1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,920 Speaker 1: Do you consider cheating on your husband or wife bad? Yes, 2 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:08,360 Speaker 1: the Jewel Show, that's a question you should probably ask 3 00:00:08,400 --> 00:00:11,280 Speaker 1: somebody before you get married. You think, yeah, you should 4 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:14,200 Speaker 1: know that before otherwise it's gonna be six years later 5 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:16,880 Speaker 1: you're like, we've been married for six years. You just 6 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: cheated on me, and whoa. We never had a discussion 7 00:00:19,560 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 1: that it was bad. I don't think it's bad. I 8 00:00:21,920 --> 00:00:23,840 Speaker 1: mean I thought we were in a relationship. I don't 9 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:26,239 Speaker 1: know about you, but we literally said, like you know, 10 00:00:26,239 --> 00:00:28,600 Speaker 1: we put rings and said it just devoted to each other. Yeah, 11 00:00:28,600 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 1: but that didn't mean not to cheat, right, I don't know. Yeah, 12 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:35,240 Speaker 1: you're confusing me. I need to time out. I say 13 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 1: that because a list is going involved right now of 14 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:40,440 Speaker 1: the top six things you should ask someone if you're 15 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:42,960 Speaker 1: going to get married or before you get married, that's 16 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:45,040 Speaker 1: not on the list. I think that's an obvious one. 17 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 1: But we'll go over the top questions that you need 18 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:50,440 Speaker 1: to ask somebody before you get married. Do you want kids? 19 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:54,880 Speaker 1: And how will you parent? See I kind of already disagreeing, 20 00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 1: really because I know somebody who had a conversation with 21 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:03,400 Speaker 1: their husband about kids within five years and guess what, 22 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:08,319 Speaker 1: fifteen years later, No kids, guy, I didn't want kids. Actually, 23 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:10,360 Speaker 1: it's okay to disagree about it, I think, but it's 24 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 1: it's a conversation i'd want to have because they had 25 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:14,520 Speaker 1: it if oh yeah, if I marry, like you know 26 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:16,600 Speaker 1: someone though, I want to I want to know if 27 00:01:16,640 --> 00:01:18,760 Speaker 1: they want to have kids on Yeah, it's a conversation 28 00:01:18,800 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 1: you should have. But the problem is you could say 29 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 1: to somebody, hey, do you want to have kids? And 30 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 1: they're like, yeah, all I've ever wanted to do in 31 00:01:25,600 --> 00:01:28,520 Speaker 1: my life was be a dad. You know, Like all 32 00:01:28,600 --> 00:01:30,680 Speaker 1: my friends were talking about not having kids, and I 33 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 1: was just like, you know what, I just want to 34 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:36,840 Speaker 1: be a dad to two girls and have cats and 35 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: have a puppy, you know, trying to play to He's like, oh, 36 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:42,920 Speaker 1: he's so sweet. And then you get married. He's like, 37 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:45,440 Speaker 1: you know what, I decided, I just want a vacation 38 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 1: a lot. Yeah, he's like, I'm going to people, you know, 39 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:50,440 Speaker 1: not necessarily truthful all the time. Yeah. I do agree 40 00:01:50,480 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 1: with this list, though, I mean you should ask these questions. 41 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: It's just people can lie. Yeah. Yeah. The first question 42 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 1: actually should be do you lie about your future? With men? 43 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:02,160 Speaker 1: These are the top questions that you need to ask 44 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 1: somebody before you get married. According to relationship experts, where 45 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:09,079 Speaker 1: will we spend the holidays? They say that's an important one. Well, 46 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:11,080 Speaker 1: that is an important one. That does cause a lot 47 00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:13,200 Speaker 1: of arguments. Yeah, I only see don't care about that one. 48 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:15,919 Speaker 1: A couple of years before Alex and I magazos and 49 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: are married. If you didn't know that, I started just 50 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:20,919 Speaker 1: kicking up by myself or going somewhere. It was amazing. Yeah, 51 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 1: why not just stay at your house? Yeah, well, like 52 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: where you live, like your parents. That's why don't go 53 00:02:26,320 --> 00:02:28,840 Speaker 1: see the parents? Like have you know whoever? Like you 54 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 1: want to come see come over to your house? I 55 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:33,000 Speaker 1: don't know, or like sarge rising with your family. Yes, 56 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:36,239 Speaker 1: I've always thought that, Yeah you can. But eventually though, 57 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 1: the parents are going to dine and it's like, you know, 58 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:39,639 Speaker 1: you want to save that time that you have with them. 59 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 1: You know, some people want to hang out their parents 60 00:02:41,600 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 1: and some don't, I guess. And if your parents want 61 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 1: to bad enough, they can't come to your house. You 62 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 1: got a new family. Now they're gonna die soon. Quit 63 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:49,919 Speaker 1: trying so hard. Just come over here and hang out. Yeah, 64 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:51,959 Speaker 1: you were doing it for him for a long time. Yeah, 65 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 1: take a break. One of the best Thanksgivings I've ever had. 66 00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:57,079 Speaker 1: Didn't go anywhere. I just ordered ordered a burger, not 67 00:02:57,200 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 1: a place that was open. I sat on the couch, 68 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 1: I watched TV and I ate in silence, and I 69 00:03:00,919 --> 00:03:03,880 Speaker 1: was like, this is the most peaceful Thanksgiving ever. Yeah. 70 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:05,679 Speaker 1: And now, like all the holidays now for Jubil and I, 71 00:03:06,240 --> 00:03:08,239 Speaker 1: We're like, why is everything closed? We just want to 72 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:11,760 Speaker 1: go have dinner somewhere. Yeah. We're going over a list 73 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 1: from relationships experts of the top things that you need 74 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 1: to ask somebody before you get married. Another one was 75 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:21,360 Speaker 1: are you open to couples therapy if we need it? Oh, 76 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:23,560 Speaker 1: that's an important one. Yes, it is. If they admit yes, 77 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:26,359 Speaker 1: then that's a good sign. They say no, probably no 78 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 1: good yea, because they're like, no, I'm perfect, They're narcissist, 79 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:31,840 Speaker 1: and they're like yes, knowing that they're not going to 80 00:03:31,880 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: go exactly. Yeah. I think. I mean, honestly, a couple's 81 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 1: therapy is important in any marriage, any marriage. I think 82 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 1: even if you have an happy marriage, it might be 83 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 1: good to go to somebody once in a while, just 84 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 1: because there's always going to be some kind of a 85 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 1: communication issue. If you're dealing with another person. So and 86 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 1: generally people are like hiding, not hiding, but keeping a 87 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:52,480 Speaker 1: lot of emotions, you know, within themselves and not saying 88 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:55,120 Speaker 1: exactly how they feel all the time. So it's good 89 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 1: to get that stuff out. We're going over a list 90 00:03:56,880 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 1: from relationship expert off the top questions you need to 91 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: ask somebody before you get married. Some people got married 92 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 1: over the summer and they're like, I wish I would 93 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:05,480 Speaker 1: have had this list before then. Should have? Wait? These 94 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: are the questions you need to ask before getting married, 95 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:11,120 Speaker 1: according to relationship experts. How should we divide the chores? 96 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 1: That's a good one. I mean it's just hard to 97 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 1: like keep going on with this list because like people 98 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:19,600 Speaker 1: can say anything and then like they won't follow through 99 00:04:19,720 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 1: a lot. Yeah, like had Alex and I actually had 100 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:24,839 Speaker 1: a discussion of like, this is what you're gonna do 101 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:26,400 Speaker 1: around the house? Is I'm gonna do around the house 102 00:04:26,440 --> 00:04:28,839 Speaker 1: before then? I might have helped out more before then 103 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: instead of noticing, Man, she does everything and I'm just 104 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:34,360 Speaker 1: I'm not doing anything I want to. I should help 105 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:37,040 Speaker 1: her out, you know, guilty? Yeah, because I think some 106 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:39,320 Speaker 1: people in a relationship don't even notice that they're just 107 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 1: like whatever. Yeah, but even if they do this, they 108 00:04:40,880 --> 00:04:42,240 Speaker 1: don't care and they don't make a change. So thank 109 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:43,880 Speaker 1: you for making a change. Love you. Your house is 110 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:45,799 Speaker 1: called about to say love you because you're my husband. 111 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:49,159 Speaker 1: In case anybody just tuned in their new listener together. 112 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:52,720 Speaker 1: The top thing that you need to ask somebody before 113 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:55,360 Speaker 1: you get married, they say, this is from relationship experts. 114 00:04:55,680 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 1: How should we handle money? Are we gonna do a 115 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:00,640 Speaker 1: joint maake account? Or I was going to be in 116 00:05:00,640 --> 00:05:03,880 Speaker 1: one name radio transferred alongto my bank account? Yeah, offended 117 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:05,479 Speaker 1: to look after it, just put it on here. How 118 00:05:05,520 --> 00:05:09,120 Speaker 1: are we going to handle my is at that dream? Yeah? 119 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:11,839 Speaker 1: And so Vin Moore, because Alexander are married, I cash too. 120 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:14,919 Speaker 1: We have a joint banking out. Yeah, so sweet. And 121 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:17,479 Speaker 1: remember you follow the show on Instagram and TikTok at 122 00:05:17,520 --> 00:05:19,360 Speaker 1: the Jewel Show. You can follow all of us individually. 123 00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:21,280 Speaker 1: I'm at Jebel Fresh, i am at that Drea's I'm 124 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:22,160 Speaker 1: at Evan on the radio.