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Speaker 1: this one right here, right now.

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Speaker 2: Muggle up, hold on type, We got it before you

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Speaker 2: Here it is Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Thank you nephew. Subject she brings nothing to the table.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm sixty eight years old and I'm

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Speaker 1: still raising a forty three.

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Speaker 3: Year old daughter.

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Speaker 1: My wife and I let her move in with us

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Speaker 1: when she got pregnant six years ago, and we won't

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Speaker 1: let her move out until she feels like she can

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Speaker 1: handle herself and her child by herself. She has always

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Speaker 1: been bad with money and she doesn't like to work.

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Speaker 1: She's had at least ten jobs in the last ten years,

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Speaker 1: and it is never her fault when she's let go.

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Speaker 3: It's always someone else's fault.

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Speaker 1: She's had a few affairs with her coworkers, and each

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Speaker 1: one of them was either marry or had a living girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: I sat my daughter down years ago before she turned forty,

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Speaker 1: and I told her that she was aging out of

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Speaker 1: the quote kept woman age range. See, she didn't know that.

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Speaker 1: My wife and I knew what she had been doing

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Speaker 1: for years. She wasn't selling herself, but she was getting

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Speaker 1: money in return for being arm candy or good in bed.

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Speaker 1: I hate to say it, but she had a reputation

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Speaker 1: when she was younger for only dating men with nice

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Speaker 1: cars and lots of cash.

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Speaker 3: I get it because that's how I met her mother.

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Speaker 1: My wife didn't bring anything to the table, but she

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Speaker 1: was beautiful and she had one of the best bodies

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Speaker 1: I had ever seen. I almost went broke when I

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Speaker 1: met her. Now that my daughter is older, I want

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Speaker 1: her to realize that it's close to impossible that she

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Speaker 1: will find a man her age that will spoil her.

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Speaker 1: I might be wrong, but it seems like men nowadays

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Speaker 1: want a woman that is bringing something to the table,

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Speaker 1: so to speak. My wife and I have been married

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Speaker 1: for almost forty five years. Some advice on how to

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Speaker 1: convince our daughter to stop waiting for a rich king

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Speaker 1: to take care of her. Should we let her go

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Speaker 1: figure it out on her own? Well, you said it

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Speaker 1: in this very last sentence. Let her go figure it

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Speaker 1: out on her own. She's old enough to be doing

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Speaker 1: just that. You guys got to stop enabling her.

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Speaker 3: You have to.

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Speaker 1: Your daughter has absolutely no incentive, no reason to stop

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Speaker 1: doing what she's doing. Why because she knows that mom

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Speaker 1: and dad will always come to her rescue and bail

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Speaker 1: her out. Because that's what you guys have been doing.

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Speaker 1: It's true. I mean, you've been proving that her whole life.

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Speaker 1: Your forty three year old grown daughter has no idea

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Speaker 1: what it takes to actually have to work and say

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Speaker 1: to pay for the things she wants, because you guys

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Speaker 1: haven't allowed her to do that. I'm glad you set

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Speaker 1: her down a few years ago and had a talk

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Speaker 1: with her, but she still didn't listen. She's still doing

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Speaker 1: the same things. And how crazy is it that you

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Speaker 1: her father can say that she got her men and

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Speaker 1: their money because she was good in bed. I think

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Speaker 1: that's too much information to know.

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Speaker 3: About your child.

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Speaker 1: Tell her you know you'll help her, help her find

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Speaker 1: some help with her kid, with your grandchild. But her

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Speaker 1: free ride is over and she's got to get a

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Speaker 1: job and keep it so she can take care of

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Speaker 1: herself and her daughter.

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Speaker 4: Steve, this letter has a lot of statements in it

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Speaker 4: that if you type the statements, if you type this

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Speaker 4: letter to us or emailed it to us, you know

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Speaker 4: you had to have read some of this. The subject

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Speaker 4: is she brings nothing to the table. Okay, that right

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Speaker 4: there alone. Let's just start with the subject. Okay, and

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Speaker 4: now here we go. You're sixty eight years old and

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Speaker 4: you're raising a forty three year old daughter.

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Speaker 2: Let's pump the brakes right there.

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Speaker 5: You're still raising a forty three year old person, boy, girl,

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Speaker 5: anybody you're still raising a forty three year old at

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Speaker 4: You should be fully grown at this point. Oh, you'll

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Speaker 4: still have a few lessons to learn, but with a child,

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Speaker 4: you are fully grown. Once you have a child, you

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Speaker 4: got to grow up right quick because it's on you period.

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Speaker 4: So we just did. We got two statements. Then you

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Speaker 4: let her move in with y'all when she got pregnant

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Speaker 4: six years ago, and then you say you won't let

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Speaker 4: her move out until we feel like she can handle.

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Speaker 2: Herself and her child by herself.

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Speaker 4: Wait a minute, she forty three, How she can't handle

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Speaker 4: herself by herself? You know, look, and she ain't got

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Speaker 4: to because you all are enabling her. But now here's

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Speaker 4: another crazy ass statement. See, bruh, when you type this

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Speaker 4: letter to me, the statements that you were making, and

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Speaker 4: they come often and quick. In this letter, you said,

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Speaker 4: she's always been bad with money. I know a lot

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Speaker 4: of people still bad with money in they sixties. And

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Speaker 4: she doesn't like to work. Wait, hold way, amen, holtal oh,

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Speaker 4: hold thof. I got you don't like to work. I

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Speaker 4: understand that. I think everybody gets a little tired over

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Speaker 2: Even us. Even if you have a job that you enjoy,

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Speaker 2: you still get tired of going to it sometimes, don't you.

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Speaker 2: I got that. But the arching statement you're making is

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Speaker 2: she don't like to work.

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Speaker 4: Well, let me ask you what she do like? Do

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Speaker 4: she like groceries? Does she like how do she like transportation?

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Speaker 4: Does she like clothing? Do she like restaurants? How about

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Speaker 4: McDonald's fish sandwiches. I'm just trying to find something she

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Speaker 4: like because in order to acquire any of.

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Speaker 2: Those things, YO ask us to get a job or

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Speaker 2: else you don't get none of those dogs. So bruh,

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Speaker 2: I deal with the rest of it when I come back.

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Speaker 2: We only at the top of the letter. This is

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Speaker 2: a horrible lesson.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, hang on, Steve, hang on part two of your

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Speaker 1: responses coming up at twenty three minutes to have to

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Speaker 1: be our today's Strawberry letter. Subject she brings nothing to

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Speaker 1: the table. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 3: You're listening.

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Speaker 1: Morning Show, All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter.

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Speaker 3: The subject she brings to the table.

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Speaker 4: Okay, now quickly, we gonna get through this, because I

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Speaker 4: gotta get to the nuts and bolts of this letter.

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Speaker 4: This man is writing a letter with nothing but confusing

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Speaker 4: statements and statements where he already has the answer to

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Speaker 4: she brings nothing to the table. He's referring to his daughter.

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Speaker 4: He's sixty eight years old. He's raising a forty three

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Speaker 4: year old daughter. You should be done with that by now.

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Speaker 4: My wife and I let her moved in when she

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Speaker 4: got pregnant six years ago, and we won't let her

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Speaker 4: move out until she till we feel like she can

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Speaker 4: handle herself and her child by herself. Okay, that's crazy

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Speaker 4: that you can't handle yourself at forty three, and now

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Speaker 4: you done had this baby and you can't handle that either.

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Speaker 2: What do she handle? Okay?

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Speaker 4: She's always been bad with money, and she don't like

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Speaker 4: to work. Okay, that's crazy too, because most of the

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Speaker 4: stuff that you like requires that you work.

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Speaker 2: Groceries, housing, cars.

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Speaker 4: Restaurants, chicken, dressing up, shopping, this little stuff like that.

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Speaker 4: I like chicken, so probably need to have a job

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Speaker 4: so I can buy something, you know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 4: Just stuff like that. She's had at least ten jobs

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Speaker 4: in the last ten years, and she'd never worked out

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Speaker 4: with anybody because all her coworkers she blame it on them,

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Speaker 4: and she's either all and she's had men in her life,

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Speaker 4: but they've always been her coworkers and they was either

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Speaker 2: Living in girlfriend.

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Speaker 4: So this man sits his daughter down before she turned

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Speaker 4: forty and told her she was aging out of the

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Speaker 4: kept woman age range. See, she didn't know that. My

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Speaker 4: for years and she wasn't selling herself, but she was

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Speaker 2: Sir.

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Speaker 4: I know what you're trying not to say because it's

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Speaker 4: your child, so I ain't I got you, but we

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Speaker 4: know what's happening now that she was she's been you know,

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Speaker 4: using her goods and wares to get through life. You've

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Speaker 4: warned her that she's aging out, and then you said,

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Speaker 4: you hate to say it, but she had a reputation.

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Speaker 2: When she was younger.

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Speaker 4: Okay, dog, Look man, you're writing a lot of obvious

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Speaker 4: You know what the deal is. And she was only

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Speaker 4: dating men with nice cars and lots of cash. Now

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Speaker 4: here's the kicker for the whole letter. I get it,

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Speaker 4: because that's how I met her mother. This is the

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Speaker 4: whole kicker in this letter. My wife didn't bring anything

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Speaker 4: to the table. The title of your letter is she

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Speaker 4: brings nothing to the table. You say that's how you

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Speaker 4: the best bodies I've ever seen, almost when broke when

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Speaker 4: I want her to realize that it's close to impossible

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Speaker 4: spoil them. You know what to matter in this whole letter?

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Speaker 4: Right here, what example has her mother been? See this

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Speaker 4: is the part you didn't write in the letter. Sixty

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Speaker 4: eight year old dude, your daughter watched her mama. Your

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Speaker 4: daughter then read between the line. Your daughter know that's

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Speaker 4: how you got your wife. She know that because your

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Speaker 4: wife didn't bring nothing to the table. So I'm assuming

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Speaker 4: your daughter's a lot like your wife. I'm assuming she's

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Speaker 4: and stuff like that. That's all you need. And I

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Speaker 4: think she's just duplicated what she's seen her mother do

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Speaker 4: what I'm saying, but she did. She's very aware kids

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Speaker 4: And I'm just saying seemed to me like and I

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Speaker 4: think she's just duplicated your wife's behavior. So this is

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Speaker 4: really y'all's fault. Y'all raised her to be this way.

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Speaker 4: Your mama has probably her wife, your wife, her mother

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Speaker 4: has probably encouraged her to use her looks and beauty

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Speaker 4: and body to get what.

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Speaker 2: She wanted life. Well, okay, Steve Harvey, I think that'snet softy, But.

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Speaker 4: It seems nowadays that me and won't a woman that

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Speaker 4: and I have been married for almost forty five years,

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Speaker 4: so we need some advice on how to convince our

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Speaker 4: If ain't no rich king came and took you by now,

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Speaker 4: what you waiting on? You're not going to be anything

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Speaker 4: until you take care of yourself. The best way to

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Speaker 2: That's the best way to get it done. It's the

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Speaker 4: And see me and are the only ones who would

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Speaker 4: take a woman from nothing and give her everything.

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Speaker 2: You will never find a rich woman hardly ever.

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Speaker 4: Go get a nothing man and try to turn him

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Speaker 4: into something that never works, And you can ask any

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Speaker 4: of them that's tried.

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Speaker 2: You can date your background dancer if you want to.

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Speaker 2: But he was the dancer for the reason background. He

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Speaker 2: wouldn't even read.

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