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:07,919 Speaker 2: my advice is to take some sort of nutrition every 97 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:12,320 Speaker 2: forty to forty five minutes. That would be ideal if 98 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:15,159 Speaker 2: you could have someone to look forward to during that 99 00:06:15,279 --> 00:06:17,840 Speaker 2: time as well. Now, if you're running a race and 100 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:20,760 Speaker 2: you know where someone is going to be, make sure 101 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:24,159 Speaker 2: that you don't only know what mile marker or cross 102 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:28,039 Speaker 2: street they will be on, but exactly what side of 103 00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 2: the street they will be on. So, for instance, in 104 00:06:31,960 --> 00:06:36,599 Speaker 2: New York, if I am running up First Avenue coming 105 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:40,599 Speaker 2: off of the Queensboro Bridge and I know that my 106 00:06:40,800 --> 00:06:44,839 Speaker 2: friend is going to be on sixty eighth and first, 107 00:06:45,160 --> 00:06:47,159 Speaker 2: I'm going to want to know if they are going 108 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 2: to be on the north side of the cross street 109 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:53,240 Speaker 2: or the south side of the cross street, and if 110 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 2: they will be on Runners left or runners right. So 111 00:06:56,440 --> 00:07:01,000 Speaker 2: make sure to alleviate stress from everybody that you get 112 00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 2: that down before you get going that morning. Also in 113 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:07,520 Speaker 2: terms of like what they hold, I mean, really that's 114 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:10,080 Speaker 2: up to you. I like to run with everything I'm 115 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 2: gonna need, which can be kind of difficult, but that's 116 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:15,960 Speaker 2: why it's really critical to look for gear with a 117 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 2: lot of pockets, I have had a friend hold some 118 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:23,680 Speaker 2: sort of a gel. Typically for the last few marathons, 119 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:26,800 Speaker 2: I've been going with more in gels and I am 120 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 2: the kind of person who will reach for at most 121 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:33,400 Speaker 2: every single water station at gatorad and I'm a really 122 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:34,120 Speaker 2: salty sweater. 123 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:36,040 Speaker 1: That's why i love training with elements. 124 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 2: But obviously during the marathon, I'm not carrying my own 125 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:42,040 Speaker 2: bottle of elements. I'm only carrying my own gels. 126 00:07:42,560 --> 00:07:43,080 Speaker 1: Anyway. 127 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 2: With this strategy, by carrying everything that you need on you, 128 00:07:46,280 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 2: your friends, your family, your supporters can literally just hold 129 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:50,880 Speaker 2: signs and cheer for you. 130 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:53,160 Speaker 1: And it's a little bit less stressful. 131 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:56,239 Speaker 2: And the last thing a good brunch spot you finish 132 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:59,640 Speaker 2: the New York City marathon on the Upper west Side. 133 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 2: My favorite brunch spot on the Upper west Side is 134 00:08:02,520 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 2: without it out, Jacob's Pickles. They also have Masson Pickle 135 00:08:06,120 --> 00:08:09,000 Speaker 2: down the street and other than that. Other than that, 136 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:14,080 Speaker 2: other than that, I would recommend Mermaid in Uptown. Also, 137 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:17,800 Speaker 2: the Smith is up there and Empire Hotel rooftop has 138 00:08:17,880 --> 00:08:20,760 Speaker 2: really great views. I'm not entirely sure what time they open, 139 00:08:20,840 --> 00:08:24,840 Speaker 2: but they will definitely be open for celebratory drinks in 140 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:25,560 Speaker 2: the afternoon. 141 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 1: That's it for now. 142 00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 2: As always, if you have a question that you want 143 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:32,840 Speaker 2: to submit for the show, I'm All Ears, click on 144 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:35,560 Speaker 2: over the show notes and click ask me a question, 145 00:08:35,679 --> 00:08:38,400 Speaker 2: Leave me a voicemail, and maybe you'll hear your voice 146 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:41,959 Speaker 2: on an upcoming episode of Five Minute Friday. 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