1
00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:04,400
Speaker 1: iHeart Podcasts, bring you the ultimate Summer of Love Tree.

2
00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:10,800
Speaker 1: This is famously available. Mercedes, Welcome. I'm excited to be

3
00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:14,720
Speaker 1: speaking to you tonight. Now. Our listeners out there are

4
00:00:14,760 --> 00:00:16,400
Speaker 1: probably at this point going to be on the edge

5
00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,800
Speaker 1: of their seat to hear all the updates with you romantically,

6
00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:23,600
Speaker 1: and so let's share them with them. What's going on

7
00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:26,520
Speaker 1: in your romantic life as of today.

8
00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:31,360
Speaker 2: Honestly, my romantic life is very lame right now. I'm

9
00:00:31,360 --> 00:00:34,879
Speaker 2: not gonna lie, but I feel like after getting this

10
00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:39,479
Speaker 2: opportunity and all these things, I feel like I'm open

11
00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:44,040
Speaker 2: to like talking to more people, but personally, I feel

12
00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:45,000
Speaker 2: like it's been very lame.

13
00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:48,519
Speaker 1: Well, lame feels like a word to me that needs

14
00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:53,800
Speaker 1: some dissection. When you mean lame, do you mean inactive?

15
00:00:54,400 --> 00:01:00,320
Speaker 1: Do you mean really terrible experiences like expand and on

16
00:01:00,320 --> 00:01:01,560
Speaker 1: the word lame a little bit.

17
00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:05,480
Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, I definitely feel like it's inactive. But I

18
00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:09,399
Speaker 2: feel like when I meet guys, I'm just very like,

19
00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:13,760
Speaker 2: you're not it, You're not it. And it's because I've

20
00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:18,319
Speaker 2: just been very in my head being like these guys

21
00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:20,399
Speaker 2: are not it right now, Like I'm just not in

22
00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:22,480
Speaker 2: the headspace I'm doing my own thing, Like I have

23
00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:24,960
Speaker 2: all these things going on, but I feel like I

24
00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:27,600
Speaker 2: just turned twenty seven, and I feel like I'm ready

25
00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:31,120
Speaker 2: to like find someone, and someone who's actually like ready

26
00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:33,640
Speaker 2: to start life with me. So I feel like I'm

27
00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:35,120
Speaker 2: open to looking for someone.

28
00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:37,520
Speaker 1: I mean, twenty seven, you're still so young.

29
00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:39,360
Speaker 2: I know it is very young.

30
00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:42,200
Speaker 1: You should take a breath here, I mean, I get it.

31
00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:45,520
Speaker 1: I'm not here to tell you, hey, twenty seven is

32
00:01:45,600 --> 00:01:48,080
Speaker 1: too young to really get serious or twenty seven is

33
00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:50,200
Speaker 1: too old to get serious. That's not my intention here.

34
00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:53,160
Speaker 1: But my intention is to tell you take a deep

35
00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:56,320
Speaker 1: breath and just enjoy this season too, because you are

36
00:01:56,400 --> 00:01:59,600
Speaker 1: still so young, so you do have time, but you're

37
00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:02,480
Speaker 1: telling me you don't necessarily want time. Like if you

38
00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:06,200
Speaker 1: found somebody right now that you could see yourself getting

39
00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:11,680
Speaker 1: serious with, you're ready to get serious with them for sure.

40
00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:14,119
Speaker 2: I feel like it definitely takes like the right person right,

41
00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:18,040
Speaker 2: Like I'm not gonna be I don't know how to

42
00:02:18,080 --> 00:02:21,400
Speaker 2: say this, like I feel like my person, like I'm

43
00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:23,720
Speaker 2: gonna know they're my person, right And that's where I

44
00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:26,239
Speaker 2: feel like right now, I'm in like an awkward phase

45
00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:29,680
Speaker 2: like you're in, like you have early twenties, you have thirties, right, Like,

46
00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:31,680
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm right in the middle. Obviously I'm

47
00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:35,320
Speaker 2: at twenty seven to where it's like, I'm not like

48
00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:38,640
Speaker 2: dating just to date, like I'm dating to find someone.

49
00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:42,440
Speaker 2: But it's like, you're gonna have to try to date me,

50
00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:44,680
Speaker 2: if that makes sense, Like I'm not I'm not gonna

51
00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:46,560
Speaker 2: be easy to get, like I'm gonna need you to

52
00:02:46,680 --> 00:02:51,840
Speaker 2: like actually try and like, I don't know, does that

53
00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:53,400
Speaker 2: make sense what I'm saying.

54
00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:56,959
Speaker 1: We're gonna make it make sense because I'm gonna ask

55
00:02:56,960 --> 00:03:00,320
Speaker 1: some follow up questions here, okay that I hope help

56
00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:04,280
Speaker 1: all of us, myself, you and the listeners make it

57
00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:10,000
Speaker 1: make sense? Yes, I get it, but I'm assuming one

58
00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:12,800
Speaker 1: of the reasons in life that I believe that we

59
00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:16,320
Speaker 1: start to feel this excitement towards getting serious is some

60
00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:20,480
Speaker 1: external pressures friends, you know, finding their their spouses or

61
00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:25,600
Speaker 1: their partners. You know, friends and family kind of speaking

62
00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:29,040
Speaker 1: into you saying, hey, when are you going to meet somebody?

63
00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:32,600
Speaker 1: Do you feel these pressures right now or those pressures

64
00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:34,080
Speaker 1: non existent in your life?

65
00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:38,040
Speaker 2: I feel like yes and no. I feel like my

66
00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:42,440
Speaker 2: family not really. But I'm from a really small town

67
00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:47,120
Speaker 2: in Iowa. So everyone that I like graduated with is

68
00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:49,960
Speaker 2: married and having kids. So it's like when I look

69
00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:51,640
Speaker 2: at my life, I'm like, oh my gosh, like I

70
00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:55,480
Speaker 2: am behind, Like I'm not doing the people are the

71
00:03:55,480 --> 00:03:57,560
Speaker 2: same thing that the people that I graduated with or

72
00:03:57,640 --> 00:03:59,680
Speaker 2: like grew up with, but at the same time, like

73
00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:01,800
Speaker 2: a whole have a different life than them. And I

74
00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:04,480
Speaker 2: feel like my family is very like hey, like you're

75
00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:07,360
Speaker 2: doing your own thing, like there's no pressure, but I

76
00:04:07,400 --> 00:04:09,840
Speaker 2: definitely I feel like I put the pressure on myself

77
00:04:10,680 --> 00:04:12,240
Speaker 2: to be like I need to be with someone, I

78
00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:13,240
Speaker 2: need to like start that.

79
00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:19,360
Speaker 1: But we've seen you date on reality television, so obviously

80
00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:21,800
Speaker 1: there was a moment a few years ago that you

81
00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:24,279
Speaker 1: felt like, Hey, I'm going to go on the show

82
00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:27,800
Speaker 1: because I do want to meet somebody. I do want

83
00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:30,719
Speaker 1: to find somebody. I think this is an avenue at

84
00:04:30,720 --> 00:04:34,520
Speaker 1: which I can meet somebody. Be that beaches, be that

85
00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:39,599
Speaker 1: a mansion, wherever you know the location is. You're ready,

86
00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:44,920
Speaker 1: Did you take a step back after your experiences and

87
00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:47,520
Speaker 1: kind of reevaluate if you're ready or not? Or have

88
00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:50,560
Speaker 1: you always been ready?

89
00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:55,240
Speaker 2: Yeah? I feel like honestly, after The Bachelor and Bachelor

90
00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:57,480
Speaker 2: in Paradise. I took a step back because I was like,

91
00:04:58,279 --> 00:05:02,440
Speaker 2: I need a second to like think about everything. And

92
00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:06,800
Speaker 2: obviously dating on Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise is very

93
00:05:06,800 --> 00:05:09,680
Speaker 2: different than dating in real life, right, So, like I

94
00:05:09,720 --> 00:05:13,240
Speaker 2: feel like on Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise it was like, oh,

95
00:05:13,320 --> 00:05:16,200
Speaker 2: like this guy's doing this and he's perfect, and it

96
00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:19,560
Speaker 2: like brings your standards up. And then like you get

97
00:05:19,600 --> 00:05:23,240
Speaker 2: to real life and it's like, hey, like not every

98
00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:25,680
Speaker 2: dude has a producer being like hey, you need to

99
00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:27,400
Speaker 2: bring her this or you need to say this. And

100
00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:30,279
Speaker 2: so I feel like definitely getting back to real life

101
00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:34,400
Speaker 2: made me like just take a step back and be like, Okay,

102
00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:37,080
Speaker 2: what do I actually want? What do I need? What's

103
00:05:37,080 --> 00:05:39,360
Speaker 2: important to me? That kind of thing.

104
00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:53,159
Speaker 1: You've had time now to process through this. You've gone

105
00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:57,599
Speaker 1: on good dates, you've gone bad dates, and at this

106
00:05:57,720 --> 00:05:59,800
Speaker 1: point in your life you are excited about what a

107
00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:02,600
Speaker 1: few can bring. And so when you think about your

108
00:06:02,640 --> 00:06:07,480
Speaker 1: ideal partner, what are the characteristics that you haven't found

109
00:06:07,520 --> 00:06:11,080
Speaker 1: yet but that you're looking for in this person.

110
00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:17,760
Speaker 2: So when I pray at night about like the guy

111
00:06:17,839 --> 00:06:22,760
Speaker 2: that I want, it's just someone who's very like relaxed

112
00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:26,960
Speaker 2: and chill and goes with the flow, very similar to me.

113
00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:32,240
Speaker 2: It's someone who loves no matter what, like comes in

114
00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:36,360
Speaker 2: our life, no matter what circumstances, hard things like, they're

115
00:06:36,360 --> 00:06:40,880
Speaker 2: always there. Yeah. I feel like at the end of

116
00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:42,640
Speaker 2: the day, I just want someone who's real with me

117
00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:46,800
Speaker 2: and who loves me like no matter what. And I

118
00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:49,200
Speaker 2: honestly I feel like that's like really hard to find

119
00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:50,799
Speaker 2: these days, which just sucks.

120
00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:54,680
Speaker 1: And they're out there. I'll say that, Yeah, they are

121
00:06:54,760 --> 00:07:00,200
Speaker 1: out there. There are people, great humans who are full

122
00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:05,800
Speaker 1: engaged in finding a partner and they'll listen and care

123
00:07:05,920 --> 00:07:10,800
Speaker 1: for and go through thick and thin with They're there,

124
00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:13,760
Speaker 1: but they're not always easy to find, and they shouldn't be.

125
00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:16,119
Speaker 1: They're easy to find. We wouldn't be sitting here today

126
00:07:16,120 --> 00:07:19,720
Speaker 1: and there wouldn't be reality television shows, you know that

127
00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:23,040
Speaker 1: have made a twenty four year career off of, you know,

128
00:07:23,160 --> 00:07:28,960
Speaker 1: cultivating relationships. But you started this by talking about these

129
00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:32,280
Speaker 1: dates that you've been going on, and that these dates

130
00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:35,559
Speaker 1: you're you're oftentimes finding yourself. And I forget the exact

131
00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:37,760
Speaker 1: wording you use, but I'll try to get it close

132
00:07:38,520 --> 00:07:41,360
Speaker 1: or get the sentiment at least right. You start it

133
00:07:41,400 --> 00:07:42,960
Speaker 1: by saying that you go on these dates and they're

134
00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:46,560
Speaker 1: just not it, that there's something about them that's just

135
00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:51,720
Speaker 1: like missing the mark. But the characteristics that you just

136
00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:55,080
Speaker 1: described are things that you know, I think most people

137
00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:59,840
Speaker 1: only find out after many dates and maybe many months together.

138
00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:04,440
Speaker 1: And so let's go backwards and talk about some of

139
00:08:04,480 --> 00:08:07,720
Speaker 1: your dating history. What are some of the like non

140
00:08:07,880 --> 00:08:12,680
Speaker 1: negotiable red flags that are popping up on these early

141
00:08:12,800 --> 00:08:15,920
Speaker 1: dates that you're saying, Nope, I'm done, can't do it anymore.

142
00:08:18,240 --> 00:08:20,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like some red flags for me are

143
00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:25,080
Speaker 2: so when I meet someone, I really definitely pay attention

144
00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:28,040
Speaker 2: on how they treat their families, especially if they have

145
00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:30,280
Speaker 2: like sisters or if they're close to their mom. Like,

146
00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:32,760
Speaker 2: I definitely pay attention to those relationships because I feel

147
00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:36,720
Speaker 2: like it doesn't say how they're gonna treat you. But

148
00:08:36,800 --> 00:08:40,280
Speaker 2: I also feel like like if they're close, like my experience,

149
00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:42,840
Speaker 2: if a guy is like really close to their sister, like,

150
00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:45,320
Speaker 2: they're gonna treat you pretty good. And if they're like

151
00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:48,680
Speaker 2: not and have a bad relationship with their sisters, they're

152
00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:51,800
Speaker 2: gonna be the souls to be honest, And that's what

153
00:08:51,880 --> 00:08:53,760
Speaker 2: I have found out, so I feel like really like

154
00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:57,520
Speaker 2: paying attention to how they go about life and how

155
00:08:57,520 --> 00:09:01,559
Speaker 2: they treat even like aside from family, Like if you

156
00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:05,080
Speaker 2: go to a restaurant and they're mean to the waiters

157
00:09:05,160 --> 00:09:08,439
Speaker 2: or they don't do twenty percent, it's like, okay, we

158
00:09:09,120 --> 00:09:09,839
Speaker 2: are we the same?

159
00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:14,359
Speaker 1: No, okay, but some of the reading of these situations

160
00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:17,200
Speaker 1: are if they're close to their family. I get the

161
00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:19,000
Speaker 1: waiter thing. I think that's a great read. I think

162
00:09:19,000 --> 00:09:20,480
Speaker 1: it's a great first day read. I think it's a

163
00:09:20,480 --> 00:09:20,720
Speaker 1: great I.

164
00:09:20,760 --> 00:09:24,680
Speaker 2: Read that is such a good, great read on like sure, yeah.

165
00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:27,880
Speaker 1: How do you treat the people that are caring for you,

166
00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:31,760
Speaker 1: that are providing you this hospitality and this service? Awesome?

167
00:09:32,040 --> 00:09:34,080
Speaker 1: But what other things are kind of standing out to

168
00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:38,720
Speaker 1: you in the course of dating that are turnofs Because

169
00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:42,520
Speaker 1: I'm sure positive in fact, that you've met somebody who

170
00:09:42,640 --> 00:09:44,640
Speaker 1: is great to the staff, that is kind to you,

171
00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:48,840
Speaker 1: that's saying all the right things, but you're still feeling

172
00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:50,040
Speaker 1: like yet not it.

173
00:09:51,280 --> 00:09:55,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, well if we're gonna get yeah, okay. I

174
00:09:55,160 --> 00:10:01,640
Speaker 2: feel like when I am talking to someone, okay, if

175
00:10:01,679 --> 00:10:04,080
Speaker 2: I'm like on edge all the time, like if I'm like,

176
00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:06,120
Speaker 2: when are they going to text back, and I'm going

177
00:10:06,160 --> 00:10:08,160
Speaker 2: to my friends, I'm like, oh my gosh, they said this,

178
00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:10,720
Speaker 2: Like what do I say? Like, what should I do?

179
00:10:10,800 --> 00:10:13,200
Speaker 2: What should I say? I feel like that's like such

180
00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:18,360
Speaker 2: a big in my head. I know that it's like

181
00:10:18,760 --> 00:10:21,160
Speaker 2: if you're thinking that, like you should maybe like take

182
00:10:21,200 --> 00:10:23,560
Speaker 2: a step back and be like, is it that serious,

183
00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:25,720
Speaker 2: Because like, at the end of the day, you should

184
00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:27,800
Speaker 2: if you really like someone and you feel like they're

185
00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:29,360
Speaker 2: vibing with you, you should be like, I'm going to

186
00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:31,720
Speaker 2: say what I want. It doesn't matter, like they're going

187
00:10:31,760 --> 00:10:33,680
Speaker 2: to text back when they want to text back. But

188
00:10:33,760 --> 00:10:36,760
Speaker 2: I feel like a lot of the times, like if

189
00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:41,880
Speaker 2: I am thinking about, you know, when are they going

190
00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:43,640
Speaker 2: to text back? What are they going to text back?

191
00:10:43,679 --> 00:10:45,240
Speaker 2: And what am I going to respond? I feel like

192
00:10:45,280 --> 00:10:46,400
Speaker 2: that's like a red flag for me.

193
00:10:46,840 --> 00:10:49,080
Speaker 1: And I think that comes from a place of security too.

194
00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:52,000
Speaker 1: If they're the right person and you know they're the

195
00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:55,280
Speaker 1: right person and you know their character, there won't be

196
00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:59,880
Speaker 1: those concerns because communication will be clear or you'll have

197
00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:04,240
Speaker 1: the best and you know, with your expectations of them

198
00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:07,680
Speaker 1: will always lean on the side of hey, something had

199
00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:10,280
Speaker 1: to have happened that they're distracted and they just can't,

200
00:11:10,280 --> 00:11:12,080
Speaker 1: but goodness, they'd want to be messaging me.

201
00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:14,679
Speaker 2: See. And that's why I feel like I've given up

202
00:11:14,679 --> 00:11:19,240
Speaker 2: on dating because I was before, like I honestly have

203
00:11:19,360 --> 00:11:22,760
Speaker 2: not talked to someone seriously for like a year, and

204
00:11:22,800 --> 00:11:25,160
Speaker 2: that's because, like I feel like I was so in

205
00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:28,120
Speaker 2: my head about everything, like and it was breaking me down.

206
00:11:28,160 --> 00:11:30,120
Speaker 2: Like I was like, oh my gosh, like I am like,

207
00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:31,920
Speaker 2: this is not who I am, This is not how

208
00:11:31,960 --> 00:11:34,600
Speaker 2: I am in a relationship. And so I was like

209
00:11:34,679 --> 00:11:36,360
Speaker 2: I took a step back because I'm like, why am

210
00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:39,720
Speaker 2: I being like this? Like I don't understand why, but

211
00:11:39,800 --> 00:11:41,520
Speaker 2: I think at the end of the day, like I

212
00:11:41,640 --> 00:11:44,440
Speaker 2: knew that he didn't like me the way that I did,

213
00:11:44,960 --> 00:11:47,200
Speaker 2: and so it was making me insecure and it was

214
00:11:47,280 --> 00:11:50,560
Speaker 2: just like not a good situationship. And because of that,

215
00:11:50,679 --> 00:11:54,960
Speaker 2: I feel like I haven't gotten in, like I haven't

216
00:11:55,000 --> 00:11:56,559
Speaker 2: tried to get into a better one because I've just

217
00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:59,160
Speaker 2: been like trying to better myself and like being able

218
00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:00,720
Speaker 2: to get to the point where I can be good.

219
00:12:03,360 --> 00:12:04,480
Speaker 2: Yeah does that make sense?

220
00:12:04,679 --> 00:12:05,080
Speaker 1: It does.

221
00:12:05,160 --> 00:12:05,400
Speaker 2: Yeah.

222
00:12:05,520 --> 00:12:08,280
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna lean in as we close up here,

223
00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:10,480
Speaker 1: and some rapid fire questions kind of relating to what

224
00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:13,640
Speaker 1: you just said. You said you've given up on dating.

225
00:12:13,880 --> 00:12:15,120
Speaker 1: Is that still true today?

226
00:12:16,640 --> 00:12:19,640
Speaker 2: Kinda yeah, I have not been trying to date at all.

227
00:12:21,040 --> 00:12:23,320
Speaker 1: When is the last time you're in what you would

228
00:12:23,360 --> 00:12:25,960
Speaker 1: consider a semi serious relationship?

229
00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:31,079
Speaker 2: This is so embarrassing. It was so long ago. Honestly

230
00:12:31,920 --> 00:12:35,640
Speaker 2: two years ago, so probably like five months before that.

231
00:12:36,840 --> 00:12:38,880
Speaker 1: Five months a long time, so over two and a

232
00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:39,800
Speaker 1: half years.

233
00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:42,040
Speaker 2: Right, is that? Right? Was paradise two years ago?

234
00:12:42,880 --> 00:12:45,559
Speaker 1: I wasn't there. I don't know, I don't I have

235
00:12:45,600 --> 00:12:48,280
Speaker 1: no idea Easton would know. Eastan's a big fan of

236
00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:49,599
Speaker 1: the show. He would know exactly.

237
00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:53,239
Speaker 2: When you're on his head. It's been two years. Unfortunately,

238
00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:54,640
Speaker 2: it has been two years for me.

239
00:12:55,440 --> 00:12:57,440
Speaker 1: I don't think that's embarrassing at all. In your cities,

240
00:12:57,440 --> 00:13:00,679
Speaker 1: I think that's beautiful. And that's remember this, And I

241
00:13:00,720 --> 00:13:03,360
Speaker 1: don't know if this will be helpful or hurtful or whatever,

242
00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:05,320
Speaker 1: but it's my story and so I'll share it. I

243
00:13:05,360 --> 00:13:09,520
Speaker 1: remember laying in my bed one night after my breakup

244
00:13:09,559 --> 00:13:13,600
Speaker 1: from the show and going, I think I need to

245
00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:16,920
Speaker 1: be okay with being single forever. I think I just

246
00:13:16,960 --> 00:13:18,960
Speaker 1: need to get to a place where I'm okay being

247
00:13:19,040 --> 00:13:21,880
Speaker 1: single forever. I was twenty eight years old at the time,

248
00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:24,560
Speaker 1: and I remember this whole process and this whole prayer

249
00:13:25,240 --> 00:13:28,120
Speaker 1: of like, just give me the piece, give me the joy,

250
00:13:28,320 --> 00:13:32,120
Speaker 1: give me the fulfillment if I'm single forever. And guess

251
00:13:32,120 --> 00:13:34,440
Speaker 1: what happened. I met my wife like a month later.

252
00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:38,160
Speaker 1: So I had given up, I had gone over, you know,

253
00:13:38,400 --> 00:13:41,640
Speaker 1: so long without a serious relationship, and then all of

254
00:13:41,679 --> 00:13:46,160
Speaker 1: a sudden, out of nowhere, my wife popped in. And

255
00:13:46,240 --> 00:13:49,520
Speaker 1: so I think it is it's funny and it's a cliche,

256
00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:51,480
Speaker 1: but I think it's these moments where we do kind

257
00:13:51,480 --> 00:13:52,959
Speaker 1: of throw up the white flag and we say, hey,

258
00:13:52,960 --> 00:13:57,520
Speaker 1: we're done, We're not doing this anymore, that all of

259
00:13:57,559 --> 00:14:02,200
Speaker 1: a sudden, our hearts change. Question for you is, Okay,

260
00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:04,480
Speaker 1: you've given up on dating. It's been a long time

261
00:14:04,520 --> 00:14:07,680
Speaker 1: since you've been in a serious relationship. But the final

262
00:14:07,760 --> 00:14:12,000
Speaker 1: question is are you willing to try again? Like, if

263
00:14:12,240 --> 00:14:16,120
Speaker 1: that person comes by, are you willing to at least

264
00:14:16,160 --> 00:14:21,120
Speaker 1: give it a chance to maybe disrupt all of the

265
00:14:21,160 --> 00:14:24,320
Speaker 1: past and all of the bad dates that you've had before.

266
00:14:25,400 --> 00:14:28,920
Speaker 2: Yes, I am definitely willing. I feel like it'll take

267
00:14:28,960 --> 00:14:31,880
Speaker 2: the right guy. It's definitely not going to be easy,

268
00:14:33,080 --> 00:14:35,560
Speaker 2: but I feel like if a guy comes around that

269
00:14:35,640 --> 00:14:39,200
Speaker 2: catches my attention and proves to me that he's worth it,

270
00:14:39,200 --> 00:14:41,080
Speaker 2: then I would definitely give it a try for sure.

271
00:14:41,800 --> 00:14:44,040
Speaker 1: It's all we need to hear. Mercedes, thank you. I

272
00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:48,880
Speaker 1: appreciate it. Thanks for your vulnerable honesty. The listeners are

273
00:14:48,880 --> 00:14:51,480
Speaker 1: going to absolutely love it, and I'm very excited to

274
00:14:51,480 --> 00:14:53,640
Speaker 1: see where this journey goes same.

275
00:14:53,840 --> 00:15:01,800
Speaker 2: I'm super excited. I think it'll be fun