WEBVTT - Who else has solved this problem?

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that when you are stressed or worried

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<v Speaker 1>about a problem, think about who else might have addressed

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<v Speaker 1>the issue in the past. See whether you can use

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<v Speaker 1>their solution. Maybe you can't, but maybe you can, or

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<v Speaker 1>at least you'll have a solid foundation to build on.

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<v Speaker 1>Despite what many of us think, our problems are seldom unique.

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<v Speaker 1>In a world of eight billion people, someone has dealt

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<v Speaker 1>with what you're dealing with. Someone might even have come

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<v Speaker 1>up with an elegant solution, or at least something that

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<v Speaker 1>will make if easier. So if you've just had a

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<v Speaker 1>new baby and you're headed back to work, you might

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<v Speaker 1>be worried about how to handle pumping, But guess what

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<v Speaker 1>other mothers have dealt with this too. If your spouse

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<v Speaker 1>loves TV and you love silence, rest assured that someone

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<v Speaker 1>else has navigated a marriage with wildly different noise tolerances

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<v Speaker 1>and maybe even hit their fiftieth anniversary. Someone else has

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<v Speaker 1>definitely gotten laid off from a job after a decade

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<v Speaker 1>or probably longer. You are absolutely not the only one

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<v Speaker 1>someone else's child has struggled with this same high school

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<v Speaker 1>math class. Not only are you not alone in your troubles,

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<v Speaker 1>the wonderful truth is that humans love to give advice.

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<v Speaker 1>You absolutely don't have to take it. It won't always

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<v Speaker 1>be applicable, maybe there are slight differences, but if it

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<v Speaker 1>is a new to youth situation, someone else's hard one

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<v Speaker 1>wisdom just might be useful. So ask around and seek

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<v Speaker 1>it out. You can certainly ask people you know. This

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<v Speaker 1>is how I have found math tutors and voice teachers

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<v Speaker 1>and karate studios. That said, seeking specialized advice is actually

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<v Speaker 1>one of the best uses for social media. If you

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<v Speaker 1>are having triplets, you might not know many people in

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<v Speaker 1>real life who have had three babies at once, but

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<v Speaker 1>there are absolutely online groups for parents of multiples who

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<v Speaker 1>will teach you how to deal with road trips and

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<v Speaker 1>birthday parties and everything else. If you are a family

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<v Speaker 1>member are dealing with a new food intolerance, there is

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<v Speaker 1>no doubt a Facebook group that will have ideas about

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<v Speaker 1>where you can still eat at the airport. Indeed, many

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<v Speaker 1>of these groups probably have frequently asked questions for newbies

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<v Speaker 1>who are just navigating a new situation. You can spend

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<v Speaker 1>some time reading and get yourself up to expert level fast.

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<v Speaker 1>Our circumstances are seldom so unique that we have to

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<v Speaker 1>figure out everything ourselves. We can often help each other out.

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<v Speaker 1>Ask who else has solved your problems. They will help

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<v Speaker 1>you solve your problems too, And of course you should

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<v Speaker 1>pay this courtesy forward. If you have experienced an issue

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<v Speaker 1>that someone else seems to be struggling with, consider gently

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<v Speaker 1>offering yourself as a resource. You do not want to

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<v Speaker 1>force yourself on anyone, particularly if they are going through

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<v Speaker 1>a stressful time, but there are gentle things you can say.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it's a note saying welcome to the neighborhood if

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<v Speaker 1>you need help getting settled. I moved in a year ago,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'd be happy to help with any referrals or

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<v Speaker 1>being on crutches can be so inconvenient. I broke my

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<v Speaker 1>foot a few years ago, and I'm happy to help

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<v Speaker 1>with ideas for dealing with groceries or showering or anything

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<v Speaker 1>else that is feeling hard right now. No one should

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<v Speaker 1>assume that their experiences and solutions will be exactly the

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<v Speaker 1>same as someone else's, but the truth is that they

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<v Speaker 1>might be reasonably similar. Offering to be a resource. If

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<v Speaker 1>that's helpful might be appreciated. We all like to be special.

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<v Speaker 1>One of the cool things in life is that we

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<v Speaker 1>aren't alone in many things. We may as well benefit

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<v Speaker 1>from what everyone else has figured out. In the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making

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<v Speaker 1>the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to

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