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Speaker 1: I gave my father's girlfriend a chance after years of

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Speaker 1: me being horrible. My mother hated it.

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Speaker 2: No, you must hate. Let the hate flow through you.

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Speaker 1: My seventeen female parents got divorced six years ago. My

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Speaker 1: mom quickly remarried, and my dad has been seeing his

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Speaker 1: new girlfriend for nearly two years now. I now live

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Speaker 1: at mom's house for two weeks, then switch over to

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Speaker 1: dad's house for the next two weeks. By the way,

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Speaker 1: I'm Savannah, I'm Dakota, and we are here to give

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Speaker 1: some good advice in a little goofy manner. But we

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Speaker 1: do not have all of your answers. We'd only tell

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Speaker 1: you what we do in the situation, but we would

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Speaker 1: love to know what you would do down in the

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Speaker 1: little comments that's up. He says, My relationship with my

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Speaker 1: mom has always been difficult. I always felt like my

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Speaker 1: mom wished for a more early daughter so we could

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Speaker 1: do classical mother daughter activities together, But I'm simply not

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Speaker 1: that person my mom wants me to be. I've always

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Speaker 1: been more tomboyish and been into sports, especially tennis, since

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Speaker 1: I was a little girl, something my mom never truly

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Speaker 1: understood or made an effort to be interested in. As

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Speaker 1: mother daughter relationship I feel like my mom wished for

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Speaker 1: us to have. Now, my relationship with my dad has

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Speaker 1: been the polar opposite. My dad and I always got

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Speaker 1: along great, and I have always been a daddy's girl,

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Speaker 1: But when my dad introduced me to his new girlfriend, Julia,

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Speaker 1: I instantly disliked her. My younger me thought she was

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Speaker 1: stealing my dad from me. Her being relatively young twenty

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Speaker 1: seven when they began dating, and how I unfairly stereotyped

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Speaker 1: her at first vapid pretty girl certainly didn't make me

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Speaker 1: like her either, But my younger me misjudged her, and

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Speaker 1: she's honestly pretty great. She always supported me, showed interest

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Speaker 1: in my passions, showed up to my tennis matches, something

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Speaker 1: my mom didn't bother to do, and has been a

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Speaker 1: great person all around. I'm now ashamed to admit this,

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Speaker 1: but I didn't recognize this until about three months ago,

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Speaker 1: and have been acting pretty horrible towards her before that.

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Speaker 1: The problem second, last weekend, I had a tennis tournament

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Speaker 1: where I got second place. For the second place, I

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Speaker 1: want a SPA day for me and a guest. I

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Speaker 1: decided to invite Julia, my dad's girlfriend, to thank her

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Speaker 1: If I got a spall pass every time I won

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Speaker 1: a sport, I would have unlimited spall pass. I mean

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Speaker 1: a freaking kiddy.

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Speaker 2: Me super athlete.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I would have a SPA day for each

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Speaker 1: one of God, screw the trophy, I don't I don't care.

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Speaker 1: It's just like catches dust. Give me something, I'll use

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Speaker 1: a spa Edaight, that's amazing.

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Speaker 2: Why maybe out here on the field, hockey field, just

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Speaker 1: Like, what do I do with a gold medal? Seriously?

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Speaker 2: What do you sell it? Could you gotta do if

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Speaker 2: you're an Olympian because we don't pay you anything in America.

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Speaker 2: You know how much they get paid for a gold medal?

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Speaker 2: In like Singapore, they get paid like eight hundred thousand

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's nice. Maybe I should go to Singapore.

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Speaker 2: Well that's you. Well, that's not how well, that's not

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Speaker 2: how it were exciting. That's not how being an Olympian works. Unfortunately,

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Speaker 1: Believe how happy she was when I invited her. But

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Speaker 1: when I returned to my mom's place on Sunday evening,

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Speaker 1: my mom kind of assumed I would invite her as

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Speaker 1: my guests for the spaw day. How'd she even know

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Speaker 2: Ah, yeah, who's letting her know?

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Speaker 1: She seemed to really look forward to it. When I

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Speaker 1: I don't think so she supports you and you have

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Speaker 2: There's nothing wrong with having a relationship with more than

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the fact that she just can't be happy for

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Speaker 1: that's a crappy way to look at it. Why can't

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Speaker 2: You know what else, instead of early in the story

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Speaker 2: probably not taking your kid into account right there, because

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Speaker 2: it's like, yeah, that's not a very tender, delicate age

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Speaker 2: OPI I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Well, there is an update. I have been putting off

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Speaker 1: I told my mom that I love her, that I

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Speaker 1: I feel terrible for hurting her. I also explained to

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Speaker 1: Ann reassured her that me inviting Julia doesn't mean we

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Speaker 1: I'll always love her. Then I showed her the websites

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Speaker 1: my mom got pretty defensive. Wait, she always wished for

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Speaker 1: a what girly daughter? Gurly teen girl? Gurly teen girl. Hi,

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Speaker 1: my name's gurly teen girl.

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Speaker 2: That's all. That's all, gurly teen girl is all.

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Speaker 1: She tried to deny it, but I was adamant, and

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Speaker 1: in the end, when she saw how important this was

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Speaker 2: You're probably better at recognizing any of this as bad

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Honestly, at seventeen, I wouldn't have even had like

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Speaker 1: I totally would, and I'd be like, oh, let's talk

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Speaker 2: Yeah, seventeen, I would have just been like, oh wait,

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Speaker 2: I mean I am wrong. I need to hate this woman.

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Speaker 2: Thank you mother.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely that would have been That would have been

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Speaker 1: what she wants me to make the peace, keep the peace. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I don't think you need to feel bad.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I love these smartest kids knowing how to send boundaries.

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Speaker 2: And sometimes when you set boundaries with people, they'll try

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Speaker 2: guilty about setting boundaries, it might just mean you're a CPP.

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Speaker 1: What does that mean?

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Speaker 2: Chronic people pleaser?

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Speaker 1: Later at dinner, my mom asked me if I would

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Speaker 1: like to go to a nearby climbing park with her

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Speaker 1: and my stepdad in the future. Oh my yes, climbing park.

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Speaker 1: What how fun? I instantly agreed and was so happy

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Speaker 1: because going to a climbing park isn't something my mom

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Speaker 1: It has been a week now since I talked to

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Speaker 1: our relationship will improve. I'm also hopeful we find our

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Speaker 1: end of the story. Okay, so you you spoke your

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Speaker 1: I've ever expressed this, but I want Tom. I don't

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Speaker 1: want this to ruin our relationship. I want it to

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Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to

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Speaker 2: the next one. I used my connections to save my

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm talking uh millions, buddy.

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Speaker 2: help plan it for her. I initially didn't really want to,

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Speaker 1: We're just gonna like look past her, like completely lying

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she deserves she needs to make up for it

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Speaker 1: My brother wished my boyfriend and I were his parents,

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Speaker 1: is something I only do for him. My brother had

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00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:18,240
Speaker 1: his final volleyball game near the end of October, and,

437
00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:22,400
Speaker 1: like always I was going. However, as I was about

438
00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:24,800
Speaker 1: to leave, my mom said she needed to talk. Ten

439
00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:28,639
Speaker 1: minutes later, my dad shows up. They usually cannot stand

440
00:21:28,640 --> 00:21:31,440
Speaker 1: each other, so I thought it was something serious. They

441
00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:33,280
Speaker 1: just told me that it's nice that I go to

442
00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:36,280
Speaker 1: all my brother's games, but my sisters on both sides

443
00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:38,280
Speaker 1: feel left out and I should make an effort to

444
00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:41,840
Speaker 1: go to their things too. My seventeen year old sister

445
00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:44,120
Speaker 1: had some dance recital on the same day, and they

446
00:21:44,119 --> 00:21:46,080
Speaker 1: wanted me to go to that instead to prove that

447
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:49,920
Speaker 1: I'm not playing favorites. They also said that they want

448
00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:54,159
Speaker 1: my boyfriend to go as well. I said no. She

449
00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:57,080
Speaker 1: kept begging, though, and my mom told me that my

450
00:21:57,160 --> 00:22:00,920
Speaker 1: other sisters had something coming up as well. I said no,

451
00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:04,719
Speaker 1: unless it's a major game or recital, I won't attend.

452
00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:07,359
Speaker 1: I'm already very busy and only do this for my

453
00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:11,080
Speaker 1: brother because, unlike my sisters, he has no one. My

454
00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:13,760
Speaker 1: parents said that that was unfair to the girls because

455
00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:16,440
Speaker 1: they deserve to have an older sister. They both also

456
00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:18,919
Speaker 1: agree that it's weird my boyfriend and I act like

457
00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:21,760
Speaker 1: his parents. I just told them that sucks, but I

458
00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:24,840
Speaker 1: have a game to get to. They're both still mad

459
00:22:24,880 --> 00:22:27,960
Speaker 1: at me. I haven't been allowed in either houses since

460
00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:30,080
Speaker 1: that day and until I promise to commit to the

461
00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:34,040
Speaker 1: girls as well. But I keep refusing. My moms have

462
00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:37,040
Speaker 1: called me mean, selfish, et cetera, and my dad keeps

463
00:22:37,040 --> 00:22:40,119
Speaker 1: saying that he never expected this from me. I don't know.

464
00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:43,160
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for refusing to do the

465
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:46,280
Speaker 1: same for my sisters. I just want my brother to

466
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:50,760
Speaker 1: have one thing he never gets anything, But maybe I'm

467
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:52,600
Speaker 1: the ain hole for doing this at the expense of

468
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:53,240
Speaker 1: my sisters.

469
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Speaker 2: There's an update.

470
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Speaker 1: I don't think that you're the I mean, well, I

471
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:02,160
Speaker 1: know that nobody goes to his games and nobody's there

472
00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:05,399
Speaker 1: for your brother, and then everyone always shows up for

473
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:07,959
Speaker 1: the sisters, so at least they have, you know, whatever.

474
00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:10,720
Speaker 1: But if something doesn't coincide with like the brothers games,

475
00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:12,320
Speaker 1: I do think you should go show up for your

476
00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:14,240
Speaker 1: sisters because why not, you know, show them that you

477
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:17,400
Speaker 1: support them, love them, care for them, whatever. But obviously

478
00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:19,800
Speaker 1: I would, I mean, I would put the brother's stuff first.

479
00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:21,640
Speaker 1: I'd be like, yeah, if he has a game, I'm

480
00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:23,120
Speaker 1: gonna go to that because I know no one will

481
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:24,880
Speaker 1: show up. At least I know some people are gonna

482
00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:27,320
Speaker 1: show up for my sisters, so like I want him

483
00:23:27,320 --> 00:23:30,600
Speaker 1: to feel special in that way as well. But if

484
00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:32,919
Speaker 1: they're only different days, like if like his game's on

485
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 1: a Friday and like the dance recitals on a Saturday,

486
00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:35,920
Speaker 1: like you.

487
00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:38,640
Speaker 2: Can go to both, why not, you can try.

488
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:42,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, if you just like completely disregard your sisters, then

489
00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:44,639
Speaker 1: you're just kind of, you know, doing the same thing

490
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 1: that your parents are doing to your brother in a way.

491
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:52,480
Speaker 2: In a way, yeah, but like context is a little different,

492
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:53,960
Speaker 2: well yes, kind of way.

493
00:23:54,400 --> 00:23:57,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, But also you don't want them to feel like that,

494
00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:01,360
Speaker 1: you know. But I would put brother first, and then

495
00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:03,439
Speaker 1: you know, if you have time, go to like the sisters.

496
00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 2: Also, I would say be ready for brothers complicated emotions

497
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:10,879
Speaker 2: to manifest in a way where he might resent you

498
00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:14,119
Speaker 2: for coming to his games, because just the fact that

499
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:16,600
Speaker 2: you're only, you know, the only one showing up is

500
00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:21,359
Speaker 2: a reminder that he he I don't know, I'm just saying,

501
00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:25,600
Speaker 2: like you're doing the morally an emotionally like righteous thing,

502
00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:29,320
Speaker 2: but like it's a confusing place to be in somebody.

503
00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:31,440
Speaker 1: I mean, he very much likes when they comment. It's

504
00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:35,640
Speaker 1: not like they're just calling and be like like he is, like, Ah,

505
00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:36,640
Speaker 1: you're my parents.

506
00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:41,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just being overly cautious because expectations are the

507
00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:44,240
Speaker 2: only things that lead to disappointment. So if you expect

508
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:47,879
Speaker 2: bad things, everything is his nice surprise. That's kind of

509
00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 2: why we have that disclaimer at the top of the show.

510
00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:52,680
Speaker 2: I don't know what I'm talking about. Ah.

511
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Speaker 1: After reading all the comments on my post, I decided

512
00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:58,080
Speaker 1: to talk to my sisters on both sides about what

513
00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:00,919
Speaker 1: my parents told me. Well, and one on my dad's

514
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:03,200
Speaker 1: side said that she doesn't see me as important enough

515
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:06,560
Speaker 1: to watch her performance. The ones on my mom's side

516
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:09,240
Speaker 1: straight up admitted that they don't care for my brother

517
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:11,960
Speaker 1: or I and never asked for me to go to

518
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 1: their games. To be honest, I don't care. We don't

519
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:18,680
Speaker 1: actively hate each other or anything, and are civil at best.

520
00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 1: My stepsister dad's side prefers being on her own, and

521
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:25,000
Speaker 1: my half sister's mom's side know very well that I'm

522
00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 1: much closer to my brother than them. Maybe if our

523
00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:30,119
Speaker 1: parents weren't terrible, things could have been different, but it

524
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:32,639
Speaker 1: is what it is. From now on, I will no

525
00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 1: longer be going to my sister's things unless they ask me.

526
00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:38,120
Speaker 1: I have a very demanding job, and I just found

527
00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:40,640
Speaker 1: out I'm pregnant, so I won't have time at all.

528
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:43,200
Speaker 2: Oh baby time.

529
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 1: Speaking of me being preggy, my brother was the first

530
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:50,680
Speaker 1: person my boyfriend and I told, and he was clearly

531
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:53,280
Speaker 1: afraid of a lot, but I promised him that I

532
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,960
Speaker 1: love him to pieces and the baby changes nothing. I

533
00:25:56,000 --> 00:25:58,480
Speaker 1: also told him that I know we're technically half siblings

534
00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:00,679
Speaker 1: and we're only five years apart, but I care for

535
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:02,280
Speaker 1: him a lot and I kind of see him as

536
00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 1: my child. I also told him my boyfriend loves him

537
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:07,919
Speaker 1: in a similar way too. I was afraid that it

538
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 1: would be a bit weird to say this, but he

539
00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:12,199
Speaker 1: smiled really hard and told me how he used to

540
00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:14,639
Speaker 1: wish my boyfriend and I were really his parents, but

541
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:17,480
Speaker 1: felt embarrassed for thinking this, so he never said anything.

542
00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:22,200
Speaker 1: We just hugged and ah, we're not the best with feelings,

543
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 1: but it was nice.

544
00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:28,240
Speaker 2: I think you're good. You're better with feelings than you'd expect.

545
00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:31,880
Speaker 2: Look at you go with these feelings. You're like meat

546
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:34,880
Speaker 2: mark ap eatpopp. I don't know. We're not good with feelings,

547
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:38,639
Speaker 2: what clearly you are a little bit. Give yourself a

548
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:39,280
Speaker 2: little credit.

549
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:42,440
Speaker 1: He turns eighteen in February, and I plan on having

550
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 1: him move in for good by the end of January.

551
00:26:45,320 --> 00:26:48,200
Speaker 1: My dad and I no longer speak at all after

552
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 1: he sent me a very mean message. My mom and

553
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:52,600
Speaker 1: I only speak to talk about my brother moving in

554
00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 1: with me and getting all his legal stuff. She still

555
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:57,880
Speaker 1: asks about my sister's games, but I always shut it down.

556
00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:02,680
Speaker 1: She didn't ask when we last talked. Progress. We celebrated

557
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 1: Christmas with my boyfriend's family and they all treated my

558
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 1: brother so wonderfully. Also, my boyfriend's proposing soon and my

559
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:11,200
Speaker 1: brother's gonna be whatever the guy version of the Maid

560
00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:14,200
Speaker 1: of Honor is. Overall, we've been doing well and we

561
00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:16,639
Speaker 1: have a big things ahead of us. And I know

562
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:18,200
Speaker 1: we're a bit of an odd family, but it makes

563
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 1: my brother happy and that's really all that matters to me.

564
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:24,320
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Again, that's the end of that story. Wow,

565
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:26,479
Speaker 1: So it kind of all worked out. I mean, I

566
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:29,359
Speaker 1: hate that, like I hate that the parents kind of

567
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:33,840
Speaker 1: like divided themselves and you know, kind of are at

568
00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 1: war with you for some reason over this child that

569
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 1: was I'm I'm guessing an accident, but I don't know.

570
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:46,160
Speaker 1: I just I just feel bad for him. But I'm

571
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:48,000
Speaker 1: glad that he has someone like you because it seems

572
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:49,640
Speaker 1: like you really care for him, really love him, really

573
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 1: want to see him as succeed in life. And you

574
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:54,920
Speaker 1: know so, I think that I think you're gonna be

575
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:55,880
Speaker 1: a good influence for him.

576
00:27:56,760 --> 00:28:00,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, You're gonna be a good one, not a bad one.

577
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to

578
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 2: the next one. My father assumed he was invited to

579
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:11,040
Speaker 2: my graduation, but I told him not to show up.

580
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:12,520
Speaker 1: You lost dad.

581
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:16,119
Speaker 2: My parents got divorced a really long time ago, like

582
00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:20,399
Speaker 2: before I eighteen, female was even two years old, a

583
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:23,639
Speaker 2: long time ago. They shared custody of me until I

584
00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 2: was five, and that's when my dad met his wife.

585
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 2: She was in town for a couple of months with

586
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 2: her two year old daughter, but when she moved back home,

587
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,679
Speaker 2: my dad decided he couldn't be without them, and he

588
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:38,120
Speaker 2: moved twenty hours away to be with this woman and

589
00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:41,280
Speaker 2: her daughter. That meant I only saw him for a

590
00:28:41,320 --> 00:28:44,480
Speaker 2: few weeks in the summer, and his wife's daughter got

591
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 2: him all the time. Dang, I don't know what to

592
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:52,040
Speaker 2: call that. Complex. That's insane. By the way, this comes

593
00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 2: from user let La Apple and if you want to

594
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:57,320
Speaker 2: submit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay

595
00:28:57,360 --> 00:29:01,200
Speaker 2: storytime subreddit. I'm Dakota, and I'm and we're gonna read

596
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:03,200
Speaker 2: this here story and we're gonna talk about it. And

597
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 2: your job is to talk about us talking about this

598
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:09,040
Speaker 2: story down in the comments, to tell us if we

599
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:12,640
Speaker 2: did a bad job, and yell at us we love you.

600
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:16,800
Speaker 2: Ohpi says, I was hurt back then, and I was

601
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:20,400
Speaker 2: so confused why he was leaving and going so far away,

602
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 2: and why he didn't want to stay. He didn't really

603
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 2: explain anything to me back then. Mom was left to

604
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 2: sit me down and explain that sometimes people move. She

605
00:29:30,120 --> 00:29:31,960
Speaker 2: tried to make me feel like he still loved me,

606
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:35,920
Speaker 2: but even then I didn't feel like he could. Every

607
00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:39,160
Speaker 2: summer I visited him and his family, and it was rough.

608
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:41,960
Speaker 2: I got to hear all about my dad spending all

609
00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:45,240
Speaker 2: this time being a dad to someone else's child. He

610
00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 2: used to complain that his stepdaughter's dad took time away

611
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:51,040
Speaker 2: from him and how much he missed his stepdaughter when

612
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 2: I was right there. The summer I went after the

613
00:29:55,640 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 2: girl's dad left was even worse because my dad was

614
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 2: so happy about it, because he didn't have to share her.

615
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 2: From what I can remember, her dad wasn't around a lot,

616
00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 2: so my dad still saw her all the time, really,

617
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:11,480
Speaker 2: and he only saw me a few weeks in the summer.

618
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 2: He didn't spend any one on one time with me

619
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 2: when I was visiting. He made everything about family time,

620
00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:20,560
Speaker 2: and I hated it. I acted out a lot over there,

621
00:30:20,600 --> 00:30:24,000
Speaker 2: and I refused to play with his stepdaughter a few times.

622
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 2: His wife tried to parent me, and she told me

623
00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:27,800
Speaker 2: I was supposed to be a nice big sister and

624
00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:30,120
Speaker 2: I shouldn't be mean to her kid. But I would

625
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 2: yell at her that she stole my dad from me

626
00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:35,640
Speaker 2: and she needed to go. My dad acted like it

627
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:37,520
Speaker 2: was crazy for me to feel that way, and he

628
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 2: told me nobody stole him and I still had him.

629
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 1: But don't you, like you know, kind of put that

630
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:46,120
Speaker 1: on the back burner like that, that like pings something

631
00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:49,320
Speaker 1: to my mind. If like a child says that they're

632
00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:52,120
Speaker 1: obviously hurt by something that you're doing, like they're not

633
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:53,120
Speaker 1: just saying it for no reason.

634
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 2: Like she's like, you're.

635
00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 1: Taking my dad away, and he's like, no, no, no,

636
00:30:56,480 --> 00:30:58,240
Speaker 1: nobody's taking me away. I'm right here.

637
00:30:58,240 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 2: Blah.

638
00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:00,840
Speaker 1: Blah blah. But wouldn't you like have a reaction to

639
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:03,400
Speaker 1: be like, oh my gosh, is that how my daughter feels?

640
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:06,880
Speaker 1: Maybe I should like do something about this.

641
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:08,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. Again, I don't know what kind

642
00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 2: of complex drove him to do that, but like he

643
00:31:12,080 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 2: moved twenty hours drive away, And yeah, dude, you're functionally

644
00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 2: not her dad. You're not functionally her father.

645
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:22,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, you were never really present and you always chose

646
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:25,160
Speaker 1: the other family as priority over her.

647
00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:28,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, you found this other person and her daughter who's

648
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:31,720
Speaker 2: like the same age basically, or I don't know how

649
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 2: they were the same, but either way, it's like, yeah,

650
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:38,520
Speaker 2: you literally picked a completely different family, And like, I

651
00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:40,800
Speaker 2: don't know if that was like a thing where you

652
00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 2: do that and then you get to still pretend like

653
00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:45,000
Speaker 2: your family is perfectly fine and that you didn't have

654
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 2: like a divorce and that that you've never made a

655
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:51,000
Speaker 2: mistake whatever whatever it is, I don't know, but it's

656
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:55,240
Speaker 2: something deeply burrowed into your frontal lobe that has caused

657
00:31:55,240 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 2: you to act this way. And yeah, no, your dad,

658
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 2: that is a delusional weirdo. No one's this emotionally oblivious, right,

659
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:07,120
Speaker 2: I would.

660
00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:10,520
Speaker 1: Hope not but honestly, we read a lot of stories

661
00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 1: where guys just star that way. Yeah, I am gonna

662
00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:18,840
Speaker 1: bring gender into this because I do think it is.

663
00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:20,719
Speaker 1: I do think it is a lot of guys like

664
00:32:21,320 --> 00:32:25,120
Speaker 1: are oblivious and like overlooking. It's like, oh, you monster.

665
00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 2: I asked where all his talk of missing me was,

666
00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 2: because he was still like that for a girl who

667
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 2: he got to see all the time. My dad told

668
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 2: me he said that stuff all the time, and I

669
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,640
Speaker 2: told him I only heard him missing the girl who

670
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:41,880
Speaker 2: wasn't his real daughter. I ended up grounded the rest

671
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 2: of that visit because I said she wasn't his real daughter,

672
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:46,680
Speaker 2: and he yelled at me because I told him she

673
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:49,880
Speaker 2: wasn't my sister when he said she was. My dad

674
00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 2: and his wife had two sons together. He acted shocked

675
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 2: when I didn't bring them a gift when I went

676
00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 2: the summers after they were born. He'd also asked me

677
00:32:57,640 --> 00:33:00,080
Speaker 2: every summer if I brought anything for his stepdaughter, and

678
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:02,760
Speaker 2: my answers always know. In time, I stopped hating his

679
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,640
Speaker 2: wife and her daughter. Still don't care about them at all, though,

680
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 2: and I started being angry with him. I told him

681
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:10,720
Speaker 2: my feelings five times and he would tell me I

682
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:13,160
Speaker 2: couldn't see why he made the decision yet, but as

683
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:17,040
Speaker 2: an adult I would. Okay, Well, as an adult, she's

684
00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 2: gonna see that it's way worse.

685
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:21,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, what she's just gonna see past all of the

686
00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 1: bs you.

687
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:25,560
Speaker 2: Just told her. She's like, He's like, you don't understand

688
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:27,920
Speaker 2: right now, But once you go up, you realize I

689
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:32,680
Speaker 2: was entirely selfish and running away from my real life.

690
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:36,200
Speaker 2: So I found a new one and made that my

691
00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:37,160
Speaker 2: real life.

692
00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 1: And didn't make you a priority, and didn't care what

693
00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:42,240
Speaker 1: happened to you, yes.

694
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:44,480
Speaker 2: And never listened to you, And.

695
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 1: How dare you not bring gifts for my other family

696
00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 1: members when you come to visit.

697
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:51,760
Speaker 2: I told him he chose a woman in someone else's

698
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:55,120
Speaker 2: child over me. I said, he moved so far away

699
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:57,760
Speaker 2: he could hardly be a part of my life, and

700
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:00,240
Speaker 2: then he expected me to slot in with those people

701
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 2: every summer. See. I think that's the crucial point there.

702
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:06,720
Speaker 2: If he had met this woman and they lived a

703
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:10,280
Speaker 2: couple hours away, even then it's like that kind of sucks,

704
00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:12,800
Speaker 2: But at least a couple hours. You can make that

705
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,640
Speaker 2: trip in a day. You can't make a twenty hour

706
00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:20,680
Speaker 2: day trip, you know, it's yeah, kind of ridiculous. My

707
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,759
Speaker 2: dad could not understand my lack of love or care

708
00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:26,359
Speaker 2: for his family, and he never accepted my anger at

709
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 2: him when it hit. Last year, we had a big

710
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:31,719
Speaker 2: fight because his stepdaughter went to a sleep away camp

711
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:34,640
Speaker 2: thirty minutes for me, and he wanted me to check

712
00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:36,560
Speaker 2: on her and go see her since it was the

713
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:40,719
Speaker 2: first time she went. I refused. I told him not

714
00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:43,000
Speaker 2: to ask me to do anything for her. It was

715
00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:44,759
Speaker 2: a huge deal to him, and it was also the

716
00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:47,760
Speaker 2: first year I didn't visit him, which he never mentioned

717
00:34:47,840 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 2: at all. He even had his wife call to yell

718
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 2: at me for saying I wouldn't do anything in an emergency.

719
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:55,680
Speaker 2: I hadn't spoken to my dad since September, and he

720
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 2: called me last week saying he thought I would have

721
00:34:58,239 --> 00:35:01,800
Speaker 2: started letting him know the play for my graduation because

722
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:04,239
Speaker 2: him and his wife would need to schedule time off

723
00:35:04,280 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 2: work and they'd need to book flights. He told me

724
00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:09,480
Speaker 2: he had a whole family to travel with and they

725
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 2: couldn't make it work last minute. I told him I

726
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:15,399
Speaker 2: didn't want them there and he should just go back

727
00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 2: to acting like I'm not his daughter. He told me

728
00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:20,440
Speaker 2: to stop being such a child and to be serious.

729
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 2: I told him I was serious. I said, in a

730
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 2: couple more years, he can do the graduation stuff with

731
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 2: the daughter he replaced me with. I told him not

732
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:32,160
Speaker 2: to say he didn't because I wouldn't believe him, and

733
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:34,360
Speaker 2: I didn't believe a word he says about loving me

734
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:38,000
Speaker 2: or not abandoning me. Then I ended the call. He

735
00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:40,479
Speaker 2: called my mom a dozen times after that, and each

736
00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 2: time he was trying to find out info, and I

737
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:44,759
Speaker 2: told her I don't want him to know, and I

738
00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 2: don't want him there. He told my mommy wanted to

739
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:49,880
Speaker 2: fix this, and he asked her to convince me to

740
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:53,000
Speaker 2: fly out before then so we can fix things. I

741
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:55,280
Speaker 2: called him back instead and told him, if he was serious,

742
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:58,120
Speaker 2: he'd fly to me and come alone and fix things.

743
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:00,560
Speaker 2: I told him his family is not mine and his

744
00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 2: life isn't mine, and he made those choices when I

745
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 2: was five. He tried to argue, but I threw it

746
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 2: back at him that he left me for a woman

747
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:13,080
Speaker 2: he had known less than two months. Yeah, no, your

748
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:16,480
Speaker 2: dad is folly out of his depth.

749
00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:19,560
Speaker 1: Yikes. I didn't know it was just after two months.

750
00:36:19,640 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 1: And also the girls aren't the same age. She's a

751
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:23,800
Speaker 1: little bit younger. She's like three years younger.

752
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 2: Like, oh my goodness, dude, mm mmmm mmm.

753
00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:32,320
Speaker 1: He just he's like stuck in his own little world.

754
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:35,239
Speaker 1: It's like, boy, you got to pop the bubble and

755
00:36:35,360 --> 00:36:37,160
Speaker 1: look look at what's happening.

756
00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:40,200
Speaker 2: You needed to do that, like I don't know, twelve

757
00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:45,160
Speaker 2: years ago, thirteen years ago. Yeah, unless he's traveling on

758
00:36:45,239 --> 00:36:48,239
Speaker 2: his knees begging for forgiveness and that he's seen the light,

759
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:50,240
Speaker 2: I'm done with this guy. It's crazy.

760
00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just like he just doesn't get it, and

761
00:36:53,080 --> 00:36:56,959
Speaker 1: he just keeps wanting to like I understand, Like, ope,

762
00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:59,440
Speaker 1: he is coming at him very hard, but it's not

763
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:02,759
Speaker 1: it's not like it's not justified. Like this has been

764
00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 1: going on her entire life. She just wants you to

765
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:08,279
Speaker 1: understand where she's coming from. She just wants you to, like,

766
00:37:08,760 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 1: you know, let that family go for a second and

767
00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:15,040
Speaker 1: just focus on her, like for just a day or

768
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:19,520
Speaker 1: just an hour, and you literally can't, like there's a problem.

769
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:21,960
Speaker 1: And he just doesn't seem that. It's really sad.

770
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:24,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's just a guy who he thinks that, Oh well,

771
00:37:24,760 --> 00:37:29,360
Speaker 2: because I am your dad, that's that and there's nothing

772
00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:32,640
Speaker 2: else I'll ever have to do, or say or express

773
00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:38,719
Speaker 2: to ensure that that bond stays strong and healthy. He's

774
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:41,880
Speaker 2: just a completely delusional idiot, honestly.

775
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:42,800
Speaker 1: I mean yeah.

776
00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:46,760
Speaker 2: At this point, my dad's wife started calling and bothering

777
00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 2: my mom. After that. She said I was treating him

778
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:52,880
Speaker 2: appallingly and he deserved more respect and less of a

779
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:55,960
Speaker 2: braddy attitude. My mom told her to f off and

780
00:37:56,040 --> 00:37:59,200
Speaker 2: blocked her. She called back again on Dad's phone and

781
00:37:59,239 --> 00:38:02,759
Speaker 2: Mom said it's the same thing and blocked Dad's number. Two.

782
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 2: Let's go, Mom. I don't think it's fair to put

783
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:07,080
Speaker 2: this on me. When Dad made a choice to leave,

784
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 2: his wife could have said it wouldn't be right for

785
00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:13,000
Speaker 2: him to leave me if she cared so much. But

786
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:14,960
Speaker 2: I got to be the collateral damage so they could

787
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:17,200
Speaker 2: be together. And he hasn't been a real dad to

788
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:20,719
Speaker 2: me since, so I don't think he deserves to be

789
00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:24,359
Speaker 2: there for this big moment. But I'm here because maybe

790
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:26,719
Speaker 2: I'm wrong and they're right. Am I the a hole? No,

791
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:29,439
Speaker 2: you're not get your dad. Get your dad out of here.

792
00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 1: You have boundaries, and he just thinks that you should

793
00:38:33,719 --> 00:38:35,319
Speaker 1: just like he should just be a part of your

794
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:39,080
Speaker 1: life now, Like you know, because this is a big

795
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:41,600
Speaker 1: moment and we should celebrate this. It's like, oh uh,

796
00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:44,720
Speaker 1: but also you missed every other big moment, so why

797
00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:46,719
Speaker 1: why come to this one? Why does it matter to you?

798
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:50,960
Speaker 2: Yeah? And not only are you gonna come visit my graduation,

799
00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:55,680
Speaker 2: but you're bringing your whole family that I just tolerate,

800
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 2: like I they're fine. I don't care about them. Why

801
00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 2: do I? I don't want them there? You're gonna bring the

802
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:06,919
Speaker 2: stepdaughter to my graduation and make it somehow more about her, Like.

803
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:10,839
Speaker 1: It's Op's graduation, it's Opea's party. And then imagine like

804
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 1: him and his family come waltzing, and that's all she's

805
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:15,399
Speaker 1: gonna think about the rest of the night is being

806
00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 1: like this should be my night, but yet now I

807
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:20,760
Speaker 1: have to think about how my dad still doesn't choose

808
00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:21,920
Speaker 1: me over anything.

809
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:24,880
Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to

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Speaker 1: My wife said our friend was a shoulder to cry on,

814
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Speaker 1: but also the reason she cried.

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Speaker 2: Is she a shoulder to lie on?

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Speaker 1: Me twenty nine male, and my wife Angie twenty seven female.

817
00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:48,440
Speaker 1: Have a son, Sam, turned two this week.

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Speaker 2: Happy birthday Sam.

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Speaker 1: We're part of a friend group made up of seven

820
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Speaker 1: people including us. There is one more couple in this group.

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Speaker 1: The other three are Zoe thirty two female, Greg forty

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Speaker 1: and we are here to give some good advice goofully,

827
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Speaker 1: but we don't have all your answers. We'd only tell

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00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:15,120
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829
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:16,520
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Speaker 1: the comments. As OPI says, Zoe doesn't like kids. She

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00:40:21,320 --> 00:40:24,479
Speaker 1: openly avoids them whenever she can. I've always known about

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00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:27,880
Speaker 1: this and have no problem with it. There have, however,

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Speaker 1: been occasions in which she seemed to take it a

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Speaker 1: bit too far. Friend group lives all over the country now,

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Speaker 1: and most of us only get together once or twice

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Speaker 1: a year. This January, we all decided to take a

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Speaker 1: five day trip to Greg's beach house. It's in a

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00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 1: different state and a two hour flight away. Both Greg

839
00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:48,000
Speaker 1: and Tim have children. Greg made sure to invite us

840
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 1: over while his kid would be with his ex, but

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00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:53,239
Speaker 1: Tim is a single father and couldn't afford to leave

842
00:40:53,239 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 1: his daughter with a babysitter for five days. Due to that,

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00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:59,279
Speaker 1: it was decided that both Tim's daughter and Sam We're

844
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 1: welcome on the trip. Angie and I offered to leave

845
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:03,680
Speaker 1: Sam with my mother in law, but the whole group,

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00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:07,000
Speaker 1: including Zoe, said it was fine. All of these decisions

847
00:41:07,000 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 1: were made two months in advance. Two days prior to

848
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:12,960
Speaker 1: the trip, Tim informed us that his daughter had chicken

849
00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:15,239
Speaker 1: pox and he had to cancel their tickets to stay

850
00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:18,440
Speaker 1: with her. At that, Zoe called Angie and said, guess

851
00:41:18,480 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 1: your mom will have a busy week. My mother in

852
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,440
Speaker 1: law was traveling and want to be back for another week.

853
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:26,840
Speaker 1: We had no other babysitting options available or time to

854
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:28,719
Speaker 1: find one, so we told Zoe that we were still

855
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:32,319
Speaker 1: bringing Sam with us. Zoe protested, saying that she was

856
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:34,959
Speaker 1: only okay with having kids around during the trip because

857
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:37,560
Speaker 1: she knew Tim had no choice and we had no

858
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:40,760
Speaker 1: excuse to bring Sam. Now that Tim's daughter wasn't coming anymore,

859
00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:43,360
Speaker 1: but we held her ground. The others took our side

860
00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:45,759
Speaker 1: During the trip, Angie and I made efforts to help

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00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:48,880
Speaker 1: Zoe avoid Sam as much as possible. This ended up

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00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:51,640
Speaker 1: making our own trip underwhelming, as we were spending a

863
00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:53,759
Speaker 1: lot of time apart and didn't get to see our

864
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 1: friends as much as we wanted to, but it worked.

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Speaker 1: Sam and Zoe were in the same room a total

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Speaker 1: of four times, including both our arrival and departure from

867
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:04,319
Speaker 1: Greg's house. In spite of that, she insists that we

868
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 1: ruined her trip by bringing him and that it was

869
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:09,400
Speaker 1: selfish of us to not consider her feelings about children.

870
00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:12,680
Speaker 1: After Tim dropped out, Zoe hasn't spoken to us since

871
00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:15,200
Speaker 1: we flew back home this week. She had followed Angie

872
00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:17,440
Speaker 1: on Instagram ten minutes after she made a post for

873
00:42:17,480 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 1: Sam's second birthday, so I think she's still bitter. Angie

874
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:23,160
Speaker 1: has been feeling guilty about this. I tried to reassure

875
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: her we had no other option and it was unreasonable

876
00:42:25,719 --> 00:42:27,839
Speaker 1: of Zoe to ask us to change our plans at

877
00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:30,600
Speaker 1: the last minute like that. But I'd be lying if

878
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:32,680
Speaker 1: I said I didn't consider we might be in the wrong.

879
00:42:32,960 --> 00:42:36,040
Speaker 1: Am I the A hole? And there is an update?

880
00:42:36,400 --> 00:42:41,120
Speaker 2: No, yes, how dare you procreate enough children? Like this girl?

881
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 1: She shouldn't have let a child that's not even hers

882
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 1: who can't even really speak, ruin her vacation. Like what,

883
00:42:49,840 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 1: it's not like you had to take care of the

884
00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:55,480
Speaker 1: child you were just with everyone like you ruined the parents'

885
00:42:55,560 --> 00:42:59,560
Speaker 1: vacation by like making them like work around you. So no, op,

886
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 1: not the A hole this girl?

887
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:03,480
Speaker 2: You think the real reason that Zoe's got a problem

888
00:43:03,560 --> 00:43:05,480
Speaker 2: is because, like when no one's looking, the kid is like,

889
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:09,520
Speaker 2: you're ugly and your skin is bad, and you smell

890
00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:13,520
Speaker 2: and your bangs atrocious, and she's like.

891
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:15,920
Speaker 1: See that.

892
00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:18,359
Speaker 2: You guys saw that? And then he goes no one

893
00:43:18,480 --> 00:43:22,320
Speaker 2: will believe you, go go go.

894
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:25,920
Speaker 1: I hope Actually that's what's happened.

895
00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 2: I could be what happened. We don't know.

896
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 1: There's an update. Hey again, I went through your comments

897
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:33,640
Speaker 1: on my previous post, as well as your replies to

898
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:35,840
Speaker 1: my own comments, and managed to come to terms with

899
00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 1: the fact that Angie and I can no longer be

900
00:43:38,200 --> 00:43:41,080
Speaker 1: friends with Zoe. Many of you asked why we were

901
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:42,960
Speaker 1: still friends in the first place. Most of the friend

902
00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:46,120
Speaker 1: group has known each other since college, hence the different ages.

903
00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:49,520
Speaker 1: I'm actually an outsider. I became friends with them through

904
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:52,160
Speaker 1: my wife. I know Zoe well, but she was definitely

905
00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:54,960
Speaker 1: closer to Angie than to me. I don't think Reddit

906
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:57,319
Speaker 1: is the best place to describe an almost decade long

907
00:43:57,360 --> 00:43:59,840
Speaker 1: friendship in proper detail, but I will say Zoe was

908
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:03,280
Speaker 1: usually a nice and generous friend, but she started getting

909
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:06,120
Speaker 1: more and more rude as we started having kids. She

910
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:10,000
Speaker 1: basically ignored my wife during her pregnancy, not a friend,

911
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 1: and made several demeaning comments after Sam was born. Okay,

912
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:17,360
Speaker 1: if if you don't want children, cool, don't demean me

913
00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:21,399
Speaker 1: for having children. What like that makes no sense. I'm

914
00:44:21,400 --> 00:44:24,520
Speaker 1: gonna make you feel bad about pro creating on this earth.

915
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, don't you know the carbon footprint that kid's gonna have.

916
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:30,880
Speaker 2: It's just like crazy, we can't afford to have children

917
00:44:31,600 --> 00:44:32,160
Speaker 2: at this time.

918
00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:38,160
Speaker 1: Like she either is just like crazy, like she she's

919
00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 1: either like psychotic or like she's jealous. There's those are

920
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:49,759
Speaker 1: the only two options I have here, jycotic. Angie only

921
00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:53,560
Speaker 1: forgave her because she apologized half heartedly. If you ask me,

922
00:44:54,239 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 1: the other couple in the friend group has been trying

923
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:58,600
Speaker 1: to conceive for a few months, and she frequently jokes

924
00:44:58,640 --> 00:45:01,480
Speaker 1: that they need to enjoy life while they can. She's

925
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:04,480
Speaker 1: nicer to Tim because he's a single father, but she

926
00:45:04,800 --> 00:45:07,880
Speaker 1: very clearly doesn't like his daughter. So I think that everyone,

927
00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:12,239
Speaker 1: myself included is much more fond of College Zoe, and

928
00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 1: it was only because of that fondness that we still

929
00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:17,759
Speaker 1: hung out. The more I read your comments, the more

930
00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:21,520
Speaker 1: it became clear the group has outgrown that friendship. Looking back,

931
00:45:21,600 --> 00:45:23,560
Speaker 1: I feel awful about my efforts to keep Sam and

932
00:45:23,640 --> 00:45:26,680
Speaker 1: Zoe apart. My son is not toxic, and I shouldn't

933
00:45:26,680 --> 00:45:29,399
Speaker 1: have treated him as such. If Zoe can't respect Sam

934
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:31,279
Speaker 1: and treat him like a human being, I have no

935
00:45:31,480 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 1: obligation to put up with her. I spoke to Angie.

936
00:45:34,320 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 1: She said that Zoe had always been a shoulder to

937
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:39,320
Speaker 1: cry on, but often also the reason she was crying

938
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:41,839
Speaker 1: in the first place. She told me it had been

939
00:45:41,920 --> 00:45:44,520
Speaker 1: hard to accept that, but Zoe's behavior during the trip

940
00:45:44,760 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 1: was the last straw. We agreed to end our friendship

941
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:50,160
Speaker 1: with her. We both texted Zoe that we wished her well,

942
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:52,520
Speaker 1: but it's best that we go our separate ways. She

943
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 1: responded by calling my wife the sea word and was blocked. Wow, dang,

944
00:45:58,920 --> 00:46:03,439
Speaker 1: what a crazy, crazy way to like, I mean.

945
00:46:03,960 --> 00:46:08,000
Speaker 2: She handled that well. I think, what a very adult

946
00:46:08,360 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 2: response to that.

947
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I don't even know what the right

948
00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:14,880
Speaker 1: I mean, the right way would be like okay, like

949
00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, you know, can we make this work if

950
00:46:17,520 --> 00:46:19,319
Speaker 1: she wanted to still be friends. If not, she could

951
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, I was feeling it too, thank you

952
00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:22,399
Speaker 1: as she will as well.

953
00:46:22,760 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 2: Like called her the sea word, but that is you

954
00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:31,600
Speaker 2: know what that is, curry, cutie pie, she said, whatever, cutie.

955
00:46:31,360 --> 00:46:32,759
Speaker 1: Pie, whatever, Curly.

956
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:36,880
Speaker 2: I hope you have a good life. I think sometimes,

957
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:40,640
Speaker 2: like you're you know, people reveal themselves to be a

958
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:43,719
Speaker 2: certain way, and then you get to be like, well,

959
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:47,239
Speaker 2: do I want to associate myself with this person now

960
00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 2: that I have a child and they're like behaving this

961
00:46:50,360 --> 00:46:51,920
Speaker 2: way about the child.

962
00:46:52,480 --> 00:46:52,520
Speaker 1: No.

963
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:55,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, if I'm going to go on a trip, I

964
00:46:56,560 --> 00:46:59,560
Speaker 2: can't afford to have somebody babysip. I'm gonna take the

965
00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:00,719
Speaker 2: kid with me.

966
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:07,800
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think it's unfortunate, but people do outgrow like

967
00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:10,880
Speaker 1: other people, especially when you like meet them in college

968
00:47:11,120 --> 00:47:12,520
Speaker 1: and it's like, oh my gosh, I have this like

969
00:47:12,680 --> 00:47:15,279
Speaker 1: really good version of them, and we had so much fun. No, no, no,

970
00:47:15,360 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 1: all this stuff. But now like they're out of college,

971
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:20,399
Speaker 1: they have responsibilities. They have to like get a job,

972
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:22,840
Speaker 1: they have to handle finances, they have to you know,

973
00:47:23,080 --> 00:47:27,840
Speaker 1: do taxes. Now it's like, oh god, so I don't know,

974
00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:30,480
Speaker 1: maybe you heard, you know, she was having fun in

975
00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:33,520
Speaker 1: college and then you know, things got real and now

976
00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:36,360
Speaker 1: she's like, oh, I can't be that anymore. You know,

977
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:38,960
Speaker 1: I don't know. Some people outgrow each other with stinks,

978
00:47:39,360 --> 00:47:42,080
Speaker 1: but it happens. People grow and sometimes you go you

979
00:47:42,120 --> 00:47:42,880
Speaker 1: don't grow with them.

980
00:47:43,480 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 2: Yeah.

981
00:47:44,400 --> 00:47:47,400
Speaker 1: We later found out she complained to the rest of

982
00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:50,960
Speaker 1: the group plus some other mutuals, that we'd become selfish,

983
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:54,960
Speaker 1: entitled parents that let our kid ruin her vacation before

984
00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:57,480
Speaker 1: cutting her off. Those who know that's not true have

985
00:47:57,600 --> 00:48:00,120
Speaker 1: told us that they're thinking about ending their friendships with

986
00:48:00,160 --> 00:48:03,480
Speaker 1: her as well. Both Greg and Tim already have. I

987
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:05,640
Speaker 1: don't think I have anything else to add. I'll do

988
00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:08,520
Speaker 1: my best to use this experience to become a better father, husband,

989
00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:11,480
Speaker 1: and friend. My family is everything to me and I'll

990
00:48:11,560 --> 00:48:14,000
Speaker 1: never lose sight of that. Thank you all, And that's

991
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:14,680
Speaker 1: the correct answer.

992
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:15,440
Speaker 2: Huzzah.

993
00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:20,200
Speaker 1: I so pay. Yeah, dah, I think this was the

994
00:48:20,280 --> 00:48:22,440
Speaker 1: right decision. Cut this girl off. She's just gonna like

995
00:48:23,040 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 1: make you feel bad about having kids when that's like

996
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:28,840
Speaker 1: your choice. So I have no idea what her problem is,

997
00:48:29,040 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 1: but whatever, you don't need the negativity because it's not

998
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:33,680
Speaker 1: like your son's going anywhere.

999
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:35,960
Speaker 2: So he's gonna be around.

1000
00:48:36,239 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 1: He's gonna be around for hopefully a very long time.

1001
00:48:39,239 --> 00:48:42,160
Speaker 1: So yeah, but that's the end of that story. And

1002
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:43,799
Speaker 1: we got another one coming right up.

1003
00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:48,359
Speaker 2: My friend refused to pay what she owed me and said,

1004
00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:49,239
Speaker 2: I'm too rich.

1005
00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:52,879
Speaker 1: Oh that's rich.

1006
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:56,920
Speaker 2: I twenty six female have always been the planner of

1007
00:48:57,040 --> 00:49:00,560
Speaker 2: my friend group. I'm highly organized, handle the booking hotels

1008
00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:04,400
Speaker 2: and itineraries, and everything usually goes smoothly because my other

1009
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:08,920
Speaker 2: friends reimburse me the second I send a confirmation. By

1010
00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:12,000
Speaker 2: the way, this comes from user cozy in Friends And

1011
00:49:12,160 --> 00:49:14,400
Speaker 2: if you want to haul so mean to your own stories,

1012
00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:16,680
Speaker 2: go through the r slash Okay story times sub day.

1013
00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:19,680
Speaker 2: I'm Dakota Savannah, and we're gonna read this story and

1014
00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:22,000
Speaker 2: we might have some advice and we might not because

1015
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 2: we're a couple of goofballs. We don't know everything, So

1016
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:27,239
Speaker 2: tell us what you know down in the comments, as

1017
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:32,640
Speaker 2: Op says, However, I have one friend, Selene, thirty, female

1018
00:49:32,680 --> 00:49:35,120
Speaker 2: who I've known for a bit under a year. She

1019
00:49:35,239 --> 00:49:38,960
Speaker 2: has become a major source of resentment for me. Unlike

1020
00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:41,960
Speaker 2: everyone else, Selene never pays me back the same day

1021
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:44,840
Speaker 2: or even the same week. She takes her time, and

1022
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:47,880
Speaker 2: I constantly have to chase her down for my own money.

1023
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:51,239
Speaker 2: While my financial situation is good, I feel like she

1024
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 2: treats me like a bank that offers zero interest loans.

1025
00:49:54,680 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 2: I don't know her exact financial situation, and it feels

1026
00:49:58,080 --> 00:50:01,440
Speaker 2: intrusive to ask, but the lack of communication is the

1027
00:50:01,600 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 2: real issue. The breaking point happened earlier this month. We

1028
00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:10,440
Speaker 2: went out and she claimed she forgot her wallet. I

1029
00:50:10,520 --> 00:50:12,279
Speaker 2: gave her the benefit of the doubt that maybe she

1030
00:50:12,440 --> 00:50:15,239
Speaker 2: did or didn't have the money for that night. I mean,

1031
00:50:15,400 --> 00:50:17,759
Speaker 2: I think I saw her use Apple pay some time ago,

1032
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 2: and she had her phone, so the wallet excuse was strange.

1033
00:50:22,280 --> 00:50:25,680
Speaker 2: I ended up covering her this entire night. What upset

1034
00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:28,759
Speaker 2: me most was that she ordered way more than she

1035
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 2: usually does, all while knowing I was the one footing

1036
00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:34,960
Speaker 2: the bill. The next day, I sent her a breakdown

1037
00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:38,200
Speaker 2: of the costs. She just gave it a thumbs up.

1038
00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:40,840
Speaker 2: We are now at the end of the month and

1039
00:50:40,960 --> 00:50:43,520
Speaker 2: I still haven't been paid back. If she had told

1040
00:50:43,560 --> 00:50:45,480
Speaker 2: me I'm waiting for my salary to come in, I

1041
00:50:45,560 --> 00:50:48,239
Speaker 2: would have no problem with it, but the silence makes

1042
00:50:48,320 --> 00:50:51,759
Speaker 2: me feel disrespected. To be honest, I am autistic, and

1043
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:53,680
Speaker 2: I have a very strong need for things to be

1044
00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:57,640
Speaker 2: fair and equal. When the rules of the friendship aren't followed,

1045
00:50:57,760 --> 00:51:00,960
Speaker 2: the lack of balance feels wrong. Because of this, I'm

1046
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 2: thinking the only way to avoid this stress and keep

1047
00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:05,839
Speaker 2: things truly fair is to stop fronting for everyone across

1048
00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:09,960
Speaker 2: the board. No, no, how do I go about stopping

1049
00:51:10,040 --> 00:51:12,719
Speaker 2: the fronting dynamic for the whole group after being the

1050
00:51:12,760 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 2: one who does it for so long? How do I

1051
00:51:14,719 --> 00:51:16,759
Speaker 2: make this change without it feeling like a punishment to

1052
00:51:16,880 --> 00:51:19,480
Speaker 2: my reliable friends or causing a weird shift in our

1053
00:51:19,520 --> 00:51:23,520
Speaker 2: group dynamic? And there is an update, Girlypop, you don't

1054
00:51:23,560 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 2: have to stop doing that. You have to stop fronting

1055
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:27,919
Speaker 2: your friend who never pays you back.

1056
00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:30,279
Speaker 1: That's true, you.

1057
00:51:30,320 --> 00:51:33,000
Speaker 2: Don't have to make that equal for everyone, because guess

1058
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:35,520
Speaker 2: what if it was anyone else in your friend group,

1059
00:51:35,719 --> 00:51:37,279
Speaker 2: they would also be annoyed with her.

1060
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:42,360
Speaker 1: Selene, Yeah, I think honestly, if you don't feel comfortable

1061
00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:45,080
Speaker 1: like doing it anymore, just be like, oh, like, you know,

1062
00:51:45,920 --> 00:51:47,879
Speaker 1: I don't really want to get this one.

1063
00:51:48,120 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 2: Yeah you have to. You should have a soft but

1064
00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 2: direct confrontation with Selene and say, hey, I know you

1065
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:57,799
Speaker 2: did end up paying me back, but because it took

1066
00:51:57,880 --> 00:51:59,600
Speaker 2: so long and I just have to keep pounding you

1067
00:51:59,680 --> 00:52:02,400
Speaker 2: for it, I don't really feel comfortable fronting you money anymore.

1068
00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:04,800
Speaker 2: So keep that in mind moving forward. And if she

1069
00:52:04,880 --> 00:52:06,799
Speaker 2: tries to go blah blah blah blah blah blah blah,

1070
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:08,320
Speaker 2: you just go, I'm sorry you feel that way, but

1071
00:52:08,440 --> 00:52:10,520
Speaker 2: I've made up my mind. It's your money, oh pee,

1072
00:52:10,920 --> 00:52:13,880
Speaker 2: you don't have to, you know, give it to anyone.

1073
00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:16,920
Speaker 2: And you don't have to, you know, be the one

1074
00:52:17,000 --> 00:52:20,319
Speaker 2: that is always the one who's gonna put their card down.

1075
00:52:20,360 --> 00:52:22,200
Speaker 2: Are always gonna be like, oh everyone could just you know,

1076
00:52:22,360 --> 00:52:24,680
Speaker 2: venmo me or just give me cash or whatever, blah

1077
00:52:24,719 --> 00:52:25,120
Speaker 2: blah blah.

1078
00:52:25,160 --> 00:52:26,480
Speaker 1: You don't have to be that person.

1079
00:52:26,719 --> 00:52:30,360
Speaker 2: And if they expect that, then like, well, it's just

1080
00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:33,759
Speaker 2: it's just this one person. Yeah, it's just Selene, who

1081
00:52:33,840 --> 00:52:36,680
Speaker 2: is the problem. Everyone else pays her back instantly. Yeah,

1082
00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:40,360
Speaker 2: it's Selene who's the problem. And you know, if Selene

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00:52:40,400 --> 00:52:42,200
Speaker 2: wants to if it's gonna make a big weird social

1084
00:52:42,239 --> 00:52:44,239
Speaker 2: politic thing, and Selene's gonna go, well, that's up there,

1085
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:46,520
Speaker 2: blah blah blah, you can go. Okay, Well, like I said,

1086
00:52:46,560 --> 00:52:49,480
Speaker 2: I've made up my mind. But you know, how about

1087
00:52:49,520 --> 00:52:52,600
Speaker 2: if you need five dollars, I can loan you that

1088
00:52:53,280 --> 00:52:57,840
Speaker 2: if you pay me back immediately, right and if that

1089
00:52:57,960 --> 00:53:01,280
Speaker 2: doesn't work out, we're not doing you know what. Actually

1090
00:53:01,960 --> 00:53:03,759
Speaker 2: I washed my hands of that. Don't even do that.

1091
00:53:04,320 --> 00:53:06,239
Speaker 2: Just say I've made up my mind. I'm sorry you

1092
00:53:06,320 --> 00:53:09,279
Speaker 2: feel that way. I hope you know things don't get

1093
00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:12,600
Speaker 2: too weird. You can ask someone else. I'm not the

1094
00:53:12,680 --> 00:53:13,839
Speaker 2: only person in the friend group.

1095
00:53:14,160 --> 00:53:15,240
Speaker 1: That's also true.

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00:53:15,719 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 2: Update. Thank you to everyone who commented on my last post.

1097
00:53:19,760 --> 00:53:23,080
Speaker 2: I've realized through your comments that I've been a massive doormat.

1098
00:53:23,719 --> 00:53:27,200
Speaker 2: Some comments were hurtful, but I went ahead and womaned up.

1099
00:53:27,800 --> 00:53:30,360
Speaker 2: Since we live within walking distance, I reached out and

1100
00:53:30,480 --> 00:53:33,040
Speaker 2: asked to meet up so she could settle the tab.

1101
00:53:33,600 --> 00:53:36,800
Speaker 2: She claimed her banking app wasn't working and insisted on

1102
00:53:36,920 --> 00:53:39,520
Speaker 2: paying in cash. When we met up in the park.

1103
00:53:39,560 --> 00:53:43,480
Speaker 2: It was incredibly awkward. She didn't even have the full amount.

1104
00:53:43,880 --> 00:53:46,120
Speaker 2: She gave me about ninety percent of it in a

1105
00:53:46,320 --> 00:53:50,160
Speaker 2: mix of crumpled notes and coins. She told me she'd

1106
00:53:50,200 --> 00:53:52,720
Speaker 2: give me the rest next time whenever.

1107
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:56,759
Speaker 1: That is, that's insane. How do you like have a

1108
00:53:56,840 --> 00:54:01,120
Speaker 1: song if you these types of people that are just

1109
00:54:01,239 --> 00:54:04,239
Speaker 1: like Moocher's Like I don't understand, Like I've had like

1110
00:54:04,400 --> 00:54:06,560
Speaker 1: some hard times and would have been like, oh yeah,

1111
00:54:06,560 --> 00:54:08,759
Speaker 1: I can't if I can't afford it, I'm not going

1112
00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:11,560
Speaker 1: to buy anything that is that is my punishment or

1113
00:54:11,640 --> 00:54:13,920
Speaker 1: that is my whatever, Like if I can't afford it,

1114
00:54:14,239 --> 00:54:16,320
Speaker 1: then I'm not gonna go, but I'll go out with

1115
00:54:16,480 --> 00:54:18,800
Speaker 1: someone like I'll go out with you guys and just

1116
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:20,520
Speaker 1: be like, ah, no, I need to like save on money,

1117
00:54:20,560 --> 00:54:22,279
Speaker 1: so I'm not gonna like buy a drink or whatever

1118
00:54:22,320 --> 00:54:25,320
Speaker 1: blah blah blah, or you know, like eat before you

1119
00:54:25,440 --> 00:54:27,839
Speaker 1: go to like a place. Like I know it might

1120
00:54:27,920 --> 00:54:29,840
Speaker 1: be like awkward or whatever, but it's like I just

1121
00:54:29,880 --> 00:54:31,200
Speaker 1: can't afford it right now, but I do want to

1122
00:54:31,200 --> 00:54:33,040
Speaker 1: spend time with my friends, you know type of thing.

1123
00:54:33,560 --> 00:54:36,320
Speaker 1: She could do that, like sorry, you could do that

1124
00:54:36,440 --> 00:54:38,000
Speaker 1: or you could just be like, hey, guys, I can't

1125
00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 1: go because I can't afford it right now. No one's

1126
00:54:40,120 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 1: gonna be like, oh my god. In everyone's gonna be like, Okay, yeah,

1127
00:54:43,280 --> 00:54:45,520
Speaker 1: that's fine. And it's just the fact that this girl

1128
00:54:45,680 --> 00:54:48,040
Speaker 1: spends out of her meeds, not even her own money,

1129
00:54:48,719 --> 00:54:51,440
Speaker 1: and then doesn't it can't even pay it back, and

1130
00:54:51,600 --> 00:54:55,080
Speaker 1: like you've she's had a full month to like get

1131
00:54:55,200 --> 00:54:57,840
Speaker 1: money for this. I don't know how much this amount is,

1132
00:54:58,440 --> 00:55:01,680
Speaker 1: but I'm guessing, you know, well, it's not a huge

1133
00:55:01,800 --> 00:55:05,440
Speaker 1: like thousands of dollars. This has to be maybe one hundred,

1134
00:55:05,560 --> 00:55:09,160
Speaker 1: maybe like fifty I'm thinking I'm not really sure, but

1135
00:55:09,360 --> 00:55:12,319
Speaker 1: like I would say between like one hundred maybe two

1136
00:55:12,440 --> 00:55:15,360
Speaker 1: hundred at thou most. I don't know what they're buying,

1137
00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:16,040
Speaker 1: but you know.

1138
00:55:16,760 --> 00:55:18,799
Speaker 2: I don't know. It's just like I hate these people,

1139
00:55:19,239 --> 00:55:23,000
Speaker 2: and it's so disrespectful to like she kind of splurged

1140
00:55:23,200 --> 00:55:27,120
Speaker 2: on purpose on that night out knowing that she wasn't

1141
00:55:27,640 --> 00:55:31,120
Speaker 2: gonna pay for anything like in that moment. It's insane.

1142
00:55:31,719 --> 00:55:35,200
Speaker 1: I don't even even like I know, like, I mean,

1143
00:55:35,239 --> 00:55:37,719
Speaker 1: I don't know everyone's freaking bank account, but I mean,

1144
00:55:37,760 --> 00:55:39,880
Speaker 1: I know some people are more well off than me.

1145
00:55:40,520 --> 00:55:43,200
Speaker 1: But it's not. But I don't like be like, oh,

1146
00:55:43,360 --> 00:55:45,239
Speaker 1: you have to pack so you have more money. No,

1147
00:55:46,040 --> 00:55:47,919
Speaker 1: we both want to do this, so we're both gonna

1148
00:55:47,920 --> 00:55:50,719
Speaker 1: pay for it. That's what you do, that's what that's

1149
00:55:50,760 --> 00:55:55,000
Speaker 1: how things work. So the money wasn't even the worst part.

1150
00:55:55,800 --> 00:55:59,920
Speaker 2: The entire time she was making offhanded, passive, aggressive jokes

1151
00:56:00,400 --> 00:56:03,759
Speaker 2: about my life. She kept commenting on the fact that

1152
00:56:03,840 --> 00:56:07,200
Speaker 2: I'm not currently working and making weird remarks about how

1153
00:56:07,280 --> 00:56:10,120
Speaker 2: I can afford things and how much money I must

1154
00:56:10,200 --> 00:56:12,920
Speaker 2: have saved. I'm not the greatest at reading people, but

1155
00:56:13,000 --> 00:56:15,840
Speaker 2: it sounded a lot like jealousy. The irony is that

1156
00:56:16,000 --> 00:56:18,399
Speaker 2: on the night out we had, I was actually quite

1157
00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:20,800
Speaker 2: sick and didn't really feel like going, but she was

1158
00:56:20,840 --> 00:56:23,360
Speaker 2: the one who insisted. For her to push for a

1159
00:56:23,440 --> 00:56:26,320
Speaker 2: night out, order the most expensive stuff and then resent

1160
00:56:26,480 --> 00:56:31,719
Speaker 2: me for having the money to cover for her is strange. Yeah,

1161
00:56:31,800 --> 00:56:36,360
Speaker 2: people are strange, dude. Yeah, this is really like and

1162
00:56:36,520 --> 00:56:38,719
Speaker 2: I know you said you've got autism, and it's like

1163
00:56:38,880 --> 00:56:42,160
Speaker 2: maybe the social dynamics in the group very hard for

1164
00:56:42,239 --> 00:56:45,160
Speaker 2: you to navigate, or harder than normal, but like, this

1165
00:56:45,360 --> 00:56:48,480
Speaker 2: is something I would actually bring to the group and

1166
00:56:48,640 --> 00:56:51,759
Speaker 2: be like, hey, has anyone else experienced this with her?

1167
00:56:52,239 --> 00:56:53,759
Speaker 2: You've only do you haven't even known her a year,

1168
00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:58,520
Speaker 2: Like this is a thing that is intolerable to me.

1169
00:56:58,920 --> 00:57:01,080
Speaker 1: I agree. I think you should talk to like other

1170
00:57:01,120 --> 00:57:02,920
Speaker 1: people in a group, like be like, hey, have you

1171
00:57:03,040 --> 00:57:07,440
Speaker 1: ever experienced this with her something? Yeah, And I'm sure

1172
00:57:08,120 --> 00:57:10,560
Speaker 1: I'm sure she's not doing it to just you. These

1173
00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:13,440
Speaker 1: types of people don't just choose one person, but it should.

1174
00:57:13,560 --> 00:57:15,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, And it should also just be like and if

1175
00:57:15,120 --> 00:57:17,240
Speaker 2: you haven't, make sure you don't lend her any money

1176
00:57:17,280 --> 00:57:19,120
Speaker 2: because she won't give it to you, and then when

1177
00:57:19,160 --> 00:57:21,520
Speaker 2: she does, she'll try to make you feel as bad

1178
00:57:21,760 --> 00:57:22,560
Speaker 2: as possible.

1179
00:57:23,120 --> 00:57:24,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like screw you.

1180
00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:28,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm done with Selene. I've since spoken to my

1181
00:57:28,160 --> 00:57:32,200
Speaker 2: other friends in the group ah and told them what happened.

1182
00:57:34,040 --> 00:57:36,000
Speaker 2: They all agree that her behavior is bizarre and that

1183
00:57:36,080 --> 00:57:39,320
Speaker 2: there seems to be a deep seated jealousy or animosity there.

1184
00:57:39,840 --> 00:57:42,120
Speaker 2: At this point, I'm taking the loss on the final

1185
00:57:42,160 --> 00:57:44,520
Speaker 2: ten percent of the money. It's more worth it to

1186
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:47,040
Speaker 2: not have to deal with her anymore. A group of

1187
00:57:47,080 --> 00:57:49,600
Speaker 2: friends were also quite pissed and berated me, like some

1188
00:57:49,760 --> 00:57:52,760
Speaker 2: of y'all did in the comments. I learned my lesson

1189
00:57:52,880 --> 00:57:56,200
Speaker 2: and moving forward will be more careful, and that is

1190
00:57:56,320 --> 00:57:58,920
Speaker 2: the end of that story. I'm sure berated. I from

1191
00:57:58,920 --> 00:58:00,720
Speaker 2: a place of love more than anything.

1192
00:58:00,840 --> 00:58:03,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I thought too. They're probably come on like,

1193
00:58:03,600 --> 00:58:05,920
Speaker 1: if she's been doing it this long, you know something something.

1194
00:58:06,120 --> 00:58:08,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that is the end of that story.

1195
00:58:09,800 --> 00:58:13,240
Speaker 1: My friend thinks I'm suspicious for having her keys, and

1196
00:58:13,360 --> 00:58:14,560
Speaker 1: I can't shake the guilt.

1197
00:58:14,960 --> 00:58:17,680
Speaker 2: Don't be suspicious. Don't be suspicial, eh.

1198
00:58:18,320 --> 00:58:23,680
Speaker 1: I male, or rather had a good friend female I

1199
00:58:23,800 --> 00:58:26,439
Speaker 1: met a couple months ago. We got along really well,

1200
00:58:26,600 --> 00:58:29,200
Speaker 1: hung out a lot, and shared a pretty tight friend group.

1201
00:58:29,760 --> 00:58:32,440
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Express You seventy two

1202
00:58:32,440 --> 00:58:33,760
Speaker 1: to fifty one, and if you want to smit your

1203
00:58:33,800 --> 00:58:36,480
Speaker 1: own stories, go to the our slash Okay storytime Supreddit.

1204
00:58:36,600 --> 00:58:39,480
Speaker 1: I'm Savannah, I'm Dakota, and we're here to give some

1205
00:58:39,560 --> 00:58:41,760
Speaker 1: good advice. Goofully. Yet we do not have all of

1206
00:58:41,800 --> 00:58:43,880
Speaker 1: the answers. We'd only tell you what we would do

1207
00:58:43,920 --> 00:58:45,520
Speaker 1: in this situation, but you should tell us what you

1208
00:58:45,560 --> 00:58:49,520
Speaker 1: would do in the comments. As Opie says, a few

1209
00:58:49,560 --> 00:58:51,680
Speaker 1: weeks ago, our group went on a short trip to

1210
00:58:51,760 --> 00:58:54,720
Speaker 1: an event. We stayed in one big hotel room. From

1211
00:58:54,760 --> 00:58:57,680
Speaker 1: Monday to Thursday. Everything was normal, we had fun, and

1212
00:58:57,760 --> 00:59:00,800
Speaker 1: then everyone went home. At some point after the trip,

1213
00:59:00,880 --> 00:59:03,919
Speaker 1: this friend apparently mentioned multiple times that she had lost

1214
00:59:04,000 --> 00:59:06,560
Speaker 1: her house keys during the trip. The problem is that

1215
00:59:06,680 --> 00:59:09,919
Speaker 1: I have absolutely no recollection of her saying this. Either

1216
00:59:09,960 --> 00:59:12,880
Speaker 1: I wasn't paying attention, or I somehow just forgot. That

1217
00:59:13,040 --> 00:59:14,840
Speaker 1: same week, I went to visit my sister for a

1218
00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:17,560
Speaker 1: night on a weekend, and right after that, I visited

1219
00:59:17,600 --> 00:59:20,080
Speaker 1: my parents. I live pretty far away from both of them,

1220
00:59:20,160 --> 00:59:22,040
Speaker 1: so this was a bit of a trip. While I

1221
00:59:22,160 --> 00:59:24,520
Speaker 1: was at my parents' place, I noticed a random key

1222
00:59:24,560 --> 00:59:26,800
Speaker 1: in the pocket of my jacket I always wear. I

1223
00:59:26,920 --> 00:59:29,640
Speaker 1: pretty much use the same jacket every day, mostly out

1224
00:59:29,680 --> 00:59:32,760
Speaker 1: of laziness and out of style. If it's a great style,

1225
00:59:32,960 --> 00:59:35,960
Speaker 1: I mean, come on, you gotta wear it. My first

1226
00:59:36,000 --> 00:59:38,640
Speaker 1: thought was that the key might belong to my parents.

1227
00:59:38,880 --> 00:59:41,200
Speaker 1: I had already been there for hours when I noticed it,

1228
00:59:41,320 --> 00:59:43,400
Speaker 1: so I asked my dad. He said it wasn't his.

1229
00:59:43,760 --> 00:59:46,440
Speaker 1: I didn't bother asking my mom because she's extremely unreliable

1230
00:59:46,480 --> 00:59:48,760
Speaker 1: with stuff like that and usually has no idea which

1231
00:59:48,800 --> 00:59:52,000
Speaker 1: keys belong to what The key was attached to a

1232
00:59:52,160 --> 00:59:54,760
Speaker 1: broken key ring. Because of that, I assumed it might

1233
00:59:54,800 --> 00:59:57,920
Speaker 1: have broken off my own keychain. I have a bunch

1234
00:59:57,960 --> 00:59:59,720
Speaker 1: of random keys from when I took over my brother's

1235
00:59:59,760 --> 01:00:02,520
Speaker 1: old rental apartment, and even he doesn't know what half

1236
01:00:02,560 --> 01:00:05,440
Speaker 1: of those keys are for. So my working theory became, Okay,

1237
01:00:05,720 --> 01:00:08,040
Speaker 1: this must be one of the random keys that broke off.

1238
01:00:08,400 --> 01:00:10,240
Speaker 1: Since I didn't have another key ring at the time,

1239
01:00:10,360 --> 01:00:11,880
Speaker 1: I just hung the key on a hook in my

1240
01:00:11,920 --> 01:00:14,560
Speaker 1: apartment and figured i'd ask my brother or his wife

1241
01:00:14,640 --> 01:00:16,560
Speaker 1: the next time I saw them if it belonged to them.

1242
01:00:17,160 --> 01:00:19,160
Speaker 1: Fast forward to a couple days ago, I invited some

1243
01:00:19,320 --> 01:00:22,280
Speaker 1: friends over to my place. Among them was the friend

1244
01:00:22,280 --> 01:00:24,800
Speaker 1: who had lost her key. At some point, she noticed

1245
01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:27,880
Speaker 1: the key hanging on the hook. She immediately got excited

1246
01:00:27,920 --> 01:00:30,840
Speaker 1: because she had apparently been searching for it everywhere. I

1247
01:00:30,920 --> 01:00:34,040
Speaker 1: basically just said something like, oh, so that was your key,

1248
01:00:34,560 --> 01:00:36,520
Speaker 1: and that was the end of the conversation for that night.

1249
01:00:36,800 --> 01:00:39,320
Speaker 1: A couple days later, she messaged me privately asking me

1250
01:00:39,520 --> 01:00:42,920
Speaker 1: why I had her key. I explained exactly what happened,

1251
01:00:42,960 --> 01:00:45,520
Speaker 1: that I must have accidentally taken it during the trip,

1252
01:00:45,800 --> 01:00:47,720
Speaker 1: that I found it in my jacket later, and then

1253
01:00:47,760 --> 01:00:49,960
Speaker 1: I assumed it belonged to my family or one of

1254
01:00:50,080 --> 01:00:52,880
Speaker 1: my own random keys. She didn't reply for a while.

1255
01:00:53,400 --> 01:00:55,520
Speaker 1: I thought nothing of it, and a couple days later,

1256
01:00:55,600 --> 01:00:57,200
Speaker 1: when I asked if she wanted to hang out again,

1257
01:00:57,320 --> 01:00:59,880
Speaker 1: she told me she thought the whole situation was really creepy.

1258
01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:02,760
Speaker 1: According to her, the story didn't make sense because she

1259
01:01:02,800 --> 01:01:05,720
Speaker 1: had repeatedly told everyone that she lost a key. She

1260
01:01:05,880 --> 01:01:09,360
Speaker 1: also said that I'm very attentive and remember things people say,

1261
01:01:09,440 --> 01:01:12,160
Speaker 1: and apparently all of our friends she asked agreed that

1262
01:01:12,280 --> 01:01:15,600
Speaker 1: it's strained that I wouldn't notice something like that nice compliment.

1263
01:01:15,640 --> 01:01:18,040
Speaker 1: I guess that's when it hit me how bad this

1264
01:01:18,160 --> 01:01:21,920
Speaker 1: looks from the outside. From her perspective, I apparently somehow

1265
01:01:21,960 --> 01:01:24,560
Speaker 1: took her key from the hotel room without noticing it

1266
01:01:24,840 --> 01:01:27,840
Speaker 1: wasn't mine. It sat in the pocket of the jacket

1267
01:01:27,920 --> 01:01:30,480
Speaker 1: I wear almost every day from Thursday until the weekend,

1268
01:01:30,520 --> 01:01:33,640
Speaker 1: and I didn't notice it. Despite her talking multiple times

1269
01:01:33,640 --> 01:01:36,560
Speaker 1: about losing her key, I never connected the dots. When

1270
01:01:36,600 --> 01:01:38,560
Speaker 1: I found the key, I only asked my family about

1271
01:01:38,600 --> 01:01:41,160
Speaker 1: it and none of my friends. To make things worse,

1272
01:01:41,320 --> 01:01:43,800
Speaker 1: I even briefly thought about sending a picture of the

1273
01:01:43,880 --> 01:01:45,880
Speaker 1: key to my brother and his wife to ask if

1274
01:01:45,920 --> 01:01:48,640
Speaker 1: it was theirs. Then I decided not to because my

1275
01:01:48,680 --> 01:01:51,160
Speaker 1: brother visits me sometimes. Anyway, if I had done that,

1276
01:01:51,480 --> 01:01:53,720
Speaker 1: I would at least have some proof that I genuinely

1277
01:01:53,800 --> 01:01:55,320
Speaker 1: thought the key belonged to someone else.

1278
01:01:55,920 --> 01:01:58,640
Speaker 2: It's just so crazy that this person is trying to

1279
01:01:58,800 --> 01:02:02,000
Speaker 2: make this soul conspiracy, that you what, wanted to steal

1280
01:02:02,120 --> 01:02:04,880
Speaker 2: her house keys, to do a b and e and

1281
01:02:05,000 --> 01:02:07,200
Speaker 2: steal all their stuff. What is she insane?

1282
01:02:07,840 --> 01:02:10,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, no, I just really didn't know where

1283
01:02:10,080 --> 01:02:11,680
Speaker 1: this went, so I hung it up there. It's not

1284
01:02:11,720 --> 01:02:12,720
Speaker 1: like she was trying to hide it.

1285
01:02:12,920 --> 01:02:14,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just a mistake.

1286
01:02:15,200 --> 01:02:17,080
Speaker 1: And then she's like, oh that was your key. Oh yeah,

1287
01:02:17,080 --> 01:02:19,320
Speaker 1: I just take it. It's not only she's like, no,

1288
01:02:19,880 --> 01:02:23,080
Speaker 1: she found the key. No I can't get into her house.

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Speaker 1: This is all a big misunderstanding, and I don't think

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01:02:25,640 --> 01:02:28,080
Speaker 1: that it's creepy at all. I think I misplaced things

1291
01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:31,240
Speaker 1: all the time, and then I find, you know, stuff

1292
01:02:31,280 --> 01:02:34,600
Speaker 1: in my pockets. I find you know, stuff in my purse, and.

1293
01:02:35,240 --> 01:02:37,040
Speaker 2: You got rocks in your pockets and eggs in your car?

1294
01:02:37,680 --> 01:02:43,400
Speaker 1: Yes, rock pocket, But yeah, that's I don't know. That's

1295
01:02:43,760 --> 01:02:45,520
Speaker 1: I don't feel like it's weird or creepy. I just

1296
01:02:45,560 --> 01:02:49,680
Speaker 1: feel like you didn't hear her and I don't know,

1297
01:02:50,560 --> 01:02:52,760
Speaker 1: but there it's solved, the issues solved, so I didn't

1298
01:02:52,840 --> 01:02:56,320
Speaker 1: understand what the big big thing is. Instead, all she

1299
01:02:56,480 --> 01:02:58,760
Speaker 1: sees is I had her house key for weeks and

1300
01:02:58,880 --> 01:03:01,160
Speaker 1: only casually revealed it when she came to my apartment,

1301
01:03:01,200 --> 01:03:03,560
Speaker 1: and not by choice. When she told me I felt

1302
01:03:03,560 --> 01:03:06,240
Speaker 1: creepy and that my story didn't add up, I basically responded, yeah,

1303
01:03:06,280 --> 01:03:09,160
Speaker 1: that's completely understandable. I'm sorry. I don't have a better explanation,

1304
01:03:09,240 --> 01:03:11,600
Speaker 1: but I swear that's exactly what happened. I get why

1305
01:03:11,640 --> 01:03:13,800
Speaker 1: it looks weird, and honestly, I'm not sure i'd believe

1306
01:03:13,840 --> 01:03:16,360
Speaker 1: myself either if I were you. Thanks for being honest.

1307
01:03:16,880 --> 01:03:18,280
Speaker 1: I'll leave you alone in the future.

1308
01:03:18,880 --> 01:03:23,240
Speaker 2: Wow, that what whatever? Okay, we're moving on. I guess

1309
01:03:23,400 --> 01:03:25,680
Speaker 2: I'll leave you onwards and upwards.

1310
01:03:26,280 --> 01:03:27,840
Speaker 1: Not that i'll leave you alone in the future.

1311
01:03:27,960 --> 01:03:30,920
Speaker 2: Also, you're a terrible salesman. Not sure if i'd believe

1312
01:03:31,000 --> 01:03:33,280
Speaker 2: me if I were you either. What are you talking about?

1313
01:03:33,640 --> 01:03:36,440
Speaker 1: She's just trying to relate to be like, Yeah, I

1314
01:03:36,520 --> 01:03:39,840
Speaker 1: don't know, it's just I guess it is a weird reason,

1315
01:03:40,480 --> 01:03:43,200
Speaker 1: but that's what happens. He's trying to make it feel better.

1316
01:03:43,320 --> 01:03:45,320
Speaker 2: But I don't know, see how like I did? What

1317
01:03:45,400 --> 01:03:48,040
Speaker 2: do you? I don't know. It's just so weird. It's

1318
01:03:48,080 --> 01:03:51,400
Speaker 2: so weird to have any weird energy about that, cause

1319
01:03:51,440 --> 01:03:53,480
Speaker 2: it should just be like, oh, yeah, that's my key.

1320
01:03:53,920 --> 01:03:55,680
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you had it the whole time. That's

1321
01:03:55,760 --> 01:03:59,600
Speaker 2: so weird, that's crazy. Okay, Well, moving on in my

1322
01:03:59,680 --> 01:04:04,200
Speaker 2: life and everything is fine, instead of like, hmm, well,

1323
01:04:04,240 --> 01:04:06,040
Speaker 2: it's really weird that you had my key this whole

1324
01:04:06,080 --> 01:04:08,400
Speaker 2: time and didn't tell me, Like, what are you up to?

1325
01:04:09,520 --> 01:04:11,720
Speaker 2: I don't know if I can. Your story doesn't line up.

1326
01:04:12,040 --> 01:04:14,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, it is really weird. I don't know why

1327
01:04:14,200 --> 01:04:16,480
Speaker 1: she's taking it to like a whole other level. You

1328
01:04:16,560 --> 01:04:17,840
Speaker 1: got your key back, that's the end of it.

1329
01:04:18,400 --> 01:04:20,880
Speaker 2: I've I've been taking your key and making copies of

1330
01:04:20,960 --> 01:04:23,720
Speaker 2: it and throwing them at every single unhoused person in

1331
01:04:23,840 --> 01:04:26,480
Speaker 2: our city, and I've been telling them your address.

1332
01:04:27,080 --> 01:04:29,800
Speaker 1: Now I'm sitting here thinking what the heck just happened.

1333
01:04:30,200 --> 01:04:32,720
Speaker 1: At one point, I almost left the key at my parents'

1334
01:04:32,800 --> 01:04:34,680
Speaker 1: place because I thought it might be long to them

1335
01:04:35,200 --> 01:04:37,920
Speaker 1: if I had done that none of this would have happened. Instead,

1336
01:04:38,120 --> 01:04:41,080
Speaker 1: it looks like I secretly held on to my friend's

1337
01:04:41,160 --> 01:04:43,800
Speaker 1: house key for weeks and now there's a good chance

1338
01:04:43,880 --> 01:04:46,600
Speaker 1: I've lost not just that friendship, but possibly most of

1339
01:04:46,680 --> 01:04:49,600
Speaker 1: our shared friend group too, all because of a key

1340
01:04:49,720 --> 01:04:52,120
Speaker 1: I apparently picked up without realizing it. And I have

1341
01:04:52,240 --> 01:04:53,680
Speaker 1: no idea what to do now.

1342
01:04:53,840 --> 01:04:55,800
Speaker 2: Oh Lord, oh Pee.

1343
01:04:55,840 --> 01:04:58,040
Speaker 1: I think you need to stop overthinking it. Yeah, the

1344
01:04:58,080 --> 01:05:00,920
Speaker 1: situation's done. She got her key back, You found her key,

1345
01:05:01,560 --> 01:05:04,640
Speaker 1: got the key back. It's unfortunate that it was lost

1346
01:05:04,800 --> 01:05:06,720
Speaker 1: for you know, a week, week and a half or so,

1347
01:05:07,080 --> 01:05:09,480
Speaker 1: and but she got it back. End of story.

1348
01:05:09,600 --> 01:05:12,200
Speaker 2: Honestly, Dog, you being like I'll leave you alone now

1349
01:05:12,600 --> 01:05:16,040
Speaker 2: like that kinda also makes it weirder, because it's like,

1350
01:05:16,160 --> 01:05:19,800
Speaker 2: you're I don't know, I don't know if you're I'm sorry, Op.

1351
01:05:19,960 --> 01:05:21,760
Speaker 2: My sympathy level for you is very low. I don't

1352
01:05:21,760 --> 01:05:23,960
Speaker 2: know if you're built for any of this. To be

1353
01:05:24,160 --> 01:05:27,040
Speaker 2: quite honest, I don't know. You can't sell you can't

1354
01:05:27,480 --> 01:05:29,440
Speaker 2: be like, oh, this was a misunderstanding and then just

1355
01:05:29,480 --> 01:05:31,480
Speaker 2: like sell it like it's like a well, yeah, I

1356
01:05:31,480 --> 01:05:33,040
Speaker 2: don't know. I guess my story doesn't line up and

1357
01:05:33,120 --> 01:05:34,960
Speaker 2: I guess I wouldn't believe me if I was you either.

1358
01:05:35,040 --> 01:05:36,520
Speaker 2: And well, I guess now that I've done this really

1359
01:05:36,560 --> 01:05:38,600
Speaker 2: weird thing that's super weird and totally cringe. I I

1360
01:05:39,400 --> 01:05:42,000
Speaker 2: just stay away from me forever. Come on, girl, go

1361
01:05:42,080 --> 01:05:42,520
Speaker 2: to therapy.

1362
01:05:43,120 --> 01:05:45,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. I think. I think it's just

1363
01:05:45,760 --> 01:05:49,320
Speaker 1: like a weird situation to where like she is taking

1364
01:05:49,360 --> 01:05:51,520
Speaker 1: it to a whole other level, like, girl, just be

1365
01:05:51,840 --> 01:05:54,280
Speaker 1: glad that you got your key back. Yeah, Like now

1366
01:05:54,320 --> 01:05:55,680
Speaker 1: you get to your house, yay.

1367
01:05:56,440 --> 01:05:59,040
Speaker 2: But at the same time, you do have to be

1368
01:05:59,160 --> 01:06:00,800
Speaker 2: able to say that to her, like, girl, you have

1369
01:06:00,880 --> 01:06:02,600
Speaker 2: your key back, it was just missing. I don't know

1370
01:06:02,640 --> 01:06:04,080
Speaker 2: this was your key. You think I had your house

1371
01:06:04,160 --> 01:06:06,920
Speaker 2: keys memorized. I didn't know this was yours. I know

1372
01:06:07,000 --> 01:06:08,600
Speaker 2: you had lost your key. I didn't think this was yours.

1373
01:06:08,640 --> 01:06:10,840
Speaker 2: I thought it was my family. So, yeah, it's your key.

1374
01:06:11,000 --> 01:06:13,600
Speaker 2: There it is. Take it. What do I want with it?

1375
01:06:13,640 --> 01:06:17,080
Speaker 2: I don't care, literally you like you think I want

1376
01:06:17,120 --> 01:06:18,880
Speaker 2: to break in a yo bomb ass place.

1377
01:06:20,040 --> 01:06:21,560
Speaker 1: But that's the end of the story. And we got

1378
01:06:21,560 --> 01:06:25,760
Speaker 1: another one coming right up. Oh yeah, hey, it's Angie,

1379
01:06:25,800 --> 01:06:28,440
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1380
01:06:28,480 --> 01:06:30,680
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1381
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1382
01:06:32,440 --> 01:06:36,040
Speaker 2: My friend told my boyfriend to get a paternity test. Wow,

1383
01:06:36,200 --> 01:06:37,000
Speaker 2: I'm pregnant.

1384
01:06:38,240 --> 01:06:40,720
Speaker 1: This friend has nothing to do with me being pregnant.

1385
01:06:41,240 --> 01:06:45,240
Speaker 2: For background, I Arizona twenty seven at the time female,

1386
01:06:45,480 --> 01:06:48,680
Speaker 2: and my at the time summer flying and recently turned

1387
01:06:48,800 --> 01:06:53,640
Speaker 2: boyfriend Bruce thirty three, male, just found out I was pregnant. Yes,

1388
01:06:53,920 --> 01:06:57,280
Speaker 2: our child was a surprise and unplanned. We were very

1389
01:06:57,360 --> 01:07:00,520
Speaker 2: excited and happy despite the timeline. By the way, this

1390
01:07:00,560 --> 01:07:04,160
Speaker 2: comes from user Arizona iced Fay And if you want

1391
01:07:04,200 --> 01:07:05,800
Speaker 2: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash

1392
01:07:05,840 --> 01:07:08,800
Speaker 2: Okay storytime sub bredd it. I'm Dakota and I'm Savannah

1393
01:07:08,920 --> 01:07:10,720
Speaker 2: and we're gonna read this story and we might have

1394
01:07:10,880 --> 01:07:13,160
Speaker 2: some advice, but it might be a little goofy, So

1395
01:07:13,440 --> 01:07:15,640
Speaker 2: it's not doctor Phil. You know what I'm saying. If

1396
01:07:15,680 --> 01:07:17,760
Speaker 2: you know what you would do in this situation, put

1397
01:07:17,800 --> 01:07:21,400
Speaker 2: it in the comments. And op says. The day we

1398
01:07:21,480 --> 01:07:24,560
Speaker 2: found out, we had a very long, like until the

1399
01:07:24,720 --> 01:07:29,040
Speaker 2: sun rose the next morning, long conversation about what we

1400
01:07:29,160 --> 01:07:32,960
Speaker 2: wanted to do. We decided to keep the child. This

1401
01:07:33,160 --> 01:07:35,120
Speaker 2: was our own decision and it wasn't a hard one,

1402
01:07:35,880 --> 01:07:38,200
Speaker 2: just had to really be sure about where the other

1403
01:07:38,280 --> 01:07:41,520
Speaker 2: would be in the future. To update to the present day,

1404
01:07:41,600 --> 01:07:44,160
Speaker 2: we are engaged, so he's now my fiance and we

1405
01:07:44,280 --> 01:07:46,320
Speaker 2: are a few months away from our wedding. Our son

1406
01:07:46,440 --> 01:07:50,320
Speaker 2: is happy, healthy, and beutif ol. We told our closest

1407
01:07:50,400 --> 01:07:53,400
Speaker 2: friends first, a group of five couples including us and

1408
01:07:53,720 --> 01:07:57,080
Speaker 2: a few singles, and we specifically did not see any

1409
01:07:57,200 --> 01:08:01,480
Speaker 2: issue as everyone seemed excited but reasonably nervous for us.

1410
01:08:02,120 --> 01:08:08,680
Speaker 2: Can you feel the foreshadowing? Ooo? Here's a breakdown of

1411
01:08:08,800 --> 01:08:12,480
Speaker 2: the couples because it's gonna get confusing, and I won't

1412
01:08:12,520 --> 01:08:14,840
Speaker 2: age them, but let's just say they're all in the

1413
01:08:14,920 --> 01:08:18,280
Speaker 2: age range of twenty five to forty. Stephen and Anita

1414
01:08:18,960 --> 01:08:24,599
Speaker 2: great friends and child's godparents. Calvin and Kiara amazing friends

1415
01:08:24,680 --> 01:08:28,080
Speaker 2: with a child about the same age. Brian and Stephanie

1416
01:08:28,320 --> 01:08:31,719
Speaker 2: good friends but are a bit distant. Jackson and Sammy,

1417
01:08:31,920 --> 01:08:34,519
Speaker 2: the couple that is leading me to write this story.

1418
01:08:34,880 --> 01:08:37,719
Speaker 2: I want to specify that Jackson is the almost forty

1419
01:08:37,800 --> 01:08:41,800
Speaker 2: year old in the age range. Jeff single, Bruce's best friend,

1420
01:08:42,080 --> 01:08:46,000
Speaker 2: Jose another single and a great friend. Okay, so now

1421
01:08:46,040 --> 01:08:48,679
Speaker 2: that you have the characters. Let's get on with this play.

1422
01:08:48,880 --> 01:08:51,400
Speaker 2: A few weeks after finding out about our pregnancy, we

1423
01:08:51,560 --> 01:08:57,599
Speaker 2: are all celebrating Anita and Brian's birthdays with a party boat. Honestly,

1424
01:08:57,680 --> 01:09:00,320
Speaker 2: it was tons of fun and everyone was drinking, except

1425
01:09:00,360 --> 01:09:03,000
Speaker 2: myself obviously, as I was hanging out at the front

1426
01:09:03,040 --> 01:09:05,360
Speaker 2: of the boat when Bruce was in the water with

1427
01:09:05,400 --> 01:09:07,400
Speaker 2: a few others and Jackson was at the back of

1428
01:09:07,439 --> 01:09:11,760
Speaker 2: the boat very WestEd. Jackson was being extremely loud and

1429
01:09:11,800 --> 01:09:15,080
Speaker 2: obnoxious when from his jumble of words, I make out

1430
01:09:15,200 --> 01:09:18,479
Speaker 2: she probably doesn't even know who the father is, amongst

1431
01:09:18,560 --> 01:09:22,560
Speaker 2: other things from which I knew he was talking about me.

1432
01:09:23,600 --> 01:09:25,600
Speaker 2: I got up from the front of the boat and

1433
01:09:25,720 --> 01:09:28,800
Speaker 2: let me preface with I have pretty bad anxiety caused

1434
01:09:28,800 --> 01:09:30,880
Speaker 2: by trauma, and when I get upset or mad enough,

1435
01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:34,240
Speaker 2: can sometimes forget what happens. So I yelled at him

1436
01:09:34,320 --> 01:09:36,479
Speaker 2: and said something along the lines of if you don't

1437
01:09:36,560 --> 01:09:38,640
Speaker 2: know what you're talking about, shut up, and if you

1438
01:09:38,720 --> 01:09:41,320
Speaker 2: won't shut up, I'll personally kick your butt off the

1439
01:09:41,400 --> 01:09:44,280
Speaker 2: boat and force you to swim back to shore. I'll

1440
01:09:44,320 --> 01:09:46,280
Speaker 2: be an honest narrator and say I might have said

1441
01:09:46,320 --> 01:09:48,559
Speaker 2: other things out of anger, but I know I didn't

1442
01:09:48,600 --> 01:09:53,519
Speaker 2: say anything untrue. Bruce Brucey was not on the boat

1443
01:09:53,760 --> 01:09:56,000
Speaker 2: when this happened, but he did rush to my side

1444
01:09:56,040 --> 01:09:58,920
Speaker 2: when he saw things go down. Now fast forward a

1445
01:09:58,960 --> 01:10:01,680
Speaker 2: bit to Christmas time. We were having a little get

1446
01:10:01,760 --> 01:10:04,760
Speaker 2: together with the whole friend group, but Jackson and Stephanie

1447
01:10:04,880 --> 01:10:07,760
Speaker 2: were out at the bar in the town we all

1448
01:10:07,840 --> 01:10:10,600
Speaker 2: live in, the one I used to bartend at. So

1449
01:10:10,920 --> 01:10:13,719
Speaker 2: everyone knows who I am and that I am pregnant.

1450
01:10:14,080 --> 01:10:16,120
Speaker 2: I'm not one to typically read a message over my

1451
01:10:16,200 --> 01:10:18,519
Speaker 2: partner's shoulder or anything, but when a phone is right

1452
01:10:18,560 --> 01:10:20,439
Speaker 2: in front of me and open to a message screen,

1453
01:10:20,680 --> 01:10:24,000
Speaker 2: it can happen. Yeah, because you have eyeballs and a brain.

1454
01:10:24,680 --> 01:10:28,000
Speaker 1: I love looking at other people's stuff. I do that

1455
01:10:28,080 --> 01:10:31,439
Speaker 1: all the time, like especially on like planes, if you're

1456
01:10:31,479 --> 01:10:33,240
Speaker 1: on like an airplane, oh my gosh. And if an

1457
01:10:33,240 --> 01:10:35,560
Speaker 1: old lady has like giant text and is right in

1458
01:10:35,600 --> 01:10:37,439
Speaker 1: front of me and she has it right here, and

1459
01:10:37,520 --> 01:10:41,400
Speaker 1: I'm just like and she's like wishing you well, prayers

1460
01:10:41,439 --> 01:10:41,960
Speaker 1: and thoughts.

1461
01:10:42,479 --> 01:10:47,160
Speaker 2: So I see a message in the Bruces Guy's group

1462
01:10:47,280 --> 01:10:50,280
Speaker 2: chat in which includes all the boys of a friend

1463
01:10:50,320 --> 01:10:55,400
Speaker 2: group plus some from Jackson, which says at Bruce, you

1464
01:10:55,479 --> 01:10:57,919
Speaker 2: should really be smart about this and get a paternity

1465
01:10:58,040 --> 01:11:01,599
Speaker 2: test before it's too late. Without saying anything, I walked

1466
01:11:01,600 --> 01:11:04,360
Speaker 2: to the bathroom, locked the doors, and start to ball.

1467
01:11:05,040 --> 01:11:08,320
Speaker 2: Bruce asks what's wrong, but then reads the message himself.

1468
01:11:08,800 --> 01:11:11,280
Speaker 2: I get myself calmed down enough to go out to

1469
01:11:11,400 --> 01:11:15,040
Speaker 2: the room again, where I find Bruce, Stephen, and Calvin

1470
01:11:15,120 --> 01:11:18,120
Speaker 2: saying let's go. He needs to get his crap together.

1471
01:11:18,439 --> 01:11:21,040
Speaker 2: We are going to make him take his words back,

1472
01:11:21,640 --> 01:11:24,760
Speaker 2: basically saying they were gonna have some hands thrown if

1473
01:11:24,800 --> 01:11:27,479
Speaker 2: you get my drift. I told him they'd better not

1474
01:11:27,720 --> 01:11:30,000
Speaker 2: be going to fight anyone because that is not the

1475
01:11:30,080 --> 01:11:32,880
Speaker 2: answer to this problem. Side note, Jackson is part of

1476
01:11:33,200 --> 01:11:38,600
Speaker 2: a MC with a rep. Instead. Strong words were exchanged

1477
01:11:38,680 --> 01:11:42,080
Speaker 2: over messaging and Jackson was kicked out and blocked from

1478
01:11:42,120 --> 01:11:45,600
Speaker 2: the group. Later on, I found out that Stephanie was

1479
01:11:45,680 --> 01:11:48,639
Speaker 2: with Jackson that night and had overheard him saying things

1480
01:11:48,680 --> 01:11:51,560
Speaker 2: to others at the bar, including that Bruce was not

1481
01:11:51,880 --> 01:11:54,680
Speaker 2: my baby's father and I was a witch who got

1482
01:11:54,800 --> 01:11:57,640
Speaker 2: knocked up and didn't remember who the baby's dad was.

1483
01:11:58,240 --> 01:11:59,360
Speaker 2: Why is he doing this?

1484
01:12:00,280 --> 01:12:04,160
Speaker 1: I'm I don't know why he is doing this. Maybe

1485
01:12:04,240 --> 01:12:06,760
Speaker 1: he has like a vedeta against her, or maybe like

1486
01:12:06,960 --> 01:12:09,400
Speaker 1: he is jealous of that. I really don't know.

1487
01:12:09,720 --> 01:12:13,360
Speaker 2: Probably jealousy would probably be my top guess. Instead of

1488
01:12:13,400 --> 01:12:17,120
Speaker 2: saying anything to Jackson, Stephanie walked away to smoke outside.

1489
01:12:17,479 --> 01:12:20,080
Speaker 2: When I found out about this, I specifically asked Stephanie

1490
01:12:20,160 --> 01:12:22,560
Speaker 2: in the girls group chat what happened that night. She

1491
01:12:22,680 --> 01:12:25,000
Speaker 2: gave me her rundown, and it matched the story I

1492
01:12:25,160 --> 01:12:28,759
Speaker 2: was already told about her not staying or saying anything

1493
01:12:28,840 --> 01:12:31,479
Speaker 2: and walking away, to which I asked, if she really

1494
01:12:31,479 --> 01:12:33,800
Speaker 2: considered herself my friend, why didn't she say or do

1495
01:12:33,920 --> 01:12:38,000
Speaker 2: anything in my defense? Girl? Why didn't she defend you

1496
01:12:38,120 --> 01:12:42,560
Speaker 2: against the drunk ornery motorcycle club man who is like

1497
01:12:42,720 --> 01:12:45,799
Speaker 2: berating you, like probably because she would fear for her safety.

1498
01:12:46,400 --> 01:12:48,400
Speaker 2: You guys need to completely cut this guy out of

1499
01:12:48,439 --> 01:12:51,320
Speaker 2: your group. Like he's like a tumor, he's a lump.

1500
01:12:51,880 --> 01:12:53,040
Speaker 2: You gotta have him removed.

1501
01:12:53,520 --> 01:12:55,320
Speaker 1: Also, he seems like he's like the oldest of the

1502
01:12:55,360 --> 01:12:57,599
Speaker 1: group and he's hanging out with like twenty five year olds.

1503
01:12:58,280 --> 01:13:03,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, kind of weird, very strange energy. She basically brushed

1504
01:13:03,080 --> 01:13:05,000
Speaker 2: it off and just said she didn't want to deal

1505
01:13:05,040 --> 01:13:06,720
Speaker 2: with it and didn't think it was that much of

1506
01:13:06,760 --> 01:13:10,519
Speaker 2: an issue. Fair, that's fair to me. After that, I

1507
01:13:10,760 --> 01:13:12,960
Speaker 2: and the others in the group really did not invite

1508
01:13:13,040 --> 01:13:16,320
Speaker 2: Jackson or Stephanie to do anything. We would see them

1509
01:13:16,360 --> 01:13:19,040
Speaker 2: out in social settings and they would act like nothing happened,

1510
01:13:19,040 --> 01:13:21,719
Speaker 2: to which I didn't speak to them or really interact

1511
01:13:21,840 --> 01:13:25,320
Speaker 2: in any way. The group grew distant from them until

1512
01:13:25,400 --> 01:13:28,400
Speaker 2: later on Jackson started questioning some of the friends as

1513
01:13:28,439 --> 01:13:30,559
Speaker 2: to why they weren't being invited over for anything anymore.

1514
01:13:31,000 --> 01:13:34,040
Speaker 2: And then it was explained why, and he specifically texted

1515
01:13:34,080 --> 01:13:37,360
Speaker 2: Bruce with an apology of sorts. He said, summed up

1516
01:13:37,400 --> 01:13:40,120
Speaker 2: because it was long and meaningless. I'm sorry what I

1517
01:13:40,240 --> 01:13:43,080
Speaker 2: said upset her, but she really shouldn't be. I was

1518
01:13:43,160 --> 01:13:46,519
Speaker 2: wasted and said some dumb crap and it was uncalled for,

1519
01:13:47,200 --> 01:13:49,679
Speaker 2: which I'm not sorry to say. Was not an apology

1520
01:13:49,800 --> 01:13:53,200
Speaker 2: to me in any way. Yeah, let's fast forward a

1521
01:13:53,200 --> 01:13:56,479
Speaker 2: few more months. I had my son, happy, healthy and whole,

1522
01:13:56,640 --> 01:13:59,360
Speaker 2: and Bruce and I have some good time together as

1523
01:13:59,400 --> 01:14:02,479
Speaker 2: a family. Bruce then plans a friendly get together one

1524
01:14:02,520 --> 01:14:05,160
Speaker 2: month after our son is born. On the day of

1525
01:14:05,200 --> 01:14:08,439
Speaker 2: the get together, he has a whole location hopping ride planned.

1526
01:14:08,760 --> 01:14:11,559
Speaker 2: He and most of the friend group have motorcycles, which

1527
01:14:11,840 --> 01:14:14,800
Speaker 2: was wonderful. The only issue is Jackson found out about

1528
01:14:14,840 --> 01:14:18,400
Speaker 2: it and was invited along by Steven with Bruce's permission

1529
01:14:18,760 --> 01:14:21,040
Speaker 2: and stipulation that he doesn't try to ruin the day.

1530
01:14:21,600 --> 01:14:24,160
Speaker 2: We end up at Stephen and Anita's house where Bruce

1531
01:14:24,240 --> 01:14:28,880
Speaker 2: proposes and we all celebrate the engagement. Now, about one

1532
01:14:28,960 --> 01:14:32,120
Speaker 2: hour after being engaged, Bruce says, Okay, I think it's

1533
01:14:32,200 --> 01:14:34,840
Speaker 2: time that you and Jackson sit down and hash it out.

1534
01:14:35,560 --> 01:14:35,800
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1535
01:14:35,960 --> 01:14:38,000
Speaker 2: I wasn't too happy about that, but I did it.

1536
01:14:38,600 --> 01:14:41,080
Speaker 2: So Jackson and I are sitting by the bonfire outside

1537
01:14:41,160 --> 01:14:43,960
Speaker 2: and he's giving me the whole same b as he texted. Bruce.

1538
01:14:44,600 --> 01:14:46,519
Speaker 2: I stop him and say, you better have a better

1539
01:14:46,560 --> 01:14:50,000
Speaker 2: apology than that childish excuse or you can leave, to

1540
01:14:50,080 --> 01:14:52,160
Speaker 2: which he at least tried to give an apology that

1541
01:14:52,320 --> 01:14:55,200
Speaker 2: was true in heartfelt. I said, fine, if that's the

1542
01:14:55,320 --> 01:14:58,080
Speaker 2: best I'll get from you, but this doesn't mean we're

1543
01:14:58,120 --> 01:15:00,320
Speaker 2: friends or that I will be anything more than original

1544
01:15:00,360 --> 01:15:03,320
Speaker 2: to you. He agreed, and we shook hands and continued

1545
01:15:03,360 --> 01:15:09,160
Speaker 2: the night as basically associates nice crazy Vibe trying to

1546
01:15:09,520 --> 01:15:11,960
Speaker 2: get them to hash it out of the day of

1547
01:15:12,040 --> 01:15:15,200
Speaker 2: your engagement. That seems like a weird decision.

1548
01:15:16,080 --> 01:15:18,559
Speaker 1: Yeah, I thought we were done with this guy. Why

1549
01:15:18,640 --> 01:15:19,559
Speaker 1: is he like coming back?

1550
01:15:19,960 --> 01:15:22,440
Speaker 2: I don't know if he's not gonna do the real apology,

1551
01:15:22,600 --> 01:15:26,520
Speaker 2: like cause you know, I'm sorry she's upset, not an apology.

1552
01:15:26,880 --> 01:15:30,400
Speaker 2: Yeah I'm sorry, but I was drunk. Not an apology.

1553
01:15:31,200 --> 01:15:34,719
Speaker 2: Like I need to hear like some real deep reasoning

1554
01:15:34,760 --> 01:15:37,800
Speaker 2: as to what went wrong in your little motorcycle boy

1555
01:15:37,880 --> 01:15:41,920
Speaker 2: brain that caused you to go to my bar, the

1556
01:15:42,000 --> 01:15:46,800
Speaker 2: bar ibartend at and start spreading heinous rumors about my pregnancy.

1557
01:15:47,360 --> 01:15:50,479
Speaker 1: See, I just want to know the reason why he's

1558
01:15:50,520 --> 01:15:54,040
Speaker 1: doing this, Like does he truly believe? Like are they friends?

1559
01:15:54,120 --> 01:15:55,360
Speaker 1: Does he like know something?

1560
01:15:55,479 --> 01:15:57,920
Speaker 2: Well, according to his apology, he doesn't believe and he

1561
01:15:58,080 --> 01:16:01,599
Speaker 2: was just drunk. But I've never gotten drunk and then

1562
01:16:01,920 --> 01:16:04,240
Speaker 2: spread lies about my pregnant friends.

1563
01:16:04,600 --> 01:16:08,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, like don't I don't even understand that, Like, I

1564
01:16:08,840 --> 01:16:12,560
Speaker 1: don't know I'm fun, I'm fun drunk, I don't know

1565
01:16:12,680 --> 01:16:14,200
Speaker 1: I have fun. I want to go dance, I want

1566
01:16:14,240 --> 01:16:17,439
Speaker 1: to be everywhere at once, Like I don't feel like, oh,

1567
01:16:17,640 --> 01:16:20,040
Speaker 1: I want to like start some drama. What can I

1568
01:16:20,200 --> 01:16:21,599
Speaker 1: do to stir the pot here.

1569
01:16:21,920 --> 01:16:24,559
Speaker 2: It's just very strange, and it's probably like he low

1570
01:16:24,640 --> 01:16:28,920
Speaker 2: key is jealous in some way or something. But until

1571
01:16:28,960 --> 01:16:31,879
Speaker 2: he if he's not capable of giving a real apology

1572
01:16:31,920 --> 01:16:35,000
Speaker 2: as an adult at forty years old, right, why are

1573
01:16:35,080 --> 01:16:37,320
Speaker 2: we hanging out with him? Go ride motorcycles with someone else.

1574
01:16:37,320 --> 01:16:39,040
Speaker 2: He's can't be the only guys that ride motorcycles in

1575
01:16:39,080 --> 01:16:40,040
Speaker 2: the whole freaking town.

1576
01:16:40,760 --> 01:16:40,920
Speaker 1: You know.

1577
01:16:41,720 --> 01:16:43,880
Speaker 2: Now, at this point I had not gotten a meaningful

1578
01:16:43,920 --> 01:16:47,000
Speaker 2: apology from Stephanie for breaking my trust or our friendship,

1579
01:16:47,479 --> 01:16:49,479
Speaker 2: and to this day, I still have not gotten one.

1580
01:16:49,840 --> 01:16:52,720
Speaker 2: Stephanie constantly post passive aggressive stories and says things like

1581
01:16:52,800 --> 01:16:55,040
Speaker 2: don't know why I'm not invited anymore, et cetera to

1582
01:16:55,160 --> 01:16:57,280
Speaker 2: other friends in the group, and now I'm stuck in

1583
01:16:57,360 --> 01:17:00,120
Speaker 2: this situation that leads me to write this post. Am

1584
01:17:00,120 --> 01:17:02,280
Speaker 2: I the aover basically breaking up the friend group and

1585
01:17:02,400 --> 01:17:05,040
Speaker 2: being the reason why a couple is excluded from plans?

1586
01:17:05,400 --> 01:17:07,600
Speaker 2: Should I just move on and tell the rest of

1587
01:17:07,640 --> 01:17:10,720
Speaker 2: the friends that we should include them more? And that

1588
01:17:10,880 --> 01:17:12,920
Speaker 2: is the end of that story. No, I don't think

1589
01:17:13,040 --> 01:17:16,680
Speaker 2: Jackson or I mean so I was confused. I think

1590
01:17:16,760 --> 01:17:19,880
Speaker 2: op said Sammy was Jackson's partner. But then she started

1591
01:17:19,880 --> 01:17:24,080
Speaker 2: saying Stephanie. So Stephanie and Jackson were partners in that story,

1592
01:17:24,800 --> 01:17:27,160
Speaker 2: and yeah, I don't know. If you're not gonna check

1593
01:17:27,200 --> 01:17:30,679
Speaker 2: your partner about that, that's crazy. The reason I thought

1594
01:17:30,720 --> 01:17:33,000
Speaker 2: it wasn't that big of a deal is because in

1595
01:17:33,120 --> 01:17:35,160
Speaker 2: the context of the story, Stephanie was supposed to be

1596
01:17:35,200 --> 01:17:37,320
Speaker 2: someone else's partner. I think Op just got mixed up

1597
01:17:37,640 --> 01:17:38,679
Speaker 2: with her own fake names.

1598
01:17:39,280 --> 01:17:41,599
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, because I also wrote that down. Yeah,

1599
01:17:41,600 --> 01:17:44,240
Speaker 1: I have Brian steph are together in Jackson and Sammy.

1600
01:17:44,320 --> 01:17:47,240
Speaker 2: But so yes, it must be reversed or something, or

1601
01:17:47,320 --> 01:17:50,679
Speaker 2: maybe she just forgot either way. Yeah, if it's your partner,

1602
01:17:50,840 --> 01:17:53,200
Speaker 2: you better check them. If it's not your partner, I

1603
01:17:53,240 --> 01:17:55,880
Speaker 2: would be way more like lenient about like, yeah, whatever,

1604
01:17:56,200 --> 01:17:58,360
Speaker 2: do you just go outside? You remove yourself from that

1605
01:17:58,439 --> 01:18:01,519
Speaker 2: situation you're uncomfortable, Like, you know, are you really going

1606
01:18:01,600 --> 01:18:04,560
Speaker 2: to confront the drunken the bar? You know, Like, I

1607
01:18:04,640 --> 01:18:08,640
Speaker 2: don't know, It's it's pretty ridiculous. But yeah, seeing as

1608
01:18:08,840 --> 01:18:12,120
Speaker 2: they're like the couple, yeah, have them be out, and

1609
01:18:12,120 --> 01:18:13,720
Speaker 2: if they're going to be all passive AGGRESSI about it,

1610
01:18:13,720 --> 01:18:16,360
Speaker 2: instead of just apologizing, it would be done with it.

1611
01:18:16,560 --> 01:18:17,000
Speaker 2: It's great.

1612
01:18:17,560 --> 01:18:21,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're just you know, pick the bad fruit off

1613
01:18:21,080 --> 01:18:22,960
Speaker 1: the tree, make the sacrifice.

1614
01:18:23,120 --> 01:18:25,600
Speaker 2: Yes, but that is the end of that story and

1615
01:18:25,680 --> 01:18:28,040
Speaker 2: the end of this episode. So if you love us,

1616
01:18:28,080 --> 01:18:31,960
Speaker 2: make sure you subscribe. We love you and see you tomorrow.