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Speaker 1: I see what you did there? Okay, okay, okay. So

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Speaker 1: this is the last week or the last Friday in

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Speaker 3: The story of this podcast. We can't process time. Literally,

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Speaker 3: And you and I actually talk about this one a lot.

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Speaker 2: like it was too early, and I was like, well,

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Speaker 2: where can I place this way? And now I've lost

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Speaker 2: the point. I forget what I was going to say.

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Speaker 2: But anyway, I mean it obviously wasn't that important. But yeah,

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Speaker 2: I mean I think like I'm personally getting better about it,

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Speaker 2: and I know that I need to eat be even

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Speaker 2: better about it. And I also too want to be

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Speaker 2: better about like picking up the phone and calling someone

445
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Speaker 2: because I feel like, you know, we have this false

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Speaker 2: sense of connection too, because we're seeing what each other's

447
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Speaker 2: doing on Instagram or we're texting each other like quick

448
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Speaker 2: little notes, and it's like, I don't know, like I

449
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Speaker 2: love when my phone rings and it's someone I haven't

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Speaker 2: spoken to him for Oh yeah, It's like the best

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Speaker 2: feeling in the world. It's like I feel like it's

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Speaker 2: the modern day version of writing someone a letter, you know.

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Speaker 2: Can you remember like when all you had was the

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Speaker 2: phone on the wall and there was like what.

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Speaker 1: And then yeah, your mom would pick You're like mom,

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Speaker 1: are you on the line?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Get off?

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Speaker 3: Or you got home, and like I would run to

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Speaker 3: the answering machine the first thing we ran in the door.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I was like, did anybody call?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, talking on the phone was so fun when you

462
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Speaker 3: were younger. I actually enjoy a good phone call too,

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Speaker 3: And for me, it really helps me stay out of

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Speaker 3: my head, right, like because even with the texting, you

465
00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:57,960
Speaker 3: can be doing a million other things, so you're not

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Speaker 3: as fully present right to when you're actually it is.

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Speaker 3: It's true connect with people. So don't hide in your

468
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Speaker 3: phone by isola like through isolation, but pick.

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Speaker 1: Up your phone.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a useful tool to stay connected.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I if you have like long car rides, it's a

473
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Speaker 2: great time to call people because not only do you

474
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Speaker 2: get to catch up, it makes time fly by, because I, yeah,

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Speaker 2: when I drive to see my parents, it takes twelve

476
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Speaker 2: hours so long, and I'll get on the phone with

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Speaker 2: a friend from high school and talk for two hours. Yeah,

478
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Speaker 2: and it's like next thing, I know, I'm in Virginia. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I did it the other day and I cleaned my

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Speaker 3: closet out and it was I hate doing that, and

481
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Speaker 3: so it was great because I wasn't like paying full

482
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Speaker 3: attention to what I was doing because I was enjoying

483
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Speaker 3: the conversation and so it just really like helped me

484
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Speaker 3: do a task that I've been putting off.

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Speaker 2: A love. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: The other time I do it is when I go

487
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Speaker 3: on walks yea like because I just for me, Like

488
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Speaker 3: walking has become this new form of therapy and getting

489
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Speaker 3: vitamin D and being outside and not just being cooped

490
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Speaker 3: up at my computer all day. But it's also like, Okay,

491
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Speaker 3: if I have the time and I don't need to

492
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Speaker 3: like sometimes I have to listen to stuff for work

493
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Speaker 3: or whatever, but like, this is a great time, even

494
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Speaker 3: if it's twenty minutes. It's just like check in on somebody,

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Speaker 3: you know, right, That's actually the six point is stay

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Speaker 3: in touch.

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Speaker 2: Stay in touch. Yeah, yeah, okay, good, good to see you.

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Speaker 3: So we did that one too. That was a five

499
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Speaker 3: and six for y'all. Yeah, five and six silence amazing. Anyway,

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Speaker 3: I just always think it's, like you said at the

501
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Speaker 3: beginning of the podcast, it's like these things that it

502
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:37,640
Speaker 3: feels ridiculous to say out loud on most like these

503
00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:40,159
Speaker 3: are the points we're making in the podcast, but I

504
00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:43,399
Speaker 3: almost need to be reminded, oh yeah, like that is

505
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Speaker 3: a part of something I should build into my day

506
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Speaker 3: or something I should think about when I'm doing task

507
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Speaker 3: like cleaning the house, and I don't feel like it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I mean, in fact, my mother started to call, like

510
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Speaker 2: right as we were about to start recording, and I

511
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Speaker 2: was like, I should answer that, but no, I'm gonna

512
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Speaker 2: do what I'm here to do yeah, and then I'll

513
00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:04,480
Speaker 2: call her all the way home. Yeah, you know in

514
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Speaker 2: fact too. This was another thing that we were talking

515
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Speaker 2: about before we started recording. Was I thought, I have

516
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Speaker 2: my tax appointment today. Yes, I know it's late. I

517
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:14,720
Speaker 2: applied for an extension and I put it in my

518
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Speaker 2: calendar wrong. So we had scheduled a record at seven pm,

519
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Speaker 2: and at like six fifteen, I was like, Hey, can

520
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Speaker 2: I just come over now or no? I actually said

521
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Speaker 2: do you want to do this remotely or do you

522
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Speaker 2: want to do it in person? And her response was, well,

523
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Speaker 2: it's always better in person, but if it's a pain, like,

524
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Speaker 2: we can do it. And I thought, you know what,

525
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Speaker 2: my word of the year was purpose because I want

526
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Speaker 2: to be purposeful about things. So I was like, I'm

527
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Speaker 2: going to run in the house, feed the dog. And

528
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Speaker 2: I came over here. She was like, I thought you

529
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Speaker 2: had a tax appointment. I shook. It was so fast.

530
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Speaker 2: I was like I got the wrong.

531
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Speaker 3: Day because you were like it's usually pretty quick, and

532
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Speaker 3: I was like fifteen quick, Like I was a couldn't process.

533
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Speaker 1: I was so shook. Well it worked out.

534
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Speaker 3: I'm glad you came so we could connect. Yes, actually,

535
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Speaker 3: are you the first human I've seen today.

536
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to think through.

537
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Speaker 2: That you had to have got a delivery.

538
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Speaker 1: Well I got a delivery. I did have.

539
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Speaker 3: I whan I went to the drive like ran errands,

540
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Speaker 3: but like people that you know that I know. Yeah,

541
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Speaker 3: so see this is important. I actually made a point.

542
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Speaker 3: I'm like, this was a during maybe it was after COVID,

543
00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 3: but it was still kind of weird, and I was like,

544
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Speaker 3: I still have to like connect with a human that

545
00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 3: I'm close to once a day.

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Speaker 2: Right, Well, you're wearing slippers, so I don't think that

547
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Speaker 2: you've like, well I changed. I kind of want to

548
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Speaker 2: picture you like.

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Speaker 3: No, but I did wear these sweatpants and was but

550
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Speaker 3: I did also get dressed today. It's just like sometimes

551
00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:35,879
Speaker 3: you just got to go back to the sweats, you know.

552
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Speaker 3: All Right, Well, we will be back next month, probably

553
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Speaker 3: a little more structured.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for sticking with us this month.

555
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Speaker 3: I feel like everyone here was really feeling that and

556
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Speaker 3: so we were just trying to navigate it, which I

557
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Speaker 3: think after the pandemic we just all had to learn,

558
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 3: like we're just navigating as we go. So glad you

559
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Speaker 3: guys are here. You can always hit us up at

560
00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 3: the edge at velvet edge dot com. On Insta, I'm

561
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Speaker 3: at Velvet.

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Speaker 2: Edge, Chip, I'm at Chip Doors c H I P

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Speaker 2: d O R S c H GAS.

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Speaker 3: You guys are going into the weekends and you're living

565
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Speaker 3: on the edge. I hope you always remember too bad casual.

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Speaker 2: Bye.