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Speaker 1: I absolutely adore my step children, but now my husband

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Speaker 1: is ruining everything. Get rid of your husband, Get rid

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Speaker 1: of your husband ruin the life his children. Yeah, what

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Speaker 1: I mean the ahole if I asked my step kids

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Speaker 1: to move out. My husband forty male and I thirty

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Speaker 1: four female, haven't married for four years. I came into

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Speaker 1: my stepdaughter, sixteen female's life when she was about ten

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Speaker 1: years old. Both her and my step son, now twelve male,

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Speaker 1: were somewhat neglected and had behavioral issues when I met them.

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Speaker 1: My husband and his ex aren't bad parents, but he

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Speaker 1: travels a lot for work, and she is a bit

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Speaker 1: flighty and self indulgent. My stepdaughter and I hit it

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Speaker 1: off real well, and I love both of my step kids.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from therough Thra Bluddha on

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Speaker 1: the Arsasha Okay story times over. So we all co

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Speaker 1: parented well, with me taking on a more active role

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Speaker 1: in their school and other stuff. Both husband and his

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Speaker 1: ex wife were satisfied with me doing the grunt work

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Speaker 1: for the kids.

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Speaker 2: I love it. Oh, he's like, yeah, we all co

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Speaker 2: parented well with me being the parent and them not.

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Speaker 3: They're not bad parents, they just like don't parent.

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Speaker 2: That's it. It's very simple. I have parent and they

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Speaker 2: stand there.

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Speaker 3: It's so good.

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Speaker 2: Op maybe not maybe reevaluate.

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Speaker 1: They both travel a lot, and I became the sole

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Speaker 1: parent who was fully engaged.

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Speaker 2: I don't really know. I don't think you co parent. Well,

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be soo Drew Drew.

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Speaker 1: I own a three bedroom house that I had inherited

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Speaker 1: from my parents and husband and kids moved in to

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Speaker 1: live with me. So not only are you the full

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Speaker 1: time parent, you are housing that the housing your everything.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 3: The kids love their rooms in our home and their

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Speaker 3: lives in our town. The custody arrangement they have on

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Speaker 3: paper is fifty to fifty, but their mom doesn't have

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Speaker 3: as much space surprise, surprise, as I do, so the kids.

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Speaker 2: Are here almost full time. It sounds like neither of

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Speaker 2: these parents wanted their kids, and so they like found

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Speaker 2: a willing parent and then conned her into parenting their kids.

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Speaker 3: Conspiracy theory, Just to literally regurgitate your great theory that

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Speaker 3: you just said. Did they conspire that could be a chef?

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Speaker 1: Be a chef, Sophia, Let's let's cook up. Let's cook

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Speaker 1: up some theories.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Did they literally get together and say, you know what,

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Speaker 3: why don't you go find a partner, Like, I'm not

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Speaker 3: gonna be mad. It's all cool because.

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Speaker 1: We're going to give them all the work, but I'll

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Speaker 1: want up you so we can go off and get

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Speaker 1: down and dirt busy with a spicy sleep. They divorced

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Speaker 1: so they could get busy.

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Speaker 2: That's kind of like the Doofen Schmertz and his wife.

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Speaker 2: Well actually only in the alternate universe they got divorced

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Speaker 2: for for I don't know.

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Speaker 3: We got to stick to the canon, Sophia. We can't

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Speaker 3: go to multiple universes.

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Speaker 1: But we'll get back to our universe and reality and

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Speaker 1: see if a're crazy conspiracy theory is true. So a

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Speaker 1: few months ago, I came back from an overnight school

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Speaker 1: field trip with my steps on to a very distraught

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Speaker 3: She found her parents. You are right, we are okay, Okay,

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Speaker 3: I gotta read it four an alert. Also, Sophia, could

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Speaker 3: you angle of that one? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Just a little oh dude that yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah. Anyways,

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Speaker 1: so Sophia ran ahead butt ladies and gentlemen, so it's okay.

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Speaker 1: She found her parents together in my bedroom and was upset.

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Speaker 2: About the cheating unbelievable.

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Speaker 1: They weren't sewing, they weren't making mac and cheese.

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Speaker 3: But I don't even have to say it.

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Speaker 4: That's what it sounds like.

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Speaker 3: That's what it sounded like. Riley said it for me.

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Speaker 3: I can't believe I was joking. I was truly joking.

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Speaker 2: Well, I was joking.

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Speaker 1: They stay married and hire a nanny. You hire a nanny,

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Speaker 1: you don't get a free house m before Sophia.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and also you have to pay nanny for childcare. Dude,

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Speaker 2: you get labor and free house. Why aren't people doing

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Speaker 3: People are going to start doing? This? Is too bad?

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Speaker 3: Oh no no.

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Speaker 1: I was devastated to hear this from her, and after

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Speaker 2: Possibly a whole year. Oh my goodness.

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Speaker 1: I've been trying to get pregnant for the past two

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Speaker 1: years and we were having very frequent, spicy sleep and

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Speaker 2: That's yeah, messed up.

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Speaker 3: So I've filed for divorce. Whoo.

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Speaker 2: Oh he's quick with it.

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Speaker 1: Ohpe he's quick with it. And I've asked him to leave.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't want this marriage to end and seems somehow

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Speaker 1: convinced that I'll change my mind. But he agreed to

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 1: My stepdaughter was mad at both her parents and wants

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Speaker 1: to continue living with me.

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Speaker 2: That's complicated.

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Speaker 3: It's complicated. It's complicated. Do you think op real quick

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Speaker 2: Well legally can she? She's not, you know, I don't

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Speaker 2: think she's adopted either of these kids, so I don't

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Speaker 1: If like, hey, if you guys got to you know,

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Speaker 2: Just get to take the kids. Those are the rules. Deal. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you don't even want those kids.

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Speaker 3: And then the divorce is easy. Yeah that's leverage.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's do.

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Speaker 3: I guess she already has the house and all the money,

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Speaker 3: so what could even but take take them. I like it.

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Speaker 1: Neither of them are taking any steps to move out

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Speaker 1: I am the interloper. She treats me like I am

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Speaker 2: Oh, sweetheart, hope, you do not have a responsibility to

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Speaker 3: Can we sue the parents? Can we put them in?

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Speaker 3: Can we do what can we do? Can we build

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Speaker 5: Please?

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Speaker 3: Can we figure this out? Oh? My god?

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Speaker 2: Something.

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Speaker 1: Meanwhile, my ex frequently drops by under the guise of

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 1: I love my stepdaughter and I don't want to do

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Speaker 1: and it's painful to have to be keep dealing with them.

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Speaker 1: The absolute cheek of them to treat me like this

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Speaker 3: Even I'm not going to say it.

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to say, hey, say the joke in

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Speaker 3: But I don't know what to do about the kids.

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Speaker 1: Everyone in my life is expecting me to just suck

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Speaker 1: on planet Earth or the space time continuum, and that

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Speaker 1: is Sophia freaking Daughner.

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Speaker 2: That's me. Uh, John, Have I got some thoughts?

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Speaker 3: Oh to tell one or two?

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Speaker 2: Tell one. I think while Pete loves these children, clearly,

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Speaker 2: they at the end of the day, are not her responsibility,

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Speaker 2: like they aren't her children legally or biologically in any way,

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Speaker 2: And I think that she kind of needs to do

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Speaker 2: You're always welcome, But you can't live here.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but what if she wants the kids?

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Speaker 2: What if she's like yeah, and then it's that the

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Speaker 2: I don't know if she has any legal Like, I

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Speaker 2: guess you know, you couldn't really do that because both

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Speaker 1: I bring you the kids, or like I don't really

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Speaker 1: it's like very strict boundaries.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, maybe the solution is you say to them,

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Speaker 2: can't come to the house. And we have some sort

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Speaker 1: That Yes, I think it's that. I think because I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it seems like she's grown really attached the kids.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I do think at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: I think you're right, Yeah, but I could We could

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Speaker 1: both be wrong. Oh let's see what the comments have

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Speaker 1: to say about it. Oh, crumb Cake says, not the ahole.

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Speaker 1: If the kids live with you, then you should be

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Speaker 1: getting child support from both parents that too, and they're

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Speaker 1: but your own mental health comes first, and you shouldn't

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Speaker 1: Meet with a lawyer to figure out your options with

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Speaker 1: since you want to go no contact with the parents

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Speaker 2: They could be divorced and finalize their divorce in sixteen days.

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Speaker 3: And it could have been just like I take the kids.

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Speaker 1: Sophia if certain unnamed savory unsavory individuals, Yeah, came to

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Speaker 2: Okay? Wait wait wait wait? Who is the unsavory individual?

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Speaker 2: And then they're eating my soup. They're eating your soup. Ah.

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Speaker 2: I'm throwing hands, But I would go in my room.

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Speaker 3: That is so accurate, though I love the honesty.

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Speaker 2: They would be like, oh, hey, guys, and they'd be like, oh,

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Speaker 3: It just made me sad just envisioning it. You're so

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Speaker 4: Like? You can't cheat? And be damned too.

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Speaker 3: You know my mind is blown, Riley.

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Speaker 2: I'm frankly bamboozol.

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Speaker 2: Look, you're just being unreasonable. Okay. I brought you a

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Speaker 3: No, No, you creating go back from the slithery cold

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Speaker 2: This is terrible.

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Speaker 2: My guy, My guy, she's already parenting your kids. She

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Speaker 2: You're not even there. You're not even in their lives,

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Speaker 1: No kettle's, no no pots, no pots, nothing. You're just

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Speaker 3: Oh MJ.

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Speaker 1: Gros says, call CPS. Poll Do we call CPS? Call

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, Like.

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Speaker 4: Then they're in your hands.

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Speaker 2: I mean you just need to like start texting, getting

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Speaker 2: get received. That's stuff like don't do calls anymore to say,

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Speaker 3: That's smart. That'll help you do anything that you need

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00:18:59,520 --> 00:18:59,679
Speaker 3: to do.

443
00:19:01,040 --> 00:19:04,240
Speaker 1: But Opie says, I was afraid of things turning out

444
00:19:04,280 --> 00:19:06,639
Speaker 1: this way. But I've got X and mom out of

445
00:19:06,640 --> 00:19:08,840
Speaker 1: my house, and that is a relief. Stepdaughter is going

446
00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:11,600
Speaker 1: to live with me until she moves out to college. Okay,

447
00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:15,520
Speaker 1: she's like way older ex's strugs tea. Yes, true, X

448
00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:17,879
Speaker 1: is struggling to find child care for steps On and

449
00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:20,480
Speaker 1: is angry at me that I think he'll not slow

450
00:19:20,600 --> 00:19:22,760
Speaker 1: down the divorce anymore. I want to fix this with

451
00:19:22,760 --> 00:19:25,399
Speaker 1: steps On, but a big selfish part of me is

452
00:19:25,440 --> 00:19:28,400
Speaker 1: afraid to do anything that'll bring his parents back into

453
00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:28,840
Speaker 1: my life.

454
00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:30,879
Speaker 3: That's not a selfish part of you. That is a.

455
00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:32,359
Speaker 2: Very reasonable part of me.

456
00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:36,879
Speaker 1: Yes, so reasonable, Opie is giving big people please her vibe. Yeah,

457
00:19:36,920 --> 00:19:40,560
Speaker 1: in some areas, I really don't understand mother's actions and

458
00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:43,000
Speaker 1: motivations and all this. She wanted to sleep with X

459
00:19:43,080 --> 00:19:45,000
Speaker 1: and I had walked out of the picture, and it

460
00:19:45,040 --> 00:19:47,840
Speaker 1: was all hers if she wanted her kids. It wasn't

461
00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:49,880
Speaker 1: like there was anything I could do about that. If

462
00:19:49,920 --> 00:19:52,440
Speaker 1: she didn't want her kids, I was already taking care

463
00:19:52,480 --> 00:19:55,520
Speaker 1: of them. But she'd kept violating my boundaries with a

464
00:19:55,560 --> 00:19:58,360
Speaker 1: smile on her face, and be all surprised that I'm

465
00:19:58,359 --> 00:20:01,320
Speaker 1: not happy about this right now. Out Neither her nor

466
00:20:01,400 --> 00:20:03,760
Speaker 1: ex want to be the daily parent to steps On,

467
00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:05,960
Speaker 1: but he's angry at me enough that he doesn't want

468
00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:08,919
Speaker 1: to choose me as the parent. I feel so crushed

469
00:20:08,920 --> 00:20:11,119
Speaker 1: about that. We have some relevant comments on that. So

470
00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:13,680
Speaker 1: from burning Duchess, I am so sorry that you're going

471
00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:15,240
Speaker 1: through all of this. I do think it's for the

472
00:20:15,280 --> 00:20:17,600
Speaker 1: best that step son isn't staying with you anymore, and

473
00:20:17,680 --> 00:20:19,800
Speaker 1: I think i'd be healthy for you to take a

474
00:20:19,840 --> 00:20:22,520
Speaker 1: step back from them as a family during the divorce proceedings.

475
00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:23,000
Speaker 2: I think so.

476
00:20:23,280 --> 00:20:26,119
Speaker 1: I concur with that you've parented their children more than

477
00:20:26,160 --> 00:20:28,920
Speaker 1: they have, but unfortunately, at the end of the day, they.

478
00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:29,639
Speaker 3: Are still theirs.

479
00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:32,600
Speaker 1: So a step son being younger, it's best that you

480
00:20:32,680 --> 00:20:35,600
Speaker 1: give them some room. I second the question of how

481
00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:39,000
Speaker 1: old stepdaughter is. Also, you should both think about how

482
00:20:39,040 --> 00:20:41,719
Speaker 1: her staying with you will affect her college options. Are

483
00:20:41,720 --> 00:20:44,280
Speaker 1: her parents paying for it? Will they withdraw their support

484
00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:47,119
Speaker 1: if they maintain your side over theirs. As much as

485
00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:49,359
Speaker 1: you love her, you should also ensure that these children

486
00:20:49,440 --> 00:20:52,520
Speaker 1: don't become your responsibility, or that their parents could claim

487
00:20:52,600 --> 00:20:55,720
Speaker 1: that you were alienating her from them during the process.

488
00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:58,119
Speaker 1: Change the locks at your place for sure, though, and

489
00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:00,720
Speaker 1: if stepdaughter is to be staying with you, please make

490
00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:04,200
Speaker 1: sure she understands that they are not welcome. I'd recommend

491
00:21:04,280 --> 00:21:06,199
Speaker 1: if she wants to see them, it should be at

492
00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:09,000
Speaker 1: a neutral place if she's not up to going to theirs,

493
00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:11,119
Speaker 1: but if she's too young for that, then maybe she

494
00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:13,640
Speaker 1: should be going to her father's even if it's not.

495
00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:14,760
Speaker 2: What she would prefer.

496
00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:16,920
Speaker 1: You have to put yourself as a priority right now

497
00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:19,440
Speaker 1: and stop letting them control and manipulate the situation.

498
00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:20,520
Speaker 3: Everyone is going.

499
00:21:20,400 --> 00:21:22,600
Speaker 1: To get a little hurt and it will, but you

500
00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:26,920
Speaker 1: will get through this. Quick gut check comments Chat and Sophia.

501
00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:28,920
Speaker 1: Do you think that is a reasonable take.

502
00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:31,040
Speaker 2: I think that's a very reasonable take. I think it's

503
00:21:31,080 --> 00:21:33,520
Speaker 2: saying like, yeah, you might want to keep them in

504
00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:35,280
Speaker 2: your lives, but at the end of the day, it

505
00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:37,399
Speaker 2: might not be what's best for them or you.

506
00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:39,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like it's almost like what do you want

507
00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:41,520
Speaker 1: versus what do you need? You might want to, you know,

508
00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:44,040
Speaker 1: stay in the stepdaughter's life and you know you have

509
00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:46,399
Speaker 1: you know, love living together, but at the end of

510
00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:50,120
Speaker 1: the day it might so massively overcomplicate it that it's

511
00:21:50,119 --> 00:21:53,040
Speaker 1: actually just worse for all parties in life. Yeah, Phantom's

512
00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:54,879
Speaker 1: manner says, I think the best thing you can do

513
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:57,480
Speaker 1: is to let stepdaughter talk to stepson, get some time

514
00:21:57,520 --> 00:21:59,760
Speaker 1: for yourself, and maybe put the kids in counseling. Being

515
00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:01,960
Speaker 1: how young he is, he might not realize how messed

516
00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:04,359
Speaker 1: up the situation is. On top of his parents' divorce,

517
00:22:04,480 --> 00:22:06,480
Speaker 1: he and his sister were neglected by both of them

518
00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:10,119
Speaker 1: and is now going through another divorce. Yeah, and the

519
00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:12,679
Speaker 1: fact that they had the audacity to have a family

520
00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:15,840
Speaker 1: dinner and using your possessions kind of feels like they're

521
00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:19,160
Speaker 1: up to both stepdaughter and step son into the life

522
00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:21,000
Speaker 1: that they had before, only they.

523
00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:22,600
Speaker 3: Don't want to do the work. They want to use

524
00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:23,719
Speaker 3: you as their babysitter.

525
00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:25,680
Speaker 1: If it weren't for this, I would have thought they're

526
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:28,240
Speaker 1: trying to ruin his perception of you, because in his

527
00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:31,560
Speaker 1: point of view, you initiated the divorce because his parents

528
00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:33,959
Speaker 1: want to get back together. You yelled at them, and

529
00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:36,960
Speaker 1: generally being a bad person to his mom in.

530
00:22:37,040 --> 00:22:39,000
Speaker 3: His eyes, to the step son's eyes.

531
00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:41,360
Speaker 1: Just to be clear, you aren't a bad person at all,

532
00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:42,840
Speaker 1: and you have the right to be mad at both

533
00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:44,879
Speaker 1: of them, certainly better than the both of them. And

534
00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:47,639
Speaker 1: OPI responds to that, I keep thinking about the dinner,

535
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 1: and I am so weirded out. Nobody's poor here. Doing

536
00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 1: a family dinner isn't a hardship for anyone. Yeah, cooking

537
00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:55,880
Speaker 1: one dishable zognia is not going to break the bank.

538
00:22:55,720 --> 00:22:56,280
Speaker 3: For these people.

539
00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:58,840
Speaker 1: Doing this in your own home or go to a restaurant,

540
00:22:58,960 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 1: do anything, But why do it in your home? That

541
00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:03,879
Speaker 1: just blows my mind.

542
00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, No, it's because they're trying to insert themselves in

543
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,040
Speaker 2: themselves into everything that you have.

544
00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:10,960
Speaker 3: I think, yeah, I think.

545
00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:14,000
Speaker 1: I also think Mom gets a kind of sick, twisted

546
00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:18,280
Speaker 1: pleasure out of like torturing Opie. Yeah, like Loki the

547
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:21,720
Speaker 1: Caman all sweet and smiling, it's giving, like Oh, she

548
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:23,400
Speaker 1: has this facade of being.

549
00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:25,840
Speaker 3: Like, oh, I'm so sweet and you know, but she's

550
00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:29,600
Speaker 3: really evil. E mail, What were you guys thinking?

551
00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:33,160
Speaker 1: Stepdaughter is being great with me, but she's emotionally shut

552
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:35,480
Speaker 1: herself off from her family. She only calls her dad

553
00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:37,760
Speaker 1: for money and she doesn't talk to her mom at all,

554
00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:38,800
Speaker 1: which isn't health either.

555
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:40,240
Speaker 3: But I don't know what to do about that.

556
00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:42,639
Speaker 1: Now she's ambitious and working hard for school, and I

557
00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:44,560
Speaker 1: am proud of her for that. My parents passed away

558
00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:47,240
Speaker 1: a decade ago, but my aunt is nearby and ex

559
00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:50,840
Speaker 1: complained to her about me. God, I got lectured by

560
00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 1: her about how I should do better buy my stepkids

561
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 1: don't side with them, huh.

562
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:58,160
Speaker 2: The thing is that at the end of the day,

563
00:23:58,200 --> 00:24:01,080
Speaker 2: they aren't your step kids anymore. Not they're not your

564
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:04,439
Speaker 2: step kids anymore, geezed. And anyone who's saying that you're

565
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:07,399
Speaker 2: not you know, stepping up and up for your step

566
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:08,720
Speaker 2: kids is wrong.

567
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:12,800
Speaker 1: Call the cops on Auntie locker locker es. I hate

568
00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:15,239
Speaker 1: that he's bad mouthing me to the few people I

569
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:17,360
Speaker 1: have left in my life. And we have an update

570
00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:20,440
Speaker 1: seventeen days later, So we're now.

571
00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:23,679
Speaker 2: One day after it was it seventeen days after the

572
00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:25,800
Speaker 2: first sixteen y it was just one day.

573
00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 4: It's so basically a month since the original post, A.

574
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:32,080
Speaker 1: Month out, a month out, we could now officially be divorced.

575
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,159
Speaker 1: I'm still holding that comments. You can flame me if

576
00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:35,679
Speaker 1: you want, go ahead, but I don't know.

577
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:36,200
Speaker 3: We'll see.

578
00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 1: Nothing of consequence has happened on the legal front since

579
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:41,480
Speaker 1: my last post. So I'm wrong. Okay, go ahead, flame me,

580
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:45,280
Speaker 1: go ahead. Have fun cast him into the fire. Emotionally,

581
00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 1: it has been lots of ups and downs. A lot

582
00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 1: of people message me suggesting that I should let stepdaughter

583
00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 1: go and it's not healthy to have her staying with me.

584
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,240
Speaker 1: That may be so on paper, but it's not something

585
00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:57,240
Speaker 1: I want to do. I met X a few years

586
00:24:57,320 --> 00:24:59,840
Speaker 1: after my parents passed away. I was very close to them,

587
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:02,400
Speaker 1: and they passed away one after the other. I suffered

588
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 1: a lot from depression from grieving. My boyfriend at the

589
00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:07,360
Speaker 1: time dumped me and I had lost a lot of friends.

590
00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:09,600
Speaker 1: Who were these people?

591
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:10,200
Speaker 6: Ah?

592
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:11,440
Speaker 2: Ah.

593
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 1: When we started dating, I was coming out of my

594
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 1: sadness but was still very lonely. Stepdaughter and I became

595
00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:20,159
Speaker 1: each other's supports very quickly. She felt neglected by her

596
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:22,800
Speaker 1: parents and had resentment towards them, and I suppose she

597
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:24,960
Speaker 1: loved the attention I gave her. I found her to

598
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:26,919
Speaker 1: be a loving kid, and I liked bonding with her.

599
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:29,160
Speaker 1: Step son and I were close too. While he loved

600
00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:31,399
Speaker 1: his mom, I did kind of assume that he was

601
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:34,040
Speaker 1: closer to me. One of the resentments that stepped bout

602
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:36,800
Speaker 1: are held against her parents was that they were uninterested

603
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:40,600
Speaker 1: and dismissive of her extracurriculars. That led to her failing

604
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,720
Speaker 1: in some activities that she was very passionate about. She's

605
00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:46,120
Speaker 1: into a sport I was familiar with, and I spent

606
00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:48,200
Speaker 1: a lot of time training with her. Ah the old

607
00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 1: niche sports. Niche sport insert niche insert sport here. You

608
00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:56,800
Speaker 1: know I used to familiar I used to do it

609
00:25:56,800 --> 00:26:00,159
Speaker 1: all the time I was varsity and insert sport know

610
00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:04,000
Speaker 1: by you know, my knee couldn't do it, I couldn't go.

611
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:09,280
Speaker 1: I would have gone state bro Oh god. So I

612
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 1: spent a lot of time training with her and took

613
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 1: her to events and classes for it. She is very

614
00:26:13,119 --> 00:26:15,439
Speaker 1: good at it now and it's going to be a

615
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 1: source of scholarships for her. I'm possibly going to get

616
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:20,560
Speaker 1: her into college that she is interested in.

617
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 3: Well. D one school ooh is it insert niche school?

618
00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 2: Insert niche school? Yeah, for D one athletics.

619
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 3: It's the insert ivy institution of insert location.

620
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:33,560
Speaker 2: Insert sport. Ah.

621
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:36,040
Speaker 1: She's hardworking and ambitious, and I want to support her

622
00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:38,080
Speaker 1: as much as I can. She has promised to keep

623
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:39,919
Speaker 1: her parents out of her home, and I hope she

624
00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:42,280
Speaker 1: sticks with that till she leaves for college. X has

625
00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 1: been very angry and ranting at me in messages. I

626
00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:47,600
Speaker 1: have stopped answering his calls and I do not reply

627
00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:50,160
Speaker 1: to emails. I've told him the only subject I will

628
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:52,919
Speaker 1: discuss with him is divorce, and only through my lawyer.

629
00:26:53,040 --> 00:26:55,480
Speaker 1: So he's been bad mouthing me to a lot.

630
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 3: Of mutual acquaintances. Can we use this in a divorce somehow? Please?

631
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:02,359
Speaker 2: I mean, you've you're getting all those texts now and emails,

632
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:03,920
Speaker 2: so I've gotta be able to I mean, like you

633
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 2: have cheating, You've got all the emailing, You're taking care

634
00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:10,280
Speaker 2: of his kids. That's got to help in the divorce.

635
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:13,200
Speaker 1: Please please let it help in the divorce. A couple

636
00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:16,680
Speaker 1: of people have gently chided me for abandoning step son.

637
00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:18,320
Speaker 2: Why are people chiding you.

638
00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:20,400
Speaker 3: Divorce everyone in your life.

639
00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:23,360
Speaker 2: This is ridiculous. That's not at the end of the day,

640
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:27,320
Speaker 2: that's not your son. You have no responsibility to him. Yes,

641
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:30,600
Speaker 2: you're being a freaking angel by wanting to take responsibility,

642
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:33,800
Speaker 2: but you have no responsibility for him. These people, I

643
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:36,520
Speaker 2: wonder if they know. I wonder if Opie's just hidden.

644
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:38,760
Speaker 1: The fact that he cheated, because Opie has not said that.

645
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:42,000
Speaker 1: That is my possibly current suspicion. One went so far

646
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:44,879
Speaker 1: as to say that women who become step moms should

647
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:47,440
Speaker 1: know what they are signing up for, and a real

648
00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:49,680
Speaker 1: mother wouldn't leave for children.

649
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:52,200
Speaker 2: Are you talking to the freaking devil?

650
00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:55,680
Speaker 3: Why don't you tell that to their literal, real mom. Yeah,

651
00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 3: their bio mom who's freaking flying over the world. I

652
00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:00,879
Speaker 3: don't understand, not them, Okay.

653
00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:03,400
Speaker 1: I am not good with conflict and haven't been able

654
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 1: to respond properly. I've pretty much isolated, isolated, myself from

655
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 1: these people, so I don't have to listen to comments

656
00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 1: like these. Mom is still blocked by me, and she

657
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:13,680
Speaker 1: hasn't made any efforts to communicate with me, and that's

658
00:28:13,680 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 1: been a huge relief. A week after the last post,

659
00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 1: sister in law came down to see me. She lives

660
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 1: about three hours away, so I was pretty apprehensive that

661
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,240
Speaker 1: she was going to drive down all the way over

662
00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:26,639
Speaker 1: here to talk to me. If it's anything like anyone

663
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:29,240
Speaker 1: else in her life, I do not have good hopes

664
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:30,200
Speaker 1: for this conversation.

665
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:33,679
Speaker 2: Yeah. If it's going the way that the whole post

666
00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 2: has been going, it's going downhill.

667
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:37,200
Speaker 3: The whole town is just like.

668
00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:41,080
Speaker 2: Why don't you care for your children? She's like I.

669
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:46,000
Speaker 3: Next thing, you know, the whole town is just eating

670
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:46,840
Speaker 3: her lasagnia.

671
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:49,640
Speaker 2: They're all in her house and they're like, Wow, I

672
00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:53,320
Speaker 2: would be not caring for your children. Eating her lasagna?

673
00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 4: Not cool?

674
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:56,400
Speaker 1: So I asked to meet her in a restaurant, to

675
00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 1: which she agreed. I was also worried about talking to

676
00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:01,720
Speaker 1: her because while she's been polite and nice with me,

677
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:05,960
Speaker 1: she still was and is Mom's friend and ex's brother.

678
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 1: She told me that X had urged her to talk

679
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:11,400
Speaker 1: to me about steps On and she completely disagrees with

680
00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 1: him about that. Okay, she said that I've been a

681
00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 1: great step mom to steps On, but he's not my responsibility.

682
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:19,560
Speaker 3: There we go, the sister in law.

683
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 2: Right, Finally, we finally have a person who's on your side.

684
00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:30,440
Speaker 3: Even your own freaking friends didn't say this.

685
00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, and your mom didn't say this.

686
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 3: Come on, your mom.

687
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:36,760
Speaker 1: X was honest with her about his affair and she

688
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 1: supports me getting divorced again.

689
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 3: Thank god. She said a lot of supportive things to

690
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 3: me about moving on and looking after myself, and also

691
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:45,800
Speaker 3: thanks me for taking care of stepdaughter.

692
00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:48,440
Speaker 1: Still, that was nice. But then she went on to

693
00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:51,880
Speaker 1: add that she wasn't surprised about the affair at all.

694
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 1: You see, she was surprised that X married me.

695
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:55,880
Speaker 3: Oooh.

696
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:00,720
Speaker 1: She was like, you should have seen is coming. Though

697
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:03,440
Speaker 1: she didn't come out and say it, the insinuation was

698
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:06,680
Speaker 1: that Mom is so much better than me. She's prettier,

699
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:10,720
Speaker 1: more successful, more charming. An ex would jump at the

700
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 1: chance to be with her.

701
00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:15,040
Speaker 2: I'm sorry I thought she was on your side. She's

702
00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:19,360
Speaker 2: another op you can't catch or break, truly not.

703
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 4: Also, have you guys ever seen a couple get together

704
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:23,960
Speaker 4: and you look at one partner and you're like, yeah,

705
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 4: they're definitely gonna cheat on them.

706
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:26,720
Speaker 2: No, I've never thought that.

707
00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 3: I haven't, thank god.

708
00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 2: Okay. Sometimes I look at people and I'm like, wow,

709
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 2: you know, oh yeah, just like I don't. I don't

710
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 2: go oh, but I'm like, oh.

711
00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:39,800
Speaker 4: This one chick from high school got engaged and she

712
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 4: got engaged to a guy that like was not on

713
00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:44,960
Speaker 4: her level, and I'm like, that could be a tough one, buddy,

714
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 4: is that great value?

715
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:46,320
Speaker 2: Riley?

716
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 4: No, not that one. Okay, she's not like that. This

717
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 4: one's the one from middle school.

718
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:52,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I know.

719
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:55,360
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, okay, but that one's crazy. That one's like

720
00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:57,640
Speaker 4: so crazy. I would love to tell that story.

721
00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 3: Oh maybe you could slip it in an.

722
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 4: On and okay, I can do that. Oh dude, I'll

723
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 4: do it right now. I'll like slip it in a like,

724
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 4: I'll like type it up in a Reddit post and

725
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:07,840
Speaker 4: then submit it.

726
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 3: And then I thought you were talking about the lies

727
00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:13,000
Speaker 3: that you've been Oh.

728
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 4: No, I will prank you today. This would be so

729
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 4: much harder to prank you one the phone. I can't

730
00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 4: control the phone, you're saying.

731
00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 3: Okay, story time. After this episode, we'll catch Sophia up

732
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:25,600
Speaker 3: of what happened, so stick around to the end.

733
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 1: So the sister in law was saying, like, I'm surprised

734
00:31:27,920 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 1: that he married you.

735
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 3: Mom is so much better right, freaking ugly.

736
00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 2: I'm on your side. I think you should divorce. You're

737
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 2: just not on his level. I'm here for you because

738
00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 2: you're so ugly. If you're really bad for you.

739
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 3: That was just great to hear. Peache.

740
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,360
Speaker 1: Though it's easy for me to accept now that I

741
00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:47,720
Speaker 1: am not the smart one here because I didn't see

742
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 1: it coming at all. I was happy and in love

743
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:52,200
Speaker 1: with my family. The upside to that meeting is that

744
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 1: X has stopped harassing me. I haven't heard anything from

745
00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:57,600
Speaker 1: him since, and I think that he has stopped talking

746
00:31:57,640 --> 00:31:58,680
Speaker 1: about me to others too.

747
00:31:58,760 --> 00:31:59,760
Speaker 3: I don't have anything on.

748
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 1: Steps yet, though stepdaughter told me he's all right and

749
00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 1: waiting for summer vacation to start. A few of you

750
00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 1: have said that Mom might have been interested in taking

751
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:07,840
Speaker 1: my house.

752
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:10,360
Speaker 3: I don't think so. She does all right by herself

753
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:11,320
Speaker 3: and has a good career.

754
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 1: She has a rather spendy lifestyle and lives in a

755
00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:17,520
Speaker 1: very fancy two bedroom apartment in the city while my

756
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:21,960
Speaker 1: house is in a child friendly but stad suburb. I

757
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:25,520
Speaker 1: guess quiet. I hope things continue to be quiet because

758
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 1: I need to get my head straight focus on work,

759
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 1: or I might get fired.

760
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 3: God, I hope he doesn't mean more.

761
00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 2: Boss is another thing I.

762
00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 3: Heard that you're abandoning your children.

763
00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:39,200
Speaker 2: Fired. We can't work here anymore.

764
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 3: We only take good mothers of this company, and my

765
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 3: job is the one thing I have going for me

766
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 3: right now. And we do have some comments, so no.

767
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 1: Tangerine thirty three twenty says Opie, don't let sister and

768
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 1: last insinuations get to you. Your ex and mother got

769
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 1: back together because crappy people will always gravitate towards others

770
00:32:56,480 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 1: like them. Still doesn't mean they'll be happy. They'll run

771
00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 1: themselves around the same cycle they did previously, which is

772
00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:05,120
Speaker 1: get together, think they're in love, break up, get back together,

773
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:08,320
Speaker 1: all while their relationship is devoid of any true love

774
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:11,240
Speaker 1: or compassion for one another. I'm honestly happy to hear

775
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:14,200
Speaker 1: that you really love and care for stepdaughter in this situation.

776
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:16,440
Speaker 1: You seem to be the only source of love and

777
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:19,440
Speaker 1: good parenting that this child needs. Step son might come

778
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 1: around eventually, but don't force anything. He'll come to you

779
00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 1: when he's ready. I hope you can move on from

780
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 1: this and find happiness. Don't let anyone step on you

781
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:29,400
Speaker 1: or take advantage of you. You deserve people in your

782
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:32,560
Speaker 1: life who can reciprocate the same amount of love. You

783
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:36,200
Speaker 1: give an opie response, thank you. I keep teetering between

784
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 1: anger and fear about my situation when things go quiet.

785
00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 1: Mostly anger now.

786
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:42,600
Speaker 3: But time with stepdaughter is good.

787
00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 1: She and stepson were the best things about my marriage.

788
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 1: So we have an update twelve days later. And I know, guys,

789
00:33:50,320 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 1: I know I've said over and over again, Hey, maybe

790
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 1: the divorce is coming. Maybe the divorce is coming. I

791
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 1: did read a little There is at least some court action.

792
00:33:58,120 --> 00:33:59,720
Speaker 1: That's the one teaser I'm gonna give you.

793
00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 2: Right on getting some court actions. I've been yep.

794
00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:06,680
Speaker 4: I love court action, especially when someone goes like coast

795
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:08,719
Speaker 4: to coast or gets a trouble double during the game.

796
00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:09,879
Speaker 4: Favorite time to watch back.

797
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:14,600
Speaker 2: And at least give it a little basketball joke for you.

798
00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:18,840
Speaker 3: It's gonna be a full court press, yo. I'm proud

799
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:19,480
Speaker 3: of you on that one.

800
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:21,880
Speaker 4: John, that was great, that was amazing.

801
00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:22,520
Speaker 2: Got him.

802
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:25,759
Speaker 3: That's only because my former boss used that one time.

803
00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 3: He's like, yeah, we need for this marketing thing, we

804
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:29,759
Speaker 3: need a full court press. And I was like, I

805
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 3: was like, we need press? I thought we were doing

806
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:34,000
Speaker 3: like social media. He's like, no, we need a full

807
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 3: court press. And I was like, what is this about press?

808
00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:38,680
Speaker 4: A quick tild are about a full court press?

809
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:39,240
Speaker 3: Oh yeah.

810
00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:43,440
Speaker 4: Basically, when people play basketball on defense, they guard everyone.

811
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:46,160
Speaker 4: There's like a half court mark. They guard everyone behind

812
00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:48,719
Speaker 4: the half court mark. But whenever the game is like

813
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:50,839
Speaker 4: about to end and it's getting really intense and there's

814
00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:53,239
Speaker 4: a few seconds less and like a still could make

815
00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 4: you win if you're losing, they'll do a full court press.

816
00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 4: So they'll guard everyone above the half court line. So

817
00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 4: it's like like whoa and I knew that? Does that

818
00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 4: make sense?

819
00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 3: Way for real? Yeah, let's go well on fire.

820
00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:11,439
Speaker 2: All of the court presses forward. Let's go yes, yes

821
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 2: in the name, but you did great.

822
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 3: But before we get into also, I think the last

823
00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:21,680
Speaker 3: update of this Man episode long story right, yeah yeah, yeah,

824
00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:24,000
Speaker 3: yah yeah yeah, wow, Sophy, I have a I have

825
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,719
Speaker 3: something I want you and Chad to ponder on. I'm

826
00:35:26,760 --> 00:35:28,319
Speaker 3: gonna I'm gonna flip the script on.

827
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 2: You pondering mode.

828
00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:33,880
Speaker 1: Op is in not a great place, was quite frankly

829
00:35:33,960 --> 00:35:36,719
Speaker 1: not in a great place like coming into the relationship.

830
00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:39,320
Speaker 1: So Opie's had a rough go of it, right, step

831
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:43,480
Speaker 1: daughter seems to be her like court, source of support

832
00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:47,680
Speaker 1: and joy and everything else. Could it be that, despite

833
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:51,640
Speaker 1: the potential complications and also maybe even Obi might be

834
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 1: able to skate out with with less complications than it

835
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 1: seems on the surface. Is it maybe actually better for

836
00:35:57,000 --> 00:35:59,680
Speaker 1: Opie's mental health to not like get rid of the

837
00:35:59,800 --> 00:36:00,760
Speaker 1: person who gives.

838
00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:03,080
Speaker 3: Her the love and support she needs. I'm leaning closer

839
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:04,319
Speaker 3: to that. I'm gonna be honest with you.

840
00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:06,400
Speaker 2: I was pondering so hard.

841
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:12,400
Speaker 1: Your ponder face and fingers were really doing a jig.

842
00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:16,520
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, so are you asking should she keep the

843
00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 2: step daughter well? And the time that I took to ponder, Yeah,

844
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:24,840
Speaker 2: it seems like they've worked out a way for it

845
00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:28,280
Speaker 2: to not affect O peace so much. Yeah, But should

846
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:31,640
Speaker 2: the divorce proceedings become really messy than I think? Maybe?

847
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 1: No, so until until it really complicates it, Like right

848
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:40,080
Speaker 1: now there isn't any concrete complications that the parents are

849
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:40,719
Speaker 1: out of the way.

850
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:43,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, I like that idiot, because honestly, putting myself in

851
00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 3: no pie shoes, I feel like I kind of want

852
00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:47,840
Speaker 3: I would want that support, to be honest.

853
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 2: With you, Yeah, I mean everyone seemingly so. Yeah, her

854
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:57,359
Speaker 2: at least this like the daughter kind of understands what's

855
00:36:57,400 --> 00:36:59,880
Speaker 2: going on and who her parents are. And she's the

856
00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:01,719
Speaker 2: one who caught her parents, so she clearly doesn't have

857
00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:05,120
Speaker 2: any any affection for them right now.

858
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:06,879
Speaker 3: She gets it. She freaking gets it. But let's get

859
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 3: into the update. Twelve days later, we had a court

860
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:14,320
Speaker 3: date and the judge ordered mediation and put this off.

861
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:17,600
Speaker 1: For a few more months. I was so my prediction

862
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:21,399
Speaker 1: is wrong yet again. For I was hoping this would

863
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 1: be a wrap up. After all, we don't have kids together,

864
00:37:24,040 --> 00:37:26,960
Speaker 1: and I want nothing from the X. I didn't bring

865
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 1: up custody, four stepdaughter and steps on and he didn't either. Okay,

866
00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:32,920
Speaker 1: all I want is a divorce and to walk away

867
00:37:33,120 --> 00:37:35,719
Speaker 1: with what I brought in my house and my car.

868
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:38,000
Speaker 1: This seems like it should be the simplest divorce in Okay,

869
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:41,319
Speaker 1: storytime history. Yeah, X isn't fighting for those, but he's

870
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:43,800
Speaker 1: still saying that he doesn't want a divorce.

871
00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 3: What the heck?

872
00:37:44,719 --> 00:37:44,959
Speaker 2: Man?

873
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 3: He left me two messages asking to talk. I've ignored him.

874
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:51,200
Speaker 1: The mediation will be over zoom, which to me sounds

875
00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:53,839
Speaker 1: more comfortable than an in person meeting. Stepdaughter and I

876
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 1: are doing well living together. Mom is silent and nothing

877
00:37:57,440 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 1: from steps on so far.

878
00:37:58,920 --> 00:37:59,760
Speaker 3: Then there's an update.

879
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:04,839
Speaker 2: Ooh ooh, this is really annoying. It's also like, can you, like,

880
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:08,000
Speaker 2: do you have to get your other partner to sign

881
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:10,319
Speaker 2: the divorce papers before you can get divorced? Because I

882
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:12,919
Speaker 2: feel like it ver Yeah, because in all like those

883
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:15,719
Speaker 2: movies and television, you know the TV shows always like

884
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 2: sign the papers, sign the papers. It off for months,

885
00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:21,480
Speaker 2: Just sign the papers. Yeah, So, like, can you get

886
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:24,120
Speaker 2: divorced if you don't if one partner doesn't sign the papers?

887
00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:26,960
Speaker 3: Curious chat? Or is it just harder? Have you yeah,

888
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 3: heard of any experiences?

889
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 1: Maybe producer Riley you could look up some quips on that,

890
00:38:31,880 --> 00:38:34,520
Speaker 1: but I'm not sure. Harra Spaghetti, she shouldn't be using

891
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 1: the child as emotional support, so that shouldn't be a consideration.

892
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 3: True, John, this is true. Our children emotional I guess

893
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:44,920
Speaker 3: emotional support in the sense of like using it to

894
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:49,880
Speaker 3: your emotional support advantage at the detriment potentially of the

895
00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 3: child in there.

896
00:38:51,120 --> 00:38:53,640
Speaker 4: No children are not emotional support animals.

897
00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:54,400
Speaker 3: That's true.

898
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 2: It's actually not what we wanted to look at.

899
00:38:57,920 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 3: Does do both people have to agree to a divorce

900
00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 3: in the US?

901
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 2: AQ says there is a type without signing, but takes years. Yeah,

902
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:08,040
Speaker 2: so kel the Kid says, it's harder if you don't.

903
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:11,760
Speaker 2: I made my ex husband sign and he did went smoothly.

904
00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 4: It takes consent of both parties to intermarriage. It only

905
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 4: takes the consent of one party to end the marriage.

906
00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 2: But I think, yeah, I guess it just must take

907
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 2: them a lot longer if you don't get both.

908
00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:26,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, because it's like with the divorce agreement, they basically say, hey,

909
00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 1: we're both in on you give this, you get this,

910
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:30,840
Speaker 1: you get this. So that's like all right boom, But

911
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:32,040
Speaker 1: that's a process.

912
00:39:31,760 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 4: Getting served, like you've been served. That's what that means,

913
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:37,600
Speaker 4: Like both parties don't consult to getting a lawsuit, you

914
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying.

915
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 3: Right right right?

916
00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 1: You can you can receive the divorce proceedings, I guess,

917
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 1: or like the being taken to court for divorce.

918
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:49,440
Speaker 3: That's one way, right, Yeah.

919
00:39:49,120 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I agree.

920
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:52,800
Speaker 2: Not true it's an emotion sport animal.

921
00:39:54,280 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 1: Hey listen, we're all animals at the end of the day.

922
00:39:57,440 --> 00:40:00,520
Speaker 1: So so we have an update. Seven weeks later, I

923
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:05,640
Speaker 1: am divorced. Whooooo finally, hey, like three four months.

924
00:40:05,680 --> 00:40:07,319
Speaker 3: That's still quick. Yeah, that's still quick.

925
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:08,640
Speaker 2: You did good time.

926
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:10,840
Speaker 3: I did good, good time. Boy, it's me.

927
00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:14,320
Speaker 1: Papers are signed, the judges signed off, and it's done.

928
00:40:14,440 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 1: I'm so relieved. I was scared that this would drag

929
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:20,520
Speaker 1: on for longer. Con forbid it would, and then mortalasagna

930
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 1: would be taken.

931
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, they just show up at your house every day.

932
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 3: God, where's our lazan? Yo?

933
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:28,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's like, I'm divorcing.

934
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 3: You eat divorce papers. The first mediation meeting was a

935
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:34,239
Speaker 3: crap show, with X trying to talk at me that

936
00:40:34,320 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 3: we should go through marriage counseling. The mediator was a

937
00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:39,879
Speaker 3: very firm woman who kept the conversation in control. Though

938
00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:42,760
Speaker 3: we had a couple more mediation emails and he agreed

939
00:40:42,920 --> 00:40:45,319
Speaker 3: to sign off. I was still nervous about how it'd

940
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:48,720
Speaker 3: go today, but explayed nice and signed off on everything.

941
00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:51,719
Speaker 3: A very nice surprise was that he voluntarily gave me

942
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:53,799
Speaker 3: our entire joint savings.

943
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 2: Account and okay, Well, as he owes, because you've been

944
00:40:57,040 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 2: freaking paying for his kids for you know, four years.

945
00:41:00,280 --> 00:41:03,399
Speaker 3: Talk about it, talk four like that's that's the back

946
00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 3: nanny pain.

947
00:41:04,080 --> 00:41:06,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's no, you owe me that child support money.

948
00:41:07,000 --> 00:41:09,400
Speaker 1: Actually, think honestly, I was not expecting that I had

949
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 1: asked for half of it, which would be Opie's half,

950
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:13,439
Speaker 1: though in reality he has put in more.

951
00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:13,759
Speaker 3: Than I did.

952
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 1: Maybe not I've attracted my previous savement. I'd have been

953
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:18,560
Speaker 1: okay with him just taking my portion, but he surprised

954
00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 1: me by giving me all the money. It was our

955
00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:24,920
Speaker 1: emergency savings, so not a rich amount, but a nice high.

956
00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:25,880
Speaker 3: Five figure number.

957
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 2: Okaod.

958
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 1: I am so relieved about it. I'm gonna say eighty thousand.

959
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 1: I was gonna say the same thing.

960
00:41:32,960 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 2: Well, there you have it, twinning.

961
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:35,880
Speaker 3: I am so relieved about it.

962
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:38,440
Speaker 1: Money had become tight with lawyer fees and changes, and

963
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:41,360
Speaker 1: this helps emotionally. Also, it made me feel better about myself.

964
00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 1: And may be wrong, but my heart wants to read

965
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:45,960
Speaker 1: this as his acknowledging that he screwed me over and

966
00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:48,880
Speaker 1: I deserve something back. This might not be healthy, but

967
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:51,760
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say, choose to interpret it, that way. Yeah,

968
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:53,880
Speaker 1: because you deserve some feel good.

969
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 2: Truly, that's very He said that he screwed her over?

970
00:41:57,719 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 2: Is that what that just said?

971
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:00,239
Speaker 3: Nope, Oh he's interpreting it that.

972
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:01,120
Speaker 2: Oh.

973
00:42:01,160 --> 00:42:05,320
Speaker 3: I was like, wow, right, my heart wants to read.

974
00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 2: This as yeah, okay, okay, okay, but he.

975
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:09,239
Speaker 3: Has not said, oh I screwed you over and did

976
00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:10,000
Speaker 3: yeah I.

977
00:42:09,920 --> 00:42:13,759
Speaker 2: Did miss hear that. I was like, oh my goodness, No,

978
00:42:14,120 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 2: he still piece of crap.

979
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:17,120
Speaker 3: I'm gonna say, in reality, I don't think so.

980
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:20,960
Speaker 1: But in your fairytale land, stay there, because stay there.

981
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:22,400
Speaker 3: I just deserve some happiness.

982
00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 1: And we got some comments from Majestic Posts sixteen eighty four.

983
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:28,080
Speaker 1: Whoo time to celebrate your new freedom, best wishes to

984
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 1: your future, Opie says, thank you. I am both relieved

985
00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 1: and scared of being lonely. The period of my life

986
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 1: where I was alone after losing my parents was very depressing,

987
00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:36,840
Speaker 1: and I don't want to fall back into that. Majestic

988
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:39,799
Speaker 1: Post response. Staying busy and building a community of friends

989
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:42,680
Speaker 1: around me really helped me. After my divorce was finalized.

990
00:42:42,760 --> 00:42:45,480
Speaker 1: I go on dates with friends, volunteer and I also

991
00:42:45,600 --> 00:42:47,960
Speaker 1: joined a cooking group. We get together and share dishes

992
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:50,399
Speaker 1: once a month. I'm sorry you lost your parents so young,

993
00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 1: but at this time around you have your stepdaughter. You

994
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:56,040
Speaker 1: also have us, a group of interested strangers who support

995
00:42:56,040 --> 00:42:57,839
Speaker 1: you and are rooting for you. And guess what, Ope,

996
00:42:58,040 --> 00:43:02,040
Speaker 1: you got three more strangers. Are you right here your corner?

997
00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 1: Let's freaking go unless Riley.

998
00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:05,320
Speaker 4: No, I'm in your corner.

999
00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:10,280
Speaker 2: Yeahs doing a three court shot.

1000
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 3: Close.

1001
00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:12,719
Speaker 4: You can say half court or you can say three

1002
00:43:12,760 --> 00:43:16,040
Speaker 4: point three court shot.

1003
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 2: He's doing a three court shot. And that has nothing

1004
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 2: to do with basketball. I just meant that Riley is

1005
00:43:22,719 --> 00:43:27,040
Speaker 2: taking three courts shots.

1006
00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:27,520
Speaker 3: True, because we know he loves doing that.

1007
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:31,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like, okay, sorry, that's a lot shot.

1008
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:36,399
Speaker 2: It is, really you're on the job. That's entirely unprofessional.

1009
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:40,279
Speaker 3: Hey you know what, I'll allow it.

1010
00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:42,280
Speaker 2: Y it was for opetting divorced.

1011
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:44,839
Speaker 3: That's right, right, Yeah, because he's on your side, that's right.

1012
00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:49,400
Speaker 3: Come on, good, good tieback, op. Thank you. This is

1013
00:43:49,440 --> 00:43:51,400
Speaker 3: my plan to get a group of friends around you.

1014
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:55,239
Speaker 1: I've joined an adult league for the sport insert sports

1015
00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 1: that stepdaughter and I play.

1016
00:43:57,200 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 3: I've signed up for group cycling. I might even try

1017
00:44:00,280 --> 00:44:01,120
Speaker 3: some volunteering.

1018
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 1: What I'm very grateful to the support that I found

1019
00:44:04,160 --> 00:44:07,040
Speaker 1: here every time I felt overwhelmed or my resolve has weekend,

1020
00:44:07,239 --> 00:44:10,040
Speaker 1: I've pulled up and re read all the messages.

1021
00:44:10,120 --> 00:44:13,319
Speaker 3: Guys, I am a filthy, dirty liar, even more so

1022
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:15,240
Speaker 3: than Riley. Like, we'll figure out the end of the episode.

1023
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 2: Don't think I forgot about that. Don't think I forgot.

1024
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:19,400
Speaker 3: About that because we have an update that is three

1025
00:44:19,480 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 3: months later.

1026
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:23,720
Speaker 2: Oh and everyone knows that. Ope, he's gonna be freaking

1027
00:44:24,239 --> 00:44:26,560
Speaker 2: killing it on niche sport.

1028
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:29,960
Speaker 4: And it's definitely beach volleyball. Let's be for real.

1029
00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:31,840
Speaker 3: I thought that too.

1030
00:44:32,040 --> 00:44:34,920
Speaker 2: I'm thinking of what could what could have an adult

1031
00:44:35,040 --> 00:44:38,080
Speaker 2: league that, like, you know, people play. I'm thinking tennis,

1032
00:44:38,320 --> 00:44:42,239
Speaker 2: thinking a niche is volleyball? Well, each volleygell's not that niche.

1033
00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 4: Yes it is.

1034
00:44:42,680 --> 00:44:45,240
Speaker 1: I think it's pickleball, or at least not in volleyball

1035
00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 1: at a minimum.

1036
00:44:46,080 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 2: Volleyball at a minimum.

1037
00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:52,080
Speaker 4: Paddle basketball is not niche. Handball that's niche. Volleyball's not niche.

1038
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:57,360
Speaker 2: Rowing. Join an adult rowing clubs club rowing super hard.

1039
00:44:57,680 --> 00:44:58,000
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1040
00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:00,560
Speaker 2: I was thinking about joining a rowing club at college

1041
00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:03,400
Speaker 2: and my Ra was on the rowing team, and she

1042
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:06,480
Speaker 2: took me to the gym once and I've never been

1043
00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:07,360
Speaker 2: in that much pain.

1044
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:10,480
Speaker 1: But now you're buffed from climbing Mount Everest. Yeah, you

1045
00:45:10,480 --> 00:45:12,759
Speaker 1: can climb out Everest with with this finger, with.

1046
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:14,279
Speaker 3: One finger, so take that.

1047
00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:17,480
Speaker 1: Frigg take that by She was lovely, you weak people.

1048
00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:21,480
Speaker 1: So let's get into this update three months later. Okay,

1049
00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:23,440
Speaker 1: not really an update, more just like event. I can

1050
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:25,360
Speaker 1: write things down here that I can't talk about in

1051
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:27,640
Speaker 1: real life. I am making a big show of being

1052
00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:30,200
Speaker 1: happy and social and care free to people in real life,

1053
00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:32,200
Speaker 1: but honestly, I am so dang miserable.

1054
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:34,719
Speaker 2: So I thought this was like on the up and up.

1055
00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:39,160
Speaker 3: No, the first couple of months I shoulder down out

1056
00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:41,879
Speaker 3: of pure spite and determination to remake myself. But it's

1057
00:45:41,920 --> 00:45:45,320
Speaker 3: devolving back into sadness. I've been avoiding hearing anything about

1058
00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:47,920
Speaker 3: extra mother, but stepdaughter has been having some issues and

1059
00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:50,480
Speaker 3: she vented to me about how she's mad at her parents.

1060
00:45:50,640 --> 00:45:53,279
Speaker 1: Mom mostly ex and Mom didn't last long. They were

1061
00:45:53,280 --> 00:45:56,319
Speaker 1: having fights and issues well before my divorce finalized. They

1062
00:45:56,360 --> 00:45:59,280
Speaker 1: got a second divorce on top of the divorce.

1063
00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 2: That the double divorce. And if you get three, you

1064
00:46:02,640 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 2: get three wishes.

1065
00:46:03,640 --> 00:46:07,960
Speaker 3: Ooh, good old double d for the three wishes. Mom

1066
00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:10,440
Speaker 3: immediately started dating someone else, and from what I hear,

1067
00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:13,400
Speaker 3: she's happy in this current relationship and is so into

1068
00:46:13,440 --> 00:46:16,359
Speaker 3: it that she hasn't even met either were kids in

1069
00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:17,319
Speaker 3: the past two months.

1070
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:20,200
Speaker 2: Oh my god, where are these kids only video calls?

1071
00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:21,399
Speaker 2: There're god knows where.

1072
00:46:21,719 --> 00:46:23,800
Speaker 3: X had to juggle a lot of things to adjust

1073
00:46:23,840 --> 00:46:27,000
Speaker 3: his work schedule and get dependable childcare for step son.

1074
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:29,400
Speaker 3: He's dating too now, a much younger woman.

1075
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:32,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she has a lot of like child care experience.

1076
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:37,480
Speaker 2: She's also CPR certified. She's a really nice house.

1077
00:46:37,840 --> 00:46:39,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, really nice house. Yeah, she owns.

1078
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she makes great lasagna.

1079
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 3: M h. If you kept hard riff. X and Mom

1080
00:46:46,480 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 3: used to co parent, well, but I guess I was

1081
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:50,759
Speaker 3: the one really doing that because right now they hate

1082
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:52,920
Speaker 3: each other and hardly ever talk. Go figure.

1083
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:55,080
Speaker 1: One would think that would make me happy seeing them

1084
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:57,239
Speaker 1: fall apart from each other, but it's only making me

1085
00:46:57,280 --> 00:46:57,800
Speaker 1: more angry.

1086
00:46:57,800 --> 00:46:59,040
Speaker 3: My life was ruined the kid.

1087
00:46:59,080 --> 00:47:01,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's the classic question, do you want the cheater

1088
00:47:01,920 --> 00:47:04,319
Speaker 1: and a fair partner to like break up because then

1089
00:47:04,360 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 1: it's like, well that was like all for nothing. Yeah,

1090
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:08,799
Speaker 1: you know, the kid's happy home was destroyed, and for

1091
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 1: what I missed my old life so much, and a

1092
00:47:11,080 --> 00:47:12,640
Speaker 1: lot of it was a lie, but I was just

1093
00:47:12,680 --> 00:47:14,759
Speaker 1: so happy and full of purpose. Then I am just

1094
00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 1: feeling so lost right now. I've tried dating and have

1095
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:18,839
Speaker 1: been on a lot of dates, but they have all

1096
00:47:18,880 --> 00:47:21,319
Speaker 1: been bad or wrong. People around me have been setting

1097
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:23,480
Speaker 1: me up with divorce dads and no offense to them.

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00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:25,680
Speaker 1: But I can't do that again. I don't blame you.

1099
00:47:25,719 --> 00:47:27,520
Speaker 1: I actually had one date which felt more like an

1100
00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:32,799
Speaker 1: interview for a nanny. Roll again, run now.

1101
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:34,000
Speaker 2: You can't keep doing this.

1102
00:47:34,680 --> 00:47:35,640
Speaker 3: It made me so depressed.

1103
00:47:35,719 --> 00:47:38,120
Speaker 1: Stepdaughter is doing great, though, and that brings me a

1104
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:40,200
Speaker 1: lot of joy. I'm a little bit scared of the

1105
00:47:40,239 --> 00:47:43,239
Speaker 1: time soon when she will move out. It'll make it

1106
00:47:43,440 --> 00:47:45,000
Speaker 1: just me in this big house.

1107
00:47:45,160 --> 00:47:46,960
Speaker 3: I've talked to step son on the phone a couple

1108
00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:49,640
Speaker 3: of times. That boy has grown up and changed so much.

1109
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:52,040
Speaker 3: It feels like we were separated for years. He's you

1110
00:47:52,080 --> 00:47:54,440
Speaker 3: going to come over for a sleepover during the Halloween weekend,

1111
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:55,640
Speaker 3: and I'm pretty excited about that.

1112
00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:58,280
Speaker 1: Or Ray, stepdaughter was going to babysit him at ex's

1113
00:47:58,280 --> 00:48:00,960
Speaker 1: place while he travels, but I owed having him with

1114
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:02,120
Speaker 1: us since it's.

1115
00:48:01,960 --> 00:48:05,040
Speaker 3: Halloween and then we do have some relevant comments as well. Man, man,

1116
00:48:05,080 --> 00:48:05,960
Speaker 3: but how do you feel about that?

1117
00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:08,600
Speaker 2: I'm just thinking, I think, oh, he might not not

1118
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:11,600
Speaker 2: that she is getting back into the dating scene too soon,

1119
00:48:11,880 --> 00:48:14,719
Speaker 2: but I think that she is expecting things to just

1120
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:17,200
Speaker 2: kind of be over this four year relationship where she

1121
00:48:17,280 --> 00:48:20,000
Speaker 2: was clearly yeah, so attached to the point where she

1122
00:48:20,080 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 2: thinks of these kids as her own.

1123
00:48:21,719 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 3: Only like maybe six months out.

1124
00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:25,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's like, yeah, give it, give it, give

1125
00:48:25,360 --> 00:48:27,840
Speaker 2: us some time, give us some time, don't worry about it,

1126
00:48:27,840 --> 00:48:29,439
Speaker 2: don't push yourself. Things will come.

1127
00:48:29,920 --> 00:48:30,200
Speaker 5: Mm.

1128
00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:33,840
Speaker 1: Date yourself, date yourself, okay, because you're a hot commodity.

1129
00:48:33,880 --> 00:48:34,400
Speaker 2: You're a catch.

1130
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:35,960
Speaker 3: You're a freaking catch. Well.

1131
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:39,680
Speaker 1: We got some other comments too from Corfus seventy four. Dang,

1132
00:48:39,840 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 1: I had hope things would look up for you after

1133
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:44,040
Speaker 1: the divorce went through. Your ex and his ex are

1134
00:48:44,160 --> 00:48:46,880
Speaker 1: supremely trash people, and the fact that they are just

1135
00:48:46,960 --> 00:48:49,960
Speaker 1: moving on from you and each other shows you just

1136
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:52,600
Speaker 1: how utterly shall they are, which also proves that you're

1137
00:48:52,600 --> 00:48:55,120
Speaker 1: now mourning the man you thought he was, not the

1138
00:48:55,160 --> 00:48:56,239
Speaker 1: man he actually was.

1139
00:48:56,320 --> 00:48:58,560
Speaker 3: That is a good distinction. I hope after your grieving

1140
00:48:58,560 --> 00:49:01,120
Speaker 3: period is over, you'll meet a really nice, non shallow

1141
00:49:01,160 --> 00:49:03,480
Speaker 3: guy who is not just looking for nanny.

1142
00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, or or you lean into the nanny. So so

1143
00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:10,680
Speaker 2: like right now you're looking for, you know, a man

1144
00:49:10,719 --> 00:49:12,719
Speaker 2: that you can date. You should be looking for a

1145
00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:15,839
Speaker 2: man who needs a nanny. Pull a little the Nanny show.

1146
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:19,839
Speaker 2: You know Fran. Yeah, yeah, become Fran, find a really nice,

1147
00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:24,319
Speaker 2: hot English dad, become kind of a parental figure to

1148
00:49:24,400 --> 00:49:27,560
Speaker 2: his kids, and then slowly get him to fall in

1149
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:28,000
Speaker 2: love with you.

1150
00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:30,560
Speaker 3: I like it because we get paid all the way

1151
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:32,920
Speaker 3: up until and then and then you get married. Then

1152
00:49:32,960 --> 00:49:35,680
Speaker 3: you get married and then you share share the assets.

1153
00:49:35,239 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 2: So so you're up and then you're rich.

1154
00:49:37,440 --> 00:49:39,959
Speaker 3: This is great, this is this is a great plan.

1155
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:41,640
Speaker 3: Also great show. Also great show.

1156
00:49:41,719 --> 00:49:42,280
Speaker 2: Love that show.

1157
00:49:42,320 --> 00:49:44,279
Speaker 3: That is a show. I actually have some I love

1158
00:49:44,360 --> 00:49:44,799
Speaker 3: that now.

1159
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:46,520
Speaker 2: I would always go over to my because we didn't

1160
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:48,160
Speaker 2: have cable, so I go over to my friend's house

1161
00:49:48,239 --> 00:49:50,600
Speaker 2: and I would always put on the Nanny that is

1162
00:49:50,719 --> 00:49:53,520
Speaker 2: as he would always would be playing on some like

1163
00:49:53,680 --> 00:49:55,400
Speaker 2: you know, cable channel or whatever.

1164
00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:58,000
Speaker 1: She was a star, yes, frand was she was great?

1165
00:49:58,280 --> 00:50:01,480
Speaker 1: What a what a icon friend Dresher. If you're hearing this,

1166
00:50:01,719 --> 00:50:02,359
Speaker 1: come on the show.

1167
00:50:02,560 --> 00:50:03,279
Speaker 2: Come to this show.

1168
00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:03,719
Speaker 5: We got it.

1169
00:50:03,719 --> 00:50:04,839
Speaker 3: We got a spot for you right here.

1170
00:50:04,960 --> 00:50:07,400
Speaker 2: Sure, if you're hearing this, I don't know, marry me,

1171
00:50:08,560 --> 00:50:09,040
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1172
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:15,960
Speaker 3: All right, Well, there you go, so hope. He responds.

1173
00:50:16,040 --> 00:50:18,160
Speaker 1: Sorry for the late response. I was in a depressed

1174
00:50:18,160 --> 00:50:20,120
Speaker 1: state and avoiding things for a while. I am much

1175
00:50:20,120 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 1: better now. Thank you for your comment. Yeah, I think

1176
00:50:22,280 --> 00:50:24,640
Speaker 1: I never really knew my ex. The side he showed

1177
00:50:24,680 --> 00:50:26,680
Speaker 1: me was pretty sweet, though, and I do miss that.

1178
00:50:26,719 --> 00:50:29,240
Speaker 1: My relationship with stepdaughter is the brightest point in my life.

1179
00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:31,439
Speaker 1: We have brought a lot of happiness for each other.

1180
00:50:31,600 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 3: By the way, if you want an endless supply of

1181
00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:40,200
Speaker 3: happiness for your freaking face holes aka your ears, go

1182
00:50:40,320 --> 00:50:43,160
Speaker 3: to Spotify, Go to Apple Podcasts, go wherever you listen

1183
00:50:43,200 --> 00:50:46,160
Speaker 3: to podcasts. Type in okay, story time, we literally have

1184
00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:48,480
Speaker 3: you know, I thought it was nineteen hundred episodes, but

1185
00:50:48,560 --> 00:50:51,680
Speaker 3: I just learned today we're not labeling some of our

1186
00:50:51,719 --> 00:50:55,800
Speaker 3: like live stream podcast episodes with numbers. Therefore, there's probably

1187
00:50:55,800 --> 00:50:58,319
Speaker 3: like twenty twenty one hundred episodes for you guys there,

1188
00:50:58,360 --> 00:50:59,719
Speaker 3: crazy right, So go do that.

1189
00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 2: How do we do it?

1190
00:51:00,840 --> 00:51:03,720
Speaker 3: How do we do it? I already told them how.

1191
00:51:04,120 --> 00:51:06,280
Speaker 4: I was thinking about that. I was like, each person

1192
00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:08,960
Speaker 4: probably has at least five Wridit stories in them, and

1193
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:10,960
Speaker 4: then like, you just do the numbers.

1194
00:51:11,080 --> 00:51:11,399
Speaker 3: I didn't.

1195
00:51:11,480 --> 00:51:13,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Like I didn't even know that there was

1196
00:51:13,239 --> 00:51:15,680
Speaker 1: this many stories on planet Earth.

1197
00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:18,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, like I got one right now I'm writing,

1198
00:51:18,640 --> 00:51:21,400
Speaker 4: and I'm like, wow, this is pretty juicy, right yeah,

1199
00:51:21,760 --> 00:51:23,799
Speaker 4: Oh your story that I'm writing. Yeah, I was like,

1200
00:51:23,800 --> 00:51:28,280
Speaker 4: oh wow, actually this was kind of crazy.

1201
00:51:27,640 --> 00:51:29,040
Speaker 3: Like what is he working on over there?

1202
00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:30,160
Speaker 2: Oh my god?

1203
00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:34,799
Speaker 1: But we have the true, actual, last final update which

1204
00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:37,000
Speaker 1: is two years later, which I'm about to dive into

1205
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:37,680
Speaker 1: to close us out.

1206
00:51:37,760 --> 00:51:41,080
Speaker 3: Two years later, two years later, my friend, So this

1207
00:51:41,120 --> 00:51:43,840
Speaker 3: could be it could be short but very sweet. But Sophia,

1208
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:44,960
Speaker 3: just check in with me.

1209
00:51:45,080 --> 00:51:45,560
Speaker 2: I'm checking.

1210
00:51:45,640 --> 00:51:49,640
Speaker 3: How are we feeling at this almost end of the

1211
00:51:49,680 --> 00:51:50,239
Speaker 3: episode here.

1212
00:51:50,280 --> 00:51:52,400
Speaker 2: Well, I think that Ope feels kind of at the

1213
00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:56,680
Speaker 2: lowest point right now, and yet she is progressing and

1214
00:51:56,719 --> 00:51:59,320
Speaker 2: she is improving, even if she can't see that.

1215
00:51:59,320 --> 00:52:02,400
Speaker 1: That is such and that should be celebrated and she

1216
00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:04,920
Speaker 1: should celebrate herself for that that. You know, what we

1217
00:52:04,960 --> 00:52:07,520
Speaker 1: saw how what a people pleaser she was, but once

1218
00:52:07,560 --> 00:52:10,279
Speaker 1: she saw the stuff, she stood up for herself got

1219
00:52:10,280 --> 00:52:13,520
Speaker 1: the divorce, she put her foot down and got the

1220
00:52:13,600 --> 00:52:15,960
Speaker 1: parents out of her life to stop abusing and running

1221
00:52:15,960 --> 00:52:16,560
Speaker 1: over her boundaries.

1222
00:52:16,560 --> 00:52:17,160
Speaker 3: Of the bulldozer.

1223
00:52:17,200 --> 00:52:20,000
Speaker 2: She got the the bag from the bag, She.

1224
00:52:19,960 --> 00:52:21,319
Speaker 3: Got the bag, got the bag.

1225
00:52:21,480 --> 00:52:24,880
Speaker 1: I think OPI has really really grown a lot, and

1226
00:52:25,480 --> 00:52:28,799
Speaker 1: her new found confidence and boundary setting is really going

1227
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:29,399
Speaker 1: to help her.

1228
00:52:29,640 --> 00:52:33,000
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think it's hard to see the positives when

1229
00:52:33,120 --> 00:52:37,080
Speaker 2: you are sad, but just knowing that they're there, they exist.

1230
00:52:37,320 --> 00:52:40,759
Speaker 1: Guys, give it up for Sophia freaking donner. I told

1231
00:52:40,800 --> 00:52:44,040
Speaker 1: you better than any psychiatrist. That's more certified than anyone

1232
00:52:44,080 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 1: you could freaking think of, and free and free. Okay,

1233
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:52,319
Speaker 1: TikTok dance, I'm cool, I'm gen z. We're not going

1234
00:52:52,360 --> 00:52:55,239
Speaker 1: to discuss it any further. Update two years later, we're

1235
00:52:55,239 --> 00:52:57,319
Speaker 1: getting into it. I don't know if anybody will see

1236
00:52:57,320 --> 00:52:59,400
Speaker 1: this update. We are after all this time. But I

1237
00:52:59,440 --> 00:53:01,560
Speaker 1: had left this as a sad note a couple of

1238
00:53:01,640 --> 00:53:03,800
Speaker 1: years ago, and that doesn't feel right. I had stepped

1239
00:53:03,800 --> 00:53:05,560
Speaker 1: away from read it because I was getting quite a

1240
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:08,200
Speaker 1: bit of negative messages, some people making fun of me

1241
00:53:08,239 --> 00:53:10,520
Speaker 1: and calling me names. Most of you have been so

1242
00:53:10,600 --> 00:53:13,200
Speaker 1: amazing and helpful, but a few mean messages still got

1243
00:53:13,239 --> 00:53:15,360
Speaker 1: to me. My life has been good since then. I

1244
00:53:15,400 --> 00:53:19,480
Speaker 1: had stopped dating and gave up online apps like I

1245
00:53:19,560 --> 00:53:21,760
Speaker 1: did well with making a few friends and staying busy

1246
00:53:21,800 --> 00:53:25,400
Speaker 1: with having an active life, a good career, hobbies. Eventually

1247
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 1: I met my current partner on a hid trip.

1248
00:53:29,520 --> 00:53:32,120
Speaker 2: See that's the thing. Sometimes when you stop actively dating,

1249
00:53:32,280 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 2: it's better. They just like kind of like calm and

1250
00:53:35,680 --> 00:53:38,840
Speaker 2: you're like, oh, they come, Oh they.

1251
00:53:39,080 --> 00:53:41,120
Speaker 3: They was they wait, they.

1252
00:53:43,320 --> 00:53:44,280
Speaker 2: Come into your life?

1253
00:53:44,400 --> 00:53:45,200
Speaker 3: Is that her name?

1254
00:53:45,440 --> 00:53:46,759
Speaker 2: Anyways? Clip it?

1255
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:50,640
Speaker 3: Oh? Actually actually actually Riley if you could get this

1256
00:53:50,680 --> 00:53:53,160
Speaker 3: from Leanne, I believe. We do now have a form

1257
00:53:53,280 --> 00:53:57,320
Speaker 3: for you guys to submit clips to the show. Riley's

1258
00:53:57,320 --> 00:53:59,279
Speaker 3: going to add it poster if you could add it

1259
00:53:59,320 --> 00:54:01,799
Speaker 3: in the episode on YouTube as well.

1260
00:54:02,160 --> 00:54:04,200
Speaker 1: But we guys want you to tell us clips moments

1261
00:54:04,239 --> 00:54:06,560
Speaker 1: like literally what just happened? We should have a funny

1262
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:09,319
Speaker 1: edit for that and be hilarious. So anyways, back to

1263
00:54:09,360 --> 00:54:12,640
Speaker 1: the story. My daughter has been a constant ray of sunshine. Also,

1264
00:54:12,760 --> 00:54:15,280
Speaker 1: this is the first time she said my daughter instead

1265
00:54:15,320 --> 00:54:16,080
Speaker 1: of stepdaughter.

1266
00:54:16,640 --> 00:54:16,839
Speaker 3: Right.

1267
00:54:16,960 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 1: I love that my daughter has been a constant ray

1268
00:54:19,040 --> 00:54:20,960
Speaker 1: of sunshine in my life and we are very close.

1269
00:54:21,120 --> 00:54:23,919
Speaker 1: She introduces me to people as her adopted mom lull

1270
00:54:24,080 --> 00:54:26,520
Speaker 1: and I don't refer to her as step She.

1271
00:54:26,640 --> 00:54:27,720
Speaker 2: Is doing great at college.

1272
00:54:27,719 --> 00:54:30,640
Speaker 3: She's growing into an awesome person, and my home is

1273
00:54:30,680 --> 00:54:32,320
Speaker 3: her home when she visits from school.

1274
00:54:32,360 --> 00:54:33,359
Speaker 2: It is lovely right.

1275
00:54:33,560 --> 00:54:36,879
Speaker 3: Things are a bit more complicated with my former step son.

1276
00:54:36,960 --> 00:54:39,200
Speaker 3: We went from daughter to former step son. We are

1277
00:54:39,360 --> 00:54:40,400
Speaker 3: two different realms.

1278
00:54:40,640 --> 00:54:43,520
Speaker 1: He has been upfront that he doesn't want me as

1279
00:54:43,560 --> 00:54:46,160
Speaker 1: a parental figure in his life and is not interested

1280
00:54:46,200 --> 00:54:48,120
Speaker 1: in being close with me. I respect that I will

1281
00:54:48,160 --> 00:54:50,240
Speaker 1: stay in touch with him, but as a distant friend.

1282
00:54:50,400 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 1: We exchange jokes and sometimes the three of us get

1283
00:54:53,160 --> 00:54:55,320
Speaker 1: together for dinner. He is in therapy for depression and

1284
00:54:55,360 --> 00:54:57,319
Speaker 1: anger issues, so I don't want to let go of

1285
00:54:57,400 --> 00:55:02,200
Speaker 1: him completely. Regarding the guy I'm with now, this is

1286
00:55:02,400 --> 00:55:06,360
Speaker 1: by far the best more romantic relationship of my life,

1287
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:09,280
Speaker 1: and I am very happy. I am now pregnant.

1288
00:55:09,400 --> 00:55:13,720
Speaker 2: Who what what was the time jump?

1289
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:14,240
Speaker 3: Dude?

1290
00:55:14,520 --> 00:55:16,680
Speaker 4: Two years she knew what she wanted to move.

1291
00:55:17,200 --> 00:55:20,320
Speaker 2: This is two years. They freaking went on a hike.

1292
00:55:20,200 --> 00:55:24,160
Speaker 1: And they well, second trimester, that was that like five

1293
00:55:24,280 --> 00:55:27,360
Speaker 1: six months? Yeah, around six months, like two thirds of

1294
00:55:27,360 --> 00:55:29,880
Speaker 1: the way through. Wow, And we are both excited. Well,

1295
00:55:29,880 --> 00:55:31,960
Speaker 1: I guess like more like nine months if you're me, but.

1296
00:55:32,160 --> 00:55:34,560
Speaker 2: You know got you started dang like a year ago.

1297
00:55:34,800 --> 00:55:38,000
Speaker 3: This is crazy. That's yeah, that's kind of quick. But

1298
00:55:38,080 --> 00:55:40,520
Speaker 3: we'll see. The pregnancy was unexpected.

1299
00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:42,279
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, yeah, but I'm thrilled about it.

1300
00:55:42,320 --> 00:55:44,239
Speaker 1: I was trying so hard to get pregnant in my

1301
00:55:44,280 --> 00:55:47,959
Speaker 1: previous marriage and all that trying medical interventions didn't help,

1302
00:55:48,040 --> 00:55:50,120
Speaker 1: and now I am pregnant despite protection.

1303
00:55:50,400 --> 00:55:57,240
Speaker 2: Okay, dang oh God from earlier.

1304
00:55:59,440 --> 00:56:02,080
Speaker 1: The relations Jim is still new and I am treading carefully.

1305
00:56:02,080 --> 00:56:04,600
Speaker 1: One of the best parts is that his family is amazing.

1306
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:06,680
Speaker 1: His parents are very sweet and accepting.

1307
00:56:06,280 --> 00:56:09,200
Speaker 3: People who already treat my daughter as their grandchild and

1308
00:56:09,239 --> 00:56:11,120
Speaker 3: are very excited about the baby.

1309
00:56:11,200 --> 00:56:15,480
Speaker 1: What a mess of here's the unplanned baby and the

1310
00:56:15,760 --> 00:56:20,440
Speaker 1: step daughter is in step daughter not crazy. Bobby got

1311
00:56:20,480 --> 00:56:23,480
Speaker 1: some final comments here. It's silly, Dizzy Dazzle says. I

1312
00:56:23,480 --> 00:56:25,480
Speaker 1: am so happy for you, Ope, and I know you

1313
00:56:25,560 --> 00:56:27,880
Speaker 1: had so many rough years. Thankfully you have your daughter.

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Speaker 3: You have brought her into your life so that way

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00:56:29,600 --> 00:56:31,600
Speaker 3: she's always, always, always has.

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Speaker 1: A parent that chooses her and her best interests. First,

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00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:36,400
Speaker 1: I know you want this for your son, and he

1318
00:56:36,480 --> 00:56:39,640
Speaker 1: will come around. Please continue to give time while still

1319
00:56:39,680 --> 00:56:42,279
Speaker 1: showing you love and always will. With a therapist, he

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00:56:42,320 --> 00:56:45,080
Speaker 1: can come to the mature decision that his bioparents are

1321
00:56:45,120 --> 00:56:49,040
Speaker 1: selfish and self absorbed. If his therapist is literally worth anything,

1322
00:56:49,200 --> 00:56:50,520
Speaker 1: he will be able to see this.

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00:56:50,600 --> 00:56:53,280
Speaker 2: But the therapy, yeah, I mean it's pretty obvious.

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00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 3: It's pretty freaking obvious.

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00:56:55,320 --> 00:56:55,760
Speaker 2: Obvious.

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00:56:56,040 --> 00:56:59,000
Speaker 3: You have so much love, kindness, compassion, and empathy. Your

1327
00:56:59,040 --> 00:57:01,680
Speaker 3: little baby is going to be welcomed into a wonderful

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00:57:01,680 --> 00:57:03,399
Speaker 3: family with you as the best mom.

1329
00:57:03,480 --> 00:57:05,719
Speaker 2: You've been momming for years and have in our.

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00:57:05,640 --> 00:57:08,040
Speaker 1: Wonderful added grats on your new partner who knows how

1331
00:57:08,040 --> 00:57:10,240
Speaker 1: marvelous you are and treats you as an equal partner.

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Speaker 3: This was happy to read as a positive update. Thank you,

1333
00:57:13,760 --> 00:57:16,400
Speaker 3: take care of yourself, enjoy all the happiness and making

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00:57:16,400 --> 00:57:19,200
Speaker 3: more positive memories shared with your loved ones. Very happy

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00:57:19,200 --> 00:57:21,920
Speaker 3: for you all. Twitch op response. I am so happy

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00:57:21,960 --> 00:57:24,360
Speaker 3: these days, but also nervous about the pregnancy, and it's

1337
00:57:24,400 --> 00:57:25,400
Speaker 3: smidge scared. Then.

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Speaker 1: I also think that things didn't go how I had

1339
00:57:28,120 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 1: planned them, but they worked out all right. I remember

1340
00:57:30,560 --> 00:57:33,000
Speaker 1: being scared of becoming stepmom but those kids turned out

1341
00:57:33,040 --> 00:57:36,000
Speaker 1: to be the best thing. They made me mom for life.

1342
00:57:36,040 --> 00:57:38,080
Speaker 1: I worry about my son. He is so cynical and

1343
00:57:38,160 --> 00:57:40,560
Speaker 1: unhappy for someone so young, whether I'm in his life

1344
00:57:40,640 --> 00:57:43,560
Speaker 1: or not, I want him to find peace and be happy.

1345
00:57:44,040 --> 00:57:45,160
Speaker 1: And that's the conclusion there.

1346
00:57:45,200 --> 00:57:46,560
Speaker 4: And that was amazing.

1347
00:57:46,760 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 3: That was we thought we were just gonna get left

1348
00:57:49,040 --> 00:57:52,320
Speaker 3: in the freaking dumpy but we got the happy ending.

1349
00:57:52,400 --> 00:57:54,400
Speaker 1: And you know what, all in all, I feel good.

1350
00:57:54,440 --> 00:57:56,480
Speaker 1: I feel good about the story two, the moves made

1351
00:57:56,480 --> 00:57:56,880
Speaker 1: and everything.

1352
00:57:57,120 --> 00:57:59,240
Speaker 2: I think it ended on a good note.

1353
00:57:59,280 --> 00:58:02,040
Speaker 4: It did in a tight situation, but like really get

1354
00:58:02,040 --> 00:58:04,200
Speaker 4: herself out of it, like in best case scenario.

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00:58:04,440 --> 00:58:08,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, truly, truly it was. He was complicated, but here

1356
00:58:08,400 --> 00:58:12,240
Speaker 2: we are and I kind of ain't. But ain't life complicated?

1357
00:58:12,280 --> 00:58:14,440
Speaker 3: John, Ain't life complicated?

1358
00:58:14,800 --> 00:58:17,520
Speaker 1: And I also kind of double down on the decision

1359
00:58:17,560 --> 00:58:18,720
Speaker 1: to keep the step out around.

1360
00:58:18,800 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 3: I really think it worked out for the best for everyone.

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00:58:21,320 --> 00:58:23,320
Speaker 2: I think that's what Opie want. I mean, clearly that's

1362
00:58:23,360 --> 00:58:24,080
Speaker 2: what Opie wanted.

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00:58:24,240 --> 00:58:24,479
Speaker 3: Yeah.

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00:58:24,560 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think I feel like you can have

1365
00:58:26,720 --> 00:58:31,560
Speaker 1: emotional support from a child, particularly a adolescent almost adult child,

1366
00:58:31,880 --> 00:58:33,480
Speaker 1: as long as there's no advantage.

1367
00:58:33,600 --> 00:58:35,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, taking care of anything like that.

1368
00:58:35,560 --> 00:58:38,720
Speaker 1: But I'm going to take advantage of this moment to

1369
00:58:38,720 --> 00:58:42,360
Speaker 1: spill the tea built that tea with an okay story

1370
00:58:42,400 --> 00:58:45,760
Speaker 1: time from Oh my gosh, Riley Wilson. So Sophia, let

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00:58:45,800 --> 00:58:48,160
Speaker 1: me paint a picture, right, paint that picture. I'm here,

1372
00:58:48,240 --> 00:58:50,560
Speaker 1: I'm reading a story. It's a it's a it's an

1373
00:58:50,600 --> 00:58:52,920
Speaker 1: eight hour stream. Last night we go till midnight. Right,

1374
00:58:52,920 --> 00:58:53,840
Speaker 1: we're going crazy.

1375
00:58:54,040 --> 00:58:54,680
Speaker 2: People are done.

1376
00:58:54,840 --> 00:58:58,360
Speaker 1: It's just it's just a grand guy, it's a grand

1377
00:58:58,400 --> 00:59:01,479
Speaker 1: old time. I'm reading a story and beholds. The writer

1378
00:59:01,560 --> 00:59:04,400
Speaker 1: of the story is like, also, I'm from my hometown

1379
00:59:04,680 --> 00:59:08,480
Speaker 1: and I am actually good friends with John's old band teacher.

1380
00:59:08,720 --> 00:59:12,680
Speaker 1: And John's band teacher told me to submit the story. Meanwhile,

1381
00:59:12,680 --> 00:59:14,120
Speaker 1: I'm like I have no idea. I'm like, oh what

1382
00:59:14,240 --> 00:59:16,320
Speaker 1: my band teacher, what's going on here? I'm so excited.

1383
00:59:16,320 --> 00:59:18,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, band teacher, like reconnect with me. Find

1384
00:59:18,880 --> 00:59:21,200
Speaker 1: my Instagram message me. I would love to like reconnect.

1385
00:59:21,200 --> 00:59:23,920
Speaker 1: You know, Riley's dying, and I'm like, wow, he's really

1386
00:59:24,000 --> 00:59:27,280
Speaker 1: finding this sweet moment just like so hilarious, like like,

1387
00:59:27,720 --> 00:59:28,640
Speaker 1: what's going on here?

1388
00:59:28,800 --> 00:59:30,160
Speaker 3: It was fake but you didn't.

1389
00:59:30,760 --> 00:59:33,480
Speaker 4: And then later the writer was like, Bert, John is

1390
00:59:33,560 --> 00:59:36,080
Speaker 4: like really narcissistic and he's kind of selfish and he

1391
00:59:36,120 --> 00:59:37,520
Speaker 4: needs to stop listening to Kanye.

1392
00:59:37,680 --> 00:59:40,680
Speaker 1: I so I was trailing off and I didn't understand

1393
00:59:40,720 --> 00:59:43,640
Speaker 1: that last sentence when I started making my plea for

1394
00:59:43,760 --> 00:59:46,520
Speaker 1: my band teacher to I thought that was just a

1395
00:59:46,640 --> 00:59:49,760
Speaker 1: joke or something. I don't know, I really believed it.

1396
00:59:50,800 --> 00:59:53,560
Speaker 1: April B says, Riley got John so good last night.

1397
00:59:53,680 --> 00:59:56,920
Speaker 1: One thing, I have to admit. It was a fantastic

1398
00:59:57,000 --> 01:00:00,480
Speaker 1: prank and pure and pure objective ex acution.

1399
01:00:01,080 --> 01:00:04,320
Speaker 3: It truly was actually incredible and we do should do

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01:00:04,400 --> 01:00:05,120
Speaker 3: it to everyone.

1401
01:00:05,360 --> 01:00:09,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was actually great, easily done, it was.

1402
01:00:09,320 --> 01:00:10,920
Speaker 3: It was great. It was great even me.

1403
01:00:10,960 --> 01:00:13,120
Speaker 1: I bet you know what, I'm gonna even bet myself

1404
01:00:13,160 --> 01:00:14,800
Speaker 1: that Riley could get me a second time.

1405
01:00:14,880 --> 01:00:18,680
Speaker 3: I probably could, even though I will be aware. But John,

1406
01:00:18,760 --> 01:00:19,160
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1407
01:00:19,200 --> 01:00:23,600
Speaker 2: Man, You're pretty gullible. I am pretty you are pretty gullible, right,

1408
01:00:23,760 --> 01:00:24,880
Speaker 2: mice widow window.

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01:00:26,240 --> 01:00:29,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's another okay story time. But if you love us,

1410
01:00:29,920 --> 01:00:30,960
Speaker 3: make sure to subscribe.

1411
01:00:31,080 --> 01:00:33,080
Speaker 2: We love you as Citama.

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01:00:34,960 --> 01:00:37,200
Speaker 5: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives.

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01:00:37,200 --> 01:00:39,280
Speaker 2: Time for okop ree Lam.

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01:00:42,040 --> 01:00:44,880
Speaker 1: I'm accused of rubbing boogers on door handles at work.

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01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:46,440
Speaker 2: But I'm innocent. I don't know.

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01:00:46,480 --> 01:00:49,520
Speaker 5: That's what a booger rub and snot nosed kid would say.

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01:00:49,880 --> 01:00:52,080
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. You're just dripping your snot all

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01:00:52,120 --> 01:00:54,680
Speaker 3: over the place without a care concern in the world.

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01:00:54,800 --> 01:00:57,920
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I know where you hide on the doorknob.

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01:00:58,040 --> 01:01:00,880
Speaker 3: Oh god, but actually we we know that booger door

1421
01:01:00,920 --> 01:01:04,240
Speaker 3: knob snotter. This story was submitted to our slash Okop show.

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01:01:04,240 --> 01:01:08,120
Speaker 3: Bye Icy Stress eight three one nine. I love that

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01:01:08,360 --> 01:01:11,800
Speaker 3: Icy Stress. That Icy hot is so stressful stress for

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01:01:11,880 --> 01:01:12,800
Speaker 3: leaving maybe.

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01:01:12,520 --> 01:01:14,800
Speaker 1: So thanks Icy for submitting his story, and all of

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01:01:14,840 --> 01:01:17,560
Speaker 1: you can submit stories too at our slash Okop show.

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01:01:17,640 --> 01:01:20,040
Speaker 6: Do it immediately please, we want to read them or

1428
01:01:20,080 --> 01:01:22,440
Speaker 6: I will die. I will die. I live off your stories,

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01:01:23,280 --> 01:01:25,320
Speaker 6: the life force from them.

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01:01:25,640 --> 01:01:28,480
Speaker 1: For some background, I twenty one female worked at a

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01:01:28,640 --> 01:01:31,360
Speaker 1: very small T shirt business. Okay, I am the youngest

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01:01:31,400 --> 01:01:34,600
Speaker 1: person there. Ever since I started working, someone has been

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01:01:35,000 --> 01:01:40,520
Speaker 1: rubbing some sweet sloppy boogers all over the bathroom stalls ew,

1434
01:01:40,800 --> 01:01:44,160
Speaker 1: which is like by now. I have Type one diabetes,

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01:01:44,240 --> 01:01:46,800
Speaker 1: so I go to the bathroom quite often and have been.

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01:01:46,760 --> 01:01:51,000
Speaker 3: Accused of being the Boogeyman. That's awful.

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01:01:51,160 --> 01:01:53,840
Speaker 5: That's a funny name though, boogyman.

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01:01:53,720 --> 01:01:55,840
Speaker 3: Literally because she has used the bathroom because she has

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01:01:55,960 --> 01:01:57,040
Speaker 3: type one diabetes.

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01:01:57,080 --> 01:02:01,480
Speaker 6: And then it's like it's you, I mean suspect. I mean, like,

1441
01:02:01,760 --> 01:02:04,360
Speaker 6: who's spending the most time in the bathroom?

1442
01:02:04,520 --> 01:02:08,160
Speaker 3: How long are they're taking a freaking snotty snobber all

1443
01:02:08,200 --> 01:02:09,720
Speaker 3: over all the doorknobs, that's the question.

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01:02:09,800 --> 01:02:10,160
Speaker 5: I no know.

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01:02:10,200 --> 01:02:12,480
Speaker 3: Maybe under fat you can just not rocket all over

1446
01:02:12,480 --> 01:02:15,160
Speaker 3: these Yeah, like Spider Man spraying his web. You know

1447
01:02:15,200 --> 01:02:15,600
Speaker 3: what I mean.

1448
01:02:15,880 --> 01:02:17,840
Speaker 1: Because I am the youngest, and because I go to

1449
01:02:17,880 --> 01:02:19,560
Speaker 1: the bathroom so often, I'm being.

1450
01:02:19,440 --> 01:02:23,640
Speaker 3: Labeled as such boogey monster. I've tried to explain my case,

1451
01:02:23,800 --> 01:02:25,960
Speaker 3: even clean the stalls before I leave.

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01:02:26,160 --> 01:02:29,919
Speaker 6: Geez see, say, if you're cleaning the stalls, I think

1453
01:02:29,960 --> 01:02:30,959
Speaker 6: that's admitting fault.

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01:02:31,400 --> 01:02:34,080
Speaker 3: Interesting, but still to no use. I've been trying to

1455
01:02:34,120 --> 01:02:36,680
Speaker 3: figure out who it is to prove my innocence, but

1456
01:02:36,760 --> 01:02:38,800
Speaker 3: no luck yet. The worst part is that I can

1457
01:02:38,840 --> 01:02:42,960
Speaker 3: hear people calling me things like Booker, baby, oh no, boogeyman,

1458
01:02:43,400 --> 01:02:46,880
Speaker 3: and snot monster all the time I thought snop muster

1459
01:02:47,040 --> 01:02:47,840
Speaker 3: was pretty funny.

1460
01:02:47,920 --> 01:02:49,960
Speaker 5: Oh pee, I feel so bad for you.

1461
01:02:50,320 --> 01:02:52,720
Speaker 3: I need help clearing my name, but no one believes me.

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01:02:52,960 --> 01:02:55,240
Speaker 3: Whoever they are, I'm sure they're getting a kick out

1463
01:02:55,280 --> 01:02:56,600
Speaker 3: of not being the boogeyman.

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01:02:56,960 --> 01:02:59,320
Speaker 6: I think there is something you can do that's illegal,

1465
01:02:59,640 --> 01:03:02,080
Speaker 6: but at least what you will know. Set up a

1466
01:03:02,120 --> 01:03:04,960
Speaker 6: goat pro in the bathroom, just leave it running for

1467
01:03:05,120 --> 01:03:07,120
Speaker 6: as long as you can and then get it later

1468
01:03:07,280 --> 01:03:09,640
Speaker 6: and point it in the direction of where the snot

1469
01:03:09,720 --> 01:03:10,919
Speaker 6: is most accumulating.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, if you do it where you can't

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01:03:13,160 --> 01:03:15,560
Speaker 3: see anyone in the like like for instance, the view

1472
01:03:15,560 --> 01:03:17,560
Speaker 3: of a stall, where it's just on the side you

1473
01:03:17,600 --> 01:03:19,280
Speaker 3: see the person, Like, I've got to be illegal.

1474
01:03:19,280 --> 01:03:22,880
Speaker 6: Still, Yeah, I think putting cameras in the bathroom probably illegal,

1475
01:03:22,920 --> 01:03:25,400
Speaker 6: but at least you'll know who's done it.

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01:03:25,480 --> 01:03:29,000
Speaker 3: That's right, that's right. You know that feeling inside, feeling inside,

1477
01:03:29,000 --> 01:03:31,200
Speaker 3: and that's all that matters, you know. So yeah, you

1478
01:03:31,240 --> 01:03:33,840
Speaker 3: do that, and then you just like course them into

1479
01:03:34,200 --> 01:03:37,080
Speaker 3: the like you say, I have the tapes.

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01:03:36,920 --> 01:03:39,000
Speaker 5: I have the video of you being a booger monster,

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01:03:39,200 --> 01:03:40,240
Speaker 5: And then the thing is like.

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01:03:40,240 --> 01:03:41,960
Speaker 6: I mean, you could use it as blackmail, but I

1483
01:03:41,960 --> 01:03:44,640
Speaker 6: feel like, really, what OP wants to clear their name.

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01:03:44,560 --> 01:03:45,560
Speaker 3: Which would clear their name.

1485
01:03:45,680 --> 01:03:47,280
Speaker 5: This is what you do? I know what you do.

1486
01:03:47,600 --> 01:03:51,640
Speaker 6: You take the video, release it anonymously online. Is it

1487
01:03:51,680 --> 01:03:54,120
Speaker 6: created like a new like Google account, Email it to

1488
01:03:54,160 --> 01:03:59,040
Speaker 6: the entire office, Wow, boogey man, and then the title

1489
01:03:59,280 --> 01:04:02,280
Speaker 6: the subject of the email boogeyman cot and then just

1490
01:04:02,320 --> 01:04:03,080
Speaker 6: the video.

1491
01:04:03,040 --> 01:04:03,640
Speaker 3: Not me.

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01:04:05,240 --> 01:04:06,560
Speaker 5: Your name maybe not that part.

1493
01:04:06,720 --> 01:04:10,200
Speaker 3: No do that's that's the that's the most surefirewam for

1494
01:04:10,240 --> 01:04:13,440
Speaker 3: them to not suspect you. I promise this is good advice.

1495
01:04:13,520 --> 01:04:15,160
Speaker 3: But you know what else is good advice? Sam?

1496
01:04:15,480 --> 01:04:19,000
Speaker 6: Anything that you submit to r slash okop show our subreddit.

1497
01:04:19,040 --> 01:04:21,000
Speaker 5: We want to hear those stories.

1498
01:04:20,640 --> 01:04:21,280
Speaker 3: So send them in.

1499
01:04:21,320 --> 01:04:22,600
Speaker 2: Baby.

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01:04:22,640 --> 01:04:26,120
Speaker 3: Today, I f'd up my girlfriend dumped me for pretending

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01:04:26,200 --> 01:04:26,800
Speaker 3: to be weak.

1502
01:04:27,000 --> 01:04:27,200
Speaker 2: What.

1503
01:04:27,560 --> 01:04:30,760
Speaker 3: Yes, this is apparently a phenomena that I was not

1504
01:04:30,840 --> 01:04:31,240
Speaker 3: privy to.

1505
01:04:31,520 --> 01:04:32,360
Speaker 5: Okay, let's hear it.

1506
01:04:32,440 --> 01:04:33,280
Speaker 3: But here's what it is.

1507
01:04:33,320 --> 01:04:35,960
Speaker 1: So when my girlfriend and I started dating, I discovered

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01:04:36,000 --> 01:04:38,560
Speaker 1: early on that she could be quite physical, in the

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01:04:38,600 --> 01:04:41,920
Speaker 1: sense that she likes to push, hold or pinch. Even

1510
01:04:43,000 --> 01:04:44,960
Speaker 1: bear in mind, she's not actually trying to hurt me,

1511
01:04:45,160 --> 01:04:47,480
Speaker 1: She's just being playful with it. I found this adorable

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01:04:47,480 --> 01:04:50,160
Speaker 1: and fun, so I played along, and here is the

1513
01:04:50,280 --> 01:04:50,600
Speaker 1: f up.

1514
01:04:50,640 --> 01:04:51,840
Speaker 3: If she pushed me, I.

1515
01:04:51,840 --> 01:04:54,480
Speaker 1: Would act like I have to balance myself, or if

1516
01:04:54,480 --> 01:04:56,840
Speaker 1: the better sofa was nearby, I would fall onto it.

1517
01:04:56,880 --> 01:04:59,200
Speaker 1: If she held me, I would pretend it would be

1518
01:04:59,240 --> 01:05:01,520
Speaker 1: difficult for me to break out of her grip.

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01:05:02,160 --> 01:05:05,600
Speaker 6: Is like feigning a little weakness here, You get the idea. Yeah,

1520
01:05:05,640 --> 01:05:08,080
Speaker 6: it's just fun. It's just playing around, Opie says.

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01:05:08,080 --> 01:05:10,680
Speaker 3: I always assumed she knew that I was playing along

1522
01:05:10,800 --> 01:05:15,320
Speaker 3: and not actually physically straining myself to compete with her strength.

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01:05:15,640 --> 01:05:17,880
Speaker 3: This went on for months. One day, we were chilling

1524
01:05:17,880 --> 01:05:20,480
Speaker 3: on the sofa watching a show when I realized I

1525
01:05:20,520 --> 01:05:22,320
Speaker 3: was running late to meet up with some friends.

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01:05:22,440 --> 01:05:24,560
Speaker 1: I told her I need to shower and make a move.

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01:05:24,800 --> 01:05:27,280
Speaker 1: She decided this was a good time to play fight.

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01:05:27,480 --> 01:05:29,960
Speaker 1: She sat on top of me and pinned my arms

1529
01:05:30,080 --> 01:05:33,439
Speaker 1: under my knees. I played along and struggled to move

1530
01:05:33,440 --> 01:05:34,040
Speaker 1: her off of me.

1531
01:05:34,280 --> 01:05:37,480
Speaker 3: A little bit. More wrestling took place, with me playing

1532
01:05:37,520 --> 01:05:39,800
Speaker 3: along like I do a.

1533
01:05:39,800 --> 01:05:42,000
Speaker 5: Little prisky frisky, you know how it goes.

1534
01:05:42,400 --> 01:05:45,120
Speaker 3: Then I told her, hey, I really need to make

1535
01:05:45,120 --> 01:05:46,560
Speaker 3: a move and get out of here. She was not

1536
01:05:46,680 --> 01:05:49,600
Speaker 3: done and continued to hold and push me back onto

1537
01:05:49,640 --> 01:05:52,800
Speaker 3: the sofa. Eventually, I decided to win this little fight

1538
01:05:52,920 --> 01:05:54,200
Speaker 3: and get going with my day.

1539
01:05:54,320 --> 01:05:56,800
Speaker 1: So I got her onto her back, held her hands

1540
01:05:56,840 --> 01:05:59,120
Speaker 1: near her head, and leaned down to kiss her on

1541
01:05:59,200 --> 01:06:01,960
Speaker 1: the cheeks future times before letting her know that I

1542
01:06:02,000 --> 01:06:04,280
Speaker 1: am indeed running like it's kind of cute. That's kind

1543
01:06:04,320 --> 01:06:05,720
Speaker 1: of cute, right, like a cute way to end this

1544
01:06:05,760 --> 01:06:09,480
Speaker 1: little like place, like, hey, I do gotta go, so

1545
01:06:10,480 --> 01:06:11,040
Speaker 1: let me do that.

1546
01:06:11,120 --> 01:06:14,040
Speaker 3: She tried to move her arms and could not. While

1547
01:06:14,040 --> 01:06:16,240
Speaker 3: I'm struggling, she grunted out.

1548
01:06:16,200 --> 01:06:18,960
Speaker 5: Why are you so strong today today?

1549
01:06:19,200 --> 01:06:21,760
Speaker 3: To that, I laughed f up number two and looked

1550
01:06:21,800 --> 01:06:24,560
Speaker 3: at her like she was joking. Her eyes went wide

1551
01:06:24,760 --> 01:06:29,080
Speaker 3: with comprehension, and she stopped struggling. You were always this strong,

1552
01:06:29,600 --> 01:06:31,400
Speaker 3: she asked, almost to herself.

1553
01:06:31,600 --> 01:06:35,280
Speaker 5: I love this realization. She's like, wait, you were?

1554
01:06:35,720 --> 01:06:39,120
Speaker 2: This is like some worthy of this big revelation.

1555
01:06:38,800 --> 01:06:39,479
Speaker 5: Like bruh.

1556
01:06:39,520 --> 01:06:41,800
Speaker 6: I feel like my girlfriends in the past are always

1557
01:06:41,880 --> 01:06:44,560
Speaker 6: surprised when I'm like, okay, let me actually use some

1558
01:06:44,600 --> 01:06:45,160
Speaker 6: of my strength.

1559
01:06:45,200 --> 01:06:46,520
Speaker 5: They're like, what where was this?

1560
01:06:46,720 --> 01:06:49,520
Speaker 1: I'm like, bro, I've never had that issue. I'll start

1561
01:06:49,560 --> 01:06:51,440
Speaker 1: with like being like oh no, and then I'll be

1562
01:06:51,480 --> 01:06:52,320
Speaker 1: like boom, gotcha.

1563
01:06:52,440 --> 01:06:56,000
Speaker 5: I usually make it like seem pretty equal, except sometimes.

1564
01:06:55,520 --> 01:06:57,040
Speaker 2: You save it for the right occasion.

1565
01:06:58,160 --> 01:07:01,280
Speaker 3: OHP, then says come be you really did think we

1566
01:07:01,280 --> 01:07:02,920
Speaker 3: were of equal strength, did you?

1567
01:07:03,680 --> 01:07:06,160
Speaker 5: I like the boyfriend, I replied.

1568
01:07:06,440 --> 01:07:08,760
Speaker 3: Then I went to take a shower, got ready, and

1569
01:07:08,800 --> 01:07:10,720
Speaker 3: as I was heading out the door, I noticed she

1570
01:07:10,840 --> 01:07:13,520
Speaker 3: might have been a little bit glum. Me being fully

1571
01:07:13,520 --> 01:07:16,760
Speaker 3: aware that I do not comprehend the mystery of female emotions.

1572
01:07:16,960 --> 01:07:20,200
Speaker 5: Facts bro facts raw.

1573
01:07:20,680 --> 01:07:23,760
Speaker 3: I had no clue why she was upset. At that point,

1574
01:07:23,840 --> 01:07:26,280
Speaker 3: I did all a do, I guessed. I gave her

1575
01:07:26,320 --> 01:07:28,480
Speaker 3: a kiss and said I wouldn't be gone for long

1576
01:07:28,560 --> 01:07:30,560
Speaker 3: and that I'll pick up her favorite Chinese on the

1577
01:07:30,560 --> 01:07:30,920
Speaker 3: way back.

1578
01:07:31,160 --> 01:07:32,200
Speaker 5: Run So nice.

1579
01:07:32,240 --> 01:07:34,920
Speaker 3: That's a nice move. See, I assumed that she was

1580
01:07:35,000 --> 01:07:38,040
Speaker 3: upset about me not spending the afternoon with her. Probably

1581
01:07:38,040 --> 01:07:38,760
Speaker 3: a fair assumption.

1582
01:07:38,920 --> 01:07:42,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, probably worth like sprinkling in a mention like, Hey,

1583
01:07:42,480 --> 01:07:44,920
Speaker 1: I know we won't be able to spend the afternoon together,

1584
01:07:45,000 --> 01:07:46,880
Speaker 1: but I will get your favorite Chinese.

1585
01:07:46,880 --> 01:07:48,280
Speaker 3: We'll be back, will hang out tonight, you know what

1586
01:07:48,320 --> 01:07:49,800
Speaker 3: I mean? I might have That would have been my

1587
01:07:49,800 --> 01:07:52,760
Speaker 3: one little tweek there. Probably to all that she had

1588
01:07:52,960 --> 01:07:55,440
Speaker 3: no reply. FF number three, I should have spent some

1589
01:07:55,520 --> 01:07:58,680
Speaker 3: time talking it through. I instead went on my merry

1590
01:07:58,680 --> 01:08:01,560
Speaker 3: way and had a great effing time with my friends.

1591
01:08:01,760 --> 01:08:05,360
Speaker 3: She spent the next few hours brewing food.

1592
01:08:05,440 --> 01:08:11,200
Speaker 6: Simmering, thinking about the lies of busy strength, and of course,

1593
01:08:11,600 --> 01:08:13,360
Speaker 6: completely overthinking it.

1594
01:08:13,520 --> 01:08:18,760
Speaker 3: I come home with the Chinese food. As soon as

1595
01:08:18,760 --> 01:08:21,320
Speaker 3: I put it down on the dining table, she sprung

1596
01:08:21,400 --> 01:08:22,880
Speaker 3: out of the corner and attacked me.

1597
01:08:23,080 --> 01:08:23,439
Speaker 2: Whah.

1598
01:08:23,880 --> 01:08:26,920
Speaker 3: It genuinely surprised me, and I reacted by bear hugging

1599
01:08:26,920 --> 01:08:27,800
Speaker 3: her to my chest.

1600
01:08:27,960 --> 01:08:29,240
Speaker 2: Oh, what's good.

1601
01:08:29,080 --> 01:08:31,320
Speaker 5: Little baby, throwing his strength once more?

1602
01:08:31,400 --> 01:08:33,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, showing to strength once more? Right, probably not the

1603
01:08:33,720 --> 01:08:34,360
Speaker 2: smartest move.

1604
01:08:34,479 --> 01:08:37,559
Speaker 3: She struggled with more force than she normally would, and

1605
01:08:37,640 --> 01:08:40,360
Speaker 3: I just held her. I kept asking her what's wrong.

1606
01:08:40,560 --> 01:08:42,480
Speaker 3: She gritted her teeth and said.

1607
01:08:42,360 --> 01:08:46,040
Speaker 5: You look to me what this is ridiculous?

1608
01:08:46,120 --> 01:08:48,880
Speaker 3: This is ridiculous. Eventually she stopped trying to fight me

1609
01:08:48,920 --> 01:08:50,760
Speaker 3: and I let her go. She then told me she

1610
01:08:50,800 --> 01:08:53,519
Speaker 3: feels like I lied to her about our fights, and

1611
01:08:53,560 --> 01:08:56,400
Speaker 3: that really all the time I was laughing at her

1612
01:08:56,439 --> 01:08:59,759
Speaker 3: in my head as I pretended she was actually winning.

1613
01:09:00,160 --> 01:09:01,679
Speaker 5: Is way overthinking this? One?

1614
01:09:01,800 --> 01:09:02,680
Speaker 2: Way overthinking?

1615
01:09:02,720 --> 01:09:04,720
Speaker 3: And also now who's making the assumptions?

1616
01:09:04,880 --> 01:09:05,280
Speaker 5: Yeah?

1617
01:09:05,320 --> 01:09:07,479
Speaker 3: Too much, assuming is going on over here. I tried

1618
01:09:07,479 --> 01:09:10,400
Speaker 3: to take the conversation seriously, but come on, how the

1619
01:09:10,560 --> 01:09:12,559
Speaker 3: f am I supposed to take this seriously?

1620
01:09:13,160 --> 01:09:14,400
Speaker 2: Honestly, I agree.

1621
01:09:14,520 --> 01:09:18,200
Speaker 3: So I may have been somewhat mocking flirting and generally

1622
01:09:18,360 --> 01:09:22,200
Speaker 3: being a butt about the whole thing. But here's the deal.

1623
01:09:22,439 --> 01:09:24,280
Speaker 3: A week later, she broke up with me.

1624
01:09:24,520 --> 01:09:26,679
Speaker 5: She broke up with him about this.

1625
01:09:27,400 --> 01:09:27,879
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1626
01:09:27,920 --> 01:09:30,560
Speaker 5: Wow, fml, that is ridiculous.

1627
01:09:30,840 --> 01:09:31,960
Speaker 2: He should have asked her the.

1628
01:09:32,000 --> 01:09:35,479
Speaker 3: Question, like, do you think that me like not having

1629
01:09:35,479 --> 01:09:37,759
Speaker 3: strength is like a bad lie?

1630
01:09:37,880 --> 01:09:39,000
Speaker 5: It's not a bad lie.

1631
01:09:39,080 --> 01:09:42,639
Speaker 6: I can't believe she thought that this dude was weaker

1632
01:09:42,680 --> 01:09:46,360
Speaker 6: than her, especially like it seems like he's much larger.

1633
01:09:46,560 --> 01:09:49,519
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, it's like, do you really think you're that strong?

1634
01:09:49,840 --> 01:09:53,000
Speaker 1: She was flirt fighting, right, She knew that she was

1635
01:09:53,040 --> 01:09:55,559
Speaker 1: flirt fighting, right, Yeah, So how did she not know

1636
01:09:55,640 --> 01:09:58,040
Speaker 1: that he wasn't flirt fighting back?

1637
01:09:58,439 --> 01:10:01,160
Speaker 6: It doesn't make any sense. It's just probably for the best, Opie,

1638
01:10:01,280 --> 01:10:04,880
Speaker 6: and he brought it. Yeah, he's being the perfect jem dude.

1639
01:10:07,840 --> 01:10:11,439
Speaker 6: So well, you know what, never lets you down and

1640
01:10:12,600 --> 01:10:14,880
Speaker 6: play fights with you and then dumps you.

1641
01:10:14,640 --> 01:10:20,599
Speaker 3: Hitting that sweetbread subscribe. Oh god, I love the way

1642
01:10:20,840 --> 01:10:25,519
Speaker 3: just clicks clicks.

1643
01:10:24,479 --> 01:10:24,840
Speaker 2: Just hit it.

1644
01:10:24,880 --> 01:10:26,320
Speaker 5: Guys, all right, See you next time.