1 00:00:01,200 --> 00:00:04,360 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:04,360 --> 00:00:08,360 Speaker 1: advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please 3 00:00:08,360 --> 00:00:12,000 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 5 00:00:15,320 --> 00:00:17,160 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're going to read 6 00:00:17,200 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. Buckle up and hold 7 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for you here. It is 8 00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:27,280 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject my husband switched 9 00:00:27,680 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: from Hymns to Hennessey. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty 10 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:35,920 Speaker 1: nine year old Latino woman and I'm married to a 11 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:39,199 Speaker 1: fifty three year old Black man. We've been together for 12 00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 1: seven years and we've been married for three years. We 13 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 1: met at church and we're both in the church choir. 14 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 1: When we started dating, I saw an edgier side of him. 15 00:00:49,479 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: He wrote a motorcycle, drank Hennessy on the weekend, and 16 00:00:53,200 --> 00:00:56,320 Speaker 1: he cursed whenever he talked to his friends. It was 17 00:00:56,440 --> 00:00:59,720 Speaker 1: different from the church man I met, but I liked it. 18 00:01:00,200 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 1: He told me that he didn't want to scare me 19 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:05,480 Speaker 1: away because I was his queen. Whenever we'd go places 20 00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:08,839 Speaker 1: in his card, he'd have his satellite radio on rap music, 21 00:01:08,880 --> 00:01:11,520 Speaker 1: and the lyrics were so offensive that I asked him 22 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 1: if he could turn it off. He apologized and said 23 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:16,759 Speaker 1: he'd never play that type of music around me again. 24 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 1: After we got married and got our first house, he 25 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:23,120 Speaker 1: turned the garage into his man cave. He'd go out 26 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:26,760 Speaker 1: there and sit for hours, watching TV and listening to music. 27 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:30,400 Speaker 1: I'd be in the house cleaning up, cooking, and singing 28 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 1: along to gospel music. Once we had to be quarantined, 29 00:01:35,040 --> 00:01:38,320 Speaker 1: he would stay in his man cave all day, and 30 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:42,560 Speaker 1: all day long, he played very explicit rap music, very 31 00:01:42,640 --> 00:01:46,120 Speaker 1: loud while he sipped on his Hennessy. I could hear 32 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:48,480 Speaker 1: it through the house, so I know the neighbors could 33 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:51,520 Speaker 1: hear it too. He said he dared our neighbors to 34 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 1: come say anything to us. It was so embarrassing. My 35 00:01:55,520 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 1: husband is so different when he plays this music, this 36 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 1: awful music. I jokingly asked if he was too old 37 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 1: to still be into rap music, and he said it's 38 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 1: a cultural thing, and I wouldn't understand. He may be 39 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:11,880 Speaker 1: right about that, but I do know when something is offensive. 40 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:14,520 Speaker 1: How can I get my husband to grow up and 41 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 1: stop being a disruptive neighbor? Neighbor, please help well this letters, 42 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 1: I don't know. It's a little confusing to me because 43 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:26,000 Speaker 1: you say you've known him for seven years, you've been 44 00:02:26,040 --> 00:02:29,680 Speaker 1: married to him for three, and he listened to rap 45 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:33,120 Speaker 1: during your dating period, and you did say you saw 46 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:36,800 Speaker 1: his edgier side with the motorcycle. You said he drank hennessy, 47 00:02:36,919 --> 00:02:40,799 Speaker 1: he cursed with his friends, but you said you liked 48 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:44,200 Speaker 1: it at the time. You did say that. Now it 49 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 1: sounds like since the quarantine, it's a little different, and 50 00:02:48,480 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 1: maybe it's gotten a little worse. You say he's playing 51 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:55,880 Speaker 1: more offensive, more explicit lyrics in his music now, he 52 00:02:56,120 --> 00:03:00,400 Speaker 1: stays in the garage all day, all night. He's drinking 53 00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:03,200 Speaker 1: all the time now, whereas before he was just drinking 54 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:06,680 Speaker 1: on the weekends. So I'm trying to figure out what 55 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 1: are you really upset about that it's gotten worse, Because 56 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:12,080 Speaker 1: you did say you liked it at first, you have 57 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 1: a lot to choose from you. Are you mad about 58 00:03:14,320 --> 00:03:16,359 Speaker 1: the music? Are you mad about the fact that he's 59 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:19,480 Speaker 1: playing the music too loud? Are you mad about him 60 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:22,840 Speaker 1: being in the man cave all day? The hennessy? I 61 00:03:22,960 --> 00:03:26,520 Speaker 1: just think you're mad because of all of these things, 62 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 1: and especially because the music is loud and it's offensive 63 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:32,480 Speaker 1: to the neighbors. That's a good point. That is okay, 64 00:03:33,200 --> 00:03:35,680 Speaker 1: You've got to remind him. Remember back when you guys 65 00:03:35,680 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 1: were dating, and he said that he didn't want to 66 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 1: scare you away because you are his queen. Well, you know, 67 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:43,440 Speaker 1: you got to remind him of that, and maybe he'll 68 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:47,960 Speaker 1: remember saying those words to you. Maybe that'll click something 69 00:03:47,960 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 1: in his head or something so that he can turn 70 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:52,960 Speaker 1: this music down. Loud music shouldn't be played to the 71 00:03:53,040 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: level where it disturbs the neighbors, I don't think. So 72 00:03:55,880 --> 00:03:57,680 Speaker 1: while you're added, you could tell him to, you know, 73 00:03:57,760 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 1: ease up on the hennessy a little bit too. That 74 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:03,360 Speaker 1: contributes to the loud music. So you know, take him 75 00:04:03,400 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 1: there and see if he'll remember and turn it down. Steve, 76 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: don't going in, as said, man, pull up on that hennessy? 77 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:17,039 Speaker 1: N not? Why he drinking it? That ain't the time 78 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 1: y'all to bring it up on the way from home 79 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:26,480 Speaker 1: after choir rehearsal. Now you met the man in the choir, 80 00:04:27,520 --> 00:04:31,480 Speaker 1: y'all sing it, y'all started dating, you started seeing an 81 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:36,240 Speaker 1: edgy aside. He wrote a motorcycle drink Hennessy on the weekends. 82 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:40,039 Speaker 1: He cussed, when he talks to you friends, it's my dude. Man, 83 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 1: your shoulders ain't one of my partners. Are you show 84 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:51,359 Speaker 1: this ain't Walt Neil, He cussed whenever he talked to 85 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 1: his friend it was different from the church man. I 86 00:04:53,839 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 1: mean it's gonna be different. Kirk Franklin taught this to 87 00:04:57,360 --> 00:04:59,680 Speaker 1: me when we were on two together because I was 88 00:04:59,680 --> 00:05:02,360 Speaker 1: because scerned about the church crowd not being able to 89 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:08,280 Speaker 1: adjust to my jokes out. He said, Dog, your fans 90 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 1: and my fans, it's the same people. They just weren't 91 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 1: two different masks. So the dude you meet that church, 92 00:05:16,760 --> 00:05:19,560 Speaker 1: he got that mask on and when he get off, 93 00:05:19,600 --> 00:05:23,320 Speaker 1: he put the other mask on. Now he a motorcycle 94 00:05:23,480 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: Hennessy riding crusting, hip hop loving, fifty three year old dude. Now, 95 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:36,640 Speaker 1: you said, whenever we go places in this car, he'd 96 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 1: have his satellite radio rap music and the lyrics so 97 00:05:40,279 --> 00:05:42,600 Speaker 1: officive that I asked him if he could turn it off. 98 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:45,479 Speaker 1: He apologized that he never played that type of music 99 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:48,520 Speaker 1: around me again. Well after we got married and got 100 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:51,800 Speaker 1: our first house, he turned the garage into his man Kate, 101 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:54,159 Speaker 1: I ain't mad at that he didn't mess with none 102 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:57,560 Speaker 1: of the house. He went out there in that damn garage. 103 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 1: All he wanted to do is have a little place. 104 00:06:02,040 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 1: So now he go out there and he sit for 105 00:06:03,960 --> 00:06:06,880 Speaker 1: hours watching TV and listen to music. You in the 106 00:06:06,880 --> 00:06:13,440 Speaker 1: house cleaning, singing to gospel music. Gospel music and Volga 107 00:06:13,520 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 1: hillpop is not a good match. Trying to figure out 108 00:06:16,720 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 1: what the f you want? I want to go to 109 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:28,680 Speaker 1: ever crazy and all of your friends with it. Whow 110 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:35,960 Speaker 1: my love the Lord, Wo love the Lord. So it's 111 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:41,279 Speaker 1: so hang on, hang on, Steve. We'll have part two 112 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:44,159 Speaker 1: of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after 113 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:48,839 Speaker 1: the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject my husband switched from 114 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:52,800 Speaker 1: hymns to Hennessey. We'll get back into it right after this. 115 00:06:53,360 --> 00:06:57,719 Speaker 1: You're listening to Steven Show. All right, Steve, come on, 116 00:06:57,800 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. Object to my husband switched 117 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:06,360 Speaker 1: from hymns to Hennessee thirty nine year old Latino woman 118 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 1: married to a fifteen year old man. They were together 119 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:11,480 Speaker 1: seven years, they've been married three They met at church, 120 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 1: they both sang in the choir. Started dating. She saw 121 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:17,560 Speaker 1: a different side of it. He wrote a motorcycle. He 122 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 1: drank hit it seeing it because when he talked to 123 00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 1: his friend, I told him that was different than the 124 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 1: man I met at church. He said he didn't want 125 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:27,160 Speaker 1: to run me away because I was his point and 126 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:30,880 Speaker 1: you go play see and all this him Anyway, y'all 127 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 1: got married in your first house. He turned to garage 128 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:36,600 Speaker 1: into a man cave. Right. He got that sitting five 129 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:39,240 Speaker 1: hours watching TV and listen to music. I'll be in 130 00:07:39,240 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 1: the house cleaning up, cooking and singing along to Godspel music. 131 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:48,720 Speaker 1: When we quarantined, he's staying. The man came all day long. 132 00:07:48,800 --> 00:07:54,960 Speaker 1: He played explicit rap. How do you want it? How 133 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:59,920 Speaker 1: do you want it? How does it feel growing up 134 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:04,200 Speaker 1: the Fast? Ain't living in the Fast? Main? For real? 135 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:15,680 Speaker 1: I know, Jesus, he do you want it? Jesus? How 136 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:23,600 Speaker 1: does it feel? So? I think, y'all bat, I think 137 00:08:23,680 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 1: y'all on the call switch beats, and it's gonna be 138 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:31,040 Speaker 1: you against your husband in the weekend or battle get 139 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 1: that marriage and Blige and Gil Scott and they had 140 00:08:34,679 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 1: Teddy and baby Face. I think it's time for you 141 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:43,439 Speaker 1: and your husband. I was Erica and jil Yeah yeah, 142 00:08:43,559 --> 00:08:49,600 Speaker 1: Erica bad yeah all right. So now and this rap 143 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:53,720 Speaker 1: music is very loud and he SIPs his hennessy. I 144 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:55,280 Speaker 1: could hear it through the author the house, so I 145 00:08:55,360 --> 00:08:57,360 Speaker 1: know he's a bad maigh. I jokingly asked her he 146 00:08:57,400 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 1: was too old and still being rap music. He said 147 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:03,640 Speaker 1: it was a cultural thing. That's not true and I 148 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:07,720 Speaker 1: wouldn't understand, but I know music that's a finsical. How 149 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:09,480 Speaker 1: can I get my husband to grow up and stop 150 00:09:09,520 --> 00:09:14,480 Speaker 1: being a disruptive neighbor? Please help? First thing, you need 151 00:09:14,480 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 1: to go then shut that damn garage though, to get 152 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:25,400 Speaker 1: some of this. See his problem is he listening to 153 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:28,280 Speaker 1: the music on the car radio with the car running. 154 00:09:28,720 --> 00:09:31,720 Speaker 1: And if he shut that garage though, that's carbon monoxide. 155 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:36,959 Speaker 1: You got to get him by him a bluetooth speaker 156 00:09:37,040 --> 00:09:39,520 Speaker 1: so he can cut that damn call and let that 157 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:43,400 Speaker 1: damn doe down. That's for starts. Secondly, I really don't 158 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 1: have no answer for you for this. You married the 159 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:47,320 Speaker 1: black dude here and the hip hob he not fin 160 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:50,720 Speaker 1: the stop. You can't ask a person not to enjoy 161 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:55,480 Speaker 1: the music anymore. But now, when you told him that 162 00:09:55,559 --> 00:09:59,400 Speaker 1: the neighbors would come by, he had I wish you 163 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:03,240 Speaker 1: would h he did you know you know how you 164 00:10:03,280 --> 00:10:07,559 Speaker 1: want somebody to come over, come over, you know, And 165 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:10,760 Speaker 1: I think that's about where he was at with it. 166 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:15,560 Speaker 1: So lady his deal, and I know surely said that, 167 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:22,280 Speaker 1: but this he don't. He don't care. He is church 168 00:10:22,320 --> 00:10:27,080 Speaker 1: people disturbed the peace too. Shirt. I can't tell you 169 00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:29,240 Speaker 1: how many times I would be sitting up on a 170 00:10:29,320 --> 00:10:39,760 Speaker 1: Saturday morning enjoyed myself and then he didn't come. And 171 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:42,119 Speaker 1: so you know, I've had a lot of times interrupted 172 00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:46,320 Speaker 1: by Christian people. So I understand your problem interrupting people. 173 00:10:46,360 --> 00:10:48,199 Speaker 1: I really don't have no answer for this letter. I 174 00:10:48,240 --> 00:10:52,679 Speaker 1: don't care. You know you're not gonna leave you. Man, 175 00:10:52,800 --> 00:10:55,480 Speaker 1: He's not a bad husband. He just got a man 176 00:10:55,640 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 1: cave and he like loud music. It's the quarantine too, 177 00:10:59,520 --> 00:11:01,679 Speaker 1: That's what it is. And the reason he's spent all 178 00:11:01,679 --> 00:11:04,840 Speaker 1: that time inside the gruage because you own his last 179 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:09,240 Speaker 1: damn ner nowhere else to go. It ain't nowhere, man, 180 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:15,679 Speaker 1: So that's whe got nothing else for it? What is 181 00:11:15,720 --> 00:11:23,199 Speaker 1: he in there playing again? Before? Did you get won? 182 00:11:24,440 --> 00:11:32,480 Speaker 1: How Jesus all the things I love mix it Esus? Yeah? 183 00:11:33,120 --> 00:11:38,040 Speaker 1: How do you want it? How does it feel? How 184 00:11:38,080 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 1: it feels like Jesus? Whoa my lord thing, go back, 185 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:49,960 Speaker 1: go back, go back. How does it feel? How do 186 00:11:50,040 --> 00:11:56,959 Speaker 1: you want it? I'm not I don't feel Bathlin living 187 00:11:57,040 --> 00:12:07,840 Speaker 1: in the bath. That's classic. Yeah, I'm telling you Swiss 188 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:15,480 Speaker 1: Beats all to have him all DJ versus church her 189 00:12:15,600 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: church music gets his hip hop. He gonna win now 190 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:21,360 Speaker 1: because the people is listening to the challenge on Swiss 191 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:28,000 Speaker 1: beats them. They they young people think, O man, yeah, yeah, 192 00:12:28,559 --> 00:12:31,079 Speaker 1: that's that's about it. That's about it. I think he 193 00:12:31,120 --> 00:12:34,040 Speaker 1: should turn it down, though, I do, because he's disturbing 194 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:37,040 Speaker 1: the neighbors. If he could play it whatever, but it 195 00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:43,160 Speaker 1: shouldn't be that loud. Surely he ain't. She hasn't asked 196 00:12:43,240 --> 00:12:48,560 Speaker 1: him yet. 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