WEBVTT - Real Talk 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.119 Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:15.200 and the Black Effects, And just like that, we're back 0:00:15.240 --> 0:00:17.720 on the air. Welcome back to yet another carefully Reckless 0:00:17.760 --> 0:00:21.120 episode with your Girl just hilarious. Now listen, I'm gonna 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:23.840 dive into this ship because I was gonna do it 0:00:23.920 --> 0:00:26.960 last week. But the episode I wanted to give to 0:00:26.960 --> 0:00:29.639 you guys last week was more so about my mom 0:00:29.680 --> 0:00:32.760 and your mother's and all the women who are superheroes 0:00:32.840 --> 0:00:36.839 to the world because they need praise every day. I 0:00:36.880 --> 0:00:41.199 want to touch on something different this week because I 0:00:41.240 --> 0:00:44.040 wanted to give it time. But the more time that 0:00:44.080 --> 0:00:47.720 I gave this ship, the worst things got. Okay, So 0:00:47.800 --> 0:00:50.800 nobody is a stranger to the fact that Kevin Samuels died. 0:00:50.880 --> 0:00:55.440 We just lost Kevin Samuel's almost two weeks ago. I'm 0:00:55.440 --> 0:01:00.480 a little upset about it because this man is down gone. 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:03.600 He's not here anymore. He is now deceased, and this 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:07.400 should happened so abruptly, and it was honestly out of nowhere, 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:10.679 you know what I mean, Like we actually saw him 0:01:10.720 --> 0:01:14.040 post a video a day before he was just live, 0:01:14.319 --> 0:01:17.640 a day or two before he was pronounced dead. And 0:01:17.680 --> 0:01:21.160 the fact that no one actually gives a funk about 0:01:21.240 --> 0:01:27.720 him dying is what really baffles me. How super insensitive 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:30.759 this world has become now. Last season of Carefully Reckless, 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:35.400 I spoke about how we've all been desensitized and how 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:38.520 death is just like not even as important or not 0:01:38.600 --> 0:01:40.480 even as shocking as it used to be to us, 0:01:40.520 --> 0:01:44.160 because it happens more often, and people will care one 0:01:44.200 --> 0:01:47.120 minute and one minute they won't if someone dies on 0:01:47.160 --> 0:01:51.640 a Monday. The grieving of it is short lived. Morning 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:55.040 is short lived, you know what I mean, especially nowadays. 0:01:55.080 --> 0:01:57.520 You know, unless it's like a big, huge star that 0:01:57.640 --> 0:02:01.040 everyone loved or whatever. But if you were known for 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:03.720 doing anything wrong or bad in your life these days, 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:06.200 when you die, you will be talked about for that 0:02:06.240 --> 0:02:08.960 ship they didn't like you for. For those who are 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:13.400 not familiar with Kevin Samuel's Kevin Samuels, he was an 0:02:13.400 --> 0:02:17.360 image consultant. He started his YouTube channel back in and 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:20.920 he basically like gave advice to men about women, and 0:02:20.919 --> 0:02:24.040 and then he later started giving advice to women you 0:02:24.040 --> 0:02:27.360 know about men. Back in he kind of went viral. 0:02:27.919 --> 0:02:31.079 He had did a video explaining fifteen things that men 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:34.280 should have, which included tailor suits in a sense of humor, 0:02:34.600 --> 0:02:36.400 and you know, all those type of things. You know, 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:39.400 he actually gave pretty good advice to men, in my opinion. 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:41.000 I watched a few of his lives, a few of 0:02:41.040 --> 0:02:45.760 his videos and stuff. He rose to popularity in following 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:49.680 several viral moments capturing segments from his online show in 0:02:49.720 --> 0:02:53.000 which he would offer dating consultations that would often turn 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:57.280 into brating lectures. You know, and a lot of people 0:02:57.600 --> 0:03:01.360 more often than not, just agreed with his tactics in 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:02.960 a way that he talked to women. You know, he 0:03:03.000 --> 0:03:06.680 came off a lot of times misogynistic and narcissistic and 0:03:06.800 --> 0:03:10.280 very manipulative and all those types of things that would 0:03:10.360 --> 0:03:13.280 easily classify him as a broken male. And some even 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:15.640 thought that he was gay. You know, he don't like 0:03:15.720 --> 0:03:17.800 women and he must be hurting this, that and the other. 0:03:18.080 --> 0:03:21.080 How I looked at Kevin Samuel's was just how I 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:24.680 look at a lot of these females, one being myself. 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:27.440 I used to do this a lot. We constantly bitch 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:31.040 about men. Yeah, we bitch. We bitch about what men 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:35.120 don't do, what men do do with men don't do enough, 0:03:35.240 --> 0:03:38.240 and how we don't like Brooke niggas and how you know, 0:03:38.280 --> 0:03:41.600 and not speaking for every woman, not even speaking for myself. 0:03:41.640 --> 0:03:44.880 I'm just being the voice of women out there. You 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:47.080 know a lot of y'all out there. I don't want 0:03:47.080 --> 0:03:49.320 to know Brooke, Niggers and Union got your ship together? 0:03:49.440 --> 0:03:51.720 You know, I don't want to, you know. So he 0:03:51.920 --> 0:03:56.200 was that same person in male form speaking about women. 0:03:56.560 --> 0:03:59.320 He didn't like broke bitches obviously, you know, he had 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:01.960 a problem with women having all these fucking demands and 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:03.880 and we ain't even got our lives right, but we 0:04:03.920 --> 0:04:08.440 can make those demands for men. Men gotta have their 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:11.880 ship together, and vice versa. I just felt as if 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:14.760 a lot of people came down on him for doing 0:04:14.760 --> 0:04:17.840 the same ship that us women do two men. Like 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:21.400 everybody has a voice of somebody, everybody has somebody that 0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:23.800 they look up to. There's all types of people out there, 0:04:24.240 --> 0:04:27.120 like Meg the Stallion, maybe the voice for the women 0:04:27.240 --> 0:04:29.120 who don't want to funk with broke guys and ship 0:04:29.240 --> 0:04:31.200 and who don't want to date, you know, a nine 0:04:31.360 --> 0:04:34.680 five man or whatever what have you. Whatever her preferences are, 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:36.720 she puts it through our music and she makes these 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:40.800 songs that women deem as their anthems, like the whole 0:04:40.839 --> 0:04:44.320 fucking Summer Walker Album's an anthem. Right now, I can 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:47.240 relate to her album still over it, that album, that 0:04:47.320 --> 0:04:50.359 last album that she dropped, still resonates with me. And 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:53.400 that's a no skip album. You can literally play that 0:04:53.440 --> 0:04:55.720 whole fucking album without skipping a song and you will 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:58.320 feel each and every song because you've been through this ship. 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:00.000 If you're not going through it now, you've been through 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:01.720 to it. So she is the voice for a lot 0:05:01.760 --> 0:05:06.000 of women. Kevin Samuels was the voice for like your futures, 0:05:06.040 --> 0:05:09.760 your bow wows, your gunners, your your young thugs, your 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:14.040 different men who have these issues with women, and rightfully 0:05:14.080 --> 0:05:17.960 so they have a voice as well, and something has 0:05:18.000 --> 0:05:20.960 to be causing this fucking behavior. Everybody can't be a 0:05:21.040 --> 0:05:24.599 Russell Wilson. Kevin Samuel's wouldn't be the voice for Russell Wilson. 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:27.200 Maybe if Steve Harvey would be a voice for a 0:05:27.279 --> 0:05:30.880 Russell wasn't. Everybody has their mentors and their role models 0:05:30.880 --> 0:05:32.400 and the people that they look up to you and 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:35.640 ship like that. Kevin Samuels was an image consultant. He 0:05:35.680 --> 0:05:37.400 was a life coach for a lot of men, you 0:05:37.400 --> 0:05:40.919 know what I mean. And that's fine, that's fine, it's okay. 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:43.400 And that's why a lot of women hated him because 0:05:43.400 --> 0:05:47.560 he told them bitches about themselves. Now, mind you, he 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:50.000 never shoved this ship down your throat. A lot of 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:53.560 these women would go to his lives knowing what the 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:58.000 fuck he's capable of saying, knowing what his tactics are, 0:05:58.240 --> 0:06:02.440 knowing this ship, and still would proceed to ask him 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:05.599 for advice. People would get mad at the advice that 0:06:05.720 --> 0:06:08.320 he gives them, come back the next weekend, come on 0:06:08.360 --> 0:06:12.240 the fucking show again, and then y'all bad moutham even 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:15.479 in his death. First of all, I didn't even really 0:06:15.520 --> 0:06:17.680 believe that it was true. Blogs didn't even want to 0:06:17.720 --> 0:06:20.039 post it until about two days later that this man 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:22.919 had died. The first blog I saw it on was 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:25.000 the Jazzmine Brand. Shout out to the jazz and Brand. 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:28.120 They are a very positive blog, one of the very 0:06:28.240 --> 0:06:32.240 few positive blogs on social media right now. But that's 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:34.800 why I saw it first. I'm like, damn, I didn't 0:06:34.800 --> 0:06:36.560 even believe it because they were the only blog that 0:06:36.640 --> 0:06:38.760 had it up for like a day before anyone else 0:06:38.800 --> 0:06:40.839 said grabbed it and posted it. And then I go 0:06:40.920 --> 0:06:42.400 to his page, I see that he was just on 0:06:42.480 --> 0:06:44.360 live and just said, I'm like, damn, how then this 0:06:44.400 --> 0:06:46.520 man died like he was healthy as an ox, he 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:48.159 worked out, he you know what I'm saying, Like I 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:49.800 found out a lot about him and ship like he 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:53.080 was very healthy. It turns out he died on top 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:55.200 of a woman. He died having sex. I mean, so 0:06:55.560 --> 0:06:57.560 we know the nickame gay. You know, No, he wasn't 0:06:57.560 --> 0:06:59.360 getting and ship. Like I said, I've never even thought 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:01.400 he was gay. I just thought that, you know, maybe 0:07:01.400 --> 0:07:03.240 he was hurting his past and you know, he just 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:06.680 got off on talent bitches about theirself, you know. But 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:09.320 he died on top of a woman. Now this woman 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:12.400 is actually one of the women that was on his 0:07:12.480 --> 0:07:15.560 show before. He and the woman had probably been intimate 0:07:15.600 --> 0:07:19.640 before or whatever, and um, he just died on top 0:07:19.680 --> 0:07:22.640 of you. There is something for she going on. I 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:24.280 do believe that she had something to do with this 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:27.160 man's death. This is carefully reckless and I'm gonna say, 0:07:27.160 --> 0:07:29.040 what the funk I feel. I feel like she had 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:31.600 everything to do with this man dying. I don't know 0:07:31.680 --> 0:07:35.240 exactly what she did, but just like the cliche thing 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:37.720 that we always say, what happens in the dark will 0:07:37.760 --> 0:07:40.280 come to the light. She probably didn't even really mean 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:42.840 for the nigger to die, but she had got into 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:45.160 it with him a few days prior on his show. 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:48.200 And then you go and meet up with him, and 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:51.320 now he's dead, like y'all were seeing beefing and ship 0:07:51.680 --> 0:07:53.920 the ship is crazy. Hold up, hold up, I know 0:07:54.000 --> 0:07:56.120 the ship getting good. But listen to just a couple 0:07:56.160 --> 0:07:58.360 of seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:04.880 It doesn't matter how much bad advice y'all feel that 0:08:04.920 --> 0:08:07.560 he gave these women, and how much of a monster 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:10.640 y'all felt that he was too women and all of 0:08:10.680 --> 0:08:13.680 that ship. The man lost his life, he died, His 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:15.880 life was taken matter of fact, I'm not gonna say 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:19.840 he lost his life. He obviously was murdered, but his 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:22.679 life was taken away from him. He is dead now. 0:08:22.800 --> 0:08:27.920 And then you got like celebrities coming forward saying bad ship, 0:08:28.080 --> 0:08:32.360 adding insult to injury. You got preachers, matter of fact, 0:08:32.360 --> 0:08:36.760 a Baltimore preacher, Jamal Bryant gets his ass in the 0:08:36.840 --> 0:08:43.120 pulpit and preach to his church bad things about the dead. 0:08:43.880 --> 0:08:46.840 Is that not a sin? Are you fucking crazy? You 0:08:46.960 --> 0:08:50.440 fucking hypocrite? Like that ship pissed me off, your fucking mutt, 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:52.960 How dare you? That's what I'm saying. You're a lot 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:56.320 of these fellowships, a lot of these churches, a lot 0:08:56.360 --> 0:08:59.480 of these congregations. I'm telling you, these people are going 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:02.360 to leave a lot of their people to hell. It's 0:09:02.400 --> 0:09:04.880 so many things that can be said about Jamal Bryant's ass, 0:09:04.880 --> 0:09:06.920 and he's gonna get up in a pulpit and speak 0:09:07.000 --> 0:09:10.199 bad on a dead man. This man has a family. 0:09:10.559 --> 0:09:12.520 Just because a lot of people didn't love him and 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:15.360 he was, you know, well hated online, does not mean 0:09:15.400 --> 0:09:19.000 he didn't have people that loved him. He has family, yes, parents. 0:09:19.320 --> 0:09:20.640 I don't know if he got kids, but I know 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:24.640 he aunt's, uncle's, cousins and ship. Just because everybody online 0:09:24.640 --> 0:09:27.959 hated him does not mean his family did. He had friends. 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:31.000 You everybody got somebody that loved them. And for you 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:33.880 to sit up in a pulpit and lead your people 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:37.480 in this manner and his members are just cheering them 0:09:37.480 --> 0:09:43.160 on and yes, yes, yes, bitch who sound because it's 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:45.080 I wouldn't even have felt right? How can you even 0:09:45.120 --> 0:09:48.120 feel right? Doing that ship? That ship pissed me off 0:09:48.160 --> 0:09:52.839 so bad? Like uh. And then I'm going through comments 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:56.800 when all the blogs finally did posts that he had passed, 0:09:56.800 --> 0:09:59.760 and you know, I'm going through comments and these people 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:02.040 are just being so insensitive. Like I've seen a comment 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:04.840 that said, oh now my boyfriend can't send me his 0:10:05.160 --> 0:10:10.320 toxic as videos no more. What this man is dead, 0:10:10.360 --> 0:10:13.320 He's gone, He's not even coming back, And that's what 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:16.320 you have to say. Seriously. You know, I've seen another 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:18.520 comment that said, rest in peace. But what child? We 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:24.600 needed this one? What? What the fuck? This man had feelings. 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:27.679 This man had a life. He was in three failed marriages. 0:10:27.760 --> 0:10:30.560 But I mean, I know his ex wives are feeling 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:34.360 some type of pain. He was still a person. He 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:37.120 was fifty six years old, and it was said that 0:10:37.200 --> 0:10:40.560 he had died from cardiac arrest. I believe that that 0:10:40.679 --> 0:10:44.240 lady probably fucking poison this man. Just something you know, 0:10:44.320 --> 0:10:47.040 I don't know, but something happened and it wasn't right. 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:52.520 And for Vivica A. Fox to call his death karma like, 0:10:53.960 --> 0:10:56.880 bit you're fucked up in your head, like and look, 0:10:56.920 --> 0:11:00.160 I got the utmost respect for my elders, for the 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:02.920 people before me, for you know, whether you're celebrity or not. 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:06.400 From my elder. That lady, she's grown and she is 0:11:06.440 --> 0:11:09.280 a legend. And I get it, but bitch, you are 0:11:09.360 --> 0:11:12.720 fucked up in your head to say some ship like that, 0:11:13.280 --> 0:11:16.640 somebody's death is karma. Who the funk did he killed? 0:11:16.679 --> 0:11:19.160 I mean, that would be the only way I would 0:11:19.240 --> 0:11:21.559 deem it necessary to be talking about his death was 0:11:21.640 --> 0:11:25.720 karma if he killed someone like God, damn, yo, I'm 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:28.920 telling you that ship just don't even sit right with me. 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:31.800 How to fucking somebody even say some ship like that. 0:11:32.240 --> 0:11:35.280 She goes on her show, cocktails were queens, you know, 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:37.079 shout out the fox soul. It's a it's a very 0:11:37.200 --> 0:11:40.120 nice show, and she says that ship. She also says 0:11:40.240 --> 0:11:42.760 I didn't find anything about him to be healing. He 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:47.200 insulted African American women on a consistent basis and so forth, 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:51.000 that he deserved to die. She said, this man was 0:11:51.040 --> 0:11:53.960 a hypocrite. In my honest opinion, he really was. I 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:57.200 get it, but God, damn, baby, people are just so evil. 0:11:57.240 --> 0:11:59.839 People are so insensitive, you know what I'm saying. And 0:12:00.000 --> 0:12:03.839 that also plays a part in today's trolling and how 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:06.560 somebody can just literally feel like they can say anything 0:12:06.559 --> 0:12:11.319 to anybody nowadays, you know, nobody has feelings anymore. However, 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:15.160 I'm gonna keep that man's family and my prayers. I'm 0:12:15.200 --> 0:12:18.600 gonna say it here and now, God rest your soul, Kevin, 0:12:18.880 --> 0:12:21.800 God rest your soul. Sorry you had to be taken 0:12:21.800 --> 0:12:26.160 out like that. And no one deserves to lose their life, literally, 0:12:26.360 --> 0:12:29.120 no one. If you love me, you'll listen to this 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:33.480 commercial and then we'll be right back. And other news. 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:36.680 I know that y'all saw the first episode of Couples Retreat. 0:12:37.200 --> 0:12:40.600 I'm on there. I'm one of the new couples. Daniel 0:12:40.640 --> 0:12:43.400 is accompanying me, and it's a lot of mixed feelings 0:12:43.440 --> 0:12:46.040 and doing something like that. People ask me, Yo, was 0:12:46.040 --> 0:12:48.200 you nervous or you not? Like when we watched it Monday, 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:50.640 like prior to watching it, like all my friends were like, Yo, 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:52.960 are you nervous? Like what happened? Like what you know? 0:12:53.000 --> 0:12:54.439 Like do you not want to watch it? Do you 0:12:54.480 --> 0:12:56.840 want to watch it? Listen? I'm gonna be honest with y'all. 0:12:56.840 --> 0:12:58.760 Just let y'all in on a vulnerable part of me. 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:01.679 I was scared of ship watch it while we filmed it, 0:13:01.679 --> 0:13:05.960 because we filmed it last year in September. I was 0:13:06.080 --> 0:13:09.200 like hesitant and even going there to film it because 0:13:09.200 --> 0:13:13.559 I'm like, Wow, I'm actually letting people in on my 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:16.400 personal personal life. I mean, I know that y'all have 0:13:16.440 --> 0:13:19.640 seen me in the past go public with relationships, and 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:22.880 what I've learned in doing that is don't do that ship, 0:13:24.120 --> 0:13:27.240 you know. But I'm crazy like that. And you know, 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:30.000 I love love, whether y'all can see it or not, 0:13:30.080 --> 0:13:33.120 whether y'all you know, really really know me. If y'all 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:35.560 are my fans, y'all know that I love love. You know, 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:37.680 I want to be married, I want to have kids. 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:39.520 I want to and a lot of times, you know, 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:42.720 you get caught up in and settling because you feel 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:44.880 like when is it going to happen? And it's not 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:47.360 happening fast enough for me, it's not you know. And 0:13:47.400 --> 0:13:50.520 then every person you meet is something wrong with this person? 0:13:50.640 --> 0:13:53.120 Or but it's gonna be something wrong with everybody. But 0:13:53.320 --> 0:13:55.839 you have to actually really get to know a person 0:13:55.840 --> 0:14:00.960 and decide for yourself. Am I up for this ship? Okay? 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:03.320 I see this person has a problem with loving, you know. 0:14:03.400 --> 0:14:05.960 I see this person is like not even all the 0:14:06.000 --> 0:14:08.320 way together in their own head, like they still have 0:14:08.360 --> 0:14:09.920 a lot of ship that they have to figure out 0:14:09.960 --> 0:14:12.800 for themselves before they can just get in the relationship. 0:14:13.160 --> 0:14:15.559 You know, you have to factor out all of those 0:14:15.600 --> 0:14:18.080 things before you want to just move forward, makeing official 0:14:18.120 --> 0:14:20.320 with somebody and put a title on things. Because I 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:22.680 don't date like I used to anymore. Like I don't 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:26.280 date with the notion of breaking up like you know 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:29.680 a lot of times now, that's how people date. People 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:33.080 date keeping their options open because they already feel like 0:14:33.120 --> 0:14:35.640 the ship might not work. That's not good. That's how 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:38.600 we are as a people now. We date like that. 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:40.680 I don't want to date like that no more. I 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:42.840 was dating like that all of my twenties, and I 0:14:42.840 --> 0:14:44.280 don't want to do that ship. And I'm not just 0:14:44.360 --> 0:14:46.960 saying that because I'm thirty now, but that's how I feel, 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:50.680 and I am maturing, I'm growing, and it's it's a 0:14:50.720 --> 0:14:52.760 lot of growth there. So you guys have a lot 0:14:52.920 --> 0:14:55.200 of that in store for you on Couples Retreat, make 0:14:55.200 --> 0:14:57.880 sure you tune in every Monday at nine eighth Central, 0:14:58.120 --> 0:14:59.960 and you guys can see a difference out of jazz. 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:02.120 You know, I'm not always hard up. I'm actually really 0:15:02.160 --> 0:15:04.400 soft and very feminine. I do love love, I do 0:15:04.440 --> 0:15:07.920 have feelings. They do get hurt. I do sometimes pick 0:15:08.000 --> 0:15:10.880 the wrong people, and maybe I'm the wrong person at 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:13.720 times for somebody else. But you know, all of that 0:15:13.760 --> 0:15:16.360 ship is living, and all that ship is learning, and 0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:18.760 all of that ship is living and learning. In love, 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:24.080 you have to be able to be okay with making mistakes, 0:15:24.520 --> 0:15:27.960 and you know, don't be too hard on itself. I'm very, 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:32.080 very freaking hard on myself when it comes to feeling 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:34.960 like I failed in another relationship. No one wants to 0:15:35.080 --> 0:15:38.240 keep on this relationship, that relationship, this relationship. Oh let 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:40.160 meet someone new. Oh my god, I'm back to the streets. 0:15:40.200 --> 0:15:42.400 Like you know, that ship is all cute and cool 0:15:42.440 --> 0:15:44.600 for social media memes and likes and all that ship 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:46.640 and for reposting all that, But in real life, that 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:50.640 ship is not cool. Nobody wants to do that. Everybody 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:53.480 wants to have that one person, and those who don't, 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:55.760 all right, more power to you if you can handle 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:59.360 more than one motherfucker go head, you know, superhero, you know, 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:00.960 because I can't do it, and I don't want to 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:04.560 do it. I just want that one person, my person. 0:16:04.720 --> 0:16:08.160 I just want one person. Everybody deserves to have their 0:16:08.160 --> 0:16:12.520 own person and belong to somebody, and somebody belongs to you, 0:16:12.600 --> 0:16:16.320 and that person is your best friend. You're able to say, 0:16:16.400 --> 0:16:18.280 that's my man, but that's my nigga man, that's my 0:16:18.360 --> 0:16:20.880 ride or die. That's my girl, but that's my chick. Man. 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:22.640 That's I don't want to say my bitch, but you know, 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:25.080 and laying the term saying, that's my bitch man, Like 0:16:25.120 --> 0:16:27.280 I can tell anything. We can lay in a bed, 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:29.200 we can talk for hours and we fuck, then we 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:31.120 wake up, then we go out. Then I go my way, 0:16:31.160 --> 0:16:32.920 you go your way, and that now I'm gonna miss 0:16:32.960 --> 0:16:34.920 you when you come back. You know what I mean? 0:16:34.960 --> 0:16:36.960 Just all of that ship. That's what I want. I 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:38.920 don't want the glitz and glam all the time of 0:16:39.040 --> 0:16:42.320 a fucking relationship. I want the problems with the ship too. 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:44.320 But you gotta be able to pick and choose which 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:47.800 problems are worth you're sticking around, worth your time, worth 0:16:47.840 --> 0:16:49.600 your sanity, because all that sh it ain't worth it 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:53.320 all the time. You can't be miserable. Relationship can't be 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:55.880 one sided. You know, it's not fair, And you can't 0:16:55.920 --> 0:16:58.880 always think you can change somebody. They'll change, They'll change 0:16:58.880 --> 0:17:01.440 on their own. Maybe you ain't for them. Maybe you 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:03.160 ain't the one to make them change, you know, And 0:17:03.200 --> 0:17:05.679 maybe they were putting your life for a different reason. 0:17:06.080 --> 0:17:07.879 You just got it mixed up, you know. And we 0:17:07.960 --> 0:17:10.200 make mistakes like that too, and that's how you live 0:17:10.240 --> 0:17:13.560 and learn. 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