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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today's tip is that when you are stressed or worried

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Speaker 1: about a problem, think about who else might have addressed

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Speaker 1: the issue in the past. See whether you can use

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Speaker 1: their solution. Maybe you can't, but maybe you can, or

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Speaker 1: at least you'll have a solid foundation to build on.

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Speaker 1: Despite what many of us think, our problems are seldom unique.

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Speaker 1: In a world of eight billion people, someone has dealt

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Speaker 1: with what you're dealing with. Someone might even have come

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Speaker 1: up with an elegant solution, or at least something that

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Speaker 1: will make if easier. So if you've just had a

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Speaker 1: new baby and you're headed back to work, you might

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Speaker 1: be worried about how to handle pumping, But guess what

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Speaker 1: other mothers have dealt with this too. If your spouse

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Speaker 1: loves TV and you love silence, rest assured that someone

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Speaker 1: else has navigated a marriage with wildly different noise tolerances

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Speaker 1: and maybe even hit their fiftieth anniversary. Someone else has

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Speaker 1: definitely gotten laid off from a job after a decade

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Speaker 1: or probably longer. You are absolutely not the only one

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Speaker 1: someone else's child has struggled with this same high school

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Speaker 1: math class. Not only are you not alone in your troubles,

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Speaker 1: the wonderful truth is that humans love to give advice.

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Speaker 1: You absolutely don't have to take it. It won't always

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Speaker 1: be applicable, maybe there are slight differences, but if it

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Speaker 1: is a new to youth situation, someone else's hard one

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Speaker 1: wisdom just might be useful. So ask around and seek

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Speaker 1: it out. You can certainly ask people you know. This

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Speaker 1: is how I have found math tutors and voice teachers

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Speaker 1: and karate studios. That said, seeking specialized advice is actually

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Speaker 1: one of the best uses for social media. If you

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Speaker 1: are having triplets, you might not know many people in

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Speaker 1: real life who have had three babies at once, but

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Speaker 1: there are absolutely online groups for parents of multiples who

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Speaker 1: will teach you how to deal with road trips and

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Speaker 1: birthday parties and everything else. If you are a family

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Speaker 1: member are dealing with a new food intolerance, there is

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Speaker 1: no doubt a Facebook group that will have ideas about

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Speaker 1: where you can still eat at the airport. Indeed, many

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Speaker 1: of these groups probably have frequently asked questions for newbies

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Speaker 1: who are just navigating a new situation. You can spend

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Speaker 1: some time reading and get yourself up to expert level fast.

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Speaker 1: Our circumstances are seldom so unique that we have to

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Speaker 1: figure out everything ourselves. We can often help each other out.

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Speaker 1: Ask who else has solved your problems. They will help

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Speaker 1: you solve your problems too, And of course you should

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Speaker 1: pay this courtesy forward. If you have experienced an issue

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Speaker 1: that someone else seems to be struggling with, consider gently

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Speaker 1: offering yourself as a resource. You do not want to

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Speaker 1: force yourself on anyone, particularly if they are going through

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Speaker 1: a stressful time, but there are gentle things you can say.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's a note saying welcome to the neighborhood if

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Speaker 1: you need help getting settled. I moved in a year ago,

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Speaker 1: and I'd be happy to help with any referrals or

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Speaker 1: being on crutches can be so inconvenient. I broke my

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Speaker 1: foot a few years ago, and I'm happy to help

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Speaker 1: with ideas for dealing with groceries or showering or anything

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Speaker 1: else that is feeling hard right now. No one should

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Speaker 1: assume that their experiences and solutions will be exactly the

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Speaker 1: same as someone else's, but the truth is that they

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Speaker 1: might be reasonably similar. Offering to be a resource. If

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Speaker 1: that's helpful might be appreciated. We all like to be special.

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Speaker 1: One of the cool things in life is that we

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Speaker 1: aren't alone in many things. We may as well benefit

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Speaker 1: from what everyone else has figured out. In the meantime,

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Speaker 1: this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making

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Speaker 1: the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to

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