WEBVTT - Is My Man Gay or Bi? 0:00:02.120 --> 0:00:05.000 Yes me again. 0:00:07.040 --> 0:00:19.520 And hey guys, it's Erica. 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:24.599 Welcome back. We're back here for friends of Advisory. Good 0:00:24.640 --> 0:00:28.760 Mom's bad Choices. How was your weekend? 0:00:30.200 --> 0:00:34.120 I had a pretty good weekend, pretty exciting to say 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:34.640 the least. 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:39.880 Yeah, I got it started ear least. I've made some bad. 0:00:39.840 --> 0:00:43.400 Choices, definitely some things I could have went without doing. 0:00:45.520 --> 0:00:48.960 So last night, I on Saturday, I left, you know, 0:00:49.240 --> 0:00:51.920 my bad choices at home and sigging my ass in 0:00:51.960 --> 0:00:52.280 the house. 0:00:52.760 --> 0:00:56.080 I feel you I made some semi bad choices last night. 0:00:56.600 --> 0:01:00.000 We're not gonna talk about this episode, not tonight anymore. 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:05.800 No, Today, I wanted to talk about five ways to 0:01:05.920 --> 0:01:11.399 know that your man is gay or by undercover gay, 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:15.480 or cover gay, or by god. 0:01:15.480 --> 0:01:16.440 This is a good topic. 0:01:16.600 --> 0:01:18.800 This is a great topic because I wish I would 0:01:18.840 --> 0:01:23.560 have had these five signs because I have dated my 0:01:23.680 --> 0:01:25.520 share of undercovers. 0:01:25.880 --> 0:01:28.720 Are you like? Are you undercover magnet? I think I am. 0:01:28.840 --> 0:01:31.240 I think I have like I think I have masculine energy. 0:01:31.800 --> 0:01:34.480 Oh that's a good That's a definitely good perspective because 0:01:34.480 --> 0:01:36.880 I feel like I have masculine energy too, and maybe 0:01:36.920 --> 0:01:40.679 that's what people like somewhat attracts that or it could 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:41.119 be like. 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:44.720 A come, come all, I'm open and accepting energy. So 0:01:44.760 --> 0:01:48.040 they think that you're like accept accepting. But if they 0:01:48.040 --> 0:01:51.240 felt that way, wouldn't they tell me. I think people 0:01:51.320 --> 0:01:52.240 are so. 0:01:53.600 --> 0:01:58.200 Tainted by social standards that it's it's them that they 0:01:58.240 --> 0:01:58.920 can't admit it. 0:01:58.920 --> 0:02:00.639 It's not necessarily the other person. 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:04.320 And I think also it depends like how you grew up, 0:02:04.360 --> 0:02:07.280 where you grew up, you know, if honestly it's it's 0:02:07.320 --> 0:02:11.600 a racial thing too, because white to a certain extent, 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:12.960 I mean, to our a certain extent, there's some white 0:02:12.960 --> 0:02:14.240 guys that are totally out of cover too. 0:02:14.480 --> 0:02:15.720 Yeah, but it's. 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:17.520 Really not accepted in the black community and coming a 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:18.720 little bit more. 0:02:19.360 --> 0:02:22.320 But if okay, even okay, that's a good topic because 0:02:22.360 --> 0:02:23.800 even when we read out for. 0:02:23.800 --> 0:02:27.560 Our signs, it's gonna have applied more to black guys, 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:30.080 because I know white guys that like do some pretty. 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:35.040 Interesting things that just get like swept under the rug. 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:37.040 I guess, oh they're white, that's true. You know, me 0:02:37.080 --> 0:02:38.240 like slap each other's asses. 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:40.880 I have white friends who'd be like talk referring to 0:02:40.919 --> 0:02:43.320 each other's dick size, And I'm like, you, guys. 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:44.360 Well, I think that they're also just a little more 0:02:44.440 --> 0:02:46.960 comfortable because that type of shit doesn't fly in like 0:02:47.080 --> 0:02:49.000 the black or really the brown community. 0:02:49.000 --> 0:02:50.679 They're like whoa, whoa, whoa whoa. White people get to 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:51.760 basically murder. 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:56.400 I think because they've always, like black people, brown people, 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:59.920 people of color have always had to be tough. 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:03.480 And so we're less likely to be vulnerable, yeah, or 0:03:03.600 --> 0:03:04.799 show vulnerability. 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:08.519 Yeah, So I think there's that. But anyway, so I 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:09.520 did a little Google search. 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:12.399 I was like, you know, the little knows everything. 0:03:12.600 --> 0:03:16.200 You know, back when I was dating my first I recover, 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:20.360 I don't think that this article existed, and this article 0:03:20.440 --> 0:03:23.120 was really interesting because it's. 0:03:23.280 --> 0:03:23.760 I don't know. 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:27.560 I was just like, I don't know, I don't know. 0:03:27.560 --> 0:03:30.160 I don't really agree with these these five reasons that 0:03:30.240 --> 0:03:31.880 they gave. I mean, I think our five reasons are 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:34.200 a little better, but I'm just gonna read them off. 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:37.840 Okay, wait, where are they? I should have been more prepared, 0:03:38.440 --> 0:03:39.400 get your notes together. 0:03:39.640 --> 0:03:41.920 Okay, here they are. Okay, So, how to tell if 0:03:41.960 --> 0:03:47.440 a man is gay? Five ways backed by science? Oh science, yes? 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:51.040 So Number one is do his pupils dilate when he 0:03:51.080 --> 0:03:54.800 looks at you? And this is because apparently, when you 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:58.360 are sexually excited by someone, your pupils dilate. 0:03:59.320 --> 0:04:02.520 Everybody's looking ever heard this before? But okay, number two? 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:08.320 Does he have a wide or short face? Okay, I 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:08.720 don't know. 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:13.600 Number three, what does his individual facial features tell you? 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:19.760 What? Rot? I don't. I don't know what that means. 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:24.040 Number four, does he walk with a sway? That might 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:24.440 be true. 0:04:24.839 --> 0:04:27.200 That's like the strongest point that for me at least. 0:04:27.600 --> 0:04:30.480 And then number five is he left handed? Or does 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:32.080 his voice signal. 0:04:31.720 --> 0:04:34.039 Anything to you? I don't. 0:04:34.040 --> 0:04:35.840 I don't know where the left handed thing comes from. 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:37.760 Maybe it's that like wrisk thing. 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:41.320 I don't. I don't really know, but I was reading 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:43.480 you don't know because you're not a scientist. I guess 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:48.000 I'm not a sciences science is to be trusted. I 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:48.279 don't know. 0:04:48.400 --> 0:04:52.240 I was like, you know, let me, let's create our 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:54.760 own because I just wasn't sure I really agreed with 0:04:54.800 --> 0:04:58.800 these ones only because I'm basing these five. We're basing 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:02.400 these five off personal experience. So if you guys out 0:05:02.440 --> 0:05:05.760 there have had any personal experience in this too, please 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:09.200 email us. Let us know what your experience has been. 0:05:09.400 --> 0:05:11.960 If we're missing something, we can revisit. 0:05:11.520 --> 0:05:13.560 This topic because this might be this might have to 0:05:13.640 --> 0:05:15.760 be a part too, because there's lots of things to 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:16.760 be considered. 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:20.680 Yeah, so yeah, email us or you can DM us 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:24.360 at Good Mom's Underscore Bad Choices and let us know 0:05:24.400 --> 0:05:27.880 what you think. But so let's let's start with with 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:34.560 number one. Number one is kind of uh, it doesn't necessarily. 0:05:33.760 --> 0:05:41.120 Mean that you're by but he doesn't like to eat pussy. Yeah, 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:45.600 that's definitely a sign that you don't like women. No, 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:47.560 it's I mean it is, but it isn't. 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:51.760 Either you're below under twenty five or you don't like 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:54.839 pussy that much. That's the only thing that like, that's 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:57.360 the only thing that I can think of, or you're 0:05:57.400 --> 0:05:58.400 like super ignorant. 0:05:59.680 --> 0:06:01.919 I I'm not with that. You don't tell them you 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:02.719 don't like, I'm. 0:06:02.520 --> 0:06:05.920 Not into sex with like any boundaries, And if you 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:07.480 don't eat pussy, it's not gonna. 0:06:07.200 --> 0:06:09.320 Work, is it. 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:11.760 Maybe they're just I mean, I know some men are 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:15.760 just like have been traumatized and true true, So there's that. 0:06:15.800 --> 0:06:17.360 So they're not I don't mean gay men, I just 0:06:17.440 --> 0:06:19.680 mean genine men in general might have like fell upon 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:23.240 a bad pussy one time one bad Apple and so 0:06:23.279 --> 0:06:26.240 they scared now. But I do have to say that 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:31.120 in my personal experience with my two different relationships that 0:06:31.279 --> 0:06:35.640 ended up for sure being they were for sure bisexual 0:06:35.880 --> 0:06:39.440 or maybe even fully gay, there was no there was. 0:06:39.440 --> 0:06:43.960 No never never, like maybe like a few times, but 0:06:44.000 --> 0:06:46.400 it was like forced. 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:49.240 And I was really young too, so like I feel 0:06:49.279 --> 0:06:51.640 like maybe even me that young, I was kind of 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:52.760 like insecure. 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:55.320 About that too, Like I was like, maybe it's me, 0:06:56.160 --> 0:07:00.440 is there's something wrong with me down there? But it 0:07:00.520 --> 0:07:05.400 wasn't me. Twas not me. I think, yeah, that might 0:07:05.440 --> 0:07:05.640 be it. 0:07:05.680 --> 0:07:08.680 But the one person that I dated that I suspect 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:11.680 I had didn't have much of a problem with it, 0:07:11.800 --> 0:07:14.840 So I don't know, but that's definitely an alert. 0:07:16.440 --> 0:07:23.640 Yeah. I just think that at a certain age, you 0:07:23.720 --> 0:07:26.200 should like to eat pussy. I mean shit, I like 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:28.640 pussy to eat it like it's not that bad. Okay, 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:31.080 you might not like it, but just do it. Yeah. 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:33.040 I mean, do you think we like to suck dick 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:36.840 all the time? I mean no, I mean sometimes maybe 0:07:37.600 --> 0:07:39.200 you do. Like if you like it, you're gonna do it. 0:07:39.320 --> 0:07:41.920 If you like someone and you like sex, you are 0:07:41.960 --> 0:07:47.160 going to want to basically plase that person and explore 0:07:47.280 --> 0:07:48.680 that person in all. 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:52.360 In every capacity. And that's my opinion. 0:07:52.680 --> 0:07:54.840 But I've also I'm at chicks that don't don't believe 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:56.800 in sucking dick, which is also strange to me, but 0:07:57.040 --> 0:07:58.000 you know, I have to eat it song. 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:02.160 So so then if they don't and so that they don't, 0:08:02.200 --> 0:08:03.440 then does that mean that they're gay? 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:06.680 I mean no, no, I mean soule standard. Yeah, that's 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:09.880 just one of our many signs. There are other signs. 0:08:09.880 --> 0:08:12.120 If all of these signs add up, you might need 0:08:12.160 --> 0:08:13.240 to consult with us. 0:08:13.560 --> 0:08:18.000 Yeah, okay, so number one and that was number one. 0:08:19.040 --> 0:08:20.480 Number two I would. 0:08:20.320 --> 0:08:25.960 Say, is uh, he just he never comes or he 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:28.240 has a hard time getting there? 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:30.200 What about getting hard? 0:08:31.520 --> 0:08:33.560 So, I mean on our last podcast, I talked about 0:08:33.559 --> 0:08:35.000 that that's like an epidemic going around. 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:37.400 I don't even know if that's because of your gay No, 0:08:37.559 --> 0:08:38.319 you know what it's not. 0:08:38.559 --> 0:08:42.280 Because I asked my gay cousin and he has actually 0:08:42.760 --> 0:08:43.439 had sex. 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:43.880 With the girls. 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:46.319 And I'm like, if if you prefer me in, how 0:08:46.360 --> 0:08:48.440 do you perform? Like how does it even cause? 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:48.800 For men? 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:50.959 Like you can't deny if you're attracted to something because 0:08:50.960 --> 0:08:52.520 you're jump cast at work? 0:08:52.960 --> 0:08:56.720 And he said, oh no, it's a whole that's warm. Yeah, 0:08:56.800 --> 0:09:00.880 except a warm and moist we like those. 0:09:01.200 --> 0:09:01.400 Yeah. 0:09:01.440 --> 0:09:03.760 Basically, he said he can't. It doesn't matter. He can't. 0:09:03.760 --> 0:09:05.440 He can't. He keeps saying, Oh no, baby, don't get 0:09:05.440 --> 0:09:09.120 it twisted. I can perform. It's it's the quote. Hmm. 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:12.400 But coming I would feel like I didn't ask him 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:15.360 about that. We're gonna have to. We're gonna have to. 0:09:16.320 --> 0:09:18.600 We're definitely gonna have to go back on that conversation 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:19.520 and report back. 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:28.160 But yeah, So I recently had a situation with a 0:09:28.240 --> 0:09:29.079 guy that. 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:33.680 I would never would have thought like off the bat, 0:09:33.720 --> 0:09:36.360 I didn't think like he was gay or by. But 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:38.880 now that I'm single, like I feel like because I've 0:09:38.880 --> 0:09:41.520 been in a relationship for so long before that I was, 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:44.640 I would I would attract like bisexual men or gay men, 0:09:44.679 --> 0:09:47.080 And now that I'm single again, like it's happening again. 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:48.160 It's happening to me again. 0:09:48.640 --> 0:09:52.679 And I don't know for sure, but like he just 0:09:52.800 --> 0:09:57.720 never he never he never could get there and would 0:09:57.720 --> 0:10:00.720 go just keep going and going andgoing. 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:05.800 And I was like, look, I'm tired, I'm tired, she's tired. 0:10:06.720 --> 0:10:09.960 We need to wrap this up. But yeah, I just 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:12.240 I don't know, just like. 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:17.280 In both well, now a third situation. This has been 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:19.920 like an ongoing thing. It's like and I realized that 0:10:20.000 --> 0:10:23.160 some guy just lasts longer, you know, true. 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:28.840 So yeah, I don't know if I've experienced that per se. 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:35.000 Oh and there's the there's also are your number four? 0:10:35.200 --> 0:10:37.840 Number of number four? Yet we're only on number two girls, Oh, 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:41.120 we're on number two. Okay, maybe what I was going 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:42.599 to say is going to be number three. What was 0:10:42.600 --> 0:10:43.720 the number three? Oh? 0:10:43.760 --> 0:10:48.520 Yeah, so number three is always asking if he can 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:50.720 put it in the butt. Yep, that's what I was 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:53.040 gonna say. 0:10:52.160 --> 0:10:54.520 The butt. There's a lot of attention spent on the booty. Yeah, 0:10:54.520 --> 0:11:00.520 when there's like over it's you know, freaky's cool. But yeah, 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:01.840 there's there's an extent. 0:11:02.120 --> 0:11:05.160 Also, my aunt told me this was her advice because 0:11:05.440 --> 0:11:08.160 years ago she suspected the guy she was dating. 0:11:08.200 --> 0:11:11.319 Maybe she said, you gotta do the finger test. We 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:13.440 put the finger in the butt and see if they 0:11:13.480 --> 0:11:15.440 owent on and see they're down. 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:18.120 Yeah, but then I kind of feel like that's biased 0:11:18.320 --> 0:11:22.120 because you know, like that are just morea actually open 0:11:22.440 --> 0:11:26.800 my guys mostly, But yeah, because you know, like technically 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:30.200 back to our scientific reference, you know, that's what the 0:11:30.240 --> 0:11:32.640 men's g spot is is in the booty. And the 0:11:32.679 --> 0:11:34.079 first time I read that, I was probably like in 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:36.280 high school and I read in a GQ magazine and 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:40.240 I was like, oh, well that sounds scientifically backed. But 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:43.920 also like I have a girlfriend who was suspected recently, 0:11:44.480 --> 0:11:46.360 and she said, not only was he like hanging out 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:53.000 with his particular friend like often, he also like hung 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:55.040 out with him and then came back and wanted to 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:57.240 like eat her booty for a really long time. 0:11:57.760 --> 0:12:02.400 Like what's a long time? Like now, like an hour 0:12:03.920 --> 0:12:06.600 with your friend? Though, I would be like stop, okay, 0:12:06.720 --> 0:12:08.880 enough of that, moving on. 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:12.040 No, Okay, Well that's a that's a sure that's a 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:14.960 sure sign that something is something. 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:18.160 Yeah, that's that's kind of a signed. Like if you, like, 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:20.679 when you have a vagina available, why would you want 0:12:20.720 --> 0:12:22.840 to keep putting it in your booty? I mean, I 0:12:22.840 --> 0:12:26.280 guess it's it's tighter, but there's also so many risks. 0:12:26.320 --> 0:12:29.520 It's a risky I mean, look, I'm not opposed to, 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:32.640 you know, exploring other sexual areas of. 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:37.600 Your body different holes, right, but I'm just saying, like 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:41.800 if you already suspect and then this is also going. 0:12:41.600 --> 0:12:45.360 On, right probably we are not we are not bashing 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:48.400 anyone's sexual preferences. 0:12:47.679 --> 0:12:50.400 Or you know, I have no room to bash anyone's 0:12:50.440 --> 0:12:51.360 sexual anything. 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:52.200 We really don't. 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:56.800 But like you know, like for me, like I I'm 0:12:56.880 --> 0:13:00.800 I've I've explored, I've more exploring. I was actually thinking 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:03.280 I wanted to take like go to like a sex workshop. 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:06.880 Oh that'd be fun, or like like a karma. 0:13:07.720 --> 0:13:11.040 Workshop of some sort of tantricks for sure, tantric, something tantric, 0:13:11.120 --> 0:13:12.480 because I yeah, we. 0:13:12.400 --> 0:13:14.000 Should go and talk about it. We should. 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:20.920 But personally for me though I never that's with me 0:13:21.040 --> 0:13:25.840 in my past three possibly three experiences, there was no 0:13:25.920 --> 0:13:28.360 booty action. There wasn't a lot of booty. Yah, there 0:13:28.400 --> 0:13:31.199 was no booty action. So that that's why I think 0:13:31.240 --> 0:13:33.200 I was a bit confused because had I know, how 0:13:33.200 --> 0:13:36.000 had he even doing that, or maybe I would have 0:13:36.080 --> 0:13:39.439 had a better idea of be like, oh, okay. 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:41.520 Definitely want to eat the booty for an hour, right. 0:13:41.559 --> 0:13:45.680 Right, or just in general, like having any suspicions and 0:13:45.880 --> 0:13:48.920 thoughts of feeling uncomfortable with you hanging out with a 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:52.880 particular friend, like women have an insane amount of intuition. 0:13:53.000 --> 0:13:56.560 And if you those thoughts or seeds are being planted. 0:13:56.200 --> 0:13:58.319 Anywhere in your head at any time, I mean likely 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:02.520 you ain't your mind. Ain't I a into you? You know? No, 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:03.599 that's for sure. 0:14:03.240 --> 0:14:07.160 Also, I'm kind of like a bitch in this sense 0:14:07.160 --> 0:14:08.800 where it sounds terrible. 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:13.760 Maybe I'd like to like push guys limits, see. 0:14:13.600 --> 0:14:19.200 Like how fi you gonna let me go? Which is 0:14:19.240 --> 0:14:24.080 probably like wrong, So turn these dudes guys. 0:14:25.720 --> 0:14:27.720 First of all, I am vagina, so I can't turn 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:31.480 anybody ship, but I am I guess I don't know 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:35.280 if it's like the masculine energy in myself that it's like, what. 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:39.440 Are you gonna let me do? But yeah, I'm also 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:42.080 like super open and I like girls, I like I 0:14:42.200 --> 0:14:44.880 like people, but I'm also open and honest about it. 0:14:45.080 --> 0:14:47.640 So yeah, I don't like. 0:14:48.080 --> 0:14:52.000 I don't think being in this being secretive and in 0:14:52.080 --> 0:14:54.560 denial is cool. First of all, I think you'll be 0:14:54.560 --> 0:14:58.120 stuck in your life if you don't admit to yourself 0:14:58.160 --> 0:14:59.520 like who you are and what you are, because you 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:01.760 won't be able move forward in any other aspect because 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:03.560 you're gonna be unhappy because you're. 0:15:03.400 --> 0:15:04.160 Not your pretending. 0:15:05.040 --> 0:15:08.680 So yeah, so the one, the guy that I dated, 0:15:09.400 --> 0:15:12.680 it's almost like he likes the secret, like it brings 0:15:12.720 --> 0:15:13.960 It's like he's kind of. 0:15:13.920 --> 0:15:15.480 Creepy though, but like, oh the creepy one. 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:19.600 Yeah, he kind of likes the mystery of him. So 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:22.360 like the secret isn't holding him back, you know what 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:25.800 I mean? Like I know, for sure not ninety nine 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:29.520 percent of the time it does. But for him, I 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:32.280 think he likes the mystery because he like he genuinely. 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:34.680 Just likes attention and the intrigue. Yeah, he likes men 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:36.600 to be intrigued by him and women. 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:39.520 I had a guy like that that I dated briefly, 0:15:39.560 --> 0:15:44.040 and I agree, Like he wasn't denying or accepting it. 0:15:44.200 --> 0:15:45.880 I never straightforward asked. 0:15:46.320 --> 0:15:48.200 I mean, we've talked about a lot of things openly, 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:52.360 which I really respected and appreciated the openness because there 0:15:52.360 --> 0:15:53.520 are so many people in denial. 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:57.240 But I agree. I think that he totally enjoyed the 0:15:57.360 --> 0:16:01.400 intrigue and the mystery and the attention from men and women, 0:16:01.760 --> 0:16:03.240 and the fact that people. 0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:07.400 Couldn't put their finger on it. So he wasn't trying 0:16:07.440 --> 0:16:09.120 to be one thing or another. He was just himself, 0:16:09.120 --> 0:16:11.080 which I can respect. I like people who are themselves. 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:13.080 I mean, whether it's off, out of the off the 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:16.520 wall or out of the box. I'm into people make themselves. 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:18.440 But I mean, I guess that could be a thing too. 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:19.640 Motherfucker's like attention. 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:25.600 Yeah for him it was that. But then girl, they're 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:27.360 just so much. I was so young when I dated him. 0:16:27.400 --> 0:16:30.200 I was seventeen and he was older than me, so 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:33.160 I was like easily impressed by him. He had a 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:36.400 little like change, so he could like, you know, a 0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:37.880 zen stuff. 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:44.560 But now looking back, I'm just like, you are so fucking. 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:48.440 Dumb, Like just call you me. Yeah you're yeah, I 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:50.920 know what I'm like. Oh, but you know what that 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:54.560 brings me to added one. I honestly do think now 0:16:54.560 --> 0:16:56.680 that I think of it, another guy I dated who 0:16:56.720 --> 0:16:59.840 I now I look back, I'm like, you are probably 0:16:59.880 --> 0:17:01.280 in the closet. 0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:03.160 I think guys like. 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:07.320 That intentionally target young girls because they're gonna be less 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:10.040 experienced and less likely to be able to put their 0:17:10.080 --> 0:17:11.040 finger on it that early. 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:16.080 Because this guy I dated, literally someone knocked on my door. 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:22.600 No Linda would tell us, Okay, okay, do you know 0:17:22.920 --> 0:17:26.840 you can you you're gonna intentionally gravitate towards someone who 0:17:26.880 --> 0:17:28.760 has less experienced because you know, you can get away 0:17:28.760 --> 0:17:31.159 with shit. Because that guy I met him and I was. 0:17:31.200 --> 0:17:33.399 Like in high school and he knew how old it was, 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:37.359 and he was well over thirty. And now that we're 0:17:37.400 --> 0:17:40.080 still friends, even though I yeah. 0:17:39.920 --> 0:17:44.000 Whatever, I just I can see it more clearly now. 0:17:44.040 --> 0:17:46.080 But that makes sense that you dated that guy's so young, 0:17:46.280 --> 0:17:48.480 so he thought he could like, you know, put the 0:17:48.480 --> 0:17:50.440 wool over your eyes. And that the other guy I 0:17:50.480 --> 0:17:52.520 feel the same way about is also. 0:17:52.359 --> 0:17:54.720 Dated me when I was extremely young and didn't know 0:17:54.760 --> 0:17:57.760 any better. Yeah, like we like we would. 0:17:57.920 --> 0:18:00.399 We used to like have sex in the dark, like 0:18:00.400 --> 0:18:03.720 like I never had sex in with the light on ever, 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:05.480 like And now I'm thinking, like, is it because he 0:18:05.760 --> 0:18:08.560 was kind of like not into my body right right, 0:18:08.640 --> 0:18:10.840 like the boobs, Like he didn't want to see any 0:18:10.880 --> 0:18:12.480 of that figure a body. 0:18:12.560 --> 0:18:17.160 He just wanted that wormhole, give me that wormhole. Oh 0:18:17.240 --> 0:18:20.640 my god. That and then on top of it, he also. 0:18:22.160 --> 0:18:24.639 The reason why I know for sure that he is 0:18:24.720 --> 0:18:28.320 bisexual is because of my two best gay friends. They 0:18:29.320 --> 0:18:31.919 he tried to get with both of them in different ways, 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:32.520 like the. 0:18:32.480 --> 0:18:35.560 Weird one, the weird guy. Yeah, so like my one 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:36.600 of my best friends. 0:18:37.960 --> 0:18:39.920 I'm not gonna say his name, but you can figure 0:18:39.920 --> 0:18:41.760 it out if you go on my Instagram or maybe not. 0:18:41.800 --> 0:18:42.800 I don't really post my lot. 0:18:43.960 --> 0:18:48.720 He he used to live in Chicago and my ex 0:18:48.720 --> 0:18:50.680 had went out to Chicago. I feel weird even calling 0:18:50.760 --> 0:18:54.200 him my ex, Like, please refer to that weird guy, 0:18:55.040 --> 0:19:00.400 weird guy, creep, miss WG, the mysterious one he went. 0:19:00.480 --> 0:19:02.640 He was in Chicago and had hit him up like outside, 0:19:02.680 --> 0:19:04.240 like I had no idea he had hit him up, 0:19:04.240 --> 0:19:05.920 and we had we were no longer together, like maybe 0:19:05.960 --> 0:19:09.080 broken up like eight months or so, because yeah, it 0:19:09.080 --> 0:19:12.760 was our sophomore year of college. And uh, he went 0:19:12.800 --> 0:19:15.080 out to Chicago and hit up my friend and was like, hey, 0:19:15.119 --> 0:19:17.560 like let's hang out. And they went and hung out 0:19:17.720 --> 0:19:19.800 and then like they were like hanging out and he's like, 0:19:19.800 --> 0:19:21.800 I want to take you somewhere, and so he took them. 0:19:21.960 --> 0:19:26.600 He took him to a spa and my friend, you know, 0:19:26.720 --> 0:19:29.520 he's like eighteen, Like, oh he's young too, Yeah. 0:19:29.480 --> 0:19:31.280 He's young too. He's like, damn wants to go to 0:19:31.320 --> 0:19:33.200 a spare. Yeah, let's go to this spot. 0:19:33.280 --> 0:19:35.600 I never been in those Like yeah, so he's like yeah, 0:19:36.240 --> 0:19:37.800 but he called me after her was like, dude, like 0:19:37.920 --> 0:19:40.520 we went to the spa and then like we like 0:19:40.560 --> 0:19:43.560 we're wearing rogues and it was just weird. He's like, 0:19:43.600 --> 0:19:45.080 I don't He's like, I'm just telling you this because 0:19:45.080 --> 0:19:46.680 I don't want you to think like I was trying 0:19:46.680 --> 0:19:49.240 to get with your man. He's like, but I was 0:19:49.280 --> 0:19:51.719 just trying to enjoy a free spot, right, And it 0:19:51.760 --> 0:19:52.680 was just got really weird. 0:19:52.720 --> 0:19:54.800 And then my other friends was it like a bathhouse 0:19:54.840 --> 0:19:56.960 spy kind of yeah, yeah, Like. 0:19:56.920 --> 0:19:59.000 So what like I was like, what, straight man, it's 0:19:59.040 --> 0:20:01.720