1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,119 Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:15,200 Speaker 1: and the Black Effects, And just like that, we're back 3 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:17,720 Speaker 1: on the air. Welcome back to yet another carefully Reckless 4 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:21,120 Speaker 1: episode with your Girl just hilarious. Now listen, I'm gonna 5 00:00:21,120 --> 00:00:23,840 Speaker 1: dive into this ship because I was gonna do it 6 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: last week. But the episode I wanted to give to 7 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:29,639 Speaker 1: you guys last week was more so about my mom 8 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:32,760 Speaker 1: and your mother's and all the women who are superheroes 9 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:36,839 Speaker 1: to the world because they need praise every day. I 10 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:41,199 Speaker 1: want to touch on something different this week because I 11 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 1: wanted to give it time. But the more time that 12 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 1: I gave this ship, the worst things got. Okay, So 13 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:50,800 Speaker 1: nobody is a stranger to the fact that Kevin Samuels died. 14 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 1: We just lost Kevin Samuel's almost two weeks ago. I'm 15 00:00:55,440 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: a little upset about it because this man is down gone. 16 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:03,600 Speaker 1: He's not here anymore. He is now deceased, and this 17 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:07,400 Speaker 1: should happened so abruptly, and it was honestly out of nowhere, 18 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:10,679 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like we actually saw him 19 00:01:10,720 --> 00:01:14,040 Speaker 1: post a video a day before he was just live, 20 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 1: a day or two before he was pronounced dead. And 21 00:01:17,680 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 1: the fact that no one actually gives a funk about 22 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 1: him dying is what really baffles me. How super insensitive 23 00:01:27,760 --> 00:01:30,759 Speaker 1: this world has become now. Last season of Carefully Reckless, 24 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:35,400 Speaker 1: I spoke about how we've all been desensitized and how 25 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:38,520 Speaker 1: death is just like not even as important or not 26 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:40,480 Speaker 1: even as shocking as it used to be to us, 27 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 1: because it happens more often, and people will care one 28 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 1: minute and one minute they won't if someone dies on 29 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 1: a Monday. The grieving of it is short lived. Morning 30 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:55,040 Speaker 1: is short lived, you know what I mean, especially nowadays. 31 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 1: You know, unless it's like a big, huge star that 32 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:01,040 Speaker 1: everyone loved or whatever. But if you were known for 33 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 1: doing anything wrong or bad in your life these days, 34 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: when you die, you will be talked about for that 35 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:08,960 Speaker 1: ship they didn't like you for. For those who are 36 00:02:09,200 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 1: not familiar with Kevin Samuel's Kevin Samuels, he was an 37 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:17,360 Speaker 1: image consultant. He started his YouTube channel back in and 38 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:20,920 Speaker 1: he basically like gave advice to men about women, and 39 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: and then he later started giving advice to women you 40 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:27,360 Speaker 1: know about men. Back in he kind of went viral. 41 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:31,079 Speaker 1: He had did a video explaining fifteen things that men 42 00:02:31,120 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 1: should have, which included tailor suits in a sense of humor, 43 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:36,400 Speaker 1: and you know, all those type of things. You know, 44 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 1: he actually gave pretty good advice to men, in my opinion. 45 00:02:39,480 --> 00:02:41,000 Speaker 1: I watched a few of his lives, a few of 46 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: his videos and stuff. He rose to popularity in following 47 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 1: several viral moments capturing segments from his online show in 48 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:53,000 Speaker 1: which he would offer dating consultations that would often turn 49 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 1: into brating lectures. You know, and a lot of people 50 00:02:57,600 --> 00:03:01,360 Speaker 1: more often than not, just agreed with his tactics in 51 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:02,960 Speaker 1: a way that he talked to women. You know, he 52 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:06,680 Speaker 1: came off a lot of times misogynistic and narcissistic and 53 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 1: very manipulative and all those types of things that would 54 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:13,280 Speaker 1: easily classify him as a broken male. And some even 55 00:03:13,400 --> 00:03:15,640 Speaker 1: thought that he was gay. You know, he don't like 56 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:17,800 Speaker 1: women and he must be hurting this, that and the other. 57 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 1: How I looked at Kevin Samuel's was just how I 58 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: look at a lot of these females, one being myself. 59 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 1: I used to do this a lot. We constantly bitch 60 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:31,040 Speaker 1: about men. Yeah, we bitch. We bitch about what men 61 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 1: don't do, what men do do with men don't do enough, 62 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:38,240 Speaker 1: and how we don't like Brooke niggas and how you know, 63 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:41,600 Speaker 1: and not speaking for every woman, not even speaking for myself. 64 00:03:41,640 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 1: I'm just being the voice of women out there. You 65 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:47,080 Speaker 1: know a lot of y'all out there. I don't want 66 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 1: to know Brooke, Niggers and Union got your ship together? 67 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 1: You know, I don't want to, you know. So he 68 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 1: was that same person in male form speaking about women. 69 00:03:56,560 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: He didn't like broke bitches obviously, you know, he had 70 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: a problem with women having all these fucking demands and 71 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:03,880 Speaker 1: and we ain't even got our lives right, but we 72 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:08,440 Speaker 1: can make those demands for men. Men gotta have their 73 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:11,880 Speaker 1: ship together, and vice versa. I just felt as if 74 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,760 Speaker 1: a lot of people came down on him for doing 75 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:17,840 Speaker 1: the same ship that us women do two men. Like 76 00:04:18,160 --> 00:04:21,400 Speaker 1: everybody has a voice of somebody, everybody has somebody that 77 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: they look up to. There's all types of people out there, 78 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:27,120 Speaker 1: like Meg the Stallion, maybe the voice for the women 79 00:04:27,240 --> 00:04:29,120 Speaker 1: who don't want to funk with broke guys and ship 80 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: and who don't want to date, you know, a nine 81 00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 1: five man or whatever what have you. Whatever her preferences are, 82 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:36,720 Speaker 1: she puts it through our music and she makes these 83 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:40,800 Speaker 1: songs that women deem as their anthems, like the whole 84 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 1: fucking Summer Walker Album's an anthem. Right now, I can 85 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 1: relate to her album still over it, that album, that 86 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:50,359 Speaker 1: last album that she dropped, still resonates with me. And 87 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:53,400 Speaker 1: that's a no skip album. You can literally play that 88 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:55,720 Speaker 1: whole fucking album without skipping a song and you will 89 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:58,320 Speaker 1: feel each and every song because you've been through this ship. 90 00:04:58,360 --> 00:05:00,000 Speaker 1: If you're not going through it now, you've been through 91 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:01,720 Speaker 1: to it. So she is the voice for a lot 92 00:05:01,760 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: of women. Kevin Samuels was the voice for like your futures, 93 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:09,760 Speaker 1: your bow wows, your gunners, your your young thugs, your 94 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:14,040 Speaker 1: different men who have these issues with women, and rightfully 95 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 1: so they have a voice as well, and something has 96 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: to be causing this fucking behavior. Everybody can't be a 97 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:24,599 Speaker 1: Russell Wilson. Kevin Samuel's wouldn't be the voice for Russell Wilson. 98 00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 1: Maybe if Steve Harvey would be a voice for a 99 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 1: Russell wasn't. Everybody has their mentors and their role models 100 00:05:30,880 --> 00:05:32,400 Speaker 1: and the people that they look up to you and 101 00:05:32,400 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 1: ship like that. Kevin Samuels was an image consultant. He 102 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:37,400 Speaker 1: was a life coach for a lot of men, you 103 00:05:37,400 --> 00:05:40,919 Speaker 1: know what I mean. And that's fine, that's fine, it's okay. 104 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:43,400 Speaker 1: And that's why a lot of women hated him because 105 00:05:43,400 --> 00:05:47,560 Speaker 1: he told them bitches about themselves. Now, mind you, he 106 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 1: never shoved this ship down your throat. A lot of 107 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:53,560 Speaker 1: these women would go to his lives knowing what the 108 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:58,000 Speaker 1: fuck he's capable of saying, knowing what his tactics are, 109 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 1: knowing this ship, and still would proceed to ask him 110 00:06:02,440 --> 00:06:05,599 Speaker 1: for advice. People would get mad at the advice that 111 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 1: he gives them, come back the next weekend, come on 112 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:12,240 Speaker 1: the fucking show again, and then y'all bad moutham even 113 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:15,479 Speaker 1: in his death. First of all, I didn't even really 114 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 1: believe that it was true. Blogs didn't even want to 115 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:20,039 Speaker 1: post it until about two days later that this man 116 00:06:20,120 --> 00:06:22,919 Speaker 1: had died. The first blog I saw it on was 117 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:25,000 Speaker 1: the Jazzmine Brand. Shout out to the jazz and Brand. 118 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:28,120 Speaker 1: They are a very positive blog, one of the very 119 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:32,240 Speaker 1: few positive blogs on social media right now. But that's 120 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 1: why I saw it first. I'm like, damn, I didn't 121 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:36,560 Speaker 1: even believe it because they were the only blog that 122 00:06:36,640 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 1: had it up for like a day before anyone else 123 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:40,839 Speaker 1: said grabbed it and posted it. And then I go 124 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 1: to his page, I see that he was just on 125 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:44,360 Speaker 1: live and just said, I'm like, damn, how then this 126 00:06:44,400 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 1: man died like he was healthy as an ox, he 127 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:48,159 Speaker 1: worked out, he you know what I'm saying, Like I 128 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 1: found out a lot about him and ship like he 129 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:53,080 Speaker 1: was very healthy. It turns out he died on top 130 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:55,200 Speaker 1: of a woman. He died having sex. I mean, so 131 00:06:55,560 --> 00:06:57,560 Speaker 1: we know the nickame gay. You know, No, he wasn't 132 00:06:57,560 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 1: getting and ship. Like I said, I've never even thought 133 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 1: he was gay. I just thought that, you know, maybe 134 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: he was hurting his past and you know, he just 135 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:06,680 Speaker 1: got off on talent bitches about theirself, you know. But 136 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:09,320 Speaker 1: he died on top of a woman. Now this woman 137 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:12,400 Speaker 1: is actually one of the women that was on his 138 00:07:12,480 --> 00:07:15,560 Speaker 1: show before. He and the woman had probably been intimate 139 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:19,640 Speaker 1: before or whatever, and um, he just died on top 140 00:07:19,680 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 1: of you. There is something for she going on. I 141 00:07:22,680 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 1: do believe that she had something to do with this 142 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:27,160 Speaker 1: man's death. This is carefully reckless and I'm gonna say, 143 00:07:27,160 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 1: what the funk I feel. I feel like she had 144 00:07:29,120 --> 00:07:31,600 Speaker 1: everything to do with this man dying. I don't know 145 00:07:31,680 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 1: exactly what she did, but just like the cliche thing 146 00:07:35,280 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 1: that we always say, what happens in the dark will 147 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:40,280 Speaker 1: come to the light. She probably didn't even really mean 148 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 1: for the nigger to die, but she had got into 149 00:07:42,920 --> 00:07:45,160 Speaker 1: it with him a few days prior on his show. 150 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:48,200 Speaker 1: And then you go and meet up with him, and 151 00:07:48,240 --> 00:07:51,320 Speaker 1: now he's dead, like y'all were seeing beefing and ship 152 00:07:51,680 --> 00:07:53,920 Speaker 1: the ship is crazy. Hold up, hold up, I know 153 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 1: the ship getting good. But listen to just a couple 154 00:07:56,160 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 1: of seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. 155 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 1: It doesn't matter how much bad advice y'all feel that 156 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 1: he gave these women, and how much of a monster 157 00:08:07,680 --> 00:08:10,640 Speaker 1: y'all felt that he was too women and all of 158 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:13,680 Speaker 1: that ship. The man lost his life, he died, His 159 00:08:13,760 --> 00:08:15,880 Speaker 1: life was taken matter of fact, I'm not gonna say 160 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:19,840 Speaker 1: he lost his life. He obviously was murdered, but his 161 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:22,679 Speaker 1: life was taken away from him. He is dead now. 162 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:27,920 Speaker 1: And then you got like celebrities coming forward saying bad ship, 163 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:32,360 Speaker 1: adding insult to injury. You got preachers, matter of fact, 164 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 1: a Baltimore preacher, Jamal Bryant gets his ass in the 165 00:08:36,840 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 1: pulpit and preach to his church bad things about the dead. 166 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:46,840 Speaker 1: Is that not a sin? Are you fucking crazy? You 167 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:50,440 Speaker 1: fucking hypocrite? Like that ship pissed me off, your fucking mutt, 168 00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:52,960 Speaker 1: How dare you? That's what I'm saying. You're a lot 169 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:56,320 Speaker 1: of these fellowships, a lot of these churches, a lot 170 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:59,480 Speaker 1: of these congregations. I'm telling you, these people are going 171 00:08:59,559 --> 00:09:02,360 Speaker 1: to leave a lot of their people to hell. It's 172 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:04,880 Speaker 1: so many things that can be said about Jamal Bryant's ass, 173 00:09:04,880 --> 00:09:06,920 Speaker 1: and he's gonna get up in a pulpit and speak 174 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:10,199 Speaker 1: bad on a dead man. This man has a family. 175 00:09:10,559 --> 00:09:12,520 Speaker 1: Just because a lot of people didn't love him and 176 00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:15,360 Speaker 1: he was, you know, well hated online, does not mean 177 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:19,000 Speaker 1: he didn't have people that loved him. He has family, yes, parents. 178 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:20,640 Speaker 1: I don't know if he got kids, but I know 179 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:24,640 Speaker 1: he aunt's, uncle's, cousins and ship. Just because everybody online 180 00:09:24,640 --> 00:09:27,959 Speaker 1: hated him does not mean his family did. He had friends. 181 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:31,000 Speaker 1: You everybody got somebody that loved them. And for you 182 00:09:31,040 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 1: to sit up in a pulpit and lead your people 183 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:37,480 Speaker 1: in this manner and his members are just cheering them 184 00:09:37,480 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 1: on and yes, yes, yes, bitch who sound because it's 185 00:09:43,320 --> 00:09:45,080 Speaker 1: I wouldn't even have felt right? How can you even 186 00:09:45,120 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 1: feel right? Doing that ship? That ship pissed me off 187 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:52,839 Speaker 1: so bad? Like uh. And then I'm going through comments 188 00:09:53,400 --> 00:09:56,800 Speaker 1: when all the blogs finally did posts that he had passed, 189 00:09:56,800 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 1: and you know, I'm going through comments and these people 190 00:09:59,760 --> 00:10:02,040 Speaker 1: are just being so insensitive. Like I've seen a comment 191 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:04,840 Speaker 1: that said, oh now my boyfriend can't send me his 192 00:10:05,160 --> 00:10:10,320 Speaker 1: toxic as videos no more. What this man is dead, 193 00:10:10,360 --> 00:10:13,320 Speaker 1: He's gone, He's not even coming back, And that's what 194 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:16,320 Speaker 1: you have to say. Seriously. You know, I've seen another 195 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 1: comment that said, rest in peace. But what child? We 196 00:10:18,640 --> 00:10:24,600 Speaker 1: needed this one? What? What the fuck? This man had feelings. 197 00:10:24,600 --> 00:10:27,679 Speaker 1: This man had a life. He was in three failed marriages. 198 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:30,560 Speaker 1: But I mean, I know his ex wives are feeling 199 00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:34,360 Speaker 1: some type of pain. He was still a person. He 200 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 1: was fifty six years old, and it was said that 201 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:40,560 Speaker 1: he had died from cardiac arrest. I believe that that 202 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:44,240 Speaker 1: lady probably fucking poison this man. Just something you know, 203 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 1: I don't know, but something happened and it wasn't right. 204 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:52,520 Speaker 1: And for Vivica A. Fox to call his death karma like, 205 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:56,880 Speaker 1: bit you're fucked up in your head, like and look, 206 00:10:56,920 --> 00:11:00,160 Speaker 1: I got the utmost respect for my elders, for the 207 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 1: people before me, for you know, whether you're celebrity or not. 208 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 1: From my elder. That lady, she's grown and she is 209 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 1: a legend. And I get it, but bitch, you are 210 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:12,720 Speaker 1: fucked up in your head to say some ship like that, 211 00:11:13,280 --> 00:11:16,640 Speaker 1: somebody's death is karma. Who the funk did he killed? 212 00:11:16,679 --> 00:11:19,160 Speaker 1: I mean, that would be the only way I would 213 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:21,559 Speaker 1: deem it necessary to be talking about his death was 214 00:11:21,640 --> 00:11:25,720 Speaker 1: karma if he killed someone like God, damn, yo, I'm 215 00:11:25,760 --> 00:11:28,920 Speaker 1: telling you that ship just don't even sit right with me. 216 00:11:29,160 --> 00:11:31,800 Speaker 1: How to fucking somebody even say some ship like that. 217 00:11:32,240 --> 00:11:35,280 Speaker 1: She goes on her show, cocktails were queens, you know, 218 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:37,079 Speaker 1: shout out the fox soul. It's a it's a very 219 00:11:37,200 --> 00:11:40,120 Speaker 1: nice show, and she says that ship. She also says 220 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:42,760 Speaker 1: I didn't find anything about him to be healing. He 221 00:11:42,880 --> 00:11:47,200 Speaker 1: insulted African American women on a consistent basis and so forth, 222 00:11:47,360 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 1: that he deserved to die. She said, this man was 223 00:11:51,040 --> 00:11:53,960 Speaker 1: a hypocrite. In my honest opinion, he really was. I 224 00:11:54,000 --> 00:11:57,200 Speaker 1: get it, but God, damn, baby, people are just so evil. 225 00:11:57,240 --> 00:11:59,839 Speaker 1: People are so insensitive, you know what I'm saying. And 226 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:03,839 Speaker 1: that also plays a part in today's trolling and how 227 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:06,560 Speaker 1: somebody can just literally feel like they can say anything 228 00:12:06,559 --> 00:12:11,319 Speaker 1: to anybody nowadays, you know, nobody has feelings anymore. However, 229 00:12:12,040 --> 00:12:15,160 Speaker 1: I'm gonna keep that man's family and my prayers. I'm 230 00:12:15,200 --> 00:12:18,600 Speaker 1: gonna say it here and now, God rest your soul, Kevin, 231 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:21,800 Speaker 1: God rest your soul. Sorry you had to be taken 232 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:26,160 Speaker 1: out like that. And no one deserves to lose their life, literally, 233 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:29,120 Speaker 1: no one. If you love me, you'll listen to this 234 00:12:29,200 --> 00:12:33,480 Speaker 1: commercial and then we'll be right back. And other news. 235 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:36,680 Speaker 1: I know that y'all saw the first episode of Couples Retreat. 236 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:40,600 Speaker 1: I'm on there. I'm one of the new couples. Daniel 237 00:12:40,640 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 1: is accompanying me, and it's a lot of mixed feelings 238 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:46,040 Speaker 1: and doing something like that. People ask me, Yo, was 239 00:12:46,040 --> 00:12:48,200 Speaker 1: you nervous or you not? Like when we watched it Monday, 240 00:12:48,240 --> 00:12:50,640 Speaker 1: like prior to watching it, like all my friends were like, Yo, 241 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:52,960 Speaker 1: are you nervous? Like what happened? Like what you know? 242 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:54,439 Speaker 1: Like do you not want to watch it? Do you 243 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:56,840 Speaker 1: want to watch it? Listen? I'm gonna be honest with y'all. 244 00:12:56,840 --> 00:12:58,760 Speaker 1: Just let y'all in on a vulnerable part of me. 245 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:01,679 Speaker 1: I was scared of ship watch it while we filmed it, 246 00:13:01,679 --> 00:13:05,960 Speaker 1: because we filmed it last year in September. I was 247 00:13:06,080 --> 00:13:09,200 Speaker 1: like hesitant and even going there to film it because 248 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:13,559 Speaker 1: I'm like, Wow, I'm actually letting people in on my 249 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:16,400 Speaker 1: personal personal life. I mean, I know that y'all have 250 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:19,640 Speaker 1: seen me in the past go public with relationships, and 251 00:13:19,679 --> 00:13:22,880 Speaker 1: what I've learned in doing that is don't do that ship, 252 00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:27,240 Speaker 1: you know. But I'm crazy like that. And you know, 253 00:13:27,760 --> 00:13:30,000 Speaker 1: I love love, whether y'all can see it or not, 254 00:13:30,080 --> 00:13:33,120 Speaker 1: whether y'all you know, really really know me. If y'all 255 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:35,560 Speaker 1: are my fans, y'all know that I love love. You know, 256 00:13:35,920 --> 00:13:37,680 Speaker 1: I want to be married, I want to have kids. 257 00:13:37,840 --> 00:13:39,520 Speaker 1: I want to and a lot of times, you know, 258 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:42,720 Speaker 1: you get caught up in and settling because you feel 259 00:13:42,760 --> 00:13:44,880 Speaker 1: like when is it going to happen? And it's not 260 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:47,360 Speaker 1: happening fast enough for me, it's not you know. And 261 00:13:47,400 --> 00:13:50,520 Speaker 1: then every person you meet is something wrong with this person? 262 00:13:50,640 --> 00:13:53,120 Speaker 1: Or but it's gonna be something wrong with everybody. But 263 00:13:53,320 --> 00:13:55,839 Speaker 1: you have to actually really get to know a person 264 00:13:55,840 --> 00:14:00,960 Speaker 1: and decide for yourself. Am I up for this ship? Okay? 265 00:14:00,960 --> 00:14:03,320 Speaker 1: I see this person has a problem with loving, you know. 266 00:14:03,400 --> 00:14:05,960 Speaker 1: I see this person is like not even all the 267 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:08,320 Speaker 1: way together in their own head, like they still have 268 00:14:08,360 --> 00:14:09,920 Speaker 1: a lot of ship that they have to figure out 269 00:14:09,960 --> 00:14:12,800 Speaker 1: for themselves before they can just get in the relationship. 270 00:14:13,160 --> 00:14:15,559 Speaker 1: You know, you have to factor out all of those 271 00:14:15,600 --> 00:14:18,080 Speaker 1: things before you want to just move forward, makeing official 272 00:14:18,120 --> 00:14:20,320 Speaker 1: with somebody and put a title on things. Because I 273 00:14:20,360 --> 00:14:22,680 Speaker 1: don't date like I used to anymore. Like I don't 274 00:14:22,800 --> 00:14:26,280 Speaker 1: date with the notion of breaking up like you know 275 00:14:26,880 --> 00:14:29,680 Speaker 1: a lot of times now, that's how people date. People 276 00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:33,080 Speaker 1: date keeping their options open because they already feel like 277 00:14:33,120 --> 00:14:35,640 Speaker 1: the ship might not work. That's not good. That's how 278 00:14:35,680 --> 00:14:38,600 Speaker 1: we are as a people now. We date like that. 279 00:14:38,680 --> 00:14:40,680 Speaker 1: I don't want to date like that no more. I 280 00:14:40,720 --> 00:14:42,840 Speaker 1: was dating like that all of my twenties, and I 281 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:44,280 Speaker 1: don't want to do that ship. And I'm not just 282 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 1: saying that because I'm thirty now, but that's how I feel, 283 00:14:47,120 --> 00:14:50,680 Speaker 1: and I am maturing, I'm growing, and it's it's a 284 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:52,760 Speaker 1: lot of growth there. So you guys have a lot 285 00:14:52,920 --> 00:14:55,200 Speaker 1: of that in store for you on Couples Retreat, make 286 00:14:55,200 --> 00:14:57,880 Speaker 1: sure you tune in every Monday at nine eighth Central, 287 00:14:58,120 --> 00:14:59,960 Speaker 1: and you guys can see a difference out of jazz. 288 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:02,120 Speaker 1: You know, I'm not always hard up. I'm actually really 289 00:15:02,160 --> 00:15:04,400 Speaker 1: soft and very feminine. I do love love, I do 290 00:15:04,440 --> 00:15:07,920 Speaker 1: have feelings. They do get hurt. I do sometimes pick 291 00:15:08,000 --> 00:15:10,880 Speaker 1: the wrong people, and maybe I'm the wrong person at 292 00:15:10,920 --> 00:15:13,720 Speaker 1: times for somebody else. But you know, all of that 293 00:15:13,760 --> 00:15:16,360 Speaker 1: ship is living, and all that ship is learning, and 294 00:15:16,400 --> 00:15:18,760 Speaker 1: all of that ship is living and learning. In love, 295 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:24,080 Speaker 1: you have to be able to be okay with making mistakes, 296 00:15:24,520 --> 00:15:27,960 Speaker 1: and you know, don't be too hard on itself. I'm very, 297 00:15:28,160 --> 00:15:32,080 Speaker 1: very freaking hard on myself when it comes to feeling 298 00:15:32,120 --> 00:15:34,960 Speaker 1: like I failed in another relationship. No one wants to 299 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:38,240 Speaker 1: keep on this relationship, that relationship, this relationship. Oh let 300 00:15:38,240 --> 00:15:40,160 Speaker 1: meet someone new. Oh my god, I'm back to the streets. 301 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:42,400 Speaker 1: Like you know, that ship is all cute and cool 302 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:44,600 Speaker 1: for social media memes and likes and all that ship 303 00:15:44,720 --> 00:15:46,640 Speaker 1: and for reposting all that, But in real life, that 304 00:15:46,760 --> 00:15:50,640 Speaker 1: ship is not cool. Nobody wants to do that. Everybody 305 00:15:50,640 --> 00:15:53,480 Speaker 1: wants to have that one person, and those who don't, 306 00:15:53,840 --> 00:15:55,760 Speaker 1: all right, more power to you if you can handle 307 00:15:55,760 --> 00:15:59,360 Speaker 1: more than one motherfucker go head, you know, superhero, you know, 308 00:15:59,400 --> 00:16:00,960 Speaker 1: because I can't do it, and I don't want to 309 00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:04,560 Speaker 1: do it. I just want that one person, my person. 310 00:16:04,720 --> 00:16:08,160 Speaker 1: I just want one person. Everybody deserves to have their 311 00:16:08,160 --> 00:16:12,520 Speaker 1: own person and belong to somebody, and somebody belongs to you, 312 00:16:12,600 --> 00:16:16,320 Speaker 1: and that person is your best friend. You're able to say, 313 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:18,280 Speaker 1: that's my man, but that's my nigga man, that's my 314 00:16:18,360 --> 00:16:20,880 Speaker 1: ride or die. That's my girl, but that's my chick. Man. 315 00:16:20,960 --> 00:16:22,640 Speaker 1: That's I don't want to say my bitch, but you know, 316 00:16:22,920 --> 00:16:25,080 Speaker 1: and laying the term saying, that's my bitch man, Like 317 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:27,280 Speaker 1: I can tell anything. We can lay in a bed, 318 00:16:27,320 --> 00:16:29,200 Speaker 1: we can talk for hours and we fuck, then we 319 00:16:29,240 --> 00:16:31,120 Speaker 1: wake up, then we go out. Then I go my way, 320 00:16:31,160 --> 00:16:32,920 Speaker 1: you go your way, and that now I'm gonna miss 321 00:16:32,960 --> 00:16:34,920 Speaker 1: you when you come back. You know what I mean? 322 00:16:34,960 --> 00:16:36,960 Speaker 1: Just all of that ship. That's what I want. I 323 00:16:36,960 --> 00:16:38,920 Speaker 1: don't want the glitz and glam all the time of 324 00:16:39,040 --> 00:16:42,320 Speaker 1: a fucking relationship. I want the problems with the ship too. 325 00:16:42,440 --> 00:16:44,320 Speaker 1: But you gotta be able to pick and choose which 326 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:47,800 Speaker 1: problems are worth you're sticking around, worth your time, worth 327 00:16:47,840 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 1: your sanity, because all that sh it ain't worth it 328 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:53,320 Speaker 1: all the time. You can't be miserable. Relationship can't be 329 00:16:53,360 --> 00:16:55,880 Speaker 1: one sided. You know, it's not fair, And you can't 330 00:16:55,920 --> 00:16:58,880 Speaker 1: always think you can change somebody. They'll change, They'll change 331 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:01,440 Speaker 1: on their own. Maybe you ain't for them. Maybe you 332 00:17:01,440 --> 00:17:03,160 Speaker 1: ain't the one to make them change, you know, And 333 00:17:03,200 --> 00:17:05,679 Speaker 1: maybe they were putting your life for a different reason. 334 00:17:06,080 --> 00:17:07,879 Speaker 1: You just got it mixed up, you know. And we 335 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:10,200 Speaker 1: make mistakes like that too, and that's how you live 336 00:17:10,240 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 1: and learn. And that is the end of this podcast. 337 00:17:13,600 --> 00:17:17,080 Speaker 1: Today tuned into Carefully Reckless, every hump day tuned into 338 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:19,960 Speaker 1: Reckless Discussions as well. 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