1 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:24,639 Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily Abadi coming to you with five Minute Friday, 2 00:00:24,760 --> 00:00:29,320 Speaker 1: a segment that is apparently beloved by many of you. 3 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 1: So now that I know this, not that I didn't 4 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:33,920 Speaker 1: know it before, but you get what I'm saying. I 5 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:36,199 Speaker 1: put a call out last week asking you how you 6 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 1: felt about five Minute Friday, and I was met with 7 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:43,800 Speaker 1: a lot of praise for this installment of the show. 8 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:46,760 Speaker 1: So with that said, this is what I'm getting to 9 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 1: when I tell you that I need your listener questions. 10 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:52,559 Speaker 1: If you want Five Minute Friday to stay, hit me 11 00:00:52,640 --> 00:00:56,240 Speaker 1: with them. It's so important to me that I'm answering 12 00:00:56,280 --> 00:01:00,120 Speaker 1: your questions, especially when you may be asking me things 13 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:02,600 Speaker 1: that come in through emails or dms, and you know 14 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:05,319 Speaker 1: how that can get a little bit hectic. So a 15 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:10,120 Speaker 1: guaranteed way to get your listener question answered is by 16 00:01:10,160 --> 00:01:12,399 Speaker 1: sending me a voice message to The link to do 17 00:01:12,440 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 1: that is in the show notes. And like I've said before, 18 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 1: if for some reason you have an issue using that link, 19 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:21,759 Speaker 1: you can always feel free to record me a voice 20 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:24,480 Speaker 1: memo on your phone and then send it over email. 21 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:28,120 Speaker 1: The email to direct those two is Hello at Hurdle 22 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 1: dot us. For today's installment, a five Minute Friday. I 23 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:34,520 Speaker 1: want to talk to you about the stories that we 24 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:39,240 Speaker 1: tell ourselves and finding the truth. So I was in 25 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 1: a situation this week with a friend of mine where 26 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:47,240 Speaker 1: we had a miscommunication. I got super crazy during a day. 27 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:51,200 Speaker 1: And let me just say this, I am victim to 28 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:55,280 Speaker 1: being on different text message lists from companies that send 29 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 1: you promotional sms. So I'm on many of those lists, 30 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 1: and I'm finally understanding that if I just respond stop, 31 00:02:03,440 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 1: they'll stop texting me. But because I have, like at 32 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:10,239 Speaker 1: any given moment, ten unread messages in my phone. Those 33 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:15,080 Speaker 1: unread messages are typically from brands. But one of the 34 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:19,960 Speaker 1: unread messages was from a friend of mine and I 35 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:21,640 Speaker 1: missed it. I want to say. It was like on 36 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 1: Tuesday or Wednesday. And today she messaged me and asked 37 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:29,520 Speaker 1: me if I didn't actually want to spend time with 38 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:33,519 Speaker 1: her this weekend in so many words, and I had. 39 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 1: I was just wrapped up in my own stuff, and 40 00:02:35,639 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 1: so I told her, oh my god, yes, I want 41 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 1: to see you this weekend. Let's get together, et cetera, 42 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 1: et cetera. But before that, bless her, she was telling 43 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 1: herself this story about how I just must have not 44 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 1: been interested in whatever that we had already touched base on. 45 00:02:51,400 --> 00:02:53,520 Speaker 1: And this is just such a simple example of how 46 00:02:53,560 --> 00:02:56,600 Speaker 1: often are we creating a story in our head based 47 00:02:56,680 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 1: on a thought or a feeling and not be on fact. 48 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: And how easy can it be to get the truth 49 00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:09,600 Speaker 1: out if you just speak up right? So, whatever's going 50 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 1: on in your life, whatever story that you might be 51 00:03:11,639 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 1: telling yourself, ask yourself, is this rooted in fact? And 52 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: if you're scared, so to speak about talking to someone 53 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:23,120 Speaker 1: about how you feel, then honestly, let's be real, that 54 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 1: person probably isn't someone that you need to be involved 55 00:03:26,200 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 1: with anyway. I say that, from dating to friendships to 56 00:03:30,919 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: whatever the case may be, surround yourself with people that 57 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:37,400 Speaker 1: make you feel seen and heard, which can be a 58 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:41,119 Speaker 1: little bit easier said than done, But know that with 59 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 1: time and with executing your boundaries and with standing up yourself, 60 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:47,920 Speaker 1: it will happen. And when it does happen, when you 61 00:03:47,960 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 1: look around and you feel comforted and safe about your people, 62 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 1: then trust me, that is a good place to be in. 63 00:03:56,520 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 1: And the last thing I'll say before I move into 64 00:03:58,360 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 1: the listener question, if you you feel like you can't 65 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:05,480 Speaker 1: express yourself to someone that you're interested in relevant to dating, 66 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:09,080 Speaker 1: then let me tell you that person is probably not 67 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 1: your person, no matter how much you want them to be. 68 00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:16,680 Speaker 1: So my question for you this week is, is there 69 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:19,400 Speaker 1: a situation right now in your life where you are 70 00:04:19,720 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: creating some sort of a story, narrating a tale that 71 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:27,000 Speaker 1: isn't true? And what's within your power to change that? 72 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 1: What's going on in your life right now? What story 73 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:33,279 Speaker 1: are you telling yourself? And how can you communicate to 74 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:37,279 Speaker 1: put your mind at ease? And now I listen our question. 75 00:04:38,040 --> 00:04:42,919 Speaker 2: Hey, Emily, it's Sarah from Fort Wayne, Indiana. As always, 76 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 2: I absolutely love the show and all the content that 77 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:48,640 Speaker 2: you create for us, and I'm so so grateful to 78 00:04:48,640 --> 00:04:51,440 Speaker 2: get to listen to your podcast every week. So my 79 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:55,479 Speaker 2: question is in the past, you've talked about your dream 80 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 2: guest list you made at the very start of the podcast, 81 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 2: and I'm curious who's been checked off the list and 82 00:05:02,600 --> 00:05:03,279 Speaker 2: who's left. 83 00:05:03,839 --> 00:05:07,559 Speaker 1: Thanks Sarah, what's up? Thank you so much for your question. 84 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:10,480 Speaker 1: This was one that was emailed to me, so proof 85 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:15,160 Speaker 1: of concept this works. Send me your questions. Oh my goodness, 86 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:17,800 Speaker 1: dream guests. I've had so many, and I still do 87 00:05:18,520 --> 00:05:22,760 Speaker 1: have many. Now I don't want to necessarily reveal all 88 00:05:22,839 --> 00:05:26,520 Speaker 1: of my desires to all of you. But I will 89 00:05:26,560 --> 00:05:29,719 Speaker 1: say when it comes to checking guests off the list 90 00:05:29,839 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 1: of the dream guest list, I'd be are a miss 91 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:36,560 Speaker 1: if I didn't mention a few really big ones for me. 92 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 1: These include from the get go, and I'm talking about like, 93 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:43,200 Speaker 1: so these are people that I knew of five years 94 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:46,080 Speaker 1: ago that were on my like, oh my god. Just 95 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 1: to have the opportunity to have a conversation with you 96 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 1: would be truly epic, and I do feel so grateful 97 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:54,560 Speaker 1: for the time that everyone always gives me period. But 98 00:05:55,279 --> 00:05:58,160 Speaker 1: dream guest list from the get go, I would have 99 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:03,400 Speaker 1: to say Slaine without a doubt. Also, very early on, 100 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:08,599 Speaker 1: I had both Sadie Lincoln from Bar three and Andy 101 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:12,400 Speaker 1: Putcomb on the show, and that felt just completely mind 102 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:15,680 Speaker 1: blowing because they gave me their time when I was 103 00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:20,159 Speaker 1: so new to this, and for that I feel forever indebted. Also, 104 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 1: Alison Felix, an absolute goat and such an unbelievably kind 105 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:31,840 Speaker 1: and charismatic and talented, talented mother and wonderful person. And 106 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:35,760 Speaker 1: I'd round out this list for now with Alex Morgan 107 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:39,840 Speaker 1: from the US women's national team, as well as her 108 00:06:39,880 --> 00:06:44,719 Speaker 1: teammate Ali Krieger, and last but not least, coach Chris Bennett, 109 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 1: Nike Running's global head coach. So there's just a few. 110 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:50,520 Speaker 1: And this is just like top of mind people that 111 00:06:50,560 --> 00:06:53,440 Speaker 1: were on the OG quote unquote dream guest list. Now 112 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:56,120 Speaker 1: when it comes to who's still on it, oh my god, 113 00:06:56,200 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 1: who isn't on it? There's a lot. I am so 114 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:01,479 Speaker 1: grateful that this is what I get to do for work. 115 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 1: I will tell you a couple of them. Abby won Back. 116 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:06,919 Speaker 1: I just reached out to her again last week. I 117 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:11,400 Speaker 1: would love love, love, love, love, love, love the opportunity 118 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 1: to speak with her. Chloe Kim, we've corresponded before. I 119 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 1: have hope for that. I hope for all of this. 120 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:22,320 Speaker 1: And I'll round out this list with Meghan Rapino and 121 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:26,400 Speaker 1: Candice Parker, some really big sport legends on the top 122 00:07:26,400 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 1: of my list right now. But I'm always looking for recommendations. 123 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 1: So if you have someone that you want to hear 124 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 1: from on Hurdle, I am all ears. Feel free to 125 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:36,240 Speaker 1: shoot us a dm over at Hurdle podcast, or of 126 00:07:36,280 --> 00:07:39,320 Speaker 1: course hit me up over email at Hello at Hurdle 127 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 1: dot us. That's it for this week, another hurdle conquered. 128 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 1: Catch you guys next time.