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Speaker 1: What's up, Y'all's your girl Les Pete And it's Sugarl

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Speaker 1: Dre and the Cold and you are tuned in to

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Speaker 1: another episode of.

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Speaker 2: Poor Minds Drunk Mine Speaks.

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Speaker 3: So we got some guests today. We got some guests today.

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Speaker 1: A okay, we got a new song?

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Speaker 4: Is that the new song? That's That's what I did

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Speaker 4: that for like the last three episodes. So this is

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Speaker 4: that our l a song? Or is that like our

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Speaker 4: new officials?

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Speaker 3: I don't know we're gonna see girls that until we

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Speaker 3: got out here knows Anyways, Okay, y'all, I am so

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Speaker 3: excited about the guests that we have today because we

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Speaker 3: have been trying to make this happen for so long,

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Speaker 3: and when I tell y'all this is gonna be a

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Speaker 3: good episode, we can already.

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Speaker 5: So I'm gonna let y'all.

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Speaker 3: Do y'all own introduction because I want to make sure

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Speaker 3: we get it right.

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Speaker 5: Well.

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Speaker 6: To hear more standing comedian actor and I am Faring

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Speaker 6: Moore podcaster saying we have a podcast called More to

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Speaker 6: the Story and a small Lady.

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Speaker 1: Introd. I can't wait till a nigga introduced me like this, Harry.

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Speaker 7: Is I'm gonna be like, Indo, right right, say nothing.

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Speaker 1: I can smile, like, so let me say this. Okay.

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Speaker 3: So we came out here and we shot a sitcom

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Speaker 3: or a show with keV on Today's Church. Shout out

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Speaker 3: to keV for having us. Okay, So this is the

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Speaker 3: first time I really saw you in action.

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Speaker 1: You got crazy.

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Speaker 3: When I tell y'all, I was like, they about to

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Speaker 3: kick us off the set because I could not stop laughing.

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Speaker 1: I said, this nigga crazy and saks literally a.

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Speaker 3: Fucking character when I tell you, expecting that because I thought,

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Speaker 3: you know, you were just gonna go up and you

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Speaker 3: know do I said, oh, this nigga food.

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Speaker 1: It was wild.

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Speaker 5: I go intil they tell me to pull back.

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Speaker 6: That's my whole I always and I kind of sat

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Speaker 6: basing this off of Martin. I've done a lot of

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Speaker 6: work with this guy named Biley Kyle Lepans who he

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Speaker 6: produced Martin. He produced James Fox Show and stuff like that,

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Speaker 6: and so I worked with him a lot.

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Speaker 5: And one of my homeboys over on that team and

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Speaker 5: he was like, YO, didnt tell you to pull back?

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Speaker 5: I was like, nah, He's like, you ain't go hard enough.

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Speaker 6: My think is like he saw Martin by a church

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Speaker 6: put on one of the episode, like, yeah, he bat

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Speaker 6: the church with on one of the episodes, like so

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Speaker 6: all the crazy stuff that they did, that somebody having

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Speaker 6: a baby.

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Speaker 7: He was acting like his mom and that, yeah, and

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Speaker 7: he caught the baby and he's running around the baby.

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Speaker 5: The baby ain't got in a biblical cord and the

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Speaker 5: rat and so it's like.

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Speaker 6: Yo, if Martin could do all of this, and they

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Speaker 6: catch up on camera and they don't, Like so now

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Speaker 6: I'm always going to the top. I'm gonna go to

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Speaker 6: the fucking ceiling until they tell me to scale it

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Speaker 6: back every time because you don't know where that goes

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Speaker 6: gonna be.

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Speaker 5: So I'm gonna go crazy.

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Speaker 1: That's a that's a good.

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Speaker 3: Home big because you know what, I'd rather do too

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Speaker 3: much than I had one line.

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Speaker 6: For one line, I'm supposed to say he's dead and

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Speaker 6: then go off. But I was like, no, bro, like

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Speaker 6: I want to be memorable when every thing.

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Speaker 1: That man talk.

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Speaker 2: About, Yeah, can we please just stick to the line?

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Speaker 6: No insecure on Insecure because I went big on my

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Speaker 6: auditional insecure. I was here right and then they kept

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Speaker 6: telling me to pull it back, pull it back, pull

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Speaker 6: on the first time to the point where they was like,

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Speaker 6: could you just read what the script hats? I was like, okay, cool, Brooklyn.

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Speaker 6: Now they let me go crazy. Girlfriend, they let me

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Speaker 6: go crazy. Just told me to pull it back. So

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Speaker 6: but I'm always gonna go here.

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Speaker 5: It's kind of like that whole you ask for.

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Speaker 6: Forgiveness in stead of permission, Like I'm want to do it,

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Speaker 6: and that's just.

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Speaker 1: Breaking. I fear you though, because I say the same thing.

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Speaker 1: I'll be like, it's it's easier to forgiveness.

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Speaker 4: She was, I told her, And I still really want

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because you know that.

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Speaker 7: Because I was pretty sure somebody was eventually going to

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Speaker 7: complain about me smoking on our patty.

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Speaker 1: I was like, I know it's coming. I know it's coming.

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Speaker 7: A year a little over a year in, I get

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Speaker 7: a complaint about them smelling weed and it comes directly

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Speaker 7: to us, an email directly to us, and.

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Speaker 1: So I'm like, it's me. I don't know.

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Speaker 7: I was like, it's against the community guidelines. I was like, oh,

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Speaker 5: It was like just stop fo Suddenly, now this nigga

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Speaker 6: Garage and smokes in the front of her car, so

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Speaker 6: specific the front of my tesla.

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Speaker 5: Okay, it's not a lot of house, it's not a

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Speaker 5: that tax bracket. We don't know what I'm not.

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Speaker 1: In the front. It's just storage space. They just call

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Speaker 1: it the front certain worse people. Yeah, it's certain words

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Speaker 1: people say when you're in a certain tex We're.

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Speaker 5: Gonna talk about it.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you something.

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Speaker 5: These niggas standing in the same hotel. They drove to

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Speaker 5: two different SUVs. I was like, oh, they get money.

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Speaker 5: Wait until the nigga got out and open their doors.

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Speaker 6: I was like, this, ain't this this this is this

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Speaker 6: is different cars, but talking to each other on the

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Speaker 1: How far as the son, Well, let me just say this,

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Speaker 1: we are loving and I know that.

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Speaker 3: Keep seeing like the different backgrounds of different We're at

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Speaker 3: Camon Stage Studio.

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Speaker 1: This is nice, Like.

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Speaker 3: This is a beautiful studio and like I said, I

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Speaker 3: just want to give you your flowers and y'all together,

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Speaker 3: y'all are like, because you just did their show right

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Speaker 3: and it was really fucking amazing.

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Speaker 1: So make sure y'all go check that out. But I

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Speaker 3: You don't meet a lot of married couples that you

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Speaker 3: feel like are really one hundred percent comfortable and can

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Speaker 3: do stuff like this with each other because a lot

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Speaker 3: of people feel like, oh, I have to hold back

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Speaker 4: So the fact that you'd be like, yeah, it turned

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Speaker 4: you get that my ideal married I get married, Like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that was one of the main things I told him.

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Speaker 7: I was like, I love that I don't have to

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Speaker 7: explain my jokes to you, like we just get each

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Speaker 5: And I was a curmudgeon.

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Speaker 6: I was the one that's like old Bell chance to

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Speaker 6: be like this, and that was a lot of our

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Speaker 6: That's my predetermined idea of what the perception and what

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Speaker 5: But there is number one size fits off a marriage.

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Speaker 7: Man.

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Speaker 5: I just have to give her money and just let

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Speaker 3: So we have a saying that we say on the

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Speaker 3: show is called a BDB. So it's a big dig baller.

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Speaker 3: So is he giving BDB energy?

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Speaker 7: Oh yeah, there's no hesitation.

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Speaker 1: I tell you about my front. Giving BDB was all

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Speaker 3: And the and the month, like all him where I

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Speaker 1: We're both from Saint Louis. Okay, So when did y'all

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Speaker 1: come to LA.

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Speaker 5: I came out in October third, two thousand and nine. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: I'm living out here for a second doing some work

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Speaker 5: So I was missing her. I went back, looked for

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Speaker 1: I was like, how did you all meet?

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Speaker 7: Oh? We met in college back in Saint Louis.

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Speaker 5: The bus he.

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Speaker 1: Always telling people that I asked for change for the bus.

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Speaker 5: I was like, what you say, I get you.

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Speaker 1: I had a bunk full of bus tickets. I was good,

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Speaker 5: I was good.

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Speaker 1: I didn't need your little change.

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Speaker 5: She's right, She's right. I can't know that I'm gonna

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Speaker 5: We met in college and uh and uh.

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Speaker 6: We kicked it off and we've been really walking ever

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Speaker 1: This time he came back.

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Speaker 7: I was like, look, we're not about to do this

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Speaker 5: But she moved out playing games. I knew how big.

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Speaker 6: Her family was, or her her family was, her friends,

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Speaker 6: She had no friends. So when she moved out here

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Speaker 6: to support me, a person that chases the dream that

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Speaker 6: has no blue friends, there's no guaranteed way to be

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Speaker 5: Nothing's guaranteed in the chips.

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Speaker 6: But she left her family, her support system, her life

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Speaker 6: for us to come out here and chase a dream.

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Speaker 6: I was like, I'm not making a girlfriend out of it.

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Speaker 6: I'm gonna make a wife. That's my wife moved so.

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Speaker 5: She moved out here June sixth.

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Speaker 6: Second, June second, I went back to we've been back

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Speaker 6: to Saint Louis from my high school reunion. I proposed

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Speaker 6: July twenty seventh. We got married more seventeenth. There's no

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Speaker 3: So I'm glad that you said that, because we talk

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Speaker 3: about people that get engaged. Y'all be engaged for fourteen years.

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Speaker 4: When a man now, he now like, it's not gonna

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Speaker 4: be a long, lengthy engage, right, But a lot of.

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Speaker 6: Guys are scared of like one pussy for the rest

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Speaker 6: of your life. Nigga, that sound that's yourself. That just

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Speaker 6: sounds weird as fun. But the reality is like, even

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Speaker 6: when we got married, I was like, man, we fucked

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Speaker 6: every kind of way. I don't know how you don't

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Speaker 6: keep this interesting, but you will find a way. If

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Speaker 6: you want to make it work, you will find a way.

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Speaker 6: Because I don't. I don't think we have what most

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Speaker 6: people will call a traditional marriage.

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Speaker 5: We don't.

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Speaker 6: But we have fun. We laugh every fucking day. We

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Speaker 6: try and new stuff. We do toys, we go on trips.

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Speaker 3: We likeout the kids, the party with them and you

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Speaker 3: ask you where they aren't.

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Speaker 6: Don't probably fucking on somebody's bed, disrespect missing. Just let

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Speaker 3: Because I know, like our body type here, Like it's

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Speaker 5: Literally when we oh my god, horrors.

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Speaker 4: Staying to me is like when you have sex with

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Speaker 6: I got to get to know you before I can

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Speaker 5: Like I like, we we don't.

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Speaker 6: It was a shower. It was in a shower, playing

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Speaker 5: I was whole.

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Speaker 6: Only thing missing was a German Shepherd bargain at her

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Speaker 5: I was wrong. Fire make it racism. You made it racism,

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Speaker 3: What's she drinking because you know she would have had

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Speaker 6: I don't know why your niggas Drinknessee Hennessey is not

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Speaker 5: And it's not good. You know it's not good. Get

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Speaker 6: Get wiggedly at the end, you be pushing rope. I

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Speaker 5: and then we all let you all go back to

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna let you.

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Speaker 5: I forgot. I took, I forgot.

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Speaker 6: I took a blue you. This is on my birthday week.

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Speaker 6: to took a blue choo and the accidentally took two

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Speaker 6: I know they got that show. Okay, they shown it

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Speaker 7: This weeken, I feel like we're gonna end up seeing

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Speaker 6: So that was that night. The next morning, we clean

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Speaker 5: And I was like, let me, let me just rub

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Speaker 2: Yes, ain't in the same room, but I think I'm

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Speaker 1: This song.

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Speaker 5: Not before nothing before now Listen.

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Speaker 6: I pulled up, I went, I went to some of

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Speaker 1: Up bank bank. Oh yeah, yeah, I said, and flipped

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Speaker 6: So so we rubbed one out and then right, but nia,

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Speaker 1: Two three of them, three of them.

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Speaker 6: It took three of them, and then the dicks still

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Speaker 5: Listen, it was so vainy it was. I didn't want

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Speaker 1: I thought when you went to though, and I woke up.

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Speaker 7: remember you already.

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Speaker 1: Pink heaps coming.

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Speaker 7: Brownies, brownies, cookies and pies, cookies and the mother listen

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Speaker 7: Plant based, and then the brownies to have a limited

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Speaker 7: edition women's brownie he called the juiceified Tree.

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Speaker 1: I like that.

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Speaker 7: You take half of one and you should be good

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Speaker 1: Listen, and that ship a strawberry interest last.

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Speaker 5: She's like, oh and I already know.

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Speaker 1: I feel like Drea has robbed one out at a

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Speaker 4: I have, Yeah, I've rubbed one out in the parking

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I drove straight through from Saint Louis. Was such

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Speaker 5: When I'm out.

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Speaker 6: When I got sleepy, I would rub one out, pull

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Speaker 5: I know everybody like you should be sleepy after day.

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Speaker 1: I was ready for so after I rubbed one out,

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Speaker 5: I don't.

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495
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Speaker 6: I've had sex with white women, have sex with Mexican

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Speaker 6: I love black women, though I'm I'm always letting.

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Speaker 5: Go on black.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it is what it is like, So, I mean

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Speaker 5: In the first one, but that the second one though.

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Speaker 1: I was looking at.

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Speaker 5: But the ten yere though, wait till I see the

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Speaker 5: ten years that I have to start work.

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Speaker 7: Fire.

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Speaker 6: Nigga's gonna be like Nigga off a podcast. That's how

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Speaker 6: you're doing it.

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Speaker 1: Yep, because people don't know. They don't how we love

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Speaker 1: y'all marriage.

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Speaker 4: It seems like like we always hear that marriage is

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Speaker 4: so hard, but y'all make it look easy. I'm not

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Speaker 4: saying that it probably easy, but y'all make it look really easy.

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Speaker 4: So we wanted to talk about, like why do people

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Speaker 4: say marriage is so hard?

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Speaker 1: Like what makes marriage hard?

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Speaker 7: The not being able shut up, not being able to

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Speaker 7: be selfish people are you're very much in tune to

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Speaker 7: you and your world and how you feel and all

519
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Speaker 7: of that.

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Speaker 1: And when you realize that you have.

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Speaker 7: To consider somebody else's everything, Yes, then yes that is

522
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Speaker 7: hard because that is a daily all the time I'm

523
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Speaker 7: making this decision to actively consider this person, and that

524
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Speaker 7: it can be hard, it can be draining. It's a lot,

525
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Speaker 7: especially for that hard transition. So it's like, I mean,

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Speaker 7: because even though we had known each other as long

527
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Speaker 7: as we have, we still didn't know how to be

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Speaker 7: a couple, to be friends who.

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Speaker 1: A couple.

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Speaker 7: I had lived with one man and I was living

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Speaker 7: with him purely out of guilt. That's a story for

532
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Speaker 7: another day. And it was just a mess. Like I

533
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Speaker 7: wasn't happy the whole time. I cheated on him, the entire.

534
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Speaker 5: Mood, I'm a cheating queenbody.

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Speaker 7: Out And I learned so much about myself, what I

536
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Speaker 7: did and did not wanted the relationship, what I was

537
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Speaker 7: capable of, what I would be willing to to at

538
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Speaker 7: least consider changing or discussing with the right person. I

539
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Speaker 7: just realized that person wasn't like I don't care enough

540
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Speaker 7: about this, I'm not changing anything.

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Speaker 1: And once I realized that was my mindset, I was like,

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Speaker 1: I'm not happy, I'm out.

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Speaker 7: It just for all of our time together, we just uh,

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Speaker 7: I mean, just it was brand new. We our first

545
00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:30,639
Speaker 7: time actually been the relationship was when I moved in,

546
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Speaker 7: and so it.

547
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Speaker 5: Was all very it was a good fucking but we.

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Speaker 7: Was just it was like drastic always and I'm moving

549
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Speaker 7: across the country, so once I was here, wasn't no

550
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Speaker 7: quick going back.

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Speaker 1: We see this thing through and I.

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Speaker 6: Always said enough money to send it back and be

553
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Speaker 6: able to mention she no, no.

554
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Speaker 1: Really didn't work. Never even told me this.

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Speaker 6: I always had five ths all a saved up, so

556
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Speaker 6: I will make sure she was able to get if

557
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Speaker 6: she was if she hit the fan.

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Speaker 5: I didn't want her to feel trapped off the Yeah,

559
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Speaker 5: so I had.

560
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Speaker 6: Enough money for her to get back, make sure she

561
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Speaker 6: had first and last month, and put down on the car.

562
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Speaker 1: Energy if if it's something happened.

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Speaker 7: Always, even when he didn't have the actual money, he

564
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Speaker 7: has always given the energy to me when I when

565
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Speaker 7: I hear stories of how he was doing other pictures,

566
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Speaker 7: it's like, oh, sorry, girl, that was not my truth.

567
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry for that girl.

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Speaker 5: I did not.

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Speaker 6: That's but I really feel like the top three reasons

570
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:50,800
Speaker 6: that relationship and marriages fail are sex, communication and finances.

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Speaker 5: And we've always had pretty good communication.

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Speaker 6: I will say because I am a pleaser, especially to

573
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Speaker 6: my partner, I would tiptoe around certain things. So when

574
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Speaker 6: I told y'all on our episode that I had just

575
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Speaker 6: found out what kinks she likes and stuff like that

576
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Speaker 6: is because I didn't.

577
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Speaker 5: Feel she was strong enough to handle the.

578
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Speaker 6: Ship that I like, which is crazy because women are

579
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Speaker 6: so much stronger than us. Literally almost died every month

580
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Speaker 6: everything every month, they almost died.

581
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Speaker 5: I'll be real, I'm a piston. I'm a love right,

582
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Speaker 5: so I can't.

583
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Speaker 6: Fuck somebody for too long because if we spend so

584
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Speaker 6: much side together, I'm in the likeness pitch right, so

585
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Speaker 6: far can fuck them and leave them, like.

586
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Speaker 5: She can fuck them and anything.

587
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Speaker 6: And she cut She an ariage, so she's very direct,

588
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:37,240
Speaker 6: very gold oriented, a point oriented.

589
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 5: So she was like, I'm here for dick and then

590
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Speaker 5: I'm out.

591
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:42,320
Speaker 6: Meanwhile, I'm like, hey, you want to say I'm the

592
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Speaker 6: person that like I no, no, but I do sweet

593
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Speaker 6: nothings Like I'm like, I get the time.

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Speaker 1: What are the times?

595
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:51,400
Speaker 7: Like we were just friends who fucked and I you know,

596
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 7: it was like, oh, I got just enough time to

597
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:55,040
Speaker 7: stop buy fuck him to go to work and I

598
00:28:55,080 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 7: went to his house and this motherfucker's playing on his

599
00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 7: computer trying to figure out a playlist, and I'm just like,

600
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Speaker 7: are you what are you doing all right?

601
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Speaker 1: I'm gone no no, no, by and.

602
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Speaker 3: I like to many to fucking go.

603
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Speaker 1: I'm on limited times.

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Speaker 5: I don't know, I don't know. I'm trying to set

605
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Speaker 5: the mood.

606
00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:16,680
Speaker 6: I always like because because she I knew she was,

607
00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:18,280
Speaker 6: I didn't look at her as the other people I

608
00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:20,479
Speaker 6: was fucking with, So I wanted to make sure everything

609
00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:24,080
Speaker 6: was right for her, especially making experience and ship like.

610
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Speaker 3: That, like you know, y'all feel like the conference, like

611
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Speaker 3: because every relationship takes compromise, So y'all felt like the

612
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Speaker 3: things that you had to compromise for, the things that

613
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Speaker 3: you had to compromise for, like.

614
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Speaker 7: It was doable, yes, and it evolved over time, so yes,

615
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Speaker 7: we had to say early on, I'm gonna use food

616
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Speaker 7: like Okay, I can't have milk in the house because

617
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Speaker 7: he's lac to or any day in house because he's

618
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Speaker 7: lactase and tolerant. But then it transitions into I can

619
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Speaker 7: have these things now he understands that I can consume

620
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Speaker 7: these things he can, and so it like it changes

621
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Speaker 7: at first, I'm okay cutting this out, but the more

622
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Speaker 7: comfortable we get with each other's true, then it's like, okay,

623
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Speaker 7: this this is I get this now, I feel secure

624
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Speaker 7: in us and I understand why you need this.

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Speaker 5: And what she's talking about his bedroom orioles, Ladies, gentlemen,

626
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Speaker 5: I was.

627
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Speaker 1: Talking about that hotel stays away.

628
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Speaker 5: Oh okay, okay.

629
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Speaker 6: So what I'm talking about is that the fan would go, well,

630
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Speaker 6: we don't go shopping. She places a grocery order and

631
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Speaker 6: she'll buy cookies for the house, and then she buys

632
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Speaker 6: cookies for herself, and he's staying in her night draw.

633
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Speaker 5: And he's a bedroom. Like I said, these are bedroom orioles.

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Speaker 6: That's that's what she was talking What I was talking about,

635
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Speaker 6: what she was talking about oreoles.

636
00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:49,320
Speaker 7: I'm talking about how like, because he had always been

637
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Speaker 7: so focused on his own survival and everything, especially with

638
00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:57,400
Speaker 7: his upbringing, he didn't know how to cohabitate right, And

639
00:30:57,480 --> 00:31:02,120
Speaker 7: so I moved in with him with a head after

640
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 7: he's been single and living like with the male roommate,

641
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 7: so basically.

642
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:09,720
Speaker 1: By himself and so and before that he was.

643
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Speaker 7: When we met, he was living by himself, and so

644
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 7: it was just all this, all I have to worry

645
00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 7: about is me to now got all all I have

646
00:31:17,160 --> 00:31:18,480
Speaker 7: to worry about is us three.

647
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 1: And it was just a hard transition.

648
00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:25,320
Speaker 7: Yes, So it took took me a while to understand

649
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 7: that sometimes he needed time away. And so that was

650
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 7: a battle for us because it's like, you signed up

651
00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:32,760
Speaker 7: for this, so you better buckle up and set the

652
00:31:32,800 --> 00:31:33,240
Speaker 7: fuck down.

653
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 1: But it's also like, ah, I get it.

654
00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:39,920
Speaker 7: You need to to disconnect for a second because home

655
00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 7: can be overwhelming.

656
00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:41,959
Speaker 5: Now I'm also a loner.

657
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 6: I'm also alone of like when I'm processing stuff, I

658
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:48,080
Speaker 6: have to be alone. Like my wife is very hell

659
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:50,240
Speaker 6: love language is one of her long love languages is

660
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 6: physical touch, to my bag, all that type of stuff,

661
00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 6: And when she's in a room or even in the house,

662
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:02,400
Speaker 6: I feel compelled to give her the attention that she

663
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 6: needs me. So you love somebody the way they need

664
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 6: to be loved.

665
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:09,479
Speaker 7: Because I wired a lot about it. So that's what

666
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 7: made you also feel obligated.

667
00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 6: So like during a pandemic, because we're all in this house,

668
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:17,800
Speaker 6: it was like it was just fucking brilliant, and so

669
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 6: we had to I.

670
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 5: Just tell them, like, hey, I need some time by myself.

671
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:24,480
Speaker 6: So one weekend I will go check into a hotel

672
00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 6: full weekend and then we'll be together for a week.

673
00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:28,640
Speaker 5: And then the next weekend, I will send.

674
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 6: Her to a hotel by herself so she can have

675
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 6: time to rest on wine.

676
00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:34,280
Speaker 5: And now she's the type of like, for my weekend,

677
00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 5: I want you to come with me.

678
00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 6: I'm like, motherfucker, this is supposed to be your time.

679
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:42,640
Speaker 7: But yes, and not just that, it was also because

680
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 7: we were trapped in the house, like with the kids,

681
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:48,840
Speaker 7: with the kid and everything. We didn't even get any

682
00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 7: alone time. So it was like, I'm willing to sacrifice

683
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:57,520
Speaker 7: my weekend for us, you know, And then exactly and

684
00:32:57,560 --> 00:32:59,800
Speaker 7: then the next month, I'll take my weekend because we're

685
00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 7: going for.

686
00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:07,440
Speaker 1: The nasty time, right mister, listen kid is almost out

687
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 1: on those weekends. About bagh.

688
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 6: Listen, listen listen. We we and we talked about this

689
00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 6: on my podcast. We went through a slump where sex

690
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:21,480
Speaker 6: was hard for us, and it was because of me and.

691
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 5: Because of presis.

692
00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 6: Like at one point it took her a very long

693
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:27,880
Speaker 6: time to orgasm, like forty five minutes to hour fifteen.

694
00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:29,719
Speaker 5: And initially I was like, I'm up for the challenge.

695
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:31,560
Speaker 6: Like we first got back together, we fucking fucking I

696
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 6: don't give a funk hour. I got an hour in me, Okay,

697
00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:36,640
Speaker 6: I drink some water and control my breather a fucking

698
00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:38,440
Speaker 6: fucking for an hour.

699
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:41,200
Speaker 5: Yeah you know what, I'm yeah, seriously, seriously because my

700
00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:42,240
Speaker 5: asthma will flere up.

701
00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 6: But I'm I'm oh yeah, yah, yeah yeah, and I'm

702
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:47,160
Speaker 6: hitting this from back and I have to hit.

703
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 1: My look back.

704
00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 6: It's like you, okay, but shut the fuck up and

705
00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:52,000
Speaker 6: turn around and take this dinner so.

706
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:55,120
Speaker 1: Doll like you're still in there and ship.

707
00:33:55,880 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 6: Then fucking for hour became like a chore, like taking

708
00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:03,000
Speaker 6: out the dress. It was like that, I don't feel

709
00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:05,440
Speaker 6: like taking out the dress for hour, and that just it.

710
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:10,320
Speaker 6: It expanded and so like we went through like three years.

711
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:15,080
Speaker 6: It was like of us not having sex regularly. I

712
00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:17,680
Speaker 6: mean I think, no, we.

713
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 7: Went like three months without before, but we were only

714
00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:24,880
Speaker 7: like a good month we had sex twice.

715
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, it was. It was.

716
00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:29,359
Speaker 6: It was a very and it's a very difficult thing

717
00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:31,640
Speaker 6: as a male to be in that position because your

718
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:33,719
Speaker 6: wife wants you had all these comics talking and my

719
00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:34,560
Speaker 6: wife won't give me none.

720
00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 5: My wife won't give me nothing.

721
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 6: And it's awkward because sometimes she'd be at the show

722
00:34:37,080 --> 00:34:39,480
Speaker 6: when the motherfucker's doing this joke and she just folds

723
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:39,879
Speaker 6: her arms.

724
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:40,239
Speaker 5: She was like.

725
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 1: Him, like she is you, And that's a hard thing to.

726
00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 5: Do because one of your ego right, like you know.

727
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 6: Because I was still attracted to her, and I'll be

728
00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:54,359
Speaker 6: attracted to other women, and I could still jack off

729
00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:58,200
Speaker 6: a porn But I had subconsciously built this wall up

730
00:34:58,400 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 6: around sex for us, because I had looked at it

731
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:02,560
Speaker 6: as a chore and it was so hard to do

732
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:05,600
Speaker 6: it, and I all dinners like, well, damn, are we gonna

733
00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:05,920
Speaker 6: make it?

734
00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 5: Can?

735
00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:09,520
Speaker 6: Can somebody be married their whole life and still be

736
00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 6: attracted sexually to this person? And all of these these

737
00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:14,759
Speaker 6: these thoughts of doubts sorted to cloud my mind. And

738
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 6: it wasn't a tool like we we we try a

739
00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:20,320
Speaker 6: lot of different things, role playing, all this type of stuff.

740
00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:23,120
Speaker 6: But our best sex life has been in the last

741
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:25,760
Speaker 6: two years. And it's because we had a very difficult

742
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:29,360
Speaker 6: conversation when we were drunk and off someome ship and

743
00:35:29,440 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 6: we were just completely transparent, because that's one of the

744
00:35:32,040 --> 00:35:35,320
Speaker 6: hardest things about being married, telling you all your truths,

745
00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 6: Like she knows a lot of shit. I'm talking about

746
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 6: lot of shit, Like we can't ever get divorced because

747
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:43,920
Speaker 6: this nigga knows what bodies are like, so and that like,

748
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:50,719
Speaker 6: I'm like, seriously, so I can tell I can tell

749
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:52,760
Speaker 6: her that type of ship because I'm not that person

750
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:54,400
Speaker 6: no more, but the person the ship that I was

751
00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:57,400
Speaker 6: going through was so new and so perplexing to me.

752
00:35:57,400 --> 00:35:59,000
Speaker 6: But it's like, why can't I fuck my wife? I

753
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:00,279
Speaker 6: can't sexually please my wife?

754
00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:00,720
Speaker 1: Nigga?

755
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:04,279
Speaker 6: It was it was debilitating to me to be able

756
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:07,319
Speaker 6: to be at that place, and so like where we

757
00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 6: are now is so fucking beautiful because one for a

758
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 6: long time. So we got out of the place and

759
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 6: about a year after, like anytime I was tired, I

760
00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:19,880
Speaker 6: didn't feel like I was afraid to say that because

761
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 6: I didn't want feel going back to that place because

762
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:27,239
Speaker 6: doing that three year stent, she felt rejected.

763
00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:31,520
Speaker 3: Right, I mean that as a woman because we feel like, oh, nigga,

764
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:34,720
Speaker 3: so I feel like, so you feel like as a woman,

765
00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:36,880
Speaker 3: if my man is mad at me, he hates me,

766
00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:38,279
Speaker 3: he don't like the food, I couldn't at least he

767
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 3: don't want to fuck me, right, so you were probably

768
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:43,880
Speaker 3: feeling like he don't love me, because that's what into

769
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 3: your lives.

770
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:47,560
Speaker 7: We had that conversation, I was like, I realized, like,

771
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:51,560
Speaker 7: even down to my level of confidence is tied, and

772
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:56,279
Speaker 7: so whether or not you feel unable right exactly, So

773
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:59,160
Speaker 7: I was like, and then saying that out loud made

774
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:01,680
Speaker 7: me realize that was a the issue and I shouldn't

775
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:05,160
Speaker 7: put that on him, right, But still at the core

776
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 7: of it, it was like, we but we should still

777
00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 7: be fucking right, Like, you know, so I'm gonna deal

778
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:13,399
Speaker 7: with me and my ship, but we should still be yeah, I.

779
00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:15,120
Speaker 4: Mean, And then as a woman too, I feel like

780
00:37:15,320 --> 00:37:19,480
Speaker 4: it just brings so many different ideas.

781
00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:21,799
Speaker 1: Cheating another beach, like why you don't want to fuck me?

782
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 1: So you're plotting the lead? Because don't plot do it?

783
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:27,680
Speaker 3: Like I feel like that y'all have, And I've been

784
00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:31,600
Speaker 3: like noticing is because I'm in a situation right now

785
00:37:31,640 --> 00:37:33,400
Speaker 3: with somebody I've been dealing with for a long time,

786
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 3: and I joke about our relationship a lot because it

787
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:38,719
Speaker 3: is a fucking mess. But I will say we have

788
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,600
Speaker 3: tried to we're taking a turn in our relationship and

789
00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:42,640
Speaker 3: we're really trying.

790
00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 1: So the thing that we.

791
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:46,879
Speaker 3: Talked about is like we have to love each other

792
00:37:46,960 --> 00:37:50,000
Speaker 3: through the bad time, like when you fucking pissed me off,

793
00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:52,319
Speaker 3: I still have to love you, and we had a

794
00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 3: conversation about that. So I feel like that's what y'all

795
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:57,799
Speaker 3: have learned how to do, Like even when we're at

796
00:37:57,800 --> 00:38:00,279
Speaker 3: the lowest point, I'm still gonna love you and I'm

797
00:38:00,320 --> 00:38:01,440
Speaker 3: still gonna be here.

798
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:05,080
Speaker 7: And we I've actually shared that with my sister when

799
00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:08,000
Speaker 7: she was going through things between her and her husband.

800
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:10,520
Speaker 7: I was like, you need to change the way you're

801
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 7: talking to him, the way you're fighting with him, because

802
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:17,359
Speaker 7: if breaking up is not an option, then you are

803
00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:21,320
Speaker 7: just the fueling resentment, Like this is a breeding ground

804
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:23,040
Speaker 7: for a resentment.

805
00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:24,319
Speaker 1: Because of the way that you're dealing with this man.

806
00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:27,839
Speaker 7: And don't think because you're a woman that you're right

807
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:30,640
Speaker 7: and you're handling everything right. Like the way you're coming

808
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 7: at him is wrong. You need to address that. And

809
00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:36,600
Speaker 7: if the end goal is that y'all are still together

810
00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:38,799
Speaker 7: at the end of the conversation, then why the hell

811
00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:40,719
Speaker 7: you coming in so hot from the beginning?

812
00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 2: That's me I'll be high.

813
00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:55,160
Speaker 5: Look, don't laugh, mad.

814
00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:56,439
Speaker 1: I mean.

815
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:00,920
Speaker 4: The years I think I'm that we're going to therapy

816
00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:03,640
Speaker 4: because we've been going to therapy for the past, yes

817
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,920
Speaker 4: and yes, So like I feel like we're going to

818
00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:07,719
Speaker 4: therapy and stuff.

819
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:10,400
Speaker 2: I just don't get mad as easily.

820
00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 1: As I used to.

821
00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:13,400
Speaker 4: But I definitely used to be like a firecracker, especially

822
00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:14,400
Speaker 4: in relationships like.

823
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 2: Nigga, you got me, thug.

824
00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:16,320
Speaker 1: Yeah.

825
00:39:16,360 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 3: And I've learned to take accountability as well, because, like

826
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 3: you said, I'm glad you said that. I think we're

827
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:23,200
Speaker 3: so used. I mean, we know men ain't ship for

828
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 3: the most part.

829
00:39:24,080 --> 00:39:28,120
Speaker 1: But but but I hear.

830
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 3: But what I'm saying is, but we can't always think

831
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:33,960
Speaker 3: as women that were always right because I lived in that,

832
00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:36,600
Speaker 3: like I'm perfect, I'm all this, I'm all that, and

833
00:39:36,640 --> 00:39:38,839
Speaker 3: you're always wrong. Why we don't work out, it's because

834
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:41,160
Speaker 3: of you, But it's both of us.

835
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:44,399
Speaker 1: But honestly, and sometimes it be me, I can't lie.

836
00:39:44,480 --> 00:39:47,400
Speaker 3: Like I've learned to take accountability for a lot of

837
00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:49,319
Speaker 3: the times that me and this man have broken up

838
00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 3: or not talking is because I did some dumb ship

839
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:55,719
Speaker 3: and once I could really stand on that and realize

840
00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 3: that and be like, you.

841
00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:59,840
Speaker 1: Know what, I'm sorry, I was wrong. It's both of

842
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:01,719
Speaker 1: that's actually fucked up, right, So.

843
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:05,440
Speaker 3: It's not just you, it's me as well, And I

844
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:08,520
Speaker 3: can for this time, like I apologize it because sometimes

845
00:40:08,560 --> 00:40:11,799
Speaker 3: like I'm a leo, like my pride is through the

846
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:14,480
Speaker 3: roof and I just feel like I'm the best thing walking,

847
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:17,239
Speaker 3: Like you can't get better than me. But sometimes he's

848
00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 3: like he's like he'll literally tell me like I fucking

849
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 3: love you, but I feel like I gotta walk on eggshells.

850
00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:23,960
Speaker 3: I'm uncomfortable.

851
00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 1: So he's gotten that space where he's comfortable telling me that.

852
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:28,040
Speaker 3: I'm like, you know what, I need to embrace that

853
00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:31,200
Speaker 3: and be and be grateful because it takes a while to.

854
00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:34,360
Speaker 7: Gels really good, especially as to get there with a

855
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:37,720
Speaker 7: black man, To get to that point where he's okay

856
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:42,120
Speaker 7: being truly vulnerable and telling me what is going through

857
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:47,840
Speaker 7: his head, whether it's anxiety or he's sad or just

858
00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:50,840
Speaker 7: just whatever it is. It is like he will stop me,

859
00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:53,160
Speaker 7: like he'll stop in his tracks. He'll stop me, and

860
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:56,319
Speaker 7: he will communicate directly what is going on. And it

861
00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:58,919
Speaker 7: took us a long time to get there. But now

862
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:01,440
Speaker 7: it's like, should I apreciate.

863
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:02,879
Speaker 1: This so much? I ain't gonna do shit to mess

864
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:06,279
Speaker 1: this up. I really know what's going on in his

865
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:07,120
Speaker 1: head with.

866
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:12,640
Speaker 6: It literally just happened because I get in these sense

867
00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:14,320
Speaker 6: where I don't.

868
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:15,880
Speaker 5: I don't want to be sexual.

869
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 6: I just I just want to be like, I just

870
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 6: want to chill for like k like, I'm not She's

871
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,920
Speaker 6: not unattracted to me, but I'm just not sexually motivated.

872
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:26,160
Speaker 5: And it happened my whole life.

873
00:41:26,160 --> 00:41:28,239
Speaker 6: I just never bring it up to someone else cause

874
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:30,879
Speaker 6: I was never in a relationship long enough to when

875
00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 6: it was happening.

876
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:32,920
Speaker 5: They was on the forefront of my brain.

877
00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 6: And so since we've been in this this space of transparency,

878
00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 6: and honestly, about a week and a half ago it

879
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:38,600
Speaker 6: kicked in.

880
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:39,200
Speaker 5: I told her.

881
00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:40,800
Speaker 6: I was like, hey, I'm kind of in the space

882
00:41:40,880 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 6: right now. I'm not really feeling anything right.

883
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:44,239
Speaker 5: And then it.

884
00:41:44,239 --> 00:41:45,960
Speaker 6: Carried over because I was I was dealing with some

885
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 6: stuff like trying to book this tour and it wasn't happening,

886
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 6: and so that was messing with my confidence. My confidence

887
00:41:50,560 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 6: is down. I don't want to do anything. And I

888
00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 6: had picked up quarantine weight. I've been trying. We've been

889
00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:55,920
Speaker 6: going to the gym together.

890
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:58,960
Speaker 5: She lost ship, like, like, she lost so much weight.

891
00:41:59,000 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 5: I had to cut her.

892
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:01,879
Speaker 1: I didn't even plan to lose as much weight.

893
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, you can't go to the gym with me. I

894
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:04,719
Speaker 5: was going three days a week.

895
00:42:04,760 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 7: I had to cut out down on two right, these

896
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:10,000
Speaker 7: shorts I got on right now, so damn big, Like

897
00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:11,439
Speaker 7: my clothes are so big.

898
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:15,160
Speaker 5: I tell her, right, not slow down because now you're

899
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:15,839
Speaker 5: not who I'm married.

900
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 1: But did that make you a little bit jealous A

901
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 1: little bit?

902
00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:18,480
Speaker 7: No?

903
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:20,479
Speaker 6: No, no, you know she's always been that way, okay,

904
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:23,879
Speaker 6: And I typically lose weight pretty fast. That's the fact

905
00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:25,000
Speaker 6: that I was holding on to it. I know what,

906
00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:26,840
Speaker 6: something else with some hell stuff going on, with some

907
00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:30,319
Speaker 6: mess and ship. So but because of that, I wasn't

908
00:42:30,360 --> 00:42:32,759
Speaker 6: feeling my sexiest and so like she's trying to get

909
00:42:32,760 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 6: it on. Like she literally walked by me and just

910
00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 6: touched me one day and she was like, hey, you

911
00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:41,120
Speaker 6: want to go to Jacuzie boom boom, and she walked

912
00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 6: out the room and I was like, hey, you just

913
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:46,760
Speaker 6: And this was hard because I am a people pleasing

914
00:42:46,760 --> 00:42:48,120
Speaker 6: this my wife. I don't never want to say anything

915
00:42:48,120 --> 00:42:50,000
Speaker 6: that's gonna hurt her, but I was like, hey, you

916
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:52,120
Speaker 6: just touched me, and that shit just really grossed me out.

917
00:42:52,160 --> 00:42:58,359
Speaker 6: Right now I feel gross, Yeah, I feel gross right now,

918
00:42:58,400 --> 00:43:00,240
Speaker 6: and you did that and it's just like you.

919
00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:03,360
Speaker 5: Like me, like this and it was all me.

920
00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:05,880
Speaker 6: But the fact that I was able to communicate that

921
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:09,080
Speaker 6: with her instead of old that energy, because basically we

922
00:43:09,080 --> 00:43:10,600
Speaker 6: would have went to the coozie and she would have

923
00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:12,759
Speaker 6: been like this all like weird.

924
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:16,960
Speaker 7: I would have taken it personal, like bad.

925
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:17,839
Speaker 1: Speaking on that.

926
00:43:18,040 --> 00:43:19,920
Speaker 3: I think as women, we put all the pressure on

927
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:21,840
Speaker 3: us to feel good and be attractive.

928
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:22,279
Speaker 1: But it's not.

929
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:25,200
Speaker 7: But it's like there's not always Yeah, and I think

930
00:43:25,239 --> 00:43:26,680
Speaker 7: I still was like, Okay.

931
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:27,520
Speaker 1: Well I just go by myself.

932
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:31,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, and she did like it's good. I watched TV

933
00:43:31,719 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 5: because I never knew that.

934
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:36,280
Speaker 6: I never given myself space to relax.

935
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:37,840
Speaker 5: I'm a worker. I don't know.

936
00:43:38,360 --> 00:43:39,840
Speaker 6: It could be Christmas. I'm like, all right, let's not

937
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:41,920
Speaker 6: call eight episodes real quick. We'll open the gifts and

938
00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:45,919
Speaker 6: then we'll come back and do four more episode.

939
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:51,880
Speaker 3: Talking about we said I work there, tell you guys,

940
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:55,720
Speaker 3: we have plans. But I did because we're the same

941
00:43:55,760 --> 00:43:58,600
Speaker 3: way we make it happens.

942
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:01,399
Speaker 4: Like we told ourselves we came to we cannot leave here.

943
00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 4: What I at least four or five episodes?

944
00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:09,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, it makes sense. Yeah, And I'm always I've always

945
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:09,879
Speaker 5: been that way.

946
00:44:09,960 --> 00:44:13,240
Speaker 6: Well, one of the things with black men and felas

947
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:15,919
Speaker 6: this is the part where you're listening to ladies right now.

948
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:17,799
Speaker 5: Make sure your guys sitting next to you about this.

949
00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 6: One of the reasons it took me so long to

950
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:22,960
Speaker 6: be open outside of being a people pleaser is because

951
00:44:23,120 --> 00:44:25,880
Speaker 6: I wasn't taught how to love and communicate. I had

952
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:27,560
Speaker 6: a kid at fourteen, where I got a girl pregnant.

953
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:29,359
Speaker 6: When I was thirteen, I had a kid. My mom

954
00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:30,880
Speaker 6: was my best friend at that time. My mom was

955
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 6: the only person that really like loved on me. My

956
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:35,560
Speaker 6: family loved me, but she was the only person that

957
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:37,799
Speaker 6: loved on it was my fucking best friend. And after

958
00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:39,839
Speaker 6: I told her about the kids, she stopped talking to me.

959
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 6: So I was talking at me. Whereas she used to

960
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:43,800
Speaker 6: be like, hey, go get your homework, let's look over it,

961
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:45,120
Speaker 6: make sure you did it right, it was like, hey,

962
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 6: you do your homework without even making ode captat So

963
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:50,120
Speaker 6: I moved out at fourteen. At fourteen, I got shot,

964
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:53,160
Speaker 6: I got kidnapped, I got stabbed, I got kidnapped and

965
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:54,240
Speaker 6: shot set on fire.

966
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:56,600
Speaker 5: I had the kid. I'm working.

967
00:44:56,800 --> 00:44:58,920
Speaker 6: I'm too young to work at a job, so I

968
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:00,800
Speaker 6: have to work at a junk yard picking up cans

969
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:03,240
Speaker 6: and stripping cars of aluminum and breaking down fucking engines

970
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:05,399
Speaker 6: and corporators for copper. I'm doing all this show when

971
00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:06,719
Speaker 6: I'm old enough to get a job, start working at

972
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:07,320
Speaker 6: white Castles.

973
00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:09,000
Speaker 5: I got this kid I'm taking care of. I'm trying

974
00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:09,880
Speaker 5: to get my grades right.

975
00:45:10,120 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 6: I maintained a three point eight all through middle school

976
00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:14,719
Speaker 6: and high school, right all to graduate and find out

977
00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:18,480
Speaker 6: it wasn't my kid now. Growing up, all of that time,

978
00:45:18,640 --> 00:45:21,000
Speaker 6: I had to protect myself because if you show signs weakness,

979
00:45:21,040 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 6: niggas to take advantage of you. But even prior to that,

980
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 6: even when we're kids, men are not taught how to

981
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 6: express ourselves emotionally. When you're a kid and you're a

982
00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:32,719
Speaker 6: man or a male and you fall, they say, get up,

983
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:33,919
Speaker 6: you're a big boy.

984
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:35,880
Speaker 5: Don't cry.

985
00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:39,319
Speaker 6: Don't We don't get a chance to express while we're crying.

986
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:41,439
Speaker 6: We don't get a chance to live and that hurt.

987
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 6: We don't give a chance to be sad. You you

988
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:46,560
Speaker 6: go through a breakup, and your homies around them like,

989
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 6: oh you crying over that bitch?

990
00:45:47,640 --> 00:45:50,680
Speaker 5: Man man up? What the fuck is man up? Nigga?

991
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 5: I know.

992
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:59,840
Speaker 6: It's such a top spirals and it continues to build

993
00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:02,359
Speaker 6: because the guys around them are selling us.

994
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 1: Man up.

995
00:46:02,680 --> 00:46:04,280
Speaker 5: They got told the same thing when they was kids.

996
00:46:07,160 --> 00:46:08,680
Speaker 5: But they don't eat quake.

997
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:11,239
Speaker 6: They don't equate crying and being in your feelings to

998
00:46:11,320 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 6: something that's mad. And that's why, that's why mental health

999
00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:16,560
Speaker 6: is so important. That's why you need to go to

1000
00:46:16,600 --> 00:46:19,160
Speaker 6: therapy so you can unpack all that shit and learn

1001
00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:22,320
Speaker 6: how to express it. And and and I guarantee if

1002
00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:25,359
Speaker 6: more men were in therapy, you go to the club,

1003
00:46:25,440 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 6: somebody steps on your shoes, you'll be able to communicate, hey, man,

1004
00:46:28,160 --> 00:46:28,600
Speaker 6: watch out.

1005
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 5: And that person, if that's a therapist exactly was.

1006
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:32,440
Speaker 6: Saying, oh my bad, I'm sorry, let me buy your

1007
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:34,280
Speaker 6: drink instead of pulling out who the fuck.

1008
00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:34,600
Speaker 1: You talking to?

1009
00:46:34,920 --> 00:46:36,279
Speaker 5: It should never jump to that.

1010
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:38,359
Speaker 7: It's like if you stepped on somebody's shoes, niggas say

1011
00:46:38,400 --> 00:46:39,440
Speaker 7: you sorry, like why is.

1012
00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:39,919
Speaker 1: This the thing?

1013
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:43,799
Speaker 6: And if you that worried about if you're that worried

1014
00:46:43,800 --> 00:46:45,640
Speaker 6: about your exclusive snickers, nigga, why.

1015
00:46:45,600 --> 00:46:46,880
Speaker 1: You want to club?

1016
00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:49,880
Speaker 5: So on both sides, On both sides, it's willing to

1017
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:51,080
Speaker 5: be like, niggas, what are you doing?

1018
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:52,239
Speaker 7: Right?

1019
00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:54,520
Speaker 1: Drinks being spelled left and right?

1020
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:57,080
Speaker 6: You're a clown and if that stepped on your shoes.

1021
00:46:57,160 --> 00:46:59,920
Speaker 6: But it's all good, baby girl. But because we're men.

1022
00:47:00,520 --> 00:47:03,359
Speaker 1: We can't each other and we can't allow.

1023
00:47:03,160 --> 00:47:05,920
Speaker 5: That room for error because then I'm a bitch if

1024
00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:06,520
Speaker 5: I don't say.

1025
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:09,759
Speaker 7: But you know what though, I did notice, or what

1026
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:13,480
Speaker 7: just came back to me, was that women also deal

1027
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 7: with the same thing as far as being forced to

1028
00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:20,200
Speaker 7: tough en up, Like we aren't taught how to effectively communicate.

1029
00:47:20,239 --> 00:47:24,800
Speaker 1: Either. We're taught to to talk, but we're not taught

1030
00:47:24,880 --> 00:47:27,960
Speaker 1: to actually be saying ship all the time.

1031
00:47:28,440 --> 00:47:31,520
Speaker 7: Like we and we're not effective in our message all

1032
00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:35,279
Speaker 7: the time, or we attack things from the wrong angles,

1033
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:39,000
Speaker 7: we approach things the wrong way, and so like communication,

1034
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:40,839
Speaker 7: like just because you know how to talk don't mean

1035
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 7: you're a good community.

1036
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:44,719
Speaker 4: I feel like black women for whatever reason, like not

1037
00:47:44,800 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 4: to say we were brought up to be caddy, but

1038
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:54,560
Speaker 4: like with each other, it's like, yo, Mama will be

1039
00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:56,080
Speaker 4: talking to you about your auntie.

1040
00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:59,080
Speaker 3: Yes, you know what I mean, but I'll say this,

1041
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:01,239
Speaker 3: we have made a joke out of it. But when

1042
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:03,200
Speaker 3: like last time we went on eighty five South, my

1043
00:48:03,600 --> 00:48:04,040
Speaker 3: gonna be like.

1044
00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:07,360
Speaker 1: Damn for a lot of the eighty five listeners.

1045
00:48:07,680 --> 00:48:09,319
Speaker 3: And it don't be the me. It be a lot

1046
00:48:09,360 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 3: of the women. They be like, why y'all let these

1047
00:48:11,000 --> 00:48:13,480
Speaker 3: bitches on the platform? Why y'all post these bitches? And

1048
00:48:13,520 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 3: it be a lot it's the women. And so we

1049
00:48:16,480 --> 00:48:18,200
Speaker 3: actually made a joke out of it because like when

1050
00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:20,280
Speaker 3: we go on, we'd be like, oh, here come the horse.

1051
00:48:20,360 --> 00:48:23,640
Speaker 3: Why y'all let the horse speak? And we joked about it.

1052
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:27,239
Speaker 3: But you think about us, Well, it's funny cause at

1053
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 3: the end of the day, because if you really sat

1054
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:30,200
Speaker 3: down and watch our episodes, you go laugh.

1055
00:48:30,239 --> 00:48:34,319
Speaker 1: Hop. Yeah.

1056
00:48:34,640 --> 00:48:36,320
Speaker 3: But what I'm saying is like I feel like a

1057
00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:38,480
Speaker 3: lot of times black women, like we're conditioned to be

1058
00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:41,160
Speaker 3: caddy towards and nothing. Yes, like if this woman is

1059
00:48:41,200 --> 00:48:43,399
Speaker 3: doing something that you're not doing, shade her.

1060
00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 1: But we's not me. I'm a real woman. It's not

1061
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:46,439
Speaker 1: a real one.

1062
00:48:46,560 --> 00:48:50,400
Speaker 7: Y'all were so not supposed to be, Like we're not

1063
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 7: supposed to be sad either, right, Like we're supposed to

1064
00:48:53,320 --> 00:48:55,000
Speaker 7: just you know, take shit on the chin, do what

1065
00:48:55,040 --> 00:48:56,479
Speaker 7: you're supposed to do, like.

1066
00:48:56,440 --> 00:48:58,279
Speaker 1: Oh this happened, Well, I ain't got time for that. I

1067
00:48:58,280 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 1: gotta do what I gotta do.

1068
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:02,880
Speaker 7: Like we're to just take everything on and pick up

1069
00:49:02,920 --> 00:49:03,920
Speaker 7: other people's.

1070
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:06,719
Speaker 3: As small as like having a myriad, like when we're

1071
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:07,239
Speaker 3: on our pier.

1072
00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:08,760
Speaker 1: Like sometimes when I living.

1073
00:49:08,520 --> 00:49:12,080
Speaker 3: Alone, I can't even walk, like it be cramps and

1074
00:49:12,120 --> 00:49:13,920
Speaker 3: this and that, and when we still got to go,

1075
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:15,279
Speaker 3: I still disgusting.

1076
00:49:15,360 --> 00:49:18,480
Speaker 1: I just like I just I want to lay down.

1077
00:49:18,520 --> 00:49:20,319
Speaker 1: But we can't take off of work for that, because

1078
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:21,680
Speaker 1: this is normal, this is part of your life. But like,

1079
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:22,600
Speaker 1: why not, right?

1080
00:49:22,760 --> 00:49:25,520
Speaker 3: And I think we we as women, we need to

1081
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:29,120
Speaker 3: learn how to accept every type of woman. If this

1082
00:49:29,160 --> 00:49:31,279
Speaker 3: woman likes to cook and clean and do for her, man,

1083
00:49:31,360 --> 00:49:33,520
Speaker 3: let's accept that. If this woman wants to go out

1084
00:49:33,520 --> 00:49:36,560
Speaker 3: and fuck every nigga, let's accept that woman is loud

1085
00:49:36,560 --> 00:49:38,520
Speaker 3: and obnoxious and she's the life of the party.

1086
00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:41,719
Speaker 1: Let's accept that. Let's accept everybody because men do that.

1087
00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 4: You know each other great, Yes, I also feel like

1088
00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:49,560
Speaker 4: give each other grace though, But then you said that

1089
00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:51,840
Speaker 4: some women like they like to cook and clean and

1090
00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:53,719
Speaker 4: all that. But then it becomes a problem when you're

1091
00:49:53,760 --> 00:49:55,360
Speaker 4: trying to down women who don't.

1092
00:49:55,200 --> 00:49:57,200
Speaker 1: Like to do that, right, And that's the problem.

1093
00:49:57,680 --> 00:50:00,840
Speaker 2: People are always trying to compare each other, Like you

1094
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:01,440
Speaker 2: know what I mean, you.

1095
00:50:01,360 --> 00:50:04,320
Speaker 4: Always I mean like, oh, well, she's she likes to

1096
00:50:04,360 --> 00:50:04,959
Speaker 4: cooking clean.

1097
00:50:05,080 --> 00:50:05,880
Speaker 1: I don't want to do that.

1098
00:50:06,160 --> 00:50:06,600
Speaker 2: She a pea.

1099
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:11,280
Speaker 7: Yeah, But think about our background and everything, the history,

1100
00:50:11,320 --> 00:50:14,239
Speaker 7: everything has had a label like you, you've had You've

1101
00:50:14,280 --> 00:50:16,720
Speaker 7: been forced into a box for everything, and then those

1102
00:50:17,320 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 7: those labels are always categorized like who's the best, who's

1103
00:50:20,640 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 7: the worst? Like it's always this tower instead of like

1104
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:27,719
Speaker 7: you know something something else that encompasses everybody, but.

1105
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:33,680
Speaker 6: A broad line, somebody give it should be versus yes,

1106
00:50:33,920 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 6: then just this.

1107
00:50:34,880 --> 00:50:39,080
Speaker 1: This ladder of things, and.

1108
00:50:37,680 --> 00:50:40,000
Speaker 5: Everything has a spectrum. Music has a special that's not

1109
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Speaker 5: one form of rap.

1110
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:43,680
Speaker 6: You got rap, you got hip hop, you got conscious music,

1111
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:45,520
Speaker 6: you got the email me, all of that type of ship.

1112
00:50:45,600 --> 00:50:48,239
Speaker 6: There's so many broad spectrums for so many other things.

1113
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:50,879
Speaker 6: But when it comes to humans, we don't know how

1114
00:50:50,920 --> 00:50:53,520
Speaker 6: to accept it. It's crazy because animals don't do that.

1115
00:50:54,160 --> 00:50:56,959
Speaker 6: A cat or dog with three legs is not looked

1116
00:50:56,960 --> 00:50:57,920
Speaker 6: at differently.

1117
00:50:57,520 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 5: By other cats or dogs. They accepted. It's only us

1118
00:51:01,120 --> 00:51:01,799
Speaker 5: because we like.

1119
00:51:01,760 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 6: To make ourselves feel better than the next person, and

1120
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:08,160
Speaker 6: that's why we shade each other for that type of ship.

1121
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:10,879
Speaker 6: And so like recently, I've just been I've been so

1122
00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:13,879
Speaker 6: happy in this space, uh that I'm in with my

1123
00:51:13,880 --> 00:51:16,480
Speaker 6: my jokes because I get to really be met authentically

1124
00:51:16,560 --> 00:51:19,000
Speaker 6: meat and it's spreading over to all the areas of

1125
00:51:19,000 --> 00:51:21,200
Speaker 6: my life. And it's just like being so comfortable in

1126
00:51:21,239 --> 00:51:23,040
Speaker 6: the skin that I'm in and not be.

1127
00:51:23,360 --> 00:51:26,480
Speaker 5: Being unapologetic about it. Like I had a friend asked

1128
00:51:26,520 --> 00:51:29,080
Speaker 5: me if I was gay because I have gay friends.

1129
00:51:28,719 --> 00:51:34,200
Speaker 6: Out so silly, but you even give and he never

1130
00:51:34,239 --> 00:51:34,840
Speaker 6: got there from it.

1131
00:51:34,880 --> 00:51:35,840
Speaker 5: But it was just because.

1132
00:51:37,400 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 6: Years and you had a couple of gay people at

1133
00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:40,560
Speaker 6: your party and I saw you're kicking with the dog.

1134
00:51:40,560 --> 00:51:42,359
Speaker 5: I was like, Thigga, that's my friend him.

1135
00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:45,560
Speaker 4: Just because you haven't evolved that much, that doesn't mean

1136
00:51:45,600 --> 00:51:46,040
Speaker 4: I'm heay.

1137
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:48,600
Speaker 5: Well he wasn't. He wasn't even saying it, like he

1138
00:51:48,680 --> 00:51:50,160
Speaker 5: was just like, you know, if you are, you can

1139
00:51:50,200 --> 00:51:51,920
Speaker 5: tell me. I don't care. And I was just like, Nigga,

1140
00:51:51,960 --> 00:51:53,319
Speaker 5: I'm just cool to tell you.

1141
00:51:53,840 --> 00:51:54,560
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying.

1142
00:51:54,600 --> 00:51:57,319
Speaker 4: I feel like that goes with like the fact that

1143
00:51:57,360 --> 00:52:00,200
Speaker 4: he is in like he hasn't had no evolution, like

1144
00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:05,840
Speaker 4: he just he just it's about people.

1145
00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:10,160
Speaker 1: She'd be like, you are de evolved, seriously.

1146
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:12,319
Speaker 4: Because how can you think I'm gay just because I'm

1147
00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:14,799
Speaker 4: cool with gay people, and I might not have been

1148
00:52:14,960 --> 00:52:15,600
Speaker 4: back in the day.

1149
00:52:15,640 --> 00:52:17,440
Speaker 1: But that's because, yeah, my mind.

1150
00:52:17,400 --> 00:52:20,800
Speaker 5: Would open to that. Yeah, but I've always I've always

1151
00:52:20,800 --> 00:52:21,160
Speaker 5: been like that.

1152
00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:23,040
Speaker 6: I've always been cool with everybody, always been one of

1153
00:52:23,040 --> 00:52:24,360
Speaker 6: those people that's cool with everybody.

1154
00:52:24,400 --> 00:52:26,360
Speaker 5: I never had a problem without who you fuck.

1155
00:52:26,200 --> 00:52:28,439
Speaker 6: Don't make me ship like, I don't care, right, don't

1156
00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:30,160
Speaker 6: don't bother me in the slightest.

1157
00:52:30,160 --> 00:52:31,920
Speaker 1: So those are people I feel like you need to

1158
00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:32,440
Speaker 1: worry about.

1159
00:52:32,440 --> 00:52:35,279
Speaker 4: The ones will be like I don't want to be

1160
00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:35,919
Speaker 4: around him.

1161
00:52:37,320 --> 00:52:41,759
Speaker 5: It's you, Yeah, and that's my thing.

1162
00:52:41,840 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 2: I don't even want to be trying to talk to you.

1163
00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:46,120
Speaker 6: I don't even see that's I don't even entertain those

1164
00:52:46,160 --> 00:52:46,880
Speaker 6: real friendships.

1165
00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:49,160
Speaker 5: Like I don't hang around people that are intolerant of

1166
00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:51,920
Speaker 5: other people's beliefs, uh, sexual.

1167
00:52:51,520 --> 00:52:54,120
Speaker 6: Orientations, the likes and stuff like that, because like, you're

1168
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:55,560
Speaker 6: gonna say something that's gonna piss me off, and I'm

1169
00:52:55,560 --> 00:52:56,600
Speaker 6: gonna say something that's gonna put.

1170
00:52:56,520 --> 00:52:58,520
Speaker 5: You off because I don't play that ship like I don't.

1171
00:52:58,560 --> 00:52:59,319
Speaker 5: I don't, I don't do.

1172
00:52:59,880 --> 00:53:03,240
Speaker 3: I really just hate people think just because a person

1173
00:53:03,320 --> 00:53:05,959
Speaker 3: is gay that they're just attracted to all men. They're

1174
00:53:05,960 --> 00:53:09,960
Speaker 3: not even attracted to you have to not half the time,

1175
00:53:10,120 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 3: not even his time.

1176
00:53:11,200 --> 00:53:14,520
Speaker 5: No, that's because people when they interpret.

1177
00:53:14,120 --> 00:53:17,279
Speaker 6: Something different, most times, they don't do the research to

1178
00:53:17,320 --> 00:53:19,279
Speaker 6: try to understand it. And so what they do is

1179
00:53:19,280 --> 00:53:21,080
Speaker 6: they think the worst of it. Like you hear somebody

1180
00:53:21,200 --> 00:53:24,120
Speaker 6: is gay, You're trying to fuck all the men, all

1181
00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:25,960
Speaker 6: the little boys, all that type of shit. You're a

1182
00:53:25,960 --> 00:53:26,879
Speaker 6: pediphi and all that shit.

1183
00:53:28,760 --> 00:53:31,680
Speaker 3: It's not even that, and it's not that, like I

1184
00:53:31,680 --> 00:53:34,839
Speaker 3: said of the time. So I think it's just so

1185
00:53:34,880 --> 00:53:39,000
Speaker 3: weird because women like for like a straight man, like

1186
00:53:39,040 --> 00:53:41,560
Speaker 3: you know, all women aren't attracted to you, So why

1187
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:43,160
Speaker 3: would you think that all men are men?

1188
00:53:43,520 --> 00:53:45,400
Speaker 1: All gay men are attracted to you? Like, what the

1189
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:46,319
Speaker 1: fuck are you talking about?

1190
00:53:46,560 --> 00:53:49,200
Speaker 6: Some niggas are delusional thing? All women are attracted to that,

1191
00:53:49,880 --> 00:53:50,720
Speaker 6: And I can tell you.

1192
00:53:50,640 --> 00:53:53,000
Speaker 2: I mean, it's just wild because they know for them,

1193
00:53:53,120 --> 00:53:54,000
Speaker 2: well did they not?

1194
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1195
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1196
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Speaker 2: He Q, But jay Z is also a billionaire. Niggas

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Speaker 2: is bro.

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Speaker 4: So now we're gonna get into the bed. Love love

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Speaker 4: it bowl. Wow Wow bow bow, it says stick like

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Speaker 4: green facts, bring it in. Yes, okay, So for the

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Speaker 4: six topics we want to we wanted to talk about

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00:56:51,280 --> 00:56:53,880
Speaker 4: five things that you should discuss with your partner before

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Speaker 4: you settle down with them.

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00:56:55,200 --> 00:56:59,640
Speaker 3: Yes, like especially like sexually, because you know, I think

1257
00:56:59,680 --> 00:57:02,239
Speaker 3: a lot of people I love the fact that y'all

1258
00:57:02,239 --> 00:57:04,120
Speaker 3: are so open with talking about sex because a lot

1259
00:57:04,160 --> 00:57:06,120
Speaker 3: of times when we record with people, I'll be like, ooh,

1260
00:57:06,239 --> 00:57:08,319
Speaker 3: I hope they're okay with talking about things like that.

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00:57:08,440 --> 00:57:11,080
Speaker 1: But I just don't understand why sex is so taboo. Yeah,

1262
00:57:12,800 --> 00:57:15,720
Speaker 1: you know, like that is normal, Like we eat, we ship,

1263
00:57:15,800 --> 00:57:20,240
Speaker 1: we fucked, you know what it really is.

1264
00:57:20,680 --> 00:57:23,760
Speaker 3: So what are like five like if y'all could say together,

1265
00:57:23,800 --> 00:57:26,560
Speaker 3: like we're like things that y'all know that people need

1266
00:57:26,560 --> 00:57:30,240
Speaker 3: to discuss before settling down with somebody, especially sexually.

1267
00:57:30,400 --> 00:57:33,160
Speaker 2: Are they even maybe you done thought about now, but

1268
00:57:33,240 --> 00:57:34,840
Speaker 2: you wish you then.

1269
00:57:35,000 --> 00:57:36,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, you want to do them together because I know

1270
00:57:36,760 --> 00:57:38,600
Speaker 6: we got about fifteen minutes out here.

1271
00:57:38,760 --> 00:57:41,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, yeah, yeah it needs to be that's what

1272
00:57:42,040 --> 00:57:47,160
Speaker 1: y'all say. Okay, I think I would start off with

1273
00:57:49,680 --> 00:57:52,640
Speaker 1: I don't Oh, it's a lot. I feel like.

1274
00:57:54,120 --> 00:57:57,960
Speaker 7: I feel like we should have discussed beforehand.

1275
00:57:58,880 --> 00:58:06,800
Speaker 1: Uh oh what oh? What for play means to you? Okay,

1276
00:58:07,560 --> 00:58:10,520
Speaker 1: because it's totally different.

1277
00:58:10,720 --> 00:58:14,760
Speaker 5: Put a comment on for play and add intimacy and.

1278
00:58:14,840 --> 00:58:18,160
Speaker 1: Also well, then those are separate questions because they're separate answers.

1279
00:58:18,920 --> 00:58:20,960
Speaker 6: They are, but they're all kind of in the same

1280
00:58:20,960 --> 00:58:26,200
Speaker 6: thing because, like I thought, intimacy with dealing strictly with sex,

1281
00:58:26,520 --> 00:58:27,480
Speaker 6: like it's an intimate thing.

1282
00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:29,800
Speaker 5: We're sexy sex things.

1283
00:58:30,000 --> 00:58:32,480
Speaker 6: But intimacy for her can literally be us laying in

1284
00:58:32,520 --> 00:58:34,040
Speaker 6: bed watching the movie.

1285
00:58:34,880 --> 00:58:40,040
Speaker 7: Intimacy to me, yeah, but also specifically on for play,

1286
00:58:40,200 --> 00:58:45,920
Speaker 7: like you know, guys who who eat it, they think.

1287
00:58:45,720 --> 00:58:48,920
Speaker 1: That that alone is for play for all women.

1288
00:58:48,960 --> 00:58:49,240
Speaker 5: It is not.

1289
00:58:50,120 --> 00:58:53,560
Speaker 1: That is not sometimes for before I'm even ready for that,

1290
00:58:53,640 --> 00:58:58,000
Speaker 1: I just want to like kiss for like the kid. Yes,

1291
00:58:58,400 --> 00:59:03,200
Speaker 1: I love the kids. That alone club.

1292
00:59:03,520 --> 00:59:14,120
Speaker 3: I should start playing weekends and I ave in the club. Yeah.

1293
00:59:14,960 --> 00:59:19,520
Speaker 7: And another thing that's for play for me, which I

1294
00:59:19,880 --> 00:59:21,560
Speaker 7: mean it can be a game.

1295
00:59:21,440 --> 00:59:25,920
Speaker 1: Ender for some though, is it turns me on to

1296
00:59:25,920 --> 00:59:27,320
Speaker 1: give hit. Okay, So.

1297
00:59:33,400 --> 00:59:36,080
Speaker 5: I did not know that.

1298
00:59:37,280 --> 00:59:39,320
Speaker 1: Talk about it though.

1299
00:59:39,440 --> 00:59:42,000
Speaker 7: I used to tell him, like, yo, like why you

1300
00:59:42,040 --> 00:59:43,160
Speaker 7: don't ever ask me to do this?

1301
00:59:43,240 --> 00:59:45,000
Speaker 1: Because good girls get asked to do it, you don't

1302
00:59:45,000 --> 00:59:45,480
Speaker 1: just offer.

1303
00:59:45,760 --> 00:59:47,760
Speaker 7: Because I was very caught up on being a good girl,

1304
00:59:48,360 --> 00:59:50,400
Speaker 7: and so I was like, well, why don't you ask

1305
00:59:50,480 --> 00:59:51,000
Speaker 7: me to do this?

1306
00:59:51,520 --> 00:59:53,080
Speaker 1: And he was like, what's not that big of a

1307
00:59:53,080 --> 00:59:55,280
Speaker 1: deal to me? And I'm sitting to do it, And

1308
00:59:55,320 --> 00:59:58,240
Speaker 1: I wanted to express it that way. And now I'd

1309
00:59:58,240 --> 00:59:59,760
Speaker 1: be like when was the last time it was in

1310
00:59:59,840 --> 01:00:00,760
Speaker 1: my out?

1311
01:00:01,680 --> 01:00:04,520
Speaker 6: She literally just texted me the other day and so

1312
01:00:04,640 --> 01:00:09,360
Speaker 6: I didn't during that conversation. That's something that we started doing.

1313
01:00:09,440 --> 01:00:11,240
Speaker 6: I started doing like I would literally go, I'll go

1314
01:00:11,320 --> 01:00:14,320
Speaker 6: downstairs now, especially since she's gonna work, knock her phone

1315
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Speaker 6: out of her hands, whoever.

1316
01:00:15,760 --> 01:00:19,200
Speaker 5: She's talking to in the call, and just shove her

1317
01:00:19,200 --> 01:00:23,120
Speaker 5: head right daytime is standing up.

1318
01:00:24,560 --> 01:00:28,320
Speaker 6: Window open, look at this.

1319
01:00:29,960 --> 01:00:32,520
Speaker 5: It's spinning my belly. But this bitch is nasty with it.

1320
01:00:36,320 --> 01:00:41,960
Speaker 1: So so the intimacy and learning exactly what he means playing.

1321
01:00:42,120 --> 01:00:44,560
Speaker 3: Okay, so we'll say that like the definitions of what

1322
01:00:44,720 --> 01:00:47,840
Speaker 3: certain things mean to you say, because my definition might

1323
01:00:47,880 --> 01:00:48,960
Speaker 3: not be the same to you.

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Speaker 7: So I think that they ain't getting clear on that

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Speaker 7: because I mean, you know, we all have our ideas

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01:00:55,200 --> 01:00:59,600
Speaker 7: of what the pregame is, but it's it's everybody.

1327
01:00:59,560 --> 01:01:04,360
Speaker 6: Yeah, definitely have the conversation about you know what it

1328
01:01:04,400 --> 01:01:05,680
Speaker 6: takes for you guys to walk away.

1329
01:01:05,800 --> 01:01:10,000
Speaker 5: It's one of the conversations we had. Uh well, I

1330
01:01:10,000 --> 01:01:11,760
Speaker 5: mean I'm saying, like with your hard nose and ship

1331
01:01:11,840 --> 01:01:12,240
Speaker 5: like that too.

1332
01:01:12,640 --> 01:01:14,000
Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying, Like some people might not

1333
01:01:14,080 --> 01:01:17,640
Speaker 6: be into the ass eating or the pen on and

1334
01:01:17,680 --> 01:01:18,200
Speaker 6: ship like that.

1335
01:01:18,240 --> 01:01:21,160
Speaker 5: I'm all. I just but I wasn't. I wasn't.

1336
01:01:21,200 --> 01:01:24,320
Speaker 6: I wasn't initially. I had never eaten her ass ever before.

1337
01:01:24,480 --> 01:01:30,720
Speaker 6: And she's the only person booty out that put like coma,

1338
01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:40,800
Speaker 6: I'm the booty moss.

1339
01:01:39,200 --> 01:01:39,440
Speaker 7: In that.

1340
01:01:39,520 --> 01:01:40,920
Speaker 6: It's a good little trick right here. If you ever

1341
01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:43,040
Speaker 6: run out of breath, just do that real quick to

1342
01:01:43,200 --> 01:01:45,640
Speaker 6: spread the teacher. You can get a big breath. Make

1343
01:01:45,640 --> 01:01:48,000
Speaker 6: sure she clean though, because if she gonna get your

1344
01:01:48,000 --> 01:01:48,840
Speaker 6: big breath of asking.

1345
01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:55,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, we know her ass smells good. Every time his

1346
01:01:56,000 --> 01:02:01,560
Speaker 1: mouth he just pulls people deeper and deeper. Okay, now

1347
01:02:01,600 --> 01:02:02,760
Speaker 1: I don't get into the bob.

1348
01:02:03,040 --> 01:02:15,160
Speaker 3: Yes, we love a good viob young into let me

1349
01:02:15,240 --> 01:02:15,680
Speaker 3: te out something.

1350
01:02:15,680 --> 01:02:21,720
Speaker 1: We're from Texas. We like to dance. We love so

1351
01:02:21,880 --> 01:02:22,280
Speaker 1: my bob.

1352
01:02:22,400 --> 01:02:25,040
Speaker 3: Y'all know I've talked about this artist before. She's super dope.

1353
01:02:25,840 --> 01:02:28,800
Speaker 3: I really like when people have a good pen. I

1354
01:02:28,840 --> 01:02:30,840
Speaker 3: haven't done too much research on her. I don't know

1355
01:02:30,840 --> 01:02:32,360
Speaker 3: if she writes her song or she has a writer.

1356
01:02:32,520 --> 01:02:36,120
Speaker 3: But her name is Ala. It's I y l A.

1357
01:02:36,360 --> 01:02:37,920
Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm saying that right, But she

1358
01:02:37,960 --> 01:02:41,080
Speaker 3: has a new call song called Sad Bitch, Bad Bitch.

1359
01:02:41,600 --> 01:02:43,800
Speaker 3: The title says it all like I'm a sad bitch,

1360
01:02:43,840 --> 01:02:45,439
Speaker 3: but I'm still a bad bitch because like you broke

1361
01:02:45,480 --> 01:02:47,920
Speaker 3: my heart, I'm picking the pieces up, but I'm still

1362
01:02:48,120 --> 01:02:51,440
Speaker 3: that girl. So it's a super dope song. It's like

1363
01:02:51,480 --> 01:02:52,720
Speaker 3: that type of song like when.

1364
01:02:52,520 --> 01:02:53,320
Speaker 1: You're going through it.

1365
01:02:53,400 --> 01:02:55,439
Speaker 3: This is a song you need to listen to because

1366
01:02:55,440 --> 01:02:56,880
Speaker 3: I feel like we can all relate to that, like

1367
01:02:56,920 --> 01:02:59,880
Speaker 3: we've all been through heartbreak, but we all know like

1368
01:03:00,040 --> 01:03:02,920
Speaker 3: you gotta pick yourself up, and you gotta still get

1369
01:03:02,920 --> 01:03:04,680
Speaker 3: out there and do what you got to do, whether

1370
01:03:04,760 --> 01:03:08,160
Speaker 3: it be dating again, still going to work, you know,

1371
01:03:08,240 --> 01:03:09,400
Speaker 3: still getting ship done.

1372
01:03:09,640 --> 01:03:11,920
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's my bop of the week. Sad, bitch

1373
01:03:12,440 --> 01:03:16,120
Speaker 1: bad Okay, So my bop.

1374
01:03:15,920 --> 01:03:18,480
Speaker 2: Of the week is lie again by giving on.

1375
01:03:19,240 --> 01:03:20,440
Speaker 1: I like giving on.

1376
01:03:20,520 --> 01:03:26,240
Speaker 6: I love yeah one London nigga from right Yeah don't

1377
01:03:26,280 --> 01:03:29,440
Speaker 6: you sound British?

1378
01:03:29,480 --> 01:03:31,520
Speaker 3: But yes, I love you know when you get a frog.

1379
01:03:32,400 --> 01:03:45,480
Speaker 3: I knew he was about to say that. Okay, Yes,

1380
01:03:45,480 --> 01:03:47,720
Speaker 3: I love giving us. So that's my y'all been listening

1381
01:03:47,720 --> 01:03:48,360
Speaker 3: to this week?

1382
01:03:48,880 --> 01:03:52,560
Speaker 6: Man, I can't even lie. I been man, we were

1383
01:03:52,560 --> 01:03:54,080
Speaker 6: always all over the place. We listen to a lot

1384
01:03:54,080 --> 01:03:56,160
Speaker 6: of music, but this one little joint has been on

1385
01:03:56,240 --> 01:03:58,439
Speaker 6: my mind. I've been playing it probably for about three

1386
01:03:58,480 --> 01:04:03,040
Speaker 6: weeks unless someone went to that's been a couple of weeks.

1387
01:04:03,080 --> 01:04:13,680
Speaker 6: About three weeks. Coy Malone's song Clinging Okay, coiler ray

1388
01:04:13,760 --> 01:04:19,480
Speaker 6: song with Knave called Clinging. That's that's just about okay dropped.

1389
01:04:19,680 --> 01:04:21,960
Speaker 1: So this is off the new album. Explain what you

1390
01:04:22,000 --> 01:04:22,600
Speaker 1: like about the song.

1391
01:04:22,960 --> 01:04:24,680
Speaker 6: I like the beat, like the way that should come up.

1392
01:04:26,840 --> 01:04:28,840
Speaker 6: It's like, come off on it, come on on an

1393
01:04:28,880 --> 01:04:30,920
Speaker 6: offbeat and you be like, oh, ship, what is this?

1394
01:04:31,080 --> 01:04:33,040
Speaker 6: Get a little baseline to it, and she's just being

1395
01:04:33,040 --> 01:04:35,440
Speaker 6: honest on it. She was like, I'm cleaning, motherfucker. I

1396
01:04:35,560 --> 01:04:36,520
Speaker 6: be wanting to be up under you.

1397
01:04:36,560 --> 01:04:38,640
Speaker 5: And I like that, you know, the honest food.

1398
01:04:39,840 --> 01:04:42,760
Speaker 1: You like honesty, and I appreciate.

1399
01:04:42,440 --> 01:04:47,720
Speaker 6: It because that gives a person the ability to make.

1400
01:04:47,600 --> 01:04:49,840
Speaker 5: An informed decision. You know what I'm saying. You put

1401
01:04:49,840 --> 01:04:50,400
Speaker 5: it all out there.

1402
01:04:50,440 --> 01:04:50,560
Speaker 1: Now.

1403
01:04:50,600 --> 01:04:52,360
Speaker 6: I know if I want, I have the ability to

1404
01:04:52,400 --> 01:04:53,920
Speaker 6: decide if I want to deal with this ship.

1405
01:04:54,760 --> 01:04:56,880
Speaker 5: I'm big on that, all right, girl.

1406
01:04:58,360 --> 01:05:06,440
Speaker 7: So I went to hit me out. I went to

1407
01:05:06,480 --> 01:05:09,280
Speaker 7: JASMINA Sulliman's concert, and so now I've been listening to

1408
01:05:09,360 --> 01:05:15,880
Speaker 7: her on repeat lately and her song with Ari Lennox

1409
01:05:15,920 --> 01:05:17,439
Speaker 7: on it, I.

1410
01:05:17,600 --> 01:05:22,439
Speaker 1: Want to sing on it. They get it, Yeah, they

1411
01:05:22,480 --> 01:05:22,760
Speaker 1: get it.

1412
01:05:23,560 --> 01:05:32,600
Speaker 7: Yeah that song, Yeah, it has been.

1413
01:05:31,280 --> 01:05:33,760
Speaker 1: It's got a whole on it. Shut out to Ari,

1414
01:05:34,000 --> 01:05:37,000
Speaker 1: we were trying to get Yeah. So now love Jasmine.

1415
01:05:37,040 --> 01:05:38,680
Speaker 1: Her voice is like butter.

1416
01:05:40,280 --> 01:05:42,400
Speaker 4: So now it's time to get into our favorite segment

1417
01:05:42,440 --> 01:05:44,120
Speaker 4: of the show. If you have any questions, you know,

1418
01:05:44,240 --> 01:05:47,600
Speaker 4: send them in to ask for Minds at gmail dot com.

1419
01:05:47,600 --> 01:05:48,640
Speaker 1: It's as k p O.

1420
01:05:48,760 --> 01:05:52,120
Speaker 4: You are in my n d s at gmail dot com,

1421
01:05:52,280 --> 01:05:55,040
Speaker 4: sending your questions, sending your systemonials. We want to know

1422
01:05:55,040 --> 01:05:58,040
Speaker 4: if you we fucked your life up too, you know,

1423
01:05:58,200 --> 01:05:58,919
Speaker 4: just let us know.

1424
01:05:59,160 --> 01:06:01,240
Speaker 1: So Okay, I.

1425
01:06:01,200 --> 01:06:04,560
Speaker 3: Got him, It says, Hey, ladies, I love watching the podcast.

1426
01:06:04,640 --> 01:06:07,520
Speaker 3: I have been in a committed relationship for six years.

1427
01:06:07,800 --> 01:06:10,080
Speaker 1: We are twenty four. We are twenty four years old.

1428
01:06:10,080 --> 01:06:11,040
Speaker 1: I guess that's what she meant.

1429
01:06:11,240 --> 01:06:14,520
Speaker 3: Recently, I found out that he has three Instagrams. I

1430
01:06:14,600 --> 01:06:16,800
Speaker 3: knew about the first two because one is his business

1431
01:06:16,840 --> 01:06:19,120
Speaker 3: page and the other one is a personal page. But

1432
01:06:19,160 --> 01:06:21,760
Speaker 3: the third one is full of women who don't look

1433
01:06:21,840 --> 01:06:24,760
Speaker 3: anything like me. I went and did more research and

1434
01:06:24,760 --> 01:06:29,560
Speaker 3: it's the same shit across all social media Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat,

1435
01:06:29,760 --> 01:06:34,360
Speaker 3: Reddit OnlyFans and TikTok, Like he has multiple pages with

1436
01:06:34,440 --> 01:06:37,520
Speaker 3: the same shit. I'm a plus sized queen. Should I

1437
01:06:37,520 --> 01:06:39,000
Speaker 3: feel some type of way or should I just.

1438
01:06:39,080 --> 01:06:40,600
Speaker 1: Leave it alone? Is he cheating?

1439
01:06:40,720 --> 01:06:43,000
Speaker 3: Or am I overthinking it? I feel like if he's

1440
01:06:43,080 --> 01:06:46,680
Speaker 3: hiding it, he's cheating it. He's cheating, point blank. Period.

1441
01:06:49,280 --> 01:06:54,840
Speaker 7: I am I allowed to say words factause I have words.

1442
01:06:55,640 --> 01:07:02,800
Speaker 1: I believe in. Deliberate trust right, you ask, you accept

1443
01:07:02,800 --> 01:07:07,440
Speaker 1: the answer you're giving. You move accordingly. Okay, nothing is

1444
01:07:07,480 --> 01:07:12,320
Speaker 1: wrong with him looking at women online, But why the

1445
01:07:12,400 --> 01:07:13,360
Speaker 1: third page for it?

1446
01:07:13,400 --> 01:07:16,160
Speaker 7: Though? If it's just to look, then obviously he's not

1447
01:07:16,280 --> 01:07:18,480
Speaker 7: comfortable talking to her about that.

1448
01:07:18,520 --> 01:07:19,480
Speaker 1: They're not in that space.

1449
01:07:19,560 --> 01:07:22,200
Speaker 7: And I get it, cause sometimes that's a dynamic that

1450
01:07:22,240 --> 01:07:26,240
Speaker 7: couples never reach. But to here and I look at

1451
01:07:26,600 --> 01:07:29,680
Speaker 7: women together. I know he's not interested in looking at men,

1452
01:07:30,080 --> 01:07:33,120
Speaker 7: but he knows that. Hell, it's an IG page I

1453
01:07:33,120 --> 01:07:35,200
Speaker 7: follow that's just called damn. He fine, and it's just

1454
01:07:35,280 --> 01:07:38,880
Speaker 7: fine ass. Niggas I follow Beer game matters and it's

1455
01:07:38,920 --> 01:07:42,760
Speaker 7: just fine ass, just like, so what And that's on

1456
01:07:42,840 --> 01:07:46,280
Speaker 7: my personal page. He can see it. I don't try

1457
01:07:46,320 --> 01:07:48,680
Speaker 7: to hide it. If a picture comes up while he's

1458
01:07:48,680 --> 01:07:49,440
Speaker 7: sitting next to me.

1459
01:07:49,480 --> 01:07:50,760
Speaker 1: Is no big deal.

1460
01:07:51,360 --> 01:07:54,800
Speaker 7: And even when we were going through our issue, it

1461
01:07:54,920 --> 01:07:58,320
Speaker 7: was still like, are you cheating? No, sir, I need

1462
01:07:58,320 --> 01:08:00,440
Speaker 7: you to take this, like, listen to me, take this seriously.

1463
01:08:00,480 --> 01:08:04,920
Speaker 7: I am choosing to trust you. I'm trusting you on purpose,

1464
01:08:05,440 --> 01:08:07,800
Speaker 7: and because I'm not about to live my life in

1465
01:08:07,840 --> 01:08:10,800
Speaker 7: a in a relationship that I feel like I cannot

1466
01:08:10,840 --> 01:08:15,200
Speaker 7: trust you. So because I'm doing this on purpose. This this,

1467
01:08:15,200 --> 01:08:16,960
Speaker 7: This is how we're gonna move We're gonna move forward,

1468
01:08:16,960 --> 01:08:17,799
Speaker 7: and I ain't bringing.

1469
01:08:17,560 --> 01:08:19,240
Speaker 1: The ship back up unless you give me reason to.

1470
01:08:19,960 --> 01:08:23,040
Speaker 3: Okay, But I feel like that needs to be something

1471
01:08:23,080 --> 01:08:27,920
Speaker 3: that's communicated because now I feel discover something and why

1472
01:08:27,960 --> 01:08:28,800
Speaker 3: are you hiding this?

1473
01:08:29,080 --> 01:08:30,480
Speaker 1: Because it makes me feel uncomfortable.

1474
01:08:30,479 --> 01:08:32,800
Speaker 7: So it needs to be brought to the surface, but

1475
01:08:32,840 --> 01:08:35,559
Speaker 7: not in a combative way because I feel like she's

1476
01:08:35,560 --> 01:08:36,520
Speaker 7: taking it personally.

1477
01:08:36,600 --> 01:08:39,760
Speaker 1: But he's choosing to be with you. Who gives them?

1478
01:08:39,800 --> 01:08:41,800
Speaker 2: Who cares?

1479
01:08:42,400 --> 01:08:45,439
Speaker 7: If it's just pages he's following are just like there's

1480
01:08:45,439 --> 01:08:45,960
Speaker 7: no messages.

1481
01:08:45,960 --> 01:08:48,040
Speaker 1: She didn't say anything about messages being shared.

1482
01:08:49,360 --> 01:08:51,640
Speaker 3: That these women that he's looking at is probably like

1483
01:08:51,720 --> 01:08:53,479
Speaker 3: that he can't get to these women anyway.

1484
01:08:53,640 --> 01:08:54,599
Speaker 5: Yeah, but even.

1485
01:08:56,080 --> 01:08:58,120
Speaker 1: If he could, you need to know that he wouldn't.

1486
01:09:00,080 --> 01:09:02,639
Speaker 7: And that's a bigger layer, like yo, if he had

1487
01:09:02,720 --> 01:09:03,679
Speaker 7: access to this bitch.

1488
01:09:03,720 --> 01:09:06,720
Speaker 5: Like So there's also the.

1489
01:09:06,680 --> 01:09:09,320
Speaker 6: Thing where like like I like porn, Like we love

1490
01:09:09,360 --> 01:09:12,040
Speaker 6: going we walk on together. We've talked about that, but

1491
01:09:12,800 --> 01:09:16,280
Speaker 6: I can't I can't have that on my page, right,

1492
01:09:16,479 --> 01:09:20,040
Speaker 6: So I have like another page that I post freaky

1493
01:09:20,080 --> 01:09:23,160
Speaker 6: ship from right, And that's the page. I do because

1494
01:09:23,200 --> 01:09:25,240
Speaker 6: I don't want my brand to be torn as because

1495
01:09:25,280 --> 01:09:27,320
Speaker 6: even though I'm open and I'll talk about all this ship,

1496
01:09:27,600 --> 01:09:29,640
Speaker 6: there are certain people that still look at you a

1497
01:09:29,640 --> 01:09:30,160
Speaker 6: certain ways.

1498
01:09:30,400 --> 01:09:31,240
Speaker 1: So you can't be.

1499
01:09:32,680 --> 01:09:35,400
Speaker 6: Like, are you you got a girl that you all

1500
01:09:35,479 --> 01:09:39,120
Speaker 6: up in this bitch page? Like motherfucker, my eyes still work.

1501
01:09:39,640 --> 01:09:42,559
Speaker 7: Because I definitely go through and I don't like the

1502
01:09:42,600 --> 01:09:45,120
Speaker 7: stuff out because I don't want somebody going to him

1503
01:09:45,120 --> 01:09:47,120
Speaker 7: with some bullshit and be like yo.

1504
01:09:48,000 --> 01:09:50,160
Speaker 1: Because it is just unnecessary messing.

1505
01:09:50,560 --> 01:09:53,519
Speaker 7: And so I will look, I will follow the page,

1506
01:09:53,560 --> 01:09:55,479
Speaker 7: but I'm not sitting there like you're gonna see.

1507
01:09:55,280 --> 01:09:57,559
Speaker 1: Far and Moore like on all this ship, like you're

1508
01:09:57,560 --> 01:09:59,920
Speaker 1: not about to say my name popping up that many times?

1509
01:10:00,080 --> 01:10:02,559
Speaker 5: Alright, So that's why that's why I have the joint

1510
01:10:02,640 --> 01:10:02,920
Speaker 5: right there.

1511
01:10:02,920 --> 01:10:05,320
Speaker 6: It's literally just so I could post the reckless ship

1512
01:10:05,360 --> 01:10:08,880
Speaker 6: that I want to. But I know the world, yeah

1513
01:10:08,960 --> 01:10:12,120
Speaker 6: it's not it's not ready to have that. And you

1514
01:10:12,200 --> 01:10:14,120
Speaker 6: know that that type of shit about me. Sorry because

1515
01:10:14,160 --> 01:10:16,559
Speaker 6: my my, my, my other Twitter page. All I do

1516
01:10:16,640 --> 01:10:17,360
Speaker 6: is fall upon them.

1517
01:10:19,760 --> 01:10:22,439
Speaker 7: That's another thing, Like I know he has these multiple

1518
01:10:22,479 --> 01:10:23,920
Speaker 7: pages and I know this stuff.

1519
01:10:24,000 --> 01:10:26,240
Speaker 1: And so because we opened up that communication.

1520
01:10:26,360 --> 01:10:32,439
Speaker 6: It was like, I sure, we'll look at videos.

1521
01:10:32,000 --> 01:10:35,000
Speaker 3: Communication and maybe just talk to him about all right,

1522
01:10:35,040 --> 01:10:37,800
Speaker 3: and we're gonna go to the last question.

1523
01:10:38,320 --> 01:10:40,439
Speaker 1: Or which Yeah, I'm trying to figure out which one

1524
01:10:40,439 --> 01:10:40,960
Speaker 1: I want to read.

1525
01:10:42,160 --> 01:10:45,960
Speaker 4: For the last one, let's go to Hey, ladies, I

1526
01:10:46,000 --> 01:10:48,559
Speaker 4: love you too, in the genuine friendship, because that's along

1527
01:10:48,600 --> 01:10:51,680
Speaker 4: with relationships are so rare these days. I'm twenty one

1528
01:10:51,760 --> 01:10:54,040
Speaker 4: years old, and last summer I got into this situation

1529
01:10:54,080 --> 01:10:56,200
Speaker 4: where I'm fucking a dude and all of a sudden,

1530
01:10:56,280 --> 01:10:58,719
Speaker 4: his x DMS be like, I'm pregnant with his baby,

1531
01:10:59,439 --> 01:11:02,800
Speaker 4: pissed that I wasted a body that wasn't good. I

1532
01:11:02,800 --> 01:11:06,000
Speaker 4: started thinking I should have I should have my homeboys

1533
01:11:06,040 --> 01:11:09,400
Speaker 4: who's moving soon to slash his tires. Can't get my

1534
01:11:09,479 --> 01:11:12,120
Speaker 4: hands dirty. I want to pay my friend two hundred

1535
01:11:12,120 --> 01:11:14,320
Speaker 4: dollars for three tires. Should I have him do it?

1536
01:11:14,720 --> 01:11:16,600
Speaker 4: I feel like there's no way to get caught, But

1537
01:11:16,640 --> 01:11:18,519
Speaker 4: I also feel like I'm holding a grudge and I

1538
01:11:18,560 --> 01:11:21,479
Speaker 4: should chalk that l up to the game. But the

1539
01:11:21,520 --> 01:11:25,559
Speaker 4: board is getting full, though, y'all. I also wanted wait.

1540
01:11:25,760 --> 01:11:29,720
Speaker 4: I also waited this long for less suspicion. Revenge can

1541
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Speaker 4: be so sweet hashtag girl, let that shit go.

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01:11:33,400 --> 01:11:37,200
Speaker 1: Let it go, because you're harboring on some hurt. Yeah

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01:11:37,400 --> 01:11:40,599
Speaker 1: that she was fucking them like you you? Is that

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01:11:40,640 --> 01:11:42,599
Speaker 1: really all it was? Because if that's all it was,

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01:11:42,920 --> 01:11:44,400
Speaker 1: why mad right?

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01:11:44,479 --> 01:11:46,240
Speaker 7: Let him have his baby and keep sucking them? Or

1547
01:11:46,240 --> 01:11:48,719
Speaker 7: if the dick is trashed and stop right?

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01:11:48,880 --> 01:11:50,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, people always love to say like baby's are a

1549
01:11:50,960 --> 01:11:52,519
Speaker 4: deal breaker, But it's like, if you don't really care

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01:11:52,520 --> 01:11:53,599
Speaker 4: about that nigga, and why do you.

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Speaker 1: Hear about like don't show me, don't talk to me?

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01:11:57,560 --> 01:11:57,760
Speaker 7: Right?

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01:11:58,040 --> 01:12:01,120
Speaker 1: Nice? Different if that show men? You know what I mean?

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01:12:01,160 --> 01:12:03,840
Speaker 4: But like I just wouldn't even be tripping over there

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01:12:03,880 --> 01:12:06,080
Speaker 4: like they think, y'all homeboy is weirdest fuck too?

1556
01:12:06,120 --> 01:12:09,240
Speaker 2: Because two hundred dollars and he gonna go slash nigga tires?

1557
01:12:09,280 --> 01:12:10,200
Speaker 1: What if that nigga beat him?

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Speaker 7: Ug?

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Speaker 1: Was he slashing tires for you? Does? Is he want

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Speaker 1: to put two hundred dollars? Yeah? I would say let

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Speaker 1: it go.

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Speaker 3: I think a lot of times we harbor on things

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01:12:23,920 --> 01:12:26,720
Speaker 3: that are that's not the person for you. Yeah, move on,

1564
01:12:27,000 --> 01:12:30,160
Speaker 3: let it go, Like stop, I'm not into revenge.

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01:12:30,240 --> 01:12:33,000
Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't like that revenge energy just like

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Speaker 1: to think.

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Speaker 3: We just do all for it, and not only that,

1568
01:12:36,680 --> 01:12:40,240
Speaker 3: it brings energy into your aura that doesn't need to

1569
01:12:40,280 --> 01:12:40,639
Speaker 3: be there.

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01:12:40,800 --> 01:12:43,439
Speaker 1: Stop harboring on something like him. So be a grown

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Speaker 1: twenty one year old.

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Speaker 6: And also you're twenty one. Yeah not even the last

1573
01:12:48,600 --> 01:12:51,120
Speaker 6: time now you be like that lame man.

1574
01:12:51,280 --> 01:12:54,840
Speaker 1: You know how many more niggas you won't fuck right slash.

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01:12:54,640 --> 01:12:57,880
Speaker 5: All the times you keep going business.

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01:12:57,920 --> 01:12:59,920
Speaker 1: You got about seventy six more times ago.

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Speaker 4: I have a lengthy record fools in County all.

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Speaker 3: Let everybody know where they can find y'all, what y'all

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Speaker 3: working on, what they got coming up?

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Speaker 1: All that stuff is.

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Speaker 6: long stroke, follow that.

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Speaker 7: Poke daddy forget square f square and really to get

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Speaker 7: this movement up, eat me out going So you know

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Speaker 7: that out anytime you have a good time.

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Speaker 5: Eat me out or why you're getting eaten out?

1595
01:14:06,400 --> 01:14:08,280
Speaker 6: But as I said, when she's talking my day, I'll

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01:14:08,280 --> 01:14:11,439
Speaker 6: be like, eat me out because it's just the them over.

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Speaker 5: Hold on, now, hold.

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01:14:16,600 --> 01:14:21,320
Speaker 6: That bang up one time I have one time and

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Speaker 6: she won't let the sit go anyway.

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Speaker 5: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, Now y'all know we got to close it with

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Speaker 3: the song. So which part do you want me to

1603
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Speaker 3: start on? You could just start because you're at the

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Speaker 3: little Giant park you start every time young, that's my

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Speaker 3: little giant.

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Speaker 1: So you're we love us and friends.

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Speaker 8: Oh a long time fucking up across my mind. Show

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01:14:56,720 --> 01:15:01,880
Speaker 8: that I've seen something. Menu make me want to get

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Speaker 8: with you?

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Speaker 1: Shot nothing but a friend of me. You can never

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Speaker 1: ever dream with me.

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Speaker 4: Show here, kiss and hugging, squeeze and touch she show

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Speaker 4: up in the baptub rubber Dubkins show.

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Speaker 1: You want to go this brown show?

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Speaker 4: Know before I pull it out, show I would never

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Speaker 4: ever cross the line.

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Speaker 2: Shot me here, can tell me one more time?

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Speaker 1: Come on one more time? Tell me tell me again? Joy? Oh, oh,

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Speaker 1: please tell you.

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Speaker 4: Johnny and Luda had to thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: But to the end and We'll see y'all next week.

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Speaker 5: You got big, big,