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Speaker 4: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.
Speaker 3: I'm Erica and I'm Nila.
Speaker 4: Happy Wednesday. Hey y'all.
Speaker 1: Hey, Hope you guys are having a wonderful week. Hope
Speaker 1: you guys set your intentions for the week. Hope you
Speaker 1: guys have been working on that manifestation man woman, whatever
Speaker 1: the fuck you want list partner manifestation. I worked on
Speaker 1: mine on Halloween, which I don't know why. I just
Speaker 1: like I came home. I had such like a crazy
Speaker 1: Halloween with Iri, like going to like one hundred and
Speaker 1: four different events, and at one point I was like
Speaker 1: I was like, was like, don't you want to leave?
Speaker 4: Like we can go home, we can like cuddle, we
Speaker 4: can eat your candy. Like I really sold it to
Speaker 4: her and she was like, yeah, I do.
Speaker 3: I was like, fuck my god, loft the thing earlier.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And so we came back and we were chilling.
Speaker 1: I was in my robe and I was like, you
Speaker 1: know what, I need to go ahead and really focus
Speaker 1: on that list and make that goddamn list.
Speaker 4: And once I started a girl, I couldn't stop.
Speaker 3: Did you see that?
Speaker 4: Did you see my list? It was like two pages long?
Speaker 3: Wait is when I was did you post it?
Speaker 2: I did?
Speaker 3: Is that yours?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I thought it was somebody else's.
Speaker 2: I I've screenshotted all the ones people have shown us
Speaker 2: for reference.
Speaker 3: I haven't done it, but I think I need to
Speaker 3: do it more than ever.
Speaker 1: By the way, my best friend Sebastian is sitting in
Speaker 1: on this episode.
Speaker 3: Rolling a joints.
Speaker 4: So if you hear a wheezing man, that's him.
Speaker 3: That's what I was like, you know, I didn't really
Speaker 3: know what you meant by the wheezing, but you're right,
Speaker 3: it's just there.
Speaker 1: But uh, I say, oh, that's so that list. So
Speaker 1: I just had time and I was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I it's so important to write it down because I
Speaker 1: really had to think about every I was like, don't
Speaker 1: miss a thing. That's my specific, like my mom said
Speaker 1: the specific. Yeah, so I was being Hella specific. And
Speaker 1: I got a few more to add to the list
Speaker 1: after this week, this yesterday, I got a few to
Speaker 1: add to that list.
Speaker 4: Need to be even more specific, and you know you
Speaker 4: I don't. I feel like it's a list you can
Speaker 4: keep adding to.
Speaker 1: You can take things away too, because I think there's
Speaker 1: times when you encounter the things you think you want
Speaker 1: and then you see them and you're like, you know,
Speaker 1: actually I don't really need that.
Speaker 2: I know somebody Uh I reposted somebody's list and somebody
Speaker 2: else was.
Speaker 3: Like, she wants a robot. So I went to re
Speaker 3: reference the list.
Speaker 2: I was like, this bitch doesn't know her self worth No, bitch,
Speaker 2: she knows what she wants.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she knows exactly what you want.
Speaker 2: Now, this is not a robot. This seems about fair.
Speaker 2: You could add twenty more things. Yeah, fuck that shit.
Speaker 2: It's going to be specific, and I think it's not
Speaker 2: so much like looks and perfection as it is just specifics.
Speaker 2: That shit is important, And I'm actually like thinking about
Speaker 2: the list that I'm creating in my mind, I'm actually
Speaker 2: grateful for the fuck that relationships that I've had and
Speaker 2: the people I've had, because that's how I'm going to
Speaker 2: know what to put on this list specifically.
Speaker 1: Speaking of which, oh wait, we have we we haven't
Speaker 1: talked in a while, actually since before my birthday trip.
Speaker 3: Oh we haven't, we haven't.
Speaker 4: Yeah, my birthday trip was wonderful. Thanks for asking.
Speaker 3: Why don't you recap that a bit?
Speaker 1: Oh? You know, I just made a lot of really
Speaker 1: great decisions for myself. It was all about everything I
Speaker 1: wanted to do, and I did that. I may have
Speaker 1: fell in love and Tuloom, I'm I haven't talked to
Speaker 1: him every day.
Speaker 3: Every day? Right now? What are you gonna call him?
Speaker 4: T Loombay?
Speaker 3: Taloombay. Yeah, as Africa is Africa, I.
Speaker 4: Found another African. He's from a different region. No more Nigerians.
Speaker 4: I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1: No, I just I had a great time, Like I
Speaker 1: had such a good time with my friends. You know,
Speaker 1: I had a lot of self realizations out there, like
Speaker 1: moments of like, you know what I'm not I don't.
Speaker 1: I realized, like I said, I think before this episode,
Speaker 1: like before we were when we recorded our last episode,
Speaker 1: that my year of thirty two for me really felt
Speaker 1: like years of like trusting my instincts and my gut
Speaker 1: and like not questioning myself when I know I feel something.
Speaker 1: So I was on the beaches of Tulum and I
Speaker 1: suddenly like remembered that I have this audition that I
Speaker 1: was supposed to send a self tape for and it
Speaker 1: was like a really big audition. And I've been like
Speaker 1: battling with this back and forth for a while because
Speaker 1: I've been acting pretty much my whole life on and off.
Speaker 1: And I was like, you know what, I don't want
Speaker 1: to do this anymore, Like this doesn't make me happy,
Speaker 1: Like I hate auditioning.
Speaker 4: I'm done with auditioning. And my friend was like, what
Speaker 4: You're done, and I'm like yeah.
Speaker 1: And I came back to LA and I fired everyone
Speaker 1: and I had not fired, but I told them, like,
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm done like I just need a break,
Speaker 1: but it might be not be a break, it might
Speaker 1: be an extended break. So I feel like I've already
Speaker 1: started to start to cut the things off of trim
Speaker 1: the fat.
Speaker 4: For thirty two. And then I also we ended. Me
Speaker 4: and my girl ended up.
Speaker 1: We were on this boat all night, all day and
Speaker 1: may or may not have you know, been partaking and
Speaker 1: party things.
Speaker 4: And then.
Speaker 1: We got back to that crib and everyone was so
Speaker 1: fucking tired. But I was like, no, we're not, but
Speaker 1: this is not ending. So I got my friend dressed,
Speaker 1: literally physically put her clothes on, did her makeup. We
Speaker 1: went to this party and we did her makeup. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like it was like I literally got her dress. Like
Speaker 1: I'm not kidding, but I'm so glad we went because yeah,
Speaker 1: I ended up meeting this guy and like we had
Speaker 1: a really great I had like a tuloom like love affair.
Speaker 1: It was fucking awesome. It was like Sundance all over again.
Speaker 1: So yeah, we're gonna meet up in New York and oh,
Speaker 1: you are this true? And he's younger than me.
Speaker 4: You know I don't do younger. Oh I know, you
Speaker 4: know I'm I discriminate young.
Speaker 3: Beye to Limbae, that's very African, young Bay. We're just
Speaker 3: making up.
Speaker 4: God he ever hears this.
Speaker 2: Honestly, bitch, you are like vacation school or okay, you're
Speaker 2: like international dating app out of town luck. Okay, you
Speaker 2: talk about you're not lucky, You're lucky as fuck. Every
Speaker 2: time it's bitch goes somewhere, she comes back in love
Speaker 2: or she at least has a good date somebody.
Speaker 4: There was a post, I responded. I responded.
Speaker 1: I was like, first, make sure you go to a
Speaker 1: location where there's probability of meeting a sexy man is
Speaker 1: high aka the Islands. To Loom, I said, to Loom
Speaker 1: or Spain, But you meant did me meet somebody in
Speaker 1: like Europe? And then I said, and then I said,
Speaker 1: musical events or film events like festivals.
Speaker 4: Here are the because there's always a mix of people,
Speaker 4: you know.
Speaker 1: And then I was like step two, drink tequila. Step three,
Speaker 1: have no inhibitions the end. So because on this trip
Speaker 1: I had zero inhibitions, I definitely indulged for sure in everyone.
Speaker 1: I was before we fell in love, that was before
Speaker 1: I met my husband.
Speaker 2: How long were there fell in love and married?
Speaker 1: I got straight to work and then I found my
Speaker 1: husband because I manifested him because.
Speaker 2: She had no inhibitions. See, ladies, what happens? We have
Speaker 2: no in ambitions.
Speaker 4: I mean he does check off on a few of
Speaker 4: the things that I had on the list, so, but
Speaker 4: it's to be seeing the rest.
Speaker 2: He's going to come to New York. Yeah, because he's
Speaker 2: in DC. Okay, you know when I go to New York.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm doing?
Speaker 4: What are you doing?
Speaker 3: I'm resettying my Hinge location.
Speaker 4: You do need to do that.
Speaker 3: Mama's in town.
Speaker 4: Turn that just so whack.
Speaker 1: I just got a message from someone from Hinge like that.
Speaker 1: We connected like three weeks ago. He's like, hey, sorry,
Speaker 1: just checking. I'm like, figure goodbye. Why I'm bad too though,
Speaker 1: I mean I go check it for like a week.
Speaker 4: Why I swipe?
Speaker 3: Okay? But I have complaints about Hinge.
Speaker 2: First and foremost, fuck Hinge because the person said the
Speaker 2: email alert me to say I'm most compatible.
Speaker 4: With It's never accurate.
Speaker 3: It's always the person I'm the least compatible. Who the
Speaker 3: fuck is magic? I don't want this.
Speaker 2: We look like cute.
Speaker 4: My baby looks on that thing.
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 3: And also, you know, after you swipe, like you like
Speaker 3: people too.
Speaker 2: Much, it will pause you for the day to Okay,
Speaker 2: that's never happened to me.
Speaker 4: How many swipes are you doing?
Speaker 3: Well? No, you did tell me that one time.
Speaker 4: No, that's on rayah.
Speaker 3: Oh well, I thought, well it did occur to me.
Speaker 3: I am obviously like you. I'm always giving somebody.
Speaker 4: A chance, like I say, I'm so U No. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I started to change my approach, like can I see
Speaker 2: myself looking at this face every day?
Speaker 1: When I did go check back into my compatibility section
Speaker 1: or what the fuck the person I had swiped on?
Speaker 1: I was like, wait, I swiped on this. I'm like, hey,
Speaker 1: are you trolling me? There's no way I swiped on
Speaker 1: this nigga. No, no, they might be trolling you.
Speaker 4: Who was he was? Oh my god?
Speaker 3: Where did he go?
Speaker 2: Remember? Yeah?
Speaker 3: You know I remember.
Speaker 4: I found we were talking about I'm talking. Wait, yes,
Speaker 4: I don't to go back there.
Speaker 3: Why Why did I match with him? Is what I
Speaker 3: want to know.
Speaker 1: I don't think he's on my list anymore. Maybe he
Speaker 1: deleted me? Can you delete people?
Speaker 4: You can only hide them?
Speaker 2: Well, one time this guy is like you know my
Speaker 2: ex and blocking I was like, I don't even have
Speaker 2: no idea where you do.
Speaker 1: I think it's when you hide them, because you can
Speaker 1: hide people, and I think when you do that, you're
Speaker 1: deybe he found.
Speaker 3: The love of his life.
Speaker 4: I don't know whatever.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I went on I didn't tell you.
Speaker 3: I went on a date, and frankly, I was hungry.
Speaker 1: I literally needed to write a booklet When Jammia's Hungry,
Speaker 1: A Story of.
Speaker 3: First Date, It's so good. Starts today When Jimmia's Hungry,
Speaker 3: A Story of First Date. It's like it's like a
Speaker 3: children first and last Dates. I fucking love it. Nobody
Speaker 3: tries some ideas.
Speaker 2: So I went to this date and this guy's like,
Speaker 2: oh well, because I was like hungry right then, because
Speaker 2: I know it's like such big image.
Speaker 3: I was like he's like. I was like, want to
Speaker 3: go now? He's like, okay, well how about eight?
Speaker 2: It was like six. I was like, well, I'm starving.
Speaker 2: He's like, what was my daughter? I'm like fine, I'll wait.
Speaker 2: So we're talking. Keep in mind, he's like fifty. He's
Speaker 2: like older white guy. He's cool though, but he's like
Speaker 2: also like seven feet tall. I was not suspecting that
Speaker 2: I meet him at the She's fare that he suggested,
Speaker 2: and there's like this little white lady sitting next to us,
Speaker 2: and I can see her like, look over, like, wasn't
Speaker 2: expecting this bitch to walk.
Speaker 1: Like a five foot two black woman seven foot tall
Speaker 1: white man, and like I probably appear to be, like
Speaker 1: do you probably had on your high heel.
Speaker 5: Heart.
Speaker 3: No, I was wearing jeans and boots.
Speaker 2: So anyway, he keeps talking and somehow we mentioned someone
Speaker 2: and he's like, oh, because a friend of the family
Speaker 2: dated so and so.
Speaker 3: And immediately I know who he's talking about.
Speaker 2: So I'm like who, And he says a person that
Speaker 2: I know and that is friends with my baby daddy.
Speaker 3: And I'm just like I know him or whatever.
Speaker 2: But I'm like, if only this gets back to him,
Speaker 2: like what the fuck are you?
Speaker 3: Well you didn't know, I mean I didn't know. I
Speaker 3: mean I was not a big deal.
Speaker 2: Okay, So anybody jump ahead, like two days dinner was great, fantastic,
Speaker 2: he was an excellent sushi order. But you know whatever,
Speaker 2: So he tries to hang out again. I'm tired. I'm like,
Speaker 2: I don't think it's gonna happen. He's like, he says,
Speaker 2: I was like, and I have my kid or something.
Speaker 2: He was like, well, you can put it to sleep
Speaker 2: and I can come over. I just stopped responding. I mean,
Speaker 2: I wasn't that compelled either way. But he was like,
Speaker 2: did I say was I too forward?
Speaker 3: I'm sorry?
Speaker 4: Hello, Yeah, don't tell me what I need to do.
Speaker 4: Thank you. If I want to do that, I'll do that.
Speaker 4: But I I don't know you.
Speaker 3: You think I'm gonna invite you to my house with
Speaker 3: my kids. No, the fact that she was suggested absurd.
Speaker 4: No, that is absurd. That is absurd.
Speaker 3: Jimmila's first in last date ridiculous.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I have so many now that you're
Speaker 2: just saying, so Psycho, I am.
Speaker 4: A book of first and last anyway. Yeah, so that's
Speaker 4: that's updated on.
Speaker 3: Me for everybody. Know, there's a lot of gaps left
Speaker 3: out of this. Shut up. I'm gonna be the first sacond.
Speaker 3: That vacation was like some Swiss cheese.
Speaker 4: I'm not ready to share. I know when I'm ready
Speaker 4: to share it, I will share. Four years had a
Speaker 4: great time. That was awesome.
Speaker 2: Uh yeah, any other updates, any of the current events.
Speaker 3: No, I was gonna say something absurd, you would kill me.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not.
Speaker 1: I almost have like a thousand things, and then I said.
Speaker 3: You know, I was gonna say, we should plan a
Speaker 3: New York meetup.
Speaker 4: You know what, we should plan a fun up meetup.
Speaker 1: You know, like what does that ship where we like
Speaker 1: break ship a break room. We are going to do that,
Speaker 1: I know, like asap, like I needed. I saw a
Speaker 1: coupon on the internet. See it's a sign.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I thought it was for.
Speaker 4: Sure, but also the internet's listening.
Speaker 3: I think that specifically.
Speaker 2: Yeah, actually I know this is not to be true
Speaker 2: because I saw on somebody else's phone.
Speaker 3: You saw it on someone else's phone.
Speaker 6: No, that's whoever's phone is around, and you like, you're
Speaker 6: talking about things I talked about shoes.
Speaker 1: I bet you in ten minutes, I get I g Yeah,
Speaker 1: the specific designer you spoke of.
Speaker 3: Is anybody fighting against this? Our rights are being infringed
Speaker 3: in You.
Speaker 4: Can go to the setting and I don't believe that. No,
Speaker 4: I believe it's there. I don't believe it works.
Speaker 3: You do you do you ever? Do you ever see
Speaker 3: on your cell phone?
Speaker 2: If you like, jump out of an app or something,
Speaker 2: it kind of like the recording microphone in the top
Speaker 2: left corner, like linger.
Speaker 1: Because that little weird you see you see sometimes it
Speaker 1: will pop up at weird time.
Speaker 3: You see that it's recording.
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, I've seen it pop up and.
Speaker 3: Is this a good show? You the recording ultimate?
Speaker 4: But you have seen it too, right, you know I
Speaker 4: don't like that. Ship Halloween was fun. Halloween.
Speaker 2: Oh I did a family costume with baby Daddy.
Speaker 3: We did Adam.
Speaker 4: It was so good. She was so invested it.
Speaker 3: She's like, call me Wednesday all day.
Speaker 4: I love her.
Speaker 2: And then I was like, guess well, it's time to
Speaker 2: get dressed from home and she's like I'm so excited.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, you know what we got that?
Speaker 4: She was so scared we were trigger treating. She was.
Speaker 1: I was like super Girl over here, like I was
Speaker 1: usually the scaredy cat, and she's like, Luna, don't worry,
Speaker 1: it's okay, I've got you. I'm wonder woman.
Speaker 4: It was hilarious.
Speaker 2: Me Mom, I'm like, what kind of non scary Adam's
Speaker 2: family are you.
Speaker 3: I got a couple of texts. I got a text.
Speaker 2: From somebody like you have a boyfriend. I was like,
Speaker 2: oh no, I have a baby daddy that participates in
Speaker 2: Halloween and family Halloween.
Speaker 4: With questions and ship oh god, I know.
Speaker 2: It would be like you dedicated a text to buy audios.
Speaker 3: Do you have a boyfriend?
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're doing a family fucking costume, right.
Speaker 1: So.
Speaker 4: Wait, what were we gonna talk about today?
Speaker 3: College?
Speaker 4: College?
Speaker 3: College? College?
Speaker 2: So we asked for suggestions. We guys are really good ones.
Speaker 2: It's gonna take us at least six months to get
Speaker 2: through them all. Hellelujah.
Speaker 4: College.
Speaker 2: So someone asked that she's in college and she feels
Speaker 2: like she feels like she's going for her family, and
Speaker 2: she doesn't know if she really wants to go, and
Speaker 2: then she just then she uh proceeded to remind us,
Speaker 2: you guys didn't finish college, right, like, damn, you know
Speaker 2: our business I forgot.
Speaker 3: So so we were.
Speaker 2: Just, uh, I was revisiting my decision to go to college.
Speaker 2: But Eric is like, I was like, you know, the
Speaker 2: fact that we didn't we dropped out. She's like it
Speaker 2: wasn't even a thought. I just it's just something I did.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was like it was a gradual dropout.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Mine, that was like a gradual drop until point I
Speaker 2: was like, bitch, you're not going yeah, like yeah, that's.
Speaker 1: We're just not gonna waste that money this time because
Speaker 1: I was barely going.
Speaker 4: I was not committing. Yeah, I mean for me, I
Speaker 4: feel like it's so hard, Like.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I feel like college at seventeen, when
Speaker 1: I was in college, I barely even knew anything about
Speaker 1: myself anything, like to put. I think we put people
Speaker 1: in college and we want them to figure out what
Speaker 1: they want to do for the rest of their life,
Speaker 1: and like it's so much pressure. But now that I'm
Speaker 1: an adult, like I finally feel more focused and like
Speaker 1: in line with my interests. So now I can be
Speaker 1: more specific about the classes I want to take, Whereas
Speaker 1: now then it was like you don't feel like you
Speaker 1: have a choice, you have to decide, and like this
Speaker 1: is it? So I mean honestly though, when I left college,
Speaker 1: it was because I had a better I had a
Speaker 1: great I was getting a great job opportunity that I
Speaker 1: felt like I couldn't pass up, and it was it
Speaker 1: was like the best thing for me. Like I'm glad
Speaker 1: that I left college.
Speaker 2: I'm definitely glad that I left. I think I think
Speaker 2: you have like college people and then you have non
Speaker 2: college people. You know, for some people, you can go
Speaker 2: to college, you can knock it out, you can finish
Speaker 2: it high I wasn't.
Speaker 4: Making sure enough me. That's what it is, like really.
Speaker 3: I can barely focus as right now.
Speaker 1: I want to go back to school, though I do too,
Speaker 1: but like then, I don't know. And I did good
Speaker 1: in high school, like I had good grades, and like
Speaker 1: college was always so important.
Speaker 4: We were talking about college when I was like eleven.
Speaker 1: That's when we started to talk about college and think
Speaker 1: about future schools and right, like that huge deal because
Speaker 1: I went to like this really bougie what's it called
Speaker 1: element middle school and they were always they were just
Speaker 1: like trying to suck anyone's moneyway, Like that's when they
Speaker 1: start those like rich white privileged people, that's when they
Speaker 1: start just deciding like Okay, I'm gonna start investing in
Speaker 1: this college when she's this age, so they know who
Speaker 1: she is. And by the time it's time to graduate,
Speaker 1: we've already created this relationship. I've been donating to this fund,
Speaker 1: you know, Nigga, I know Julie mm hmmm, And you
Speaker 1: start really trying to make those connections. It's a whole
Speaker 1: Even like this elementary kindergartenship feels like it's.
Speaker 4: A lot of socializing and know it's like Jesus Christ.
Speaker 4: It's really just very political.
Speaker 1: I think about Iri too, I think, like, what would
Speaker 1: she what would I do? Am I going to encourage
Speaker 1: her to go to college? Part of me is like, well,
Speaker 1: obviously I'm going to encourage it. I'm not gonna say
Speaker 1: just I don't know. I think I think I'm going
Speaker 1: to encourage it.
Speaker 4: I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't think I feel comfortable just being like, we'll
Speaker 1: figure it out on your own. I definitely want to
Speaker 1: at least encourage it and then allow her to figure
Speaker 1: it out on her own. I always think, because she might,
Speaker 1: she'll probably make the decision she wants to make.
Speaker 4: Anyway, you know, it's.
Speaker 3: Making the camera shake. Sorry, sorry, I can't.
Speaker 2: It's crazy because in high school, yeah, I knew I
Speaker 2: didn't have a choice but to go to college. And
Speaker 2: I remember having this conversation with like mine and my friends,
Speaker 2: and she's like, I don't know if I.
Speaker 3: Want to go, and I was thinking, like what a privilege.
Speaker 2: I was like, it's different for me because I'm like
Speaker 2: a black woman, and I think I have to be
Speaker 2: like that much more prepared in the work field.
Speaker 3: That was really you do that? It's true.
Speaker 2: I had I felt like and I had been. It
Speaker 2: even drilled in me, like that's what we're going to do.
Speaker 2: There was no question if. Like and I know as
Speaker 2: I go to a black school because both my parents
Speaker 2: went to a HPCU, and really I was like, I
Speaker 2: mean the fuck up out of here, like yep, first
Speaker 2: thing smoking, I'm out.
Speaker 3: And I think for that meant for that in that
Speaker 3: man like manner.
Speaker 2: It was good for me because I got out on
Speaker 2: my own fee, you know, like I became independent and
Speaker 2: I was in a different city. And really why I
Speaker 2: stopped going to school is because I had to start working.
Speaker 2: And honestly, I had been in school. It was like
Speaker 2: my was it my freshman year, second semester? Freshman year
Speaker 2: or second year? Second semester? And I went to go
Speaker 2: apply for the dance team and I had to get
Speaker 2: transcripts and they're like it was April. They're like, you're
Speaker 2: not financially enrolled this semester. I was like, what do
Speaker 2: you mean, I've been going to class all semester.
Speaker 3: I live on campus.
Speaker 2: They're like, you were never find your classes were dropped
Speaker 2: in February. You were not financially enrolled. There's no transcript.
Speaker 2: I was like How did not one teacher tell me
Speaker 2: black schools? Not one teacher tell me I wasn't on
Speaker 2: the like the roster.
Speaker 3: So I'm in shock.
Speaker 2: I go on the hallway and I call my dad
Speaker 2: and I'm like, please tell me you didn't pay my
Speaker 2: twition and didn't tell me, And this nigga was like,
Speaker 2: let me call you right back. I was like, this
Speaker 2: is not happening. This is not fucking happening. So I
Speaker 2: just remember going back to my dorm and telling my homegirl.
Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, I gotta get a job.
Speaker 2: It was the next day we went out and literally,
Speaker 2: like the first we went to like a couple of restaurants.
Speaker 2: Because I had dated a girl who worked at PF
Speaker 2: Chanks and I knew she made a lot of money serving.
Speaker 3: I was like, I think we should try to be
Speaker 3: servers like Chris. We went to Hula Hans. They hired
Speaker 3: us on the spot.
Speaker 2: I forgot to take a jacket. The day it was
Speaker 2: real cold. We got off the train. This I was like,
Speaker 2: the next nigga who pulls up on us. We're getting
Speaker 2: in the car, it's too cold. I'm not saying no anymore.
Speaker 2: This crazy nigga pulled up on us.
Speaker 3: He was like, yeah, I get in the car.
Speaker 2: I was like, let's go. We got in the car
Speaker 2: and shit smoked me. Anyway, the point is I didn't
Speaker 2: really like have a choice. So I was just like, oh, okay,
Speaker 2: people are they're doing functionhit and I got I'm out
Speaker 2: here now and I wasn't going home. And we got
Speaker 2: a job and I started making money and I start
Speaker 2: working at the w and I was making bookoo dollars
Speaker 2: and I was like class, who what Oh.
Speaker 4: So you weren't were you trying to pay your school
Speaker 4: or you were just.
Speaker 3: Well that's I was like, you guys need to figure
Speaker 3: it out.
Speaker 2: I knew I wasn't gonna be like and that's another
Speaker 2: thing looking back, like HBCUs are super expensive, and granted
Speaker 2: I got that experience. I never took out any loans,
Speaker 2: but I have friends who too got loans and completed
Speaker 2: but are paying it back, like thirteen hundred dollars loans.
Speaker 3: A month, eight hundred dollars loans a month.
Speaker 2: And I like, if you're going to finish school, I
Speaker 2: think it's best to go to community college. If you're
Speaker 2: right sure enough know you want to do do two
Speaker 2: years and then transfer.
Speaker 3: I think there's what.
Speaker 1: I feel like that would have been a lot more
Speaker 1: like better for a lot more better for me, better
Speaker 1: for me. I think moving to New York at seventeen
Speaker 1: was so overwhelming for me. I was too immature to
Speaker 1: be like, first of all, living on my own and
Speaker 1: in a different city, all these all this pressure suddenly like.
Speaker 4: It was just it was too much.
Speaker 1: I feel like there needs to be Like I think
Speaker 1: there needs to be like a year between college.
Speaker 3: I don't know. It was the best time in my
Speaker 3: fucking life.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but you didn't finish.
Speaker 1: No, I just mean, like, then that's what we're talking about,
Speaker 1: Like she wants to finish college, Like if you have,
Speaker 1: she's questioning if she should finish or not.
Speaker 2: If you have, if you're halfway through, if you have
Speaker 2: the discipline to do it, if you have the financial
Speaker 2: means and you're there by all means to push through.
Speaker 3: However, if I feel like, do.
Speaker 1: You what's your what do you want to do? Do
Speaker 1: you have any idea? What are you gonna do if
Speaker 1: you're not in college? Do you have some sort of plan?
Speaker 1: Like Jamila's plan was she she did what she had
Speaker 1: to do, She worked, and she paid her You paid
Speaker 1: your shit off for me, like I got an opportunity
Speaker 1: that was like I'm going to be making more money,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be traveling, I'm gonna be assisting this person.
Speaker 1: Fuck it, don't just drop out of college to do nothing,
Speaker 1: is what I'm saying, you know.
Speaker 2: I mean because essentially, when I look back at I
Speaker 2: like I worked, I'm waitress. But then I was like, Okay,
Speaker 2: I've had enough work experience to realize. I was working
Speaker 2: at a hotel in a bar, and I saw people
Speaker 2: who had been there fifteen years, eighteen years now their
Speaker 2: daughter was working there, and it was just a thing
Speaker 2: like years and even when I went back, those people
Speaker 2: are still working there, and I really, for me, I
Speaker 2: was like, well, I'm not going to be doing this forever.
Speaker 3: I can't see that.
Speaker 2: And so I came back to California, even though initially
Speaker 2: I felt like that was failing.
Speaker 3: I felt like I didn't want to come back with nothing.
Speaker 2: I had this emotional connection to this degree that I
Speaker 2: didn't really have a purpose for. And I came back
Speaker 2: and I was like, I'm just what were you going
Speaker 2: to school for PR? Public relations? Which I guess this
Speaker 2: is very PR. You got my phone it's not an
Speaker 2: airplane moment it is. I thought, oh.
Speaker 4: That's my.
Speaker 3: That's is it recording?
Speaker 4: Can you check it and see if it still is sure?
Speaker 1: Because sometimes when someone calls it like stops it.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Oh. I felt like I like, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I had this thing like I don't like starting stuff
Speaker 2: and not finishing it, and I don't like being defeated.
Speaker 3: And I felt that's what I had done. But I
Speaker 3: came back.
Speaker 2: I went, I told myself when I was going to
Speaker 2: learn lashes, I had a plan. I wanted to be mobile.
Speaker 2: I knew didn't want to work for anyone. I didn't
Speaker 2: want to tell anyone to talk to me, and that,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 3: That's that created freedom to like really think about what
Speaker 3: I want to do.
Speaker 2: And I just had this thought the other day, which
Speaker 2: is crazy, and I was like back there the time,
Speaker 2: I would judge people who are like starving artists, like
Speaker 2: I know people who are like so dedicated to their craft,
Speaker 2: Like I'm like, bitchbo, don't you just get a job,
Speaker 2: like you're you're tripping, like you're on somebody's couch. But now,
Speaker 2: like honestly, right now, I can honestly I understand being
Speaker 2: insanely passionate about some something that you have really no
Speaker 2: desire to do anything else. And you know, like I
Speaker 2: could get a cocktail job. I could like I have
Speaker 2: experienced during other things. But I have to keep telling
Speaker 2: myself is that being true to my purpose? And I
Speaker 2: think we have these like dedicated ideas of what we're
Speaker 2: supposed to do and what timeframe, and that's not really
Speaker 2: that doesn't always honor our true purpose.
Speaker 4: That's true.
Speaker 1: And sometimes you don't find your purpose at seventeen. A
Speaker 1: lot you don't find you don't know what you want
Speaker 1: to do at eighteen.
Speaker 2: I mean, but lord, I wish I wish I did
Speaker 2: have that have the freedom to explore it, because maybe
Speaker 2: I would have found that much sooner. Like had I
Speaker 2: not just thought one plus one equals too good a degree,
Speaker 2: do this, then that then I would have if I
Speaker 2: had the freedom to be like, Okay, we'll figure it out,
Speaker 2: like try this, try that, what do you what are
Speaker 2: your interest in?
Speaker 3: Maybe we could have come upon this sooner and then.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I don't feel like education has to end.
Speaker 1: I think it's the way they frame college. It becomes
Speaker 1: this like this is the end all be all You've
Speaker 1: reach you've reached this is the moment you must decide,
Speaker 1: who are you done.
Speaker 3: For the rest of your life?
Speaker 4: What happened?
Speaker 3: I don't know, how did you do that?
Speaker 4: Okay with.
Speaker 1: I think there's one end it's about Yeah, I think
Speaker 1: it's above the toilet, thank you.
Speaker 4: Uh yeah.
Speaker 1: But it's like that, it's like this big defining thing
Speaker 1: that's supposed to define the rest the trajectory of the
Speaker 1: rest of your life. Who you are, what, how you
Speaker 1: make your money, how you define yourself?
Speaker 4: Like, yeah, so I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel like, I truly feel though, like you need
Speaker 1: like a year off before you go into college. There
Speaker 1: needs to be like a in between year that's still
Speaker 1: educational but prepares you for I don't I don't even
Speaker 1: know if there's an amount of time actually, because I
Speaker 1: feel like it's taken me to reach my thirties to
Speaker 1: feel motivated to go back to school, to feel ready
Speaker 1: and I'm not quite right, and to feel like I'm
Speaker 1: like ready and to feel excited.
Speaker 3: About it right, you know, fun.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I don't want to overwhelm myself.
Speaker 1: And that's the thing too, Like I control how much
Speaker 1: I want to do, whereas in college you must.
Speaker 4: Take minimal schedule, like I'm.
Speaker 1: Gonna take two classes, We're gonna start there and that's it.
Speaker 1: So but I definitely, how do you feel like you
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, We're we're at the age
Speaker 1: now where we're starting to well, we're starting to invest
Speaker 1: in time money into education for our children. And I
Speaker 1: think for me that's why I also college felt like
Speaker 1: I had to do it because my mom invested so
Speaker 1: much into my education, the schools that I went to,
Speaker 1: like the links she went to make sure we could
Speaker 1: afford them, the NAT Prep. Yeah, like that, I felt
Speaker 1: like I had to, you know. So, and I'm kind
Speaker 1: of already starting that with Ira. I have her in
Speaker 1: a school that you know, is more expensive than the norm,
Speaker 1: the norm school, it's not free. And now we're talking
Speaker 1: about kindergarten and they're talking about twenty three thousand dollars
Speaker 1: for kindergarten or this school. It's like, oh, you can
Speaker 1: go to send her to a magnet for free, or
Speaker 1: you did this. This is great here, and this is
Speaker 1: great there. And it's just so confusing and also ridiculous
Speaker 1: because I'm like, is it worth investing that much in kindergarten?
Speaker 1: And then some people say yeah, start now, get used
Speaker 1: to it now, and then other people say, oh, you
Speaker 1: can wait. But in all and all, I know that
Speaker 1: I'm going to invest in her education and I'm going
Speaker 1: to encourage her to go to college. I mean, if
Speaker 1: she wants to take off a year or I don't know,
Speaker 1: like maybe I just have to, Like I wouldn't be
Speaker 1: disappointed if she didn't, but I'm going to encourage her
Speaker 1: to continue to educate herself, right, don't just stop, because
Speaker 1: that's another thing. It's like it's like you either keep
Speaker 1: going or you're just done learning, right, right, And it's like,
Speaker 1: I think we can keep going and learning. It doesn't
Speaker 1: happen to be in the form of a university. But
Speaker 1: as long as we're keeping this going while you figure
Speaker 1: it out and then maybe come back to figuring out
Speaker 1: what you want to do, we're.
Speaker 4: Getting a job doing or like okay, start a.
Speaker 3: Bus experience, yeah, start a business. Then we are in
Speaker 3: the era of entrepreneurship.
Speaker 2: So I think that's that's where we're headed as a
Speaker 2: like a people.
Speaker 3: But also it's.
Speaker 2: It's kind of scary because I have like friends who
Speaker 2: have younger cousins who are like in their twenty early
Speaker 2: twenties and like they have like one friend that's like
Speaker 2: a makeup blogger and they're you know, and it's like
Speaker 2: almost a disillusion to like working hard and like the
Speaker 2: reality of.
Speaker 3: What successful is is.
Speaker 2: Where they think you could just take pretty pictures and
Speaker 2: then you're gonna make money. And I think that's also
Speaker 2: like that's what I fear about this generation, Like they're
Speaker 2: not really understanding like before there was this pressure to
Speaker 2: be successful in school and then go to college and
Speaker 2: like actually have some backing to whatever you're trying like direction,
Speaker 2: But now there's like this misunderstood.
Speaker 1: Well, you have culture, you had to have credibility in whatever, right,
Speaker 1: whatever your career path was. Gonna be your doctor, you
Speaker 1: better have gone to med school. Like you want to
Speaker 1: be a lawyer, you need to go to law school.
Speaker 1: You want to be in PR, you need to have
Speaker 1: gone to either marketing or PR to become an expert
Speaker 1: at that.
Speaker 4: Right. How do you become an expert at social meeting R? Right?
Speaker 2: And I'm just thinking, like, oh, well, I have X
Speaker 2: amount of followers, Oh I'm gonna go viral, And that's
Speaker 2: not realistic, I don't think so. I think it's like
Speaker 2: kinda also produces this like kind of can produce this delusional,
Speaker 2: annoying customer service person that I seem to always fucking
Speaker 2: get when I go.
Speaker 3: Out and I'm like, who trained you?
Speaker 4: What are you talking about?
Speaker 2: Like, I think the millennials, like, have you ever had
Speaker 2: customers Okay, well.
Speaker 3: I'm a elder millennial.
Speaker 4: An elder millennial.
Speaker 3: No, oh g oh, but I know you know what
Speaker 3: I'm talking about.
Speaker 2: Have you ever had like a really bad customer service
Speaker 2: experience with someone who's just not equipped to do customer
Speaker 2: service because they're just young and dumb and on their phone.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I'm like, who the fuck? Lets you get
Speaker 3: a job?
Speaker 2: And I'm glad do you have one? But like, I
Speaker 2: think that's kind of the culture that's created. So that's
Speaker 2: my only thing that feels weary about, like telling kids
Speaker 2: don't worry about going to college because now you just
Speaker 2: have I don't know, theresein be like really smart or
Speaker 2: really dumb.
Speaker 4: It's true because that do so do we answer her question?
Speaker 2: I think it's just about going within and not doing
Speaker 2: anything for anyone else and actually having a plan. I
Speaker 2: definitely think if you have a notion of what you
Speaker 2: want to do and you think it could be successful,
Speaker 2: then go that route because you don't want to waste
Speaker 2: time doing things that are not really I.
Speaker 1: Think you need to ask yourselves a few questions, like
Speaker 1: why why is it that you don't want to go
Speaker 1: to school? Is it because you want to focus on
Speaker 1: something else? Do you maybe are your interests different? Do
Speaker 1: you want to take a year off to travel and explore?
Speaker 1: Can you, you know, can you afford to do that?
Speaker 4: Like you know all these Can.
Speaker 3: You maybe go to school and study abroad and do that?
Speaker 1: Can you pick up a trade that will facilitate you know,
Speaker 1: you figuring out?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I think yeah, you be smart about it.
Speaker 1: Don't be brash, because honestly, college isn't going anywhere.
Speaker 4: You can always go back to school, babe.
Speaker 1: Excuse me, Okay, my daughter's crawling across the table and
Speaker 1: the camera.
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Speaker 2: So me and my new current boyfriend of three years
Speaker 2: first started talking initially as we knew so now remember initially,
Speaker 2: as we knew some of the same people, and he'd
Speaker 2: always tried to slide in the d what.
Speaker 1: So me and my now, oh they knew okay, they
Speaker 1: knew okay, they had mutual friends.
Speaker 3: He was sliding in the DMS.
Speaker 2: He isn't my usual type white loud, but we'd always
Speaker 2: send music back and forth, and his music history knowledge
Speaker 2: of every genre is fire, which is huge to me.
Speaker 3: So I agreed to meet him one day.
Speaker 2: Me too, So I agreed to meet him one day
Speaker 2: when I was at the beach and he was nearby.
Speaker 2: He smoked a few joints together, and he was honestly
Speaker 2: one of the funniest, non judgmental, very important, later most
Speaker 2: open minded, and kindest people I'd ever met. So I
Speaker 2: was open to us going on a proper date, which
Speaker 2: he kept suggesting throughout. Plus he was a really cool
Speaker 2: style and a super confident very important. So anyway, the
Speaker 2: day of the first proper date rolls around and we
Speaker 2: meet at this pub bar over the water on an
Speaker 2: early summer evening, and it was lovely. For some reason,
Speaker 2: when I drink sometimes I can't get on a level,
Speaker 2: so I either can't get drunk, or the same amount
Speaker 2: of drinks sends me under and I'm blackout drunk.
Speaker 3: So either she can't get drunk or she's blackout drunk.
Speaker 2: It's weird, though, because my blackout drunk doesn't always seem it,
Speaker 2: and my friends don't always pick up on it at first. Also,
Speaker 2: I could be really wild, which is obviously heightened by drinking.
Speaker 2: I think I suggest shots, and I'm drinking a lot.
Speaker 2: So when it comes to the time, the place is
Speaker 2: shedding around when I am, I suggest he comes back
Speaker 2: to mine. I was temporarily living at my parents and
Speaker 2: where my old school Jamaican grandma also lives. Okay, Also,
Speaker 2: he was really not sure in questioning my home situation,
Speaker 2: but I was very dismissive, and he was questioning it. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like why are we going to your house? Like any
Speaker 2: nigger should be. I was very dismissive and like, it's fine,
Speaker 2: come on. So he cautiously calls a cab, which we
Speaker 2: get into, and then suddenly I cannot remember my address
Speaker 2: at all or where I live, and we're both blackout
Speaker 2: drunk at this point, so we drive around for ages.
Speaker 2: I totally confuse. I'm totally confused, but the night had
Speaker 2: been amazing, so we're all over each other. I have
Speaker 2: no idea how, but we finally reached mine and go
Speaker 2: in the backway to the kitchen where my grandma likes
Speaker 2: to vibe with a little drink and watch most TV
Speaker 2: most evenings. She's super extrover and my parents, how in,
Speaker 2: my parents' house is a bit of a party house,
Speaker 2: as it's quite big, with me and my younger row
Speaker 2: historically always bringing friends back after a night out.
Speaker 3: My family.
Speaker 2: My fam are all super fun and chill, but my
Speaker 2: grandma's pretty suspicious but polite.
Speaker 3: About me and this guy quizzing us.
Speaker 2: But I'm playing it down a lot in my drink
Speaker 2: and dumbness, thinking I'm slick. Anyway, My now partner is
Speaker 2: silently like what the fuck, as I'd not really warned him,
Speaker 2: but I kept whispering and that it's cool, And after
Speaker 2: chatting with Grandma for a while, we sneak upstairs to
Speaker 2: go chill as my friend needs to stay.
Speaker 3: I'm twenty six at this point, these.
Speaker 4: Little gems partner twenty.
Speaker 2: Six anyway, I charge upstairs and starting out reggae, to
Speaker 2: which my stepdad, who has no idea what's happening show,
Speaker 2: shouts to turn the fuck off. This super guy's mortified
Speaker 2: at this point, but as cool as I thought I was,
Speaker 2: I reassure him that it's fine, turn the music down
Speaker 2: a bit, and literally take off all my clothes now
Speaker 2: as a personal assurance.
Speaker 3: I didn't shave before this date.
Speaker 2: And not being in a relationship for about a year,
Speaker 2: and also with it being the first few warm weeks
Speaker 2: of the year, it was wild down there. Another thing
Speaker 2: I was I saw no need to shave as I
Speaker 2: was heavily like day one on my period, so sex
Speaker 2: wasn't even on my mind for this date. Listen, I'm
Speaker 2: all for period sucks, but the way I just sprung
Speaker 2: myself and my wild bush on my period on the
Speaker 2: sky with no warning was just a lot. He was down, obviously,
Speaker 2: but after a few strokes, he's like, what the fuck,
Speaker 2: there's blood everywhere, and I'm just like, sh don't worry,
Speaker 2: don't worry about that. Have you have you never been
Speaker 2: with the real woman before?
Speaker 4: Oh god?
Speaker 3: She's like, oh my god, laugh all out girl, time
Speaker 3: of bitch. She said, what the fuck? I know?
Speaker 2: I really think I'm some natural earth Erica Badu Impress.
Speaker 2: That night, my attitude was like, you are lucky to
Speaker 2: be with this real woman who happens to be.
Speaker 3: On her period.
Speaker 4: Bitch.
Speaker 3: Alcohol.
Speaker 2: Anyway, He's pretty caught off guard, but I guess respects
Speaker 2: what I'm saying, and we continue to have.
Speaker 3: Sex and eventually fall asleep.
Speaker 2: The next God yes, the next day, he wakes up
Speaker 2: late for work as you I and I can only
Speaker 2: vaguely remember snippets of the night, each part absolutely crippling
Speaker 2: me to think about and not really wanting to know
Speaker 2: or think about my rampage. He's really sweet and cool
Speaker 2: and calls a cab, but promises to call me later.
Speaker 2: The way the shame was playing out in my head,
Speaker 2: I was just thinking this all needs to be put
Speaker 2: to the back of my mind and never brought up again.
Speaker 2: Annoying that it's with someone that I gel with is
Speaker 2: the shame, the blood I guess, just everything I gel
Speaker 2: it's so perfectly, but I genuinely can't face this when
Speaker 2: I'd been so cool and together around him all.
Speaker 3: The way up to that point.
Speaker 2: But of course I had my whole family to face
Speaker 2: up to, who had been waiting for me the next day.
Speaker 2: She's probably loud, I know, the way I had to
Speaker 2: apologize and play it all down.
Speaker 3: I wanted to die.
Speaker 2: I ignored his text too all day, but he just
Speaker 2: found it hilarious and cute and persisted with me till
Speaker 2: I stopped being proud and text him back. And now
Speaker 2: here we are for so long though he was not
Speaker 2: allowed to bring that night up. I forgot to mention
Speaker 2: when we wake up naive to the whole night. There
Speaker 2: is blood everywhere everywhere, as though there's been a massacre,
Speaker 2: as if waking up naked in bed together after a
Speaker 2: first date, trying to be polite and piece together that
Speaker 2: you know you were wild as you were wild at
Speaker 2: isn't already awkward enough in a normal situation.
Speaker 3: I just had to get out.
Speaker 4: Woful.
Speaker 1: Yeah, basically, it's like my lipstick story, but period blood.
Speaker 3: Everywhere with your grandma little brother.
Speaker 4: But her parents probably were used to that ship, right.
Speaker 4: I don't want to know. I don't I don't know.
Speaker 4: I don't want to hear how we have sex.
Speaker 3: I'm cool, I'm cool. Mortified.
Speaker 4: Yeah no, don't bring a niggas back to the house.
Speaker 4: I'm cool.
Speaker 1: Get your own house. Go get your own house. I
Speaker 1: don't like, I don't care what you do. Just don't
Speaker 1: do it here.
Speaker 4: Unless we're on a family vacation and they have no
Speaker 4: other choice.
Speaker 2: I mean, just keep it, keep it cute, keep it cute,
Speaker 2: just keep it.
Speaker 4: Keep the cute. Oh man, All right, well, thanks for
Speaker 4: tuning in.
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Speaker 6: Girls like that want to listen the pathoon use a
Speaker 6: college girl, but that'll stop you from doing. And come
Speaker 6: and see the dog get in the hood near you.
Speaker 6: You don't ask why world? What a crew win? Twist
Speaker 6: up my fingers and wear a dog door went on
Speaker 6: the east side.
Speaker 4: That's the wool.
Speaker 6: Watch you. Nothing I do with new to you. I
Speaker 6: smack up the water if they.
Speaker 5: Roll to you.
Speaker 6: This baby girl, you're so beautiful.