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Speaker 1: My sister in law made a move on me, and

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Speaker 1: now my wife is going insane. This is okop where

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Speaker 1: we tell the funniest true stories on the Internet. And John,

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Speaker 1: what do you think? Do you think the wife is

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Speaker 1: justified and being a little upset about this sister in

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Speaker 2: I mean, that's that is pretty freaking egregious. Your own sibling,

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Speaker 2: the person who you've grown up with, you should have

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Speaker 2: at the husband too? What did the husband do? That's

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Speaker 2: the question, because sometimes someone can make a move on

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Speaker 2: you and you're like, whoa, yeah, I swerve it. Get

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Speaker 2: out of there, you know, don't touch me there. That's

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Speaker 2: my private square.

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Speaker 1: That's right.

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Speaker 2: So it depends on the husband's reaction. But I think

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Speaker 2: I think the wife probably will justifyed.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, let's suck get some more details on this story.

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Speaker 1: So sorry for how long this is. This is a

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Speaker 1: really long story. As the title says, my wife's sister

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Speaker 1: made a pass at me at a recent family gathering,

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Speaker 1: and I have no idea what to do. That's a pickle.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's a pickle that you want to get in

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Speaker 1: between us. Maybe it's his pickle stickled oh oh. For context,

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Speaker 1: I think my wife Jenna is absolutely gorgeous, but she

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Speaker 1: has some really negative body image issues. This is in

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Speaker 1: large part because of her sister Mary, who's very conventionally

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Speaker 1: attractive as opposed to Jenna's more unconventional but in my opinion,

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Speaker 1: striking beauty. Bro, do you hate your what? Do you

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Speaker 1: think your wife is ugly? It's unconventional.

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Speaker 2: Opie's like, just dip it and dive in and Pola

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Speaker 2: ticking his way around something.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I've never looked into this and I

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Speaker 1: refuse to. But I once had an ex girlfriend said

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Speaker 1: that I was attractive in an interesting way, Like I

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Speaker 1: feel like this. I took it well. I took it.

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Speaker 1: I took it as win when so, you know, you

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Speaker 1: could be you could be attractive in an unconventional way

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Speaker 1: and maybe it's more interesting. That's true. It's easy. Anyone

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Speaker 1: can pay for a Kadashian level attractiveness, but unconventional beauty

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Speaker 1: that's only made by fucking shit up.

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Speaker 2: I go to the Blast shirts and I'm like, give

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Speaker 2: me the Samuel Dughner.

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Speaker 1: That's what I want, all right. Mary was a successful

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Speaker 1: model and told a couple of years ago and now

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Speaker 1: works into the fashion industrate. In our early days of dating,

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Speaker 1: when I would tell Jenna she's beautiful, she would always say,

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Speaker 1: just wait until you see my sister, which is a

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Speaker 1: weird thing to say. When I had finally meet her family,

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Speaker 1: she would randomly press me for weeks to talk about

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Speaker 1: et cetera. I always told her the truth that I

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Speaker 1: think Mary is attractive in a boring way, That's what

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Speaker 1: I said, and that I think my wife is much

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Speaker 1: more beautiful and interesting to look at, like roadkill at

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Speaker 1: the side of the Okay, super quick, I'm kidding, kidding,

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Speaker 2: I think I am kind of understanding more of what

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Speaker 2: Op's and saying in that like the typical like La

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Speaker 1: Everyone's cup of tea.

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Speaker 2: It's like not it doesn't really do it for me, honestly,

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Speaker 2: So I think I can kind of connect with that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, okay, right there we go, there

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Speaker 1: we go. Okay. She wouldn't let it go until I

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Speaker 1: This is when she told me that she always had

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Speaker 1: the classic smart one, pretty one dynamic their whole lives.

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Speaker 1: He also said Mary had a habit of being flirty

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Speaker 1: one of her Boyfriends's just gonna happen, Like, ah, no,

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Speaker 1: this is like. She then started sobbing that this is

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Speaker 1: that is. I've been crazy about my wife since day one,

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Speaker 1: It's super uncomfortable for everyone, especially my wife. And I

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Speaker 1: six years of this. Damn. Mary's really like, can she not,

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Speaker 1: you know, go do that somewhere else, anyone else?

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Speaker 2: Look at the more billion people on planet Earth?

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Speaker 1: Could you go to for them? Please? Yes? Crazy? But

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Speaker 1: my question to really quick, how many people are on Earth?

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Speaker 1: Seven or eight? It's eight? Okay? All right? Yeah? Because

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Speaker 1: four billion men fifty percent? Also, that's very heteronormative of you. John.

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Speaker 1: What did I say for Ham was literally no, no, no, no.

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Speaker 1: I was saying about the four billion What if she

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Speaker 1: wants to hook up with woman? You got me, get fucked,

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Speaker 1: you got me, dude? Fuck whoo. And every time that happens,

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Speaker 1: my wife's upset for days, and I have to do

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Speaker 1: days ago, we were at my mother in law's birthday party,

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Speaker 2: Um, that's not good.

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Speaker 1: As soon as we walked into the garage, she turned

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Speaker 2: That's a tough decision to me, because like, when do

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Speaker 2: it's suling further the relationship with the sister.

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Speaker 1: F the sister, but not literally. Okay, For the last

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Speaker 1: doing exactly what I thought she would do, even telling

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Speaker 1: She's been a complete wreck the last several days. She's

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Speaker 1: And there are some comments, but before I read this

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Speaker 1: and you cheat and steal one of their ideas, John,

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Speaker 1: what do you think Opee should do about this?

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Speaker 2: I mean, I low key feel like the whole family

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Speaker 1: She's been doing.

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Speaker 2: This with all the exes years six years of just

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Speaker 1: Right, yeah, yeah, yeah, you're right. All all. I'm surprised, like,

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Speaker 2: What a what an awful family dynamic? And like you

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Speaker 2: you literally constantly know anytime you're getting together. If I'm parents,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, this is awful.

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Speaker 1: Like what are you're doing? That's disgust stop? Yeah, if

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Speaker 2: And the fact that it's like literally every single one

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Speaker 2: of her exes. It's not just like which would be

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Speaker 1: Get my sister, probably because there's some jealousy or some

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Speaker 2: One hundred percent, And like I think they should. I

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Speaker 2: think that the parents, honestly, maybe hot take parents are they.

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Speaker 1: For not saying anything if this is compeatedly happening in

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Speaker 1: To be honest, your wife's sister is evil. You have

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Speaker 1: dad's much younger trophy wife. Honestly, we may have to

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Speaker 1: go no contact with all of them. And there is

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Speaker 1: family is enabling. Yeah, so would you like to lock

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna one hundred percent lock it in. And then

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Speaker 2: there's the other big question. Do they go no contact

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Speaker 1: Going no contact with a sister at this point makes sense.

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Speaker 1: The sister. This is not like a one time spur

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I think no contact with a sister.

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Speaker 2: I'm curious what everyone else thinks, but maybe at least

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Speaker 2: an ultimatum with everyone but the sister and be like, look,

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Speaker 2: you guys can't keep condoning this behavior.

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Speaker 1: Even I'm not going to show up at any event

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Speaker 1: I want to thank you all again for your help.

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Speaker 1: Phenomenation says you're an absolute legend. She found herself another

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Speaker 1: Let's get into it. So first, I want to say

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Speaker 1: In your mind. Yeah, what do you think the dream

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Speaker 2: The dream of the sister is to ruin everybody's lives,

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Speaker 1: But I won't. I won't let them down because this

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Speaker 1: my god, Oh no, no, no, no, that's pretty good.

432
00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:10,080
Speaker 1: It's a pretty good blackmail. Though. My best guess is

433
00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:12,560
Speaker 1: that I must have left my email log in on

434
00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:15,440
Speaker 1: one of my in laws devices. She's definitely not smart

435
00:22:15,520 --> 00:22:17,439
Speaker 1: enough to actually hack me, and I know this is

436
00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:20,439
Speaker 1: completely beside the point, but of course she chose the

437
00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:25,160
Speaker 1: weirdest looking dick I've ever seen. I've played deep sports

438
00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:28,239
Speaker 1: all my life, I've seen a lot of dicks, and

439
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:31,840
Speaker 1: this was something else. Oh god, It's honestly kind of

440
00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:35,199
Speaker 1: funny to think about Mary googling a gross penis or

441
00:22:35,200 --> 00:22:39,159
Speaker 1: something and sifting through hundreds of images to find just

442
00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:56,800
Speaker 1: the right one. Riley, what comes up? Fire? That's my boy.

443
00:22:57,320 --> 00:23:00,840
Speaker 1: I had to apologize to everyone on staff, and thankfully

444
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 1: folks were surprisingly understanding. It's actually been kind of nice

445
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 1: bonding experience with my coworkers. I honestly didn't consider myself

446
00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:09,280
Speaker 1: to be super well liked in the office, but it

447
00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:11,360
Speaker 1: feels like everyone has been going out of their way

448
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:13,920
Speaker 1: to be kind to me, and it means a lot. Anyway,

449
00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:16,879
Speaker 1: At this point, it was clear we had to escalate

450
00:23:16,920 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 1: things legally. I mean, because Mary is like going completely wild.

451
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 1: I really wanted to avoid it, but she forced my hand.

452
00:23:23,240 --> 00:23:25,160
Speaker 1: My wife and I have a lawyer friend who helped

453
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:28,480
Speaker 1: us draft a seasoned assist letter outlining her continued harassment

454
00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:31,480
Speaker 1: and the material and emotional damage this is causing us.

455
00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:34,679
Speaker 1: My wife then sent a message to Mary in my

456
00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:36,680
Speaker 1: in laws with a copy of the letter and made

457
00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:38,960
Speaker 1: it very clear that we would pursue criminal and or

458
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:43,720
Speaker 1: civil proceedings if harassment continued. My wife's mom then called

459
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:46,360
Speaker 1: her crying and begged her to just let it go

460
00:23:46,960 --> 00:23:52,240
Speaker 1: and leave Mary alone. Shut up. I mean Mary's sending

461
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:56,440
Speaker 1: Dick pics to OPI's whole office. Is that not registering

462
00:23:56,480 --> 00:24:00,680
Speaker 1: with the parents? Like? Where is your brain? Where there's yours?

463
00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,919
Speaker 1: It is gone? It is gone, It is gone. My

464
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:07,399
Speaker 1: wife calmly explained that Mary is the only person responsible

465
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:10,360
Speaker 1: for this whole situation, and that their parents have always

466
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 1: enabled her awful behavior and they're continuing too. Yes, she

467
00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:17,080
Speaker 1: also said something she later regretted but I think was

468
00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:19,600
Speaker 1: pretty badass. Mary is going to stick you to in

469
00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:22,199
Speaker 1: a nursing home and steal your money the minute she

470
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:27,440
Speaker 1: has a chance, and you deserve it after the way

471
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:30,480
Speaker 1: her mom reacted, My wife is firmly settled on cutting

472
00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:34,439
Speaker 1: off her family completely. This happened on Friday, and on Sunday,

473
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:37,119
Speaker 1: Mary's best friend of me, Anne, sent my brother a

474
00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:39,440
Speaker 1: message on Facebook to say Mary is going to leave

475
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 1: us alone and to please not sue her. I told

476
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:44,840
Speaker 1: my brother not to respond, then just sat and enjoyed

477
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:48,360
Speaker 1: the idea that Mary was out there somewhere freaking out

478
00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:52,760
Speaker 1: about potentially having to actually face the consequences of her actions.

479
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 1: It must be such a strange feeling for her. Since then,

480
00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:59,480
Speaker 1: we haven't heard a peep from the grapevine. It feels

481
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:02,600
Speaker 1: like the are finally starting to get back to normal.

482
00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 1: My life is starting therapy next week and will be

483
00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:07,480
Speaker 1: starting couples therapy in a month or two. She wants

484
00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:09,960
Speaker 1: to do some work on herself first. She's also taking

485
00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:12,879
Speaker 1: a short leave from work to rest and recharge. I'm

486
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:15,760
Speaker 1: so proud of her for standing up for herself with

487
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:18,880
Speaker 1: her family and finally putting her mental health and well

488
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:22,919
Speaker 1: being first. Thanks again for everyone who offered advice. This

489
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:25,720
Speaker 1: was a messy situation, but it definitely would have been

490
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:28,879
Speaker 1: messier without your help, and you thought it was over.

491
00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:33,520
Speaker 1: Oh you fucking thought it was. But you're wrong. You're wrong.

492
00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:38,479
Speaker 1: There is another update, and the update has sirens and siren. Siren, siren.

493
00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 1: New update, siren, siren, siren. I'm not ready, but oh man,

494
00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:46,639
Speaker 1: I forgot about this account completely until today and logged

495
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 1: in to see so many comments and messages asking for

496
00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:51,560
Speaker 1: an update. It's honestly touching to see how many people

497
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:53,600
Speaker 1: care about this situation want the best for me and

498
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:57,200
Speaker 1: my wife. This will be a brief update. I don't

499
00:25:57,240 --> 00:25:59,040
Speaker 1: want to make this a regular thing, and the original

500
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:02,240
Speaker 1: situation as result enough that I am hopeful this will

501
00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:05,040
Speaker 1: be the end of the saga. But there's a little

502
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 1: bit more tea that we got to squeeze out of

503
00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 1: that tea bag. Mary and the in laws have pretty

504
00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:11,680
Speaker 1: much left us alone. My mother in law still tries

505
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 1: to contact my wife every now and then, but she's

506
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:16,320
Speaker 1: made it clear to her family that if the first

507
00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:19,920
Speaker 1: words out of their mouths aren't i'm sorry, she isn't

508
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:23,959
Speaker 1: interested in a conversation. There we go, bitch, don't negotiate

509
00:26:24,000 --> 00:26:26,560
Speaker 1: with proists. That's what I'm talking about. As you can see,

510
00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:29,440
Speaker 1: the past six months have made my wife a badass.

511
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 1: She has done some amazing work in therapy, and her

512
00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:34,320
Speaker 1: confidence is growing all the time. It's not just with

513
00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 1: her family. She's more comfortable asserting herself at work, with strangers,

514
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 1: with friends, etc. She even stopped putting up with some

515
00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:42,159
Speaker 1: of my shit to be fair. Of that shit is

516
00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:44,119
Speaker 1: stuff like leaving my socks everywhere around the house. But

517
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 1: I'm seriously proud of her for telling me to cut

518
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:49,480
Speaker 1: it out. I'm becoming a more responsible and supportive partner

519
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:53,280
Speaker 1: because she's able to communicate her needs and expectations without

520
00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:56,359
Speaker 1: feeling guilty about it, and I'm able to communicate things

521
00:26:56,400 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 1: to her without intense emotions fully eclipsing the conference. I

522
00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:03,760
Speaker 1: didn't mention this earlier in my earlier post, but my

523
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:07,439
Speaker 1: wife does struggle with rejection sensitivity, even outside of her

524
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 1: family often, and if I brought up something that I

525
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:12,280
Speaker 1: felt needed to change, her emotional reaction to feeling like

526
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:15,200
Speaker 1: she did something wrong would be really intense, and instead

527
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:17,879
Speaker 1: of dealing with the problem, it would become about regulating

528
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 1: her emotions. Now, my wife has really good coping tools

529
00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:24,120
Speaker 1: that allow her to talk about the problem without thinking

530
00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 1: she is the problem. And the biggest update, she's pregnant. Woo.

531
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:33,480
Speaker 1: We have a baby girl do in February, and I'm

532
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 1: shitting my pants with excitement. We're going to love her

533
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:38,479
Speaker 1: so much and teach her that she is more than

534
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:41,440
Speaker 1: her beauty. She's going to have happy parents who love

535
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:44,240
Speaker 1: each other and work through issues as a team. The

536
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 1: toxic cycle will be broken. Jenna's family doesn't know, and

537
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:51,879
Speaker 1: she's not sure if Slush ween she'll tell them, But

538
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 1: if she does, there are going to be strong boundaries

539
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 1: in place for how they can be part of our

540
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:59,920
Speaker 1: daughter's life, and we'll start with family therapy. For now,

541
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,040
Speaker 1: she has one set of grandparents that will go to

542
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 1: the end of the earth for her, and that's more

543
00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:07,399
Speaker 1: than enough. My family has been absolutely incredible in their

544
00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:10,680
Speaker 1: support and they're so excited for us things joking better

545
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 1: than they ever have. That's all, folks, Thanks again for

546
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 1: your support on this wild journey. I'm sorry, round of

547
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:22,320
Speaker 1: a freakin' flause.

548
00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:27,840
Speaker 2: What a beautiful way to end a insanely awful situation,

549
00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:29,919
Speaker 2: you know, and I can't believe it got like so

550
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 2: much worse.

551
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:36,320
Speaker 1: They didn't pick in the office. Dastardly evil mastermind moved

552
00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:38,360
Speaker 1: and you're picking in the weirdest looking dick is kind

553
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:41,560
Speaker 1: of funny, like Loki, that's that's pretty I mean, op

554
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:43,840
Speaker 1: a bit is pretty funny. It's like she was like

555
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:50,320
Speaker 1: that was her thumbnail. She was like, what's gonna hit you? Yes,

556
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 1: also just just for kicks and gigs. Yes, I'm gonna

557
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 1: look up weird looking penis. Oh, here we go, and

558
00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 1: let's see what comes up. Oh god, why does this happen?

559
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 2: Every once in a while, we just have something that

560
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:05,000
Speaker 2: just like sears into our brains and just cannot be a.

561
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:11,479
Speaker 1: Weird looking penis images. We'll never bring it up again. Okay,

562
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:17,240
Speaker 1: this isn't a human, but this hedgehog thing has like

563
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 1: five separate penis heads. Wait, okay, for four separate ones.

564
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: It looks like a piece of coral. It's different. Yeah,

565
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:28,880
Speaker 1: it's like wow, okay for him. All right, let's look

566
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 1: up weird looking humanness. I don't know if I'm ready

567
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:35,040
Speaker 1: for this. I don't know if I'm ready for this. Guys,

568
00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:44,240
Speaker 1: what is this? No? Can't all right? When I look

569
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:46,920
Speaker 1: up weird looking human penis, it comes up with mutant

570
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 1: pig with penis head okay, and giant penis museum. That

571
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:56,480
Speaker 1: that's not that's not what I'm well, you're not. That's

572
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 1: not what I want. You're not understanding what I want.

573
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 1: Oh my god, if only chat GVT. I'm not on

574
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:07,360
Speaker 1: safe search. We're looking human penis safe searches, and lords

575
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 1: are like, hey, we just looked at the search. Yeah, dude,

576
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:15,000
Speaker 1: it's off. Bro, it's off. Damn. Google is a prude.

577
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 1: It's not giving me any wow human penises. Oh rats, Well,

578
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:24,120
Speaker 1: tell us about the weirdest penis you've seen in the

579
00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:29,320
Speaker 1: comments below. Describe it in detail. That's a good one.

580
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:34,200
Speaker 1: Ooh ooh good challenge and words too. I want to

581
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:34,760
Speaker 1: know the details.

582
00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:37,520
Speaker 2: I want to deep the story you guys are been posting.

583
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 2: I want like that level, like.

584
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 1: I wantel like a description so deep that it could

585
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 1: be like in a you know, like those poetry like

586
00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:47,640
Speaker 1: from like eighteen hundred. It's like William James Bryant, he

587
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 1: wrote like poetry about freaking flowers and described them with

588
00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:53,520
Speaker 1: all these adjectives. Yes, I want that. But for penises,

589
00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:55,920
Speaker 1: there we go that look weird? Do it? Do it?

590
00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 1: We'll see you soon and thank you for this, uh

591
00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:01,240
Speaker 1: you know, thanks for coming on this wild ride of

592
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:03,280
Speaker 1: a wide ranging story. Yeah, and we'll see you soon,

593
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 1: we'll let you guys by