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Speaker 1: Yes me again.

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Speaker 2: And hey guys, it's Erica.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back. We're back here for friends of Advisory. Good

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Speaker 1: Mom's bad Choices. How was your weekend?

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Speaker 3: I had a pretty good weekend, pretty exciting to say

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Speaker 3: the least.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I got it started ear least. I've made some bad.

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Speaker 3: Choices, definitely some things I could have went without doing.

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Speaker 3: So last night, I on Saturday, I left, you know,

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Speaker 3: my bad choices at home and sigging my ass in

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Speaker 3: the house.

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Speaker 1: I feel you I made some semi bad choices last night.

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Speaker 1: We're not gonna talk about this episode, not tonight anymore.

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Speaker 4: No, Today, I wanted to talk about five ways to

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Speaker 4: know that your man is gay or by undercover gay,

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Speaker 4: or cover gay, or by god.

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Speaker 1: This is a good topic.

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Speaker 4: This is a great topic because I wish I would

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Speaker 4: have had these five signs because I have dated my

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Speaker 4: share of undercovers.

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Speaker 1: Are you like? Are you undercover magnet? I think I am.

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Speaker 1: I think I have like I think I have masculine energy.

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Speaker 3: Oh that's a good That's a definitely good perspective because

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Speaker 3: I feel like I have masculine energy too, and maybe

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Speaker 3: that's what people like somewhat attracts that or it could

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Speaker 3: be like.

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Speaker 1: A come, come all, I'm open and accepting energy. So

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Speaker 1: they think that you're like accept accepting. But if they

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Speaker 1: felt that way, wouldn't they tell me. I think people

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Speaker 1: are so.

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Speaker 3: Tainted by social standards that it's it's them that they

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Speaker 3: can't admit it.

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Speaker 1: It's not necessarily the other person.

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Speaker 4: And I think also it depends like how you grew up,

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Speaker 4: where you grew up, you know, if honestly it's it's

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Speaker 4: a racial thing too, because white to a certain extent,

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Speaker 4: I mean, to our a certain extent, there's some white

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Speaker 4: guys that are totally out of cover too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's.

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Speaker 4: Really not accepted in the black community and coming a

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Speaker 4: little bit more.

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Speaker 1: But if okay, even okay, that's a good topic because

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Speaker 1: even when we read out for.

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Speaker 3: Our signs, it's gonna have applied more to black guys,

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Speaker 3: because I know white guys that like do some pretty.

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Speaker 1: Interesting things that just get like swept under the rug.

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Speaker 1: I guess, oh they're white, that's true. You know, me

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Speaker 1: like slap each other's asses.

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Speaker 3: I have white friends who'd be like talk referring to

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Speaker 3: each other's dick size, And I'm like, you, guys.

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Speaker 4: Well, I think that they're also just a little more

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Speaker 4: comfortable because that type of shit doesn't fly in like

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Speaker 4: the black or really the brown community.

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Speaker 1: They're like whoa, whoa, whoa whoa. White people get to

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Speaker 1: basically murder.

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Speaker 4: I think because they've always, like black people, brown people,

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Speaker 4: people of color have always had to be tough.

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Speaker 3: And so we're less likely to be vulnerable, yeah, or

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So I think there's that. But anyway, so I

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Speaker 4: did a little Google search.

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Speaker 1: I was like, you know, the little knows everything.

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Speaker 4: You know, back when I was dating my first I recover,

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Speaker 4: I don't think that this article existed, and this article

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Speaker 4: was really interesting because it's.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I was just like, I don't know, I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I don't really agree with these these five reasons that

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Speaker 4: they gave. I mean, I think our five reasons are

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Speaker 4: a little better, but I'm just gonna read them off.

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Speaker 1: Okay, wait, where are they? I should have been more prepared,

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Speaker 1: get your notes together.

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Speaker 4: Okay, here they are. Okay, So, how to tell if

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Speaker 4: a man is gay? Five ways backed by science? Oh science, yes?

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Speaker 4: So Number one is do his pupils dilate when he

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Speaker 4: looks at you? And this is because apparently, when you

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Speaker 4: are sexually excited by someone, your pupils dilate.

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Speaker 1: Everybody's looking ever heard this before? But okay, number two?

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Speaker 1: Does he have a wide or short face? Okay, I

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Speaker 4: Number three, what does his individual facial features tell you?

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Speaker 1: What? Rot? I don't. I don't know what that means.

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Speaker 1: Number four, does he walk with a sway? That might

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Speaker 4: That's like the strongest point that for me at least.

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Speaker 4: And then number five is he left handed? Or does

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Speaker 4: his voice signal.

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Speaker 1: Anything to you? I don't.

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Speaker 4: I don't know where the left handed thing comes from.

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Speaker 4: Maybe it's that like wrisk thing.

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Speaker 1: I don't. I don't really know, but I was reading

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Speaker 1: you don't know because you're not a scientist. I guess

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Speaker 1: I'm not a sciences science is to be trusted. I

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Speaker 4: I was like, you know, let me, let's create our

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Speaker 4: own because I just wasn't sure I really agreed with

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Speaker 4: these ones only because I'm basing these five. We're basing

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Speaker 4: these five off personal experience. So if you guys out

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Speaker 4: there have had any personal experience in this too, please

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Speaker 4: email us. Let us know what your experience has been.

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Speaker 4: If we're missing something, we can revisit.

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Speaker 1: This topic because this might be this might have to

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Speaker 1: be a part too, because there's lots of things to

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so yeah, email us or you can DM us

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Speaker 4: at Good Mom's Underscore Bad Choices and let us know

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Speaker 4: what you think. But so let's let's start with with

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Speaker 4: number one. Number one is kind of uh, it doesn't necessarily.

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Speaker 1: Mean that you're by but he doesn't like to eat pussy. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's definitely a sign that you don't like women. No,

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Speaker 1: it's I mean it is, but it isn't.

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Speaker 3: Either you're below under twenty five or you don't like

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Speaker 1: I I'm not with that. You don't tell them you

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Speaker 3: Not into sex with like any boundaries, And if you

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Speaker 1: Work, is it.

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Speaker 4: Maybe they're just I mean, I know some men are

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Speaker 4: So they're not I don't mean gay men, I just

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Speaker 4: they scared now. But I do have to say that

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Speaker 4: in my personal experience with my two different relationships that

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Speaker 4: or maybe even fully gay, there was no there was.

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Speaker 1: No never never, like maybe like a few times, but

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Speaker 4: And I was really young too, so like I feel

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Speaker 1: About that too, Like I was like, maybe it's me,

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Speaker 1: is there's something wrong with me down there? But it

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Speaker 3: But the one person that I dated that I suspect

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Speaker 3: So I don't know, but that's definitely an alert.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I just think that at a certain age, you

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Speaker 1: pussy to eat it like it's not that bad. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you might not like it, but just do it. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I mean, do you think we like to suck dick

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Speaker 3: If you like someone and you like sex, you are

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Speaker 3: that person in all.

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Speaker 1: In every capacity. And that's my opinion.

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Speaker 3: But I've also I'm at chicks that don't don't believe

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Speaker 4: So so then if they don't and so that they don't,

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Speaker 4: then does that mean that they're gay?

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Speaker 1: I mean no, no, I mean soule standard. Yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: just one of our many signs. There are other signs.

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Speaker 3: If all of these signs add up, you might need

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Speaker 3: to consult with us.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, so number one and that was number one.

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Speaker 1: Number two I would.

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Speaker 4: Say, is uh, he just he never comes or he

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Speaker 1: What about getting hard?

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Speaker 4: So, I mean on our last podcast, I talked about

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Speaker 1: I don't even know if that's because of your gay No,

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Speaker 3: Because I asked my gay cousin and he has actually

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Speaker 1: With the girls.

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Speaker 3: And I'm like, if if you prefer me in, how

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Speaker 3: Like you can't deny if you're attracted to something because

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Speaker 1: And he said, oh no, it's a whole that's warm. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Basically, he said he can't. It doesn't matter. He can't.

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Speaker 3: But coming I would feel like I didn't ask him

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Speaker 3: about that. We're gonna have to. We're gonna have to.

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Speaker 3: We're definitely gonna have to go back on that conversation

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Speaker 1: But yeah, So I recently had a situation with a

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Speaker 4: I didn't think like he was gay or by. But

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Speaker 4: now that I'm single, like I feel like because I've

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Speaker 4: I would I would attract like bisexual men or gay men,

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Speaker 4: And now that I'm single again, like it's happening again.

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Speaker 1: It's happening to me again.

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Speaker 4: And I don't know for sure, but like he just

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Speaker 1: And I was like, look, I'm tired, I'm tired, she's tired.

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Speaker 1: We need to wrap this up. But yeah, I just

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Speaker 4: In both well, now a third situation. This has been

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Speaker 4: like an ongoing thing. It's like and I realized that

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Speaker 4: some guy just lasts longer, you know, true.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, I don't know if I've experienced that per se.

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Speaker 3: Oh and there's the there's also are your number four?

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Speaker 1: Number of number four? Yet we're only on number two girls, Oh,

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Speaker 1: we're on number two. Okay, maybe what I was going

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Speaker 1: to say is going to be number three. What was

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Speaker 1: the number three? Oh?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so number three is always asking if he can

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Speaker 4: put it in the butt. Yep, that's what I was

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Speaker 1: The butt. There's a lot of attention spent on the booty. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: when there's like over it's you know, freaky's cool. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: there's there's an extent.

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Speaker 3: Also, my aunt told me this was her advice because

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Speaker 1: Maybe she said, you gotta do the finger test. We

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Speaker 3: Or you know, I have no room to bash anyone's

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Speaker 1: Just likes attention and the intrigue. Yeah, he likes men

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Speaker 1: But I agree. I think that he totally enjoyed the

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Speaker 3: Couldn't put their finger on it. So he wasn't trying

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Speaker 1: Yeah for him it was that. But then girl, they're

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Speaker 1: No Linda would tell us, Okay, okay, do you know

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Speaker 3: Like in high school and he knew how old it was,

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Speaker 1: Whatever, I just I can see it more clearly now.

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Speaker 1: He just wanted that wormhole, give me that wormhole. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god. That and then on top of it, he also.

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Speaker 4: The reason why I know for sure that he is

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Speaker 1: And then my other friends was it like a bathhouse

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Speaker 4: No, So second second story is my other friend saying

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Speaker 1: And then then my ex was like, don't tell anyone. No,

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Speaker 4: Okay, So he's like Erica, I went and he was

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Speaker 4: Like he was just like, yeah, you guys should you

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Speaker 4: didn't tell me for like maybe a month.

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00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:51,640
Speaker 1: He was like he did. He was like, I don't.

444
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:54,080
Speaker 1: I didn't want to tell you. I felt really like embarrassed.

445
00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:56,800
Speaker 4: Like yeah, he's like I felt embarrassed and I went

446
00:21:56,880 --> 00:21:59,679
Speaker 4: that I like fell for it, right, And I was like,

447
00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:00,320
Speaker 4: that's what he does.

448
00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:02,200
Speaker 1: He's very manipulative.

449
00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:05,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, people like that who have like secret lives can

450
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:09,280
Speaker 3: I think have developed manipulations. But yeah, like if you

451
00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:13,520
Speaker 3: want to watch two gay guys make out, Yeah, it's.

452
00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 1: More than just being open sexually. No, that's way born, right. Yeah,

453
00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:20,160
Speaker 1: I mean I can't I can't imagine.

454
00:22:20,640 --> 00:22:22,040
Speaker 4: I know we're gonna piss some people off with this

455
00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:25,240
Speaker 4: because I know some people are just like very sexually fluid,

456
00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:26,320
Speaker 4: and I understand.

457
00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:28,159
Speaker 1: I'm sexually fluid. No, we're not pissing anybody off. But

458
00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:29,760
Speaker 1: only people are going to piss off. It's people who

459
00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:33,320
Speaker 1: are in the closet. The one thing we are is

460
00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:36,000
Speaker 1: sexually fluid. The one thing we're not is obviously or

461
00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:39,120
Speaker 1: not in nobody's closet because we're a yeah, we ain't lying.

462
00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:40,680
Speaker 1: It's the truth. And if you feel some other ways,

463
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:42,240
Speaker 1: because you might need to come out of that closet

464
00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:43,640
Speaker 1: and come to yourself. Brother.

465
00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:47,680
Speaker 4: Okay, so our next number four on our list or

466
00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:53,280
Speaker 4: almost done. Our next one is being overly homophobic. Yeah,

467
00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:54,919
Speaker 4: that's a big one. That's a huge one.

468
00:22:55,080 --> 00:22:58,240
Speaker 3: I mean obviously, like you said again, I mean I

469
00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:02,840
Speaker 3: hate to make this racial, but this is America.

470
00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:05,919
Speaker 1: This is America, and.

471
00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:12,880
Speaker 3: A lot of black men or brown guys are Yeah,

472
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:16,160
Speaker 3: we've been conditioned like we're not with that ship. So yeah,

473
00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:18,119
Speaker 3: to some points people are like, no, I'm not with that.

474
00:23:18,520 --> 00:23:21,080
Speaker 3: But there's one thing about like you could not really

475
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:24,160
Speaker 3: want to go to the gay club and need to,

476
00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:27,600
Speaker 3: but there's something about, like I dated this guy, the

477
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:32,920
Speaker 3: one I dated young and he constantly till this day

478
00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 3: makes like randomly like but you know, I'm not into

479
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:39,919
Speaker 3: that ship. I'm not into that gay ship. I'm like,

480
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:41,720
Speaker 3: my nigga, we're talking about noodles.

481
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:45,280
Speaker 1: No, homo, you know that's right there?

482
00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:50,080
Speaker 4: That like that that that that phrase in general always

483
00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 4: throws me off with guys because like I'd be like

484
00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:55,719
Speaker 4: nobody was even thinking about you just said that, and

485
00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:58,400
Speaker 4: now I'm looking at you like, why are you so sensitive?

486
00:23:59,359 --> 00:24:01,639
Speaker 1: I'm not into that gay shit? Or it's almost or

487
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 1: like I'm gonna be around all these gay people.

488
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 3: It's almost like and he's also in the industry, And

489
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:08,520
Speaker 3: it's like, first of all, if you're in any industry

490
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 3: in Hollywood, there's some weird gay shit going down, period.

491
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:15,800
Speaker 3: There's no denying it. So you should almost be immune

492
00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:18,159
Speaker 3: to it or like not at least not offended by it.

493
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:22,239
Speaker 3: And it's just a constant comment brought up. And I'm like,

494
00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:25,040
Speaker 3: what about it makes you so uncomfortable?

495
00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:27,639
Speaker 4: Because clearly you don't have to watch, you don't have

496
00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 4: to go, you don't have to see, you don't have

497
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:32,879
Speaker 4: to participate, right, Like why are you so mad?

498
00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 1: Are you mad?

499
00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 4: Is there something within yourself that you're angry with? Are

500
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,720
Speaker 4: you mad that you might have some sort of feeling?

501
00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 3: I mean, like we said, this is like a more

502
00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:43,600
Speaker 3: serious of a topic, and this, you know, this happens

503
00:24:43,680 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 3: like more often than we'd like to admit, you know,

504
00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:50,240
Speaker 3: but sometimes people have had like childhood trauma that you

505
00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 3: know results in certain sexual feelings. I mean that's period

506
00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:56,320
Speaker 3: childhood trauma results in all types of feelings as adults.

507
00:24:56,440 --> 00:25:01,399
Speaker 3: But you know, definitely that equates to sexually, so something

508
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:07,000
Speaker 3: to like if someone's overly overtly homophobic, Yeah, it's.

509
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:09,720
Speaker 1: Definitely a sign. Yeah, no, I agree. I think.

510
00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:14,840
Speaker 4: The two situations I were I was in, they weren't

511
00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:17,359
Speaker 4: overly homophobic. But I've met people that I've been like

512
00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:20,480
Speaker 4: for example, actually the last situation that I was talking about,

513
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:23,240
Speaker 4: the one that possibly is throwing me some red flags,

514
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:28,120
Speaker 4: he was very like like like we were just talking

515
00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:31,080
Speaker 4: about like the movie Moonlight, and I was like, have

516
00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 4: you seen it?

517
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:32,680
Speaker 1: He's I see that gay shit.

518
00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:35,639
Speaker 4: I was like, and he's an actor And I was like,

519
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 4: but you're an actor, like you should see it.

520
00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:40,760
Speaker 1: It's it's not a bunch of gay shit. First of all, Like, yes,

521
00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 1: there's this is it's a life, this.

522
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:46,240
Speaker 4: Is a life, this is life experience. It's like we're learning,

523
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 4: we're studying their lives. And honestly, if I remember correctly,

524
00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:52,639
Speaker 4: I haven't seen Moonlight maybe in a while, but I

525
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:55,399
Speaker 4: don't remember there being that many gay scenes.

526
00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:58,360
Speaker 3: There weren't that many, but the ones that I think,

527
00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 3: the one was nothing like rough. It wasn't rough like

528
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:03,840
Speaker 3: we're watching soft gay porn. But it is like, you

529
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 3: know what it is. I think they do it like

530
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:07,119
Speaker 3: they highlighted it when they're teenagers.

531
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:09,000
Speaker 1: They just like kissed though, no, they like.

532
00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:10,800
Speaker 3: Kind of like they kind of fade out and there's

533
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:13,879
Speaker 3: obviously like maybe some sucking or jacket noises and it

534
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 3: gets a lord. First of all, I this is so

535
00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:18,840
Speaker 3: hard to record without.

536
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 1: Blasting my life and the people in it.

537
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:25,639
Speaker 3: Like, wow, I went with the guy who I suspect

538
00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:26,639
Speaker 3: and my grandmother.

539
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:31,440
Speaker 1: Oh and my grandmother is super Christian. She's cool though,

540
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:33,480
Speaker 1: but it smokes weed. But she was thought it was

541
00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:35,000
Speaker 1: a great movie. He was like, oh, I didn't know

542
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:36,520
Speaker 1: this is what that movie was about.

543
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 3: And I was like, well, me either, but like I

544
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 3: could tell, you know, like he was just completely thrown

545
00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:43,080
Speaker 3: off about it.

546
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:45,480
Speaker 1: But oh my god.

547
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:50,280
Speaker 3: He also made a reference to another movie, a comedy movie,

548
00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:53,280
Speaker 3: and he was trying to refer to a actor in

549
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:53,720
Speaker 3: the movie.

550
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 1: And in the movie.

551
00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 3: Okay, so it's a movie with Amy Schumer when she's

552
00:26:58,160 --> 00:27:04,760
Speaker 3: like snatched not snatched, train Wreck and she's she's smashing

553
00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:06,440
Speaker 3: the bodybuilder guy.

554
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:10,080
Speaker 6: And he's like, oh, He's like, oh yeah, that guy

555
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 6: in the gym was so hot his shoulders, I like

556
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 6: when you turn around your shoulders, and it was like,

557
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 6: it's like a brief part of the movie and it's

558
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:18,159
Speaker 6: funny because then he comes.

559
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:22,239
Speaker 1: But like he was trying to reference the actor and

560
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 1: he specifically referenced this part of the.

561
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:31,360
Speaker 3: Movie, and I was like, wow, that's very Yeah, it's

562
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 3: amaze you feel I feel, you.

563
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:33,480
Speaker 1: Know what I mean.

564
00:27:33,720 --> 00:27:38,159
Speaker 4: So I mean, I just I just feel like for

565
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:41,399
Speaker 4: like this guy, like I was just like, but you're like.

566
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:43,240
Speaker 1: The thing about it, too, is like he grew up

567
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 1: around a lot of gay people and not in a

568
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:50,680
Speaker 1: like I don't know. I just felt like it should

569
00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 1: be more the more you're around and the more you

570
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:55,160
Speaker 1: should be more. That's why I was more shocked by it.

571
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:56,920
Speaker 4: And that's why it made me feel like, is there

572
00:27:56,960 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 4: something wrong you're feeling like inside of you that you're

573
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 4: not comfortable with that you can't even watch any movie

574
00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 4: that has any sort of any side. But I get, like,

575
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:09,520
Speaker 4: I get that most men like they don't want to

576
00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:11,720
Speaker 4: see like men having sex if you're straight, Like I

577
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:13,880
Speaker 4: get it because sometimes, like honestly, it's even too much

578
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:14,760
Speaker 4: for me me too.

579
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:16,919
Speaker 1: I know that movie I was I could. I was

580
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:18,680
Speaker 1: a little honestly.

581
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:20,760
Speaker 4: Like personally, like, I don't enjoy going to the gay club.

582
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:23,119
Speaker 4: I don't have any I have many gay friends. I

583
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:24,960
Speaker 4: love my gay friends. It's just not I just don't

584
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 4: enjoy it. It's not for me. It's not exciting for me.

585
00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:29,959
Speaker 3: No, it used to be, and I lived in Atlanta

586
00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 3: it was funner. But here I'm not a big fan

587
00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:32,840
Speaker 3: of the gay club.

588
00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 1: For me period. It's just never been my cup of tea.

589
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 1: So I get it.

590
00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:38,400
Speaker 4: But like, I just feel like sometimes when you're just

591
00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 4: so like anti, it just kind of tells me something

592
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:49,280
Speaker 4: about you. And yeah, anyway, so our last our last

593
00:28:49,440 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 4: sign is body language that can be really confusing. Yeah,

594
00:28:56,800 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 4: I mean, and that's usually why I think, like most

595
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 4: of time, be like, oh yeah he gay, he's there,

596
00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 4: and you can.

597
00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:05,360
Speaker 1: Be wrong, yes, thereferent times I've been. That's why this

598
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:07,160
Speaker 1: is a tricky one. It's a dangerous one. Yeah, this

599
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 1: is a dangerous one because I mean, essentially, this is

600
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:11,280
Speaker 1: what we do all the time. We judge, even if

601
00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 1: we don't want to be judgmental people.

602
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 3: Human nature is we are judging each other, like on appearance,

603
00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 3: on talking, all types of things and Yeah, sometimes people

604
00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 3: can talk gay and that doesn't mean shit, but it

605
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 3: could mean shit if all the like, if all four

606
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:29,120
Speaker 3: of these topics line up, plus they have very feminine

607
00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:32,360
Speaker 3: body liningugs, this is like a Soreanta five situation.

608
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 1: So don't go home because you had found one and

609
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 1: there like you got on the right. But if there's

610
00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:41,760
Speaker 1: like three or four of the five, you might need

611
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,160
Speaker 1: to really replace some things in your.

612
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:49,240
Speaker 3: Head because certain talking, you know, like I'm going to

613
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:50,000
Speaker 3: the clubs.

614
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:51,440
Speaker 1: Wait, what was that?

615
00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 4: Mike, my gay cousin always puts that impersonations really bad.

616
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not a good impersonator, but you know what

617
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 1: I mean, like gay talk and like that risk, like

618
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:06,680
Speaker 1: you talk about the pinky oh and like the switch

619
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:07,720
Speaker 1: of the hips.

620
00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 4: Well the sway that was the one on the website.

621
00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 4: I had found the one thing that we agree with.

622
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 1: Like there's a guy that.

623
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 4: I know who's not openly gay, and when he gets

624
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:21,080
Speaker 4: around the girls, he's a different person, gets girlier.

625
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, he'll be using all types of oh girl, right.

626
00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 4: Oh honey, or it just like he just more like

627
00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 4: comfortable loose.

628
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:32,400
Speaker 3: But you know it also it is I notice if

629
00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:34,040
Speaker 3: you do have somebody who.

630
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:36,320
Speaker 1: Is a little uh has a little sugar in that tank.

631
00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:38,680
Speaker 3: If you start to get them drunk or they start

632
00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 3: to drink and they get more comfortable, like maybe they're.

633
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 1: Not as aware of it.

634
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:44,800
Speaker 3: I've noticed people who I suspect once they start drinking,

635
00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:47,840
Speaker 3: it's more clear because they're a little bit looser and

636
00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:49,160
Speaker 3: a little bit more hate.

637
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 1: Girl, And then you can tell yeah.

638
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 4: But then there's been like you were telling me the

639
00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:55,880
Speaker 4: story of the two guys, like the one that was

640
00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:58,000
Speaker 4: raised by women versus the guy who grew up in

641
00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 4: Boston and the one that raised by women and had

642
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:00,680
Speaker 4: the high.

643
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:02,240
Speaker 3: Voice, and he even a minute, he's like, when I

644
00:31:02,240 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 3: get really excited, my voice gets even higher.

645
00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 1: Poor baby. He was giggling like like literally just like that.

646
00:31:09,760 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: And he was married with kids.

647
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:14,200
Speaker 3: And then the Boston guy who was like super into sports,

648
00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:17,640
Speaker 3: like these stereotypical things that we associate with masculinity, was

649
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:21,000
Speaker 3: actually gay. And he even said he's been in situations

650
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,720
Speaker 3: where people are not assuming and don't know and make

651
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 3: some really derogatory terms, and then you know, he wants

652
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 3: to beat somebody's ass because they're not aware because he's

653
00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 3: talking like a what we think is like a manly

654
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:33,720
Speaker 3: talk and he's done manly things and his appearance looks

655
00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 3: very manly. But the truth is like gay comes in

656
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 3: all shapes and sizes and talks and looks.

657
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 1: And you know, so there's there's really no guarantee. I know,

658
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:46,160
Speaker 1: there really isn't.

659
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 4: I mean, I've definitely been wrong before just based off

660
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:55,600
Speaker 4: of body language, so I I mean, I maybe I'm

661
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:58,080
Speaker 4: not wrong. Maybe I feel like I have pretty good gatar.

662
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:01,480
Speaker 4: A lot of times I feel like they just haven't.

663
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 4: They just don't know.

664
00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:03,360
Speaker 1: But sometimes they don't know.

665
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 3: And then also, you know, I'm also I'm really, I

666
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 3: guess not manipulative. But there's something about me where I

667
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:11,560
Speaker 3: feel like I've met strangers and they.

668
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 1: Get so comfortable so quick they tell me things that

669
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:15,520
Speaker 1: I don't even want to know, and I'm like, wow,

670
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 1: why are you opening up too quickly? But that's another

671
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 1: perk because I think.

672
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:21,840
Speaker 3: If you can make someone feel really comfortable with you

673
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 3: and like you're non judgmental, I mean, this is the

674
00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:26,600
Speaker 3: way to be in life in general.

675
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 1: But people will start to be more honest than you know.

676
00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 3: I even go so far as like, I mean like

677
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:37,560
Speaker 3: if you like, if you've ever like experimented I mean,

678
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:41,080
Speaker 3: it's so normal to be curious. I've experimented with girls,

679
00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:43,880
Speaker 3: like I always wanted to know because that's little girls

680
00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:46,040
Speaker 3: like you like kiss your other girlfriends and stuff like

681
00:32:46,080 --> 00:32:48,160
Speaker 3: that's a part of it. But like for men, we

682
00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 3: don't talk about it doesn't mean it doesn't happen or

683
00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:53,960
Speaker 3: doesn't exist. But I always want to ask my ex boyfriends, like, so,

684
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:56,640
Speaker 3: you've never ever, even when you're a kid, just been

685
00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:59,120
Speaker 3: curious and than anything, I'm like, not saying you're gay,

686
00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 3: but like you just I mean, how do you know

687
00:33:01,200 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 3: you're not gay? If you never like even attempted to

688
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 3: be curious about it?

689
00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 1: Is that then by curious? Okay, this is my four

690
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:10,960
Speaker 1: Is that like? Bye? Yeah?

691
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 4: Because I think like a lot of times for men,

692
00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:16,840
Speaker 4: they definitely they ever are curious. There's no by curious,

693
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:19,920
Speaker 4: it's like you gay or you For women, we can

694
00:33:19,960 --> 00:33:22,480
Speaker 4: be like a parent socially, we can we can we're

695
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:23,680
Speaker 4: allowed to explore that.

696
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 1: Like if a boy like, after three times, it's not

697
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 1: by curious no more? You know and you like it? Okay,

698
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 1: th three times too? Really for a guy, I'm hate

699
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 1: to say, it's like one or two times if you

700
00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 1: explored in curiosity twice and you went a third round.

701
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 1: It's because you liked it.

702
00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:46,560
Speaker 3: I mean, I yeah, there's there's a limit to the curiosity.

703
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:51,920
Speaker 3: You can't be by curious for a year straight. No, No,

704
00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 3: get you're by.

705
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:55,800
Speaker 4: But it's possible to be by bisexual at one point

706
00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 4: and then totally not bisexual anymore.

707
00:33:59,600 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 1: No.

708
00:33:59,880 --> 00:34:02,480
Speaker 3: I mean, even me, I've had like I've only had

709
00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:06,080
Speaker 3: I mean, minus my child's father, I've literally only been

710
00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 3: in relationships with women, which I think is really strange. Really,

711
00:34:09,560 --> 00:34:13,920
Speaker 3: I didn't know that only like long term living relationships.

712
00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 1: But do I think I'm gonna end up with a chick? No,

713
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:17,719
Speaker 1: I don't.

714
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 3: Well, at one point I thought that I could be

715
00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 3: lesbian for the rest of my life, and then I

716
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 3: grew up and realized quickly, like I need fleshy, real penis.

717
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:29,560
Speaker 1: But I don't know.

718
00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:31,680
Speaker 3: Maybe I think with women and women, like we're on

719
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:34,280
Speaker 3: the same wavelength where it's like easier to be more comfortable,

720
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:35,759
Speaker 3: easier to settle down, Like it's just.

721
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:38,080
Speaker 1: An easier thing for me. I guess it was easier

722
00:34:38,120 --> 00:34:39,960
Speaker 1: or maybe I am a lesbian shit, I don't know,

723
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 1: but yeah, I don't know. Maybe it's just me.

724
00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 3: But I wouldn't go so far to say I'm no

725
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:51,600
Speaker 3: longer bisexual, right cause I still can see a girl.

726
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, she's cute. I taped that.

727
00:34:53,719 --> 00:34:54,840
Speaker 3: But it doesn't mean I want to be in a

728
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 3: relationship with you. No, But I would never say like

729
00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:59,279
Speaker 3: I don't like women anymore. That doesn't fade away like

730
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:02,480
Speaker 3: I mean, they'd be less intrigued to like pounce or

731
00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 3: like approach them. I'm not gonna go like trying to

732
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 3: holler at no chick. But I could be like, the

733
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:09,239
Speaker 3: girl looks good, and I'm not gonna tell anybody like.

734
00:35:09,239 --> 00:35:11,480
Speaker 1: Oh, I used to be bisexual, but now I'm not.

735
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:17,400
Speaker 1: I'm saved again, saved, which I also totally don't believe it.

736
00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:21,040
Speaker 3: Of course, you cannot pray the gay out of you,

737
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 3: and you're gonna You're gonna hurt yourself doing that more

738
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 3: than anybody.

739
00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:29,360
Speaker 4: So my last question for you is, and I have

740
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 4: a lot of opinions on this, which.

741
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:34,320
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean a lot of people disagree, a

742
00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:35,000
Speaker 1: lot of people agree.

743
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:39,040
Speaker 4: But do you think people are born gay?

744
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:42,080
Speaker 1: Yeah? I think I was born gay, I mean not gay.

745
00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:46,279
Speaker 4: But because do you think that like situations can make

746
00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 4: you gay or were you always had that in you.

747
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:51,360
Speaker 1: I think it goes both ways.

748
00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:54,560
Speaker 3: I think for some people, unfortunately, like we discussed, sometimes

749
00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 3: things happen to them in childhood that traumatize them to

750
00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:59,160
Speaker 3: the point where they don't want to deal with the

751
00:35:59,160 --> 00:36:02,120
Speaker 3: same sex being So I was a hardcore lesbian for

752
00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:05,880
Speaker 3: like five years straight. I'll say that almost every single

753
00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:09,440
Speaker 3: girl I messed with, all of maybe two, had never

754
00:36:09,520 --> 00:36:13,320
Speaker 3: had any sexual trauma. Maybe one had never been molested,

755
00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:15,800
Speaker 3: had never been touched, and was just gay.

756
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:19,319
Speaker 1: But for the most part, a lot of women had

757
00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:21,799
Speaker 1: had shit. And that's why I mean, I mean, this

758
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 1: is so stereotypical but true. Like strippers, sometimes when shit

759
00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:27,840
Speaker 1: happened to as a child, it develops differently. But some

760
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:29,799
Speaker 1: people are born gay. Like I got a cousin and

761
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:31,279
Speaker 1: he's been My mom was like he's been gay since

762
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 1: he was born. He was wearing my shoes when he

763
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:34,840
Speaker 1: was three, you know. And even for me, like I

764
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:39,720
Speaker 1: remember having a crush on my front at five years old.

765
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:40,759
Speaker 1: I remember like I.

766
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:42,880
Speaker 3: Couldn't wait to go over there so we could play house.

767
00:36:43,120 --> 00:36:45,120
Speaker 3: And because she was a tomboy or she's tom boy

768
00:36:45,239 --> 00:36:48,360
Speaker 3: now and she's a lesbian, but you know, like, I

769
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:50,239
Speaker 3: will deny that. That's how I felt as a child,

770
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:52,280
Speaker 3: and even for me, even at like twelve or thirteen,

771
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 3: I was like I am a lesbian.

772
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:57,200
Speaker 1: I was a self per playing lesbian. I wasn't afraid.

773
00:36:57,560 --> 00:37:00,719
Speaker 1: But unfortunately we don't really live in a society we're

774
00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:03,560
Speaker 1: as a young age, it's accepted to say those type

775
00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 1: of things, you know, So I think it goes both ways.

776
00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 1: What do you think? I agree? I agree, I think

777
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:11,400
Speaker 1: that you're born gay?

778
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:13,839
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I don't think why would why would someone

779
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 4: want to take the harder route?

780
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:15,960
Speaker 3: Right?

781
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:18,880
Speaker 1: Why would you want to be make your life harder

782
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 1: unless you absolutely cannot help that that's what you're attracting,

783
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 1: you know what I mean?

784
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 4: Like?

785
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:23,759
Speaker 1: Why would? I mean?

786
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:26,359
Speaker 4: I do think obviously, like you know, situations in your

787
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:30,479
Speaker 4: in your childhood can help, can push you towards, push

788
00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:33,959
Speaker 4: you towards, you know, whatever, your sexual preferences at some point.

789
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 4: But I still do I don't have a definitive answer

790
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:41,400
Speaker 4: for like, maybe you guys, if you guys have experience

791
00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 4: with this, If you guys are you know, have been,

792
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:51,800
Speaker 4: are gay, or are bisexual, or are a victim of abuse?

793
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:58,799
Speaker 4: My question is, like we're when you were a child,

794
00:37:59,080 --> 00:38:00,799
Speaker 4: because you're a child. When I was a kid, like

795
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:03,799
Speaker 4: I knew I liked boys, I liked boys, and my

796
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 4: first kiss was a girl and I remember really liking

797
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:13,279
Speaker 4: it for real. And but I've always gravitated towards men,

798
00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:18,200
Speaker 4: towards men. But I do like women too, But I couldn't.

799
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 4: I don't not enough to like stort or even date.

800
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 4: It's more curiosity, That's why I don't know, Like it's

801
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:28,480
Speaker 4: not curiosity. I don't even know if I consider myself bisexual.

802
00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 4: Maybe I could, but not. Maybe I'm like by curious

803
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:33,479
Speaker 4: sexual girl.

804
00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 1: Never did it more than three times? No comment, Yeah,

805
00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 1: I just really would.

806
00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:43,759
Speaker 4: I'm just curious as to how people feel about Like

807
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 4: what if you're sexually abused as a child before you

808
00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:51,279
Speaker 4: really get the opportunity to like even really fully make

809
00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:56,840
Speaker 4: that decision, right, Like can that make you gay? Can

810
00:38:56,880 --> 00:38:58,600
Speaker 4: that make you straight?

811
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 1: Like? How does that? I don't know if there's really

812
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 1: an answer there is, because everybody's different.

813
00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:07,120
Speaker 3: Everybody has different experiences and their input takes them differently,

814
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:09,360
Speaker 3: Like me and you could probably have had the identical

815
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:13,080
Speaker 3: situations as children that happen, like you know, something maybe

816
00:39:13,120 --> 00:39:16,879
Speaker 3: traumatizing happen, and you could go one completely other way,

817
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:18,800
Speaker 3: and I can go completely this way. Just like help people,

818
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:22,680
Speaker 3: you know, parents have like alcoholism or drug abuse issues.

819
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 1: Either you have a kid that goes down the same road,

820
00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:29,240
Speaker 1: or you'll have a kid that absolutely will not drink

821
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 1: or do drugs because they're so traumatized by it. So

822
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 1: it's just like a personal, you know, case to case

823
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:40,680
Speaker 1: baces I feel like, But I think overall.

824
00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 4: The moral of this podcast episode is for me, like

825
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 4: I just want people to be accepting of who they are,

826
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 4: you know what I mean. Like I wish that like

827
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:54,439
Speaker 4: these men that I dated could have felt comfortable enough

828
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:59,799
Speaker 4: to be open, be open with me, because there are

829
00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:02,520
Speaker 4: men that are totally they don't care. It's totally fine

830
00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:02,879
Speaker 4: with them.

831
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 1: Obviously, for women it's different. Oh you mean, oh for

832
00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:10,200
Speaker 1: the women dating guys. Yeah, true, Yeah, And.

833
00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:12,279
Speaker 4: Just like be open and like, I know that's a lot.

834
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:14,239
Speaker 4: It sounds it's so much easier so than done. It

835
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:16,360
Speaker 4: really is, especially in the society we live in, especially

836
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:19,960
Speaker 4: if you're a black man or brown even white. I mean,

837
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:24,200
Speaker 4: it's you know, it's difficult, it's difficult.

838
00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:28,879
Speaker 3: But the guy that I know suspect I knew, and

839
00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:30,080
Speaker 3: I liked it.

840
00:40:29,960 --> 00:40:32,440
Speaker 4: But there's so many women that don't. Yeah, you liked it,

841
00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 4: but some women might not. If I know women that would.

842
00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:36,279
Speaker 1: Never do it.

843
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:39,120
Speaker 4: Personally, I don't really want to date a man who's bisexual.

844
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:40,520
Speaker 1: I don't want to.

845
00:40:40,719 --> 00:40:43,880
Speaker 3: I mean, but I also in that experience, I realized

846
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 3: and learned you'd be surprised when you like someone and

847
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:51,360
Speaker 3: someone's honest with you what.

848
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:53,640
Speaker 4: But you'd be willing to do what you're willing to

849
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 4: do yet because the truth is, for me, like people

850
00:40:56,600 --> 00:41:00,520
Speaker 4: who are themselves weird or indifferent or mysterious, or when

851
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 4: you're yourself.

852
00:41:01,400 --> 00:41:04,439
Speaker 3: Something about that, it's attractive when you don't give a fuck,

853
00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:06,360
Speaker 3: because I'm the same way, and you know what, it

854
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:08,319
Speaker 3: also for me, a lot of it I realized was

855
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:12,200
Speaker 3: now it was nice to date someone who could accept me.

856
00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:15,239
Speaker 3: And because you guys your own shit and you're not,

857
00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:19,400
Speaker 3: you know, like the perfect standard, it was easy for

858
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:22,239
Speaker 3: me to be completely myself too, because I knew that

859
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 3: we could accept each other in all of our weirdness.

860
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:28,359
Speaker 1: Right, I mean, I guess you're right.

861
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:30,800
Speaker 4: I guess maybe I can't make that statement that I

862
00:41:30,840 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 4: wouldn't or I couldn't it's maybe the fact that my

863
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:36,480
Speaker 4: choice was taken from me right that I didn't like,

864
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 4: except I don't.

865
00:41:37,400 --> 00:41:39,399
Speaker 1: Like give me the option. At least, don't be out

866
00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:41,560
Speaker 1: here embarrassing me in front of my homeboys.

867
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 3: Trying to get a freak show on the low right, like,

868
00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:47,760
Speaker 3: of all the people to choose from you, like.

869
00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:53,680
Speaker 1: Friends, mess that's messy. I don't want any messy gays. Okay,

870
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 1: not as friends, not as lovers, none of that. Ship.

871
00:41:56,080 --> 00:41:57,799
Speaker 1: I don't want any messy gays because you know, the

872
00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:00,560
Speaker 1: gays tend to be a little messy, not a little,

873
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 1: a lot the messy, honey, they messy. This topic is

874
00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:07,360
Speaker 1: real deep. We're gonna smoke after this, I know.

875
00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:10,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, we didn't smoke this time because I got this episode.

876
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 4: Mila got a little too high at the top and

877
00:42:13,080 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 4: she was like losing trains of thoughts. Same side, there

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Speaker 4: was positives and shit, I'm gonna be sober.

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Speaker 1: Let's slightly separate now.

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Speaker 4: Actually anyway, so I guess that concludes this episode. I

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Speaker 4: just I just want us to like end on a

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Speaker 4: positive note that we accept all, we accept all, we

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Speaker 4: love all, We even love you, you closeted men.

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Speaker 3: That are, and we just want you to come to

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Speaker 3: terms with them. We want you to be honest with

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Speaker 3: yourself and others. It's gonna make your life a much

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Speaker 3: better place. And you'd be surprised that people are willing

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Speaker 3: to love you and accept you the more you're willing

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Speaker 3: to love and accept yourself. Yes, it's very true, and

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Speaker 3: this is why we're here, because people are gonna have

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Speaker 3: a hard time loving and accepting us with all the

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Speaker 3: topics we talk about.

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Speaker 1: But hey, this is it, This is it.

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Speaker 4: Look I'm trying to I'm still learning to love and

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Speaker 4: accept myself all right, So every day struggle.

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Speaker 1: But anyway, thanks for tuning in, guys, cut you later.

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Speaker 4: Oh we didn't do a Horri Horris our next time.

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Speaker 4: We can do a Horry next time. Okay, and make

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Speaker 4: sure to follow us on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: At Good Mom's Underscore Bad Choices.

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Speaker 4: And we're working on a Twitter, hasn't They haven't. We

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Speaker 4: haven't finalized a name for it because apparently Parental Advisory

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Speaker 4: everything we've come up with is taken. So we'll get

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Speaker 4: back to you with that and then what's our email

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Speaker 4: Parental Advisory GMBC at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: So if you have any questions, concerns.

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Speaker 4: You want to hate us, you want to like bash us,

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Speaker 4: you can send shit there.

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Speaker 1: You want to send us free ship, you can do

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Speaker 1: that too.

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Speaker 4: We'll send you our addresses and over, okay next time.

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Speaker 1: And give in his life.

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Speaker 7: But all he tells me he is like to K,

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Speaker 7: I don't believe the down window by my nestor round

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