1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,800 Speaker 1: I'm calling off my wedding because my husband refuses to 2 00:00:02,840 --> 00:00:04,240 Speaker 1: wear this one thing. 3 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:06,960 Speaker 2: I mean, everyone's wondering the same thing. What's the one thing? 4 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:08,320 Speaker 3: Okay? 5 00:00:08,560 --> 00:00:11,160 Speaker 2: One time, you know, Okay. 6 00:00:10,960 --> 00:00:13,920 Speaker 1: One time, Sam, shut up and let John read the story. 7 00:00:15,280 --> 00:00:17,560 Speaker 1: I'm twenty six years old and I'm getting married to 8 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:20,640 Speaker 1: my husband twenty eight. I'm from a small village and 9 00:00:20,680 --> 00:00:23,799 Speaker 1: moved to the US five years ago. That's important because 10 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:26,000 Speaker 1: in such a short amount of time, I have not 11 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 1: assimilated to the US culture, and I'm still very involved 12 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:30,360 Speaker 1: in mind. 13 00:00:30,400 --> 00:00:32,560 Speaker 2: What's the difference between a village and a town? 14 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:35,600 Speaker 1: To me, village is like a few thousand or less. 15 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 1: Like that's the like when I hear village. I don't 16 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 1: know if that's that could be completely inaccurate, but that's 17 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:41,640 Speaker 1: like what I imagine in my head. 18 00:00:41,760 --> 00:00:43,879 Speaker 2: Yeah. But if I'm like from California and I'm like, oh, 19 00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:45,199 Speaker 2: where are you from? Like, Oh, I come from like 20 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:46,640 Speaker 2: a small village. 21 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 1: I don't even know are there. I guess there's probably 22 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:52,880 Speaker 1: are villages. What does a village means of a village? 23 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:55,960 Speaker 1: I feel like it's like a town but foreign. Yes, 24 00:00:56,400 --> 00:00:59,680 Speaker 1: I have ever heard anyone call their hometown a village. 25 00:00:59,680 --> 00:01:02,440 Speaker 1: To me, village also always went small, like super small. 26 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:05,119 Speaker 2: Have you ever heard someone from the US call their 27 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:07,800 Speaker 2: hometown of village. No, I've heard it in the UK, 28 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:10,399 Speaker 2: people from like, oh, like a copy the village, and. 29 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:11,399 Speaker 3: It sounds more fancy. 30 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 2: Yeah. 31 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 3: Maybe that's just because we're. 32 00:01:13,080 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 2: Blunt, smoking blubber man's yeah, blokes. 33 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 3: Impropa improper blokes. I think that's what it is. 34 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, tell us the difference between a village and a 35 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:25,080 Speaker 2: town in the commons. No. 36 00:01:25,840 --> 00:01:28,679 Speaker 1: When I met my husband a few weeks into us dating, 37 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:30,959 Speaker 1: he told me that he was going to marry. 38 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:31,520 Speaker 3: Me as a joke. 39 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:37,240 Speaker 2: Oh got you, baby, I actually loved you, that we 40 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:42,400 Speaker 2: were gonna have everlasting love and happily ever after. Freaking idiot, Babe, 41 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:44,000 Speaker 2: you've been watching too much trek. 42 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:46,040 Speaker 1: I'm trying to call your sister right now. What are 43 00:01:46,080 --> 00:01:49,240 Speaker 1: you talking about? But I told him how marriage works 44 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 1: in my culture, and he praised how beautiful it was. 45 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 2: It's like, oh, okay, babe, not a prank. I guess 46 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 2: they're getting married, So. 47 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:58,400 Speaker 3: I guess so, babe, I can be serious. 48 00:01:58,480 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 2: I don't know how beautiful it was. Damn, I'm like 49 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 2: shitting a real tear, right now, shit, dude, I guess 50 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 2: that's marriage. Bro. 51 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 1: I'm like crapping out man tears out my eye holes. 52 00:02:08,040 --> 00:02:11,080 Speaker 2: I'm cram fucking marriage material now because I could be 53 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:12,280 Speaker 2: in touch with my emotions. 54 00:02:12,360 --> 00:02:14,359 Speaker 3: Dude, I have the strongest emotions ever. 55 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:18,519 Speaker 2: Yeah, I here collect it. Yeah, it could be used 56 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:19,920 Speaker 2: for war, perfect, right. 57 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 1: I could shoot my emotions at people, yeah, let them Yeah, exactly. 58 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think more powerful than the tears of an orphan. 59 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:30,639 Speaker 2: That's the most powerful, the most powerful. Watch and you'll 60 00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:33,920 Speaker 2: understand all right, fast forward to now. We agreed on 61 00:02:34,040 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 2: doing two weddings, one of my culture and the other 62 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 2: an American wedding, which I think is a pretty common 63 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 2: thing if there's like two very different cls my mom 64 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 2: and my dad. So my mom is culturally Australian and 65 00:02:46,360 --> 00:02:50,120 Speaker 2: my dad is right, and they did one wedding in 66 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 2: Australia when in America makes sense. My mom is also 67 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:55,799 Speaker 2: actually Australian. I don't know. I said culturally Australia, but 68 00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 2: she's Australian. 69 00:02:57,760 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 3: I'm saying culture Australian for the rest of the time. 70 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:01,079 Speaker 3: That's amazing, you. 71 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:04,040 Speaker 2: Know what I would say, I'm Australian, but culturally American. 72 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 1: In my village, when you got married, both spouses got 73 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:08,560 Speaker 1: a gold bengal sort of thing. 74 00:03:08,720 --> 00:03:10,440 Speaker 3: It's equivalent to a wedding ring. 75 00:03:10,639 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 2: It's like a bengal is like a thing you wear wrist. 76 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:15,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like a bigger ring. That makes a lot of. 77 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:19,119 Speaker 1: Sense, A big old ring, big old ring us as Americans, 78 00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:23,120 Speaker 1: what's a bangold ring? 79 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 3: Yeah? More love. 80 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 1: There's a ceremony and a party for that as well. 81 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:31,480 Speaker 1: It's molded on your wrist and it can't come off 82 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:32,960 Speaker 1: unless you use a saw. 83 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 2: Or something like that. Sh that's that's for real. Ass. 84 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:39,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's love. That's love right there. You can take 85 00:03:39,080 --> 00:03:40,600 Speaker 1: You can slip a ring on and off all you. 86 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, Oh are you married? Not today? International waters 87 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:48,200 Speaker 2: and that marriage doesn't apply here. 88 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 3: I don't need a saw to take this ring off, baby. 89 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:53,240 Speaker 2: I'll saw you and a half baby. 90 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:58,320 Speaker 1: Damn with my with my my my double dong. After 91 00:03:58,360 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 1: my wedding. Oh yeah, Now, during my traditional wedding, I 92 00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 1: received a gift of these fruits I ate back home, 93 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:07,880 Speaker 1: and they're truly my favorite, but I have been able 94 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:10,640 Speaker 1: to find them in the US. My husband jokes about 95 00:04:10,640 --> 00:04:13,720 Speaker 1: how he was not looking forward to smelling that every day, 96 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:16,640 Speaker 1: which is fine because I hate the smell of sausage, 97 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: but it's. 98 00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:20,200 Speaker 3: Something he loves. Yeah, he would love sausage. 99 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 2: What you're trying to say, Opie, man is getting no 100 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:25,120 Speaker 2: head clean down. 101 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:25,440 Speaker 3: There, buddy. 102 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:27,400 Speaker 1: I stayed back home for a week because I had 103 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 1: missed it, and my husband came home early to prepare 104 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 1: for the American wedding. I came home Monday, but I 105 00:04:32,680 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 1: didn't see my husband since he had work and by 106 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: the time he had finished, I was already asleep. We 107 00:04:37,440 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 1: had dinner last night and I saw that he didn't 108 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 1: have his bangle, and he told me he thought it 109 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:44,240 Speaker 1: was just for the party. 110 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:47,480 Speaker 2: Bro, that's a bangle for life. It's like a big ring. 111 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:50,160 Speaker 1: It was molded on your wrist. Like I feel like 112 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 1: it's kind of implied. It's kind of like, yo, can 113 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 1: I just like rip my cast off? 114 00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:57,359 Speaker 2: Like I like how the doctor do that? Yeah, it 115 00:04:57,360 --> 00:04:59,360 Speaker 2: would be very hard for him to remove it. It's 116 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:00,920 Speaker 2: like a whole thing for him to remove. 117 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a lot of work. 118 00:05:03,080 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 2: It would have to saw it and usually in gold. 119 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 2: So he probably ruined it. Bro. If that's what this 120 00:05:08,640 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 2: guy did, he sawed it off, he's like, dude, Stacy 121 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 2: was at the company party. Gotta look fresh and single 122 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:18,880 Speaker 2: for Stace, just in the bathroom, just. 123 00:05:20,080 --> 00:05:26,480 Speaker 1: Amazon Instant Giant hack saw chainsaw most Powerful will cut 124 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 1: straight through Bengal gold Resistant. I explained to him how 125 00:05:30,440 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 1: important it is to me, and he said that I 126 00:05:33,040 --> 00:05:35,599 Speaker 1: couldn't seriously expect him to wear it all the time. 127 00:05:35,880 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 1: I asked him why not, and he told me it 128 00:05:38,600 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 1: made him look unprofessional. 129 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:42,640 Speaker 2: Did anyone tell him that That's. 130 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:45,280 Speaker 1: A great question. It would be crazy, but I could 131 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:49,120 Speaker 1: see a scenario where it's so implied to everyone else 132 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:52,120 Speaker 1: at the wedding that they don't tell him that it 133 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:53,600 Speaker 1: stays on for forever. 134 00:05:53,760 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 2: Yeah. Maybe he legitimately doesn't know, but this is making 135 00:05:57,240 --> 00:05:59,920 Speaker 2: it seem like he did know, but he doesn't like it. 136 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:03,560 Speaker 1: Looks like that's his excuse, basically, which is like, I'm sorry, babe, 137 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:06,720 Speaker 1: I didn't know. It's bro doesn't fit with my work attire, 138 00:06:06,960 --> 00:06:10,039 Speaker 1: This doesn't match my shade, babe, I'm in autumn. I 139 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:13,320 Speaker 1: got upset with him and left. He ended up calling 140 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 1: me to explain how it holds no cultural significance to him. 141 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 2: Oh, y'all are married though, now, so like you should understand, 142 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 2: accept and integrate into each other's cultures. Maybe, yeah, I 143 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:27,599 Speaker 2: think you should. Yeah. 144 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 1: I mean, like maybe there's things that uh, you know, 145 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:35,479 Speaker 1: don't jive with you, but like this feels pretty low on. 146 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 2: The Like when I was dating an Italian girl, I 147 00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:39,160 Speaker 2: ate spaghetti. 148 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:41,920 Speaker 1: Wow, dude, those things are exactly the same. 149 00:06:41,720 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 2: For him every time I ate with her parents. Spaghetti 150 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 2: every time. Wow, Like, oh my god, dude, this guy 151 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:49,120 Speaker 2: is so into her Italian culture. 152 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:50,599 Speaker 3: Olive oil, garlic, knots. 153 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:53,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, yeah, dude, the whole nine yard. I could 154 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:57,719 Speaker 2: never do that three meters because otally yeah, it's on 155 00:06:57,760 --> 00:06:58,600 Speaker 2: the metrics. 156 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 3: System all right now now he's indeed. 157 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:05,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, I just said Italia Italy crushed it. 158 00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:07,640 Speaker 3: Crush again, that's how the Italians say it. 159 00:07:08,160 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 1: Maybe I rebuted it asking him if he was fine 160 00:07:11,480 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 1: with me not wearing a wedding ring as it holds 161 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 1: no cultural significance to me. 162 00:07:17,400 --> 00:07:22,680 Speaker 2: Get freaking wrecked, dude, that freaking wrecks she got him. 163 00:07:22,800 --> 00:07:25,400 Speaker 1: That was such a reverse Uno. That was one of 164 00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:28,160 Speaker 1: the best versions. Wowy, that was incredible. 165 00:07:28,280 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 3: Wow. 166 00:07:29,840 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 2: Honestly, I'm really I'm very impressed. Stuck the lay Is 167 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 2: she a lawyer? Maybe because she could be you could 168 00:07:36,560 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 2: be cultural lawyer. Culture lawyer wear that Bengal do it 169 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:42,640 Speaker 2: and that wedding ring. 170 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:45,240 Speaker 1: Then he got a bit upset and gave me a 171 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 1: lecture on how if we were in my country he 172 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:51,760 Speaker 1: would wear it. I feel so turned off and uninterested 173 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:55,800 Speaker 1: in this relationship that I am thinking of calling off 174 00:07:55,960 --> 00:08:01,840 Speaker 1: the whole wedding. Wow, whoa, we are new clear But Sam, 175 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:03,680 Speaker 1: we have edit and an update. 176 00:08:03,840 --> 00:08:06,520 Speaker 2: Oh shit, are you divorced? That's what I want to know, 177 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 2: that's the question. 178 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 1: But onto the edit, he did know he would have 179 00:08:10,200 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 1: to wear it permanently, so that answers that question. We 180 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:15,400 Speaker 1: talked about this in the early stages of us dating 181 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:18,040 Speaker 1: and several times leading up to now, when I've had 182 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 1: family members get married and when he proposed. Also, he 183 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:25,320 Speaker 1: works from home with occasional in person meetings. Onto the 184 00:08:25,320 --> 00:08:28,800 Speaker 1: big update, so I ended up texting him that morning 185 00:08:28,920 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 1: that I was ready to talk, and he came to 186 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 1: my hotel a few minutes later. I explained to him 187 00:08:33,440 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 1: how I felt about him cutting off his bangle without 188 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:39,199 Speaker 1: talking to me, and especially after he told me he'd 189 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:39,760 Speaker 1: wear it. 190 00:08:39,960 --> 00:08:41,360 Speaker 3: So he did cut it off. 191 00:08:41,480 --> 00:08:44,679 Speaker 2: It did cut it off. He knew this is not 192 00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:48,200 Speaker 2: looking good for my boy. It's just like, it's never 193 00:08:48,280 --> 00:08:50,320 Speaker 2: the act. It's just like what it means, and it 194 00:08:50,360 --> 00:08:52,600 Speaker 2: means you like lied, and we're. 195 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 1: Deceitful, basically completely neglecting something that means so much exactly. 196 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:01,560 Speaker 2: It's not as say, the action is what it symbolized. 197 00:09:01,559 --> 00:09:03,320 Speaker 2: Like I once broke up a girl because she didn't 198 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:06,200 Speaker 2: buy a dress. And there is a valid reason why 199 00:09:06,240 --> 00:09:08,199 Speaker 2: I did that, but the action was just not buying 200 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:09,360 Speaker 2: the dress that I recommend it. 201 00:09:09,440 --> 00:09:11,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, it was Hey, babe, you would look so smoking 202 00:09:11,520 --> 00:09:13,320 Speaker 1: hot in this. You don't want it dumped. 203 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:15,200 Speaker 2: But the reason that I broke up with her is 204 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:18,440 Speaker 2: because she forged a receipt to make it look like 205 00:09:18,520 --> 00:09:20,480 Speaker 2: she bought it. That is right, And I'm like, bro, 206 00:09:20,520 --> 00:09:23,200 Speaker 2: why are you lying about this? That's crazy, pretty eat insane. 207 00:09:23,280 --> 00:09:23,520 Speaker 3: Now. 208 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:26,040 Speaker 1: I don't remember if I explained this earlier, but in 209 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:30,000 Speaker 1: my culture, parents cut off their pieces to mold theirs 210 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:31,160 Speaker 1: together for their children. 211 00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:33,319 Speaker 3: That's kind of fire. I love that. 212 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:37,160 Speaker 1: That's the coolest show. This bangle gets reshaped for my husband. 213 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:41,240 Speaker 1: So it's generations and generations that got passed down to 214 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:45,640 Speaker 1: mine that is now destroyed that makes it. 215 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:53,680 Speaker 2: Much worse. Generation generation dude, I'm a. 216 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 3: Little bit speechless over here. 217 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:58,199 Speaker 2: The easiest way to sabotage your marriage right here. 218 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:01,319 Speaker 1: I explained, if I knew he didn't plan to wear it, 219 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:04,840 Speaker 1: we could have bought him a new gold one instead 220 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:07,679 Speaker 1: of using mine, so I could keep it intact and 221 00:10:07,760 --> 00:10:10,240 Speaker 1: be able to give it to my children, or we 222 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:12,160 Speaker 1: could have made one that could come off. 223 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:14,439 Speaker 3: And he told me, if there was no way he's. 224 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:16,640 Speaker 1: Gonna wear it, then we could have just gone our 225 00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:20,280 Speaker 1: separate ways. He apologized and explained that he didn't think 226 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:22,559 Speaker 1: he would have to wear it every day, And when 227 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 1: I reminded him that he knew this for years, and 228 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:28,760 Speaker 1: also reminded him the countless times I've assured him it 229 00:10:28,840 --> 00:10:31,240 Speaker 1: was fine if he didn't want to, and yet he 230 00:10:31,480 --> 00:10:34,240 Speaker 1: told me he would, I'd like to note here he 231 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 1: got to design his and we made it really thin 232 00:10:37,640 --> 00:10:40,560 Speaker 1: and small where he could wear his watches and it 233 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:41,319 Speaker 1: wouldn't show. 234 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:45,240 Speaker 2: Boh, that's crazy. Like we were like, what we were 235 00:10:45,280 --> 00:10:47,240 Speaker 2: saying before is like, oh, maybe it wasn't his style, bro, 236 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:49,320 Speaker 2: you got to make your own Bengal. 237 00:10:49,480 --> 00:10:50,920 Speaker 3: He's like, babe, it's not my style. 238 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:54,560 Speaker 1: I'm such a poor artiste, babe, I need more training. 239 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:56,320 Speaker 2: Oh my god. 240 00:10:57,240 --> 00:10:59,520 Speaker 1: I asked him to show me the Bengal, so we 241 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:01,679 Speaker 1: ended up going to his house. I don't know if 242 00:11:01,679 --> 00:11:03,800 Speaker 1: the person he took it to was bad at their 243 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:08,080 Speaker 1: job or what was going on, but they literally melted it, 244 00:11:08,360 --> 00:11:12,400 Speaker 1: cut it into several different pieces. So my original design 245 00:11:12,640 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 1: is completely ruined. It probably doesn't make sense to you guys, 246 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:19,720 Speaker 1: but that is really upsetting for me. 247 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:20,839 Speaker 2: No, that makes sense. 248 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 3: I get it sucks. 249 00:11:22,320 --> 00:11:24,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, like you spent all this, it's obviously it's generations. 250 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:26,720 Speaker 1: It's this custom design that you made. 251 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 2: The generational thing, I think is the thing that really 252 00:11:29,440 --> 00:11:33,400 Speaker 2: gets me. You know, like, that's like so fucked. That's 253 00:11:33,480 --> 00:11:34,319 Speaker 2: so fucked. 254 00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:35,480 Speaker 3: Why why? 255 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 1: I did entertain the idea of maybe he was teased 256 00:11:39,120 --> 00:11:41,960 Speaker 1: or something, but he assured me it wasn't that, and 257 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:44,880 Speaker 1: he just didn't think that it was that serious. I 258 00:11:44,960 --> 00:11:48,400 Speaker 1: explained that he was basically divorcing me, and he said 259 00:11:48,679 --> 00:11:51,520 Speaker 1: that I don't have to wear mine either. He got 260 00:11:51,559 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 1: angry with me and kept insisting I was making a 261 00:11:54,120 --> 00:11:57,960 Speaker 1: big deal out of nothing. I explained to how the Bengal. Aside, 262 00:11:58,080 --> 00:12:00,559 Speaker 1: he lied to me about something that he he never 263 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:03,360 Speaker 1: brought up to me. Also not to mention he works 264 00:12:03,360 --> 00:12:06,240 Speaker 1: from home and only has a bi annual in person 265 00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:09,679 Speaker 1: meeting where obviously it's formal so it wouldn't be seen 266 00:12:09,720 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 1: in the first place. There was a lot of back 267 00:12:11,679 --> 00:12:14,360 Speaker 1: and forth, which, by the way, there's like major major 268 00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:18,400 Speaker 1: undertones in him saying unprofessional that like he basically thinks 269 00:12:18,440 --> 00:12:20,719 Speaker 1: the culture is not like professional. 270 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, probe. I think we did another story of like 271 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:28,720 Speaker 2: someone wearing like a sorry to work, yeah, and like 272 00:12:29,080 --> 00:12:33,800 Speaker 2: I mean most workplaces, especially now, Yeah, like if they 273 00:12:33,840 --> 00:12:37,480 Speaker 2: were to even say anything about, oh, this is unprofessional, 274 00:12:37,520 --> 00:12:40,520 Speaker 2: they would be sued because you were like expressing your 275 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:43,800 Speaker 2: culture is like not an Unamerican thing, It's like the 276 00:12:43,800 --> 00:12:45,079 Speaker 2: most American thing that you could do. 277 00:12:45,280 --> 00:12:47,760 Speaker 1: He got anger with me and kept insisting that I 278 00:12:47,840 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 1: was making a big deal out of nothing. I ended 279 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:52,680 Speaker 1: up taking an uber home, and that same day I 280 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:55,920 Speaker 1: went and got mine removed. I returned it to him 281 00:12:56,120 --> 00:12:58,920 Speaker 1: since he bought it along with his ring, and took 282 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:01,760 Speaker 1: my bangle with me. I called my parents to see 283 00:13:01,800 --> 00:13:04,280 Speaker 1: if they can make me another one. It's not the 284 00:13:04,320 --> 00:13:07,400 Speaker 1: same because I've had mine my whole life. My dad 285 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:11,200 Speaker 1: called my husband and wanted an explanation for what he'd done. 286 00:13:11,320 --> 00:13:12,120 Speaker 3: I would do Loki. 287 00:13:12,280 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 1: I guess the conversation didn't go well because my father 288 00:13:15,320 --> 00:13:19,400 Speaker 1: immediately started mourning my marriage with my mother and agreed 289 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:20,920 Speaker 1: to send me a new one. 290 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:24,240 Speaker 2: Okay, okay, So the bangle now inner possession is the 291 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:27,040 Speaker 2: ruined familial generational one. 292 00:13:27,320 --> 00:13:29,839 Speaker 3: Ah, yes, the one his, the one that he was wearing. 293 00:13:30,120 --> 00:13:32,679 Speaker 2: But she can't wear it because it's totally destroyed. 294 00:13:32,800 --> 00:13:33,440 Speaker 3: Right right right? 295 00:13:33,600 --> 00:13:35,560 Speaker 1: I told my husband for us to pause on the 296 00:13:35,600 --> 00:13:38,520 Speaker 1: American wedding, which, after trying to change my mind, he 297 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:41,320 Speaker 1: did give in because I want to talk more about 298 00:13:41,400 --> 00:13:45,600 Speaker 1: what other things he thinks aren't serious. I live in 299 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:48,640 Speaker 1: a different state, only about four to five hours away driving. 300 00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:51,040 Speaker 1: He was supposed to take me, but wouldn't respond to 301 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:53,800 Speaker 1: my texts all night, and since I needed to be 302 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:56,640 Speaker 1: home for work, I called his friend. He couldn't get 303 00:13:56,640 --> 00:13:59,640 Speaker 1: in contact with him either, so he ended up buying 304 00:13:59,640 --> 00:14:02,559 Speaker 1: me a ticket home and drove me to the airport 305 00:14:02,640 --> 00:14:05,280 Speaker 1: the next day. My goodness, gracious, this man is not 306 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:07,000 Speaker 1: on top of it. He drove me over to my 307 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:10,280 Speaker 1: house two nights ago, and he kept apologizing for everything. 308 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:12,920 Speaker 1: He told me that he would re wear it and will. 309 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:13,480 Speaker 3: Get it fixed. 310 00:14:13,640 --> 00:14:17,000 Speaker 1: But honestly, all of the designs are ruined, and if 311 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:19,880 Speaker 1: he wore it now, they wouldn't really change the fact 312 00:14:20,000 --> 00:14:22,440 Speaker 1: that I know how he truly feels about it, so 313 00:14:22,480 --> 00:14:24,920 Speaker 1: I can't even enjoy it anymore, which makes a ton 314 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:26,840 Speaker 1: of sense, like the magic's broken, it's gone. 315 00:14:26,920 --> 00:14:27,200 Speaker 2: Yeah. 316 00:14:27,240 --> 00:14:29,520 Speaker 1: I had a list of things that we talked about 317 00:14:29,520 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 1: in the past and agreed to and just wanted to 318 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:33,640 Speaker 1: revisit them. 319 00:14:33,440 --> 00:14:35,040 Speaker 2: Like, I mean, can you come back from this? 320 00:14:35,440 --> 00:14:37,320 Speaker 3: I know she's trying, she's giving him, you. 321 00:14:37,280 --> 00:14:43,600 Speaker 2: Know, he does seem sorry, but his words, but yeah, 322 00:14:43,640 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 2: it's worse. And I mean, like he if I was 323 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:49,880 Speaker 2: marrying a girl and she destroyed my grandma's ring or 324 00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:52,800 Speaker 2: my great great grandma's a ring, yes, I would create 325 00:14:53,200 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 2: she would have to be very sorry. 326 00:14:54,840 --> 00:14:57,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, which is not the vibe that I'm getting from 327 00:14:57,840 --> 00:15:00,800 Speaker 1: O's Opie's husband. I asked him for full honesty, and 328 00:15:00,880 --> 00:15:03,680 Speaker 1: we did end up taking some things off that he 329 00:15:03,840 --> 00:15:06,880 Speaker 1: agreed to in the past and admitted to not fully 330 00:15:07,000 --> 00:15:10,040 Speaker 1: agreeing to, which just didn't make me feel better like 331 00:15:10,080 --> 00:15:12,840 Speaker 1: I hoped it would, because now I'm rethinking our whole 332 00:15:12,840 --> 00:15:16,000 Speaker 1: relationship as if everything else had been a lie. 333 00:15:16,040 --> 00:15:18,280 Speaker 3: Like everything else she felt aligned on is at all. 334 00:15:18,960 --> 00:15:22,920 Speaker 2: It was probably like just trying to people please, yeah, 335 00:15:22,960 --> 00:15:24,360 Speaker 2: I'll do that, anything you. 336 00:15:24,320 --> 00:15:26,320 Speaker 3: Want, bib whatever, I wear a Bengal. 337 00:15:26,680 --> 00:15:27,360 Speaker 2: The problem. 338 00:15:27,560 --> 00:15:30,400 Speaker 1: He has insisted that he's not going back home until 339 00:15:30,440 --> 00:15:33,560 Speaker 1: we fix this, but I am not optimistic. I feel 340 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:36,080 Speaker 1: I've said everything I needed to say and now have 341 00:15:36,320 --> 00:15:39,160 Speaker 1: nothing else to say. He's staying at a hotel nearby, 342 00:15:39,240 --> 00:15:41,440 Speaker 1: and he has been coming down every day and trying 343 00:15:41,440 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 1: to talk, but he's not really saying anything new, and 344 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:46,560 Speaker 1: he just keeps repeating the same thing. My dad posted 345 00:15:46,600 --> 00:15:49,800 Speaker 1: pictures of me with my old Bengal, implying. 346 00:15:49,320 --> 00:15:51,560 Speaker 3: That I was single. Damn Daddy. 347 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:54,520 Speaker 1: He has been sending me numbers of men he wants 348 00:15:54,560 --> 00:15:57,200 Speaker 1: me to talk to. I've removed pictures of my traditional 349 00:15:57,240 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 1: wedding from all of my social medias. I don't expect 350 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:03,160 Speaker 1: people to understand, since many of you are stuck on 351 00:16:03,320 --> 00:16:05,840 Speaker 1: just the bracelet alone. But I did receive some good 352 00:16:05,880 --> 00:16:08,600 Speaker 1: feedback and writing that makes me feel a bit better 353 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:10,800 Speaker 1: since there isn't really anyone I can. 354 00:16:10,680 --> 00:16:11,600 Speaker 3: Talk to about this. 355 00:16:12,000 --> 00:16:14,760 Speaker 1: Also, just like if he had a problem and waited 356 00:16:14,840 --> 00:16:18,000 Speaker 1: this long and then tried to secretly remove it without 357 00:16:18,080 --> 00:16:20,640 Speaker 1: talking to me. Imagine he had a big problem with 358 00:16:20,760 --> 00:16:23,160 Speaker 1: me in the future and then he lied to me 359 00:16:23,320 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 1: that everything is fine, only to randomly get divorced, even 360 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:29,560 Speaker 1: though I didn't know there was an issue to begin 361 00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:31,440 Speaker 1: with up until that. 362 00:16:31,880 --> 00:16:34,400 Speaker 2: This is a more serious case, but it feels very 363 00:16:34,440 --> 00:16:36,920 Speaker 2: equivalent to the stories we've read where it's like, oh, yeah, 364 00:16:36,960 --> 00:16:39,200 Speaker 2: we both want kids, and then like a couple years later, 365 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:42,040 Speaker 2: it's like, well, yeah, I just getting I don't want kids. 366 00:16:42,120 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 3: Yeah. 367 00:16:42,800 --> 00:16:47,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, And again it's like the significance of the thing yeah, 368 00:16:47,000 --> 00:16:48,440 Speaker 1: And the fact that he lied is. 369 00:16:48,400 --> 00:16:51,640 Speaker 2: The fact that he didn't understand the significance, like and 370 00:16:51,680 --> 00:16:54,760 Speaker 2: didn't venture to understand, or it actually maybe did and 371 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:58,640 Speaker 2: was willfully ignorant Like that, you're not building a relationship 372 00:16:58,680 --> 00:17:01,080 Speaker 2: on really solid ground. I feel like it's not like 373 00:17:01,120 --> 00:17:04,240 Speaker 2: a relationship built on like mutual respect of where each 374 00:17:04,320 --> 00:17:05,119 Speaker 2: other come from. 375 00:17:05,160 --> 00:17:07,760 Speaker 1: So the big question to everyone watching and then I'm 376 00:17:07,760 --> 00:17:11,399 Speaker 1: gonna ask you, Sam is does Op go through with 377 00:17:11,520 --> 00:17:12,000 Speaker 1: the wedding? 378 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:16,760 Speaker 2: Oh? I think nah? I think nah. I think no, 379 00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:20,360 Speaker 2: especially because when she went through a bunch of things 380 00:17:20,359 --> 00:17:21,760 Speaker 2: with them, it's like, hey, these are the things you've 381 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:23,639 Speaker 2: agreed with and then he went through the list and 382 00:17:23,680 --> 00:17:25,919 Speaker 2: there was a bunch more things that he said like 383 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:28,280 Speaker 2: he was willing to do that he's not. It means 384 00:17:28,280 --> 00:17:30,639 Speaker 2: that a lot of the relationship it was built on 385 00:17:30,920 --> 00:17:33,840 Speaker 2: him just trying to, like people please so he could 386 00:17:33,880 --> 00:17:35,679 Speaker 2: get to the next step. Yes, you know, it's like 387 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:38,760 Speaker 2: the equivalent of the guy that like lies about everything 388 00:17:38,800 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 2: to like hook up with some girl or whatever. It's 389 00:17:41,359 --> 00:17:43,280 Speaker 2: just like you're being a sleeze bag. 390 00:17:43,359 --> 00:17:43,560 Speaker 3: Yeah. 391 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:45,520 Speaker 2: And I think if you're doing if you're doing the 392 00:17:45,560 --> 00:17:48,480 Speaker 2: same thing to like get married or get to wherever 393 00:17:48,480 --> 00:17:50,840 Speaker 2: you want the relationship, you're lying about what you're comfortable 394 00:17:50,840 --> 00:17:52,800 Speaker 2: with or how you want your life to look like 395 00:17:53,320 --> 00:17:55,240 Speaker 2: just to get to that next step. You're not building 396 00:17:55,520 --> 00:17:57,600 Speaker 2: a life that you actually will both want and that 397 00:17:57,600 --> 00:17:59,040 Speaker 2: there's gonna be a ton of conflict there. 398 00:17:59,160 --> 00:18:01,920 Speaker 3: Damn that was said. If I might say so myself, 399 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:03,960 Speaker 3: you just broke the heck down out of that. 400 00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:10,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, big relationship advice for me. I've been in four 401 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:12,359 Speaker 2: failed two year relationships woo. 402 00:18:13,840 --> 00:18:15,320 Speaker 3: But yeah, and I think you're totally right. 403 00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:18,520 Speaker 1: It's it comes down to him, him not respecting her, 404 00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:21,480 Speaker 1: him lying, and the foundation isn't. 405 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:28,520 Speaker 2: There here hasn't been Madison, Patience, Sophie, Arianna. Those are 406 00:18:28,520 --> 00:18:32,960 Speaker 2: the four two years and then the then it was Sam, Natalie, 407 00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:36,960 Speaker 2: so so the Disney Princess one, A couple of Sophia's 408 00:18:36,960 --> 00:18:45,560 Speaker 2: in there, and Ashley. Shut the fuck up, John, Let's 409 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:48,639 Speaker 2: get to this next story. Oh God, not dive into 410 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:49,360 Speaker 2: that anymore.