Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio
Speaker 1: and the Black Effects, And just like that, we're back
Speaker 1: on the air. Welcome back to yet another carefully Reckless
Speaker 1: episode with your Girl just hilarious. Now listen, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: dive into this ship because I was gonna do it
Speaker 1: last week. But the episode I wanted to give to
Speaker 1: you guys last week was more so about my mom
Speaker 1: and your mother's and all the women who are superheroes
Speaker 1: to the world because they need praise every day. I
Speaker 1: want to touch on something different this week because I
Speaker 1: wanted to give it time. But the more time that
Speaker 1: I gave this ship, the worst things got. Okay, So
Speaker 1: nobody is a stranger to the fact that Kevin Samuels died.
Speaker 1: We just lost Kevin Samuel's almost two weeks ago. I'm
Speaker 1: a little upset about it because this man is down gone.
Speaker 1: He's not here anymore. He is now deceased, and this
Speaker 1: should happened so abruptly, and it was honestly out of nowhere,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like we actually saw him
Speaker 1: post a video a day before he was just live,
Speaker 1: a day or two before he was pronounced dead. And
Speaker 1: the fact that no one actually gives a funk about
Speaker 1: him dying is what really baffles me. How super insensitive
Speaker 1: this world has become now. Last season of Carefully Reckless,
Speaker 1: I spoke about how we've all been desensitized and how
Speaker 1: death is just like not even as important or not
Speaker 1: even as shocking as it used to be to us,
Speaker 1: because it happens more often, and people will care one
Speaker 1: minute and one minute they won't if someone dies on
Speaker 1: a Monday. The grieving of it is short lived. Morning
Speaker 1: is short lived, you know what I mean, especially nowadays.
Speaker 1: You know, unless it's like a big, huge star that
Speaker 1: everyone loved or whatever. But if you were known for
Speaker 1: doing anything wrong or bad in your life these days,
Speaker 1: when you die, you will be talked about for that
Speaker 1: ship they didn't like you for. For those who are
Speaker 1: not familiar with Kevin Samuel's Kevin Samuels, he was an
Speaker 1: image consultant. He started his YouTube channel back in and
Speaker 1: he basically like gave advice to men about women, and
Speaker 1: and then he later started giving advice to women you
Speaker 1: know about men. Back in he kind of went viral.
Speaker 1: He had did a video explaining fifteen things that men
Speaker 1: should have, which included tailor suits in a sense of humor,
Speaker 1: and you know, all those type of things. You know,
Speaker 1: he actually gave pretty good advice to men, in my opinion.
Speaker 1: I watched a few of his lives, a few of
Speaker 1: his videos and stuff. He rose to popularity in following
Speaker 1: several viral moments capturing segments from his online show in
Speaker 1: which he would offer dating consultations that would often turn
Speaker 1: into brating lectures. You know, and a lot of people
Speaker 1: more often than not, just agreed with his tactics in
Speaker 1: a way that he talked to women. You know, he
Speaker 1: came off a lot of times misogynistic and narcissistic and
Speaker 1: very manipulative and all those types of things that would
Speaker 1: easily classify him as a broken male. And some even
Speaker 1: thought that he was gay. You know, he don't like
Speaker 1: women and he must be hurting this, that and the other.
Speaker 1: How I looked at Kevin Samuel's was just how I
Speaker 1: look at a lot of these females, one being myself.
Speaker 1: I used to do this a lot. We constantly bitch
Speaker 1: about men. Yeah, we bitch. We bitch about what men
Speaker 1: don't do, what men do do with men don't do enough,
Speaker 1: and how we don't like Brooke niggas and how you know,
Speaker 1: and not speaking for every woman, not even speaking for myself.
Speaker 1: I'm just being the voice of women out there. You
Speaker 1: know a lot of y'all out there. I don't want
Speaker 1: to know Brooke, Niggers and Union got your ship together?
Speaker 1: You know, I don't want to, you know. So he
Speaker 1: was that same person in male form speaking about women.
Speaker 1: He didn't like broke bitches obviously, you know, he had
Speaker 1: a problem with women having all these fucking demands and
Speaker 1: and we ain't even got our lives right, but we
Speaker 1: can make those demands for men. Men gotta have their
Speaker 1: ship together, and vice versa. I just felt as if
Speaker 1: a lot of people came down on him for doing
Speaker 1: the same ship that us women do two men. Like
Speaker 1: everybody has a voice of somebody, everybody has somebody that
Speaker 1: they look up to. There's all types of people out there,
Speaker 1: like Meg the Stallion, maybe the voice for the women
Speaker 1: who don't want to funk with broke guys and ship
Speaker 1: and who don't want to date, you know, a nine
Speaker 1: five man or whatever what have you. Whatever her preferences are,
Speaker 1: she puts it through our music and she makes these
Speaker 1: songs that women deem as their anthems, like the whole
Speaker 1: fucking Summer Walker Album's an anthem. Right now, I can
Speaker 1: relate to her album still over it, that album, that
Speaker 1: last album that she dropped, still resonates with me. And
Speaker 1: that's a no skip album. You can literally play that
Speaker 1: whole fucking album without skipping a song and you will
Speaker 1: feel each and every song because you've been through this ship.
Speaker 1: If you're not going through it now, you've been through
Speaker 1: to it. So she is the voice for a lot
Speaker 1: of women. Kevin Samuels was the voice for like your futures,
Speaker 1: your bow wows, your gunners, your your young thugs, your
Speaker 1: different men who have these issues with women, and rightfully
Speaker 1: so they have a voice as well, and something has
Speaker 1: to be causing this fucking behavior. Everybody can't be a
Speaker 1: Russell Wilson. Kevin Samuel's wouldn't be the voice for Russell Wilson.
Speaker 1: Maybe if Steve Harvey would be a voice for a
Speaker 1: Russell wasn't. Everybody has their mentors and their role models
Speaker 1: and the people that they look up to you and
Speaker 1: ship like that. Kevin Samuels was an image consultant. He
Speaker 1: was a life coach for a lot of men, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. And that's fine, that's fine, it's okay.
Speaker 1: And that's why a lot of women hated him because
Speaker 1: he told them bitches about themselves. Now, mind you, he
Speaker 1: never shoved this ship down your throat. A lot of
Speaker 1: these women would go to his lives knowing what the
Speaker 1: fuck he's capable of saying, knowing what his tactics are,
Speaker 1: knowing this ship, and still would proceed to ask him
Speaker 1: for advice. People would get mad at the advice that
Speaker 1: he gives them, come back the next weekend, come on
Speaker 1: the fucking show again, and then y'all bad moutham even
Speaker 1: in his death. First of all, I didn't even really
Speaker 1: believe that it was true. Blogs didn't even want to
Speaker 1: post it until about two days later that this man
Speaker 1: had died. The first blog I saw it on was
Speaker 1: the Jazzmine Brand. Shout out to the jazz and Brand.
Speaker 1: They are a very positive blog, one of the very
Speaker 1: few positive blogs on social media right now. But that's
Speaker 1: why I saw it first. I'm like, damn, I didn't
Speaker 1: even believe it because they were the only blog that
Speaker 1: had it up for like a day before anyone else
Speaker 1: said grabbed it and posted it. And then I go
Speaker 1: to his page, I see that he was just on
Speaker 1: live and just said, I'm like, damn, how then this
Speaker 1: man died like he was healthy as an ox, he
Speaker 1: worked out, he you know what I'm saying, Like I
Speaker 1: found out a lot about him and ship like he
Speaker 1: was very healthy. It turns out he died on top
Speaker 1: of a woman. He died having sex. I mean, so
Speaker 1: we know the nickame gay. You know, No, he wasn't
Speaker 1: getting and ship. Like I said, I've never even thought
Speaker 1: he was gay. I just thought that, you know, maybe
Speaker 1: he was hurting his past and you know, he just
Speaker 1: got off on talent bitches about theirself, you know. But
Speaker 1: he died on top of a woman. Now this woman
Speaker 1: is actually one of the women that was on his
Speaker 1: show before. He and the woman had probably been intimate
Speaker 1: before or whatever, and um, he just died on top
Speaker 1: of you. There is something for she going on. I
Speaker 1: do believe that she had something to do with this
Speaker 1: man's death. This is carefully reckless and I'm gonna say,
Speaker 1: what the funk I feel. I feel like she had
Speaker 1: everything to do with this man dying. I don't know
Speaker 1: exactly what she did, but just like the cliche thing
Speaker 1: that we always say, what happens in the dark will
Speaker 1: come to the light. She probably didn't even really mean
Speaker 1: for the nigger to die, but she had got into
Speaker 1: it with him a few days prior on his show.
Speaker 1: And then you go and meet up with him, and
Speaker 1: now he's dead, like y'all were seeing beefing and ship
Speaker 1: the ship is crazy. Hold up, hold up, I know
Speaker 1: the ship getting good. But listen to just a couple
Speaker 1: of seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen.
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter how much bad advice y'all feel that
Speaker 1: he gave these women, and how much of a monster
Speaker 1: y'all felt that he was too women and all of
Speaker 1: that ship. The man lost his life, he died, His
Speaker 1: life was taken matter of fact, I'm not gonna say
Speaker 1: he lost his life. He obviously was murdered, but his
Speaker 1: life was taken away from him. He is dead now.
Speaker 1: And then you got like celebrities coming forward saying bad ship,
Speaker 1: adding insult to injury. You got preachers, matter of fact,
Speaker 1: a Baltimore preacher, Jamal Bryant gets his ass in the
Speaker 1: pulpit and preach to his church bad things about the dead.
Speaker 1: Is that not a sin? Are you fucking crazy? You
Speaker 1: fucking hypocrite? Like that ship pissed me off, your fucking mutt,
Speaker 1: How dare you? That's what I'm saying. You're a lot
Speaker 1: of these fellowships, a lot of these churches, a lot
Speaker 1: of these congregations. I'm telling you, these people are going
Speaker 1: to leave a lot of their people to hell. It's
Speaker 1: so many things that can be said about Jamal Bryant's ass,
Speaker 1: and he's gonna get up in a pulpit and speak
Speaker 1: bad on a dead man. This man has a family.
Speaker 1: Just because a lot of people didn't love him and
Speaker 1: he was, you know, well hated online, does not mean
Speaker 1: he didn't have people that loved him. He has family, yes, parents.
Speaker 1: I don't know if he got kids, but I know
Speaker 1: he aunt's, uncle's, cousins and ship. Just because everybody online
Speaker 1: hated him does not mean his family did. He had friends.
Speaker 1: You everybody got somebody that loved them. And for you
Speaker 1: to sit up in a pulpit and lead your people
Speaker 1: in this manner and his members are just cheering them
Speaker 1: on and yes, yes, yes, bitch who sound because it's
Speaker 1: I wouldn't even have felt right? How can you even
Speaker 1: feel right? Doing that ship? That ship pissed me off
Speaker 1: so bad? Like uh. And then I'm going through comments
Speaker 1: when all the blogs finally did posts that he had passed,
Speaker 1: and you know, I'm going through comments and these people
Speaker 1: are just being so insensitive. Like I've seen a comment
Speaker 1: that said, oh now my boyfriend can't send me his
Speaker 1: toxic as videos no more. What this man is dead,
Speaker 1: He's gone, He's not even coming back, And that's what
Speaker 1: you have to say. Seriously. You know, I've seen another
Speaker 1: comment that said, rest in peace. But what child? We
Speaker 1: needed this one? What? What the fuck? This man had feelings.
Speaker 1: This man had a life. He was in three failed marriages.
Speaker 1: But I mean, I know his ex wives are feeling
Speaker 1: some type of pain. He was still a person. He
Speaker 1: was fifty six years old, and it was said that
Speaker 1: he had died from cardiac arrest. I believe that that
Speaker 1: lady probably fucking poison this man. Just something you know,
Speaker 1: I don't know, but something happened and it wasn't right.
Speaker 1: And for Vivica A. Fox to call his death karma like,
Speaker 1: bit you're fucked up in your head, like and look,
Speaker 1: I got the utmost respect for my elders, for the
Speaker 1: people before me, for you know, whether you're celebrity or not.
Speaker 1: From my elder. That lady, she's grown and she is
Speaker 1: a legend. And I get it, but bitch, you are
Speaker 1: fucked up in your head to say some ship like that,
Speaker 1: somebody's death is karma. Who the funk did he killed?
Speaker 1: I mean, that would be the only way I would
Speaker 1: deem it necessary to be talking about his death was
Speaker 1: karma if he killed someone like God, damn, yo, I'm
Speaker 1: telling you that ship just don't even sit right with me.
Speaker 1: How to fucking somebody even say some ship like that.
Speaker 1: She goes on her show, cocktails were queens, you know,
Speaker 1: shout out the fox soul. It's a it's a very
Speaker 1: nice show, and she says that ship. She also says
Speaker 1: I didn't find anything about him to be healing. He
Speaker 1: insulted African American women on a consistent basis and so forth,
Speaker 1: that he deserved to die. She said, this man was
Speaker 1: a hypocrite. In my honest opinion, he really was. I
Speaker 1: get it, but God, damn, baby, people are just so evil.
Speaker 1: People are so insensitive, you know what I'm saying. And
Speaker 1: that also plays a part in today's trolling and how
Speaker 1: somebody can just literally feel like they can say anything
Speaker 1: to anybody nowadays, you know, nobody has feelings anymore. However,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna keep that man's family and my prayers. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna say it here and now, God rest your soul, Kevin,
Speaker 1: God rest your soul. Sorry you had to be taken
Speaker 1: out like that. And no one deserves to lose their life, literally,
Speaker 1: no one. If you love me, you'll listen to this
Speaker 1: commercial and then we'll be right back. And other news.
Speaker 1: I know that y'all saw the first episode of Couples Retreat.
Speaker 1: I'm on there. I'm one of the new couples. Daniel
Speaker 1: is accompanying me, and it's a lot of mixed feelings
Speaker 1: and doing something like that. People ask me, Yo, was
Speaker 1: you nervous or you not? Like when we watched it Monday,
Speaker 1: like prior to watching it, like all my friends were like, Yo,
Speaker 1: are you nervous? Like what happened? Like what you know?
Speaker 1: Like do you not want to watch it? Do you
Speaker 1: want to watch it? Listen? I'm gonna be honest with y'all.
Speaker 1: Just let y'all in on a vulnerable part of me.
Speaker 1: I was scared of ship watch it while we filmed it,
Speaker 1: because we filmed it last year in September. I was
Speaker 1: like hesitant and even going there to film it because
Speaker 1: I'm like, Wow, I'm actually letting people in on my
Speaker 1: personal personal life. I mean, I know that y'all have
Speaker 1: seen me in the past go public with relationships, and
Speaker 1: what I've learned in doing that is don't do that ship,
Speaker 1: you know. But I'm crazy like that. And you know,
Speaker 1: I love love, whether y'all can see it or not,
Speaker 1: whether y'all you know, really really know me. If y'all
Speaker 1: are my fans, y'all know that I love love. You know,
Speaker 1: I want to be married, I want to have kids.
Speaker 1: I want to and a lot of times, you know,
Speaker 1: you get caught up in and settling because you feel
Speaker 1: like when is it going to happen? And it's not
Speaker 1: happening fast enough for me, it's not you know. And
Speaker 1: then every person you meet is something wrong with this person?
Speaker 1: Or but it's gonna be something wrong with everybody. But
Speaker 1: you have to actually really get to know a person
Speaker 1: and decide for yourself. Am I up for this ship? Okay?
Speaker 1: I see this person has a problem with loving, you know.
Speaker 1: I see this person is like not even all the
Speaker 1: way together in their own head, like they still have
Speaker 1: a lot of ship that they have to figure out
Speaker 1: for themselves before they can just get in the relationship.
Speaker 1: You know, you have to factor out all of those
Speaker 1: things before you want to just move forward, makeing official
Speaker 1: with somebody and put a title on things. Because I
Speaker 1: don't date like I used to anymore. Like I don't
Speaker 1: date with the notion of breaking up like you know
Speaker 1: a lot of times now, that's how people date. People
Speaker 1: date keeping their options open because they already feel like
Speaker 1: the ship might not work. That's not good. That's how
Speaker 1: we are as a people now. We date like that.
Speaker 1: I don't want to date like that no more. I
Speaker 1: was dating like that all of my twenties, and I
Speaker 1: don't want to do that ship. And I'm not just
Speaker 1: saying that because I'm thirty now, but that's how I feel,
Speaker 1: and I am maturing, I'm growing, and it's it's a
Speaker 1: lot of growth there. So you guys have a lot
Speaker 1: of that in store for you on Couples Retreat, make
Speaker 1: sure you tune in every Monday at nine eighth Central,
Speaker 1: and you guys can see a difference out of jazz.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm not always hard up. I'm actually really
Speaker 1: soft and very feminine. I do love love, I do
Speaker 1: have feelings. They do get hurt. I do sometimes pick
Speaker 1: the wrong people, and maybe I'm the wrong person at
Speaker 1: times for somebody else. But you know, all of that
Speaker 1: ship is living, and all that ship is learning, and
Speaker 1: all of that ship is living and learning. In love,
Speaker 1: you have to be able to be okay with making mistakes,
Speaker 1: and you know, don't be too hard on itself. I'm very,
Speaker 1: very freaking hard on myself when it comes to feeling
Speaker 1: like I failed in another relationship. No one wants to
Speaker 1: keep on this relationship, that relationship, this relationship. Oh let
Speaker 1: meet someone new. Oh my god, I'm back to the streets.
Speaker 1: Like you know, that ship is all cute and cool
Speaker 1: for social media memes and likes and all that ship
Speaker 1: and for reposting all that, But in real life, that
Speaker 1: ship is not cool. Nobody wants to do that. Everybody
Speaker 1: wants to have that one person, and those who don't,
Speaker 1: all right, more power to you if you can handle
Speaker 1: more than one motherfucker go head, you know, superhero, you know,
Speaker 1: because I can't do it, and I don't want to
Speaker 1: do it. I just want that one person, my person.
Speaker 1: I just want one person. Everybody deserves to have their
Speaker 1: own person and belong to somebody, and somebody belongs to you,
Speaker 1: and that person is your best friend. You're able to say,
Speaker 1: that's my man, but that's my nigga man, that's my
Speaker 1: ride or die. That's my girl, but that's my chick. Man.
Speaker 1: That's I don't want to say my bitch, but you know,
Speaker 1: and laying the term saying, that's my bitch man, Like
Speaker 1: I can tell anything. We can lay in a bed,
Speaker 1: we can talk for hours and we fuck, then we
Speaker 1: wake up, then we go out. Then I go my way,
Speaker 1: you go your way, and that now I'm gonna miss
Speaker 1: you when you come back. You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Just all of that ship. That's what I want. I
Speaker 1: don't want the glitz and glam all the time of
Speaker 1: a fucking relationship. I want the problems with the ship too.
Speaker 1: But you gotta be able to pick and choose which
Speaker 1: problems are worth you're sticking around, worth your time, worth
Speaker 1: your sanity, because all that sh it ain't worth it
Speaker 1: all the time. You can't be miserable. Relationship can't be
Speaker 1: one sided. You know, it's not fair, And you can't
Speaker 1: always think you can change somebody. They'll change, They'll change
Speaker 1: on their own. Maybe you ain't for them. Maybe you
Speaker 1: ain't the one to make them change, you know, And
Speaker 1: maybe they were putting your life for a different reason.
Speaker 1: You just got it mixed up, you know. And we
Speaker 1: make mistakes like that too, and that's how you live
Speaker 1: and learn. And that is the end of this podcast.
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