1 00:00:01,120 --> 00:00:04,240 Speaker 1: All right, Steve, this woman needs some advice. She's off 2 00:00:04,280 --> 00:00:07,400 Speaker 1: of Steve Harvey FM. She says, my boyfriend and I 3 00:00:07,400 --> 00:00:10,760 Speaker 1: have been together for almost four years. We live together 4 00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:15,159 Speaker 1: and have a good relationship. The only thing missing is 5 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:18,720 Speaker 1: a ring. Marriage has always been important to me and 6 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:21,960 Speaker 1: I've been open about that. But whenever I bring up 7 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:25,759 Speaker 1: the subject, he just says, quote, someday. I don't want 8 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:29,760 Speaker 1: to throw away a great relationship, but also I don't 9 00:00:29,800 --> 00:00:33,120 Speaker 1: want to waste years waiting for something that may never happened. 10 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:36,240 Speaker 1: Some of my friends say I should give him an ultimatum, 11 00:00:36,320 --> 00:00:39,879 Speaker 1: like propose within the year or we're done. What do 12 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 1: you think. 13 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:45,680 Speaker 2: Well, listen, ladies, this is going to sound old fashion, 14 00:00:46,479 --> 00:00:49,040 Speaker 2: But if you really want to get married and have 15 00:00:49,080 --> 00:00:52,240 Speaker 2: a family and have a man's last name, or however 16 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:55,640 Speaker 2: y'all choose to do that, I have to tell you 17 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:59,840 Speaker 2: that that is old fashion. That is the traditional way 18 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:06,320 Speaker 2: a family. You all have to stop giving a man 19 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 2: the thing of his dreams without you getting the thing 20 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:15,240 Speaker 2: of your dreams. If being a wife and having a 21 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 2: family is the day that you dream of, make him 22 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 2: give you that before you give him what he dreams of. 23 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 2: Because we don't have a dream of our wedding day. 24 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:30,319 Speaker 2: We dream of the chick of our dreams. And if 25 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:33,399 Speaker 2: we can get you without the wedding day, bingo, we 26 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:35,039 Speaker 2: got it all. We ain't got to spend no money, 27 00:01:35,040 --> 00:01:36,839 Speaker 2: we ain't got to buy no ring, we ain't got paving, 28 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:39,600 Speaker 2: no wind. We get all of that. We get to 29 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 2: have sex. We got you in here helping with this house. 30 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:47,680 Speaker 2: You've giving us kids, You helping me plan a future 31 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 2: and pay the bills. He getting everything out of the 32 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 2: deal and you're getting nothing. So yes, eventually you are 33 00:01:56,000 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 2: going to have to demand what you want. Now, listen 34 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 2: to me. You're scared to let a good man go. 35 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 2: So what you're saying is you're not a good woman. 36 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 2: See what need to be happening and happen to be 37 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 2: understood here is you may be afraid of letting a 38 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 2: good man go, but he need to be scared the 39 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 2: death of letting a good woman go because they hard 40 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 2: to find. Man, Real good women come on, facts that far. Yeah, 41 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 2: real good women that are staying with you no matter what, Richard, 42 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 2: poor sickness and health. You got one of them. Listen 43 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:32,919 Speaker 2: to me, man, don't throw that out to when I 44 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:37,280 Speaker 2: know so many guys who've done that and regretted it. 45 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:42,200 Speaker 2: So you have to understand your power too. Now in 46 00:02:42,200 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 2: the letter, did she say they have kids. 47 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: No, she didn't say. 48 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:51,120 Speaker 2: Lady, listen, you keep If y'all keep doing what y'all doing, 49 00:02:51,200 --> 00:02:53,720 Speaker 2: y'all gonna have some baby running around here and you 50 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 2: still ain't gonna have no read. So wake up, ladies. 51 00:02:58,080 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 2: And it's a soft ultimatum. You know. Hey, Look, if 52 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 2: we're not engaged by Christmas, I'm gonna start preparing to 53 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:06,359 Speaker 2: move out. 54 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 1: Okay, that's fair. 55 00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:14,680 Speaker 2: If I don't get some commitment from you, I'm prepare 56 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:15,359 Speaker 2: to move out. 57 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:16,920 Speaker 1: That's fair. 58 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:21,800 Speaker 2: After four years, it's looking together. It ain't like y'all 59 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:27,360 Speaker 2: don't know each other. Right. Playing house? Yeah, white playing house? Playing. 60 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 2: But one thing I need to let him know un 61 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:33,040 Speaker 2: that after he get married, the sex does go down. 62 00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 2: It does, just so you good not get down. That's 63 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:41,720 Speaker 2: what I found out. I got a good woman, but 64 00:03:41,760 --> 00:03:44,320 Speaker 2: I know the sex is gone down. I know I'll 65 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 2: be trying, but it just don't happen. 66 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 1: So keep playing house. 67 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:50,520 Speaker 2: That's him. Get married. You don't get this pain I got. 68 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:54,440 Speaker 2: That's true. 69 00:03:57,160 --> 00:04:06,800 Speaker 1: You can't disagree with it because you're too busy. Why 70 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 1: is he saying that looking off? 71 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 2: Because I tried to be romantic in the kitchen got 72 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 2: hit with a spatul I ain't been back in the jump. 73 00:04:16,480 --> 00:04:22,920 Speaker 1: Hands off me, okay, But before the wedding, what happened 74 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:23,040 Speaker 1: to you? 75 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:26,839 Speaker 2: Godly boy? I was something. 76 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 1: As soon as we drove off from that building, I 77 00:04:31,160 --> 00:04:32,039 Speaker 1: knew it was over the end. 78 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:35,599 Speaker 2: I do all right? 79 00:04:36,600 --> 00:04:39,640 Speaker 1: Sorry about that, Junior, coming up. We'll have more on 80 00:04:39,720 --> 00:04:44,120 Speaker 1: the Steve Harvey Morning Show right after this. You're listening 81 00:04:44,200 --> 00:04:49,920 Speaker 1: to the Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, Steve, This 82 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 1: is from Kenny on Steve Harvey. 83 00:04:51,760 --> 00:04:52,040 Speaker 2: F M. 84 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:57,040 Speaker 1: Kenny says, over the past Labor Day weekend, my homie 85 00:04:57,080 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 1: invited me and my girlfriend out on a double date 86 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:02,200 Speaker 1: to meet the new woman in his life. It was 87 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 1: a nice evening until she said this quote. It's amazing 88 00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:11,120 Speaker 1: that we have Mother's Day and Labor Day, and that 89 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 1: is really nice that we celebrate childbirth the way we do. 90 00:05:16,279 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 1: The woman isn't from another country either. My girl and 91 00:05:20,160 --> 00:05:23,480 Speaker 1: I looked each looked at each other like what. I'm 92 00:05:23,520 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 1: so confused because my homie has always told me that 93 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:29,599 Speaker 1: intelligence was a major turn on for him. Do I 94 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:33,159 Speaker 1: talk to him about this issue. She can't be this dumb. 95 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 1: What do you think she thought that Labor Day was 96 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 1: about giving labor? Yeah, labor pains, giving birth. 97 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:46,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's nothing in me? Could have let that go? 98 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:49,599 Speaker 1: What would you have said? What would you? 99 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:51,040 Speaker 2: Oh? 100 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:54,279 Speaker 1: Wait? What what. 101 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:59,560 Speaker 2: I got? Mother's Day? What are you thinking? Labor Day? 102 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:02,359 Speaker 1: Child bird, labor pains? 103 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:05,359 Speaker 2: Wait, you think that we out here barbecue and cause 104 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 2: women having child birth? You see all these men on 105 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:19,400 Speaker 2: these grills out here. Wait, there's no way in Helle 106 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:24,440 Speaker 2: you could possibly think we talking about childbirth. No, how 107 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 2: to busted our left dog? She plays. She's so crazy, girl, 108 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 2: She's crazy? 109 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 1: Would you rather coming up next? You're listening to the 110 00:06:32,400 --> 00:06:33,839 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey Morning Show.