WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Hang Up On Him

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to the Second Date Update Podcast. We've got a

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<v Speaker 1>brand new one for you today. It's Brooke and Jeffrey

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<v Speaker 1>in the Morning, and I'm just curious Alexis and jose

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<v Speaker 1>you're both you know, like, in the dating world. Is

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<v Speaker 1>it really that bad that our listener is ready to

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<v Speaker 1>give up all together?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, honestly, I'm not in the dating world. I've

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<v Speaker 2>already given up, So I completely agree that I stopped

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<v Speaker 2>dating a while ago.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, oh my god. I think people go through phases.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, They'll get on the app, go on like

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<v Speaker 4>five dates in like two weeks, and then it's like

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<v Speaker 4>delete for two months.

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<v Speaker 2>That's awesome.

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<v Speaker 3>Leaves of life. Yeah, definitely dramatic on this one.

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<v Speaker 1>You're going to hear all about it, but first let's

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<v Speaker 3>So what do you got, Alexis?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, Zane Doherty said, I stumbled across some of y'all's

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<v Speaker 4>clips on TikTok at the beginning of this year and

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<v Speaker 4>have since gone back and binged all of it. Also,

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<v Speaker 4>I can't believe it took this long to find y'all,

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<v Speaker 4>and I wish it was an all day show. Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>twenty four hours, my gosh, yeah, you know, watch what

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<v Speaker 4>you ask for.

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<v Speaker 3>Say, that's what I have to say.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much for finding us, saying we love that.

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<v Speaker 1>We know a lot of people found us on TikTok

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<v Speaker 1>and if you do want more, we do do a

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<v Speaker 1>full show a full hour every day, but that's on

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<v Speaker 1>our full show main feed. So just find Brooke and Jeffrey.

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<v Speaker 1>It's in the more like this tap. So thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for being here.

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<v Speaker 3>And sit back for a brand new second date.

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<v Speaker 2>The second Date update. We've all heard of dating ultimatums

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<v Speaker 2>where they put it all on the line and say

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<v Speaker 2>either you put a ring on it or I'm gone, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>you have to pick. Is it me or your mom?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, you can't have You're gonna get dumped

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<v Speaker 1>every time on both of those occasions.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like, well, if they really love you, they

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<v Speaker 2>choose you. But it is pretty rare to give yourself

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<v Speaker 2>a dating ultimatum like that's it. If I don't find

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<v Speaker 2>somebody by August, I'm just marrying my weighted blanket and

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<v Speaker 2>calling it a life.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, there could be worse options that weighted blanket.

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<v Speaker 2>Really, it really hug you the right way. But I

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<v Speaker 2>bring it up because one of our listeners says she's

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<v Speaker 2>on the precipice of giving up on dating for everything

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<v Speaker 2>unless we can make this call work.

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<v Speaker 3>That is so much on us. Why would you do

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<v Speaker 3>that to us, Jackie?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that right?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, that's completely right.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Jaggie, don't come in all cheerful like you weren't

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<v Speaker 1>just doomsday in.

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<v Speaker 5>The Yeah, this isn't I'm not cheerful. I'm just letting

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<v Speaker 5>you know that if this doesn't work out, I'm done.

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<v Speaker 5>I am done.

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<v Speaker 4>This aren't very high.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I'm that desperate. I'm with you, guys.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, we're all starting off on the same page.

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<v Speaker 2>So, yeah, starting at rock bottom can only go up

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<v Speaker 2>from here. Let's begin by learning the name of the

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<v Speaker 2>guy that you met recently.

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<v Speaker 5>The guy's name is Steve. We went on a date

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<v Speaker 5>like last Thursday.

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<v Speaker 1>Thursday, And is there something that stood out about Steve

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<v Speaker 1>or was it just not horrible and that's why you're

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<v Speaker 1>okay with it?

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<v Speaker 6>Well?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, pretty much. In the last couple of months, I've

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<v Speaker 5>been trying to say yes to anyone that asked me out.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wow, okay, cast a wide net sort of thing.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I'm putting myself out there.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, like everybody tells you to, right.

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<v Speaker 5>And most of them have been okay.

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<v Speaker 3>With Steve.

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<v Speaker 5>It was actually a really good date.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean I could even see the hope in your

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<v Speaker 3>voice when you say that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, not super hopeful, just like not the worst thing ever.

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<v Speaker 2>Where was that date?

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<v Speaker 5>It was really fun. We went to a farmer's market

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<v Speaker 5>and we were just walking around, like sampling the foods

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<v Speaker 5>and talking, laughing and having fun. For it was an

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<v Speaker 5>hour and a half.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, okay, this is good. It's a day date. Nobody's

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<v Speaker 3>like drinking too much. I mean, did you meet there?

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<v Speaker 5>Yes? We met at the farmer's market, and then at

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<v Speaker 5>the end he walked me back to my car. And

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<v Speaker 5>you know, normally I don't kiss someone on the first date,

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<v Speaker 5>especially a day date, but the connection was really strong.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh you had a cute first kiss after a farmer's

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<v Speaker 3>market date.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes. And then he looked at me in the eyes

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<v Speaker 5>and said, I had a really great time and I

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<v Speaker 5>want to see you again soon.

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<v Speaker 2>That Yeah, you don't. You don't want eye contact when

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<v Speaker 2>that happens.

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<v Speaker 3>What you want to look away in shame, don't look

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<v Speaker 3>at me. Yeah, you want eye contact? Eye contact is

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<v Speaker 3>so intimate and nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly.

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<v Speaker 5>You believed him, right, I did, And I told him

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<v Speaker 5>that I had an amazing time and I would love

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<v Speaker 5>to see him again.

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<v Speaker 2>And there it is again. What it's too much?

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't do anything.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not too much.

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<v Speaker 1>He said, I want to see you again. She said,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to see you again. That's not too much.

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<v Speaker 2>I can see how maybe you would think that prefer

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<v Speaker 2>a guy saying I really like you. It's the most

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<v Speaker 2>terrifying thing in the world.

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<v Speaker 5>He said that to me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but you're not supposed to say it back to him.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh my god, ye.

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<v Speaker 2>Brook, I've done enough of these to know how to

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<v Speaker 2>play the game, and being honest and open with how

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<v Speaker 2>you I really feel is the absolute worst thing. You

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<v Speaker 2>can see.

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<v Speaker 5>That was not the problem, because that same day he

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<v Speaker 5>texts me and he said, Sunday, does that work? I'll

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<v Speaker 5>pick you up for dinner and maybe he can grab

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<v Speaker 5>a drink after.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I stand corrected, possibly, thank you?

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<v Speaker 3>So what happened Sunday?

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<v Speaker 6>So?

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<v Speaker 5>So I texted back, yes, one hundred percent I'm in

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<v Speaker 5>and gave him a little high five emoji, and on

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<v Speaker 5>Saturday he texts me and says, Hey, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 5>have to cancel on Sunday. Sorry.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh okay, did he try to reschedule?

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<v Speaker 5>No, he didn't say anything else, doesn't explain nothing, And

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<v Speaker 5>so I just texted back, no problem. Let's figure out

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<v Speaker 5>another time. Did he respond to your no no response?

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<v Speaker 3>Come on, how many days has that been?

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<v Speaker 5>It's been a week now, Okay, but here's the same.

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<v Speaker 5>So this is the only guy that I've connected with,

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<v Speaker 5>and now he's ghosting me. I mean, it's so unbelievably frustrating.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean it sounds like you're doing this not

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<v Speaker 1>just for Steve, but to make up for every.

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<v Speaker 3>Other bad thing that happened, Like you need this to go.

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<v Speaker 5>Right, And I really just want to know why. I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>like what happened right?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you said it's been a week. Maybe he's learned

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<v Speaker 2>something about you in between that period of time, Like

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have to answer this, but have you served

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<v Speaker 2>time in prison.

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<v Speaker 1>That could be hot though I have not.

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<v Speaker 2>Is there anything that's available online to the public that

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<v Speaker 2>somebody could come across and might be like, oh God,

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<v Speaker 2>this is a red flag.

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<v Speaker 5>Seriously, there's nothing that I can take of.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, well, this is definitely a mystery.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe he just had a bad reaction to the baba gnoosh,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys had the Farmer's market.

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<v Speaker 3>Wasn't able to recover.

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<v Speaker 2>I know what that is.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. It was just a hummus stand must

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<v Speaker 3>again so.

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<v Speaker 2>Hot, So let's come back. We're gonna definitely got kisses

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<v Speaker 2>from her husband totally. We're gonna come back and call

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<v Speaker 2>Steve for you here and hopefully get an explanation for

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<v Speaker 2>why he isn't arranging a second date or let you

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<v Speaker 2>give up on dating forever. That's what she wants, all right.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm hopeful, yes, push you back from the cliff and

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<v Speaker 2>when we get your second date update right after this

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<v Speaker 2>second date update today, the entire future of a woman's

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<v Speaker 2>dating life lies inside of our tender throats. Because if

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<v Speaker 2>we don't say the right thing and get Steve to

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<v Speaker 2>agree to another date, Jackie has already said she is

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<v Speaker 2>ready to give up on finding love forever.

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<v Speaker 3>Definitely don't need to tell Steve this, but.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure that won't happen anyway, because they went to

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<v Speaker 2>a far hot, you know, walked around, had a great

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<v Speaker 2>eye contact the whole time.

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<v Speaker 3>Soup's hot, see hot and organic.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they laughed, even planned out another date after telling

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<v Speaker 2>each other they both wanted to see each other again.

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<v Speaker 3>You forgot the great first kiss. Yeah, that was such

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<v Speaker 3>a big deal. That was like the moment, right.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought when I said Farmer's Market kissing was implied

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<v Speaker 2>because who doesn't. But yeah, it was all going according

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<v Speaker 2>to plan until the day before their second date, when

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<v Speaker 2>Steve texted canceling with no explanation and then went dark. So, Brook,

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<v Speaker 2>your thoughts on the situation at hand.

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<v Speaker 1>Good. I just feel like it's not going to be

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<v Speaker 1>good if he's in a different relationship, like if he's.

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<v Speaker 2>Cheating or well, hold on, Brook, how can he cheat

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<v Speaker 2>if they've only gone on one date?

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, not cheating on her, cheating on whoever he's dating.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>You're saying Jackie could be the other woman.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I mean it's just like a day date.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you cool with being the other woman?

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<v Speaker 6>That?

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<v Speaker 2>We didn't say that? Okay, it is good to check,

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<v Speaker 2>all right, Hopefully that's not what the I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Want to be that.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't I hope it's just busy at other farmers markets.

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<v Speaker 2>Scoping out the best spots. Yeah, the best cober Jeans

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<v Speaker 2>or whatever. Brook likest a farmer?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Does he work?

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<v Speaker 5>He is not a farmer.

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<v Speaker 6>All.

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<v Speaker 2>We've ruled out a couple of possibilities. Let's just call

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<v Speaker 2>him and see if he picks up. I'm dialing his

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<v Speaker 2>number right now here we go. Hello, Hey, is this Steve?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, a man, Good morning.

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<v Speaker 2>You're you're on a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey

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<v Speaker 2>in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh great, we're going to take.

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<v Speaker 3>That without any sarcasm attached to it.

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<v Speaker 2>But I like your style already. I can tell.

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<v Speaker 6>What's going on.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, what's going on is this is a segment that

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<v Speaker 2>we do called a second Date Update. I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>if you've ever heard of that before.

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<v Speaker 3>Nope, Okay, keep going.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's actually a kind of a fun thing that

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<v Speaker 2>we do where we help out listeners who are confused

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<v Speaker 2>after they're not getting a call back for a second date.

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<v Speaker 2>We try and help them figure out the reason why.

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<v Speaker 2>And there's a woman that you went out with recently,

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<v Speaker 2>Actually you planned a second date with her but canceled

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<v Speaker 2>the last minute. Her name's Jackie.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't really want to talk about this.

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<v Speaker 2>Sensitive to you.

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<v Speaker 6>I feel bad?

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<v Speaker 2>Did I ask?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you single?

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<v Speaker 2>Brooks? It with so much help.

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<v Speaker 6>Here's the deal, here's the deal.

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<v Speaker 2>What's the deal.

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<v Speaker 6>I did have a strong connection with her, but if

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<v Speaker 6>she knew what was going on, it would probably hurt

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<v Speaker 6>her feelings better less unsaid.

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<v Speaker 2>Trying to protect someone's feelings hurt some more. I think

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<v Speaker 2>they want to be direct.

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<v Speaker 3>I think her feelings already hurt.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because she was really looking forward to that second

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<v Speaker 2>hangout and when you canceled with no explanation. Now she's

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<v Speaker 2>just kind of confused. She was excited, doesn't know where

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<v Speaker 2>she stands. We're just trying to give her a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit of information.

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<v Speaker 6>It's just I had a stronger romantic connection with somebody else,

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<v Speaker 6>and I didn't think it would be fair to her

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<v Speaker 6>to continue.

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<v Speaker 3>My god, that's normal.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, everybody, Okay, everybody's on the call right now. Let's

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<v Speaker 2>try and be respectful. And hear Steve out, I can't listen.

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<v Speaker 5>To this anymore.

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<v Speaker 3>Is a cheater here him that Jackie's on the phone.

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<v Speaker 5>Hold on so he knows it's me. He knows it's me,

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<v Speaker 5>and I know it's cheater. When I smell one O,

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<v Speaker 5>you smell him.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wait, wait, wait wait, I think that's my fault, Jackie.

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<v Speaker 3>Hold on, what I feel like I put that idea

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<v Speaker 3>in your head. He didn't say he cheated.

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<v Speaker 1>He just said that he went out with someone else

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<v Speaker 1>and had a stronger connection.

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<v Speaker 5>He didn't Yeah, whatever, he was going to cheat on

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<v Speaker 5>me eventually, he.

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<v Speaker 2>Hold on, you're making a lot of assumptions here, Jackie,

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<v Speaker 2>and I know you're definitely hurt by what you heard,

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<v Speaker 2>but let's give Steve a chance to explain himself.

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<v Speaker 6>I spoke my piece. I don't have much else to say.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, so you're just st I have to say,

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<v Speaker 1>oh good, oh god.

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<v Speaker 5>So when we were walking around the farmer's market and

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't want to drink some water fountain because it's

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<v Speaker 5>like public and grooth, he never offered to buy me

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<v Speaker 5>a drink. What about that? Selfish? He's selfish and he'd

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<v Speaker 5>probably selfish in bed.

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<v Speaker 3>Whoa, Jackie, we are all over the place right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I understand your feelings are hurt because this didn't turn

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<v Speaker 1>out how you wanted it to. But this is not

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<v Speaker 1>the reaction that you are gonna want to have.

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<v Speaker 2>And Honestly, I've never made that correlation before. Guys not

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<v Speaker 2>being good in bed, that don't buy water for their women.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, you know you're also a guy.

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<v Speaker 2>Well that's fair, and I am. Yeah. I want to

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<v Speaker 2>keep it all to myself, Jeremy, can you confirm that

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<v Speaker 2>you're a selfish guy? I sorry, Steve, can you confirm

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<v Speaker 2>that you're a selfish guy?

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know what's happening.

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<v Speaker 2>I just I just want to know what's your take

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<v Speaker 2>on this whole situation.

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<v Speaker 6>On a day, I just had a stronger connection with

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<v Speaker 6>someone else. I'm sorry, in your.

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<v Speaker 3>Face, Jackie, you know what?

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<v Speaker 5>He's rubbing it in my face? He shows over me.

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<v Speaker 2>With you don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>She was probably a lovely person.

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<v Speaker 5>You guys, what are you doing? You're like spinning this

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<v Speaker 5>to make him the victim here circumstances.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just how dating works. Yeah, sometimes you meet somebody

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<v Speaker 3>you like more.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think he's in a like a committed relationship

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<v Speaker 2>with this other person. It sounds like just a casual date, right, Steve.

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<v Speaker 6>I really don't think I should say anymore.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, you know what, really sad, I really wanted to

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<v Speaker 5>see your basement. I never got to see your basement basement?

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<v Speaker 3>Actually did he offer a tour of the basement.

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<v Speaker 2>I was kind of thinking the same thing. I wonder

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<v Speaker 2>what's in his base? No, how about what is she

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<v Speaker 2>talking about?

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<v Speaker 6>I have a movie room in my basement and we

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<v Speaker 6>talked about that.

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<v Speaker 3>Really, she had a lot of hopes based around that

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<v Speaker 3>movie room.

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't get to see it.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, don't a little popcorn maker.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was all on Steve's side until he just

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<v Speaker 1>poured salt in the wound.

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<v Speaker 2>That popcord maker.

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<v Speaker 6>You know. Sorry, it's a dope basement. And yes I

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<v Speaker 6>have multiple flavored salts.

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<v Speaker 5>Wow, you need to go, You need to show now,

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<v Speaker 5>all right.

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<v Speaker 6>Hang up?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I think maybe you just need to work on

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<v Speaker 1>yourself right now, Jackie.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, no, no, no, no no, I'm deleting your text. I'm

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<v Speaker 5>blocking your number. You're never gonna for me again. I

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<v Speaker 5>want you to know you lost out on something really.

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<v Speaker 2>Good, really good, really stables type of relationship. So, Steve,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry, dude.

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<v Speaker 6>It's fine. I feel like I dodged a bullet. It's

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<v Speaker 6>like I'm watching the matrix and my.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I don't want to hear from him. Okay, see

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<v Speaker 2>you you're gone. We dropped Steve. Wow, okay, Jackie, Oh

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<v Speaker 2>my god, wow.

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<v Speaker 5>No, no, no, no, no, you guys. Honestly it's fine.

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<v Speaker 5>I know men, after that, he is definitely going to

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<v Speaker 5>reach out to me like a little crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, that's actually.

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<v Speaker 3>Kind a little is a different definition.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you saying you put all of that on just

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<v Speaker 2>to like get him to call you.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I du justed it up a little bit,

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<v Speaker 5>but I'm legitimately pissed.

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<v Speaker 3>That was a little bit I can't imagine.

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<v Speaker 2>Blown. All right, Well, Jackie, after you take your hiatus

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<v Speaker 2>from the dating world, call us and we can reach

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<v Speaker 2>out to that next guy for you.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah. No, I'm gonna hear from Steve.

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<v Speaker 2>You heard about that basement, right, It is pretty dope. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't blame you.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not going to block him. And then he's gonna

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<v Speaker 5>call me, and you guys will end up doing an

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<v Speaker 5>update update on me.

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<v Speaker 3>About your healthy relationship direction.

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<v Speaker 2>This is gonna go.

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<v Speaker 3>Freaking Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 2>Was it me or did it feel like she definitely

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<v Speaker 2>had a plane of attack there?

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<v Speaker 3>What happened? She said? She like what shausted up juiced

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<v Speaker 3>it up? I don't know she did.

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<v Speaker 2>It was purpose.

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<v Speaker 3>It was an emotional roller coaster. I'm exhausted.

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<v Speaker 2>The second he mentioned a stronger connection with another woman,

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<v Speaker 2>she completely went off the handle. Yeah, but man, wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>it be something though, if after all of this she

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<v Speaker 2>was right that.

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<v Speaker 3>He did call her back, Like Steve.

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<v Speaker 2>Thinks about it, and he's like, you know what, she's

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<v Speaker 2>kind of unhinged, but I kind of like it.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So I.

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<v Speaker 2>Would have cheated. Yeah, just just right on every level.

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<v Speaker 1>Only way Steve's calling her back is if it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>work out with the other girl.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and then I could see it maybe happening, and

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<v Speaker 1>then it's like a hook.

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<v Speaker 2>Sure, it's probably a less than one percent chance that

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<v Speaker 2>it all goes the way that she's thinking, But wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>that be a wild update? There would be? Yeah, And

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<v Speaker 2>I really appreciate her optimism and all of your optimism

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<v Speaker 2>in your dating lives. If you want our help, we

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<v Speaker 2>are ready to step in and call that person who

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<v Speaker 2>isn't calling you back. By the way, go check out

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<v Speaker 2>all of our second date updates. They're up online wherever

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<v Speaker 2>you get your podcasts at Brook and Jeffrey