WEBVTT - #148 Skydiving with a bad parachute 0:00:00.360 --> 0:00:02.880 But see you see how there's no halfway, There's no 0:00:03.000 --> 0:00:06.359 fifty percent here. It's like if you had a parachute 0:00:07.320 --> 0:00:10.239 and you're jumping out of a plane and I said, 0:00:10.240 --> 0:00:13.080 hey man, that parachute has a fifty percent chance of opening, 0:00:13.360 --> 0:00:17.720 you wouldn't jump. You hear me, You hear this message, 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:21.760 you're one hundred percent in. You don't hear it. You're 0:00:21.800 --> 0:00:35.520 jumping out of a plane with a faulty parachute. Hey guys, 0:00:35.520 --> 0:00:38.640 what's up. Welcome to the podcast. Thanks for listening and watching. 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:41.559 Wherever you're coming from, I'm grateful for you. I love 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:44.000 this platform. 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My only two requests 0:01:16.520 --> 0:01:19.560 are don't send anything twice to me and don't make 0:01:19.600 --> 0:01:22.400 it much longer than a phone length in the email 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:25.040 because that it makes it hard to read for the podcast. 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:28.480 But let's dive right into this thing first. One subject 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:33.440 line says long distance relationships Florida to UK. Thanks for 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:36.440 your inspiration. I've been a long seven on a long 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:40.280 seven year self discovery since my marriage ended. Last summer. 0:01:40.560 --> 0:01:43.800 I met a very lovely lady. Unfortunately, she lives overseas 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:46.199 and visits America three times a year in an eight 0:01:46.200 --> 0:01:50.280 week period. All my life, I never considered distance to 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:54.480 be a good ingredient for a healthy relationship. This woman 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:57.600 has inspired me to reconsider my ideals. I am definitely 0:01:57.600 --> 0:02:00.400 tied to America until my kids grow another eight years. 0:02:00.800 --> 0:02:04.160 I'm just curious on your take on long distance relationships. 0:02:04.600 --> 0:02:08.000 Ye ye, Joseph, Joseph, thanks for the email, buddy, shout 0:02:08.000 --> 0:02:13.280 out to Florida and yeah, we'll get right to it. Look, 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:17.600 long distance relationships. I don't have a problem with it. 0:02:18.200 --> 0:02:20.040 I know that it just makes it difficult, which is 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:23.600 probably what you considered earlier when you said it's not 0:02:23.800 --> 0:02:27.440 a good ingredient for a healthy relationship. That just it's 0:02:27.480 --> 0:02:29.720 just because it adds a new wrinkle. But what you're 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:33.080 gonna have to do is take it slow. Now there's 0:02:33.200 --> 0:02:35.240 let's they're just good and bad. Let's talk about good 0:02:35.240 --> 0:02:39.040 and bad. The bad is you got to take it slow, 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:41.720 you know, and you have to. You have to go 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:46.480 down every detail and establish things early with her. For instance, 0:02:47.440 --> 0:02:49.720 would you ever consider moving to the US? You got 0:02:49.760 --> 0:02:52.799 to establish that early in a in a close relationship, 0:02:53.320 --> 0:02:56.680 you would establish moving to a new town or moving 0:02:56.720 --> 0:02:59.600 for a career, you would establish that later in the 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:02.600 relations But now you got to start talking about it 0:03:02.600 --> 0:03:06.320 pretty early, like, hey, how open are you to moving 0:03:06.360 --> 0:03:09.000 to the US? How hard is it to get a 0:03:09.080 --> 0:03:11.600 visa to work here? Have you ever looked into that? 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:15.799 If so, what's your time frame on that? And then 0:03:15.840 --> 0:03:18.200 the same question comes back to you, would you ever 0:03:18.240 --> 0:03:21.480 consider moving to the UK? What's the process of getting 0:03:21.480 --> 0:03:24.320 a visa? Could you get approved? Is there a career 0:03:24.440 --> 0:03:27.120 move you could make over there with a similar field 0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:29.040 that you're in now? Or could you find another job 0:03:29.040 --> 0:03:31.919 with your background? Are you willing to be apart from 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:37.160 your family? Maybe you have parents, brothers, sisters, your kids. Obviously, 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:39.360 Are you willing to be all the way across the 0:03:39.400 --> 0:03:42.360 pond away from them? Something you've got to consider now, 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:45.280 something she has to consider leaving all of her friends, 0:03:45.680 --> 0:03:48.880 all of her family, any tie she's had, maybe maybe 0:03:48.920 --> 0:03:51.120 she has kids, maybe she has a mother and father. 0:03:51.760 --> 0:03:54.880 Is she willing to leave them? These are questions that 0:03:54.920 --> 0:03:58.960 you're going to have to ask early, and it's difficult 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:01.400 that way. But if she's the right one and you 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:04.040 guys really click and you fall in love, then those 0:04:04.120 --> 0:04:07.080 obstacles aren't that big a deal. You make it work. 0:04:08.080 --> 0:04:10.920 But there's sacrifices you have to make for that. Now, 0:04:10.920 --> 0:04:17.000 there's sacrifices in every relationship, but this is very specific sacrifices. Now, 0:04:17.080 --> 0:04:19.000 the good news I told you there's good. The good 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:22.719 thing is you're gonna learn quickly about if she's the 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:25.360 right one because you're moving fast with her. So you're 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:30.040 gonna learn quickly because Joseph, your problems might be completely 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:34.560 solved in three weeks. You start asking questions and she goes, 0:04:35.000 --> 0:04:37.680 I would never consider moving there. I would never want 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:39.920 to live in Florida. I can never be away from 0:04:39.920 --> 0:04:44.080 my mother. It's like, okay, well, that's a problem because 0:04:44.120 --> 0:04:45.680 if I move there, you're gonna have to come stay 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:48.680 with me sometimes, and you're gonna have to leave your mother. 0:04:48.800 --> 0:04:51.360 So you get these problems out over with early and 0:04:51.440 --> 0:04:53.680 then and then you could come to the conclusion that 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:58.120 you know what, I'm I'm not really that into her anyway. 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:01.440 Or you could meet someone else in Florida and you go, 0:05:01.480 --> 0:05:03.960 you know what, this is a lot better. Or you 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:06.719 break up with this the UK girl, and then you 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:09.640 meet a Florida girl down the road and you go, oh, 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:13.680 this is so nice. I love you and you're local. 0:05:14.440 --> 0:05:17.400 I never knew how blessed I would be to find 0:05:17.440 --> 0:05:23.160 a Florida girl until I dated a UK girl. So 0:05:23.440 --> 0:05:26.880 it's going to give you a really good perspective. So yeah, 0:05:27.040 --> 0:05:29.320 go for it, but you got to take it slow. 0:05:29.640 --> 0:05:33.400 You got to ask hard questions fast, and don't give 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:35.880 your heart away too soon. Don't give your heart away 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:39.320 to her before you ask the hard questions and come 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:44.000 to that conclusion, because sometimes that distance can create a 0:05:44.120 --> 0:05:47.440 false sense of security in the relationship when you're texting 0:05:47.440 --> 0:05:50.880 and facetiming and calling and emailing and not seeing her 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:53.800 face to face, so you're not seeing her everyday problems. 0:05:54.160 --> 0:05:57.320 She's not seeing your everyday problems, and so it seems 0:05:57.360 --> 0:06:00.520 like a fairy tale. So be careful full of that, 0:06:01.040 --> 0:06:03.480 don't give your heart away too soon, ask the hard 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:10.720 questions right now, and take it slow. Next question subject 0:06:10.760 --> 0:06:12.440 line says big fan. I saw you when you're a 0:06:12.440 --> 0:06:14.480 part of the Luke Brian tour in twenty seventeen. Been 0:06:14.520 --> 0:06:16.599 listening to your podcast. I have all of your albums, 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:19.720 love your music and this comes from Amber Amber. Thank 0:06:19.760 --> 0:06:24.640 you that was a fun tour. Next question subject line 0:06:24.640 --> 0:06:27.560 says dating apps, Hey Granger. My name is Stephanie. I'm 0:06:27.560 --> 0:06:30.240 twenty eight years old from North Texas. The last few years, 0:06:30.240 --> 0:06:33.200 I've been on dating apps to meet people. Whenever I 0:06:33.240 --> 0:06:37.680 finally find someone actually interested in getting to know and 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:40.479 potentially pursuing a relationship, it always ends the same way. 0:06:40.600 --> 0:06:42.799 When I think things are great, the rug is pulled 0:06:42.839 --> 0:06:45.640 from under me and out of nowhere. I end up 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:48.960 heartbroken and confused. I eventually bounce back after lots of 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:52.240 prayer and talking to friends and family, but I'm definitely 0:06:52.240 --> 0:06:55.159 getting tired as a Christian. What do you think about 0:06:55.160 --> 0:06:59.080 online dating or should it just stop looking? Since everyone 0:06:59.160 --> 0:07:01.680 says the same thing. Stop looking and someone will come 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:03.920 into your life. I'd love to hear your thoughts. Thank 0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:09.080 you eee Stephanie, Stephanie shout out to North Texas. My 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:12.240 first question is why are you twenty eight and on 0:07:12.360 --> 0:07:18.720 dating apps like you're your prime age for finding a 0:07:18.760 --> 0:07:22.640 good husband? In North Texas, there's there's plenty of them. 0:07:23.680 --> 0:07:25.960 Why are you resorting to dating apps? And the reason 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:27.680 I ask it is because dating apps are going to 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:31.320 put off this front. It's like a sales pitch. It's 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:33.920 like looking for a used car and you're going to 0:07:34.000 --> 0:07:37.840 see how many miles it has and gets good fuel economy, 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:40.560 never been in a wreck before. It's going to show 0:07:40.600 --> 0:07:43.080 the pretty picture sitting in a driveway with a sunset 0:07:43.080 --> 0:07:45.640 in the background. It's all clean. That's what a dating 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:49.680 app is. You're seeing the highlights of someone. And so 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:54.320 what you're doing is you're pursuing someone only based on 0:07:54.360 --> 0:08:00.360 their highlights. That's it. That's not healthy to do. And 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:03.320 they're thinking the same thing about you. You're finding them 0:08:03.320 --> 0:08:05.520 because of the highlights, and you're pursuing it for a 0:08:05.560 --> 0:08:08.080 first date, and then they're doing the same thing. They're 0:08:08.080 --> 0:08:10.920 looking at your highlights. Whatever you wrote in your bio, 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:14.160 whatever picture out of a million you chose, because you 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:18.000 know you're just putting the best pictures on there, the 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:21.000 pictures that you want to be represented with. With the 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:25.560 sunset going down and your car is clean. So as 0:08:25.640 --> 0:08:31.200 opposed to what I would recommend is friends, close companions, 0:08:31.240 --> 0:08:34.640 people that you trust, that wise counsel that says, hey, 0:08:35.600 --> 0:08:38.240 there's a guy, like there's a guy I work with 0:08:38.840 --> 0:08:41.640 and he's single and he's thirty and he seems like 0:08:41.679 --> 0:08:43.280 your type. I would love to set you, guys up. 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:47.480 I could vouch for him. I know his struggles, I 0:08:47.520 --> 0:08:50.640 know his successes, I know where, I know his parents, 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:56.560 I know his whole story. That just that's a way 0:08:56.600 --> 0:09:00.920 better route to go to to find somebody instead of 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:05.760 looking at highlights only no references. Nobody knows them. You 0:09:05.800 --> 0:09:08.400 don't know his past, and you won't know his past 0:09:08.480 --> 0:09:10.559 for a long time because he's gonna hide it from you. 0:09:11.040 --> 0:09:13.040 So you're wondering why this ends the same way. I 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:16.720 tell you why, because the highlights fail and then you 0:09:16.760 --> 0:09:19.480 meet the real person, and when you meet the real 0:09:19.520 --> 0:09:25.080 person or they meet the real you, someone's out. That's 0:09:25.080 --> 0:09:26.800 why it keeps ending the same way. And I know 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:29.080 people are listening going I met my spouse on a 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:32.480 dating app and it's great. There's always exceptions, but those 0:09:32.520 --> 0:09:35.800 are tiny exceptions. For the most part, you need to 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:38.720 go on references. You need to see them in their 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:43.480 natural environment before you take a first date. So it's like, yeah, 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:45.480 I'm gonna go on a date with you because i 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:49.800 know you from references or or I've seen you in 0:09:49.840 --> 0:09:54.680 the real world first and not your highlight reel first. Okay, 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:58.400 I would avoid it. I wouldn't go there. You're young, 0:09:58.520 --> 0:10:02.520 You've got a long time great next question, says subject. 0:10:02.520 --> 0:10:04.640 Client says, should I ask out my best friend of 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:07.920 eighteen plus years? Hey, Granger, been listening to the podcast 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:10.880 for a while, and I've spent just as much time 0:10:10.920 --> 0:10:13.839 pondering this question. I met this girl at the old 0:10:13.880 --> 0:10:17.760 age of four many years ago when her dad became 0:10:17.800 --> 0:10:20.880 the pastor of my childhood church. We've always been very close, 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:23.720 and apparently I've already proposed to her once when we 0:10:23.720 --> 0:10:27.240 were in kindergarten. Now, our college careers are wrapping up, 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:30.280 and I feel the urgency to find the one for me. 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:35.320 I know it's on God's timing, but I know my 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:38.640 amber won't fall into my lap talking about my wife. 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:41.720 We've talked about dating multiple times over the years, but 0:10:41.760 --> 0:10:45.600 she's always felt awkward about it. She's still never had 0:10:45.600 --> 0:10:48.200 a serious relationship, and I think her reservations are rooted 0:10:48.280 --> 0:10:52.199 in nervousness about that. My question is do I risk 0:10:52.320 --> 0:10:56.160 asking her out while chancing losing my lifetime best friend. 0:10:56.400 --> 0:11:00.640 Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks, Preston. Yeah, thanks for 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:06.080 the email, buddy. So here's the deal. There's a couple 0:11:06.120 --> 0:11:08.000 things I want to talk about. First thing I want 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:13.560 to talk about is she feels hesitant. Okay, so you 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:17.920 don't have a clear path here, you know this. The 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:21.640 second thing I want to talk about is I don't 0:11:21.679 --> 0:11:24.560 from my perspective, I don't think you have anything to 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:29.960 lose here. You're talking about losing your lifetime best friend. 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:35.199 I don't think that's a problem. Here's why. One day 0:11:35.200 --> 0:11:39.200 you're gonna meet somebody your future spouse, and you're gonna 0:11:39.240 --> 0:11:42.440 marry them, and God willing, you're gonna make babies with them. 0:11:43.760 --> 0:11:48.560 You can't have that and a lifetime best friend. That's 0:11:48.559 --> 0:11:51.600 a girl that you grew up with, that you asked 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:54.559 to marry when you're in kindergarten. You can't have both, 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:58.520 so you're gonna have to give her up your childhood 0:11:58.600 --> 0:12:03.560 best friend. Anyway, it's just not healthy. It's okay now, 0:12:03.600 --> 0:12:07.560 but you can't have both a spouse, the love of 0:12:07.600 --> 0:12:12.240 your life with the babies, and oh this girl that 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:15.960 I've always had a crush on. Let's be honest, and 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:18.480 I've known her my whole life and we're just best friends. 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:21.360 You can't have both. So you're going to give her 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:26.880 up regardless. So that's off the table. That's not a problem. 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:32.360 So my suggestion is you just make a bold move 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:38.040 and say, hey, I think you're great. I've known you forever, 0:12:38.120 --> 0:12:42.520 I know you, you know me now. I am really 0:12:42.559 --> 0:12:45.240 attracted to you, and I know this might be awkward 0:12:45.240 --> 0:12:47.320 to you, but I would like to take it slow 0:12:48.640 --> 0:12:53.040 and pursue you to coffee or to dinner or to 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:56.320 a movie, and I'd like to go out in a 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:59.920 new way more than friends. Like be honest with her 0:13:00.520 --> 0:13:02.640 and make it very clear I want to be more 0:13:02.760 --> 0:13:06.679 than friends. Would you be interested in that? And if 0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:10.000 she says I don't think so, then you go, okay, 0:13:10.200 --> 0:13:13.600 I totally respect that, and then you have to back 0:13:13.679 --> 0:13:18.280 off of this lifetime friendship thing. You can't continue to 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:21.079 be best friends with her, because that's gonna hinder you 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:25.360 from meeting somebody. Because as soon as you meet somebody 0:13:25.360 --> 0:13:27.840 and start to get serious, you're gonna have to introduce 0:13:27.880 --> 0:13:30.319 that new person to your lifelong best friend that you've 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:34.000 had a crush on since kindergarten. That's not gonna work. 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:38.080 You can't have both. So I would say, be bold, 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:41.920 ask her out. If she says yes, if she wants 0:13:41.920 --> 0:13:46.679 to take it very slow, take it slow. Also, if 0:13:46.679 --> 0:13:49.160 she says no, that doesn't mean you have to stop. 0:13:49.200 --> 0:13:51.720 You could say, okay, I'm right here. I'm right here, 0:13:51.880 --> 0:13:54.000 but I think we need to back off the friendship thing. 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:56.720 But I would like to be more than friends. And 0:13:56.760 --> 0:14:00.959 so I want to prove to you that I want this, 0:14:01.960 --> 0:14:05.760 you and us together. And so i'm here. Give me 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:10.880 a call. I'm not going anywhere, Okay. The other thing 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:14.719 I want to talk about is the very beginning of 0:14:14.760 --> 0:14:20.880 your question. You said, I feel the urgency to find 0:14:20.920 --> 0:14:22.840 the one for me. I need you to get rid 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:28.240 of that urgency. There is no urgency. I know you 0:14:28.280 --> 0:14:30.480 feel that you're getting out of college. You feel that, 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:34.640 but pull that back, retract that feeling, and be confident 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:38.400 and single. Now, be secure in who you are in 0:14:38.440 --> 0:14:42.200 your singleness now without anybody. You don't need anybody. There's 0:14:42.200 --> 0:14:46.400 no urgency. It will happen in its own time or not, 0:14:46.640 --> 0:14:52.760 but either way that's your path. So don't rush this, 0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:57.800 don't feel anxious about this. Be single and secure and 0:14:57.880 --> 0:15:00.800 confident in who you are and where you are in 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:04.680 your life right now, and watch how that starts to 0:15:04.800 --> 0:15:11.040 change things for your future. Let's hit another one here. 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:13.960 It says subject line being closer to God would like 0:15:14.040 --> 0:15:16.520 to stay anonymous. Hey Granger, love your music and your podcast. 0:15:16.520 --> 0:15:19.720 I'm a big fan. I'm seventeen. I'm a volunteer firefighter. 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:22.640 Over the past year, the other guys have talked to 0:15:22.640 --> 0:15:26.080 me about Christianity, and more recently I've been trying to 0:15:26.080 --> 0:15:28.280 get more and more into it and wondering is it 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:29.800 too late for me to be saved and to go 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:32.880 to Heaven when I pass. I haven't been the best guy, 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:35.720 but is it too late? Keep up what you're doing, 0:15:36.560 --> 0:15:39.239 all right, Anonymous? Thanks for your service as a firefighter. 0:15:40.000 --> 0:15:42.480 This this is an easy answer, but you got to 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:47.720 listen to me. Okay, a couple things. Christianity is not 0:15:50.040 --> 0:15:53.520 almost there. Trying to get there, working on it. I'm 0:15:53.560 --> 0:15:55.800 half a Christian, I'm three fourths of a Christian. I'm 0:15:55.840 --> 0:15:58.480 almost there on now I'm a Christian. It is not 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:02.240 that it is you're all in or you're all out. 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:05.120 Now A lot of people think they're all in, but 0:16:05.160 --> 0:16:10.240 they're not. So you have to be. You have to 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:14.600 understand what Christianity is. It's not a world religion. It 0:16:14.680 --> 0:16:19.960 is a relationship with Jesus, our Lord and Savior. It's 0:16:20.040 --> 0:16:24.920 realizing that we could not ever be good enough. Just 0:16:24.960 --> 0:16:27.920 like you said, you said, I haven't been the best guy. 0:16:29.480 --> 0:16:33.680 No one has. You have to understand that no one 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:36.440 has been the best guy or girl. We have the 0:16:36.600 --> 0:16:39.920 entire Old Testament of the Bible to prove that to us. 0:16:40.800 --> 0:16:44.320 God gave his rules, his laws. We couldn't do it. 0:16:46.760 --> 0:16:49.120 Have you ever told a lie in your life, ever 0:16:49.680 --> 0:16:53.280 small or big? Have you ever stolen anything ever in 0:16:53.320 --> 0:16:56.800 your life? Jesus said, have you ever looked at a 0:16:56.800 --> 0:16:59.600 woman with lust? Because if you have, you've committed adultery 0:16:59.600 --> 0:17:03.400 in your heart. So with just those three I would 0:17:03.440 --> 0:17:09.159 say you are a lying, thieving, adulterous at heart. Have 0:17:09.240 --> 0:17:14.240 you ever used the Lord's name in vain. Then you're lying, thieving, blasphemous, 0:17:14.680 --> 0:17:18.880 adulter at heart. That's for laws. We can go down 0:17:18.960 --> 0:17:23.720 this list. You've broken them all. Everyone has. That's the point. 0:17:24.200 --> 0:17:28.400 And in his infinite love for us, this is important. 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:34.240 God and his ultimate forgiveness and love and mercy sent 0:17:34.359 --> 0:17:37.879 his only son to earth to live a perfect life. 0:17:40.880 --> 0:17:43.520 He fulfilled the law perfectly because we could not because 0:17:43.520 --> 0:17:46.520 the law was bad. It was perfect, but because we 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:50.960 weren't good enough for it. So Jesus comes, he fulfills 0:17:51.000 --> 0:17:53.760 the law perfectly. God pours out his wrath on him 0:17:53.840 --> 0:17:57.040 that we deserved. It's like you get a bunch of 0:17:57.080 --> 0:17:59.840 traffic tickets and you go to court. You can't tell 0:17:59.880 --> 0:18:03.200 the judge, Okay, from now on, judge, I'm gonna be better. 0:18:03.520 --> 0:18:08.080 I'm gonna I'm gonna be better now. The judge says, okay, 0:18:08.080 --> 0:18:11.639 but what about all these traffic tickets. So what Jesus 0:18:11.640 --> 0:18:13.920 does is he comes down, he takes the wrath of God. 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:16.560 He dies on the cross, resurrected three days later. And 0:18:16.600 --> 0:18:19.280 what he did well, he became a substitute for us 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:21.480 in those traffic tickets. So the judge goes, hang on 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:26.359 a second, you're fine has been paid. You're free to 0:18:26.400 --> 0:18:32.600 go what I'm free to go. It's forgotten. Yes, I 0:18:32.640 --> 0:18:36.480 have now forgotten your sins because the price has been paid. 0:18:36.520 --> 0:18:41.399 Jesus said, it is finished, meaning paid in full. Have 0:18:41.560 --> 0:18:44.720 trust in him, repent for your from your old ways, 0:18:45.240 --> 0:18:49.480 meaning I'm sorry, I want to change. I trust in you. 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:52.760 You do those things you're You're fine has been paid, 0:18:53.160 --> 0:18:55.840 and then you are one hundred percent of Christian and 0:18:55.840 --> 0:18:59.560 you're saved regardless of what you did in the past. See, 0:18:59.560 --> 0:19:02.439 the thief on the cross had lived a life of 0:19:02.520 --> 0:19:05.399 sin as we all have. He was on the cross 0:19:05.440 --> 0:19:09.119 in the last moments of his life, a thief with 0:19:09.200 --> 0:19:12.200 the death penalty for what he did. And he looked 0:19:12.200 --> 0:19:15.560 at Jesus and he said, will you remember me when 0:19:15.600 --> 0:19:18.880 you go into your kingdom. Jesus looked at him and said, 0:19:19.280 --> 0:19:26.320 today you will be with me in paradise. The thief trusted, 0:19:26.560 --> 0:19:31.199 he repented, and that day he entered paradise regardless of 0:19:31.240 --> 0:19:33.800 what he did in the past. That's you, my friend. 0:19:35.160 --> 0:19:37.679 But see you see how there's no halfway. There's no 0:19:37.800 --> 0:19:41.959 fifty percent here, there's no ninety percent Christian. It's like 0:19:42.000 --> 0:19:45.359 if you had a parachute and you're jumping out of 0:19:45.359 --> 0:19:48.680 a plane, and I said, hey, man, that parachute has 0:19:48.680 --> 0:19:52.480 a fifty percent chance of opening, you wouldn't jump. So 0:19:52.560 --> 0:19:55.080 if I asked you on a scale of one to ten, 0:19:55.960 --> 0:19:58.879 how sure are you of going to heaven? And you 0:19:59.040 --> 0:20:03.520 say maybe maybe a six. I'm kind of a good person, 0:20:03.760 --> 0:20:06.399 but I'm working on being better. 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