1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,440 Speaker 1: Buckle up, hold on tight. We got it for you here. 2 00:00:02,480 --> 00:00:09,879 Speaker 1: It is a strawberry letter. Here sontry subject. My husband 3 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:14,240 Speaker 1: donated his sperm to his ex should gave a warning 4 00:00:14,320 --> 00:00:17,520 Speaker 1: on this one. Hello Stephen Shirley. I just found out 5 00:00:17,560 --> 00:00:20,440 Speaker 1: that my husband has a two year old child with 6 00:00:20,520 --> 00:00:23,760 Speaker 1: his ex wife. When I confronted him about the child, 7 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:26,479 Speaker 1: he told me it wasn't his child, it was a 8 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 1: two baby. He says she is a product of IVF 9 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:38,040 Speaker 1: in virtue vi vitro virtual. Okay, that's what you won't 10 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:43,040 Speaker 1: go with, Okay, cool, okay, well, okay, okay, and that 11 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:46,959 Speaker 1: he has documentation to prove it. When I asked him 12 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:49,279 Speaker 1: why with his ex wife, he just said that she 13 00:00:49,360 --> 00:00:52,080 Speaker 1: asked him to donate his sperm, and that she was 14 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 1: his first wife and never been with no other man 15 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:57,640 Speaker 1: but but him, so he agreed. He says he has 16 00:00:57,680 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 1: no ties to this baby or his ex because she's 17 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:03,480 Speaker 1: a single parent and it was in the agreements. Of course, 18 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:06,279 Speaker 1: I don't believe it. I left him. We've been married 19 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: four years. I also spoke about having children. He would 20 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:12,960 Speaker 1: say the Lord would provide them when it's the right time. 21 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 1: In depression and contemplating suicide. Now he realizes what he 22 00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:21,000 Speaker 1: lost and wants me back. He says, if he can 23 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:24,039 Speaker 1: only turn back time, he never had the intentions of 24 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 1: hurting the only special thing that's ever happened in his life. 25 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:29,920 Speaker 1: I spoke to him about divorce. It's been very difficult 26 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:32,400 Speaker 1: to make a wise decision because deep down I still 27 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:35,399 Speaker 1: love him. I need advice in someone else's opinion to 28 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:39,200 Speaker 1: make a final decision. Wow, come on, you want to 29 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:42,040 Speaker 1: say something. Yeah, I don't say something. Go ahead, Okay. 30 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:45,199 Speaker 1: So your husband donates his sperm to his ex wife 31 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:47,919 Speaker 1: so she can have a baby, just because the baby 32 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 1: is a product of IVF. He probably thought it was cool. 33 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 1: After all, he wasn't gonna actually have sexual intercourse with 34 00:01:54,160 --> 00:01:56,400 Speaker 1: his ex. But at the end of the day, your 35 00:01:56,480 --> 00:02:00,120 Speaker 1: husband fathered a child with his ex wife, and to 36 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 1: add insult to injury, you wanted to have children and 37 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:05,960 Speaker 1: your husband tells you to wait on the Lord. I 38 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:08,760 Speaker 1: know you love him, but how can you ever trust 39 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:14,560 Speaker 1: your husband again? Um? My opinion is letters. Um. I 40 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:17,120 Speaker 1: found out that my husband had has a two year 41 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:20,120 Speaker 1: old child with his ex wife. When I confronted him 42 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 1: about the child, he told me it wasn't his child. 43 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:28,840 Speaker 1: It was a two baby. That's a gool. He says. 44 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:34,920 Speaker 1: She is a product of i VL in vitro fertilization. 45 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 1: I think i VL stands for I eventually found out, 46 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:47,320 Speaker 1: because that's what didn't happen. You've been married four years. 47 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 1: You eventually found out that the two year olds? How 48 00:02:50,520 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 1: did you find out? See if he has no contact, 49 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 1: no ties with the baby, or was ex how did 50 00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 1: you ever find out that it was his baby? That's 51 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:06,080 Speaker 1: my only question in this letter. I don't want to 52 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:09,480 Speaker 1: promote divorce to you because in this letter you says 53 00:03:10,200 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 1: it's been very difficult to make a wise decision because 54 00:03:12,760 --> 00:03:14,960 Speaker 1: deep down I still love him. My need advice in 55 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:19,040 Speaker 1: someone else's opinion to make a final decision. Well, guess what, Steve, 56 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:20,600 Speaker 1: don't want to be the one to say, yeah, you 57 00:03:20,639 --> 00:03:24,120 Speaker 1: are the divorce it. Here's a deal. Let's just say 58 00:03:24,200 --> 00:03:27,880 Speaker 1: this is the truth that he had I v of 59 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:31,960 Speaker 1: that he donated his sperm to his ex wife and 60 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: they have this baby. You still love the man. Is 61 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 1: that grounds to leave him? If there was no sexual intercourse, 62 00:03:40,440 --> 00:03:43,160 Speaker 1: if he just donated to sperm, is that grounds to 63 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 1: break up your marriage and leave him over? If you 64 00:03:46,040 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 1: still love the man, and he still wants you back. 65 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:51,240 Speaker 1: Here's the only thing. It's a couple of things. So see, 66 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:54,120 Speaker 1: that's why I can't just push for divorce because maybe 67 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:56,320 Speaker 1: what the brothers say and it is true. Do it 68 00:03:56,480 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 1: sound crazy? Yeah? Ye? Do we say it sound like 69 00:04:02,680 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 1: a good line? Need that. Now, here's the only thing. 70 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 1: I don't want you to listen to this line Right here, 71 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 1: she says, in depression and contemplating suicide. Now he realized 72 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:18,080 Speaker 1: what he lost, it wants Okay, stop listen to me. 73 00:04:19,120 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 1: I have never heard of such a man. Men, We 74 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:32,120 Speaker 1: ain't that heartbroken we're gonna commit suicide. I ain't got 75 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:37,960 Speaker 1: that kind of little He might be depressed, but contemplating suicide. 76 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 1: Mm hmm. I still cannot push for divorce in this. 77 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:45,760 Speaker 1: I'm sorry I can't because this I VS story could 78 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:48,480 Speaker 1: be real. You don't believe him, but he says he 79 00:04:48,520 --> 00:04:50,800 Speaker 1: has documentation to prove it. That's all you gotta do 80 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:53,800 Speaker 1: is get the documentation and see and then see where 81 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 1: it's here was that. If it still don't make no 82 00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:58,920 Speaker 1: sense to you, then you make your own decisions. Steve 83 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:01,480 Speaker 1: will have part two of his response coming up at 84 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 1: twenty three after the hour. All right, Steve, let's get 85 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: to it part two of your response to today's strawberry. 86 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:12,159 Speaker 1: Let you know, my husband donated his sperm to his ex. 87 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 1: The subject is crazy. It's crazy what you're doing. See. 88 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 1: First of all, as a wife, I understand husband, sperm, X, 89 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: all that in the same center. I gotta go see 90 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:34,240 Speaker 1: want see you can say husband and X in the 91 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:39,320 Speaker 1: sentence once you throw sperm and that's what you stuck 92 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:46,800 Speaker 1: changes because we all know where that comes from. This 93 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:50,480 Speaker 1: ain't the goal from the ex girlfriend. This ain't that. Yeah. 94 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:54,040 Speaker 1: When I asked him why his ex, he just said 95 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:58,599 Speaker 1: she asked him to donate his sperm, and she was 96 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 1: his first wife, had never been when no other man 97 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 1: but him. So he agreed. First of all, you have 98 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:09,920 Speaker 1: in these types of conversations with your ex is the 99 00:06:09,920 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 1: may for him. See, he had got itself out that way. 100 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:16,560 Speaker 1: I could see if the ex asked the wife, now, 101 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:21,080 Speaker 1: well he did it. That's what I'm saying. He took down. 102 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 1: There was no man. She can't trust him, She can't 103 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:29,480 Speaker 1: trust you win in that room. Now that's if that's true. 104 00:06:30,360 --> 00:06:34,560 Speaker 1: That's a bit far fetched. What for the wife to 105 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:38,479 Speaker 1: believe though? But if he has documented the part about 106 00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:40,360 Speaker 1: he went down there to the clinic. This is all 107 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:43,039 Speaker 1: it's a ting. He took it to the house. Yeah, 108 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:49,159 Speaker 1: I think he made that donation. Yeah, I think that 109 00:06:49,279 --> 00:06:53,960 Speaker 1: donation got made the right way. Yeah, I think I 110 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:57,840 Speaker 1: think I think this does mean what you think, dog? 111 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:01,560 Speaker 1: What you think? I think the real thing? Jump? Yeah, 112 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 1: I think they told that whole house up. I'm the 113 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:08,599 Speaker 1: one last time. How about sits you on the phone 114 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 1: talking anyway, how about the whold time sake? Huh? One 115 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:18,480 Speaker 1: good monkey flip? How about one last try? Even more 116 00:07:18,520 --> 00:07:22,720 Speaker 1: reasons running me like you, marry Lou ritten and just 117 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 1: flipp five tann and all right hit and do a 118 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:33,440 Speaker 1: one and a half game on and then come down. 119 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 1: All right, See, we gotta go. You can email or 120 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:41,880 Speaker 1: instagram that's your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter. You can 121 00:07:41,920 --> 00:07:44,360 Speaker 1: go to Steve Harvey dot com Steve Harvey fm dot 122 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:47,160 Speaker 1: com and post your comments. Today you're listening to the 123 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:48,720 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey Morning Show.