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Speaker 1: Now here's a highlight from Coast to Coast AM on

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Speaker 1: iHeart Radio and welcome back to Coast to Coast George

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Speaker 1: and Ory with you, Doctor John at d Martini with

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Speaker 1: us as we talk about reaching your full potential. Do

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Speaker 1: you find John that at this point more people are

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Speaker 1: depressed than ever before? Can you sense that? Well? I

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Speaker 1: believe that people. I always say depression is a comparison

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Speaker 1: of your current reality to an unrealistic expectation you're having,

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Speaker 1: or a fantasy or even a delusion in some cases

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Speaker 1: about how life's supposed to be. And as long as

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Speaker 1: people have expectations to live in other people's values, expectations

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Speaker 1: or one sided outcomes, expectations to achieve things that aren't

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Speaker 1: really meaningful to them, expectations to be like somebody that's

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Speaker 1: got a different set of values, they automatically are setting

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Speaker 1: themselves up for depression. And instead of just blaming a

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Speaker 1: biochemical imbalanced by your pharmaceutical companies, right, my advice is

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Speaker 1: to actually go in there and look at what you're

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Speaker 1: comparing your life too and find out if what you're

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Speaker 1: fantasy is it won't be the drawbacks to it, and

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Speaker 1: what's the benefit of what you got When you're grateful

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Speaker 1: for what you got and quick comparing it to fantasies

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Speaker 1: about what you don't have, your life is automatically changed

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Speaker 1: in its neurochemistry. And I do this every week with people,

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Speaker 1: and I watch this. Some people come in with clinical

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Speaker 1: diagnosis and biochemical imbalances, and they always want to dissociate

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Speaker 1: and cause something it's always outside them, instead of looking

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Speaker 1: deep inside of what's going on. And I'm a firm

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Speaker 1: believer that the reason why people are doing it is

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Speaker 1: because they're unrealistic in expectations in their life and they

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Speaker 1: don't admit it. They want to blame things, and they

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Speaker 1: don't like when I say that, But I put them

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Speaker 1: on the spot and I hold them accountable and to

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Speaker 1: make them answer the questions that I asked. It's dissolved

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Speaker 1: and then they go, wow, I had the power the

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Speaker 1: whole time. I want people to have their power back

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Speaker 1: instead of giving it a way to some pharmaceutical that

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Speaker 1: may cause science. You have your problems in the future. Absolutely,

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Speaker 1: some people can handle stress better than others. It's obvious.

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Speaker 1: And some people work better under stress and undertight conditions.

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Speaker 1: What creates that difference in somebody stress is the inability

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Speaker 1: to adapt to a changing environment. And there's two primary

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Speaker 1: stresses that we all face just too, and that is

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Speaker 1: the perception of loss of that which we seek and

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Speaker 1: the perception of gain of that which we're trend avoid.

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Speaker 1: And whenever we set goals and intentions or objectives that

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Speaker 1: are not truly aligned with what we value, because of

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Speaker 1: and frustrate. We end up having unfulfillment. We go into

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Speaker 1: our amiguo, which is a sub cortical area, and the

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Speaker 1: amiguo is a desire center, and there we want to

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Speaker 1: avoid a pain and seek a pleasure and avoid challenge

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Speaker 1: a prey. And that's when we set unrealistic fantasies and

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Speaker 1: end up ending up with suppressions. So stress is that

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Speaker 1: intibidy to adapt. But the second we set real objectives,

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Speaker 1: we take strategic actions toward them, we're more resilient and

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Speaker 1: more adaptable, and we have use stress, not distress. And

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Speaker 1: then we automatically build our immune system and literally empower

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Speaker 1: ourselves by living by priority. If we don't fill our

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Speaker 1: day with high priority actions that inspire us, our day

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Speaker 1: when we build even more vulnerability to the distractions of stress.

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Speaker 1: And stress is not anything but our perceptions. Change our

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Speaker 1: perceptions and bounce them out. We dissolve discrats. I do

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Speaker 1: it every week with people in my breaks experience. I've

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Speaker 1: nightmare or the other. John, What do you call your

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Speaker 1: clients some patients? Is that fair? No? I don't practice

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Speaker 1: your career the most bizarre case you've ever seen or

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Speaker 1: with a television crew, dissolving the experience. She hadn't been

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Speaker 1: She's transformed her life. And it's because she asked a

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Speaker 1: new set of questions. I always say, there's nothing the

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Speaker 1: mortal body can experience, the immortal soul can't love. And

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Speaker 1: then if people go, what how can you love something

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Speaker 1: to it's your perception, decisions and actions that make the difference.

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Speaker 1: If we blame things on the outside, we don't empower

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Speaker 1: ourselves in the inside. We got to realize that we

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Speaker 1: have command. As William James said that the father of

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Speaker 1: midern psychology the greatest discovery of his generations. The human

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Speaker 1: beings can alter their lives by alter your perceptions and

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Speaker 1: attitudes of mind. If we ask new questions, we see

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Speaker 1: things from a different light. We change our perceptions, we

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Speaker 1: change our feelings. In neuro chemistry, and then we use

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Speaker 1: fuel ourselves instead of baggage ourselves. What is neuroplasticity neuroplasticity.

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Speaker 1: have neurogenesis and growing a new neurons. But around the

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Speaker 1: late eighties or so, all of a sudden, neurogenesis was

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Speaker 1: discovered and we now realize that the brain is recycling itself,

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Speaker 1: and if we don't use the brain, it's like a hustle.

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Speaker 1: Areas of the brain undergo what they call microglial absorption,

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Speaker 1: and we basically eat them, and we have a clastic

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Speaker 1: detectivity neurogenesis, where we're actually building the neurons when we

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Speaker 1: use them. And what's interesting is whenever we're doing something

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Speaker 1: that inspires us, that challenges us, challenges that inspire us,

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Speaker 1: maximizes neurochemistry, maximizes neurogenesis, and maximize brain function, and we

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Speaker 1: neurologic been demonstrated over and over again. Even people with

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Speaker 1: we want to keep our brains active, alive and feed

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Speaker 1: This is something I've always believed John, that if you retire,

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Speaker 1: It's if you fill your day with very meaningful and

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Speaker 1: So people who are doing what they love, they don't

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Speaker 1: So that's why our grandparents come up to us and say, honey,

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Speaker 1: It keeps that brain active. Has technology helped us social media? Smartphones?

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Speaker 1: Does that keep the brain occupied? You know? I don't

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Speaker 1: can it can actually interfere with what you're up to.

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Speaker 1: So it's not the technology, it's neutral, it's how we

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Speaker 1: use it. Tell me what you mean by they breakthrough experience.

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Speaker 1: The break experience is a program that I've been doing

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Speaker 1: what Paul Bragg did for me when I was seventeen

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