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Speaker 1: It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you

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Speaker 1: it could be yours. You never know, Buckle Oppitt, hold

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Speaker 1: on tighte, we got a trout you here. It is

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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter, subject to goodness and mercy. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I've been married for four years, and I'm not the

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Speaker 1: kind of wife that snoops around to see if my

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Speaker 1: fact that he's talking to other women, and I pray

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Speaker 1: that his commitment to me can withstand temptations. I was

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Speaker 1: married before, and my ex husband and I are cordial

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Speaker 1: his ex girlfriends. But I think he may be sneaking

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Speaker 1: around with two of his exes because he has different

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Speaker 1: exes has Marvin Gay song Mercy Mercy Me as her

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Speaker 1: ring tone, and she said she saved his mercy in

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Speaker 1: his phone. Then he has a song touched Me Tease

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Speaker 1: Me by case as the other exes ring tone, and

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Speaker 1: she saved as goodness in his phone. I'm not proud

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Speaker 1: of how I found out about this, but I got

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Speaker 1: his best friend to spill the beans. When he came

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Speaker 1: but only after he told me that I'm the most

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Speaker 1: special lady my husband ever dated. I asked him about

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Speaker 1: the exes and this fool said, oh, Goodness and Mercy.

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Speaker 1: I laughed, and he kept talking and said that's what

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Speaker 1: my husband called them. That conversation led me snooping through

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Speaker 1: him until he gives me the reason to believe that

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Speaker 1: he's sneaking around on me. I think you already have

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Speaker 1: a reason and you know, I just got to ask you,

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Speaker 1: how much more proof do you need? I mean, do

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Speaker 1: they're doing. I think something is definitely going on. His

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Speaker 1: what your intuition is telling you. That's why you wrote

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Speaker 1: us that he's doing something with these women. And of

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Speaker 1: course this shouldn't be with the married man. Why is

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Speaker 1: he hiding their real names? Why do they have code

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Speaker 1: names on his phone? What's with the different soundtracks when

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Speaker 1: sneaking around going on something, and he's definitely given you

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Speaker 1: far as I'm concerned. Don't feel badly about that. If

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Speaker 1: he's not gonna volunteer any information, that's for sure. I say,

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Speaker 1: try to get in his phone, hack his phone, do

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Speaker 1: whatever you have to do, and block goodness in Mercy's numbers,

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Speaker 1: because your husband thinks he's slick with all of that,

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Speaker 1: and you have done nothing wrong. Steve wow Right, Obviously

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Speaker 1: we read two different letters. Obviously, so here I go.

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Speaker 1: The subject is goodness and mercy. Now, this woman being

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Speaker 1: She says, I'm not the kind of wife that snoops

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Speaker 1: The whole letter is about you snooping around trying to

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Speaker 1: just go on. It can't. I was married before. My

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Speaker 1: Why y'all talking? You ain't mentioning? No kids? Why y'all talking? Okay?

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Speaker 1: And I expect the same courtesy from my husband if

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Speaker 1: Next question, why are they talking? Y'all? Got too much

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Speaker 1: top of the show, at the top of the letter,

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Speaker 1: I'm not the kind of wife that snoops around to

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Speaker 1: see if my husband is talking to other women. You lied.

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Speaker 1: The entire letter is about this, and now let's get

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Speaker 1: big down to it. Because you said you think he's

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Speaker 1: sneaking around with two of his exes because he got

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Speaker 1: different ring tones for two of his ex girlfriends. One

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Speaker 1: of his exes has the Marvin Gay song Mercy Mercy Me.

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Speaker 1: Let's explore this song, Poorman Mercy mercy Me. All things

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Speaker 1: ain't what they used to be? Nah? Where do you

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Speaker 1: hear me? All things ain't what they used to be? Na?

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Speaker 1: That's the key, because when he hears mercy mercy me,

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Speaker 1: he is immediately reminded that things ain't like they used

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Speaker 1: to be. Na. Where did all the blue skyl Well?

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Speaker 1: Did all the blue skies guns to this damn thunderstone?

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Speaker 1: We'll let part two of Steve's response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after be our subject of today's strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: Goodness and Mercy. We'll get back into it and we

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Speaker 1: come back right after this. You're listening to show, all right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's strawberry letter Goodness and

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Speaker 1: this woman been married for years, say she to kind

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Speaker 1: of wipe snoops brown check see if her husband is

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Speaker 1: talking to other women. But she does, throughout this whole

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Speaker 1: that her husband when he talks to his exes, that

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Speaker 1: it's a lot of ex talk going on, which is

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Speaker 1: the problem with his whole damn letter. X should remain

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Speaker 1: where they are X or X anyway, I expect the

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Speaker 1: same courtesy if my husband. But I think he's sneaking

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Speaker 1: has Marvin Gaye song Mercy Mercy Me, Mercy mercy Me.

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Speaker 1: All things ain't what they used to be. Na, right there. Nah,

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Speaker 1: things ain't what they used to be now because it's

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Speaker 1: changed because he got you now and I don't know

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Speaker 1: that song. I don't. I can't think you want the lyrics? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: touch me, tease me, feel me, ankleress me, hold on, Titan,

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Speaker 1: feel mees hold So what the hell you think going on?

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Speaker 1: What is you stupid? And then his other girlfriend she

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Speaker 1: name Mercy and other one his Goodness. I'm not proud

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Speaker 1: of how I found out about this well because you

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Speaker 1: snooped guess why? But you got his best friend the

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Speaker 1: started grilling him about my husband's ex girlfriends, but only

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Speaker 1: my husband ever dated. That's caused the car washed? Dude,

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Speaker 1: won't you so he makes it come for you? The

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Speaker 1: I asked him about the exes and this food said,

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Speaker 1: who Goodness and Mercy? You really thinks he accidentally spilled that.

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Speaker 1: I don't. I think he did it on purpose. I laughed,

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Speaker 1: do that. First you grilled his friends. Now you're back

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Speaker 1: snooping through its and you saw in the ring tone.

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Speaker 1: Do I ask him why they're still saved in his

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Speaker 1: At the top of the letter, you said you've been

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Speaker 1: know their name? They in his phone as Goodness and Mercy,

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Speaker 1: which means he's got the same number for four years.

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Speaker 1: Ain't nothing changed. But we're here today for today's sermon

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Speaker 1: on Huan. You would call Deacon joint Or introduced the

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Speaker 1: sermon Goodness and Mercy. Please in your own way, how

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Speaker 1: said it? Right now? In this moment, we want you

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Speaker 1: to bring a word so that people will understand goodness goodness. Mary, Uh,

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Speaker 1: stop right there for a minute. Let's just talk about

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Speaker 1: why someone would be named goodness. Goodness is a term

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Speaker 1: use from the moment we are chilled. That's right. Think

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Speaker 1: of all the times you have experienced goodness as a boy. Yeah. Uh,

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Speaker 1: Now that's goodness, Stama. Goodness when you bar your daddy's

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Speaker 1: They didn't roll up in the back of your head house,

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Speaker 1: a sudden you start screaming, messing, messing, messing A Goodness

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Speaker 1: and mercy will follow you all the days of your life. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I'm underfall, because that's what goodness and mercy do. Sports

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