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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, really I think so if it's her

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's like She's like if I invited you

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Speaker 1: No, but well we'll get into it. I think you're misunderstanding.

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Speaker 3: Okay, well let's get into it.

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Speaker 1: But let's get into it. So I thirty eight female,

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Speaker 1: them Andy and Anna. Afterwards, she paid her third somewhat quickly.

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Speaker 1: I did have to prompt after two weeks, she said

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Speaker 3: Me, get her boyfriend share and.

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Speaker 1: Then forward it to me instead of paying for both

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she should pay for Yes, she should pay for

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Speaker 3: both of them. Yes, that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: No, but you were saying that Op was the a hole.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I I'm sorry, I meant I meant oh, I

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Speaker 1: But yeah, so Op is paid for the Airbnb.

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Speaker 1: And then her friend paid her back but didn't pay

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Speaker 3: Whack.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I found out later that he got upset with

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Speaker 1: they had a fight. Then she said she's going to

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Speaker 3: But here Op is without the line, Yeah, without any money.

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Speaker 1: Once again. I'm annoyed because I felt like it should

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Speaker 1: But there was some comment. Someone commented something about an

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Speaker 1: Airbnb story. Elle el Salsa says, Dude, I Airbnb with

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Speaker 1: as one person. Basically, so I paid half and they

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Speaker 1: What no, No, you split that three ways. That's outrageous.

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Speaker 3: Well, no, I think it could be per room.

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Speaker 1: Mmmmm, I disagree. I think it's I think it's three ways.

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Speaker 2: How we did it in Bali, as everyone rented a

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I forgot she was on the couch.

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Speaker 1: Otherwise it's not fair. But there's more to this. Instead,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, if it's you, you pay for your plus ones. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, Like Riley, when I have EMA requested everyone for

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Speaker 4: Her name's Beth. Throw them off the set if you

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Speaker 1: Number two reason it's been two months. When I owe

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I really do think like it is on you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think, I mean like, I think it brings

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Speaker 3: Should settle bill? Sorry?

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Speaker 2: I like, for example, I paid for dinner the other

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Speaker 2: Do you guys when you pay for things, do you

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Speaker 3: I would love to know you sometimes.

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Speaker 1: A request after, but I figure out how much it

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Speaker 2: So if you could you do a short story on

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Speaker 2: your own quess. I desperately need to go to that there,

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Speaker 1: I have a short okop storytime before we get into that.

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Speaker 1: I was just gonna say this was not like an

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Speaker 4: No, it was enough for me to be like this

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Speaker 4: You still their friend after the fifty bucks, because yeah,

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Speaker 1: There were reasons why I was still their friend, and

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Speaker 4: Yeah, put them on a payment like ten bucks. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: We'll be like, hey, get this for me, and then

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Speaker 4: just you know, over time, I see you. Banana Jones, Mom, Okay.

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Speaker 1: See you. But let's get into this next story. I'm

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Speaker 1: Yeah, anyway, Jessica raised her hand and said, you don't

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Speaker 1: No, no, we don't want to deprive people of.

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Speaker 1: I didn't have extra time, but I had I was

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Speaker 1: There we go, Sorry my accommodations.

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Speaker 3: Were you going to give a present? No?

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Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, sorry, guys, I should not

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Speaker 2: But yet she still took the extra time. Yeah, how

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Speaker 3: That fair?

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Speaker 1: I did deserve to have. I was a computer because for.

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Speaker 2: Every for every minute Sofia gets a computer, it's a

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Speaker 1: My story, it was just that other people have.

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Speaker 2: Sophia thinks that she needs the computer more than everyone else.

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Speaker 1: No, No, basically red flag red flags in the chat

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Speaker 3: Says were Queen didn't steal anything.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you. No, I did have a I needed.

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Speaker 3: Then, But you know what I have. I have another

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Speaker 2: So would I be the a hole if I rescinded

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Speaker 2: turning forty, and I offered to pay for him and

441
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Speaker 2: a group of our friends to have dinner anywhere Luke wanted.

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Speaker 2: Luke knows I've been vegan since my twenties and it's

443
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Speaker 2: never been an issue before. When I asked where he

444
00:20:08,280 --> 00:20:12,119
Speaker 2: made the reservation, he said a local barbecue place that

445
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Speaker 2: is famous here for having a menu that mocks people

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Speaker 2: who don't eat meat, like literally has sections that says

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Speaker 2: vegetarian options.

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Speaker 3: Don't let the door hit you on your way out.

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Speaker 1: That's so weird.

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Speaker 2: That literally sounds like the worst place to invite your

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Speaker 2: vegetarian front.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, why who's paying for the meal?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? What I offered to pay for it? Sounds crazy.

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Speaker 1: He's like, I offered to pay for it, and then

455
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Speaker 1: he's like, you know what, I actually really don't want

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Speaker 1: you there.

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Speaker 2: I asked what he expected me to eat, and he

458
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Speaker 2: got happy and said, well, it's my birthday, so it

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Speaker 2: shouldn't matter.

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Speaker 3: Eat the door on the way out.

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Speaker 1: There are so many other places like meat heavy places

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Speaker 1: that have like salads.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I actually went well, I went to an amazing

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Speaker 2: vegan restaurant that like they did fake fake food.

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Speaker 1: Vegan resc foods. I went to a vegan restaurant, is short,

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Speaker 1: very quick. I went to a vegan restaurant when I

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Speaker 1: was Europe. It was called like a vegan junk food.

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Speaker 1: It was so good, it was.

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Speaker 2: So sounds delicious. So I asked what he expected me

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Speaker 2: to eat, and he got huffy and said, well, it's

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Speaker 2: my birthday, so I didn't matter. I should eat before

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Speaker 2: getting there. And just order drinks while everyone else eats

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Speaker 2: dinner and still enjoy everyone's company, et cetera.

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Speaker 3: So I was like, eat.

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Speaker 4: Before yikes, Wait wait, wait, whose birthday is this again?

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Speaker 1: Oh Pie's friends?

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Speaker 3: Oh Pie's friend.

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Speaker 4: Okay, okay, so it's not their birthday.

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Speaker 2: So this sounds miserable to me. I had zero expectations

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Speaker 2: of Luke picking somewhere vegan friendly. How I expected to

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Speaker 2: pick a steakhouse, and I would have been fine with

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Speaker 2: a salad in some sides. I didn't expect him to

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Speaker 2: choose somewhere that prides themselves on meat being in every

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Speaker 2: single dish on the menu.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so strange. Yeah, that's really weird.

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Speaker 2: How would you feel if I was, like if I

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Speaker 2: took you to a pescatarian restaurant and I was an

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Speaker 2: anti pescatarian restaurant, like you pesky pescatarians.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, not even like there's not even fish on

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Speaker 1: the menu, it's just like red meat and chicken.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I would be like, that's why why am I here?

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Speaker 1: You don't want me here?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Put red flags in the chat if you think

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Speaker 2: it's a red flag.

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Speaker 1: No, yeah, Abigail, Like I feel like the point isn't that,

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Speaker 1: like you know, the Opie's friend can't eat meat. It's

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Speaker 1: just that he went to a place that, like op

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Speaker 1: he can't eat anything at.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I want to tell him never mind and buy

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Speaker 3: him a traditional birthday gift instead, but feel like a

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00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 3: massive asshole for taking back my offer. I don't know

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Speaker 3: what to do to be honest, not take it back.

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Speaker 3: Edited to add this is a group of nine, so

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Speaker 3: I'm feeling miffed about spending three hundred dollars on a

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Speaker 3: meal I can't eat. Yeah, don't second edit.

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Speaker 2: The exact text I sent was, Hey, I want to

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Speaker 2: take you and the friend fam out to dinner for

509
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Speaker 2: your birthday. Make a reservation somewhere and let me know.

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Speaker 2: And there are some relevant comments and an update. But

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Speaker 2: do you think OPI is the a horna?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 1: I think because it's so rude of him. The friend

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Speaker 1: OPI offered to pay for a birthday dinner and then

515
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Speaker 1: Opie's from was horrible.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Do you think Opie's friend intentionally chose that or do

518
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Speaker 2: you think it was just like I even realized, but

519
00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:14,400
Speaker 2: it's my favorite restaurant.

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Speaker 1: I think it's really weird that if you did, if

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Speaker 1: even if he didn't intentionally choose it. I think it's

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Speaker 1: like so inconsiderate.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Bernie hart Dragon says maybe has a disorder where he

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Speaker 2: can only meet, eat, eat meat or something like he's

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Speaker 2: a cat potentially, and.

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Speaker 1: He wants to make sure that no one else can.

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Speaker 3: Have Yeah, Spivey Tippy says friend is a douche.

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00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:35,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I agree, absolutely.

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Speaker 3: So relevant comment you're sure there's nothing you could eat?

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Speaker 3: No sides. There's meat in the beans and bacon bits

532
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Speaker 3: in the coal slough, oh my god, and the core

533
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Speaker 3: bread isn't probably vegan either. You're right.

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Speaker 2: I don't really eat corn bread and thought it was

535
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Speaker 2: like muffins I make. Now that's even worse this exchange.

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Speaker 2: So comment turn, Opie, why would you pay for other

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Speaker 2: people's meal? You can treat him, but not nine people,

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Speaker 2: Opie said. I offered because we all never get to

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Speaker 2: see each other as a very often anymore.

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Speaker 3: Since college.

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Speaker 2: I know Luke and some of the others are still struggling,

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00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:07,720
Speaker 2: and I'm thankful, and I'm thankfully comfortable financially. I wanted

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Speaker 2: everyone to be able to enjoy themselves without being stressed

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Speaker 2: about money.

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Speaker 1: Op He sounds like such a great person and their

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Speaker 1: friend sounds mean.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, bad kind of whack.

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Speaker 2: So Opie is voted not the A hole. We say,

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Speaker 2: not the a hole too. Yeah, what do you all say?

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Speaker 2: Put in the chat not the.

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Speaker 1: A hole Molly Thornton. I wouldn't need a shark. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. If I can't eat a shark, I wouldn't

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Speaker 1: eat it fish. I wouldn't do that because sharks are dangered.

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Speaker 1: I think so. I think they're endangered and want danger.

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Speaker 1: I don't eat sharks. I don't eat dolphins, and I

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Speaker 1: don't eat octopus because I think they're too smart.

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Speaker 4: They are endangered in Japan or in that area because

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Speaker 4: people will catch them eat them for fish fin soup,

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Speaker 4: fin soup.

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Speaker 1: Yeah no, I feel bad for sharks.

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Speaker 3: So update.

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Speaker 2: Hey folks, this may not be the dramatic update that

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Speaker 2: you wanted, but here we go. First to clear some

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Speaker 2: things up. Many of the comments assumed I was a

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Speaker 2: man and Luke was trying to emasculate me somehow. I

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Speaker 2: am a forty one year old woman and our friend

567
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Speaker 2: group that was invited are four women and six men.

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Speaker 2: Four of those people are spouses, and the six of

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Speaker 2: us have known each other since college after living in

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Speaker 2: this same academic focus quote unquote house Senior Year, an

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Speaker 2: off campus housing option where people who share a concentration

572
00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:22,920
Speaker 2: can apply for and live in a stand alone houses

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Speaker 2: of the campus or university owned. That's a story for

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Speaker 2: another time and just giving context. After deciding to just

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Speaker 2: cancel and take a break from my friendship with Luke,

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Speaker 2: I got a text from our friend Susan letting me

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Speaker 2: know Luke had told everyone where we were going to eat,

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Speaker 2: and without prompting, got several texts back along the lines

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Speaker 2: of hilarious, but where are we really eating?

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Speaker 1: Hell?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So everyone was like like, that's stupid, that's stupid.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, without any drama.

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Speaker 2: I guess Luke realized he had made a mistake, and

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Speaker 2: I got a text later in the day from him

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Speaker 2: saying he was sorry and had decided on a different spot.

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Speaker 3: Luke has always been a bit oblivious and.

587
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Speaker 2: Bad with social cues and I'm bad with confrontation, which

588
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:02,639
Speaker 2: as a bad mix. Dinner was last night and it

589
00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:04,600
Speaker 2: went great. Everyone was making fun of Luke for his

590
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:06,720
Speaker 2: initial choice, but he took it in stride and we

591
00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 2: all had a great time catching up and being away

592
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:12,439
Speaker 2: from our respective kids for the night. Sorry for the

593
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:13,960
Speaker 2: boring updates.

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Speaker 1: I think it's still a little bit of red flag

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Speaker 1: on Luke's end, but I'm glad that the friends.

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Speaker 2: Post Melon says Luke is a stinky man. Post Melon

597
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:24,320
Speaker 2: is right, but I think Luke was being a stinky man.

598
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:26,159
Speaker 2: But he redeemed his stinkiness.

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Speaker 3: By taking a bad shower. He took a shower. Yeah, Luke,

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Speaker 3: a shower, I agree.

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Speaker 2: Shout out for sninky men becoming a little bit less stinky, a.

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Speaker 1: Little bit less stinky, putting on a little deodorant.

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00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:40,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, harmless, Hag of the woods. That I ate shark

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Speaker 2: knowing without knowing sharks are something because the places in

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Speaker 2: the Caribbean as well. Sharks are my favorite sea creatures.

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Speaker 3: So that sucked to know. Well, I'm sorry you ate

607
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Speaker 3: your favorite sea creature.

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Speaker 1: That's wow. I couldn't have said that in a better way.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm sorry. That does suck, I said, yeah right,

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Speaker 1: thank you Izzy for the ten gifted memberships.

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Speaker 3: Euzzy, thanks for the memberships.

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Speaker 2: John, do you want to hop back in because I

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Speaker 2: am also gonna eat your king. John will return and Sofia,

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Speaker 2: you want to hit this next story