1
00:00:00,920 --> 00:00:05,359
Speaker 1: What's up you guys. Welcome back to another episode of GMBC. Today,

2
00:00:05,519 --> 00:00:07,880
Speaker 1: we are pulling out one of our favorite episodes from

3
00:00:07,920 --> 00:00:13,840
Speaker 1: the archives, featuring the one the Only Elizabeth Ovseen aka

4
00:00:14,160 --> 00:00:18,919
Speaker 1: Karin Stephens, three times New York bestselling author and author

5
00:00:18,960 --> 00:00:22,480
Speaker 1: of one of my favorite books, Confessions of the Video Vixen.

6
00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:23,599
Speaker 2: Listen.

7
00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:27,440
Speaker 1: If you haven't heard this episode, this episode is one

8
00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:30,400
Speaker 1: of my favorite in the last six years. Karin is

9
00:00:30,440 --> 00:00:33,879
Speaker 1: dropping so many gems and it's so good. We had

10
00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:36,000
Speaker 1: to break it up into two parts. But if you

11
00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:40,760
Speaker 1: want to hear and watch this episode unfiltered, uncensored, you

12
00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:44,080
Speaker 1: have to come to Patreon. That's right, All of our

13
00:00:44,159 --> 00:00:50,240
Speaker 1: uncensored content is exclusively on Patreon ww dot, patreon dot com, backslash,

14
00:00:50,280 --> 00:00:53,960
Speaker 1: Good Moms, Bad Choices. We're still off season, but not

15
00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:56,440
Speaker 1: on Patreon. We are putting out something new every week.

16
00:00:56,720 --> 00:01:00,800
Speaker 1: We're chatting with our tribe, and we're meeting up every month,

17
00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:04,160
Speaker 1: so come join us. This episode is so good. It's

18
00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:06,880
Speaker 1: filled with so many gems. Karina is keeping it all

19
00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:08,920
Speaker 1: the way real as always.

20
00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:10,280
Speaker 2: And so are we.

21
00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:13,039
Speaker 1: It's been two years since we've recorded this episode, but

22
00:01:13,319 --> 00:01:17,119
Speaker 1: it's still so damn good. And so damn honest. So

23
00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:20,680
Speaker 1: tune in, turn it up, and enjoy. And if you

24
00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:24,960
Speaker 1: want to watch this episode and hear the exclusive content

25
00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:29,280
Speaker 1: and the exclusive version of this episode uncensored, unedited, come

26
00:01:29,319 --> 00:01:33,399
Speaker 1: over to Patreon. What the hell you waiting for? Enjoy

27
00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:37,679
Speaker 1: you guys. Today we have a very very special guest.

28
00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:41,840
Speaker 1: I'm so excited. I have manifested this guest since I

29
00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:44,320
Speaker 1: was in high school. Literally when I read her book

30
00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:48,480
Speaker 1: Confessions of a Video Vixen and The Vixen Diaries. I

31
00:01:48,480 --> 00:01:51,200
Speaker 1: have been waiting for this moment basically my whole life.

32
00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:54,760
Speaker 3: This episode does not disappoint. She's a really special woman,

33
00:01:55,160 --> 00:01:56,240
Speaker 3: really special guest.

34
00:01:56,520 --> 00:02:13,720
Speaker 1: Enjoy the gems that Elizabeth is dropping. Welcome back to

35
00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:18,320
Speaker 1: Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and I'm Meyla. Happy Wednesday,

36
00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:19,880
Speaker 1: Happy Wednesday, baby.

37
00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:22,560
Speaker 2: How are you? I'm good? How are you? I'm good?

38
00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:27,480
Speaker 2: I'm really good. I'm chilling, chilling like a villain. I'm happy.

39
00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:28,160
Speaker 2: How are you?

40
00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:32,720
Speaker 3: I'm healthy? I'm hydrated. My hair is popping today, y'all.

41
00:02:32,840 --> 00:02:35,480
Speaker 3: If y'all are looking as on YouTube, If you haven't

42
00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:38,040
Speaker 3: yet subscribed to our YouTube channel, you should just so

43
00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:41,200
Speaker 3: you could see this afro that's popping tin today. You

44
00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:42,399
Speaker 3: know we have a good hair day.

45
00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:43,720
Speaker 2: It's today.

46
00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:46,440
Speaker 1: I know this is an audio space, but yeah, we're fine,

47
00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:48,040
Speaker 1: So hop into YouTube.

48
00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:49,320
Speaker 2: It's worth it. And Erica is.

49
00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:51,799
Speaker 1: My titties are always out, and Erica's are bigger and

50
00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:52,600
Speaker 1: more dipicul I'm sure.

51
00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:54,880
Speaker 3: I mean, I know you love her sexy voices, but

52
00:02:55,080 --> 00:02:58,240
Speaker 3: we have sexy faces, have sexy faces too, and you

53
00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:00,400
Speaker 3: know we put on a fucking high end product. This

54
00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:01,600
Speaker 3: ain't no like janky ass.

55
00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:03,440
Speaker 2: She We have like a.

56
00:03:03,240 --> 00:03:06,720
Speaker 4: Full on TV show on YouTube belus, so check it

57
00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:07,440
Speaker 4: out and it's free.

58
00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:08,840
Speaker 2: I don't know why you wouldn't come see us.

59
00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:13,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, anyway, we have a very special guest today. I'm

60
00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:17,040
Speaker 1: actually fangirling a bit like my high school self is

61
00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:22,839
Speaker 1: fucking freaking out. I'm today, without further ado, we have

62
00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:27,680
Speaker 1: New York best time selling author, mother, podcaster, all around

63
00:03:28,200 --> 00:03:30,480
Speaker 1: bad boss bitch Elizabeth.

64
00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:36,520
Speaker 2: Hi, Hi, Hi guys. I'm so happy to be here.

65
00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:37,960
Speaker 2: I'm so happy we got you here.

66
00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:41,080
Speaker 1: Honestly, our manifestation game is on high alert. And you

67
00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:43,680
Speaker 1: know when you mentioned that you didn't have social for

68
00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:45,360
Speaker 1: a minute, I was like, I know she didn't because

69
00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:48,280
Speaker 1: I looked. I was like, I looked for you and

70
00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:49,680
Speaker 1: I could not find you, and I was like, where

71
00:03:49,680 --> 00:03:51,080
Speaker 1: the fuck is she at? And then you popped up

72
00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:53,120
Speaker 1: and I was like, yes, God answered.

73
00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:55,080
Speaker 2: I literally had to call my like my high school

74
00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:55,480
Speaker 2: best friend.

75
00:03:55,480 --> 00:03:57,520
Speaker 1: There's only black, two black students in my high school,

76
00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:01,040
Speaker 1: so all we did was read black books. I was like, girl,

77
00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:03,440
Speaker 1: you will not believe it's coming on the show, OSK.

78
00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:04,600
Speaker 1: I had to call you because I knew you a

79
00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:08,680
Speaker 1: care because we write this all these books beginning to end.

80
00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:12,760
Speaker 1: And I'm honored to have you here. Thank you honestly,

81
00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:13,920
Speaker 1: really and truly.

82
00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:15,840
Speaker 2: I know I'm honored too.

83
00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:18,680
Speaker 3: I have, like, I have a lot of questions. I'm

84
00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:22,080
Speaker 3: inspired by you. You're such a trailblazer in so many

85
00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:22,719
Speaker 3: different ways.

86
00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:25,080
Speaker 4: I mean you are, you.

87
00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:28,159
Speaker 2: Are like absolutely the trailblazer for women.

88
00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:33,280
Speaker 5: Oh my god, that's a lot, and I gotta take

89
00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:35,120
Speaker 5: it in.

90
00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:38,719
Speaker 1: I really feel like so me and Erica we manifest

91
00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:40,359
Speaker 1: a lot, Like we have an entity. That's what we

92
00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:44,039
Speaker 1: call our business, like higher power. Everything we ask for

93
00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:46,240
Speaker 1: we get, it's just difine because we're women and we

94
00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:47,240
Speaker 1: put our powers together.

95
00:04:47,839 --> 00:04:49,360
Speaker 2: And like I said, I'd looked for you, and I

96
00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:51,000
Speaker 2: was like, I wonder what she's doing. Where is she at?

97
00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:54,960
Speaker 1: But we are actually turning in our final manuscript for

98
00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:55,800
Speaker 1: our book.

99
00:04:56,560 --> 00:04:58,760
Speaker 2: In a couple of weeks. Oh my god. So I

100
00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:00,880
Speaker 2: feel like God was like, you can have her now?

101
00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:03,120
Speaker 2: Oh my god? Really?

102
00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:06,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like this is like the divine timing.

103
00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:07,680
Speaker 1: That was like that was also my high school dream

104
00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:10,400
Speaker 1: to be like an author and a writer. And I like,

105
00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:13,080
Speaker 1: I related to your voice so much even in the

106
00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:17,200
Speaker 1: eleventh grade, Oh wow, because I was lit even then.

107
00:05:17,440 --> 00:05:19,240
Speaker 4: Can we tell the people with the book? Like people

108
00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:20,360
Speaker 4: were like, what book is it?

109
00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:20,679
Speaker 2: Oh?

110
00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:21,880
Speaker 4: With fashions of a video boox?

111
00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:24,320
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's the first book. Yeah girl, that shit?

112
00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:26,400
Speaker 2: Where I get? Where's my book at? The fuck?

113
00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:28,279
Speaker 6: I mean? Yeah?

114
00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:30,839
Speaker 3: And I think for us, our book is very transparent

115
00:05:30,960 --> 00:05:34,880
Speaker 3: and we're talking about people too, and you know, our experiences,

116
00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:39,160
Speaker 3: and it's fucking scary and triggering. And it's been really

117
00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:41,240
Speaker 3: difficult to write the book because we had to kind

118
00:05:41,240 --> 00:05:43,680
Speaker 3: of like go back and like rehash it and like

119
00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:45,120
Speaker 3: kind of decide.

120
00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:46,680
Speaker 4: Is that important, is that helpful?

121
00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:48,919
Speaker 2: Should I keep that out because I'm protecting him? Or

122
00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:49,680
Speaker 2: fuck that? Niggain?

123
00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:50,960
Speaker 5: Right?

124
00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:52,080
Speaker 2: I think it's important to.

125
00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:58,680
Speaker 5: Understand that women are the storytellers, and if we don't

126
00:05:58,720 --> 00:06:03,120
Speaker 5: tell stories, it'll be as if this entire moment didn't exist,

127
00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:06,280
Speaker 5: as if this entire generation didn't exist. And it's been

128
00:06:06,320 --> 00:06:09,360
Speaker 5: that way for eons. It's the mother is braiding your hair,

129
00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:11,680
Speaker 5: telling you about your crazy uncle. It's all, you know.

130
00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:14,320
Speaker 5: It's these things that we pass down to our children,

131
00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:18,120
Speaker 5: to our nieces, our nephews, to our girlfriends, and you

132
00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:21,120
Speaker 5: have to tell your story. The thing about telling stories

133
00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:24,040
Speaker 5: is that you can't tell your story without including other people.

134
00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:26,760
Speaker 5: And I always tell people like, if you want to

135
00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:29,640
Speaker 5: be represented wonderfully in a story, then you should have

136
00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:30,360
Speaker 5: acted that way.

137
00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:34,640
Speaker 2: I'm only reporting the facts, girl, you know what.

138
00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:35,720
Speaker 4: That's what I'm about to say.

139
00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:37,320
Speaker 2: The facts are the mother facing fact.

140
00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:38,000
Speaker 4: Can't keep the facts.

141
00:06:38,040 --> 00:06:39,680
Speaker 2: I can't keep the facts the facts machine.

142
00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:43,160
Speaker 5: And there's no way to get around how things really happened,

143
00:06:43,600 --> 00:06:43,839
Speaker 5: you know.

144
00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:46,200
Speaker 2: So congratulations to you guys, Thank you.

145
00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:49,679
Speaker 5: And writing is also a form of catharsis, and studies

146
00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:51,599
Speaker 5: have proven that if you write for at least twenty

147
00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:53,480
Speaker 5: minutes a day, you can actually heal.

148
00:06:53,400 --> 00:06:55,680
Speaker 2: Not just yourself psychologically, but also physically.

149
00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:58,760
Speaker 5: And yeah, because because a lot of our pain is

150
00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:02,320
Speaker 5: manifested through our psychologic trauma, and so studies do show

151
00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:04,960
Speaker 5: that just in writing your own story what hurts you,

152
00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:08,080
Speaker 5: what has happened, digging into the trenches and getting that

153
00:07:08,320 --> 00:07:11,920
Speaker 5: stuff out that's uncomfortable, that you actually heal yourself in

154
00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:12,360
Speaker 5: doing so.

155
00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:13,800
Speaker 2: I receive that.

156
00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:16,400
Speaker 3: I feel that I receive that too, I think also

157
00:07:17,000 --> 00:07:19,640
Speaker 3: for us. I know I'm obviously writing as a new

158
00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:24,160
Speaker 3: kind of medium for us, but talking has been so healing,

159
00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:26,080
Speaker 3: you know, like the saying the thing out loud, having

160
00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:28,480
Speaker 3: a podcast and being able to do a lot of

161
00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:31,240
Speaker 3: healing on the mic, and just saying things that like

162
00:07:31,680 --> 00:07:35,080
Speaker 3: I've been scared to say, or that I've only said

163
00:07:35,080 --> 00:07:35,920
Speaker 3: in my head.

164
00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:36,280
Speaker 2: You know.

165
00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:39,680
Speaker 3: Like I think that there's so many mediums that people

166
00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:42,720
Speaker 3: just don't take advantage of that are literally just part

167
00:07:42,760 --> 00:07:45,480
Speaker 3: of our bodies, our fingers, we can write, our voices,

168
00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:49,440
Speaker 3: we can use and oftentimes we're scared. And you are

169
00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:52,520
Speaker 3: not my love. You are bold, bitch, you ain't never.

170
00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:52,800
Speaker 2: Been, sar.

171
00:07:54,520 --> 00:07:58,000
Speaker 5: I I don't know what that is. I feel like

172
00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:01,000
Speaker 5: even though my family fucked up a lot of things

173
00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:03,840
Speaker 5: in raising me and the other kids, that you know,

174
00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:06,280
Speaker 5: like my cousins and things. There are certain things I

175
00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:08,880
Speaker 5: learned from the women in my families, mostly women. I

176
00:08:08,880 --> 00:08:11,480
Speaker 5: grew up in a house with ten people and only

177
00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:15,600
Speaker 5: two of them were men, my two uncles, so it's cousins, sisters,

178
00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:18,440
Speaker 5: my mother, my aunties. We all lived in the same house.

179
00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:20,480
Speaker 5: My grandmother is my grandmother's house. She's still in that

180
00:08:20,480 --> 00:08:23,880
Speaker 5: house to this day. I just remember fearless women who

181
00:08:23,880 --> 00:08:27,239
Speaker 5: didn't give a shit about anything, and sometimes that's bad,

182
00:08:27,560 --> 00:08:32,240
Speaker 5: and sometimes it's really really really good. And then my dad,

183
00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:34,840
Speaker 5: I'm the island girls. So then there's that whole island

184
00:08:34,960 --> 00:08:38,440
Speaker 5: Caribbean kind of like thing where we just don't give.

185
00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:40,880
Speaker 2: A shit about nothing. I don't know what that is

186
00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:41,480
Speaker 2: about us.

187
00:08:41,559 --> 00:08:43,680
Speaker 5: It's just growing up in an island just makes you

188
00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:47,040
Speaker 5: be like fuck it, fuck it, we're on an island,

189
00:08:47,080 --> 00:08:49,000
Speaker 5: Like we can't even get off this bitch, Like fuck it.

190
00:08:49,840 --> 00:08:52,960
Speaker 5: Everything's fine, Like just say whatever you want, do whatever

191
00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:56,120
Speaker 5: you want, it's whatever. And the women there, we were

192
00:08:56,400 --> 00:08:59,160
Speaker 5: open sexually. I remember it was nothing to see a

193
00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:01,880
Speaker 5: woman topless on the beach. It was nothing to see

194
00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:05,160
Speaker 5: a woman in a sarong only and flip flops walk

195
00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:07,720
Speaker 5: into the store. The breeze blowing open her sarong and

196
00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:10,560
Speaker 5: nobody giving a shit. It was nothing to just see

197
00:09:10,600 --> 00:09:13,480
Speaker 5: women being in their sexual power, being naked, being and

198
00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:15,720
Speaker 5: then fearless and throwing men out the house and like

199
00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:18,400
Speaker 5: we don't give up, Like it was just a fiery

200
00:09:18,520 --> 00:09:20,319
Speaker 5: I just remember a lot of fire in the women

201
00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:21,400
Speaker 5: that I saw growing up.

202
00:09:22,160 --> 00:09:25,040
Speaker 2: And I remember just being on that island.

203
00:09:25,160 --> 00:09:30,440
Speaker 5: Watching TV because we were on an island and there

204
00:09:30,480 --> 00:09:32,160
Speaker 5: wasn't like a whole lot of other shit to do

205
00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:37,120
Speaker 5: what island Saint Thomas, Okay, So TV became the way

206
00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:39,560
Speaker 5: I saw the rest of the world. And I remember

207
00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:44,920
Speaker 5: specifically Madonna and I was little, I must have been

208
00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:50,200
Speaker 5: six seven years old in the early eighties and thinking

209
00:09:50,200 --> 00:09:50,840
Speaker 5: to myself.

210
00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:53,720
Speaker 2: I remember thinking this, I want to be like this woman.

211
00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:56,359
Speaker 7: I wanted to be her as a little girl.

212
00:09:56,120 --> 00:09:59,800
Speaker 5: Because she was pissing people. She's pissing off my grandmother,

213
00:10:00,160 --> 00:10:02,920
Speaker 5: she was burning crosses. My grandmother's a devout Catholic and

214
00:10:02,960 --> 00:10:05,200
Speaker 5: this woman burnt crosses and my grandmother.

215
00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:07,040
Speaker 2: Was to turn that shit off. And I was like sure,

216
00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:07,319
Speaker 2: and then.

217
00:10:07,280 --> 00:10:08,959
Speaker 5: I'm gonna watch it later when you go to sleep,

218
00:10:09,320 --> 00:10:14,240
Speaker 5: because I wanted to be that woman and those role

219
00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:17,120
Speaker 5: models that the eighties were a powerful time to grow up.

220
00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:20,240
Speaker 5: Women were using their voices and in a lot of

221
00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:24,679
Speaker 5: different ways, and that were just powerful. And then the

222
00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:26,840
Speaker 5: last thing that I remember that I think really shaped

223
00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:31,200
Speaker 5: me and my voice is my mother used to work

224
00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:33,920
Speaker 5: at a clothing store and I would walk down there

225
00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:36,600
Speaker 5: after school every day and then stay in the back

226
00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:39,360
Speaker 5: room for the next few hours until she got off.

227
00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:43,160
Speaker 5: And one day her boss, who was a Middle Eastern man,

228
00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:47,160
Speaker 5: was yelling at her, and she was yelling back, and.

229
00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:48,920
Speaker 2: He didn't like that, so he slapped her.

230
00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:52,720
Speaker 5: Oh shit, and she before his hand even left her face,

231
00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:55,760
Speaker 5: she had slapped his ass back, and she slapped him

232
00:10:55,800 --> 00:10:59,119
Speaker 5: so fucking hard he lost his balance and blood.

233
00:10:58,880 --> 00:10:59,600
Speaker 2: Came out of his mouth.

234
00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:02,600
Speaker 5: I was in the back like, yeah, bitch, I didn't

235
00:11:02,600 --> 00:11:04,440
Speaker 5: even like my mom, And I was like, yo, I

236
00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:08,000
Speaker 5: want to be the woman who slaps back. I want

237
00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:09,960
Speaker 5: to be the woman who slaps the shit out of

238
00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:13,320
Speaker 5: a man in return to wherever the fuck the disrespect is.

239
00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:16,760
Speaker 5: And I grew up to be kind of pieces of

240
00:11:16,800 --> 00:11:21,000
Speaker 5: all these women that I saw, those fiery slap back women.

241
00:11:21,600 --> 00:11:23,760
Speaker 2: And so it's not that I haven't been afraid.

242
00:11:24,440 --> 00:11:27,600
Speaker 5: I'm afraid often, but I just do it scared, yeah,

243
00:11:27,640 --> 00:11:30,640
Speaker 5: because the question is what's the alternative not doing it

244
00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:38,439
Speaker 5: at all, being walked over the rest of your life, regretting. Right,

245
00:11:38,960 --> 00:11:40,839
Speaker 5: So the way I slap back is by writing it

246
00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:43,400
Speaker 5: all down, because the one thing I realize is that

247
00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:46,360
Speaker 5: people fear the truth more than they fear lies. And

248
00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:48,280
Speaker 5: most people would rather hear a man lie than a

249
00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:52,080
Speaker 5: woman tell the truth. And so I know that if

250
00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:53,800
Speaker 5: I just tell the truth, the truth is what people

251
00:11:53,880 --> 00:11:55,720
Speaker 5: hide from you. So if I know the truth, the

252
00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:57,240
Speaker 5: best way for me to get you back is to

253
00:11:57,280 --> 00:12:00,640
Speaker 5: just tell the truth, just the truth, just the truth,

254
00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:03,439
Speaker 5: not a lie. I don't have to be mean about it.

255
00:12:03,679 --> 00:12:05,760
Speaker 5: I just have to tell ABCD and this is how

256
00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:07,360
Speaker 5: it happened, and I was there and I saw it,

257
00:12:07,400 --> 00:12:09,160
Speaker 5: and this is how it was affected me. And so

258
00:12:09,280 --> 00:12:11,840
Speaker 5: many people are hiding from their own truths that it

259
00:12:11,920 --> 00:12:14,520
Speaker 5: upsets them. When you write down your own it's.

260
00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:18,520
Speaker 2: Triggering, yeah to them.

261
00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:23,560
Speaker 1: Money making for me, I mean for real, Like I

262
00:12:23,600 --> 00:12:26,439
Speaker 1: think when I read that book in high school, one

263
00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:28,679
Speaker 1: of my homegirls grew like I've known for a long time,

264
00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:30,560
Speaker 1: was like, you know what, I really commend you. You've

265
00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:34,320
Speaker 1: always lived authentically yourself, and I was just like, I

266
00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:35,760
Speaker 1: can't say what that is.

267
00:12:35,800 --> 00:12:37,880
Speaker 2: Like I've been very much. I don't give a fuck.

268
00:12:37,960 --> 00:12:38,720
Speaker 2: This is it. You know.

269
00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:40,800
Speaker 1: My mom wasn't really like that, and I felt like

270
00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:43,959
Speaker 1: she was kind of weak for that. So I always

271
00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:46,439
Speaker 1: honored the fuck it, you know, because I didn't know

272
00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:48,040
Speaker 1: it was on the other side. And I think when

273
00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:50,200
Speaker 1: I read that book in high school, and you know,

274
00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:52,880
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, this is a woman like that

275
00:12:52,960 --> 00:12:55,880
Speaker 1: I can relate to, I can identify with. I could

276
00:12:55,880 --> 00:12:58,120
Speaker 1: like I read this story and I understood and I

277
00:12:58,200 --> 00:13:00,880
Speaker 1: felt the truth, you know, and it's so crazy, Like

278
00:13:01,040 --> 00:13:03,800
Speaker 1: we're talking about how therapeutic speaking is and writing is,

279
00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:07,920
Speaker 1: but like it's such a beautiful like culmination of that

280
00:13:08,240 --> 00:13:11,080
Speaker 1: seed that I was planted just reading your book, you know,

281
00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:13,400
Speaker 1: and I continue to be whoever the fuck I was

282
00:13:13,440 --> 00:13:16,080
Speaker 1: going to be, whether it be wrong and different, crazy, wild,

283
00:13:16,120 --> 00:13:18,920
Speaker 1: whatever the people wanted to say, you know, until you

284
00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:22,960
Speaker 1: know this very moment. I'm like, you know, now, truth,

285
00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:25,960
Speaker 1: the truth, Like planting seeds of truth as women is

286
00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:29,520
Speaker 1: so motherfucking powerful. And like I always say this, like

287
00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:32,280
Speaker 1: as we speak on this, we record and we put

288
00:13:32,280 --> 00:13:35,760
Speaker 1: it out there. Two hundred episodes, hundreds of hours of

289
00:13:35,840 --> 00:13:38,959
Speaker 1: us talking truth. It's like we never we really can't

290
00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:42,560
Speaker 1: understand the scope of how people receive that and what

291
00:13:42,760 --> 00:13:45,280
Speaker 1: happens when you tell the truth? What happens when you

292
00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:47,440
Speaker 1: told the truth and whatever that ignited in me? And

293
00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:49,480
Speaker 1: now we're here and like, whoever's going to hear this

294
00:13:49,559 --> 00:13:52,640
Speaker 1: episode whatever, Someone's been somewhere sitting in a lie for

295
00:13:52,679 --> 00:13:54,360
Speaker 1: a long mother fucking time and they're gonna hear this

296
00:13:54,400 --> 00:13:57,440
Speaker 1: and they'll be like, huh, something's gonna switch. And like

297
00:13:57,600 --> 00:14:00,839
Speaker 1: that fire that like is sparked just from women telling

298
00:14:00,880 --> 00:14:04,320
Speaker 1: the truth is mother fucking powerful and that's why we're

299
00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:06,800
Speaker 1: in this age of like revolution for women.

300
00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:06,840
Speaker 2: You know.

301
00:14:07,120 --> 00:14:10,400
Speaker 1: And I think it's fucking powerful. And I think that

302
00:14:10,559 --> 00:14:15,280
Speaker 1: like all of the forces of like mother Earth are

303
00:14:15,880 --> 00:14:19,040
Speaker 1: coinciding with that movement, you know. And rest in peace,

304
00:14:19,200 --> 00:14:22,840
Speaker 1: Kevin Samuels. But you can't fuck with the movement, you know,

305
00:14:23,200 --> 00:14:25,840
Speaker 1: like the goddesses are don't like ugly, you know. And

306
00:14:25,920 --> 00:14:27,800
Speaker 1: as we wake up, as women are waking up, as

307
00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:30,120
Speaker 1: we tell our truth, and people are starting to receive

308
00:14:30,120 --> 00:14:32,720
Speaker 1: it and leave bad relationships and say fuck that, nigga

309
00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:36,360
Speaker 1: and care for themselves and like prioritize themselves just because

310
00:14:36,360 --> 00:14:38,760
Speaker 1: they hear other women doing it and that it's possible

311
00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:39,560
Speaker 1: even when.

312
00:14:39,440 --> 00:14:40,080
Speaker 2: It is scary.

313
00:14:40,120 --> 00:14:42,720
Speaker 1: Bitch, get the fuck up out that place, because there's

314
00:14:42,760 --> 00:14:45,360
Speaker 1: nowhere to go there. You know, it may be scary,

315
00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:47,320
Speaker 1: but at least it's better than not knowing what would

316
00:14:47,360 --> 00:14:49,480
Speaker 1: happen if you stood in your truth and did what

317
00:14:49,640 --> 00:14:50,600
Speaker 1: like honored yourself.

318
00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:52,760
Speaker 2: So I just think, like, I'm.

319
00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:55,080
Speaker 1: So grateful to be a part of this revolution and

320
00:14:55,120 --> 00:14:57,640
Speaker 1: to be sitting here with you and like just see

321
00:14:57,680 --> 00:15:00,200
Speaker 1: it how it's you know, manifested this way.

322
00:15:00,680 --> 00:15:03,400
Speaker 3: I think also, like the thing about the truth is

323
00:15:03,440 --> 00:15:04,880
Speaker 3: that people will always try to make you feel like

324
00:15:04,880 --> 00:15:10,400
Speaker 3: you're triven, like like you know that, like, especially men,

325
00:15:12,160 --> 00:15:14,880
Speaker 3: how have you navigated in that space? I mean obviously,

326
00:15:14,960 --> 00:15:17,880
Speaker 3: like you've written books about your truth and I'm sure

327
00:15:17,920 --> 00:15:19,880
Speaker 3: you've had a lot of backlash because of it and

328
00:15:19,920 --> 00:15:22,960
Speaker 3: people trying to probably say like that's not actually what happened,

329
00:15:23,040 --> 00:15:25,920
Speaker 3: or that's not my truth, you know, like how do

330
00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:29,000
Speaker 3: you navigate in those spaces and standing your truth in

331
00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:29,320
Speaker 3: that way?

332
00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:30,200
Speaker 2: In those times?

333
00:15:30,560 --> 00:15:34,320
Speaker 5: Everyone's allowed to write books like I'm not the only

334
00:15:34,360 --> 00:15:36,200
Speaker 5: person who can do it right, And I like listen.

335
00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:38,760
Speaker 5: If this isn't your truth, write a fucking book, Write

336
00:15:38,760 --> 00:15:39,320
Speaker 5: a fucking book.

337
00:15:39,320 --> 00:15:40,520
Speaker 2: I don't give a shit what you.

338
00:15:40,480 --> 00:15:42,240
Speaker 5: Say, what you do, it does it matter to me.

339
00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:46,440
Speaker 5: The truth is always the truth, right. I think that,

340
00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:49,440
Speaker 5: like I said earlier, people would rather hear men tell

341
00:15:49,480 --> 00:15:52,440
Speaker 5: lies and women tell the truth. I've realized and I've

342
00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:54,880
Speaker 5: seen it happen over the last almost twenty years of

343
00:15:54,920 --> 00:16:00,280
Speaker 5: my career of men in particularly saying, well, a lot

344
00:16:00,280 --> 00:16:02,080
Speaker 5: of things, people say a lot of things, and all

345
00:16:02,120 --> 00:16:03,920
Speaker 5: of it is based on my sex and sexuality.

346
00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:06,760
Speaker 7: Is if that negates the truth, whoever I.

347
00:16:06,680 --> 00:16:07,840
Speaker 2: Want, whenever I want.

348
00:16:07,960 --> 00:16:09,800
Speaker 7: Still the truth, still the motherfucking truth.

349
00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:13,160
Speaker 5: Right. And you talked about this revolution. Here's the thing

350
00:16:13,200 --> 00:16:15,960
Speaker 5: people always said to me, like you were just before

351
00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:19,320
Speaker 5: your time. Because two thousand and five I had police

352
00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:23,320
Speaker 5: escorts to every signing. I had people threatened to kill

353
00:16:23,360 --> 00:16:28,360
Speaker 5: me at signings. I had armed police guards traveling with

354
00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:29,440
Speaker 5: me through the country.

355
00:16:30,200 --> 00:16:33,840
Speaker 2: I was shamed and mocked and.

356
00:16:34,360 --> 00:16:37,960
Speaker 5: Threatened four years, and I had a lot of the

357
00:16:38,040 --> 00:16:43,520
Speaker 5: world beating me down on a regular basis, and they still.

358
00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:47,920
Speaker 2: And they still couldn't kill me.

359
00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:53,600
Speaker 5: And I thank my mother for that, because my mother

360
00:16:53,720 --> 00:16:55,520
Speaker 5: was the first person who called me a whore.

361
00:16:56,320 --> 00:16:58,640
Speaker 2: You ask me how I'm able to stand in my truth.

362
00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:01,800
Speaker 5: Something happens to little girl when she is labeled a

363
00:17:01,840 --> 00:17:05,240
Speaker 5: whore at seven eight just for hanging out with boys.

364
00:17:05,680 --> 00:17:07,159
Speaker 2: I was a tomboy, So I don't know.

365
00:17:07,119 --> 00:17:08,439
Speaker 7: How to do makeup, and I'm like, how do I

366
00:17:08,480 --> 00:17:08,960
Speaker 7: do my makeup?

367
00:17:09,840 --> 00:17:12,160
Speaker 3: I just gave Elizabeth a beauty blender tutorial in the bathroom.

368
00:17:12,280 --> 00:17:13,639
Speaker 3: We should have instagrammed it now.

369
00:17:13,720 --> 00:17:16,120
Speaker 4: I thought it was perfect. Your makeup looks beautiful.

370
00:17:16,240 --> 00:17:18,840
Speaker 7: Thank you, thank you for it because the blender made

371
00:17:18,840 --> 00:17:19,160
Speaker 7: it great.

372
00:17:19,200 --> 00:17:20,960
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh shit, I didn't want to.

373
00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:22,320
Speaker 5: I have no idea how to do my makeup. I'm

374
00:17:22,359 --> 00:17:24,000
Speaker 5: just learning how to do these things. I didn't have

375
00:17:24,040 --> 00:17:26,960
Speaker 5: girlfriends growing up. I only had guy friends. My mother

376
00:17:27,560 --> 00:17:30,359
Speaker 5: was a first person who degraded me, and so I

377
00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:33,960
Speaker 5: was built in the degradation. So by the time the

378
00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:39,639
Speaker 5: world degraded me, it didn't fucking matter. If your mother

379
00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:43,000
Speaker 5: hates you, it doesn't matter if anybody else hates you.

380
00:17:43,640 --> 00:17:47,520
Speaker 5: If you were kidnapped and raped at thirteen and lost

381
00:17:47,520 --> 00:17:52,080
Speaker 5: your sense of sexual power and the power of choice

382
00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:55,399
Speaker 5: at thirteen, like that's what happened to me. It doesn't

383
00:17:55,440 --> 00:17:58,760
Speaker 5: matter what people say about your sex anymore. None of

384
00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:05,320
Speaker 5: that shit matters to the people who have been traumatized, abused, raped, abandoned, forgotten,

385
00:18:05,720 --> 00:18:08,000
Speaker 5: And a lot of black women have by some of

386
00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:11,200
Speaker 5: the people closest to them, by their uncles, by their

387
00:18:11,359 --> 00:18:15,320
Speaker 5: father's friends, by the neighborhood boys. And we are told

388
00:18:15,400 --> 00:18:18,120
Speaker 5: to be silent, to keep your business out of the street.

389
00:18:18,520 --> 00:18:21,320
Speaker 5: How did I How did I move forward with this?

390
00:18:22,520 --> 00:18:25,760
Speaker 5: I was born into it. I don't know anything different.

391
00:18:26,480 --> 00:18:29,280
Speaker 5: It may have been more jarring to me if I

392
00:18:29,320 --> 00:18:32,880
Speaker 5: had come from a different life and then came into

393
00:18:32,880 --> 00:18:35,080
Speaker 5: my adulthood to find degradation waiting for me.

394
00:18:35,280 --> 00:18:37,280
Speaker 2: But I was born into it.

395
00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:41,639
Speaker 5: I was born into suffering and pain and all those things.

396
00:18:42,000 --> 00:18:44,359
Speaker 2: So not that I didn't phaze me, because it did.

397
00:18:44,520 --> 00:18:46,320
Speaker 5: It did chip away at me over time, But I've

398
00:18:46,320 --> 00:18:48,200
Speaker 5: been being chipped away at since I was a little girl.

399
00:18:48,440 --> 00:18:51,760
Speaker 2: It wasn't the world that made me hide. It was everything.

400
00:18:51,960 --> 00:18:54,440
Speaker 5: It was for the years that I've been gone, the

401
00:18:54,520 --> 00:18:56,439
Speaker 5: years that you were looking for me, you couldn't find me.

402
00:18:57,000 --> 00:18:59,000
Speaker 5: It's because I had to heal. In order for me

403
00:18:59,040 --> 00:19:00,840
Speaker 5: to heal, I had to get away away from everything

404
00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:04,760
Speaker 5: and everybody. I'm able to come back into this space

405
00:19:04,880 --> 00:19:08,760
Speaker 5: now and talk about this revolution, and I wasn't before

406
00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:13,960
Speaker 5: my time. You guys were late to the revolution. I've

407
00:19:14,000 --> 00:19:17,480
Speaker 5: been here, women before me have been here. My mother's generation.

408
00:19:18,119 --> 00:19:21,040
Speaker 5: The sexual revolution started happening in the late sixties early seventies.

409
00:19:21,080 --> 00:19:25,760
Speaker 5: I was born seventy eight. My mother was ten when

410
00:19:25,760 --> 00:19:28,919
Speaker 5: the revolution started. She was eighteen when she had me.

411
00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:33,440
Speaker 5: I was in my twenties when I joined. It's twenty

412
00:19:33,520 --> 00:19:36,400
Speaker 5: years later. I'm in my forties. Now. You guys are

413
00:19:36,480 --> 00:19:38,200
Speaker 5: just coming on. Some of the people from back then

414
00:19:38,640 --> 00:19:40,719
Speaker 5: are just coming on. People in their forties are just

415
00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:44,439
Speaker 5: coming on. Because when I came out, people were still

416
00:19:44,760 --> 00:19:51,040
Speaker 5: protecting men. People were still protecting predatory men. I'd never

417
00:19:51,040 --> 00:19:55,680
Speaker 5: seen so many women protect predatory men. It was embarrassing,

418
00:19:56,520 --> 00:20:00,680
Speaker 5: it was shameful. I kept going, and I was able

419
00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:06,480
Speaker 5: to keep going because my mother slapped a man. Because

420
00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:10,840
Speaker 5: my grandmother had seven kids by however, many different men, and.

421
00:20:10,720 --> 00:20:12,960
Speaker 2: She was labeled the whore. But she raised all.

422
00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:15,119
Speaker 5: Her grandkids, and she put food on the table, and

423
00:20:15,119 --> 00:20:17,440
Speaker 5: she didn't give a fuck when nobody said about her.

424
00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:21,119
Speaker 5: I kept going because I come from the kind of

425
00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:24,640
Speaker 5: woman who doesn't give a shit from strong island stock

426
00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:26,320
Speaker 5: and we don't give a fuck when nobody say, because

427
00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:27,920
Speaker 5: we're on a fucking island, and who gives a shit?

428
00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:32,080
Speaker 5: We're never getting off this bitch. I still have that mentality.

429
00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:36,200
Speaker 5: I just want to say to YouTube, welcome.

430
00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:38,600
Speaker 6: Wow.

431
00:20:38,720 --> 00:20:41,600
Speaker 2: I've never been so happy to be welcomed anywhere by anyone.

432
00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:46,040
Speaker 2: My mother fucking fucking welcome. I know happy. This is videotape.

433
00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:48,560
Speaker 2: I need more fucking allies. Where the fuck were you?

434
00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:52,000
Speaker 2: Fifteen years ago? Out here by myself, I.

435
00:20:52,000 --> 00:20:54,840
Speaker 5: Was next steps and next steps and next steps. I'm

436
00:20:54,840 --> 00:20:56,880
Speaker 5: gonna do this, and then what's gonna happen. I'm gonna

437
00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:59,399
Speaker 5: say this, and then what's gonna happen. I'm going to

438
00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:01,439
Speaker 5: make this, and then what's going to happen to me,

439
00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:03,719
Speaker 5: to the people involved, what's going to happen?

440
00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:05,440
Speaker 2: And some of that is going to be really good.

441
00:21:05,680 --> 00:21:07,399
Speaker 5: So if it's not going to be good, you gotta

442
00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:10,479
Speaker 5: go down both those rabbit holes and then make your

443
00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:14,080
Speaker 5: decision based on that. When I started asking myself and

444
00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:16,800
Speaker 5: then what I started making better decisions.

445
00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:20,080
Speaker 2: I started being a good mom who made better.

446
00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:23,960
Speaker 5: Choices because I was asking myself Okay, So if you

447
00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:26,080
Speaker 5: sign this deal, then what's going to happen? If you

448
00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:30,360
Speaker 5: continue on with this situation, then what's going to happen.

449
00:21:30,400 --> 00:21:34,920
Speaker 5: You have to think about all the things, all the scenarios.

450
00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:35,960
Speaker 2: You know, how people are.

451
00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:39,200
Speaker 5: You've been on this earth long enough to understand that psychologically,

452
00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:41,240
Speaker 5: people only have three or four different personalities.

453
00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:42,760
Speaker 2: Things can only go a couple of ways.

454
00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:47,560
Speaker 5: The brain is infinite, yes, but also it's also finite

455
00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:49,280
Speaker 5: in a way, and that's why it can be studied

456
00:21:49,320 --> 00:21:51,680
Speaker 5: because the brain doesn't vary.

457
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:54,080
Speaker 7: A whole lot, which is why psychology can be studied.

458
00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:56,119
Speaker 5: The only things that can't be studied are the things

459
00:21:56,200 --> 00:22:00,720
Speaker 5: that are really truly infinite, things that have no pattern.

460
00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:03,919
Speaker 2: Right. The brain is one of those things.

461
00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:06,160
Speaker 5: Brains have patterns, which is why they can be studied,

462
00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:07,960
Speaker 5: which is why we have psychologists, and they can figure

463
00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:10,520
Speaker 5: things out because the brain works a certain way and.

464
00:22:10,560 --> 00:22:12,960
Speaker 7: Some of us use it differently, but that's already.

465
00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:15,320
Speaker 2: Been figured out. Right. So because I understand now that

466
00:22:15,359 --> 00:22:17,440
Speaker 2: the brain is people.

467
00:22:17,240 --> 00:22:19,199
Speaker 5: Only work a certain number of ways, then I can

468
00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:20,840
Speaker 5: figure out how you're going to react to something that

469
00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:22,520
Speaker 5: I'm gonna say. So I'm gonna say, Okay, well, if

470
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,239
Speaker 5: I say this to if I say this to her,

471
00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:25,880
Speaker 5: if I say if I sit down with these girls

472
00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:28,560
Speaker 5: and I say this, They're probably.

473
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 2: Gonna say this and it what's gonna happen after that?

474
00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:33,760
Speaker 5: Or they might say this and then what's gonna happen

475
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:37,240
Speaker 5: for that. I started thinking about this through every facet

476
00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:40,920
Speaker 5: of my life. It changed the way I saw myself

477
00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:43,320
Speaker 5: in situations, and it changed the way I made decisions.

478
00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:46,159
Speaker 5: So it has become kind of a daily mantra for

479
00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:48,679
Speaker 5: me before I.

480
00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:52,160
Speaker 2: Pull triggers, because I love it. Used to it used

481
00:22:52,200 --> 00:22:55,119
Speaker 2: to be more impulsive, super impulsive.

482
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 1: Do you think had you had that epiphany earlier, like

483
00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:00,320
Speaker 1: it would have changed the trajectory of your life in

484
00:23:00,359 --> 00:23:02,320
Speaker 1: ways or do you think like it happened right at

485
00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:03,120
Speaker 1: the right time.

486
00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:04,920
Speaker 5: I think it would have changed. I think it's both.

487
00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:06,960
Speaker 5: I think it would have changed the trajectory of my life.

488
00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:08,520
Speaker 5: So I'm glad I didn't figure this out until I

489
00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 5: was older. I don't think that I would have had

490
00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:13,280
Speaker 5: as much fun or had as much success had I figured.

491
00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:13,640
Speaker 2: It out earlier.

492
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:16,200
Speaker 5: If I was so concerned about what was going to

493
00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:18,920
Speaker 5: happen next, I may have done certain things. And even

494
00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:21,480
Speaker 5: though I made decisions that were questionable. They led me

495
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:23,800
Speaker 5: to where I am now. So I'm grateful for those

496
00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:27,920
Speaker 5: because inside of all the mess is the message. You

497
00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:30,280
Speaker 5: know what I mean, And so, like you, gotta get

498
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:32,920
Speaker 5: into the mess. Sometimes you got to sit neck deep

499
00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:36,000
Speaker 5: and shit sometimes to figure it out. And because I'm

500
00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:38,119
Speaker 5: able to, because I did those things, I'm able to

501
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:40,600
Speaker 5: mentor and to help other women change their lives and

502
00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:43,720
Speaker 5: to speak the way that I speak now because I.

503
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:45,919
Speaker 2: Went through all that shit, so you can't.

504
00:23:46,359 --> 00:23:48,720
Speaker 5: There's nothing anyone can say to me now to make

505
00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:50,879
Speaker 5: me feel bad about the shit that I did before.

506
00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:53,040
Speaker 5: Because I didn't do that shit, I wouldn't be able

507
00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:54,679
Speaker 5: to tell you this shit, and I wouldn't be able to.

508
00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:55,679
Speaker 2: Save your fucking life.

509
00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:58,240
Speaker 5: I wouldn't be able to change your trajectory by telling

510
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:00,680
Speaker 5: you what I learned back then. Being in a fucking

511
00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:03,160
Speaker 5: time machine, I can go back twenty years and say,

512
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:04,920
Speaker 5: you know what I did that hold up, I did

513
00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:05,280
Speaker 5: that ship.

514
00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:07,280
Speaker 2: Don't let me save you save some time.

515
00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:09,239
Speaker 5: Make another bad decision, but now don't make this one

516
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:10,720
Speaker 5: because I made it, and I'm telling you right now

517
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:13,440
Speaker 5: this is not the decision. So and then what really

518
00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:16,480
Speaker 5: helped me in my mid thirties now into my forties,

519
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:18,440
Speaker 5: make better decisions.

520
00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:19,840
Speaker 2: I don't always make.

521
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:23,200
Speaker 5: Great decisions, but at least I think about it first.

522
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:26,920
Speaker 2: You consciously make the bad choice. Yeah, yes, yeah, yeah, welcome.

523
00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:27,879
Speaker 4: Now I'm doing some functions.

524
00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:30,320
Speaker 2: Well yeah, yeah, no, for sure, I gotta do a

525
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:32,280
Speaker 2: little function this week, just to balance it out. A

526
00:24:32,320 --> 00:24:34,439
Speaker 2: little bit of function, A little bit of it. I

527
00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:36,680
Speaker 2: did little yeah, I away, I was just frigle a

528
00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:39,400
Speaker 2: little function in there. Where's the fun?

529
00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:40,560
Speaker 6: Right?

530
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 2: All right? What would life be if we just did

531
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:43,920
Speaker 2: good ship all the time?

532
00:24:43,960 --> 00:24:44,320
Speaker 6: All right?

533
00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 1: Well, that's the whole existence of good mom's bad choices.

534
00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 1: It's like, sometimes the bad choice is not bad. It's

535
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:52,680
Speaker 1: actually the bad choices lead to really good stories.

536
00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:55,399
Speaker 2: So oh no, don't look at me.

537
00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 6: I don't do it.

538
00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:02,399
Speaker 2: The segue was go, okay, let's go.

539
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:03,080
Speaker 6: No.

540
00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:05,359
Speaker 4: I was just I mean, there was no seguey. I mean,

541
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 4: unless you got something to share.

542
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm sure you got a lot to share it,

543
00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:09,679
Speaker 3: but I mean I do though, I really do have

544
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:12,040
Speaker 3: so much to share, but I'll keep it to myself.

545
00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 2: Are you like I'm like one of those people. I

546
00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:20,040
Speaker 2: did some function last night, and I know congratulations a girl,

547
00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:23,959
Speaker 2: And I was like, why can't I say no? I

548
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:25,479
Speaker 2: was with Ashley. She's like, you know, you don't have

549
00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:28,040
Speaker 2: to do this. I was like, I know if I

550
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:32,400
Speaker 2: don't go, I'll never know. See. She was like, are

551
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:32,760
Speaker 2: you sure?

552
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:34,560
Speaker 1: I was like, I got it, and I was like driving,

553
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 1: like I don't need to go do this. Nope, gotta

554
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,560
Speaker 1: see though, Gotta must.

555
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:42,320
Speaker 2: Go do it. I'm like literally, I was like, what

556
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:43,320
Speaker 2: the fuck is wrong with me?

557
00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, why is my curiosity so crazy that I

558
00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 1: can't pass up?

559
00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:52,400
Speaker 2: Like a weird opportunity. It's like an opportunity you don't

560
00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:55,160
Speaker 2: want to tell us what it was. I absolutely am

561
00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:56,160
Speaker 2: not sure.

562
00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 7: Gitch didn't involve a dick?

563
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:09,399
Speaker 2: Oh did it? Oh bitch? Girl girl girl? Oh my god. Okay,

564
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:11,160
Speaker 2: So I feel like, now you have to say something.

565
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:13,960
Speaker 2: I don't know if I could tell anybody. I'm Elizabeth here.

566
00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 4: You're not going to share girl?

567
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:18,680
Speaker 2: This is you know, I'm a crazy bitch. What a

568
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 2: let down?

569
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:19,439
Speaker 5: This?

570
00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:19,879
Speaker 6: I know.

571
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to tell you guys off scar off camera.

572
00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:27,200
Speaker 1: I don't have to spell this tea later because this

573
00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 1: is some ship that I was like, did I have

574
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 1: to do that?

575
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:34,720
Speaker 2: Should I tell that your you learn something. I learned

576
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 2: that I don't need to do that again.

577
00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:39,960
Speaker 1: Really, I really just wanted to go see what was

578
00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 1: going on over there. And then I was like, okay, okay,

579
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,159
Speaker 1: well got it.

580
00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:49,000
Speaker 5: Bye oh shit, yeah, okay, so you learned what not

581
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:50,320
Speaker 5: to do, which is also a lesson.

582
00:26:50,400 --> 00:26:51,800
Speaker 1: Well, I mean I just had to go like see

583
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:53,200
Speaker 1: what's going on over there to know, like I don't

584
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:53,880
Speaker 1: need to do this again.

585
00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:56,160
Speaker 2: I'm good. Okay, good, that's important.

586
00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 1: I like to do shit just to do it, and

587
00:26:57,640 --> 00:26:59,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, I did it. I can tell my

588
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:00,280
Speaker 1: two friends.

589
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:01,560
Speaker 2: Get off the bucket list. Yeah, check it out. I

590
00:27:01,560 --> 00:27:03,960
Speaker 2: did it. Yeah, I've done some shit. I'm like, okay,

591
00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:04,840
Speaker 2: I'm not mad at that.

592
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 7: You have to figure out where your boundaries are.

593
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 5: And in order for you to figure out where your

594
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 5: boundaries are, you've got to push against them, right, And they're.

595
00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:13,120
Speaker 7: Like, oh oh yeah, like you know, you.

596
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:15,920
Speaker 5: Know how many drinks you can have because you've one

597
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:19,600
Speaker 5: time had too many, Like seventeen is too many, so

598
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 5: I need to like stop.

599
00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:23,239
Speaker 7: It at like three, you know, I mean, because you

600
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:24,440
Speaker 7: push the boundary.

601
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 2: Well, I'm a boundary by the fucking pressure Okay. Well,

602
00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 2: it's just called discovery. It's discovery.

603
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:30,320
Speaker 4: It's a discovery phase.

604
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:34,000
Speaker 2: I met, I'll be discovering my whole life. Yeah, I

605
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 2: don't mind being a discovery bitch like IM. That's new. Huh.

606
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 2: I'll try. Okay, I'll see what happens.

607
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:44,359
Speaker 7: I hope we get sponsored by the Discovery.

608
00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:46,200
Speaker 2: I don't think that's gonna happen. But that very bitch,

609
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 2: Discovery bitch. You heard it here first, I'm the Discovery bitch.

610
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 2: Just Discovery channel. Still you need done, something uncovered? Is

611
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:56,920
Speaker 2: your bitch. I'm fresh on the scene, and it is litch.

612
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I feel like I have to tell.

613
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 2: I feel like you have to Was it a big dick?

614
00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:04,320
Speaker 5: It?

615
00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 2: Was it lucky? Was it crooked? Oh god? Okay, well

616
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:11,199
Speaker 2: this is not gonna be a clip. Okay, was it sinky?

617
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,480
Speaker 2: So David, this is not a clip. Okay.

618
00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 1: So I have a fuck buddy. Oh my god, it's

619
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:19,240
Speaker 1: not that big of a deal. Let me relax.

620
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:19,480
Speaker 2: Okay.

621
00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:22,439
Speaker 1: So I have a fuck buddy who is really fucking fine,

622
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:24,520
Speaker 1: and I only see him at night.

623
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 2: He's literally a fuck buddy.

624
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 1: We like kind of shoot the ship, but mostly we fuck.

625
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:28,159
Speaker 2: You know.

626
00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 1: Wow, She's just fucking and it's great. It's great fucking.

627
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:34,359
Speaker 1: So it's interesting because you know, you think you's have

628
00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:35,680
Speaker 1: a connection with people.

629
00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 2: And like not really.

630
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:41,360
Speaker 1: You know, when you're a grown ass woman and you

631
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:44,680
Speaker 1: just actively decide that you're gonna fuck somebody and it's

632
00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 1: like it's an exchange.

633
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 2: Sometimes it's fine to just do that.

634
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:49,240
Speaker 1: So this has been my fuck buddy for like the

635
00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 1: last six months, five months. And I picked him up

636
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 1: from a friend. It was like her fuck friend, and

637
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 1: then she just like passed him over. And you know,

638
00:28:57,440 --> 00:28:59,120
Speaker 1: I get to see him when i'm yeah, when I'm

639
00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:01,000
Speaker 1: in town, whatever, when I have time and I have

640
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 1: the energy. So he's trans amorous. He likes trans women. Okay,

641
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 1: so he's like and you know, I really I kind

642
00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:13,280
Speaker 1: of had a hint, but like I respected that. He

643
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 1: told me, you know, I don't like a lying ass

644
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:17,240
Speaker 1: anybody like I like people who come as they are,

645
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:19,960
Speaker 1: and that actually makes me drawn to people, like, huh,

646
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:22,640
Speaker 1: A lot of niggas wouldn't admit this, but you are

647
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:24,800
Speaker 1: being honest about who you are. So I'm like intrigued

648
00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 1: and actually more attracted to you. So he's discussed it,

649
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:30,479
Speaker 1: like we've discussed this with me, you know, for and

650
00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 1: we've discussed it, and like last night he was like, well,

651
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:35,400
Speaker 1: first of all, I've been trying to curate a male

652
00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 1: male female for Mother's Day. I'm trying to give to myself.

653
00:29:38,040 --> 00:29:39,880
Speaker 1: So I tried to curate that last night, but like

654
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 1: just some some wires got crossed, so one of the

655
00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 1: niggas didn't come. So this nigga is like, oh, I

656
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 1: want He's like, I want you to meet that girl

657
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:52,880
Speaker 1: I was talking about, and I was like, oh, I'm like,

658
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:55,680
Speaker 1: oh okay, and then I was like about to go home,

659
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:57,080
Speaker 1: but I was like, I need to see what they're

660
00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:57,840
Speaker 1: doing over there.

661
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 4: And you know before that the girl was trans. Yes, okay,

662
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 4: got it.

663
00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 2: I knew she was trans.

664
00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:05,600
Speaker 1: And I went and I'm not like, that's not my

665
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: porn category of choice.

666
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 2: I'm gonna keep it.

667
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:10,280
Speaker 7: Really, I love that porn can really I do.

668
00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 1: I don't like sometimes it confuses my brain and I'm

669
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 1: like intrigued by it, but I don't know if I'm

670
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,240
Speaker 1: turned on, even though I'm turned on by most things. Anyway,

671
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 1: he told me, so, you know, a bitch had to

672
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:20,000
Speaker 1: go see for herself.

673
00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 2: I need to go see and of course they were mine,

674
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 2: like what does she mean to me?

675
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:23,560
Speaker 6: You know?

676
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:26,120
Speaker 1: But that's like in any three sum situation, bitches could

677
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:27,840
Speaker 1: be weird. But I said, you know what, I gotta

678
00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 1: get over here and see this shit in person.

679
00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:32,920
Speaker 2: Yeah right. I was like, I'm invited. I gotta go.

680
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:37,520
Speaker 2: I gotta go, I gotta go all the way. I

681
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:39,640
Speaker 2: was like, damn, I'm like okay, So I went. I

682
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:40,280
Speaker 2: went to my crib.

683
00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:44,640
Speaker 1: I gathered a few things, supplies, supplies.

684
00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:46,680
Speaker 2: We'll get into that later, prepining that, okay.

685
00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 1: The supply list of a three summer. So I picked

686
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:50,520
Speaker 1: up a few supplies and then I went over there.

687
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 1: And when I got there, I was the first one there,

688
00:30:52,840 --> 00:30:53,720
Speaker 1: which I was.

689
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:55,360
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, whatever.

690
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,400
Speaker 1: So we started like to fuck around, and then she

691
00:30:58,480 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 1: knocked on the door, and I could tell by his

692
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:02,200
Speaker 1: re action that maybe we weren't supposed to suck around already.

693
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:03,840
Speaker 1: So I was like, let me put my skirt back,

694
00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:06,239
Speaker 1: so I was like shuffled a little bit. So then

695
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:10,800
Speaker 1: she comes in and she was cool and shit, and

696
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:13,120
Speaker 1: I was just like, I'm a very like chill bitch,

697
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:16,000
Speaker 1: Like I'm the neutralizer of any threesome. Honestly, That's why

698
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 1: people are always like, come for me, but I'm putting

699
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 1: down boundaries because.

700
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:22,720
Speaker 4: I like about to hit your dams.

701
00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:25,960
Speaker 2: All right, so right now, don't hit my thing. Don't

702
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,160
Speaker 2: unless you're fine, Like please, unless you're fine.

703
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:32,280
Speaker 5: Oh my god, I say that, block your DMS right now,

704
00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:35,440
Speaker 5: shut it down, Shut it down.

705
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:38,720
Speaker 2: I am the threesome neutralizer. So I was like, hey, girls,

706
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 2: Discovery bitch.

707
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:43,480
Speaker 1: And already god and b to the podcast.

708
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:48,440
Speaker 2: Whoa whoa. So she gets there and she's like talking

709
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:55,720
Speaker 2: a lot. I love it here. I'm like, okay, okay, girl.

710
00:31:56,160 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 2: So then she's continued I hate me sometimes.

711
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm telling nobody, you get here next day,

712
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:04,959
Speaker 1: let me tell you.

713
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:07,520
Speaker 2: So then she comes and.

714
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:11,440
Speaker 1: So y'all are gonna have to go to Patreon to

715
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 1: hear the rest of the story because y'all are going

716
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:16,640
Speaker 1: to be all in my business for the free. So

717
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: go to patreon dot com, backslash good Mom's Bad Choices,

718
00:32:20,520 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 1: and pick the Past your Bedtime tier. Trust me, this

719
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:26,840
Speaker 1: story is a past your bedtime story. Don't forget to

720
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:30,600
Speaker 1: check out part two of this episode because it keeps

721
00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:33,280
Speaker 1: getting better and better and better.

722
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:57,840
Speaker 6: Bye.

723
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 1: A while I was saying, live on a small as

724
00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 1: the siding the seld